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hings change. No one knows that better than parents. We watch our chubby-cheeked babies transform into energetic toddlers, then inquisitive preschoolers. Soon they’re starting kindergarten — and before you know it, they’ve moved on to big, bad middle school. One of the more shocking transitions we witness as parents occurs when our child hits seventh or eighth grade. Boys shoot up three shoe sizes in one year and outgrow their jeans every six months. Girls start shaving their legs and wear undergarments they can’t quite fill in. Suddenly — and sadly — that sweet newborn we cradled gently in our arms has graduated from high school and is heading off to college. Carolina Parent’s March issue delivers tips and resources for the many transitions your tween or teen may be experiencing. To start with, we’ve tackled two dreaded “D” words: dating and driving. Familiarize yourself with the new rules of teen dating on page 26 (Prepare to be shocked!) and pick up some helpful driving tips for teens and parents on pages 15 and 29. Explore the “Selfies” craze on page 20. (You may find a few Carolina Parent staff Selfies as well!) Read five mistakes parents make with their teens on page 15 and discover when it’s OK — even welcome — to report another tween’s or teen’s bad behavior on page 33.

We recommend three dorm room PUBLISHER Brenda Larson blarson@carolinaparent.com essentials for your college-bound teen on page 35, and offer 10 tips for landing a EDITOR Beth Shugg bshugg@carolinaparent.com college scholarship on page 36. We’ve up- loaded additional college planning con- ASSOCIATE EDITOR Janice Lewine CALENDAR/DIRECTORIES jlewine@carolinaparent.com tent at carolinaparent.com/tweensteens/ collegeplanning/index.php, including WEB EDITOR Odile Fredericks an analysis of how the ACT differs from ofredericks@carolinaparent.com the SAT, and why North Carolinians can DIGITAL MEDIA SPECIALIST Lauren Isaacs no longer claim a 529 college savings tax lisaacs@carolinaparent.com deduction. As you and your teen embark ART DIRECTOR Cheri Vigna on the transition from high school to cvigna@carolinaparent.com college, Carolina Parent is there for you ADVERTISING DESIGNER Mia Prior in print and online. mprior@carolinaparent.com Speaking of change, we have a very exciting transition of our own to share SALES TEAM LEADER and Candi Griffin MEDIA CONSULTANT cgriffin@carolinaparent.com with you. In a few weeks, Carolina Parent and sister magazines Charlotte Parent GENERAL MANAGER and Gail L. Harris MEDIA CONSULTANT gharris@carolinaparent.com and Piedmont Parent will be acquired by Morris Media Network, a family MEDIA CONSULTANTS Regina Alston ralston@carolinaparent.com owned company based in Augusta, Ga. You may already be familiar with some Sue Chen of the company’s publications, such as schen@carolinaparent.com Charlotte Magazine, Charlotte Wedding, Katina Faulkner skirt!, where travel publications and daily kfaulkner@carolinaparent.com newspapers in Savannah, Ga.; JacksonBUSINESS MANAGER Kara Lynn Mann • 866-932-6459 ville, Fla.; and 10 other U.S. cities. We’re karalynn@charlotteparent.com thrilled to announce that this esteemed industry leader has welcomed North CarolinaParent.com Carolina’s top parenting publications facebook.com/carolinaparent twitter.com/carolinaparent into its fold, embracing you, our loyal pinterest.com/carolinaparent audience, as the key to our editorial leadinstagram.com/carolinaparent plus.google.com/+carolinaparent ership and success across the state. Thanks to this acquisition, we’ll be 5716 Fayetteville Rd., Suite 201, Durham, NC 27713 able to offer our print and online readers phone: 919-956-2430 • fax: 919-956-2427 more parenting resources than ever beemail: info@carolinaparent.com fore. We’re proud to enter this transition Published by Carolina Parenting Inc. Circulation 44,000. Distribution of this magazine does not with you by our side. We know it will be constitute an endorsement of information, smooth, productive and full of promise. products or services. Carolina Parent reserves the right to reject any advertisement or listing that is not in keeping with the publication’s standards. Copyright 2014 by Carolina Parent. All rights reserved. Reproduction in whole or in part without permission is prohibited.

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Heart of Carolina Food Drive Surpasses Goal The 2013 Heart of Carolina Food Drive brought together hundreds of local businesses, schools, clubs and individuals in November and December to collect food and raise funds for families in need throughout central and eastern North Carolina. This year’s drive exceeded the campaign’s donation goal of 6 million pounds and will benefit the Food Bank of Central and Eastern North Carolina and Second Harvest Food Bank of Southeast North Carolina. Food drive sponsors included ABC11 Kroger, CenturyLink and the Law Office of D. Hardison Wood. The Heart of Carolina Food Drive exceeded its 6-million-pound donation goal. Photo courtesy of ABC11

Kohl’s Cares Scholarship Nominations Due March 14 Kohl’s Department Stores is accepting nominations for the 2014 Kohl’s Cares Scholarship Program through March 14. Nominations are open to outstanding young volunteers, ages 6-18, who have made a positive impact on their communities. Kohl’s will award nearly $400,000 in scholarships and prizes to more than 2,300 children. Learn more at kohlskids.com.

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Automatic. Then they will be more focused on driving than shifting gears. — Carla Newkirk

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and Human Services to improve services for young children with Autism Spectrum Disorder and their families. The three-year project’s mission is to link both university and state partners to lower the ages by which young children receive appropriate developmental screening, ASD-specific screening, diagnostic assessments and early intervention. North Carolina was one of only four states to be awarded funding by the bureau during this cycle. Learn more at med.unc.edu. carolinaparent.com | MARCH 2014

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Harris Teeter has launched the Together in Education $100,000 Giveaway, which rewards customers for supporting schools through its TIE program and encourages them to try its private-label products. Each week of the contest, which runs through April 2, Harris Teeter’s TIE Prize Patrol will award a cash prize of up to $10,000 per winner. When the prize patrol visits a contestant’s home, he or she will automatically receive $250, as well as $50 for every Harris Teeter Brand product found in the home. Harris Teeter will also donate $250 to the TIE school the contestant’s VIC card is linked to. Every VIC household linked to a school in Harris Teeter’s TIE program is eligible to participate. Learn more at harristeeter.com/community.

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Teen “drexting,” or texting while driving, is becoming a leading cause of death for teen drivers. Researchers at Cohen Children’s Medical Center in New Hyde Park, N.Y., estimate that there are more than 3,000 annual teen deaths and 300,000 teen injuries nationwide due to texting while driving. A team of Cohen Children’s Medical Center investigators also found that among 8,947 teens ages 15-18 driving between September 2010 and December 2011, 49 percent of the boys and 45 percent of girls admitted to texting while driving. Find more “drexting” stats and facts at textinganddrivingsafety.com. Here are five apps, according to Mashable.com, that can help prevent texting while driving. ● DriveOFF (Android, free): play.google.com ● DriveMode (free for AT&T customers with Android or Blackberry devices): att.com ● TextBuster (Android, free): play.google.com ● DriveScribe (Android and iPhone, free): play.google.com and itunes.apple.com ● Canary (Android and iPhone, free): play.google.com and itunes. apple.com

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A Celebration of Storytelling Friday, Mar. 21

Main Library, 300 N. Roxboro St. Storytelling 101 – Telling Your Story! 2 - 4 p.m.

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In like a lion, out like a lamb. Celebrate spring’s arrival and St. Patrick’s Day with these mad-about-March selections.

Fashion Forward Lucky Clover This Kirra Tate gold quatrefoil charm necklace features an on-trend, clover accent that hangs beautifully from a delicate bead chain. $32, laylagrayce.com.

Gather your girlfriends and discover spring trends at Crabtree Valley Mall on March 9, 6-10 p.m., during the Junior League of Raleigh’s annual Belk Fashion Forward fundraiser. This year’s event features a fashion show, special discounts and an appearance from designer Trina Turk, widely known for her use of bright florals, bold graphics and vintage inspired jacquards. $25 general admission and $75 VIP admission, jlraleigh.org.

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Springy Sweater Avoid getting pinched on St. Patrick’s Day by wearing this kelly green knit sweater from Anne Klein. The flattering scoop neckline with zipper details at the shoulders looks great with dark denim or paired with a pencil skirt for a springy, workweek look. $53, lordandtaylor.com.

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Pricey? Yes. Practical? Absolutely! The right trench coat, like this one from J. Crew Factory, can be worn over anything — from a little black dress to your favorite T-shirt and jeans. Fashion trends may come and go in the blink of an eye, but outerwear’s most classic silhouette never goes out of style. Own it forever. $170, factory.jcrew.com.

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growing up by Malia Jacobson

Moving Forward

hanging addresses — and sometimes schools, communities and friends — is a rite of passage for millions of children. According to

U.S. Census Bureau data, the average American moves nearly 12 times in a lifetime, with two to three moves occurring before the age of 18. While a new hometown can be exciting, expansive and fun, it can also make a child’s world feel topsy-turvy. Here’s age-by-age guidance on helping children take a move in stride.

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Facing Fears

Moves aren’t just hard on older children and teens. Toddlers and preschoolers thrive on predictability, so a move that interrupts their daily routine can be distressing, especially if it means parting with a familiar school, favorite park or cherished relative. “Some children are very upset by moving,” says Deborah Pardee, a psychotherapist and faculty member at University of the Rockies in Colorado Springs, Colo. “Parents can help in this process by recognizing that the child is going to experience loss, and talking about it.” Assure children that favorite people and places won’t be forgotten. Make a memory book full of photos from their hometown. Little ones may fear forgetting something important at the old house or even of being left behind. Reassure them that the moving van will deliver all of their toys and furniture to the new house. Show your child driving routes or plane tickets, and talk about how all family members, including Fido, will arrive safe and sound at the new house.

Malia Jacobson is a nationally published health journalist and mom of three.

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School-age children are beginning to exercise more control over their lives. A move can make them feel powerless. When Charlotte mom Sydney Eggleston moved with her family from Seattle, she involved Hayden, 14, and Sophia, 12, in as many steps of the process as possible, asking them what they wanted in a new home and embarking on a cross-country “treasure hunt” during the actual move. Help ramp up excitement about the change by creating a new-home wish list together. Does your child dream of living near the beach, skyscrapers or wide-open spaces? Checking out options for amenities like bike trails, skateboard parks and swimming pools can help kids and tweens see the upside of a move. “The new neighborhood might offer activities and resources not previously available, so a move can be a good time to try something new,” says Paul A. LeBuffe, director of Devereux Center for Resilient Children in Villanova, Pa. “Joining an organization or club, taking a new class, or volunteering in the community can provide new experiences, cultivate new interests and provide opportunities for making new friends.”

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a teen’s social world at a time when relationships are crucial to self-esteem and personal growth. “Peers provide a sense of identity through shared values and interests, as well as a relatively safe context in which to explore a teen’s emerging personality,” says LeBuffe. Parents can minimize the stress of a move by encouraging teens to use technology to stay close to pals. Eggleston helped arrange Skype calls between her kids and friends in Seattle. Even with parental help and support, teens may display sadness, withdrawal and resentment toward parents while they adjust to the new setting, says Marilyn B. Benoit, chief clinical officer at Devereux Center for Resilient Children in Villanova, Pa. This may look like depression, but in most cases it’s not. “The ‘normal’ depressive reaction is situational,” she says. “A healthy teenager will use resilient coping skills, exploring new relationships and hobbies while staying in touch with old friends.”

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tech talk by Carolyn Jabs

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hen the Oxford Dictionary pronounced “selfie” word of the

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The urge to capture an image of one’s self has been controversial ever since Narcissus starved to death because he couldn’t look away from his own reflection. Today parents are asking whether a selfie is an unhealthy form of self-absorption or a creative form of self-expression. The answer, of course, is “It depends.” Taking selfies for reactions from other people has become one way teens answer the age-old question: “Who am I and how do I fit into the world?” Since there’s no way to put this genie back into the bottle, let’s help teens think about the role selfies play in their lives. n Selfie-Motivated. Teens have different reasons for taking selfies. They may want to try out different looks, experiment with creative effects or share experiences with friends. Unfortunately, because selfies are posted via social media, many teens become hyper-aware of the effect they are having on others. In pursuit of “likes,” teens may post selfies that reveal too much or provoke envy. Help your child understand that selfesteem should be based on something more solid. Is your child living up to his own ideals? Does he have the respect of people he trusts? If so, likes and, for that matter, dislikes, will matter much less to him.

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From top to bottom: Selfies from Mackenzie Wolf of Apex; and Carolina Parent staffers Lauren Isaacs with daughter Evelyn, and Beth Shugg.

n Post Preference. Parents can learn a lot by knowing where a teen prefers to post her selfies. Some call Facebook “Fakebook” because so much of what shows up there is carefully curated to make a person look happy and successful. At the other extreme, Snapchat tends to be used for outrageous or provocative photos since the selfie disappears in a few seconds. On Instagram, selfies tend to be carefully composed because users are aware that they are playing a part for the camera. n Post Frequency. Many young people go through a phase in which they want to document everything. Encourage your child to be selective about what goes online. One study suggested that instead of promoting closeness, posting too many selfies actually decreased the sense of connection. In another study, researchers found that young people visiting a museum were more likely to remember what they had seen if they weren’t taking photos.

n Selfie Surgery. Loving your face and body can be challenging during adolescence, so kids are often tempted to use tools that “improve” their looks. Some apps enable the addition of filters, frames and color. Others make it possible to engage in what one commentator called “selfie surgery” by airbrushing flaws. Talk to your child about what tools she uses to change her selfie and what complications may result from looking one way in a photo and another way in real life.

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n ‘Unselfies’ Unite. Encourage your child to think less about himself and more about others by encouraging “unselfies” that highlight connections or causes for the common good. Some people have also begun posting unselfies to promote ways to make the world a better place. Find examples at unselfie.me.

n Sexy Selfie. In a culture saturated with sexual images, it’s no surprise young people want to imitate what they see. Before you talk to your child, think about what is appropriate. Are you OK with photos of kids in swimsuits or pajamas? Is it appropriate for a teen to post a selfie from her bed? In front of the bathroom mirror? Coming

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Social Ties Trump Biology in Teen Sleep Problems A new study published in the December 2013 issue of the Journal of Health and Social Behavior suggests that social ties, including relationships with peers and parents, may be more responsible than biological factors in changing adolescents’ sleep patterns. David J. Maume, a sociology professor at the University of Cincinnati, analyzed changes in the school night sleep patterns of nearly 1,000 adolescents ages 12-15. He found that during this period, the average sleep duration dropped from more than nine hours per school night to less than eight.

Maume found that parental monitoring of adolescent

behavior — especially in setting a bedtime — strongly determined healthy sleep habits. Adolescents also had sleep of longer duration and higher quality when they felt a part of the schools they attended or had friends who cared about academics and were positive, social people.

Home Visits to Newborns May Reduce Medical Costs A study published in the Nov. 1, 2013 issue of the Pediatrics examined results from a program called Durham Connects that provides limited visits

29.4 percent of adult residents of the South were considered obese in 2013, compared with 28.1 percent in 2012.

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Researchers from Duke University found that the program, which costs an average of $700 per family, resulted in 50 percent less emergency hospital care which can cost thousands of dollars.

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The new federal health care law provides funding for some home visiting programs,

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link patients to pediatricians, primary

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all 4,777 babies born in Durham County

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between July 1, 2009 and Dec. 31, 2010.

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Katherine Kopp is a freelance writer and editor in Chapel Hill.

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Teen Dating By Suzanne M. Wood

s prom season approaches, it’s easy to conjure romantic

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Ah, reality. If you’re the parent of a child who has recently started middle school, get ready for a decidedly new dating scene. Yes, the prom as we knew it still exists, but even its drama pales in comparison to today’s boy-girl relationship issues. “It’s not your parents’ dating anymore,” concedes Robin Gurwitch, a clinical psychologist at the Duke Center for Child and Family Health. “We don’t have the vocabulary and we don’t have the experiences to be able to help. We’re learning this at the same time our children are navigating through it.” What follows is a teen dating primer to help your child — and you — forge the valley between child and young adult.

Dating Starts Earlier It’s not unusual for sixthgraders to say, “I have a boyfriend/girlfriend.” Often these relationships develop through texting. These first relationships usually don’t go beyond chatting, posing for pictures later posted on social media and requests to attend coed group outings. Most experts and parents consulted for this article say group “dates” to the mall, movies or even a friend’s house are fine as long as they’re supervised, even if it means just being in the same shopping center. Ed Parrish, a banker and father of four from Graham, has noticed that his 13-year-old son has started

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asking his older sister if her friend’s younger sister can join her on visits to the Parrish home. They’ll hang out while their older sisters visit. Sometimes, his son will go to the movies with guy friends and “meet up” with a group of girls from school, Parrish says. He feels comfortable with these early forays because “we’ve given him the talk about the need to respect young ladies and what we expect of him.” What to watch for: Cellphones and social media can lay traps for preteens and young teens. Parents should establish ground rules for texting members of the opposite sex and explain the importance of avoiding any form of “sexting.” Parents should also monitor their child’s text conversations and follow/friend them on any social media sites where they have accounts. Young teens have especially fragile egos, so negative peer feedback on social media can be especially damaging.

The New “Talking” Phase of Dating Kids today don’t plunge into dating without first going through the “talking to each other” phase. This means a boy and girl who feel an attraction spend time together, whether alone or in groups, then text and/or Snapchat in-between. A fairly high bar stands between this phase and actual “dating,” wherein one member of the couple — usually the boy — officially asks the other out. Megan*, a senior at Myers Park High School in Charlotte, says only about 20 percent of these relationships result in an official couple. Jennifer*, a junior at Sanderson High School in Raleigh, notes that while it’s not cool to “talk” to more than one person at a time, some people go from one talking “relationship” to another without actually dating anyone, which tends to explain the relatively low numbers of

&7& actual couples. For instance, among Megan’s circle of about seven close girlfriends, only two have boyfriends. The rest are either completely single or talking to someone. “Maybe among the younger girls it’s more important to have a boyfriend, but as we’ve gotten older, it’s just not as important,” she says. Parents should try to stay on top of who their child is talking to or dating, and why — especially with younger teens. This is a prime opportunity to find out what they find appropriate and desirable in a romantic partner, says Crystal Reardon, director of counseling for Wake County Public School System. “There is a balance there. You have to respect your children’s feelings but also want to help keep them safe.” What to watch for: Girls usually don’t want to bring someone they’re just talking to home to their parents, say both Megan and Jennifer, so be prepared for some flak if you insist. “You never want the guy to think you’re going, ‘Oh, we’re dating, so I want you to meet them,’” Megan says. On the other hand, she adds, “if you’re really dating, at some point you absolutely do want your parents to meet him.”

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Events are a Group Experience Your teen doesn’t have to be dating or talking to anyone to have a date to the prom, winter formal or Sadie Hawkins dance. That’s because most kids go in large groups and are couples in name only. Johnny may still ask Suzy to be his date, but only after the “group” has decided who will go with whom. The group eats dinner together, poses for pictures together and attends the dance together. Of course, kids who already have relationships — and even some still in the talking phase — will go with that special person, but still as part of a group. As Megan puts it: “It’s not, ‘Who’s your date?’ but, ‘What group are you going with?’” What to watch for: Officially, it’s OK for kids who aren’t part of a large friend group to go with just a date or with another couple, and it’s OK for kids to go “stag.” Unofficially, there are unwritten rules that your teen knows might discourage him from attending even if he wants to. If that’s the case, the only thing you can do is offer support and perhaps plan a trip or outing for that night.

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Learning to Drive Tips for Teens and Parents By Katherine Kopp

eens and cars can make a dangerous combination.

old drivers’ crash rate.

Motor vehicle accidents are the leading cause of death

among young people ages 15-19, accounting for 37 percent of all deaths in this age group, according to Safe Roads 4 Teens,

17-year-old drivers’ crash rate is five times higher than 18-year-

18-year-old drivers’ crash rate is two times higher than 85-yearold drivers’ crash rate.

a national coalition advocating safer driving for teenagers.

The coalition also reports that 1,978 young drivers ages 15-20

were killed in motor vehicle crashes in the U.S. in 2011. Crashes involving young drivers also claimed the lives of nearly 2,780 other people that year, including: n

1,191 passengers riding with young drivers.

1,120 people in other vehicles.

469 pedestrians, bicyclists and other nonoccupants.

Of these 2,780 deaths, 186 occurred in North Carolina.

Statistics show that new teen drivers are significantly more

likely to crash than more experienced teen drivers or adult drivers, including the elderly.

“Beginning teenage drivers are more likely to have a crash

than any other drivers on the road,” says Dr. Rob Foss, director of the Center for the Study of Young Drivers at the Highway Safety Research Center at UNC-Chapel Hill. “It’s important for them to have as much practice time behind the wheel in all kinds of conditions,” he says. “They should gradually work up to driving in heavy traffic and in bad weather, once they have shown some mastery of driving in less challenging conditions.”

Concerns about the safety of teen drivers are well founded.

Teen drivers ages 16-19 have a fatality rate four times the rate of

16-year-old drivers’ crash rate is three times higher than

drivers ages 25-69. 17-year-old drivers’ crash rate.

Young Adults Take More Risks Risk-taking behaviors characteristic of young adults, whose nervous systems are not fully developed, also contribute to safety issues among teen drivers. According to studies by the Highway Safety Research Center and other organizations, three factors — inexperience, impulsivity and inadequate exposure to all types of driving conditions — contribute most to the occurrence of accidents. “Driving is a very complex and sophisticated activity,” Foss says. “I think the best analogy to driving is to compare it with continuous contact sports, such as soccer, hockey or basketball. Just as it takes hundreds of hours to become skilled at certain sports, it takes lots and lots of practice to become a good driver. On the field, if you make a mistake, there are no really serious consequences. That’s not true on the road behind the wheel of a car.” Although Highway Safety Research Center researchers believe additional analysis is needed to determine how much driving experience is truly “enough,” studies indicate that individuals continue to improve in their driving for at least two years after they begin. Crash rates among teens are very high in the first months of driving, then decline sharply and continue to steadily decline over the next one to two years. One study cited by the Highway Safety Research Center found a statistically reliable decrease in crash rates among teens continued on page 30 carolinaparent.com | MARCH 2014

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who spent an average of about 110 hours of supervised driving practice before obtaining a license. “For experienced drivers, driving is at an almost subconscious level,” says Danny Bolick, who teaches teen drivers at Heritage High School for Jordan Driving School in Raleigh, which contracts with Wake County Public School System to provide driver education classes. “Adult drivers have learned when a safe lane change is possible without even thinking about it,” he says. “Teenagers can’t do that. They still need a lot of practice.” Teens often drive more frequently at night and with multiple passengers, which can substantially increase the likelihood of a crash, since the risk of a serious or fatal crash increases sharply in the evening hours. And though the risk continues to rise after midnight, 80 percent of nighttime crashes among 16- and 17year-old drivers nationwide occur between the hours of 9 p.m. and midnight. Drinking alcohol, speeding and other risky behaviors compound the problem. According to data from Safe Roads 4 Teens, in 2011: n 24 percent of young drivers involved in fatal crashes were drinking. n 32 percent of young drivers who were killed in crashes had a blood alcohol content of .01 or higher and 26 percent had a BAC of .08 or higher. n 19.3 percent of young drivers involved in a fatal crash had previously been convicted of speeding.

Impulsivity + Distractibility = Unsafe Driving As their cognitive, social, emotional and biological development continues, young drivers — especially 16-year-olds — often engage in impulsive behaviors that can contribute to unsafe driving habits. A lack of driving experience also causes young drivers to have difficulty consistently recognizing risky conditions. The presence of other teens in the car with a young driver compounds an adolescent’s tendency to engage in impulsive behaviors. Distractibility, particularly due to the use of cellphones or smartphones in a car, is also a risk factor for teen drivers.

Graduated Licensing Works Despite some alarming statistics, parents in North Carolina and many other states have the opportunity to teach their children safe driving habits through a graduated licensing system (see sidebar). Driver education programs such as Jordan Driving School also produce parent/student manuals and videos that promote tips to help teens become safer drivers. “It takes a lot of hours to become a safe driver,” Foss says. “If parents take advantage of that full year of supervised driving and teach their children what they know about what it means to be a safe driver, they can really help their kids. Even parents who

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are not the best drivers themselves have learned through experience how to be able to avoid a crash, and if they can teach them what they know, that is a big help for everyone.” Katherine Kopp is a freelance writer in Chapel Hill. She and her husband required their three daughters to drive a stick shift car when they were learning to drive, in case they were ever in an emergency situation and this was the only type of vehicle available.

N.C. GRADUATED DRIVER LICENSING The N.C. Graduated Driver Licensing system for beginning drivers was implemented on Dec. 1, 1997, becoming the second such system in the U.S.

During the first six months, a Level One Limited Learner Permit authorizes driving between the hours of 5 a.m. and 9 p.m. while accompanied by a supervising driver. Six months from Level One Limited Learner Permit issuance, driving anytime with a supervising driver is allowed.

Once a driver has a Level Two Limited Learner Permit, driving without supervision is allowed from 5 a.m. until 9 p.m. and at any time when driving directly to or from work or any volunteer fire, rescue or emergency medical service, if the permit holder is a member. When driving without a supervisor, no more than one passenger under 21 years of age is allowed in the vehicle. This limit does not apply to passengers who are members of the license holder’s immediate family or who live in the same home as the driver. However, if a family member younger than 21 years of age is a passenger in the vehicle, no other passengers under 21 are permitted.

In order to obtain a Level Three Full Provisional License, the driver must have held a Level Two Limited Learner Permit for at least six months and have no convictions of moving violations or seat belt infractions within the preceding six months, or be age 18 or older. The Highway Safety Research Center and other organizations that advocate for driver safety recommend the following two provisions to further enhance the development of safe driving practices for teen drivers: n Require that a teen be age 16 for older for entry into the learner’s permit stage. n Extend all restrictions on teen drivers through age 17. Find practice tests and a complete list of the requirements for licensing at ncdot.gov/dmv/driver/license/first. You can also find practice tests at driving-test.org/northcarolina.

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among parents. “The potential for misperception and misunderstanding is very high,” he says.

Best Approach “One parent should approach the other directly, in person, and with total privacy and discretion,” Velez-Domenech says. “The conversation should be straight to the point and nonjudgmental, making reference only to the actions of the teen involved and not to his/her person or values.” However, he advises against being apologetic. “Protecting their own children is every parent’s right and duty,” he says. “Protecting other parents’ children is a very noble act.”

Rebecca L. Hashim, an attending psychologist at the Children’s Hospital at Montefiore Medical Center and assistant professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine, in Bronx, N.Y., says parents often talk themselves out of reporting such information because they believe it’s not their problem or they convince themselves that maybe they’re just imagining it and don’t Possible Repercussions investigate further. Be aware that reporting distressing information to another “If you become aware of a teen’s destructive behavior, it parent may result in a loss of a friendship, strained relations is important to communicate these concerns to that teen’s between families or the other parent not believing her teen parent,” she says. “If what you have seen or have been told is would do such a thing. actually happening, and you don’t share that information, you “You do run the risk of the other run the risk that the destructive behavior parent not believing you or becoming continues or even escalates, which can lead upset that you would ‘accuse’ her child,” MAKE THE CALL OR to serious consequences.” Hashim warns. DISCONNECT? Dr. Gilberto Velez-Domenech, M.D., She reminds parents to weigh the poschief of adolescent medicine at Maria Consider the following when deciding sible consequences and seriousness of the Fareri Children’s Hospital in Valhalla, N.Y., whether to inform another parent behavior first. A parent who truly feels the advises parents to consider possible threats about her teenager’s destructive or well-being of another child is at risk should to their own children first. dangerous behavior. put this ahead of worrying about whether n Separate hearsay from fact. “When a parent personally believes or not the teen’s parent will still like her. Witnessing such behavior is not the that there is a credible and reasonable “If the behavior is potentially serious, it’s same as hearing about it at a soccer threat to the life, safety or well-being of her better in the long run to make the game from a third party. Even if a teen as a result of another teen’s behavior, parent aware of it and let him/her handle parent trusts the source, he should the first and most important consideration it as he/she sees fit,” she says. gather solid evidence before should be the safety of her teen,” she says. Velez-Domenech says emotions may approaching the teen’s parent with Some situations are not as clear, howrun high because someone’s privacy has disturbing news about her child. ever, such as issues involving sexual behavbeen violated. “There is a good chance that n Evaluate the behavior. Is it iors. “I would advise parents to seriously relationships will be permanently damendangering the teen’s — or think twice before ever discussing their aged, but it’s the price to pay for the safety someone else’s — well being, own teen’s or someone else’s teen’s sexualof the teens involved,” he says. health or safety? Substance abuse, ity with another parent,” Velez-Domenech self harming, relationship violence says. “The source of the information about Myrna Beth Haskell is a feature writer, and gang activities are behaviors a teen’s sexuality is almost always secondcolumnist and author of LIONS and TIGERS that have potential life-threatening hand and intrinsically unreliable.” and TEENS: Expert Advice and Support for consequences and should be He also cautions that perceptions and the Conscientious Parent Just Like You. reported. opinions about teen sexuality differ greatly carolinaparent.com | MARCH 2014

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Save time by visiting top scholarship databases.

You could Google until your fingers go numb and still not uncover a fraction of the legitimate scholarship opportunities that have been prescreened and neatly packed into the following easy-to-navigate databases: ● CollegeBoard.com highlights 2,300 scholarships collectively worth more than $3 billion. ● Fastweb.com lists 1.5 million scholarships and prides itself on being updated daily. ● CollegeNET.com is a user-friendly site that lists scholarships for everyone from freshmen in high school to graduate students.

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make the mistake of waiting until the middle of their senior year to pursue scholarship opportunities, when a good number of scholarships are available only to high school juniors, sophomores or even freshman. The aforementioned websites all have a search feature that will allow you and your child to view scholarship opportunities available specifically for students in his current grade.

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Beware of scams. By sticking with the aforementioned

recommended websites, you’ll avoid illegitimate scholarships. However, as a general rule, avoid any listing that requires an application fee or seems to have no genuine criteria for eligibility.

Research your prospective colleges’ “over-award”

policies. Many institutions count scholarships against students when awarding aid, because they view the acquisition of extra funds as causing a reduction in financial need. It is important to know which colleges will alter your child’s aid package should she win a scholarship, and whether these colleges will reduce her grants, loans or a combination of both. You can typically find over-award policies on any college’s financial aid website.

Polish your essays. For scholarships that require an essay component, a generic and bland submission, especially one riddled with spelling and grammatical errors, is not even worth your child’s time to compose.

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He should make sure the first line or two grabs the reader’s attention and that the whole document is well-written and edited by at least one trustworthy source.

Carefully select letters of recommendation. Many

organizations will require a letter of recommendation along with your child’s submission. She should pick someone who knows her intimately and can speak in great detail about her unique personal qualities and attributes. Remember, every applicant will be submitting a glowing letter; your child’s simply needs to burn brighter than the rest.

Make sure your child’s online presence is pristine.

Now is the time for your child to delete or at least edit his social media pages. Just as in the actual admissions process, organizations considering him for a scholarship are likely to Google his name. The last thing you or he wants a scholarship organization to see are risqué Facebook photos or off-color tweets.

Keep looking for opportunities while your child

is in college. Scholarships for students already enrolled in college are far more abundant than people generally assume and receive significantly fewer applications than those offered to high school students. Additionally, your child’s pursuits in college may open doors to scholarships she never previously thought possible.

Also focus on institutional aid. If you follow the

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Witness Billy Jonas Make Musical Magic March 16 Watch this genius create a musical conversation with conventional instruments and homemade creations, including keys, cans, buckets and bells. All ages. Purchase tickets online. $8. 3 p.m. Cary Arts Center, 101 Dry Ave., Cary. etix.com. Photo courtesy of Billy Jonas World Headquarters.

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Bluebird Trail Hike. Learn about bluebirds, chickadees and other birds that use the park’s nest boxes. Registration required. Free. 10 a.m.-noon. Lake Crabtree County Park, 1400 Aviation Pkwy., Morrisville. 919-460-2723. wakegov.com/parks/lakecrabtree/ pages/programs.aspx. The Cat in the Hat Visits. Popular longtime educator Terri Morley entertains families with stories, singing and dancing as The Cat in the Hat. Free. 10:30 a.m., 12:30 p.m. and 2:30 p.m. Northgate Mall Center Court, 1058 W. Club Blvd., Durham. 919-286-4407. northgatemall.com. Family Workshop: Vernal Pool Wonders. Peek into the ponds, meet live critters and learn about the wonders and mysteries of life in a vernal pool. Dress warmly. Ages 5 and older. Registration required. $9 members, $10 nonmembers. 1-3 p.m. N.C. Botanical Garden, 100 Old Mason Farm Rd., Chapel Hill. 919-962-0522. ncbg.unc.edu. The LEGO Movie Building Event. Build a scene from The Lego Movie. Advance in-store registration required by March 1. Ages 4-8. Free. 11 a.m. Barnes & Noble, 760 S.E. Maynard Rd., Cary. 919-467-3866. bn.com. Navigating College Admissions. Learn tips on academic performance, extracurricular activity participation and college preparation. High school students with parent. Registration required. Free. 11 a.m.-1 p.m. Herbert C. Young Community Center, 101 Wilkinson Ave., Cary. 919-460-4965. townofcary.org. Relay For Life of UNC “Just Cure It” 5K. Take part in a 5K to fight cancer. Ages 11 and younger can walk or run with a parent at no charge. Strollers welcome. Free parking available in Bell Tower parking deck. Register online. $20 advance registration, $25 on event day. 9 a.m. Registration begins at 7:30 a.m. Campus Y, UNC-CH Campus, Chapel Hill. 703-728-9125. relay5K.eventzilla.net .

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Eco-Explorers: Entomology. Children learn about local plants and animals. Ages 7-10. Registration required. $12 residents, $16 nonresidents. 3-5 p.m. Stevens Nature Center/Hemlock Bluffs, 2616 Kildaire Farm Rd., Cary. 919-3875980. townofcary.org. Gadgets and Gizmos: Peep-a-Pults with The Engineering Place. Design a catapult out of “junk” that launches a Peep towards a target. $5 ages 1-adult. 1-3 p.m. Marbles Kids Museum, 201 E. Hargett St., Raleigh. 919-834-4040. marbleskidsmuseum.org. Jerusalem: Making of the Movie with Dr. Jodi Magness. See Jerusalem in IMAX 3D and meet renowned archaeologist Dr. Jodi Magness as she talks about making the movie and her ongoing work in Israel. Purchase tickets online. $10. 4-6 p.m. Marbles Kids Museum, 201 E. Hargett St., Raleigh. 919-834-4040. imaxraleigh. org/events. The Music and Musicians of North Carolina. The Durham Symphony performs classical music. All ages. Purchase tickets online. $20 adults, $10 students. Free for ages 12 and younger. 3 p.m. Carolina Theatre, 309 W. Morgan St., Durham. 919-491-6576. durhamsymphony.org.

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TUESDAY How to Crack the SAT. Discover tricks and tips that will help you save time on the SAT to improve your accuracy rate. Ages 15-17. Registration required. $28 residents, $36 nonresidents. 6:30-7:30 p.m. Cary Senior Center, 120 Maury O’Dell Place, Cary. townofcary.org. Nature Families: Catch the Wind. Learn what wind is and how wildlife and plants use the wind to survive. Make and fly a kite. All ages. Registration required. $5/family. 11 a.m.-noon. Crowder District Park, 4709 Ten Ten Rd., Apex. 919-662-2850. wakegov.com/ parks/crowder. Parent and Child Clay Workshop: Bowls and Mugs. See March 3. 4-5:30 p.m. Tiny Tots: Nature Time. Practice sorting and labeling plants and objects in the park. Learn names of common animals and the sounds they make. Ages 18 mos.-3 yrs. Registration required. $2/child. 1-1:30 p.m. Crowder District Park, 4709 Ten Ten Rd., Apex. 919-6622850. wakegov.com/parks/crowder. Youth Painting Miles. Enjoy a painting session and discussion of a painting topics and artists. Ages 10 and older. Email eventsWAG@gmail.com to register. Registration required. $15 plus a $5 supply fee. 9:30-11:30 a.m. Waverly Artists Group Studio and Gallery, 302 Colonades Way, Ste. 209, Cary. waverlyartistsgroup.com.

MONDAY Dr. Seuss Birthday Celebration. Read Green Eggs and Ham and enjoy activities. Free. 4:30 p.m. Barnes & Noble, 760 S.E. Maynard Rd., Cary. 919-467-3866. bn.com. Kids Fun-Days: Animal Appetites. Children hike, make projects and WEDNESDAY engage in nature activities. Ages 5-8. Nature Friends: Wind Gusts. Study Registration required. $12 resident, the movement of air at the park and $16 nonresident. 10 a.m.-noon. Stevens measure the wind speed using an Nature Center/Hemlock Bluffs, 2616 anemometer of your own design. Kildaire Farm Rd., Cary. 919-387-5980. Learn why wind energy is so important townofcary.org. and make a breeze mobile. Ages 6-9. Parent and Child Clay Workshop: Registration required. $4/child. Bowls and Mugs. Learn to throw 11 a.m.-noon. Crowder District Park, from the wheel and complete a clay 4709 Ten Ten Rd., Apex. 919-662-2850. piece that will be dipped in glaze and wakegov.com/parks/crowder. fired. Ages 2-12. Registration required.

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FRIDAY Afternoon Adventure: Signs of Spring. Explore the gardens while you search for answers to five trivia questions. Pick up a map at the Visitor Center. All ages. $1/family. 2-4 p.m. J.C. Raulston Arboretum, 4415 Beryl Rd., Raleigh. 919-515-3132. ncsu.edu/ jcraulstonarboretum. American Girl Club. Enjoy a discussion of Isabelle and activities. Free. 7 p.m. Barnes & Noble, 760 S.E. Maynard Rd., Cary. 919-467-3866. bn.com. Curious Creatures: Spring Frogs. Discover fascinating facts about wildlife, their habits and their habitats through hikes, activities and crafts. Ages 5-8. Registration required. $12 resident, $16 nonresident. 2-4 p.m. Stevens Nature Center/Hemlock Bluffs, 2616 Kildaire Farm Rd., Cary. 919-387-5980. townofcary.org. Kidcycle Seasonal Children’s Consignment Sale. Shop for gently

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musicexplorium.com. Kidcycle Seasonal Children’s Consignment Sale. See March 7. 10 a.m.- 8 p.m. Nature Nuts: Rabbits. See March 7. Parent and Toddler Art Workshop. Explore painting, collage, clay, play dough and more. Ages 18 mos. 4 yrs. Registration required. $12/child. 10:30-11:30 a.m. Durham Arts Council, 120 Morris St., Durham. 919-560-2726. durhamarts.org. Polymer Clay Class. Learn to create basic canes and make beads with a cane design. Ages 14 and older. Register online. Registration required. $25. 1-4 p.m. Southern Charm Gift Boutique, Cary Town Center, 1105 Walnut St., Cary. 919-467-7514. etsy.com/shop/ southerncharmgifts2. St. Patrick’s Day Art Party. Kids and parents enjoy a painting lesson, scavenger hunt, prizes and a healthy lunch together. Registration required. $25/person. 11 a.m.-1 p.m. Kidz Celebrate, 6801 Falls of Neuse Rd., Raleigh. 919-645-9799. kidzcelebrate.com.

SUNDAY J.Y. Joyner Elementary School 5K Run/ Walk. Learn positive lifestyle choices while raising money to fund school programs. Register online. $15-$20. 2 p.m. Joyner Elementary School, 2300 Lowden St., Raleigh. 919-856 -7650. fsseries.com. Kidcycle Seasonal Children’s Consignment Sale. See March 7. Noon-6 p.m. Spring Big Sweep. Help clean up the shores of the park. Minors must be accompanied by an adult. Registration required. Free. 1-4 p.m. Harris Lake County Park, 2112 County Park Dr., New Hill. 919-387-4342. wakegov.com/ parks/harrislake.

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March 28-30 – Use historical documents, GPS tracking, scientific identification and mathematics to work your way through a set of clues while getting to know one of Raleigh’s most historic landmarks. Free. 10 a.m. March 28-29; noon March 30. Historic Oakwood Cemetery, 701 Oakwood Ave., Raleigh. ncsciencefestival.org/2014_event/cemetery-sleuths.

April 1 – Measure car air emissions and engage in hands-on activities with particle sensors. Enjoy air-themed crafts, bubbles and a storytime for young children from 9-11:30 a.m. Free. 9 a.m.-4 p.m. Durham County South Regional Library, 4505 S. Alston Ave., Durham. ncsciencefestival. org/2014_event/air-fair.

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March 28 – Learn how to build and fly kites, bottle rockets and other aeronautic inventions to celebrate National Kite Month. Discover how these objects fly and compare them to birds. Ages 8-14. Registration required. $28. 9 a.m.-4 p.m. Harris Lake County Park, Cypress Shelter, 2112 County Park Dr., New Hill. ncsciencefestival.org/2014_event/lessons-in-flight.

April 1 and 4 – Explore the varied rocks and minerals that make up the buildings of downtown Raleigh and find out how the rocks were made and why they are used for buildings. Free. 3-5 p.m. Bicentennial Plaza, N.C. Museum of History, 5 E. Edenton St., Raleigh. ncsciencefestival.org/ 2014_event/raleigh-rockin-walkin-tour.

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March 28 – Learn what happens to all the bottles, cans and paper you recycle and what happens to things that aren’t recyclable. Free. 1:30 p.m. Sonoco Recycling, 111 S. Rogers Ln., Raleigh. ncsciencefestival.org/2014_ event/rc-tour.

April 1 – From the lighter side of helium to the darker side of the moon, science comedian Brian Malow dispels science misconceptions and explores the science in everyday life and sci-fi films. Free. 7 p.m. N.C. Museum of Natural Sciences, 11 W. Jones St., Raleigh. ncsciencefestival. org/2014_event/irrational-planet.

Water in Our World Exhibit Open House March 28 – Learn facts about water. Free. 2:30 p.m. Morehead Planetarium and Science Center, 250 E. Franklin St, Chapel Hill. ncsciencefestival. org/2014_event/water-in-our-world.

Carolina Hurricanes South Plaza Party March 29 and April 5 – Join a team of educators for hands-on science experiments and enjoy a live band, street hockey and inflatable bouncy fun. Free. 5-7 p.m. PNC Arena, 1400 Edward Mills Rd., Raleigh. ncsciencfestival.org/2014_event/canes-plaza.

Exploring Energy and the Environment April 2 – Learn about nuclear energy, electricity transmission, radiation, environmental monitoring and more through hands-on, interactive exhibits and instruction by Harris Nuclear Plant experts. Discover unique North Carolina habitats and meet the plants and animals that call them home with a traveling presentation by the N.C. Museum of Natural Sciences. Free. 10 a.m. Harris Energy and Environmental Center, 3932 New Hill Holleman Rd., New Hill. ncsciencefestival.org/2014_event/exploring-energy.

Landfill Safari Eagle Watch Boat Tour March 29 – Board a pontoon boat and search the lake for majestic bald eagles. Learn about other birds that live at the lake. Email jlee@jordanlake. co to register for the 12:30 p.m. or the 2 p.m. tour. Rain date is March 30. Free. 12:30-2 p.m. Jordan Lake Environment Education, 1434 Farrington Rd., Apex. ncsciencefestival.org/2014_event/eagle-watch.

Family Science Fair March 29-30 – Sign up to display your own science project in this noncompetitive fair or simply explore others’ creations and investigations. Free museum admission for registered participants. $5 ages 1-11. 10 a.m. March 29; 1 p.m. March 30. Marbles Kids Museum, 201 E. Hargett St., Raleigh. 919-834-4040. ncsciencefestival.org/2014_event/fsf.

Nano Days March 30 – Nanoscientists from Duke University, N.C. State University and Triangle Materials Research Science and Engineering Center share hands-on activities and interactive demonstrations about all things teeny tiny. $5 ages 1 and older. 1-4 p.m. Marbles Kids Museum, 201 E. Hargett St., Raleigh. 919-834-4040. ncsciencefestival.org/2014_event/nano-days.

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April 4 – Learn how landfills are built and managed to prevent pollution of air and groundwater. Enjoy a rare, guided tour of the closed landfill to glimpse water and gas wells, as well as the wildlife that call the landfill home. Free. 1 p.m. Wilders Grove Solid Waste Services Facility, 630 Beacon Lake Dr., Raleigh. ncsciencefestival.org/2014_event/taking-care.

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Durham Central Park’s Food Truck Rodeo March 9 – Enjoy 40 local food trucks. KidZNotes presents a musical showcase and instrument zoo for kids. The PitchBlak Brass Band plays on the main stage at noon. Take a blanket or a lawn chair. Free. Noon. Durham Central Park, 501 Foster St., Durham. durhamcentralpark.org.

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YogaFest NC March 22 – People of all levels, ages and mobility enjoy a daylong retreat to practice accessible and diverse styles of yoga. Registration required. $35-$55. 7:30 a.m.-4 p.m. McKimmon Center, 1101 Gorman St., Raleigh. 919-522-2646. youcallthisyoga.org.

Cedars in the Pines Festival March 29 – Celebrate Lebanese culture with henna hand painting, Arabic calligraphy, a scavenger hunt with prizes, dancing, photo booths and more. All ages. Free. 11 a.m.-3 p.m. Bicentennial Plaza, N.C. Museum of History, 5 E. Edenton St., Raleigh. 919-807-7900. ncmuseumofhistory.org.

N.C. Literary Festival April 3-6 – This four-day festival of reading and storytelling also features performances, discussions and book signings. Hear from “Goosebumps” creator R.L. Stine, comic book writer Jeremy Whitley and other noted authors. Kids activities include STEM/reading connection projects, writing and technology-based activities and more. Free. Visit the website for a schedule of events at the James B. Hunt Jr. Library at N.C. State University and at venues throughout Raleigh. lib.ncsu.edu/literaryfestival.

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The Dreaded SAT Essay. Learn how to organize and write an effective SAT essay within the time limit. Ages 15-17. Registration required. $28 residents, $36 nonresidents. 6:30-7:30 p.m. Cary Senior Center, 120 Maury O’Dell Place, Cary. townofcary.org. Youth Painting Miles. See March 4.

WEDNESDAY Sweet Peas: Windy Weather. Parent and child learn about the natural world. Features stories, songs, minihikes, crafts and puppets. Ages 3-4 with caregiver. Registration required. $8 members, $10 nonmembers. 10-11 a.m. N.C. Botanical Garden, 100 Old Mason Farm Rd., Chapel Hill. 919-9620522. ncbg.unc.edu. Wee Walkers: Counting with Creatures. Children discover the shapes, textures, sounds and smells of nature. Ages 1 and older with parent. Registration required. $8 resident, $10 nonresident. 10-11 a.m. Stevens Nature Center/Hemlock Bluffs, 2616 Kildaire Farm Rd., Cary. 919-387-5980. townofcary.org.

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Kids Fun-Days: Nature Safety for Kids. See March 3. Nikon School Presents Mom’s Night Out. Moms learn photo tricks and insider tips for taking better photos in everyday life or during special occasions and family sporting events. Dads welcome. Registration required. $39.95/person, $60 for two tickets. 6:30-9:30 p.m. Embassy Suites, 201 Harrison Oaks Blvd., Cary. 631-5478666. nikonusa.com/en/learn-andexplore/nikon-school/class/hezq4vt3/ nikon-school-presents-mom-s-nightout.html. Wee Walkers: Counting With Creatures. See March 12.

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Homeschool and Track-Out Program: Year of the Salamander. Learn about the lifestyles and adaptations of salamanders. Search the trail for their hiding places. Meet at the Beech Shelter. Ages 6-12. Registration required. $8. 1-3 p.m. Lake Crabtree County Park, 1400 Aviation Pkwy., Morrisville. 919-460-2723. wakegov.com/parks/ lakecrabtree/Pages/programs.aspx. Preschool Explorers: Creek Crawlers. Search the creek for mysteries, discoveries and more. Wear water shoes and be prepared to get wet. Ages 3-5 with caregiver. Registration required. Free. 10-11:15 a.m. Schoolhouse of Wonder, West Point on the Eno Park, 5101-B North Roxboro St., Durham. 919-4772116. schoolhouseofwonder.org.

WEDNESDAY Little Sprouts: Grow as We Go. Learn how bugs, frogs and other critters grow. Play games and make a craft. Ages 3-5 with adult. Registration required. $4/child. 12 p.m. Historic Yates Mill County Park, 4620 Lake Wheeler Rd., Raleigh. 919-8566675. wakegov.com/parks/yatesmill/ Pages/programs.aspx.

THURSDAY Eco-Express: Birds of Prey. Take the fast track to nature in hands-on studies of nature and ecology. Ages 8-12. Registration required. $12 resident, $16 nonresident. 1-3 p.m. Stevens Nature Center/Hemlock Bluffs, 2616 Kildaire Farm Rd., Cary. 919-387-5980. townofcary.org. Sing! Dance! Play! Join Jammin’ Baby for musical fun and exploration. Ages birth-5. $5 ages 1-adult. 10-10:30 a.m. Marbles Kids Museum, 201 E. Hargett St., Raleigh. 919-834-4040. marbleskidsmuseum.org. Trail Treks: Salamanders. Learn about salamanders through a story and a hike to look for eggs and larvae. Meet at the New Hill Parking Area. All ages. Registration required. $5/family. 2-3 p.m.

American Tobacco Trail, 1309 New HillOlive Chapel Rd., Apex. 919-387-4342. wakegov.com/parks/att.

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Friday Night Fun. Enjoy storytime with Spot the Dog. Free. 7 p.m. Barnes & Noble, 760 S.E. Maynard Rd., Cary. 919-467-3866. bn.com. Kidaround Kidsale. Shop for gently used clothing, toys, books, gear and more. Free. Noon-8 p.m. The Factory, 1839 S. Main St., Wake Forest. kidaroundkidsale.com. Night Out in Nature. Kids spend a night out in nature making memories and new friends in an old-fashioned, camp-style program. Ages 8-12. Registration required. $19 residents, $24 non-residents. 6-9 p.m. Stevens Nature Center/Hemlock Bluffs, 2616 Kildaire Farm Rd., Cary. 919-387-5980. townofcary.org.

SATURDAY American Girl Fashion Show. More than 140 local and regional girls model American Girl fashions. Purchase tickets online at childadvocacycenter.com. All ages. $36-$61. 11 a.m., 3 p.m. Crown Center Ballroom, 1960 Coliseum Dr., Fayetteville. 800-745-3000. ticketmaster.com. Brittany Bingo. Bingo Divas dazzle the crowd with their outrageous costumes, hairstyles and performances while families enjoy bingo. All ages. $25. 6-10 p.m. Durham Armory, 220 Foster St., Durham. 9198342437. aas-c.org. The College Quest Guide. Learn about course selection for college readiness, application essays, entrance exams and more. Ages 12 and up with parent. Registration required. Free. 10 a.m.noon. Middle Creek Community Center, 123 Middle Creek Park Ave., Apex. 919-460-4965. townofcary.org. Curiosity Club: Birds of Prey. Children develop skills and knowledge to satisfy their curiosity about the natural world. Ages 5-8. Registration required. $12 resident, $16 nonresident. 10 a.m.noon. Stevens Nature Center/Hemlock

Bluffs, 2616 Kildaire Farm Rd., Cary. 919-387-5980. townofcary.org. Family Fit: Cary Superskippers. Join the award-winning kids jump rope team for a high-energy jump rope performance and interactive demo. $5 ages 1-adult. 2-4 p.m. Marbles Kids Museum, 201 E. Hargett St., Raleigh. 919-8344040. marbleskidsmuseum.org. Family Programs: Nighttime is the Right Time for Family Fun. Take a flashlight to search for owls, deer, salamanders and more. All ages. Registration required. $16 resident, $20 nonresident. 6:30-8 p.m. Stevens Nature Center/Hemlock Bluffs, 2616 Kildaire Farm Rd., Cary. 919-387-5980. townofcary.org. Kidaround Kidsale. See March 21. 8 a.m. 5 p.m. Parent and Toddler Art Workshop. See March 8. Salamander Search. Learn about salamanders and search the wetlands for eggs and larvae. All ages. Meet at the Cypress Shelter. Registration required. $5/family. 10-11:30 a.m., 1:30-3 p.m. Harris Lake County Park, 2112 County Park Dr., New Hill. 919-387-4342. wakegov.com/parks/harrislake. Saturday for Kids. Enjoy hands-on learning with Leap Frogâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Leap and the Lost Dinosaur. Ages 4-8. Free. 11 a.m. Barnes & Noble, 760 S.E. Maynard Rd., Cary. 919-467-3866. bn.com.

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American Girl Fashion Show. See March 22. 1 p.m., 5 p.m. Curiosity Club: Gardening for Kids. See March 22. 2-4 p.m. Family Day at the Ackland Art Museum: City and Country. Be inspired by prints of American cities and landscapes from the 1930s and 1940s and create a collaged cityscape. Ages 4-8 with family. Free. 2-5 p.m. Ackland Art Museum, 101 S. Columbia St., Chapel Hill. 919-962-0479. ackland.org. Family Feature: Magical Habitats. Learn what a habitat is and discover a few animals that call the park home.

Explore the enchanted side of the woods, build a fairy home and taste a magical snack. All ages. Registration required. $5/family. 2-3 p.m. Crowder District Park, 4709 Ten Ten Rd., Apex. 919-662-2850. wakegov.com/parks/ crowder. Junior Naturalist: Adventures After Dark. Participants develop their naturalist skills and understanding of local nature. Ages 5-8 with parent. Registration required. $8 resident, $10 nonresident. 7-8 p.m. Stevens Nature Center/Hemlock Bluffs, 2616 Kildaire Farm Rd., Cary. 919-387-5980. townofcary.org. Kidaround Kidsale. See March 21. Noon-5 p.m. Salamander Search. Learn about salamanders and walk to the wetlands to search for eggs and larvae. Meet at the New Hill Parking Area. All ages. Registration required. $5/family. 1:30-3 p.m. American Tobacco Trail, 1309 New Hill-Olive Chapel Rd., Apex. 919-387-4342. wakegov.com/parks/att.

Morocco, Ecuador, Uganda, New York City and Raleigh. Play a fun game and take home a veggie-printed placemat. Ages 5-7. Registration required. $4/ child. 1-2 p.m. Historic Yates Mill County Park, 4620 Lake Wheeler Rd., Raleigh. 919-856-6675. wakegov.com/ parks/yatesmill/pages/programs.aspx.

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WEDNESDAY Sweet Peas: Sing a Froggy Song. See March 12.

Crowder By Night: Spring has Sprung. Spot the early signs of spring from songs to smells. Go on a sensory hike around the pond and make a toad abode for the spring peepers. All ages. Registration required. $5/family. 6:30-7:30 p.m. Crowder District Park, 4709 Ten Ten Rd., Apex. 919-662-2850. wakegov.com/parks/crowder. Curious Creatures: Hummingbirds. See March 7. Dixie Rock 25 Climbing Competition. All ages enjoy an indoor climbing competition featuring three climbing divisions: Recreation, Intermediate and Open. Prizes for winners in each category and an early end-time for kids. Preliminary climbs Friday night and Saturday morning. Registration required. $35 for Orange County residents, $42 nonresidents. 6:30 10:30 p.m. Chapel Hill Community Center, 120 South Estes Drive, Chapel Hill. 919-968-2743. townofchapelhill. org/dixierock. Friday Night Frogs. Learn about the calls of frogs, why they make them and how to imitate them. Take a walk to join the croaking chorus. Registration required. $5/family. 6-8 p.m. Lake Crabtree County Park, 1400 Aviation Pkwy., Morrisville. 919-460-2723. wakegov.com/parks/ lakecrabtree/pages/programs.aspx. Nature Nuts: Chickadees. See March 7.

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MONDAY Homeschool Day: Spring Has Sprung. Learn about the history, cultural traditions and science associated with the spring equinox. Ages 8-12. Registration required. $4/child. 1-2:30 p.m. Historic Yates Mill County Park, 4620 Lake Wheeler Rd., Raleigh. 919-856-6675. wakegov.com/parks/yatesmill/ages/ programs.aspx.

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Youth Painting Miles. See March 4.

THURSDAY Curious Creatures: Bluebirds and Blue Jays. See March 7. 10 a.m.-noon. Kids Fun-Days: Wildlife Warriors. See March 3. 1-3 p.m. Little Historians: Going to Market. Take a tour of the worldâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s markets and marvel at the range of goods for sale in

Dixie Rock 25 Climbing Competition. See March 28. 10 a.m.-8 p.m. Junior Naturalist: Fantastic Frogs. See March 23. 11 a.m.-noon. Stevens Nature Center/Hemlock Bluffs, 2616 Kildaire Farm Rd., Cary. 919-387-5980. townofcary.org.

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Natural Explorations: Springtime on the Millpond. Take a springtime hike and use your senses to explore what’s out and about in nature. Wear proper footwear. All ages. Registration required. Free. 9:30-10:30 a.m. Historic Yates Mill County Park, 4620 Lake Wheeler Rd., Raleigh. 919-856-6675. wakegov.com/parks/yatesmill/ages/ programs.aspx. Nature Nuts: Chickadees. See March 7. Saturday for Kids. Take part in a salute to Mo Willems characters Elephant, Piggie, Pigeon and Knuffle Bunny. Free. 11 a.m. Barnes & Noble, 760 S.E. Maynard Rd., Cary. 919-467-3866. bn.com. Upcycle Basic Jewelry Design Class. Learn the basic techniques in making earrings and bracelets. Ages 9 and older. Register online. Registration required. $15 plus $5 supply fee. 2-3:30 p.m. Southern Charm Gift Boutique, Cary Towne Center, 1105 Walnut St., Cary. 919-233-1598. etsy. com/shop/southerncharmgifts2.

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Rock Painting. Paint two rocks. Ages 10 and older. Register online. Registration required. $15 plus $5 supply fee. 2-3:30 p.m. Southern Charm Gift Boutique, Cary Town Center, 1105 Walnut St., Cary. 919-233-1598. etsy. com/shop/southerncharmgifts2.

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Preschool Explorers: Trickster Tales. Celebrate April Fool’s Day by exploring some of natures tricksters through stories and woodland exploration. Ages 3-5 with caregiver. Registration required. $6. 10-11:15 a.m. Schoolhouse of Wonder, West Point on the Eno Park, 5101-B N. Roxboro St., Durham. 919-477-2116. schoolhouseofwonder.org. Youth Painting Miles. See March 4.

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Pop-In Playtime Club. Drop-in inflatable play. Wear socks. $7/child, $5/sibling. Free for adults. 10 a.m.-4 p.m. Pump It Up of Raleigh, 10700 World Trade Blvd., Raleigh. 919828-3344. pumpitupparty.com/raleigh-nc.

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Pop-In Playtime Club. See April 2.

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Eco-Express: Nature Tool Tactics. See March 20. Kids Fun-Days: Six-Legged Friends. See March 3. 10 a.m.-noon.

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