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Volume 3 Number 41
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July 22, 1994
Unsung Heroes
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Chaplains 'Walk The Pain' With Crash Victims' Families
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By
CAROL HAZARD
"Prayer tends to be the finale, the
Associate Editor
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CHARLOTTE Rev. Mr. Ben Wenning still chokes up at the thought of a young man clutching crystal rosary beads that belonged to his wife. John Litchfield isn't Catholic, and he has no idea of how to pray the rosary. But he grabbed the beads and held onto them for days after learning his wife was aboard US Air Flight 1016 that went down July 2 in a violent thunderstorm over Charlotte/Douglas International. Theresa Litchfield, 25, was one of 37 people killed in the crash. A permanent deacon and airport chaplain, Rev. Mr. Wenning met stunned families at the airport and stayed with
them
Adams Mark
Hotel as they waited for information that never seemed at the
wrap up," Rev. Mr. Wenning said. "They (the families) turn to you for prayer ...
when they start to accept the reality of the death."
Rev. Mr. Wenning recalled chatting
about Super Nintendo with a little girl as she nibbled on a ham sandwich, a dill pickle and mocha cake But he also helped .
her parents deal with the pain of telling their daughter that grandmother had died in the crash.
from the other families. After midnight on the day she was told, the 5-year-old girl insisted upon calling her 7-year-old cousin in bia, S.C.
share her grief," Rev. Mr.
they read or hear in
of six chaplains families.
A source of comfort, the chaplains would
hand as
offer a tissue or hold a
families waited hours, sometimes days, to learn if their
loved ones had died or
news accounts.
"These people are thrown into the middle of outer space," Rev. Mr. Wenning said. "In the parish, the emphasis might be on how the Lord gives people strength
make
survived. Mostly, however, they were
to
there just to be there as church represen-
story, but this isn't a pretty story."
tatives.
They listened. They comforted. They cried. They made small talk. They tended to practical concerns, like helping
find a doctor to
make
US Air
a house call or
But
the journey. That's the pretty
It's
about confusion, pain, misery.
it's
also about faith.
"As an instrument of God's peace, I could feel the power of the spirit working through my words, ideas, hands and
locating a black Baptist minister for one
heart," said Father
of the families. Lastly, they offered spiri-
chial vicar at St.
tual advice.
who was
JOANN KEANE
Dennis Kuhn, paro-
Ann Church, Charlotte,
assigned to a Catholic family.
Father Kuhn counseled the family of
John Lucas, a 29-year-old
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who was
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her father the
KEANE
in Charlotte. Getting there is half the fun,
Associate Editor
says Msgr. Allen. Like sardines in a can,
BERRY ISLANDS, BAHAMAS
teens in tightly packed buses
may
It's
the last fresh water that will
spray across their bodies for days. For
dis-
the next week, a quick lather with dish
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agree about the fun, but they found ways
detergent, followed by a dive into crystal
i|iipmate
to wile
was nearly two in the morning when a woke Lizelle Restar from a wund deck-side slumber. Rubbing the MS spray from her face, the Salisbury len and member of Sacred Heart Wrish rose from the ship's deck to !|ke her turn on the nightly sailing watch.
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the captain's order, she con-
nued along the charted course, and kept
He ship's wheel steady on a compass leading of 240. Restar' s not an indentured sailor,
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one of 85 diocesan teens setting sail H>r the high seas; part of Msgr. Richard hit
i
lien's biennial
Bahamas
Sailing
Ad-
Five days earlier, overcast skies kept Is,
summer temperature down to a mod-
ate broil, as the
away the
It' s
hours, nonetheless.
a healthy two-day trip to Miami,
and Msgr. Allen has arranged overnight accommodations at Sacred Heart Parish in New Smyrna Beach and St. Louis Parish in Miami. In both locations, teens find classroom floors a bit stiffer than their cushy beds at home. It helps ready them for the days ahead, aboard the five sailing vessels that will
crew-to-be boarded
liami-bound buses
at St.
Ann Church
become home
clear Caribbean water will
masquerade
With an arsenal of Lemon Joy,
the
teens stow their gear aboard Sundancer,
Shark
12,
Shark
14,
Miami
Star and
Koloa, the five Miami-based sailboats charting a course coast of
Miami
some 1 20 miles off the
to the
Berry Islands.
For the next eight days, the teens
become masters of
their
own
destiny.
Msgr. Allen
known pre-dawn
function while sailing, from raising the
hour. Sleepily, teens
A sunrise dip brings
and provides the opportunity for a fresh water shower, community style, under beach-side cool-water
them
to life,
faucets.
is
admiral of this
fleet;
the
teens transform into crews aboard their
respective ships. Teens perform every sails
week before. Father Kuhn
and God's grace, but her greatest
comfort was realizing that her son and father were together, he said. Much like the apostles who were sent out two by two by Jesus to preach repentance, drive out demons and anoint
(Mark 6: 7-13), the was there to anoint not necessarily with oil but words of comfort, Father Kuhn said. They drove out demons of
the sick with oil
as bathing.
away from home. In New Smyrna Beach and Miami, Msgr. Allen blows reveille at some unstagger to the buses.
;nture.
r
student
talked to Pat Williams about everlasting life
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enroute to visit his mother in
Belmont, N.H. His mother had buried
Diocesan Teens Take To The High Seas
Mlowing
and
Wenning said.
waiting with tremendous periods of grief."
He was one
"You walk the pain with them," said Rev. Mr. Wenning, who became en-
Photo by
Colum-
to tell the story
meshed in the tragedies of six families. "The atmosphere was one of patient
come.
who ministered to the victims'
,
"She had
Disaster grief counseling bears no resemblance to parish ministry to the dying, Rev. Mr. Wenning said. Intense and immediate, it is totally unplanned. Families are flown into a foreign city, most with only the clothes on their back Like everyone else, they know only what
to
With sails hoisted one of the five sailboats crewed by diocesan teens glides across the shallov \ya\ iks of the Bahamas, near the Berry Islands.
Wanting to spare her from had isolated the girl
grief, the parents
and lowering the anchor
to
taining the galley and preparing
main-
all
ship-
board meals. Each sailboat has its own licensed captain, serving mostly as advisor for the crew of able-bodied teens. See Sail, Page 7
clergy
fear
and assured the families
power of God was
that the
stronger than evil.
And they told them bad things happen to good people. "We have no idea of God's providence or plans for ourselves or our loved ones," Rev. Mr. Wenning said. "We only know that it (a disaster) happens ... This part of the journey doesn't provide us with the opportunity to understand God. In God's providence, God knows and God will give us the grace to live with it, not understand
it."