Valley Bride - February 2010

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Fred Armstrong Chilliwack

Nick Bastaja

Unique options to infuse a wedding with a bride’s individual style.

Margi Jarvis

Production FOREMAN

Neil Wilson

38 PROPOSING

Advertising DESIGN Abbotsford

Do’s and what you should never do.

Marilyn Howard Mona Heppner

42 THE HAIR

Chilliwack

Michelle Greenwood

Administration

Gail Hillis

Credit Manager

Helen Larson

Advertising co-ordinatorS Abbotsford

Louise Parsons Chilliwack

Tara Goodkey-Chapman Valleybride Magazine is published by Lower Mainland Publishing Group, a division of CanWest Publications Inc. Enquiries can be addressed to: Valleybride Magazine 30887 Peardonville Road, Abbotsford, BC, V2T 6K2 Phone: Abbotsford

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34 WEDDING TRENDS

Art Director

Bruce MacLennan Karin Swain Lesli McNabb Jeff Warren Brian Rumsey Andrea Weiman Marni de Boer

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Elegant and understated are typically the choice for mothers of the bride/groom – some points to keep in mind for your child’s big day.

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features 3 THE BRIDAL GOWN Choosing a wedding dress that flatters – some tips to help you fit your body type and personality.

8 THE FLOWERS

Some tips to help you get the look you love.

44 BEACH WEDDINGS The benefits of a seaside ceremony.

50 A WEDDING PLANNER Take the stress out your wedding with Get-Hitched.

From the bouquet to flowers for special guests, we have it covered here.

54 a second marriage

10 A GROOM’S STORY

56 GAMES

One groom’s point of view.

More and more weddings have at least one game to entertain guests.

14 WEDDING PARTY DUTIES

Don’t be suprised – the rules have changed.

There’s more to it than simply enjoying a celebratory drink with the new bride and groom.

59 THE CHECKLIST

16 THE PHOTOGRAPHS

60 INDEX

Consider a pro – don’t leave this to a friend.

18 Jewelry Pearls and crystal can give today’s bride a look from mod to victorian.

20 ACCESSORIES From incorporating family heirlooms to contemporary styles, we outline the trends for you.

24 THE CAKE Often wedding desserts are as varied as the couples themselves.

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dress that fi ts

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ongratulations!  It’s  time  to  look  for  a

wedding  dress.  The  most  important  part  of  the wedding planning process is to fi nd the  perfect  gown.  Make  sure  that  you  choose  a  dress that fi ts your body type and accentuates the very  best parts of your body. The key to choosing the perfect  wedding dress is not to fall in love with a style but to  choose a style that is the most fl attering to your fi gure.

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The full-figured bride The  best  style  for  this  body  type  is  an  A-line  style.  This  particular  style  lengthens  your  whole  body without drawing attention to your waistline.  Choosing a dress with an empire waist is also best  for this body type because it is narrow right below  the  bust,  which  will  help  conceal  the  hips  and  waist.

The large-busted bride Off-the-shoulder wedding gowns work best with  this body type as it draws attention upward. Full  skirts  are  not  a  good  choice  on  this  body  type  as  they  will  make  a  bride  look  large  and  bottom  heavy.

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The bottom-heavy bride This  body  type  looks  best  in  dresses  that  bring  attention to the upper body. Showing off the arms,  back and neckline help draw attention away from  the  hips.  Pleats  and  gathered  fabric  around  the  waist  area  is  a  big  no-no.  Corset-style  dresses  accentuate this body type and highlight the upper  body. A-lines also look good on this body type.

The petite bride The best styles for this body type are A-line and  cap sleeve dresses. Stay away from sheaths which  shorten  the  body.  Strapless  gowns  also  shorten  the body, particularly if the groom is much taller  than  you,  and  very  full  skirts  which  will  make  the bride appear bottom heavy. A-line styles help  to lengthen the body and cap sleeve gowns work  best  while  giving  the  impression  of  a  strapless  gown.

Steps to success . . . Consult  with  a  bridal  consultant  to  get  good  choices  of  wedding  dresses  for  your  body  type.  They are trained professionals. see wedding dress page 26

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The Cake Lady promises to delight your senses with mouthwatering cakes which look too good to eat. Your wedding cake should reflect your style and nobody does that better than The Cake Lady. You might choose to custom design your cake or have our caketress craft and create something for you. Either way you will be one step closer to your perfect day. Contact: Deanna Marie Fellows 604.814.2967 The Dam Store featuring Dam Pretty Things Boutique will take the worry away by planning, catering and decorating your beautiful wedding. Come and see our urban lounge style banquet space. We are located in scenic Stave Lake area surrounded by Hayward Lake and Stave Lake, Whonnock Lake and Rolley Lake. Endless photo opportunities. We host pre-wedding, wedding and post wedding functions at a price you cannot ignore. Our boutique is the perfect place to get bridal jewellery for your entire party as well all those bridal party gifts and keepsakes. We are urban appeal in the country. Call us today. Contact: Donna or Karen 604.462.9800 www.damprettythings.com

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Floral411 for the big day

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eading up to their big day, couples have lots to worry about before they finally get to walk down the aisle as husband and wife. The task of planning a wedding is full of hundreds of details – even the most minor details must be accounted for. Such is the case with the floral arrangements. Though not a minor aspect in any way, preparing a wedding day floral arrangement does have its minor details, particularly when it comes to the more individual aspects of a floral plan. For instance, the following components must be considered when devising a floral plan.

The bridal bouquet. It’s tradition for bridal bouquets to contain white or cream-coloured flowers such as stephanotis, roses, orchids or lilies. Many bridal bouquets also include fillers like baby’s breath as well as some green or ivy, as well as ribbons or additonal accessories.

Bouquets for attendants. Attendants’ bouquets should be identical, and it’s best to coordinate these bouquets with the attendants’ gowns. Only the maid of honour traditionally receives a

slightly different bouquet, as it’s customary to give her one that stands apart from the rest, though not significantly so.

Boutonnieres for groomsmen and ushers. The guy’s side of the wedding also needs to take part in the floral plan. Worn in a buttonhole or lapel, a boutonniere should be worn on the left lapel and match a flower from the bridesmaids’ bouquet. The groom should also wear a boutonniere, though his should match a flower from the bride’s bouquet. When wearing boutonnieres, men should not wear other accessories such as pocket squares.

Flowers for special guests. Certain special guests, such as mothers and grandmothers, should receive corsages. While the corsages do not need to be identical, they should match the bridesmaids’ bouquets. It’s best to consult with a florist for a corsage colour that matches all dresses, as typically the corsages must be ordered before the bride and groom know what their mothers, grandmothers and other special guests will be wearing. A corsage that goes with anything, therefore, is ideal. n PHOTO LEVEL 6 IMAGES

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A Groom’s Story Fred Armstrong Publisher

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’ve  been  married  a  couple  of  times,  and  in  the  interests  of  getting a bit of gender equality  in  Valleybride,  I  agreed  to  share  my  experiences  about  my  first  marriage  in  the  hopes  that  our  predominantly  female  audience  will  be  able  to  convince  their  future husband to be to read this to  learn  a  few  things  that  will  make  your special day less stressful. My  first  wedding  was  an

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elopement  of  sorts.  My  fi rst  wife  had  been  married  before,  and  wasn’t  that  keen  about  a  big  ceremony  (which  she  already  had). One day she decided that we  should tie the knot and announced  that  she’d  like  to  get  married  in  Hawaii, with a civil ceremony and  her  parents  as  our  witnesses.  The  agreement was that this would be a  ‘casual’ wedding – no fuss, no tux,  no wedding dress and no detailed  planning. From a guy perspective,  that was a huge bonus. We  checked  with  a  lawyer  and  found  out  all  the  legal  things  that  are  required,  and  made  all  the  appointments  for  the  marriage  certifi cate and the judge to perform  the  wedding.  Her  parents  had  arranged a vacation in Hawaii, and

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we were going to join them  after  Christmas  and  tell  them  about  the  wedding  when we arrived. The plan  was made. We  arrived  in  Hawaii  and  checked  into  our  accommodation  in  Maui  on  the  northwest  side  of  the  island.  My  bride-to  be  could barely contain herself  and  before  we  unpacked  she  sprung  the  news  on  them.  They  were  delighted  – hugs and congratulations  all  around.  The  civil  ceremony  was  set  for  two  days later. That  night  at  dinner  the  plan  for  a  casual  no-fuss  wedding  started  to  take  a  turn.  The  future  motherin-law  was  concerned  that  her  daughter  should  have  a nice Hawaiian-style dress  and  some  flowers  for  the  ceremony.  I  didn’t  realize  what was in store. The  next  day  the  four  of  us,  bride-to-be,  motherin-law  to-be  and  fatherin-law  to-be,  set  off  on  what  would  become  an  epic

hunt for the ‘perfect dress.’  We  started  at  the  shops  geographically  closest  to  our  accommodation  and  worked  our  way  south  to  Lahaina. S h o p   a f t e r   s h o p   o f  colourful  Hawaiian-style  dresses  were  viewed,  rated  and  some  even  tried  on.  The  perfect  dress  was  elusive.  We  stopped  for  lunch  and  reviewed  the  situation.  The  women  were  feeling  tremendous  pressure  to  fi nd  ‘the  dress’  and  we  males  needed  to  give  our  opinion,  so  we  couldn’t  ditch  the  females  to  shop  for  books  or  gadgets. After lunch the shopping  continued.  No  store  was  left  unvisited.  The  hunt  took us to dinner, and now  the  pressure  was  at  a  fever  pitch.  My  patience  was  waning,  and  after  dinner  we  continued  from  shop  to  shop.  Somewhere  along  the  way,  late  in  the  day,  I  lost  it  and  told  my  fatherin-law  to  be  that  this  was  madness.  The  specifi c  goal  was  to  have  a  casual  and  stress  free  wedding,  and  here  we  were  shopping  for  ‘the  dress’  the  day  b e f o r e   t h e  ceremony.  I

implored  him  to  intervene  with  his  wife,  who  was  a  harsh  critic  of  most  of  the  selections,  almost  all  of  which seemed fi ne to me. He  looked  at  me,  put  his  arm  around  my  shoulder  and  said  ‘son,  you  better  get  used  to  it.’  I  looked  into  his  eyes  and  drew  on  the  strength  and  patience  of  his  close  to  40  years  of  marriage  experience  and  we both burst out laughing.  Whether  it  was  luck,  or  their  radar  picking  up  on  my  tension,  miraculously  ‘the dress’ was located. All  that stood between me and  wedded  bliss  was  a  good  night’s sleep. The  next  day  we  woke  up,  and  she  put  on  ‘the  dress’ and I some shorts and  an  appropriately  Hawaiian  patterned  shirt  that  would  allow  me  to  blend  into  the  local  botanical  gardens  with ease. We had breakfast  and went to the place to get  the licence. The  place  to  get  the  marriage  certificate  was  a  residence  occupied  by  a  lovely,  and  very  old,  Japanese-American  woman  who  issued  the  licences  and documents you needed  before  the  judge  could  do  the  ceremony.  I  think  her  name  was  Mrs.  Hasagawa,  and she had to be 70 if she  was a day. S h e   h a d   a n   o l d

manual  typewriter  (not  an  IBM  Selectric)  that  the  father-in-law  to  be  (he  was  in  his  60s)  thought  was  marvelous  as  he  had  one  too,  in  working  order.  The  marriage  certifi cate  has  to  be perfect, and as she began  typing the certifi cate it was  apparent  that  she  was  not  a  ‘speed’  typist,  and  that  the  form  required  a  lot  of  jockeying of the form to hit  the blank spaces. The  ‘clack-clack-clack’  of  the arms hitting the ribbon  was  excruciatingly  slow,  and  the  chit-chat  between  all  of  us  meant  we  were  pressed  for  time.  She  was  fascinating.  Her  husband  h a d   b e e n   a   s u p e r i o r  court  judge  and  his  faded  picture  hung  in  her  offi ce.  He  had  passed  away,  but  it  was  clear  that  they  had  had  an  interesting  life  and  dealt  with  many  issues  as  Japanese-Americans  in  the  place  where  America  entered WWII. About  halfway  through  the  certifi cate  she  made  an  error  and  ‘zzzzziiiiiippp’  had to pull it out and start  again.  My  stress  level  started  to  rise  as  we  both  carefully spelled our names  again.  Eventually,  she  got  the form right, we paid our  money  and  headed  to  the  courthouse  to  seek  out  the  judge  who  would  do  the  ceremony. A  quick  stop  at  the  grocery  store  flower  shop  and  then  we  made  it  to  the  courthouse  with  a  few  minutes  to  spare.  The  receptionist directed us to a  courtroom where our judge  was  fi nishing  a  sentencing  hearing.  We  sat  at  the  back  of  the  courtroom  and  watched  some  fellow  get  sentenced  to  a  couple  of  valleybride  010  11


years in jail for either drug possession or trafficking. It was a bit jarring, and the judge seemed angry. As the prisoner was led away to a side door, his demeanor changed and the judge instructed us to come to his chambers. His office was covered with the requisite certificates detailing his education and qualifications, but my eye was caught by an impressive collection of baseball memorabilia. The soon-to-be fatherin-law and I engaged the judge in conversation and were regaled with tales of his love of the game and involvement, as well as stories about the significance of this collection. Now the ladies were exasperated. The judge performed

the civil ceremony and his assistant took some pictures for us and we left the courthouse married and seeking a late lunch. The rest of the trip was fun. We spotted country singer Randy Travis at a jewelry store and French film director Francois Truffaut playing chess while we brunched at the Kapalua resort. Now, dear reader, what did I take away from this experience? Here’s my summary of things that I learned the hard way. First, even with the bestlaid plans, things will go a bit sideways. Be flexible and don’t sweat the small stuff. The search for ‘the dress,’ in retrospect, was hilarious and a bonding moment for the father-inlaw and myself. Approach

the day with humour and a sense of adventure. Second, do your homework. Even though the certificate process was arduous (and again, funny in retrospect), we knew all the paper work and forms we needed to pull this off due to doing some homework. Preparation is important. We would not have been able to get

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married if we didn’t have records of vaccinations, the correct ID and know the forms and permits we needed to get. Third, remember guys, it’s the bride’s day. Sure, we’re supposed to be equal partners in the relationship, but the reality is that weddings are for the bride. Whether it’s a big family affair or the kind


of wedding described here, the day will be measured by how happy the bride is at the end of the day. Fourth, be involved in the planning to the extent that your mother, mother-in-law, bride-to-be and her close circle of friends will allow. Hopefully, you’ll only do this once, so make tasteful choices and make sure that your friends take everything seriously. Prepare your speeches and make sure you check out what your friends are going to say. A bit of preparation will ease the nerves and allow things to go smoothly. Finally, have fun. Enjoy yourself and get some trusted friends to step up and help you deal with the little things that pop up so you can focus on each other. Think of the wedding as a movie. You’re the star, don’t try to both direct and star in your special day – it won’t work. Get your close friends and family to be the ‘point person’ for specific parts of the day. My second wedding was a grand affair. The tuxedos, beautiful flowers, reception and catering at a fine hotel, a surprise meeting with the Neville Brothers in the elevator on the way to the ceremony, the German polka band the father-in-law booked, the ‘first dance’ song of Anne Murray’s ‘Can I have this dance’ sung with a thick German accent with a polka tempo, and trying to figure out the reception line order as both our mothers were divorced from both our fathers, and the fathers were remarried . . . maybe I’ll tell that story next year. Enjoy your special day. I did, and I have great memories and stories to share with family and friends! I suspect that if you are reading this, you have lots of planning and choices to make. Enjoy the process and have a great wedding! n PHOTO LEVEL 6 IMAGES

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Maid of honour –  Usually  the  closest  friend  of  the  bride  and  sometimes  a  relative.  A  married,  divorced,  widowed,  or  older  woman  might  be  called  the  matron  of  honour.  She  assists  with  the  details  of  the  wedding  plans,  like  shopping  for  the  bridal  gown,  addressing  invitations  and  choosing fl owers. She arranges the bridal shower  in conjunction with the bride’s family, is in charge  of  co-ordinating  the  bridesmaids  and  organizing  fi ttings, and typically signs the couple’s certifi cate  of marriage or wedding licence as a legal witness.  At  the  reception,  she  should  stand  immediately  after the groom in the receiving line.

Best man –  Commonly  the  groom’s  best  friend,  relative  or  not,  is  in  charge  of  instructing  the  ushers  and  coordinating  the  groom’s  transportation to the ceremony. He usually holds  the  rings  until  the  ceremony  and  will  also  sign  the marriage certifi cate as a legal witness. At the  reception,  he  holds  a  place  of  honour,  escorting  the  maid  of  honour  in  the  receiving  line  and  in  all  other  wedding  party  activities.  He’s  also  the  toastmaster, offering the fi rst toast to the couple.

Bridesmaids and ushers –

Typically  friends  or  relatives  of  the  bride,  bridesmaids  may  be  asked  to co-ordinate special details during the ceremony  preparations  or  at  the  reception,  and  assist  the  bride and the maid of honour. Ushers (sometimes  also  known  as  groomsmen)  should  be  prepared  for  an  early  arrival  at  the  ceremony  to  escort  female guests to their seats. During the ceremony,  they  will  escort  the  bridesmaids  down  the  aisle.  They may also be asked to co-ordinate the guests’  trip from the ceremony to the reception as well as  assist the groom and the best man.

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Father of the bride - His most conspicuous duty  is  giving  away  the  bride  at  the  ceremony.  He  might  also  fulfill  numerous  rolls,  such  as  coordinating  transportation,  dancing  and  toasting.  Traditionally,  he  and  the  mother  of  the  bride  have  paid  for  the  wedding  and  reception  but  today it is common for expenses to be shared by  both  families,  along  with  the  bride  and  groom  themselves. n PHoto LEvEL 6 iMAgES

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guitar in my hands and expecting me to play like Segovia. It just won’t happen. I also find it curious that many bridal couples make the decision to skimp on photography, when those photos, those memories, are all that will be left to tangibly hold in their hands, long after the last glass of champagne has been drunk and the flowers have wilted and died. If you want to have those memories that last a lifetime, hiring a professional photographer is the only way to go. And it doesn’t necessarily have to ‘break the bank.’ These days wedding photographers have a variety of prices, which vary depending on the services they offer. Many break it down according to the number of hours of shooting time (i.e. just the ceremony, pre-wedding prep of the bride, the entire wedding and reception etc.). Most photographers

put together packages of the services offered, including whether they supply finished prints, albums, photo books or offer the original digital files on a CD or DVD. It is very easy to compare prices and view samples of photographer’s work on the Internet, so you can narrow the search before setting up an appointment. But of course, price isn’t everything. When choosing a photographer, it’s important to hire one that the bridal couple is comfortable with, so the photographer can get the requisite photos while still making the day fun and stress free for everyone. Many brides like the idea of a photojournalistic wedding, capturing those spontaneous unchoreographed moments filled with emotion. However, others prefer the more formal approach, see photography page 23

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Pearl and Crystal

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The elegance of pearls and the shimmer of crystal provide today’s bride with perfect jewelry options for any look from mod to Victorian.

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he elegance of pearls and the shimmer of crystal provide today’s bride with perfect jewelry options for any look from mod to Victorian. “Pearls have long been the jewelry of choice for brides,” says Jill Maier, Vice President of Design for CAROLEE. “Since pearls and brides comprise a large part of our business, we are constantly updating our designs to satisfy the tastes of today’s brides and bridal parties. White crystal, alone or with pearls, adds sparkle that makes a bride look even more luminous.” The trend in bridal gowns is toward strapless and bare shoulder styles, creating the perfect canvas for a statement necklace and earrings. Multi-strand and Ynecklace silhouettes in pearl and crystal are a popular choice. These necklace designs can be paired with simple button or drop earrings. “Some brides choose to make a statement with dramatic chandelier earrings alone,” Ms. Maier adds. “We have enhanced our selection of statement earrings with many ornate and high-drama styles with lots of movement and sparkle. In this scenario adding a statement bracelet is a good choice.” While bridesmaids’ jewelry should be different from the bride’s, it should harmonize in color and materials. If the bride is wearing pearls, her bridesmaids’ pearls might 18  valleybride 2010

be bigger or layered. For crystal styles the attendants’ jewelry might be bolder to complement the simple lines of their dresses. To learn more about putting together your own personal bridal jewelry look, go to www.carolee.com. See photos and real life bridal jewelry stories at The Carolee Bridal Circle Photo Gallery. After your wedding, you can join The Circle and share your own story and photos. n PHOTOS LEVEL 6 IMAGES


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hen  it  comes  to  weddings,  much is made  of  the  bride’s  wedding  g o w n .   Ty p i c a l l y  the  end  product  of  a n   e x h a u s t i n g   y e t  enjoyable  search,  a  bride’s  wedding  gown  is, along with the bride  herself,  often  the  focal  point of the day. As  central  as  the  wedding dress is, brides  also  know  their  look  is  never complete without  the  right  accessories.  Arguably  the  most  important  accessory,  aside  from  the  groom,  is the jewelry the bride  and  her  bridesmaids  will  be  wearing  on  the  big day. According  to  Amy  Yankelevitz,  designer  and  founder  of  Hazel  &  Harlow  Jewelry,  how  the  bride  selects  the  accessories and jewelry  pieces  for  herself  and  her  bridesmaid  can  be  one  of  the  most  important,  and  very  p e r s o n a l   d e c i s i o n s  for  her  special  day.  Incorporating  family  heirlooms,  favorite  k e e p s a k e s   a n d  contemporary  styles  can  be  complicated.  ( A m y   b e l i e v e s   i n  c h o o s i n g   d e l i c a t e

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pendants,  earrings  and  even bracelets.) Always  remember  the  focus  is  on  the  bride’s  face  and  neckline  so  keep  your  jewelry  selections  to  just  one  or  two  special  items.  “A  signature  pair  of  earrings  highlights  the  bride’s  hair  and  n e c k l i n e   w i t h o u t  c o m p e t i n g   w i t h  t h e   d r e s s , ”   s a y s  Yankelevitz. B e c a u s e   m a n y  brides  recognize  the  importance  of  jewelry  when  creating  their  b r i d a l   e n s e m b l e ,  Yankelevitz  offers  the  following  jewelry  tips  for  brides  on  their  big  day. l M a t c h   j e w e l r y  with  your  gown.  No  two  brides  are  ever  the  same,  but  there  are  similarities  between  wedding  gowns  and  certain jewelry that goes  well  with  each  type  of  gown. For example, the  type of necklace a bride  chooses  will  depend  on  the  neckline  of  her  gown. When  the  bride  is  interested  in  matching  a  piece  of  jewelry  with  her  wedding  dress,  we  believe  the  lines


and flow of the dress are the defining accents to consider. If the bride has chosen a vintage, lacy gown, then something antique, or beaded and chandelier style is beautiful. For a more clean, modern and linear style dress, a simple charm or statement piece is ideal to enhance the wedding gown or dress without taking away from the complete ensemble. l Consider a splash of colour. Today’s brides aren’t solely hoping to look elegant and demure. They’re also hoping to attract attention. And nothing helps to do just that more than some colourful jewelry to complement your white wedding gown. Coloured gems and even yellow diamonds are a

growing trend among brides. l Go green. Perhaps no trend is more popular or hot button than the go green movement. As a result, many brides are showcasing their environmental side and embracing a growing trend among bridal jewelry, namely the choice of nature-inspired jewelry that includes themes such as flowers, butterflies, leaves and rosettes. Organic and feminine styles of vintage Paris, with unique birds, floral motifs, animal and leafy carvings and filigrees evoke a mood and feeling of nature. The growing interest in the collections of more floral-inspired pieces is a true testament to the bride’s desire to incorporate classic themes into her memorable day. n PHOTOS LEVEL 6 IMAGES

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radition  states  t h a t   w e d d i n g  c a k e s   a r e  t o   b e   t i e r e d  masterpieces  featuring  white  cake  and  white  frosting.  However,  today’s  modern  couples  are  going  in  decidedly  different  d i r e c t i o n s   w i t h   t h e i r  wedding  cakes.  Often  the  dessert  is  as  varied  and  unique  as  the  couple  themselves. Wedding  cakes  can  be  created  to  match  couples’  individual styles and tastes,  as well as the colour scheme  of  the  wedding.  Shapes  and  sizes  can  be  mixed  and  matched  depending  upon  what  the  bride  and  groom  envision.  Working  closely  with  a  skilled  cake  artist  can  yield  a  truly  exceptional confection. Here  are  some  ideas  for  embellishing  wedding  cakes  and  making  them  mirror  the  personality  of  the wedding. l  Consider  a  different  shape  other  than  standard  round  or  square  tiers.  How  about  something  that  ties  into  your  theme,  such  as  a  seashell  or  a  sandcastle  for  a beachside wedding? l   T h e r e   a r e   m a n y  decorating  styles  available  and  you  may  not  have  to  go  with  the  traditional  buttercream  icing.  Rolled  fondant  can  be  cut  and  4  valleybride valleybride  010

shaped  into  a  variety  of  embellishments.  Talk  with  the  cake  designer  about  his  or  her  specialties  in  cake  design,  and  ask  to  see  a  look-book  of  past  cakes  created.  Be  sure  the  person whose work you are  reviewing will be the actual  person doing your cake. l  Consider  matching  the  flowers  on  the  cake  with  those  in  bouquets  and  table  centre  pieces.  Skilled  decorators  can  create  sugar  or  piped  fl owers  that  rival  the look of the real thing. l  Base  the  cake  on  the  style of the bride’s wedding  gown. A cake artist may be  able  to  mimic  the  look  of  lace,  beading,  appliques  and  more.  A  photo  of  the  gown  may  be  all  the  inspiration the professional  needs. l  Who  says  you  need  to  have vanilla? Today’s cakes  come  in  so  many  fl avours,  including  chocolate  fudge,  banana,  carrot,  caramel,  pumpkin  and  so  many  m o r e .   A s k   a b o u t   t h e  cake  flavours  and  filling  offerings.  Can’t  decide?  Find  out  if  you  can  have  multiple  flavours,  where  each  tier  is  a  different  option. l  Save  your  appetite.  Consider  skipping  the  extensive  dessert  bar  so  guests can truly savour your  cake. n


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With Kindness, Unselfishness, and Trust I (name) affirm my love to you, (name) as I invite you to share my life. You are the most beautiful, smart and generous person I have ever known, and I promise always to respect you and love you. With kindness, 28  valleybride 2010

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unselfishness and trust, I will work by your side to create a wonderful life together. I take you (name) to be my lawful (wife/husband), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, for as long as we both shall live.

The Best Person I Can Be (Name), from the moment I first saw you, I knew you were the one with whom I wanted to share my life. Your beauty, heart and mind inspire me to

be the best person I can be. I promise to love you for eternity, respecting you, honouring you, being faithful to you and sharing my life with you. This is my solemn vow.

To Grow Along with You (Name), today I become your (husband/wife) and you become my (wife/husband). I will strive to give you the best of myself, while accepting you the way you are. I promise to respect you as a whole person with your own interests,


desires and needs, and to realize that those are sometimes different, but no less important than my own. I promise to keep myself open to you, to let you in to my innermost fears and feelings, secrets and dreams. I promise to grow along with you, to be willing to face change as we both change, keeping our relationship alive and exciting. And finally, I promise to love you in good times and in bad, with all I have to give and all that I am, in the only way I know how – completely and forever.

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Love You Without Reservation (Name), today I take you for my (wife/ husband). I promise to love you without reservation, comfort you in times of distress, encourage you to achieve all of your goals, laugh with you and cry with you, grow with you in mind and spirit, always be open and honest with you, and cherish you for as long as we both shall live.

Best Friend (Name), today I take you to be my (husband/wife). Together we will create a home, becoming a part of one another. I vow to help create a life that we can cherish, inspiring your love for me and mine for you. I vow to be honest, caring and truthful, to love you as you are and not as I want you to be, and to grow old by your side as your love and best friend. n

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Attire Options for Mothers of the Bride and Groom Mothers of the bride and groom typically choose an elegant, understated dress to wear on the day of their child’s wedding.

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hether you’re the mother of the bride or the groom, it goes without saying that you want to look your best on your child’s wedding day. While tradition offers guidelines for choosing appropriate wedding attire for mothers of brides and grooms, choices abound.

Follow the leaders The most important rule of thumb for mothers is to follow the couple’s cues about the style and tone of their nuptials. Before purchasing an ensemble for the big day, talk with the bride and groom about their vision for the wedding. It’s also a

good idea for mothers to postpone purchasing their own wedding attire until the bride has selected her wedding dress and those of her attendants. It may also be useful to know if the couple has selected a colour scheme for their wedding. These decisions will be helpful in determining the style, colours and level of formality that will be appropriate for the mothers.

that is off limits is white, which is reserved for the bride. While wearing black to weddings is gaining popularity, it is not a common colour for mothers – particularly the mother of the bride. In general, mother-ofthe-bride and -groom dresses tend to be solid colours rather than intricate prints, which can be distracting and look out of place in photos.

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Traditionally, the mother of the bride selects her dress first, and the mother of the groom then chooses something similar in style. If either mother has questions about their choice of wedding attire, they should

Mothers’ dresses should complement the attire of the wedding party, but do not have to match the bridesmaids, the wedding colours or each other. In fact, the only colour

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ext year’s bride is already in the throes of planning her wedding. From the dress to the reception venue to wedding colours, many trends from this year will continue into 2010. However, if a bride is looking for unique options, here are several new twists and tips on current trends from Lori Stephenson, owner and senior event consultant with Chicago-based LOLA Event Productions, which can be easily incorporated to infuse a wedding with a bride’s individual style.

Less can be more: “The trend for smaller wedding

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size will continue in 2010, with a guest list of 150 being an average size as compared to 200-250,” says Stephenson. “We’re also experiencing a guest decline rate increase – from an expected decline rate of 10-20 per cent to 25 per cent and more.” The smaller wedding sizes open the opportunity to look at creative venues like galleries, restaurants and loft spaces, not just traditional hotel ballrooms, she says. Amenities for guests can also be added to make it more economical for those traveling to attend. For example, secure a range of price points for accommodations and ensure hotels offer additional features such as a

complimentary breakfast or a minikitchen. For guests traveling as a family, all-suite accommodations are a welcomed option. With less people attending, you can also maximize little touches like hotel amenity gifts or inviting out-of-town guests to a pre-nuptial cocktail party the evening before the wedding. Another nice touch is making the weekend about more than just the wedding with a complimentary sightseeing outing like an architectural cruise or a museum visit the morning of the wedding. Stephenson also cautions that prior to signing a venue contract, review your guest list in detail: “Take into


consideration the number of out-oftown guests when negotiating your food and beverage minimum with the hotel or other vendor.” Nobody wants to pay for upgrades just to reach their food and beverage goals. If it looks like you will be falling under the minimum, ask if you can parlay it into a brunch the following morning.

Location, location, location: According to Stephenson, hosting a wedding at home was a 2009 trend that offered a surprise for many bridal couples. “Depending on location, having a wedding at a private residence can be just as expensive, if not more, than a ballroom reception,” says Stephenson. “For example, in the Midwest states where weather can be tumultuous, the cost of tenting, flooring and other necessities can quickly add up.” Stephenson notes that looking at alternative venues that showcase a bride or groom’s interest or passions can offer a unique setting, “We recently planned a reception

at Café Brauer in Chicago’s Lincoln Park Zoo for two architects that had been a part of the project to renovate that building and the grounds around the zoo.” Stephenson adds that if a couple in the medical profession are tying the knot, consider Chicago’s Museum of Surgical Science; art lovers could consider a gallery; and wine enthusiasts could investigate a restaurant that specializes in wine

and tasting plates, like Lotusland Vineyards or Mt. Lehman Winery in Abbotsford.

Spreading the word: E-mail invitations and electronic RSVP’s have gained popularity with all kinds of events, and it is a trend that continues to create a stir with etiquette sticklers. While a viable and popular option for bridal couples

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planning a more casual soiree – or as an easy and eco-friendly way to send a save-the-date, the majority opt to stick with tradition and communicate their intended vows with formal invitations. However, this doesn’t hold true when it comes to leveraging technology to keep guests apprised of wedding details. Custom designing a website that mirrors a couple’s wedding motif is the latest twist to an old trend. “Couples are realizing that their wedding websites offers guests a first glimpse of the big day and are taking time to integrate stylistic elements from their wedding invitations, personal imagery and color palettes into the web design,” says Stephenson. They are easy to update and manage so guests are always apprised of the latest information.

Colour commentary: When it comes to colours for the wedding, Stephenson recommends parlaying the monochrome colour palette of the past year into something new and different, perhaps by introducing a muted plum with the yellow that is trendy right now, to give it a layer of depth and subtlety. Stephenson also recommends adding a twist to the use of pattern. “Vintage brocades have been really popular in the last few years, but there are many other fabulous patterns with a contemporary edge from the 1960s and 70s that are great mixed with some of the mod elements, so popular right now with décor like mirrors and Lucite.” Tonal colour can be used as a unifying element for the wedding party. Bridesmaids can choose their dress in different shades of a chosen colour, allowing them to look co-ordinated, not cloned. Brides can add a splash of color to their gown, or ask their guests to wear all white and the bride can be featured as the standout in a striking colour.

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grooms try to incorporate positive environmental, social and economic aspects into their wedding day. “While we continue to see a trend towards being more eco-conscious, we encourage bridal couples to choose options that reflect their own personality and interests,” says Stephenson. “Guests are increasingly appreciative of these efforts, especially those that give back to the community.” For example, bridal couples can work with a caterer to create a menu from local sustainable resources including hormone-free dairy and meat products, and pesticide-free produce grown at local farms. A recent LOLA couple took this one step further and donated excess food from their wedding festivities to a local shelter. In addition, the same couple asked wedding guests to make a donation to a local area fund that supports children’s education initiatives in lieu of a wedding gift. “We strive to assist our clients to plan a wedding reflective of their individual style and within their budget, and certainly this can easily include philanthropic and eco-friendly aspects,” says Stephenson. n PHOTOS LEVEL 6 IMAGES

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omen want to be swept off their feet. They want to feel that they are valued and desired. They want to feel that a man is opening his heart in a way he never has before.

Is New Year’s Eve a good day for a proposal? Sure. It’s a great time for a proposal. It’s the beginning of all things new and bright. It’s also a time of hope and resolution to do better than ever. Proposing on New Year’s Eve or New Year’s Day are wonderful ways to start the New Year. Plus – if she says yes, you’ll always remember your proposal date! Now, if you can just make your wedding date on a national holiday, you’ll never forget the anniversary!

What should you never do when proposing? • Back-peddle – say, things like, “I know you’ll probably say no, but . . .” or “I’m probably not the first one to ask you, and you’re probably going to

dash my hopes, but . . . ” • Take her for granted. Or even appear to take her for granted. • Show up without a ring or some other extremely important piece of jewelry if it’s not a ring. • Say you’re not ready to pick a wedding date. A proposal without a date is no good. You don’t have to pick a date within the same hour you propose, but you should be prepared to pick a wedding date within the first week of the accepted proposal. • Make a proposal contingent on something else – like, if you can just adjust your custody schedule with your kids, I’d like to marry you. Or else, if we can agree not to see your parents, then I’d like to marry you.

How much can a marriage proposal cost? A proposal should cost at minimum as much as the ring, and at most, as much as the vacation you take her on to propose. It really doesn’t matter as long as you have the ring and the words.

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continued from Page 6 Make an appointment at the largest bridal salon in your area. This way you’ll have a very large selection of dresses to choose from. Ask if there is a limit on the amount of dresses you can try on at one time. Check online to find a wedding dress. There are endless websites that allow you to sort through the many styles and photos of wedding dresses. You’ll want to visit a website that allows you to zoom in on the photos and mix and match the colours and styles. Peruse through bride magazines for wedding dress styles, colours and fabrics to find a wedding dress that best suits you. Ask your friends and family for their suggestions and opinions but make sure to stick with your overall desires for your wedding dress. n

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Select a stylist If you don’t already have a stylist you want to use for your big day, look for someone who specializes in formal or camera-ready styles. Get recommendations from friends and brides in your area.

Professional style Don’t trim, colour, perm or chemically straighten your own hair – especially during the six months leading up to your wedding day.

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The long and short of it If your hair is short but you want to wear an updo, start growing it out as soon as possible. Keep in mind: Hair grows about half an inch per month.

Torn between two dos? Sport one style during your ceremony (perhaps a formal updo), then another, more relaxed look (think loose, cascading curls) for your reception.

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Beach weddings are in style but there are certain things to consider. Failing to look into these matters these could leave you unpleasantly surprised on your wedding day. There should be nothing to prevent you from realizing your dream of a beautiful seaside ceremony. As a matter of fact, there are many benefits.

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Just know the matters to consider and plan for them. Your wedding day will be a wonderful and blissful occasion!

The pros of beach weddings A beach wedding can be much cheaper than a traditional wedding. It is said that the average budget for a wedding these days is between $20,000 to $30,000. That is a huge and needless financial burden to take on. Don’t start off married life incarcerated by your wedding day debts. If you have that sort of money to spend, superb, but if not, don’t go there. Be realistic and keep in mind the day is what you, your loved ones and your friends make of it not how much you spent on it. A beach wedding can be a informal affair. It allows everybody to relax. Your guests can dress comfortably and affordably. Frequently bridesto-be are ignorant of the financial strain they place on their wedding

attendants and guests. Not everybody can afford to purchase that wedding outfit. The wedding ceremony and reception can all be held right there on the beach. No need to travel to different locations. This is very convenient for everybody. Hey, even the kids can have fun at a beach wedding! A beach wedding allows you to involve everybody in the activities. Guests are not restricted to sitting quietly in their seats. They can really be a part of the celebration. Beach weddings don’t always need a sanction. If you are having a small ceremony and do not need a section of the beach to be blocked off, just do it. Simple yet pretty. A beach wedding is a modern and refreshing change from the “stodgy” traditional wedding. It allows your imagination and personality to shine through. There is no “correct” or “incorrect way” to plan a beach wedding.

It can be large, small, romantic, fanciful or even downright silly. You can pay big bucks and hire the whole thing out, or, you can be cheap and make the whole thing yourself. The decision is entirely yours.

The cons of beach weddings The most significant thing to keep in mind when planning a beach wedding is that Mother Nature sets the rules. Depending on her mood, she can brighten your day or rain on your parade. When planning your celebration, be certain to plan an alternate location should the old girl be crabby that day. The beach is generally a bit breezy so take that into consideration when picking your location. Try to choose a cove on the beach that is protected from direct winds. Be certain to check with local authorities regarding any permits needed to use the beach. This should only be essential if you are having a large gathering and you want to

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t’s not unco m m o n these days for busy working couples-to-be to hire a wedding planner to help them prepare for their big event. The bride and groom hand over their list of must-haves and dislikes, maybe meet with the planner a few times leading up to the wedding day, but basically allow the planning company sorting out the details. The result may be satisfactory but at times predictable and impersonal. Brenda-lee Appeldoorn of Get-Hitched Wedding Consultants wants to make sure brides and grooms

have a truly memorable experience, and one that really reflects who they are. A warm and energetic woman with an easy laugh, Appeldoorn combines her unique background of planning corporate events, her fitness training experience, and her creative urge to orchestrate one-of-a-kind wedding experiences. “The wilder and more creative the better. It doesn’t have to be expensive at all, but the challenge is to do something unique,” said Appeldoorn, who runs G e t - H i t c h e d We d d i n g Consultants with her daughter Jennifer. The two offer experience plus a young fresh perspective. She suggests the typical cost for a planner should

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be 10 to 15 per cent of the wedding, or about $2,000 for a $20,000 budget. Appeldoorn thrives on the personal interaction she has with brides, and is keen to offer unlimited guidance and support. “I like to get to know the bride and the wedding party and watch them as they prepare for the wedding,” she said. A franchise wedding planner may limit the interaction with the client, but Appeldorn is ready to go shopping for linen or whatever with the bride if need be, or answer her questions whenever they pop up. Appeldoorn is accustomed to being available to her clients, and pulling off big events.

She’s been an event planner for 20-plus years, including a six-year stint as an event co-ordinator for the 300-member B.C. chapter of the Young Presidents’ Organization. She arranged special experiences for the highlevel entrepreneurs around the world, from New York to Israel, with events that ranged from tugboat ballets to floating dinners in the Dead Sea, to Cirque de Soleil performers in a Los Angeles museum. “You had to have a ‘wow’ factor, or else you’d lose your job. They were tired of conferences and wanted different things,” she said. Most recently, she spent a couple of years organizing political events and fundraisers, but she craved valleybride 2010  51


the creativity and interpersonal bonds  that  came  from  organizing  personal  events.  “I  thought  brides  would  be  easy  compared  to  politicians,”  she  said with her infectious laugh. While  she’s  very  familiar  with  the  usual large venues chosen for nuptial  occasions,  Appeldoorn  is  enthusiast  about  the  local  hidden  gems  in  the  Fraser  Valley,  from  luxury  B&Bs  to  parks, private farms and other spots. An  added  perk  is  that  Appeldoorn  is  a  personal  fitness  trainer  (her  clients  include  Canadian  Forces  members),  a  complementary  career  she’s also had for the past  0 years. As part of the planning service, she  offers her brides – and all members of  the wedding party – free access to her  boot  camp-style  classes  three  times  a  week, with her All or Nothing Fitness  services  (allornothingfi tness.ca).  She  says  as  with  any  exercise  regime,  there are positive effects overall. The  women  get  into  better  shape  for  the  big  day,  with  firmer  arms,  backs  and  torsos  for  those  close-

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fitting bodices and sleeveless gowns – and don’t forget the honeymoon – the gown eventually comes off, and the bride still has to look good in a bathing suit or what-have-you on the honeymoon, she says. “I can have the brides for a whole year training, and we offer the training to the others. The end result is you have a happy bride and a happy bridal party,” said Appeldorn. “The brides are less cranky, less stressed and more relaxed.” Appeldoorn said she recently had 10 brides attending her workout program. She runs classes three times a week, incorporating cardio, stretching and strength, but like everything else she does, Appeldoorn likes to keep things interesting. Exercise can come in the form of rock climbing, pole dancing, and recently she took her group to play floor

hockey, something many of the participants hadn’t done since elementary school. “It was a real workout, but it was a lot of fun,” she said. Appeldoorn goes out of her way to pamper her clients. One thing she does is book a venue, maybe a bed and breakfast like Sweet Dreams Luxury Inn in Abbotsford, for the bridal party on the wedding day. “I have all the services come there, to do the hair, the nails, the make-up,” while she and Jennifer ensure the attire, flowers and other details are made ready. “We create a relaxing environment with a healthy continental breakfast as you prepare for the day.” n To find out more, see Appeldoorn’s website at www.Get-Hitched.ca and click on the hearts. You can also e-mail to Brenda@get-hitched. ca, Jennifer@get-hitched.ca or call 604-8970409 or 604-864-7065.

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used primarily to indicate to friends and family what china patterns the couple had selected at their department store. Now: Here’s one etiquette rule that’s done a complete 180. Most often your guests will expect you to register for gifts. Not registering for anything would actually be more questionable these days, though acceptable if that’s what you wish. Then: Putting registry information or requests for cash on wedding stationery of any kind was unacceptable. Now: It still is. Even if you want to insist that your guests don’t buy gifts, the invitation isn’t the proper place to do so. The same goes for cash requests. No matter how practical you think it is, you can come off looking as if you’re charging admission to your wedding. (This includes registry information – let it spread by word of mouth or through a subtle mention on your wedding website.) If you’re interested in receiving cash or something very specific, consider setting up a lifestyle registry or alternative registry that will help clue in your guests. Then: You wouldn’t invite

someone to your shower who wasn’t invited to your wedding. Now: It’s only acceptable to have different guest lists if you’re throwing an office shower or having a very intimate destination wedding. Since guests will have to bring presents to the shower, it could look like you’re trying to collect gifts from them even though they’re not welcome at the main event. Then: After attending a wedding and purchasing a gift for the couple, guests expected to receive a thank-

you note as close to the wedding date as possible. Now: It’s a must that you write thank-you notes to everyone who attended your wedding. There is a little more leeway regarding how soon guests expect to receive them. It’s becoming understood that this is something that won’t happen overnight – especially with more couples taking longer honeymoons or planning other family time postwedding. These days, you have between one and three months to send


thank-you notes before it’s considered rude or neglectful. Then: Guests received invitations and wrote back on their own stating whether or not they would attend. Now: Save-the-dates, though still a fair ly new form of wedding stationery, have become more common because weddings now tend to require more travelling and planning (especially with the increased popularity of destination weddings and holiday weddings). Savethe-dates are to be sent out before the invitations to give guests as much time to plan as possible, and to help the bride and groom get an idea of what their final guest count will be. In addition, guests

will likely expect to see a response card in the invitation suite and might feel inconvenienced if they have to supply their own reply stationery and postage. Then: The bride’s family paid for all wedding expenses. Now: There are no rules about who pays for what as long as everyone keeps in mind the central rule that no one should have to put up more money than they’re comfortable spending. You don’t need to go into debt to get married, and often very close friends and other family members will offer to help pick up costs for pre-wedding parties and extra unexpected expenses (tux rental, late fees, extra favour bags, etc.). n

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Wedding Games Here are some popular games that are played on or with the bridal couple. Some families or cultures may be sensitive to some games or consequences you perform on the couple. Please ensure that no protocols are breached before playing a game. Lifesaver:

Blindfold the groom (you don’t want to mess up the bride’s makeup). Put four different coloured (flavoured) Lifesavers in the bride’s mouth. Have the groom fish each colour out in a specific order (get the audience to choose). For each one he gets wrong, he has to do a drink (if he has been drinking too much, I suggest a full glass of water for each error).

Pop the balloon:

Get the wedding party up and place a balloon between each woman and man (use your imagination of where to put the balloon). They have to hug tightly

enough to break the balloon. The last one to do it is punished. (Do not fully inflate the newlyweds) balloon – it makes it harder or impossible to pop). Punishments can be anything from kissing to singing to carrying the bride around the room, etc . . .

Instantly-wed game:

Same as the Newlywed Game – When the bride leaves the room to change (or powder her nose) ask the groom some questions about them to see if the bride answers the same when she returns. For each wrong answer you can offer a punishment. Sample

questions would be: What was the other person wearing when they met? Does the other person like their toilet paper to roll off the top of the roll or the bottom? Who is smarter, the bride or the groom and why? You can also use do the InstantlyWed game with the bride and groom taking off their shoes and exchanging one of theirs for their spouses. Make the questions so that they have to answer with either a him or her. For example, “who will be the one who takes out the garbage?” The newlyweds would then hold up the shoe that corresponds with who they

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then  have  him/her  spit  the  egg  back  out  into  the  cup.  You might want to get them  some bibs so that they don’t  get their attire eggy.

Egg through the pants:

Guess the lipstick marks:

Everyone  does  this  one.  Get a raw egg and have the  bride  insert  the  egg  in  one  of the groom’s pant legs and  then    fish  it  through    the  pants  until  it  comes  out  of  the other pant leg. If the egg  doesn’t  make  it  through  in  one piece, it is punishment  enough.  Some  people  have  used  frozen  oranges  or  sponges.

Have  a  few  girls  (or  guys)  kiss  a  sheet  of  paper  along  with  the  bride.  The  groom  then  has  to  correctly  guess  which one is hers.

Raw egg transfer:  Put  a  raw  egg  into  a  cup.  Have  one  newlywed  pour  the  egg  into  their  mouth;  then,  have  him/her  transfer  the  raw  egg  from  their  mouth  into  their  spouse’s  mouth;

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Cinderella (Whose shoes are these?): Same as the above two – but they don’t have to smell them.

Pen in the bottle: This is a communication game. You need to prepare an empty bottle, string, a pen and a stick and a blindfold, (last two are optional). You put a bottle on the floor and tie a pen to a string.

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Five to Four Months Before

One Month Before

❏ Start a wedding folder ❏ Work out the budget ❏ Build your wedding party ❏ Settle on a head count ❏ Hire a planner, if desired ❏ Book the date and venues ❏ Book the offi ciant ❏ Research photographers bands,  fl orists, and caterers ❏ Insert vendor contact information  into a master contact list ❏ Throw engagement party ❏  _____________________________ ❏  _____________________________ ❏  _____________________________

❏ Book the rehearsal and rehearsaldinner venues ❏ Check on printing of wedding  invitations ❏ Order the cake ❏ Send the guest list to the bridalshower hostess ❏ Purchase shoes and start dress  fi ttings ❏ Schedule hair and makeup artists ❏ Choose songs ❏ Plan welcome baskets ❏  _____________________________ ❏  _____________________________ ❏  _____________________________

Eight Months Before

Three Months Before

❏ Book the photographer and the  videographer ❏ Book entertainment ❏ Register ❏ Purchase a dress ❏ Start meeting caterers ❏ Reserve block of hotel rooms for  guests ❏ Launch a wedding website ❏  _____________________________ ❏  _____________________________ ❏  _____________________________

❏ Finalize the menu and the fl owers ❏ Order favors, if desired ❏ Create a toast makers’ list ❏ Finalize readings ❏ Purchase the rings ❏ Finalize order of the ceremony and  reception ❏ Print menu cards and programs ❏ Purchase undergarments and visit  dressmaker for second fi tting ❏ Send schedule to vendors ❏  _____________________________ ❏  _____________________________ ❏  _____________________________

❏ Put RSVPs into guest-list database  and phone invitees who haven’t yet  responded. ❏ Get marriage license ❏ Mail rehearsal-dinner invitations ❏ Have fi nal dress fi tting ❏ Stock the bar ❏ Send out as many fi nal payments as  you can ❏ Confi rm times for hair and makeup  and vendors ❏ Assign seating ❏ Purchase bridesmaids’ gifts to hand  out at the rehearsal dinner ❏ Write vows, if necessary ❏ Get hair cut and colored, if desired ❏  _____________________________ ❏  _____________________________ ❏  _____________________________

Seven to Six Months Before ❏ Purchase invitations and hire a  calligrapher ❏ Plan your honeymoon ❏ Shop for bridesmaids’ dresses ❏ Meet with the offi ciant ❏ Send save-the-date cards ❏ Reserve structural and electrical  necessities ❏ Book a fl orist ❏ Procure transportation ❏ Start composing a day-of timeline ❏  _____________________________ ❏  _____________________________ ❏  _____________________________

Two Months Before ❏ Discuss locations and shots with  photographer ❏ Review playlist with the band or the  deejay ❏ Send invitations ❏ Touch base with vendors ❏ Submit a newspaper wedding  announcement ❏ Enjoy bachelorette party ❏  _____________________________ ❏  _____________________________ ❏  _____________________________

Week of ❏ Reconfi rm arrival times with all  vendors ❏ Delegate small wedding-day tasks to  friends and family members ❏ Send fi nal timeline to bridal party ❏ Make arrangements for the dress to  be delivered or pick it up yourself ❏ Supply photographer with a list of  moments you want captured ❏ Set aside checks and tip envelope  for vendors ❏ Book spa treatment ❏ Send fi nal guest count to caterer and  venues ❏ Break in shoes ❏ Assemble welcome baskets and  distribute ❏ Pack for honeymoon ❏  _____________________________ ❏  _____________________________ ❏  _____________________________ ❏  _____________________________ ❏  _____________________________ ❏  _____________________________ ❏  _____________________________

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resource index ABBOTSFORD WINE 2 - 2015 Abbotsford Way, Abbotsford 604-854-5353 www.abbotsfordwine.com

Professional Personal Service

Annette’s Tailor Shop 8991 Young Road 604-795-9888 Agassiz Agricultural Hall 604 796 3246 info@agassizfallfair.com ASHLEY MARTENS PHOTOGRAPHY 604-308-1259 ashleymartenphotography@live.ca www.ashleymartensphotography.com

A name you can trust Membership Services Insurance Call 604-824-2720 Visit 45428 Luckakuck Way Click www.bcaa.com

Relax. We’ve got it covered.

BEDFORD HOUSE RESTAURANT 9272 Glover Road Fort Langley, BC, V1M2R7 604.888.2333

Country Catering 32080 Marshall Road, Abbotsford 604-504-0737 www.abcabbotsford.com/countrycatering-abbotsford-bc.asp

Best Western Bakerview 1821 Sumas Way, Abbotsford 604-859-1341 1-877-336-6156 www.bestwesternbakerview.com

Culinary Touch Catering 101-30600 Progressive Way, Abbotsford 604-825-1979 www.ctcfoodservices.com

Best Western MISSION CITY LODGE 32281 Lougheed Hwy, Mission 604-820-5500 bwmission@telus.net Borrowed Bridal Dreams 604 798 6837 borrowedbridaldreams@hotmail.com Bug In Your Ear DJ Service 604-703-0794 jansens@telus.net

Cakes on Demand • Wedding & All Occasion Cakes • Cookies & Cupcakes www.cakesondemand.com 7484A Vedder Road Chilliwack 604-793-3688 Champagne & Lace 33811 South Fraser Way, Abbotsford 604-852-8686 www.champagneandlace.com Christine’s Creative Cakes 604-793-0100 cakescutajar@hotmail.com

Heather Courtice Spa Consultant Treat yourself to a free Spa Day in the comfort of your own home.

Classic Stationery & Scrapbooking 45933 Alexander Ave, Chilliwack 604 793 6906 classicbarb@shaw.ca

604-626-4343 eighteenacres.com

Dance Club will choreograph your special

Wedding Dance 604-316-0294 Dam Pretty Things Boutique 31170 Dewdney Trunk Road, Mission 604-462-9800 DANCE LESSONS WITH ROBERT 4 - 2009 Abbotsford Way, Abbotsford 604-850-4908 www.dancelessonswithrobert.com DeNevers Events 604-858-2217 www.deneversevents.com

Everlasting MemoriES 778-808-8479 e.memories@hotmail.com www.myphotoslideshow.org The Falls Golf Resort 8341 Nixon Road, Chilliwack 604-796-3300 www.thefalls.com Flowers For You 604-746-9379 www.flowersforyou.ca Fraternal Order of Eagles 33868 Essendene Ave, Abbotsford 604-859-5405 www.foe.com Graham’s Gifts 45915 Wellington Ave., Chilliwack 604 795 5812 Here & There Mobile Salon and Spa 604-701-8700

2 locations to serve you 6014 Vedder Rd 604.824.9602 45905 Yale Rd 604.792.9689 www.divinewines.ca

www.beautipage.ca/heatherc 604-831-3647

The Coast Chilliwack Hotel 45920 First Avenue, Chilliwack 604 792 5552 chilliwack@coasthotels.com

Doug’s Key Mart Locksmith Located in Chilliwack Mall 604 858 6777 dougkey@shaw.ca

ASM Printing Inc #13 34100 South Fraser Way, Abbotsford 604-854-6644

Cookies Grill 44335 Yale Road West Chilliwack 604.792.0444 www.cookiesgrill.ca

Ever After Bridal 604-824-9799 604-793-8336 Chilliwack, B.C.

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♥ Floral Bouquets ♥ Wedding Arrangements Seasonal bedding plants and a wide assortment of potted plants.

Icing On The Cake 604-820-1354 604-826-5029 icingonthecake@shaw.ca Jeff Andrews Photography 604-864-8777 www.jeffandrewsphotography.com JR Jewellers until March 1st at Cottonwood Mall, Chilliwack after March 1st at #102- 45389 Luckakuck Way Chilliwack 604-858-5115 www.jrjewellersbc.com Ken Pugh Wedding Photography 604- 858-0544 www.kenpugh.ca


resource index Kim Odell Photography 604-798-7878 www.kimodellphotography.com Klassic Catering Tel: 604-864-8250 www.klassiccatering.com La Brewhouse U-Brew Wine & Beer 3 – 8635 Young Road, Chilliwack 604 795 2321 labrewhouse@shaw.ca LANKA JEWELS 326 - 32555 London Avenue, Mission 604-826-5766 www.lankajewels.ca Lasting Flowers 604-858-0172 604-793-8764 www.lastingflowers.ca gail@lastingflowers.ca Let’s Makeup Beauty Studio 604-826-3507 8102 Cade Barr Street, Mission letsmakeupbeauty.webs.com LEVEL 6 IMAGES 604.835.2747 www.level6images.com Magnolias on Main 33253 1st Ave, Mission 604-826-1110 www.magnoliasonmainflowers.com Making Memories 20457 Douglas Crescent, Langley 604-514-0044 www.makingmemoriesbridal.ca Mary Kay Cosmetics Kelly Maydiniuk Tel: 604-824-6499 www.marykay.ca/kmaydiniuk Meadow Gardens Golf Course 19675 Meadow Gardens Way, Pitt Meadows www.meadowgardens.com 604 465 5474 Moi Photography 604-616-7932 www.moiphotography.com

MSA Museum Society at Trethewey House Heritage Site 2313 Ware Street, Abbotsford 604-853-0313 www.msamuseum.ca Ocean Breeze Cruise & Travel Corporation #116 3250 Mount Lehman Road, Abbotsford 604-857-0880 www.oceanbreezeholidays.com On The Rocks BARTENDING SERVICE 604-795-3196 ontherocksbartending@shaw.ca Orpana Imaging 604 316 8120 www.orpanaimaging.com Paramount Portraits 604-850-3183 www.paramountportraits.com Perfect Tan 300-2050 Sumas Way, Abbotsford 604-855-9559 2 - 32750 George Ferguson Way, Abbotsford 604-850-2112 www.perfecttan.ca

Riverwood Weddings & Events 604-858-7453 Chilliwack 604-897-1753 Abbotsford www.riverwoodevents.ca ROCKWELL’S CATERING 32281 Lougheed Hwy, Mission 604-820-5500 Ext. #4 mission@rockwellscatering.com

Rocky Mountain Chocolate Factory 328 Esplanade Ave. Harrison Hot Springs Across from the lagoon 604-491-2010 7 oaks Laser Dental Centre Seven Oaks Mall 604-870-9838 www.7oaks-smile.com Silk & White Satin #205 – 7592 Vedder Road Chilliwack 604 858 2758 silkandwhitesatin@yahoo.ca

Phat Boyz Mobile DJ Service 604 819 0161 1 800 719 0161 www.phatboyz.ca

Simply Perfect Flowers #102 2070 Sumas Way, Abbotsford www.simplyperfectflowers.com 604-557-0055

Photography by Davina 604-854-1116, 604-309-4328 www.photographybydavina.ca

Studio Deluxe Photography Email: info@ studiodeluxephotography.com

Photoplay’s Portrait Jean Konda-Witte, photojournalist jkonda@telus.net

Suman’s Beauty, Bride and Boutique #1 2757 Bourquin Crescent West Abbotsford 604-850-1376

Ramada Plaza & Conference Centre 36035 North Parallel Road, Abbotsford 604-870-1050 1-888-411-1070 www.ramadaabbotsford.ca Restaurant 62 106-2001 McCallum Road, Abbotsford 604-855-3545 www.restaurant62.ca

Sunrayz 12-2047 Sumas Way, Abbotsford 604-853-8560 www.sunrayz.ca SureSlim Chilliwack #11 – 6014 Vedder Road Chilliwack 604 847 3111 chilliwack@sureslim.ca

SWING OPTICAL 2 - 33231 1st Avenue Mission, V2V 1G7 Teddy Bear Dreams 45903 Wellington Ave Chilliwack 604 792 3215 The Tent Guys Tel: 853-2511 www.tentguys.ca Thomas Designer Jewelry Ltd. 7425 Vedder Road Chilliwack 604.858.8002 www.thomasdesignerjewelry.com

Tzeachten Hall 45855 Promontory Road Chilliwack, British Columbia V2R 0H3

Tel: 604-858-3888 Toll Free: 1-866-494-3888 www.tzeachten.ca Unique Silver Tray 604-793-8146 www.innasweddings.com Valley Wedding Solutions 604-858-0544 www.valleyweddingsolutions.com Vancouver Valley Professional Bartending Service 778-866-8367 Vancouver 604-795-1769 Fraser Valley www.vancouvervalleybarpros.ca Weddings West www.weddingswest.com

Beautiful and stylish photography 1886 Chapel available for wedding ceremonies Tel: 604.823.4613

www.whitealbumweddings.com www.whitealbumweddings.com/blog

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Beauty & Fashion FOR ALL YOUR

NEEDS

full hair and esthetic services • threading • waxing

One stop shopping for prom & wedding accessories

Suman’s Beauty, Bride and Boutique #1-2757 Bourquin Crescent West Abbotsford BC

604.850.1376

• make up • hair care


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