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FROM THE DESK OF CHERYL POLOTE WILLIAMSON

lost count of how many times I’ve done something someone else said couldn’t be done. The only person other than God with any authority over my life is me. There is not a single person that can say anything to stop me. I don’t say this boastfully or in arrogance. I say it in hopes that it sparks the same attitude in you. Hear me. Nothing can stop me. My prayer is that you decide the same for yourself. If I'm a force and you're a force, think of the maximum force we could be together. That’s why you will never find me discouraging anyone or telling anyone what he or she can’t do. It is also precisely why I spend ZERO time entertaining anyone attempting to discourage me or tell me what I can’t do. “No one is reading paper magazines anymore.” “Paper magazines are old hat.” “Digital is the way to go.” “The market is too saturated.” “There are bigger brands that people know and love that own this space. There is no room for you.” These are just a few of the things people said when I took our email-distributed, ever-expanding, digital newsletter-turned-magazine to print publication. Now, here we are... Celebrating ONE YEAR in print and subscribers in the following Top 10 Countries: • United States of America • Canada • South Africa • Australia • Italy

• Philippines • Ireland • Turkey • Bahamas • Mexico

We did it. That’s all. That’s the post (as they say). With this anniversary edition, we are fired up, not looking back, and headed into the future of this dynamic, very necessary, industry-recognized, and backed media source. What better time, as we embark upon the newness of spring than to highlight the importance of blooming where you’re planted and blossoming on purpose. It’s what Cheryl Magazine did, and that’s how we will continue into the future—intentional in our pursuits and blossoming no matter the odds. What about you? You have it in you. I know you do. You have the ability to sprout, to blossom, to grow, right where you are. I don’t care what others have said or how they have tried to stop you or bring you down. SPEAK LIFE! Dig in, spring roots, breakthrough, bloom, and shine! You can. I know you can. We at Cheryl Magazine will do our part to continue as a reputable resource that you can trust. We are here for you as you build, develop, master, and conquer, and we are rooting for you all the way. See you at the top!

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INSIDE THIS ISSUE

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Family, Community, Human Interest: Help, Hope, and Legacy

IMAGINING BLACK FREEDOM Courtney Williamson

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CONTENTS

REDEFINING LOVE Two perspectives —a married and a single woman's view

THE BEST SEAT IN THE HOUSE My Journey Through Motherhood

COVER STORY: JASMINE SANDERS

Award-winning, top-ranked, nationally syndicated, multi-media personality A Rose is Still a Rose

LIFESTYLE

Celebrate LIFE With Family, Good Food, and Fun!

PARENTING TIPS Make It a Movie Match-Up Month

FAMILY CORNER Spring, Easter, Traditions, and FUN Everybunny Will LOVE!

8 Monique Coleman I Value Who I Have Become Instead of What I Do

Autumn Bailey Q&A With Shaw University Alumna Film and Television Producer

BUSINESS & FINANCE Get insight that will help strengthen and empower your life and business! P. 6

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LET'S BRUNCH Creating the perfect spread for Easter or Mother’s Day

Camara Aunique Helps Make God the CEO of Your Life ENTREPRENEUR SPOTLIGHT: Hear Your Own Yes: Pam Eudaric BUSINESS SENSE & SENSIBILITY: Get Intentional About Expansion THE LIST: Cheryl's Favorite Business Resources

IN EVERY ISSUE We THRIVE! Motivation, Inspiration, Action Plans, and POWER

A Letter From the Editor-in-Chief

with Tess Alexandria As You Blossom...

What Women Should Know with Corey Jackson The Secret to Dating an Entrepreneur

Daddy Issues

Dr. Cheryl Polote Williamson

The Gentleman's Voice:

with Charmaine Roots Castillo From Tears to Flower Doodles

with Patricia Bailey Enjoying a Journey of Change

with Keri Ann Zamore Unpacking Trauma

Foxxy Wizdom

CELEBRATE

AGING WELL

FOCUS ON MENTAL HEALTH

with Roni M. Benjamin Help Protect Your Standard of Living

with Traci Henderson Smith It's A Family Affair, LadyBugz Founders: Zoe and Zarya Spires

#GIRLPOWER

Money Talk

PROUT, BLOSSOM, GROW, RIGHT WHERE YOU ARE.

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Kim Coles

Joy and Pain and Evolution, OH MY!

HEALTH & WELLNESS COVER SHOOT: Photographer: Corey Guevarra Hair: Jazzmyn Samuels Makeup: Kimberly Douglas

Look Well. Heal Well. Feel Well. Live Well!

THE COST OF MOTHERHOOD Maria D. Flowers, MHA

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I Value Who I Have Become Instead of What I Do Award-Winning Actress Monique Coleman

by Siobhan Davenport

onique Coleman is an award-winning actress, producer, singer, dancer, entrepreneur, philanthropist, Emmy-nominated host, and wife. Best known for her role as Taylor McKessie, a character she played in Disney’s High School Musical movies, Coleman also had a recurring role as Mary Margaret on The Suite Life of Zack & Cody. Coleman’s television, film, and music career are extensive. Her church roots while growing up in South Carolina, however, get credit for her resilience, optimism, and passion to pursue her purpose and help others along the way. Coleman’s mother is also an enormous inspiration to her. She made serving and giving back a pillar of their home. “My mother has many words and sayings of inspiration, but what I hold dear is, ‘We have to lift as we climb.’ I’m passionate about nurturing the next generation.” Coleman’s passions include providing youth, girls in particular, with opportunities to be seen and heard, something lacking in her childhood experience. In 2010, Coleman started the foundation GimmeMo’. She reached out to the United Nations (UN) to inquire how she could partner with them to address, on a global level, issues that young people face. At a ceremony at UN headquarters in New York, Assistant Secretary-General Jomo Kwame Sundaram of the Department of Economic and Social Affairs presented Coleman with a letter of recognition of her new role as first-

ever United Nations Youth Champion. Mr. Sundaram tasked Coleman to raise awareness about the challenges youth face and highlight the positive contributions they make to their communities. Coleman called the appointment “beyond an honor.” In the role, she traveled to twenty-four countries in six months advocating for and empowering youth. In 2018, Coleman launched the GimmeMo’ With Monique Coleman television program as both executive producer and host, discussing social and emotional topics that affect teens like homelessness, obesity, body image, sex, becoming environmentally aware, drugs, and more. The series, produced by Coleman’s and Zesati’s diverse female-led team at Motivated Productions, received the Daytime Creative Arts Emmy Awards Nomination for Outstanding Host for a Lifestyle, Children’s, or Special Class Program. Coleman has experienced “bumps in the road” throughout her career, she says. She had to fight against imposter syndrome, people-pleasing, and outsourcing her power, but through it all, she never lost the belief that her faith would see her through any trouble. “We can’t earn our way out of painful experiences. I thought I could achieve my way out of emotional distress, but I learned through adversity to sharpen both my resiliency skills and the ability to heal. I do this by having constant conversations with God to feel grounded and prepared for whatever comes my way.”

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Coleman encourages other entrepreneurs to align themselves with equally passionate people with a different set of skills. She also emphasizes the importance of writing down your dream and moving toward it. Taking faith steps toward that dream can be as simple as writing yourself a check, designing a logo, or writing your business plan. But most importantly, “Set the idea in motion and don’t let anything hold you back,” she advises.

“Acting is my passion, advocacy is my purpose.” After 27 years and numerous awards and accolades in the entertainment industry, Coleman still thrives. The two-time 19th Annual Young Artist Awards winner, Character and Morality in Entertainment (CAMIE) and two-time Teen Choice Awards winner, American Music Awards winner, and Emmy-nominated host who just reunited with High School Musical love interest Corbin Bleu (Chad Danforth) for a 2021 Lifetime Christmas movie, A Christmas Dance Reunion, will return to Lifetime this spring in “Greed,” one of the films in the Seven Deadly Sins series executive produced by Bishop T.D. Jakes. Coleman is also excited to publish her children’s book this year, Affirmation Alphabet, which uses the alphabet to teach children affirmations and helps parents speak life over their children. Aside from the entertainment world, Coleman finds satisfaction in family life and in who she’s become. She values those two things above anything she’s done or accomplished. “I value who I have become instead of what I do,” she says. She credits her husband Walter Jordan of ten years, family, and close friends for providing love and support to help her evolve into the woman she is today. Monique Coleman is a woman who walks in purpose while uplifting those around her. Her motto: “Acting is my passion, advocacy is my purpose.” P. P. 1 11 1 Cheryl CherylMAGAZINE MAGAZINE

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JOY AND PAIN AND EVOLUTION,

OH MY! by Traci Henderson Smith

Evolution: a theory of personal growth, adaptation, and expansion postulating that all we become has its roots in something we already were—a preexisting version of ourselves whose infinite variations and diverse brilliance could only reveal in time. I know that’s a long way to travel for the seed-to-sprout-to-plant-to-tree-to-life, home, and refuge process explanation. Still, it pales compared to the revelation I encountered when speaking with Kim Coles about what I mistakenly called her reinvention. With decades as an iconic presence under her belt, the actress, comedian, author, and game show host continues becoming. In a delightful chat with the ‘90s famed In Living Color cast member and Living Single adored Sinclair James, I experienced first-hand the meaning of evolving into a higher self. “It’s not so much reinvention as it is progression,” Coles shared in response to a question about the importance of evolving and reinventing yourself. “Thirty-seven years in show business, I think it’s more a progression rather than reinvention. At least, it should be a progression of who you are that takes place.” Having emerged in recent years as a speaker, teacher, coach, motivator, and two-time visionary collaborator guiding others into author entrepreneurship, Coles asserts that every past

version of herself is a part of a progression that embodies all of who she is now. “Wisdom should build,” she says. “Everything now is an outpouring of who I’ve always been—the experiences and wisdom. [At] sixty, I’m excited to have learned and gained from sixty years of living, sixty years of wisdom, of joy, of ups, downs, and sideways. And it was not that who I am was planned or mapped or that I announced (in her most royal voice) ‘and now, I shall teach!’” We laugh as she continues, “As much as it was embracing the natural order of what felt next— led to a space of sharing the wisdom gained. And while I found joy as a comedian and as an actress, and not that I won’t still do those things, my joy now is to help other people broadcast their brilliance, find, and use their gifts in the most powerful way.”

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Coles invites others into her Radiant Kimunity (emphasis on UNITY) to explore and embellish their greatness. She offers opportunities to collaborate, writing and speaking support, and chances to get educated and strengthened in finance, health, vitality, joy, confidence, and so much more. “This part of my journey is me giving all of myself to help others become all of themselves. I remember someone once telling me, “You can’t have it all.” You know that thinking—as an artist, or as someone with vision, or just having a lot on the inside that you want to get out; people will say you can’t have it all. And that’s what this friend said, “You can’t have it all. You have to choose.” And I said, “Watch me! We all have a lot of things in us. We are capable of so much more. We have to allow them to unfold beautifully. You know, our mothers and grandmothers used to think that way. Our grandmothers said, ‘Choose one,’ but we don't have to." Finding herself having to dig deeper into her bag of gifts as a matter of survival, Coles looks to bridge the gap between surviving and thriving for others. “I was in a crisis,” she states. “A crisis of finances, a crisis of faith. I entered into depression. Living Single was gone. After being on five seasons of one of the most popular television shows with people you love, and then that's gone, and not getting the same caliber of work you're used to; financially, I shopped through all the Living Single money. I sold my house. I shopped through all that money. I wasn't working. I was just in a place. Creditors were calling. I was tired of it. I was tired of pretending. I was tired of showing up on red carpets broke and broken. I was sick of pretending it wasn't all falling apart. You know, being in those positions, you don't want to admit to losing it all. That's when I had to reach into my other gifts. 'Lord, what else do I have that I can use?' I had to ask, 'Lord, what other part of me

can I use to get out of this?' I needed other outlets for my gifts. I started incorporating jokes and laughter into those calls with the creditors. First, you have to admit 'YES, THE Kim Coles.' Then they're like, "Girl, is this really you? What happened? I thought you were famous." So I started making jokes and making myself human. ‘Yeah, girl, it’s me.’ I began connecting on those calls and being real about my situation. Then the magic happened of others breaking down and being honest about their situations and sharing their stories, “Girl, I understand. I went through the same thing.” I realized people wanted to connect and share. I wasn’t alone, and others could relate to my story." Coles says she stopped pretending and allowed her other gifts to unfold naturally and beautifully, sharing her experiences with others and creating a tribe of women who, like her, had more to give but just needed help drawing it out. “And so now I do all of these things--speaking, teaching, coaching. I’ve been the visionary author of two bestselling anthologies, Open Your G.I.F.T.S.: 22 Lessons on Finding and Embracing Your Personal Power and Open Your G.I.F.T.S.: 42 Lessons of Finding and Embracing Your Blessings in Disguise." Coles’ anthologies are collections of stories that allow others an opportunity to co-author and turn authorship into a business. In these books, collaborators share and encourage resilience on the journey and the power to overcome obstacles to turn things around. “G.I.F.T.S. stands for Gratitude, Intention, Forgiveness, Triumph, and Self-Love,” says Coles. Gratitude was key when I was coming through my experiences. Everyone knows, when you are thankful for what you have, you make room for more. Having gratitude is what helped everything else to blossom, and also, being intentional and having forgiveness, including forgiving yourself. I am now working on a third edition of the Open

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Your G.I.F.T.S. anthology called, The Wisdom of G.I.F.T.S. under my own publishing company, Haute Coles Publishing. I love that name, Haute Coles. It's couture (in her fancy voice). I’ve always wanted a reason to use that name. I thought I’d go into fashion one day. Who knew it would be publishing.” Coles’ desire to use her experiences and wisdom to guide others into a higher form of themselves not only includes providing a platform for storytelling and inspiration but also includes investment in helping create vision and manifestation. Also powered by her Radiant Kimunity, her master class, “Manifest Me Momentum Booster,” offers a treasure map to the life you want to live. “I teach manifestation techniques and choosing what you want to see in the mirror. Knowing and choosing what you want is only one part. I work

with people who are brave enough to take the action steps. Intentional action is necessary. You have to step into being what you want and put the mastery of your life in your hands to then step into your authentic self. What actions are you willing to take? What you do today can put you one step closer to your goals if you're willing to learn the process, tools, and secrets and be willing to act on them." Much of Coles’ confidence in her ability to manifest what she wants in life comes from being spiritually grounded and true to herself. She says these two things also kept her sane and focused during the pandemic. She also credits her spiritual grounding and self-awareness with leading her to her ideal mate. “I divorced in early 2019. [The thing that] let me know I was on the right path spiritually was that later that year, I met my mate. He’s grounded,

"FROM THE TINIEST SPARK OF DESIRE TO THE BIGGEST DREAM, THE WAY TO MAKE IT MANIFEST ALREADY EXISTS." - KIM judge-free, and a spiritual guide. I am grateful to have figured out what I wanted in a mate, and I got it!” Coles is blissfully enjoying another chance at love with Dr. E. Jaye Johnson, entrepreneur, strategist, investor, trainer, and life and business coach. Together, they teach the Kimunity Mastermind, run Haute Coles Publishing, and plan to create courses and films. “I’ve found a partner in business and life,” exclaims Coles. The workaholic, unapologetically joyful, goofy, curious, spiritually connected, earthy-crunchy, sage-burning hippy, as she calls herself, says

creating an empire that supports others is what lies ahead for her. “A Kimpire! I know that sounds quirky. I like that. I think it’s cute--publishing, teaching, coaching, merchandise, books, films--creating an empire to remind others of their gifts and that like I was meant for more, even in my situation, so are they." I asked Coles for a final word to share with our readers. Here’s what she had to say: “Everything you want wants you back. From the tiniest spark of desirePhoto to theCred: biggest dream, the Blair Devereaux way to make it manifest already exists. Take the step.”

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DADDY ISSUES with Tess Alexandria

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’m not usually one who sets New Year’s goals. I prefer setting weekly and monthly goals. I do like, however, reflecting on the past year before entering into a new one. At the end of 2021, I found myself doing just that, reflecting on the year and the growth that took place. Speaking transparently, I entered 2021 with my mind on two things: completing my master’s program and becoming a healthier version of myself. I got to the point where I was ready to shed the craziness that was 2020, as well as any other hurt that was hindering my growth. I wholeheartedly committed to doing the necessary work to heal. I challenged myself to have difficult conversations with others and removed myself from unhealthy situations and environments. Simultaneously, I surrounded myself with healthy, healed, and whole people. I showed vulnerability in ways that I had been afraid to before. I sought wisdom and guidance from others instead of attempting to handle everything myself. I permitted myself to feel every emotion I was experiencing but made a conscious choice not to allow them to dictate the days ahead. Realistically speaking, no matter how hard you fight, heavy emotions have a way of lingering from day to day. I embraced my flaws and shortcomings and held myself accountable in areas where I was wrong. I made a concerted effort to speak words of affirmation instead of nitpicking every little thing I felt was wrong with me, something, at times, that's so easy to do. I was consistent in therapy, no matter the coin. I wrote in my journal as often as I deemed necessary. More importantly, I gave myself grace throughout the entire process. I also "kept it real" in my prayers and let God know that weeping was definitely enduring for more than a night. Other times, all I could do was lay down and rest my nerves.

As a result of my concentrated effort to evolve into a better me, I stepped into 2022 a stronger, healthier, more vibrant and alive, more confident version of myself. The steps I took are just as appealing as they sound. As I’ve shared in earlier editions, this process is anything but pretty. It is, however, a depiction of blossoming. At the risk of sounding cliché, it’s like a caterpillar turning into a butterfly or flowers blooming in spring after the rain. The transformation is uncomfortable and awkward. It can feel like a never-ending cycle that is producing zero results. But, if you push through despite how uncertain things may look, you will soon see a beautiful version of yourself on the other side. As you blossom, keep these things in mind: 1. Living your best life comes with both fears and tears. 2. There is such strength and power in believing you can rely on yourself and you are capable of resolving something on your own. There are moments along the journey where you must listen to yourself and trust your judgment. Other times, it's perfectly acceptable to have a solid support system in which to turn. 3. Blossoming is intentional. Each day you have to constantly work on yourself on purpose to really spring into the life God destined for you to have. 4. It is true, “Even if you are not ready for the day, it cannot always be night.” – Gwendolyn Brooks, poem, “Speech to the Young Woman”.

Thank you for joining me again for Daddy Issues. Why the name? I aim to reverse the feeling women get every time we hear that phrase. There is a stigma attached to it. It’s often used as a weapon, with the intent to make us feel like we are the problem. Dispelling the misnomer includes providing new information on something that was named before its true nature was known. I’ll attempt to do that in each Cheryl Magazine issue as I address behaviors and characteristics that developed from our father’s lack of skill and ability to bond with, encourage, teach, or support us. To all the young girls and grown women, it was never your fault. The issue was his, and because of your daddy’s issue, you found yourself improperly navigating relationships. Let’s talk about it. For the record, Daddy Issues is an opinion column. I’m not a clinical professional or expert on the subject; I’m just a girl who needed her daddy. If you’d like to connect, follow me on Instagram: @tessalexandria_ or Facebook: Tess Alexandria. If you have questions or a topic you’d like to discuss, email me at tess@cherylmagazine.com. P. 1 9 Cheryl MAGAZINE

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Happy Anniversary to Us! Cheryl Magazine celebrates one full year of lifting the voices of capable, daring, inspiring women who spark change on the local, national, and international levels. We want you to join us for a virtual celebration of powerful women in business, media, and community leadership. Virtual? You might be asking. Yes, but wait! Before you put that sassy sequin number or red carpet showstopper back in the closet, know this, SIS, WE’RE VIRTUAL, BUT WE’RE FABULOUS! It’s a cocktail party, awards celebration, and so much more, and we’re dressing the part. Come prepared to mix, mingle, network, shop, dance, and enjoy great performances and presentations in an exceptional virtual 3D experience as we salute those who made this successful year possible. So then, the question is the same as if the event were live. What, oh what should you wear? Here are some tips on how to prepare for a formal virtual event. Come on now; don’t act like you didn’t dress up for at least one of the VERSUZ virtual concerts. We know we did, so let’s have some fun! 1. Yep, you guessed it, HAVE FUN! Step into the evening prepared to have a great time. Your energy should be your number one wardrobe choice. Get motivated to show up as excited and as grand as you would in person. That level of energy brings even more excitement to the evening and lets the host and honorees know that you are delighted to be in the virtual building. 2. Make an impression. We will mix, mingle, and network. You may even get the chance to talk with a celebrity or two, or three! Dazzle and make your mark, even online. 3. What if you do too much? HA! No such thing. Fabulous is FABULOUS, darlings! For an in-person event, sure, you would whip out your best dress or formal jumpsuit. There would be sequins, and jewels, and bling, oh my! We say, do it. Do it all. You should still do that for the virtual event. Be as gorgeous as you

dare. It will make your host feel like their event is taken seriously, and it will allow you to get some wear out of your formal pieces and feel amazing in them. 4. Find great light! If your camera is on, don’t let all that fabulousness get hindered by bad lighting. Great lighting makes all the difference. There’s no better image or video than if you have the proper light pointed at yourself. Using the natural light setting on a ring light is quite complimentary, or finding the perfect spot in the room where, BAM, you’re all aglow, works as well. 5. Come to party! There will be dancing, a virtual bar, and so much more! But, while we want to make sure you’re looking and feeling wonderful, and you have your favorite cocktail or glass of champagne in hand, shoes are optional!

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JASMINE SANDERS A Rose Is Still a Rose by Traci Henderson Smith

emembering the sage motherly advice in the Aretha Franklin late nineties hit, the lyrics, “A rose is still a rose. Baby, girl, you’re still a flower,” rang true as I sat inspired by the resilience of the radiant Jasmine Sanders. An award-winning, top-ranked, nationally syndicated, multi-media personality, Jasmine Sanders is a refreshing ray of light that captivates millions weekly. The adored, spirited, and humorous co-host of The D. L. Hughley Show and D. L. Hughley UNCUT, Sanders serves up formidable wit and charm alongside King of Comedy comedian, actor, and two-time New York Times bestselling author, D. L. Hughley. Authentic, pure-hearted, and relatable in a world where humility pales in the limelight, Sanders shied away from the title “celebrity” right before she dove into the grit of how she blossomed despite the odds. “Before we get started, let me just say, I struggle with celebrity,” she confides. “I’m just a girl from the country who dared to dream. I believed the opposite of every statistic about me, as every human being should. We should all think positively about ourselves and believe we can do and be the opposite of anything negative said about us. So I believed and continue to believe differently from what the statistics say. I was given the daunting task of being born in a universe where every boogieman will fight. If you give in, you lose. I just chose not to give in. I choose every day not to give in. I’m my own hero who gets up every day and fights. Celebrity cheers are great, but when there was no one there to cheer, I fought. If no one ever cheers, I know I can lay my head down every night and say I fought the good fight.” Having admired and been acquainted with Sanders (Jazz or Jazzy to those closest to her) for several years, it was the same down-to-earth sincerity I’d seen so many times before. This time, I prepared for a deeper look into what fuels her drive.

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“I know there are people who show up every day for the battle,” she continued. “It is not that I do what others can’t; I just know I’m good at what I do. I fight for it. I fought for where I am. You keep fighting and showing up for yourself. Then one day, you end up here. I don’t think of it as me being a celebrity. I think more about challenging myself, fighting my own demons, and winning every day. To other women who are doing the same, I just encourage them. It’s not about competition. It’s you against you! Every day, that’s who I battle. The demons who are me! At the end of the day, you can beat other people, but can you beat YOU? Too often, we talk ourselves out of who we are and what we can become. We are great, we all are; you talk yourself out of your greatness. In most instances, you are your greatest adversary. I choose not to do that to myself. I decided a long time ago not to be that, and every day I wake up and fight.” Smart, determined, self-assured, and with more than twenty years in the business, fought, she has. From special correspondent on HLN’s “The Daily Share,” former co-host of BET/Centric TV’s lifestyle show, “Culture List,” and featured music expert and pop-culture pundit for Billboard Magazine, to correspondent and co-host for WTFV/CBS News Channel 5 and WTVC/ABC News Channel 9, Sanders has a well-decorated past as a seasoned media professional. She was a well-known personality at New York’s WWFS 102.7 and a top-rated midday host at the legendary WBLS. She was also the cohost of two nationally syndicated programs: “Skip Murphy in The Afternoon” and “The Afternoon Jam Session” with Brian McKnight. Her storied career has included multiple national media features, mentions, and high-profile host appearances. Consummate in her field, Sanders’ awards and recognitions include Girls Incorporated Most Influential Women, Top Personality in the Business by The National Association of Black Female Executives in Music & Entertainment (NABFEME), Black Women in Media (BWIM) Awards Honoree, and several Black Women in Radio (BWIR) acknowledgments including being

a part of the nation’s first Black Women In Radio Historic Collection in the Library of Congress presented by BWIR, The Radio Preservation Task Force, and the Atlanta University Center’s Robert Woodruff Library. Now, more invincible than ever professionally and personally, wiser, and on a fixed upward trajectory, Sanders is proud of the woman she is today. She went through quite an ordeal to become her. “I was placed into foster care. I was in the foster care system until I was about five, and I went through maybe about four foster families. That can affect a person in many ways—abandonment issues. I mean, think about it. When you think about the trauma, at least for me, at birth is when I was given away. So when you think about that, a child normally is born and placed on the mother’s chest to bond, right? When you are adopted, you don’t do that. You’re taken away, cleaned up, and set aside to see if somebody is going to adopt you. I’ve had difficulty getting close to people—always waiting for the other shoe to drop, expecting they’ll eventually leave. In therapy, I realized it goes back to the many foster families. I’ve had issues of not connecting, choosing wrong in relationships, [and] trust issues. But to whom much is given, much is required, right? I pressed through, and I fight every day for where I am. My situations and experiences made me stronger. I’ve been blessed. Somehow, I don’t know. It’s all been a blessing in disguise. That’s why I’ve tried to pour into others what I didn’t get. It has brought me so much joy to work with young girls and women who have lost hope or feel like their lives are going nowhere because of their situation.” I shared with Sanders that the theme for this spring issue is bloom where you’re planted; blossom on purpose. “How does the phrase resonate with you? What do those words mean to you?” I asked. “When I think of you, your story, and look at your success,” I told her. “It feels to me that’s what you did—personally and professionally. What would you say?”

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Sometimes, what didn’t work out for you, really worked out for you. “Ha!” She exclaimed. “That’s the story of my life! If my life were a movie, Bloom Where You’re Planted would be the title; starting with my birth. I was planted in the country. I was born in Southern Tennessee. After being in foster care, I was adopted and grew up on a working farm in a small country town while my biological family actually lived in New York. Imagine my surprise when I found that out. But despite my beginnings, I was able to blossom like a flower from the Mediterranean! Planted in a place where it’s impossible to grow; fighting against the odds. Like Aretha said, still a rose. I was a rose in concrete. I’ve gone through sexual abuse, domestic abuse, trauma, teen pregnancy at fifteen, suicide attempts, believing I was kidnapped as a child and all the trauma that comes with that. Yet, I still managed to thrive. All I went through ended up being the greatest fertilizer for growth. At times I felt like, and it would be easy to say, WHY am I under this tree where there is no sun? No light? But in those times, I learned how to be humble and grounded. I got a real understanding of what’s important. And I did thrive. I figured it out, and I kept going. And I wouldn’t take nothing for my journey. I understand better than I did twenty years ago.” Sanders’ transition from foster care, to adoption, to farm life, to media maven, is an intriguing one. “I used to listen to the radio all the time as a young girl, fascinated by the people speaking,” she said. “I didn't know you could make money doing that,” she laughs. “I used to study and mimic them. I would memorize the things the radio personalities said and the songs they played. Growing up, I really didn’t have a mentor. So, I looked to people I saw

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on TV or heard on the radio. No one I knew of in my hometown aspired to be a broadcaster, so I studied radio and TV personalities like Barbara Walters and Oprah Winfrey. I mimicked them. I figured if I just did what they did, I would be successful. When I went off to college, I just knew I was going to be the next Barbara Walters or some great news anchor. I interned at a television station and initially didn’t think TV was for me. I remember my first radio job was in Nashville, Tennessee. After graduation, I picked the number one radio station in the city, the same radio station where Oprah Winfrey got her start. I drove there every day, about forty minutes each way (I cheated a vending machine for gas money). I sat in the lobby every day, hoping to meet the program director. I sat for hours with no luck every day. I made friends with the receptionist, and a few other folks started recognizing me. People would ask why I was there. I was told they weren’t hiring, but I didn’t give up. I kept showing up each day. Everyone kept telling me how crazy I was, but I didn’t allow that to hinder me or stop me from reaching my goal. It took almost two weeks, but I finally got an interview. I was asked why I kept showing up. I said, 'I want a job.' The program director asked if I had an aircheck. I didn’t even know what that was,” Sanders laughs. "I asked, what’s that?" He said, “Come with me. I want to hear you.” "All those times I listened to the radio as a kid and mimicked those personalities came in handy. I wrote down everything they did and memorized it, and apparently, it was for that moment. I had a flashback of all those times, opened my mouth, and everything I remembered came out, and I got the job.”

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anders broke heavily into her dream career, high on the grind, defying odds, slaying goals working in radio, and trusting her love for television sometimes simultaneously. Still, there was always that one thing that was missing—the one thing that made it all feel like not quite enough. “I was bad as a kid,” she reflects. “I was a mess. I had a great adoptive family, and I’m sure my foster families were great. I mean, I guess someone took care of me. But that feeling of not being able to connect, and then I found out by accident that I was adopted. My brother found a journal, and I read my mom talking about her two adopted kids. I’m like, two adopted kids, who’s she talking about? That’s why I am an advocate for telling adopted kids the truth. There I was at eleven, discovering this information—adopted kids, what adopted kids? Without the truth, you know, it’s human nature to fill in the blanks. When there’s a lack of truth, you tend to romanticize and create stories. Hell, I thought I was kidnapped! I thought that for a long time. I sincerely thought I was stolen. So, I acted out. I needed someone to see me. I needed my family to find me. Then finally learning the truth, that my bio family lived in New York, I romanticized that as a kid. I’m in this small country town, and my “real” family was in New York! Shoot, I was around here thinking my mother was Mini Riperton!” We both laughed. “But you know that’s the kind of stuff kids do—anyone really. We fill in the blanks. That’s why you have to tell kids the truth. It’s traumatizing not knowing the truth. My adoptive family didn’t handle that right; they didn’t handle that right at all. So, there was this longing to know my biological family. While it wouldn’t happen for many years, that was something I needed. I thought I needed it. I had to find them. I needed to seek them out—so I could find out what was wrong with me; why I was given away. I was just a baby. Like how could you leave me in the world like that and go on, like, I never existed? Though I’d written letters—lots of letters, it was almost impossible to locate them. There were laws that protected the identity of people who gave their children up for adoption. It was nobody but God; the universe was on my side. I squeezed through the crack. The law was relaxed, giving children given up the right to find their biological family. Shortly after, a judge reversed the decision, and then those records were sealed again. I was in a group of a handful of cases that slipped through. I remember deciding I would go to New York to meet them. I was worried they weren’t going to show up to meet me. I walked right past them in the airport. I’m looking for my family, couldn’t find them, and remember thinking, man, they didn’t come, they didn’t want to meet me, only to discover that all those Native American people that I walked right past were my family. A trip, right? My biological family is [American] Indian, and I had no clue!” P. 3 0

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I am the me I choose to be. – Sidney Poitier JASMINE SANDERS

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Sanders left Tennessee and moved to New York to fill a void and get to know her biological family. “I gave up everything I worked so hard for in Tennessee and moved to New York. Meeting my bio family wasn’t all I hoped it would be, but I count it all joy. I’m glad I met my biological mother later. At thirty, I better understood her decision far more than I did when I was younger. It took me living some, getting some life experiences under my belt to better understand. She wasn’t prepared to be a mother back then, and that’s okay. She did what was best for her at the time, you know? It ended up being a blessing. If things didn’t go the way they did, I don’t know that I’d be who I am— the strength, the fight in me, the drive, and determination. It’s all a blessing.” That same drive and determination made Sanders a highly sought-after mainstay in the business. More than anything, confidence in herself, despite her journey, has consistently aided to catapult her to each new level. In a later conversation, she referred to herself as a true outlier, different, but an authentic phoenix— someone who rose from ashes, who rose from nothing to win. “I worked many places. I was working in New York and got a message on Facebook one day of all places. Who contacts you on social media about a real job? The message said they were getting ready to do a show with D. L. Hughley and that my name kept coming up as the ideal cohost and asked if I’d be interested. I didn’t believe it, so I kept ignoring them. After about two weeks, they name-dropped. I called the friend whose name they mentioned and asked if they knew the person. They were like take the call—like, right now! So it turns out it was legit. I flew to L.A. to meet D. L. It was the night of the Trayvon Martin verdict. I’m in a car on my way to meet D. L. for dinner, I get the verdict, and I’m pissed. I’m sad. I have all these emotions, and I’m anxious about the meeting. I get to the restaurant; D. L. is late, which pisses me off even more. After a while, I started drinking champagne

and ordered some dessert. D. L. finally gets there, and we exchanged niceties. I tease him a little bit for being late. We start a conversation, and he’s like, ‘Listen, here’s the truth. You’re not the person that I really wanted. I wanted someone else.’ First of all, I’m nobody’s second choice. I didn’t skip a beat, and I said with the utmost confidence, ‘Go after that person then. Don’t waste time with me because I don’t want to be in a situation where I’m not really wanted. Fight for the person you want and go with your first choice.’ We ended up meeting for like two hours. We started talking about the whole thing with Trayvon Martin, and there was this like-mindedness. So as we wrap up and are about to leave, he says, ‘You know what, I made a mistake. I think you’re the one.’ He was like, ‘You’re going to take me places.’ I said, ‘No sir. You can’t say that.’ I said, ‘You told me how you felt from the beginning. I remember that.’ I said, ‘You do not have to make me feel good about anything. I’m okay with that. Go for the person that you want. I’m going to be fine.’ The thing is, I was like, I’ve been in this business long enough, I know how it goes, and he didn’t need to try to not hurt my feelings. I got in the car. I went back to the airport and was perfectly fine. A week later, I got a call to meet him for breakfast in Dallas. I got there, and his whole team was there. I had gotten the job. I accepted under the condition that I could be myself.” Sanders’ warm-heartedness and warm spirit come with unapologetic confidence and never-say-die energy. The brave, bold powerhouse exudes, ‘like me or not, I’m going to win!’ Sanders proves time and again, she’s going to win, and win her way. It’s the same limitless attitude that she’s had the experience of imparting into other adoptees. She’s a proud advocate and spokesperson on a mission debunking the myths and dispelling the misconceptions about being adopted. “There was a time when I was ashamed and never talked about it. But then you realize you’re not on an island, and it becomes necessary to speak out about it.

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doptees have NOTHING to be ashamed of, and that’s what we think, that we should be ashamed because we were given up. NO! We didn’t do anything. We have no reason to be ashamed. It’s okay that you were adopted. Like, in my situation, sometimes it’s for the best to give someone a chance that’s ready to be a parent, who will love you. There’s absolutely nothing to be ashamed of; it’s okay. It doesn’t mean you’re unlovable. I’ve worked foster care initiatives and done work with adoption awareness because of my background. I think about where I could be, had my adopted family not adopted me out of foster care. Maybe I wouldn’t be doing any of this. I’ve talked to young girls, and, you know, when you’re in foster care or when you’ve had my background, it’s hard to open up, hard to trust or connect. And I’ve talked to young girls who’ve looked at me like I can’t relate. They’ve thought I was privileged and couldn’t understand until I let them know, ‘I’m just like you. We’re alike. I have the same story as you. Been through the same things and maybe more. I’m from the country and come from an impossible situation.’ The thing is, just because you’re adopted or grew up in foster care or have had bad life experiences doesn’t mean it’s your fault, that you should be ashamed, or that you can’t make something of your life. If you’re adopted, you just have to own it. You can’t overcome the stigma if you don’t face it. That’s why I don’t like the shroud of secrecy. Being adopted has such a negative stigma, and my thing is it doesn’t have to. It shouldn’t. I’m adopted, and I’m winning. And if you’re adopted, you can win too.” Jasmine Sanders, media maven, advocate, spokesperson, mentor—bright, beautiful, and boundless! #AdoptedAndWinning Sanders’ one mission in life, to make her family and Tennessee proud, has been an incredible success. While she admits it’s been a long hard road, the journey is far from over. She’s still grinding, growing, and glowing, and she’s still creating. In addition to her goal of writing books, screenplays, and movies, as a golfer, she looks to start a golf line for women. “There needs to be golfing apparel for those who might be a little thick, you know,” she laughs. “They don’t make golf clothing for women like me.” Follow her on Instagram @iamjasminesanders to join her for Friday On The Rocks with special guests. Catch her podcast Don’t Tell Me To Shut Up! available on iTunes, Spotify, and Google Podcasts. It’s a very in-your-face commentary with freedom from constraints. “When you’re under someone else’s shadow, you can’t always speak your mind,” she says.”’Here, I’m liberated! Free to speak my mind without opinions or having to stay within the lines. It’s carefree and funny, but I still educate, uplift, and most of all, entertain.”

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Imagining Black Freedom

by Courtney N. Williamson

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Long before I turned twenty, I contemplated what it means to be a woman, more specifically, a Black woman in this world.. I know I’m not alone in my thinking, and I’m still figuring this out, but do any of us really know what it means?

his past semester I took a Black Freedom Movement course and I learned about the various struggles Black people faced over time to achieve freedom. At the end of the semester, my professor asked the class to write a paper using the prompt: “imagine Black freedom.” I ran with the assignment. In my paper, I wrote: For me, as a Black woman, when I imagine Black freedom, I imagine a world where I do not have to be the strongest person in the room. A world where I don’t feel like it is my responsibility to carry the weight of every issue or like I must simultaneously fulfill all the roles of therapist, leader, friend, support system, defender, and provider. Where my words and leadership are not interpreted, as an aggressive Black woman, and I don’t have to prepare to maintain a facade to gain a seat at the table. To me, Black freedom is the allowance to be in a space and be one hundred percent who I am and who I want to be, not who I have to be, because the world has left such little room for Black women to express themselves without judgment or holding us to a different standard. In 2022, I want to champion making my imagination of Black freedom a reality for me. Yes, limitations and boundaries exist in this society, but why do I have to let them hold me back? I want a year of shattering expectations, shattering stereotypes, shattering conceptions, and breaking down every barrier I once thought could and would stop me from achieving what I want in life.

My parents always instilled in me there is nothing I cannot do if I set my mind to it. I have always believed this, but as you grow up, the realities of finances, connections, and current ability begin to make themselves more known, which opens the door for a little bit of doubt to creep in. I found myself wondering if some of my dreams were attainable or if they were too far-fetched from the beginning. WRONG MINDSET. There is nothing that I cannot do, and therefore there is also nothing you cannot do. We are currently in a generation where people are getting rich and making more than livable incomes by posting videos of them dancing while billionaires are in races to commercialize space travel. If that does not say that whatever you are dreaming is possible, then I do not know what will. One of my favorite things I hear my mom say to other people is, “Every tool you have ever needed to make your possibilities possible is already inside of you.” I have never forgotten that, and I think about it often when the doubts, which I THINK represent reality, start to creep in. The truth is, I am more than capable of accomplishing whatever I seek. So, in 2022, I will do everything within my power to make the life I want to live possible because why not? As a Black woman, I deserve not only that but so much more. I encourage Black women to consider your definition of Black freedom. Whether that definition of Black freedom is travel, an occupation, a small business, or simply relaxing and worrying about nothing, you deserve that.

Courtney N. Williamson, B. A. Health and Society, The University of Texas at Austin College of Liberal Arts, Honors is co-author of the Amazon best-selling books, The Success Factor and Soulful Prayers. Studious, adventurous, and fun-loving, Courtney says she’s just trying to have a good time on the planet. Connect with her on IG @courtneywillliamson, or email cwilliamson1360@gmail.com.

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THE GENTLEMAN’S

WHAT WOMEN VOICE SHOULD KNOW

THE SECRET TO DATING AN ENTREPRENEUR by Corey Jackson

Corey Jackson is a former NFL

athlete for the Cleveland Browns and Denver Broncos. He has a wife and four kids and is the founder and CEO of Qwerkz, Inc, a technology recruiting firm that helps companies improve their communication when finding and hiring diverse talent.

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As a former pro athlete, I always had limited time because my schedule was very detailed and precise. Now, since I’m no longer in the NFL, very little has changed. Running a private staffing technology company is very demanding and every day presents new challenges. I’m certainly no expert on dating, but now that I’m married with four little ones, my perspective has matured. If you’re dating or considering dating an entrepreneur, the following are a few things you should be aware of:

1 He will value his time more than anything. A true entrepreneur will invest lots of time and energy into his business. If you’re too clingy and require lots of attention, this will certainly cause him to pull away. He needs someone who understands his business is his baby, and he can’t leave his baby alone for very long.

His mental space is sacred. If he’s an entrepreneur, he’s likely a great thinker. He will constantly be thinking and producing ideas. He will share his thoughts and ideas at the oddest times. It could be three o’clock in the morning, or it could be during your birthday trip. Embrace it and know he’s not being selfish. He really can’t help it! His mind is always turning.

He needs to be mentally stimulated. He enjoys it when you ask questions about his work and ideas. However, you don’t have to fake it. Look to find something interesting about what he does and ask him to share his vision. You will understand him better and get a glimpse of the type of future that’s in store.

Share your ideas for your career or business. Entrepreneurs love hearing the ideas and visions of other ambitious people. It doesn’t mean you have to be an entrepreneur. As long as you’re passionate about something, he will be interested. Entrepreneurs need to have time to be alone with their thoughts. Sometimes, he will just want to be still and quiet. He’s not upset with you or being “a way” towards you. It is just how he regroups and gets back in focus. If he’s interrupted or bombarded with a bunch of questions during his quiet time, he may become agitated. If he appears to be quiet and to himself, it’s okay to ask him if he’s okay. If he says yes, believe him and let it go.

6 Most entrepreneurs have a daily routine. Sticking to a regimen happens more by default than anything else. Wanting consistency in his life has more to do with not wanting to waste time or energy. The more organized things are, the better. You may notice that he often does things the same way. It is just how his mind works. He doesn’t want to waste his mental space thinking about unimportant things, and his routine safeguards against that.

I know dating an entrepreneur may seem somewhat complicated, but once you understand their flow, you’ll be okay. If your man or someone you’re looking to get serious with has a big vision and a great work ethic, he will not always be readily available, and you will need to be okay with that. It’s not all work, though. Entrepreneurs desire to take great care of their significant others and their families. He will be excited to create family goals and design a beautiful future with you. There will also be times when he will be very spontaneous and surprise you when you least expect it. Just remember this, entrepreneurship can be very challenging at times. He will look to you to be his peace. This is just my two cents' worth. I hope it’s helpful! P. 3 9

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REDEFINING LOVE

Love With an Objective

The Married Perspective by Nina Wooten

e have all heard of it, but many have not experienced the fullness of that desirable and sometimes elusive thing called love. Love is a precious gift and is also considered a catalyst to power. It is not for the selfish or fleeting. Love puts one in the position to do enormous damage or extend great healing. Each love experience is unique and deeply personal and, as such, needs some redefining to reflect individual nature.

Love as a Choice

Love as an Evolution

If Netflix’s Matchmaker has taught us anything, it is that love has an innate ability to grow, so plant it where you want. Choice allows the opportunity to be selective with affection and efforts and is all about possibilities before making an emotional connection. It is why apps like Tinder have gained popularity outside of the obvious. Something is empowering about the choice to swipe right and swipe left. When love is a choice, it is conscious, on purpose, and presents its intentions upfront so that everyone is on the same page.

“You’ve changed” doesn’t have to be a setup for a breakup. Evolution permits space for change and can be at the heart of every relationship. Imagine meeting and falling for the same person at different points in life based on who they are at that moment. Broke James will become wealthy James in five years, and timid Theresa can become bold Theresa overnight. Evolution keeps relationships fresh and exciting. It allows the individual and the unit to become stronger over time. It pledges, “I choose you, and I’ll continue choosing you over and over again.”

Love as a Partnership

Love doesn’t have to be as elusive as it appears. It can continue as the traditional intense feeling of deep affection, or it can redefine itself as a choice, partnership, evolution, or any other alternative. Redefine it in a meaningful way that suits you and your partner’s interests, purpose, or lifestyle. After all, love is not one size fits all and can be experienced in numerous shapes and forms. Go ahead. Explore. Redefine love.

Ne-Yo’s “I’m a movement by myself, but I’m a force when we’re together” lyric is a bop and a mantra. In that same vein, a partnership is the promise of an alliance to combine interests to gain an advantage, to conquer together, and equally benefit. These days, it is called relationship goals. It only takes a few seconds of Instagram scrolling to see various forms of relational partnerships building great ideas, visions, companies, product lines, etc. It is no accident. Partnerships are mutually beneficial and can be a huge asset in life if done right. It’s the confidence and security for me. P. 4 0

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REDEFINING LOVE

Love on the dating scene

The Single Perspective by Nikki Wright

ating can become exhausting, disappointments can mount, and the desire to give up altogether can become increasingly attractive. Why continue placing precious coins in slot machines that never pay out? There are times when we should take a much-needed break from it all and dedicate ourselves to personal reflection and a plan for how we’ll move forward in our journey.

Love as a Journey

Love as an Experience

Who doesn’t love an adventure? With our freshly charted new paths towards love, we can begin to redefine our past dating experiences. None of us set out for a bad-dating encounter. However, many of us experience them due to not having overcome the disappointment of the last experience before attempting a meaningful connection with someone new. This consideration can humbly enable us to give those we date and ourselves grace. Grace allows both parties the space to get it wrong sometimes, say the wrong things, or simply be imperfect. Grace can lift a huge weight off our shoulders and the dating experience itself, permitting us to enjoy the journey.

The journey towards love is not onedimensional, it’s not one way, and it’s not perfect. But it is worth the energy to discover the humanity of the person sitting across from us at dinner. Rediscover that love can be found where you least expect it, like in the kindness of someone’s effort to listen or understand, and in giving each person the benefit of the doubt. Love is worth the sometimes-difficult processes of redefinition and reinvention.

Love as a Moment A newfound outlook can reshape love’s possibilities moment by moment. Instead of looking for Mr. Perfect, maybe focus on the experience of it all. See the intangible beauty of the moments that make you both human. It’s the unexpected eruption of laughter you both have when it’s raining and he trips while trying to keep the umbrella over your head. It’s sending him a GIF of a pug in a robe tucked in for bed when he requests a late-night picture of you falling asleep. It’s learning to be carefree until we meet the person we believe could be worth the lifelong effort.

Nina Wooten and Nikki Wright are bloggers, servant-leaders, career professionals, mentors, and they both serve their communities. Nina is passionate about seeing women and children thrive, and encourages well-rounded living and a life fully enjoyed. Nikki, a philanthropist, avid traveler, and lover of the arts, is passionate about helping teens, women, and singles. Co-creators and co-writers of Wooten & Wright, a lifestyle blog, connect with them at wootenandwright.com, wootenandwright@gmail.com, or on Instagram @ wooten_and_wright.

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the cost of motherhood by Maria D. Flowers, MHA

Maria has worked in the healthcare industry for more than twenty years in varying roles across the care continuum. She owns a boutique consulting firm where she speaks and trains national and international healthcare organizations on the impact of racism on disparate healthcare outcomes. Maria is the CEO of a nonprofit organization, Safer Healthcare for All, dedicated to advocating for patients and healthcare workers who experience discrimination in healthcare settings. She is currently completing her Doctorate in Education at the University of Southern California.

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n April, the United States observes National Minority Health Month as an opportunity to promote equitable healthcare. One week within the month is designated as Black Maternal Health Week. At that time, organizations across the nation collaborate to bring awareness to maternal mortality concerns among African American women. According to recent data from the Centers for Disease Control, Black women are two to three times more likely to die from maternal complications. Nearly twothirds of these deaths are deemed preventable, with causes stemming from implicit biases and lack of quality care. A year before becoming pregnant, I was diagnosed with multiple ovarian cysts and feared I would never have the opportunity to have a child. I was high-risk and placed on bed rest for the last two months of my pregnancy. My legs had swollen, making it difficult to distinguish my ankles. I also experienced severe fainting spells accompanied by nausea. My provider dismissed my concerns, stating I should not be alarmed. We created a birthing plan and explicitly spelled out all our requests with my practitioner and the hospital. I went into labor two weeks before my due date. As luck would have it, it was a holiday, and my obstetrician was out on vacation. As the time progressed towards delivery, all the requests I carefully selected beforehand went out the window. After ten hours of labor, they induced me against my will with several doses of Pitocin. A few hours later, I gave birth to my son. Shortly after, he was whisked away to the NICU with breathing complications. He stabilized three days later, and we were allowed to go home. A few weeks after delivery, the lingering symptoms of my pregnancy complications began to subside, and my baby and I were happy and healthy. Thankfully, our outcome was positive. However, I didn’t know how risky my situation had been. The Hear Her Concerns™ Campaign, from the Centers for Disease Control, provides a list of signs and symptoms pregnant women should look for:

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Dizziness or fainting Fever of 104° or higher Changes in your vision Extreme swelling of hands or face Thoughts about harming self or baby Trouble breathing Chest pain or fast-beating heart Severe nausea and throwing up Persistent severe belly pain Baby movement stopping or slowing during pregnancy · Vaginal bleeding or fluid leaking during pregnancy · Severe swelling, redness, or pain of leg or arm · Overwhelming tiredness If you, or anyone you know, experiences any of these symptoms during pregnancy and up to a year after delivery, seek medical care immediately. They could be life-threatening to mother and child. Speak up for yourself in the healthcare setting if you feel uncomfortable with something your provider is doing. You have the right to request another provider or have someone advocate on your behalf. Some pregnancy-related conditions are unavoidable. Go to your pregnancy and post-partum appointments regularly for appropriate and timely treatment. As patients, we often do not know what to do or ask, especially when our focus is giving birth. As women, we must listen to our bodies and our intuitions. When it comes to maternal health, speak up if you have any concerns about anything you feel. What you may deem to be inconsequential or just part of the process could turn out to be a serious complication. I thank God every day that my personal pregnancy experience did not result in tragedy. We honor the memory of those whose stories did not end as well, as we recognize Black Maternal Health Week and Mothers’ Day. *Hear Her™ is a trademark of the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services and is a campaign supported through a partnership with the Center for Disease Control Foundation and funding from Merck through its Merck for Mothers Program.

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the best seat in the house My Journey Through Motherhood by Nathalie Hawkins My Parenting Confession – I am divinely and uniquely equipped to recognize and meet the needs of my children. I’ve learned over the years that you cannot control everything that happens to your children or where life is going to take them, but there is a faithful and all-knowing God who knew them and loved them well before you did, and He can direct you daily. Embrace your God-given ability to guide your children into proper insight and into building their best boss life. We all have it in us. We just have to tap in. Parenting is using your superpowers to help your children identify theirs. After homeschooling my children for seven years and talking the head off of any parent who even slightly hinted at any level of curiosity about our experiences, I decided to put pen to paper to chronicle the thrills, chills, and spills of homeschooling my two sweet brown girls. It has been a joy, and I am so grateful to see life through their eyes each day. They are full of wonder, and the truth is, sometimes I am not sure who is learning from whom. There are times that I am uncertain. Am I doing enough? I am never unsure whether what I do for them about their learning, growth, and development is right, but am I doing it right? That is sometimes the question. Even with the best intentions, there is that occasional concern. The objective, however, of our family dynamic and choice in the way my husband and I rear our children is

always to make each member look inward and assess our family’s values, talents, and priorities. Then come those moments in a quiet house, when the family gathers together, maybe around the piano, or when my oldest is sharing her highs and lows of the day, or my little one is telling her newest “favorite” joke--different from yesterday’s favorite of course--that the feeling washes over us, that the way we love and teach is all coming together. Every day my girls add to the list of things I love about them and how I marvel at their existence. Do you know what I would not trade for the world? I’ll tell you.

While the oldest blushes and whispers her questions, “When I get older, can we still cuddle?” I wonder at their wonder and grow younger. Sometimes, I miss it. I try to be “productive” by letting them sit alone while I get ahead with my day. But when I fight for a spot at the table to view life through them with new eyes or when I step up to the podium to give stumbling half-answers, I find it is always worth my time. So I wouldn’t trade it. Neither for fortune nor fame, I have figured out the code to the game. This life has nothing greater to add than conversations at the table with my babies.

- Table time with my children. - Our sit down breakfasts, sharing over a bowl of hot oatmeal, staring into their puffy (often crusty) morning eyes. - Reading with them. - Recounting dreams and forecasting our today. - The seemingly endless potential for tangents and rabbit trails in our conversation. - When I edge out the stuffie— “Mommy, I love you because you are snuggly like my stuffie, except you can cook and drive. That makes you better.” - Feeling like the press secretary for life as the littlest inquirer asks, “Mommy, does God have a body?” “Mommy, why did your daddy die?”

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FOXXY WIZDOM

with Charmaine Roots Castillo

From Tears to Flower Doodles Contributing Editor Charmaine Roots Castillo is a model, freelance editor, best-selling author, and creative writer who promotes hope, encouragement, and brighter perspectives. Connect with her on IG: @56silverfoxx or connect at CharmaineCastillo.com.

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s I sit humbly waiting on my thoughts for this edition of Foxxy Wizdom to gather, just one day before the submission deadline; the pressure manifests as frustration and feelings of worthlessness. "I've got nothing," I hear myself say. It's what I had been hearing in my head for the past three weeks, but this time, I said it aloud. It's 3 a.m. I'm quietly awaiting lady inspiration when I hear those words again. "I've got nothing." My eyes burn, and a tear releases, landing on my empty legal pad--yes, I love writing on legal pads--the yellow ones. I immediately draw a circle around the teardrop and use it as the backdrop of a flower doodle. I look at my sketch, smile, and reflect on how I just created a flower from a teardrop. Finding the brighter perspective has always been my uncanny ability and something I desire to impart to the readers of Cheryl Magazine every issue to encourage and foster hope. But a hectic schedule, looming deadlines, and feeling overwhelmed had me lethargic and feeling like I was in a slump without a written plan on how I intended to meet my goal. All of this stifled my creativity. No written plan of action is the equivalent of no action. The countless tasks awaiting me felt like visions of sugarplums dancing in my head. I needed to capture the thoughts and write them down. I could not find the energy to do anything except indulge in my guilty pleasure, laughing out loud as I binge-watched the comedic clips of Katt Williams. It is good to laugh. At that moment, though, I was laughing away the pain of procrastination. It was a temporary fix, and I knew I had to do better. I had a deadline and needed to write something. I pick up my pen and faintly hear, "I've got nothing." I then heard an even louder thought that sounded a lot like Katt Williams! In his voice, I heard, "No wonder you ain't got nothin', cuz that's what you been sayin' for the last three weeks. Do you really expect somethin' to all of a sudden manifest when you keep sayin' you ain't got nothing? What happened to positive affirmations?" Lord, have mercy! A real-time epiphany with the voice of Katt Williams? I had to pick myself

up and allow my actions to align with my goals. An affirmative pep talk of positive affirmations was in order. In this case: I will stop procrastinating, I am a good steward of my time, I will write down my goals and give them a completion date, I will deliver what I promised, I will check out Katt Williams when my work is done! What is the lesson here? Quietly listening to the voice of inadequacy is not fruitful. Giving in to those feelings is harmful. Let me ask you, what have you been saying to yourself? Is it true? Do you quietly listen to the voice of your feelings in moments when you are not at your best? Do you give in to the negativity and voice words that sabotage your creativity? We must speak positivity and life of abilities and ourselves. Say to ourselves what we know we are, not what we feel we are in a singular low moment. Say what we can do, not talk ourselves out of our abilities, especially concerning something we know we are fully capable of on any other day. Moving forward, I will be intentional about which thoughts I will feed because I can't afford to speak negative things out loud. It can be costly. I value the gift entrusted to me, and I present it with the purest heart. I am well able to master every task given to me. I celebrate myself and my abilities with thanksgiving and humbleness, knowing that wisdom comes on the wings of humility. Now that’s some Foxxy Wizdom!

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FOCUS ON MENTAL HEALTH with Kerry-Ann Zamore

UNPACKING TRAUMA W

e never know how or when it will hit, but everyone has experienced trauma—the emotional response to a terrible ordeal or event followed by shock and denial. If left unchecked, unresolved trauma becomes debilitating. Long-term reactions include unpredictable emotions, flashbacks, strained relationships, and even physical symptoms like headaches or nausea. Trauma can also include exhaustion, confusion, sadness, anxiety, agitation, numbness, disassociation, hyperarousal, and emotional blunting. Many have not had the opportunity to process the trauma from the stressful changes and unpredictability brought on by COVID-19 and the social, racial, and political unrest of recent years. Some of us paused in shock over the events for a day or two and then continued life. Conversely, those underlying feelings never really went away but manifested in other areas of our lives. As a result, though we may not realize it, we may be walking around in a state of overwhelm. So, how do we know if we are affected by unresolved trauma? Have you been feeling “off” lately? For example, you aren’t feeling like yourself, but you’re not exactly sure what’s wrong. Do you find yourself irritable, anxious, or on high alert most of the time? When interacting with others, do you find yourself disconnected or reacting in anger but unsure why? These feelings may be in response to the unpredictable times we’re living in, but could there be more going on? You may be living with unresolved trauma. How to unpack it? First, identify it. To begin the process of unpacking, admit that you have been traumatized, trace the

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trauma back to the event that affected you, and acknowledge the areas affected. Second, confront it. Developing a plan is key! Here are a few examples of how: 1.

Meditation and mindfulness. Being able to quiet your mind and let thoughts come and go without judgment can reduce feelings of stress and anxiety. Likewise, both can help with emotional regulation.

2. Exercise. There are many health benefits of exercise. Reducing symptoms of stress and trauma is one of them. 3.

Journal. Writing your emotions and thoughts down can be therapeutic. Likewise, it can help you release built-up energy. Furthermore, journaling helps keep track of your symptoms and helps to identify triggers or patterns.

4. Talk Therapy. Many people have found several benefits to talking about your experience rather than shutting down. Whether a trusted friend or a seasoned professional, talking through traumatic experiences is necessary to the healing process.

Kerry-Ann Zamore, LCSW, MSeD, LPC CEO of KZamore

Enterprise, LLC, The Zamore Foundation, and KZamore Entertainment is a professor, clinical social worker, and certified counselor. For more on Kerry-Ann, visit kzamore.com or follow her on IG: @kzamore_ent FB:Kerry-Ann Zamore

AGING WELL

with Patricia Bailey, Caregiver Coach

Enjoying a Journey of Change

The life of a caregiver defines itself daily as a season of new beginnings and most of the season is difficult to appreciate. Based on statistics provided by Alzheimer’s Association 2021 Facts and Figures, caregivers clock an incredible 15.3 billion hours of care, with millions of caregivers needing guidance, focus, and support. How a caregiver thinks along their journey is everything. Caregivers are required to adapt in three areas: mindset (establish a pattern on how to address change), mindfulness (master addressing how you think along the journey), and mending (maintaining resilience). Whether formal— paid individuals who help care for loved ones or informal—a growing class of family members, 11 million strong, who also care for their loved ones, learn to enjoy this journey of change, remembering, it is not about the destination or the finish. Here are three strategies to help caregivers better navigate the difficulties of this season, remain focused, and maintain their sanity:

Mindset. Caregivers need to establish a can-do attitude. Willingly embracing the role of caregiver and positively addressing the challenges and changes that come with the role sets in motion the expectation and influences how external caregivers (physicians, nurses, facilities, hospice) interact along the journey. A critical mindset component is always having your loved one’s best interest and wishes in mind. Mindfulness. Having and making plans for the day-today care of your loved one is essential, but anticipate that those plans will often change. While attending to the needs of your loved one, be sure to stay in the moment and know that tomorrow will take care of

itself. Acknowledge the difficulty of the journey, your troubled feelings, and your unsettling thoughts, but remain calm. Breathe through the adversity and allow yourself to be encouraged, empowered, and embrace each step as a new beginning. Mending. You are the caregiver. You are resilient and pliable. You are a treasured and necessary part of creating a holistic, loving environment. Journaling is a tool that can help you continually bounce back from the difficulties of the caregiver’s journey. A daily journal page should include the following: (a) a prayer for your loved one; (b) your loved one’s basic care activities and schedule; (c) documented missteps and ways you can help rebuild and repair areas which are out of alignment; and (d) a personal prayer asking God to help you complete the journey, listing the specific areas in which you need His help. Caregivers, my prayers go out to you for a positive and productive journey of change for both you and your loved one. Pat Bailey’s ascension to caregiver coach, certified belief therapist, and certified dementia practitioner caps a 40+ year career in beauty care, having managed, marketed, and sold seventeen different brands to major retailers. A mother of one son, and grandparent to two, she is a weekend golfer, enjoys yoga, studies biblical history, and enjoys music.

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ENTREPRENEUR SPOTLIGHT

Hear Your Own Yes Pam Eudaric by Siobhan Davenport

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am Eudaric is a thriving entrepreneur with four prosperous businesses in Dallas, Texas, which she started after retiring from a successful career in law at forty-seven. She has Joe Carter Construction, Green Earth Metal Recycling, and Ma Fille Art Gallery, but Eudaric’s business pride and joy is her storefront, My Chocolate Secrets. Here is where, for eighteen years, Eudaric has built a flourishing supportive community that sells chocolate, wine, and gifts and plays live jazz and blues in the dining room. Eudaric offers an impressive menu of appetizers and other treats for private events, wine tastings, and afternoon teas. Her shop’s motto is “Come for the taste, stay for the experience.” “For years, my friends and I joked about retiring from our corporate jobs and opening a shop that had what women love--chocolate, wine, purses, and shoes. After working as an attorney for twenty years, I retired to take care of my three sons, John Anthony, Majid Ali, and Armand John, who are now all adults, but I needed to unleash my entrepreneurial side. When my friend reminded me about our dream, that’s when My Chocolate Secrets was born, which is about more than chocolate. My Chocolate Secrets is about indulgence, luxury, tastes, smells, sounds, and beauty.” Building four successful businesses isn’t easy, but Eudaric is the type of person who never hesitates to try new ventures. Her motto is: “What I start, I finish.” Born in the United States territory of St. Croix, Eudaric learned to believe in herself and her abilities. Her formative years, spent on the small island of 50,000 residents, taught Eudaric the power of “Yes.” “Islanders are resourceful and pitch in to help one another complete any task, even helping to build a neighbor a home,” she shares. Leaving St. Croix, Eudaric attended Rice University on a national merit scholarship. She went on to get a law degree from The University of Texas. Her mother and grandparents inspired her work ethic and “can-do” attitude. Eudaric’s mother, a practical woman, taught her to think for herself, while her grandmother gave her unconditional love and affection. Her grandfather emphasized that she could do anything. He advised, however, “If you do something, do it right.” Eudaric wants to help other women embrace their “Yes” and accomplish their goals and dreams. She says that she never tells a child no because, when they are adults, they will have placed limitations and restrictions on what they can achieve. She

hopes to release her book and website, Be Open to Yes, in early 2022 and spark a movement of “Yes.” In her book, Eudaric shares the process of becoming fearless, stating that what is first and most important is the fact that you must believe in yourself. “Take two weeks to affirm how great you are. Look in the mirror and journal how good you feel about yourself. Once you realize how great you are, you realize everyone else is the greatest as well. At that moment, you can no longer be intimidated by others.” Eudaric advises women to embrace their passions. “Ask yourself what you want, what makes you happy, and then ask yourself what is stopping you,” Eudaric says. “Only you can answer that question. It could be a fear of failure, fear of success, or something negative that someone told you when you were a child, and now you’re carrying with you into adulthood. Love yourself enough to believe you can do it. Make a plan. Start and finish. Few start; even fewer finish.” Eudaric’s faith keeps her focused on living her best life, and like Cheryl Magazine, she believes in uplifting other women. “I believe that we are a gift from God. If you see a woman who needs your power, you must give it. We all need to be uplifted, celebrated, praised, and affirmed. We can’t leave any of our sisters behind. We must bring them with us.” From chocolate couture to lavish afternoon teas, classes, and pairings, My Chocolate Secrets permits you to indulge. Learn more at mychocolatesecrets.com. Connect with Pam Eudaric and be inspired at beopentoyes.com - a book, a group, a journey.

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BUSINESS SENSE & SENSIBILITY

GET INTENTIONAL ABOUT EXPANSION A Business Consultant’s Guide: What Your Business Should Know About Relocating During the Best Time of Year When you think of spring-cleaning, your first thought is likely of taking on the task of deep cleaning your home. For small businesses, it can mean “out with the old, in with the new.” Many revamp in the spring with overhauls in redesign or rebranding. Spring is a great time for small businesses. Your business can reflect the budding newness of the season with some blossoming of its own. It is the perfect time to invite customers and new clientele to venture out and join you as you breathe new life into their community with relocation. Taking advantage and reaping the benefits of this time historically yields the highest gross domestic product of the year. Surviving the winter and blooming as the season changes is a good look for small businesses. A new location topped with the introduction of spring-themed products and services can be just the thing you need. Can’t imagine tackling the task of locating and securing a new property? It sounds like a job for a qualified and reliable business consultant with an array of resources and connections. P. 5 2

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The benefits of business consulting positively contribute to the overall workplace environment with improvements based on professional guidance. Business consulting is more than just receiving sound advice. Resources like Beech Hill Consulting (BHC) are driven to show business owners how to enhance their market image, grow their revenue, and expand their industry presence. BHC’s design helps businesses do better in every way possible, including assisting with timely transitions. Searching for and obtaining a commercial property is a serious investment. Your business is your pride and joy, and it takes the perfect place to make it a continual success. Consider the most critical advice and make your decision with confidence! With these five tips, you can gain valuable insight to find the best business property for you and your line of work.

Five Tips For Finding Business Property Finances Come First

Establish financial security before purchasing or leasing a commercial space. Discovering your financial resources before property prospecting is vital to the planning process when guaranteeing long-term monetary stability. Make your transition easier. Narrow down your buying/renting selections by putting your financial options first. It is beneficial to get a lender, determine your loan type, and establish a complete business and personal credit report to clarify your eligibility. After you rule out your credit score, effectively evaluate your loan options, and factor in other considerations such as interest and fees, you can then proceed with your property search.

Location Means A Lot

You know the nature of your business better than anyone, so you understand what it requires. The location you choose impacts how you run your day-to-day activities and plays an active role in its overall performance. For example, commercial properties near residential areas or shopping centers provide a higher chance of prolonged success for storefront businesses that rely on walk-in customers. Businesses that require operating machinery to conduct large productions, like distribution, might demand a good-sized lot of land. Regardless of your business type, the one thing to keep in mind is convenience and practicality—you need your location to work for you.

Size is Significant

Every business is different and calls for a distinct lot size. The size of your business’s property depends on a few factors like your staff count, service context, and clientele category. What you do determines the property dimensions your business needs. For instance, a salon can operate efficiently in a shopping mall. A factory, however, most often demands a separate lot to fulfill a range of tasks that require sufficient space. In your property search, contemplate your daily duties, necessary equipment, and type of clients to ensure you make the best move and choose the proper lot for your business.

Rental Rewards

Did you know you could reap rental benefits for a commercial site? You do now! Contemplate sharing a portion of the building with a separate renter or establishing a sub-lease when buying or renting business property. It is worth it if another business owner or company needs additional room, so be mindful of this opportunity! Renting extra space to others can cover your additional business expenses and provide you with a financial advantage. Take into account the potential for the economic gain this option can offer, like increased income you can earn providing necessary amenities for your renters.

Budgets Are A Big Deal

Whether you decide to rent or buy your commercial property, all current and future costs are worth considering. Investigate the market before you make a decision. Be aware of relevant property values. Keep in mind that the rent should list at the going rate and potentially rise. Remember, once you sign for a mortgage, you are locked into that agreed-upon price. Additionally, make sure the offer price is fair for the square footage when you purchase your property. Lastly, note the everyday costs of onsite operations and the initial expenses of moving your business materials and equipment to the new location. Content courtesy of Beech Hill Consulting Global IT, a professional business consulting services firm specializing in exceptional and creative care to help businesses prosper. www.beechhillconsulting.com. P. 5 3

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THE LIST CHERYL'S FAVORITE RESOURCES

Knowing you ’re not alone in your business and that helpful resources to take your business to the nex t level surround you can be a relief. Here are a few of my favorites, from networking to funding.

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Goldman Sachs 10k Small Business Program www.goldmansachs.com/citizenship/10000-smallbusinesses/US/#

Women’s Business Enterprise National Council www.wbenc.org/certification

If you apply, use Cheryl P Williamson LLC as a referral.

WBENC is also an approved third-party certifier for the SBA’s Women-Owned Small Business (WOSB) Federal Contracting Program.

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Lift Fund www.liftfund.com

Small Business Administration www.sba.gov

Assistance with loans, tools and resources to help entrepreneurs grow their business

The SBA has worked to ignite change and spark action so small businesses can confidently start, grow, expand, or recover.

The Walker’s Legacy walkerslegacy.com Walker's Legacy is a growing global women in business collective founded to establish networks of empowerment and access for women of color in business.

Minority Business Development Agency www.mbda.gov/who-we-are/overview The U.S. Department of Commerce, Minority Business Development Agency (MBDA) is the only federal agency solely dedicated to the growth and global competitiveness of minority business enterprises.

Dallas Entrepreneurs Center thedec.co

Black Alzheimer’s Brain Study blackalzbrainstudy.com

The DEC Network is a 501c3 non-profit organization driving innovation and economic impact by helping entrepreneurs start, build and grow their businesses.

Our mission is to create solutions for a healthier community.

DFW Airport Capacity Building Program Series www.dfwairport.com/business/opportunities/bdd/capacitybuilding As part of our commitment to serve as a catalyst for the growth of small, minority and women-owned businesses, DFW is excited to once again offer the Capacity Building Program series designed to provide business skills training and guidance on doing business with DFW.

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MONEY TALK with Roni M. Benjamin

I am a financial services professional committed to helping individuals and businesses build a solid financial house and leave a legacy for their children’s children. We would love to talk to you about your specific goals, help you construct your unique economy, and protect or improve your standard of living.

Roni M. Benjamin

Call or text (770) 685-5532

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YOUR FINANCIAL HOUSE

f you have ever seen commercial property or a house built, you have noticed that the builders start with the foundation first. That means blocks, steel, concrete, and digging in the mud—all the stuff that’s not very exciting but extremely important. A strong foundation holds the building up and prevents it from sinking into the earth. The same is true with a financial house. Your financial house is divided into three segments: Protection, Accumulation, and Preservation. Protection means having wills, emergency savings, budgets, and insurance products, which are all very important to hold up the structure of your financial plans. These items are not likely to be featured in our daily news feeds and social media timelines. Too often, these foundational blocks get left for “someday.” My question is, when does having an emergency savings fund become urgent? Most say when you have an emergency, but then it’s too late, and you may find yourself having to borrow and scramble for the funds to handle that emergency. A wise man once said, fix the roof while the sun is shining. It’s better to plan and prepare in advance while there is no danger in sight. Avoid undue hardship by getting these items in order before you urgently need them. Now, the house part is a lot more fun. Accumulation is about growing assets to fund college, business, and retirement. Ensuring your growth includes risk and tax diversification. Everybody talks about risk diversification, but few pay as much attention to tax diversification. Tax diversification is when you spread your investments among accounts taxed differently, allowing better management of your tax bill after you retire. No one can predict what tax

laws will do in the future. Investors should carefully consider taxation scenarios in retirement before making long-term investment decisions on certain types of accounts. I believe what matters most is not just how much money you save, but how much you keep so that it is available when you need it the most.

“Proper Preparation Prevents Poor Performance” - James Baker Then there is the best part of all, the roof. Preservation is where you get to enjoy the fruit of your labor. It's no longer about savings. Now, it's about enjoying a lifetime stream of income. People have two concerns about the preservation phase or the afterretirement phase. The greatest fear of most retirees is running out of money. You may want to work until you die, but at some point, you may decide to work because you want to, not because you have to. You may decide you don’t want to work if working for money is the primary motivation. The goal here is to have done such a great job protecting and accumulating in your working years that you will not outlive your money. You will be able to leave an inheritance to your children's children, family members, and the organizations of your choice. That leads to another common concern, the orderly distribution of your estate after you're gone. Believe it or not, no matter how large or how modest, everyone has an estate and something in common--you cannot take it with you when you die. Your estate consists of everything you own: your car, home, other real estate, checking and savings accounts, investments, life insurance, furniture, art, jewelry, and other personal possessions. Estate planning means naming the people or organizations you want to receive the things you own after

you die and taking steps now to make it easier to carry out your plan later. Estate planning also includes instructions for your healthcare and financial affairs if you become debilitated or otherwise unable to perform the normal activities of daily living. Estate planning also includes naming a guardian for your minor children’s care and inheritance, among other things. If you do not have a plan, your state has one for you, but your family may not like it. The court will supervise and control your assets through probate proceedings. Don’t leave your family burdened with picking up the pieces and fighting on your behalf. The Five P’s: “Proper Preparation Prevents Poor Performance,” is a quote by James Baker, former Secretary of State, and is my life’s motto on money matters. This quote serves as a reminder that proper preparation yields better results. Before becoming a financial professional, I spent my life “winging it,” hoping that the results would be good enough. But now that I understand the components of a solid financial house and the steps it takes to build one, I am compelled to share and teach others what I know. I bring the value of human guidance to the process. You can’t start planning a trip until you know where you want to go. I would encourage identifying your specific needs and setting clear objectives and goals. Find a financial coach who will help you determine which mix of financial solutions is a better fit for you and can also formulate a unique strategy to help you reach your goals. As a financial professional, I am committed to helping individuals and business owners build a solid financial house, one phase at a time. Regardless of your location in the country, if anything you’ve read resonates with you or incites you to move to action, I’d like to hear from you. Together, let’s create a plan specific to your needs.

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Q&A With Film and Television Producer,

AUTUMN BAILEY-FORD Shaw University Alumna by D. Camile Floyd The next time you grab some popcorn and settle in to watch a good movie, give this a try. Imagine the behindthe-scenes process that went into developing the plot and scenes, the decision-making to select the location, the setting, and everything else, right down to the actors’ wardrobes, even the mood of each character while delivering their lines. If you can do it, then you can relate to Autumn Bailey-Ford’s childhood and how she not only set her sights on big accomplishments in the entertainment and filmmaking industry, but also is crushing her goals while inspiring others. Cheryl Magazine had an opportunity to chat with Bailey-Ford about her amazing and evolving career as a sought-after film and television producer. Cheryl Magazine: Tell me a little about your upbringing in Pennsylvania. What factors persuaded you to pursue film production? Bailey-Ford: I grew up in York, Pennsylvania, and there, having a career as a filmmaker was unheard of; however, around the age of 8, I had developed an increased interest in films and knew I had a passion for the entertainment industry. When I saw “Roots” and “Gone With the Wind,” I thought, “Oh my God, I want to do that.” I knew that I didn’t want to be an actor. However, I always questioned how things were put together behind the scenes, and I wanted to learn, so I started going to libraries and self-educating myself on filmmaking’s history. Cheryl Magazine: How did you land in Atlanta? How has the city influenced your growth in the filmmaking industry? Bailey-Ford: After college, I initially desired to move to

Los Angeles; however, my husband and I decided that Atlanta was a great start. We grew to love the city and everything it stands for in the film industry. Atlanta has developed as a film hub over the years, and I attribute a lot of my success to the city’s opportunities. Cheryl Magazine: To date, you've produced more than three-dozen films, including "Maynard," the powerful documentary chronicling the life of civil rights icon and former Atlanta Mayor Maynard Jackson. How did that project come about? Has its success opened doors to new opportunities? If so, how? Bailey-Ford: Because I’m not from Atlanta, I was honored when Wendy (Eley Jackson) came to me to do the Maynard Jackson documentary.

I had never done a documentary before, but just knowing her personally and being someone in the industry I respected, when she asked me, I knew it was something that I had to do because it was one for the culture. This particular film has gained notoriety and awards that I believe added a new level of trust and respect from my peers, showing that I can deliver as a producer and filmmaker. Cheryl Magazine: Have you made any realizations throughout the pandemic as it relates to your accomplishments and taking time to truly appreciate the work you've produced? Bailey-Ford: I’ve become more intuitive with the type of work I want to produce and more focused on my future as a filmmaker and the stories I would like to tell moving forward. P. 5 9

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Cheryl Magazine: In expanding your footprint in the entertainment and film industry, what is your main objective? Bailey-Ford: My main objective is to motivate others by telling captivating stories that educate and enlighten my audience and encouraging and creating opportunities for fellow filmmakers to push forward those shared goals. Cheryl Magazine: What have been the biggest challenges in your career? Bailey-Ford: Anyone in the entertainment industry understands that this field of work is one of the most challenging yet rewarding. So, I wouldn’t necessarily consider my most challenging experiences as the biggest because each project comes with its unique challenges. I would say, however, that keeping the faith during each experience has been the most difficult. Through every situation, you have to face the fear, doubt, and obstacles that come along with the journey; however, I have learned that the issue will be resolved eventually, and I will get to the other side of the obstacle. I always keep this in mind, and even though some challenges are more complex than others, I trust the process and hold on to my faith that I will make it through. Cheryl Magazine: How important is it that you set an example for women of color who may doubt they have what it takes to pursue dreams that seem unattainable? Bailey-Ford: It is imperative to me to set an example for women of color, especially those who doubt they already have NOW what it takes to pursue their dreams. My motto has always been ‘what you believe, you can achieve,' and I stand by this. I would encourage women of color to believe they can P. 6 0 Cheryl MAGAZINE P. 6 0 Cheryl MAGAZINE

accomplish anything they set out to do and then do the work to achieve those goals. I strive to show that all things are possible if you believe, and I hope that my example continues to motivate other women to do the same. Cheryl Magazine: With an undoubtedly busy schedule, have you been able to focus on any charitable endeavors or mentoring up-and-coming filmmakers? Bailey-Ford: I am a product of an HBCU, Shaw University, and I often give back by creating opportunities for HBCU students and alumni by giving them opportunities to work as interns within my company and on set. I need to provide them with hands-on knowledge as well as film experience that will set them up in their career as filmmakers. These opportunities vary, leaving many film school graduates without the expertise to compete in this industry, so I make it my goal to give these opportunities to fellow HBCU alumni who may not otherwise get that chance. Cheryl Magazine: Do you have any upcoming projects you can tell us about? Bailey-Ford: Well, I just finished a film with MGM by the name of On a Wing and A Prayer starring Dennis Quaid and Heather Graham that is set to release next Fall, and I have three shows in-studio development that will be announced very soon. We indeed believe Bailey-Ford is a shining example of dreaming big and putting in the necessary work to see those dreams play out—on the big screen.

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Camara Aunique Helps Make God the CEO of Your Life

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amara Aunique Helps says that with the last name Helps, she was predestined to walk in her purpose of empowering women to love themselves so they too can live in their purpose. As an award-winning celebrity makeup artist, instructor, and coach, Camara has quickly risen to become one of our nation’s most sought-after beauty experts. With more than ten years in the industry, over seven spent freelancing, Camara’s work has graced countless red carpets, editorials, and beauty campaigns. Camara believed she could rise to the top of the beauty world, so she fought hard against the naysayers who told her that makeup wasn’t for her, and she took a leap of faith. Camara became a rising star and skincare expert twelve years ago, breaking sales records at Estée Lauder, but walked away from the $80,000 per-year job to work for $20,000. “At that time, I didn’t have a relationship with God, and I didn’t understand purpose. I just knew that I had to challenge myself to become a better makeup artist and understand all things beauty for all ages, all skin colors, and all people, and I wanted to prove I could be successful.”

Camara’s success grew to include a client list of high-profile celebrities and well-known professionals such as Angela Bassett, Ava DuVernay, Garcelle Beauvais, Tarana Burke, Jenifer Lewis, Priscilla Shirer, and others. Her artistry has graced runways for designers Kate Spade, Reed Krakoff, and Kenneth Cole. Her work has also been seen on various television specials and social media channels the world over. After a whirlwind work-related trip to Paris, Camara returned to her native New York with few bookings and few prospects. Out of frustration, she turned to witchcraft, crystals, and reiki but found nothing worked. As a last resort, she went to a witch doctor. This time, Camara says God intervened. “I found God through witchcraft. I bet you’ve never heard that. God burned down a witch’s altar. Out of frustration, I turned to my friend, who [is] a Christian, and [then] she led me to Christ. God renewed and redesigned me. I am a completely brand new person in Christ. My goal every single day is to get up and choose Him.” Camara made God the “CEO of her life” and became reenergized about her business and life.

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She is passionate about sharing her faith with other women who aren’t clear on their purpose, as she once wasn’t. “If there’s a woman at any age feeling like she’s stuck or that there’s so much more she could be doing, then she’s right. The key to unlocking that feeling of being stuck is to get in God’s presence. Believe that God is going to do for you what He promised to do.” In 2019, Camara launched her beauty brand, Camara Aunique Beauty, featuring the first faith-based faux lash line with a mission to help women move in faith with the vision presented before them by God. The line features faux-mink lashes, tools, and accessories. Each style is named after an iconic woman from the Bible. The intent is to make their stories comparable to what visionary, faith-based women do every day. Camara credits her all-powerful business partner, God, who gave her the vision for the lash line and the strength to follow through. The brand was also a recipient of Essence Magazine’s 2020 Best in Black Beauty Award. Using her beauty brand to minister to women, Camara’s mission, in particular, is to touch forgotten women in the beauty industry--those who have lost their lashes due to alopecia or cancer. “I want to change how women view themselves. Women should see their beauty through the eyes of God and love themselves as the likeness of God.” As a survivor/thriver of domestic violence, which almost made her give up makeup, Camara, rather than giving up, kept going, learned to trust the process, and now spends her time empowering young women. “I want to be, to young women, what I needed growing up. I was looking for love in all the wrong places and with the wrong people. I was partying in high school. I had an older boyfriend, which I now know is disgusting. I had to grow through it so that I could now openly share my experiences with young women. I want them to prosper and be happy.” P. 6 5

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Hayli A. Boyd is a Medical Aesthetician & Laser Practitioner. She hopes to open a Medical Aesthetics Institute to help others further their education in Health & Beauty.

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ealth, beauty, and balance—a simple yet complex combination. Medical aestheticians know a lot about combining the right ingredients and products to produce a specific result for their clients. However, before the physical part of performing facials, chemical peels, and laser treatments, it is necessary to understand the dynamics of the beauty industry. There’s something new to learn daily or include in your health and beauty regimen. Growing up, I always heard, “Drink your water!” “Did you take your vitamins today?” “Are you eating enough fruits and veggies?” “Where’s your sunscreen?!”

so is sunscreen. I highly recommend finding ingredients that best fit your skin and lifestyle, but ANYONE can benefit from these products. Ashwagandha does wonders for the body, especially for women! This Middle-Eastern plant holds properties to help improve issues related to menopause and PMS, memory loss, and fertility health. Hyaluronic acid (topical or injections) is for the outer layer of the skin and prevents wrinkles, fine lines, and age spots. Sunscreen is ideal for protecting the skin from the sun’s harmful UV rays, preventing age spots and melanoma. Be sure it’s at least SPF 30, and for best protection, use a broadspectrum sunscreen. Apply generously. It’s not sunny where you live? Do you still need to apply sunscreen? The answer is yes, yes you should! And let’s not forget our Retinol! Retinol, known as vitamin A, reduces fine lines and wrinkles by producing more collagen. Retinol also stimulates the production of new blood cells in the skin, improves color, fades age spots, and softens rough patches. Get on board! Beauty businesses are getting serious with these products. They are adding them to body lotions and even foundations, so it’s almost impossible not to use them.

Sound familiar? As an aesthetician, the first thing I learned was that our body consists of 60% water. It is easy to become dehydrated. Have you ever noticed feeling fatigue and irritability after a long day? Ever realized that your mouth is drier than usual? What about working out or doing some form of intense activity, and you’re not sweating? These are a few symptoms of dehydration. Get hydrated with enhancements The younger generation should also know the that make your water drinking experience a importance of practicing healthy habits and little more beneficial. Liquid I.V. helps prevent balancing their lifestyle to look and feel good. dehydration in those always on the go. This Including these ingredients in your skincare product is a hydration multiplier with NON-GMO products, as well as monthly facials, body electrolyte properties. My personal favorite is massages, and staying up to date with your chlorophyllin water, with the same ingredients medical check-ups, will boost your health and found in our leafy greens. Adding this to your confidence. As cliché as it may sound, it’s true, water throughout the day can not only allow you “When you feel good, you look good!” to consume the nutrients at a faster rate, but it can also energize the body and stimulate the Once you’ve learned your body and given it what I am a financial services professional committed to helping individuals and businessimmune es build asystem. solid financial house and leave a legacy for their children’ s children. We have an instant glow that’s hard it needs, you will would love to talk to you about your specific goals, help you construct your unique to miss! It could very well be the products, or it economy, and protect improve your standard of living. For vitamins, facials,orand sunscreens, may just be the care that you’re showing yourself. ashwagandha and hyaluronic acid are all Either way, include these recommendations in Roni M. Benjamin game-changers! Even for women of color, your everyday routine for a better you. Call or text (770) 685-5532 P. 6 7

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Make It Movie Match-Up Month! Parenting Tips

by Traci Henderson Smith

pring is in the air, which means spring break, vacation, and more time with the kiddos. For a perfect idea for family time, pick a night of the month and make it movie match-up night. Match your child’s favorite movie with simple decorations, toys, and action figures. Dress up the movie area and add a few signature foods to create a cool-themed environment for a family fun night. Take it a step further with costumes! The kids will love going into a weekend filled with excitement and adventure the whole family can enjoy, and let’s be honest, you could use a care-free-feeling-like-a-kidagain night off yourself. Typically the idea is great for lower-elementary-aged children, but I say go for it! All ages apply. Engage the entire family, adjusting movie selections as necessary. Have the children select their favorite movie. You can then incorporate great ideas to have the evening become a multi-dimensional gateway to expand their imaginations and carry their enjoyment beyond popcorn and pj’s. Here are a few examples to get those creative juices flowing: What about a perfect night-under-the-stars opportunity? The movie Soul is about a music lover taking a journey to another realm and discovering what it means to have a soul. A white surface and a projector, and you're more than halfway to a night of intrigue with a starry sky that will play well into the theme. Use the side of the house, or hang a white sheet to display the movie. Decorate cardboard boxes like cars for a drive-in effect. Everyone can bring replicas or toys representing their favorite musical instrument. Then complete your outdoor movie experience by hanging paper lanterns with flickering battery-powered candles all around. To top the escapade, PIZZA (unable to be enjoyed in “the great before,” according to the movie), then let the fun begin! Earth is a dazzling wildlife documentary perfect for all ages. It follows four different animal families and their eventful journeys across the planet. Pull artificial trees and plants from around the house into the

viewing area to create a jungle to accompany this remarkable story or create the polar arctic with white sheets, blankets, and pillows. Surround your viewing area with your children’s favorite stuffed animals. Add a globe and maps to help the children locate where the animals featured in the movie originated or live. Gummy bears and animal crackers are a nice added treat. Chex Mix or popcorn can top off this exciting trek through nature. Whether her favorite princess is Cinderella, Princess Tiana from The Princess and the Frog, Snow White, Belle (Beauty and the Beast), Ariel (The Little Mermaid), or Sleeping Beauty, playing the daughter of a monarch is the perfect way for mommies, daughters, and bff’s to spend the evening! A pink balloon-covered movie area, pink feather boas, tiaras, mommy’s jewelry, and high heels will have little girls looking and feeling like princesses right in their living rooms. Daddies and brothers shouldn’t disappear too quickly for this girls’ night at the movies because there’s plenty to be done to serve the royal court. Pink candy, cupcakes with pink icing, and pink lemonade, all served on trays by the girls’ personal “butler” service, is the ideal complement to this noble event. The point is family and the love of family. Spend time with your little ones, middle ones, and almost-out-thedoor ones. You can try this and other family-focused activities a few months out of the year, making the time officially ‘movie match-up month.’ It doesn’t take much to win with children and create traditions and a legacy. Just think of the bond and memories you’ll build. Go for it. Your isle of adventure awaits! P. 6 9

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It’s a Family Affair Cheryl Magazine is all about promoting the phenomenal work of female change-makers doing great work in business, media, community, and philanthropy. Each quarter, our mission would not be complete if we didn’t highlight up-and-comers who we should definitely keep an eye on, who have bright futures and are doing great things in these fields. Meet Zoe and Zarya Spires, nine years of age. These young innovators started LadyBugz Cookie Company during the 2020 pandemic. They were challenged by their father while at home during the mandated shelter-in-place to make good use of their idle time. “We decided to start our own business as a way for us to spend more time with our dad “Zack” and learn a bit more about baking. We began to try different recipes before settling on a particular style of cookies. Our cookies are really big—almost six ounces each. After spending much time baking and eating cookies, we began baking cookies for our family and friends,” the girls shared. “Our family and neighbors offered our greatest support.” Word of the delicious cookies spread, and the girls landed an opportunity to be featured on the local news, Fox35, with Ms. Jessica Albert. Their segment was filmed between class sessions while being homeschooled. Since then, LadyBugz Cookie Company has grown steadily with monthly sales increases.

“We now bake and ship locally,” say the twins. The name LadyBugz has a beautiful twist. The girls’ father, former Orlando Police Officer Zachary Spires, tells them the heart-warming story of a visit to Atlanta that he and their mother shared. During their stay, there was an infestation of ladybugs. Their mother Monica also learned during that visit that she was pregnant. She declared the ladybugs were a sign of good luck. It was then she began calling the twins her little ladybugs. Monica transitioned twelve days following the birth of the girls. Zack, a serial entrepreneur, curator of his own highly requested and amazing treats, and owner of Crazy Zack’s Snack Shack, tells the girls often how smart their mother was and how excited she was to bring them into the world. “Hopefully, we are making her very proud,” they say. The Spires twins are yet another example of why we do GIRL POWER, and Cheryl Magazine salutes these two. They have a long and lucrative road ahead as budding business leaders. Already, they understand and actively participate in philanthropy. Zarya makes monthly donations to the homeless shelter, and Zoe, an avid animal-lover, donates to the local SPCA. Follow @lady_bugz_cookies on IG or order at ladybugzcookieco.com.

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Spring, Easter, Traditions, and FUN Everybunny Will LOVE! by Traci Henderson Smith

t’s time out for sending the kids off to play and trusting they will know how to indulge in the beauty of spring. There is also more to Easter fun than dropping them off for Nana’s traditional church picnic and egg hunt. If you learn nothing else from the pages of Cheryl Magazine, you know we are all about making life happen! That includes engaging the young ones through bonding opportunities and teaching them the importance of family and legacy. Create moments with the whole family this spring and spice up this holiday time with a few simple twists on some old favorites that are sure to bring on the laughter and rack up the memories. Here are four Easter activities the family will enjoy: 1. Pushing Egg With Nose Relay YES, YOU! Mark off a start and stop point anywhere from five to ten feet apart. Divided the family into two teams and have an even number of teammates from each team stand opposite each other at the start and finish lines. Give each team a decorated hardboiled egg and have them race on their hands and knees while rolling the egg across the floor using only their noses. They must relay back and forth until the last person on each team crosses the finish line. If a teammate touches the egg with their hands, they must return to their starting point. The first team to cross the finish line without touching the egg with their hands is the winner! 2. Capture the Egg You might have heard of “Capture the Flag.” Well, this is the Easter version. Divide the family into two to four teams. Each team has four eggs. The teams should be across from each other on opposite ends of the playing field. Each team will place their eggs on the ground in a row on their side. When the game begins, players try to cross into opposing teams’ territories to grab their eggs and take them back to their teams’ side without getting touched by an opposing team member. If they get touched, they

have to stand still until one of their teammates frees them by tagging them on the shoulder. Use strategy, assign guards, do what it takes. When your team’s eggs are gone, your team is out. When two or more teams are out, the team that captured the most eggs wins. 3. Let’s have an Easter Bonnet Parade! Materials needed: White baseball caps or floppy hats from any craft store, ribbon, elastic, colored fabric, finger paints, stencils, stickers, buttons, sequins, pins, tissue paper, flowers, glue, and anything else your imagination can dream up. Instructions: Get the family and friends together, let everyone select a hat, and go to work designing your masterpieces. After everyone completes their creation, allow the hats time to dry. Once they are dry, it’s time for the hat show. Pre-select a few judges to watch the parade of hats as family and friends show off their Easter toppers. The judges can pick winners such as prettiest, most original, most creative, and so on. Toss in prizes to turn up the competition. 4. Bunny, Bunny, Hop A twist on this time-honored game, “Bunny, Bunny, Hop,” is sure to be a hit with kids of all ages. This game is just like “Duck, Duck, Goose,” except the words change to “bunny” as you tap each person and “hop” when one person is selected. Instead of running around the circle, players hop with their feet together. Those participating MUST hop. NO running. Played with children only or for a barrel of laughs, get the whole family involved. It is a great game no matter your age and an opportunity for the family to spend some quality time together, squeezing in a few good laughs at one another.

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Brunch We hear that we started something with our holiday recipes in the winter edition. Many of you commented on what a hit they were, so how could we pass on helping you create the perfect spread for Easter and Mother’s Day brunch? We couldn’t. Brunch is traditional on both of these special dates. If you’d like to steer clear of the crowded restaurants, designing a glorious buffet of your own is definitely an option.

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Do we really need a recipe for deviled eggs? How about a twist on a favored appetizer? Smoked Salmon Deviled Eggs Total prep time: 45 minutes Servings: 12 Ingredients 6 eggs 1 ounce smoked salmon, finely chopped 2 ½ tablespoons mayonnaise 1 ½ teaspoons spicy brown mustard 1 tablespoon pickle relish, drained 1 teaspoon dried dill weed ½ teaspoon salt 1 pinch ground black pepper ¼ teaspoon dried dill weed, for garnish 1 pinch smoked paprika, for garnish ¼ teaspoon fish roe (tobiko, masago, or caviar), for garnish (optional) Instructions 1. Boil eggs on high heat in enough water to completely cover the eggs. Once the water is boiling, remove from the heat and let the eggs stand in the hot water for 15 minutes. Pour out the hot water, and then cool the eggs under cold running water in the sink. Peel once cold. 2. Cut eggs in half lengthwise and scoop out yolks. Mash the yolks with a fork in a small mixing bowl. Mix in the smoked salmon, mayonnaise, spicy brown mustard, pickle relish, salt, and pepper. Combine well. Make adjustments to suit your taste. 3. Spoon or pipe the yolk mixture into the egg whites and sprinkle with smoked paprika, top with fish roe and garnish with a bit of additional dried dill. 4. Carefully cover with plastic wrap and refrigerate until serving. Roasted lamb is a tradition in many households on Easter. Not only is it a popular seasonal dish for spring, many have a deeper meaning behind consuming the tasty dish for symbolic or religious reasons. Total prep time: 40 minutes Servings: 4 Ingredients Lamb chop marinade: Simple marinade. Amazing flavor. Olive oil Lemon juice Chopped or minced garlic Fresh rosemary

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Marinade Instructions 1.

Simply whisk all your ingredients together, adding preferred amounts of each ingredient to suit your taste. 2. Add lamb chops and turn repeatedly to coat completely. 3. Marinade for 20 minutes to 20 hours, depending on how much time you have. No more than 24 hours, or the meat will become too soft, even mushy. Roasting Instructions 1.

Preheat oven to 450 degrees F (230 degrees C). Move oven rack to the center position. 2. Heat grapeseed oil (higher smoke point than olive oil and better for searing) in a large cast iron or cast iron grill pan until it’s screaming hot. Add lamb chops in a single layer and sear on both sides. Remove quickly without cooking chops. Without crowding the pan, sear all chops in multiple batches. 3. Brush chops with marinade. 4. Transfer pan lined with chops to oven and roast to desired doneness. (They heat quickly, so a meat probe may be necessary). 5. Remove 5-10 degrees below desired temp as chops will continue cooking and rise another 5-10 degrees while they sit. Remove chops from the pan and tent with aluminum foil. 6. Wipe out pan. Sear, roast, repeat until done. 7. Plate and garnish with rosemary and thyme sprigs, and roasted vegetables of your choice.

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Did you really think we forgot the raspberry marsala sauce? Not a chance! Adding this rich, fruity, and savory drizzle delicately garnished with bright green mint, bumps your roasted lamb dish up a notch and makes it a positively gorgeous dish for Mother’s Day. Lamb Chop Raspberry Marsala Sauce Ingredients 1 cup raspberries, fresh or frozen and thawed ½ cup marsala 1 tablespoon honey 1 clove garlic 1 medium shallot, finely minced Raspberries and chopped mint, to garnish Lamb Chop Raspberry Marsala Sauce Instructions 1.

Place the raspberries, marsala, honey, and garlic in a blender or food processor and blend on high until smooth. 2. Heat shallot in a pan and cook, stirring constantly for 2 minutes. Add the raspberry marsala sauce to the pan and let it boil rapidly until it begins to thicken, 3-5 minutes. 3. Serve lamb with the sauce overtop, some chopped mint, and extra raspberries. Looking to make brunch light and stress-free? Try this quick and simple stunner, bursting with color and flavor.

Open faced omelette Total prep time: 40 minutes Servings: 15 Ingredients 12 eggs ¼ cup whole milk Salt and pepper, to taste 1 cup green bell peppers 1 cup of red bell peppers 1 cup rainbow cherry tomatoes, sliced 5-6 pieces of prosciutto, crisped (or bacon) 1/3 cup kalamata olives, sliced 1-2 tablespoons chopped oregano, thyme, and parsley ½ cup feta cheese Toast, for serving Instructions: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5.

Preheat oven to 300 degrees F. Coat a sheet pan with cooking spray, or real butter if you’re fancy. In a large bowl, whisk together eggs, milk, salt, and pepper. Add peppers, tomatoes, prosciutto, olives, and herbs to the egg mixture. Stir to combine. Pour egg mixture onto baking sheet. Top with feta cheese. Bake for 20-25 minutes, until set. Remove eggs from the oven and cut into squares. Serve on toast with a sprinkle of fresh herbs and sea salt. Enjoy!

The perfect addition to a spring buffet—it’s almost too gorgeous to eat. Watermelon Radish Spring Salad Total prep time: 30 minutes Servings: 4 Ingredients: Spring mixed greens Watermelon radish Golden beets Chives

Feta Heirloom tomatoes Olive oil Balsamic vinegar

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Using a mandolin, with the safety guard on, thinly slice the golden beets and watermelon radish. 2. Chop the chives, slice the tomatoes, and set aside. 3. Place spring mix in a large bowl. Mix includes tender baby lettuce, spinach, arugula, red and green romaine, red and green oak leaf, chard, endive, radicchio, and other heirloom lettuces. 4. Top with simple dressing of just olive oil and balsamic vinegar and serve. Photo byFrancesca Bean P. 7 7 Cheryl MAGAZINE

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Because—spring, and Easter, and Mother’s Day, and any other reason we can rationalize having a pretty in pink martini for brunch.

Blood Orange Lemonade Spritzer Ingredients Ice cubes Blood oranges, halved Lemons, halved Organic cane sugar

Pink Martini Ingredients Ice cubes 11/3 parts Premium Pink Gin 2/3 part Vermouth 4 dashes Orange Bitters 2 teaspoons Grenadine Candied cherries, whole (or black cherries) Instructions 1. 2. 3. 4.

Fill a shaker with ice cubes. Add all ingredients. Shake and strain into a cocktail glass. Garnish with cherries.

Are you ready for a real refresher? This non-alcoholic beauty is a delicious treat for the whole family. For those who want to turn it up a bit, feel free to add your favorite sparkling wine.

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Spring water Club soda Edible flowers Mint

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Squeeze desired number of blood oranges into a bowl. Press pulp. Strain juice into a saucepan. Add two cups of sugar (or desired sweetness). Dissolve sugar and blood orange mixture over low heat. Do not boil. Heat until sugar is gone. Fill a glass serving pitcher with ¼ spring water. Poor blood orange reduction into the glass serving pitcher along with the spring water. Squeeze half of a lemon into the pitcher. Add blood orange and lemon slices to the blood orange lemonade. Put ice cubes in glasses and fill the glasses ¼ with club soda. Fill the glass the remaining way with the blood orange lemonade. Garnish drinks with edible flowers and fresh mint and serve.

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