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ISSUE 18.11
CELEBRATE ON LAND OR SEA DESTINATION WEDDINGS • WEDDING PLANNERS
No sooner do I get home from my summer vacation, than we’re working on our travel issue. Life works in mysterious ways. Maybe it was because of the massive civil union ceremony held in Millennium Park earlier this summer, but marriage and honeymoon trips have been on my mind. So our travel issue focuses on that. Just to clarify; we’ve focused on locations where you can actually get married, not register a domestic partnership or have a civil union. Right now that’s limited to a few states in the U.S. and a handful of countries. I’ve always thought that the true test of whether a couple is compatible is to take a cross country driving trip. There’s nothing like being locked in a car together for hours on end to test the strength of your relationship. To that end, Gregg Shapiro gives us a look at a couple of foreign films in his “Screen Savor” and Ace Magyar answers some travel related issues between couples. My husband and I have evolved into perfect travel companions. He doesn’t fly, but he doesn’t mind driving for hours on end. I’ll drive for a few hours then we switch and I crawl into the back of the car where we’ve flipped down the back seat and installed a foam mattress. I take out a book or watch a DVD, but always end up falling asleep and waking up at our destination. If I don’t have the time to drive with him, I often fly to our destination and he picks me up at the airport. It’s great breezing through security because all you have is a messenger with a few items. I feel just like George Clooney in “Up in the Air”. If only I looked like him. Bon Voyage,
Rick
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by Anita Taylor Whether you’re planning a honeymoon or just a regular vacation, nothing can beat a cruise when it comes to convenience. All you need to do is pack and get to the ship, after that it’s simply a matter of deciding what activities you’d like to experience each day. Feeling lazy? Lay by the pool and read a trashy novel. Need a work-out? Most ships have well-equipped gyms, offer classes in everything from yoga to aerobics and have tons of athletic activities scheduled every day. Most often, all you need to do is sign up and show up.
Along the West Coast, many Alaskan cruises start, end or stop in Vancouver and Victoria, British Columbia, where there is no waiting period between applying for the marriage license and receiving the license. In addition, couples can pick up their marriage license at a number of locations near the ships’ ports of call. A limited number of cruises to Hawaii depart from Vancouver. Occasionally these are repositioning cruises which are often quite inexpensive. Couples can get married in Vancouver then spend their honeymoon cruising to Hawaii.
Most cruise lines will also help coordinate a celebration of any sort. If you’re planning a destination wedding, a cruise is an excellent option. Depending on your budget you may choose to pay for your guests or ask folks if they’d like to join you at their own expense. Choosing this option should warrant a “no gifts, please” note with the invitation. After all, you’re basically asking folks to pay for their portion of the wedding. Your guests should know that you’re not expecting anything more from them.
On the East Coast, many cruises originate in New England making getting married in Maine or Massachusetts an option. Or, head north of the border for a Canadian wedding in Nova Scotia. Although, Nova Scotia usually has a five-day waiting period, application for a waiver is available ahead of time through the vital statistics office.
One of the most convenient countries for a gay or lesbian cruise wedding is Canada. With no blood tests and no residency period required, getting married in Canada is appealing. Here are some of the best wedding cruise options for same gay couples. boi
Disney advertises that same sex wedding parties may take advantage of the company’s special wedding packages, including having a ceremony. However, since Disney’s ships are registered in the U.S., the ceremonies won’t be legally binding. It would be better to have the marriage performed elsewhere and hold the reception on a Disney Cruise or theme park. The high-end “Fairy Tale Wedding” package,
which starts at $4,000 per wedding, includes a ceremony at one of the parks’ marriage pavilions; Disney costumed characters at the reception; and a ride in a horse-drawn, glass-enclosed carriage through Disney properties. If you’re considering a trip abroad, you might opt to bask in the Tuscan sun and be pampered like the ancient gods and goddesses with a vacation at the Terme di Saturnia Resort. Located in one Italy’s most picturesque regions, the luxury resort features 140-guest rooms and suites. The “Pride Honeymoon Package” offers a spa experience and is priced at about €1,200 (about $1,650 U.S.) Included in the package for two are four breakfasts, massages, facials, reflexology treatments, unlimited use of the spa’s thermal pool, waterfall and Roman bath, a guided morning hike,
use of the gym and a reserved deck chair and sun umbrella in the pool’s park. For more visit the resort’s website www.termedisaturnia.com. If you prefer the Amalfi Coast and Sicily, the Ragosta Hotels Collection, has put together a “Rainbow Getaway” honeymoon package, available at the Relais Paradiso and Hotel Raito on the Amalfi Coast; and LaPlage Resort in Sicily. The offer is only available through the Ragosta Hotels Collection website and includes drinks at checkin, daily breakfast, access to spa facilities, complimentary massages and a private romantic dinner. Package starts at €330 per room, per night ($450 U.S.). For more information, go to www.ragostahotels.com. Rates are based upon availability and are subject to change. boi
by Rick Karlin
It followed that as soon as governments legalized SSM, businesses and service providers When my hubby and I decided to get married would begin catering to the market. Soon nearly 20 years ago, gay marriage wasn’t legal after Iowa legalized SSM a study was released anywhere. However, we wanted to have a by UCLA that concluded that allowing SSM ceremony in front of family and friends to would result in a net gain of approximately $5.3 make a statement about our relationship and million each year for the state. The New York commitment to each other and, truth be told, City Comptroller’s office predicted that New have a hell of a party and get some cool presents. York State’s economy could gain $210 million I was pretty well connected in the community in the three years immediately following the and even I had trouble finding someplace to legalization of SSM. make a wedding cake topped with a same sex couple. I ended up making one myself. Planning a destination wedding, whether a large party or an intimate gathering, is now a I decided if I was having troubles like that, other real consideration for many couples. However, folks were too. So, with the help of my hubby you just can’t show up at the courthouse and some friends, I created the world’s first door and get hitched. It takes some planning. Gay and Lesbian Wedding Expo, “Commitment Each governing body has its own rules and to Love”. I never expected to see same sex regulations that apply to all marriages, just marriage legal in my lifetime and now, you can because it’s a SSM doesn’t mean we don’t have barely open a newspaper without reading that to follow the guidelines. Check in advance, another country or state has legalized same sex especially if you’re planning a lavish event. For marriage, civil unions or domestic partnerships. example, in many places you need to apply and receive a marriage license. You’ll typically need Okay, enough with the term same sex marriage, to apply for your marriage license before your as Robin Williams noted, “Anyone who’s been wedding ceremony, the time can be as little married knows that the sex is always the same.” as one day or as much as a month, though the For the rest of this article SSM will stand for waiting period can often be waived for those same sex marriage. traveling to a wedding destination. Public opinion on SSM has changed significantly in the past few years. It appears that when Boston and Canada legalized SSM and the world didn’t fall apart, folks eased up a little. It didn’t hurt that celebrities such as Ellen Degeneres and Portia DiRossi and Elton John and David Furnish made very public trips to the altar. A poll from CNN last April showed that, for the first time in history, a majority of Americans in favor of SSM, with 51 percent saying that marriages between gay and lesbian couples “should be recognized by the law as valid”. The numbers are even higher when you factor in those who may oppose SSM, but think gay and lesbian couples should have equal rights whether via civil unions or domestic partnerships (see sidebar on page 25 on what and where these unions are legal) . 10 boi
You’ll usually need to send provide birth certificates, proof of identification, tax information, and other documents providing information about previous marriages. The fee for marriage licenses is usually nominal. You don’t, however, want to apply for your marriage license too early. In some states, the licenses do expire if you don’t get married within a few months. You also need to have an officiant registered in the area where you are getting married. One of the most convenient countries for a gay or lesbian cruise wedding is Canada. In 2005, Canada was the fourth country to legalize gay marriage. With no blood tests and no residency period required, getting married in Canada is appealing. continued on page 13 >>
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“So you’re getting married! Congratulations. Among other things, that means you’re probably about spend more money on a new dress/suit/outfit than you ever have before. That’s OK. What you wear will affect how you feel that day, it will be immortalized in pictures (yours and other people’s), and if it’s very bad or very good it will be talked about, especially if you’re a woman. What the bride (or brides) wear is one of things wedding guests remember the best, along with food and music.
Natural fibers last longer, feel more comfortable, look better, and cost more than manmade ones. Avoid polyester (omnipresent in the traditional bridal market) and go for silk (dresses) or wool (suits). Off-the-rack clothes (including bridal) are required by law to have a label declaring their fiber content; if you’re shopping someplace where there are no fiber labels, be suspicious. There are lots of alternative places to get clothes. Shop vintage stores, call the local fashion design school to find budding designers, look online for mail-order tailoring services. Just remember: buyer beware!
“Dresses can range anywhere from $300 for a department store cocktail dress to $60,000 for one designed by Ms. Wang herself. Before you spend that chunk of change, it’s a good idea to “If you’ve decided to have your outfit customacquaint yourself with a few facts about clothes: made, here are some things to keep in mind: Buying your wedding outfit is not like buying a new sweater: give yourself enough time to consider all the options. If you’re having something custom-made or shopping in a bridal salon, start at least six months before the event date. If you’re buying off the rack in a department store or from a men’s clothier, three months is usually sufficient. Remember that you need to coordinate at least with your spouse-to-be, and often with a whole wedding party. On top of that, custom-made clothing and wedding garments sold at retail are usually not returnable, so you want to make the right choice up front.
Custom clothing will be totally one-of-a-kind, it will fit perfectly, and it’ll be produced in the U.S. (i.e., not in a sweatshop). Decide in advance how much that’s worth to you, and be honest with your clothier about your budget. In Chicago, custom-designed dresses can start anywhere from $1,000 to $2,500, while custom-made suits can start anywhere from $600 to $4,000. Most clothing makers will do a consultation for no charge. Once you’ve committed, you’ll put onethird to one-half of the price of the garment down up front.
At your initial meeting, ask to see samples and/or photos of past work. Don’t be afraid to Good clothes don’t have to be made just for ask for references. Come with ideas, and learn you, but everyone looks better (and thinner, and the lingo! Clothing parts have names (there are richer) in clothes that fit them properly. There trumpet skirts, flounces, wing collars, etc) and are lots of small custom clothiers out there (try so do fabrics. If you don’t know the name of the looking in your yellow pages under “custom specific look you’re interested in, find a picture. clothiers,” “clothing design,” “dressmakers,” or Most clothing makers will have swatches of “tailors”). If you’d rather buy off the rack, it’s fabrics they like to work with on hand. almost always worth it to pay a reputable tailor (probably not your dry cleaner) for alterations. If Expect to come back at least once, and probably you’re buying something you know you want to several times, for fittings. At those fittings, be alter, look inside it before you buy. Is there really sure to speak up about your concerns! Getting enough seam allowance to take out? Enough the position of a neckline or a sleeve just right hem to let down? When in doubt, buy a bigger is the whole point of a fitting. If you’re being size; you can always have something made unreasonable, your tailor will let you know. smaller. boi 13
by Anita Taylor
Planning a wedding involves a lot of details. Add to that juggling the logistics of getting married and having your celebration in another city and it becomes a full time job. It’s no wonder then that many people opt to use the services of a wedding planner. In addition to helping you avoid turning in a Bridezilla or Groomzilla, here are some other reason you might wish to use the services of a wedding planner or wedding web site.
You have a vision for your wedding, but don’t know how to turn your ideas into reality. 6. You want to avoid the mistakes you’ve seen at other people’s weddings. You don’t want to be asked when you walk into a bridal, cake or floral studio, “So which one of you is the bride?” or “Where is the bride?” The etiquette questions are driving you mad - who to invite, what wording, how to deal with family issues and all the other questions that arise.
You are looking to get married in another part of the country (or world). You want to be sure that the vendors you hire are gayYou don’t want to worry about dealing with friendly, dependable and do beautiful work. anything on your big day. The last thing you want on your wedding day is to worry You don’t have the time to coordinate all about the schedule, flowers and cake. the logistics. Wedding planners do charge a fee, usually based upon the size and scope of the wedding. However, they also can help you receive discounts from vendors and give you tips on how to save money and stick to your budget. Ideally, you’ll want to find someone from the area who can help with the logistics of planning a destination wedding. There are a number of websites such as engaygedweddings. com, ultimategayweddings.com, purpleunions.com, 14stories.com and rainbowweddingnetwork.com which comprise a network of vendors and service providers who specialize in same-sex unions. Anita Taylor is a celebrity stylist, fashion writer, personal shopper and hash house waitress. She attended Parsons New School, Radcliff and Mr. Lance’s College of Cosmetology.
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AMERICAN___________
Ann Sather 929 W. Belmont 773.348.2378.
5207 N Clark 773.271.6627 & 3411 N Broadway 773.305.0024. These bustling hot spots, serving traditional Swedish pancake house fare, are best known for hearty daytime offerings and their delish cinnamon rolls.
Chicago Diner 3411 N. Halsted 773.935.6696
This world famous vegetarian restaurant offers vegan and organic offerings using the protein-based meat substitute seitan. Organic beers, wine, and spirits are also available.
Cocktail 3359 N. Halsted 773.477.1420. The
kitchen at this popular bar serves up better and fancier food than it needs to. The menu ranges from gourmet salads and sandwiches to comfort food and fabulous brunch dishes. During the summer the outdoor dining space is lush and verdant.
Hamburger Mary’s 5400 N. Clark 773.784.6969. “Eat, Drink and be... MARY” at this fun and popular Andersonville restaurant which features a wide array of burgers and sandwiches, along with an interesting selection of tasty appetizers. Wash it all down with one of Mary’s home-brewed ales.
Horizon Café 3805 N. Broadway 773.883.1565.
This long-time popular Lakeview family restaurant serves up big portions of creative homestyle dishes as well as healthy fare (broth-based soups and whole wheat tortilla wraps) and at affordable prices. Breakfast served all day long. Delivery available.
IHOP 3760 N. Halsted 773.296.0048. More than a
pancake house, this 24-hour Boystown institution serves up affordably priced appetizers, sandwiches, and entrees that are sure to satisfy varying after-bar wants and needs.
Kit Kat Lounge 3700 N. Halsted 773.525.1111.
just a sports bar, the menu includes a variety of hamburgers, sandwiches, salads and comfort food.
Providing the best of diva entertainment along with a full dinner menu, they offer ½-price cocktails and Buy 1 Get 1 Free Entree on Wednesdays.. On Monday nights get 50% off your entire bill.
Deluxe Diner 6349 N. Clark 773.743.8244.
M. Henry 5707 N. Clark 773.561.1600. This popular
Crew 4804 N. Broadway 773.784.2739. More than
Conveniently located near Rogers Park’s gay triangle, the diner’s “open 24 hours on weekends” status is perfect after a night of dancing and partying. Featured menu items include breakfast skillets that are served anytime.
F.O’Mahony’s 3701 N. Broadway 773.549-0097
An Irish-named pub and grill, but mostly it’s a neighborhood hangout where you can order food to go along with your beer (or cosmo). While not prticularly exotic, the menu features such faves as hot wings, sliders and pizza served till the wee hours. Sundays $20 mimosa brunch is popular, get there early, this place fills up fast.
Golden Nugget Family Restaurants
2720 N. Clark 773.929.0724. 2406 W. Diversey 773.252.8903. 1765 W. Lawrence 773.769.6700. These places are a great place for after bar dining as they are all open 24-7, and all have free parking. The large menu is sure to please. Everything is housemade, known for fluffy buttermilk pancakes, but dinners are hearty as well.
Andersonville outpost serves breakfast and lunch daily and features creative fare such as pancakes with warm blackberries and vanilla mascarpone cream. Additionally there are many vegetarian dishes.
DS Tequila 3352 N. Halsted 773.697.9127. An
Americanized sporty joint that features tequila & tacos.
Nookies Tree 3334 N. Halsted 773.248.9888. A
regular haunt for the locals of Boystown and popular with hangover recoverers, the diner serves made-toorder omelets, pancakes, waffles and other brunch fare all day. And it’s open 24 hours on weekends.
Melrose 3233 N Broadway 773.327.2060. This
Lakeview institution has been catering to the afterbar crowds for decades, serving breakfast anytime along with typical diner fare. Open 24 hours
Stella’s Diner 3042 N. Broadway 773.472.9040.
Friendly staff serve up delicious diner fare, such as; fresh salads, a large selection of wraps, sandwiches, hearty entrees, pastas, and homemade deserts
Halsted’s Bar & Grill 3441 N. Halsted 773.348.9696 Tweet 5020 N. Sheridan 773.728.5576. An Uptown This Boystown eatery serves up a wide array of tasty appetizers, burgers, sandwiches, and popular comfort food items at very reasonable prices in a fun and inviting atmosphere. Beers on tap are aplenty and the weekend brunch draws an attractive crowd.
fave, serving breakfast and lunch only, uses organic ingredients when possible to create brunch items such as buckwheat pancakes, Danish beignets, Belgian waffles, and an impressive assortment of breakfast burritos and egg Benedict dishes.
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Wilde Bar & Restaurant 3130 N. Broadway
773.244.0404. This cozy upscale Irish pub offers a laid back and warm atmosphere and a wide ranging menu that is sure to please. Expect updated versions of pub favorites such as chicken pot pie, meatloaf, fish & chips, burgers and salads. ASIAN__________________
Jitlada Thai House 3715 N. Halsted
773.388.9988. This quaint family-owned eatery features Asian favorites such as pad Thai, pineapple fried rice, crab rangoon, pot stickers, tempura and nine spice curry items. Delivery available.
Pingpong 3322 N. Broadway 773.281.7575.
This popular Lakeview restaurant features highquality Pan-Asian cuisine in a hip and modern atmosphere as well as top-notch people-watching both those in and walking by the restaurant. Delivery available.
Young’s Chinese 3949 N. Ashland
773.248.7998. This well-regarded outpost has earned a stellar reputation for great tasting food and delivery so quick you’ll swear there must be a wok in the car. ITALIAN_________________
Anna Maria Pasteria 4400 N. Clark
773.506.2662. Owned by sisters who hail from the Basilicata region of southern Italy, this neighborhood gem creates homemade modern and traditional Italian dishes that are authentic, delicious & inexpensive.
Angelina Ristorante 3561 N. Broadway
773.935.5933. Hosting the coolest and hippest Sunday brunch crowd in Lakeview, the menu includes Eggs Benedict, fritattas, Croque Monsieur and mufaletta sandwiches, almond-crusted stuffed French toast, and the free flow of Champagne mimosas. Brunch here is loud, raucous and FUN! Great for dinner, as well.
Panino’s Pizzeria 3702 N. Broadway
773.472.6200. Panino’s has established itself as a Boystown favorite with its varied menu selections, including gyros and burgers, pasta entrees, and of course pizza. Delivery available.
Taverna 750 750 W. Cornelia Ave 773.248.8333.
This restaurant, formerly known as Cornelia’s is the latest trendy Italian restaurant in the neighborhood. New owners, new looks and a new menu is sure to make this a new hot spot. 18 boi
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Andies 1467 W. Montrose 773.348.0654. 5253 N
Clark 773.784.8616. Specializing in Mediterranean and vegetarian cuisine, specialties of the house include steak kabobs, gyros, and poultry dishes such as Greek Chicken and Lebanese Style Chicken Kefta Kabob. And as befits the cuisine, desserts include a very tasty baklava. The Sunday buffet brunch is extravagant and reasonably priced.
Sayat Nova 157 E. Ohio 312.644.9159. Classic
Mediterranean-American fare served in comfortable surroundings Every Thursday night things get extra gay for the “Boystown in Downtown” party. MEXICAN/LATIN__________
Cesar’s 2924 N. Broadway 773.296.9097. 3166 N Clark | 773.248.2835 This family-owned operation offers an enticing menu full of delicious Mexican recipes, popular house specialties, irresistible desserts, and their signature “Killer Margaritas.”
El Nuevo Mexicano 2914 N. Clark 773.528.2131. Cozy dining room along with authentic Mexican cuisine makes this a great place for delicious dining. Open for lunch & dinner, great patio for summer outdoor dining. Delivery available too!
Estrella Negra 2346 W. Fullerton 773.227.5993.
If Ed Hardy had a taco joint, this might be it for flair. A skull-licious themed dining experience. Sure, you can get tacos, empanadas and burritos, but they are all of the gormet caliber. Owner Oto is the Chef and puts his own creative twist on everything. It’s BYOB.
Fiesta Mexicana 2423 N. Lincoln Ave 773.348.4144 (2nd Location) 4806 N. Broadway 773.769.4244. Traditional favorites along with great ambiance. Nice place to bring your family, friends or bring a date to. The Lincoln location has daily specials & live music.
Mayan Palace 2703 N. Halsted 773.935.4200
Known to be one of the very best Mexican restaurants in the city, the focus is on using fresh, high-quality ingredients for its “south of the border” cuisine. Portions are generous and the cool Margaritas dubbed “The World’s Best!” Is your target market is in our distribution area?? ADVERTISE YOUR RESTAURANT IN BOI MAGAZINE Call 773.975.0264 or email us at boiADS@aol.com
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Our cover models this week, both named Pete, are newlyweds. They got married in Provincetown over the summer in a small ceremony on the beach attended by about two dozen friends and family members. After the ceremony the entire wedding party went to the Lobster Pot for lunch and then on a sail around the cape. “We’re really a couple of guys with simple taste,” Pete the younger told me. “Some big catered party just isn’t our style. It was more important to us to have the people in our life who mean the most to us, with us on that day. My mother and grandmother were both there, as well as my sister and her girlfriend.” He saw my eyes widen. My mother hit the jackpot, she had two kids and both of us are gay.” “His mother is the greatest,” said the elder Pete, “She treats me as if I was her own child. My family died in an accident when I was young, so it’s great to have another mother figure at this stage in my life. I can’t say enough about how wonderful Pete’s family is. I’m lucky to have married into such a welcoming group. His mother always jokes that she now she has two sons, Pete and Re-Pete.” “It doesn’t get confusing with both of having the same name because my family has always called me Petey anyway and when we’re not with my family our friends all call Pete by his nickname, which is Mary. No, I’m kidding, he’s always gone by the name Buddy.” “After my family died I lived with some distant relatives, my aunt’s husband was a bit of a drinker and he could never
remember my name, so he called me Buddy and it stuck. It’s also a name folks remember, which is great since I have my own landscape architecture firm. “ “My major in college was industrial engineering. I was looking for a summer job and answered an ad Buddy placed in a local paper when he was looking for an assistant. After my first couple of weeks I decided to switch his major to landscape design.” “I thought he was adorable, but didn’t approach him for a date until the end of the summer. I didn’t want to start something with an employee. Petey had to make the first move.” “I think he wanted to see how hard I would work once I married in to the company.” boi 21
From Jerusalem to Thailand By Gregg Shapiro
The Jerusalem in Haim Tabakman’s award winning film “Eyes Wide Open” exists in a world unto itself. Streets and buildings are as ancient and unstable as the fundamentalist rituals of the Orthodox Jews that populate the Jerusalem neighborhood. Shortly after devout Aaron reopens the kosher butcher shop that was run by his late father, he meets itinerant Yeshiva student Ezri. Ezri, who was tossed out of his previous Yeshiva, has come to town to be with a male lover who rebuffs him. In need of help, Aaron hires the inexperienced Ezri. He also gives Ezri a place to stay, in a room above the butcher shop. Aaron, a devoted husband and father, doesn’t quite know what to make of Ezri. Aaron is distant and removed, dedicated to the study of Torah. Ezri is expressive and creative, carries around sketches that he has done. Convincing Aaron to leave Jerusalem, they drive to a spring where Ezri disrobes and enters the water, completely at ease in his own skin. The more modest Aaron undresses, but leaves on his boxers which he takes off only after he is in the water. At Sabbath dinner, with Aaron’s wife and children, Ezri is like a ray of light in the drab setting. Back at the butcher shop, Ezri becomes Aaron’s apprentice. A forbidden sexual tension develops between them, and when Ezri attempts to kiss the butcher, Aaron asks him to restrain himself. He considers the shared development of attraction to be a challenge and it is Aaron’s mission to resist and overcome it. Of course, we all know where that will lead – a passionate kiss in the meat locker. Soon, the two men are having sex on a regular basis. Religious thugs (no kidding), self-described “morality police,” visit Aaron at the shop, advising him to distance himself from Ezri the “sinner.” Rumors about Ezri abound and Rivka becomes suspicious. Aaron continues to be threatened. And in spite of the fact that Aaron credits Ezri with making him come alive, he is forced to make a choice. 22 boi
Tabakman alternates between being heavy handed (lots of water imagery) and artistically inspired (fascinating use of reflections), and the film’s conclusion is sure to unsettle many viewers. However, the performances make this a film worth watching with, what else, eyes wide open. Don’t expect to come away from “Uncle Boonmee Who Can Recall His Past Lives” with a deeper meaning of life, yours or Uncle Boonmee’s. Leisurely paced, at the very least, gay Thai filmmaker Apichatpong Weerasethakul received the Palme d’Or at Cannes for this film in which the dying Uncle Boonmee entertains both the living and dead, who help him through the transition from this world into the next. Released from the hospital under the watchful eye of Laotian caregiver Jaai, tamarind and bee farmer Boonmee is visited in his country home by sister-in-law Jen and nephew Tong.Before you know it, they are joined at the dinner table by the ghost of Boonmee’s wife and Jen’s sister Huay as well as the Monkey Ghost of his son Boonsong, with the glowing red eyes. In his final days, Boonmee comes to terms with the wrongs of his past, ranging from abandoning the search for Boonsong when he went missing to killing too many bugs and communists in his lifetime. In other words, karma is a bitch and Boonmee, who considers his kidney failure to be proof, has accepted that fact. But he makes the most of the end, communing with his hired help in the fields and trekking into the woods and through a cave. This is where past life memories and mythology intersect, and where less patient viewers might give up the ghost. But for those willing to go with the flow, “Uncle Boonmee” can be visually dazzling (in the ugly Princess and talking catfish sequence, for instance), if ultimately puzzling.
Hot Jocks All sorts of athletic supporters will be meeting Hot, Sweaty, Men at Crew for a pre-party before heading out It’s the end of an era. After five years Urbano, to Equality Illinois’s “Out at the Fire” event on the weekly hip hop party at Circuit, is coming Sunday, Sept. 25. I’m told that it has something to an end. There will be one last hip to the to do with soccer. Whatever you say, tickets are hop on Saturday, Sept. 24. DJs Anton, Stoney $30, $45 if you want to ride the bus with a bunch & Khiko will spin their favorites in hip hop, of excited jocks. Who knows what may happen house and reggaeton. Don’t by a black dress in the bus on the ride home. Send an e-mail to for the party just yet. I have a source that Rachel Myers at RMyers@chicago-fire.com for reports that the party is just moving to a new more information… For many of us, high school location and that details will be announced sports were a nightmare, and that includes a lot soon… In the meantime, get your house of jocks who were afraid to come out. “In the music fix at “United House: A Night of Unity in Life” on WTTW, Channel 11 focuses on just that House Music” on Monday, Sept. 26, at Hydrate. situation in “Homophobia in Sports” on Friday, Cyon Flare is hosting so you know it will be a Sept. 23. The show takes focuses on the message hot event. Resident house DJ Semaj will spin homophobia in professional sports sends to at this party which is all about celebrating young people on courts and fields across the diversity… Speaking of hot (and aren’t we country and the story of a gay teenager on his always?), Hell in a Handbag Productions is journey from homelessness to college and the up to its sick and twisted best with “Pussy on mentors who provide support on his way. the House”, opening Friday, Sept. 23 at The Athenaeum Theatre Studio. This time the From Edgewater to Downtown campy company takes on Tennessee William’s Touché is playing host to the Illinois Leather “Cat on a Hot Tin Roof” with a tale of dark Weekend events and kicks things off with a desires; of greed and avarice; of longing and welcome party Friday, Sept. 23. The rest of the lesbians; all set in the hot and steamy South. weekend is chock full of pageants and contests So, bring Mom! to crown (sash?) the new IL Leather/Sir, IL Master/Slave, IL Leather Pride and IL Community Too School for Cool Bootblack. What’s a girl to do?... That same night Now that you’ve gotten all your school Berlin is holding a Ladytron ticket giveaway. supplies, it’s time to think about higher Tickets for Oct. 4 show at The Vic will be given education. Center on Halsted hosts a away at midnight. It’s all to promote Ladytron’s College Fair for LGBT students, family and new album, “Gravity the Seducer”... Elbo Room friends on Saturday, Sept. 24, at the Center. has been drawing more and more folks as an Representatives from more than 30 local alternative to the usual clubs and the folks and national colleges and universities will from Early to Bed celebrate the business’ 10th answer questions about admissions, essays, anniversary there with a huge party on Saturday, interviews and financial aid. There will be talks Sept. 24. There’ll be special cocktails made with on LGBT campus leadership, financial aid and Love Potion No. 14 from JoSnow, treats and a scholarship opportunities. All that earnestness superstar raffle. The GlitterGuts gang there to is followed by a party on the rooftop deck take pictures… Or give your throat a rest from with other LGBT high school students other activities and sing a few bars at Downtown and allies… For those who have already Bar and Lounge’s karaoke party on Saturday, matriculated, Northwestern’s LGBT Resource Sept. 24. They have great drink specials and an Center holds a “Welcome Back Reception” on awesome crowd that rocks. Wednesday, Sept. 28, at the Alumni Center, 1800 Sheridan Rd. in the People’s Republic On the Strip of Evanston. The staff of the LGBT Resource Psst! Just between you and me, Kit Kat’s $30 prix Center will serve a sumptuous spread and fixe on Fridays is a steal. Stop in before hitting allow plenty of time for networking with the clubs or hang around and watch the straight other GLBTQ students. So they’re calling it girls at the bachelorette parties get rowdy. Chat “networking” now? When I was in college we ‘em up and they may buy you a cocktail or two just called it “getting laid.” or three… After a good meal and all those drinks you may just get up enough nerve to enter 24 boi by Harry Taint
the Ram’s Bare Butt Contest on the 23rd, just remember to do a sanity check first. Okay?... Spin is infamous for many things; shower contests, hot dancing boys and drag queens. Now they’re gearing up for “Real Housewives Live” on Wednesday Oct. 5. Phi Phi O’Hara and Debbie Fox (as The Countess and Kim Zolciak, respectively) will perform “Money Can’t Buy You Class” and “Tardy for the Party!”. But wait! That’s not all, folks are encouraged to dress up as their favorite housewife from any of the shows. There will be a fierce look-alike contest at midnight. … In other Spin news; the gals from “RuPaul’s Drag Race” will be working the club’s stage starting with Stacy Layne Matthews presenting some southern-fried fun on Oct. 8. If you want to flirt with her, just bring a bucket of extra crispy. Then a week later it’s the winning diva from season three, Raja appearing with Jade in “2011 A Drag Odyssey”. Check out spin-nightclub.tix.com for all the particulars.. The theme of this year’s “Night of 100 drag Queens” benefit at Sidetrack is “Hollywood Bound”..
Are We Hitched, Or What? Getting married isn’t the same thing everywhere. Here’s how the legalities and terminology vary from place to place. Same-Sex Marriage Connecticut - No resident requirement, no waiting period, fee is $30-$35 and may vary from county to county. Iowa - No resident requirement, 3 business day waiting period, $5 fee to waive the waiting period. Massachusetts - No residency requirement, 3 day waiting period (Sundays and holidays included) may be waived for non-residents, solemnization authority is sometimes granted (this makes it possible for a non-minister or nonjustice of the peace, such as a relative or family friend, to obtain special permission to perform a marriage from the Governor.)
I’m Ordering Dessert Because It’s For Charity, Yeah, right. However the third annual “Dining Out for Equality” does take place on Tuesday, Sept. 27, and a significant portion of your food and drink bill will be donated to Equality Illinois that day. Chow down and help fund the fight for LGBT equality in Illinois! Many of our community’s favorite spots are participating. Among just a few are; Big Jones, Halsted’s, Hamburger Mary’s, HB Home Bistro, Hearty Restaurant, Jack’s on Halsted, Kit Kat, Lady Gregory’s Las Mañanitas, Magnolia Café, Monastero’s, Nookies Edgewater, Taverna 750, Vincent, Wishbone, Wilde and, of course, Yoshi’s Café. When you make your reservations, mention “Dining Out for Equality”
New Hampshire - No residency requirement, no waiting period.
It’s Artistic, Darlin’, Not Autistic! Alexandra Billings brings her hilarious improve “talk show” back to Chicago for one week-end only, Oct. 7 & 8 at Stage 773. In “Katie’s Corner Live” Alex channels the great Katherine Hepburn and imagines what it would be like if she had an afternoon talk show…. If you don’t see many lesbians around on Thursday, Sept. 29, it’s because they’re all at Park west for the Dar Williams and Joan Osborne concert…Chicago House presents the return of its speaker series luncheons with the exciting announcement that Whoopi Goldberg will deliver the keynote address at the third annual event on Friday, Nov. 4. Tickets are available by phone at 773.248.5200 x303 or online at chicagohouse.org.
Domestic Partnerships California, Maine, Nevada, Oregon, Washington
New York – no residency, 24 hour waiting period. Vermont - non-residents must apply for a license in the county where the marriage will take place, mandatory 1 day waiting period Canada - no residency required Netherlands/Holland - residency requirement Civil Unions Delaware, Hawaii, Illinois, New Jersey, Rhode Island
What’s In A Name? Surname Options. Every person has the right to adopt any name by which he or she wishes to be known simply by using that name consistently and without intent to defraud. If a name change will be used in a work environment, Social Security Administration must be notified. A person’s last name (surname) does not automatically change upon marriage, and neither party to the marriage is required to change his or her last name. Parties to a marriage need not have the same last name.
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We’ve all been there. You finally get through security at the airport and you suddenly realize you don’t have a gift for your out-of-town friends or relatives you’re going to visit. You know how it is; Chicagoans crave those local treats that you just can’t get anywhere else in the world. There’s no need to panic. Hidden amongst the franchise and chain restaurants at the airports are a few outposts of legendary local food purveyors. And better yet, these places can pack the stuff so that you can throw it in the overhead. Make certain to order something for yourself since that little bag of five peanuts is not going to hold you for a six-hour flight.
Venue Location(s) The Berghoff Café, Terminal 1 Eli’s Cheesecake Terminal 1 Garrett Popcorn Terminals 1 & 3 Gold Coast Dogs Terminals 3 & 5 Goose Island Brewing Terminals 1 & 2 Nuts on Clark Terminals 1 & 2 Pizzeria Uno Terminals 2, 3 & 5
Treat brats, hearty sandwiches, beer frozen whole cheesecake Chicago (aka ghetto) Mix Chicago style hot dog, Italian beef beer, root beer and orange cream soda caramel corn, candied nuts pan pizzas
Venue Chicago Treasures Gold Coast Dogs Harry Carray’s Discover Chicago Nuts on Clark Miller’s Pub Manny’s Express
Treat souvenirs
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Location(s) Midway Triangle Midway Triangle Midway Triangle Concourses A & B Concourse B Concourse B Concourses A & B
Chicago style hot dog, Maxwell St. Polish
BBQ ribs souvenirs caramel corn, candied nuts ribs, prime rib, corned beef deli sandwiches, chicken soup
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by Ace Magyar Sometimes things work out in mysterious ways. I decided to go through my files and see if there were any questions from folks that I had put aside due to space restrictions or whatever. Just as I began my (pardon me while I brown-nose a bit) handsome and intelligent editor, Rick Karlin called and asked me if I had any advice column stuff relating to travel. Having just gone through my files I knew that I had. It must have been kismet.
her packing habits as a fault. Sit down before you go on your next trip and explain to her that while you respect the fact that she likes pack extensively, you prefer not to. Then say that she’s welcome to pack as much as she wants but that you’re not going to help her with her luggage, nor share in the cost. Then don’t help or pay, no matter what. Perhaps when she realizes what a financial and physical burden she’s put on herself (and by extension, you), she’ll change her habits. If she doesn’t, then it’s her cross (or suitcase) to bear.
Pierced in Pilsen
White Knuckle Flier
I recently got a “Prince Albert” piercing and just found out I have to go on an unexpected business trip which will require me to fly to numerous cities. I’m worried about going through security. Is there anything I can do, other than removing the studs, to make going through security less embarrassing?
PIP
You can request a full body scan rather than walk through the metal detectors. Believe me you won’t be the first person they’ve encountered with piercings. After all, hundreds of the folks in town for IML last spring came via air travel. You may get a pat down or even a physical exam, keep in mind though that the guy doing the pat down may be more embarrassed than you, and if not, you may get a date out of the situation.
I’ve been going out with this great guy for about a year and a half. He’s asked me to go him with him for Thanksgiving to meet his family in Puerto Rico. I am scared to death of flying, but I’m afraid that if I say that I can’t go, he’ll think I don’t like him. The last time I flew (12 years ago), I gripped my friend’s arm so hard that it was black and blue for a week. I don’t want to get on the plane and have a melt down, nor do I want to dope myself up on tranquilizers. In case there’s a problem I want to be alert. What can I do?
WKF
I’m certain people have pointed out to you that flying is safer than driving a car. However, in a situation with fears as great as yours rational explanations aren’t worth much. There are classes to help people overcome their fear of flying. I’m Miffed at Midway assuming you’ve either tried one of these or don’t When my girlfriend and I travel, she always over- wish to. The best approach to this is to explain packs. I prefer to travel lightly while she’ll bring your situation to your boyfriend. If you have two large suitcases on a weekend get-away. We enough time, you might opt to drive to a port city almost always have to pay excess luggage fees. and take a cruise ship that stops in Puerto Rico. I always get stuck helping her drag her suitcases Alternatively, you might want to get a prescription through the airport and to and from every for Ambien. Take it about an hour before your location and then I bitch about it and we fight. flight and you’ll wake up at your destination. The The most annoying part is that she doesn’t even drug’s manufacturer claims that if someone is wear or use half the things she packs. How can wakened while asleep, they are alert and focused. we avoid the confrontations her habit causes? Ace Magyar has a BA in communications, a MIM MA in sex therapy and a PHD in zoology. He is It sounds like your girlfriend puts the “lug” in a registered couple’s counselor specializing in luggage. The best way to avoid this is to have a the GLBT community. Send your questions to frank discussion without laying blame or seeing boieditorial@aol.com.
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Boystown / Lakeview
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Chicago Downtown
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Chicago Northside CONTINUED
Crew 4804 N. Broadway G&L, V, R 773.784.2739 Davenport’s 1383 N. Milwaukee G&L, LM 773.278.1830 Debonair Social Club 1575 N. MilwaukeeAve. MS, D 773.227.7990 Fat Cat 4849 N. Broadway MS, R 773.506.3100 Green Dolphin St. 2200 N. Ashland G&L, D, LM, 4 773.395.0066 Green Mill 4802 N. Broadway MS, LM, 4 773.878.5552 In Fine Spirits 5420 N Clark MS, R 773.334.9463 Jackhammer 6406 N. Clark G, D, V, GB, LM, 4 773.743.5772 Joi de Vine 1744 W. Balmoral L, R 773.989.6846 Kinetic Playground 1113 W. LawrenceMS, D, LM, 4 773.769.5483 Marty’s 1511 W. Balmoral G&L 773.561.6425 Mary’s Attic 5400 N Clark G&L, D, V, R 773.784.6969 Parlour On Clark 6341 N. Clark 773.564.9274 Mary’s RecRoom 5402 N Clark G&L, D, V, R 773.784.6969 Scot’s 1829 W. Montrose G&L 773.528.3253 SoFo Bar 4923 N. Clark G 773.784.7636 T’s 5025 N. Clark G&L, R 773.784.6000 The Call 1547 W Bryn Mawr G&L, D, DS, V, LM 773.334.2525 The Glenwood 6962 N Glenwood G 773.764.7363 Touché 6412 N. Clark G, V, LF, 4 773.465.7400
Chicago Southside
Club Escape 1530 E. 75th G&L, D Escapades 6301 S. Harlem G&L, D, V, 4 Inn Exile 5758 W. 65th G&L, D, V Jeffrey Pub 7041 S. Jeffrey G&L, D, V, 4
Chicago Suburbs
Hideaway 7301 W. Roosevelt Forest Park G, D, V, DS, GB Club Krave 13126 S. Western Blue Island G&L, D, V, DS, GB, 4 Hunters 1932 E. Higgins Elk Grove Village G, D, V, GB, 4 Mission 209 E. Chicago Downtown Elgin G&L, D, V Encompass 24215 Rush St. Lake Station, IN G&L, D, R, DS Velvet Rope 728 Lake St Oak Park G&L, D, V, R
Adult Entertainment
Chicago Northside
The Anvil 1137 W. Granville G, V @mosphere 5355 N. Clark G&L, V, GB Big Chicks 5024 N. Sheridan G&L, D, R
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Banana Video 4923 N. Clark G, BK Bijou Theater 1349 N. Wells G, GB, BK Man’s Country 5017 N. Clark G, GB, BH Steamworks 3246 N. Halsted G, BH, FC The Ram 35111/2 N. Halsted G, BK, D
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