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By ELLEN NEERINCX
World Mission Sunday
8-9
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to
wives
ministry
SIGMON
HICKORY On a Saturday morning, with only the sounds of leaves rustling, birds chirping and acorns falling, several permanent deacons and their wives strolled around the grounds of the Catholic Conference Center. Their assignment to spend an hour in silence and solitude so that they could hear what it was that God had to say to each of them.
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Sister
gave them
Mary Charlene Nowak assignment. She was
this
the leader of the annual retreat for the deacons of the Diocese of Charlotte
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and their wives from Oct. 8 to 10. "It is important for you to take the time to reflect on who God is for
Catholic
you," Sister are
spreads
be
word on faith
Nowak
told them.
"You
what your prayer is. You need who God wants you to be." Sister Nowak currently serves
to
as
my
the director of theological field education and assistant professor of spiri-
classes
tuality at Christ the
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King Seminary
East Aurora, N.Y. She is also associate director of the formation program of the permanent diaconate in the Diocese of Buffalo. She has worked with the permanent diaconate for 26 years, and was part of the initial team that established the wives program and the curriculum for the diaconate there. She has been a member of the Congregation of the Sisters of St. Felix of Cantalice for 43 years, and serves as a retreat director and spiritual director.
During the also stressed
retreat, Sister
Photo by Ellen Neerincx Sigwom
Mary Charlene Nowak talks with Rev. Mr. John Hubbarth of Our Lady of Mercy parish during a break between conferences.
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how important
deacons, receive all the sacraments. Your wives are a very important part of these sacraments as well. "People are going to look up to you.
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haven't changed. You are yourself, but you may be calling other people to
something else by who you are. "Husbands, please remember, you married your wives first."
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Josie Pais, wife of Rev. Mr. Louis Pais, a deacon at St. Gabriel parish in
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Charlotte, talked about her role in her
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husband's ministry.
him tune back said. "It
"I
have to help
in to the family," she
won't work
if
the wife
is
not
Too many sacrifices have to be made. They (the deacons) are refreshed and renewed by us. I know sure.
more
effective (in his
Barbara Macero, wife of Rev. Mr. Sr., a deacon at St. Thomas Aquinas parish in Charlotte, agreed. "I have to share him more, but part of my ministry is allowing him to minister," she said. "It really is important, though, for the wife to maintain
wife and family support his decision
permanent diaconate. Both Mrs. Pais and Mrs. Macero
to apply for the
funeral services, but he also has a role
said that their husbands' roles as deacons have enhanced their marriages. "My respect for my husband has really grown," said Mrs. Pais. Mrs. Macero spoke of attending a wedding that her husband officiated. "It was very moving to see him serving in that capacity," she said. Mrs. Pais agreed, saying of her own husband, "I enjoyed hearing what he had to say about marriage and seeing how excited he was about it." Rev. Mr. George McMahon, a deacon living in Morganton, also talked about how becoming a deacon has enhanced his married life. "It's been really beautiful," he said. "It has brought us together as one. I've also been privileged to baptize most of my grandchildren." During the retreat organized by Rev. Mr. Ben Wenning, a deacon at St. Gabriel parish in Charlotte and administrator of the permanent diaconate for the Diocese of Charlotte, the deacons and their wives attended six conferences led by Sister Nowak. She spoke on various topics, including
involving the ministries of charity and the Word. It is expected that most deacons will support themselves from earnings in everyday occupations, and then perform their diaconal duties during evenings and weekends. A permanent deacon continues the family lifestyle he had chosen prior to becoming a deacon. If he is married, he should be certain that his
and solitude, images of God, the importance of prayer, being a light for others, the importance of being a servant, and the crosses that come with it. The deacons and their wives also participated in the sacrament of reconciliation and several prayer services. Sunday Mass was officiated by Bishop William G. Curlin.
Carl Macero,
the balance in the relationship."
A
"I
permanent deacon
is
an or-
have to share him more,
but part of my ministry is
Nowak
it was and their wives to spend time together. "Family is supposed to be first," she said. 'You, as
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others) because of his
marital relationship."
allowing him to minister."
— Barbara Macero,
for the deacons
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Mr. Carl Macero, Sr., Thomas Aquinas parish
wife of Rev. St.
dained minister of the Catholic Church and part of the hierarchical structure of bishop, priest, and deacon. He may preach, baptize solemnly, and officiate at marriages and
the sacraments, others, silence
making God
alive for