THE PEOPLE’S PAPER
JUNE 13 - 26, 2024
MASCULINITY, RAISING SONS
BY SAYAKA MATSUOKA - PG. 12
The making of Juneteenth GSO PG. 7
The GOP plan to fund Mark Robinson PG. 10
Mapping prejudice in Forsyth County PG. 5
THE PEOPLE’S PAPER
JUNE 13 - 26, 2024
BY SAYAKA MATSUOKA - PG. 12
The making of Juneteenth GSO PG. 7
The GOP plan to fund Mark Robinson PG. 10
Mapping prejudice in Forsyth County PG. 5
THURSDAY
Dads’ Joke-a-Thon @ the Idiot Box (GSO) 7:30 p.m.
Celebrate Father’s Day early at the Idiot Box with a dads’ joke-a-thon to benefit the Children’s Home Society. Space is limited, so purchase tickets at give.chsnc.org/ dadjokes
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refreshments, tours of the fire safety trailer and more while you’re there. More information at visitgreensboronc. com
Family Fun Night @ High Point City Lake Aquatic Center (HP) 7 p.m.
High Point Parks & Recreation invites you to an evening of swimming and games for the whole family for just $5 per person. Call 336.883.3501 for more information.
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FRIDAY
Firefighter Day @ Barber Park (GSO) 10:30 a.m.
The Greensboro Fire Department is hosting its annual Firefighter Day event for the community to learn more about fire safety, engage with local firefighters and learn about the services they provide. Enjoy free hot dogs and
SATURDAY
Pup Fiction @ High Point Public Library (HP) 1 p.m.
High Point Public Library is teaming up with Guilford County Animal Services for Pup Fiction. Interact with vaccinated dogs and puppies available for adoption
Scan the QR code to find more events at triad-citybeat.com/local-events
before browsing the “pup fiction” display. Donations of pet food, dog and cat treats are requested for participation in the event. Contact Shirlene Stotts at shirlene.stotts@ highpointnc.gov for more information.
25th Annual Juneteenth Celebration @ Innovation Quarter (W-S) 1 p.m.
Triad Cultural Arts is hosting its 25th annual Juneteenth celebration with an array of activities for families to enjoy including live music performances that showcase the diversity of Black artistic expression, special exhibits, food and refreshments and more. More information at triadculturalarts.org
Juneteenth Black Food Truck Festival @ LeBauer Park (GSO) 5 p.m.
Celebrate Juneteenth by stopping by the 4th annual Black food truck festival or the arts and crafts festival in Sternberger Park. Highlights include live music, vendors and dancing. Visit facebook.com/JuneteenthGSOFest for more information.
Sneaker Ball @ Anderson Conference Center (W-S) 7 p.m.
Grab your freshest sneakers and head to United Way’s second sneaker ball and fundraiser to support their
mission to “serve as a convenor, collaborator and catalyst for Winston-Salem and Forsyth County.” For more information and to purchase tickets, visit sneakerball24. givesmart.com
SUNDAY
Lager Fest @ the Brewer’s Kettle (HP) 11 a.m.
Take your dad or father figure to the Brewer’s Kettle for a celebration of all things lager until June 22. Indulge in a mass selection and deals on lagers, pilsners and some lighter brews. Visit the event page on Facebook for more information.
“The Martha Bassett Show” @ Tanglewood Park (Clemmons) 2 p.m. Arts Council of Winston-Salem & Forsyth County presents the second event in their ninth annual parks
free concert series with “The Martha Bassett Show,” a weekly music program that blends the Americana scene with the history of North Carolina’s Piedmont region. Featuring guest musicians Sonny Miles, The Onyx Club Boys and Dori Freeman. Visit intothearts.org/parks for more information.
Third Annual Black Pearls Jam @ the Continental Club (GSO) 6:30 p.m.
The Black Pearls Society is pleased to announce the third annual Black Pearls Jam featuring award-winning rapper Doug E. Fresh. The Black Pearls Society was created to”nurture, train, and sustain the culture of the strong Black woman in generations of women of all ages.” Purchase tickets at blackpearlssociety.org
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TUESDAY
Olympics Concert @ Salem Square (W-S) 7:30 p.m.
Salem Band will honor the 2024 Olympics playing “Olympic Fanfare and Theme” by John Williams, music of the ’80s and more. All concerts are free and open to the public. More information at salemband.org
Scan the QR code to find more events at triad-citybeat.com/local-events
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THURSDAY
Artist Reception @ the Art Gallery at Congdon Yards (HP) 5 p.m.
Join TAG for the opening reception of Once Upon a Muse by Sabrina Tillman. This exhibit “explores the ethereal and enchanting realms of inspiration, showcasing Tillman’s signature blend of whimsical storytelling and vibrant visual artistry.” More information on the Facebook event page
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FRIDAY
PicklePaw Classic 2024 @ Sedge Garden Park (W-S) 6 p.m.
Support the care of shelter cats and dogs that are “in a pickle” as they search for their fur-ever home by playing games of pickleball. Register at forsythhumane.org/ pickleball
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Italk to my mom a lot. We play tennis together no less than three days a week and my sister, my mom and I have a group chat where we send funny videos and news articles for discussion.
But I don’t talk to my dad as much. Growing up, my dad was like a lot of other dads. He worked long hours while my mom stayed home and raised me and my sister. So naturally, we grew close to my mom and had an easier time talking with her. It didn’t mean that we loved our dad any less, of course. The relationship was just different.
This week, I talked to three different dads about their personal relationships with their fathers and how that affects the way they’ve raised their kids. The takeaway from all three conversations was that they all wanted to be a part of their kids’ lives.
But it’s a two-way street. I know that my dad isn’t really one to text first or call. His love language, like my mom’s, is acts of service. He might not talk to you for hours, but he’d show up and power-wash my driveway if I asked. When we moved into our house six years ago, he was here helping to paint our walls, install our ceiling fans.
So I know now, that as an adult, I need to make the effort to open up the conversation. He did his part by working all those years, missing events because he was either at the restaurant or tired from work. It’s up to me and my sister to do the reaching out now.
Because I think they want that. Whether the conversation is just three short texts or a 10-minute phone call, fathers want to connect with their kids. Years of lack of practice and societal norms may have made it more difficult but the yearning is there. Otherwise, why would they have come fathers?
So this Father’s Day, I encourage you to reach out to your dads and ask them about what’s going on. Talk to your dad friends and see how they’re doing. Because dads want to talk and connect, we just have to make the space.
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It’s June 1945.
The end of World War II is on the horizon with Germany’s surrender a month prior. In North Carolina, HG Thacker and Paul Hemrick have just signed off on the sale of several plots of land in Forsyth County, with a stipulation in the deed stating that ownership and occupancy of the property must be “limited exclusively to people of the white or Caucasian race.”
It’s a chilling example of how the phrase, “All men are created equal,” penned in the country’s own bid for freedom, did not live in the hearts of many Forsyth County residents who clung to racist ideology and actively worked to prevent people of color from advancing.
Not only do the physical remnants of racist language in deeds like this remain on many Forsyth County real estate records, their constraints still linger in the landscape of the city. These policies stood in the way of Black residents’ ability to purchase property and accumulate wealth, and even after the Fair Housing Act of 1968 made it illegal to fold restrictions based on race into deeds, discrimination still continued.
Fed up with the stains these deeds have left on the area, local researchers and community partners have started a project called Mapping Prejudice that will shed light on the role racist real estate records played in transforming Forsyth County into what it is today.
Heading this project is Dr. Russell Smith, a geography professor who has worked at Winston-Salem State University for the past 15 years. He’s also the faculty lead for the Spatial Justice Studio, which is funding and facilitating this research. SJS is a collaboration between WSSU and UNC School of the Arts housed at the Center for Design Innovation.
In an interview with TCB, Smith explained that the task won’t be easy. It’s a project that will span two to three years and involve the time-consuming examination of 1.4 million pages of documents dated between 1900-70. Smith also hopes to get some financial support for the project from the city, which played a major role in preventing Black residents from living in certain parts of town.
For example, in 1912, the Winston Board of Aldermen approved an ordinance that prohibited white and Black people from living on the same streets, segregating neighborhoods. City leadership continued to enact and enforce racist policies in the decades to come.
Mayor Pro Tem Denise D. Adams spoke in favor of Smith’s project in May.
“We have so many people in this city right now that weren’t born here, weren’t raised here,” Adams said. “They really don’t know what happened in our city and why our city
is the way it is now.” Adams noted that one of the problems is that some people “don’t want to know the history.” But projects like Smith’s — that include data, history, maps and documents — can “validate and verify what took place,” Adams said. And while the city had its hand in racist policy creation, this project will uncover the private individuals and corporations that were also responsible for these injustices, Smith says.
‘This happened on purpose.’
This summer, those 1.4 million documents will be scanned for keywords, looking for patterns, narrowing that massive number into something “much more manageable.”
In the fall, they’ll start examining the deeds, and that’s where the community comes in.
Smith says he doesn’t want it to be strictly an academic project. Instead, he hopes that it will be fueled by the residents.
“I want it to be a community project,” he says.
Through the project, residents can have a hand in real research and take a look at the documents that shaped where they live. Smith says that dozens of people have expressed interest in helping out. Community involvement and volunteering opportunities could look like meetings at schools, churches and neighborhoods, as well as standing meetings where people can “play with the data and participate.” Those details will be ironed out in the coming months.
The research that comes out of this project will be a stepping-stone toward change; Smith explained to the city council in May that they want to develop a community fund to provide financial support to neighborhoods that were disadvantaged by these policies as well as explore legislation that would expunge racially restrictive language from deeds.
This project also aims to piece together people’s experiences with racial covenants, encouraging people to share their first-hand accounts or family history.
“We know the values of homes from the east side to the west side of [Highway] 52 can differ dramatically, and so being able to purchase property in one area or not could
really have generational impacts on individuals,” Smith explained. “We want to collect those stories. We want to hear about what people went through.”
One of the outcomes Smith hopes the project will achieve is to make people aware of the city’s past, he says. “The city is the way it is because of deliberate, purposeful policies and procedures,” he explains. “This happened on purpose…and as a result, we have seen these patterns cement over time and create discrepancies in everything from income to housing values to access to healthy foods.”
“We can’t go back,” he says, but there are things we can do today.
First off, we can “acknowledge those grievances,” Smith says. Doing this research lays the foundation for people to see which properties and communities were affected — in pinpointed fashion.
The second part of that involves equitably distributing resources and helping out the communities that have been disadvantaged. That could look like investing in infrastructure, sidewalks, streets, lighting and parks, while offering low-interest loans for rehabilitation work.
But this work needs to be done thoughtfully. Smith says that in the US, redevelopment and revitalization tends to happen at the expense of the people living there, driving housing prices up and pushing residents out. The goal instead should be to “create sustainable communities where people already live,” Smith says.
“You want to take those places and make them desirable locations without displacing people,” he adds. That’s why he’s encouraging people to volunteer and bring their ideas for solutions to the drawing board.
Although Forsyth County is just one small speck floating in a country that has a long way to go in terms of atoning for its past, it won’t be alone in its efforts to put a magnifying glass on how prejudice shaped its landscape. Projects like Mapping Prejudice have already taken root elsewhere, emerging in cities from Charlottesville to Chicago, Seattle to Milwaukee. Cities in Minnesota such as Saint Paul and Saint Cloud are doing this work, too.
This research is going to “spark” a conversation in the community about what happened, Smith says, and what needs to happen next in order to “repair decades of harmful policies toward the African American population of the city.”
“I think people are ready to have those conversations.”
Find out more about the project and how to volunteer by scanning the QR code.
Princess Johnson, a dancer and owner of Greensboro-based Royal Expressions Contemporary Ballet, did not grow up celebrating Juneteenth. Even as a Black woman who grew up in the South, the holiday was something only a few people in her circle celebrated.
“I didn’t know what it was exactly. Growing up in the United States, everything’s about the Fourth of July,” she said.
Juneteenth, or Freedom Day, as many Black Americans call it, commemorates June 19, 1865, when Union troops brought word to enslaved Black people in Galveston, Texas that they were free under the Emancipation Proclamation. But the news of their freedom arrived late — about two years late.
The delayed knowledge and recognition of their very own Independence Day continued to follow Black Americans through Jim Crow and the Civil Rights movement. The US’s first mandatory Black history courses only arrived in the 1940s in Chicago public schools.
Johnson’s tenuous connection to the holiday is common amongst many Black Americans. A Gallup poll conducted on May 18-23, a month before Juneetenth
became a federal holiday in 2021, revealed only 37 percent of Black people surveyed knew “a lot,” about the holiday and 32 percent knew “a little.”
In her experience, events surrounding the holiday weren’t made all that visible. Juneteenth, for decades, was celebrated in churches, backyards, neighborhoods or smaller, independent events in Greensboro.
It took more than100 years for Black people nationwide to unite and celebrate their shared history together in 1968. In the heat of the Civil Rights Movement and led by the Poor People’s Campaign, which continues to fight for equality for Black people and other marginalized people, the first large-scale Juneteenth celebrations were organized at the Solidarity Now! Rally in Washington, D.C.
Public knowledge of the holiday largely went back under the radar until 1980 when Texas became the first state to declare it a paid state holiday. It wasn’t until 2020, in the middle of the pandemic and the rise of the Black Lives Matter Movement, that Juneteenth garnered national attention again.
That was right around the time Johnson was inspired to celebrate Juneteenth. “We were just in the middle of a pandemic, dealing with a lot of racial tension, and
you’re seeing a lot of performative actions that were happening around, especially around Black culture and things that were important to us,” she said.
Johnson wanted to ensure that Juneteenth still belonged and resonated with Black people. But most of all: She wanted it recognized by the entire city.
In 2020, she began talking with local Black artists and activists April Parker, Joseph Wilkersonson III, Nicole J. Walker and Lavinia Jackson. Together, they would become the Juneteenth GSO committee. Not only was the group successful in coordinating Juneteenth events across the city of Greensboro, they helped officially establish June 19 as a paid city holiday.
According to Greensboro Councilwoman Sharon Hightower, it didn’t take much convincing for city council to approve Juneteenth as a city holiday. Hightower, who represents District 1, collaborated closely with the Juneteenth GSO committee, specifically with Parker — who had been organizing the Juneteenth Black Food Truck festival since 2014.
The committee’s requests seemed reasonable to Hightower: The group wanted more support for more organized city events and a paid day off to make it official.
“It wasn’t like an epiphany or anything,” said Hightower. “There have been communities in Greensboro that have always celebrated Juneteenth.” But none to the scale and coordination that Juneteenth GSO wanted to coordinate.
After the then-city manager crunched a few numbers — because being an official holiday means city employees get a paid day off — they found that it didn’t cost the city much at all. After a couple months of effort, on July 22, 2020, the Greensboro City Council unanimously voted to make Juneteenth a city holiday
About a year later, on June 17, 2021, Juneteenth became a paid federal holiday. Two days later, Juneteenth GSO went live with their virtual events.
Johnson explained that at first they only had a budget of $3,000 — an unspent grant they received from the local arts council. But as things slowly transitioned from hybrid to in-person events, the Juneteenth GSO Committee found other sources of support and funding.
what I know now.”
It’s a sentiment that Hightower understands deeply. She has always celebrated Juneteenth.
“We have to recognize how important June 19th is. We as a culture of Black People in 1776 were not free. That was not our freedom day,” said Hightower.
This year, Johnson and the rest of the committee will continue to organize Juneteenth events including the Arts Legacy Awards, which she created, Gospel Superfest, Black Food Truck Festival, and more from June 14-16.
Though North Carolina has recognized Juneteenth since 2007, it’s only recognized as a “floating holiday,” and only paid for state workers who claim it has “cultural, religious or personal significance,” to them. It’s one of three of the 28 states in 2023 — and Washington, DC — that recognize it as an official public holiday, yet has these limitations.
Although all states have at least observed the holiday once, adopting it as the official holiday has been historically slow. In 1980, Texas fittingly became the first state to recognize Juneteenth as a state holiday. It took another eleven years for another state to recognize it as an observed holiday and until 2020 for it to become a permanent holiday.
Johnson, for example, applied and received a $60,000 grant — paid in increments of $15,000 over four years — from the city. Hightower also continues to advocate for more city support and funding for the holiday.
But sometimes it’s just the little things. When the city did begin to open up for inperson events, Johnson came into contact with Creative Greensboro, who helped the committee with things like banners and signs.
“It means a lot for the city to do that for us. They only used to do those things for the Fourth of July,” said Johnson. “But now, everybody knows it’s Juneteenth.”
Helping create a Juneteenth event was such a transformative experience for Johnson that she doesn’t go out of her way to celebrate the Fourth of July anymore.
“It is extremely hard for me to celebrate the Fourth of July now,” she said. “Knowing
Juneteenth’s modern iterations are largely driven by activism. Activist Opal Lee, now 97 years old, is credited for making Juneteenth a federal holiday. The same enduring spirit has inspired younger generations of Black activists like Juneteenth GSO to make it official, at least in their cities. Some cities are ahead of states in establishing Juneteenth as a permanent public holiday. That’s the case in Oklahoma City, Okla. Led by activist and entrepreneur Jabee Williams, Juneteenth on the East has been an integral public celebration in Oklahoma City’s historically Black Eastside. The city began recognizing it as a public holiday last year, while the state still hasn’t.
Some activism can have a crossgenerational effect.
Horace M. Peterson III, an
archivist and historian brought Juneteenth to Kansas City, Mo. in the 1980s. Though he died in 1992, his work lives on through JuneteenthKC. The City Council voted to make Juneteenth a paid city holiday in 2021. It became a state holiday in 2022.
In Topeka, Kansas, a group of college-aged friends called the Ladies of Melanated Excellence, organized a Juneteenth Jamboree in 2020 at a local park. But like many other Black residents and activists in Topeka, they were inspired to organize for Juneteenth after attending protests earlier that month
In this case, the popularity of the holiday spurred the state to take action before the city. In October 2023, Kansas declared Juneteenth a state holiday. Topeka City Council has yet to recognize it as an official city holiday despite Juneteenth’s growing public presence.
The process of activism is not perfect. Johnson is the first to admit that even
with city backing, she and the rest of Juneteenth GSO have to strike a balance. The tone of their events has to be equal parts joy and history. They need to grow their reach, but also cultivate community. And most of all, it has to be for Black people.
“We want it to be cityfunded, but we don’t want it to be city-run,” said Johnson. “We can easily get whitewashed if we’re not careful.”
As for their allies in the city council, Hightower says it’s good to see that this generation of activists is not taking their history for granted and reaching out to older folks like her.
“Young people give us energy. In this instance, it’s the Juneteenth Committee. But sometimes when us elders can be part of the process, we can do good things together,” said Hightower.
People really don’t like Mark Robinson.
Sure, some people like him — it’s how he was elected as North Carolina’s lieutenant governor a couple years ago. But after a term laced with his hateful and insane rhetoric that includes labeling all LGBTQIA2S+ North Carolinnians as “filth,” calling for a ban on all abortions in the state with the suggestion that women “keep their skirts down” as an alternative to unwanted pregnancies and spearheading a movement to abolish the state Board of Education, which as lieutenant governor he oversees, people are beginning to show reluctance at having their names associated with his.
Even NC GOP leadership is not crazy about Robinson, but they need him to win in order to fulfill their goal of an autocratic state.
But only one NC political party can accept money from their governors association, and it’s not the one they want.
Robinson’s opponent in the governor’s race, current Attorney General Josh Stein, has been besting Robinson in the money race by millions, his message resonating with voters in such a way to push him slightly ahead in the most recent poll
Not that we trust polling, but the NC GOP must, because they’re making a move to create a loophole that would give them an electoral advantage.
Outside money for many gubernatorial races in the US comes mainly from two groups: The Republican Governors Association and the Democrat Governors Association, which both take donations from corporations, unions and other groups prohibited by law from donating directly to candidates. We have a law like that here: Corporate entities and unions cannot donate directly to candidates or political parties.
Remember 2020, a year that Trump won NC, saw the election of a GOP majority in our state even as our incumbent Democrat governor, Roy Cooper, defeated his challenger by 4.5 points, resulting in a Democrat governor presiding over a Republican General Assembly.
It happened because Republicans can’t gerrymander a statewide election, and Cooper’s veto pen thwarted many of the bad designs the GOP had in mind for NC.
Even longtime GOP donors do not want their names linked with the guy who referenced survivors of school shootings as “media prosti-tots,” wants to arrest trans North Carolinians for their bathroom choices and once called Michelle Obama a man
Unlike candidates, who cannot take more than $6,400 directly from a donor, political parties in NC can accept unlimited donations and are exempt from limits placed on donations to candidates.
There’s a key difference between the two groups: The DGA categorizes their funders, so that they can send non-corporate money to Stein’s campaign. The RGA, however, does not itemize their contributions, putting them all in the same pot and making all of those funds ineligible for the Robinson campaign. Shorthand: We know where DGA’s money comes from; we don’t know where RGA’s does, which is why they call it “dark money,” the reason for the law in the first place.
So NC Republican leadership has tucked a provision into a bill, HB237 — the one written to target activists and people who wear facemasks — nullifying that requirement. It passed the Senate last week; the House votes on it this week.
If it passes, it gives Robinson access to RGA’s bankroll — they raised more than $75 million last year — in a very close race.
An easier fix would have been for the RGA to be more transparent about their funders. Ask yourself why they don’t want to do that.
n 1965, just five months before President Lyndon B. Johnson signed the Voting Rights Act into law, white American scholar Daniel Patrick Moynihan wrote a report titled, “The Negro Family: The Case for National Action,” which in subsequent years became known as the Moynihan Report. In a case for racial justice, Moynihan wrote that the rise in Black single-mother families was due to “ghetto culture” and that without
access to jobs, Black fathers would become alienated from their roles as husbands and fathers. And while some of the points made in the report rang true, the work overall was seen as racist and as the basis for the creation of the stereotype of the absent Black father.
Cut to almost six decades later and the predictions of Moynihan’s report appear to be waning.
According to 2023 Census data analyzed by the National Fatherhood Initiative, “the proportion of children growing up without a resident dad is at the lowest since 1989 and 1993.” And the primary reason, the organization states for the drop, that more Black dads are at home raising their kids. According to the data, in 2023, 48 percent of Black children lived without a resident dad; that’s the lowest proportion since 1973, 15 percent lower than the peak in 1995.
And data shows that Black fathers who live with their children were most likely to have bathed, dressed, changed or helped potty-train their children compared to white or Hispanic fathers, according to CDC data from 2013
“It’s the ultimate job,” says James Phillips, a father of two sons in Winston-Salem.
Ahead of Father’s Day this year, we spoke to three Black dads in the Triad who are raising sons. We talked about their relationships with their own fathers, what they’re teaching their sons and what fatherhood means to them.
Brandon Wrencher, 38
randon Wrencher’s father, Conrad, was always well dressed. He was groomed, smelled nice; he was a gentleman, Wrencher says. He was also a hard worker, a family man, a muscular bodybuilder conscious of his health. Wrencher is also quick to point out that he saw his father be emotionally expressive growing up.
“I remember seeing my father many times,” Wrencher explains. When he was about 7 or 8 years old, Wrencher remembers coming home from school and hearing whimpering in the house. He turned the corner and saw his father weeping in the kitchen. A family member had died, and Wrencher remembers his father explaining to him why he was crying.
“I learned that crying, being emotionally sensitive or expressive was actually something strong people did including and maybe especially my dad,” Wrencher says. Being emotionally vulnerable is something that Wrencher says he got from his dad,
mostly by seeing it, rather than expressly learning it from his father. And that’s because of the long-lasting stereotype of the strong, Black man.
“Showing emotion is a sign of weakness,” Wrencher says about the stereotype. “It’s the kryptonite of the stereotype of the strong, Black man. Being weak is too expensive. Like, I can’t afford that because I don’t have enough; I need to hold on to what I have.”
But as a father to two boys of his own — Phillip and Morris — Wrencher is intentional about both showing and telling his sons that it’s okay to be expressive.
“This comes up all the time with both of my boys,” Wrencher says. “I can already see the ways they are being socialized to be strong, Black boys.”
What this looks like in practice is talking through emotions with his sons. The other day Wrencher says his son Phillip, 11, came downstairs upset and crying. Wrencher asked him what was wrong, to which his son explained that he “just felt sad.”
“I said, ‘It is okay to be sad and to express that,’” Wrencher says.
Other times, the conversation can be trickier. Both of his sons are neurodivergent, Wrencher explains. That means that sometimes, when they get into uncomfortable situations, his sons smile when others may frown. In one instance in which Phillip got into a dispute with another child and the child became upset, Phillip cracked a smile, which was read as him being mean, hurtful.
“I had to explain, ‘You are beautiful the way you are, but this is the world that we live in, and when you smile, people can take that the wrong way,’” Wrencher recalls.
In one of the most difficult times in his life, he remembers coaching himself through hardship.
When his wife Erica was in labor with Phillip, he says that the pregnancy was a “highrisk delivery” and caused a lot of fear.
“Everything in me wanted to be strong in that moment, to advocate and fight, yell, defend and protect,” Wrencher says. “But in fact, what happened was I broke down. I was afraid; I was afraid for their lives. Really what I wanted to do was hold Erica, and I wanted to be held.”
For Wrencher, part of fathering himself has been to look towards religion and scripture. Wrencher has long been a community activist in Greensboro and has used faith, action and organizing techniques to raise his sons.
When the family moved back to the city a few years ago and settled in a home in the Martin Luther King Jr. area, Wrencher says that they took cookies door-to-door. Because of historical disinvestment in the neighborhood Wrencher explains that there aren’t as many legacy families in the area; people don’t know each other as well as they could. Wrencher recalls that one time when he, Erica and his sons approached an older Black woman’s house, she talked to them through her gated front door, initially responding with suspicion. When she saw Wrencher’s sons playing in her yard, she immediately invited them inside.
“What created the warmth, the trust for people to welcome us both literally and metaphorically were the boys,” Wrencher says.
In that way, Wrencher doesn’t think about his relationship with his kids as a one-way street of parent and child. He sees the ways in which his sons give so much back into his life and into their family dynamic.
“We don’t have to be the only ones that shape what it means to be family,” Wrencher says of him and Erica. “Our boys do as well. The opportunity to recline into the wonder of what they bring to our family is so soothing, it’s such a sense of comfort; I learn so much from them.”
And ultimately, that’s how Wrencher defines being a dad, a parent.
“One of the most rewarding things about being a parent are the ways that I get to not know,” he says. “I get to be learning, I get to apologize, I get to make mistakes and do things better, I get to experience them by not just being their father, but us having a relationship.”
James Phillips spent many summers of his youth with his father, James, fishing, hunting, farming. His parents separated when Phillips was around 7 years old, but “it wasn’t like he wasn’t around,” he says.
“I followed him around and learned as much as I could from him,” Phillips explains.
Still, in hindsight, Phillips explains that his grandfather, Bud Hauser, was probably a bigger influence on his life. He was also very handy, like his father, and the two worked construction jobs together.
“I learned a tremendous amount from him,” Phillips says.
When his grandfather had a stroke, Phillips says that it “changed a lot of things.”
“I started reflecting on my past and how this person was guiding me,” he says.
Years later, he sees a lot of similarities to his grandfather.
When it came time to have his own kids, Phillips says he waited. He wanted to be more stable financially, mentally, than his own parents were before taking the leap.
“I wanted to be able to have a little bit of maturity to raise those kids,” he says.
Phillips doesn’t blame his parents; people had children much younger in past generations. But for him, waiting meant that the way he parented looked a little different than how he was raised.
“When I was growing up and we were disciplined, we got spankings,” he says. “Now, it’s more like talking it out and giving a little bit of lenience and following up with guidance.”
Phillips has two sons, Kai and Leo, with his wife Mari, who is Japanese. Raising mixed-race sons has meant teaching them about the diversity of people from a young age.
“For anybody for any race, you have to learn to be open and accepting people,” Phillips says. “To take the time out and really look at people and truly look at them, not glance at them.”
It’s something that Phillips thinks about in terms of keeping his sons safe, too. With ongoing police violence and racism in the world, Phillips says that harm isn’t something that he can control but that he can show by example.
“We can’t control somebody else’s bigotry,” he says. “But what we can do is set an example. Show something that will give somebody a second chance at an opinion of who you are; be able to say nice things. Hold doors for people, for anybody. Those things go a long way.”
Phillips’ commitment to diverse points of view is also expressed in his advice for new parents.
“Surround yourself with other fathers,” he says. It doesn’t matter what race or age they are.
“They’re going to see certain things you’re not going to see,” he continues. “Have conversations with them. This is passed on from one person to the next. Ask questions. They have the same goals as you: Being able to take care of their young.”
Another part of being a parent that has evolved for Phillips over time is the act of being present. When his kids were younger, Phillips says that he worked for an electrical contractor and was out of town often.
“I missed a lot of stuff,” he says. “I vowed to myself that I needed to change. It was the same that my father did to me; I wasn’t being very supportive of my sons.”
Eventually, he became his own electrical contractor and now gets to work from home. His family also owns and operates a restaurant in Winston-Salem, which has brought them closer together. For him, it has meant being able to be in his sons’ lives more.
“I tend to be very active with my kids in terms of whatever they choose to do,” he says. “If they’re into sports, I was there. If they were into robotics, I was there. My son is into cooking, I’m there.”
That has been his favorite part about being a parent.
“Watching them achieve,” he says. “Watching them do things that I wasn’t able to do; watching them excel at things that I wasn’t able to do.”
Clement Mallory grew up not knowing his father.
“I basically never saw a photo of him,” he says. “I never met him, never heard his voice.”
As a child, he says that impacted him and sometimes got him in trouble.
“I was frustrated over that fact of not knowing who my father was, and always wanting that and never having that experience,” he says.
He saw nuclear family units on television on shows like “Good Times” and “The Jeffersons.” But for many in his community, fathers were absent and those who ended up filling the roles were teachers, crossing guards or eventually, Mallory says, “COs,” or corrections officers.
“There were many young men who didn’t get raised by fathers either,” he says. “They got raised by the prison system.”
Because of that lack, Mallory says he turned to religion to fill the void.
“I think I really just relied on my heavenly father being my father if I didn’t have anyone else,” he says. “That’s why I got real spiritual; that’s my father because I don’t got no biological father.”
The sentiment is evidenced in a poem that Mallory wrote a few years ago titled, “My Father.”
The poem, which Mallory wrote for Unity in Greensboro, brings up imagery of his father, how he imagines he would be.
“Some fathers are real fathers like my father who demonstrates his love to me in many ways,” the poem starts. “Like my father is the type of father who gives me good words of sunshine on my worse of rainy days.”
Mallory says that he wrote it for fathers in general and that the piece is about universal love.
“Even though I never met my dad, I made it relatable for humans,” he says. “When I say my father, I’m talking about our heavenly father, but I made it human so a son can
give this poem to their father.”
For Mallory, who spent time in a lot of group homes, he also looked to counselors and his Uncle Jeff, as male role models in his life.
These days, Mallory is himself a father to three sons: Absalom, 25; Tsiyon, 23; and Humble, 3.
The way he has parented has changed in the last few decades as he’s gotten older and been able to spend more time with his youngest because of his work flexibility.
“It’s different now,” he says. “Back then, I was working a regular job. That plays a big role in a child’s life. For a male, it does play a big role. I wasn’t there; I was working at Harris Teeter, Food Lion. Now I’m an entrepreneur; I spend more time at home.”
He also gets the opportunity to parent through his job. As the executive director of Kids Poetry Basketball, an organization that teaches literacy to kids through sports, Mallory says he’s become a kind of father figure for many of the kids in the program.
“That’s why we say it takes a village to raise a child,” Mallory says. He knows that from registration forms and conversations with some of the kids that a few of them are like him: growing up without a father.
But through his organization, Mallory says he’s able to teach kids many of the lessons his own father would have taught him if he were around.
“Being able to bring happiness and joy,” he says. “Being able to teach someone else about life, about the most high and love and joy and also the realness about life, too. That’s our responsibility to teach each other.”
As a father to his own children, Mallory says that the most important thing for him is to maintain a relationship with his kids and to provide. He talks about understanding his wife’s emotions and creating a strong bond for their child. As advice to other fathers out there, he says that respecting your partner is one of the most important things you can do as a father.
“Never, ever, ever hit a woman,” he says. “When she says ‘no,’ those things need to be taught to our young men.”
It’s something that he thinks needs to be raised, especially with the news around P. Diddy around domestic and sexual violence.
“The good stuff about providing and being nice, those things need to be spoken, but those harsh realities need to be spoken, too,” he says.
Apart from those warnings, Mallory says that being a father is actually very simple.
“Try your very best to smile,” he says. “Try to be happy, try to crack jokes and bring forth a happy atmosphere.”
Joseph Wilkerson III is an artist, community activist and organizer who has lived and worked in Greensboro for decades. As part of the city’s official Juneteenth celebration, the fourth one on the books, Wilkerson helps to create and distribute magazines that serve as a guide to the events. In our conversation, Wilkerson talked about his history in Greensboro, his experience creating magazines and his contribution to the Juneteenth festivities. To learn more about Juneteenth in Greensboro this year, which runs from June 14-16, visit juneteenthgso.wordpress.com. Find one of the free Juneteenth magazines at your local library branch.
QYou’ve been active in the Greensboro arts community for years. Tell me a little about that history.
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I was born in Brooklyn and my mother was a schoolteacher, my father was in the military, but they both went to A&T. That’s where they met. And in 1988, I came to Greensboro to go to A&T for architectural engineering. In my case, I didn’t have the focus to finish college.
Life got to lifing and at some point in time, I decided I wanted to shoot my own film. This was in the early 2000s; YouTube hadn’t been created at this point, we still had dial-up. Videos were really small, grainy, but I thought, Hollywood exists, and you have to start somewhere.
That’s when I realized that there’s these things called film festivals and I decided to create an urban film community. I started it in 2003; it was called the Urban Literature Film Festival. I also felt like there needed to be a magazine that would talk about the filmmakers and the films. That’s when I created Urban Literature magazine.
Tell me about how you got involved with helping planning Juneteenth.
So I also had an art gallery at Boston’s House of Jazz for a while and I started the Uptown Greensboro nonprofit. So I had been doing this for a while. I had an arts space. This was not new to me.
Around that time, I wanted to do a community festival in uptown and a friend of mine had suggested that I do a festival for Father’s Day in 2020. Right before then, I connected with Princess Johnson who said she was looking to do a multi-day Juneteenth festival. I didn’t know enough about Juneteenth at the time but I said I didn’t mind adding my festival to Juneteenth. But because of COVID, the festival ended up moving to 2021. That’s when Princess, April Parker, me, Lavinia [Jackson] and Zitty [Nxumalo], we created the first Juneteenth festival in 2021.
Joseph Wilkerson has worked to publish a magazine for Greensboro’s Juneteenth festivities for the last four years.
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ASo I knew what the Urban Literature magazine did back in the day when I did them. Everybody looked forward to them. I didn’t know anybody in this group but we came to this realization that we have this nice structure as far as the events we have laid out, and one of the suggestions that I made was to create a magazine that would double as a guide to provide all of this information.
The group didn’t necessarily understand what I was proposing. I think it wasn’t until the magazine came back and once they actually had them in hand, and saw people going to the libraries to get them, that they realized that it was a powerful component. And then after the first year, with understanding what Lavinia was bringing with the Sistars of Juneteenth and what Princess was bringing with the Arts Legacy Awards Show, I said that I think we should do a program booklet. Because everybody that first year was grabbing a magazine and using it as a program booklet and from a marketing and sponsorship standpoint, I thought we could have programs for all of them. As someone who has been doing this for years, that’s what I was bringing to the table.
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We print 3,000 magazines and a majority of the cost is covered by the sponsorship package. Sponsors can pay to get ads in the magazine and in the program booklets. They can also get their logos on the website.
Last year, the library said they would take on the responsibility of getting the magazines put out throughout the city. The two years before that, I had been doing it. When I would do it, I would document it and share it across Instagram and make everybody aware that the magazine is out. Last year, we didn’t get that recognition so this year, even though it’s a lot of work, I went back to what worked before. I delivered them myself.
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I continue to appreciate putting it all together. I ask that the community gives us grace because we’re always striving to improve Juneteenth and make it better.
Twenty-five is an important number. It’s a quarter of a dollar. It’s the birthday when a human brain is fully developed. And it’s also the number of years the doors to the Miriam P. Brenner Children’s Museum (MBCM) have been open!
Over the last two and a half decades, MBCM has carried out its mission to engage all children and families in hands-on learning experiences which contribute to their growth and development through play, creation, outdoor exploration, and STEM experiences.
Generations continue to enjoy access to play and learning in downtown Greensboro. To celebrate the Museum’s HUGE milestone – its silver year – it is hosting a month of fun for everyone from its littlest guests to its donors!
This July, MBCM will offer 25 ways for people in the Triad and beyond to participate in its birthday celebrations.
The excitement kicks off with a public birthday party! Gather from 3:30p-5p on Monday, July 1, to hear from MBCM President & CEO Joe Rieke and Mark Hyman, son of MBCM founder Jerry Hyman. Afterward, families can craft birthday hats, decorate a birthday banner and get a piece of birthday cake!
There are several major highlights throughout the rest of the month as well!
Like saving while playing? Visit the Museum on Friday, July 12 for 25-cent admission for every guest from 5p-8p! MBCM is dropping the price for accessible play and learning!
For the children at heart, MBCM is paying homage to the year the museum opened with a 21+ adult event called Party Like It’s 1999!
The museum will go back in time with multiple rounds of ’90s trivia, sick games like Twister, giant Jenga, Bop It, and a special graffiti craft by Reconsidered Goods! Enjoy beer and wine by Little Brother Brewing and mocktails by MACHETE and Yokai. Taste delicious eats by Astro Dogs and Jamaica Coast Catering food trucks. Plus, hear some wonderfully nostalgic ‘90s hits by DJ and emcee, Mothers of Chaos!
This is a ticketed event on Thursday, July 18 from 6:30p-10p. Purchase your tickets at https://tinyurl.com/bdzhxjjj.
The following day, MBCM goes high fashion with a kids’ fashion show organized by Greensboro-based consignment shop, Be Kind Kids. See the best kids’ fashion, and later go and purchase clothing to support this local business! The event is scheduled for Friday, July 19 from 6p-7p!
On Sunday, July 21, get the whole family together for a free photo shoot at the Museum’s famous big red chair! The photographer will be present from 1:30p-4:30p.
If you know a special young person whose birthday is approaching this July, celebrate at the Museum with 25% off a birthday package only during that month! Learn more about our birthday party packages at mbcmuseum.com/ birthday-parties-2/.
Can’t make it to any of these events or days? No worries, because the Museum has so, so much more in store for the month of July! Experience making a smoothie from a stationary bike on Wednesday, July 3, take competition to a new level with our games day on Friday, July 5, or use your skills during a scavenger hunt on Sunday, July 7!
There will be special guests at the Museum as well, including ballerinas from the Greensboro Ballet reading a story on Tuesday, July 9, Whims shaved ice will
be selling sweet treats on Thursday, July 11, Reconsidered Goods will help guests get crafty on Saturday, July 20, and the Basics Guilford will be handing out free children’s books on Tuesday, July 23!
Lastly, get so many fun giveaways throughout the month, including MBCM sunglasses, “Play Enthusiast” t-shirts, and cupcakes!
Find out the comprehensive schedule and all the fun the public can enjoy by checking out the Museum’s website at mbcmuseum.com!
The Museum is thankful for 25 years of community support and ready for so much more discovery, play, and learning in the next 25 to come!
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17. Fight back
19. Night of amateur comedy or music, more formally
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22. Like the Woodsman of Oz
23. Hallow ender
24. Licorice-scented herb
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31. City between Cleveland and Akron which hosts an annual festival for multiple births
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50. Be less strict
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59. “Circle of Friends” novelist Binchy
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3. Gorillaz song “___ Eastwood”
4. Texas mission to “remember”
5. “The Life and Slimes of ___ Summers” (solo performance from the host of “Double Dare”)
6. Positively profess
7. Presidential bill blocker
8. “New” capital
9. Worker’s organization
10. Lemonheads lead singer Dando
11. Carryall
12. “___ Como Va” (Santana song)
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26. “___ you, Nancy, from doing harm ...” (line from “The Craft”)
27. ___ pricing
28. Green Bay Packers fan
29. Recycling container
30. Narrow bed
32. Make like a happy tail
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34. Neighbor of Belg.
35. “A Man Called ___” (Fredrik Backman novel turned into a Tom Hanks movie)
36. “Dynamite” K-pop band
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42. Not kosher, in Jewish dietary law
46. ___ rancheros (Mexican breakfast)
47. ___-ski (lodge lounging)
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52. “60 Minutes” reporter Lesley with an appearance in “Marcel the Shell With Shoes On”
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56. “You’ve Got Mail” director Ephron
57. June honoree
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Thu 6/13
Sawtooth's Not Quite Perfect Pottery Sale
@ 4pm
Join Sawtooth on Thursday, June 13th, from 4 to 7 pm for their highly anticipated Not Quite Perfect Pottery Sale–one of their largest annual fundraisers. New lo‐cation this year! Intergenerational Center for Arts and Wellness, 114 30th Street, Winston-Salem. marketing @sawtooth.org, 336-723-7395
This is a Spaetzle Class!
@ 6pm / $58
Reto's Kitchen, 600 South Elam, Greensboro
Hardwired - A Tribute to Metallica
@ 8pm
The Ramkat, Winston Salem
Fri 6/14
Pick
Jeffrey Dean Foster Music @ 8pm
The Ramkat & Gas Hill Drinking Room, 170 W 9th St, Winston-Salem
Spring Summer
@ 8pm
The Ramkat & Gas Hill Drinking Room, 170 W 9th St, Winston-Salem
RetroVinyl Band: RetroVinyl LIVE @ The Deck in Jamestown
@ 9pm
The Deck, 118 E Main St, Jamestown
Sat 6/15
None Of The Above (Americana): NOTA @ Daily Basket
@ 6:30pm Daily Basket, 3561 NC 8 and 65 Hwy, Germanton
Joshua Kendrick @ 7pm
Bourbon Bowl: Eat, Drink, Roll, 531 S Elm St, Greens‐boro
Sun 6/16
Father's Day Luau
@ 12pm
Hawaiian Shirt Contest - win a custom Foothills Hawaiian Shirt Dad & Kid Obstacle Relay - win merch! Pickleball Disc Golf Putting Games and more! 3800 Kimwell Dr, 3800 Kimwell Drive, Winston-Salem. SARASTANLEY@FOOTHILLSBREWING.COM, 336705-9921
Grupo Mandingo: Winston Salem, North Carolina, USA ( Mansion Night Club ) @ 10pm
MANSION Nightclub, 3081 Waughtown St, WinstonSalem
Doug E. Fresh @ 6:30pm
The Continental CLUB, 816 S Elm St, Greens‐boro
Tue 6/18
D.R.U.G.S. @ 6:30pm Hangar 1819, 1819 Spring Garden St, Greensboro
Wed 6/19
The Wailers Live In Greensboro @ 5pm / $35.50
The Wailers in their 2024 Tour! This year, the iconic reggae band celebrates two significant milestones: the anniversary of Bob Marley's legendary album "Legend" and the release of the eagerly awaited Center City Park @ Greensboro Downtown Parks, Inc., 200 North Elm Street, Greensboro. paul@ onepeoplereggae.com
Steve Earle @ 8pm
The Ramkat, Winston Salem
Thu 6/20
Nick Andrew Staver: The Listening Room Upstairs @ 7pm
The Listening Room Upstairs, 000 Private Rd, Hamp‐stead
Del McCoury Band @ 8pm The Ramkat, Winston Salem
Fri 6/21
Southern Culture on the Skids @ 7pm
COHAB SPACE, 1547 W English Rd, High Point
Sneakers @ 8pm
The Ramkat & Gas Hill Drinking Room, 170 W 9th St, Winston-Salem
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Bocanegra, Candy Cof�ns, and Transeunte Errante play Monstercade, Winston-Salem, NC @ 9pm Monstercade, 204 W Acadia Ave, Winston-Salem
Sat 6/22
Vacation Bible School @ 9am
“Breaker Rock Beach” Vacation Bible School 9:00 am-12:30 pm Lunch will be provided Ages 4-5th Graders Pfafftown Baptist Church, 4336 Transou Road, Pfafftown. josh@industrialboardrepair.net, 336-207-6834
Conjunto Peña Blanca @ 8pm
MANSION Nightclub, 3081 Waughtown St, WinstonSalem
Sun 6/23
Sunday Yoga @ SouthEnd Brewing Co.
@ 10am / $5
SouthEnd Brewing Co, 117b West Lewis Street, Greensboro
Wyatt Easterling: DooDad Farm Bene�t @ 2pm
Doodad Farm, 4701 Land Rd, Greensboro
Cuchulain: What The Folk @ 3:30pm Oden Brewing Company, 804 W Gate City Blvd, Greensboro
Mon 6/24
World Cuisine Camp @ 9am / $100-$400
Jun 24th - Jun 28th
Junior Chef students will spend 5 days learning basic kitchen skills and demeanor, how to cook America, Thai, Indian, Latin America, and African Cuisine, and the links between food; culture; and sustainability Chef Reto Biaggi not only teaches students to cookhe and his team... St. Andrews Episcopal Church, 2105 West Market Street, Greensboro
Tue 6/25
Winston-Salem Dash vs. Rome Emperors @ 7pm
Truist Stadium, Greensboro
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