GIVE YOUR CLIENTS THE GIFT OF IMPACT

HELP IMPROVE SELF-ESTEEM, HABITS AND EXPECTATIONS FOR INCREASED RESULTS AND SIGNIFICANT IMPACT

Jen Rieder

THE SUMMARY OF YOUR CLIENTS’ RESULTS ARE GOING TO BE INFLUENCED BY THEIR ABILITY TO KEEP COMMITMENTS TO THEMSELVES, THEIR CORE BELIEFS, LEVEL OF SELF-ESTEEM, AND THEIR EXPECTATIONS. THE LITTLE COMMITMENTS THEY KEEP OR DO NOT KEEP TO THEMSELVES IS HOW WE BUILD HABITS OR UNLEARN HABITS.

Here is how you can have a massive impact on your clients in their sessions directly or indirectly on these matters, increasing the results they get by working with you and significantly impacting their whole life.

Help your clients make commitments. Small bite sized commitments help build momentum, confidence, and self-esteem in humans. Advise and encourage your clients to start with small commitments and make them achievable to start. It might be focusing on water, sleep, reducing caffeine, eating breakfast, three to four workouts a week, reducing tech time, listening to positive material, whatever is relevant for your client.

Being able to achieve these small commitments has a huge positive impact on the brain - lighting up their reward system and providing a dopamine hit, which encourages them to do more of what felt good to them. They will organically start wanting to make and keep more commitments to themselves. Keeping commitments to self are the building blocks to wiring habits and positively increasing self-image, this not only will change how they show up in their sessions with you, but in their career, relationships, and life in general.

The key to introducing small commitments to your clients is exactly that, keeping them small and educating them about the power of changing just ONE small thing, has a huge ripple effect. Get your client to take ownership and ask your client what commitment they would like to keep to themselves this week? If they say three or more things, adjust their expectation of self and ask them to pick one or two and only focus on those things. Allowing your client to overload themselves with too many commitments to change at once, in most cases, leads to your clients feeling overwhelmed and giving up on all the commitments they wanted to make, leading them back to their old familiar habits - and feeling unsuccessful, like they are not good enough, and like a failure. This can be a common self-sabotaging loop. This approach can also help you deal with your “all or nothing clients”, adjusting and educating their expectations on change in small incremental commitments over time is the key.

Developing your clients’ self-esteem is a sure-fire way to increase their results in and out of the gym!

Building self-esteem requires creating a new story about yourself. What is their story about themselves, how do they view themselves, how do they feel about their body, what do they say about their body, is their inner critic stealing all the airtime? Asking your client some simple questions about these topics can seriously change the results you get from them in their sessions.

Help your clients build self-esteem with an intrinsic approach. Here is why it is important to take this approach. The following question is the gateway to intrinsic self-approval. Ask your clients this simple question after their session or at their check in:

What are you proud of about this session/ check in/your progress?

If your clients say nothing, ask them to look again, this is their pre-conditioned mind answering. The point of this question is to help them search for new resources. Encourage them to even just find one thing!

The science behind this simple tool is that this starts the reconditioning of the mind, beginning the journey from always seeking external validation to start seeking internal validation and approval. If one always craves the external world’s permission to be proud, happy, etc., that means your self-esteem is at the mercy of others, which is giving away your power to everyone else.

It is important to get them to notice these things themselves, not point them out - getting them to call on these points is important to helping them internally validate. You should not validate them first, get them to validate themself then agree with them and expand if necessary. If an individual’s self-esteem is only built off external validation, then it is always reliant on external validation. This makes it unstable and uncertain, and the client consistently needs someone to validate them to feel good, which means the external world has control over their value, what action they will or will not take, and their happiness.

All the above have a profound effect over time on the way the brain fires and wires - anyone with low self-esteem may have to think quite hard about the above - when they are having to really think about it, their brain is having to seek new resources (when this happens it is changing the way they think at the neurological level).

These small yet simple tools allow your clients to start noticing positive things about themselves - in turn this starts to change their focus on the world. The more we train our brain to notice positive things, opportunities to be proud/happy of, the more we program it to allow the positive things in, and this also works in the opposite direction. Low self-esteem can be caused by not feeling enough through negative past experiences or repetitive negative self-talk (that inner critic), and once they have this belief their brain is clever and will distort, delete, and generalize all incoming information to match that belief of not feeling enough. So, changing the internal language is the first place to start to gift your clients and yourself with intrinsic self-esteem, giving you your power back!

Based in Auckland, New Zealand, Jen Rieder’s proven transformational methods use the science of neuroplasticity blended with change work principles and practices from NLP, Time Line TherapyTM, hypnosis, psychology methods. Jen helps her clients cut through their own BS, exposing, and unveiling the root cause and truth behind their success or abundance blocks, sabotaging behaviours, limiting beliefs & glass ceilings. Healing and transforming them from the inside out.