Written by: Joy Lindsay
Month 3: Validating Girl Leaders
Leadership Coaching
Mar 2023
Leadership Coaching Month 3
Community & Personal Validation
Temperature Check
Before we jump into our agenda for today, let’s take a moment to check in with each other. On a scale of 1 (horrible) to 5 (incredible), how are you feeling?
Do you want to continue with the session or schedule another time?
Coaching Agreements
Now, let’s quickly review and discuss The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.
Which agreement is most important to you today? Why?
Are there other agreements that we should add to guide today’s coaching session?
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Today’s Agenda Time Set-up 1 5 mins 2 20 mins 3 15 mins 4 optional 5 10 mins Icebreaker
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Validating Coco
Read the definition of validation and dismiss and then watch the Youtube video linked below. As you watch the video, note the times when Coco was validated or dismissed by adults or peers at her school.
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● Who validated or dismissed Coco and what positions of power did they hold in the school?
● How does the power structure of schools (e.g., principal, teachers, and students/peers) invalidate youth voices, feelings, and experiences?
● Why is validation important to Coco’s leadership identity and her ability to make aligned (head, heart, & gut) decisions?
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“The child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth.” - African Proverb.
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The Leadership Journal
Select one or two excerpts from The Leadership Journal: Let’s Connect. If needed, you can click here to request a hard copy of the journal. We recommend looking at the table of contents and selecting the title that speaks most to you!
Read and discuss your selected excerpt(s). What resonated most with you? Why?
How does The Leadership Journal validate teen girls' and young women’s leadership identities?
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At Butterfly Dreamz, validation means, “affirming young people’s choices, experiences, work, and identities as leaders.”
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GROW Discussion (optional)
Are you working on any SMART goals right now? If so, use the GROW model to discuss your priority goal(s). Remember, GROW stands for Goal, Reality, Options, Way forward.
1. Goal - What’s the most important SMART goal that you’d like to achieve over the next 30 days? Is it a personal, academic, or professional/career goal?
2. Reality - Have you made any progress toward your goal? Why or why not?
3. Options - What are 3 different ways you could accomplish your goal?
4. Way forward - What actions will you take next? What are your deadlines?
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Next Steps
● Next Meeting - Set the date and time for your next coaching session.
○ What day will you meet next month? What time?
○ Who will send the calendar invite and Zoom link?
● Action Items - Are there any actions that need to be completed before your next coaching session?
○ Who needs to complete which actions? By when?
○ How will you hold each other accountable?
Reflection
Take 15 minutes to submit you coaching reflection form.
● Click here to submit or vi cocoonclub.org/lead.
● Make sure that you receiv a confirmation email!
● Contact our Social Worker, Ms. Brittani, if you have any questions or need support: brittani@butterflydreamz.org.
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