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Let's Build Together. As the leaves turn golden and the air gets crisper, it's that time of year again when we gather for another edition of Building Her Dream Magazine. And this time, we're diving deep into a topic that's near and dear to my heart: the power of building a support network. But before we get into that, I want to take a moment to chat with you about something equally important – building my very own support network here at Building Her Dream. You see, I've always believed that the best way to lead is by example. And as the founder and editor of this magazine, I want to put that belief into action right here, right now. I want to lead by showing you that it's okay to ask for help when you need it, and that sometimes, the most incredible things can happen when we come together as a community. Building Her Dream Magazine has been a labor of love from day one. It's a platform created to celebrate the journeys, stories, and accomplishments of introverted women entrepreneurs like you. We've talked about the challenges we face, the triumphs we've achieved, and the dreams we're chasing. Now, it's time to expand the family. We’re looking to build a passionate team to help me take this magazine to new heights. If you're someone who shares our vision, if you've ever read an article here and thought, "I'd love to be a part of this," or if you simply want to contribute your skills and ideas to create a
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vibrant, supportive community of introverted women entrepreneurs, then I want to hear from you. We’re seeking talented writers, social media wizards, PR professionals and anyone else who has a burning passion for what we do. This is a chance to join a community of like-minded individuals who believe in the strength of introverted women in business. Together, we'll reach even more introverted women entrepreneurs who could benefit from what we offer. We'll build each other up, share our knowledge, and amplify our voices. If this sounds like something you'd love to be a part of, drop me an email at shayla@buildingherdream.com. Let's have a conversation, get to know each other, and see where our shared dreams can take us.
Shayla Burtin Shayla Burtin Editor-in-Chief Building Her Dream
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CONTENTS COVER STORY
11 THE ENTREPRENEUR’S LIFELINE How to Build A Support System
INTERVIEWS
22 KIMBERLY HENRY
50 KIMBERLY FOWLER
TABLE OF CONTENTS
CONTENTS EXCLUSIVES
18 QUIZ
Support Squad Superpower
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5 TIPS
THE STRENGTH
NETWORKING
For Harmony At Home
In Asking For Help
Oportunities In Every Day Life
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THE MAGIC
FLUSH
THE INTROVERTS
Of Hiring An Operations Manager
Out The Frenemies
Party Survival Guide
61 TOP 6 BOOKS Building A Robust Support Network
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The Entrepreneur's Lifeline Whether you're just starting your entrepreneurial journey or you've been at it for a while, it's time to put building a support system at the top of your to-do list.
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ARTICLE Have you ever felt like you're trying to conquer the business
Why Entrepreneurs
can help you push through
Need a Support System
even the most challenging
me; you're not alone. It's a
Moral Support
entrepreneurial fire burning.
common feeling among many
Entrepreneurship is not just a
of us who have embarked on
professional journey; it's
Knowledge Sharing
the thrilling, albeit challenging,
deeply personal. There are
Nobody starts a business as an
journey of entrepreneurship.
days when the weight of
expert in every aspect of
But here's the secret sauce to
responsibility can feel
entrepreneurship. Whether
success that we sometimes
overwhelming, and the self-
you're navigating the
overlook: building a support
doubt can creep in like an
intricacies of marketing,
system.
uninvited guest. This is where
finance, or operations, there's
your support system becomes
always something new to
your emotional anchor.
learn. This is where your
world all on your own? Trust
Picture this: You're on a rollercoaster, and it is quite the
times and keep your
support system becomes an
ride. There are exhilarating
Imagine having a circle of
invaluable source of
highs, heart-pounding lows,
friends, family, or fellow
knowledge.
and unexpected twists and
entrepreneurs who understand
turns. Now, imagine riding that
your struggles and can provide
Within your network, you may
rollercoaster without a safety
that much-needed pep talk.
find individuals who excel in
harness or a friend to share the
When the going gets tough,
areas where you need
thrills and spills. That's what
they remind you of your
guidance. They can provide
trying to go it alone can feel
strengths, past successes, and
insights, share experiences,
like in the world of business.
the passion that drove you to
and offer practical advice that
But fear not; it doesn't have to
start this journey in the first
can save you time, money, and
be that way.
place. Their encouragement
headaches. Learning from the successes and mistakes of others can be a shortcut to achieving your goals and avoiding common pitfalls. Accountability One of the challenges of entrepreneurship is the absence of a traditional boss or manager. While this autonomy can be liberating, it can also lead to procrastination and a lack of accountability. When you're the captain of your ship, it's easy to let deadlines slip
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ARTICLE and priorities shift.
filled with highs and lows.
confident or knowledgeable?
During the highs, you'll
These could be skills you lack,
This is where your support
celebrate your victories, and
challenges you face, or gaps in
system steps in to keep you on
during the lows, you may
your understanding of certain
track. Whether it's a mentor, a
question your choices. Your
aspects of your business.
business partner, or a peer,
support system serves as a
knowing that someone is
constant source of motivation
On the emotional front,
holding you accountable for
and inspiration.
consider what kind of support
your goals can be a powerful
you require. Do you need
motivator. They can help you
Seeing others in your network
encouragement, someone to
set realistic objectives, track
overcome challenges, achieve
listen during times of stress, or
your progress, and remind you
their goals, or simply stay
a group of individuals who can
of your commitments when
resilient in the face of
relate to your experiences?
distractions come knocking.
adversity can reignite your
Identifying both your practical
own passion and
and emotional needs is crucial
Perspective and Feedback
determination. Their stories
for building a comprehensive
Running a business can
remind you that success is
support system.
sometimes feel like wearing
possible and that the journey,
blinders, with your focus solely
with all its ups and downs, is
on the day-to-day operations.
worth it.
Networking Networking is a cornerstone of
This limited perspective can
building your support system.
lead to tunnel vision, making it
Attend industry events,
difficult to see new
conferences, and workshops.
opportunities or identify
These gatherings not only
potential problems.
provide opportunities to learn but also to meet like-minded
Your support system provides
individuals who share your
a fresh pair of eyes. They can
passion and interests.
offer alternative viewpoints, challenge your assumptions,
In today's digital age, online
and provide constructive
communities play a significant
feedback. This external
How to Build Your Support System
role. Join relevant online
fine-tuning your strategies,
Identify Your Needs
forums. They can connect you
and ensuring that you're not
Begin by assessing your needs.
with professionals and
missing out on valuable
Take a close look at the aspects
entrepreneurs from around the
insights.
of your entrepreneurial
world. Don't overlook local
journey where you might need
networking groups, business
support. Are there specific
chambers, or meetups for
areas where you feel less
connecting within your
perspective can be invaluable in making informed decisions,
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platforms, such as LinkedIn, Reddit, or industry-specific
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immediate geographic area. Consider joining
relationship more productive. Finally, be open
professional associations or organizations
to feedback and embrace constructive
related to your industry. These groups often
criticism. Remember that their insights are
host events and provide networking
valuable for your growth, even if it means
opportunities that can be both enriching and
acknowledging areas where you can improve.
invaluable. Engage in Peer Groups Seek Out Mentors
Peer support groups or mastermind circles
Mentorship is a powerful component of any
can be incredibly valuable. These are spaces
support system. Identify potential mentors
where entrepreneurs come together to share
who have achieved success in your field or
experiences, discuss challenges, and offer
possess expertise relevant to your business.
advice.
Mentors can be seasoned entrepreneurs, industry experts, or even successful peers.
Define the purpose and objectives of your group. Are you looking to focus on specific
Once you've identified potential mentors,
industry-related issues, accountability, or
reach out to them. Craft a thoughtful message
personal development?
explaining why you admire their work and how their guidance could benefit your
Establish a consistent meeting schedule
entrepreneurial journey. Be respectful of
where you can share experiences, discuss
their time and express genuine interest in
challenges, and brainstorm solutions. Regular
learning from them.
communication fosters trust and collaboration within the group.
When you establish a mentor-mentee relationship, clarify your goals and
You can even consider accountability
expectations. What specific areas do you want
partnerships within the group, where
their guidance on? Having a well-defined
members pair up to hold each other
purpose for the mentorship will make the
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In this environment, confidentiality is essential for creating a safe and supportive atmosphere. Nurture Relationships Building a support system isn't just about connecting; it's about nurturing those relationships. Show gratitude for the support and guidance you receive. A simple "thank you" can go a long way in strengthening your connections. Remember to give back by offering your expertise, insights, or assistance to others in your network. Building a support system is a two-way street, and your willingness to help can strengthen relationships. Stay connected with your support system, even if it's just a brief message or catch-up call. Regular contact reinforces your bonds and ensures that these relationships remain strong and beneficial. Finally, celebrate each other's milestones and successes, no matter how big or small. Acknowledging achievements fosters a positive and uplifting atmosphere within your support network. Remember, your support system doesn't have to be huge. Quality trumps quantity. What matters most is that you have a reliable group of individuals who genuinely care about your success. So, whether you're just starting your entrepreneurial journey or you've been at it for a while, it's time to put building a support system at the top of your to-do list. You're not alone on this rollercoaster ride; there are plenty of fellow thrill-seekers out there ready to share the adventure with you. Together, we can conquer the twists, turns, and loop-deloops of entrepreneurship and come out stronger and more successful on the other side. BuildingHerDream.com
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SUPPORT SQUAD SUPERPOWER: WHICH ONE'S YOURS? In the world of entrepreneurship, having a strong support network is like having superpowers. It can help you overcome challenges, reach new heights, and achieve your dreams. Take this quiz to discover your unique support network strengths and find out which "Support Squad Superhero" you are!
When facing a major business decision, what's your go-to move? a) Seek advice from multiple mentors and advisors b) Rely on my trusted inner circle of friends and family c) Research extensively and trust my instincts d) Collaborate with my business partners and team How do you feel about networking events and meetups? a) Love them! I enjoy making connections and learning from others b) Not my favorite, but I go occasionally to maintain relationships c) I prefer one-on-one interactions or small gatherings d) I avoid them; I prefer working closely with my established team
When faced with a personal challenge, who do you turn to first? a) A mentor or coach for guidance b) My closest friends and family for emotional support c) I tend to work through it independently d) I rely on my partner or spouse for assistance How comfortable are you with asking for help in your business? a) Very comfortable; I believe in leveraging expertise b) Somewhat comfortable; I ask for help when absolutely necessary c) Not very comfortable; I prefer to figure things out on my own d) Not comfortable at all; I like to handle everything independently
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How do you deal with toxic relationships in your life? a) I distance myself and prioritize positive connections b) I try to mend the relationship and find common ground c) I confront the issue head-on and address it directly d) I tend to avoid conflict and hope the situation improves How do you usually react when someone offers to help you in your business or personal life? a) Accept their help with gratitude b) Hesitate but eventually accept if it benefits both parties c) Politely decline, as you prefer doing things on your own d) Generally decline, as you're used to handling things independently When you encounter a business setback, what's your immediate response? a) Seek advice and perspectives from my network b) Reach out to friends or family for emotional support c) Reflect on the situation and determine my next steps d) Rally my team to address the issue collaboratively How do you handle feedback and constructive criticism from your support network? a) Embrace it with an open mind and work on improvements b) Accept it graciously but may feel sensitive about it c) Analyze it independently before deciding to act on it d) Tend to be defensive and may not readily accept feedback Which of the following statements resonates with you the most? a) "It takes a village to build a successful business." b) "Family and friends are my pillars of strength." c) "I trust my intuition above all else." d) "Teamwork makes the dream work."
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Support Squad Superpower Quiz Results: Mostly A’s: You're a Mentor Maven – a true connoisseur of guidance and wisdom. Your ability to seek advice and build a diverse network of mentors and advisors is your superpower. You understand that there's immense value in learning from those who have walked the path before you. Your willingness to tap into the expertise of others not only broadens your knowledge but also helps you navigate challenges with confidence. As a "Mentor Maven," you know that your support network is your treasure chest of insights and guidance, and you're not afraid to unlock its full potential.
Mostly B’s: You're Family & Friends Champion – the heart and soul of your support network lies in the close personal connections you've cultivated. Your strong bonds with friends and family provide you with unwavering emotional support. Your superpower is nurturing these relationships, and you understand that the strength of your personal connections can carry you through both personal and professional challenges. As a "Family & Friends Champion," you cherish the connections that matter most and know that they form the bedrock of your entrepreneurial journey.
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Mostly C’s: You're Independent Explorer – a master of self-reliance and trust in your instincts. Your superpower is your ability to solve problems, forge your path, and make decisions independently. While you may value the insights of others, you have a knack for trusting your gut and exploring uncharted territories. Your journey is driven by your inner compass, and you're not afraid to walk a less-traveled path. As an "Independent Explorer," you thrive on selfdiscovery and forging your own way in both your business and personal endeavors.
Mostly D’s: You're Team Player – collaboration and teamwork are your hallmarks. Your superpower is your ability to work harmoniously with your business partners and team members. You understand the importance of collective effort and recognize that the success of your endeavors often relies on the strength of your team. As a "Team Player," you excel at fostering teamwork, delegating tasks, and rallying your colleagues to achieve common goals. Your support network extends beyond advisors and friends; it includes the dedicated individuals you work with day in and day out.
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BUILDING HER DREAM LIFE With Kimberly Henry Meet Kimberly Henry from Troy, New York. She is the founder of Million Dollar Memoirs and has been in business for two years. During our chat, we learn all about Kimberly’s work and her journey as an introverted entrepreneur.
Kimberly, thanks for taking the time to chat with us today. Before we dive into what you do, tell us what your dream life looks like. I am working on my dream life. It includes speaking globally to audiences of men and women who inspire to be a change in the world, who feel like giving up due to difficult and challenging circumstances. It also includes being an author of several published books. My dream life is also giving back to different communities including women leaving domestic violence relationships, starting over again at 30 and over, and children living in poverty. I want to work with children of all ages to teach mindfulness and ways to handle their stress. I didn’t have this as a kid and now I want to pay it forward. Tell me more about what you do and who you help. I am a speaker and writer as well as help entrepreneurial leaders to get their life story written and out to the world. I am speaking my story of domestic violence after being raised by two alcoholics and repeating the patterns of familiarity with men
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who had their own addictions. I left my daughter’s father who was an addict when I was shy of my 23rd birthday and chose to be a single mom. I help women and men who are afraid to leave, who think that they don’t have another choice in theeir life, and who know that they are meant for something bigger than themselves. I help folks who have a desire to leave their legacy for their children and future generations. What inspired you to start this business? I wrote my memoir in 2020 during the lockdown of COVID-19. I realized I can help others to leave their legacy in this world by writing life stories. I feel writing is healing. It helped me to see what I overcame and I discovered the amount of compassion and love that I have for myself after going through
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all of my obstacles. I also see where I come from and it is a long line of women who suffered from grief and trauma. I want to be the one to break the cycle in my family and future generations.
They saw something in me that I didn’t see at all in myself. They inspired me to change my worldview of myself and my past. They inspired me to see a possibility that didn’t exist prior to meeting them.
How do you harness your introverted qualities as strengths in your business?
What's your vision for the future of your business, and what legacy do you hope to leave?
Meditating daily, listening to podcasts that evoke me to learn and share what I learn with others. I also use my listening skills when I am with others so that people get that they are heard and seen. I want people to know that they are valued and loved. Building a support network is essential in entrepreneurship. How have other people played a role in your growth and development? I have had many mentors, peers, family, etc who played a role in my growth and development. There are too many to list. They are people who believed in me more than I believed in myself.
My vision is expanding my speaking engagements and
strengthen the skill of speaking. I intend to leave a legacy of compassion, caring, courage, bravery and vulnerability. I also intend to leave a legacy of empowerment, change, making a difference, and spreading love. As far as
expanding my speaking engagements, I intend to be a TedTalk speaker. Can you tell us about a pivotal moment in your entrepreneurial journey that had a significant impact on your success? The moment of realizing that I can make a difference in other people's lives. As someone who was raised by two alcoholic parents, I never felt like I mattered or could make a difference in other people’s lives. Once I got that if one person hears my story of experiencing domestic violence, and they see a new possibility for themselves and makes a change in their life to live a life different than what they saw before, I have succeeded. What has been the most rewarding experience for you as an entrepreneur? Connecting with others, making new friendships, feeling supported around likeminded individuals. I also have felt like I am seen, heard and understood like never before.
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One of my favorite quotes is an African Proverb. If you want to go fast, go alone, if you want to go far, go together. How do you define success for yourself and your business? Success for myself and my business is making an impact in this world. Like I stated before, if one person hears my story and feels inspired to make a change in their life because they get that they are not alone, I have succeeded. Do you think it's possible to maintain a healthy work-life balance as an entrepreneur? If so, how do you do it? Yes. I feel it is possible with having daily practices such as meditation, journaling, listening to my favorite songs/music, listening to podcasts that help me to learn about others or myself. It is also possible to with making my self-care a priority such as stretching daily, drinking water, eating foods that support giving my body energy as well as having relationships in my life that support happiness, positivity and feeling supported. What have you learned about yourself and your business throughout your journey? I have learned that I am persistent. I am resilient. I finally get why people will often ask me how do I still keep going after experiencing the trauma that I have in my life. What advice would you give to other introverted women who are just starting their own businesses? You are not alone. Seek someone who has experienced what you have and they have overcame it. Ask them questions on what helped them and what didn’t help them. Ask for support with what would help you to move forward.
To learn more about Kimberly Henry visit her online at: kimberlyhenrycoaching.com
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5 TIPS FOR HARMONY AT HOME We know how the entrepreneurial life is. It’s more than a full-time gig. It often stretches beyond the realm of the 9-to-5 grind that brings visions of sweet, regular paychecks and evenings off. But that's not the life chosen by us, no ma’am! That's not what makes our hearts race and our inspiring dreams a reality. However, keeping up with this bubbling energy, we often find our personal lives on a back burner, and that's less than ideal. Fear not! We’re here with some genius hacks to make your personal life less stressful and, dare I say, smooth sailing. Are you ready? Let's dive in!
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Hire a Housekeeper
Here’s the reality: Cleaning up and putting things in order can eat up a lot of your time. You're already a master delegator at work, so why not bring that skill home? Hiring a housekeeper does not make you lazy or incapable. It does make you smart, though! Bid farewell to the stress of keeping your house spotless and say hello to some much-needed spare time.
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Embrace Meal Prep or Delivery Services
I'm sure we can all agree that by the end of a long day, the last thing we want to do is whip up a gourmet meal. Enter meal prep and delivery services. A simple way to ensure you're eating healthy without having to spend ages in the kitchen. Besides, who said every meal needs to be a MasterChef-worthy work of art? 28
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Utilize Online Shopping
With the staggering number of tasks on your plate, even a quick trip to the local supermarket can seem like a task. Why not turn to the blessing that is online shopping? Avoid queues, and save time, and with just a few clicks, you can have everything delivered right to your doorstep.
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Outsource the Extras
You're swamped with work and the laundry pile is beginning to rival Mount Everest. What do you do? You outsource! Be it laundry service, a dog walker, or a professional organizer. There is no shame in leaning on these conveniences to lighten your load. It's a win-win situation. You get things done, while also helping another business. Now how entrepreneurial is that?
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Block Out "Me" Time
Listen carefully, ladies: Taking time out for yourself is not a sign of irresponsibility, it’s a necessity. Schedule your "me" time just like any other appointment in your calendar. Treat it with the same rigor as a business meeting. Be it yoga, reading a book, or just a quiet cup of coffee - it helps recharge your batteries and gives you the strength to carry on.
The bottom line is, while the hustle and grind of being an entrepreneur is essential, so is your personal life. It's time we stopped treating it like a secondary existence and began giving it the importance it deserves. At the end of the day, a less stressful personal life translates into a more productive work life, and isn't that the ultimate goal?
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THE STRENGTH IN ASKING FOR HELP You're here tackling the world, building your dreams, hustling every day, owning it, and wow, it's impressive! But you know what's also super important and impressively brave? Taking a step back, raising your hand, and saying, "Hey, I need a little bit of help here."
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Yeah, you read right. I just said the infamous 'H' word - "Help." Now, before you break out into a cold sweat, let me assure you – asking for help is NOT a sign of weakness, no matter what the hustle-hard culture might lead you to believe. Quite the contrary, it's something to be proud of, and here's why. It's Human to Need Help
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First things first, remember we're humans. I know you may be soaring high like Wonder Woman, but like her, we all have our kryptonite. We aren't designed to conquer everything alone.
You know how you sometimes struggle with something for hours only for a fresh pair of eyes to solve it within minutes?
We thrive as a species because we learn, grow, and shine in cooperative environments. Let's become each other's strength, not competition.
Asking for help can save you from unnecessary stress and enable you to learn faster. While it might dent your ego temporarily, think about how much you'll grow in that process.
It's a Strength, Honestly!
Time to Squash the Stigma
Got a challenging situation at work? Or perhaps you're struggling to keep your personal life from collapsing under the weight of your professional duties.
Many of us associate asking for help with failure or weakness. But ladies, it's 2023!
It's time to ask for help. When you do, you're not just admitting that you're human (which is totally okay), but showing that you're wise enough to recognize that you can't—and don’t have to—do it all by yourself.
Big Perks for Relationships Asking for help doesn't just help you, it also strengthens your relationships. It allows people to step up and lend a hand, making them feel good about being able to contribute. You're giving them the opportunity to be a part of your life in a meaningful way. So, you're not just getting help, you're deepening connections too!
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It's high time we squash this outdated stereotype and recognize that seeking help is, in fact, a sign of emotional intelligence and resilience. To wrap it up, remember that everyone needs help at some point or another, so don't let the fear of being judged prevent you from asking. Embrace the strength in seeking assistance — after all, we're all in this together. So next time you feel overwhelmed and wonder how you're going to tackle everything on your plate, remember these wise words:
Asking for help isn't a weakness; it's just being smart.
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NETWORKING OPPORTUNITIES IN EVERYDAY LIFE Once upon a time in our professional lives, networking was synonymous with stuffy conference halls, artificial LinkedIn messages, and a gravitational force pulling us toward the appetizer table. But lo and behold, networking opportunities can pop up where you least expect them like little surprises that open doors to friendships, collaborations, and sprinkles of serendipity. Sound like the beginning of a delightful tale? It sure is! So, let's embark on this wholesome journey and explore how to network beyond the confines of traditional arenas.
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The Waiting Game Ever roll your thumbs at the doctor's office, the queue at your favorite java joint, or the misty aftermath of your hot yoga class? These moments of waiting are treasure troves for networking. Why not strike up a conversation with the person next to you, sharing anecdotes or light-hearted banter? You never know when these casual chats might unfold into deeper connections or even collaborative opportunities. After all, professional camaraderie can spark anywhere, even amidst the glorious chaos of a Pilates cooldown.
transforming passions into a golden gateway to networking. When engaged in the activities you genuinely enjoy, you'll naturally exude an infectious energy that can magnetically draw people to you. Whether it's an art workshop, book club, or hiking group, you never know when your shared experiences with fellow enthusiasts may open up potential professional benefits. Plus, who doesn't love a cheerful afterwork event intertwined with their interests? The Fitness Connection Gyms can be great places to burn calories, but they burn the artificial vibes of conventional networking events, too. You might find your future business partner or mentor while sweating it out at that spin class or doing your best warrior pose at the yoga studio.
The Hobby Bonding Doing what you love connects you with like-minded individuals. And no, we don't mean locking yourself at home with your latest VR goggles. This is about joining clubs or classes and 36
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If you're a regular at your gym or fitness center, introducing yourself to fellow workout warriors can lead to stimulating conversations and the mutual cheerleading that makes conquering those last couple of reps a whole lot easier.
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And with adrenaline pumping and endorphins kicking, you'll both leave with a shared sense of accomplishment that can pave the way for a strong professional rapport. The Victorious Volunteer Working together towards a common cause cultivates meaningful relationships—ones that can cross over from charitable efforts into professional spheres. Volunteering offers abundant opportunities for networking in a positive and purpose-driven environment. Not only will you be contributing to society, but you'll also be surrounded by people who share your values and priorities, making it easier to connect on a deeper level. Don't be surprised when that person you helped while targethunting at the canned food drive turns out to be your best advocate in securing your dream job. Stay Present, Stay Open Remember that networking
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THE MAGIC OF HIRING AN OPERATIONS MANAGER by Shayla Burtin
As hardworking business owners, we all know what it feels like to wear infinite hats, balance a myriad of responsibilities, and rarely have time to enjoy the fruits of our labor. The vision becomes blurry, work-life balance seems like an elusive dream, and the gnawing fear of leaving your baby—yes, your business —in someone else's hands becomes overwhelming. But it doesn’t have to be this way! What if I told you that there's a gamechanging strategy that could scale your business, relieve your stress, and grant you the freedom to live the entrepreneurial dream wholly? It's called hiring an Operations Manager. Now, I know your entrepreneurial instincts might have you resisting the idea of handing over the reins. After all, this business is your baby, right? But a savvy entrepreneur knows the key to scaling effectively is to have competent people at the helm in all areas of the business. 40
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Hiring an Operations Manager isn't about giving away control; it's about creating freedom – the kind of freedom that makes entrepreneurship worthwhile. Imagine taking a vacation without the nagging fear of something going wrong back at the office. Picture yourself having time to spend with your loved ones without constantly checking your phone.
Say Hello to a High-Powered Team A great Operations Manager can take on the responsibility of team leadership like a born champ. They can coach, guide, motivate, and create invaluable unity within the team. The result? Your team performs better, faster, and with more determination.
Believe it or not, burnout is real, and it takes a toll on your effectiveness and overall wellbeing. You need a competent right-hand partner in place as a safety net protecting your most valuable asset—your mental and physical health. By sharing the burden, you ensure sustainability and longevity for both you and your business. Also, with this person handling the daily workings, you can elevate your role and operate as a true visionary. This gives you the space to think big picture, strategize, and foster growth. Time kindled by creativity and strategizing, rather than stress and deadlines, can fuel unimaginable growth for your business. Still need some convincing? Here are the top perks of having an Operations Manager in your corner. Delegate to Dominate If you're trying to juggle all aspects of your business, something is bound to eventually drop. Delegating operational duties can free up your time, energy and brainpower, which you can then channel towards strategic planning, development or simply catching your breath.
Stellar Project Management Project management is no joke. It's a serious business that demands a good deal of discipline, foresight, and meticulousness. The person you hire should live and breathe project management, ensuring everything runs on schedule, within budget, and at par with the standards you've set. It's like having a guardian angel who ensures everything goes according to plan. Superior Customer Support Scheduling, customer handling, follow-ups, problem-solving, repeat. Whew! That’s quite a cycle, isn’t it? But hey, an Operations Manager can manage these tasks like a walk in the park. By ensuring your customers are professionally taken care of, you can solidify your reputation and enjoy peace of mind. BuildingHerDream.com
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FLUSH OUT THE FRENEMIES Sorting the Good, the Bad, and the Ugly in Your Network
Ever spent a business lunch biting on stale breadsticks, listening to someone drone on about their achievements, returning back to your desk grumpier than before? Or sat through meetings with that collab partner who seems to get a sickening joy from shooting down your ideas? We've all been there—navigating the murky waters of professional relationships. But here's the bright side: your energy is too precious to spend on connections that don't serve you well. Let’s chat about how to distinguish between friends and foes in your professional arena, so you’re left with valuable, uplifting connections only.
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The Good: Beneficial Banter Alright, let's start with the good stuff. Positive professional connections are the kind you'll willingly take a 7 A.M. meeting for, even with eye bags out to compete with your carry-on. These are the people who seem to give off an almost luminescent glow, ready with encouraging words, brilliant ideas, and
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probably a killer espresso machine to boot. They challenge you, not out of ego, but out of mutual respect and the incentive to grow. These individuals value collaboration, not competition. They're more interested in creating a win-win scenario than in having the last laugh. They believe in the crazy idea that we can all succeed together. Wild concept, right?
So, pull these people closer. Incorporate more discussions, brainstorming sessions, and yes, even long office hours with them. Because these are connections that fundamentally make you feel good, empowered and, even in tough times, more capable than you thought you were.
The Bad: Tainted Ties
shouting from the rooftops about their toxicity. Some can be subtle, quietly chipping away at your confidence or well-being. They're the snide comments disguised as jokes, the oh-so-casual dismissal of your ideas, and the constant one-upping of your achievements. Sure, it might seem like banter or even harmless ribbing to some, but over time, these seemingly minor jabs can really affect your sense of self-worth. They can have you second-guessing your own competence and holding back on sharing your ideas for fear of ridicule. Got a colleague who spends hours talking about the very same problem, without ever getting down to the nitty-gritty of fixing it? Yup, that's a time vampire for you. They constantly demand your attention but don't reciprocate support, instead leaving you with an overwhelming feeling of "I could have better spent these hours binge-watching cute cat videos." Time vampires sap your energy, gobble up your brain space, and distract you from all those "little" things that need your focus (you know, like your work!).
We've all been there—trapped under the weight of someone's ego or getting sucked into a vortex of draining interactions. Bad professional relationships are like that dying plant in the corner of your office, desperately needing sunlight and water but somehow still sticking around. Tainted connections might not always be
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The Ugly: Unclogging the Drain It's a tough pill to swallow, but letting go of harmful demons within your network can be the necessary cleanse your professional life needs. It's all about self-preservation and protecting your splendiferous mental space. Try to have an open conversation about what's bugging you, before heading straight for the exit. Not the easiest chat to have, given how much we all love confrontation, but in many cases, it's the right way to handle things. But if all round-table discussions lead nowhere? Just like ridding your mailbox of junk mail, you need to pull out the "unsubscribe" card. This could mean phasing out communication, passing on certain projects, saying no to meetings, or in some cases, considering a business shift. While this may seem drastic at first, remember that your professional growth and mental well-being are paramount. You can't sip the sweet nectar of success when you're constantly wrestling with toxicity. Remember to be kind to yourself throughout this process. Unclogging takes time, but it sets the foundation for healthier relationships and a nurturing work environment. Celebrate this hard-won victory—you've just chosen a sunnier ride on your entrepreneurial roller-coaster. Bravo!
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BUILDING HER DREAM LIFE With Kimberly Fowler
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Meet Kimberly Fowler from Jonesboro, Georgia. She is a business coach in the tax industry, She helps tax professionals increase revenue in their tax business by identifying and attracting their ideal clients through tailored marketing strategies. Kimberly‘s mission is to become an incubator for early business growth stage tax professionals.
Kimberly, before we dive in, tell us what your dream life looks like. I am still working to achieve my dream life. The goal is time freedom. I'd be living in a luxurious beachfront property, perhaps in a tropical location like Bali or the Maldives. My home would have a dedicated workspace overlooking the ocean, allowing me to work with a view that constantly inspires me. The sound of the waves would be my daily soundtrack, providing a calming backdrop to my busy workdays. Because I've created a Signature Framework, the business would be running like a well-oiled machine. I dream of having a team of experts who manage the day-to-day operations, allowing me to focus on what I love most— coaching and strategy. My I.D.E.A.L framework would be a recognized standard in the tax preparation industry, and I spend a lot of time speaking at high-profile events and making guest appearances on webinars.
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What inspired you to start your business? I teach tax professionals how to start, run, and grow a profitable tax business. I am a tax professional, an entrepreneur, a coach, an accountability partner, and a friend! I've done a
lot of things right while growing this business and a lot of things wrong! Because I had to scratch and scrape to understand how to get my tax business up and running, I was inspired to help as many new tax business owners who were in that exact same situation and provide a blueprint for them to follow. How do you harness your introverted qualities as strengths in your business? Because introverts often excel in situations that require deep focus and analytical thinking, In my line of work, this translates into breaking comprehensive concepts so that my audience can understand. The I.D.E.A.L framework that I created, for instance, has been a product of the
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What advice would you give to other introverted women who are just starting their own businesses? Practice makes better! You may never feel that it's the perfect time to network because you prefer to be nestled up at home while watching webinars and planning your next big idea, but remember the bigger picture! Leverage your strengths. You owe it to your business to get yourself out there!
If you want to learn more about Kimberly Fowler, visit her website at: CoachKimberlyFowler.com
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Dear fellow introverts, we see you. You're gazing at that swanky event invitation, hosting a dance-off between anticipation and dread. Should you RSVP 'yes' to the promise of sparkling connections or add another checkmark to your declined invitations list?
Fear not! We've got this. We may not be born schmoozers, and we might prefer our coffee chats via our sanctuary webcam rather than at bustling cafes. But introverts are, in fact, stellar networkers. It's just that our way is…well, a little non-traditional. So, relax. Fancy cocktail party invite has landed? Here's your foolproof survival guide —lighthearted, relatable, and perfect for us wallflowers in the entrepreneurial garden.
Own Your Introverted Powers Being an introvert isn't a networking drawback—it's a superpower. Often, we introverts are natural listeners and thoughtful responders. Let the chatterboxes chatter away. Your role? Just lend an ear (or two!). Your thoughtful responses will come naturally. This deep level of engagement is appreciated and memorable, making you a magnet for genuine connections. Despite the hustle and bustle of a cocktail party, this focus on the individual makes the atmosphere seem less overwhelming and much more manageable. Now, isn't that a brilliant cocktail party hack? Let’s own our love for meaningful conversations and one-on-one interactions. It's our opener to memorable connections.
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Let’s own our love for meaningful conversations and one-on-one interactions. It's our opener to memorable connections.
The Early Bird Advantage You've heard it before, "the early bird catches the worm." Well, guess what? That saying doesn't just apply to birds and worms—it's also tailored for introverts at cocktail parties! Arrive early! Stepping into a half-empty room is a lot less intimidating than a packed one. It's easier to strike up a conversation with fellow early birds or chat up the host before they get swarmed. As the room fills
up, you can slowly extend your circle. It's not about being on the battlefield. It's the wallflower way of weaving a comforting cocoon.
Find the Other Flowers Don't worry; you're not alone on your quest to survive the cocktail party jungle. Some beautiful fellow bloomers are hiding their brilliant colors in corners just like you. Grab your drink and make a beeline toward them. Here’s an optional rehearsed one-liner: "Hey, this looks like a quiet spot—mind if I join you?" In this safe haven, you can bond over the shared experience, have in-depth conversations, and exchange valuable networks. And yes,
you can partake in introvert banter too!
Ask Magical Questions Us introverts aren't the biggest fans of small talk, but momentous TED-style speeches may be out of the question too—unless you've accidentally stumbled onto a speaker's podium. The sweet middle ground? Become a conversation wizard and weave your spells with questions. Not only does asking questions allow you to steer the momentum of the chit-chat, but it also lets you listen and engage, translating your caring attitude into potential impactful professional connections.
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The Cordial Goodbye Having survived the swirling whirlpool of cocktail networking, a hasty retreat may feel like a speedy sprint for safety, but pause and take a breath. Graceful exits have their charm and power. Thank your host, and make a polite round of farewells to the folks you've connected with. Just a short "I really enjoyed our conversation" can leave a lasting impression, after all, everyone loves to be appreciated.
The Buddy System Feel like all of this is too much pressure? Get a friend on board, preferably another introverted entrepreneur. You can lean on each other for support, split the room to meet different people, and recount tales of survival later. It's the perfect introvert loophole—two wallflowers, one networking event! Let's be honest, cocktail parties can be tough. But they also bring opportunities for connections that could transform your entrepreneurial journey. Remember, networking isn't just about collecting business cards. It's about building genuine relationships. And we wallflowers, with our knack for listening and forming deep connections, are naturals at it. Here's to us introverts, thriving and blossoming on the vine! Grab that cocktail party invite and RSVP 'yes', knowing that you've got your survival guide tucked away in your favorite clutch. Cheers to lighthearted networking and the wonders it can weave for your entrepreneurial dreams!
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TOP 6 BOOKS: Building a Robust Support Network As we wave goodbye to the summer season, let's embrace the richness of autumn with a selection of enriching reads. This curated list of books is tailored to inspire, educate, and guide you in nurturing relationships and building strong connections that can propel your entrepreneurial journey. So grab a cozy blanket, a warm cup of your favorite beverage, and let's dive into the realms of these enlightening books.
The Art of Asking by Amanda Palmer
Drawing from personal experiences, Palmer instills the importance of how asking for help isn't a weakness but a strength. She underlines the benefits of seeking assistance, highlighting that it leads to the creation of a sturdy support network that fuels personal and professional growth.
Tribes: We Need You to Lead Us by Seth Godin
Godin's Tribes brings insights on leadership and the importance of building and connecting with your "tribe." It's an inspiring read for any entrepreneur looking to create a strong network that follows their vision.
Give and Take by Adam Grant
Grant emphasizes the power of helping others in order to craft a dynamic support network. Delineating the characteristics of "givers, takers, and matchers," this book provides strategies to enhance your network through reciprocal help and support.
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The Go-Giver by Bob Burg, John D. Mann
Friend of a Friend by David Burkus
Never Eat Alone by Keith Ferrazzi
Through a unique, captivating narrative, this book highlights the significance of giving. The authors’ position is that forging strong connections and building a prosperous network is majorly about what value you bring to others. The book provides an innovatively refreshing perspective on networking and relationship building.
This book unveils how networks operate and how to leverage them effectively. Burkus emphasizes the cruciality of tapping into your existing networks rather than creating new ones, perfect for those looking to strengthen their support system.
Ferrazzi, one of the world’s best networkers, presents clear steps and strategies to connect with others and build lasting relationships. As a guide for effective networking, this book underscores the importance of a support network in entrepreneurial success.
Your network = your net worth. Mindfully investing in relationship building is instrumental in accomplishing your dreams. True joys of entrepreneurship blossom when you have a powerful support network by your side. Happy reading!
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