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RENA & LAURENCE
Q. How did you and your spouse meet?
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A. We originally met in West Elementary school. However, I was smart and he was a class clown LOL. We met as adults on Facebook, he would like all my pics, comments, flirt through messenger and then my fat butt was being greedy when he posted a steak he was cooking, and I commented. Lawd!! LOL, We engaged more via messenger, I finally gave him my number. I had to do some deep research and investigating because of the name and because it was clear he was kind of a male whore, LOL. but now My Husband. Q. What made you realize that this was the person you wanted to marry, and this was the one you wanted to be with for the rest of your life? A. I knew he was My husband when I took him through all the aka test women take their guy through lol. We talked about our future together. He was gentle and kind. He just fit in my life and we went through some test while I was going through a divorce ... he didn’t flinch!! No one or nothing could come in between us and he made that clear back then and still to this day, he makes that clear to me. That alone meant the world. I remember finally going out with him and I was like I don’t have people coming over my house or meeting my kids. He was like “okay’, I respect it “... I was like okay to myself LoL. I remember I was on a girl’s date with coworkers who became friends for restaurant week... I was trying to duck him because I was afraid if getting attached to any man and was on my “hell with men” regime lol. He was consistent with communication... followed up with text ... I swear we was just supposed to be each other’s booty call lol. I gave in and was like I don’t feel like going out it’s late I’m already out so you can come over ... I’ll sneak you in. He was like ok ... of course he was with it ... he was a man lol. He came over and never left ... and we built a friendship and relationship that turned into a marriage that we work at every day! Q. What was one of the hardest experiences that you and your spouse had to go through? How did it make the relationship stronger? A. We have a few breaking trust with other women where I had to realize I needed to be more open about how I felt with certain things. My husband is a very charming man. He communicate his feelings and also take kind of a stand and let it be known what is and isn’t acceptable. I also had to take into consideration my husband never had a “real” relationship that requires the things I required from a man. The different topic we have been dealing with 1. baby daddy and baby mamma drama yes! Both of them are equally crazy lol ... one is just more bitter than
the other so it’s a constant annoyance 2. Dealing with mother in-law drama ... I think that was the worst because I’ve never had to deal with that with any man’s family let alone mother, so it was all new and strain on me but my husband not only verbally assured me he was my husband 1st he demonstrates that .. he kept me protected and still does.it bothered me for a while but after I heard her excuse for the nonsense I literally fell out on the floor laughing and at that moment I was reassured that it was definitely all her and had nothing to personally do with me .... and with all of that ... we navigated our way through the past. We learned that you have to acknowledge it, address it , determine if it’s worth our peace as a couple and family. We work through it by talking and sometimes not determining if it’s worth us being apart , can we be apart , do we want to be apart , who are the foxes
(aka people .. we learned about foxes through marriage counseling)so we are moving past it and letting it go. Now, I just be honest ... some things are hard to let go and if anyone says anything different It is a lie. Q. Describe the love, the passion that you have for your spouse? A. The love that I have for my husband is immensely deep! It’s forgiving, it’s humbling, it’s fun, it’s angry sometimes, it’s a forever love ... through whoever and whatever!!! He’s my best friend. Q. What do you think is the difference between being in a relationship and being married? A. The difference between being in a relationship and being married with the level of commitment. It’s knowing you owe not only your spouse but God to keep your promise. Being married to the right person, keeps you in check! It’s a daily reminder of who and what I get up for outside of kids of course to push through another day. It’s when all else fails ... you know you have the 1 person to lean on to get you through whatever!! And yes, I get that not all marriages are marriages. I know all too well. I was married before by paper but not by commitment and love. I am glad of the outcome that I am in now and so grateful that I met My Husband. Q. How long do you think someone should date before they get married? A. I personally don’t have a time frame. However, I do think you should get to know your potential spouses’ bad days, down days and moments, crazy days and ugly days ... knowing those things and
being able to say. Yeah ... I still want to marry this person and be with them for the rest of my life and will carry you through. You will always see the good days when you start dating ... so that’s a given. It’s those ugly days/times/moments that put your ability to love through whatever and whoever that will carry the most weight on a lasting marriage or relationship for that matter. Q. Do you think that people need a marriage counselor before marriage? A. Yes! I think having a marriage counselor before and during your marriage is needed! Once you are married a family member or friend that you trust might become your marriage counselor sometimes more than 1 person if you think about it. However, be EXTREMELY careful of who you share your marriage wit not everyone is for you and even some that are can unintentionally cause more harm than good. I have learned to take it to God and my spouse because they are the only two who can fix whatever. Q. What do you think is the definition of Love?
A. LOVE definition in marriage - GOD, compassion, forgiveness, determination, humility, grace, always figuring it out without giving up, affection, adoration, devotion, kindness, honesty, respect, mutual understanding, fun, and romance . Q. Describe what you think a perfect date would be for your spouse?
15 WIBMAGZ A. Perfect date.... you mean dates? We or more so me than him lol are always in the hunt for the aka perfect date ... they vary. A perfect date can be chilling at home watching tv with his peach cobbler and butter pecan ice cream and my champagne and crabs or cheesecake before a walk on the beach in Dubai ... a perfect date should be perfect date(S) ... just remember to always date ! Q. Give some advice or inspiration for other couples? A. Hmmm... If it’s who you love and who you’re going to spend the rest of your life with... don’t let anyone or anything deter you from that. Always show respect to your spouse even if you don’t think it’s a big deal it might be to them. Be understanding of each other’s perspectives regardless of the situation. Keep your business ... with youll!! Love unconditionally no one is perfect, but someone is perfect for you ♥️
