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Just Jokes Ghetto Test If the statement is true add the points in parenthesis to your score.

Scoring is given at the bottom of the test.

1. You've ever used an album cover or old envelope for a dustpan. (5 points) 2. You've ever put foil on your TV antennas to get better reception. (8 points) 3. You've ever had to use pliers to turn your TV on. (7points) 4. You had to come in the house when the street lights came on. (6 points) 5. You had a candy lady in your neighborhood. (5 + 5 extra points if your house was the candy lady) 6. If you can count more than five police cars in your neighborhood on a daily basis. (3 points) 7. If you ever had to pick your own switch or belt. (3 points for each) 8. If you've ever been beaten with an extension cord. (15 points) 9. If you have ever had to walk to or home from school. (2 points) 10. If you've ever passed someone a note asking "Do you like me?" or "Can I have a chance?" check _yes, _no or _maybe. (7 points) 11. If you have ever used dish washing liquid for bubble bath. (9points) 12. If you have ever mixed up some Kool-Aid and the found that you didn't have any sugar. (4 points & add 4 if you put the pitcher in the refrigerator until you got some sugar) 13. If you have ever played any of the following games. (2 points each): (hide and go seek, freeze tag, captain or momma may I?, or red light..yellow light..green light 123!)

14. If your neighborhood had an ice cream man. (2 points + 2 if he rang a bell + 5 if he played R&B) 15. If you remember any of the following candies. (1 point each): cherry clans, lemon heads, Alexander the grape, ring pops, Chico sticks, baked beans, candy cigarettes, powder packs with the white dip stick, big league chew, "Wine" Candy (jolly ranchers), jaw breakers, and candy necklaces.

16. If you refer to Now and Laters candies as "Nighladers". (6 points) 17. If you've ever ran from the police on foot. (5 points + 5 if you got away) 18. If you remember underoos or the Wonder Woman bra and panty set. (6 points + 4 if you owned some) 19. If you've ever had reusable grease in a container on your stove. (5 points) 20. The batteries in your remote control are held in by a piece of tape. (5 points) 21. If you've ever used any of the following for drinking glasses. (3 points each): jelly jars, mayonnaise jars, mason jars, or peanut butter jars.

22. You've ever covered your furniture in plastic. (2 points) 23. The heels of your feet have ever looked like you had been kicking flour. (1point) 24. If you have ever worn any of the following fragrances. (1 point each): Brute, Hai Karate, Jean Nate, Old Spice, Chloe, English Leather, Stetson, Charlie, or Faberge'.

25. You've ever used Tussy. (9 points) 26. You've never been to the dentist. (10 points + 10 if you've never been to the doctor.)

27. You've ever wore clothes with the tag still on them. (4 points) 28. If you're acquainted with someone with a name as follows. (3 points): Kay-Kay, Lee-Lee, Ree-Ree, Ray-Ray, etc.

29. You have ever paged yourself for any reason. (3 points) 30. You've ever worn house shoes outside of the house. (2 points) 31. You add "ED" or "T" to the end of words already in the past tense (for example, Tooked, Light-Skinneded, kilt, ruint, etc). (3 points) 32. You pronounce words like this (1 point for each example you can think of skrimps or strimps, skreet, axe (ask), member (remember), frigerator, etc.

33. You use nem' to describe a certain group of people (for example Craig and nem' or momma and nem'). (6 points) 34. You've ever had a crack across your windshield and never bothered to get it fixed. (3 points) 35. You've ever driven on a donut more than 2 weeks after your flat. (4 points) 36. You've ever asked a perfect stranger to take a picture with you and told your friends it was someone you dated. (3 points) 37. Your child drops his/her pacifier and you sanitize it by sucking it. (7 points) 38. If you've ever ran a race barefoot in the middle of the street at approximately 11 at night. (10 points) 39. You've ever left a social gathering with a plate. (1 point) 40. You leave a restaurant with silverware, sugar, and/or jelly. (8 points) 41. You think "red" is a flavor of Kool-Aid. (4 points) 42. You can't hold a glass because of the length of your nails. (3 points) 43. The gold teeth in your mouth spell words. (8 points) 44. You don't have your own place but your child has a leather coat and a pair of Jordan's. (5 points) 45. If you've ever had to get to the driver's side of the car through the passenger side door. (8 points) 46. You have ever slept in a chair to avoid messing up your hair. (7 points) 47. You constantly hit *69 and ask, "Did you just call here?" (10 points) 48. You won't answer the phone if you don't recognize the number on the caller id box. (7 points) 49. You know a child who can't speak, but can do the "bank-head bounce." (15 points) 50. You think Tupac is still alive. (20 points) Scoring 0 - 30 - You have enjoyed a nice sheltered life in the suburbs.

31 - 60 - Hood movies have given you a little exposure.

61 - 100 - You may have visited the hood a few times or on weekends.

101 - 130 - You probably spent a few years in the hood, and moved to the suburbs.

131 - 160 - You're the genuine article. You are no stranger to hood life.

161 - 200 - You are definitely, without a doubt an expert on life in the hood.

201+ - Congratulations! You are Ghetto Fabulous Afro/Latino 4

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BREST CANCER What Is Breast Cancer?

Symptoms & Diagnosis

Breast cancer is an uncontrolled growth of breast cells.

To better understand breast cancer, it helps to understand how any cancer can develop.

Cancer occurs as a result of mutations, or abnormal changes, in the genes responsible for regulating the growth of cells and keeping them healthy. The genes are in each cell’s nucleus, which acts as the “control room” of each cell. Normally, the cells in our bodies replace themselves through an orderly process of cell growth: healthy new cells take over as old ones die out. But over time, mutations can “turn on” certain genes and “turn off” others in a cell. That changed cell gains the ability to keep dividing without control or order, producing more cells just like it and forming a tumor.

Breast cancer symptoms vary widely — from lumps to swelling to skin changes — and many breast cancers have no obvious symptoms at all.

Symptoms that are similar to those of breast cancer may be the result of noncancerous conditions like infection or a cyst. BREAST SELF EXAM should be part of your monthly health care routine, and you should visit your doctor if you experience breast changes. If you're over 40 or at a high risk for the disease, you should also have an annual mammaogram and physical exam by a doctor. The earlier breast cancer is found and diagnosed, the better your chances of beating it.

A tumor can be benign (not dangerous to health) or malignant (has the potential to be dangerous). Benign tumors are not considered cancerous: their cells are close to normal in appearance, they grow slowly, and they do not invade nearby tissues or spread to other parts of the body. Malignant tumors are cancerous. Left unchecked, malignant cells eventually can spread beyond the original tumor to other parts of the body.

The actual process of diagnosis can take weeks and involve many different kinds of tests. Waiting for results can feel like a lifetime. The uncertainty stinks. But once you understand your own unique “big picture,” you can make better decisions. You and your doctors can formulate a treatment plan tailored just for you.

The term “breast cancer” refers to a malignant tumor that has developed from cells in the breast.

Usually breast cancer either begins in the cells of the lobules, which are the milk-producing glands, or the ducts, the passages that drain milk from the lobules to the nipple. Less commonly, breast cancer can begin in the stromal tissues, which include the fatty and fibrous connective tissues of the breast.

Over time, cancer cells can invade nearby healthy breast tissue and make their way into the underarm lymph nodes, small organs that filter out foreign substances in the body. If cancer cells get into the lymph nodes, they then have a pathway into other parts of the body. The breast cancer’s stage refers to how far the cancer cells have spread beyond the original tumor (see Stages of Breast Cancer table more information).

In the following pages of the Symptoms and Diagnosis section, you can learn about:UNDERSTANDING BREAST CANCER How breast cancer happens, how it progresses, the stages, and a look at risk factors screening and testing The tests used for screening, diagnosis, and monitoring, including mammograms, ultrasound, MRI, CAT scans, PET scans, and more.TYPES OF BREAST CANCER The different types of breast cancer, including ductal carcinoma in situ (DCIS), invasive ductal carcinoma (IDC), invasive lobular carcinoma (ILC), inflammatory breast cancer, male breast cancer, recurrent breast cancer, metastatic breast cancer, and more. Your DIAGNOSIS The characteristics of the cancer that might affect your treatment plan, including size, stage, lymph node status, hormone receptor status, and more.

YOUR PATHOLOGY REPORT A detailed, step-by-step explanation of what your pathology report says and how this might affect your treatment options.

Breast cancer is always caused by a genetic abnormality (a “mistake” in the genetic material). However, only 5-10% of cancers are due to an abnormality inherited from your mother or father. About 90% of breast cancers are due to genetic abnormalities that happen as a result of the aging process and the “wear and tear” of life in general.

While there are steps every person can take to help the body stay as healthy as possible (such as eating a balanced diet, not smoking, limiting alcohol, and exercising regularly), breast cancer is never anyone's fault. Feeling guilty, or telling yourself that breast cancer happened because of something you or anyone else did, is not productive.

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Treatment

In recent years, there's been an explosion of life-saving treatment advances against breast cancer, bringing new hope and excitement.

Instead of only one or two options, today there's an overwhelming menu of treatment choices that fight the complex mix of cells in each individual cancer. The decisions — surgery, then perhaps radiation, hormonal (anti-estrogen) therapy, and/or chemotherapy — can feel overwhelming.

Breastcancer.org can help you understand your CANCER STAGE and appropriate options, so you and your doctors can arrive at the best treatment plan for YOU. In the following pages of the Treatment and Side Effects section, you can learn about: PLANNING YOUR TREATMENT What types of treatment are available and which might be appropriate for you.

SURGER reast-conserving surgery (lumpectomy), mastectomy, and lymph node dissection, and what to expect from each. y CHEMOIHER APWho should get it, how it works, different types, side effects, and how to manage them.

RADIATION THERAPY What it is, who it's for, advantages, side effects, and what to expect when you get it.

HORMONAL THERAPY The link between hormones and breast cancer and how different groups of drugs — including ERDs, SERMs, and aromatase inhibitors — can affect that link.

TARGETED THERAPIES Including Herceptin: How they work, who should get them, how they're given, side effects, and major studies.

COMPLEMENTARY & HOLISTIC MEDICINE How complementary medicine techniques such as acupuncture, meditation, and yoga could be a helpful addition to your regular medical treatment. Includes research on complementary techniques and ways to find qualified practitioners. DRUG FOR TREATMENT AND RISK REDUCTIONA reference list of drugs used to treat and reduce the risk of breast cancer, including how they work, to whom they are typically given, and side effects.

TREATMENT SIDE EFFECTSA reference list of side effects and their explanations. clinical trials What clinical trials are and how to find trials if you would like to participate.

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Luv Coach Q&A: Chasing Commitment

by Rebecca Brody

I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year, and we have discussed marriage and kids. Ever since we got serious he has become very insecure and constantly questions my love for him. We get into really crazy fights about it, and I am getting exhausted having to prove to him that he means more to me than everyone else. I really do love him, but I don't know if I can deal with this much longer. What should I do?

Nan Your boyfriend has become so needy that he is draining your relationship. His neediness stems from a lack of security, issues with trust, and a fear of losing you. When these three are combined the neediness becomes a bottomless black hole that sucks the life out of everything around it.

There are deep rooted issues tied to neediness and your boyfriend will need to address them with a therapist before he can heal. Suggest to him that you both go see a couples therapist, who can I sometimes feel I have a fear of commitment, but I'm not sure why. Each relationship I embark upon seems to end in the same way and it's quite frustrating. I've changed the places in which I meet guys, and I've changed the kind of guys I've dated. So, I'm not sure why they end with such disappointment.

Shar It sounds like you may be sending mixed messages. If you believe that you have a fear of commitment then you are sending the message that you want nothing to do with, and are not looking for, a committed relationship. That message attracts people who don't want a commitment. Once you get involved with them and decide you want something more, the relationship ends because you chose someone who wasn't looking for a long-term commitment. You need to figure out why you fear commitment and what happened to you in the past that has led you to this place. You should work with a relationship coach to help explore your fear.

They can teach you how to shift your perception so that you embrace commitment and attract people who are also looking for a commitment in love.

Luv Coach Q&A: Walk Away I've been dating this man for almost a year and we have a big age gap, I'm 22 and he is 35. He just told me he is seeing someone else as well as me and I just want to know if I should move on or not because I really fell in love with him!

Nettie It's extremely painful when your partner callously disrespects your love and dishonors the relationship. It is essential at the start of a relationship to state your requirements (e.g. fidelity) so that both partners know the boundaries and the ramifications of breaking those requirements. He has chosen not to value you or your relationship, so if you choose to stay with him, then you are telling the world that you don't value yourself. It's time to walk away from this man, and I know it's not easy. I know that you love him very much, but if you allow others to mistreat you, you will lose sight of who you are and end up in an unhealthy situation. Drop this guy so you can make room in your life for other relationships and eventually your one great love. Don't settle for someone who doesn't think you're worth being his one and only.

I have been married for ten years and we have one son together and he has a set of twins from a previous relationship. In the past I confronted him about sleeping with a childhood associate, and recently -- four months ago -- I found out about a three year affair with a younger lady. I have spoken with the lady and it was not pleasant. I am still in the marriage, and he claims he didn't marry me to get a divorce, but I feel he is still having an affair with the younger woman. I am so hurt, confused, disgusted, and I can't get it off my mind. HELP!!! Vikki Your husband claims that he didn't marry you to get a divorce, and yet he is doing everything to lead to that inevitable demise. It's not enough to say your marriage vows, you have to live and honor them. You have been too easy on him and let him get away with treating you poorly. After the first transgression, you both should have sought couples counseling to address the issues in your marriage. Since there were no consequences the first time, your husband feels that he can do it again and get away with it. Trust your intuition if it's telling you that he is still cheating, and ask yourself what kind of marriage you want to be in and what type of example you are setting for your son. Your husband isn't going to change if there aren't any repercussions for his behavior. You won't be able to get it off your mind until you have done something to change the course of your marriage. Once again, you will have to confront him, and this time you will have to take action.

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Take My Advice: Women Give Women Bad Advice The theory of

1. Misery Loves Company The bitter girlfriend scenario is classic. She's jaded from her own failed or failing relationship. supply and demand Rather than converse, she wants to commiserate. She suffers from emotional Tourette's is arguably the most syndrome – uncontrollably blurting out red-flag statements like "girl, please, f*ck him and his fundamental tenet momma." She has no genuine interest in your happiness at this point. Chances are she of the free market. probably could have made some different decisions with her own love life, but she didn't.

Understand how it Now she's lonely and livid, high off her own supply (of bad advice) and she's doing her best works and you un- to bait you into her relationship crack den. Walk away. derstand threequarters of Amer2. Standards and Practices ica's woes, like the I'm a big fan of this expression: Standards and Practices (S&P) originates in the broadcast proliferation of industry as a term that applies to the moral and ethical implications of programs that netreality television, works air. In relationships, it takes on a similar meaning. Each couple creates their own pathe unnecessary gluttonous absurdity of Taco Bell and rameters and boundaries in terms of behavior and lifestyle choices they embrace or will KFC one-stops, and the exponential growth of ringtone tolerate. The problem is your girlfriend may be operating from an entirely different S&P purchases by grown-ass adults who should know better. handbook. For example, you may have no issue with your husband and his buddies hitting Vegas for the weekend. She does. In fact, her husband can't even go to happy hour after It even plays out in the marketplace of ideas and opinion. work without drama and 20 questions to follow. You two are operating from two different This is where women, in particular, get tripped up on the handbooks. Your relationship sensibilities are incompatible. She's about to steer you wrong supply and demand of relationship advice. When men and give you advice that doesn't fit the dynamics of your marriage. Change the subject loudly inquire "what the hell are you listening to her for," quickly. it's not just a crude knee-jerk response. It comes from our innate understanding that women, although inadver- 3. She Has No Idea What She's Talking About tently in most cases, tend to give each other bad advice. I'm sorry, but it's true. Women can't be trusted to give good advice when it comes to the We know this. Yet women demand it from their girlopposite sex – no more than you trust the man that pulls up for your first date while sipping friends, who are all too happy to supply it. It's an irrefrom a 16 oz red Solo cup and proceeds to asks if you want some. The only question is who pressible instinct that women share. For reasons that are you trust less. The reality is women don't understand men. They think they do and that in more perplexing than Beyonce's overproduced choreog- itself is the source of all the bad advice to follow. The road to a busted relationship is paved raphy, women seem to think their girlfriends are uniquely with the good intentions of your girlfriends. Take my advice (yes, mine): Look inward or find qualified to provide sound advice on affairs of the heart. a professional.

They're not.

Let me offer a few reasons to why you might want to 4. You Will Look Like a Fool in the End (Again) check in with a sensible male friend that you trust or a So here is the biggest issue. This is less about the girlfriend and more about you. The more you complain and bellyache about your troubled relationship, the bigger the fool you appear professional instead. to be to your girlfriend when you sheepishly go back to him in the middle of the night. Yeah, it's kind of embarrassing, but you know you will. You always do. Manage the flow of informaBY Mason Jamal tion. This is what men do. Our buddies need to know only two important life-changing events as it pertains to our relationships: We're getting married and we're getting divorced.

Everything else in between is immaterial and frankly none of their business.

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Jillian’s BLOCK! The 411YOU want Her addiction to Stephenie Meyer‘s Twilight Series, her love for the color pink, and her passion for writing are few of the many things that describe Jillian. On Monday, July 26, 2010, we had the opportunity to sit down with New York native Jillian Algarin and get to know who she is, as a person, a friend and a mentor.

In the hour we spent together, we learned much about Jillian. She loves to read, especially novels on love, and life experiences. Jillian is majoring in Leadership & Communications at Harcum College, and in ten years sees herself having her own talk show. As a journalist for BCTV.org and Afro-LATINO Magazine, her focus are the youth. ―I feel that the needs for the youth are not being met. Many youth are focused on finding out what the ‗streets‘ has to offer. Education is the key to ALL possibilities. Without education, life can be extremely hard.

In my writing, I focus on what youth want to hear, what they want to know. Titled: ‗Jillian‗s Block: the 411 YOU want‗, I think it pretty much speaks for itself.‖ Inspiring, empowering and guiding youth is something that Jillian is beyond passionate about. ―Coming from a single parent home, I know how hard communication can be. I rarely spoke to my dad about anything I was feeling, and I guess that‘s where the relationship went sour. I was afraid to talk to him, I didn‘t know how to express myself…We didn‗t really have much of a relationship…‖ Marcos & Anthony: ―Why did you want to become a mentor?‖ Jillian: ―I wanted to become a mentor because when I myself was 13, 14 even 15 I needed a mentor. I needed a guide, I needed to know how to make the right decisions. Life is hard, and it can be a challenge but if you have positive people around you, life becomes easier. With that being said, I wanted to become a mentor to help kids that are going through what I went through. I want these youth to know that they are not alone, and they do have someone they can talk to.‖ Marcos & Anthony: ―Being mentees at GoodWill Goodguides, we‘ve learned a lot about the mentors. A lot of them are involved in the community. Are you?‖ Jillian: ―Actually, I am. My sister Edna Garcia is the Founder and Executive Director of the RIZE Program. I started as a student, and now I am the youth coordinator for the program. The RIZE Program is an arts program that focuses solely on youth giving them the tools to properly identify and express emotions that can lead to violence if left unchecked. Each year, the students write a film that focuses on teen issues. Last year, the students wrote a film based on youth turning to gangs for support, and acceptance. This year, they focused on cyber-bullying. If you were interested in becoming students in the program, you can send an email directly to my sister or I, at rizeprogram@gmail.com‖ Marcos & Anthony: ―Thank you for that information. Before you leave, what advice would you give a youth to help them succeed in life, or overcome adversities they are faced with?‖ Jillian: ―Well, for one, no one is perfect. We all make mistakes, and we all fall down. What‘s important is that we learn from our mistakes, dust ourselves off and try again. We all have goals, and we all have dreams. Don‘t let them go for anyone. Education is the key to endless possibilities.

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