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ISSUE 25.12 New Years Eve Planner EDITORIAL

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CONTENTS

NEW YEARS EVE PLANNER

NEW YEARS EVE PLANNER (CONT.)

BOI’S BEST RESTAURANTS

NEW YEARS DAY PLANNER

PUTTIN’ ON THE RITZ

INTERVIEW: HONEY WEST

ASK ACE, Advice column

CHICAGO bars & clubs directory

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Mike Macharello Rick Karlin

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advertising Freddie Dave

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Eamonn Sexton

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NEW YEARS EVE PLANNER Out With the Old, In With the New

It’s the first “New Year’s Rockin’ Eve” without Dick Clark and if you’d prefer not to sit around the set listening to all the maudlin tributes to “the world’s oldest teenager” here are some great ideas to ring in the new year.

Cocktail features the hot sounds of Redux along with sexy go-go boys dancing up a storm. Doors open at 7pm, champagne toast at midnight hosted by Cyon Flare.

Sidetrack hosts a benefit for Equality

Illinois PAC, which supports pro-GLBT equality candidates throughout Illinois. Doors will open at 7, and there will be a champagne toast at midnight and plenty of noisemakers and leis! Tickets must be purchased in advance at the bar or through Equality Illinois.

Touche’s 35th annual “Black & Blue”

Circuit Night Club hosts New Years

Eve at the Evergreen Nightclub & Lounge with three floors of fun, music and go-go guys on stripper poles. Advance tickets are just $12 or there’s a $50 open bar VIP package available at wantickets.com/evergreen. First 100 get a free party mix-CD by DJ Oswaldo to keep the party going after the club.

The Call you can make it “A Night in

the Emerald City”. There’s no cover, a champagne toast at midnight, nibbles, and dancing on Andersonville’s largest dance floor. Be a part of the party, wear green theme.

Hunters presents“Spirits Elevated”

hosted by Miss Foozie, with a cash and prize balloon drop, buffet and DJ Ron spinning 2012 hits all night. Performances by Angel LeBare and RuPaul’s Monica Beverly Hills all for a $20 entry fee.

party features a free buffet, contest and prizes, party favors and a champagne toast at midnight.

Scot’s is offering a chance to chilllax as

Kit Kat Lounge & Supper Club features

Bottom Lounge FKA takes over

you welcome the new year with hors d’ouevres beginning at 8, followed by a balloon drop and champagne toast Steamworks is the place to go to “pop at midnight. Best of all, no cover. your cork” on New Years Eve. Midnight toast with DJ Jim Belanger. Get a locker, Scarlet features “Mustaches and a room and relax in the best jet whirlBowlers” party with Logo’s Derek pool in the mid-west! Get your groove Saathoff and Austin Armacost from on anytime, open 24 hours. “The A-List New York” Glitz & Glam with performances by the many faces of Aurora Sexton. Seating times are 7pm, 9:30pm and 11:30-2am party package. For reservations go to kitkatchicgo.com.

Mans Country brings you a sex show at midnight with totally nude strippers on stage. That’s one way to get more bang for your buck! Open 24 hours.

with the dance party that welcomes all genders, identities, sexualities and moves. DJs Reaganomix, Black Gold (Queerer Park), Jyldo (Soft Rock Sabbath), La Perla (People’s DJ Collective). A countdown every hour. Slow Jam-ercize with Jyldo. Glitterguts photobooth and scene photography by A/S/L Media. $7 cover.

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NEW YEARS EVE PLANNER @mosphere you can surround yourself with hot male dancers as you dance in the New Year with party favors and a free champagne toast at midnight. No cover and no minimum.

Jackhammer ‘s “Early Revival” hosted

by Chanel and featuring DJs Jerry and Man, starts with drink specials from ninemidnight. A $10 cover gets you $2 off well drinks and domestic beers. First 50 revelers get Jackhammer Fave Dance CD.

The Sofo Tap offers up complimentary munchies, champagne toast at midnight, and party favors. They’re also serving up $3 Miller Lite drafts and $3 well cocktails with an optional $10 wristband.

Minibar celebrates with “All That

Glitters..” They are dressing up the place to the golden nines, just for you! Full flavored gourmet buffet style dining and drinks included.

Spin Nightclub hosts “RuPaul’s Drag

Hamburger Mary’s hosts a

gangster-themed New Year’s party on two floors, featuring Big Red’s jazz trio downstairs and a dance party upstairs. An appetizer buffet and midnight toast is included in the $15 advance tickets.

El Mariachi will have two seatings

(6-8 p.m.) for a $30 three-course pre-fix menu, as well as its regular menu. You may want to hit the later party at its sister location, Revolucion Steakhouse for the $60 after-party drink package, kicking off at 11p.m. This event, available only to those who have dined at El Mariachi, includes unlimited margaritas, sangria, house wine, selected beer, an appetizer buffet served throughout the evening with party favors and champagne toast at midnight. For more info call 773.661.9894

Race” stars Willem, DiDa Ritz and The Princess (performances at 10 and 11 pm) for a drag-o-rific party. A midnight champagne toast and a $1000 balloon drop accompany snacks and desserts. It’s $20 advance; $25 at the door. The $200 bottle package includes one bottle, two tickets and a VIP table.

Halsted’s hosts a New Year’s

Baton Show Lounge Speaking of

If you prefer to get something a little more substantial in the food department along with your liquor (“Liquor? I don’t even know her!) check out these parties where the food ranks right up there with the drinks.

comfortable New Year’s Eve you’ll ever have. The $10 event ticket covers all the fun and games (Twister, limbo, blind makeovers, Dance Dance Revolution,) plus a countdown of the best music videos of 2012. The $45 “Everything” package adds on desserts, appetizers, cocktails (Absolut, Tanqueray, Bacardi, Jack Daniel’s, Cuervo Gold), Miller Lite, Bud Light and 312 drafts.

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drag-o-rific, the original all-star drag queens are serving it up at for its 43rd annual NYE presentation, with show times at 10 p.m. and 1am.

Eve brunch with its $25 brunch package and drink specials until 3 p.m. Then it’s dinner from with $3 Miller Lite Bottles, $4 O bombs, $4 well cocktails, and complimentary champagne toast at midnight.

Crew Bar & Grill plans the most

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NEW YEARS DAY PLANNER When New Year’s Day rolls around, you have a variety of options including these:

Touche’s legendary “Well Hung”

hangover party with Monster Bloody Marys and a continental breakfast buffet until three. The clubroom opens at six, movie night starts at seven.

Sidetrack moves their iconic Monday

night Show Tunes night to Tuesday (New Years Day) since this year New Years eve falls on a Monday.

Scot’s Wear your PJs and have your

first Bloody Mary of 2012. Open at 11 for brunch with a full omelet bar and Houlihan’s famous sausage ring at noon.

Taverna 750 unveils its tasty creations and wonderful libations with $20 packages.

Kitsch’n on Roscoe hosts its 15th

annual New Year’s Day pajama party hangover brunch. In addition to its popular brunch menu, Kitsch’n will Aberdeen Tap Keeping that resolution also feature retro music, college bowl to meet new people is easy if you attend game coverage, door prizes, kitschy/fun Nerds at Heart’s “Fixer Mixer” on. Saturday, awards and ‘70’s gifts. Jan. 12. Search for queer singles with compatible system requirements over live streaming board games and restore your smarts with Try-Try Again Trivia. $30 and registration is required at nerdsatheart.com or 855-NERD-LOVE (637.3568).

DS Tequila Company Back Yard Bash & The L Stop present: “Black & White Party”, billed as, “The sexiest Women’s countdown in the heart of Boystown”.

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BOI’S BEST RESTAURANTS Andies 1467 W. Montrose 773.348.0654. 5253 N

Clark 773.784.8616. Specializing in Mediterranean and vegetarian cuisine, specialties of the house include steak kabobs, gyros, and poultry dishes such as Greek Chicken and Lebanese Style Chicken Kefta Kabob. And as befits the cuisine, desserts include a very tasty baklava. The Sunday buffet brunch is extravagant and reasonably priced.

Anna Maria Pasteria 4400 N. Clark

773.506.2662. Owned by sisters who hail from the Basilicata region of southern Italy, this neighborhood gem creates homemade modern and traditional Italian dishes that are authentic, delicious & inexpensive.

Ann Sather 929 W. Belmont 773.348.2378.

5207 N Clark 773.271.6627 & 3411 N Broadway 773.305.0024. These bustling hot spots, serving traditional Swedish pancake house fare, are best known for hearty fare and delish cinnamon rolls.

Angelina Ristorante 3561 N. Broadway

773.935.5933. Hosting the coolest and hippest Sunday brunch crowd in Lakeview, the menu includes Eggs Benedict, fritattas, Croque Monsieur and mufaletta sandwiches, almond-crusted stuffed French toast, and the free flow of Champagne mimosas. Brunch here is loud, raucous and FUN! Great for dinner, as well.

The Bagel 3107 N. Broadway 773.477.0300

The quintessential Jewish style deli is the perfect spot for a corned beef or pastrami sandwich, some chicken soup, lox and bagels or a full dinner that tastes as if someone’s Jewish momma made it.

Cesar’s 2924 N. Broadway 773.296.9097 and at

3166 N Clark 773.248.2835 This family-owned operation offers an enticing menu full of delicious Mexican recipes, popular house specialties, irresistible desserts, and their signature “Killer Margaritas.”

Chicago Diner 3411 N. Halsted 773.935.6696

This world famous vegetarian restaurant offers vegan and organic offerings. Organic beers, wine, and spirits are also available.

Clark Street Dog 3040 N. Clark 773.281-6690. Open until four in the morning and serving up all the deliciousness you can imagine after you leave the bar.

Club Lucky 1824 W. Wabansia Ave. 773.227.2300. Popular Bucktown/Wicker Pk. restaurant & unique cocktail lounge. Generous portions of traditional Italian specialties and daily specials. Outdoor patio.

Crew 4804 N. Broadway 773.784.2739. More than just a sports bar, the menu includes a variety of hamburgers, sandwiches, salads & comfort food.

Gyro-Mena 905 W. Belmont 773.935.2600.

Augments the Athenian Gyros by satisfying the American desire to pick our own toppings! True Athenian Gyros is a choice of all natural non-ground meat (pork or chicken) stacked and cooked on a rotisserie.

Dragon Lady Lounge 3188 N. Elston 773.267.1970 Serving Korean-Latin fusion dishes from delicious fresh Bi Bim Bop and Kim Chi Veggie burgers, to delicious tofu tacos and beef Kim Chi burgers. El Mariachi 3906 N. Broadway 773.549-2932

and at 3420 N. Broadway 773.549-7020. Quickly becoming one of the very best Mexican restaurants in the city, the focus is on using fresh, high-quality ingredients for its “south of the border” cuisine. Full bar featuring over 100 brands of tequila.

El Nuevo Mexicano 2914 N. Clark 773.528.2131. Cozy dining room along with authentic Mexican cuisine makes this a great place for delicious dining. Open for lunch & dinner, great patio for summer outdoor dining. Delivery available too!

Fiesta Mexicana 2423 N. Lincoln Ave

773.348.4144 (2nd Location) 4806 N. Broadway 773.769.4244. Traditional favorites along with great ambiance. Nice place to bring your family, friends or bring a date to. The Lincoln location has daily specials & live music.

Golden Nugget Family Restaurants

2406 W. Diversey 773.252.8903. 1765 W. Lawrence 773.769.6700. A great option for after bar dining as they are all open 24-7, and have free parking. The large menu is sure to please, especially the classic breakfast and hearty dinners. Everything is housemade, known for fluffy buttermilk pancakes.

The Gardens at Cocktail 3359 N. Halsted

-773.472.1420 The Gardens serves delicious homemade pizzas, at a great price, with drink specials to match!

Halsted’s Bar & Grill 3441 N. Halsted 773.348.9696 This Boystown eatery serves up a wide array of tasty appetizers, burgers, sandwiches, and popular comfort food items at very reasonable prices in a fun and inviting atmosphere. Beers on tap are aplenty and the weekend brunch draws an attractive crowd.

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BOI’S BEST RESTAURANTS Hamburger Mary’s 5400 N. Clark

773.784.6969. “Eat, Drink and be... MARY” at this fun and popular Andersonville restaurant which features a wide array of burgers and sandwiches, along with an interesting selection of tasty appetizers. Wash it all down with one of Mary’s home-brewed ales.

Horizon Café 3805 N. Broadway

773.883.1565. This long-time popular Lakeview family restaurant serves up big portions of creative homestyle dishes as well as healthy fare at affordable prices. Breakfast served all day long. Delivery available.

IHOP 3760 N. Halsted 773.296.0048. More

than a pancake house, this 24-hour Boystown institution serves up affordably priced appetizers, sandwiches, and entrees that are sure to satisfy varying after-bar wants and needs.

Jury’s 4337 N. Lincoln 773.935.2255. Watch all

the poplular sports at this friendly neighborhood sports bar. Known for their killer burgers. They offer a late night menu along with daily specials and even brunch on Sundays.

Kanela 3231 N. Clark 773.248.1622. Weekend brunch is always a blast at Kanela. With fresh squeezed OJ, bottomless mimosas, and Julius Meinl coffee along with specialty dishes like our spicy feta omelet and cured pork belly benedict.

Kit Kat Lounge 3700 N. Halsted

Melrose 3233 N Broadway 773.327.2060. This Lakeview institution has been catering to the after-bar crowds for decades, serving breakfast anytime.

Nookies Tree 3334 N. Halsted 773.248.9888 A regular haunt for the locals of Boystown and popular with hangover recoveree. 24 hours on weekends.

Panino’s Pizzeria 3702 N. Broadway 773.472.6200.

Panino’s has varied menu selections, including gyros and burgers, pasta entrees and pizza of course. Delivery available.

Philly’s Best 907 W. Belmont 773.525.7900. Authentic

Philly cheese steak sandwich. Their meat is brought directly from Philadelphia. Also, medium crust pizza, oven baked grinders & fresh salads.

Pie Hole Pizza 3477 N. Broadway 773.525.8888. Their “hole” is open Sunday-Thursday from 11am-Midnight and Friday & Saturday until 3am. Grab it and go or have it delivered.. your pizza, that is!!

Ping Pong 3322 N. Broadway 773.281.75755. Asian, Chinese & Thai cuisine with a contemporary flare. 5pm12am. Full bar/BYOB. Carry-out and delivery available.

Rainbow Pizza 3450 N. Halsted . Serving up pizza by

the slice. Open late nights Wed.-Sat. and cater to the hoards on Halsted looking for a quick bite to eat.

Revolucion Steakhouse 3443 N. Broadway

773.661.9893. El Marchi Hospitality Group rolls out a fine dining stakehouse experience. Comfort food in a comfortable atmosphere with a full bar & wines.

773.525.1111. Providing the best of diva entertainment along with a full dinner menu, they offer ½-price cocktails and Buy 1 Get 1 Free Entree on Wednesdays.. On Monday nights get 50% off.

Stella’s Diner 3042 N. Broadway 773.472.9040. Friendly staff serve up delicious diner fare and fresh salads, sandwiches, hearty entrees, pastas and deserts.

Las Mananitas 3523 N. Halsted St.

The Edge 2720 N. Clark St 773.929-7024. A bar and

773.528.2109. Traditional & regional Mexican dishes along with freshly squeezed limes for margaritas. Nice place to eat, drink and window watch people on Halsted St. Has a full bar & plenty of hardy dishes to satisfy any appetite. Serving the community for over 28 years.

Mia Francesca 3311 N. Clark St.

773.281.3310. Celebrating over 20 years in Lakeview. A zesty, earthy cuisine of Rome and the surrounding areas of Tuscany, Umbria and Lazio. Encourages the lively art of dining with a contemporary, casually sophisticated trattoria ambiance, simple, rustic cooking, friendly service and fair prices. Beautiful private outdoor patio and weekend brunch.

grill serving breakfast, steaks, seafood, ribs, with a full bar until 2am. Free parking lot and open 24hrs.

Viaggio at the Park 401 W. Fullerton 773.747.3333, and Viaggio Ristorante & Lounge 1330 W. Madison 312.829.3333 Both locations provide a unique, memorable, dining experience by satisfying three essential must-haves, superior food-quality, beautiful, comforting ambiance

Wakamono 3317 N. Broadway 773.296.6800. Features hand-crafted sushi, Asian and Japanese cuisine in an intimate setting. Open daily 4pm-11pm.

Wilde Bar & Restaurant 3130 N. Broadway

773.244.0404. This cozy upscale Irish pub offers a laid back and warm atmosphere and a wide ranging menu.

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PUTTIN’ ON THE RITZ Pulling Out All the Stops for a Luxe New Year’s Eve. Baume & Brix, 351 W. Hubbard, 312.321.0351 One of the most decadent

dinners to be served this New Year’s Eve will feature a menu filled with six playful courses, and an early and late seating. Those looking to dine before they hit the town can join Baume & Brix for an early dinner beginning at 6 p.m. The six-course menu will be $75 per guest or $125 with complementing wine pairings. Guests looking to start off the evening a bit later can join the restaurant for its 8:30 p.m. seating, which will feature a sixcourse menu for $95 per guest or $145 with suggested wine pairings. The menu includes; caviar, lobster roll, cornbread fried oyster, seared foie gras, braised pork belly, cauliflower-black truffle puree, filet mignon and of course, a sinful dessert featuring dark chocolate mousse and a French macaroon dusted with gold powder. Reservations are required.

Tru, 676 North Saint Clair Street, 312.202.0001 You can’t go more luxe

than Tru. This year the legendary dining destination offers two seatings. The earlier seating, beginning at 5 p.m., includes a six-course meal for $165. The later seating, beginning at 8:30 p.m., includes an eight course dinner for $275. Chef Caviar can also be added to the dining experience. A midnight Champagne toast is included in the later seating. For more informatione-mail truparties@leye.com or call312.202.0001 ext. 230.

BellyQ, 400 W. Randolph, 312.563.1010 Chef Kim will be serving

up flavorful fare from all three of his restaurants. Serving stations will consist of; Dumpling Domain with an imaginative take on dumplings, Belly Shack featuring Korean/Puerto Rican fusion fare, Urban 20 boi

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Belly with samples from the noodle & dumpling restaurant’s menu, Asian Pizzeria and Dessert Coma, a sampling of decadent desserts from all three restaurants. In addition, a Sake Station will offer samples of sakes from around the world. For $125, guests can dine and imbibe all night at the unique food and sake stations while also enjoying their choice of specialty cocktails, draft beers and well drinks. A credit card is required to hold reservations.

Bistronomic, 840 N. Wabash, 312.944.8400 A French-inspired prix-

fixe feast is available in two seatings. From 5-7:30 p.m., Bistronomic will offer a prerevelry four-course chef tasting dinner for $60 per person, $85 per person with wine pairing. For the second seating, from 7:45-11 p.m., a five-course menu and complimentary champagne toast at midnight is available for $80 per person, $105 per person with wine pairing.

BOKA 1729 N. Halsted, 312.337.6070 Celebrate in style with a six-course feast. The indulgent menu includes; lobster, foie gras, turbot terrine, curry squash tortellini, capon, bison and short rib, among other treats. Cost is $98 per person, with wine pairing packages available. Reservations are strongly recommended.

DMK Burger Bar, 2954 N. Sheffield, 773.360.8686 You don’t usually think of

burgers as ritzy fare, but DMK is amping things up for NYE. A selection of the year’s favorite monthly burger specials, as well as sides and shakes, will be passed throughout the evening and there will be an open bar, featuring mixed drinks, wine and craft drafts and celebrity DJs will spin hot tunes. Cost for the event is $75 at DMK Lakeview.

Henri, 18 S. Michigan, 312.578.0763 The iconic dining destination, offers the option to order from the restaurant’s

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PUTTIN’ ON THE RITZ menu or try the exclusive menu specials for the New Year’s Eve. Diners looking for a sophisticated fete will appreciate the approachable formality of Henri, where an opulent interior sets the stage for an unforgettable evening. The prix fixe “Indulgence” menu includes Beluga caviar, foie gras, escargot, and a choice of seafood or venison entrée. The Indulgence menu is $120 per person, with an additional wine and cocktail pairing available for $70.

Libertad, 7931 Lincoln Avenue in Skokie, 847.674.8100 To prove you

don’t have to break the bank to go luxe, Libertad offers a five-course menu, which includes a glass of champagne for $50 per person. There is an optional wine pairing for an additional $25 per person. The menu will feature indulgent Latin-inspired dishes. Reservations can be made by telephone or by emailing info@libertad7931.com.

Rebar, 401 N. Wabash, 312.588.8114 New Years Eve at Trump Chicago’s Rebar will be a modern interpretation of the musical “Chicago”. Packages designed for groups of up to four people: The Roxy Package is $625 and includes one bottle of Krug Rosé paired with a sweet or savory food option, guaranteed window seating for a prime view of the Chicago River and Navy Pier fireworks. The Velma Package is $475 and offers the same, but without guaranteed window seating. Takashi, 1952 N. Damen, 773.772.6170

Takashi celebrates its fifth anniversary this New Year’s Eve and “Top Chef Masters” fan favorite Takashi Yagihashi will be serving decadent seven and nine- course tasting dinners. Seatings between 5-6:30 p.m. feature the seven-course tasting dinner for $88, (optional wine pairing for $40).For revelers with reservations between 7-10 p.m., the 9-course tasting dinner is $105 (optional wine pairing for $50). A credit card is required to hold New Year’s Eve reservations with a 24-hour cancellation.

Tavernita, 151 W. Erie, 312.274.1111 Filled with energy and music from the night’s featured DJ, the restaurant’s vibrant dining room and sexy lounge space will offer an all-inclusive package, starting at 9:30 p.m. For $100 per person, partygoers will enjoy a five-course sharing menu, an open bar for two hours, champagne toast at midnight and party favors. 22 boi

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Honey west, In the Chicago Spotlight Interviews with leaders in Chicago’s GLBT community

By Gregg Shapiro A graduate of Indiana University with a degree in Musical Theater, Honey West is also a 2012 Chicago Gay and Lesbian Hall of Fame inductee. After college, Honey traveled with cruise ships and resorts doing a variety of revues, which she refers to as “boot camp.” Her theatrical credits include “Vampire Lesbians of Sodom” and “Tony and Tony’s Wedding”. She has performed her cabaret act in Chicago and in touring productions for the past 13 years When did you come out and what was the experience like for you? That is an interesting question. When I was growing up 35 years ago, we didn’t talk about being gay or Trans. It was in high school that I sat down with my two close friends, and we came out to each other. That was probably 1977ish. In those days most people didn’t actually come out; you just confided in a short list of friends that you trusted. If you had the guts to venture to a gay bar you would meet a group of people there that you would be able to be yourself with. I went through college still hiding myself for the most part. Again, a few select friends and bar buddies. I left college a toured with a small production company called “Musicana” - mostly cruise ships and resorts. I realized that it was not uncommon to be gay in the entertainment industry (I thought I was gay at the time). I met many other guys and learned to be comfortable with myself in those circles. Then I had to come out again!!! (As) if once wasn’t enough [laughs]! I finally acknowledged myself as a trans female at the age of 41. I was known in Chicago and had to come out more publicly. It was a hard adjustment for some people around me, but I grew from the experience. I never did come out to my family, my sister gently outed me to them, one at a time, so I would come home for holidays. I guess I never thought they would understand. I underestimated their capacity to love me. Please name five of your GLBT heroes and say a few words about why you chose them. Alexandra Billings, my best friend, is the first to come to mind. She is the one who introduced me to myself. We were having lunch before going to Lesibigay Radio to host our regular spot. I was in a

dark depression at the time, when she mentioned, “Do you think you might be transgender?” She, of course, knew long before I did but was waiting for the right time to spring it on me [laughs]. A hundred pounds of bricks lifted off my shoulders. The feeling was such a relief that I knew that this was the answer I was looking for. There are so many others that it is hard to pick a few. I look at the front-runners who dared to be different in a time when it could have meant their demise. If not for them, we would not be where we are today. What do you consider to be your most significant contribution to the GLBT community in Chicago and at large? I hope I have represented my community in a positive way. I have performed to straight audiences and gay audience alike. My hope, from early on, when it was not so cool to be me, was that people would come to “see the freak show” and leave feeling that we are not so different after all, and of course lots of music and laughter. What are your future goals and aspirations? I am writing a show called “Genderella,” along with Joanne Koch (book), Ilya Levinson (music) and Myrna Petlicki (lyrics). We are scheduled perform the show at the Writer’s Bloc on my birthday, April 29, 2013. This will be the first reading and or workshop. I would love to tour the show to colleges and theaters and talk to people about my journey and to, maybe, help them understand our world. Words of wisdom to the next GLBT generation. They have so much more information at their fingertips. I grew up in a time without cell phones, computers and cable TV. You had to hope you could find a book in the library to learn about who you were. It is an exciting time to grow up because they are going to know gay marriage and equal rights, things I would not have dared to dream. I would hope they would know and understand the history of our movement and respect all of the struggle it took get the freedom they now have. I would tell them, “Never let anybody squash your dreams because of who you are. Stand in the strength of knowing who you are and knowing that is OK to be you.” boi 25

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ASK ACE Parent Trap

While she was home from college for Christmas break my 20 year-old daughter came out to me. Her father and I have been divorced for five years. After she went away to school, I fell in love with an old friend and we have been in a relationship for the past two years (roughly, since the time my daughter went away to college). My daughter only knows that “Aunt Patsy” and I have been living together, not that we are lovers. I feel like I should have said something to my daughter when she came out to me, but frankly, I was so shocked I didn’t think of it. Now it seems awkward to do so. I don’t know what to do.

Dear PT,

Tell your daughter immediately. She’ll figure it out eventually, if she hasn’t already. You might start the conversation by saying something like, “I’m so glad that you felt comfortable enough to tell me that you’re a lesbian. It makes me feel as if I can tell you something equally personal. So am I.” She might have some questions about when you came to terms with your sexuality and if that’s one of the reasons why you and her father divorced. Just be honest with her and enjoy a new chapter of your relationship with her.

Wondering on Wilson

I am 23 years-old and went back home for Christmas in rural Kentucky. My family didn’t know I was gay until I came out during this visit. I was surprised at how well they handled it. In fact, many of them said they rather suspected that I was when I moved to Chicago. The only person who has reacted negatively is a distant cousin. When we were in our teens, he and I used to “experiment” with each other. He is about five years older and was the first one to initiate it, but I was a willing participant. Now he avoids me and I’ve heard him say that doesn’t want anything to do with me. I don’t think he’s still into sex with guys, he’s married now with six kids. I think he’s kind of freaked out that I might say something. I would never do so, but he won’t see me so how can I let him know?

Dear WoW,

I assume that your cousin has a phone. It shouldn’t be too hard to get his number if you don’t have it. Call him at a time when you think he might be alone and tell him what you’ve told me in your letter. That you have no desire to say anything about the experimenting you did as kids. Tell him you’d like to remain friends and hope he can accept you for who you are now. Whether he’s still active with men or not doesn’t even enter the equation, as far as you’re concerned. Your other choice is to simply ignore the situation and don’t let it bother you, it’s his problem, not yours.

Sticky Situation

I’ve fallen in love with my best friend. When we met three years ago, we both had boyfriends. His cheated on him and they broke up. My boyfriend was transferred to Washington D.C., we tried to make it work long distance, but it was just too difficult. It’s not like he was a great love or anything, and we’ve remained friends. Since then (about a year ago), my best friend and I do almost everything together. I want to tell him how I feel, but we’re going on a gay cruise soon and if he says that he doesn’t think of me that way then I’m afraid that it will make things awkward.

Dear SS,

It certainly would. It would be better to wait until after the cruise to bring up a discussion like that. You never know what could spark between the two of you on the cruise. Keep in mind though that if you’re going on a gay cruise, there will be plenty of available men and that may change your dynamic for either of you. How will you feel if he has a fling (or two or more) during the cruise? If you choose not to discuss this before the cruise, make certain that you’ll be able to respond appropriately to whatever happens. Perhaps it would be best for you to put the idea of a more intimate relationship with your friend on hold and enjoy the experience. If you still feel the same way after the cruise, then full steam ahead.

Ace Magyar has a BA in communications, a MA in sex therapy and a PHD in zoology. He is a registered couple’s counselor specializing in the GLBT community. Send your questions to ASK ACE at boieditorial@aol.com. boi 29

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