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Helping you and your child through their school journey • HOW TO FIND THE RIGHT SCHOOL • HELPFUL ADVICE FOR OPEN DAY SUCCESS • THE IMPORTANCE OF TEAM SPORTS • HELPING YOUR CHILD PREPARE FOR BOARDING SCHOOL

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EDITORʼS LETTER Welcome to the spring 2019 edition of the Little London Schools Guide, and after what was probably a chaotic Christmas break for parents, hopefully this new term has seen a little more routine in your days.

This time of year also means there are many New Year’s resolutions to contend with. Perhaps like many you’re trying to reduce your household’s screen time?

Headmistress Naomi Bartholomew shares her thoughts on digital detoxes with her Left to their own devices piece on page 48. Or maybe you want to encourage your little one to get more involved in activities at school in 2019? Becky Dickinson’s piece on being part of a team (p.38) poses the topical question of the positive mental health effects team sports have on young ones on and off the pitch.

Navigating your way through the trials and tribulations of your child’s school journey is no easy feat, this guide will help make those life decisions a little easier with expert advice on each turn of the education pathway. If you’re only just beginning, be sure to start with our top tips for choosing the right nursery for you and your child (p.27). And whatever age your brood may be, advice on making the most out of your open-day visits is always worth a read (p.46).

And last but by no means least, on page 15 we’ve cherry-picked some of our favourite new schoolwear gems and classroom essentials to ensure your little one looks the part after half term. Happy reading!

REBECCA MOORE, ACTING EDITOR

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Cotton coat £45, arket.com

Water bottle £11.99, turtlecup.co.uk

Fresk lunch box £14.99, 1two.co.uk

Leather T-bar shoes From £31.50, ceciliabelle.co.uk

Teaching children to fly Open days 2019: 1 March 11 May 4 October Founded in 1947, Bassett House in Notting Hill is a proudly non-selective, co-educational prep school for 3 – 11 year olds.

We believe every child can learn to fly.

Individual teaching combined with our dynamic growth mindset approach teaches children to think fearlessly, consistently producing excellent academic results.

In the words of Mrs Philippa Cawthorne, the headmistress: ‘The spirit and enthusiasm of our pupils has to be seen to be believed.’

To arrange a visit, please call our registrar, Mrs Thalia Demetriades, on 020 8969 0313 or email registrar@bassetths.org.uk.

Bassett House School, 60 Bassett Road, London W10 6JP 020 8969 0313 | registrar@bassetths.org.uk | bassetths.org.uk

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NEWS Keeping you in the know WE LOVE This fun backpack will get your kid eating their veg REVISION TIME The latest school supplies and wardrobe essentials THE ULTIMATE EDUCATION TIMELINE Your framework of what to do, and when THE LONDON SQUEEZE How to win a place at a coveted school in the capital NAVIGATING NURSERY Expert advice on making the best choice in the early years THE S-WORD The arguments against making children apologise STEP UP TO PREP The arguments in favour of all-boys prep school NATURE CALLS We explore the benefits of outdoor learning

38 TEAM SPIRIT The mental health benefits of competitive sport 42 ASK THE EXPERTS Five headteachers answer your burning questions 46 OPEN DAY TIPS Advice on how to make the most of your school visits 48 LEFT TO THEIR OWN DEVICES It’s not just children who need to limit screen time 51 PREPARING TO BOARD How to get your child ready for boarding-school life 54 OUT OF FOCUS What you can do if your child has ADHD 59 CHOOSING A SENIOR SCHOOL A few expert tips on what you need to consider 62 MY SCHOOL LIFE Novelist and screenwriter Charlotte Bingham on her boarding-school friendships

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INSPIRING EDUCATION FOR LIFE HMC Independent Day, Weekly and Full Boarding School for boys & girls age 3 to 18 years.

One of the top co-educational schools in England with a unique, award-winning approach to Learning & Teaching, where all pupils can be successful in an environment which is caring, optimistic and encouraging.

Great results, large, leafy grounds, good facilities, polite, charming and well-informed pupils. It’s on the up and pulling ahead of the pack now.

GOOD SCHOOLS GUIDE

Academically , Caterham is up there with the big guns...all achieved without any undue stress.

Parents praise the committed, passionate teachers as ‘great role models’.

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Caterham School is easily accessed from Surrey, Kent, Sussex and London and our extensive coach network includes mainline train connections and evening late bus services.

01883 335058 | enquiries@caterhamschool.co.uk |

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Winners were selected for excellence across a variety of categories

The best independent schools in the UK have been revealed in the first Independent Schools of the Year awards. Run by our sister title at The Chelsea Magazine Company, Independent School Parent magazine, the scheme received more than 200 entries from every corner of the country, with 18 winners selected across a variety of categories.

Independent Boarding School of the Year and The Green Award for Environmental Achievement were just a couple of the prizes up for grabs.

Leading figures from across the sector were selected as judges, including Dr Helen Wright, past Vice Chair of the ISC, Charlotte Avery, headmistress of St Mary’s School Cambridge, and David Moncrieff, Chair of Independent School Parent’s Editorial Advisory Board. The winners were announced online, with Bolton School picking up the coveted Independent School of the Year prize.

Congratulations also went to Kensington Prep School, winner of the Independent Prep School of the Year prize for its impressive ‘Creating Spaces for Growing Minds’ programme, and to Wimbledon High School, the Independent Girls’ School of the Year. To read the full list of winners and judges’ profiles, visit independentschoolsoftheyear.co.uk

A THIRD OF PARENTS STRUGGLE TO TALK TO THEIR CHILDREN ABOUT MONEY, A REPORT FROM FINANCIAL SERVICE PROVIDER ONEFAMILY HAS REVEALED. LACK OF CONFIDENCE WAS SAID TO BE THE PRIMARY REASON, WITH 30 PER CENT OF THOSE SURVEYED ADMITTING THAT THEY’RE WORRIED THEY MIGHT EXPLAIN THINGS INCORRECTLY. 97 PER CENT, HOWEVER, AGREED THAT IT’S IMPORTANT FOR THEIR CHILDREN TO LEARN PERSONAL FINANCE SKILLS.

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Hampshire Collegiate Prep School has launched its very own stock market club to help pupils understand the complexities of investing in stocks and shares. The sessions, led by teacher and finance whiz Simon Brooks, have allowed pupils to develop their maths and ICT skills as they explore topics like the impact of Brexit on investments and economics. This year, club members will be finalising their investment choices by purchasing real stocks and shares.

CHILDREN WILL BE TAUGHT THE BENEFITS OF EATING HEALTHILY AS PART OF ENGLISH AND MATHS LESSONS, AFTER NEW RESEARCH REVEALED THAT THE AVERAGE 10-YEAR-OLD CONSUMES 52.5 GRAMS OF SUGAR PER DAY. PUPILS WILL LEARN, USING RESOURCES ON THE CHANGE4LIFE WEBSITE, THAT THE NUMBER OF EXTRA SUGAR CUBES THEY’RE EATING IS ENOUGH TO WRAP AROUND THE WORLD MORE THAN THREE AND A HALF TIMES.

WORD WIZARDS Children aged five to 13 can now enter Radio 2’s 500 Words competition, which has returned for its ninth year. To be in with a chance, entrants simply need to write an original short story on any subject or theme in 500 words or fewer, and submit it online. Among this year’s list of expert judges are Malorie Blackman, Francesca Simon and Frank Cottrell Boyce, with HRH The Duchess of Cornwall returning to her role as Honorary Judge. There are some amazing prizes up for grabs, too; just make sure you submit your entry by 7pm on Friday 8 March 2019. bbc. co.uk/500wordscompetition

Selkie the labrador has proved an extremely popular member of staff

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Bickley Park in Bromley saw an unusual addition to its list of teaching staff the end of last year, in the form of a four-yearold labrador who loves a tummy rub. Selkie, who belongs to the school’s headteacher, has been providing ‘therapy’ to pupils in need of extra support, and has even helped students suffering from cynophobia – fear of dogs – to get over their anxiety. She’s been hugely popular with staff and pupils alike, and it’s hoped she’ll continue to be a source of comfort to everyone at the school for years to come.

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PUPPY LOVE

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April showers can play havoc with the walk to school, but Frugi’s latest collection has got your little one covered – literally. Made from 100% recycled materials, you’ll find three new designs across the organic brand’s coat and trouser sets, wellies and drawstring bags (ideal for swimming or PE kits). It takes around 20 plastic bottles to make one of Frugi’s coats, so you’ll be doing your bit for the environment too. welovefrugi.com

CLOSE TO THE BONE It’s not too late to book tickets for the fascinating Junior Doctors Programme at London’s BODY WORLDS exhibit, which invites budding scientists to experience a biology lesson unlike any other. From 16-24 February, the attraction will host fun, interactive tours for eight-to-12year-olds who want to learn more about how their bodies work. Don’t miss the daily CPR workshops with the British Red Cross, who will be there from 17-21 February. £25 per ticket, bodyworlds.co.uk

SAY CHEESE Tens of thousands of Year 3 students in London will appear in a contemporary art project curated by Turner Prize-winner Steve McQueen. Working with Tate Britain, Artangel and A New Direction, McQueen has invited every London primary school pupil to be photographed; the finished artwork will go on display at Tate Britain and around London in autumn 2019. To register, visit tateyear3project.org.uk

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The long tradi�on of great performance is something that Kotor Fes�val of Theatre for Children is known for, as it offers special programs for the youngest, from theater shows, concerts, games, performances and other a�rac�ons that are meant for children of all ages. No ma�er how old you are, you will enjoy everything that the city of the child provides. A city that is young for centuries.

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OPEN MORNINGS IN MARCH AND MAY Pre-register online for our next Open Morning Or contact Emma Houchin for further details 01580 753555 / registrar@marlboroughhouseschool.co.uk

MARLBOROUGH HOUSE SCHOOL Valuing self and others

Boys and Girls, Nursery-13 years. Day and Flexi Boarding Hawkhurst, Cranbrook, Kent TN18 4PY marlboroughhouseschool.co.uk

SHOPPING

WE LOVE The Angry Carrot backpack is a good reminder to make sure your little ones get their five a day

TOP OF THE CROPS From the vegetable patch to the school gates, kids will love donning this characterful chap This unique and playful backpack, by Stella McCartney Kids, is inspired by the designer’s own vegetarian lifestyle. This season’s spirited veg-gang prints cover a lot of ground in her latest kids’ collection, in the hope that it’ll have little ones loving their greens in no time. And while he may be the Angry Carrot you’d be mad not to welcome him to your squad!

Stella McCartney Kids backpack, £74.95, harrods.com

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REVISION TIME

Ready for a half-term refresh? Stock up on the latest and greatest school supplies with our pick of the best classroom-appropriate buys

Leather scooter satchel £70, honeyandtoast.co.uk

From a selection at bonnetapompon.com

Micro Scooters mini scooter £67.95, beyondthestork.co.uk

Stefano Ricci shirt £175, harrods.com

Staedtler coloured pencils £14, paperchase.com

Fabelab backpack £16.50, beyondthestork.co.uk

Gucci poncho £468, melijoe.com

Acetate glasses from £60, zoobug.com

Leather shoes £49.99, startriteshoes.com

Fendi dress £435, childrensalon.com

Leather trainers from £50, geox.com

Freedom pencil case £24, kipling.com

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Toy guards watch £16, cathkidston.com

Cotton coat £89, lacoquetakids.com

Fundamental backpack £77, kipling.com

Waterproof all-in-one £35, welovefrugi.com

Animal print clock £40, miffyshop.co.uk

Kissy Kissy pyjamas £59.95, harrods.com

Fresk lunch box £14.99, 1two.co.uk

Grass & Air umbrella £15, beyondthestork.co.uk

Cotton pinafore from £16, marksandspencer.com

Merino-blend tank top £38, jumpjunior.co.uk

Clarks shoes £36, alexandalexa.com

Cotton shirt £66, caramel-shop.co.uk

Suck UK lunch box £16, hurnandhurn.com

Liewood bottle £24, kidly.co.uk

Sweatpants from £26, boden.co.uk

Omy pencil case £12, shop.tate.org.uk

Travel pen pot £3, uk.flyingtiger.com

Cotton dress £69.99, bonnetapompon.com

Bakker Made With Love bag £51, smallable.com

Ribbed knee-high socks £6, ceciliabelle.co.uk

Pocket notepads (pack of three) £3, hedgehogshop.co.uk

Leather sandals from £55, youngsoles.co.uk

Burberry coat £490, farfetch.com

Gingham bow clips £5, rockahulakids.com

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Cotton-mix coat £185, caramel-shop.co.uk

Daler Rowney painting set £26, hedgehogshop.co.uk

This is the Way We Go to School £6.99, waterstones.com

Cotton top £39, petit-bateau.co.uk

From a selection kikki-k.com

Leather boots from £36, clarks.co.uk

Leather backpack £105, zatchels.com

Cotton jumper £46, lacoquetakids.com

Pendulux pencil pot £49, hurnandhurn.com

Splash-resistant jacket £40, thewhitecompany.com

ECOlunchbox container £24, littlegreenhome.co.uk

Suede shoes £40, elfielondon.com

Bamboo sippy cup £6.95, edenandwillow.com

Mayoral dungarees £27, childrensalon.com

Cotton jacket £52, pepaandcompany.com

Pom pom hairbands (pack of three) £8, mimiandlula.com

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IF YOU ’R E U N SU R E WHAT TO DO FOR YOU R CHILD’S S GUIDE TO PL AN NING TH EIR EDUCATION AN D AVO

azing down at your toddler, school can seem a distant concept you need not concern yourself with right now, but awareness of registration dates is essential when it comes to starting their educational journey. Navigating the British education system can feel overwhelming – the independent and state sectors operate on entirely different timetables when it comes to applications and starting age, and even schools within each sector have their own policies. Working out a plan for your child’s education is not something to fester at the bottom of your to-do list. Time is of paramount importance as places for some of London’s best prep schools are first-come, first-served.

Here is a timeline to guide you through the whole process, but it’s worth noting the below framework as a guide: • Pre-preparatory (pre-prep) schools cater for children aged four to seven, although there are fewer standalone pre-preps than there used to be; most are part of a prep school.

• Preparatory (prep) schools admit children at the age of eight, and prepare them for senior school. Many start from age four (see above) and go until 11 or 13.

• Senior schools admit children at age 11 or 13 and generally continue through to age 18.

• 7+, 11+, 13+ are the milestone entrance exams used by schools denoted by the age they will be when they start. 13+ is also called the Common Entrance exam.

• Grammar schools are academically orientated secondary schools within the state system with a selective intake by means of an entrance exam.

Note that every school and borough is different, so check with the institutions you are interested in to avoid disappointment.

At birth/ shortly after

Some pre-prep and prep schools are firstcome, first-served, so they will require you to register your child the day they are born or very shortly after. You will also need to think about registering your child if they are attending a private nursery as London places are extremely competitive.

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3 1 6 2x2=? 0 AGE 4½-7 OR 8 If at a private school, your child will attend pre-prep. Should you be considering the 7+ (to start an independent prep school in Year 3) entrance exams usually take place early in the spring term for entry the following September. You will need to have registered at least 12 months before their start date.

AGE 2½

Independent pre-school or kindergarten starts now.

Age 3

Children can usually start in a state-run nursery from the beginning of the school term after their third birthday. State primary school applications need to be submitted in the January of the year your child is due to start school in the September, so those who turn four during the coming academic year (1 September to 31 August). Private schools that assess children will do so when the child is three. Places should be offered one year in advance of entry.

AGE 1-2½

It’s time to think about which catchment area you are in for state schools. If you’re thinking of a private school, most pre-prep and prep school applications will need to be in by now.

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AGE 11-18

State secondary school starts. Apply by 31 October of Year 6 in primary school.

Some independent schools start at 11, too.

Age 4-11

AGE 13-18

State primary education begins once your child is four.

Independent secondary school starts, day or boarding.

Age 11 or 13

Most independent schools have a Year 7 or Year 9 entry. Some have Year 6 entry for which an exam will be taken in Year 5.

The 11+ exam is taken in the January of Year 6. The Common Entrance 13+ exam is taken in June of Year 8 – this is preceded by a pre-test and interview in Year 6 or 7 when a firm offer has been made; the child then sits the exam for that school.

Some grammar school applications need to be in before mid-July of Year 5, with exams taken in the autumn of Year 6.

Many London day schools have their own exams for 13+/Year 9 entry taken in the January of Year 8. These applications must be made at least 12 months beforehand.

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AGE 16-18

AGE 9-10 Register your child for their independent secondary school. Go to open days and meet heads of schools and the admissions team where possible.

When GCSE results are known, that can determine entry into sixth form or a sixth form college. Check with individual colleges for dates. For a 16+ move to a private secondary school, interviews and exams are undertaken in the autumn of Year 11.

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Allowing your child to be herself will ensure she ends up at the right school

f you’re in the midst of preparing for entry, you’ll know all too well the pressure attached to getting into a good school.

Independent schools in London have seen a boom in applications for admissions over the last five years, which means gaining admission into the top schools has become an art form in itself.

Stories of pregnant women putting their unborn child on waiting lists or ringing schools from the delivery room now seem all too real as parents do anything to ‘get ahead’. One hears that children must have been at a particular

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nursery or be able to write their name before entry. Some parents hire consultants to try to get a head start on obtaining the school place for their child.

These, however, are simply urban myths. Most schools will only accept a registration after a child is born, and would much prefer the parents to submit the application than an agent. All admissions processes differ, so the most practical thing parents can do as they engage in the battle for a school place is to arm themselves with knowledge.

The reality is, there are a vast number of applications for a fixed number of

places, and so inevitably there will be some families that will be disappointed.

Maintain positivity and relationships with schools to ensure you secure the place that is right for your child. Here are my steps for the admissions process:

RESEARCH SCHOOLS Do not rely on hearsay. Find out if they have sibling policies and what their criterion for assessment entails. The school’s website will be the most reliable source.

Admission policies change annually, and many schools update the process

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London schools have seen a boom in applications over the last five years

in line with school needs, and will try to keep it simple. If in doubt, though, always ask the school to clarify.

REGISTER YOUR CHILD Registration is the first key thing a parent must do to ensure their child has a chance of success. If they are not registered for a school, your child will not be able to attend assessment mornings or sit entrance exams. Register at the schools you are most interested in, but do your homework first.

VISIT SCHOOLS You can gain a lot from websites and word of mouth, but the best test is to visit. Schools often organise open days or more personalised group tours. Ensure that you have seen the schools you are most interested in. Schools are all unique communities, offering pupils and parents completely different experiences.

KEEP CALM

ALLOW CHILDREN TO BE THEMSELVES Remember, there is no one route to successful entry, as such a thing would rival the elixir of life. In reality, schools often have a range of feeder nurseries and not just one selective preference. In fact, some children may not even have attended a nursery prior to entry at 3+ and 4+. Most schools are simply looking for the potential in a child, and they want to see their personality, when they meet them. Schools are selecting children who will suit their academic and social environment. Allowing your child to be herself will ensure she secures the place that is right for her.

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SCHOOLS ARE LOOKING FOR THE POTENTIAL IN A CHILD WHEN THEY MEET THEM BE ON TIME

KEEP TRYING

Be mindful of when the deadlines for registration are. Some close when they reach a certain number on the list, others a year before the point of entry. Ensure that you register your child at schools in advance of the deadline. If you are visiting a school, be punctual, and if you cannot attend, ring to notify the school. Tours and visits often run on tight timetables so visitors can see the children working or playing to gauge a flavour of the school in action.

Not being offered a school place can feel devastating, but it is often not a reflection on the child. London has an amazing number of outstanding independent schools with multiple entry points. If your child is not successful at 3+, 4+ or 7+, there are other options and life beyond that one school. If you are committed to one school, but are not successful the first time, ask to remain on its waiting list – occasional places do become available year on year. L

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When calling or emailing for information, remain polite and calm at all times.

The school admissions teams are very knowledgeable and experienced, and are often the best people to ask.

The pressure over the school admissions system can be overwhelming, especially if deadlines have been missed, but the system has to be fair to all.

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Navigating nursery Zanna Clarke, H E AD OF N U R SERY AN D PR E-PR EP AT E ATON SQUAR E SCH OOL, OFFER S ADVICE ON H OW TO MAKE THAT DIFFICU LT FIR ST CH OICE inding a suitable nursery school for your child can be a daunting experience, and understandably so. It’s their first major experience of mingling with other children outside of the family home, and their first taste of being away from their parents for an extended period of time.

And most importantly, it’s their first step into the world of education, so it’s important you get it right!

But with so many different factors to think about, it’s understandable that so many parents feel overwhelmed when it comes to finding the best place to entrust with their little one.

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not actually that uncommon for some parents to start looking before their child is even born!

Before you start your search, it’s worth making a list of all the key things that are important to you as parents, so you have a clear picture of what you want from a nursery school from the outset. Things like outdoor space, creative facilities, class sizes and teacher-to-pupil ratios are all top considerations. Remember, the statutory requirement for under-threes is one adult to four children, and for over-

threes it’s one adult to eight pupils.

Reading inspection reports is another good guideline, but try not to get too bogged down with these and don’t limit yourself to those schools that are rated as ‘outstanding’. Often, ratings include factors such as whether a school occupies a church hall versus a specifically designed children’s space.

While still important, this should not be a top priority in comparison to the quality of education on offer.

ESTABLISH WHAT YOU NEED Most reputable nurseries tend to fill up uic ly and have extensive aiting lists

All families have different requirements,

DO YOUR RESEARCH It’s never too early to start looking for a nursery. Nowadays, competition is higher than ever, and most reputable nurseries tend to fill up quickly and have extensive waiting lists. It’s hard to believe, but it’s

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THE IMPORTANT THING TO REMEMBER IS THAT YOUR GUT INSTINCT IS USUALLY RIGHT so it’s important you find a nursery that fits your lifestyle. Nowadays, most nurseries offer flexible services where you can choose to add on extra hours or after-school activities on certain days.

For instance, at Eaton Square Nursery Schools, we offer ballet, swimming, yoga and karate.

Likewise, it’s also worth thinking about whether you want a nursery school that is attached to a prep school. Again, with fierce competition for places, this can be a good idea. Our nursery pupils, already in the Eaton Square family, receive priority when moving into Reception.

GO WITH YOUR GUT The important thing to remember is that your gut instinct is usually right. After all,

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you are the experts when it comes to your own child. You know their likes and dislikes, the environments they thrive in and what kind of surroundings they need – be it places with lots of open space for running around, intimate class sizes for those that are shy or easily distracted by big groups, or somewhere that focuses on creativity and holistic learning.

The best way to seek out your perfect fit is by visiting as many nursery schools as you can. It might be time consuming, but it will ultimately pay dividends. Most good nursery schools will be happy to schedule one-to-one appointments with prospective parents where they’ll give you a guided tour of the site and its facilities. Don’t be afraid to visit the same nursery more than once. Think of it like

buying a house or a car; it’s a big decision and not one that you can just rush into.

Sometimes a second or third visit can highlight things you missed the first time around and can really help cement your decision.

GET TO KNOW THE STAFF One of the most important assets in any nursery school is the staff, so when you visit a nursery, use the visit as an opportunity to ask questions. You need to be able to trust the staff and build a relationship with them.

Your child should have a key worker who will act as a link between you and the nursery, and is responsible for observing your child and tracking their progress. Wherever you choose, make sure that your child remains at the very heart of your decision.

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Becky Dickinson LOOKS AT TH E ARGUM ENTS AGAIN ST TELLING CHILDR EN TO APOLOGISE orry seems to be the hardest word – or so sang Elton John.

And if you’ve ever tried to persuade a toddler to apologise for snatching another child’s toy, you might agree with him.

Teaching children to say sorry is, for most parents, a mark of socially acceptable behaviour and parenting done properly. We encourage children to use the s-word from an early age, along with ‘please’ and ‘thank you’.

But some experts disagree, arguing that training children to say sorry is pointless and could even encourage them to lie. As ludicrous or counterintuitive as this may sound, there’s sound psychological reasoning behind the argument. It’s well documented that pre-schoolers haven’t yet developed a sense of empathy. They’re notoriously egocentric in the way they perceive the world. According to the influential child psychologist, Jean Piaget, “the egocentric child assumes that other people see, hear and feel exactly the same way as she does.”

And if a child can’t understand how another person feels, they can’t feel remorseful for their behaviour.

Saying sorry is, at best, hollow, and at worst, dishonest.

Early years development expert and founder of Baby Sensory (babysensory. com), Dr Lin Day, says: “Sorry is a word that toddlers under the age of four simply don’t understand, due to

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the immaturity of the cognitive and emotional processes in the brain. In most cases, younger children can’t comprehend how the other person feels or what the word really means.”

Author of It’s OK Not to Share and Other Renegade Rules for Raising Competent and Compassionate Kids, Heather Shumaker believes parents make children say sorry because they feel judged by other adults if they don’t. She says: “We want them to be kind, feel bad if they hurt someone and learn socially acceptable behaviour. Those are all good goals, but you can’t force remorse. If you’ve ever heard a kid say ‘sooorry’ in a fake voice, you know what I mean.”

In fact, children quickly learn that sorry isn’t the hardest word – it’s actually a quick way of getting out of trouble. But letting your child get away with upsetting another child doesn’t seem much better – especially when there’s pressure from other parents to elicit an apology from the little monster.

Dr Day advises taking a softer approach. “It’s far more productive to remain calm and compassionate. Rather than forcing an apology, parents can say sorry on their behalf. Parents of the victim usually feel very upset, and they need something to help reduce their anxiety and to offer reassurance.”

Picking up the slack for your child’s misdemeanours doesn’t mean letting them get away with it, though. After all, we need them to learn when something

isn’t acceptable, so that they become civilised individuals in the future – however far off that may seem!

Instead of eliciting a formal apology, Dr Day suggests encouraging children to make up for their behaviour in nonverbal ways.

“A hug or a cuddle with the victim is one of the best ways to say sorry without words. Close physical contact relieves stress and is usually the best cure because it makes children feel loved and wanted. Parents can initiate the hug or cuddle and get involved too. Signing the word is also a useful tool. Very young children who are unable to express their feelings through speech can do it more easily through sign language.”

Likewise, Heather Shumaker believes that actions are more effective than words. “If someone’s hurt, a child can go and get an ice pack or favourite blanket. Taking action really works, and helps develop kindness and awareness of others. It also helps a child cope with feelings of anger and embarrassment.

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It takes about four years for emotional centres of the brain to mature enough to be truly sorry

Making a guarantee works better than saying sorry. ‘I won’t push you again’ means more to a child than ‘sorry’.

Children feel a lot safer.”

But placing a reprieve on a word, doesn’t mean avoiding it. Your child will need to start using – and meaning – it at some point, so they must get used to hearing it first.

“Model the behaviour of apologising from birth, just as you model greetings,” says Heather. “But don’t force it. When you make mistakes as an adult – and this can be tough for us – own up and say sorry. That helps kids realise even big people make mistakes and it isn’t the end

OFTEN PARENTS MAKE CHILDREN SAY SORRY BECAUSE THEY FEEL JUDGED of the world. Children will say it on their own. Trust them. They’ll learn to pull it out when they truly feel it.”

So, the question isn’t if, but when, a child should start using the s-word.

Well, if you want them to really mean it, probably not until they’re four. “Four years on, when the emotional centres

of the brain have matured they can be encouraged to say sorry,” says Dr Day. “At this age, children demonstrate a much deeper awareness of how others feel.”

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Step up to prep Huw May OF E ATON H OUSE BELGR AVIA E XPL AIN S TH E BEN EFITS OF OP TING FOR A SINGLE-SE X PR EP SCH OOL EDUCATION ingle sex or co-ed? This is one of the most important decisions when choosing a prep school for your child. Contrary to the opinion of some critics, single-sex schools tend to break down, rather than reinforce, stereotypes, since boys no longer feel the pressure to take on what are traditionally perceived as ‘masculine’ subjects or activities.

It is easy to say that this is nature over nurture, but we recommend that, if you’re looking for a boys’ school, you opt for one that favours active learning, as it engages the boys and helps them to fulfil their maximum potential.

Here is just a selection of things parents should bear in mind when choosing a school for their child…

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SUPPORT THE CULTURE The culture of a school is something that you ‘feel’ when you walk into it. For starters, ask yourself if it feels traditional or modern, go-ahead or technologically lacking, cold or warm and stuffy. Are the class sizes small enough for your son to get the attention he deserves?

Try to discern if there is something unique and even visionary about the school spirit. If not, it’s just not good enough. Assess the front desk staff, the form teachers, house masters and mistresses, sports teachers, even the caterers, never forgetting that an army marches on its stomach!

Look at the pupils as they go about their business and see if they seem relaxed and happy. Talk to other parents.

See if there is a culture of events beyond the classroom, which could include talks or even charity balls for parents. All of these elements collectively elevate a school into a community.

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Pastoral and educational factors must both be taken into account when choosing a prep

Then turn your attention to the Head.

If you cannot imagine chatting to him or her informally, that is a red flag. Will your son be encouraged, championed and – this is crucial – noticed?

Ask yourself what your son needs in a pastoral sense and whether that is provided. Is the Head a good leader?

Does he or she inspire teachers to do more every day to make the boys happier, kinder and more open to learning? Are they experienced enough to deal with a quirky boy or one who needs a bit of extra support? Do they have a firm grip on the whole school, ensuring that pupils have a mutual respect for fellow pupils and teachers?

INSIST ON FLEXIBILITY The London school system can be pressurising for boys, with examinations at 7+, 8+ and 11+ for the top schools and, controversially, selective entrance at age four for some schools. At Eaton House Belgravia, we feel that any form of preselection at 4+ can never predict the real patterning of examination results, and we firmly maintain that children blossom at different rates educationally.

Some boys are better off sitting 11+ examinations, while others hit the ground running and are exam-ready at age seven or eight. This is one of the reasons

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BOYS HAVE TO PASS EXAMS, BUT THEY HAVE TO HAVE FUN AND DEVELOP INTERESTS TOO why we opened our prep school in September 2017; last year, 40 per cent of Eaton House Belgravia Pre-Prep students secured offers to Westminster and St Paul’s at 7+ and 8+, as well as to many other fine schools.

Other boys, however, take a little longer to mature. The outcome in terms of senior school choice is often the same at 7+ and 11+, and the wellbeing of the child should be the determining factor.

Individual learning plans help to focus choices and timings. My advice to parents is to look at the flexibility of entrance options for any school. There is no ‘one-size-fits-all’ approach.

For those who join us at eight, there is an entry test that takes account of potential, previous academic training, whether the candidate is English or

has relocated from abroad, and other factors. It is an entirely friendly process, and if we can bring candidates up to speed through entry, we will do so.

EVALUATE THE ADDED VALUE Boys have to pass their exams, but they have to have fun and develop interests outside the core curriculum too. Drama, music, art, trips and clubs are vital, and it’s important to assess the quality of extracurricular activities at a particular school and how often they change; after all, boys need variety.

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DID YOU KNOW THAT GAR DENING CAN ENGAGE YOU R CHILD’S BR AIN AN D IM PROVE WELLBEING? Jill Walker, H E ADMISTR E SS OF ST NICH OL AS PR EP, TELL S US MOR E veryone knows that getting children to enjoy the great outdoors more regularly has a positive impact. What many parents may be less aware of, however, is just how beneficial gardening can be to a child’s education, as well as to their overall health and wellbeing.

Admittedly, most might be reluctant to let youngsters loose on a carefully tended flowerbed or prized vegetable patch in their own precious garden. But if there is a scrap of land or even a window box that children can be left to tend, the rewards can be immense.

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A WORLD OF ONE’S OWN Where most adults tend to use gardening as a chance to clear one’s mind, children can also use the hours they spend tending to their plants as a kind of therapy. Not only does it provide the perfect antidote to sitting in a classroom all day, it’s also a great reliever of anxiety.

When children get stuck into digging, planting or caring for flowers or vegetables, they learn to step back from whatever is bothering them. Better yet, gardening teaches them patience, as they wait for their seeds and bulbs to flourish.

Being in the garden not only helps children relieve accumulated stress, it can also reduce anxiety before it becomes too much of a problem. If a child knows they can be calm when they need to be, they can learn to grapple with problems before they become too overwhelming.

A child’s confidence can also be boosted, as they plant seeds and watch them grow, knowing they are responsible for creating something from almost nothing. This, in turn, gives them a huge boost in self-esteem.

FOOD, GLORIOUS FOOD Not all children have had the chance to understand where their food comes from. Even those who are aware that

fruit and vegetables are grown, picked, and sold to shops may still not be able to visualise the process. So, why not allow your children to have their own patch of garden? This way, they learn about planting their own crops, watch the process from beginning to end, and eat the results once they’ve reached fruition.

It will also make them more aware of what they eat, and should encourage them start questioning where their food comes from, enabling them to make healthier food choices as they get older.

CONNECTING WITH NATURE Getting your hands dirty (literally) is an essential part of gardening, and letting your little one embrace this mucky aspect has many benefits! Feeling the soil, holding the seeds, and finding creatures under the vegetation will show the child that there is more to the world than they first imagined. It will also allow them to make connections, to question more, and ignite a hunger for learning.

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help your child to build an insect hotel from recyclable, sustainable materials?

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WHAT TO ASK WHEN GARDENING WITH YOUR CHILD • Where should we plant our seed so it can grow?

• How can we make the flower or vegetable grow taller or bigger?

• What do you notice the bees and the butterflies doing when they land on the flowers?

• Look closely inside the flower. What do you see?

• Why do we need to get rid of the weeds?

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TEAM SPIRIT COU LD ENCOU R AGING CHILDR EN TO TAKE U P TE AM SPORTS BE TH E KEY TO POSITIVE M ENTAL H E ALTH? Becky Dickinson FIN DS OUT

n a crisp February morning, a throng of primary school children tear around a playing field, rosy cheeked and muddy kneed, seemingly oblivious to the chill factor. A referee springs up and down besides the pitch, whistle at the ready.

At first glance, this could be mistaken for a regular PE lesson. But these children aren’t just working on their ball skills, they’re also developing the kind of mental resilience that could play a key role in their future wellbeing.

These nine and 10-year-olds are taking part in a rugby skills game run by the Harlequins Foundation – the first professional rugby union club to sign the Mental Health Charter for Sport and Recreation. Last year, the club launched METTLE, a flagship campaign aimed at raising awareness of mental health issues and supporting young people.

The initiative involves going into primary schools in the boroughs of Richmond, Kingston and Hounslow and putting a new spin on team sports. Paul Wilson, Harlequins Foundation Manager, says: “the programme has a series of aims that we deliver over a 10-week period.

These include educating young people on mental resilience, equipping them with the psychological tools needed to set goals and cope with challenging times, encouraging them to think and behave in an increasingly positive manner, developing their communication skills and teaching them that it’s OK to talk about their feelings.”

By the end of the 2017-2018 season, more than 2,000 children will have benefited from sessions run by specially trained Harlequins coaches. Unlike those dreaded survival-of-the-fittest PE lessons you might remember from childhood, these sessions are based around problem solving, rather than ball skills, and are designed to encourage kids to work as

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HOW TO ENCOURAGE YOUR CHILD TO TAKE UP TEAM SPORTS

• Introduce children to a wide range of sports, including non-traditional ones, until they find one that’s right for them.

• Set an example – parents need to model what being active looks like.

• Start them young – it’s never too early to have fun with a ball.

• Be an active family – children who have a base level of fitness will find taking part in team sports easier and more enjoyable.

• Offer to support your local school or club – teachers and coaches often need extra volunteers.

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TEAM SPORTS CAN HELP A CHILD DEVELOP FRIENDSHIPS AND LEADERSHIP SKILLS Aid England. As a former PE teacher, she believes physical activities are just as important as the rest of the curriculum.

“Children need to learn how to balance and throw a ball just as much as learning to read. There are life skills that children learn through sport, and in my opinion, it can save lives – particularly for children whose families don’t give them that sense of ‘team’ they might get out on the netball court or on the football pitch.”

And while not all children are naturally sporty, Lisa advises parents to introduce children to all kinds of physical activities as early as possible, until they find one they connect with. She also says it’s essential that schools cater for pupils of all sporting abilities.

“The first thing is to make sure that schools and families are active, so that physical literacy is there as a baseline, and that team sports are accessible. Many schools have introduced The Daily Mile, which has increased the number of pupils feeling fit and confident enough to try

out for team sports. Schools can have A, B and C teams, to make it more inclusive.”

Whether it’s rugby or cheerleading, it’s hard to underestimate the psychological and social benefits that come from being part of a team. And those benefits aren’t just confined to the playing field; they can have a lasting impact throughout childhood and beyond.

As parents, it’s impossible to completely safeguard our children’s future mental health. However, keeping them active from an early age and giving them the opportunity to try out different team sports could provide an added layer of protection as they navigate their way through life.

By the end of the Harlequins session, the children are both mentally and physically invigorated. The hope is that by the end of the course, they’ll be better equipped to face the mental and physical challenges ahead. And unlike the grass stains, that’s something that won’t come out in the wash. L

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a team and support each other.

“After the outdoor skills, we run a classroom session that gives the kids the chance to reflect on how they felt during the task,” adds Paul. “Stressed? Under pressure? Challenged? We then discuss the different day-to-day situations where we might experience these emotions, and how they can be dealt with in an effective way.”

And as growing up becomes ever more laden with the combined pressures of school, social media and the outside world, anything that can provide children with effective coping strategies can only be welcomed.

Mental health issues affect one in four people in the UK and it’s known that sport plays an important role in our mental wellbeing as well as in our physical fitness. This seems to be especially true for team sports; recent research from the London School of Economics and Political Science (LSE) found that young people taking part in team sports reported feeling more satisfied with their lives overall.

Sport England’s Director of Sport, Phil Smith, says: “doing any sport or physical activity is great for kids. Team sports offer something extra, as they can help a child to develop friendships and leadership and social skills, not to mention the physical and mental benefits of being active.”

Besides teaching children how to throw, kick, shoot or score, team sports can also foster an aptitude for cooperation and negotiation – along with the ability to deal with wins and losses.

Then there are the huge psychological benefits, including feelings of belonging, camaraderie and social identity.

Lisa Fathers is director of the teaching school, The Alliance for Learning, and a national trainer with Mental Health First

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ADVICE

HOW IMPORTANT IS IT FOR CHILDREN TO BE ABLE TO LEARN OUTDOORS? Our role as educationalists is to impart knowledge and help pupils develop as independent thinkers, and I passionately believe the best way to prepare children for tomorrow’s world is by teaching them to think creatively. They need to learn to generate ideas and develop confidence and communication skills. They will need self-belief with a good dose of resilience, because sometimes their ideas will be rejected, and they will have to start again.

Taking children outdoors is an ideal way to stimulate such creative thinking.

Nature excites and inspires them; their ideas are liberated and come tumbling out. The multisensory experience of an outdoor classroom for an English

lesson can inspire fabulous reflections and inspire creative writing packed with imaginative language. A science lesson may be more relevant outside and a concept that is difficult to grasp in the classroom makes sense when put into context outdoors. As Wordsworth said, “Let nature be your teacher.”

At Brambletye, the children play sport every day, and we have masses of space where they can enjoy activities such as tackling an assault course, den-building or flying down our 220m zip-wire. The fresh air and exercise enhance their physical and emotional wellbeing, enabling them to have a positive and productive experience in the classroom, both indoors and outdoors.

Will Brooks, headmaster at Brambletye School

WHAT SHOULD WE, AS PARENTS, BE LOOKING FOR IN TERMS OF PASTORAL CARE AT PREP STAGE? Pastoral care is an essential part of your child’s development. Often smaller schools are more proactive with regards to pastoral care, thanks to a higher staffto-pupil ratio and personalised support.

Using a hands-on approach within small classes enables teachers to really get to know each pupil, and also importantly, their parents, as well as understanding each child’s interests and behaviours in order to get the best from them.

Wraparound care in today’s busy world is vital. Often parents work full time and childcare can be a concern, particularly in school holidays. Look for a school that caters for different family needs as well as a varied provision of care for your child. If the school is local, see what extra support is available both during and outside of school hours. If it is further afield, or your child is boarding, look for a homely environment that offers personalised learning around the clock.

When looking around a school, observe classrooms during teaching hours. Do children look happy? Are older children interacting positively with younger children? Is their learning environment inspiring? How much emphasis does the school put on nutrition, health and exercise? These are all vital for mental and physical wellbeing.

Having space to play outdoors, exercise and develop through learning both in and out of the classroom is key to creating a healthy environment for children to reach their full potential.

Richard Evans, headmaster at Great Ballard School

ADVICE I’M IN THE PROCESS OF RESEARCHING NURSERIES IN LONDON. WHAT DO I NEED TO LOOK FOR? The first piece of advice I give to parents is to look around. Don’t fixate on one nursery to the exclusion of all else. You may have a preference, but you will lose nothing by comparing several. Inspection reports and talking to other parents are useful starting points, but there is no substitute for visiting in person.

Ask yourself, do the children look happy? Children who aren’t engaged, aren’t motivated or aren’t playing well together will not be happy and won’t learn. There will likely be tears, especially in the first few days, but children should rapidly settle down and look forward to going. Equally important is the attitude of staff. Do they greet you naturally or do you suspect it’s a performance? Do they celebrate the individual child, or are they more interested in boasting about the school's academic performance?

Ultimately, it’s a question of trust: are the staff caring and confident enough to do the best for your child? If not, walk away.

Finally, look at the facilities. Do you think your child will be secure? Does the nursery cook food on the premises and what is it like? Is the equipment well maintained? What are the play areas like?

A word of warning, though, do not be distracted by state-of-the-art classrooms and iPads. Technology is not a proxy for teaching and shiny new buildings are no substitute for a good education. A school is made by the people in it, and parents would be wise to look to them first.

Christine McLelland, headteacher at North Bridge House Nursery and Pre-Prep

WHAT ARE THE BENEFITS OF SENDING MY SON TO A CITY PREP SCHOOL? History, culture, art: it’s all around us in London, and every child who attends a city school can reap the benefits. Lyceum pupils often visit the famous museums on our doorstep. If they are studying the Great Fire of London, it’s just a short walk to Pudding Lane and St Paul’s. History comes alive when you experience it first hand. London is like an extra classroom, which we use to extend the curriculum and make learning interactive and fun.

Although it’s not the countryside, London is famous for its public parks and sports grounds. The ability to walk or hop a bus to these ensures children play outdoors and enjoy the benefits of competitive sport from an early age.

Parents find our central location very convenient. They can drop kids off on the way to work and trust that they are safe, close by, and being well prepared for their future lives in this great city.

Hilary Wyatt, headmistress at The Lyceum School

WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS ON THE TYPICAL LENGTH OF A SCHOOL DAY AT INDEPENDENT PREPS? When parents ask about the length of the school day, they are often hoping it will stretch to meet their work demands, which is understandable. At Reigate St Mary’s, breakfast club runs from 7.30am and the last elective finishes at 5.30pm, so there are plenty of hours, but it is what we fit into these hours that matters.

Our days are packed with activities from computer programming to karate to choral singing. The top 10 skills that will be needed in the workplace by 2020, according to a World Economic Forum report, include problem-solving, creativity and emotional intelligence. If during our busy days we can ensure we are developing these in our pupils, then they are hours well spent indeed.

Marcus Culverwell, headmaster at Reigate St Mary’s

MEET THE EXPERTS

Will Brooks, Headmaster at Brambletye School

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Christine McLelland, Headteacher at North Bridge House Nursery and Pre-Prep

Marcus Culverwell, Headmaster at Reigate St Mary’s

Hilary Wyatt, Headmistress at The Lyceum School

Richard Evans, Headmaster at Great Ballard School

St. Nicholas Preparatory School an outstanding education for boys and girls up to Year 6

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We identify and nurture each girl’s unique academic, creative and sporting skills in a caring and supportive community.

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We welcome enquires about our scheme of assistance with fees for girls aged 7+. New bursary available for entry into Year 1 or Year 2 in September 2019.

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ADVICE

Open days explained Andrew Johnson OF ST BEN EDIC T ’S E ALING OFFER S HIS ADVICE ON HOW TO MAKE TH E MOST OF YOU R VISIT

Look for the right balance of academic, pastoral and co-curricular

ttending an open day is one of the most important steps in choosing your child’s next school. However much you may have read about it or heard about its wonderful ethos, outstanding facilities and superb results, there is no better way to get a feel for a school than to experience its atmosphere and character

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firsthand. A tour of the school, the head’s speech and speaking to the pupils and teachers will show you the reality.

Try to take your child with you, as they may notice different things, and ask yourself if this is a happy, vibrant community where they would thrive.

Chances are you will be shown around by some of the pupils, so find out what it is that they like about their school. Are they proud to be showing you around?

Make sure you hear the headteacher’s talk, as they should articulate exactly

what the school stands for. Are they approachable and welcoming? Do they speak with conviction? What is emphasised? Is there a balance between academic, pastoral, co-curricular and allround personal development?

What about your plan for the next stage? Do you have your eye on a particular secondary school, and if so, are you confident that this school will prepare your child to gain a place there? If it’s an all-through school, like St Benedict’s, their transition to the senior school is virtually guaranteed, which may be an attractive option. On the other hand, you may believe that a change would be good for your child at that age.

Talk to pupil tour guides and find out hat they li e a out their school

OPEN DAY CHECKLIST

• How do the teachers engage with the children? Are they enthusiastic?

What about sport and the arts? Find out what is on offer and how often, whether there are lots of clubs and societies and if they can introduce your child to a range of different activities, such as chess or debating. Think about your priorities – excellent music and drama may be top of your list, but for other parents team sports are numberone priority. Co-curricular provision is a huge part of education, regardless of whether a school is an academic hothouse or a gentler environment.

Learn about pastoral care too – the bedrock of any successful school, as it ensures your child feels secure. Find out how it works – who would your child

approach if they were unhappy?

Ask about educational enrichment. Are there trips to galleries and museums, to enhance children’s learning? What about residential trips? If your child is very young, this may seem a long way off, but before you know it they may be packing their case for a trip to Normandy or taking part in an Outward Bound activity weekend in the Lake District.

You may have set your heart on one particular school, but it is always a good idea to visit at least one or two more, to provide a point of comparison. Finally, try to go back and visit the school on a normal day, to test your impressions of the open day. Good luck! L

• Are the classrooms vibrant, stimulating and well-ordered environments in which to learn?

• What’s the recreational space like? Can children let off steam?

• How are academic and cocurricular achievements celebrated?

• Are there chances for children to take on responsibilities?

• How does the school manage transitions from pre-prep to prep, and prep to senior?

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TECHNOLOGY

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BEFOR E CRITICISING YOU R CHILD’S R EL ATION SHIP WITH TH E ON LIN E WOR LD, YOU N EED TO LOOK AT YOU R OWN , SAYS Naomi Bar tholomew OF ST CATH ERIN E’S PR EP SCH OOL arents often ask us about our approach to digital technology at St Catherine’s Prep and, despite it supposedly being ‘off limits’ to under-11s, questions about social media often crop up, too.

As Headmistress, I’m confident that our approach is open and dynamic, using iPads as part of the girls’ toolkit for learning in school. And we also have a proactive approach to teaching the children about online safety and the use of social media.

The tougher conversation I believe we all really need to be having, however, is regarding the influence and disruption caused by our own use of digital technology as adults, and more crucially, as parents.

How many of us have seen a toddler pose for a photo, even in the most mundane of domestic situations, and then have the phone handed to them to view the picture and show approval?

What we should be equally concerned about is the number of hours we ourselves spend online, on social media, looking at emails, googling things on the go, while those precious interactions and magic moments are lost, as we spend less ‘real’ time together with our families.

I don’t think I’m alone in experiencing moments of anxiety when seeing toddlers and young children wandering off, as their parents stay fixated on their screens while out and about or in a coffee shop.

At St Catherine’s Prep, we’ve asked for all digital technology to be put away at our pre-prep nativity for the last couple of years. The pupils have rehearsed, learnt their lines and songs, found their spot on the stage and even attempted a bit of acting – then desperately scanning

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the audience for a familiar face, a thumbs up, smile or a wave, they are all too often met with a sea of screens and flashes. They have no idea which screen is masking their parents’ or grandparents’ proud expressions.

We thought this move would be very unpopular, but parents reacted very well and commented that it was wonderful to just sit, watch and enjoy the performance, rather than feel pressured to get the perfect snap or video clip.

I also admit to despairing at the number of photos posted of young children on parents’ social media accounts, many with little or no privacy settings. A friend commented recently

on the number of times a particular tweet had been viewed on her Twitter feed, and I had the sorry task of trying to explain who exactly might have made up the over 1,000 views of her young daughter in a gym leotard; sadly, unlikely to be friends or family. Who knows where that image has reached, and how many have passed it on?

It’s a minefield to parent in the digital age, and we are right to worry about how our children are using technology.

However, I would argue that it’s also time for us to stop and take stock of our own digital habits. We certainly could learn a thing or two from our well-educated children on this topic! L

Parkside School

“The quality of the pupils’ achievements and learning is exceptional” ISI Inspection Report

Kensington Prep School is an award-winning school in Fulham for girls aged 4-11.

Registration for 4+ entry in 2020 is open – deadline 27th September 2019

Winner ‘Independent Prep School of the Year’ 2018

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The Manor, Stoke D’Abernon, Surrey KT11 3PX T: 01932 862 749 E: office@parkside-school.co.uk W: www.parkside-school.co.uk Head Teacher: Ms Nicole Janssen Admissions: Mrs Lindre Scott Key facts Gender / Ages: Co-ed Nursery 2-4 years, Boys 4-13 years Total pupils: 283, boys 268, girls 15. Type: Day. Fees: Nursery – Daily from 1 morning £440 – 5 full days £3,410.

Pre Prep: Termly Year 2: £4,055. Prep: Termly Year 3 - Year 8 £5,564.

Entrance procedure: The first point of contact for prospective parents is our School Registrar, Lindre Scott, who can be contacted on 01932 862749. The Registrar can advise you of our forthcoming Open Mornings, arrange a personal tour of the school and discuss the needs of your child/children. Once your child is registered with Parkside School, your son will receive an invitation to join us for a taster day, which includes an assessment in Maths and English as well as a range of activities with their peer group. There is no assessment for Nursery children.

School Philosophy: Parkside’s high educational standards and

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Academic Record: The Common Entrance results in 2018 were excellent with all boys gaining places to their first choice school, with an abundance of A and B grades. Boys at Parkside go on to a variety of destination schools such as RGS, Hampton, St John’s Leatherhead, Epsom College, Wellington College, Bradfield College, Reed’s School, Tonbridge, Cranleigh and Charterhouse just to name a few.

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pastoral care, its sporting excellence and forward-thinking approach are all key ingredients to bringing out the best in every child under our guidance, so that they can achieve their full potential and become the best version of themselves. Through the care, guidance and support of our staff members we develop and nurture close links between school, pupil and home ensuring communication is key. Parkside encourages pupils to explore, discover and develop their particular skills and talents to the full whether in the academic field, sporting area, art or music and to find the fulfilment and selfesteem necessary to enhance their lives. The school aims to develop the values of respect, tolerance and compassion whilst encouraging self-reliance and independence. Parkside prepares pupils for their future schools and life in the wider world by developing them as well-rounded individuals, comfortable with their peers, elders and themselves, able to appreciate their talents, eager to realise their potential and confident in meeting new challenges.

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Notable Achievements and Alumni: Parkside School was judged ‘Excellent’ in all ISI inspection categories in March 2016. Parkside’s whole ethos is based around valuing and developing the individual child to be the best they can be academically, socially and emotionally. As our inspection report shows, we are true to our ethos and our pupils are gaining the attributes that will put them in a strong position in the future, to take their place in a rapidly evolving society and a challenging global job market.

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BOARDING

Preparing to board David Revill, H E AD OF BOAR DING AT COT TE SMOR E SCHOOL, GIVE S TIPS ON H OW TO GE T YOU R CHILD R E ADY

consider working at a boarding school to be an extraordinary gift. My colleagues and I are so lucky to witness pupils transforming before our eyes into responsible, independent and thoughtful individuals, as they learn to become resourceful, self-starting and confident. Even parents comment on how quickly students grow up here, almost taken aback by the changes in their child, in terms of attitude, helpfulness and maturity.

While we find ourselves surrounded by almost constant negative reports about today’s young people and their mental health, here at Cottesmore, we believe that boarding instils resilience in children to withstand the many pressures of the modern world. Boarders are presented with chances to make life-long friends,

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be challenged and grasp opportunities.

If you’ve decided to explore the option of boarding, here are a few things to first consider.

GO DOWN THE DIGITAL ROUTE Start by going through the school’s website with a fine-tooth comb. There are usually plenty of photographs and videos to watch, which should give you a flavour of what’s to come. Most schools also have lines of communication through social media that you could choose to ‘follow’ to stay up to date.

These not only offers an insight into the school before your child arrives, but also

keep you in the know in terms of what they’re doing when they get there.

MANNERS MAKETH THE MAN Most children shouldn’t have any trouble making their bed, but there are plenty of other skills that they will have to master once they get to boarding school, such as good table manners and keeping one’s room tidy. It’s best to ensure these have been instilled before the school term starts, so that always saying ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ comes naturally.

LIFE OUTSIDE OF LESSONS Life as a boarder can be incredibly busy,

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Boarding teaches students to interact with others, without interference from screens

and sometimes it’s easy for pupils to forget to stop for a moment and relax.

That’s why many schools have adopted their own versions of mindfulness lessons, and at Cottesmore, we’ve introduced yoga activities and regulated breathing practice to help pupils learn to unwind, so their brains and bodies function more efficiently.

Country boarding schools tend to be very sporty, with an enormous array of activities on offer – think lacrosse, netball, hockey, horse riding and more.

But it’s equally important that children explore other extracurricular ventures, like coding, art, music, drama, animation, photography, debating or creative writing. A good boarding school should always encourage your child to pursue these avenues of self-expression.

MAKING FRIENDS Another advantage of boarding school is the way that it teaches students to interact with the people around them; forced to switch off their screens, they engage in proper conversation. Chatting with fellow pupils can lead to playing

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REASSURE YOUR CHILD THAT HOMESICKNESS IS NORMAL AND PACK A FAVOURITE TOY games, having adventures, and, ultimately, forming life-long bonds; learning how to make friends and compromise at this age is vital. Sometimes your child’s classmates will want to join them in their favourite pastime or activity, while in other instances, they should be prepared to try out some hobbies that their friends like instead.

WHAT ABOUT HOMESICKNESS? Homesickness is an inevitable part of being away from home for the first time, and you should reassure your child that it is perfectly normal. If they have a favourite toy, book or comfort blanket that makes them feel more secure, be sure to pack it; having these sentimental objects will help them adjust to their new environment more quickly.

Children also prefer stability, routine

and knowing what they will be doing during the weekends and holidays. So, make sure to give them a firm idea in their minds of your family’s plans over the coming months so that they have something to look forward to; this can make a huge difference to their wellbeing, as they anticipate when they will see you next while continuing with their lives at school.

Proactively calling home can be quite an alien concept for certain children, and some boarding schools – like Cottesmore – encourage pupils to handwrite weekly letters home. But don’t be surprised if they forget to call or email you; if you’re concerned, just give the school a call and they’ll nudge your son or daughter to reach out and communicate. If anything, think of it as a reassurance that they’re just too busy having fun! L

Newton Prep School

149 Battersea Park Road, SW8 4BX T: 020 7720 4091 E: enquiries@newtonprep.co.uk W: www.newtonprepschool.co.uk Head Teacher: Mrs Alison Fleming Admissions: Mrs Susan Symes, Registrar Key facts

Gender / Ages: boys and girls, 3-13 years Total pupils: 654, boys 357, girls 297 Type: Day Fees: Nursery – Day from £3,100. Pre Prep: Day from £5,730, Prep: Day from £6,565 per term Entrance procedure: Please see our website for details

School Philosophy: The School is unashamedly ambitious for its pupils, using outstanding facilities, after-school clubs/activities and a wide range of trips. We celebrate the diversity of our pupils and promote a strong sense of community, based on mutual respect and kindness shown to others. Fundamentally, we want Newton Prep children to enjoy their precious childhood years.

Our long held school values, ‘The Cumnor Way’ underpin the ethos and curriculum at Cumnor House School. Our children strive to achieve their academic potential by expanding their sense of curiosity, understanding the importance of perseverance, critical thinking, objectivity and reflection.

To find out more visit www.cumnorhouse.com / 0208 645 2614 admissions@cumnorhouse.com

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Girls School

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Hawkesdown House School

For Boys & Girls aged 3 to 11 years

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BEHAVIOUR

OUT OF FOCUS DOE S YOU R CHILD EVER FIN D IT HAR D TO CONCENTR ATE? IT COU LD JUST BE A PHASE, BUT WHAT IF IT’S MOR E?

e all have days when we feel a bit scatty, adults included, but if a child appears to have an ongoing battle with concentration, how do we know if it’s simply a phase or an underlying issue? It can be hard to understand why a child is finding it hard to work on tasks in the classroom when they’re able to see tasks of their choosing through from start to finish.

I’ve heard parents say, “He can focus on video games or Lego for hours, but can’t focus on his schoolwork for more than two minutes!” It’s important to try to understand what is going on in their brains, so we don’t become frustrated or dismiss a child as being lazy or disruptive.

While video games or Lego require little energy because children find them interesting and undemanding, a maths lesson requires much more effort on the child’s part.

Initially, it’s important to determine whether your child is struggling with an academic task because of a learning block, such as dyslexia, which may lead to avoidance of certain work. If any issues like that have been discounted, it’s time to consider whether your child may have Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). It’s likely that you as a parent might have wondered if your child’s concentration levels seem low, and your child’s teacher may well have alerted you to some of their observations. When a parent and teacher both notice certain traits, it’s time to seek further diagnosis.

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Struggling to concentrate, having too much energy, becoming easily distracted or not being able to easily control behaviour are some of the symptoms of ADHD. Dr Sinead Rhodes, who has spent 20 years researching ADHD, has found that it’s a complex problem. “My research has shown that children with ADHD have problems with memory and organising themselves. This can make following their teacher’s instructions very challenging, which can affect their ability to tackle an academic task. They may be more disinhibited in their peer group, find it hard to take turns and interrupt conversations, which can affect their friendships.”

It may be difficult to determine what is typical and what isn’t, but getting a diagnosis for ADHD can be done through your GP. They’ll refer your child to an expert, such as a psychiatrist or specialist paediatrician, who will work with you to find out the best way to help. Medication, behavioural therapy, counselling, family meetings and special educational support can all help. Dr Rhodes’s research into medication such as Ritalin has demonstrated that of the children who take it, 70 per cent report significant, positive effects.

“The short-term results show improved cognition and behaviour. However, research indicates that, for many children, medication is only one part of the picture, and multiple treatments or interventions to target the range of

Struggling to concentrate and becoming easily distracted are some of the symptoms of ADHD

RUNNING HEAD

DIET TIPS THAT MAY HELP IMPROVE CONCENTRATION • Reduce sugar intake. There’s so much hidden sugar in our food: even if you give them fruit juice and a cereal bar, that could have the same amount of sugar as a chocolate bar.

• Increase raw food intake. The enzymes in raw foods assist the digestive system in absorbing nutrients, so ensure they have the essential vitamins, minerals and fatty acids needed for brain function.

• Avoid processed food. Some preservatives are toxic to a child’s nervous system, so try and buy fresh food and prepare most family meals and school lunches from scratch.

• Increase water intake. If someone is dehydrated, they’ll feel tired and find it harder to focus as a result. Ensure that they drink plenty of water throughout the day, at home and at school.

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BEHAVIOUR

Early identification of the complex condition ADHD is vital in helping your child

problems they face is best for the child.”

Many families may choose not to use medication at all. There are alternative strategies for use in the classroom and home to help improve concentration.

Harnessing technology can be a wonderful way to help your child too.

Using a digital watch with an alarm to remind them to attend their music lesson or get ready for football can help with organisational skills, while electronic calendars can aid older kids. Setting academic tasks on a computer or iPad can inspire learning – look at Mathletics, Sum Dog, Linguascope and Readtheory.

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represent the task set, which can really help children with ADHD focus.

ADHD is a complex condition in which the child can have several of a group of symptoms, some of which could be present due to another condition.

However, early identification so that treatment – whether behavioural, psychological or medication – can be started is vital in order to enable the child to achieve their full potential. L addiss.co.uk offers information and support to families with ADHD. Dr Rhodes’s work can be found by searching researchtheheadlines.org

• Sit them down away from the door, window and corridor.

• Sit them near the teacher and away from resources not in use.

• Sit them near a student with good study and attention skills.

• Reduce expectations of seated work, and only put one or two activities on each page.

• Avoid unnecessary pictures or visual stimuli that may distract.

• Ensure that there’s some white space on each page and give short breaks between tasks.

• Use alternative technology, e.g. a computer, iPad or tablet.

• Allow stretching exercises midway through a task.

• Ensure their homework diary is being used for planning.

• Shorten homework assignments (bonus points for doing more).

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How to choose a senior school

Neil Brooks, H E ADMASTER OF CR AN LEIGH PR EP SCH OOL, OUTLIN E S WHAT YOU SH OU LD CON SIDER WH EN MAKING YOU R DECISION

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s more schools move away from traditional entry methods, the process of gaining a place at senior school has actually become far more complex. When deciding if a school is right for your child, there are many factors to consider: co-ed or singlesex; day or boarding; family dynamics; location; the size of the school; and specialisms for your child, from riding and rowing to robotics.

The most important thing to remember is that you’re looking for a place that suits your child’s interests, not your own. A school that you attended 20

years ago will be a very different place today, and your child is their own person with different strengths and weaknesses to their parents.

Be honest in your assessment of your child’s needs through their teenage years, and bear in mind that many of the independent schools are very popular and oversubscribed; do not approach the process feeling as though you have a free choice. Places are highly competitive!

SPEAK TO FELLOW PARENTS Try to avoid falling into the ‘dinner party’ trap of believing friends who proclaim that their child’s school is ‘the best’ and ‘fantastic’; it may well be, but for their child! Do, however, listen to sensible conversation about schools from balanced friends. How did the school deal with a certain issue, for instance?

It’s always wise to visit a selection of different schools, especially if you’re

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School facilities should be there for students to use and enjoy, not just to show off to parents

unsure about boarding or single-sex education. However, try to avoid taking your child with you on your first trip to the school, as ultimately you will see the bigger picture, not simply which chocolate is on offer in the tuck shop.

SEE THE PLACE FOR YOURSELF Open days are always useful, but remember that the school is putting on a show. Ask plenty of questions, especially to pupils (they tend not to bother with the marketing speak and will give more honest answers). And crucially, watch the interactions between staff and pupils.

Are teachers interested in the students?

Are the students well turned-out and interacting in an engaging, polite and interesting way?

You should ask yourself: “Can I see my son or daughter scooting around here, thriving, in a few years’ time?” Individual visits will give you more detail and a greater insight, but some of the more popular schools might not offer small tours because of the number of parents

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wishing to look around.

Look carefully at the facilities, and think about whether they are well looked after. Pay attention to spaces, too; is there a mix of inspirational places, as well as practical ones? Does the environment enhance a sense of belonging? Does the place look as though it is for pupils to actually use, rather than just to ‘show off’ to potential parents?

When it comes to admissions, while the test and interview process is usually important, it should never dominate a child’s life. There is a balance to be struck between sensible and meaningful preparation and a child’s continued enjoyment of life in general throughout the process. Both the school and the parents should work hard to prevent children from feeling overly anxious.

Overall, you know your child best and should trust your intuition; your gut reaction is usually right! L

QUESTIONS TO ASK THE SCHOOL • How does the discipline and reward structure work?

• How do you ensure a quieter child doesn’t go unnoticed?

• What opportunities are there for pupils to work collaboratively?

• How many parents come to sports matches?

• Who is the first point of contact for me if my child is in the school?

• How important are the academic results to the school?

• How do you monitor pastoral care?

• How tolerant is the school with smoking, drugs, or misuse of ICT? • If my child is not a top-flight sports person, what are the sporting opportunities?

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INTERVIEW

MY SCHOOL LIFE Charlotte Bingham TH E NOVELIST AN D SCR EENWRITER ON H ER SCHOOL DAYS, AN D TH E LIFELONG FRIEN DS SH E MADE WHILE BOAR DING Tell us a bit about your experience at school. Did you enjoy it?

I loved my school life, although I was always bottom of the class. When it was discovered that I was lefthanded and had been allowed to put my pencil in my right hand, I stopped being quite so thick! I was always avoiding learning my Latin verbs in favour of learning passages from the books I loved.

I was six, with my cousin who was four. Neither of us liked it at all, especially as we spent our holidays there. It was only at my second boarding school, when I was eight, that I became much happier.

The school terms back in those days were very, very long, so the experience made you very independent of your parents from an early age. It’s also a tribute to that second boarding school that I am still friends with all of the girls that were in my class.

Whenever we get together, we love to reminisce about the good old days!

What subject did you enjoy the most?

I really enjoyed English literature, history of art, and history. I still love reading about painters and have featured them a great deal in my historical novels.

What advice for life would you have given yourself when you were school age?

‘Follow your bliss.’

What is your earliest school memory?

I remember being in a play at my Montessori day school in Kensington Square. I played a bad rabbit who was always pinching someone else’s carrots, and it sparked a love of drama in me. I have written over a hundred plays and television series since and loved every minute of it.

Did you board at school?

I went to my first boarding school when

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Charlotte learned independence from a young age at boar ding school

Following in the footsteps of her writer parents felt natural

What does 2019 have in store for you?

In 2019, I am looking forward to the BBC adaptation of MI5 and Me, and finishing the book I am writing – the sequel to MI5 and Me, called Spies and Stars, which is out in March. Aside from that, I’ll be going for long walks with my dog! L Spies and Stars: MI5, Showbusiness and Me by Charlotte Bingham (£16.99, Bloomsbury) is available to buy from 7 March

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Did you always want to be a writer?

Yes; my parents were professional writers and so was my aunt, so it was not difficult to follow my star. My first novel was called Death’s Ticket, which I wrote when I was 10. Needless to say, I didn’t find a publisher!

And what words of wisdom did you give to your children?

I would say to them: ‘Ignore everything anyone else tells you – especially your parents!’

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