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April

1994

Risen

Bystanders look on in amazement as the resurrected Christ, surrounded by angels, emerges from the tomb on Easter. Christ,"

The

artist

of this Renaissance painting,

titled

"The Resurrection of

Bettman Archive via Reuters).

Take The Stone Away By MSGR. JOHN

MCSWEENEY

By God' s power Christ' s grave was opened. By God' s power the stone that holds you

The Orthodox Church has an interesting Easter custom. At the end of services on Easter Sunday eggs are blessed and distributed to everyone in the church to show that all share in the blessings of this great feast. The members then greet one another and crack their eggs together. When one egg cracks, the owner shouts "Christ is risen!" The other person answers: "Truly He is risen!"

Cracking the egg represents the breaking open of the new life. Inside the egg is the material which will make a tiny, new chicken. That new grave of Christ. The egg shows

when the chick breaks out of the egg. coming forth from the grave is something like that. Christ was really dead before He came to life again. The egg seems dead before it brings forth life. The egg reminds us of the tomb in which Jesus was buried. The chick breaking forth from the egg reminds us of Jesus breaking forth from the tomb. We should be happy at Easter because Jesus rose from the dead and because He promised that we will rise from the dead at some future date. But our happiness can be even greater when we realize that we can rise from the grave TODAY. There life

comes

forth

Christ's

—

;are I

many

kinds of tombs and

from a tomb

many

kinds of resurrections. Every one of us can rise

— TODAY, because every one of us can

rise to a better

and higher life

'—TODAY. In the

me buried can be taken

and

Diocesan Administrator

Gospel readings for Easter Sunday we read, "the stone was taken away."

away.

What are these stones that weigh us down? First, there is the stone of selfishness, being concerned only with our own good. The risen Christ will help us roll that stone away by becoming interested in doing what pleases God and what helps our neighbor. There is the stone of greed, the stone of gluttony. How these weigh down both body and soul The stone of indifference or lack of love keeps us from trying to please God, !

keeps us from trying to do good to our neighbor. On the glorious day of the resurrection when we re-live the story of God' s love for us, we can break out of this indifference, this lukewarmness, with the strength of our risen Savior. What is the stone you would like to have taken away so that you can come forth with Christ, bright and powerful? Is it impurity, dishonesty, laziness, pride, anger, envy? With the help of Christ, throw it off and Easter will be a much happier day for you.

rise.

The main reason for our Easter joy is that Jesus rose and that He promised we will But there is a special joy in each of the resurrections that I just mentioned. The

Blessed Trinity Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, are ready to share with us the happiness of having the stone rolled away. That is the kind of Happy Easter I wish to all of you. ;

God bless

you.

Easter Holiday Because of the Easter holiday, there will be no issue of The Catholic News & Herald next week, April 8.0ur next issue, a special commemorative edition for the installation of Bishop William G.Curlin, will be published April 15.

The Catholic News

& Herald

April

199'

Annual Chrism Mass

Sacred Oils Blessed, Priests Renew Commitment To Priesthood By

CAROL HAZARD

CHARLOTTE

From large glass vats, Mass into

— Sacred

oils

vials for use

during special occasions throughout the

used as a symbol of God's power, grace and healing were blessed by

year. Pastors

from

each of the 89 parishes and missions

In all of life' s busyness, a priest will

be remembered not for his talents but for his holiness, said Msgr. McSweeney.

received three vi-

Bishop

retired

about in us. Only in faith can we believe and accept the fact that the mystery of Jesus is the foundation of the life and the mission of the Church and our priesthood."

the oils were

suctioned after

Associate Editor

one from each

als,

of the

Michael J. Begley

Therefore,

oils.

The

it is

important for a priest to

constantly renew his personal faith, put

annual Chrism Mass at St.

be used immedi-

Patrick Cathedral

ately.

Tuesday evening Holy during Week.

the previous year

Surrounded

the oils' blessings,

because

the solemn Chrism

Maybe in 1 994 it' s better for us to accept

Mass is a time for priests to renew their commitment to the

our pain and confusion and live a life of faith and trust in the Lord." As a pilgrimage of fidelity, the priest-

the

make peace with the institutional Church, he said. "A pilgrimage of faith is one that aside personal agendas and

Oils from

be burned.

allows us to trust completely in God's

In addition to

providence.

will

by about 70 priests of the diocese, Bishop Begley consecrated the chrism oil and blessed oils used for catechumens and the sick. The fragrant chrism oil or Christ oil is used in the sacraments of initiation, holy orders and the dedication of churches and altars. It is meant to bring

oils will

priesthood.

Msgr. McSweeney, said a priest's life

in the

hood

homily,

commitment

to a vibrant

and

evolving partnership with God and find-

ing the strength in God to abide by that commitment, Msgr. McSweeney said. "We need to be faithful no matter

asked his brother priests to remember

above

A life of faith is not easy always involves suffering ...

a freely chosen

"pilgrimage of faith and fidelity." this

all else.

Rev. Mr. Peter Duca, a deacon from

Lady of Assumption Church,

Charlotte

suctions chrism oil into vials.

focus to Jesus' presence.

The

people of this "rich of

oil

faith

used to bring comfort and healing to those who are the sick

warm

William G. Curlin, who was sent by the Holy Father to preside over the Dio-

of catechu-

mens

community'

extend a

welcome to Bishop

The

suffering. oil

used to

cese of Charlotte.

help candidates

Bishop Curlin of the

for baptism re-

Archdiocese

nounce

Washington will be

and

sin

evil.

installed

The annual gathering

the oils

tion

— an

13 at 2 p.m.

—

the blessing of ac-

He Priests of the

renewed

Diocese of Charlotte share

their

commitment

in the consecration

to the priesthood during the

of the body and blood of Christ during the Chrism Mass. The concelebrants

solemn Mass.

which

minds us of Christ, the anointed one, the Lord and high priest and model for our lives," said Msgr. John J. McSweeney, diocesan administrator, the homilist and cel-

thanked

Bishop Begley, "a man of faith and fidelity,"

physically re-

ebrant.

St.

Gabriel Church, Charlotte, on April

"time of rich

symbolism

for

the

privilege of serving

"A fidelity

is one who so one of faith and

disciple, a priest,

loves that his ...

life is

To me, my brothers, our great-

ness does not

lie in

our role as

priests,

what surprises come upon us as we go

him. He thanked nine priests who con-

about our daily journey, realizing that we are human and weak, but we walk with a gracious and merciful God."

diocese during the transition time with-

but in the depths of our faith and the

In closing, Msgr.

McSweeney asked

the faithful to pray for the priests and

transformation which that faith brings

vocations. What's more, he asked the

Left: Rev. Mr.

Chuck Moss,

deacon from Immaculate Conception Church, Hendersonville, carries the

holy

oil

of chrism in the final

procession.

The

oils

were then

divided into vials for each parish priest.

Right: Retired Bishop

Michael sacred

oils.

Begley blesses the Bishop Begley

presided over the Mass. Msgr.

John

McSweeney, diocesan was the homilist

administrator,

and celebrant.

Photos by Joann Keane

sulted with

him

out a bishop.

as the leader of the

He thanked

his brother

priests for their support.

And he thanked all the people God for their "faith and fidelity."

.April

The Catholic News

1994

Herald

Weekend Expected To Push DSA Over Top

Appeal By

CAROL HAZARD Associate Editor

Appeal Sunday weekend, April 9|l0, is expected to push the Diocesan Support Appeal over the top. Lay presenters at each of the 89 parishes and missions in the diocese

make

will

tions at all

each morning that their respective supplies had been mysteriously

counseling, marriage preparation programs and campus ministry. Some parishes use as many as 26 of the

story about the Christian responsibility to take care of

each other.

"It's a story

about stewardship, about giving our time,

jbeen pledged.

talent

Fifty-three of 65 parishes that surpassed their goals last year did so

shows

associate director of the Development Office. "Appeal Sunday is important in putting parishes over their goals and wrapping things up," she said. Msgr. John J. McSweeney, diocesan administrator, said the number of people

commitment "To me, that says

a stewardship

increases each year.

that if

give generously,

God

a large family. The other brother was married but had no children. The brothers split everything evenly. One day, the one with no children decided his brother needed more to provide for his children. At night, he would quietly put some of his grain in his brother's granary.

Meanwhile, the one with children

McSweeney

designated April 9-

brother in old age. At night, he would

Office of Diocesan Administrator

Diocese

of Charlotte

do not meet their goals, the difference is made up from their yearly offertories.

"The story shows that giving to others

Ed Konarski, make the appeal talk at St. Charles Borromeo Church, Morganton.

Talk

will

Encyclical

CHARLOTTE

Konarski said he intends to share the parable with parishioners.

"The DSA is an opportunity for us demonstrate our belief in Christ's words about loving our brothers and sisters," he said. "It's an opportunity to exercise our faith."

â&#x20AC;&#x201D;

Father Conrad Kimbrough, pastor of Holy Spirit Church in Denver, will discuss Veritatis Splendor, the new encyclical of Pope John Paul II, at the April 15 meeting of Catholics United for the Faith at 7:30 p.m. at the Catholic Center, 1524 E. Morehead Street. For more information, call

(704) 364-9568.

Diocese

P.O. Box 36776 Charlotte,

of Charlotte

NC 28236

Two brothers farmed a piece of One brother was married and had

decided his brother neededmore because there would be no one to take care of his

Appeal Sunday.

collected above the

land.

bring about true Christian stewardship."

10 as

Money

returned to the parish. If parishes

said. "It also

people are responding to our efforts to

Msgr.

will take care of us."

because of Appeal Sunday, said Pat

Signs,

and treasure," she

goal

a very holy thing," said

who

by the DSA. "The DSA is a way to work together more efficiently and build the larger Church," Signs said. In training sessions for Appeal Sunday, Signs shared with presenters a

Parish goals are based on weekly offertories.

replenished.

only ahandful. All, however, are enriched

For people who J have not yet made contributions, pledge ' cards will be available in all the pews. As of March 25, $1.5 million or 85 percent of the goal of $1.8 million had

his grain in his

not provide, such as adoption services,

weekend

10.

some of

brother's granary. The brothers noticed

The appeal for support, which began

who make

quietly put

ministries, while others are involved in

supports.

ends April

supports agencies and

presenta-

Masses about the DSA and the 30 agencies it

Feb. 6,

DSA

The

ministries that individual parishes could

P.O. Box 36776 Charlotte,

NC 28236

April

1994

Dear Friends in Christ? The Holy Land, Christ's homeland, is our spiritual home, as well. Over the years, the shrines marking the great events of His life and death have been cherished and protected from harm by the kind support of Christians the world over. Your generosity is what keeps alive the caring spirit of Jesus in the Holy Places. Your generosity is what supports the work of the Franciscan Missioners who serve the people there. ..pilgrims, native Christians and the poor of every faith

who

are in need.

Your donation this year may mean another meal for a refugee child, a candle for a dark shrine, a bit of spruce-up :

April

on a door, a warm place to sleep for once-in-a-lifetime young pilgrims, the very bread and wine for our daily Euchapaint

1994

rist.

Dear Friends in Christ: At Easter, we ask your generous support and response to the second collection which will be taken in all churches of our diocese to help meet the needs of our Vocation and Seminarian Program, as well as to provide support for the continuing education of our priests. Like most dioceses, we are in need of men who feel called to the priesthood, to serve the spiritual needs of our growing Catholic population. Presently, we have seventeen men in various seminaries, and we look to the day when they will be ordained and begin their service to the Church in the Diocese of Charlotte. Also, the diocese regularly sponsors workshops and other programs to keep our priests abreast of developments in theology and pastoral practices. This theological updating is important and will help our priests in serving the needs of all the faithful.

The

and it is only through your kindness and generosity that we are able to meet these escalating expenses. Please know of our gratitude and appreciation for your generous response to the Seminary Continuing Education Collection, to be taken the

weekend of April

Rev. Mr. Curtiss P.

Vice Chancellor

1524

Morehead

Street Charlotte, N.C.

28207

Remember

"A valid Will stands as a continuing expression of our concern for loved ones, as

His Will In Yours.

well as an ongoing commitment to the Church and the community in which we live'.'

Msgr. John

McSweeney

ou can express your commitment to your Church by making a bequest to the Diocese of Charlotte. Simply have the following statement included

your Will:

Catholic Diocese of percent of (or estate) for its religious, educational

"/ leave to the

Charlotte the

Roman

sum of $

the residue of my

and charitable works. Rev. Msgr. John J.

McSweeney

Diocesan Administrator 1524

Morehead

Street Charlotte, N.C.

23207

Sincerely in Christ,

2-3.

Wishing each of you the blessing of this holy Season of I

and brothers in the Holy Land when the collection taken up in our parishes on Good Friday, April 1st. Wishing you God's blessings, I am

sisters

cost of education continues to rise,

& Priest's

Easter,

Please be as generous as you can to our less fortunate

For more information on how to make a Will that works, contact Jim Kelley, Director of Development, Diocese of Charlotte, 1524 East Morehead St., Charlotte, NC 28207, (704) 331-1709 or 377-6871.

Todd

The Catholic News

April

Herald

199^

Pro-Life Corner If';/

"When God measures

man

or woman,

puts the tape

measure around the heart." Reading: Card #026, Missionary Servants of the Most Blessed Trinity

Editorial One Last Chance Parishioners of the Diocese of Charlotte

made

not yet

who have

The Respect Life Office

a pledge to the 1994 Diocesan Support

Appeal, have one

last

chance to do

so.

The DSA, which began Feb. 6 with

a goal of $1.8

Women's Jobs Must Not Damage

million, has reached 85 percent of that goal with slightly

more than a week

go before the

April 10 end of the campaign.

Msgr. John

McSweeney,

the diocesan administrator, has

designated April 9-10 as Appeal

—

VATICAN CITY (CNS) Pope John Paul II said women' s increasing contribution to the workplace must not come at the expense of their maternal and family Reviving an idea he proposed in a 1 98 1 encyclical, wage" by which one spouse earns enough to support the family without the other spouse having to seek employment. This can help ensure that women' s advancement in society does not damage the "irreplaceable" responsibility mothers have in the family, he told members of the Pontifical Council for the Family March 24. The pope said he thought today' s world was showing less respect for motherhood, in part because many see motherhood as "prejudicial to the demands of production or the competitive efficiency of industrial

the pope said he favored a "family

message.

especially regarding the care and education of children,

Our diocese is growing and, with that growth, there greater demands for the services which only the

society."

"On the other hand, woman's work outside the home has brought undeniable difficulties for family life, above

all

those of a tender age," he said.

The pope made

equal dignity of men and

resources to do

that

it.

weekend you have not yet done so.

and

fill

out a pledge card

And please remember that,

Church defends the

clear that the

diocesan ministries can supply. No single parish has the Listen carefully to the presentations next

women. Laws should reflect and provide opportunities for women's profes-

sional advancement, he said.

B ut legislation should also reflect the importance of

your parish exceeds its goal, the excess collected will be rebated for use on parish projects. By the same token, any shortfall will have to be made up from parish funds. Think about it.

the maternal role by protecting the woman' s vocation as

The Joy Of The Season The staff of The Catholic News

children have a right to proper care from parents,

a mother and educator, he said. Quoting from his 1981 encyclical,

On Human Work (Laborem

Exercens), he

wage" going to a single breadwinner should be considered by legislators and business leaders when planning economic policies. said the idea of a "family

Women have a right to the gift of motherhood, and to take this occasions to

wish

all

& Herald wishes

of our readers a happy

and blessed Easter.

especially their mothers, the pope said. But

The Pope Speaks I mony with their local bishop and with the teaching of th Pope John Paul II said. While lay people have a right to form a variety c groups committed to improving the spiritual lives C their members and to influencing society, they alway must be careful to maintain unity with the Church, th pope said at his March 23 weekly general audience "Far from being negative, the variety of associa tions is a manifestation of the sovereign freedom of th Holy Spirit, who respects and encourages the differer tendencies, temperaments, vocations and abilities whic universal Church,

exist

— — Making a commitment

of the Church."

said.

—

themselves Catholic must be

call

in har-

Participating in the "apostolic aims of the Churc with a commitment to being present and working i

human society."

— "Giving concrete witness

pope and with the

want to

call

your attention to the

churches of the diocese. The

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on Page 3

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families are unable to fulfill this vocation because of

May the peace of the Risen Lord be with all of you.

The Cathouc

Families

role.

Sunday weekend. At all Masses that weekend in the 89 parishes and missions in the diocese, lay men and women will be making presentations about the DSA and the work of the 30 ministries which depend upon it for the major share of their funding. At those Masses, pledge cards will be available in the pews for parishioners who either did not receive them in the mail or who have misplaced them. Since the DSA began two months ago, this newspaper has published numerous stories about the ministries which the collection funds and about how their work impacts on all of us in one way or another. We hope you have read them all and have taken to heart their

are

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purpose

Tuesday

off from publishing also serves another

more time

to prepare the

with the installation of Bishop William G. Curlin as our That issue will be published Friday, April 15.

has been said before but perhaps I should say The columns in this paper (including this one) a strictly expressions of the opinions of the authors. The It

again.

big special edition which we are publishing in connection third bishop.

history of our diocese.

the

this year. It gives us

We're sure it is going to be an issue which you wi want to keep as a souvenir of this special occasion in tl

do not necessarily express the views of its

the

newspape

publisher or the diocese. The editorials, naturally, c

express the views of the paper.

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The Risen Lord By

FATHER JOHN CATOIR

cthe Mass,

had the most wonderful

of the Cosmic Christ. I felt the Ird's presence as we offered our

*pjise

sannas; "Holy, holy, holy

Lord God

My imagination soared that day, and

same prayer of praise rising

from the

trees, the

ds of the air.

flowers and the

For a brief moment I was

|j with the universe, proclaiming a of praise to the Father.

Jmn

The words of Traherne's Centuries to mind, "Can you take too much in your Father' s work? He is himself

ine

everything." And Catherine de Vinck' -jrely poem Singer of All Songs brasses the same insight, I

move

just a

into

breath in your song

gulping great draughts of air trying with obedient lips to follow the text of

few steps

being." Since true prayer

How

we never have

simple, then, to leap forward

knowing the ground under my body a tremulous mass, a choir of atoms into a supporting frame.

How easy, then, to dance! Isn' t that delightful imagery,

of atoms" beneath our

"a choir

forming a firmament on which to dance our praises to God.

the edge of your abyss

if afraid to fall, to

vanish

feet,

Divine life is imminent in all creation. "In Him we live and breathe and have our

tholicism! erges

What

that

message

from a reading of Vanishing The Religion of Mainline

[undaries:

itestantBaby Boomers (Westminster/

Knox, Louisville, Ky., 1994), by biologists Dean Hoge, Benton Johnsen 1 Donald Luidens. The decline these sociologists examis "not caused by the departure of %e numbers of older adults, rather it is ised by the failure of the young adults J»ecome committed members, thereby lacing older members." The researchers examine a variety of in

Is the

how

to explain the decline.

Could the reason young people have k. committed themselves to a denomiiion be that as they've advanced in iication they've been more heavily infienced by pluralism and individualbi?

Perhaps as pluralism has made travel

l ier and mass media offerings more Jtessible, new vistas have opened up, tiding

some to look for alternative reli-

from time

to time.

Even if your mind is weary and your body frail, joy is still possible because is not the absence of pain, joy is the echo of God's presence within us. Let your spirit sing out to the Lord in union

joy

changes in family

life

without the help of a

out that "in the past, mainline religions

— —

who could count on their young adults left the church at the time of college returning to the fold in their early 20s when they sought marriage and the bap-

tism of their children. "This family pattern has changed

be zealous in reaching out to others. Truths which give ultimate purpose to our lives are critical for creating and

dramatically because younger people

sustaining a strong church.

either are not getting married until later

Here is where I derive a message for Catholicism from the researchers study There are strengths in the Catholic community which ought not to be overlooked

in their life, or are cohabiting together

unmarried." Is

the decline due to church leaders

who were

either irrelevant, too social

minded or who failed to produce leadership and good programs? Interestingly, none of the above theories best explains the decline.

plausible theory

when

is that

a church loses

its

The most

a decline occurs strength.

Fulfilling We

C t holies

were told formerly that were obliged to go to confes-

and Communion

at least once a during the Eastertime. When I Ps in school we used to call it our I

fj»r,

Ester duty. Is that still true? If it is, * at is the time period when this should

J>tdone?

We actually go much more

thn that.

Are we missing something?

in current discussions

noteworthy capacity to form communiof caring people around the Eucha-

ties

rist.

If ever there

of the role of reli-

gion, though this should not lead to com-

placency.

The creed is the basis of a strong The Catholic community

belief system.

by a well-defined code of behavior based in the Gospel. The Church's missionary work, abroad and at home, is a committed service to human rights and human needs. And there is the Church's lives

were a time to study our

own baby boomers, it is now We need to find out how much of our true strength is !

touching the grass roots and is getting communicated to the next generation. Moreover, we need to unearth the stories of those who, in the midst of cultural change, have found reason to reaffirm the church's tradition and have

daily,

First,

holy

Communion. According

ago,

has

its

when

some

(Cmon 920). Unless something serious ids in the way, this should be done diing the Eastertime.

Church sources

JUL

was rarely

local churches

found

necessary

to require holy Communion at least a few

times a year.

the 1200s, even priests,

monks

enough. Lay people might go years with-

rfeived their first

early as the sixth century,

the Eucharist at least once a year

the faithful

reception of this sacrament

and nuns of some religious orders con-

all

Question Box

life.

origins hundreds of years

who have Communion should

tChurch law,

FATHER JOHN DIETZEN

Communion is part of nearly every

practicing Catholic's

received.

A. We need to consider obligations warding these two sacraments separHy.

The Easter Duty

do not define "Eastertime" exactly, but for all practical purposes it lasts from the beginning of Lent to Pentecost. This obligation does sound peculiar to most of us, when at least weekly, if not

declined to the point where

(Massachusetts)

reei ve

The Human Side

and upper-middle classes has dramatically eroded loyalties to a community and a church. Hoge and his associates further point

ment from its members and urges them to

dirch.

Religion

a factor? Studies

ous belief system and a distinctive code of conduct, one that commands commit-

own

is our song." (St. Augustine) (For a free copy of the Christopher News Note, "Lift Up Your Heart, " send a stamped, self-addressed envelope to The Christophers, 12 East 48th St., New York, NY. 10017) Father John Catoir is director of The Christophers.

Alleluia

FATHER EUGENE HEMRICK

indicate that the mobility of the middle

ualism surely leads some to search for their

creation. Sing joyfully to the

all

searchers a result of a deterioration in

A strong church is one with a vigor-

Id on

with

Lord and dance in His radiant love. "We are an Easter people and

community adhesiveness, or are dramatic

And the cult of indi-

i'US experiences.

in the will,

any But it' s still nice to feel exhilaration

kind.

decline studied by these re-

i;!

jjories in an attempt to discover

to force feeling of

The Rise And Decline Of The decline of some mainline Protant denominations has a message for

One Candle

you sing me alive: your cadence enters my veins throbs and hums in my blood. I rise in your song hearing your harmony pulsing everywhere in tangible life: each vibration a measure of water, earth, fire and air.

you sing

at first

of the feet hesitant pas-de-deux

Light

your melody.

time given, to pause, to

discover

your song

lifting

into a fathomless void.

There

call creation."

l;nsed the

FATHER JOHN CATOIR

without a name, without a voice

Recently, while praying the Preface

sidered five or six times a year more than

year came from the Fourth Lateran Council (1215). From then on, it took centuries for the situation to

Not

until

improve.

Pope Pius X,

early in our

out the Eucharist.

own century, decreed early and frequent Communion did things really begin to

general law of the Church requiring Communion at least once a

change. Most of us older Catholics personally lived through much of that change.

The

first

recently as the 1950s, altar soci-

men's clubs, Holy Name societies and others still had monthly "Communion Sundays," hoping their members would receive the Eucharist at least that

eties,

often.

See Question, Page 6

The Catholic News

Herald

April

199

Health Care Reform Raises Issues becoming an

This board can also indirectly ration

urgent issue, since within the next month

care by setting spending limits. Although

Health care reform or so Congress

may be taking

action on

legislation that will affect all of us very

As Christians we need to consider numerous moral issues in addition to abortion, as well as considering ways these proposed changes could affect the health ofour own families personally.

The Clinton

health care plan,

Clinton's plan creates a

new

grant

financial support.

also establishes these

clinics as a line-item in the budget, so to increase funding

be easy

that

of life." The plan will not cover

mainly as a vehicle for abortion

rehabilitation for children with congenital

counseling, condom distribution and sex

diseases ("birth defects") based on the

education.

for granted will

most of us take

become unavailable

many

of us. For

example, mammograms will be allowed only for women over 50, although in medical school I was taught that women ought to have their first mammogram in their late 30s to have a normal baseline on record for comparison later, with the test

repeated

regular intervals after

later.

will

Unfortunately, these clinics serve

specifies that "health

cannot even see their own doctor. For example, I have been providing

education" which will include "safe-sex"

psychiatric services at a children' s home

messages will be provided through these clinics. For anyone who thinks condoms are an answer to AIDS, condoms generally have microscopic cracks or holes about five microns in size. The AIDS virus is only one tenth of a micron in size, of course it can get through. And we're going to give the kids condoms at

town in Tennessee. I've been on the Blue Cross Panel, but the only pediatric group in town is on a different panel. If you're the mother of a family and you have to make a choice as to which insurance plan you want, how do you choose? Do you give up the gynecologist you've always gone to in order to keep the pediatrician your kids love? Maybe you have to drive to a gynecologist in another city to find one who is on your plan's approved list. My patients have not been happy with it, and many have lost their regular doctors

The plan

fact that they

that

school?

age 40. This makes sense, given the fact that breast cancer is increasing in women in this age group, but it may not be

There is also reason for concerns about Clinton's national living will program. Health care providers would

permitted under Clinton's plan.

be forced to get their patients to sign "living wills," not necessarily a bad thing. But will the government prepare standardized forms to hand out at the doctor's offices which people may sign without legal counsel and without sufficient reflection, which perhaps will include a uniform statement about refusal of food or water in the event of a serious

Clinton' s plan does spell out in detail

what treatments

will or will not

provided, but future decisions will be

made by a National Health Board, which will control what' s in the comprehensive

benefit package. This board, not you and

your doctor, will determine what care you can receive. This is scary, because the board is going to be made up of political appointees, with doctors, nurses, pharmacists, and anyone who knows anything about health care very specifically excluded from being on the board. Decisions about what medical care should be provided will be based on "cost-effectiveness" and will likely not always be the best medical decision for each individual case.

Cross winds

program for school-based clinics, which will give these programs increased

than 1,000 pages in length, introduces health care rationing based on "quality

have a special condition. Routine medical tests and treatments

MARTHA W. SHUPING, MD

"spending caps" sounds like a great idea to save money, they limit the types and volume of services that can be provided.

in a small

because of difficulties related to the new insurance program. It has decreased access to care, since in the past, every doctor in this small town accepted Medicaid.

Keep

mind

managed

who have reached the

age of discretion ("age of reason") are obliged to confess any serious sins once a year. The law, therefore, does not intend to impose any new obligations on Catholics regarding this sacrament.

—

you and your doctor. In fact, in Cooper' home state of Tennessee where managed competition has become a reality for the poor in place of Medicaid, many people

sin.

care

with these panels

if they

refuse to preach

message? I recently read of a military physician who was reprimanded for talking to patients about the dangers of promiscuous sex. Doctors in their own private practices can still do this, but if we have to depend on managed care contracts to be able to work, a lot of the safe-sex

new

pressures

may come

into play.

Christian must

minimum. As

far

beyond

this

bare

have said often, genuinely living out our sacramental and I

prayer life with God will require sharing

sacrament of penance more than once a year, and more than on those occasions when we might be conscious in the

tual lives as Catholics.

The new Catechism of the Catholic Church refers to this canon, relating it to

(A free brochure answering questions Catholics ask about receiving the holy

the need for confession of serious sin

Eucharist

Communion. It is one of those "indispensable minimum" requirements the Church makes to guarantee basic

stamped self-addressed envelope to Father John Dietzen, Holy Trinity Church, 704 N. Main St., Bloomington, IL 61701. Questions for this column

far as strict

law

concerned,

rament of penance refer only

to serious,

Its

sin.

forgiving, healing and strength-

ening powers are such that in

to completely eliminating private

by establishing the right of government to set the fees, with the

practices,

charist.

therefore, obligations to receive the sac-

and plans

the needs of each family and eac individual.

coverage.

will provide for univers

Tax credits

will help famili(

choose from a multitude of optioi including options which are not employe based. As it stands now, most of us g' our insurance coverage through our jol and, if we lose our job, we lose oi insurance. This bill would change tha by changing tax policies to encoura^ both employer-sponsored as well as noi employer based insurance, and you cz choose whichever plan you want. It woul to

provide true portability of insuranc

of serious

love of God and neighbor (1457, 2401).

The Nickles-Stearns bill preserves diversity of providers

panels. Will doctors be refused contracts

simply prescribes a time within which mortal sins should be confessed, if for no other reason so that the individual is spiritually prepared to receive the Eu-

before

medically necessary.

doctors they accept on their provider

mortal

about confession. Canon law

(989) states that all

on demand is not going to be consid

There are other plans being considered. The Cooper plan, like Clinton's, relies on "managed large managed care competition" bureaucracies which manage your health care, taking decision-making away from

Obviously, any sincere Catholic

Now

illness?

that

corporations can be choosy about which

open

(From Page 5)

Security

1743/H.R. 3698), also called tl Nickles-Stearns bill. This is the on plan being considered that says abortic (S.

would eliminate pre-existing conditic and would also reduce paperwor It would also leave you and your doct<

(Clinton's plan leaves the door wide

Question

Consumer Choice Health

some way,

limits,

charge of your health care decisioi

rather than the

also says that the

regional alliance can outlaw private practice if they feel

option, giving the monopoly.)

not a viable

it's

government

The plan I personally prefer, and which is recommended by Dr. James Dobson of Focus on the Family, is the

ov<

If you're concerned about the; let your congression issues, representatives and senators know befo it's

too

late.

For more information, the bookl Anatomy of the Clinton Health Pla complied by the Family Research Counc in Washington, D.C., is available for 5 through Focus on the Family (800-/

FAMILY)

or contact

office for

recent article on the Nickles-Stearns bi

Dr. Shuping

patient' s cost being higher for the private

practice option.

government taking

these decisions.

contract staff wi

Catholic Social Services and also has private practice as a psychiatrist

Winston-Salem. Questions for

umn may be sent to: Dr. Martha V Shuping, 1400 Millgate Drive, Suite I Winston-Salem,

NC 27103.

should be,

a regular part of our spiri-

available by sending a

should be sent to Father Dietzen at the

Please pray for the following deceased priests

during the month of April:

Monsignor Charles Gable, 1977 Monsignor Thomas P. Griffin, 1931 Reverend James A. Manley, 1940 Reverend Joseph F. Gallager, 1946 Monsignor Cornelius Murphy, 1954 Reverend Herman Bosschemuller, 1966 Reverend James H. Tevlin, 1966 Reverend Howard V. Lane, 1967 Reverend Walter F. Higgins, 1981 Reverend James F. Keenan, 1988 Reverend Michael W. Murphy, 1990

>TOORN AT VALEMUZZA, CT CATHERINE TOMAS JD MAJORCA, IN 1533, CATHERINE WAS ORPHANED AT SEVEN -YEARS-OLP ANP -

RAISEP BY HER UNCLE. SHE WAS TREATEP AS A MENIAL IN HIS HOUSEHOLP, BUT THROUGH THE INTERCESSION OF HER CONFESSOR WAS ALLOWEP TO BECOME A SERVANT TO A FAMILY /N PALM A WHEN SHE WAS AROUNP 15. CATHERINE HAP A PESIRE TO CONSECRATE HER LIFE TO GOP. WHEN SHE WAS 20. SHE JO/NEP THE AUGUSTINIANS AT PAL MA. SHE SOON GRVE E VI PENCE OF SUPERNATURAL GIFTS - ECSTASIES. PROPHECi VISIONS. ANP EVEN EMPURE ASSAULTS FROM THE PEVIL. CATHERINE PIEP AS SHE PROPHESIE.P AT PALM A, IN \5T^. IN

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199

Five steps toward

resolving marital ^^conflicts Conflict takes energy and the right frame of mind. When a situation arises, say to

By Mary Jo Pedersen Catholic News Service

Many

couples enter marriage with the mistaken notion that peace at home means experiencing no conflicts.

Not

so!

Conflict is inevitable in a growing relationship. Conflict even can lead to

growth. As I see it, conflict can be a bridge or a barrier to intimacy. Healthy couples find ways to resolve disputes without turning them into wars.

Happiness

marriage depends to a

large degree on: Attitudes toward conflict.

— —How conflict

— —

approaching

"Peace is not simply conflict's

mess

in the garage. If not now, how about

absence. Peace present when

tomorrow afternoon

conflict

personal exchange that deal with conflict in a

destroys their bond."

"you" statements, especially those followed by

'the desire to keep

the words "always" and "never": "Why is it that you never ...?"

tions without

Express your ideas

When

for possible solu-

to successfully resolving conflicts is the ability to accept feelings of anger in oneself and one's

judgment (maybe even on paper). Not, "You should clean up after you change the oil" but, "One solution is to clean up right away after

spouse. This acceptance

ourselves" or "Another

way to

solve the

not simply conflict's abis present when spouses

problem would be ..." Again, beware or "you" statements when brainstorming solutions. 4. Discuss possible solutions, and agree to try one of them.

establish patterns of personal exchange that deal with conflict in a way that strengthens rather than destroys

what you think and feel, not what you assume your spouse thinks and feels.

Peace

sence. Peace

their bond. Often couples comment that they feel much closer when they have lived through and resolved a conflict. An attitude that conflict is part of life and that conflict tends to occur at some predictable times transition periods; experiences of loss can benefit a couple. Conflict occurs when couples are adjusting to living together in the beginning; to the first child; to children entering adolescence; to children leaving home; to the loss of a job or of health; to older parents becoming dependent upon grown children. So check up on your attitude toward conflict. At the same time, size up your conflict-resolution skills. Here are five ideas for increasing

—

your conflict-resolution

—

skills in

mar-

set a time

discussing a solution,

tell

If you never learned healthy communication skills in your family of origin, you can learn now. Without good communication skills, disagreements alienate spouses from each other. Consider getting a book or video on the topic, or attending a class or program at your church. Many parishes have Marriage Enrichment programs that include communication skills for couples. 5. Affirm progress toward a solu-

tion; evaluate.

Even

a tiny step, affirm it: For example, "I noticed you put a big trash can in the garage. I like that

beinj

not "out there," but are "between us," such as one spouse's attitudes toward in-laws, or toward the other spouse's working overtime and not having enough time at home. Such conflicts touch at the core of self-worth. Often our sense of belonging, acceptance and security are at risk in these conflicts, which never

seem to be resolved. The anxiety that

results from con"between us" can quietly erode the foundation of the marriage or even flicts

FAITH IN THE

such conflicts cause pain am

escalate to all the

little conflicts "ou there," something needs to be done Studies of healthy marriages shov

that couples who make it and an happy over the years seek help from third party when they cannot resolvi i

own conflicts. One visit to a counselor

their

or pasto with counseling experience often cai help couples keep a small fissure fron

becoming an abyss. (Ms. Pedersen is on the staff of the Family Life Office in the Archdiocese of

Omaha,

Neb.)

MARKETPLACE

What are two considerations you bear

mind

for

resolving a conflict in marriage? "Keep lines of communication open and recognize the impossibility of finding happiness if your goal is to change the other person into your own image and likeness." Anne Doherty, Spokane, Wash.

—

"Prayer seek guidance from the Lord. It's important to be in the habit of praying about your marriage especially in times of crisis. Seek a form of professional counseling. It's important to have objective assistance during times of serious conflict." Kathy Lewis, Pocatello, Idaho

—

if it is

idea."

After a specific period of time (decided by the two of you), talk about how effective your solution is and what might be changed to improve the situation.

riage. 1. Agree to disagree, and and place to do it.

When

working at

together.

Brainstorm possible solu-

egos.

aided by the realization that dodging conflict erodes the marital relationship.

way that

strengthens rather than

Use "I" statements what you think and how you Avoid using feel.

tions.

patterns of

describing

with a positive spirit is to express and resolve differences, not to defend ourselves against each other in a battle of

One key

spouses establish

an hour before we go shopping?" 2. Define the problem clearly, and stay focused on it. Make sure you both are talking about the same problem. Be clear and difor

rect.

is handled. Attitude is very important. It is a matter of developing a healthy, positive view of conflict. Naturally I do not seek conflict out. But I approach is as a byproduct of two unique individuals with their own opinions and tastes living together for life.

The goal

each other: "Let's take some time to talk about the chronic

Reward each

other's efforts to

change behavior. These skills work well

for all kinds

of conflicts, but especially conflicts that arise over specific is-

sues that are "out there" like buying a

—

new car.

When

disagree-

ments focus on an

is-

sue "out there" we are likely to be flexible and

even creative in finding solutions. But some conflicts in marriage involve issues that are

very important to feel good about yourself and have your own identity so partner is in a bad mood you don't automatically think, 'What's wrong with me?' It's important to be up front and not afraid of conflict or that the relationship will fall apart. If the other person knows that you care about him and Louise English, Phoenix, Ariz. the relationship, he will listen in a different way." "It's

that

when your

—

"Openness, honesty and communication. You have never be resolved." Lorrie Tea, Phoenix, Ariz.

—

will

be able

to talk

about

it,

"Communication. It's important to keep the lines of communication open. Schedule a time to do it and definitely adhere to that time. Go over the points at issue. Try to keep a level head and let each person give his or her side of the story." Stephen Herald, Austin, Texas

—

"Practicing

skills. The first is really listening.... It's also when communication breaks down there is nothing left.

good communication

important to talk because It's important to fight fair Owensboro, Ky.

— avoid name-calling and blaming." — Nancy Greenwell,

An upcoming edition asks: When is it a strength to rely on others, and why? If you would like to respond for possible publication, please write: Faith Alive! 3211 Fourth St. N.E., Washington, D.C. 20017-1100.

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1994

Herald 9

FAITH IN ACTION

What a

and even the children would become more relaxed.

By Steve and Christine Botos Catholic News Service What's the assignment?"

To write something about resolving larital conflict."

Hmm," Chris mused. "I have some ieas. Let me think about it, and I'll jot Dme notes later." What appeared in my folder the foliwing morning was remarkable. It as a list of

some

of our

own

conflicts

hadn't been able to think of one), [ore to the point: The list concerned

ind

rguments

— arguments

I'd lost.

Well, not exactly. I'd inflicted damseeing quite clearly the pain in 3r face, the looks of the children. And had felt it myself, the double-edged vord of anger. I don't like remembering those con-

What a difference an apology can make. How powerful is this soft force which blunts the edge of anger. And which of these two, argument or reconciliation, is from God? Both. Both are the faces of love. Both reflect the energy of God. Both must be used wisely. To anger without restraint is dealways to be the dominated one has its own painful downstructive, but

How important is

makes

difference an apology

grow

our present conflicts regarding

disci-

and permissiveness. They benefit from the conflicts, we think. They see that anger can be controlled, that communication is vital. They understand that reconciliation is sacramental sacred beyond mea-

—

sure.

The

They are not good at it yet, although the anger side seems to be doing pretty well. But we're working on it. Not a bad way to end an argument:

icts,

ear,

come back so crisp and knotting my stomach and flushfor they

embarrassment.

face with

Anger has

place, we're told. It

its

ust be so, since

argument or

it.

(Botos is family life coordinator in the Diocese of Wheeling-Charleston,

Reflection: This

nazing vigor.

from God? Both. Both

are the faces of love."

And Anger overcomes

lrface.

Catholic

ng walks and strings together es of stupid, hurtful

words or

lita-

sting-

are they about, those arguents that provide such rich material

for living at peace with

instance of this concern.

"Put on

this article?

...

against another; as the Lord has forgiven you,

Where would we spend our That was an easy one:

you must also do. "And above all these put on love, that is, the

lidays? ley

bond of perfection. And let

the peace of Christ control your hearts, the peace into which you were called" (Ephesians 3:12-15). Positive as this prescription is, it also is realistic. It recognizes that, in the best of families, in the most intimate of relationships, there will be misunderstanding, hurt, grievances. Otherwise there would be no need for patience, compassion, forgive-

on.

Later the stuff concerned me helming my father, making the same guments I'd hated as a child. And len, to my amazement, defending my isition.

J Silence followed. Lots of silence, trilled air and soft footfalls. Chris be-

*n writing notes.

"Here's how I feel," He would begin. Feel? This isn't about feelings, I'd link.

This

lilosophical

irrefut-

But I did write back. The indefensible, irrefutable looked letty foolish in black and white. I lle!

my points more cleverly that surely she would see the error

puld couch *

ther ways. "But this is how I feel," she would viteback. Eventually, the storm abated, the vters calmed. And, well, I hate to

anyway. But writing to each other brought

vite letters ensure.

And

ness.

about transcendent

dogmas that are

each other:

heartfelt compassion, kind-

ness, gentleness,

ht at the time. Early in our marriage that stuff was out time with our respective fami-

Imove

why the author of the Letter

and patience, bearing with one another and forgiving one another if one has a grievance

Sometimes important, but ofn trivial stuff that only seems imporStuff.

were spent in the car, moving and down the road to someone's use to eat too much, too fast, and

resolution of the argur:nt brought reconciliation for us. A peaceful comfort would replace ts stony silences of the household,

will

to the Ephesians gives a prescription

That's

What

St. Paul and the communities he founded were convinced that peace and harmony are of paramount importance in the family and the community. The passage I quoted is just one

and broken relationships.

doesn't help anyone lose

ight!

Castelot

Service

Preventive medicine costs much less than harsh remedies. Positive efforts to foster healthy relationships are much less stressful and emotionally upsetting than repairing already strained

g silences. it

News

week

other.

its host with slams doors and

•eaks dishes, propels bodies out for

Too bad

reconciliation By Father John

lurks so close to the the strength of it!

"We start much

meditate on my capacity to see from another family member's point of view, bearing in mind that person's moods, talents, current experiences and wishes. My own viewpoint is important. But what I intend to discover more fully is how the world looks to my spouse, parents, children. This is a step toward greater respect for the

The urgency of

psychiatrist writes:

relationship."

W.Va.)

reconciliation,

spouses

better equipped if we understand our own personality and needs. Appreciating those of our partner is the key to a successful

?e,

"What a difference an apology can make.... And which of these two,

that

the intimacy of marriage

side.

The children witness our arguments, rightly so in my opinion since as teens they are often the source of

capacity to see things

from the other's point of view? "In marriage the vital element of growth is the development of an awareness of the inner world of one's spouse," writes Dr. Jack Dominian in Dynamics of Marriage (Twenty-Third Publications, 185 Willow St., Box 180, Mystic, CT 06355. 1993. Paperback, $9.95).

pline

working on

in their

FOOD FOR THOUGHT An awareness of factors that generate conflicts at home may help resolve those conflicts. Take, for example, the familiar human tendency to "take it out" at home when something goes wrong elsewhere. After all, who knows what might happen if we exploded at co-workers or friends? Therefore, when conflict arises at home it pays to step back and ask, "What or who really is bothering me here?" Again, fatigue contributes to conflict at home. The best time to discuss a problem probably is not when you are exhausted from work or other endeavors. Rest up first, and things will go more smoothly. contributes to conflict at Overload too many immediate tasks to perform home. Failing to prioritize, to decide what must be done now and what can wait, leaves a person feeling inadequate about tasks that remain undone. And this leads to stress and bad feelings. Not listening carefully, and thus misunderstanding what another wants, leads

—

to conflict. Finally, the belief that in

everything and to want the

a home everyone basically ought same things leads to conflict. Unity

marriage and the family, but so 14

to is

agree on healthy

The author of Ephesians gives a bit of practical advice for resolving con"Be angry but do not sin; do not the sun set on your anger" (4:26).

flicts:

let

Instinctive annoyance

and anger

are unavoidable, precisely because they are instinctive. But for the same reason they are not sinful. Hanging on to

them is.

Nip a noxious weed in the bud by facing the situation early and thus stemming its growth. Otherwise, the wound will fester and poison the relationship. An infected cut is ugly. Give it care before infection sets in. Jesus himself highlighted the importance of immediate reconciliation: "Therefore, if you bring your gift to the altar, and there recall that your brother (or sister) has anything against you, leave your gift there at the altar, go first and be reconciled ...

and then come and offer your gift. Settle with your opponent quickly while on your way to court with him" (Matthew 5:23-25). This directive is remarkable because

puts the settling of differences

above even liturgical worship. But that

makes

sense.

For a heart in unresolved turmoil is in no condition to worship the God of peace. And the emphar.is is on urgency:

"first," settle "quickly."

The advice

who

of the

supreme physi-

concerned about our personal health and happiness, is clear. Live positively, with a view to maincian,

taining peaceful relationships. But if those relationships are threatened, don't waste time! Act without delay to and to be understand, to forgive

—

forgiven.

"God has called you to peace" (1 Corinthians 7:15).

diversity.

David Gibson, Editor, Faith Alive!

(Father Castelot scholar, author

and

a Scripture

lecturer.)

The Catholic News

Herald

April

People Catholic Actor Macdonald Carey Dies At Age 81

BEVERLY

HILLS,

— Macdonald Carey, who overcame

Calif.

(CNS)

a Catholic actor

Association were among those present at

and shelter, participate in literacy classes, and receive other forms of support.

the press conference Hall held to announce

a well-known struggle

with alcoholism, died at his home in Beverly Hills, after suffering for more than a year from cancer.

He died March

2 1 six days after his 8 1 st birthday. Soap opera fans know Carey for having played Dr. Tom Horton, the family patriarch, for 28 years on the NBC soap opera "Days of Our Lives." His was the voice that opened the show with the words, "Like sands through the hourglass, so are the days of our lives." Carey was a lector and a eucharistic minister at Good Shepherd Parish in Beverly Hills, and was inducted in 1 99 1 into the Knights of Malta, a Catholic philanthropic ,

U.S. -Born Bishop Of Reykjavik, Iceland Dies In Pittsburgh Bishop PITTSBURGH (CNS) Alfred J. Jolson, a Connecticut native who had been bishop of Reykjavik,

—

Iceland, since 1988, died in Pittsburgh

March 2 1 after suffering a heart attack. He was 65. Bishop Jolson had been in Pittsburgh for confirmation ceremonies in the diocese,

annually.

March

He had been in Pittsburgh since 3 and conducted two

confirmations and a mission appeal before

March 6 heart was discovered

the

problems.

organization.

an invitation extended him

attack. Afterward,

have had heart

He never left the hospital, and

suffered cardiac arrests twice there before

Maryknoll Nun Receives

Korean Human Rights Award MARYKNOLL, N.Y. (CNS)

he died.

—

Maryknoll Sister Jean Maloney, director of a residence for former prostitutes in Seoul, South Korea, has been honored by the Korean National Council of Churches for her work on behalf of

women' s rights. The nun, who joined the Maryknoll Sisters in 1950 and was assigned to South Korea three years later,

received the Korean church council's 1 993 Human Rights Award. The Korean group also honored two local Protestant ministers and a lay woman for their

human rights activities.

Sister Jean runs

Clinton Joins U.S. Rep. Hall, 20 Others In Congress On Fast

—

WASHINGTON (CNS) U.S. Rep. Tony Hall, D-Ohio, was joined by President Clinton and 20 others in Congress for all or part of his three-day fast to bring about greater awareness on hunger issues. The first test of that greater awareness in Congress will likely come in May, Hall said in announcing the fast March 23. The House and Senate will be dealing then with several bills containing anti-hunger provisions Representatives .

James A. Hickey of Washington has criticized remarks by Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders on homosexuals as

Those joining him, Hall said, were free to do anything from skipping a meal to having only water. Clinton said in a mid-morning meeting with Hall he would not eat for the rest of the day. the fast.

"destructive of a true understanding

family

Director of Youth Ministry: Parish of 1,000 families in historic coastal area. An interim youth board has developed a preliminary program plan which the director will review and revise for implementation in the fall. Full-time, year-round position available beginning June, 1994. We seek a dedicated, energetic Catholic to develop and implement total youth ministry program. Duties include coordination of fully integrated program including all spiritual, social and service activities for parish youth. Responsibilities include integrating religious education and sacramental preparation into program. Coordination of volunteers and fund-raising are vital aspects of position. Successful candidate must have excellent leadership, organization and communication skills and demonstrated ability to work with and meet needs of modern Christian youth in diverse parish including Spanish-speaking, black, Asian and other ethnic groups. Four-year degree or equivalent experience in education, psychology, sociology or related field preferred. Salary negotiable depending on qualifications and experience. Benefit program including health insurance provided. Send resume no later than April 30, 1994 to: Bob Higgins, St Mary Catholic Church, 412 Ann St., Wilmington, NC 28401-4595.

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Clinton, the cardinal urged the presidem to publicly

Priests Honored For Ministry Among

—

that in a recent interview with a magazine

for homosexuals, the surgeon genera said that sex is a "wonderful" and "norma! ...

McCarthy, of the Diocese of Ogdensburg, N. Y., and Father Toner, a member of the Missionary Fathers of Our Lady of La Salette, based in Massachusetts, were honored for their years of ministry to carnival and circus workers with a luncheon March 22 at the offices of the National Conference of Catholic Bishops/ U.S. Catholic Conference. About two dozen Catholic priests and several members of the Little Sisters of Jesus make up the Circus and Traveling Show Apostolate, ministering to 170,000 workers in circuses, carnivals, the race car circuit and other traveling troupes. Msgr. McCarthy and Father Toner

Official Outlines Church

On Women As Priests VATICAN CITY (CNS) — The

Differences

ordination of

women

Protestant churches

Anglican anc

a sign that those

churches do not share the Catholic Church's understanding of ministry and the Eucharist, said speakers at a Vaticar

press conference.

how

understand

necessary

and to the Eucharist in order to understanc why it does not consider itself able tc ordain

women,

said Filipino Cardinal

Jose T. Sanchez. "The Eucharist, which

recently stepped down as the apostolate'

coordinators of ministry.

the Lord,

the memorial of the saving sacrifice ol is

the root of the being anc

action of the priest," said the cardinal

Cardinal Criticizes Surgeon General's

prefect of the Congregation for the Clergy

Comments On Homosexuals

WASHINGTON (CNS)— Cardinal

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Friday: Acts4: 1-12; John 21:1-14.

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April 9

Tuesday: Acts 2:36-41; John 20:11-18.

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and healthy part of our being, whethei homosexual or heterosexual."

it is

Thursday: Acts 3:11-26; Luke 24:35-48.

NC 27403.

disavow Elders' comments

adoption by homosexuals. Tht Washington Times reported March IS

Lion Tamers, Carnies, Clowns WASHINGTON (CNS) When Msgr. Robert J. McCarthy says his life is a merry-go-round or Father John Toner calls his work a circus, they're not speaking metaphorically. Msgr.

Accountant/Analyst: The Catholic Center is accepting applications for a parttime accountant (25 hrs/wk). Responsibilities include analytic reviews of financial of related entities by establishing and using inter-related environment designed to monitor key statistics and identify trends. Applicants must hold a BS in accounting, have minimum five years related experience and have extensive PC experience, including proficiency with data base software and with LAN systems administration. EOE. Apply in writing to: Fiscal Mgr., PO Box 36776, Charlotte, NC 28236.

a letter to President

of the Catholic Charities Directors

Employment Opportunities

Youth Minister:

life." In

advocating homosexual behavior anc

Steve

1994

The News

Magdalena House, a home where former prostitutes can obtain food

Mark

Saturday: Acts 4:13-21;

16:9-15.

Readings for the Sunday: Acts

4: 32-35;

John 5:1-6; John 20:19-31.

Monday: Acts 4:23-31 John ;

Tuesday: Acts

Week of April

3:1-8.

32-37; John 3:7-15.

Wednesday: Acts 5:17-26; John 3:16-21. Thursday: Acts 5:27-33; John 3:31-36. Friday: Acts 5:34-42; John 6:1-15.

Saturday: Acts 6:1-7; John 6:16-21.

April 16

ril 1,

1994

The Catholic News

i i

Ann Students Buzzing With Hornet Fever

St.

Talk about your great "show and

& Heraia

tell" days.

Josh Akers takes the top honors this year. The St. Ann second grader roused a cheer of approval with his guest, Charlotte Hornet, Alonzo Mourning. Although a resourceful 8-year-old, Josh admits to having a bit of help in securing his guest.

Josh

won

him

a local department store contest, giving

player of his choice for a school

visit.

the pick of Hornet

— —

Without question, Josh picked his favorite Zo the 6' 10" center. Alonzo visited with Josh and his classmates before moving to a brief rally gym, where Alonzo answered questions submitted by the student body.

the

Photos by

Joann Keane

Top

right:

Alonzo Mourning autographs basketball cards for Josh Akers.

Left: Josh

Akers explains

how

won

the

contest that

brought Alonzo

Mourning

Ann

to St.

school, as

Mourning and Saint Joseph Sister

Helene

Nagle,

St.

Ann

principal, look

on.

Right: Class photo, with

Alonzo.

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The Catholic News

Herald

'(jpmimiquemonos

Jovenes que participaron en

comunidad hispana en

ministerio de la musica en la celebration eucari'stica de la

parroquia de San

Pi'o

X, Greensboro.

Presencia De Cristo Resucitado Felices Pascuas!

...

Jovenes mexicanos a

la salida

Misa en espanol en

la iglesia del

Santo Nino en

Reidsville.

Cristo ha resucitado, ha triunfado

sobre

mal y

siempre

muerte y vive para

Hoy esta presente entre nosotros

de un modo nuevo. Es necesario vi vir totalmente la nueva vida que Cristo nos ha conseguido. Con nuestra vida cristiana hacemos posible el

encuentro de Dios y el hombre en Jesus resucitado. Jesus vive. El Senor ha resucitado y vive entre los hombres ayudandolos a valorar todo aquello que

transformar por esa liberacion que

Nuestra fe y nuestra esperanza de y para los demas,

resucitar, para nosotros

depende estrechamente de nuestra

que hacemos cada

trabajos

La imagen que Cristo resucitado puede mostrar a los hombres y mujeres

que estamos

La realidad del Resucitado nos trae entusiasmo y paz. Su presencia gloriosa es la base de nuestra fe y nos llena de paz, de esperanza, de perdon, de amor y de alegria.

esclavitudes que oprimen a nuestros

Ser cristiano es creer en la resurreccion de Cristo. Cristiano es el hombre que cree, que se deja invadir y

hermanos.

es nuestra fe y debemos vi virla totalmente.

* Nuestro mundo esta lleno de ruido

y de dificultades y no podemos oir la voz de Dios ni en nuestra casa ni en los

capacidad de amar. Nuestra capacidad de redencion y de resurreccion esta a la medida de nuestra fuerza de amor.

de hoy para convencerlos y convertirlos es nuestra vida. Por eso nuestra vida debe ser siempre Pascua. Cristo sigue resucitando cuando nosotros elegimos el ultimo lugar sin atropellar a nadie para conseguir el primer puesto. Cuando luchamos sin odio y sin violencia buscando lo que es mejor para todos. Y, en fin, cuando nos sentimos libres y luchamos por la liberacion de las

hay de bueno en ellos y a darle sentido todo aquello que hay de negativo, como el sufrimiento, el fracaso, la muerte ... Todo ello sera superado y vencido. Esta

Reflexiones

viene de Cristo.

hacemos, la Resurreccion ha comenzado en nuestra Si

asf lo

vida.

Detengamonos

di'a.

a reflexionar para

escuchar a nuestro Dios y despues decirle

hacer su voluntad. de nuestra vida esta llena de experiencias que hemos tenido debido a las personas que nos han amado y que nos han ayudado a desenvolvernos. Nuestro Dios ha estado presente y nos ha dado muchos dones. Reflexionemos ahora sobre como Dios ha estado presente *

listos a

historia

"Conscientes de que toda vocacion un don de Dios, que hay que pedir en la oracion y merecer con el testimonio de

propia vida,

me dirijo a ustedes, como

Mundo

Entero Ora Por Vocaciones

Dios mfo, te agradecemos los dones que nos has dado a cada uno de nosotros y por el don de la naturaleza. Tu nos has escogido teniendo en cuenta algo especial para cada uno de nosotros. Tu nos has llamado diciendo: -Ven a ver, a escuchar y a responder a mi llamada.Nosotros te pedimos que nos ayudes en esta prueba que nos das de seguirte siempre. Te rogamos tambien que inspires a muchas otras personas a seguirte

y dales el valor que necesiten para seguir tu llamada. Te lo pedimos en el nombre

de nuestro Senor Jesucristo. Amen. Pero, ^como invocarian al Senor sin antes haber crefdo en el? Y ^como creer en el sin haberlo escuchado? Y ^como escucharan si no hay quien predique?

(Romanos

10:4)

que rezamos por vocaciones le pedimos a nuestra Santa Madre Maria que ruege para que muchos de sus hijos/hijas respondan a la llamada Jesus les hace invitandoles a ser â&#x20AC;˘

este dfa en

diaconos, ministros en su Iglesia, religiosos/religiosas o sacerdotes. Los diaconos, los ministros de la Iglesia, las religiosas, los religiosos o los sacerdotes del futuro estan y viven aquf entre nosotros. Hoy en este dia rezamos por vocaciones para que a los que Jesus esta llamando escuchen la voz de esta llamada y tambien la sigan.

ALLELUIA!

familia de catolicos a participar espiritualmente en la Jornada Mundial de Oracion por las Vocaciones. "Esta Jornada es desde hace tiempo una ocasion provilegiada para reflexionar no solo sobre la vocacion al sacerdocio o a la vida consagrada, sino tambien sobre el deber, que atahe a toda la comunidad cristiana, de favorecer el nacimiento de estas vocaciones y colaborar en la perception, clarification y maduracion de la llamada interior de Dios. "Es necesario que los creyentes, especialmente los jovenes, sean guiados para comprender mejor que la vida cristiana es ante todo respuesta a la llamada de Dios y a reconocer, en esta perspectiva, el caracter peculiar de las vocaciones para el ministerio sacerdotal o diaconal; las vocaciones religiosas, .

la historia

de nuestra vida.

Vemos como el mundo no es lo que

quisieramos que fuera. Nos estamos

dando cuenta de los problemas que existen y de la necesidad de una dependencia mutua, de continuar trabajando para formar un unico cuerpo, pues el Espfritu es el mismo y a todos nos ha dado a beber del unico Espfritu (I Cor. 12:4-13) Hemos sido llamados a seguir nuestra jornada con Jesus de companero. Vamos a pensar si seguimos a Jesus como 6 quiere.

lk Quien Llamara

todos los anos, para invitar a toda la gran

Senor?

misioneras, consagradas en la vida seglar

y la importancia que tienen para el Reino de Dios. "Deseo que mis palabras lleguen a todos aquellos que el Espfritu Santo llama .

a colaborar con

el:

a los padres, a los

sacerdotes, a los religiosos y a losi numerosos seglares comprometidos en

Deseo, de modo

las tareas educativas.

particular, que esta exhortation llegue al

corazon y a la mente de tantos catequistas,

que en

las diversas Iglesias particulares

colaboran generosamente con los pastores

en la gran obra de evangelization de las nuevas generaciones. "Exhorto a los padres a colaborar creando un ambiente familiar impregnado de fe y de oracion, de modo que puedan orientar la vida entera de sus hijos segun .

las exigencias

vocacion

cristiana,

Toda llamada particular es, en realidad, un gran don de Dios que se hace presente en sus hogares.

"La comunidad

cristiana en su

conjunto, esfuercese en reconocer con autentica pasion misionera los germenes

To Our Friends We wish everyone a Happy Easter, believing that Christ lives

we can

among us and

share His peace and joy. Pope

John Paul II calls us to reflect on vocations and how to help young people to listen to God's voice and to decide to follow Jesus in the Church as deacons, ministers, religious or priests.

de vocacion que el Espfritu Santo no cesa de suscitar en los corazones, y trate de crear, especialmente con la plegaria asidua y confiada, un clima adecuadc para que los adolescentes y los jovenes puedan sentir la voz de Dios y respondei a ella con generosidad y valentfa.

(Papa Juan Pablo II, XXVII Jornada Mundial de Oracion por las Vocaciones,

Quite La Piedra Por

MSGR. JOHN

Iglesia

ra indicar

MCSWEENEY

Ortodoxa tiene una costumbre interesante en Pascua. Al la

bendicion de esta gran

final

de los

Los miembros

fiesta.

Most of us shared the excitement of writer Alex Haley when finally he reached the actual point of contact between Africa and his ancestors in America who were slaves. He had found his "Roots." It is good and important for us, too, as members of a Christian community and of the Catholic Church, to find our roots. Where and

ludan y despues quiebran los huevos. Uno rompe su huevo y grita: "Cristo ha ucitado"! La otra persona contesta: ;"Verdaderamente El ha resucitado"!

when

Quebrar el huevo representa abrirse

tumba de

cuando el pollito rompa la cascara del huevo. La salidade Cristo de la tumba esalgosemejante a esto.

Cristo estaba realmente muerto antes de salir a una nueva

huevo parece muerto antes de traer una nueva vida.

El huevo nos recuerda a Jesus enterrado en la tumba. El

huevo tambien nos recuerda

there in the midst of the peace and

mentioned.

We are not the Christmas people.

a Jesus saliendo vivo de la tumba.

Debemos estar felices en Pascua porque Jesus resucito de la muerte y ademas nos prometio que nosotros resucitaremos algun dfa. Pero nuestra felicidad puede ser iyor si nos damos cuenta que podemos resucitar HOY. Hay muchas clases de nbas y muchas clases de resurrecciones Cada uno de nosotros podemos salir de una nba HOY, ya que es posible elevarnos a una vida mejor HOY. En las lecturas del Domingo de Pascua leemos que "quitaron la piedra". Con el der de Dios la tumba de Cristo se abrio. Asf mismo con el poder de Dios la piedra .

mantiene a usted y a mi enterrados puede quitarse. ^Cuales son esas piedras que nos mantienen enterrados? En primer lugar, la ;dra del egoismo, pensando solo en nosotros mismos y en nuestra propia conveniencia. isto resucitado nos ayudara a quitar esa piedra interesandonos mas en complacer e nos

en ayudar a los demas. Tenemos otras piedras de la ambition y la glotoneria, que pesan sobre nuestros erpos y almas. La piedra de la indiferencia o falta de caridad que nos aparta de Dios ie hacer el bien a nuestro projimo. En el dfa glorioso de la resurrection revivimos historia del amor de Dios para nosotros, lo cual puede romper con esa indiferencia ~ ibieza con la fuerza del Salvador resucitado. ^Cual es la piedra que usted quiere quitar para salir con Cristo brillante y deroso? ^Sera la impureza, deshonestidad, pereza, orgullo, ira o envidia? Con la uda de Cristo arrojela y la Pascua sera un dfa mas feliz para usted. El principal motivo de nuestra alegria pascual es que Jesus resucito y que nos amete lo mismo a nosotros. Pero se puede anadir mas alegria a la Pascua en cada ade esas resurreciones que hemos mencionado. La Santfsima Trinidad, Padre, Hijo Espfritu Santo estan dispuestos a compartir con nosotros la felicidad de quitar la idra. Esta es la Feliz Pascua que yo deseo a todos ustedes. Que Dios les bendiga. Dios y

Trinitarian Sister,

begin to exist as a Church?

Christmas.

was born

saldra

pollito rompiendo la cascara del

would be fitting to think that the Church calm and beauty of Bethlehem. It would explain our Catholic insistence on the Incarnation as the centerpiece of our Christian faith. But no church came into existence at the birth of Christ. No community of believers arose there. His birth was ignored and unknown by world history. Thirty years and more were to pass before He was even

Cristo.

encuentra el material que formara al pollito. Esa nueva vida

vida. El

did

We might be tempted to say we have found our roots

El huevo muestra una nueva vida. Dentro del huevo se

\ ^-

DONOVAN

By FATHER VINCENT

Domingo de Pascua, se bendicen huevos y se distribuyen a los presentes que todos comparten

Easter Reflection

Administrador Diocesano rvicios del

& Heraid

The Catholic News

1994

would like to say that the Church came into existence on the mountainside as a response to the soaring, powerful, matchless words of the Sermon on the Mount. We would be a church of high moral code and resolve then, similar to the Jewish people and their rich heritage of the Decalogue of Mount Sinai. But even though the Sermon on the Mount was well received, no community of believers

came

into existence as a result of that sermon.

Surely, then,

we were born

of Christ. Yet no church arose on Calvary.

We are hot a mountain people.

of the cross, birthed

at the foot

in the

very blood

The death of Jesus was almost the end

of any possibility of church, as His followers fled and scattered in fear and confusion. No,

are not

Good

Friday people.

No one can deny, and world history and secular history attest to the fact that a group of believers gathered around an empty tomb in Jerusalem, coalesced as a community, grew into a church and spread across the world, with an actual and continuous link to us today. At first sight, it does not seem very propitious to be known as people of the empty tomb. But that is what we are, and it is to our glory and, because of it, we are messengers of hope. Our ancestors in the faith were told to stop looking for Christ in dead men's tombs. He is not there. He is risen. They were told to stop looking down into graves for Him, and instead look straight out in front of them in the land of living men and women. In the midst of their brethren they will find Him. And we, their sinful descendants in the faith, are told not to despair, because we sinners are saved by the just One who died. The Prince of Life, struck down, rises up to die nevermore. We are invited to look on the face of Christ, the Victor and King and see me glory of the Crucified One. The Resurrection has already begun in our world, and so has the new creation. Christ is their first fruit. Where He has gone we will follow. We are not Christmas people, or mountain people or Good Friday people. We have the Easter found our roots. We are the Resurrection people, the Paschal people

—

people.

Formerly At

Spiritan Father Vincent Donovan is parochial vicar at Our Lady ofLourdes Monroe. He spent 17 years as a missionary in Africa and is the author of two books, Christianity Revisited and The Church in the Midst of Creation. in

fSS, Professes Perpetual Vows PHILADELPHIA

Trinitarian

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Ala..

She

Helen Elizabeth Henken, 37, a

graduate of the University of Alabama in

rmer staff member of Catholic Social

Huntsville, where she received a bachelor

iter

rvices in the

Diocese of Charlotte,

ide her perpetual profession of

a Missionary Servant of the

vows Most

essed Trinity on March 25 in the Father

dge

Memorial Chapel

the

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Beth

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worked

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1, 1

Diocesan News Briefs School Children Help Battered Children HENDERSONVILLE — About 300 children and their families painted, partied and feasted March 1 3 at Immaculata School. "Children Helping Children," an annual fundraiser to benefit a children' s charity, is a coramuri builder for the school, said Terry McCool, president of the Parent/Teacher Organization. The festi' a 20-foot banana split during festivities

gives the students a chance to give to the community. Moreover,

know

K-8 school. Each grade level came up with an idea

to get to

3,1

offers the

community a

char

Department stores donated items threw fancy kicks and an artist drew 1 caricatures. A dentist showed kids the right way to brush teeth and an allergist handed out inform; on sneezing and wheezing. The chidren raised $ 1 ,500 for Mainstay, a shelter for battered and their children in Henderson Rosemary Irion and Elaine Waller were event chairpersons. dance troups strutted

raffle, /

the

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for an activity.

their stuff, karate students

Left: Magician Mike Furches delivers "magic with a message" to the delight of his audience at

Bottom straight

left:

Immaculata School.

"Busy Beth" (Elizabeth Ford) keeps on the

and narrow as she negotiates the balance beam.

moment with Emily who is wide-eyed by the merrymaking in the school gym.

Right: Clown "Joiful" enjoys a quiet

Autry

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Marian Apparitions

CHARLOTTE — Bud Macfarlane,

Community

—

Chapel,

Friday, April 22, 7:30

an international speaker on Marian apparitions, will talk at St. Thomas Aquinas Church on April 25 at 7 p.m. His speech will focus on the reasons the Blessed

p.m.

Mother has reportedly appeared

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widespread.

tion on spiritual well being.

last

April

The

retreat is an opportunity for quiet reflec-

The $80 cost

includes a private room, meals and snacks. For registration and

Choir

Installation

GREENSBORO— Mary Connolly

tion, call

2376.

coordinating a group of area parish musicians interested in participating in the choir for the installation of Bishop William G. Curlin on April 13 at 2 p.m. at St. Gabriel Church, Charlotte. Rehearsal is April 6 at 7:30 p.m. at St. Paul is

CRISM Picnic HICKORY — The annual CRISM is April 27 from 10 a.m.-4 p.m. at the Catholic Conference Center. To register, send $7 to CRISM Picnic, 1524 E. Morehead St., Charlotte, N.C. 28207 before April 18. Registration is limited to 400. For information, call Suzanne Bach at 3776871 ext. 314.

Picnic for Catholic retirees

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STOPP GREENSBORO — Jim Sedlak, director of

informa(704) 253-3977 or (704) 628-

STOPP (Stop Planned Parent-

make a speaking tour in North Carolina. He will talk at various churches about the reasons some organizations are pressing for comprehensive sex education programs in the school system, and the dangers of safe sex programs. His itinerary is as follows: Magnolia Street Baptist Church, Greensboro Friday, April 15, 7 p.m. Middle Grade School, Franklin Sunday, April 17, p.m. Mana Church, Fayetteville Monday, April 18, 7:30 p.m. Calvary TuesBaptist Church, Winston-Salem hood), will

Upcoming Diocesan Events Good

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April

3 Easter Sunday

—

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The Catholic News

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Vocation Update

Men

Spring Forward

Toward Priesthood For Easter Sunday

Follow the way of love

Vocation Director

Spring Jesus

faithful to his vocation

and

God set Him free from death Him to life. Alleluia! Alleluia!

changes, while others redirect their lives completely.

jJPP^T*

Giving

at least a smile a

day

member

you the diverse

are trying to discern

My reason for sharing these brief profiles is to

by:

who respond come from a variety of backgrounds and stages in life. help you understand that the people

My hope is that you will see in yourself or in the men in

These men tend to have ordinary ves They may be involved in the world of academia or in the 1 i

for the best in each family

real to

Saying "thanks" •

gifts.

I am in dialogue with others who for a variety of reason hope to act upon the call at a later time in their lives. A 20-year-old man completing his second year in college. A 40-something former plant engineer turned soup kitchen volunteer/social

In addition to the following men,

when it's due

— — — A salesman — A 32-year-old Navy veteran who completing — A 40-year-old layman who has completed

Praying for

and with

marketplace. Many act upon the call when it is made them by the suggestions, encouragement and invitations of others who

recognize their special .

your families, parishes or neighborhoods someone

whom you believe God is calling to the priesthood.

perfect

Looking

men who

preparation for the priesthood.

my family

every family member • Sharing my hopes and dreams • Encouraging others • Offering help when it's needed • Asking for help when I need it • Forgiving my family for not being •

like to share with

their readiness to enter the life of the seminarian in

fidelity.

I will be faithful to •

would

backgrounds of some

Living in a family requires grace to be faithful and our world today needs living witnesses to

in the air and this is the time of year when people take a fresh look and make plans or decisions about the future. Some people make small

at their lives

mission and

and raised

FRANK O'ROURKE

By FATHER

my family

worker/rehabilitation specialist. in his 30s.

his senior year in college.

theological studies.

Most of these men live and work in the Diocese of Charlotte. Like most of our many have moved here from elsewhere and find the Church

Catholic population, in

VOWS

many gifts we have. I ask you to celebrate your gift of faith by encouraging men whom you believe would serve the Church well as priests to trust in the

for the

(From Page 13)

formation period, Sister Beth studied

guidance of the

Redeemer School in Philadelphia, at San Juan Baptiste Parish in Lakewood, N.J., in ministry experience at Holy

and

spirit in their lives.

To inquire about the

the novitiate in Philadelphia, obtained

religious education,

our diocese both inviting and exciting. This Easter season of new life and birth is a wonderful time to give God thanks

Charlotte, call Father

possibility of serving as a priest in the Diocese of Rourke at (704) 334-2283, or write to him at 1621

Dilworth Rd. East, Charlotte,

NC 28203.

Catholic

Social Services in Charlotte in refugee resettlement.

Following her profession of vows, she was at St. Patrick' s School in Phenix City, Ala. as a fourth grade teacher from 1985-1988. In 1988, Sister Beth returned

to the refugee resettlement office

Catholic Social Services in Charlotte as

coordinator of the English as a Second

Language program and as a case manager for

newly arrived families. She

presently coordinating the religious

education program for St. Patrick parish in

This newspaper is printed on recycled newsprint and is recyclable.

Wareham, Mass.

Come join us as we attempt to simplify our lives and serve GOD in the manner of S t Franci s ofAssisi S T MAXMTLIAN KOLBE FRATERNITY ofthe SECU.

LAR FRANCISCAN ORDER

invites

you to an

INQUIRY SESSION,

2 p.m. April 10

Neumann Church, 845 1

IdlewildRoad, Charlotte

at St.

Give prayerful thought to considering a vocation to the priesthood

in the Diocese of Charlotte. Contact:

Father Frank O'Rourke, Vocation Director 1621 Dilworth Rd. East Charlotte, N.C. 28203 (704) 334-2283

John

April

1994

You're Invited

CHARLOTTE

Gabriel Church opens

and diocesan organizations. Following this brief welcome, the procession enters the church for the installation of Bishop Curlin as third bishop of the Diocese of Charlotte.The installation promises to be rich in expressing the

its doors for Bishop William G. Curlin's Diocese of Charlotte at 2 p.m. on April 1 3 Everyone is welcome to attend.Every effort is being made to accommodate all who wish to honor the bishop with their presence. Once the seating capacity of the sanctuary is attained, overflow seating will be available in St. Gabriel parish center gymnasium. Closed circuit TV will monitor the church activities and broadcast for those seated in the

parishes, missions

parish center.The installation procession leaves the parish center at 1:40 p.m.

follows the installation.

St.

installation as third bishop of the

diversity of the 46-county diocese, said Father Frank O'Rourke, installation steering

committee coordinator. Members of the diocese bedecked in ethnic and cultural garb will be part of the ceremony.A reception in St. Gabriel parish center immediately

map above shows routes to St.

Gabriel and available parking spaces

heading toward the church. Once Bishop Curlin reaches the courtyard outside the main sanctuary, he will be received by delegates from religious communities,

area.

Thomas Merton Poem

Inspires

Parish To Present Play

Chancellor

About Mary Magdalene

Music To Honor —

BOONE Trappist monk, author and poet Thomas Merton was the inspiration for a choral composition

written to honor the incoming Appalachian State University chancellor.

The musical

piece,

"Go

ASU

Watauga Democrat. "It gave me great images of powerful music." Harbinson, associate dean and associate professor of music at ASU's School of Music, composed the music

Tell the

using a synthesizer, paper, pencil, printer,

Earth," will debut during the April 15

computer and music software. To reflect the powerful opener, he uses brass and

installation of Dr. Francis T.

Borkowski

ASU's fifth chancellor. It will be performed by the University Singers and Wind Ensemble during a 2 p.m. ceremony as

ASU's

Varsity

Borkowski

Gym. parishioner of St.

Elizabeth in Boone.

Dr. William Harbinson, the composer, said he was looking for text about new beginnings or coming together. He found it in Merton' s "Earthquake."

The poem shake, and

begins,

"Go

tell

percussion.

He wrote

the old fashioned way,

wake

—

Magdalene, a

be performed at St. Peter Church on Sunday, April 10 at 12:30 p.m. The play is set in 63 AD. High on a mountain in ancient Gaul, in the last hour of her life, Mary Magdalene relives for the people of her village her most beautiful and inspiring memories of Jesus. The memories include the crucifixion and the resurrection.

Passages and sections were then fed into

The 55-minute play is suitable for people of all ages. The set is a small table

a computer. Harbinson made adjustments to the

tempo and musical notation, and the computer converted the information

and

into a written score with individual parts

Ann Jones, an actress who attended Yale

for musicians

and singers.

the earth to

the thunder to

CHARLOTTE

play in two acts by Michael Johnson, will

using paper, pencil and the keyboard.

the

Remember the 1994

sky and tear the clouds apart." "It's a very powerful opening," Harbinson said in an interview with the

Diocesan Support Appeal

tell

The

chair.

The play

performed by Thelma

Graduate School of Drama, studied Shakespeare with Philip Burton, received a Fulbright Grant in theater, played leads in off-Broadway plays and regional theaters, and was chosen to represent the United States at the "Festival of Two

Worlds," Spoleto,

Italy.

in the

Johnson is a poet and playwright from Mason City, Iowa. His works have been produced at the University of Kansas and the Source Theatre, Washington D.C. He currently spends several months a year in Italy writing a novel about St.

Joseph of Copertino.

Fashion

Show To

Benefit Parish CHARLOTTE — "An Evening of Elegance," a benefit fashion show for Our Lady of Consolation Church is Saturday, April 16 from 7 p.m.-l 1 p.m^ at

McDonald's

Cafeteria, 1-85 and

Beatties Ford Road. Cocktails and hors

d'oeuvres will be served from 7 p.m.-8 p.m. The fashion show is from 8 p.m.-l 1 p.m.

For

tickets

and information,

call

(704) 375-4339, Mon.-Fri. 9 a.m.-5 p.m.