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3700 N. Halsted St. #2-S Chicago, IL 60613 773.975.0264 Editorial: boieditorial@aol.com Advertising: boiads@aol.com EDITORIAL Mike Macharello: Production Rick Karlin: Editor layout & design Titanium Graphics, Inc. advertising Freddie: freddie@boiMAGazineChicago.com Dave: dave@boiMAGazineChicago.com National, Rivendell Media: sales@rivendellmedia.com photographerS Oliver Aguilar Eamonn Sexton Iggy Munoz, Candymoon Photography COVER Coby, Professional Shopper editorial contributors Gregg Shapiro, Ace Magyar, Sue Deaunym, Anita Taylor, boiMAG ONLINE
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MAKING A LIST
& CHECKING IT TWICE Gonna Find Out Who’s Naughty...
To paraphrase Mae West, “Good boys go to heaven, bad boys go everywhere!” Forget about the nice, Santa’s naughty list has the boys and girls we want to know. If you’ve got someone naughty, but nice, on your holiday shopping list, check out these options..
Show Me Your Badge Get it on with these “Bad Boy” Police Patrol undies, complete with badge, gun, and handcuffs from Ginch Gonch $23.99 at www.egoistunderwear.com or the Egoist shop on Halsted.. Book’em for the night!
Solo Act Hand Solo, from Early to Bed, and made of soft, flexible silicone, this vibrating cock toy is designed for exciting new sensations. Use for solo time or share with a friend, $40. Available at the store or on-line at www.early2bed.com
Bottoms Up Naughty Holiday Girls Wine Glass, $19.95 from www.giftedgrape.com
WWJD When WWJD means “Who Would Jesus Do?” The birth of Christ often gets lost in the commercialization of Christmas, but not with a baby Jesus butt plugg. $35 from www.divine-interventions.com
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Making A List . . . Continued.....
Ice Ice Baby This jock is one of CRAM Fashion’s most popular styles and it’s easy to see why! PUMP! underwear jocks are known for thick waist bands, this one is called “ICE Jock” and is $25. The tri-color, red, white, and blue is soft yet sturdy with ultimate stretchability and hold. Perfect for that naughty one on your list!
Makin’ Bacon
Makin’ Bacon
When you really want to get porked, J & D’s Bacon Lube bacon flavored lube is the answer. $11.99 from www.baconsalt.com.
Coming for Charity Sir Richard’s Condoms eco- and veganfriendly condoms. As if that weren’t PC enough, for each condom you buy, one is donated to a developing country. It’s the gift that keeps on giving and coming. $13 for a pack of 12, at www.sirrichards.com.
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Front & Center Can’t get enough of the holiday sweets? At least this candy cane jock strap is calorie free. Available at www.nalpac.us for $12.99..
Holdin’ Out for a Hero Erotic comic artists, such as Jacob Mott and Patrick Fillion, pack Heroes with Hard-ons, an anthology with fearless superheroes whose true mutant power seems to reside between their legs. ($39.67) Available at www.brunogmuender.com (search “hero”)
Drop Everything The Incoqnito droplet necklace has a little secret for you to keep (or share): each droplet is a vibrating nipple clamp, too. $109 for silver, $125 for rose gold, from www.babeland.com boiMAG 15
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CHICAGO SPOTLIGHT by Gregg Shapiro 2013 Chicago Gay and Lesbian Hall of Fame inductee Lee A. Newell II was born in the Finger Lakes Region of New York in 1949. After moving to Chicago in 1975, Newell became involved with Gay Horizons (the precursor to Center on Halsted) and later began doing photography for Gay Life, Windy City Times, Metra, Gay Chicago Magazine, as well as International Mr. Leather. In 2001, Newell moved to the central east coast of Florida, where he published Out on the Coast Magazine from 2003-2008. A founder of The Living Room of Brevard GLBT center in 2005, he served in various capacities there through April 2012.
When did you come out and what was the experience like for you?
It’s been a life-long process. I’ve always been gay and got caught when I was 5 or 6 messing around with the neighbor boys. My father didn’t handle it well – we’re talking mid-‘50s and a macho guy still having flashbacks to WWII – not a pleasant story. I struggled through high school, keeping pretty much to myself and so naïve and hung up that I now realize I totally missed that a couple of neighbor boys were gay and wanted to mess around. College in the late ‘60s was about sex, drugs and rock and roll. There was a lot of emphasis on self-discovery and I finally decided at the end of my junior year to just be me. I quit my fraternity, interesting since a fraternity brother who roomed with me after I moved out is now a woman. Then I moved to Chicago and could just be. I finally came out to my family unintentionally in that I had mentioned that I had written a big article for Windy City Times and my father insisted I bring it home for him to read. Anyway the cat was out of the bag and everyone dealt with it okay, I guess.
Please name five of your GLBT heroes and say a few words about why you chose them.
Harvey Milk comes to mind first. He showed that we could succeed in political office. He gave hope that our community would emerge from the shadows and ghettos and be a force in society. And he was killed before he could become sullied by politics. Danny Sotomayor and Paul Adams of ACT UP for their bravery in battling both disease and ignorance. I worked with Paul on a couple of graphics projects and he was such a nice guy, but he was a fierce advocate for people with AIDS. Danny was a sweetheart, too. I’ll never forget watching Danny being dragged from city hall
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by the police at an AIDS protest. If I recall correctly he was alone in his action as the Chicago Police were well known as a brutal force in those days. There are pictures of that in my collection at the Chicago History Museum. Joe Loundy is someone most people don’t know. Joe succeeded me as leader at Gay Horizons. He took a little agency in a one-room basement on Oakdale and built it into a thriving community service organization occupying most of a building on Sheffield. At its height, I think he was nurturing 19 programs, from the gay help line to Rick Karlin’s Gay Parents Group and Jon Jost’s Gay People’s Counseling Center to Terry Gorham’s Lambda Resource Center for the Blind as well as numerous support groups. It was even home to Gerber Hart Library for a while. His vision and ability to deliver was amazing. Chuck Renslow for his ever present support of our community. He really wasn’t out front but he was always there with encouragement and financial support. I remember him paying the rent for Gay Horizons when they had no income. And I remember his kind smiles and personal support for me in just about everything I did. I’ve tried to pay that forward in my life.
What do you consider to be your most significant contribution to the GLBT community in Chicago and at large? There are two things, actually,
that I’m proud of from my time in Chicago. First is keeping Gay Horizons open after the fire. It took the efforts of many people, but I had to lead them. As Chairperson it was my responsibility to see that we kept going once the board decided not to close. Second is keeping all the negatives from my documenting 30 years of gay life in photos and then donating them to the Chicago Historical Society (now the Chicago History Museum) was the only place I knew of that could store photographs and negatives safely. Most people throw that stuff out, or their family does at the end. In a larger sense, I’m proud of helping to build my community, of working with all kinds of people to make, in small ways, a better more welcoming place for us all.
What are your future goals and aspirations? Professionally I plan on getting my
photography better known and out for sale. I’ve got some stuff on www.fineartamerica.com now. I still have thousands of negatives and digital images that I think will appeal to a broad range of folks.
Words of wisdom to the next GLBT generation. Help others. It is truly amazing how doing some little thing can make you feel good, even years later. Be involved, even if it’s just patronizing gay owned or gay friendly businesses, because keeping our community visible and vital is important.
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Rick Karlin s Big Bite Holiday traditions usually call for families gathered around a dining room table. But, that doesn’t mean it needs to be your dining room table. Start a new tradition by going out to dinner for the holiday. You’d be surprised at how much less stressful the holidays can be when relatives need to behave in public. Check out some of these options, which run the gamut from luxurious and expensive to downright reasonably priced. You couldn’t ask for a more traditional Christmas dinner than at The Lockwood in The Palmer House. They’re serving up a lavish buffet from 11 a.m. to 4 p.m. for $70 a person ($65 for seniors, $40 for 6 -12 yrs. old.) That price includes sparkling wine, and non-alcoholic beverages. Get 4 hours free parking at 55 E. Monroe with validation at the restaurant. 312.917.3404 or www. lockwoodrestaurant.com. Speaking of traditions, dining at the Walnut Room has been has been the go-to spot for Chicagoans since 1907 (the first restaurant ever opened in a department store.) While it’s not open on Christmas Eve for dinner or Christmas Day, it is an excellent choice to take a break from shopping. Another good bet is to go for the breakfast buffet, served daily. 312.781.3139 or www.macysrestaurants.com/ walnutroom. For a Christmas meal with all the sparkle you can imagine, NoMi in the Park Hyatt, overlooking Michigan Ave., offers a Christmas Day buffet that goes all the way from brunch to supper, served from 10:30 a.m. until 8:00 p.m. for $125 per person. 312.239.4030 or www.NoMIrestaurant.com.
Christmas in style at at The Waldorf Astoria’s elegant restaurant, Balsan. The Enjoy four- course prix fixe menu is $78 for adults, $34 for kids and is served from 2:30-8 p.m. 312.646.1400 For an Italian family style meal, all Buca di Beppo locations will be open on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. www.bucadibeppo.com. For plated service, most Francesca’s locations will be open. www.miafrancesca.com. If you prefer seafood for your holiday meal, all Chicago-area McCormick and Schmick’s locations will be open. www.mccormickandschmicks.com Other restaurants open on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day and serving their regular menus, usually along with a few holiday specials, include; Deleece on Southport (www.deleece. com, 773.325.1710), Bulerias Tapas in Lakeview (www.buleriastapas. com, 773.404.2855) and Wildfire’s Lincolnshire location (www. wildfirerestaurant.com, 847.279.7900), which will be open on Christmas Eve and on Christmas Day will donate a portion of the sales to the Northern Illinois Food Bank. Having Chinese food on Christmas eve or Day is a Jewish tradition, and you can’t go wrong with Sun Wah BBQ (especially if you get the Par Pei duck). The Uptown spot will be open Christmas eve from 9 to 9 and on Christmas Day from10-6. 773.769.1254 or www.sunwahbbq.com. If you’d prefer to wolf down a few weinies (or Italian sausage or Polish sausage), Clark St. Dog can provide a banquet for any size group. 773.281.6690 or www.clarkstdog.com. boiMAG 23
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EVOLUTION iMUSIC OF DANCE By Gregg Shapiro Disco makes a comeback, if you don’t call it disco. If you call it EDM (aka electronic dance music) you make it safe for straight people and their gay friends (who have been dancing to it for years). But there are traces of disco, including a renewed interest in disco pioneer Giorgio Moroder, who was rediscovered by EDM gods Daft Punk and embraced by their legion of fans. However, as the homophobia-laced Disco Demolition in Chicago (of course) approached its 34th anniversary, the three-day Wavefront Music Festival, featuring Diplo, Timo Maas, Holy Ghost, Frankie Knuckles, staked its claim in the Windy City, while electronic music fests were held around the globe. The aforementioned mastermind Moroder, along with his muse the late Donna Summer, were the driving force behind disco during its heyday. The Donna Summer remix disc Love To Love You Donna (Verve) is less an homage to the original disco diva than it is a chance for those cursed re-mixers to get their grubby paws on her classic material and leave what they think is their imprint on it. Because “remix” means something different than it did when it was applied to extended 12” single versions of tracks during the 1970s (and the dawn of Donna Summer), only a few of the 13 revisited cuts are worth listening and dancing to. Not surprisingly, the Director’s Cut Signature Mix of “Hot Stuff” by Frankie Knuckles (a gay DJ who has been around since the birth of disco) and Eric Kupper is one, as is the Hot Chip Dub Edit of “Sunset People,” the Gigamesh Remix of “Bad Girls” and the Afrojack Remix of “I Feel Love.”
On his full-length debut True (Island), Avicii (aka Tim Bergling) is this year’s David Guetta, but so much betta (if you will). Like Guetta, Avicii employs guest vocalists, but what he does with them is far more compelling. Opener “Wake Me Up” finds modern soul singer Aloe Blacc in a country bar, complete with acoustic guitar and electronic beats, disco for the NASCAR set. The country/ club theme continues on “Hey Brother,” featuring vocals by Dan Tyminski (of Alison Krauss and O, Brother Where Art Thou? fame) and the addictive “Addicted To You,” sung by southwestern songbird Audra Mae. Avicii breaks up the mountaintop momentum with hardcore dance-floor workouts such as “Dear Boy,” the ballroom blitz of “Shame On Me,” Adam Lambert’s stand-up performance on “Lay Me Down” and the twisted retro soul screamer “Liar Liar.” Kaleidoscopic pop band Grouplove begins its second disc Spreading Rumours (Atlantic) with the exuberant “I’m With You,” a song that not only summons Philip Glass but also has a kick-ass dance beat, perfect for hippies and hipsters alike. “Borderlines & Aliens” arrives on a funk-rock flotation device and “Ways To Go” goes a long way in promoting the electro-funk cause. “Shark Attack” has teeth, “Sit Still” makes it impossible to sit, still or otherwise, and “Raspberry” is tart and tangy.
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by Rick Karlin
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HOLIDAZE CHEER Chicago Gay Men’s Chorus closes its 30th anniversary season with “Making Spirits Bright” reprising ten songs from its repertoire, ten brand new songs as well as ten additional pieces created for the occasion by artistic director, Patrick Sinozich. Songs include holiday favorites as well as songs with a holiday twist including a Boogie Woogie Santa Claus and Hula Dancing Reindeer. This concert marks the first time CGMC will be performing at the Harris Theater as well as a number of city and suburban locations including Fri., Dec. 6 at The Harris Theater, Sat., Dec. 7 at Center East in Skokie, Sat., Dec. 14 at the University of Chicago. The Sun., Dec. 15 show in Oakbrook is sold out. Tickets range from $20-$50 depending on the venue. For ticket information go to www.cgmc.org or call 773-296-0541. About Face Theatre’s sparkly, queer holiday hit musical “We Three Lizas” is back with a new book and expanded score featuring book and lyrics by Scott Bradley, music and additional lyrics by Alan Schmuckler. It will play through Jan. 5 at Stage 773, tickets are available at www.aboutfacetheatre.com or by calling 773.327.5252. Hell in a Handbag’s new holiday show is sure to be a camp holiday, classic.” Christmas Dearest” tells the tale of Hollywood superstar, Joan Crawford and the important lessons she learns one Christmas Eve. It’s Christmas Eve and MGM’s biggest star, Miss Joan Crawford is rehearsing the title role in “Oh Mary”, a splashy new musical biography about The Virgin Mary, Mother of God. Christmas Imagine
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Charles Dickens’ “A Christmas Carol” as told by Handbag’s David Cerda. Thursday through Sunday, through Dec. 28 at Mary’s Attic. Call 8p0.838.3006 or go to www.handbagproductions.org. Before he makes a list and checks it twice, Santa will bring visit the John Hancock Observatory. The top of the Michigan Avenue landmark will be converted into a winter wonderland complete with snow, twinkling lights and themed holiday drinks. For kids, a visit to Santa will seems as if they stepped into the North Pole as they are surrounded by snow, winter trees, wildlife, including a life-size fluffy polar bear, and even Santa’s sleigh, which will be available for memorable photo opportunities. Beginning Saturday, Nov. 30 children can visit with Santa every weekend, as well as Christmas Eve. For adults, the café will feature a signature holiday cocktail. The take on a classic White Russian includes a choice of peppermint or white chocolate drizzle. Learn more at www.jhochicago.com. Redmoon brings to life a new mythical story in its 15th annual Winter Pageant, Dec. 13-22 at 2120 S. Jefferson St. A family-friendly show with a cast of 40 performers, Redmoon’s dialoguefree production uses silent film-style title cards, hip-hop dance, Indian and Southeast Asian dance, puppets, machines, shadow play, aerial acrobatics and live, original music. Single tickets are priced at $25 for adults, $15 for kids 3-18 years old, $10 for college/university students with IDs, and free for kids under 3. For tickets call 312.850.8440 or at www.redmoon.org. Step Up Productions presents “HoliDaze,” a gift-wrapped line-up of original Christmas one-acts showcasing the dysfunctional chaos and joyous celebration the holidays bring, through Dec. 22 at The Athenaeum Theatre. Tickets are available by calling 773.935.6875 or by visiting their website at www.stepupproductions.org.
in the know ... ON THE GO! By Sue Deaunym
Bar Biz
Hydrate’s saving you some cash this holiday season. Get your buzz on for only a buck on Monday nights. Yes, $1 drinks have made a return... If you plan on stopping by the Jarvis Square Artisan Holiday Market on Dec. 14, be sure to pop into R Public House for a drink… Karaoke + Hamburger Mary’s + 2 many cocktails = Mary-Oke Wednesdays... Recover from a day with the fam at Hydrate’s “Butterball 2.0” on Saturday, Nov. 30 with DJ Alexander Rendo from LA… Sidetrack is going “holi-Disco” on Wednesday, Dec. 12... Is it true that Mike & Brryce’s party at Scarlet on Sunday nights, only stops when the last employee blacks out?... The piano bar makes a comeback on Halsted with Twisted Piano sing-a-long with Brian Felder at Twisted Vine the first Sunday of every month…
Latin Cattin’
If you can’t afford to go south of the border this winter, just head over to the Phoenix Bar & Nightclub in Elk Grove Village on Sundays when the bar goes Latin. Since it is a Latin night, you know there will be two things, go-go boys and drag queens!... If that’s not enough Latin for you, get another dose at Circuit Night Club on Thursday for La Noche Loca. Of course we can’t forget about Noche Latina on Sunday nights at Circuit..... ¡Ai Papi!
Diva Report
Roscoe’s goes All Britney on you on Tuesday, Dec.. 3 for the release party for “Britney Jean” (Hey, that’s my middle name too!)… Sidetrack screens Carrie Underwood in “The Sound of Music” on Thursday, Dec. 5. Are you as scared
by the prospect of that as I am? The up side of that is that they’re following the screening with show tunes. On a Thursday!... Stop by and see just why Pate was inducted into the G&L Hall of Fame (for her work rescuing animals) on Wednesday, Dec. 18 as she reigns supreme at Parlour, for the 2nd annual “Stock The Shelter” benefit… The cast of “Wicked” presents “A Wicked Night Before Christmas” cabaret at The Laugh Factory on Sunday, Dec. 12 as a benefit for Chicago House and Broadway Cares.... Show up in a major article of leather clothing (and no, a Chanel clutch does not count) at Man’s Country on Tuesdays and you’ll get a free locker ... The Call turns into Club Kylie with an all Kylie Minogue night on Friday, Dec. 13, lucky you!
Holiday Spirits
Queen! at Smart Bar celebrates the birth of our lord with a Christmas ball featuring Honey Soundsystem on Dec. 27… Windy City Gay Chorus and Aria hold a joint concert, “Don We Now…” on Saturday, Sunday Dec. 7 and 8 at Ebenezer Lutheran Church. Tickets can be purchased either at the door or online windycitysings.org… Unwrap a new tradition this year by taking in the holiday windows State Street then heading over to the Kriskindle Market at Daley Plaza. For more about “The 12 Wonders of the Loop” go to LoopChicago.com/Holidays… Cram offers you a holiday present with a party on Dec. 12 featuring cocktails, male models and dance music. Hey, you might finish your Christmas shopping and find a boyfriend for the holidays… If you’re looking for one of a kind gifts, go to the eighth floor of the Merchandise Mart Dec. 5 through 8 (and tell them Sue sent you.)
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ASK ACE
... SEX & RELATIONSHIP ADVICE
Betrayed on Belmont
I just found out that the person I considered my best friend has been saying all sorts of nasty things about me behind my back. The worst part is that most of it is true. I confided in him about the fact that when I was in high school, I supported myself by working as a hustler my parents threw me out of the house for being gay. I was only 15 years old. I eventually met someone who gave me a real job, helped me get on my feet and get a G.E.D. I eventually went to college and grad school. I work in a very conservative profession and if this got out, it could hurt my career.
Dear BoB,
That cat is out of the bag, and all you can do now is learn from the experience. Don’t ever tell anyone something that you don’t want to be repeated. An underage teen alone of the streets has few options. You didn’t turn to selling drugs or crimes against others, and you managed to pull yourself out of that life and finish school. Be proud of that. As for your work situation, if you think that word will get back to your employers, you may want to be the one that tells them. That will give you the chance to put your youthful indiscretions in context. Only you can judge whether or not that is the right step.
Glory Be
I met my boyfriend in an adult bookstore, doing what you might expect, at first through a glory hole. We ended up going back to his place and we’ve been together for about three
years now. When people ask how we met, I don’t want to admit the truth, but also don’t want to get caught up in a lie. What should we say to people?
Dear GB,
Tell the truth. Say you met in a bookstore. Most people will assume that you mean Barnes and Noble, and those that suspect otherwise, well, they obviously have visited an adult bookstore once or twice in their life.
Agitated on Augusta
At Thanksgiving, my two sisters mentioned that they planned on coming in to the city for some shopping and suggested that they stop by my house with their kids. I love my sisters, nieces and nephews dearly, but my house is not set up for kids. I have a lot of valuable pieces of furniture and collectible glass. Frankly, the way my sisters squabble would be enough to give me a headache, but trying to keep their kids from touching (and breaking) all my stuff fills me with anxiety. I don’t want to offend them, but really don’t want them in my house.
Dear AoA,
There’s nothing wrong with saying, “My place really isn’t set up for kids, and I think they’d be bored. Let’s meet downtown.” Emphasize that you want to spend this time enjoying the time with your nieces and nephews. Your sisters will most likely be charmed by this. Parents are used to the world revolving around their children. I’m certain that your sisters are more concerned with spending time with you than examining your living space. If it appears they still want to see your place, and you’re willing to do that, offer to do so, at some other time without the kids. Be firm, but polite. You really have no obligation to have the kids at your place.
Ace Magyar has a BA in communications, a MA in sex therapy and a PHD in zoology. He is a registered couple’s counselor specializing in the GLBT community. Send your questions to ASK ACE at boieditorial@aol.com
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