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Ride a bike, eat a carrot, I don’t care.

But stop chasing down every miracle pill, stop planning your life around avoiding chemical boogeymen.”- page 108

P26 A Series of Fortunate Events

P28 First Annual Facebook Photo Contest Winners We had over 100 stunning photographic entries, but only one photo resonated with almost every judge.

P38 The Almost Impossible Dream Man of La Mancha at the May River Theatre

P42 Give me Shelter Beaufort County Animal Shelter and Hilton Head Humane Association work together to save lives, taxpayer money

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P20 Très Chic at Gigi’s Andresa models the latest fashion from this quaint Old Town Bluffton boutique.

ON OUR CH2 COVER III

CH2’S FIRST ANNUAL FACEBOOK PHOTO CONTEST WINNER SPECIAL HEALTH & WELLNESS ISSUE COVER UP! FABULOUS HATS & SUNGLASSES HILARITY ENSUES! 9 TO 5 AT THE ARTS CENTER LYME’S DISEASE THE INVISIBLE ILLNESS 20 FABULOUS YEARS AT THE OLD OYSTER FACTORY

“What are you looking at?”

Photography by Chrissy Sandifer Our First Annual Facebook Photography Contest Winner!

ON OUR CB2 COVER Photography by Anne Clothing by Gigi’s Boutique in Old Town Bluffton Modeled by Andresa Styling by Kim Malloy Hair & Make-up by Skinzin

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9 to 5: The Musical The Arts Center’s spring show sizzles

P52 The Old Oyster Factory Celebrates 25 years!

P56 Honor our Heroes Two years later, Jake Walsh is still helping veterans with PTSD

P60 Shopping at Shelter Cove Marina Gifts for moms, dads & grads

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The 36th annual Bluffton Village Festival

CH2’s Health & Wellness Special Section

P74 Love your Mother, Love your Bones

P76 Can you Hear Me?

P78 Vital Steps to Prevent Cervical Cancer

P80 Lyme Disease: My Invisible Illness

P85 New Breast Cancer Treatment Options Boost Survival, Offer New Hope

P86 Drug-Free Solutions to Reduce Your Child’s Anxiety

P92 Family Discussions on Caring For Aging Relatives

P94 New Cholesterol Guidelines: What Do They Mean for You?

P96 The Herb Room

P104 A Word from the Mayors of Hilton Head & Bluffton

P107 A Line in the Sand What do you consider “healthy?

P113 Being Better How to be a better child to mom and dad may 2014

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People Who Do Stuff (we don’t know if they actually get paid or not)

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Chief People Herder Maggie Marie Washo #Ladyfish Entrepreneur Kelly “I’m not telling you my middle name” Stroud On The “Back Nine” George Thomas Staebler Mergers & Aquisitions Marion Elizabeth Bowser Caffeine Addiction Counselor Catherine Anne Davies Arbitration Expert and Resident Hypochondriac Ashton Kelley Fons Director of Fun & Happiness Advocate Kim Conrad Crouch Book Club President Carolyn Hunter Kostylo Conflict Resolution Specialist “Just Kandace” Wightman Ambassador to the Beaufort Division Kaity Elizabeth Robinson Office Mascots Lucille Rosita Gonzalez Washo Greta Von Bowser

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That’s What She Said In celebration of Mother’s Day, I am dedicating my editor’s note to our moms and all of the prodigious advice they dished out over the years. Read on for their (somewhat successful?) verbal attempts to mold us into polite, responsible, young women and men. You’ve probably heard your own mother say a few of these…and everyone could use a reminder.

Kandace’s Mom “Always blow out your candles before you leave the house.”

Kelly’s Mom “Nothing good ever happens after midnight.”

Catherine’s Mom “Choose your battles.”

Ashton’s Mom “Never leave the house without underwear on.”

“The Paparazzi” Bill “Darryl” Bennett Mark Staff Photography Photography by Anne Jordan Sturm Alec Bishop Find Us HERE PO Box 22949 Hilton Head, SC 29925 843.689.2658 m.washo@celebratehiltonhead.com

And last, but certainly not least, one of my mom’s favorite sayings is “You attract more flies with honey than you do with vinegar.” In other words, you’ll get what you want faster by being nice to someone than you will by being nasty.

Happy Mother’s Day!

Photography by anne

“The Media” Kitty Bartell Andrea Caesar Barbara Clark Giuseppe Del Priore, MD, MPH Frank Dunne Jr. Rebecca Edwards Gregg Fulton Andrea Gannon Courtney Hampson Laura Jacobi Anita Johnson, MD Barry Kaufman William E. Kyle, D.O. Drew McLaughlin Michael Paskevich Randy Staton George Sutherland, MD Lisa Sulka

Mame’s Mom “Always have your own money.”

Tom’s Mom “It’s not what happens to you, it’s how you take it.”

Bonnie’s Mom “Take care of your own little bailiwick.”

Hunter’s Mom “Never lie.”

Kaity’s Mom “If you are going to lie, be a confident liar.”

Kim’s Mom “Treat other’s as you would like to be treated.”

M. WASHO

PUBLISHER / EDITOR

Photography by Anne // Styled by Kim Molloy // Design by Kelly Stroud // Hair and make-up by Skinzin Clothes from GIgi’s Boutique in old town bluffton // Model: Andresa Eady of Halo talent

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Dr. Patricia Westmoreland, a Board Certified Dermatologist has joined Dermatology Associates of the Lowcountry.

Hilton Head Island Cosmetologist, Travis Harper, stylist at The HairDesigners at The Village at Wexford, has recently won the very prestigious T.E. Rabon Trophy for Hair Shaping and Finish Style at the Association of Cosmetology Salon Professionals annual Hair Convention in Myrtle Beach, South Carolina.

Laura Wuller is now the owner/operator of Coastal Long Term Rental Company, providing management and rental services to owners and tenants on Hilton Head Island.

Maureen Houston has joined The Alliance Group Realty located in The Fresh Market Shoppes on Hilton Head Island.

RE/MAX is proud to announce that Realtor Toni LaRose-Gerken has achieved the prestigious RE/MAX Hall of Fame Award within two and one half years with the company. In addition, Toni has been awarded the Platinum Award for 2012 and 2013 recognizing her consistent and high level of commissions earned.

Bear Creek Golf Club recently held its annual Volunteers in Medicine Golf Tournament and Dinner raising $8,000 for the Hilton Head Clinic. Over the last 13 years, the members have donated more than $150,000 to VIM, its official charity founded by member Dr. Jack McConnell.

Victoria Garrett has joined Providence Presbyterian Church as Contemporary Worship Leader. Victoria is a 2012 graduate of Emmanuel College with a B.S. in Worship & Music Ministry.

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CH2’s First Annual

Photography Contest W

e had over 100 submissions for our first annual Facebook Photography Contest, which was held from March 1st – March 31st. While we agreed to print the ten photos with the most likes on FB, the Art Department, along with our contributing photographers reserved the right to pick the winner and award the $500 Cash Prize.

Each person on our design team was tasked with picking three favorites before the deciding vote, which would be a starting point for narrowing down the winner. The winner was clear when five of the six judges picked the same photo as one of their three.

Congratulations to Chrissy Sandifer, whose photo featuring a Boston Terrier titled “What are you looking at?” grabbed the judges’ attention and won the prize of $500 cash.

Did you miss out on this contest? Like us on Facebook for monthly contests and more fun stuff. www.facebook.com/ch2magazine

winner of the $500 Cash Prize.

“What are you looking at?”

Photo by Chrissy Sandifer

Meet the Judges:

1st Annual photography contest winner

Tom Staebler Contributing Art Director Tom moved to Hilton Head in 2007 after a successful career as the Art Director at Playboy for over 40 years.

He recently attended an International Photography Seminar hosted by Jarmo Pohjaniemi in Miami where he was a guest speaker and portfolio advisor to attendees.

Anne Caufmann Photographer Anne and her team are experienced, professional photographers with fabulous Studios on Hilton Head Island and in downtown Charleston, SC. They love to travel nationwide, specializing in Fine Art Weddings, Commercial, Portraits and Fashion.

Kelly Stroud Art Director Kelly moved to Hilton Head Island eight years ago after graduating from James Madison University with a BFA in Graphic Design. In February 2006 she started with the Lowrey Group designing ads, and then in October of 2006 was part of the initial team to start CH2 Magazine.

Tom’s Picks:

“What are You Looking at?”

Powerful image, that forces you to stop and look. As a graphic designer, I’ve always felt that “scale” and “negative space” were the most important elements of a great image. This photo has both.

Anne’s Picks:

“Sparkle and Spiral” Very artistic and colorful.

Love the technique of painting with light. Would love a 30 x 40 metal print of this on my wall!

“What are You Looking at?”

Pure, sharp, clean and great composition.

“My City” I have always been concept oriented. To create images, not just record what exists— that is what drew me to this photo. What is the story behind it? If there is one, I would read it. I would like to see more from this photographer.

Kelly’s Picks: (continued)

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by Anne. I just know how hard it is to get animals to stay still or to “pose” as one would say. The dramatic lighting and the dog himself make this one of my favorite submitted photos.

“What are You Looking at?”

Again, when working with pets, they are so unpredictable. But in this photograph, it is the composition that I find most interesting. I love the white space and the simplicity of this image. I think that the photographer cropped the image perfectly and captured a perfect facial expression of the dog.

“Ocean’s Love” Awesome. He should check out Drew Barrymore’s new book!

Catherine’s Picks:

“What are You Looking at?”

I love the white space and composition of this photo.

The picture looks like it happened by chance, but somehow everything came together perfectly. To me, this photo stands out among all others.

“Just a Little Tummy Ache” This photo is so over-the-top; everything seems to have been exaggerated in size and color from her eyes to the robot she is holding. I can feel her tummy ache from her expression, and I understand that only a toy robot could make things better.

Kelly’s Picks:

“Ocean’s Love” Dramatic image that existed for only an instant; it will never be seen again…that is unless Photoshop is involved here.

“Wilma, Wonderful in White” We have done many pet photoshoots here at CH2,

Catherine Davies Art & Production Catherine moved to Hilton Head in 2009 to take a design job with CH2 magazine. She is originally from North Carolina and attended school at Appalachian State University where she completed a BFA in Graphic Design.

“Just a Little Tummy Ache” Wow, I had to do a double take on this photograph.

It is so sharp yet almost so perfect that she looks fake or more like a 3D animation than a real girl. I love her expression. I found this image a bit weird, but interesting—capturing life’s little moments.

Mark Staff Photographer For over 20 years, the stylized brand of photography that Mark Staff produces has graced the covers of magazines across America and Canada. His work is continually contracted by advertising agencies for global corporate clients as well as celebrity portraits and weddings. Hilton Head Island has been home to Mark and his photographer wife Lisa for 11 years. Locally they photograph both family, individual portraits as well as weddings.

“Proud to be a Sea Dog” How can you not love that face? I can’t decide whether I want to hug this pup or try to push his eyelids up so he can see. Looks like a sweet puppy that I would love to meet and give a good scratch to behind his ears.

Hunter Kostylo Graphic Design After graduating from the College of Charleston in 2012, Hunter took an internship at C2 where she put her graphic design skills to work. Shortly after, she officially became a part of the C2 team as a graphic designer and tech support guru.

716 Wilma, Wonderful in White Photography by Kathryn Dunlap

443 Proud to be a Sea dog Photography by Kathryn Dunlap

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Mark’s Picks:

“Just a Little Tummy Ache” The image with the little girl is quite interesting. The composition is balanced and set up as a magazine style cover. The color choices for background and wardrobe are very bright and fresh, which gives a stylized feel to the shot. I like her expression and tussled imperfect hair. Photoshop, whether purposefully over done or not, adds to the surreal look of the image.

“The Lighthouse” Beauty found in architectural structures can be profoundly interesting as in this image.

The photographer obviously put some effort into finding an interesting angle and allowed the natural light to create the feeling in the image. I appreciate the postproduction soft vignette focus that leads the viewer up. Nice clean image.

“Wilma, Wonderful in White” The stark contrast of black with white created by exposing for the natural light source is striking. The natural light playing off of the dog’s body creates a three-dimensional subject against the hard flat black.

It would be nice to see if the photographer can bring back any detail in the overexposed area to show hair detail.

213 The Island Icon Photography by Devin Taylor

Hunter’s Picks:

188 “What are You Looking at?”

To be completely honest, it was the first photo that popped out at me. It could be a perfect ad for a company like Pet Smart or Kibbles n’ Bits. The use of white space makes this image stand out.

Ocean’s Love Bradley Beach, Hilton Head Island, SC Photography by Jesse Cadman

“Wilma, Wonderful in White” The use of lighting highlights the dog’s features, from her crystal blue eyes to her pink toenails. It is a stunning image.

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“Pier Pressure” Loved the use of repetition and the balance between the light and dark elements of the photograph.

184 “Burning Light, Burning Bright...”

Photography by Jeff Johns

173 “Spanish Wells Sunset” Photography by Devin Taylor

124 “Hold on to What’s Left of Today” Photography by Chris Johanson

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104 “Sunrise Paddle at Shelter Cove” Photography by Kelsey Farman

102 “Diverging Paths” Photography by Kim McCue

79 “Hooked on You” Photography by Siobhán McCann

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and that concludes our top ten! Special thanks to all those who entered and participated in the contest.

Until next year...

May River Theatre Presents:

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Article by Barbara k. Clark // Photography by Alec Bishop Design by Hunter kostylo

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And the world will be better for this That one man scorned and covered with scars Still strove with his last ounce of courage To reach the unreachable star.”

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arrived on Hilton Head Island the summer of 1977. I was not happy to be here as I had left my on-air television job in South Florida at the height of my career. What in the world was I to do here?

The Island Packet was a two day a week tabloid, so I hungrily awaited Tuesdays and Thursdays to find out what was going on in our new home. And that is when I saw it: “Auditions for Man of La Mancha at the Hilton Head Playhouse.”

Salvation! There was a community theatre on the island!

I eagerly attended the first night of auditions only to find out that the theatre was a large warehouse building on a side road near the Sea Pines Circle.

The local theatre group had performed at The William Hilton Inn, and now they were going to build a permanent home.

And build we did. It was our love for the theatre that brought us to hammer and paint in hopes of getting open for the first show.

I was delighted to be cast as the housekeeper in this cast of few women.

I now had a new home, a new theatre and new friends. However, my father was not well, and due to his illness, I had the director get an understudy for me.

Dad worsened over the summer and I had to give up the role. He passed away on opening night.

So now, 37 years later, I found myself once again auditioning for

the same role in this year’s May River Theatre’s opening production. And yes, I got the part!

Directed by Wendell MacNeal with musical direction by Beth Corry, Man of La Mancha will open the 13th season for May River Theatre. It will play from May 9-25, Friday and Saturday evenings at 8 p.m. and Sunday matinees at 3 p.m.

Man of La Mancha debuted on the Broadway stage in 1968 and won five Tony awards. Since then it has had four Broadway revivals. It is essentially a play within a play as the audience watches Miguel de Cervantes display his bizarre imagination in his attempt to proclaim his innocence.

Cervantes, (played by Daniel Cort, a poet, playwright and part-time actor), has been arrested, together with his manservant (played by Rodney Vaughn), by the Spanish Inquisition. Thrown into

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From left to right: Rodney Vaughn as Sancho Panza, Daniel Cort as Don Quixote and Debbie Cort as Aldonza.

prison they engage the other prisoners in the story of Don Quixote in a charge that takes them on a journey to find his quest for truth. Debbie Cort plays the lead role of Aldonza, the object of Don Quixote’s affection.

“I chose this play because I love the music, the characterizations and the challenge to have the audience ‘dream the impossible dream,’” MacNeal said. “The music is wonderful, inspiring and enduring. Hopefully the audience will walk away contemplating their own personal quest.”

Season tickets will commence with this show and are available for $75 per person for the season (4 shows for the price of 3), with reserved seating the first weekend of each show. Tickets for the show are available by calling the box office at (843) 815-5581. Box office hours are 10 a.m.-2 p.m. MondayFriday. All reserved seats are $25.

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In the foreground is Tallulah Trice, director of the Beaufort County Animal Shelter.

Pictured from left to right: Lindsey Edwards, Kristin Trafton, Amanda Bellnier, Stephanie Brumley, Ricky Mellen (Volunteers 6 days a week), Alice Schmett and Cindy Colleran.

Article By Michael Paskevich // Photography by Anne

Give Give Me Me Beaufort County Animal Shelter and Hilton Head Humane Association work together to save lives, taxpayer money

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plastic baby gate spans a doorway leading to Tallulah Trice’s closet-sized office at the Beaufort County Animal Shelter, where a tail-wagging, belly-sagging sentry named “Nanny” is delighted to see the return of a crucial new friend and guardian.

“She’s inside with us today because she’s been feeling needy since we found her wandering nearby three days ago,” said Trice, director of the aging county facility located just off the runway of the Marine Corp Air Station in Beaufort. “She’s just had a litter, and she’s still lactating, plus she’s heartworm positive, so we’ve put her on medication. We weren’t able

to find her puppies.” So Nanny, a black spaniel mix with sad brown eyes and a permanent smile courtesy of an endearing under bite, is getting some much-needed people time as she adjusts to life behind bars and awaits a future that’s brighter than one might predict for just another captured stray confined to doggie jail.

That’s because Trice, working in concert with a wealth of Lowcountry animal advocates including those at the private no-kill Hilton Head Humane Association, has been making dramatic changes at the taxpayer-funded facility since taking over the post about two years ago. New programs, including Facebook

posts of newly captured animals are reuniting nearly 40 percent of owners with their missing pets; euthanasia and population rates are on an encouraging decline, and community support is swelling under Trice’s brief tenure. All while saving taxpayer money to boot.

“The biggest change has been turning the county facility into more of a transfer station,” she said, “so instead of concentrating on adoptions here, our job is focusing on their health and getting them into the right hands for adoption elsewhere like on Hilton Head.” Unclaimed animals like Nanny no longer face death sentences after mandatory holding periods, instead getting

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the most precious gift possible: added time to find them new homes.

“The only time we euthanize today are in cases of dogs that are aggressive, or because of the (ongoing) overpopulation of feral cats,” Trice noted. “Very few of them are taking that last walk along what we call ‘The Green Mile.’” Indeed, euthanasia has decreased to about 27 percent of the shelter’s intake of more than 4,500 animals in 2013, marking a dramatic decline from the not-so-distant days when nearly 80 percent of unwanted animals never left the shelter. Trice and 13 coworkers intend to improve those numbers even further in the future. Instead of remaining on site, adoptable animals often end up making a quick trip to nearby Tabby House or the Hilton Head Humane Association for adoption, sometimes in Trice’s personal car on her way home to Bluffton. Others have become part of a growing volunteer transportation movement, borne out of the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina in 2007 that ships animals to metropolitan areas such as Atlanta, where there’s an ongoing demand for adoptable animals.

That allows Trice and company to create needed space to work with animals that would otherwise be doomed: the pit bull mixes or other less desirable abandoned or unwanted pets. “Some of these animals just need a little more time,” Trice said. “They’re recovering from heartworm or they’re just timid or hyperactive, not aggressive. Of course, we are a division of county public safety, so our priority is to make sure we don’t release any animal that might cause harm.

It becomes an issue of not wanting these animals wandering neighborhoods.”

A trustee from the Beaufort County Detention Center, works weekdays to socialize animals while volunteer Marines

Indeed, euthanasia has decreased to about 27 percent of the shelter’s intake of more than 4,500 animals in 2013, marking a dramatic decline from the not-so-distant days when nearly 80 percent of unwanted animals never left the shelter. Trice and 13 coworkers intend to improve those numbers even further in the future.

from the adjacent air base sometimes drop by on weekends to toss Frisbees and help make canines more ready for new homes. “They are all part of the family and we recently had an inmate who formed a relationship with a particular dog,” Trice recalled with a smile. “When he got released, he came right back and got the dog so they could both enjoy freedom.”

Such heartwarming tales are offset by harsher realities. “Dog fighting is still rampant in rural areas of Beaufort County and we don’t have the money to drive around patrolling the entire community,” Trice said. “So we rely on people to be our eyes and ears and report things so we can address the problems. A lot of what we do is about education,” she added, noting that proactive animal services officers are happy to tell owners about more humane ways to tether their dogs while also encouraging them to

Alice Schmett works with the state’s newest charges, rehabilitating them for future adoption.

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take them on walks with proper leashes.

“And sometimes life just happens,” Trice said. “People get divorced, they have to move or something else happens in their lives where an animal ends up here.”

Sure enough, during a tour of the wellworn shelter that dates back to the 1970s, a dog owner shows up to return a white, AKC poodle with a piddling problem that damaged new carpets in his trailer. “She’s a good dog, but she’s four-years-old and still isn’t house trained; we just can’t keep her,” he said, declining additional identification. The abandoned poodle will be heading to Hilton Head Humane where, problem noted, she’s still likely to be adopted in short order.

The tour continues, making stops at rooms named in honor of shelter coworkers. There’s “Alice’s Room,” where quarantined dogs recovering from recent surgery are among those in individual cages awaiting their next step toward freedom. In “Amanda’s Room,” a horde of healthy cats climb on carpeted roosts, ever awaiting a group of local youngsters who drop by on occasion to read children’s books to felines. What used to be Trice’s office has been transformed into an intake area, where arriving animals are isolated to prevent contagious disease before being incorporated into the facility’s general population for eventual transport to offsite adoption centers.

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Rundown back buildings house the borderline cases, and a jail trustee is putting some dogs through open-yard paces geared at making the canines even more adoptable. It’s only in passing that Trice notes that county administrators and their elected counterparts are discussing constructing a new county facility, perhaps in a new locale. “This probably isn’t the best place to assess the future of an animal,” she said, as another Marine Corps jet fighter screamed in for a landing, temporarily cutting off further conversation.

“I’ve never worked in government before,” she eventually continued. Trice, who has been sharing her life with animals across the country since she was a teenage shelter volunteer growing up in Lookout Mountain, Ga., regards a career that so far has taken her to training Boykin Spaniels in Charleston and hunting dogs in Seattle before winding up as the county’s top administrator, officially charged with concerns about animal welfare.

“Like every other taxpayer-funded facility across the country, we are open admission, which means we have to accept every animal that comes to the doors,” she said. “One day we might get 10 new intakes; the next day we might get 70, so you have to be ready. Every day here is different.”

Another crumbling out building is packed with pit bull mixes and other animals that are difficult or impossible to adopt because of community bans on the canines, but even these less desirables are getting reprieves to become more socialized and perhaps find homes. A sullen if sizable Bull Mastiff that reportedly “nipped” at a child won’t be among the dogs released down the road; instead a nearby breeder will incorporate the dog into an all-canine population with plenty of room to roam minus youngsters. More cuddly purebreds such as Labs end up transported to facilities such as Lowcountry Lab Rescue for future adoption.

“It’s taken a lot of teamwork here at the shelter along with the community at large to find homes for these animals,” Trice said. Of the more than 4,500 animals that passed through the shelter in 2013, more than 1,500 were transferred to various rescue organizations. Another 633 animals were returned to owners, and 741 felines were adopted at non-profit Tabby House, resulting in an overall net live release rate near 66 percent, a 12 percent improvement over the previous year.

And not only are more animals going on to live happy and productive lives, the philosophical changes wrought by Trice and company are aiding county taxpayers through lowered budgets.

“Our annual budget used to be about $900,000 a year,” Trice said, “and we have reduced it by over $400,000. We are significantly making cuts because of the animals we’ve been saving, and we’re also relying more on obtaining grants. (The community recently came together to help the Beaufort Shelter win a nationwide contest that brought in more than 4,000 pounds of animal feed, some of which was passed along to supportive area animal organizations.)

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nearly 7,000 domestic animals and feral cats last year. In addition, the island facility donated more than $10,000 toward medical costs and no less than 20 pounds of food per month to assist the county shelter.

Needy Nanny is soon destined for a drive to Hilton Head Humane after her heartworm is treated and she’s healthy enough for transport. “We’re confident that she will find a good home,” Trice said, “and because it’s a no-kill facility she won’t face any time constraints.”

Trice shrugs off any lingering concerns about the county shelter’s longtime reputation as a place most animals don’t get the benefit of pardons, just as she downplays compliments she’s been getting from all quarters of the Lowcountry.

“We’re just trying to do the best we can and want to continue to reduce taxpayers’

Meet Mufasa, a 1.5 yr old beauty. He is just a bit shy, but so, so sweet! The day CH2 went on the photoshoot, Mufasa was moved to Hilton head humane to be adopted.

costs and overpopulation,” she said, “and we’ve been getting a lot of help from folks like those at Hilton Head Humane.”

“It’s been such a positive change during Tallulah’s tenure,” said Gerthoffer of the Humane Association. “There was nothing like this going on before, but now we have somebody who is working on behalf of the county to save animals that can’t save themselves. She’s like a sister,” Gerthoffer continued. “Sometimes we don’t agree, but we always find a way to work things out.” 

Editor’s Note: The Hilton Head Humane Association looks like the Taj Mahal compared to the conditions we noted on our recent visit to the Beaufort County Animal Shelter.

Although it is evident that staff works very hard to keep it clean, the numerous buildings are in a sad state of disrepair and the feline room in particular reeks of mold.

Several of the cages flood when it rains too hard and one can only imagine how hot those tin structures get in the heat of summer. Add to that the deafening sounds of the jets overhead from the Beaufort Air Base and you have a location that’s not ideal for the animals or the staff. Here’s hoping they get a new building and location sooner than later.

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Friends of the Four-legged

By Michael Paskevich

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dvocates for animals in the Lowcountry come in all ages, shapes and sizes, from the fit U.S. Marine Corps volunteers who toss flying discs to teach county shelter dogs new tricks and make them more adoptable, to the less-imposing uniformed ‘tweens’ at Hilton Head Middle School who provided blankets and towels during this past rugged winter to help keep furry creatures comfortable.

The island middle school students exclusively staged annual fundraisers to benefit the nokill Hilton Head Humane Association by selling novelty dog bones and with food collections; however some HHHA volunteers suggested the youngsters branch out to smaller animal rescue facilities in the area that were deserving of assistance. Last year under the guidance of literacy coach Samantha Carnes, “Have A Heart for Animals” found sixth graders adopting Palmetto

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Animal League; seventh graders, Marantha Farms, and eighth graders raising funds for Noah’s Ark. “It was fun but we didn’t raise as much money as we’d have like,” said Carnes, “so we felt we could be more efficient if we consolidated our efforts on a single agency the next year.”

In this tight-knit animal rights community that relies on word-of-mouth from a cadre of unsung volunteers, Carnes quickly learned about “the powerful changes” that were going on at the Beaufort County Animal Shelter since the 2012 hiring of new director Tallulah Trice. “We learned about their shortage of funds for heartworm treatments; this seemed a perfect fit,” Carnes said.

The students joined forces with Operation Saving Jake that assists military personnel, but initial discussion of the joint fundraising effort was met with some reluctance.

“I had a student come up to me in homeroom and ask the class, ‘Why are we doing a fundraiser that’s going a help a (county-run) shelter where they kill animals?’ “The students all knew growing up here that if an animal was taken to the county shelter it was probably going to die.” So Carnes paused, and then began informing the collected students that, yes, the county shelter will never become a nokill facility—that’s because of county public safety laws against releasing aggressive animals—but told them that Trice had greatly reduced the euthanasia rate through a series of progressive programs to transport the animals elsewhere for adoption.

“They were impressed when I told them how Tallulah had reduced the euthanasia rate from above 80 percent to about 27 percent in only a couple of years, and she’s trying to lower it even more,” Carnes said. “They realized what a passion Tallulah has for saving animals, so that pretty

much ended any more discussion.” And after a few years of declining interest in fundraising projects, Carnes reported that students jumped in with both feet to assist the county shelter.

The Valentine’s season fundraiser this year found students making video advertisements— aired during morning announcements—to bolster school-wide interest, while other classroom cohorts rounded up old T-shirts and braided them into dog toys. Some devoted time to walking dogs for community service; others created novel T-shirts. Their efforts drew a welcome boost when Howell Chase HVAC and Beach Properties of Hilton Head joined the fundraising effort. And whereas funds from past fundraisers were usually measured in coin counts, this year’s tally topped $725, not forgetting all the toys and donated blankets to increase creature comfort. Students, coincidently, were rewarded with a modest pizza party, a no-uniform ‘casual Friday’ and, above all, knowledge they assisted the less fortunate with community teamwork.

“The student involvement this year was just great,” Carnes said, “and one of the side benefits was getting Operation Saving Jake some muchneed exposure. Together, we feel like we can keep gaining momentum from here and do even better next year.” 

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ost of us—if we’re of a certain (ahem) age—remember the iconic movie from the 1980s, 9 to 5, which was one of the earliest of its kind: a shining beacon of hope for women looking to break through the glass ceiling in a man’s world. But this plate of hope is served with a side of revenge, which makes it deliciously fun!

As vividly realized as Jane Fonda, Lily Tomlin and Dolly Parton were in the movie in the roles of Judy, Violet and Doralee, we didn’t quite see all sides of them. The hilarious musical comedy—now on stage at the Arts Center of Coastal Carolina through May 25—takes the movie even further. The plot remains endearingly funny, centering on three female office workers who turn the tables on their arrogant and lecherous boss, but in this musical version, their worlds and passions are fully realized with songs, new relationships and fresh scenes. So get ready for a better-than-ever 9 to 5: The Musical, directed by BroadwayWorld award-winning director Casey Colgan.

Colgan stated, “This movie is one of my all-time favorites, so I couldn’t wait to direct the musical. And because of the characters’ rich development, mixed with some incredible songs, there will be even more to love about the show.”

The stage score includes the famous Academy Awardnominated song by composer-lyricist Dolly Parton, plus 16 new Parton songs written especially for the show. 9 to 5 marks the songwriting Broadway debut of the seven-time Grammy Award-winning singer, songwriter and musician, and book

by Patricia Resnick, who also co-wrote the From Left to Right: Pedro Rangel, Elizabeth Broadhurst, Jody Cole screenplay.

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FROM LEFT TO RIGHT: Elizabeth Broadhurst, Brent Heuser, Stephanie Torns and Crystal Mosser

When Parton sat down to write the music that tells the rest of the story behind her biggest hit, her heart comes through and shows us that revenge is not enough. Each of our heroines must find her way to a newfound freedom, and a fresh way of being uniquely herself.

Parton stated that 9 to 5 is a theatre score, not a country music score, despite the fact that Parton recorded and released one country-flavored song from the show, “Backwoods Barbie,” a number for Doralee.

When frazzled divorcee Judy (Stephanie Torns) succeeds in landing the job at Consolidated Industries that could put her on her own two feet, she arrives with no noticeable skill set for office work. Through her bumbling, she draws the attention of the super-efficient company veteran Violet (Elizabeth Newstead), who passes along the local survival skills in “Around Here.” When Violet is passed over yet again for promotion, her confrontation with Consolidated President Franklin Hart, Jr. (Brent Heuser) brings the sexy executive secretary Doralee (Crystal Mosser) into the revenge scheme as well, and all three women fantasize elaborate plots to get even with the sexist, egotistical bigot. That plan quickly spins wildly and hilariously out of control.

“The cast is amazingly talented,” enthused Colgan. “A number of them have been on Broadway and have toured nationally in shows like Chicago, Wicked and Mary Poppins, so audiences will be in for a first-rate, fast-paced night of great theater.”

From the bedroom to the boardroom, there are hostages, howls and a host of surprises, with songs, dances and laughs we never got in the movie.

That’s one reason 9 to 5: The Musical garnered 15 Drama Desk and four Tony Award nominations when it opened on Broadway in 2009, expanding with national tours in the U.S. in 2011, and the UK in 2012. And now the Arts Center brings it to the stage for visitors and locals to enjoy.

In addition to Colgan as director, production members include Bradley Vieth, music direction; Brian Riley, lighting and production design; and Diana Griffin, costume design, each bringing their own special magic to the show. In fact, Riley and Griffin are both BroadwayWorld award winners in their categories of lighting and costume design respectively.

So take a break from that 40-hour week grind, and come see 9 to 5: The Musical, running April 30 through May 25 at the Arts Center. Preview tickets are $44 for adults and $31 for children on April 30 and May 1. Beginning with the opening on May 2, tickets are $54 for adults and $37 for children. Get tickets online at www.artshhi.com or from the Arts Center Box Office at (843) 842-ARTS (2787). may 2014

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The Old Oyster Factory A rt ic le By Frank Dunne, Jr. // Ph oto gra p hy b y Mark s ta ff // design b y K e lly Strou d

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hen we’re out enjoying oyster roasts during fall and winter, inevitably somebody asks, “Are these local?” Sometimes yes, but usually we learn that the tasty Crassottrea virginica come from Florida waters or elsewhere. With restrictions on commercial harvesting, gone are the days when a little cannery on Broad Creek’s north shore shipped Hilton Head Island’s oyster bounty as far as Savannah, Charleston and beyond.

The Broad Creek Oyster Factory is no more, but Hilton Head Island always excels at maintaining continuity to its legacies. “Mr. Mitchell has been here supplying our oysters for 25 years,” said Jessica Lemek, a manager at The Old Oyster

Factory, that venerable seafood house on the Factory’s former site. She refers to Mr. Richard Mitchell, whose family was among those harvesting Hilton Head oysters in the Factory days. This year, The Old Oyster Factory celebrates its 25th anniversary, a remarkable achievement you might think, but not so hard to believe when you consider how they have done it: through continuity and consistency.

A 22-year veteran, Lemek is more the rule than the exception for The Old Oyster Factory. “They do a great job of keeping their employees here for a really, really long time,” she said. “I remember a couple of years ago overhearing servers from other restaurants saying there’s no way anybody can

The Old Oyster Factory get in there because nobody ever leaves.” Lemek says that her longevity story is typical, starting as a hostess fresh out of high school and working her way up. Many of the staff follow a similar path. For years, a popular destination restaurant for thousands of the island’s repeat visitors, The Old Oyster Factory servers as often as not find themselves greeting the same customers year after year. “You can tell they want to be here and they really enjoy getting to know their customers,” Lemek said. “Some will say, ‘I only want a four-table station because I’m the kind of person who makes that contact with friends who will come back the next year and ask for me.’”

Evidence of continuity and consistency in the kitchen is in the fact that one chef has been back there since the restaurant opened 25 years ago, working alongside now semi-retired Executive Chef and company partner Franz Auer. “He wanted to make sure that every single plate went out with—I guess you could say—love,” said Lemek of Auer’s influence on The Old Oyster Factory’s culture. He takes so much pride in the presentation and quality of the food. That just trickled down to everybody else.”

The mantle for continuity and consistency trickled down to executive chef Andrew Love, who came aboard in 2011 to continue the legacy. “My first summer I worked hand-in-hand with Franz, because he wanted to make sure that I was the right guy,” Love said.

Love’s experience as a banquet chef prepared him well to take on The Old Oyster Factory’s high volume busy season, Memorial Day through Labor Day. The Old Oyster Factory is built to handle a booming tourist trade, but this isn’t fish ’n’ chips and popcorn shrimp. The menu is fine dining quality served in a lively, casual, atmosphere, with sweeping views of Broad Creek, its abundant wildlife, and dazzling sunsets.”

To give you a taste, Broiled Dayboat Scallops (lightly breaded jumbo scallops in garlic butter and sherry with whipped potatoes, vegetables, diced tomatoes, and lemon beurre blanc)—The Old Oyster Factory’s signature dish according to Love—and the Seafood Medley (a broiled combo of locally caught shrimp, dayboat scallops, chef’s catch of the day, an Oyster Savannah and Oyster Rockefeller finished with the sauce du jour, garlic parmesan rice and vegetables) are two of the most popular choices.

The menu goes on to offer a vast selection of seafood, poultry, and steakhouse selections, “healthy choices,” a children’s menu, the tastiest hush puppies in all the land and, of course, oysters, raw or cooked and from waters near and far.

Nightly features are always worth a look as well. (Author’s note: Shrimp and Scallop Topped Tilapia is highly recommended if you’re there on the right evening.)

Do you like it fresh and local? “The owner at Red Fish (with Alexander’s one of The Old Oyster Factory’s two sister restaurants) goes out to the Gulf Stream on a regular basis to fish for our grouper, mahi and wahoo,” said bar manager Nick

The menu goes on to offer a vast selection of seafood, poultry, and steakhouse selections, “healthy choices,” a children’s menu, the tastiest hush puppies in all the land and, of course, oysters, raw or cooked and from waters near and far.

Randall. “I’ll come in to work and he’ll have live fish out there on ice. It’s cool as can be.”

A new twist is that The Old Oyster Factory now takes reservations, directly or via the OpenTable.com reservation service. “We started that last year,” Lemek said. “Now customers come in the door and they might wait 10 minutes at most. Ironically, sometimes that’s not long enough for some who like to enjoy a drink, the Broad Creek scenery, and entertainment out on the back deck. “We have entertainment six nights a week during the summer—a musician and a juggler for the kids.”

The Old Oyster Factory folks hope that shorter waits will bring a few more locals in during the summer, but if you’re a local and would still prefer to wait until the off-season, they’re okay with that too. They’ll be waiting for you with early bird “sunset dining” and a happy hour bar menu and specials.

So don’t forget to stop in and wish The Old Oyster Factory a happy 25th anniversary. “We’re going to do some events like big oyster roasts for our local customers,” Lemek said. There isn’t a better spot on the island for that.

Randall added, “Happy environment, beautiful sunsets, and the scenery out there…you can’t beat it.”  The Old Oyster Factory is located at 101 Marshland Road, Hilton Head Island. For reservations call (843) 681-6040 or online at OpenTable.com.

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was in the country from late June 2006 to September 2007. I was in Mosul, Anbar, Baghdad, Sadr City, Baqubah and other smaller towns. I have no idea how I survived. I remember writing off hope completely, more than once. I still cannot comprehend my current existence.”

“I don’t know why, for sure. I feel that I miss these days more than I want to admit aloud. I feel that everything was much simpler, less stressful. Live or die. Black or white. Not so much gray area back then. Romantic like the cowboy lifestyle appears to be. You’re alive or you’re not. That being the only worry on the horizon is not stressful... it’s peaceful.”

And, that is why our veterans are struggling today. Twenty two of them commit suicide every day. That’s four more a day than a year ago when I first told the story of Jake Walsh, and the

Honor Our Heroes Foundation that he started here in Beaufort County. That’s 8,030 veterans a year. “If these were teachers, we would do something about it,” Walsh said.

Sadly, he’s right. And that is wrong.

One year ago I sat across a table from Walsh, and he told me why he joined the Army, talked about his deployment, and his work as a medic amid the horrors of war. Shadows filled his eyes as he recounted his journey, lost in the memories. Walsh was candid about his Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), and his frustration surrounding the lack of attention paid to veterans.

The numbers are staggering. An October 2012 report by the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs (the VA), indicates that 30 percent of the 834,000 veterans of the Iraq and Afghanistan wars have been treated in a VA hospital for PTSD. In addition to the

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veterans of the Iraq and Afghanistan wars, there are over 23 million veterans living in the U.S., of which 14 million have served during wars dating back to World War II. Vietnam veterans are the largest veteran and suicide population.

Fact: It is more deadly to be a veteran today than it is to be in combat.

Walsh needed help to deal with his PTSD, and that realization came via an interesting encounter. Medication was the only treatment solution that Walsh (and thousands of others—Beaufort County has 13,000 veterans alone.) was receiving from the VA Hospital. Medication that left him detached, disconnected and mind-numbed. It wasn’t until one of his students at CrossFit Hilton Head asked innocently, “Are you just always high?” And with that, Jake stopped taking his meds. “I was completely unaware of how I was perceived on meds.” Weaning off the medicine though, created a new set of anxieties—a bird flying by could set him off. There had to be a better way.

The symptoms of PTSD include anxiety, depression, insomnia, mood swings, inability to focus—all behaviors that create irregular brain waves. BrainCore Therapy offers a drugless approach to treating these irregularities, called brainwave dysregulation, a condition that results from tension on the nervous system caused by, among other things, trauma.

Research has demonstrated that for any given circumstance, there is an accepted normal pattern of brainwave activity. A healthy, balanced, and properly regulated nervous system will produce the appropriate brain waves, at the appropriate levels, and at the appropriate times for any given situation. However, when the nervous system becomes tense and unbalanced as a result of stress or trauma, the brain waves become dysregulated, resulting in a series of neurological symptoms and difficulties. BrainCore technology and science is based on a procedure that effectively regulates the nervous system, providing proven relief of conditions associated with brainwave dysregulation.

Through a serious of coincidences, and conversations between Honor Our Heroes board member Joe Mezera, NAMI of Beaufort County, and one of the therapists at Hilton Head based BrainCore Therapy, suddenly there was hope.

When Walsh’s story was brought to the attention of BrainCore technician Dianne Kosto, she knew she had to help. Kosto is a self-proclaimed “Mom on a Mission” to help her son who struggled with impulse control issues. “BrainCore found me as word got to the founder about my son’s story,” Kosto said. When she completed her training to become a BrainCore technician, in an effort to help her son, she also learned of a study for Vietnam vets suffering with PTSD. She thought it could work.

BrainCore Neurofeedback is a modality designed to retrain brainwave patterns.

The goal is to transform unhealthy, dysregulated imbalances into normal, healthy, organized patters. By doing this, the brain becomes more stable and is able to operate optimally and efficiently.

This method begins with an assessment, the Quantitative Electroencephalogram (QEEG). Walsh had a snug cap, embedded with 12 sensors designed to measure and record brainwaves, placed on his head. No electric current is going into the brain; the cap is simply recording data or “mapping the brain.”

In the subsequent “training” sessions through BrainCore Therapy, the patient is hooked up to a computer using wires and sensors to record the brain activity. The software detects when the brainwaves are properly ordered and feeds that information back to the patient. The feedback appears in the form of a game, movie, or sound, which signals the order of the brainwaves. But how? I was surprised to learn that movies are part of the process. Walsh sits in a room and watches movies—not war movies mind you—movies like Cool Runnings and The Rookie. While watching the movies, the light, picture, and sound may change to see how the brain will react. If the volume goes down to zero, and the patient gets frustrated, it isn’t going back up to seven until the brain reacts in the way it is being re-trained to respond.

The theory of neurofeedback is based on a simple concept: when you have information on what your brainwaves are doing, your brain can use that information to change how it works. (I kind of wish I paid closer attention in biology, because this is incredible.) The therapy isn’t as simple. It is a commitment. In fact, Walsh had to commit to 80 sessions. That’s twice a week, for 40 weeks. “There are no drugs. There’s no surgery. No talk therapy. It’s a remap,” Walsh said. “Psychiatrists actually never look at your brain. That would be like an orthopedic doctor telling you that your leg is broken having never looked at your leg. This works.”

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So, through this non-invasive technology, Walsh’s brain is being re-trained to work with less stress, less anxiety, less fear, less anger.

Half way through his sessions, Walsh notices the progress.

“Last week I woke up and I felt good. The most normal I’ve felt in a dozen years. It hit me that day, things are changing,” Walsh said. “I’ll notice how nice it is outside. I appreciate Shannon [his love] more.”

Others are noticing too. Mezera tells the story of Walsh meeting him at a bar to watch football. “After an hour, and two beers, Jake stood up and said, ‘I have to go; Shannon’s family is in town,’ and I was in shock. That’s not the norm.”

What was the norm, I asked. “Go ahead, you can tell her,” interrupts Walsh. “He’d have 15 beers and I would have to drive him home,” Mezera said. He went on to talk about an event the duo organized and his shock when Walsh took the lead, organizing everything, leaving him to be the one panicking that day. A role reversal of sorts.

Kosto’s initial impression of Walsh, was “a dark, shaky, fearful guy, with a nervous look about him.” But now, she sees a “more calm and clear man; he sleeps better, is engaged in life more, actively involved with Honor Our Heroes Foundation, less verbally impulsive… much more calm in a crowd. I see confidence, joy, and a bright light emanating from him now.”

Even I noticed. During our breakfast, the syrup gun in the soda fountain popped… Jake looked behind the counter.

Laughed. Looked at Shannon and said, “Syrup,” with a smile. A year ago that syrup pop would have elicited a different reaction.

Now the challenge is taking what BrainCore Therapy has learned from Walsh and applying it in broader strokes. Kosto is currently conducting the inaugural BrainCore Therapy specific study here in the Lowcountry for ADHD, and the enthusiasm and support has been encouraging. She believes that the community would even further support and embrace a study

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to help those who served our country and are coming back broken and suffering.

Central to their mission to provide life assistance to service members, veterans and their families through direct support and referral services, Honor Our Heroes wants to make BrainCore Therapy mainstream. To do that, they need to conduct a study with other local veterans suffering from PTSD. For this, they need money. The treatment for one patient alone costs $8,000-$12,000.

So, they need your help to raise the funds, to do a broader study, to gather the research, to push for more funding, and the recognition from Veterans Affairs that this treatment is a viable option (and a covered treatment). A local business and a local foundation working together to support local veterans. How can we not help?

Especially when Walsh says, “I’m hopeful this will save my life.”

Three ways you can help the Honor Our Heroes Foundation Bowl! No really. For the entire month of May, Station 300 in Bluffton is hosting “Bowling for the Brave.” Station 300 will donate $1 for every game bowled in the month of May. And, Zeppelins Bar & Grill (located in Station 300) is also creating special military-themed drinks (think “Anchors Away” and “The Rolling Thunder”) and will donate an additional $1 for every drink sold. The fundraising goal is $15,000 for the month. So, put on the ugly shoes and help! Register your group to bowl during the month of May by calling Emily or Lisa at (843) 815-2695 ext.

3 or e-mail info@station300.com Sweat it out. Honor Our Heroes will host a Memorial Day weekend CrossFit Workout of the Day (WOD). Watch honorourheroesfoundation.org/events/ for details.

Play tennis. Fancy yourself a tennis player, and not a CrossFitter? Good news. Honor Our Heroes sponsors the annual Palmetto Dunes tennis tournament June 6-8. Check out palmettodunes.com/hilton-head-tennis-tournaments.php to learn more.

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A Little Retail Rediscovery at Shelter Cove Harbour & marina

explore these harbour shops while doing may shopping for moms, dads and grads

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ilton Head Island locals and visitors come together to shop, dine and celebrate in a cornerstone waterfront niche known as Shelter Cove Harbour—a year-round destination with worldly retail, fine art galleries and over 150 waterfront dining tables overlooking a stunning harbor view. Getting reacquainted with the shops at Shelter Cove Harbour is a bit like taking a stroll around a newly found piazza in the heart of Venice. Against the backdrop of shiny yachts, lovely flowers,

elegant architecture, and the harbor’s landmark sundial featuring a larger than life bronze Neptune, Roman god of the sea, the invitation to stroll and discover is enticing.

Taffeta, the area’s European women’s boutique, known for exceptional personal service and styling, is absolutely one of the best shops to find fashions from Paris, Milan, and Barcelona. Taffeta offers carefully and creatively selected accessories, sparkling jewelry, to-diefor handbags, and stylish shoes that

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complement their fashions ranging from vacation chic to sophisticated elegance.

Neptune’s Niche carries soughtafter spa products by SEACRET Minerals from the Dead Sea. With ingredients such as Argan oil, bee’s wax, Dead Sea minerals and black mud, a little pampering is most definitely in order. The shop also carries resort, beach wear and Naot sandals, known for their comfort, style and longevity.

Shelter Cove Harbour is a gallery lovers’ delight. Every shelf and display

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case at Nash Gallery showcases work by some of North America’s finest craftspeople. Made from clay, metal, wood, paint, jewels and gems, glass, and unusual materials from the artist’s imagination, the gallery’s selections of gifts, jewelry, and artwork range from elegant to whimsical.

La Belle Image features the fine artworks of artists Richard Riverin, renowned master impressionist, and Daniel Jaugey. Whether viewing Jaugey’s deeply moving landscapes or hearing about Riverin’s penchant for making his own paint, the experience here is breathtaking.

Tradewinds Trinkets and Treasures is filled with thoughtful mementoes and sweet gifts, along with homemade local soaps, casual fashion, beads and baubles, beach bags, light and gauzy swim cover-ups in every imaginable hue, T-shirts, sweatshirts and more. Christmas on the Harbour invites shoppers in with

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Nash Gallery Dog Gone Fishing Metal Sculpture by Yard Birds $215

Taffeta Embellished Sandal $179

finds for all seasons, including Christopher Radko ornaments, Byers Carolers, Department 56 and Jim Shore decorations, locally-made trimmings and collegiate-themed gifts. Treasure Island is a bit like finding a surfer’s paradise. With wakeboards, kneeboards, skateboards, and swimwear for children and young adults, this shop gets everyone ready for some serious beach time. For some tried and true Hilton Head Island shopping, Camp Hilton Head is a local tradition, carrying quality children’s and adult clothing, Life is Good® apparel, along with souvenirs and collectibles. The real fun breaks out at Camp Hilton Head when Gary the Gator, their friendly mascot visits.

Toward the mouth of the harbor, the Ship’s Store is home to Captain Kyle MacDaniel and his team, and is just the right stop for everything from boating apparel, supplies to rental fishing gear. Don’t forget your Costa Del Mar sunglasses and

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Camp Hilton Head Life is Good Tee $26 each Lighthouse Cap $22

Tradewinds Teal Capelli Sun Hat $25 Pink Flamingo Beach Bag $19

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Sperry footwear to keep you sure-footed on the docks. A great complement to all the fun is the Shelter Cove Harbour General Store. Stocked with water, sodas, snacks, sunscreen, beer and wine, and Fuel clothing, this shop is the headquarters of Parasail Hilton Head—the ultimate island activity.

Capture the magic of your island vacation at Legacy Design Photographers, specializing in family and individual beach portraits. Visit Salon Shelter Cove for all hair care service, including cuts, treatments, wraps, braids, and hair and makeup for your beach portrait, wedding, or other special occasion.

When the time is right to purchase a home or home away from home, visit Dunes Marketing Group, specializing in Palmetto Dunes and Shelter Cove real estate since 1979. If your fancy is more nautical in nature, Harbourside Yacht Sales is the harbor’s full-service yacht brokerage, representing buyers and sellers of new and previously owned boats.

Shelter Cove Harbour merchants are proud to host the “Music & Taste on the Harbour” concert series continuing Thursdays through the month of May. Memorial Day weekend brings the 6th Annual Hilton Head Island Art Festival, May 24 and 25, to the harbor with Lowcountry Reggae band Positive Vibrations performing both days. Shelter Cove Harbour is also the new home to HHI Jetpack—get ready to fly!

In addition to its shops, Shelter Cove Harbour offers an array of dining options at five of the island’s most popular restaurants, including the newly opened La Fontana Italian Grill & Bar, Ela’s Blu Water Grille, Bistro 17, San Miguel’s Mexican, may 2014

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Taffeta Derhy Dress $269

Christmas on the Harbour Christopher Radko “Oglethorpe’s Brigantine” $73

~ Neptune’s Niche Seacret Mud Mask $95 Seacret Nail Care Collection $40 Seacret Vitamin Moisturizer $120

Scott’s Famous Fish Market, and soon to come, Mediterranean Harbour Bar & Grill, plus Frosty’s Italian Ice for snacks and cool treats.

So whether it’s to slip onto the coastal waters of the Calibogue Sound or leisurely stroll to find that perfect ensemble, Shelter Cove Harbour merchants are waiting to serve up a full day of shopping, dining, pleasure and leisure.

Shelter Cove Harbour is located mid-island, across from Palmetto Dunes. For more information, visit palmettodunes.com.

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luffton definitely knows how to throw a party. And the 36th annual Bluffton Village Festival won’t disappoint. The festival, coordinated

by The Rotary Club of Bluffton, will be held from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. Mother’s Day weekend on Saturday, May 10, in Old Town Bluffton. The street fair is truly “a celebration of Bluffton life,” filled with all things Lowcountry, eccentric and family-friendly.

Residents and visitors, young and old, enjoy this eclectic and homespun Southern festival, famous for its unique arts and crafts, music and delicious food.

This event is the perfect opportunity to find unique gifts and goodies, gather with old friends and meet new ones. Admission is free! And this year, attendees have an extra hour to enjoy all the food and craft vendors, music and fun.

The Bluffton Village Festival, commonly known as Mayfest, was created to give Bluffton residents and visitors a chance to have some hometown fun and be exposed to the amazing craftsmen, artists and musicians in our region.

Organizers agree the street fair is filled with all the charm, beauty and hospitality Bluffton is known for.

“The Bluffton Village Festival is quintessential Bluffton with its good food, beautiful arts and crafts and plenty of smiling faces,” said Mike Covert, Rotary Club of Bluffton member and this year’s BVF chairman. “The Bluffton Village Festival is special and unique to this quaint little piece of heaven on earth we call home.”

The Rotary Club of Bluffton assumed responsibility of this hometown favorite six years ago. The club’s goal is to maintain the unique spirit of the festival, while

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continuing to offer more ways for locals and visitors to get involved, according to Covert. The club provides the necessary manpower to run and manage the Old Town Bluffton street party.

The Rotary’s motto is “Service above self.” Covert said, “The Bluffton Village Festival gives the Rotary Club of Bluffton the opportunity to give back to the residents, guests and business community of the town they serve and hold so dear.”

Gifts and goodies galore On the big day, Calhoun Street is full of electric energy and Southern hospitality. According to Dot Jeger, Vendor Coordinator for the BVF, close to 200 vendors from across the South will be selling jewelry, flowers, antiques, print and original artwork, pottery and more.

Close to 40 new vendors are registered for this year’s event, selling unique items such as wooden wall art, American Girl

doll clothes, Gullah dolls, local shell art, handmade soaps, hand-painted driftwood and recycled jeans and jackets.

The 10,000 or more guests in attendance will also have their choice of savory Lowcountry favorites such as the festival’s famous shrimp salad sandwiches from The Church of the Cross along with kettle corn, fudge, local seafood, snow cones and lemonade.

As Covert describes it, the Village Festival offers the best of what the Lowcountry has to offer. “You’ll see it … hear it … taste it … and feel it.”

The young and young-at-heart look forward to this annual street party because of its family-friendly atmosphere, quirky entertainment and yummy treats.

This year’s festival also includes several vendors selling goods with children in mind such as dolls and doll clothes, toys including a giant wooden puzzle game, like Jenga, and the always-popular marshmallow shooters.

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Entertainment line-up for the Main Stage 10 a.m.

Sun City Cloggers and Bluffton School of Dance 11:30 a.m.

Pie Eating Contest Noon-2:45 p.m. (will break during Ugly Dog Contest) Bill Dupont 1 p.m.

Ugly Dog Contest 2:45-5 p.m.

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All-American festival Two crowd favorites at the BVF are the Ugly Dog contest, celebrating its 26th year, and the second annual Pie Eating Contest. The quirky and unpredictable contest featuring man’s best friends is once again sponsored by Richard Coffield of May River Realty. If a dog has a face only his master could love, then that canine is the perfect contestant for the Ugly Dog Contest. All ugly dogs are welcome to enter! And the “top” three dogs receive a coveted trophy by local potter Jacob Preston.

Contestants of all ages are encouraged to participate in the “allAmerican” pie eating contest where they will race to see who can devour a tasty

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pie the fastest. The mouth-watering pies will be prepared by local Bluffton bakery, The Sugaree. Come see your friends, neighbors and total strangers stuff their faces for the chance to call themselves, “Champ.” Prizes will be awarded for first, second and third place.

General notes for festival-goers: • Wear a comfortable pair of walking shoes and bring bug spray, sunglasses and sunscreen.

• Friendly dogs are welcome at the festival on a leash.

• Rotary volunteers will be working two beverage stations this year.

One in the traditional spot in front of main stage area and one near

the beginning of Calhoun Street so guests can grab a drink as soon as they step off the bus.

• Free parking will be available at Red Cedar Elementary School with free shuttle services to Calhoun Street running continuously from 9 a.m. to 5:30 p.m. The buses are air conditioned, and there will be one bus designed for guests with disabilities. Transportation provided

by Durham.

Directions to Red Cedar Elementary: • From S.C. Highway 278: take S.C. Highway 46 toward Bluffton. Take the first right off the traffic circle onto

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Bluffton Parkway. At the first light take a left onto Red Cedar Street. Follow parking signs to the school.

• From May River Road: turn onto Pin Oak Street and go all the way to end. Take a left at the three-way stop.

Then, take a right onto Red Cedar and follow parking signs to the school.

Hilton Head Honda and Modern Classic Motors are this year’s Bluffton Village Festival corporate sponsors.

Their sponsorship level helps provide the central stage used for entertainment. Media sponsors include Accurate Lithograph Printing Co., Apex Broadcasting with radio stations SC103.1 and THE SURF 104.9, Bluffton Today, Bluffton Breeze magazine, The Bluffton Sun, CB2 magazine, Hilton Head Monthly magazine, L and L Broadcasting with stations BOB 106.9, HANK 98.3, ISLAND 93.5, REWIND 107.9, ROCK 106.1 and Y100.1, Lowcountry Weekly, and WHHI TV. For more information, call (843) 815-2277, blufftonvillagefestival.com or like us on Facebook.

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HEALTH & WELLNESS 2014 TABLE OF CONTENTS

PAGE 74 Love your Mother, Love your Bones

PAGE 76 Are you Experiencing Hearing Loss?

PAGE 78 Vital steps to preventing cervical cancer

PAGE 80 Lyme’s Disease: My Invisible Illness

PAGE 85 New breast cancer treatment options boost survival, offer new hope

PAGE 86 Drug-free solutions to reduce your child’s anxiety

PAGE 92 Family Discussions on Caring for Aging Relatives

PAGE 94 New Cholesterol Guidelines: What Do They Mean for You?

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Article By George Sutherland, MD

• Maximize your omegas. Omega-3 fatty acids are important to promote bone formation and reduce the rate at which bones are broken down.

You can increase your intake by eating foods such as fatty fish (e.g. salmon), and some nuts and seeds (e.g. flaxseeds and walnuts), canola oil and eggs. Remember omega-3s are considered an essential fatty acid (EFA), or a good source of fat, which the body cannot create on its own, so it is important to consume in your diet.

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his month on Mother’s Day, we celebrate mothers and the women who have cared for us over the years, shown us constant love, and dedicated their time and effort to our families. This month also marks another observance day that is crucial to the health of our mothers and all women: N National Osteoporosis Awareness and Prevention Month. Osteoporosis is a bone disease that happens when you lose bone density, causing bones to become weak and break more easily. Osteoporosis affects all bones in the body, but breaks are most common in the hip, wrist and spine.

The majority of the 40 million Americans living with osteoporosis are women, and it is estimated that one in two women over age 50 will break a bone as a result of osteoporosis.

George Sutherland, MD, an orthopedic surgeon at Optim Orthopedics, recommends women talk to their doctors about their bone health, particularly as they age. He also suggests the following tips that women can do every day to strengthen their bones and reduce the risk of osteoporosis: • Go green. You probably know that calcium is important for bone health and that dairy is a great source of the bone-boosting nutrient, but are you aware of other calcium-rich foods? Try incorporating dark, leafy greens, such as kale and spinach, into your diet to get more of this important nutrient.

Remember, it is recommended that women try to get 1,200 mg per day of calcium, even if they are already taking medication for osteoporosis.

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The recommendation for men is just slightly lower at 1,000 mg per day.

• Consume less caffeine. Coffee and other caffeinated beverages can be good for some aspects of your health, but not for your bones. Too much caffeine can actually affect the way that your body absorbs calcium.

While you don’t have to give it up entirely, try to drink it in moderation, and make sure that you’re getting plenty of calcium as well.

• Get some sun. Calcium is best for your bone health when it is consumed with vitamin D, which helps your bones to properly absorb the calcium. If you spend a lot of time indoors, or live in a place that doesn’t get much sunlight, consider adding a vitamin D supplement to your diet to ensure you meet your daily needs, or try to eat more foods rich in vitamin D, such as fatty fish (like salmon or tuna), fortified milk and orange juice, and egg yolks.

• Drink less alcohol. Like coffee, too much can be a bad thing for your bones, and of course your overall health. Drinking too much alcohol can cause bone loss, because it interferes with vitamin D functioning properly within the body. However, moderate consumption—one drink per day for women and two for men—is okay and may even help slow bone loss, according to some studies.

• Try weight-bearing exercise. Exercise is always important for your overall health, but the type of exercise you get is particularly important for bone health. Weight-bearing exercise, such as running or stair climbing, is great for bone health because it ‘compresses’ your bones to make them stronger.

These exercises also help strengthen quadriceps, which can reduce the amount of pain or stiffness associated with knee osteoarthritis.

• Pump up the potassium. Studies have shown that a diet high in potassium can improve bone health, because it may neutralize acids that remove calcium from the body.

As an added bonus, potassium is important for helping nerves and muscles communicate, and can reduce the risk of stroke and heart disease. Try eating more foods rich in potassium, such as sweet potatoes, bananas, white beans and yogurt.

• Cut out tobacco. Smoking can have a number of poor health implications; but it’s particularly bad for your bones, because it prevents them from properly absorbing calcium and vitamin D. The toxins also upset the balance of hormones needed to keep your bones strong.

George Sutherland, MD is a board certified orthopedic surgeon at Optim Orthopedics, specializing in joints and sports medicine. He completed his training at Louisiana State University in Shreveport, La. and the Hughston Foundation in Columbus, Ga.

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Article by Randy Staton

Can You Hear Me? The effects of untreated hearing loss are serious.

Untreated hearing loss is dangerous and can lead to a variety of health issues.

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ur hearing is integral to keeping us connected with the world around us, and to those we love.

Yet more than 60 percent of older adults have hearing loss. Unfortunately, only one in five of adults who need a hearing aid actually wear one and wait an average of 5-7 years before seeing a specialist for help. Untreated hearing loss can affect your ability to understand speech and can negatively impact your social, emotional and physical well-being. Recent studies have strongly linked it to other health problems, such as cognitive decline, increased risk of dementia, and poorer physical function.

Common causes of hearing loss include exposure to excessive loud noise over a period of time; ear infections, trauma, or ear disease; harm of the inner ear and ear drum from contact with a foreign object (such as cotton swabs); illness or certain medications that may be ototoxic; or deteriorating hearing due to the normal aging process.

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Social • You have difficulty hearing people talk in noisy environments such as a restaurant, shopping mall, in a car, or at the movie theater.

• People seem to “mumble” all the time.

• Family, friends, or colleagues often have to repeat themselves.

• You have trouble hearing people when they are not facing you or are in another room.

• You have trouble following conversations.

Emotional • You feel annoyed when people are hard to understand.

• You feel overwhelmed by large, noisy gatherings of family or friends.

You would rather stay home alone than be with others in a noisy setting.

You have trouble connecting with family members, especially children, because you cannot understand them.

You are fearful of new social situations.

Medical • You hear ringing, buzzing, or hissing sounds in my ears.

• You have difficulty hearing certain sounds.

• You take, or have taken, medication that can damage hearing (ototoxic drugs).

• You have a family history of hearing loss.

Types of hearing loss Hearing loss is classified as sensorineural, conductive or a combination of both. The sensorineural type of hearing loss is the most common.

It is associated with abnormalities to the cochlea or its nerve. People with this type of hearing loss often have their televisions too loud or frequently ask others to repeat themselves. This type of hearing loss may also affect the ability to understand speech, especially within noisy environments. The higher frequency ranges of one’s speech are the sounds made by the letters “s”, “ch” and “t” and are often affected by sensorineural hearing loss. This type of loss can usually be helped with hearing aids.

The conductive type of hearing loss occurs when sounds are not transmitted or “conducted” properly through the

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ear canal, eardrum and/or the middle ear. Causes of conductive hearing loss may include a buildup of earwax (cerumen) blocking the ear canal, other obstructions in the ear canal, fluid in the middle ear, infections (external otitis or otitis media), perforations (holes) in the eardrum and tumors or other diseases in the middle ear. Additionally, abnormalities in the ossicular chain (hammer, anvil, and stirrup) can also cause conductive hearing loss. Most losses of this sort are medical issues that cannot be addressed with hearing aids.

Effects of hearing loss The effects of untreated hearing loss are serious. Untreated hearing loss is dangerous and can lead to a variety of health issues. Incidents of serious depression are higher in those with untreated hearing loss. As it becomes more and more difficult to hear, the individual begins selfisolating, withdrawing from family and friends as his or her frustration grows. Additionally, a recent study by Johns Hopkins and National Institute on Aging found a correlation between untreated hearing loss and a loss of cognitive function, noting a higher risk of developing forms of dementia, such as Alzheimer’s.

Auditory deprivation, which is what happens when the brain no longer receives appropriate auditory stimulation, leads to diminished cognitive function. Auditory stimulation is critical in maintaining healthy brain function. The good news is that many of the issues experienced due to untreated hearing loss can be halte -d and, in some cases, reversed when the individual is fitted with bilateral hearing aids.

Ways to prevent hearing loss • Be aware of potentially noisy environments. Consider avoiding these situations outright or at least taking the right precautions. Always be prepared to use some form of protection such as earplugs or earmuffs.

• Never under any circumstances should you stick a foreign object into your ear.

• If you have been prescribed a new medicine by your doctor, ask your doctor and/or pharmacist if the new medicine has any known adverse effects to hearing.

• When traveling by air, you should yawn and swallow as the plane is descending.

• When blowing your nose, do it gently. Too much force may cause damage.

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Article By Giuseppe Del Priore, MD, MPH

Vital steps to prevent cervical cancer

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cancer diagnosis, no matter the type, can be sobering for any patient.

Cervical cancer in particular can be frightening for women with fears that the diagnosis eliminates their chance to have children, or worse. As a gynecological oncologist, helping women understand the importance of preventative care can mitigate many of the threats associated with cervical cancer.

With the breadth of treatment options available today, women who have received a cervical cancer diagnosis are better equipped than ever to overcome the disease and live a normal, healthy life.

That said, there is still no guaranteed cure for the disease so women must remain vigilant about testing for precancerous abnormalities. In fact, up to one in five women has an abnormal Pap smear every year. Furthermore, thousands of women in the U.S. die yearly from cervical cancer, which is especially tragic given the

Beyond a vaccine, another preventative measure is a simple Pap smear, a screening test that detects abnormal cervical cells consistent with a precancerous condition.

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vaccines and screening tests available to prevent almost every case.

The first preventative measure to consider is a vaccine for Human Papillomavirus (HPV), a cancer-causing virus (e.g., genital warts and oral cancers) and source of almost all cases of cervical cancer, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. HPV can be transmitted from one person to another through intercourse or by skinto-skin contact with an infected area of the body. However, the vaccine is usually recommended for young men and women before they become sexually active.

Additionally, men and women who are sexually active already may have been exposed to the virus but may still benefit from the vaccine.

Beyond a vaccine, another preventative measure is a simple Pap smear, a screening test that detects abnormal cervical cells consistent with a precancerous condition.

Many physicians use the Pap smear along with HPV testing, a practice commonly referred to as combination-testing. By analyzing the structure and function of precancerous cells, combination-testing can better identify patients at risk before cancer progresses.

Encouraging family and friends to schedule a routine Pap smear, which should be a central component of any routine health assessment, is

paramount. Pap smears and HPV tests for women between 21 and 65 should be scheduled once every one to three years.

If ever faced with a diagnosis, discuss the risks of cervical cancer with gynecologic oncologists who can explain the array of the treatment options available.

For example, a cone biopsy, also used to diagnose cervical cancer, may be the only treatment needed for women with early stage cancer who want to have children. Also, women have been able to carry to term and deliver healthy babies by Cesarean section after a trachelectomy. This type of treatment allows for the entire cancerous cervix and the upper part of the vagina to be removed while the uterine fundus is retained. Normal intercourse, conception and pregnancy remain possible after a trachelectomy. Depending on the unique needs of the patient, treatment can be customized with consideration given to the patient’s values and a variety of other factors.

Another method that allows for a less invasive surgery is neoadjuvant chemotherapy.

Designed to downstage an advanced cancer before the patient begins her primary treatment, this approach is just one example of an alternative to radical surgery and radiation therapy. Similarly, combining surgery after radiation and chemotherapy can reduce the amount of radiation needed. Multiple treatment methods can also be combined in different proportions to minimize toxicity from any one treatment.

Outside of regular testing, women should eat a healthy diet rich in fruits and vegetables, drink green tea, avoid smoking and exercise regularly. Doing so will boost immune health and help prevent the HPV virus from becoming a chronic infection and potentially cancerous.

It is a testament to the strength of modern cancer screening that cervical cancer deaths over the last 50 years have decreased by close to 70 percent. While this statistic is no doubt encouraging, it means little today without proper screening and early detection.

Understanding the options available and taking action is essential to avoiding a preventable and potentially fatal disease. Â?

Giuseppe Del Priore, MD, MPH is national director of gynecologic oncology & Southeastern Regional director at Cancer Treatment Centers of America at Southeastern Regional Medical Center in Newnan, Ga.

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Article By Andrea Caesar

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oday’s society demands that women be superwomen. We are to be powerful professionals, Pinterest goddesses in the home, sensual lovers, mothers who cut nitrate-free turkey sandwiches on homemade bread into cookie cutter shapes for their kids, all while staying well-groomed, in shape, and cheerful.

But a large part of society is struggling to keep up with this standard, not only because it’s absurd, but also because they suffer in silence. I am one of them. I suffer from Borreliosis Complex, better known as Lyme disease, and have since I was 11 years old. Lyme is a complex set of infections involving all parts of the body systems, but in particular the nervous system. I don’t know what life is without Lyme, as I went undiagnosed for 26 years. This disease has virtually all but eaten me alive.

Lyme is not the only invisible illness.

Many people suffer daily physically, mentally and emotionally without others even being able to detect it. Some of the many invisible illnesses are chronic fatigue syndrome, fibromyalgia, rheumatoid arthritis, Crohn’s disease, IBS, diabetes and many more.

When I make it out of the house, I am told, “You look great!” and of course I appreciate it, because no one wants to hear, “You look so tired,” or, “You look awful.” But believe me, people do say those things.

You may not see it, but I have some occasional balance issues. In fact, I ram into

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so many things that I have bruises all over my body. And because I have short-term memory problems, I can never remember where they came from. But, I can walk— even when you don’t see the challenges I sometimes have with standing up and getting my balance, pleading with my hips to cooperate with me. Yesterday, halfway down the stairs, my legs gave out from under me and I went tumbling down the rest of the way, covering my head with my hands. But I “look great.” So much for that homemade bread.

I have had hallucinations, but you can’t see me having them. I have joint pain, which unless I told you or unless you were there with me when I dropped the $1,000 bottle of medicinal tincture on the floor because my right elbow gave out, you’d have no idea. And while I may walk slowly at times, you probably don’t know that sometimes it feels like I am walking on shards of hot broken glass. Did you know that I have had no feeling in my shins for 23 years?

You might notice I get grouchy or teary, especially when my daughter is being a typical three-year-old and doesn’t look happy to see me when I pick her up.

She has a hard time making transitions, and my arrival sometimes interrupts something she is enjoying. When this happens, she throws a fit when she sees me, which makes me cry in front of all of the teachers and other parents.

But beyond my tears, can you see the war going on in my mind? I try to rationalize what I know is true: that she is not unhappy to see me, but simply is not ready to finish her activity. And while some people might think that I am unstable, I am a rock when it comes to this illness, and I do not intend to back down. So much for being the perfect Pinterest mommy.

You learn who your friends are when you are invisibly sick, because unless you have the “OMG” factor, the big words like cancer or you clearly look frail or ill, or have had a dramatic accident, people don’t see you as ill when they see you dropping your child off at school every day or driving through town. When you have a visible illness, people rally around you. When it’s invisible to the eye, many times you are left in the dust; because even though people know you are ill, they assume you are feeling better because “you look fine.”

Sometimes I feel invisible. Sometimes I want to scream at the top of my lungs, “No, I am not all right,” just begging the universe for someone to see me. REALLY see me. Beyond a few family members and friends I can count on one hand, very few people really see me, and even they don’t know the half of it. And maybe that’s my own fault. Maybe I have been too guarded for too long to actually let anyone in on any profound level.

My daughter really sees me. I think children have an incredible capacity to sense everything around them. Every time I leave her, I tell her again and again, “Mommy always comes back.” Last time I went to D.C. to see my Lyme specialist, Joseph G. Jemsek, MD, FACP, she held my face with her little hands and said, “And maybe this doctor make you feel better, Mommy.” She actually calls him my Dr. Superhero and is convinced he wears a cape.

I hit my head a few weeks ago when I lost my balance and banged it on the kitchen island. I screamed. She came running and sat right next to me and said, “Okay, what can I do for you, Mommy?” She sees me even when my invisible symptoms are at full

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force. Said my three-year-old rock, “Maybe we cannot have music in da car today, Mommy, so it don’t hurt your head,” without me having said a word about my head being ready to explode. What would I do without this child?

And so, here I write to you in a very vulnerable state, because I am surrendering some of the control that I have held onto for so many years. I am putting words to what has been invisible for so long. I am pleading with you to understand that I am not lazy. I am exhausted. Always. Physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually exhausted. My tank is empty, and although I will likely greet you with a smile, I am not okay.

Through my journey, I have learned that I am responsible for what I put out in the world, and I have never had a problem taking accountability for my words or actions. And so, it is with shaky hands and great emotional discomfort that I let you deep into my mind full of Lyme.

If I can help other people with invisible illnesses feel validated, then I have completed what I set out to do. To those people: I know it’s not in your head. I know you are not making it up. I know you hurt. I know you cry aloud and within. And while I will never say I know how you feel, I will say I see you and I care. To me, you are not invisible.

Andrea Caesar is an author, entrepreneur, and mother who suffers from chronic Lyme disease, an illness not recognized by some in the medical community. In A Twist of Lyme: Battling a Disease That “Doesn’t Exist,” Caesar recounts her now 28-year struggle against undiagnosed Lyme disease as well as the harsh physical and emotional toll of her recent treatment.

A Twist of Lyme is available at amazon. com. For more information, visit twistoflymebook.com.

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Article By Anita Johnson, MD

New breast cancer treatment options boost survival, offer new hope

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s a surgical oncologist focused on treating breast cancer, I see daily how devastating a breast cancer diagnosis can be. But I also see daily how new and often cutting-edge treatments give women the hope and courage they need to help manage or overcome the physical, mental and emotional challenges of breast cancer, and in many cases, beat the disease altogether.

One in eight women will develop breast cancer in her lifetime. While the leading risk factors are well known— older age, family history, mutations in certain genes— the most important risk factor for breast cancer is simply being a woman.

The fact that any woman can develop breast cancer is one reason annual mammograms and clinical breast exams are so important; regular screening helps detect cancer early. As with every type of cancer, when breast cancer is discovered early, more treatment options are available, survival rates are longer and the cure rate is higher.

In the U.S., trends in breast cancer are encouraging. Data from the National Cancer Institute show consistent declines in both new cases and deaths from breast cancer since 1990. Further, the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and

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Prevention (CDC) reports that from 2000 to 2009, the incidence of breast cancer in the U.S. decreased by 0.9 percent per year, while mortality decreased 2.1 percent annually.

What’s most notable about these data is that breast cancer mortality is decreasing at more than twice the rate of incidence, meaning that women with breast cancer are living longer. That trend also is borne out by CDC data: although less than 75 percent of women with breast cancer survived more than five years in the 1970s, in 2005 more than 90 percent did.

There may be several reasons behind the decline in breast cancer deaths.

However, new technologies and improvements in existing treatments are very likely contributing to higher survival rates and improved quality of life for women with breast cancer. In addition to continued refinements in breastconserving and reconstructive oncoplastic surgery techniques, an array of advanced treatment technologies is available today.

For example, genomic testing is an innovative new diagnostic tool that allows tumors to be examined on a genetic level. By identifying mutations that occur in a cancer cell’s genome, doctors can better understand what caused the tumor and tailor

treatment based on these findings. Genomic testing might suggest a drug normally used for another type of cancer as an appropriate treatment for breast cancer based on the genetic properties of the tumor.

The fact that any woman can develop breast cancer is one reason annual mammograms and clinical breast exams are so important; regular screening helps detect cancer early.

Another example is intraoperative radiation therapy (IORT), one of many new technologies that deliver radiation more precisely, helping minimize damage to healthy tissue and treatment times. With IORT, radiation is delivered directly to the tumor site after a surgeon has removed the tumor. A 30-minute dose of IORT can often replace weeks of traditional radiation.

In addition to radiation, numerous advances have been made in chemotherapy treatments for breast cancer.

Targeted therapy blocks specific molecules involved in tumor growth by directing drugs or other specially-

created compounds (e.g., man-made immune system proteins) to attack cancer cells. A targeted therapy called chemoembolization delivers medication through a catheter directly into a tumor using image guidance.

The chemotherapy drugs are mixed with particles, called microspheres, which block blood flow to the tumor.

With so many options available to treat breast cancer today, treatments can almost be tailored to the individual based on factors such as her genetic profile, location of the tumor, the type of tumor and whether the cancer has spread, among others. However, which treatment a woman ultimately chooses is a personal decision best made in collaboration with her family, personal physician and oncologist.

The specter of breast cancer can be frightening, but it is important to remember that most women will not develop the disease. Women who are at an increased risk should talk to their doctors about how often they should receive mammograms and what other screenings, such as genetic testing, might be beneficial. Although breast cancer continues to claim too many lives—more than 35,000 each year—advanced treatment options are significantly impacting survivability and quality of life.

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hen I was a young girl and every bit the title character from “Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day,” my father would say, “Rebecca, let’s turn that frown upside down.” His big smile and even bigger heart always shifted my mood from negative to positive. I channel him every time one of my three girls is having an emotional rough patch and give them the same advice. So far, it’s working for them, too. But as they mature, I worry if these words will always do the trick.

According to Dr. Debi Lynes, a counseling psychologist who specializes in adolescents and young adults, “Both SAMHSA [Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Adminisration] and NIMH [National Institute of Mental Health] report that stress and anxiety have trumped depression

as the number one non-physical complaint for teens and adolescents. Interestingly enough, anxiety and stress often manifest physically in the form of irritability, insomnia, headaches, and stomachaches or gastrointestinal problems. And startlingly, stress is the chief complaint from children as young as nine.”

The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) defines anxiety disorders as a group of mental illnesses that cause people to feel excessively frightened, distressed, or uneasy during situations in which most other people would not experience these same feelings. When not treated, anxiety disorders can be severely impairing and can negatively affect a person’s personal relationships or ability to work or study. Anxiety disorders can further cause low self-esteem, lead to substance abuse, and isolation from one’s friends and family.

According to The Anxiety and Depression Association of America, anxiety disorders affect one in eight children. Research shows that untreated children with anxiety disorders are at higher risk to perform poorly in school, miss out on important social experiences, and engage in substance abuse.

Parents need to understand that just because their adolescent or teen doesn’t encounter typical adult stressors like paying bills or building a career, he or she is still under a tremendous amount of pressure. Furthermore, the stress he or she experiences now is greater than the normal stress load we faced as youths.

“Access to 24-7 information is shaping the way we think. For years, we had to search for information. Now we have to do the opposite. We are so bombarded with information, we need to block out the extraneous,” Lynes said. As a result, youths have two stress feeders—one directly coming from society and social media and the other indirectly from witnessing their parents’ stress level.

“Keep in mind, anxiety is a good thing,” Lynes explained.

“Developmentally, this is fight or flight; this how you historically survived. As a cave man, when the hair on the back of your neck stood up, it was because you sensed danger.”

By uniting the rational and emotional minds, Lynes contends we can develop “the wise mind” and “radically accept that things are what they are”—meaning teens and adults alike can be a witness (not a victim) to their emotions and thoughts.

Lynes recommends several drug-free alternatives to combating adolescent and teen anxiety. “Don’t be fooled by masking anxiety and stress with drugs,” she said. “Anything that temporarily eases the issue, whether it is a pill, drink, or piece of candy does not teach a child to self-soothe.” Instead, she wants to empower her patients with wellness techniques such as breath work, meditation and aromatherapy—each of which might be described as “holistic.”

Yet Lynes is hesitant to use that term stating, “Maybe we need to throw out the word ‘holistic.’ It has a voodoo or new age quality to it. We are simply talking about our mind, our body and our spirit coming together. We are talking about providing your child with doable, practical solutions that they can wrap their arms around.”

Thankfully, there are several drug-free, out-of-the-box options (some new, some ancient) to help adolescents or teens learn to turn that frown upside down—not just today, but for the rest of their lives. Let’s begin with The Bars, a technique grounded in the principles taught in Access Consciousness. According to Dr. Anthony Mattis, “Bars is a simple yet powerful hands-on body tool that can unlock areas of limitations in our lives. It deals with electromagnetic points that carry limiting beliefs in the areas of money, happiness, joy, peace, calm, gratitude, creativity, healing— just to name a few. At the very least, it’s very relaxing, and at best, it will change your life forever.”

Mattis has practiced chiropractic for over a decade and has

been doing the Bars for two years. Since working with the Bars, he said, “I have observed changes in people—especially my kids. For them it works quicker [than adults].”

Mattis agrees with Lynes that we are, over-stimulated with technology and that pressure is coming from a variety of places now. “Kids today are in a constant state of fight or flight,” he said. He recommends being proactive—whether you are addressing your own mental-physical health, or your child’s. “If you don’t deal with issues initially, they will snowball into larger issues later,” he said, “and it’s much easier to deal with it when they are younger. Parents have to be willing to look at their part as well. Otherwise it will limit the child’s progress.”

Visionary craniosacral practitioner Molly Tomiczek agrees and recommends that parents receive work in tandem with their children so that any mutually shared angst is resolved together. She described craniosacral work as an evolution out of cranial osteopathy (a specialization introduced in the 1930s

by William Garner Sutherland) that has traditionally focused on the 22 bones that make up the human head, the vertebra and sacrum, and also on the brain, the central nervous system, the cerebrospinal fluid and the system of membranes inside the cranium and spinal column. Craniosacral therapists often focus on optimizing the position, fluid movement (or “wave”) and energy (or “piezoelectric charge” and “chi”) of these parts of the craniosacral system, as well as bringing the craniosacral system back to balance in the central line of the body, called the midline. Because stress often manifests physically in the

body, Tomiczek pointed out, “There is no doubt in my mind that anxiety is the precursor to much larger ‘projects’ for the body. I like to use the word project versus problem, because a project is something we can work on and resolve.”

Another modality, acupuncture, has been benefitting people for over 5,000 years. Nationally certified acupuncturist Peter West said, “Simply put, acupuncture moves energy. Sickness and stress is a blockage of energy. If you open up a person’s energy field, the body then selfheals. Life is stressful—for adults, teens and adolescents—and stress reduces the body’s natural resistance both physically and emotionally. Therefore, parents need to be proactive with their children and stress management.”

West believes acupuncture is ageappropriate for most youths 12 and older but also suggests parents consider their child’s temperament and ability to remain still and receive the treatment (which includes small painless needles).

He recently helped a 16-year-old struggling with anxiety. “The beauty of working with children is they tend to heal naturally quickly,” West said.

In addition, parents should consider nutritional changes. “The more whole your food is, the more you feel whole,” Lynes said.

According to Dr. David Sack in an article for Psychology Today, “Numerous studies have shown the deleterious effects a sweet tooth can have on mood, learning and quality of life. The standard American diet, which is full of sugar and fat, does not necessarily cause anxiety, but it does appear to worsen anxiety symptoms and impair the body’s ability to cope with stress.”

Lynes maintains the most significant drug-free step to reducing adolescent and teen anxiety is recognizing that mental and physical health cannot be separated. “Actively listen to your children—not just hearing their words, but listening to what they are actually telling you.”

Becca Edwards is a holistic health coach, yoga and Barre instructor, birth doula, writer/blogger and owner of b.e.well and b.e.creative (www. bewellandcreative.com). Her M.F.A in writing thesis, Teenangles, was an oral history book about the modern teen.

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ummer celebrations and family reunions are a natural time to catch up face to face and take a few minutes to talk about future care for elderly parents or other aging relatives.

Family gatherings afford a comfortable setting to initiate a dialogue between seniors and their children about current and future health, financial and legal issues.

In bringing up the well-being of senior family members, it’s important to keep the conversation relaxed so as not to overwhelm or distance anyone. If the elderly parent(s) or relative is capable of participating, he or she should be involved in the open discussion. If long-distance children cannot attend, consider connecting via Skype, voice chat or a conference call during the family meeting. At minimum, those who cannot attend should receive an update, preferably in writing. Respect, love and sensitivity are vital in the conversations about a senior loved one’s care.

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of making the best decisions possible for the immediate and long-term needs and wishes of older adults,” explained Gregg Fulton, president Right at Home Bluffton. “Caring for parents or other seniors can be exhausting and emotions can flare, so one of the most valuable things any family can do for an aging loved one is to start talking about ‘someday’ care issues before they need to be implemented.”

Right at Home, a leading provider of in-home companion and personal care to senior citizens and disabled adults, provides expertise and resources to help plan for an aging loved one’s comprehensive needs. The following is a list of topics and questions to address with an elderly loved one(s): Financial • Determine the loved one’s overall financial situation.

Will there be a need for supplemental income?

How will family members help with any current and future financial needs?

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(include Social Security and pension deposits, annuities, stocks, interests, IRAs, CDs, etc.).

Create a list of debts and financial payments (include mortgages, car payments, insurance, etc.).

Keep all financial, insurance and legal documents within easy access.

Keep a list of all financial and investment institutions (including safety deposit boxes) with account numbers, access details and contact information.

Help the senior consult with a financial advisor to discuss financial planning, transferring of assets, tax issues, etc.

coverage is adequate.

If not, talk through other options.

• Document details of prescription plans, longterm care insurance, Medicare, Medicaid, etc.

• Discuss your loved one’s wishes and healthcare decisions in case he or she becomes incapacitated or unable to make decisions.

• Create a list of all medical providers with key contact information. Keep the list updated and make copies available to the main caregivers.

Legal • Make sure the loved one has an up-to-date will, living will and other advance health directives, including a durable medical power of attorney and financial power of attorney.

• Discuss the benefits of consulting with an elder care attorney or family attorney skilled in estate planning, healthcare planning, etc.

Caregiving roles and living arrangements • Determine who the principal caregiver will be and who will share responsibilities (doctor visits, medication supervision, etc.).

• Discuss how family members can share information and express feelings.

• Develop a plan for involving timely caregiving help.

• Discuss options for when your loved one needs in-home care or cannot live alone.

Medical • Assess the loved one’s current health and discuss any necessary doctor visits.

• Compile a list of current prescriptions and overthe-counter medications.

Note any allergies and medication interactions to avoid.

• Determine if medical

Openly discussing an older family member’s possible future needs today will lessen stress and tension once additional care is needed.

With a commitment to supportive concern and communication, caring for an aging loved one can bring a sense of love and unity to any family.

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Article by William E. Kyle, D.O.

or diabetes who are 40 to 75 years old with an LDL 70 to 189 mg/dL and have an estimated 10-year risk of atherosclerotic cardiovascular disease of 7.5 percent or higher.

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f you’ve been monitoring your cholesterol numbers, you now have some new guidelines to follow. The guidelines, which were recently issued by the American College of Cardiology and the American Heart Association, represent a significant change in the way healthcare providers treat cholesterol levels in order to decrease their patients’ cardiovascular risk.

Out with the old, in with the new First, let’s look at how the old guidelines worked. If you are 20 years old or older or you have some reason (e.g., diabetes, high blood pressure, heart disease) to have your cholesterol checked, you probably were screened initially with a fasting panel. The results of this lipid panel helped decide whether a statin medication, such as Lipitor, Crestor or Zocor, was prescribed to help control your cholesterol levels.

Physicians made the decision to treat cholesterol based on a risk calculation called the Framingham Risk Score or on your LDL (low density lipoprotein) number,

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also called “bad cholesterol.”

Once we started treatment with a statin medication, we would adjust your dose depending on your LDL number.

The new guidelines still recommend screenings with some minor changes, but they totally abandon the idea of treatment based on your LDL number. Instead, they advise physicians to treat patients based on their cardiovascular risk only. This puts patients into four categories: 1.

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Individuals with LDL levels ≥ 190 mg/dL, such as those with a family history of hypercholesterolemia (high cholesterol).

Individuals 40 to 75 years of age with diabetes and LDL 70 to 189 mg/dL without clinical atherosclerotic cardiovascular disease.

Individuals without clinical atherosclerotic cardiovascular disease

Your patient category then determines the strength (moderate or highintensity) of the statin you are prescribed. Along with these guidelines, a new risk calculator has been created to replace the Framingham Risk Score. Finally, the guidelines still recommend we monitor your LDL cholesterol, but only to make sure there has been a drop in the levels and not to adjust statin dosages.

Addressing the controversies Physicians welcome the new guidelines, which were needed, but there has been some controversy on two aspects: the fourth patient category and the new risk calculator.

Some physicians question the recommendation to treat healthier patients with a low 10-year heart disease risk of 7.5 percent or higher. They think it will be difficult to start a patient on a statin at such a low threshold when he or she actually looks quite healthy on paper.

A report from the National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey, which was conducted between 2005 and 2010, contains data based on heart disease risk factors and heart disease rates among 3,773 people. It showed 56 million Americans between the ages of 40 and 75 would be

eligible for statins, compared to 43.2 million under the older recommendations—an increase of nearly 13 million patients. If this is true, then the new guideline represents one of the greatest changes we have seen in decades.

The issue with the new risk calculator is that it has never been validated or compared to the Framingham Risk Score, which makes it difficult to know how accurate it is in identifying new patients at risk. The main new variables used in this calculation are race, smoking status, and slightly different age cutoffs.

One change has not been challenged, though. The new guideline to abandon LDL targets and to treat only based on cardiac risk with moderate or high-intensity doses of statins is evidencebased and well-documented.

The new guidelines and you So, what do the new guidelines mean for you?

Probably not much if you have a moderate to high risk for cardiovascular disease; you will likely fit well within these guidelines. For healthy individuals who have a slightly increased risk (7.5 percent or higher), your physician may recommend treatment, although the calculation has not yet been well validated.

That decision is best made by you and your doctor.

William E. Kyle, D.O., is an internal medicine physician who is in practice at Memorial Health University Physicians – Legacy Center, 14 Okatie Center Blvd. S., Suite 101, in Okatie. He can be reached at (843) 836-3800.

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When I was a child, I remember continuously being serenaded by cereal, toy and pro-athlete commercials. As an adult, I am repeatedly repelled by prescription drug ads with lengthy disclaimers and actors or models pushing bottled up promises. We are constantly bombarded with what I call “toxic Band-Aids.” According to the 2010 documentary Pill Poppers, “Over a person’s lifetime they are likely to be prescribed more than 14,000 pills.” Don’t you think that’s jawdropping data?

Thankfully, The Herb Room, located at 14 New Orleans Road, offers a simple, easy to swallow remedy. “If you are looking to be more natural and make small changes, like what to do for a sinus infection, The Herb Room offers healing products and herbal consulting,” said owner April Lewis.

“Products like over-the-counter sinus pills mask the pain and issues but do not prepare your body for the next infection. By using herbs and teas instead, simple, small steps can be taken to help build your immune system and let your body utilize the natural healing abilities we all possess.”

Lewis’ The Herb Room line includes 33 all-organic, all-natural products including: • Boo Boo Balm. One of the more popular balms because of its

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versatility, the gentle healing herbs ease pain and give instant relief— great on scratches, burns, rashes, bug bites and itchy skin.

Spotty Body Balm. This super healing balm reduces the chance of infection and is a great addition to any camper’s bag. Antibacterial and antifungal, this balm also works great on pretty much any skin condition including eczema, psoriasis, ringworm, athlete’s foot and more.

Open the Floodgates. Got a little congestion block? Just put a little dab under your nose or above and below the eyes and feel the floodgates open. Got a little extra congestion? Try rubbing it on your chest, upper back or soles of the feet and breathe in the invigorating scent. This powerful decongestant is great for allergies, sinus infections and colds.

Stork Balm. Show your love by using this fantastic balm that no mother should be without. Rub the balm on any of the affected areas and let the soothing herbs do the work. Safe to use on babies, this balm also works on diaper rash, chapped skin, sore nipples and stretch marks.

Pet Pal. This super healing balm reduces infection and is antifungal and antibacterial. Great for hot spots or itchy skin.

Lights Out. Deep sleep allows the body to re-energize and the mind to rejuvenate. Drift away to a restful

slumber with this balm as it calms your mind.

Chilled to the Bone. This painrelieving balm helps with arthritis inflammation, headaches and joint stiffness.

Heat Wave. Sore muscles and joints are a pain that can lead to inactivity and immobility. Stop the cycle by rubbing this orange balm onto the affected areas and enjoy the long-lasting relief you’ve been waiting for.

The Herb Room also offers tinctures for migraines, PMS, adrenal and postpartum relief, restlessness and anxiety for adults, restlessness and fussiness for children and babies, pain relief, teething and immune boosting, as well as a pregnancy iron boost, an anti-inflammatory, and a multivitamin. Roll-ons include Skeeter Beater bug repellent and the Yogini Blend for relaxation.

To fight the common cold, The Herb Room mixes up elderberry syrup and throat sprays.

The Herb Room also sells toiletries, including hand soap, toothpaste and deodorant. Plus, you can sip on specialty teas like the 11 Spices Spicy Decaf Chai Tea. Even with all these good for you goodies, what Lewis is really offering is a chance to live more holistically—a movement that is near and dear to her heart.

“The Herb Room was created in 2008 when I was trying to find products that were of good enough quality to use on my two children,” Lewis said. “I was finding that most of the natural products did not hold up to their promises. A simple balm [Stork Balm] has turned my love of herbs into a growing passion to help you put fewer harsh chemicals in and on your body.”

According to Lewis, we take in almost 17 percent of our oxygen through our skin, which is also our largest organ. “Why slather this precious and vital part of our body with hundreds of chemicals a day? Let me help you live a more natural, healthy life,” she said. “Plus, if I can replace one synthetic medication with one natural herb and really address your issue, I feel like I’ve truly made a difference.” For more information on the Herb Room call (843) 422- 8860.

Becca Edwards is a holistic health coach, yoga and Barre instructor, birth doula, writer/blogger and owner of b.e.well and b.e.creative (www.bewellandcreative.com).

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t takes a village,” is the mantra of child advocates and educators; a community of support is needed to rear a successful, healthy child. More and more a village has become equally important to aging successfully, as well. Caring Neighbors, Inc. is repeating that mantra and creating that village in Bluffton.

Founder, president, and driving force behind Caring Neighbors, Betty Miller, took her inspiration for the Rose Hill Plantationbased non-profit from the Caring Neighbors founders in Massachusetts. “A group of seniors in Beacon Hill got together; they were aging and they knew they needed more services. They didn’t want to leave their homes. So they got together to figure out how they could help one another.”

A nurse with a degree in health ministry, Miller, along with an eight-member board, coordinates a carefully screened volunteer force of 75 on their mission: to assist our neighbors in our community as they age in their homes, and to provide the confidence and security of knowing that help is available to them. And with their purpose: to provide seniors with options to maintain their independence for as long as it is safe to do so, and provide family members with confidence that there is additional support for their loved ones while they are in their homes.

Offering non-medical services at no cost, the volunteers provide transportation, social visits, check-in calls, meals while recovering from surgery or illness, handyman services, dog walking, errands, technical support for computer, DVD, or TV, insurance counseling, and social events.

The group knows that one of the greatest barriers to staying independent throughout the aging process is acknowledging that aging is occurring and that assistance is needed. “This is simply neighbors helping neighbors,” Miller said. “We all need each other to grow old.”

“Betty is connecting all the dots,” said board member David Alven. Communities and families used to be more tightly knit, and this type of neighborly assistance was part of the fabric of those communities. With aging seniors often living far from family, and having fewer neighborly connections, Caring Neighbors is taking the place of that missing community in Bluffton and taking care of one another.

In the foreseeable future, Caring Neighbors anticipates growing to the point of needing to hire someone to coordinate the volunteer calendar and all that goes along with building a bustling village. Additionally, a concierge service is in the planning stages, where needs will be connected to service providers. The group is also hoping to attract new board members with business experience to help guide the program.

Of course, new volunteers are always welcome.

Caring Neighbors hosts events throughout the year to raise funds to meet their expenses. From bringing in speakers, to December’s Cookie Caper, February’s Valentine Gala, and a Volunteer Appreciation Brunch in April, they have a lot of fun along the way. These neighbors understand that it truly does take a village, and they are caring for one another, one visit, one car ride, one meal, one errand, at a time.

For more information, call (843) 368-2096, e-mail info@caring-neighbors.org, or visit caring-neighbors.org.

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ow celebrating its third season, The Bluffton Sunset Parties are back by popular demand. Held on Friday nights from 5-9 p.m. at the Bluffton Oyster Factory Park on the May River, each sundown celebration features a different theme, with a vast variety of activities, a food court, craft beer garden and live music.

The 2014 Bluffton Sunset Party Series kicks off its 2014 schedule on May 16 with Pizzapalooza—a pizza & pasta food festival. Local restaurants will serve up their signature pies and pastas while live music will resound from Hannah Wickland and The Neil & Bob Band.

Also slated for the Bluffton Sunset Party Series for this summer are Blues & Brews of the Bluff on June 13, May River Shrimp Festival on July 18, Dog Days of Summer on August 15, and Blufftemberfest on September 19.

You can party with your pooch at these family- and pet-friendly sunset parties which benefit the Palmetto Animal League, a no-kill animal rescue and adoption organization serving homeless animals in the Lowcountry.

Everyone is welcome. Come by boat, bike, or golf cart. Lawn chairs and leashed pets are permitted, but no outside food or drinks will be allowed.

“We love to host these events because they are so well received and attended by locals,” said Mark Weisner, event coordinator. “It is a lot of fun to see Bluffton families and friends come together to enjoy the parties on the beautiful May River and sunset as a backdrop. It’s all about raising some money for PAL and celebrating Bluffton and how lucky we are to live here.”

Pizzapalooza is presented by Kroger, Mosquito Nix and Sport Clips.

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Charbar Co.- Join us for half price happy hour from 4-7PM. Mike Wilson & Dave Wingo (6:30PM) The BoardroomR2DTour Feat. Joe Vicars (Every Monday)

Ela’s Blu Water GrilleSunday Brunch with Live Jazz (11:00am2:00pm)

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Ruby Lee’s Candace Woodson & The Domino Theory Band (Tuesday’s) The BoardroomHannah Wicklund (Every Tuesday)

Send your event/entertainment listing to c.davies@celebratehiltonhead.com

Frosty Frog- Hoppy Hour (5-7PM) May 28: Jon Bruner (5:30-9:30PM) The BoardroomMay 7: Cranford Hollow May 21: South Beach Orchestra May 28: Pointe Comfort Tiki Hut- Steppin’ Stones & Joe Vicars

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The Boardroom- May 1, 15 & 29: B-Town Project May 8: Rowdy Cloud May 22: Haley & Alexis Band Charbar Co.Mike Bagenstose (7:00PM)

Frosty Frog- Jon Bruner (Every Friday 5:309:30PM) Tiki Hut- May 2: Six Stylze 23: Hailey & Alexis 30: Jo Vicars & Jevon

Tiki Hut- Harry Santana (Every Thursday 6-10PM) Aunt Chiladas- Groove Town Assault (Thursdays 9-12AM)

Charbar Co.- Nick Poulin, Derrick & Sammy (8:00PM) The BoardroomMay 10: Groove Town Assault May 17: La Bodega May 24: Haley & Alexis Band May 31: OCD

Frosty FrogHoppy Hour (5-7PM) May 29: Luke Mitchell (5:30-9:30PM) Lucky RoosterHappy Hour Specials: $1 off all draft beers $2 draft PBR $5 Interesting white and red wine

The Frosty Frog- Luke Mitchell (Every Saturday 5:30-9:30PM)

Up The Creek:

May 2: Horan Brothers May 9: Zack Stilner May 16: Craig Coyne May 23: Groove Town Assault May 30: 4 Piece & a Biscuit

Up the Creek: May 3: Lee Tyler Post May 10: Harry Santana May 17: Low Country Boil May 24: Chilly Willies May 31: Craig Coyne Harbourside Burgers & BrewsSaturdays: Sara Burns (6-10PM) Ruby Lee’s-Earl Williams & Alexander Netwon

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ere are a few Town of Hilton Head Island projects that may interest you:

William Hilton Parkway/Leamington/Fresh Market Shoppes intersection improvement project The intersection improvement project was undertaken in an effort to improve traffic safety in the corridor for approximately 40,000 motorists travelling on William Hilton Parkway (WHP) daily, enhance emergency response to adjacent properties, and improve pedestrian safety and connectivity of the town’s pathway network.

Residents of the Leamington Community and patrons of the Fresh Market Shoppes and Hargray Campus will benefit directly by being able to make left turns more safely to and from WHP at a signalized intersection. Several accidents in the area have occurred over the years, many generating from the left turn movement from the Fresh Market Shoppes onto WHP. The project included constructing a new signalized intersection at WHP and Leamington, and a new roadway segment on town property. The new road is a connector to a road between the Fresh Market Shoppes and Hargray Campus. The adjacent median openings on WHP at Fresh Market and Hargray were removed, and a new signalized crosswalk for bicyclists and pedestrians was created at the intersection.

Recent road pavings on Hilton Head Island Six major roads on Hilton Head Island have been resurfaced (Mathews Drive, Beach City Road, Folly Field Road, Squire Pope Road, Deallyon Avenue, and a portion of Gum Tree Road). The roads are owned and maintained by the South Carolina Department of Transportation (SCDOT) and most had a two-foot paved shoulder added as a safety enhancement. The work was funded by the Town of Hilton Head Island, Beaufort County, and the State of South Carolina, thanks to a successful grant application to the SCDOT for a Federal Resurfacing Match Program. This is a 50 percent matching grant, and the town contributed $312,653.64 of hospitality tax funds to pave four of the roads. Beaufort County funded the matching grant for the other roads.

Port Royal Sound shoreline renourishment project About 2,500 feet the Port Royal Sound shoreline, adjacent to Port Royal Plantation, will be renourished. Erosion has been claiming about 20 feet of beach per year, and the threat to the developed upland property is a concern. The placement of approximately 25,000 cubic yards of sand now will address these concerns until the 2016 large scale beach renourishment project. Sand will be trucked to the project site from approved upland sand mines located near Hardeeville, S.C. and Ridgeville, S.C. The construction cost of the project is $895,000, and work is to be completed before June 30, 2014. ď‚?

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Town Of Bluffton’s Strategic Planning Forms Yearly Playbook

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t took two and half days, gallons of coffee, catered lunches and lots of sugary snacks to put all the Town of Bluffton’s senior staff, chairmen of the boards and commissions and Town Council around one table to wrestle and prioritize the issues for the next fiscal year.

Strategic planning is an arduous task; however, it has been accomplished five years in a row, and the finished project forms the playbook for the next year. At the end, each department, board and commission knows its priorities and goals for the following year and how each department will contribute to the collective accomplishments of the Town of Bluffton.

Strategic planning is like a football game. It’s Team Bluffton versus the overflowing inbox of projects, a limited amount of time and a finite pot of money. We have a referee, Lyle Sumek, a seasoned facilitator of municipal planning, who keeps our “eye on the ball,” and demands timelines for each completed pass.

Each project and program is divided into five main goals: 1) develop a regional economic center with a diverse economy; 2) celebrate the May River; 3) cultivate a livable, sustainable Bluffton community; 4) maintain excellent government services and responsible finances; and 5) upgrade the town’s infrastructure and facilities. Everything we do must further one of these goals.

The many projects we will be working on for FY 2014-2015 include: attracting new businesses to Bluffton via the Don Ryan Center for Innovation and the Bluffton Public Development Corporation; implementing Bluffton’s new brand; developing a website devoted to economic development; developing a plan to stabilize the Garvin House; completing the next phase of Streetscape and the town s sewer project; implementing additional public safety measures such as cameras; promoting other sources of revenues such as the Local Options Sales Tax (LOST) referendum; forming a Citizen’s Academy; completing the Calhoun Street study; continuing projects to protect the May River; and many, many more.

Meanwhile, Sumek reminds us that, as a town, we don’t do a great job of celebrating our successes. I want to let you know that FY 2013-2014 produced 17 cost-saving actions, including implementation of online permitting and streamlining town services.

The town also added 20 services, including the Bluffton Police Department’s mentoring program. While town staff keeps adding services, none were taken away. Our town staff is doing more with less and is always mindful to provide added-value.

As a council, we all share a great love for this town, and we are proud to serve you, our residents, business owners and visitors.

Thank you for being our partners through another productive year of effective services, projects and programs. If you would like a copy of the town’s completed strategic plan for FY 2014-2015, please call our public information department at (843) 706-4500. 

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One subject. Two opinions.

What is the concept of “healthy”?

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ometimes these things just write themselves…

To set the stage, Courtney and I had decided, through our usual exchange of expletive-riddled e-mails, that this month’s installment would showcase our respective views on what “healthy” is. This makes sense for two reasons. First, this is the medical issue (meaning the fact that

you’re getting this issue free makes cable news people very angry).

Second, Courtney and I could not be further apart on what the concept of “healthy” is. She is a member of the cult of CrossFit, which is like going to the gym, only your cool-down involves immediately jumping on

Facebook to annoy your friends about how you just did CrossFit. She eats from the paleo diet, which means you deep-fry and beerbatter foods that cavemen used to eat. (You may know this concept from its previous name: “eating food.”) She runs marathons, which is super smart seeing as the first guy who ever ran a marathon died from it.

I, on the other hand, have gained no small notoriety in certain circles for the development of the quesandwich, i.e. the sandwich which uses an entire cheese quesadilla as bread.

My one concession to the concept of fitness is my ownership of the game Wii Fit, purchased because the mini-game where you flap your arms like a bird is really fun to play while drinking.

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hen Barry and I got together to discuss this potential monthly duet, we met for lunch. I ordered a salad. He ordered the Swine Crime burger/ pulled pork duo—a “sandwich” so massive, that if you put it down, the tower of meat will lean and fall. We joked then that while we are both equals on the sarcastic meter, we are clearly opposites in other areas.

Then, I went to the doctor last week and the scale had me weighing 10 pounds more than the scale at home. Why am I eating salad if this is going to happen? Logically though, there was no way I gained 10

pounds on the fiveminute drive there, so simply, the doctor’s scale is broken. And frankly, who cares what the scale says?

Your health can’t be measured by a Then, I went to the doctor last week and the scale had me weighing 10 pounds more than the scale at home.

Why am I eating salad if this is going to happen?

Logically though, there was no way I gained 10 pounds on the five-minute drive there, so simply, the doctor’s scale is broken.

Barry Kaufman

I am, and my photo will no doubt bear me out on this, not a healthy man. But I know what BS is.

The fact is, none of us know what healthy is. Anyone who says otherwise is a pop-up window you shouldn’t click on. You can’t eat eggs, right, because of the cholesterol?

Wrong. They’re packed with Omega-3s: special oils found in fish and known to provide spleen health or something.

You can’t eat saturated fats, right? Wrong. According to an article I started to read until I realized how many big words it contained, they’re not that bad for you. Just because I didn’t finish the article should not detract from its main point: it turns out the impact of saturated fats has been exaggerated when it comes to heart health.

And that’s one of the big ones. We all agreed long ago that saturated fats were bad for us. It’s not like it’s one of these flavor-of-the-month health risks we have now.

Trans fats? Carbs? Free Radicals? GMOs? Gluten?

Nobody knows if any of this stuff is good or bad for you. Hell, gluten isn’t even a factor for most people. I had a friend who had a gluten allergy. She had to avoid gluten. The rest of you are just paying too much for bread.

Which brings me to why these things write themselves.

Shortly after we decided on a topic, Courtney shared an article on Facebook from renowned major serious news source worldtruth.tv about the eight beers you should stop drinking right now because they’re full of GMOs. The list contained such shocking entries as Pabst Blue Ribbon, a beer that I would have sworn was full of vitamins and calcium until I saw it on this list.

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I say to myself, “There’s someone who cares about their health.” Not so, according to this list, because PBR contains GMOs. GMOs, as we all know, are unhealthy because… um.

They have, like chemicals, or something? I don’t know; it’s basically like eating little bits of Frankenstein.

I didn’t know that much about GMOS, but fortunately in the “related links” that appeared below Courtney’s Facebook post was a story from barely accredited fringe blog Forbes showing “2000+ Reasons Why GMOs are Safe to Eat and Environmentally Sustainable.”

It was co-written by a member of the Genetic Literacy Project and documents a team of scientists who summarized 1,783 studies on the effects of GMOs and found that—get this—they don’t do anything.

They are not harmful. They don’t hurt the environment. You can stop caring.

It turns out if you perform actual science instead of scaring people into buying more expensive food, you’ll find that GMOs have no impact on health.

These are actual scientists using a lot more research tools than one assumes worldtruth. tv has at its disposal, and their actual science is relegated to the “related links” of our cultural attention span.

Look, I’m not saying to be unhealthy. Ride a bike, eat a carrot, I don’t care. But stop chasing down every miracle pill, stop planning your life around avoiding chemical boogeymen.

You want a healthy body?

Do what Courtney does. Eat right. Work out. Drink more water. Try and keep it off Facebook.

You want a healthy life?

Wrap a quesadilla around a half pound of pulled pork, crack open a beer and play a few games of Wii Fit.  May 2014

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number alone. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.

“Healthy” is subjective, and it should be. It is about how you feel. Now, I measure my health with a dab of Mom’s advice. “There is

I wouldn’t recommend it, but divorce does a heck of a lot toward the effort to shrink your waistline. nothing more important than your mental health,” she always says. The older I get, the more I agree. Mental health requires balance in all aspects of your life. If you feel like crap physically because all you do is sit on the couch eating Hot Pockets and playing video games, your mental health is likely suffering too. And, vice versa.

Everyone’s definition of healthy should be different because, well, we’re all different. You could tell me that I should lose 20 pounds, and I would tell you… I have, and then I gained it all back in muscle. If you feel good about yourself, you should determine your healthy-meter.

(Yup, new term, coined by me, and I’ll be trademarking it henceforth.)

I feel healthy today. But, I didn’t always. Rewind six years and I was scowling at myself in the mirror and saying, “Self, you’re going to be 35 this year; get off your ass and get in shape.” And, I did—get off my ass. Slowly.

I started walking two to three miles every day with my dog. And I started to see results. About six months later, I added in some light weights and sit ups. Less than may 2014

a year later, my husband left me, and that fueled a new fire. I started incorporating some short runs into my long walks. I wouldn’t recommend it, but divorce does a heck of a lot toward the effort to shrink your waistline.

A year later, I started attending a boot camp.

I willed myself to make it through the first hour workout, and somehow I did. I continued to progress and was pretty proud of myself as I was typically leading the pack. But I knew that meant I really wasn’t being challenged, so I allowed myself to be talked into trying CrossFit. That was almost two years ago, and I am still waking up at 4:50 a.m. to drag myself there.

Do I feel healthy today? Absolutely. I am in better shape now than I was in my 20s.

Part of maintaining my good health (mental and physical) is being challenged every stinking day. And I am. This morning, when I thought I had been so good, I was knocked down a peg when my trainer asked how many margaritas I had this weekend (damn Facebook!). Ten, I guessed, while taking off on my next sprint, to which he snorted.

Okay, four, I corrected, as the guilt set in.

We all know we’re supposed to eat healthy, and exercise daily, avoid stress. Yada. Yada Do we always do it? No. But, once we start living our definition of a healthy lifestyle and feeling better—emotionally, physically, even spiritually— the results are profound.  www.celebratehiltonhead.com 109

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9 TO 5: THE MUSICAL Arts Center of Coastal Carolina Single Tickets will be on sale beginning March 10. Preview tickets April 30 and May 1 are $44 for adults and $31 for children 4-15; regular tickets are $54 for adults and $37 for children. artshhi.com

HILTON HEAD HUMANE ASSOCIATION’S 17TH ANNUAL DOG WALK Coligny Beach 8:30AM www.hhhumane. org

4 YACHT HOP Harbourtown Yacht Basin 5:30PM $110 hospicecarelc. org.

HHCA Come and See We’ll wave the application fee!

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CHAMBER BIKE & DINE WEEK

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HH CHORAL SOCIETY’S AMERICA SINGS! 7-8PM First Presbyterian Church $15 general admission (843) 341-3818

26 CAPPY THE CLOWN Shelter Cove Harbour 6PM & 9PM palmettodunes. com.

SHANNON TANNER Shelter Cove Harbour 6:30PM palmettodunes. com.

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A PLACE TO GO & GROW Come & grow at your own pace!

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3 5 NASH GALLERY ART FESTIVAL Nash Gallery 10AM-4PM nashgallery.com

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36TH ANNUAL BLUFFTON VILLAGE FESTIVAL Old Town Bluffton 10AM-5PM blufftonmayfest. moonfruit.com/

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Thursday Nights 6:00 – 9:00 pm.

May 1 - Candace Woodson & the Domino Theory Band May 8 - Cranford Hollow May 15 - The Headliners May 22 - Target Band

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LOWCOUNTRY PLANTATION EXPLORATION 10-11AM Sea Pines Resort $10/adult, $7/child 843.842.1979

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SPRING “MUSIC & TASTE ON THE HARBOUR”

Both visitors and residents are encouraged to bike to their favorite dining spot during Chamber Bike & Dine Week. http://www.hiltonheadisland.org/ bikeanddine/

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EVERY THURSDAY FARMERS MARKET IN OLD TOWN BLUFFTON Every Thursday 2:00-7:00PM Calhoun Street

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17 SALTY DOG SPRING BIRTHDAY BASH & LOWCOUNTRY BOIL 4-8PM Salty Dog Cafe saltydog.com

24-25 6TH ANNUAL HHI ART FESTIVAL 10AM-5PM Steel drum music & more! www.artfestival. com

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Being Better a better daughter or son Forever grateful to Mom & Dad

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want to be better at being my parents’ daughter. For 20 years I have been gifted with being a mother; not so coincidentally, the same number of years my husband has been so honored to be our daughter’s father. It all sounds so noble … the queen and her king and their darling offspring. However, as it is for many parents, early on in the kingdom there were no noble knights, only long and dark nights filled with warming bottles while her majesty screamed, and diaper changes made by both of the not-so-royal parents. Fortunately, those exhausting memories faded to wherever it is that less-than-elegant memories go, and only the good stuff stayed on the surface to be recalled with fondness and a great deal of gratitude. As our parental passports are stamped each year, and as another Mother’s Day and Father’s Day will come and go, my time as a parent has taught me that simple gratitude is the true path to being a better daughter, or son.

Of course, my husband and I have loved the craft-paper cards, imaginative breakfasts, and heroic efforts on our daughter’s part to make Mother’s Day and Father’s Day special. However, it is when our daughter thanks us for something that we have done, or tells us that our words have made a difference, that we imagine we may have done something right. Whether for Mother’s Day or Father’s Day, the requisite gifts are nice, and when the children make a meal or wash the dishes, everyone is grateful; however, my own parenting has inspired me, starting now, to work on being a better daughter by expressing the gratitude I feel for my own parents. may 2014

I will begin by reaching into the shadows to draw out some childhood memories that make me laugh, or smile, or feel all warm inside. Some of us may lack grace, or skill, or even experience at expressing gratitude; however, Mother’s Day and Father’s Day are perfectly suited for this being better adventure … your parents will be ever so grateful.

I will go first …

Mom, I am grateful for the music. Growing up, there was always music in our home. Everything from Broadway show tunes, to Herb Albert and the Tijuana Brass, to lullabies sung on long late night car trips while we peered out of the car windows looking up at the stars: “I see the moon and the moon sees me; down through the limbs of the old oak tree.” I just have to hear that tune in my head, and I am transported to that station wagon, and the feeling of safety, and family, and love.

Thank you Mom, for making every holiday special: for decorating our home’s front door with paper pumpkins in October, red hearts in February, and green shamrocks in March, and for making cut-out cookies decorated to match. Thank you for making birthday cupcakes and party favors for my class at school. Thank you for teaching me that my manners should be impeccable enough to dine at a White House state dinner, even when elbow-to-elbow at the cottage table where ketchup bottles and paper plates reign.

Dad, I am grateful for the sports. You taught me how to throw a football in a tight spiral, how to release a basketball into www.celebratehiltonhead.com 113

a perfectly arched shot, how to sail Lake Charlevoix, and to love the game of golf. Thank you for teaching school all day, and then taking on your second job of coaching football, basketball, and golf. Of course, I thought you were pretty cool because you were the coach, but what you really taught me was that sometimes you just have to work a little harder and later than is reasonable to make ends meet, or to make life better for the ones you love.

Thank you for leading us in our annual Christmas popcorn ball-making day. I remember you being brave as you stirred the ridiculously sticky and hot candy syrup Mom poured over the enormous kettle of popped corn, again and again. How you plunged your hands in icy water and then into the burning hot red and green treat to form as many popcorn balls as was possible before having to dive back into the ice bath, and cheering the rest of us on to move fast and to be careful. I am grateful to both you and Mom for this family tradition, and for how you taught us to share and how to love our friends and neighbors as we delivered our highly-anticipated treats.

I am grateful to you both for making your grandchildren a priority. From holidays to soccer games, golf tournaments to sleepovers, you carry on a family tradition of loving your grandchildren without limits and accepting them just as they are. This legacy will live with them forever.

If you are reading this, you are someone’s child, and if you are fortunate enough to still have your parents in your life, you have the opportunity to be a little better. Find your own moments of gratitude, or memories you cherish and express them. Whether it’s a thank you card with one simple thought or a letter filled with memories, a scrapbook or a home movie, memories and gratitude are surely one of life’s greatest gifts.

They may not be dignified or elegant, or come without blushing cheeks or tears, but be assured, each will be cherished.

Happy Mother’s Day Mom, Happy Father’s Day Dad… I am forever grateful.

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