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Volume 3 Number 41

July 22, 1994

Unsung Heroes

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Chaplains 'Walk The Pain' With Crash Victims' Families

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By

CAROL HAZARD

"Prayer tends to be the finale, the

Associate Editor

CHARLOTTE Rev. Mr. Ben Wenning still chokes up at the thought of a young man clutching crystal rosary beads that belonged to his wife. John Litchfield isn't Catholic, and he has no idea of how to pray the rosary. But he grabbed the beads and held onto them for days after learning his wife was aboard US Air Flight 1016 that went down July 2 in a violent thunderstorm over Charlotte/Douglas International. Theresa Litchfield, 25, was one of 37 people killed in the crash. A permanent deacon and airport chaplain, Rev. Mr. Wenning met stunned families at the airport and stayed with

them

Adams Mark

Hotel as they waited for information that never seemed at the

wrap up," Rev. Mr. Wenning said. "They (the families) turn to you for prayer ...

when they start to accept the reality of the death."

Rev. Mr. Wenning recalled chatting

about Super Nintendo with a little girl as she nibbled on a ham sandwich, a dill pickle and mocha cake But he also helped .

her parents deal with the pain of telling their daughter that grandmother had died in the crash.

from the other families. After midnight on the day she was told, the 5-year-old girl insisted upon calling her 7-year-old cousin in bia, S.C.

share her grief," Rev. Mr.

they read or hear in

of six chaplains families.

A source of comfort, the chaplains would

hand as

offer a tissue or hold a

families waited hours, sometimes days, to learn if their

loved ones had died or

news accounts.

"These people are thrown into the middle of outer space," Rev. Mr. Wenning said. "In the parish, the emphasis might be on how the Lord gives people strength

make

survived. Mostly, however, they were

to

there just to be there as church represen-

story, but this isn't a pretty story."

tatives.

They listened. They comforted. They cried. They made small talk. They tended to practical concerns, like helping

find a doctor to

make

US Air

a house call or

But

the journey. That's the pretty

It's

about confusion, pain, misery.

it's

also about faith.

"As an instrument of God's peace, I could feel the power of the spirit working through my words, ideas, hands and

locating a black Baptist minister for one

heart," said Father

of the families. Lastly, they offered spiri-

chial vicar at St.

tual advice.

who was

JOANN KEANE

Dennis Kuhn, paro-

Ann Church, Charlotte,

assigned to a Catholic family.

Father Kuhn counseled the family of

John Lucas, a 29-year-old

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who was

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her father the

KEANE

in Charlotte. Getting there is half the fun,

Associate Editor

says Msgr. Allen. Like sardines in a can,

BERRY ISLANDS, BAHAMAS

teens in tightly packed buses

may

It's

the last fresh water that will

spray across their bodies for days. For

dis-

the next week, a quick lather with dish

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agree about the fun, but they found ways

detergent, followed by a dive into crystal

i|iipmate

to wile

was nearly two in the morning when a woke Lizelle Restar from a wund deck-side slumber. Rubbing the MS spray from her face, the Salisbury len and member of Sacred Heart Wrish rose from the ship's deck to !|ke her turn on the nightly sailing watch.

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the captain's order, she con-

nued along the charted course, and kept

He ship's wheel steady on a compass leading of 240. Restar' s not an indentured sailor,

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one of 85 diocesan teens setting sail H>r the high seas; part of Msgr. Richard hit

i

lien's biennial

Bahamas

Sailing

Ad-

Five days earlier, overcast skies kept Is,

summer temperature down to a mod-

ate broil, as the

away the

It' s

hours, nonetheless.

a healthy two-day trip to Miami,

and Msgr. Allen has arranged overnight accommodations at Sacred Heart Parish in New Smyrna Beach and St. Louis Parish in Miami. In both locations, teens find classroom floors a bit stiffer than their cushy beds at home. It helps ready them for the days ahead, aboard the five sailing vessels that will

crew-to-be boarded

liami-bound buses

at St.

Ann Church

become home

clear Caribbean water will

masquerade

With an arsenal of Lemon Joy,

the

teens stow their gear aboard Sundancer,

Shark

12,

Shark

14,

Miami

Star and

Koloa, the five Miami-based sailboats charting a course coast of

Miami

some 1 20 miles off the

to the

Berry Islands.

For the next eight days, the teens

become masters of

their

own

destiny.

Msgr. Allen

known pre-dawn

function while sailing, from raising the

hour. Sleepily, teens

A sunrise dip brings

and provides the opportunity for a fresh water shower, community style, under beach-side cool-water

them

to life,

faucets.

is

admiral of this

fleet;

the

teens transform into crews aboard their

respective ships. Teens perform every sails

week before. Father Kuhn

and God's grace, but her greatest

comfort was realizing that her son and father were together, he said. Much like the apostles who were sent out two by two by Jesus to preach repentance, drive out demons and anoint

(Mark 6: 7-13), the was there to anoint not necessarily with oil but words of comfort, Father Kuhn said. They drove out demons of

the sick with oil

as bathing.

away from home. In New Smyrna Beach and Miami, Msgr. Allen blows reveille at some unstagger to the buses.

;nture.

r

student

talked to Pat Williams about everlasting life

By JOANN

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USC

enroute to visit his mother in

Belmont, N.H. His mother had buried

Diocesan Teens Take To The High Seas

Mlowing

and

Wenning said.

waiting with tremendous periods of grief."

He was one

"You walk the pain with them," said Rev. Mr. Wenning, who became en-

Photo by

Colum-

to tell the story

meshed in the tragedies of six families. "The atmosphere was one of patient

come.

who ministered to the victims'

,

"She had

Disaster grief counseling bears no resemblance to parish ministry to the dying, Rev. Mr. Wenning said. Intense and immediate, it is totally unplanned. Families are flown into a foreign city, most with only the clothes on their back Like everyone else, they know only what

to

With sails hoisted one of the five sailboats crewed by diocesan teens glides across the shallov \ya\ iks of the Bahamas, near the Berry Islands.

Wanting to spare her from had isolated the girl

grief, the parents

and lowering the anchor

to

taining the galley and preparing

main-

all

ship-

board meals. Each sailboat has its own licensed captain, serving mostly as advisor for the crew of able-bodied teens. See Sail, Page 7

clergy

fear

and assured the families

power of God was

that the

stronger than evil.

And they told them bad things happen to good people. "We have no idea of God's providence or plans for ourselves or our loved ones," Rev. Mr. Wenning said. "We only know that it (a disaster) happens ... This part of the journey doesn't provide us with the opportunity to understand God. In God's providence, God knows and God will give us the grace to live with it, not understand

it."


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