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editors’ note Our birthday editions are always an exciting time for us, and this one has been a lot of fun to put together. Check out our annual ‘Party Planner’ and don’t forget to pull it out and keep for future reference. It’s also been quite a busy time of late with Bec also working with the Maternity Coalition and Juanita back on breakfast radio, so we’ve had to call in some reinforcements. Welcome to the CPC team, Rachel Bradley and Kate Wilkinson. Actually this edition seems like a bit of a ‘Rachel love fest’. See her as a fashion model (page 50) and as our new party planner to help parents in need of her expertise. PS We’re giving away a birthday bash like no other so don’t forget to enter the competition. ... happy parenting!
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has been teaching since 2005 and in 2011 opened Begin Bright in Cairns, which runs school readiness and primary tutoring programs. www.beginbright.com.au
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this issue pregnancy
me and my widwife
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the blessing way
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what happens!
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baby precious Savannah’s arrival
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baby brag board
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toddler teething tales
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toddler sign language
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primary school creating homework harmony
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parents the orange rhino plugged in parents
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fashion It’s a first for CPC mag, a fashion page! Check out Rachel modelling ‘retro style’ with Bella Forma and some lingerie to die for! Thanks go to Rowena from Something Special Photography and Cupcake Creations for our front cover image!
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Local parents share their favourite tips for making life just that little bit easier.
Top Tip Goodbye Bedwetting Blues With four kids, I’ve had my share of wet beds in the middle of the night. Having to put find new sheets and put them on the bed, in the dark, while I was half asleep was a nightmare. So I purchased two waterproof mattress protectors and two sets of sheets for each of my children’s beds. I made up the beds with both sets, so that in the middle of the night, if one of my kids wet their bed, I could simply strip the top set (sheet and mattress protector) and the second set was all ready to go. No more having to re-make a bed in the middle of the night and everyone gets back to sleep much quicker. Karen from North Cairns
Television Free Last year I decided to cut out TV for my children during the week. When they asked to watch TV, I would take them outside and fill up a plastic tub with water and bubbles, and give them kitchen whisks, cups, funnels etc for them to play with. That would keep them occupied for at least an hour. Over time they stopped asking for TV, and are happy to play outside instead. Heidi from Trinity Beach
Slow Cooker Buy a slow cooker and a good slow cooker recipe book, and learn how to use it! I create beautiful soups, casseroles, curries, roasts, risotto and desserts in the slow cooker, and it saves me time, and money and my sanity come dinnertime! Stacey from Ravenshoe
Household Chores Get the kids involved in household chores as soon as you can. Washing up, clearing or setting the table, sweeping floors etc. They love to be involved when young and if you keep it fun and not ‘military style’ they will always know to help out. Lyndy
Sunsafe Always have a hat handy - put one in the car, one in the pram and one in your baby’s tote bag. This way you’re never stuck without sun protection if you decide on a quick playground stop! Melanie from Redlynch
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My Midwife WORDS Bec Waqanikalou PHOTO Sweet Beginnings Photography
The term ‘midwife’ was first recorded around 1300. Wife meant ’woman’ while mid is a preposition, meaning ’together with’. Thus a midwife was literally ’with woman’. Having a baby is an exciting, yet daunting time for most women. There are so many unknowns regarding pregnancy, labour, birth and early parenthood. Wouldn’t it be amazing to have someone on call, 24/7, to answer any questions, allay your concerns and to support and educate you along the way? Midwives are experts in normal birth and are trained to support and assist women to birth their baby/ies, as well as specialising in postpartum and well-woman healthcare. They are educated and trained to recognize the variations of normal progression of labor
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and to deal with deviations from normal, to discern and intervene in high-risk situations. Continuity of Midwifery Care (having a known primary midwife) is the gold standard of care for pregnant women and allows for the opportunity to build a relationship based on mutual trust and respect. In this relationship, the midwife works in partnership with women, helping them to make informed choices, empowering them to be in total control of their pregnancy and birth journey. There is overwhelming evidence that continuity of care with a
midwife can shorten labour, decrease caesarean and intervention rates and decrease the need for analgesia in labour, resulting in lower mortality and morbidity. Continuity of care also carries into the post birth period and can increase the success of breastfeeding and decrease the rate of postnatal depression. Currently, there are exciting discussions around the development of the Midwifery Group Practice (meaning women will have access continuity of carer with a midwife) at Cairns Base Hospital.
ME… (Sophie) In 2011, I had my first son through the Midwifery Unit at Mareeba Hospital. I am also currently due to have my second child* there as well. During both pregnancies, birth and the postnatal period (up to 8 weeks) I have been with the same caring, compassionate midwife, which has provided me with a range of positive benefits. Steph and I have founded a strong, trusting, easy-going relationship. Appointments are relaxed, yet professional; encompassing general catch ups, a couple of laughs and overall, a medically thorough antenatal or postnatal visit. This relationship has provided me with a strong sense of wellbeing and the opportunity to openly and freely discuss any worries or concerns, birthing choices or postnatal parenting techniques. I believe the most beneficial aspect of having your own midwife is during labour and birthing. Having access to my own midwife’s personal mobile number and feeling comfortable about being able to call at anytime (night or day) was reassuring. During labour, I completely trusted her professional judgement and felt at ease when she needed to consult with a medical practitioner, knowing that she would not medically intervene unless absolutely necessary. Therefore, I felt more relaxed and able to concentrate on the task at hand. Throughout my pregnancies, having a close relationship with my midwife provided me with access to advice and support from a carer I respected and trusted who valued my choices, ideas and beliefs. Her care was wonderful, holistic and, most of all, genuinely caring. *Sophie gave birth to son Jesse on the 28th July at 7.06pm, weighing 3420gms, with the support of her partner Tim and midwife, Steph.
MIDWIFE….(Steph) I became a midwife in 1985, after completing my study at the Royal Women’s Hospital in Brisbane and have since worked in a number of rural maternity units. Midwifery is my vocation. It’s not for everyone, there are definitely some challenges with the job, but for me, the rewards do outweigh these. I now enjoy working in the Mareeba Maternity Unit as we offer Continuity of Carer for the women. This means that I get to work with a caseload of woman and I am their primary carer. I meet each woman early in her pregnancy and am able to build a relationship, which is so beneficial for both of us. Not only can I ensure that she and the baby are given consistent care and advice, I am able to support her wishes and preferences during labour and birth as well. Even though I do get calls at odd times, I have the satisfaction of being able to support woman and their families and I do enjoy it. Medical research shows that women who have one-to-one care have better outcomes and in Mareeba, we are above the state average on many key indicators for maternity.
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From Chubby Mummy to Competitive Body Builder My name is Tracey and I am a mother of two gorgeous girls, Ella 7 and Luca 5, and have been happily married to Dan for 8 years.
Kim is a personal trainer, nutritionist and a successful Figure Body Builder, who started me on one of the best journeys of my life.
After the birth of my youngest, I remember standing on some digital scales at The Good Guys for a laugh but not finding the readout telling me I weighed 98.3 kg funny at all. The words morbidly obese rumbled around my mind and I knew that it was time to get real about my low self-esteem and identity. I did not belong in that body and it was time for a change.
People often have the perception that body building means starvation diets and hours upon hours of training. The truth is, we eat lots of really fresh and nutritious food and train for five sessions per week from 1 to 1.5 hours per session.
The very next day I had my eldest daughter take a picture of me and vowed to get fit. I started walking and then jogging. Eventually I joined a gym and participated in group fitness with vigor. I also started a food diary to keep track of my calorie intake. After losing 30 kg over 3 years, I really wanted to step up my exercise routine and heard about Body Building. I did my homework and stalked many of the local competitors by following their progress on Facebook and their blogs. Eventually, I found the courage to contact my now trainer and friend, Kim Cardwell.
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WORDS Tracey Dujora
Since beginning my body building journey, I have competed in two competitions and was pleased to pick up a third in the Masters division in our local NPBB competition last May. The beauty of this sport is that the food is so healthy and there is so much of it! The benefits of lifting are endless and I really love what weight training has done to my body, mind and spirit. My days are super busy. I train most mornings at 4:30am to fit in a workout before the day begins with school and other commitments. For anyone who wants to shape up, lose some weight or just get active, set small goals and then start ticking them off. Don’t give up.
Fitness became my career My name is Abi Gardiner. I am 31 years old and a proud mum of three beautiful kids, Ethan 13, Noah 8 and Rahli 3. I have always wanted a job that I could wake up every day and look forward to, but being a mum, my priorities changed and my dream got lost in the routine of daily life and the need to earn money to raise my family. As I approached 30, I felt a little lost and started thinking about what I really wanted to do with my life. Growing up, I had wanted to study fitness or outdoor sports and recreation, so I started researching what courses were available. It was quite clear that the fitness course at the TAFE was exactly what I wanted. I had an interview with Sonya Barber and applied for the course. Far North Queensland TAFE offers so much more than just a course. The opportunities, support and practical experiences that are offered are amazing and completely changed my life. The course structure fitted perfectly with my
Want a job? WORDS Abi Gardiner
family life and I completed both Certificate III and IV in 2012. I had the best time and met some great people as I started my exciting new career! While studying at TAFE, I met Simone Kay from Fitness Form and Function and I am now working for her. Since completing the course, I have worked with ViPR, conducted 12 week challenges, and run Body Balance, Mumbalates boxing and water fitness classes. In between classes, I offer also personal training and I have recently launched our new fitness class for mothers and toddlers.
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The Blessing Way
There is a beautiful pre-birth tradition, which is becoming more popular as word spreads: a Blessing Way, or a Mother’s Blessing - a rite of passage into motherhood. A Blessing Way is a tradition originating from the Navajo Native Americans, but in Western culture the ceremony is often called a Mother’s Blessing. The focus of a Mother’s Blessing is to celebrate and honour a woman’s journey through birth and into motherhood with her closest female friends. Unlike a baby shower, which is focused more around the baby, a Mother’s Blessing is focused on the mother and making her feel loved and nurtured. I had heard about a Mother’s Blessing years ago through a friend and thought it was a beautiful way to celebrate becoming a mother. So when I was pregnant with my 3rd baby, I decided to plan my blessing with the help of my two Doulas.
Before the guests arrived, I had my belly cast done by two of my friends while music played, then one by one guests arrived, gifting me with their flowers and freshly made food. We filled my kitchen with so much laughter before we had even begun. I had previously set up an area outside on the patio where we were to take cushions and sit in a circle together. Once we were seated, we lay out teas and food. There are no rules on how to set up a Mother’s Blessing; it can be done anywhere and set up any way you like.
There are some wonderful ideas I found which could be incorporated into a Mother’s Blessing. These include henna body art, belly casting, writing positive affirmations, head and foot massage, a string ceremony and the giving of birth beads. I asked my guests to bring along flowers to decorate my home, a feather, which held personal meaning to me, and a bead in which would be threaded onto a necklace. I also asked my guests to bring along a plate of nutritious food to share and a story about another culture’s tradition surrounding pregnancy, birth and motherhood.
After we had all eaten, the women went around the circle giving me blessings for a safe and wonderful birth. To hear this really made me feel supported and positive for my upcoming birth. After the blessings had finished, they all presented me with a bead which was threaded onto a necklace that I planned to either wear in labour or hang somewhere in view, as a way to feel support from each friend who contributed. The necklace could then be held onto forever, or even passed on to the child. While I was pampered with a foot and head massage, everyone shared a
story about traditions in other cultures surrounding birth and new motherhood, which was very intriguing and sparked a great discussion on everyone’s positive experiences. Essentially, a pregnant woman wants to hear the positives that surround birth and becoming a mother, and a Mother’s Blessing is a great way to help the mother feel positive and supported in the change, which is about to take place. In concluding my Mother’s Blessing, we all tied a piece of red cotton around our wrists and agreed that when labour started for me, or just after the birth, we would cut the cotton in celebration. As guests left, my sister, daughter and a friend sat around me decorating my feet with henna, which was a nice reminder of the day. A Mother’s Blessing is a great way to help a woman feel great about her transition into motherhood. There is no wrong or right when it comes to what you choose to incorporate on the day and there is no set order or agenda. For more information on hosting a Mother’s Blessing, the Internet provides many valuable tips on how you can make for a wonderful day.
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Looking back at the birth of my first child I’m saddened to say I was clueless about the choices available in the way I birthed my baby so, when I fell pregnant with my second, I knew there was so much I wanted to change this time around. One thing that I knew right from the start was that I wanted a drug free birth and after doing some research I discovered that hiring a doula could help me in getting that birth that I wanted, so I did just that. My doula opened up a whole new world to me in which I chose to try hypnobirthing, delayed cord clamping and birth photography. The 23rd of September 2012 (my due date) rolled around and, as most women by 40 weeks, I was absolutely over being pregnant, so as a way to try and help move things along I went for an evening walk and walked a few laps around the sandpit at our local park followed by some squats. By 7pm I had started contracting but I knew I needed some rest so I went straight to bed, only to become so uncomfortable by 9pm that I went for a warm shower where I sat, not wanting to move. I reached for my phone and called my dad asking him to come look after my 2 year old, I then called my mum to warn her as she had a 2 hour drive to make to be with me. When I finally climbed out of the shower I began timing
my contractions, they were not regular but they were strong enough that I decided to call my doula. When she arrived she guided me through my contractions, gave me the iPod with the Hypnosis tracks on it to listen to and continued timing my contractions. By 11.30 my mum had arrived and although my contractions still weren’t regular they were long and strong enough that we decided to go to hospital even though I was still adamant that this wasn’t the real deal and we would be sent home. My photographer who is also a doula met us at the hospital. My midwife instantly admitted me and started running a bath for me. This was the real deal! Whilst waiting for the tub to fill I went for a shower where I bent over a birthing ball under the hot water with both my mum and doulas massaging every inch of my body. This was heaven! Once the tub was full I hopped in even though I had no prior intentions of having a water-birth, it was amazing and there was no way that I was moving to birth my baby. At 1am only an hour after getting to the hospital I began to push. On the second push I felt my waters break and at 2.07am my beautiful baby girl was born in the water surrounded by a sisterhood of amazing women. It was peaceful, it was blissful and I couldn’t have asked for a better birth.
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Have you had a check-up lately? Pap smear, prostrate check, mammogram, skin check, these are just some of the check-ups that might just save your life. For Carolyn Rutter, who lost her father to Melanoma in 2010, encouraging the men in your life to look after themselves is now her priority. “Dad was like many men – bullet proof, but not cancer proof. If only he had made regular check-ups his norm earlier in his life, we may have him still with us today”. Blue September is all about awareness for men’s health. Even though less than half of the Australian population are men, more men than woman are diagnosed with cancer each year. It’s time to remind the guys that ‘they aren’t bullet-proof’ and it’s okay to see a doctor if that pain when you pee; or the mysterious lump in your testicle, just won’t go away.
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Three medical practices ( McLeod St Medical Centre, The Redlynch Medical Centre and Southcare Woree) are offering bulk-billed medical check-ups for men during September by mentioning Blue September when making an appointment. And men aren’t the only ones not looking after themselves. Mothers are notorious for putting themselves last. October 28 is Pink Ribbon Day, but statistics show that there are a lot of women who are not having regular checks. According to Cancer Council Queensland spokesperson Katie Clift, the number of women participating in essential checks, such as pap smears, has been trending downward since 2008. “Regular pap smears are currently the best protection against cervical cancer,” Ms Clift said. “Through population screening at regular intervals, the pap smear test has the potential to reduce up
to 90 per cent of cervical cancer cases in Australia.” Family Planning Queensland (FPQ), a not for profit, nongovernment organisation providing sexual and reproductive health and education services throughout Queensland has also found that “the majority of women (three out of four) who develop cervical cancer have not had a regular Pap smear.” Similarly, Rowena Cramp, from Breastscreen Australia, stresses that “a breastscreen can pick up an abnormality the size of a pin prick, before it can be seen or felt. All women aged 40 years and over are eligible for a free breastscreen with BreastScreen Queensland every 2 years. Women aged 50-69 are strongly recommended to have a breastscreen with the average age of first diagnosis being 60. The aim of the program is to
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Carolyn Rutter lost her father to Melanoma in 2010, encouraging men to look after themselves is now her priority. find breast cancer at its earliest stages for better treatment options and outcomes.” The Cancer Council Queensland stresses that “most cancers, if diagnosed early, can be effectively treated. And many cancers, when diagnosed early, can be controlled before they spread.” “We are all familiar with the recommendations for healthy living. We all know smoking is a lethal hazard, screening is essential, sun protection is not just for kids, and eating well and being active is good for us,” Ms Clift said. “Research suggests roughly 140 cancer deaths in Far North Queensland alone each year could be prevented through healthy diet and lifestyle, such as exercising regularly and avoiding alcohol.” While most of us are familiar with these preventative measures, none of them replace the need for regular checks by a trained professional.
“It is also important for women of all ages to be breast aware, to get to know the normal look and feel of your breasts. If you notice changes it is important to speak to your doctor. Breast cancer screening and follow up tests if required are free and do not require a doctor’s referral”, says Ms Cramp. Similarly, with pap smears, “even if women have received the Gardasil vaccination, it is still essential they participate in recommended screening. The HPV vaccine does not protect against all types of cancer-causing HPV, so pap smear tests continue to be important.” Talk to your GP regularly about necessary check-ups and screenings, and consult your doctor if you notice any changes in your overall health. So when was your last check-up? Spring 2013 Cairns Parenting Companion
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? ! s n e p p a h t a h W WORDS Kate Wilkinson
When expecting a baby, the thought of giving birth can be overwhelming, but our bodies really are amazing and here are 5 peculiar snippets about birth that you may not have heard about. The purple line When in labour, an internal examination to determine cervical dilation can range from uncomfortable to intrusive, to downright painful. However, there is a theory that while in labour, a red, purple, or dark line appears between the pregnant woman’s buttocks and is an indicator of cervical dilation. In 1990, a study revealed that in 89% of women observed, the line appeared and was absent in only 10% (Hobbs, 1998). As the baby descends through the birth canal, a line appears from the anus to the top of the cleft of the bottom cheeks. When the line reaches the cleft, it is believed that second stage labour is near, without the need for internal exams to check dilation.
Orgasms during childbirth While we generally associate childbirth with pain, some woman report feeling waves of euphoria, similar to that of an orgasm. Anecdotal evidence seems to suggest that the pressure on the birth canal, stimulation of the cervix, the vagina and the clitoris, as well as contractions of the uterus can result in the woman feeling pleasure, instead of pain during childbirth. Scientists believe that this may actually have a positive effect on the delivery of the baby. An orgasm releases the hormone oxytocin, which causes the uterus to contract during labour. The hormone also reduces anxiety and promotes feelings of security, helping the mother feel calm.
Horse lips It is actually a good thing to make noise during labour. There is evidence to suggest that vocalising can actually help cervical dilation. The noises to focus on making include humming with a relaxed jaw, horse lips, oohing, aahing, uuhing, or singing. These noises have the added benefit of helping to control breathing and dealing with the pain.
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It is worth remembering that low tones are more beneficial than high pitched ‘screaming’ during labour as screaming expels energy, rather than allowing it to be used to push.
Twins can be
born days apart While multiples are generally born a few minutes apart, there have been instances when twins have been born days apart – and not just because they were born either side of midnight. This is most common with vaginal deliveries when labour may actually stop after the first baby and begin later for the next. There are even studies that suggest that opting for intervention after the first baby may actually be detrimental. There have also been instances when one baby has been born prematurely and labour has been halted in order for the other baby/ babies to continue to grow in the womb. The record is currently 89 days between birthdays for a set of twins.
The due date lie It is widely accepted that pregnancy is 40 weeks long. The due date is eagerly anticipated, but often passes by with no sign of a baby arriving any time soon. This is because the idea of a 40 week gestation is actually based on the idea that a pregnancy lasts 10 lunar months. The problem is that lunar 10 months is actually 295 days, not the 280 days we have come to accept. Calculating gestational length is also based on a 28 day cycle. However, not all women have a 28 day cycle and ovulation does not necessarily occur bang on day 14. This means that the calculated date of conception may be incorrect. Therefore, a normal pregnancy is actually 38-42 weeks gestation, challenging the idea of a baby being considered ‘overdue’ after only 40 weeks.
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Every baby is different. But one thing most parents agree on is that teething is a heartbreaking and frustrating period for all involved, especially because our little ones cannot communicate with us. Swollen gums, irritability, restlessness, flushed cheeks, raised temperature, dribbling and mouthing anything in reach are the most common symptoms that your child is teething. There may also be changes in their bowel movements and they may be more prone to nappy rash. However, Community Health nurses stress that symptoms such as fever and diarrhoea are not related to teething. Current research suggests that helping your child apply pressure to their gums is the best way to alleviate the discomfort of teething pain. According to Queensland Health, letting your baby chew objects such as crusts of bread, rusks and teething rings is a good start. They also recommend rubbing your baby’s gums with your finger, or applying teething gel.
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We asked five local mums for their tips for dealing with the pain and discomfort of teething.
Mum of two, Alana Bezant from Redlynch What goes into our children’s bodies is of great importance to us, so we investigated homeopathic remedies to relieve the symptoms of teething. We have had success with a complex for them to suck on that contains chamomilla, which is calming; pulsatilla, to help with whinging; belladonna, which helps with fevers; and aconite, to reduce inflammation. We also use amber bead necklaces, frozen fruit to numb the gums (frozen pineapple cores work well), cold wet washers to suck on and teething toys like natural wooden teethers, safe rubbers such as ‘Sophie la Giraffe’ and BPA free refrigerated silicon rings.
Mum of four, Christine Simpson from Redlynch As a mother of four boys aging from 13.5yrs to our new sevenmonth-old baby, I have found teething to come in many forms. We tried many gels, teethers, and Baby Panadol for our first, but nothing worked for him until a health nurse gave us a bottle of ‘Brauer Teething Relief’. It was an absolute Godsend! We have used it for all of our children as well as teething rusks and frozen teething rings. Our fourth has had so much trouble compared to the others, and after much research, we decided to try an amber teething necklace and we think it really does help.
Mum of two, Beverly Vos from Whitfield I’m a mum of two girls and also a nurse, so I’m a big believer in using paracetamol, or occasionally ibuprofen, whenever I think my girls have teething pain. The trouble is, sometimes it can be hard to tell, particularly when babies are as fussy as my first daughter was! I didn’t really notice much relief from numbing gels like Bonjela, but I think they are worth a try. However, I did find teething toys very helpful. The one my girls liked best of all was “Sophie la Giraffe”. They both loved chewing on her for hours! Although Sophie is expensive, if you look after her, I think she’s a worthwhile investment.
Mum of one, Kerry Miller from Forest Gardens We try not to use any harmful, chemical filled products when it comes to our son. So for teething, we looked for natural products. We have two ‘Sophie la Giraffe’ toys and I always keep one in the nappy bag for him to chew on. We also use mesh bag dummies and put cold or frozen fruit inside them. That way, he safely gets extra fruit and some pain relief. Another product we found helpful is ‘Toothease’. We just rub a few drops on his gums before he goes to bed we found that he would sleep longer and not wake up with teething pain.
Mum of two, Yoshie Ohtsu from Cairns When my eldest was teething, I gave her a small rice paddle made from wood, as most teething toys in Japan are made from wood. My youngest daughter, who is 8 months old with two bottom teeth, drools a lot and her gums seem to be itchy. One thing I found to help her was a special toothbrush that can be used from 6 months. It was also bought in Japan and is made from silicone, so it is very gentle for babies. The baby only needs to put it in her mouth and bite. The brush massages her gums and also cleans the new teeth. When I first gave the brush to my daughter, she grabbed it and immediately put it in her mouth. As she chewed, she was smiling and looked very happy. Spring 2013 Cairns Parenting Companion
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WORDS Kate Wilkinson
SIGN LA NGUAGE
Toddler
One of the hardest and most frustrating things about being a parent is not knowing what your small child is trying to communicate when they cry. Fortunately, through the use of baby sign language, pre-verbal children are able to express what they need or want. Sites, like www.australianbabyhands.com, provide resources such as free charts and detailed instructions to help parents teach their child basic signs for hungry, thirsty, mummy, daddy and toilet needs. There are also courses available for parents to learn from experienced instructors how to teach their child the signs. As well as helping parents decipher what their child is trying to tell them an alleviating frustration, there are also long-term benefits of teaching a child to communicate through gestures. According to Australian Baby Hands, helping pre-verbal children communicate can increase self-confidence and self-esteem, accelerates the child’s ability to learn to speak, stimulates the brain development, and provides insight into what the child wants and needs, increasing their bond with their parent. Other advantages of using baby sign is that it incorporates the national sign language of Australia – Auslan, ensuring that it is based on an actual method of communication and has a proven record of effectiveness. This also allows children to learn from a young age that people communicate in different ways and encourages them to be receptive to subtle body language cues as they grow. Local mum of three, Rebekah Freeman, has had success with the use of toddler sign language. My husband and I decided to use baby sign language to help take the guess work out of communicating with our children. We only taught them four to six words each,
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but it was enough to get us through to the talking stage. We taught them the signs for more, finished, drink, eat, up, please, thank you (which they didn’t take to as well as the others) and the head nod and shake for ‘yes’ and ‘no’. We did change some of the actual signs as our children had difficulty making the gestures for some of the words. For example, we changed a two handed sign to a one handed sign and a sign which required fine motor skills to a simpler one. We found this worked well, because we all agreed to the new signs. Using toddler sign language has also been helpful as the children got older to act as a non-verbal reminder for them to use their manners while we are in company. It is especially handy if they are given a gift, we can subtly sign ‘thank-you’ to remind them to be gracious without saying, “Now say ‘Thank You’,” which we feel can sound condescending. While we found that baby sign language helped alleviate the frustrations we all felt while our children were learning to talk, it has also been entertaining. One of the first times our youngest used sign was when I found him eating the dog kibble. I pulled it out of his mouth, removed the bowl and said the customary, ‘No, Yucky’. He then followed me around the house signing, ‘More please,’ until he threw a tantrum in frustration.
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WORDS Devyani Borade
“Even before you return to actually working, stay in touch with the indust ry buzz”
‘I’m having a baby!’ I announced at work. After the initial
How to cope with a new world after a hiatus
wave of congratulations had subsided, conversation turned to the inevitable question. ‘Are you planning to return to work?’ asked my colleagues, some with amusement, others in tones more anxious. ‘I don’t really know at this point,’ was my truthful answer. What I did know was that it was going to be an important, serious and potential uncomfortable choice to make, and one that could be life-changing. A year later, as I neared the end of my maternity leave and the manic feeding-changing-sleeping frenzy settled into a regular and relaxed routine with my baby, I decided I wanted my old job back. I was looking forward to meeting colleagues and customers, and being part of all the action again. However, I knew it wasn’t going to be a smooth transition and I wasn’t wrong. Returning to work after a hiatus – be it parental leave, a long holiday or even a period of illness – is fraught with challenges. Sometimes it can feel exactly like starting a new job or joining an altogether different company! ‘What if I don’t fit in with the new team?’ ‘Am I dressed right?’ ‘Do I remember how to do my old job?’ The quandaries can be nerve-wracking.
THE WORLD HAS MOVED ON, YOU NEED TO CATCH UP The playing field changed when you weren’t looking. Colleagues who continued at work know about the hot trends, are aware of new industry ideas and concepts, and have developed new skills. Their personal worth and value has increased by virtue of these small incremental additions to their professional self. They sustain business continuity and know where the organisation stands today. You, on the other hand, are just back from a long break and have a lot of gaps to fill in. In such a situation, it is normal to feel a bit out-of-sorts to begin with. Old projects may have ended and new ones won, old clients may have left and new customers welcomed, even new co-workers’ faces may be peeping out from behind desks while the familiar mugs are nowhere to be seen. To get a grip on all that’s been going, especially if the break spanned several weeks or months, is a mammoth task and can easily feel overwhelming. Intuitively we know things aren’t going to be the same as we left them but the ability to handle changes can be acquired with a few simple adaptations.
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1. KEEP IN TOUCH
4. JUMP INTO THE DEEP END
Even before you return to actually working, stay in touch with the industry
There’s nothing like getting your hands dirty straightaway to get into the
buzz using social and traditional media. Keep up with the latest by reading
swing of things. The more you delay direct action, the more your mental
magazines, following leading experts on Twitter, Facebook or blog feeds,
block will grow, and so will the pile of demands on your plate. For example,
and participating in online forums and discussions. If you can manage it, an
answering phone calls is a great way to familiarise yourself quickly with the
occasional phone call, email message or social get-together with colleagues
current situation. To a customer asking for a status update, respond with
to know about any interesting developments can be a big stepping stone.
a polite ‘Let me check and get back to you’ and then follow-up with the
An easy way to stay abreast of the company gossip is to ask your network
concerned people personally. This will ensure that you are quickly brought
manager to set up an email distribution list containing the email addresses
into the loop of what’s happening.
of all employees or department/group of employees within the company, and then requesting colleagues to use this distribution list rather than personal email addresses to broadcast messages. This is a passive way to keep your finger on the pulse and can be done at your convenience. If you feel the need for it, go on a course or attend workshops and conferences to bring yourself up to date with current affairs. Remaining competitive is key.
2. GET ORGANISED On your first day back, arrange a formal meeting with your immediate supervisor and first come to terms with the most vital issues of the day by
5. TAKE BABY STEPS Break down large and complex tasks into smaller chunks of manageable doable work items. A task that looks insurmountable at first will become achievable when done in logical stages. Begin small.
6. BE DISCIPLINED Once you have your to-do list, make sure you stick to the deadlines and avoid distractions. No ‘just a quick refresh of my Inbox’ or ‘let me take that call’. Wear blinkers. Focus.
making a simple bullet-point list. Taking action on work items in decreasing
7. ASK FOR HELP
order of priority will help get the urgent matters out of the way and thus
Reaching out to people to get support is an effective method to get things
reduce stress. Using your best estimation or approximation skills based on
done. Direct questioning has long been regarded as the quickest way of
past experience of similar work and how long it took to complete, allocate
getting information. Just bear in mind that others have their own jobs to do
appropriate timelines to each issue. This will give you an idea of how you
and your interruptions could be unwelcome at times, so keep the queries to
should schedule the remainder of your day or week so that you are neither
a minimum unless absolutely essential.
overworked nor left idle. Eventually, discuss and chart out a personal development plan to know your career road-map ahead. If you know where you’re going, you’ll find it easier getting there.
3. BE OPEN TO CHANGE You may find that things are not done the way they used to be. Your organisation may have discovered a quicker, neater or more efficient way of accomplishing something and ask you to invest time and effort to learn and master it. It is understandable to feel a slight resistance or even dread or uncertainty over change. ‘What if I can’t do it? Will they not want me anymore?’ Remember that change is usually for the better. Change drives development and improvement. Unless they are trialing it, your company will have adopted
8. KEEP EVERYONE INFORMED Share what you are doing with your colleagues so that any potential for error is detected and flagged up sooner rather than later when it may have caused irreversible harm. Co-workers may have suggestions and tools to do a task more quickly or efficiently and can save you time and trouble.
9. REWARD YOURSELF IN SMALL WAYS As each item on your to-do list gets done, tick or strike it off. This helps you feel a sense of accomplishment and acts as an incentive to get more done. Work for a couple of hours with concentration and then take a break. Get some fresh air or make yourself a cup of tea. Remind yourself of your accomplishments in the past. You were a professional worker before and your skills have not deteriorated after a gap, they just need some polishing up.
the new method after due diligence and testing. It may have proven to
10. HAVE A CUPPA AND CHAT
work better than the traditional way. At the end of the day, whatever helps
In fact, even your coffee break need not go waste and can be put to good
the business to grow and thrive is what is required and the organisation’s
use by having an informal catch up with colleagues. This often throws up
collective goal should be in that direction for the benefit of everyone.
interesting tidbits of information that are easier to remember than digesting
So think positive. Give the new technique a chance. Even if you don’t
a five-page memo. The human brain retains more data when it is delivered
get it right the first time round, rest assured that there will be a second
in a relaxed dynamic atmosphere than in a tense volatile environment. Be
opportunity.
productive, and creative and make every minute count.
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Orange Rhino I never thought I was much of a yeller, however, I knew that I did become exasperated, irritated and short with my girls. What shocked me the most was when I heard the way my eldest speak to her friends. When things did not go her way as she played, I was horrified to hear the tone she used and wondered where she could have picked it up. Kindy? Music? Playgroup? I already knew the answer – me. I was hearing myself in her words!
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Enter the Orange Rhino, a mum of four boys who pledged to “be a mom who has the energy and determination to forge ahead and parent with more composure and warmth without yelling”. Her blog, www.theorangerhino. com, was started to keep herself accountable on her pledge to stop yelling at her boys and now aims to help parents with their responses to their children. While hers was yelling, other parents have pledged to change their “tone of voice, attitude and irritability”. The blog focuses on how to interact with children in a way that validates their need for attention and a parent’s need for sanity in order to be emotionally available. The Orange Rhino places an emphasis on balance. A parent’s need for “some time alone, some peace and quiet” is balanced with the reality that they also need to be available to care for the children “who are growing and changing before [their] eyes”. It sounded like something I wanted for myself. I started the challenge as school holidays began. By day three, I had still not managed to control my responses. I kept a journal and followed the Orange Rhino’s advice to track my triggers. I wrote down that mine are “fatigue, trying to juggle the needs of both children, and questions, questions and more endless questions asked for the sake of talking.” Day 4 In order to make our house more peaceful, I implemented a new rule: Do not yell through the house – only talk if you can see a face. So now I find myself yelling through the house, “Can you see my face?! Day 5 Really trying not to yell. Interactions with my oldest now go: “WILL YOU put your dress on now ... please?” I begin with a yell, force myself to modulate my voice and then tack a please on the end. By the time I get to the please, I am actually feeling more calm. Day 8 Finally made it through an entire day without yelling – I think! We were out all day, neither girl napped and I am exhausted, but we had so much fun. Day 11 Four days without yelling and now I’m back to square one. Two pulled the One’s hair and bit her on the trampoline. I had barely had any sleep, so my reactions have not been very consistent or calm and measured.
On the blog, one of the mums suggested having a system to implement so that you can see that even though you seem to be constantly on day one, you have had days without yelling. She has a jar and puts an orange bead in it for each day she goes without yelling. That way, when she ends up back at square one, she can see that she has had success and not be so hard on herself. Other tips on the site include alternatives to yelling, which covers fun alternatives, looking like a fool alternatives, bad parent alternatives (these made me feel better as she suggests sometimes putting the television on to give yourself a break), preventative alternatives and serious alternatives. Each section has options to choose from that can diffuse a situation, distract you and your children, or give you a break. The latest trend on the Facebook page is to take a photo of a situation when you are tempted to yell. Children in places they are not supposed to be, covered in who knows what have been posted for everyone’s enjoyment. The facebook page provides a supportive community for parents to vent, ask for advice and celebrate their achievements. At certain points, parents are encouraged to ‘toot their horns’. Everyone is invited to comment detailing one of their successes of the day or week. There are also daily tips for keeping you on track and the page has become my go-to during the day when I am feeling flustered. Day 18 Horrendous day and I yelled thanks to dog poop. Two was awake and crying at 2am, then woke up at 5am screaming for ‘bekky’ (breakfast) waking us all up. I took them to music and on the way in from the car told them to watch out for the dog poop I had just seen. Then they had to stop and inspect each blade of grass looking for poop rather than just stay on the concrete path and keep walking like I told them to. We were late, I was tired and I yelled. I yelled at them to stop looking for dog poop, stick to the path and HURRY UP! Other mums heard me. They were nice about it, but I felt beyond awful. Now it has been just over a week without yelling and I am finally seeing some success. I am trying to see my children, hear them and know them. They are worth that.
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I saw an increasingly common sight in a supermarket recently. A mother with a toddler was pushing a shopping trolley with a toddler while speaking on a mobile phone. Her son was trying to get her attention. “Mum! Mum!” he repeatedly yelled. Getting no reaction he started throwing the contents of the shopping trolley onto the floor. That was one way to get his mother’s attention! There’s been a lot written lately about the impact on communication technology on children and young people, particularly around the area of mobile phones, instant text messaging and cyber-safety. But parents’ use of such technology — and its effect on their offspring — is now becoming an equal source of concern to some child-development researchers. The concerns revolve the invasive nature of communication technology and its ability to distract parents from their kids. It’s not just in public places that technology takes parents away from children, laptops and other electronic devices are constantly turned on in many modern households. There is little research on how parents’ constant use of such technology affects children, but there is little doubt that oneon-one communication where parents talk and explain things to children, and respond to their questions is the basis of effective parenting, particularly in the early years. One five year US study found that children experienced feelings of hurt, jealousy and competitiveness when their parents paid attention to their devices rather than them. The kids were particularly indignant when parents were talking on mobiles during mealtimes, after school pickups and sports events. Children need to learn that they can’t have their parents’ attention all the time. There is a time for interacting with mum and dad, and there are times when parents need their own space and time. Getting this balance right has always been a parenting challenge, but it appears that communication technology is something new that parents and kids’ have to contend with. Working out how to integrate technology is a modern family issue, one that both parents and kids need to get their heads around. It’s worth remembering that
parents model all sorts of behaviours for kids, including how children use mobile phones, instant messaging and the Internet.
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Here are some suggestions if you communication technology constantly competes for your parenting attention: 1. Know who you are focusing on: Children grow up quickly so you have them their attention for such a short-time so smart parents make the most of their children’s early years. To do this you need to minimize outside distractions including mobile phones. Consider leaving phones behind, or turning them off when you are playing, reading or doing things specifically with your kids. 2. Put boundaries in place: Technology maybe available 24 hours a day but you and your kids don’t have to be tuned in all the time. Don’t bring mobiles to the dinner table, turn off computers well before bedtime and have text-free or twitter-free times. One mum, a selfconfessed ‘social media and text message addict’ put a ban on her own internet and mobile phone use between 4.00 to 8.30pm. Her children cheered when they found out. 3. Communicate your intentions: Give your kids a heads-up when you are
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with them and expecting a call from work or a friend. Let them know when an interruption is likely, but that you will return to them once you’ve answered the call. 4. Stick to time limits: “One more text message”, “Just 5 more minutes…. ” Sound familiar. These types of comments are as likely to come from parents as kids these days. If you can identify with these comments then set some times limits, and stick to them. Research into children’s language development shows that children develop a wider vocabulary when their parents talk
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For parents who work odd hours, shift and weekend work, and who don’t have family support, finding the appropriate care for their kids creates some real challenges. That is for those who haven’t met Erin Jenkins – a modern day ‘Mary Poppins’ and family day care worker. What drew you to Family Daycare and how does your business run? I love children and wanted to be able to work from home whilst looking after my own daughter. Family Daycare was perfect and it meant my daughter had friends to play with too! I find providing family day care so rewarding and enjoyable that even when my daughter started school I have continued to offer Family Daycare. Now, I have been providing in home care in Caravonica for almost two years for newborns to school age.
What is the premise behind Family Daycare? Family Daycare offers quality care in smaller groups within warm, comfortable and nurturing homes. Through play and intentional teaching, children can learn and develop at their own pace with loving care and support. I get to know the children well and they have the stability of having the same person with them every day who they can trust and feel safe with. The children in my care also get to spend time with other children within the Family Daycare community and we also spend time in nature and the wider community. We have been noticed many a morning riding our bikes along the Esplanade to have a picnic morning tea under a shady tree. We get messy and have fun! What qualifications/training are required to run a Family Daycare? In 2014, the qualification requirement changed and carers must now complete a Certificate 3 in Children’s Services to start a Family Daycare. Most Family Daycare educators in Cairns have completed a Certificate 3, as well as a Diploma/Advanced Diploma in Children’s services and have undertaken a training program prior to starting with the Coordination Unit. We also complete senior first aid, CPR, Asthma and Anaphylaxis training.
Our training is ongoing and we undertake professional development courses covering a wide range of topics including caring for children with additional needs.
What are the advantages of after-hours care with a Family Daycare provider? We not only provide before and after school care, but also evening, overnight, weekend, vacation and respite care. The wonderful thing about Family Daycare is that our hours are so flexible that we can fit with parents’ needs. We often pick children up from school or home and even take them to their extracurricular activities such as sports or dance classes. The children become part of our family and therefore benefit from the warmth, care and nurturing that exists within a family. We offer a ‘home from home’ environment that benefits both children and their parents. The children are able to relax or run around in the back yard. There is space to do homework and get help if they need it. Meals are provided if required and lots of fun is had. During the weekends and on school holidays, there are many activities and outings that cater for all ages. Being with children of all ages is more like being in a big family. It’s not just child care!
What hours are available to parents for after hours care? I provide 24 hour care. Children are here at all sorts of times, day and night, week days and on weekends. I have under school age children during the day and school age children before and after school and in school holidays. I also have children over night when their parents are working shifts or they simply need a night to themselves. Some children even stay with us for longer periods when their parents are sick or have to work away.
For more information, contact Family Daycare Cairns on 07 40321259 or Erin on 07 40392841 Spring 2013 Cairns Parenting Companion
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HOMEWORK Homework can strike fear into the heart of the most accomplished parents, at times leaving them feeling completely incapable of teaching their children. Only last week, my husband stormed around the house, hands in the air, claiming that he was “…not even smart enough to help with Prep homework!” After calming him down, I turned to help my Prep aged son with his homework sheet. He had to name the item pictured and then work out the end sound of that word a battle of the wills begun. Was the picture a bird or a parrot; a house or a home? When did Prep homework become so controversial? Surely I am not the only parent who has homework horrors…and my husband? Well, don’t mention homework to him, he has only just stopped rocking in the corner! Queensland state schools and many Independent and Catholic have their own homework policies and it does pay to ask your child’s teacher what their school policy is. This can be a helpful guide to parents. It should detail the amount of time spent on homework, letting you know if it is taking your little one (and maybe you too!) too long. Many educational experts argue the pros and cons of homework, I am not here to take either side, my advice is all about helping you and your child to navigate the homework years in the smoothest possible way. Here are my tips to avoid homework horrors…someone please pass this article along to my husband. BREATHE Keeping oxygenated is always the most important first step to helping your child with their homework. If you feel yourself getting agitated, annoyed, panicked or wanting to run away, just say to your little one, “…hmm I need to think
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about that one, give (insert name here) 5 minutes to think.” Walk away, calm down and come back to them with a happy smile. Thinking is a process and one that can take time, you have just given yourself a little breather and modelled to your child a thinking strategy that can often lead to clearer and more perceptive insights. Walking away from a question for a few minutes is not a bad thing. ASK A great way to help consolidate your child’s learning is to ask them to teach you how to complete a question or activity. If they can teach you, then it is another opportunity for them to transfer their current understanding to their long term memory. If they can’t tell you how to complete the task, that could be an indication that either they don’t know or don’t remember. If you do know how to complete the task, talk them through your way of doing it. Don’t hesitate on this. You can teach your child another way of completing questions, often we need to hear, see, or do a task in a variety of ways to get a ‘feel’ for what is needed. USE WHAT YOU HAVE ON HAND If your little one has to complete questions about money, then grab some coins and let them see the real thing. If your little one is working on single digit addition or subtraction then grab some things from the kitchen to help them count with concrete/real materials. It may help them to be active when working out a task. If you have older children, higher primary or secondary school, head to your preferred internet search engine. Start your search with “how to…” or use phrases such as “teaching primary students…” to help you with finding websites or video clips teaching how to complete questions or activities.
TALK Approach your child’s teacher either in person or email and let them know what your concerns are with your child’s homework. Teachers are happy to help you avoid homework horrors and to make it a much more enjoyable time for you and your child. If homework time is stressful for you and your child, it is very unlikely that any real learning consolidation will occur. Parents and teachers are partners in educating students, so start a conversation, ask for help, let them know if homework demands don’t fit your family schedule.
“Parents and teachers are part ners in educat in g students, so star t a conversation”
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At Axis Chiropractic our Chiro’ for Kids program can assist mums and their young ones with issues such as colic, reflux, breast-feeding difficulties, sleeping disturbances, recurrent ear infections, persistent sore throats, colds and bed wetting. We can also safely help pregnant women with low back, pain, sciatica, pelvic pain as well as reducing labour time and pain without drugs.
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Rent rather than buy with LOCAL Appliance Rentals. If you’re a little strapped for cash to outlay on a new fridge or computer for the kids, come and talk to Dee Masters at Local Appliance
Rentals found inside Kennedy’s Betta Home Living on McLeod Street. Dee is a mum herself so she understands the financial challenges families are currently facing.
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hatever you need, Dee will work out a rental finance plan so you don’t have to go without. And check out the possibilities: • Washers, dryers, fridges and freezers • Plasma & LED/LCD televisions • Home Theatre systems, DVD players and stereos • Furniture • Computers and ipads • Mobile Phones
• Bikes, play and fitness equipment • Trampolines • Lawnmowers and whipper snippers. In fact, ANYTHING you need, Dee can do. That is everything except cars. “My very first customer was a busy mum who wanted to rent an Embroidery Sewing Machine. She is now successfully running her own
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business from home, sewing beautiful original nappies for new and existing mums with babies of all sizes, and she personalises these nappies with amazing embroidery”, recounts Dee.
in the past, or have a bad credit rating from a previous finance agreement, renting is certainly the best option to take as your previous history is overlooked.
The rental term is a 2-year contract with a minimum of 12 months. The fortnightly payments also make it easy for customers to meet these payments.
We service: • The entire Cairns region • The Tablelands • Innisfail
Maybe you’ve had trouble receiving finance approval in the past. With Local Appliance Rentals virtually anyone can benefit from this service.
Found inside Kennedys Betta Home Living Showroom:
And the benefits of renting rather than buying really stack up.
P: 0488 65 64 65
With a rental, you have the flexibility of holding onto your money and getting payment deductions through your Centrepay benefit either weekly or fortnightly. Or if you are employed, payments can be deducted directly from your salary. If you have been declined for finance
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Our Party Planner comes complete with suggestions of venues, caterers and entertainers but no party is complete without some party games.
Pass the Parcel You need: newspaper or wrapping paper, small gifts to equal the amount of kids playing, music. Buy as many small gifts as there are kids coming to the party (and maybe a few extras) and wrap each gift in separate layers. Make sure each layer is easily opened. Sit the kids around in a circle, turn on the music and get them to pass to each other the parcel. When the music stops the person holding the parcel gets to unwrap one layer. Repeat this until there is no layers or parcel left. Idea: Have only one present (the final one) wrapped in a parcel which is given to the person who unwraps the last layer. Instead of gifts for each layer, kids must take an item of clothing from the dress up pile in the centre of the circle. Try funny hats, wigs etc.
Treasure Hunt You need: printouts, colouring station with pencils/crayons, treasure hunt items, prizes. Have some printouts ready for the kids to colour in, which is a picture of the item they need to find. Include a number next to the image. That then becomes how many of those items they need to find in the treasure hunt. Idea: You can also give an award to the best colouring in and the quickest to find his/her item in the treasure hunt.
Musical Chairs You need: chairs, Music, One prize. Set up chairs in 2 rows, back to back. There must be one less chair to the total number of kids playing. Turn on some lively music and get the kids to walk about the chairs until the music stops, at which point everyone must find a seat. The person left without a chair, is out of the game. One chair is removed at each round until there is only one person left in a chair who is deemed the winner.
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Idea: If you don’t have enough chairs try playing musical statues instead, the kids stop moving when the music stops.
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A mixed bag of facepainters, singers, musicians even animals and art. These ones will keep your partygoers ENTERTAINED!
the doyle family fun show Interactive music, fun and entertainment for the whole family
Birthdays, school shows, kindy’s, festivals, fetes & events Call Terry on 0418 712 906 • info@doylee.com • www.doylee.com
Take the fuss out of your child’s next party with crazybron’s high energy entertainment. Offering face painting, balloon sculpting and loads of party games. Crazybron’s party fun will leave your children buzzing with excitement.
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Face Painting for Children & Adults, Events, Parties, Shopping Centres, Corporate, Functions
There are lots of options at very reasonable rates. The choice is yours.
Face Painting & Creative Celebrations Stacey O’Brien as”SPARKLE”& other funky characters. Face Painting and Funky Art & Crafts. Servicing Cairns to the Tablelands & across FNQ with family and children’s entertainment.
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VENUES
Inside or outside, the Far North has some awesome places to host your next party! Here’s a few we recommend.
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Kids Disco Parties every Sunday 3.30 - 6pm
Dancing, games, music, prizes, food & fun! For 3 to 12 year olds with crazy hosts & disco DJ's
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Muddy’s makes parties easy! Bring your balloons and we’ll organise the rest! Kids Party Platters available, from $8 per child. muddyscafe@gmail.com
Phone: 4051 0388 174 ESPLANADE • CAIRNS
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Cakes Annietime! No matter what the occasion, a children’s party or a grown up birthday bash, there is a ‘Cakes Annietime’ cake to help you celebrate. A wide range of flavours available and gluten free.
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We have everything you’ll need to make your party look amazing! Beautiful Balloons, Licensed Party Packs, Hanging Decorations, Disposable Tableware, Helium Cylinder Hire and more. You’ll even get service with a smile, every time!
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MAKE a Rhyming Critter
Cut out a small window on the front left of your glad wrap roll, cut a slot on either side for your letter slider, and fold down the top to make two ears. Cut a strip of board to fit through your slot as your letter slider. In light pencil print the letters B C F H M P R S onto the strip. Step 1 Children paint their critter. Step 2 While their critter is drying children can trace their letters. Step 3 Children paste on googly eyes and decorate their critter. When dry print the letters “at� to the right of the window and slide the letter strip through the slots to form various words as you slide it across.
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Evidence has been found of Reflexology being used in ancient civilisations as long ago as 4000 years BC. Paintings in a tomb in Egypt depicts people working on each other’s feet and there is some evidence that the art of Reflexology was also practiced in China and India as well as by the North American Indians. Modern day Reflexology is based on these ancient techniques.
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How does it work? Eunice Ingham conducted research on the effects of Reflexology on thousands of people over a 40-year period, which allowed her to map reflexes on the feet that correspond to each part of the body, including organs and glands. Working the feet stimulates blood flow and nerve endings, of which there are more than 7200 in each foot. MRI research has also shown that Reflexology applied to a specific part of the foot activated the reflected area in the brain.
How does it feel? People often ask if Reflexology is ticklish, or even painful. It is very rare that feet are ticklish under the firm but gentle pressure used to work the reflexes. Painful reflexes can occur when there is an imbalance in the body, but in the instances when it is too much to bear, the hands and face can be worked instead, with great results. Benefits of Reflexology The main aim of Reflexology is to induce a state of deep relaxation in which both body and mind are receptive to healing.
During Foot Reflexology the feet tell the body’s story and working them assists many conditions. These include constipation, bronchitis, neck pain, headache, fertility issues and many more. Closer to the brain, Facial Reflexology is also very beneficial and has been linked to helping neurological problems such as Parkinson’s, learning difficulties, multiple sclerosis, autism and metabolism. The various body systems such as the digestive, reproductive and urinary systems also benefit, as do the muscles and joints.
From the cradle to the grave Reflexology is safe and beneficial for all ages, from babies to the elderly, for pregnant women and those undergoing chemotherapy or surgery. Reflexology is a great adjunct and complementary therapy alongside conventional medicine.
requirements for effective conception. I have seen clients better prepared physically and mentally throughout the different processes involved in undergoing IVF through the use of Reflexology.
Mum-to-Be Reflexology balances hormones, which may alleviate morning sickness and postnatal depression, as well as relieving moderate oedema, symphysis pubis pain, lower back pain, cramps in the legs, mood swings, (gestational) diabetes, and constipation.
Baby Reflexology enables an optimum flow of blood and nutrients through the placenta. Babies also pick up on a relaxed and well Mum-to-Be. Generally ‘Reflexology babies’ are happier and more content. Techniques can be learned to help your baby with colic, sleep problems and reflux. regular Reflexology treatments during pregnancy helps a high percentage of women to have an easier and shorter labour and can be used, when past the due date, as an induction method to support Mum and baby.
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Post natal Reflexology supports body, mind and spirit returning to a non-pregnant state. It also helps with breastfeeding. Reflexology supports body and mind to make you healthier and happier. It is both preventative and healing. Dealing with day-to-day issues is easier and increased blood flow carries more oxygen and nutrients to every cell. Benefits also last beyond the treatment.
Locally Anne Hilarius Ford Reflexology offers: Foot Mobilization gentle mobilization of the bones in the feet restores mobility and function and reduces pain in stiff joints and associated tissue.
Clinical Aromatherapy using medicinal
body so it is beneficial for both women and men to receive treatments prior to conceiving. Stress puts the body in fight and flight mode, effectively slowing down the reproductive system. Reflexology reduces stress, removes emotional blocks to conception, balances hormones, regulates menstrual cycles and can help stimulate ovulation.
quality essential oils, blends are tailor made. Available for stretch mark prevention, sleep blends, nappy rash, cradle cap, teething, colds and natural hand sanitizers.
hormonal balance, which are important
Our kid friendly service includes educating children, installing healthy oral habits and most of all, ensuring their dental visit is a positive experience.
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At Perfect Teeth our dentist’s and therapist strive to provide excellent dental care for the whole family.
Reiki a natural healing energy that supports healing on the physical, mental, spiritual and emotional levels. Reiki level 1 is taught over 2 days and the energy is then always with you and it benefits the whole family. Spring 2013 Cairns Parenting Companion
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Check out 53 Shades of Chocolate! Co writer Kim Morrison is a professional health and lifestyle educator with over twenty five years experience in the health, fitness and beauty industries. A world leader and master in her field, she embraces aromatherapy alongside tactile therapies, homeo-botanical therapy, fitness consulting and personal training. www.likechocolateforwomen.com
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IMPORTANCE
Belonging
We all need to feel like we have a place where we belong. In fact, the need to belong is a primary human necessity embedded in our very DNA. This deep-seated need transcends all cultures and is reflected in all communities throughout the world. We’ve all heard the slogan “it takes a village to raise a child”. This motto implies that the child is at the heart of the community and that community reinforces the child’s sense of belonging, identity and connectedness.
Social psychologists have been studying our need for belonging for well over a century and one of the most famous studies on this subject was conducted in 1943 by Abraham Maslow who proposed that the need to belong was one of the five basic needs, required alongside physiological needs like food and sleep. In fact, it has become clear that the need to belong has a strong impact on people’s cognitions, emotions and behaviours and a chronically unmet need has many negative consequences that can profoundly affect an individual’s life. This is one of the reasons people seek to spend time with other individuals, which helps create a community. A recent article in KidsMatter, an Australian mental health and wellbeing initiative, confirms that a sense of belonging protects children against mental health problems and improves their learning. Children who feel they belong are happier, more relaxed and have fewer behavioural problems than others. They are also more motivated and successful learners. Not only does a sense of belonging improve a
child’s ability to learn, but it increases their skills in developing relationships. When children feel included, they are able to develop a sense of pride in who they are which helps build positive self- esteem. All children need to feel that their world is a safe place where people care about them, where their needs for support, respect and friendships are met and where they are able to get help working out any problems. When these needs are met, children develop a sense of belonging. Just like children, we adults need a place where people care about us, a place where we feel safe telling our troubles and woes and where we can get help working through a problem. From babyhood we learn that belonging feels safe and good and so we seek it out later in life, trying to re-capture it by surrounding ourselves with feelings of belonging to family groups, friendship groups and wider community groups. We’ve evolved to secrete neurochemicals like oxytocin which makes being together feel good, triggering feelings of happiness and love. Even if you’re not surrounded by extended family, you can still create a ‘village atmosphere’ for your child by engaging with your local community. Whether it’s partaking in playgroups, organised games in the park, community events or your child’s school, you can help reinforce your child’s belonging, identity and connectedness.
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in recent years. St Mary’s has always been
asked Mr Webb to tell us about his
a happy place and its many past students,
experience of teaching.
some now grandparents themselves, have
“My teaching career began in Brisbane
fond memories of their high school years.
in 1971 then I taught in Townsville and
As the school has grown it has naturally
Thursday Island in 1972 and moved to
become a less personal place. It is still a
Cairns in 1975. I taught in a couple of
great place to work, but I do miss the “old
schools for 15 years until December 1985.
days”.
I began as a Health and Physical
Advancing technology has changed
Education and Maths teacher at St Mary’s
St Mary’s too. Mobile phones, ipads and
Catholic College, Woree, which opened in
social media are such an important part
1986 with 40 Year 9 students and 90 Year
of the lives of teenage students today,
8 students. On the very first day, I arrived
creating teaching challenges. Teaching
at school a little late and rather tired, but
the importance of order and discipline in
elated, after my wife and I welcomed our
all areas of life is also a challenge.
youngest daughter, Diana, into our world at 1.30am that morning.
The most enjoyable things about teaching include sharing the successes
Over the last 27 years I have continued
and achievements of my students and
to teach at St Mary’s. For the first six years,
feeling that I may have contributed in
St Mary’s was very much a family place. I
some small way to these. I also enjoy
taught every student and their brothers
catching up with my past students,
and sisters. I knew all their parents and
some of whom are now 50 years old,
there were lots of school community
and learning of their successes and
activities and working bees where
achievements and struggles. Encouraging
everyone was involved.
and supporting students at times when
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Saving for your dream holiday can be overwhelming. The budgeting, check-lists and organising to turn your daydreams of white sandy beaches or snow covered mountains into a reality can seem endless. But there are a few crucial tips that can turn your holiday dream into the holiday of a lifetime. 1. Make up your mind. It’s okay to daydream, but you have to put your feet in the ground. Do you have a dream vacation spot in mind? Will you get there by bus, train, car or plane? You have to decide where you want to go to have an idea of the money you need to spend. A holiday to one of the hidden beaches in Cancun, Mexico will cost approximately $3,000 for a return ticket each, and accommodation will cost around $200 per night in a 4 star hotel. Having these figures in mind will help you have a savings goal. 2. Write a plan. It’s very important to write a holiday plan. Use a notebook, smartphone, iPad or computer. Write down the days you wish to travel; where you’ll have breakfast, lunch and dinner; and if you’re taking any tours. Sticking to a plan is a great to stop you spending more than you have. You can then do some research so you can get the exact costs. 3. Create a daily, weekly or monthly budget. Focus on a Budget Planner. Sit down with your partner and discuss how much money is left in your pocket once you’ve paid your bills and daily expenses (groceries, extra-curricular activities, etc.) Then start creating a budget specifically for your dream vacation. This will give you a realistic scenario and you’ll have time to change your plan if it’s too expensive for your budget. There are several budget planners available, but make sure you include your pay, your partner’s pay, current savings and bonuses. 4. Don’t mix apples with oranges. Open a high interest savings account with a great introductory rate and refer to it as your ‘Vacation Fund’. Don’t take any money out and make sure you deposit regularly. By opening a new bank account separate from those you already
have, you won’t be mixing apples with oranges and you’ll be able to see exactly how much you have for your holiday. 5. Paying off your debt goes a long way. Keeping up with your credit cards may be quite a hassle, but before going on your dream holiday, be sure you’ve paid most of them off. This leaves you with more spending money, or an emergency fund while you are overseas. If you down on credit spending, you’ll also save on interest rates. For example say you have a credit card interest of $2000, your monthly payment is around $200, which is equal to dinner plus drinks for two in a boutique restaurant in the Riviera Maya. 6. Dine in, not out. Instead of going out for dinner or out to the movies, think it through and stay in. Make dinner instead. Try a new recipe and rent a DVD, or have a games night with your kids. That could equal $100 for your holiday. 7. Don’t overspend on small stuff. When shopping, make sure you have a list and stick to it. Shopping without a list makes it too easy to impulse buy. Also, do your grocery shopping after you’ve eaten, so you don’t add anything extra to your cart. 8. Don’t shop until you drop. Forget about those shoes you saw in the store last week, they can wait. Think about your vacation when the craving for retail therapy arises. You don’t want money going on shoes instead of margaritas and breathtaking sunsets on the beach. 9. Keep birthdays and important dates simple. There are some important dates when people over indulge. Do you really need a big party to celebrate a special occasion or birthday? Maybe a family gathering or a picnic would be just as fun? 10. Keep Track on Your App. There are several ways to keep track of the money spent on daily expenses and your holiday savings account. One of the easiest and most tech savvy ways is using apps like Trackmyspend from the Itunes store. These tips and some organisation can make your daydream a holiday of a lifetime.
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ART WORKSHOPS FOR KIDS
Come on a dramatic adventure these school holidays as participants create their own unique character or take on their favourite film/tv/storybook character and bring them to life on the stage with lights, sound, projections, costumes and props! Term programs also available.
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Kids of all ages will engage with art an d enjoy hands-on ac tivities during the Cairns Regional Ga llery School Holid ay Workshops. Children enjoy a variety of art making techniques and are encourage d to use their imaginatio n in these fun works hops, guided by artists an d art educators.
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5TH ANNUAL MISSION EVOLVE MUSIC FESTIVAL 4 - 6th October, 2013 at Dundee Park, South Maria Creek Close at Mission Beach. Live bands, youth & kids Festival, circus, evolving jam stage, DJ’s, market stalls, workshops, food and licensed bar. Camping available! Kids under 14 FREE.
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CRAFT & SEWING ACTIVITIES GJ Creations will
keep the kids busy these school holidays! Ma ke your own robo t, jeweller y (boys & girls), recipe book , dolls, card makin g & more. There are two activ ities especially for Unde r 8’s (adult supervision required). Morning and Af ter noon sessions available.
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KIDS SKI CLUB
Cable Ski Cairns is running a school holiday kids club for ages 6 - 12yo. Sessions run from 8.30-10am on Monday, Wednesday and Friday both weeks of the school holiday. Cost is $31 per session and all equipment is provided.
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Tips for
Heather MyDesigner
Grant MyBuilder
Building a home that will grow with your family WORDS Grant Hartwig and Heather Ghidella
Building a home can seem daunting, especially considering it may be your family’s ‘home for life’. Ease your mind with the following tips from a trusted local family builder, MyStyle Homes.
What to look out for when building a home:
Your budget should also include legal fees,
Build for long term energy efficiency that
the cost of the land, rates and taxes, stamp
includes solar orientation of your home,
duty, site works, landscaping and moving
your home design, layout and insulation.
expenses. Always allow for an extra 15% to
BUILDER’S REPUTATIONS
cover unplanned additional expenses.
Once you have a list of builders your next
HEATHER’S DESIGN TIPS:
step is to research potential builders, their
1 Style is a way of expressing who you are. It’s
GRANT’S BUILDING TIPS: 1. Local quality control. Be assured that each and every person involved in the building process is highly skilled and qualified and only use local, quality suppliers’ products and appliances from brands that you know and trust. This makes it easy for you to select
reputations and the quality of their work.
about timeless designs, the right balance of
fittings that reflect your style, plus enjoy
Contact the BSA (Building Services Authority,
colour and texture, and while incorporating
prompt local warranty service should the
www.bsa.qld.gov.au) and even visit homes
the personal elements that are most
need arise.
and talk with the owners. A reputable builder
important to you. Your family home is an
with satisfied customers should have no
inherent part of how you represent your
maintenance materials to add long term
problem in providing contact information of
personal style – from the layout of your
value to your home. Avoid the hassle
recent customers who are willing to talk to
home and the design of each room to the
of jumping up on your roof every 9
you.
artwork on your walls and the activities you
months maintaining your timber feature
Ask about the following:
enjoy. So think about what your style is and
by investing in wood grain coloured
make sure it stands the test of time.
aluminium slats.
• Quality of the finishes including cabinetry, paint and trim • Quality of the type of construction
2. Flexibility is the key! Try to connect your living areas, such as media rooms, lounge rooms, study nooks and the alfresco in
• Style of design
creative ways so that everyone is together
When choosing a builder, make sure you
to create a flow through your home.
understand what is or isn’t included in the
3. Keep the views of the play areas
2. Building Materials. Use quality, low
3. Make sure your house and land work together. Start looking at available land and home designs at the same time. You don’t want to buy a block of land only to discover your dream home will not fit. Similarly, you don’t want to fall in love with a design that
price. Have everything in writing, including
unrestricted, especially if small children
features such as niches, feature ceilings,
will use the area. Play equipment should
driveways, fencing and landscaping.
never be placed on hard surfaces, including
Take time to think about your budget, trying
grass, which can quickly turn to hard
to include features that hold their value and
earth in areas of high traffic. Plan for quiet
save you money, such as designs that use
retreats for mum and dad, private spaces
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can’t be built on your chosen block of land. Don’t hesitate to ask questions. Your family home is probably going to be the biggest investment you are likely to make!
Home Finance
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WORDS Gus Soper
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No one size fits all!
Buying or building a home is a huge financial commitment and is not, for most, done on a whim. In this age of technology and access to information, it could be expected that choosing a bank to help pay for a small piece of paradise would be easy. Unfortunately, from my experience, this is not the case. What we actually have now is an information overload resulting in masses of misleading data to sort through that has the potential to blur our decision-making. Having the right home loan that is set up correctly is hugely important and can save thousands of dollars over the life of the loan. However, there is no one size fits all approach, so if you are looking for some clarity when buying, building or refinancing properties, it is often a good idea to make an appointment with a mortgage broker to get professional advice on loan products that will suit your circumstances. Once you have made an appointment, bring in your questions and internet research so that the broker can help you decide whether what you think might be a good loan option, really is. Having been a mortgage broker for some time, I am frequently asked a number of questions relating to home loans. Q. Can we still claim the First Home Owner’s Grant of $7,000? A. No. Sadly this offer has ended, but stamp duty concession is still available for eligible buyers, which provides some benefits. There is, however, a $15000 grant available for first home buyers looking to build or buy a brand new property that has never been lived in. Q. My own bank has said no! Does that mean everyone will?
A. No. Usually there is always someone who will help. When your application was rejected, your bank should have advised you of why they can’t help. The good news is that all lenders have slightly different policies, so we will find a solution that works. Q. What is the minimum deposit required to buy a home? A. 5% is the minimum expected by most banks and must be saved over a period of at least 3 months. Of course, more is always better. Q. Can my parents help me buy a home? A. Yes. Some lenders offer family guarantees that may make it possible to enter the market sooner, especially if saving the deposit is taking too long. Q What’s better, a fixed or variable interest rate? A. The answer to that will relate to your personal circumstances. There are many more questions that brokers are asked on a daily basis, some you may not have thought of yourself, so it really is a good idea to have a chat before making any decisions that could potentially affect you for the next 30 years. For more information, or to book your own appointment for professional mortgage advice, phone Gus on 0400 636 953.
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Hyperemesis What happens when your baby makes you sick?
WORDS Alexandra McLaren
Nine months ago the condition of Hyperemesis Gravidarum (HG) gained worldwide attention when pregnant Princess Kate was admitted to hospital after a severe bout of nausea and vomiting which was later diagnosed as Hyperemesis Gravidarum or HG. Author Charlotte Bronte died from the complications of HG and Cairns mum, Karen Hall knows all too well the impact the sickness has on the lives and health of otherwise young, fit and healthy pregnant mothers. The vomiting and nausea during pregnancy is often attributed to morning sickness during pregnancy; however hyperemesis affects about 0.5 to 2 per cent of pregnant women and is diagnosed when the mother starts to lose weight and is unable to tolerate any food at all. Falling pregnant was the easiest part of pregnancy for Karen, who has been down the devastating HG road three times and has successfully managed to avoid it in her current pregnancy. Karen’s first pregnancy was in 2008 when at five and a half weeks pregnant she experienced constant vomiting and dehydration with low urine output as a result. “I was at work when one of my colleagues noticed how unwell I was looking. I was admitted to the hospital straight away and I had intravenous (IV) fluids overnight and then Dr Kiesey-Calding made the diagnosis the following day,” Karen said. “I was in hospital from 11 weeks until I lost the baby at 20 weeks.”
Then, in 2010 Karen fell pregnant with her daughter Isabelle and it was apparent very early in the pregnancy that she was going to suffer again with HG. “This time I went into hospital at eight weeks and was discharged at 24 weeks when Dr Kiesey-Calding was satisfied that I could tolerate enough food to sustain both Isabelle and me.” Cairns obstetrician and gynaecologist Dr Natalie Kiesey-Calding said the most obvious feature of HG is the “vomiting, vomiting, vomiting! Diagnosis is not always straight forward as there is a grey area from ‘just morning sickness’ to Hyperemesis Gravidarum. A recent survey was taken of clinicians across Australia to get a consensus for a diagnosis but the doctor needs to also exclude other reasons for the vomiting such as a urinary tract infection, cholecystitis (inflammation of the gall bladder) or migraines which can all make you very sick. “Classically, the symptoms of HG show at around seven weeks until about 15-16 weeks. In severe cases, the symptoms can be present throughout the entire pregnancy.” Fortunately, for Karen, the vomiting eventually passed but not without leaving its mark. “Each pregnancy I have had a special IV line inserted in my arm for fluids and I become hypersensitive to light. I’m very restless, I lose my appetite and my eyesight is temporarily affected from the medication. According to Dr Kiesey-Calding, the majority of women who have suffered from HG with their first pregnancy will experience it again in subsequent pregnancies and it is not uncommon for these women and their partners to make the choice to be a one child family.
For those women who are predisposed to HG and who make the decision to have more children, Dr Kiesey-Calding recommends seeing a good dietician to optimise their diet as part of the overall treatment. “The most important issue for the mother is that the symptoms are taken seriously by a clinician and that the mother is not made to feel that she should just soldier on and get over the “morning sickness”. Treatment options are highly individualised and can range from wafers that prevent vomiting to medication that stop the secretion of gastric acid into the stomach. However, there is very little that can be done to prevent HG completely so it is most important that mothers receive both the emotional support and treatment for the symptoms of dehydration. After deliberating over whether to be a one child family or try again for a second baby, Karen is now well and truly past the half way mark, and is looking and feeling better than in any of her other pregnancies due to her current medication regimen. “This is my fourth pregnancy and it was going to be my last time due to the toll that the HG has had on my body, both physically and emotionally,” Karen said.
HYPEREMESIS GRAVIDARUM FACTS • In the past women have died from dehydration as a result from HG • Often HG is worse with twins • Women with HG experience difficulty in keeping down the recommended dose of folic acid, increasing the risk of spina bifida.
Patients with private health insurance who require treatment for Hyperemesis Gravidarum will have the benefit of a multidisciplinary team approach to their care at the Cairns Private Hospital’s Women’s Unit. To book to have your baby at the Cairns Private Hospital, complete an online booking at www.cairnsph.com.au/ Maternity/preadmission.aspx or contact a midwife on 4052 5303 Monday to Friday 9am to 4pm.
PICTURED Obstetrician/Gynaecologist Dr Natalie KieseyCalding and Cairns mum and patient Karen Hall.
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K i nd n ess Random acts of
Never underestimate what those small acts can do...
Some days you wake up feeling flat and dejected. Other times, it seems that the entire universe is against you. The car keys are mysteriously missing, the handle on the nappy bag breaks the moment you pick up your toddler to get in the car and when you bend down to pick up the randomness that is now rolling around your driveway, you notice that your car has a flat tyre.
But when you finally make it to your destination, a stranger offers you a smile or tells you that your outfit looks nice and you instantly feel better. Random acts of kindness could be a comment, a kind gesture or even a donation, but we should never underestimate what those moments can do for a complete stranger. While most of us have the occasional bad day, there are times when life deals someone a hand that leaves them reeling and their future uncertain, like it did for Edge Hill resident and mother of two, Melissa Rennings. Melissa was in remission after battling breast cancer in 2012, but on the 27th of July, she was told scans had shown three brain tumours, which were likely to be incurable and inoperable.“When they told me about the tumours I was in shock, numb. I felt like the wind was knocked out me. What more could we go through?!”
Although her prognosis is bleak,
renowned Sydney neurosurgeon Charlie Teo has decided that brain surgery might be an option, but with a price tag of between $80,000 and $100,000, which Melissa now needs to raise. CPC’s very own Bec Waqanikalou saw Melissa’s story on Facebook and leapt into action. Despite never having met Melissa, she organised practical help for the family including meals, housekeeping and a wheelchair, given that the tumours place pressure on nerves which makes walking impossible. A website was created and fundraising began for Melissa’s treatment with many locals, mostly strangers, offering to donate their services and money to
PHOTOS Natalie Turner Stella Studios
Melissa Rennings Appeal
WE NEED YOUR SUPPORT! Visit the website for information on events, updates and how you
ceremony for Melissa and her husband
can help! And please Like the FB Page www.facebook.com/
Jonas was even organised along with a
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Melissa’s cause. A heartfelt vow renewal
stay at Ferntree Lodge in the Daintree. Bec maintains that random acts of kindness have far reaching consequences and if you have anything to give, giving to someone who needs it makes the world a better place, even if you have never actually met them. Random acts of kindness can change someone’s life, not just lift their mood.
Please DONATE to her Appeal at an y Suncorp Bank Account: Melissa Rennings Appe al BSB: 484 799 Acc: 509 090 93 2
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Cairns Early Years Centre & Kindergarten We offer free services for all families with young children pre-birth to 8 years old living in South Cairns. The Cairns Early Years Centre is run by The Benevolent Society, Australia’s first charity-Celebrating 200 years. Some activities we are running are: • • • • • • • • •
Drop-in Child Health Clinics Play & Grow playgroups—at a number of family friendly locations. Infant Massage Singing and Rhyming Parenting Programs Play ideas and information for parents Kindergarten (at a very reasonable cost) Connect to Kindergarten programs Toys and reading activities to loan and practice at home
Please contact or drop into our centre for more informationor support T: 07 4034 6800 E: Cairns.EarlyYearsCentre@benevolent.org.au www.earlyyearscentre.org.au Cairns Early Years Centre Northern end of Bentley Park College Just off Borrowdale Close via McLaughlin Road Bentley Park Qld 4869
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We run playgroups in the areas marked on the map... Gordonvale
Nasties The
A FILTHY FAN AREA
CLEAN FAN AREA
in your Aircon WORDS Clay Hawker - HydroKleen
When most parents think of their air conditioners, they think of a nice whitegood appliance that sits on the wall and blows cool air. It is generally assumed that cleaning the filters and giving the exterior surface a wipe every now and then is all that is required to maintain the units. This misconception can actually be causing harm to anyone breathing in the air from a contaminated air conditioner.
a number of harmful contaminants. These include mould, mildew, dead skin, dust, rotting animal and insect matter, sludge, and all kinds of bacteria, including Listeria.
Australian building standards and manufacturer warrantees specify that air conditioners should be serviced and cleaned each year, but most people won’t have their units serviced and cleaned properly until it starts smelling putrid, leaking water or not working properly. This is mostly due to a simple lack of awareness. If people knew what was actually living and growing inside their air conditioners, they would think again. After just months of operating, a range of airborne particles and spores will settle into the air conditioner. Insects and small animals such as geckos and mice are also happy to make themselves at home inside air conditioning units. A humid climate, darkness, moisture and confined space also create the perfect breeding environment for bacteria and fungus. All of this means the air conditioner unit begins harbouring
With the addition of potentially making your family sick, the following issues are also worth considering: • Increased allergies –airborne spores and particles are circulated through your home. • Foul odours from any of the many growing or rotting contaminants, including the build-up of mould and sludge also circulate throughout your home. • Increased mould colonisation occurs throughout the home. • Increased power bill - a dirty air conditioner uses more power.
regular basis. Australian standards suggest that the correct frequency is once per year, although this may vary depending on how many hours the units are on, what settings are used and the environment in which they operate. In order to ensure your air conditioner is cleaned properly, there are a few things to be aware of. The main internal components that are required to be cleaned are the fan and fan area, the front and rear coils, and the drainage system. The only way to clean all three of these areas properly is to use a wetwash system. This involves using water and compressed air to flush the unit. However, many technicians simply spray a corrosive chemical onto the coil that can also erode the unit itself. If you are in any doubt about whether or not your air conditioners need a proper clean, try the following steps. 1. Make sure your air con is turned off
• Decreased capacity – a dirty air conditioner does not operate efficiently
2. Carefully open the horizontal louvres with your fingers.
• Reduced lifespan – a dirty air conditioner breaks down much quicker than a clean, well-maintained air conditioner.
3. Shine a torch up inside and try to find the fan barrel.
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After having her first child, Clare-Marie Nielsen decided to leave her job to become a one-income family. CPC will be following Clare as she sets herself a series of challenges to adjust to her new lifestyle.
Challenge 3
My quest for simple living Follow Clare’s blog at :
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My six months of living sensibly have come to an end, and I am once again free to spend my money as I see fit. Against all the odds, however, I’ve found myself sticking with my new, more frugal way of life. It’s not that I haven’t tried to start spending again. I’ve been round the shops on the lookout for a dress and a pair of winter boots, but to no avail. For some reason my new habits are dying hard. It would seem that over the past six months there has been a shift in my priorities, and I have an idea that this has happened
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partly due to my exposure to the phenomenon of ‘simple living’. I came across the idea of ‘simple living’ during my daily internet trawl for thrifty tips to help me through my six months of not spending. It appears that an increasing numbers of families are moving towards a more simple and straightforward way of life that emphasises thriftiness, the home, and quality time spent with family and friends over top careers, expensive possessions and fashion. The principle of simple living suggests that rather than working to pay off loans for ‘must have’ items, we should look at our lives and re-assess what it is that truly brings us joy. If we are not happy with our lives, our jobs, or our work-life balance, we are encouraged to take a step back and make changes. ‘Simple living’ is nothing new. In fact, it is more or less a return to the way of living enjoyed by families in years gone by. It places emphasis on saving and paying off debt, becoming more homecentred, making things from scratch, and growing and cooking our own produce. Simple living also encourages us to take time to bring up our children
in a way which helps them to appreciate a slower way of life in contrast to the instant gratification they are increasingly growing to expect. According to the principles of simple living, an activity such as helping the kids to cook a cake from scratch brings a variety of benefits to our families. It encourages us to spend time together, teaches our children skills and creativity, and encourages a sense of pride, accomplishment and delayed gratification, which cannot be purchased in a hurried frenzy during a stressful trip to the supermarket. As my family grows, I am becoming increasingly aware of what I want for myself and for them. I want to spend time with my kids whilst they are still at home. I want a fulfilling job that doesn’t take over my life and I want us to spend our summers pottering about together. I want my kids to know where their food comes from, and to be able to enjoy the freedom from the dissatisfaction caused by the constant need for new possessions and instant gratification. I know that this is all very idealistic, but I do believe that it is something that we as a family can achieve.
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when looking at the fund’s ability to pay its liabilities as and when they fall due. But some of you might want to do it yourself. After all, it is this control that lead you to setting up an SMSF in the first place. So where do you start? When formulating an investment strategy, the best place to start is to look at your goals. For example, if both of you are in your thirties and will be making regular contributions for a long time, your goals will be different to someone who is in their sixties and thinking of starting a pension soon. A younger person might be investing in growth assets because they can withstand market fluctuations more than a person currently living on the income from their investments. From there, you can look at how much money will be going in to the fund each year and how much is going out. Then take a look at the annual expenses of the fund. This will include things like accounting fees, financial planner fees, tax, etc. Most funds in accumulation phase don’t have big expenses and they can usually be met with contributions. But, if you have, say, a property with a loan, you need to consider how you are going to meet all of those expenses and loan repayments when you might only have rent and some contributions coming in. You certainly don’t need to demonstrate that you have made the right decisions. Even professional fund managers occasionally get it wrong. You merely need to show that you have thought about the issues before deciding in what to invest. And, of course, the only way to do this is to put the investment strategy in writing and mention how you have considered each of the issues.
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Silent Integrity is a not for profit organisation, and our based belief is for services to humanity, we are not politically or religiously undertaking these services. our services are based on a humanitarian cause. To infiltrate and eradicate human trafficking.
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Dear Dave
new phenomenon or fad, like Gangnam
My five–year-old son doesn’t like using
Style, that comes and goes quicker than
the toilet and will pee in the garden
a Campbell Newman election promise,
given the opportunity. It’s become
it’s in our DNA.
embarrassing, especially when we go
Bottom line, Melanie: you can’t stop
to visit friends. How do I stop this from
it. No one can. So turn this into a positive
happening? Melanie from Stratford
and, as the saying goes, make lemonade.
G’day Melanie, As I sit here thinking about your issue,
Dave DEAR
wa r ner
Parenting advice dished out, Dave style!
Dear Dave
stopped riding his electric quad bike
How do I talk my seven-year-old out of
around the backyard. When I peer over
getting all of her beautiful hair cut off?
the balustrade of the deck to check why
She’s a bit of a tomboy and wants a short
all has gone quiet downstairs, I see him
back and sides like her Dad. How do I
in the middle of the lawn, pants around
convince her otherwise?
his ankles, giving the lawn a good squirt.
Vikki from Mareeba
Once he is done, he yells out for help to pull his pants up while he waddles over with everything out and about. This is a
Hi Vikki, Tell her that seven-year-olds with
regular occurrence, so you’re not alone,
short back and sides generally get
Mel.
conscripted into the army. It’s the
If boys are doing something fun, they
defence forces haircut of choice and
hold for as long as they can because
they’re constantly on the look out for
they’re afraid they’ll miss out if they take
new recruits. And seven-year-olds with
leave to relieve.
long beautiful hair almost always end up
Then it gets to a point where they just have to go, wherever they are.
as a real life princess. One of two things will happen. She’ll
Unfortunately, this is also known to be
believe you and leave her hair long, or
true with some adults in casinos. And on
she’ll think that’s the most preposterous
the footy field. And camping. On the golf
thing she’s ever heard and leave her hair
course, in lanes near pubs, the beach, the
long because she’s impressed with the
shower, between the glass louvres in the
ridiculous lengths (no pun intended)
bedroom (to be fair, I was sleep-weeing).
you’ll go to in order to protect her hair.
For men, the saying is pretty much
Could be worse, Vikki - Dad could
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something to aim at. Dave
Mel, my four-year-old has suddenly
true: the world is our toilet. It’s not a
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have a comb-over. Dave
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The Pet Project Recently, we lost a long term member of our family; our pet turtle, Tommy. Generally in pet years (in human years too, for that matter) turtles can live for a very long time and stay a part of the home as household pets longer than most “household children”. But with the sad passing of Tommy, I got to thinking about the input pets have had on our home and our lives and the roles they’ve played in our children’s upbringing. Firstly let me run an abridged pet “roll of honour” past you. We’ve had dogs and cats aplenty, turtles, budgies and cockatiels (the escape artists of the pet world). There were squadrons of insects and squillions of carefully nursed tadpoles that became frogs and toads. There were loads of fish (some that the turtles and frogs ate), baby chooks, guinea pigs and some really strange rabbits, including “Iris the carnivorous, body building rabbit”. Iris was probably more of a hare than a rabbit, and possibly the most intimidating mammal I’ve ever encountered. With a growl like a honey badger and numerous successful bouts with a Maltese Terrier called Banjo, she’s more than worthy of a whole article herself. But getting back to
our menagerie, we also had a few hermit crabs, spiders, ants with their own farm, an uncountable assortment of reptiles, pet mice (some white, but most of dubious origin) and finally, a glorious Palomino horse. Aside from the fun and excitement (and fear) that most of these pets provided, there were some important and long lasting lessons learned over the years, not only by the kiddies, but by us parents as well. Firstly, there was the “all creatures great and small” attitude that having pets instilled in all of us. It’s the principle that all life is worthy of respect. Having said that, I never did feel comfortable with our third child’s “glass jar cockroach farm” and was even less so when it became the “glass jar cannibal cockroach farm”, after three months and several increasingly less civilised cockroach generations. Secondly, we came to an understanding of the responsibilities that we, as the alleged most intelligent creatures on this planet, must live up to. The animals that we choose to bring into our lives as pets require our care to survive and need our
love and attention to flourish. Stewardship is an important thing for kids and parents to learn, but it also makes it very hard when pets eventually die. That leads to the third lesson: the tragic understanding that there is a balance between life and death that will always eventually tip toward the latter. It’s sad when a child, barely old enough to understand the concept of life, has to deal with the confusion and permanence of death, especially when it’s the death of a much loved pet. But it’s an important part of preparing for the real world, I guess. So if you’ve been contemplating getting a pet, for your kid’s sake, just do it. I can’t recommend them more highly. If not for the love and enjoyment most of them, with the exception of spiders and Iris the evil “bunny-beast”, bring to the home, then for the opportunity they give your children to learn and grow, accept responsibility and love and care for something other than themselves. As a final footnote, I should warn you that Iris did eventually escape from our yard and that she and/or her offspring are quite possibly still out there!
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d n u o r A EMILY EYEFINGER
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Cairns Civic Theatre 21 - 23 October
Based on the books by Duncan Ball. Monkey Baa Theatre Company presents this exciting theatrical journey of an adventurous heroine born with an extraordinary gift to see things differently! Enjoy lots of laughter as Emily and her great Aunt Olympia go deep into the dark jungle where she rescues Malcolm and Professor Mousefinder, foils a kidnapping attempt by evil Arthur Crim and solves the mystery of the Ancient Caves of Tutenkarmouse. High farce melodrama resonating themes of identity, respect and friendship for ages 5-10. Book at www.ticketlink.com.au BOOK READINGS: Thursday 26th Sept, 10.30-11.30am at Smithfield Library and Friday 27th Sept, 10.30-11.30am at Manunda Library.
BLOOM HEALTH & WELLBEING EXPO Bloom Health & Wellbeing Expo is taking place at the Shangri La Hotel on Saturday 12th October from 9am - 4:30pm. Entry includes access to up to 45 exhibitors specialising in health, wellness and lifestyle, a range of informative talks, classes, workshops and forums, nutritious lunch, plus a gorgeous expo guide for you to keep. Specialist guest speakers include Therese Kerr, Kathryn Alexander, Stephen Eddy and Curtis Aiken, who at 28 years old was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis and made a choice to change his lifestyle and overcome the disease. For more information visit www.balancelifeandbloom.com
BACKSTREET DANCE - HIP HOP SHOWS! Backstreet Dance presents a high energy hip hop dance show at Cairns Central during the September school holidays. Numbers will include Black Eyed Peas, Rhianna, Beyonce, Michael Jackson and songs from the cool hip hop movie series: “Step Up”. The Dance Crew are a selected group of students from the Backstreet Dance Performing Arts Program, aged between 13yo and 17yo. They have been training since the beginning of the year to bring you the most entertaining hip hop dance show ever presented in a Shopping Centre. Be prepared to be blown away! Centre Stage at Cairns Central: Monday 23rd September to Saturday 28th September from 2pm every day plus additional shows on Thursday night at 5 and 7pm.
BOOK DRIVE Do you have a bunch of children’s books at home that your kids no longer read or need? Well, a new community campaign is calling for donations of good quality, second hand children’s books to boost reading among primary school students in Cairns. Member for Cairns Gavin King and a group of local sports stars have joined forces to launch the ‘Homes With Books’ project. Homes With Books collects donations of children’s books, which are then passed on to local primary schools and given as rewards to students who improve their attendance or achieve good results in the classroom. So far, over 250 books have been donated and awarded at schools such as Balaclava Primary. You can drop of your unused books to Gavin King’s office at 50 Spence St, or at Balaclava Primary. Spring 2013 Cairns Parenting Companion
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Possum Magic at the Cairns Civic Theatre
Based on the book by Mem Fox. Hoo-roo and goodbye to Possum Magic! Featuring larger than life size puppets this story has been stylishly embellished into a rollicking AUSSIE MUSICAL. Don’t miss the Final Farewell tour celebrating 30 years of magic! Sat – 6:30pm, Mon/Tues – 10am & 12pm For bookings contact Ticketlink
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Wed Girls Night In for Women’s Cancer Research
I’m hosting a Girls’ Nightber In! 9th Octo
at Cairns Recreation Centre, 44 Behan St, Manunda.
9.30 - 11.30AM SEP 10th • OCT 8th • NOV 12th Children FREE, Adults $7 includes Coffee and Morning Tea. All weather venue. Bring some socks! Bookings are essential for catering purposes. Please email playdate@ parentingcompanion.com.au Bring your mothers group or meet some new people.
Cairns Bowls Club Toogood Road, Bayview heights Sausage Sizzle from 6pm Barefoot bowling from 7.30pm ‘Bras in the Bar’ auction $20 entry Tickets available at the door. Wear pink (even the guys) with prizes for best outfit
www.pinkribbonday.com.au
Fun activities for all ages including an obstacle course, ball games, skating and more!
SUPPORTing THOSE AFFECTED BY BREAST & gYnAECOLOgiCAL CAnCERS
19th - 20th OcT
You’ll be helping Cancer Council fund prevention programs, support services and world-class research into breast and gynaecological cancers. Details
KURANDA DAY FESTIVAL Date
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Commemorating the official survey of Kuranda in 1888. Signature events include the annual Bash of the Barron River Raft Race, the Great Kuranda Undi Fun Run and the German Sausage Eating Competition. Visit www. kuranda.org for more information
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Cairns Recreation Centre is your ultimate venue for Family entertainment in Cairns. Fun for young and old. Also providing school holidays programs and a great place for birthday parties! For more information phone 4053 5353 or visit
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