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MAY 17, 2019
Grad returns home as doctor
Dr. George Lewis, a 2008 graduate of Evolution Academy Charter, will return to inspire current graduates at the 2019 graduation ceremony, which will be held on Thursday, May 16, 2019 at 7 p.m. at Curtis Culwell Center, 4999 Naaman Forest Blvd, Garland, TX 75040. When George Lewis first walked through the doors at Evolution Academy, he was just 16 years old and in search of an alternative to the traditional high school setting that would allow him the flexibility to complete his high school education, while also working to help provide for his family. He found just that at Evolution Academy. While attending Evolution Academy, Dr. Lewis excelled as a dual credit student, taking advantage of the school’s partnership with Richland Community College. Upon graduation, he initially pursued a career in the music industry, but eventually decided to continue his education at Texas Southern University in Houston. Dr. Lewis excelled academically in college and was awarded a full scholarship as a Louis Stokes Association for Minority Participation scholars. He also received awards from NASA as a Center of Bio-Nanotechnology and Research (NASA C-BER) Scholar and The Ronald E. McNair Scholars Program for his oncology research focused on breast cancer. He represented Texas Southern University in several leadership roles, most notably as Executive Vice President of the Student Government Association and as President of Collegiate 100 Black Men. While in college, Dr. Lewis became a member of the
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Delta Theta Chapter of Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity Incorporated. He went on to graduate from Texas Southern University in 2015 with a bachelor’s degree in chemistry. After undergrad, Dr. Lewis was accepted into the number two pharmacy school in the country at the University of Illinois at Chicago to pursue his Doctor of Pharmacy degree. While at UIC, he served as President and Vice President of his class. He also completed three more research projects, which were magnified in one of the leading industry publications; Journal of American Pharmacist Association. Just this week, Dr. Lewis was awarded his Doctor of Pharmacy degree and is excited to return to his alma mater, to share his journey of overcoming, persistence and success with 120 graduates of the Evolution Academy. “We are so proud of Dr. George Lewis and all that he has accomplished,� said Cynthia Trigg, superintendent and founder of Evolution Academy. “We work hard to provide an environment that meets our students where they are and gives them the resources they need to succeed. Like many of the students who walk through our doors, George just needed an encouraging environment that would allow him to succeed in the classroom and work to earn money at the same time.�
Evolution Academy is a public charter high school system and dropout recovery center. Founded in 2002, Evolution Academy offers one-on-one attention with a mix of traditional and computer-based instruction, which enables students to earn 2 or more credit hours every nine weeks, allowing them to catch up or graduate early. The main campus in Richardson includes a science lab, fitness center and wellness program, piano lab, culinary arts program, full-service cafeteria and a state-of-the-art music studio where students can write and produce music. The school also offers multiple career and technical education courses that prepare students for certificates in professional fields. Students who enroll also receive DART bus passes provided by Evolution Academy, so they won’t have to worry about how to get to school. At all three campuses, Evolution Academy offers a flexible school day schedule, where students can enroll in a four-hour morning or afternoon session. Since inception, Evolution Academy has taken an innovative approach to educating youth. To date, Evolution Academy has graduated more than 3000 students, many of whom were unsuccessful in traditional school settings. Like Dr. George Lewis, Evolution Academy graduates have gone on to graduate from some of the top colleges and universities in the country, enlist in military service and embark on productive careers in the workforce.
Evolution Academy has campuses in Richardson, Beaumont and Houston, Texas and has open enrollment year-round on all three campuses. Students can enroll online at www.evolutionacademy.org or visit one of the campuses to enroll in person.
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My social media feeds have been full of Black scholars celebrating dissertation defenses, completion of advanced degrees, graduate school and Post-Doc acceptances, joyous graduation ceremonies with family and friends, and the most inspiring and absolutely fabulous graduation photo shoots I have ever seen.
Among the many dis-cussions that are taking place in Aus-tin during this legislative session, it appears that a history lesson is still necessary for many, as a bill has been presented that would create more stringent guidelines for removing certain landmarks and historical markers.
I had a baby in my twenties when I was dealing with this guy, who was in the military, stationed close to where I live. I thought that we would get married and live happily ever after. Obviously, that didn’t happen. He relocated and eventually we stopped talking.
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Confederate statues are a monument to what? Sen. Royce West
Among the many d i s cussions that are taking place in Aus-tin during this legislative session, it appears that a history lesson is still necessary for many, as a bill has been presented that would create more stringent guidelines for removing certain landmarks and historical markers. A bill authored by Texas State Sen. Brandon Creighton (R-Conroe) would, if approved, make it more difficult to remove Confederate monuments and markers from state-owned or leased property and also work to limit such decisions from being made at the local government level. According to Senate Bill 1663, twothirds of members are needed from both legislative chambers to approve the removal, relocation or alteration of monuments or memorials that have been on state property for more than 25 years, while city or county monuments that have been up for at least 25 years could only be removed, relocated or altered if approved by a supermajority of the governing board. Also, monuments and memorials that have been around for less than 25 years can not be altered without approval from a state agency, state official or local government body, depending on who erected it. MAY 17, 2019
While Sen. Creighton seemed sincere in his expressions, I disagree that the removal or destroying of controversial monuments is a “careless act” that would cause Texans to look back with regret because we are deleting history, rather than learning from it. I submit to you that when you consider the current times and events like what happened at Charlottesville, North Carolina, the Charleston, South Carolina church shooting and the many atrocities that continue to occur, some have not done a good job of learning from history and the heinous acts that were supported, condoned and perpetrated by many who now have monuments erected in their honor. Those who have brought harm to many under the banner of the Confederacy
were not just fondly whistling Dixie. I stood proudly with the members of the Texas House’s Legislative Black Caucus, against Senate Bill 1663. I wanted a good faith effort made to involve everyone in the process and I shared those sentiments with Sen. Creighton, because our constituents need to be heard from. I also attempt-ed to add an amendment that would have excluded Confederate mon-uments from Sen. Creighton’s stringent bill. I’m not alone in advocating for removing Confederate and other offensive symbols. Cities across the state and around the country are also grappling with this consistently polarizing issue. The debate also extends to the names of schools. Unfortunately, as is the case in Dallas, many of the schools named after members of the Confederacy have student bodies, the majority of which are the descendants of enslaved Africans. Something is wrong with this picture. Why this bill? Why now? What is the intended message? Even our youth speak out about the monuments and the messages that shared by those supporting their presence. While true that they are a painful chapter of our history, those featured on many of the monuments or landmarks should not be immortalized or celebrated. Yes, we are mindful of the past, but pray that it shall never be repeated. Sen. Royce West was first elected to the Texas Senate in November 1992. Since taking office he has represented the 23rd Senatorial District on behalf of the citizens of Dallas County in the Texas Legislature.
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MY TRUTH by Cheryl Smith, Publisher
Celebrating Women
I talked to one of my mother’s best friends over the weekend. I always check on her and a few others because they now get the Mother’s Day calls that I can’t make to my mother. Virginia is really sweet.While there are other friends I can recall who Mother had known since she was a teenager, Virginia is someone she met and they would hang out together for decades until my mother’s passing in 2014. My mother and Virginia went to church at the historic New Hope Baptist Church in Newark, New Jersey. They attended events with other senior citizens, were active in the National Council of Negro Women and the NAACP branches, and they had their regular “therapy” sessions in Atlantic City. Virginia even traveled with my mother to Dallas for the Don’t Believe the Hype Celebrity Bowl-a-thon around 2000. Then after Mother relocated to Dallas in 2012, Virginia returned to Dallas to spend quality time with her. They were friends til the end. I thank Virginia for being a friend to my mother and I will cherish and respect her forever. You see, I’m so glad that I have friends of my mother who I respect and can talk to. Her friends help me, especially during those times when all I can do is breathe heavily and say a prayer. Which brings me to my truth. About 29 years ago, Dallas County Commissioner John Wiley Price introduced me to Vera English. A very stylish woman, Vera was an entrepreneur. The owner of Pink Palace, a beauty salon in Oak Cliff, Vera has won numerous hair competitions and when I need my hair/scalp taken care of, I go see her. But then again, I go see her for more than hair treatment. Vera, much like my mother’s friend, Virginia, is a source of inspiration, support, guidance and love. She speaks truth to power, and more importantly, truth to my heart. I don’t worry about whether or not she is telling the truth or whether she has a myimessenger.com
hidden agenda, or an ulterior motive. I know that Vera is the real deal. Like my mother and Virginia, Vera loves to dress! She loves to be color-coordinated
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Vera English and yes, she can top off the most stylish outfit with a hat. That hat or headpiece notwithstanding, Vera always made sure that should it blow off your head, the hairstyle underneath was just as glamorous and appealing. Going to the Pink Palace was an escape for me, a place to go to get away from the hustle and bustle of the world. Sure we would have discussions about the troubles of the world, but it was also a place that gave new meaning to the phrase, “let your hair down.”
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Some times there would be no talking at all because I would fall asleep as soon as I sat in her chair. And she was fine with that! The Pink Palace was the “no judgement” zone, where women and some men could share thoughts and offer advice, without condemnation or vicious attacks. Sure there were the discussions about politics, education, and world peace. And we talked about raising children, caring for parents, relationships and more. For some reason, the people who came to Pink Palace and engaged in conversations came with a positive spirit and a respectful tongue. Maybe it was because of the leadership of Vera. Although small in stature, probably standing 4 feet 4 inches in those stiletto heels she loved to strut around in, Vera seemed almost larger than life. Okay I may be exaggerating. But she is short! With a big heart. And her heart and infinite wisdom has kept my head level many a time. You see, Vera is quiet and unassuming. And while she does not appear to carry a big punch, her actions and demeanor command and receive respect and reverence. She doesn’t have to raise her voice to get your attention. A word to the wise should be sufficient and if you don’t take heed with Vera; it’s all on you because you are definitely operating at a deficit and could end up in a very bad situation. I thank Vera for being my friend, my confidante, my light at the end of a sometimes dark tunnel. I’m talking about unconditional love.
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WHO’S WHO
Our Democracy is on the Line, Congress Must Act Now
Our NAACP
Derrick Johnson is the NAACP President and CEO By Derrick Johnson
NAACP President and CEO
While the debate whether President Trump obstructed justice should be over with the release of Special Counsel Robert Mueller’s report, unfortunately, it is not. In fact, it has just begun as Congress prepares to conduct exhaustive examinations into these breathtaking revelations. Given the overwhelming evidence to the contrary, Attorney General Barr’s attempt to exonerate Trump is simply stunning. It is crystal clear that Trump interfered with the Mueller investigation. Even the redacted report contains a multitude of actions in which Trump obstructed justice in one of the most consequential investigations ever conducted regarding the state of our democracy. We warned the nation about Attorney General Barr when we opposed his confirmation to the position. We told the Senate that William Barr “can never overcome the public perception that he endorsed Trump’s efforts to hold MAY 17, 2019
himself above the law. William Barr simply cannot serve as the independent leader our country needs at this critical time.” We were correct. Barr’s lack of independence and Trump’s obstruction raises critical questions about the rule of law. But this is also about the integrity and security of our democracy. Just as important in the Mueller report was the astounding disclosure that our country was subjected to a full-scale attack on our democratic process. Astonishingly, the Mueller report concluded that Russia “interfered in the 2016 presidential election in sweeping and systemic fashion.” Russia intended to benefit and did in fact benefit Trump. We also know that the Trump campaign knew about Russia’s assistance and welcomed it with open arms. Russia helped Trump win the presidency by manipulating voters, fomenting racial division, and targeting the African-American community to suppress voter turnout. Back in December 2018, we led a boycott of Facebook. We called
upon Congress to conduct further investigations into Facebook after a report released for the Senate Intelligence Committee revealed that the Russian influence campaign “made an extraordinary effort to target African-Americans” using an array of tactics to suppress turnout among Democratic voters. Now, with the results of Robert Mueller’s report, the outrage should be palpable. Congress must fully investigate, take all appropriate action, and ensure the integrity and security of our democracy. This must be done with the urgency it requires. The 2020 election has already begun. Candidates are making pitches. Voting machines are being purchased. Yet our democracy is not safe from the external forces that want to cause us harm. Congress begins their examination and investigation without a full record, and completion of that record must be a top priority. The redacted report released by Attorney General William Barr falls woefully short of what is owed to Congress and to the American
people. It shows that the Trump administration is intent on hiding facts and covering its tracks. Mr. Barr should immediately release the complete Mueller report in unredacted, unedited, and unvarnished form. The American public deserves the truth. We are also troubled by Special Counsel Mueller’s decision not to press for a subpoena or interview of Trump. Trump has caused infinite damage to the office of the presidency by impeding justice and subverting the rule of law. He should be called to answer and held accountable for his actions to harm our democracy. Our democracy is in a holding pattern. We need answers and we need them fast. The Trump administration has already harmed our civil rights in devastating ways, and it will take us years to recover. But we cannot, and must not, allow the foundations of our democracy to be undermined, knowing full well of the threat. This is our democracy, and we must act to protect it. myimessenger.com
COMMENTARY by Congresswoman Eddie Bernice Johnson
Chinese tariffs and higher consumer costs
With his mind focused on next year’s national election, President Trump maintains that his administration’s trade war with the Chinese government is in the best interests of American con-sumers. I am among those who are not so certain that the president is correct. His tariffs lead to increases on consumer goods imported from China, resulting in rising costs for Americans families, many of whom struggle from one pay period to the next to make ends meet. While Mr. Trump insists that the Chinese will experience severe pain from higher tariffs, his senior economic advisor, Larry Kudlow, recently contradicted his boss. He admitted that American consumers will experience financial pain because of the tariffs. Looking for a way to blame former President Barack Obama for the trade deficit with the Chinese, Mr. Trump ignores the fact that during the Obama administration more trade cases were filed against myimessenger.com
China than during the prior Republican administration. In fact, the cases during President Obama’s administration were won by America, and resulted in job creation in our country. It is something that President Trump is unaware of, or simply chooses to ignore. The higher tariffs, expected to be in place in a matter of weeks will result, experts predict, in rising prices for products such as electronic equipment, wooden shingles, washing machines and a variety of food products, certain fabrics, backpacks and lights for Christmas trees. Farmers who sell products to China can also expect to feel additional financial pain, and the American stock market will be harmed by the president’s tariffs. Mr. Trump brags that he is playing a “long game” with the Chinese, but neither he nor those close to him live on a limited amount of dollars each month.
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They play golf and pontificate while others suffer economically at their kitchen tables. It was not too long ago that the the president said that the Chinese would accept his trade demands. Now, after finding them a bit more resolute than he thought, he has decided to make his debacle a 2020 election issue, saying that he can do what others are incapable of doing. Well, we have heard that tune before! Sadly, the president will give little thought to those consumers who will emerge from shopping centers with fewer items in tow because of his trade policies. One would hope that the president would be empathetic, but we only need to be reminded of his lack of compassion for government employees who went without pay during the government shutdown that the president caused. That should tell us enough!
MAY 17, 2019
Childcare Providers recognized by Rep. Davis
District 111 Childcare Providers were recently recognized in the Texas House of Representatives Chamber Galley by State Representative Yvonne Davis during their visit to the State Capitol. The Childcare providers were in Austin to advocate for House Bill 4286 by Representative Davis designed to streamline rules governing the Texas Rising Star Program which will assist childcare providers to provide quality child care. Representative Davis is pictured with a group of District 111 Childcare Providers. Beverly Chiles, Tobitha Holmes, Murriel Webb, Alma Langrum, Doris Robinson and Brenda Pace.
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COMMENTARY by Dr. Julianne Malveaux
CBC: Not always in headlines, but never on sidelines Sixty-five years ago, the Supreme Court ruled, in the Brown v. Board of Education case, that the Plessy v. Ferguson (1896) doctrine of “separate but equal” was unconstitutional. That ruling ended legal segregation in public facilities, but it did not necessarily accomplish its goals in terms of school desegregation. Indeed, Richard Rothstein, the historian who is a Distinguished Fellow at the Economic Policy Institute and at the University of California, Berkeley School of Law, wrote that in 2014, Black students are “more racially and socioeconomically isolated” than at any time since 1970, when this data was first available. After Brown passed, there were some integration gains, through bussing and magnet schools, but the South resisted Brown because a second case ordered desegregation “with all deliberate speed,” which was a euphemism for taking your sweet time. I attended a segregated school in Moss Point, Mississippi in 1969, fifteen years after the passage of Brown v. Board of Education. In 2016, Cleveland, Mississippi finally closed its segregated Black high school and renamed Cleveland High School, the white school, Cleveland Central High School. Now, the district is in court because a young Black woman was denied the salutatorian honors she earned so that a young white man, with a lower GPA, could have the honor. Yes, the Brown v. Board of Education case made history, but it was an imperfect tool to tackle racial inequities in the public school system, mainly because these inequities are anchored in residential patterns and funding sources. When schools are funded with property taxes, those who live in wealthier districts will simply have better education, perpetuating inequalities.
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It has been trendy to blame teachers for unequal education outcomes, even as these teacher’s responsibilities expand with increased regulation, test-taking, and unrealistic requirements around engagement with parents and others. A school district in South Carolina, for example, requires that teachers respond to parent emails within 24 hours. The burden of one teacher’s 10-12-hour days became so onerous that she quit her teaching job in the middle of the school year. Many questioned her commitment to children, but she fought fiercely to maintain her sanity and some semblance of a quality of life. Teaching is not supposed to be trench warfare. It is supposed to be joyful for both students and teachers. There is nothing more gratifying than to watch children gleefully grasp a concept, read a page, solve a math problem, or give a speech. But that sense of gratification is diminished when bureaucracy chips the joy away, or when a teacher has to take on outside work to pay her bills. Teachers have made national headlines as they seek supplemental income, driving Uber or Lyft, moonlighting as food servers, taking on side jobs as tutors, and living two or three in an apartment meant for one to save money. Those who teach really have to want to do it – they earn about a quarter less than their counterparts who have the same education, according to the Economic Policy Institute. We have been underpaying teachers for at least the last two decades! So, the nonsense we celebrated during the week of May 6, Teacher’s Appreciation Week, is a charade. If you want to appreciate teachers, pay them! Don’t offer folks two for one burritos at Chipotle or other food fringes when what teachers need is fair pay. Don’t give teachers apples and faux
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appreciation when the teachers who graciously accept your apples and recognition are hustling outside the classroom to make ends meet. Teachers are striking all over the country, even in places like West Virginia where we would least expect it because they are desperate to be valued. Paying them less than they are worth is disrespectful. Offering half price burritos and other nonsense is hypocrisy at its highest! Sixty-five years ago, the Supreme Court tackled the issue of segregation in our nation’s school systems. The Brown v. Board of education decision changed the law, but not the structure of racial gaps in education. And it did not foresee the many ways that those who deliver the educational product, our nation’s teachers, have been disrespected and disadvantaged by the structural indifference to classrooms that serve poor and Black students. Sixty-five years after the Brown v. Board of Education decision, the achievement gap is persistent. Our nation’s wealth gap is a function of that achievement gap, and the treatment of our nation’s teachers is connected to the wealth and achievement gap. When we commemorate Brown v. Board of Education, we must embrace the importance of adequately compensating teachers. In embracing our teachers, we support the children they are teaching and guiding. In ignoring issues of fair teacher compensation, we are utterly abandoning our children! Julianne Malveaux is an author and economist. Her latest project MALVEAUX! On UDCTV is available on youtube.com. For booking, wholesale inquiries or for more info visit www.juliannemalveaux.com.
MAY 17, 2019
QUIT PLAYIN
by Vincent Hall
It’s About Survival…Stupid!! Jim Carville, a brilliant political strategist and Southern gentleman, has a way with words. Most African-Americans who know the dialect of Dixie would turn him off immediately. But he made a distinction early on that forced me to listen. “I am not a redneck; I am a coon-ass. And damn proud to be a coon-ass.” If you don’t know anything about Cajuns, coon-asses or culture in Louisiana, that might not mean much. But to declare defiantly that he’s not a redneck gave me some comfort. Besides being among the most notable Democratic tacticians, and being married to a woman who holds parallel status in the GOP, Carville became prominent based on a phrase he coined for candidate Bill Clinton; “It’s the economy stupid.” I love Carville, so I channeled him in my message to the Dems and talking heads that don’t get Trump’s base. It’s about survival…stupid! If you want to know why 38% of Whites will never leave that draft-dodging, promiscuous, prevaricating, wannabee wealthy wimp; who raw dogs porn stars and sees no issue in flaunting five kids and three “baby mamas”…It’s about survival stupid. It seeped into my psyche a few weeks ago in NorthPark Mall; one of the highest-rated and best-run in the U.S. Dallas’ NorthPark has gone from “White World” to “We are the World” since the last census. Life was easy when all White America had to do was oppress “The Blacks.” Maintaining control in “Technicolor” is complex. Suddenly there are new languages and customs. Diversity is inescapable! Americans skin tones range from pasty pale to blue black. You can’t stereotype what you can’t define or discern. My “It’s about survival stupid” theory was buoyed by “White threat in a Browning America”; a June 2018 Vox Magazine story. MAY 17, 2019
“A new report out of the University of Wisconsin Madison’s Applied Population Lab found that white births are now outnumbered by white deaths in 26 states, up from 17 in 2014 and four in 2004. Meanwhile, America’s foreign-born population is projected to rise from 14 percent of the population today to 17 percent in 2060, 2 percentage points above the record set in 1890. The rise has been staggering in its speed: As recently as the 1970s, America’s foreign-born population was under 5 percent. It would be easy to dismiss these comments as the over-the-top rantings of pundits, but
Limbaugh and O’Reilly’s views are widely shared. A 2016 Public Religion Research Institute poll found that 57 percent of whites agreed that “discrimination against whites is as big a problem today as discrimination against blacks and other minorities.” The article revealed that a staggering 66% of white working class respondents believed there was “discrimination against whites,” but the most woeful statistic followed. “A 2017 GenForward poll of white millennials found 48 percent agreed with a
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similar statement, showing that the sentiment isn’t confined, or even concentrated, among older whites.” This “white survival” show of force will stigmatize civility in America and Europe for at least another generation. An eye-catching March 2018 Brookings Institute piece codified my thoughts. However, the subtext was a greater threat to Americans who enjoy that 400-year-old franchise and family heirloom known as white privilege. “The US will become minority White in 2045, Census projects - Youthful minorities are the engine of future growth.” “The new statistics project that the nation will become “minority white” in 2045. During that year, whites will comprise 49.7 percent of the population in contrast to 24.6 percent for Hispanics, 13.1 percent for blacks, 7.9 percent for Asians, and 3.8 percent for multiracial populations.” Whites like Carville who grew up where being white was just a fraction of their identity, much like urban Whites who grow up with diversity, aren’t easily spooked. But Middle America and the bounteous bastions of homogenized communities aren’t ready. Gun sales and Trump rallies are booming in the “Red States” out of sheer panic. The Trump demographic needs a sovereign and savior…a pugilistic prince waging warfare on the non-White world. “I alone can save us” is all the reassurance they need. Trumpism ain’t about the economy, military might, or whether America provides health care for none or for all; it’s about White survival… Stupid!!! #NorthPark…I love it!
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MAY 17, 2019
Wordz of Wilson by Chelle Luper Wilson
This Calls for a Celebration
Our souls look back In wondrous surprise At how we have made it So far from where we started Maya Angelou
My social media feeds have been full of Black scholars celebrating dissertation defenses, completion of advanced degrees, graduate school and Post-Doc acceptances, joyous graduation ceremonies with family and friends, and the most inspiring and absolutely fabulous graduation photo shoots I have ever seen. I’ve had the pleasure of attending a few ceremonies this month and let me just say, from the undergraduates who have already filed patents to the new PhDs doing groundbreaking research, I am so excited about what lie ahead for us. “Sankofa means go back and get it. While some may assume our greatness lies in the future, it truly lies in the past,” that was just one of the many gems Ammishaddai Grand-Jean dropped in the “student speech” at the University of Georgia’s Rite of Sankofa Ceremony. This spring’s commencement exercises have brought many oppor-tunities to go back and look at the past. After Autherine Lucy Foster earned her B.A. in English from Miles College, she sought to continue her education and applied to the University of Alabama. She received her letter of acceptance, but a few days later the offer was rescinded. It was 1952 and admissions realized that Autherine Lucy was Black. The university’s unwritten “whites only” policy had gone unchallenged for 121 years, but that would soon change. Attorneys Thurgood Marshall and Arthur Shores launched a legal battle on her behalf. After three years and by court order, Lucy was admitted. She wasn’t allowed in the dining hall or dormitories and had to be driven either by university officials or the police to her classes and home. This was the South and no diversitywelcoming committee existed. Instead, Lucy was met with death threats, mobbed by students, bombarded with rotten eggs, and after three days, the university expelled MAY 17, 2019
her. I can’t imagine what that must have been like; to have a three-year legal battle result in expulsion after only three days, and in an extremely hostile environment at that. Marshall understood the weighted burden of defeat but never allowed it to cloud his vision of the future. In a letter to Lucy he wrote, “Whatever happens…remember for all concerned, that your contribution has been made toward equal justice for all Americans and that you have done everything in your
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power to bring this about.” Eventually, the University of Alabama invited Lucy Foster back. She earned a master’s in elementary education in 1992. Then, 67 years after she first applied, the University of Alabama again invited her back, awarding Lucy Foster an honorary doctorate during the Spring Commencement. The class of 1969 at North Carolina Agricultural and Technical State University was also recognized during their university’s Spring Com-mencement. In a time that should have been filled with preparation for finals, planning for graduation, and making decisions about post-college life, this historic class found themselves in the middle of the Greensboro uprising. Many described their campus as a “war-like zone” as the governor and mayor sent a tank, helicopter, and hundreds of national guardsmen, who with tear gas and guns, ordered male students out of their dorms and into buses where they were taken to the city and county jails. During this “military invasion,” one student, Willie Grimes was killed. To date, no one has been implicated in his murder.
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The A&T Class of 1969 includes many notable professors, ministers, corporate executives, military officers, corporate bankers, and others received their Golden Aggie recognition and also got to participate in the joyous graduation experience they always wanted. I had a conversation with a friend about recent graduation ceremonies we had attended and half joking she said, “why do we have to be so loud though?” I said, “You know, I used to think like that, but then I thought about the few opportunities we really get to be happy, proud, and excited. Our communities see a lot more tragedy than triumph.” I went on to say, “More than one-third of all students in higher education are the first in their family to attend college. Think about that, this diploma represents so much and so many more than the one walking across the stage.” I borrowed from Grand-Jean’s student speech as I shared my feelings about Sankofa and what it means to be able to go back into spaces and get the things denied to our ancestors. Before we parted ways, my friend said, “I guess we do have more reasons to be thankful…and with that feeling, you can’t help but shout!”
Celebrate, stand up, clap hands for ourselves and those who went before Clap hands, let faith find a place in our souls Clap hands, let hope live in our hearts We have survived And even thrived with Passion Compassion Humor and style Maya Angelou myimessenger.com
Learn Your Numbers during Stroke Awareness Month
By Roger Caldwell
NNPA Newswire Contributor
May is National Stroke Awareness Month, and it is very significant to me, because I am a stroke survivor. As a stroke survivor, I consider myself to be a miracle. One of my goals in life is to educate Americans (particularly Black men), that 80% of strokes can be prevented with knowledge and education. Strokes have the potential to be a silent killer, and nearly 85% of all strokes that occur show no warning signs. Although there are no major warning signs, there are risk factors, diseases, and health issues, which make an individual more susceptible to having a stroke. High blood pressure (hypertension) is the number one cause in the country for a stroke and it can be regulated with medicine, a proper diet, monitoring your blood pressure and a healthy lifestyle. “Healthcare in one of the wealthiest countries on the face of this earth is not a primary focus or concern. In this society, many myimessenger.com
people are not interested in improving their health. They prefer to take a chance and hope that health issues will resolve themselves. I was not taking care of myself and not taking the necessary steps to correct my health problems. This is a major crisis confronting this country today,” says Roger Caldwell in his book, “The Inspiring Journey of a Stroke Survivor.” It is obvious with the recent news of the passing of actor Luke Perry (52), and director John Singleton (51), who both died suddenly of massive strokes, that something is wrong with the healthcare system. Both of these men were very successful, and if 80% of strokes are preventable, I would have expected these two men to have received the best medical care, but they are gone. When I had my stroke, I was well aware that I had hypertension, but I was still not taking my prescribed medication. I was walking around with a time bomb. At any time, I knew the bomb could explode but I took a chance.
Eventually, it exploded but I lived, and now part of my responsibility is to educate Americans about strokes with a primary focus on African Americans. After having my stroke, I was completely paralyzed on the entire right side. I spent the next seven weeks in rehabilitation relearning basic tasks: How to dress myself, how to talk, how to write with my left hand, and how to graduate from a wheelchair to a cane. My efforts paid off, but I did not recover 100%. All Americans must know more about stroke prevention and awareness, and they should know their personal numbers as well as their family members’ numbers. As a culture and community, Black Americans have the highest incidence of high blood pressure, with 1 out of 2 adults having some form of hypertension. May is stroke awareness month, and it is essential to understand the mechanics of blood pressure and what the numbers represent. The higher number is the systolic number, and
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it represents the active portion of blood pressure, when the heart is pumping. This number should be around 120 or lower. The lower number represents the diastolic number, or the passive or resting portion of blood pressure. This number should be around 80 or lower. Know your numbers, take your medication, educate your children, and adult family members, and talk about your health. Visit a physician on a regular basis. Take control of your health, your life depends on it. Remember at any age a person can have a stroke, but as you get older you are more susceptible to having a stroke. FAST is an acronym that everyone should know when they suspect that someone is having a stroke. The “F” stands for face, and one side of the face droops. The “A” stands for arm and the arm drop’s down. The “S” stands for speech, and check for slurred or strange speech. The “T” stands for time, and time is of the essence and call 911.
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Foster Kidd Foundation fundraising weekend The Foster Kidd Foun-dation announced they will host a kick-off VIP reception on Thursday, June 6, 2019, for its annual fundraising weekend. The charity weekend takes place June 6-10, 2019 and will benefit Paul Quinn College, The First Tee of Greater Dallas, Under 1 Roof and other North Texas Charities. Congressman Marc Veasey, 33rd Congressional District and Tonya Veasey (Paul Quinn College, Class of 1999) are this year’s Honorary Chairs. The kick-off on June 6 will bring together community, nonprofit and higher edu-cation leaders, plus event sponsors to gear up for the big charity weekend. Speakers include title sponsor Keisha Townsend, Marketing Executive for BMW North America and Mrs. Verna Jones, Founder of (Under 1 Roof), which is our 2019 Community Service Awardee. Many fun events and activities are lined up for the charity weekend including a gala, entertainment and the popular scramble golf tournament held at the Hackberry Creek Country Club. 3Media representatives are invited to the reception to learn more about the Foundation’s MAY 17, 2019
impact in supporting local community and nonprofit organizations, junior golf programs and providing financial assistance to college students. WHAT: The Foster Kidd Foundation Annual Fundraising Weekend Kick-Off VIP Reception WHEN: Thursday, June 6 from 7-11 P.M. WHERE: BMW of Dallas: 6200 Lemmon Avenue Dallas, Texas 75209 To RSVP for the kick-off reception and other events, go to www.fosterkidd.org. For questions, contact LaWonda Peoples at or call (817) 689-4344. info@ eventfullyyourscompany.com The Foster Kidd Foundation dba Pro-Duffers Foundation is a charitable, tax exempt, 501(c) (3) organization. Its mission is to support and promote the development of self-esteem, academic excellence, character and sportsmanship among young people, i.e. The First Tee, while learning the game of golf. 16
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Paul Quinn College to host Summer Enrichment Program
- Continuing its mission of strengthening the inner-city community from within by providing community services, organizational support and educational scholarships for underserved youth and citizens in the Dallas Area, Paul Quinn College and Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity, Inc. will serve as host for the 23rd year of the Kappa Kamp Summer Enrichment Program. This camp will begin June 2-14, 2019 on campus of Paul Quinn College – 3837 Simpson-Stuart Rd. – Dallas, TX 75241. The camp is open young men ages 12-16. Established in 1995 to help educate students about the opportunities available to them within the free enterprise system, Kappa Kamp plans to revolutionizing the way the subject matter is taught. While lecture-based formats can be effective, Kappa Kamp is challenging young people by engaging them in their own learning process. Hands-on activities and interactive break-out session’s give student’s fundamental training in entrepreneurship, principled leadership, philanthropy and economics. Activities and lessons are designed for students to create meaningful practical application. Typically, the KAPPA KAMP is offered as a two-week residential summer
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program for high school students in an outdoor residential camp setting. The idea to expand our program and focus on college readiness and career planning brought the program to Dallas and Paul Quinn College. We believe that this will increase our attendance and graduation of young men from college and interest in graduate school. This year is extra special as we have a partnership with Siemens Technologies to teach, interact and inspire youth to pursue careers in the Sciences, Technology and Engineering. The International President of Kappa
Alpha Psi Fraternity – Thomas L. Battles, Jr. will visit the program on Saturday, June 8, 2019 for the Annual Family Fun Day and Picnic as well as our keynote speaker. In a 13-day sum-mer program, the core activity of the week is business plan development and com-pany competition. Students work in small teams to create a functional business which must turn a tangible profit by the close of the program. In addition to college readiness, the camp will offer sports instruction in Golf, Basketball, Football and Soccer. Campers will also be exposed to
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the area business, local attractions and the unique features of the Dallas-Ft. Worth area that make it a top city for business, Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity, Inc. is an international organization founded on the campus of Indiana University, Bloomington, Indiana on January 5, 1911. Since its inception, it has trained over 175,000 men, particularly undergraduates, for leadership roles in their communities and the attainment of a high degree of excellence in their academic pursuits. The Dallas Alumni Chapter has served the Dallas area since 1935.
Save the Dates June 2nd – Kappa Kamp Opens June 6th – Kappa Kamp College Fair – 6 pm – 8 pm June 7th – Kappa Kamp Talk with Industry Leaders June 8th – Kappa Kamp Family Fun Day – 9 am – 2 pm June 11th – Dallas Symphony Orchestra Summer Concert - 8pm @ Paul Quinn College June 13th – Kappa Kamp Business Plan Challenge – 4:00 pm June 14th – Kappa Kamp Ends
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HANGING WITH HOLLYWOOD
BY HOLLYWOOD HERNANDEZ
Feeding
Jaren’s Angels 5 K-Fundraiser for pediatric cancer.
Texas Metro News staff, Executives and hostesses from FUBU Mobile-red carpet event
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LIFESTYLE by Valder Beebe
That Celebrity Interview:
BET NETWORK- GAMES PEOPLE PLAY We never know the influence that we are creating by just being who we are. This month an early Intern of the Valder Beebe Show invited me to lunch. I was delighted to lunch and hear that Oprah and I had quite an impact on her life. She also share she saw me as a Proverbs 31 virtuous woman. We never know the blessing God has for. My lunch was great and I received the compliments with grace and honor. So keep in mind you may influence others. Invited into he Valder Beebe Show SATELLITE Studio Jackie Long who portrays Kareem Johnson, Marcus’ best friend and assistant on BET’s Games People Play. BET’s Games People Play a new series is a sexy, stylized drama about the L.A. high life, where everyone plays to win. Jackie Long who portraying Kareem Johnson, a former college basketball standout once destined for fame and fortune. Frustrated by living on the sidelines, he’s willing to risk everything for a shot at the life that should have been his. You can remember Jackie as he rose to prominence with a lead role in the hit film ATL. Since then, he has been a fan favorite on multiple BET series including Real Husbands myimessenger.com
of Hollywood opposite Kevin Hart, According to Him + Her with Tiffany Haddish, Let’s Stay Together, and the hugely successful BET miniseries The New Edition Story. On the film front, Jackie stars in this year’s Bodied produced by Eminem and also co-starring Charlamagne Tha God. He can also be seen in the dramatic film Never Heard also starring Robin Givens, Romeo Miller and Master P. Angela Burt-Murray is an American author, journalist, and editor. In March 2017, BurtMurray was named Deputy Editor of Glamour Magazine. She was formerly Editor-inChief of Essence Magazine, Executive Editor of Teen People Magazine.-Text provided by Jackie Long publicity team VBS: Welcome Jackie Long to the Valder Beebe Show broadcasting live from Dallas, Texas. JL: Good morning and I love your name ‘Valder Beebe’ VBS: Well thank you and I adore BET’s Games People Play, you think my name is cool, I think you’re in a sexy new series on BET. I really appreciate Angela Burt Murry, the former editor of Essence Magazine being the writer of Games People Play, first
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as a bestselling book, now as a BET Network series. JL: The Games People Play, is a series that mirrors the games people play in real life. My character, Kareem Johnson is a former college basketball star, now he [Kareem] is frustrated by living on the sidelines. My character is doing things that my real life me would never do. This is what makes the character so interesting on-screen for you. VBS: Are you just a good guy in real life, playing a bad boy on screen? JL: I don’t know. You will need to watch Games People Play on BET Network and decide for yourself……
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The Mueller Report: Blacks Better Be Careful By Raynard Jackson
NNPA Newswire Contributor
As I always say, “Weak people take strong positions on weak issues.” Exhibit A for this is the recently released Mueller report. Democrats have lost their damned minds over this report. They didn’t get the result they wanted, an indictment of President Trump, so they figured if they keep investigating, they will come up with something they can use to remove Trump from office. Mueller’s report was very clear, on both the accusations of collusion and obstruction, there was NOT sufficient evidence to bring charges in either circumstance! Period. End of sentence. Was there unflattering information about Trump and his aides MAY 17, 2019
in the report? Yes. Did Trump and some of his aides walk up to the line between legal and illegal? Yes. But, in our system of justice either you
So, legally Trump and his aides are in the clear. Politically is where the problem is — for Democrats — especially Black Democrats. Let’s get one thing
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violated the law, or you didn’t, and Mueller clearly concluded that Trump and his aides did not cross the line.
straight, Democrats don’t have the guts to actually file articles of impeachment against President Trump after
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Mueller has clearly stated there is not sufficient evidence for him to bring any charges. Now radical liberal Democrat members of Congress like Maxine Waters and Al Green are running over each other demanding that the president be impeached. Hmmm, do you really want to go down that road? Let me paint a picture for you to consider. Jussie Smollett, the actor who concocted a fake story about being assaulted in Chicago, had all charges dismissed against him. Legally, like Trump, he is in the clear. In all probability, the U.S. Department of Justice is going to file federal charges against Smollett for mail fraud because he mailed a fake letter threatening himself but made it myimessenger.com
seem as though the letter was mailed by someone else. I can guarantee as clear as day that Waters and Green will be the first to claim that the Justice Department is only doing it because Smollett is Black, with absolutely no evidence to support their claim. But wait. Let me make sure I understand. Mueller found insufficient evidence to bring forward charges of collusion and obstruction against Trump, but Democrats say to hell with Mueller, we want impeachment. But, if and when something similar happens to a Black, then it is racist? I am through. I have a headache! The one takeaway for me in the Mueller report that no one seems to be talking about is how the report made clear that, in America, we have two systems of justice. One for the rich and well connected (Jussie Smollett and Hillary Clinton), and one for regular people like Pookie and LaQueesha. Russian intelligence knew how corrupt and vulnerable the Clinton’s were to their intelligence operations. They knew the Clinton’s loyalty was to money, not America. Every country — let me repeat — EVERY country, that has the myimessenger.com
means, spies and interferes in the internal affairs of other countries. I laid this out in a column I wrote two years ago titled, “Russia is Winning the War for American Minds.” Americans, for the first time in history, have had a front row seat to a psychological operations campaign live and in living color, in real time. This, indeed, is unprecedented. So, to radical Black liberals, you better be careful! You didn’t like the results of the Mueller report, so you want to treat Trump as though he was indicted. When this happens to someone Black, remember you started it! In liberalism, intent is more important than results. As a matter of fact, that is the sole basis of liberalism not results. So, when white folks hold you to the same standard, please spare me your cries of racism! Democrats are in the process of ensuring the re-election of Donald Trump as president. They have provided absolutely no serious vision of where they want to take America. They have offered nothing but grandiose platitudes to the American people, especially to Blacks: reparations, DC statehood, etc. Have you noticed that not one Democrat candidate for president
has mentioned anything about the killings going on in Chicago? Or the stagnant wages of the Black worker despite the phenomenal Trump economy for Blacks? They have spent more time talking about amnesty for the upwards of 30 million illegals because they are too ignorant to realize that when you increase cheap labor in the marketplace wages go down! The reason Democrats are obsessing about the Mueller report is because they have nothing of any substance by way of policy to offer the American people. The reaction by radical Black liberals to the Mueller report should serve as a cautionary tale for the Black community. There will be a “Black” version of Donald Trump and he will be subjected to the same treatment as our current president. When it happens just admit that what’s good for the goose is good for the gander; and it has nothing to do with race. Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed in this article do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of BlackPressUSA.com or the National Newspaper Publishers Association. Raynard Jackson is founder and chairman of Black Americans for a Better Future (BAFBF), a federally registered 527 Super PAC established to get more Blacks involved in the Republican Party. BAFBF focuses on the Black entrepreneur. For more information about BAFBF, visit www.bafbf.org. You can follow Raynard on Twitter @Raynard1223. MAY 17, 2019
ASK ALMA Yes, he is the father! Dear Alma: I had a baby in my twenties when I was dealing with this guy, who was in the military, stationed close to where I live. I thought that we would get married and live happily ever after. Obviously, that didn’t happen. He relocated and eventually we stopped talking. He did however send money to take care of our daughter. I get a check in the mail from him every month and I’m forever grateful for it. I was heartbroken when he moved away and I don’t think I ever really healed. I was in relationships here and there and eventually got married. When that marriage ended, I just shut down. I let myself go and made some not so good decisions. I put on weight, because I’ve been depressed and I just try not to bring attention to myself. I’m a great cook and all my daughter’s friends and my family usually come over when they want a good home-cooked meal. Recently, a knock came on the door and it was my daughter’s father. He asked if she lived there and then he asked if her mother was home; he didn’t even recognize me. I just said that she wasn’t home and that I’d give her the message. He said, “Okay” and I shut the door. I was so hurt afterward, I just cried and cried. I don’t know how to feel. I haven’t told my daughter yet, because I don’t know if I want to see him again. What’s your advice Alma? Should I give my daughter her father’s contact information or should I just pretend like he never
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stopped by? Reunited, but It Doesn’t Feel So Good Dear Reunited, The question you asked has nothing to do with the answer you need, but because of the circumstances, I’ll offer you a two-fer. First, let me get this straight. Your daughter’s father consistently provides for her and although he didn’t stay connected, his coins come regularly to help you take care of her. He recently stopped by to reconnect, but didn’t recognize you and you think that’s enough reason to keep him away from her? Okay, I’ve gotta stop rightchia: I’m sorry Sweet Pea, I don’t mean to kick you when you’re down, but this ain’t about you. It’s about your daughter and her father reconnecting—period. Run to your pocketbook, pour out your belongings and give the contact information to you daughter, plain and simple. Now, scooch over and let me sit, here’s part two: Ain’t no doubt about it, it can seem like forever to spoon your way out of a dark, deep ditch, but you can do it. Once you get started, your spoon becomes a spatula, the spatula becomes a ladle and then the ladle becomes a shovel—you feel me? What you thought you couldn’t do, suddenly becomes natural to you, but first you’ve got to change your mind, change your thinking. It’s been a long time since your
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doesn’t mean you 100 Attorney Street didn’t look the New York,same.NY 10002 It just means he didn’t initially (212) recognize you. Let that go, use533-2743 it as the fuel you need to get back to your best. If you can’t find the strength in yourself, do it for your daughter. Whenever you get tired, don’t let “Ms. Easy” rule your decisions. Ms. Easy will lead you back to eating fried chicken, mac & cheese a drinking milkshakes, but don’t do it. No excuses. Today is the day you are #sickntired of being #sickntired. Start walking. You own your mind and body; nobody should love you more than you love yourself. Stop allowing the pains of your past to deter you from making yourself a priority. Go find the happy you, the fabulous you, the confident you and reintroduce yourself. When you start healing your mind, your body will follow. And once that happens, a heap of friends and family members won’t recognize you, but that’s okay, because it’ll be for all the right reasons.
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COMMUNITY CALENDAR COMMUNITY CALENDAR Lupus Month Older Americans Month May 20-26 Restaurant Week
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Older Americans Month Health Fair at Centennial Hall in Fair Park 10am-1pm. Register: www.Dart.org/seniors. Questions call 214-749-2582. Judge Dominique Collins Re-Election Kickoff Criminal District Court 4 Host: Dr. Zan Wesley Holmes, Jr. at Park City Club 6956 Sherry Ln. Ste. #1700, Dallas. 5-7:30pm. Forum with Dallas Mayoral Runoff Candidates at Hopewell Missionary Baptist Church5144 Dolphin Rd. Tickets: Eventbrite.com. 6-8pm. All New Thursdays Ladies Night Soulful Soundz at Vinetti’s –14833 Midway Rd. Addison 5pm-12am. Free Cover.
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Wordspace: Africa Diaspora – Roger Reeves at South Dallas Cultural Center 3400 S. Fitzhugh Ave. 7:30pm. Free
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Karaoke Night $2 Tuesday’s at Hero’s Lounge 3094 N. 35 Fwy. Dallas. 7pm-2am. Tickets: eventbrite.com.
IHCC Hora De Poder at Irving Hispanic Chamber of Commerce 135 S. Jefferson St. Irving. 9-11am. www.IrvingHCC.com. Women Winning Emerging at Ft. Worth Botanic Gardens 3220 Botanic Garden Blvd. 9:30am. Tickets: Eventbrite.com. Malcolm X Fest, We Who Believe In Liberation/Unfinished Business at Friendship-West Baptist Church 2020 Wheatland Rd. 11am-7pm. Tickets: Eventbrite. Trap Daiq & Bounce Party at Tipsy Tuesday Daiquiri Shoppe 247 N. Hampton Rd. DeSoto. 7-10pm. Tickets: 214-296-7355. To The Bridge All White at To The Bridge Dance Series 109 Continental Ave. Dallas. 4-7pm. For The Love Of Neo Soul Open Mic Dallas Edition at Sway’s Room 921 W. Belt Line Rd. DeSoto. 8pm.
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Elephant Room Day Brunch Dance at Daytime Event Venue 4791 S. Buckner Blvd. Dallas. 2-6pm. Info: 214-245-6241.
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May 15 Neighborhood Legal Clinic at Friendship-West Baptist Church 2020 W Wheatland Rd. Dallas 5:30-7:30pm.
Jazz at The Muse CafĂŠ Satin Dolls Concert at TBAAL 1309 Canton St. Fri. & Sat. 9pm. Tickets: 214-743-2400.
May 17- 19 Spring Celebration Dallas Black Dance Theatre at Dee & Charles Wyly Theatre 2400 Flora St. Dallas 7:30pm.
May 17 Jim Gaffigan: Quality Time Tour at The Pavilion at Toyota Music Factory 300 Las Colinas Blvd. Irving. 8pm.
The Ladies of Justice presents a Women2Women & Kids Evening Social Host: Legal Shield at Fairfield Inns & Suites 409 N. Clark Rd. Cedar Hill. 6-8:30pm.
Friendship-West Presents: Friday Night L.I.T. Hosted by: Singles Community 25 & up Location Narthex 2020 W. Wheatland Rd. 7-9pm.
Cardio Hip Hop with JessieMae at LC Fitness 901 N. Polk St. #370. DeSoto. 6:30pm. Mon. & Wed. Info: www.jcfitness.info.
DFW HBCU Skate Night at Southern Skates Roller Rink 2939 E. Ledbetter Dr. 7pm-12am. Tickets: Eventbrite.
The Real James Bond was Dominican Regional Premier at Bishop Arts Theatre 215 S. Tyler St. Info 214-948-0716 & times.
Lunch & Learn Dream; Plan; Act at Meadows Conference Center 2900 Live Oak St. 11:30am-1pm. Tickets: www.event.r20. constantcontact.com.
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90’s & 2000’s Hip-Hop-R&B Party at Foundation Room 2200 N. Lamar St. 10pm-2am. Fridays
Betty Carter born in 1929 - Grammy Jazz Singer “Godmother of Jazz�
Happy Hour with Don Diego at Chocolate Lounge Exclusive 4222 W. Camp Wisdom Rd. 6-8pm. Fridays
Soul Jazz Thursday’s w/ Vandell Andrew at Sandaga 813, 813 Exposition Ave. Dallas. 8pm-12am.
Too Much Woman Host: LeTitia Owens at Granada Theatre 3524 Greenville Ave. Dallas, Fri. 7-10pm. Tickets: www.granadatheatre.com.
Poetry Smash at TBAAL 1309 Canton St. 7:30-9pm. Tickets: 214743-2400.
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Community Action Day at South Dallas Cultural Center 3400 S. Fitzhugh Ave. 11am-2pm. Women of Distinction Host: Girls Scout of TX OK Plains Key Note Spkr: Pat Smith at Hurst Conference Center 1601 Campus Dr. 11:30am-1. Tickets: www.interland3.donorperfect.net Wednesdays Swing Dance Class at Allure Jazz & Cigar Lounge 110 S. Cockrell Hill, DeSoto. 7:30pm-9:30pm. Instructor: Lady Champagne. Free before 8pm.
100 Attorney Street New York, NY 10002 Maximize Your 501c3 Master(212) Class I at Jefferson Board533-2743 walk Complex 1901 Kingsbridge Rd. (Lakeside Lounge Bldg. 4/LevUnique Visions Bridal Expo 2019 at Upscale Event Center 324 S. Hampton Rd. DeSoto. 3pm-7pm.
el 2) Farmers Branch. 3-6pm. RSVP Info: at Office 469-730-3621.
Arlington Regional Connect – Your Business & Finance at Shady Valley Country Club 4001 W. Park Row Dr. 111pm. Tickets: www.events.r20.constantcontact.com.
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Breakfast at the BAC “Collections‌and we’re not talking fashion‌ at Fort Worth Business Assistance Center 1150 South Fwy. 7:30-9am. RSVP at Eventbrite.com.
410 Line Dancers Thursday Class DFW Sports Garden 1850 E. Beltline Rd. Coppell. 7-9pm. Info: www.410linedancers.com
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Past Winery 1409 S. Lamar St. #008, Dallas. 7-9pm. Eventbrite.com www.manhattancharterschool.org
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DFW/ABJ Spring Networking Mixer at Butlers Brothers Bar 1710 Young St. Dallas. 2-5pm. RSVP at 214-941-0110.
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Lincoln University Chartered in 1855 1st U.S. Black College in Oxford, PA.
Armed Forces Day
Our Music Fourth Friday Concert Presented by: Lyric Stage at DeSoto Corner Theatre 211 E. Pleasant Run. 7pm.
Willow Grove Baptist Church Grief Counseling at 1222 W. Kiest Blvd. Info, Kim Fincher 214-371-7325. 5:30-7pm.
Head Wraps and Head Shots at Grow DeSoto Market Place. 324 E. Beltline Rd. DeSoto. 6-8pm. www.brandisdiary.com.
Cardio Hip Hop with JessieMae at LC Fitness 901 N. Polk St. Ste. #370. DeSoto. 6:30pm. Info: www.jcfitness.info.
African Liberation Day; An Instrument to help organize our people at Pan African Connection 4466 s. Marsalis Ave. 7-9pm.
Monday Jazz Happy Hour w/ The Willis Duo at The Balcony Club 1825 Abrams Rd. Ste. #B, Dallas 6-8pm. Free
Absolut Power Women Empowering Women Special Guest Speaker: Shavonda Fields at Stemm Studios 1499 Regal Row Ste. #505. 10-2am.
May 21- June 8 Protect Yourself-Defense Class at Friendship-West Baptist Church 2020 Wheatland Rd. Tue. & Thur. at 7pm.
May 21 Paul Edward Winfield born 1939 in Los Angles California
Dallas Ultimate Women’s Expo at Irving Convention Center Las Colinas 500 Las Colinas Blvd. W. 10am Sat. & 11am. Sun. Tickets: www.dfwwomensexpo.com.
220 Henry Street Women’s Conference 2019 at Believers International New York, NY Ministries 716 Garza St. Dallas.10002 7:30pm (212) 964-3792
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Arlington Black Chamber’s Diversity Women’s Business Brunch at Brickhouse Lounge 2525 E. Arkansas Ln. 11am-2pm. RSVP at Eventbrite.com
James “Cool Papa� Bell Base Player born in 1903
Social Media Success 2019 Guide at Bill J. Priest Small Business Innovation Center 1402 Corinth St. #1530B Hoblitzell Auditorium 9:30am. RSVP: Dir. Rose Blair: www.rblair@dcccd.ed.
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May 22 Further Jazz: Peter Brotzmann & Heather Lee at Wild Detectives 314 W. 8th St. 7-10:30pm. Eventbrite.com
India Are The Worthy Tour at The Theatre at Grand Prairie 1000 Performance Pl. 6:30pm.
Marvelous Marriage Monday’s at Friendship-West Baptist Church 2020 W. Wheatland Rd. Dallas. 7-8:30pm 1st & 3rd Monday Info: covent@friendshipwest.org.
Qualified Home- Builders Needed City of Dallas HIPP Contact: City’s Home Repair; 214-670-3644 Bids: housinginspections@dallascityhall.com. Now until Sept. 2019
Judge Monica Purdy Campaign Kickoff at Veronica & Richard Sayles 3930 Shorecrest Dr. Dallas. 6-8pm. RSVP: JudgePurdyCampaign@gmail.com
Women of the West Bible 7ZR ULJRURXV DUWV ULFK . Study at Friendship West Baptist Church 2020 W. Wheatland SXEOLF HOHPHQWDU\ VFKRROV LQ Rd. Wednesdays at 7pm. Unmasked Women Presents: Before The Mask Host: Creeping Vines Online at African American MuseumWKH /RZHU (DVW 6LGH 3536 Grand May 23-24 Ave. Dallas, 2pm-6pm. Tickets: Eventbrite.com
Feeding The Needy Hosted by: Hollywood Hernandez Live 1698 Corsicana St. Dallas. 3-5pm. Sundays
Summer Enrichment Camp at Bishop Arts Theatre 215 Tyler St. Dallas, 7am-5pm. 06-3 - 07-25, 2019, ages 6-12. Enroll: Tiffany Jackson 214-948-0716 ext. 307 education@bishopartstheatre.org
ENO – Entrepreneur’s Night Out at Fairfield Inn and Suites by Marriott 409 N. Clark, Cedar Hill. www.facebook.com. 6-9pm.
The Jazz Jam at Jazz BeCuzz Art Center 9319 LBJ Fwy. Ste. #120. Tickets: via Eventbrite.com. 7pm.
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Beards & Bowties Fashion Show & After Party at Athletic Zone 423 Singleton Blvd. Dallas. 7-10pm. Tickets: www. instaseats.com Kandi Koated Entertainment Presents: Welcome to the Dungeon at The Bomb Factory 2713 Canton St. 9pm. Tickets: via www.ticketfly.com
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