Child magazine | JHB October 2016

J O B U R G ’ S

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gu i d e

f o r

pregnant? top tips

p a r e n t s

prep-school special

exam de-stress

that no one else will give you

for children, parents and (often forgotten) teachers

a doting dad’s take on

baby’s first

100 days

holidaying with

tiny tots

when it’s all about

planes & trains

dealing with

difference

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It’s a complex thing “dealing with difference”, especially in a country like ours.

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With a history of prejudice and inequality, the word “diversity” has become an ugly one. Conversations, debates and demonstrations around racism and school policies are necessary, and must be responded to constructively. Our children must be heard and then through empathetic engagement, lead to make sense of what lies at the heart of this darkness. For the past 12 years, Child magazine has actively explored areas of difference in an attempt to familiarise ourselves, and our readers, with the challenges many parents and children face. Our job is to provide research, start conversations and, if not always, offer solutions, connect our community of readers with educational bodies, professionals and support groups ideally placed to help.

This month we focus predominantly on finding the right path for your child, at home and at school, especially when things get a little bumpy. Many mainstream schools offer an inclusive approach to education, but sometimes, your child may need

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On the home front, we look at ways to manage the stress exam time brings (page 15), and what better way than to create an emotional connection with your child (page 12). It could be more enriching (and cheaper) than therapy, and certainly a good place to start.

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emotional connection

10 best for baby – scoring your first 100 those first few weeks of your

3 a note from lisa 6 over to you readers respond

features 15 evaluating exams Glynis Horning finds diverse reactions from educators on the importance of exams

18 up market we need to ensure that our children are adequately skilled for the job market. By Tamlyn Vincent

20 on a plane and a train in durban Anél Lewis takes her family to explore this KZN city, and hopes to take her son on an epic steamtrain ride

39 choosing health Ian Craig and Rachel Jesson offer a selection of recipes from their book Wholesome Nutrition for You

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new baby’s life can be wonderful, but also challenging, writes Nick Dall

12 dealing with difference – emotional connection Lucille Kemp looks at the importance of face-time with your children to possibly avoid the necessity of therapy

23 resource – primary issues: find the right school for your child here’s a list of early intervention centres and special needs schools.

Compiled by Simone Jeffery

26 a good read for the whole family 30 what’s on in october 35 in the next issue 38 finishing touch Anél Lewis had no

14 october health focus Tamlyn Vincent lists important health awareness days to inspire you to take action

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idea her daughter’s first solo walk through the school gates would be so emotional

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8 pregnancy news – the stork is coming Marina Zietsman speaks to new parents about valuable lessons learnt from the birth of their baby

36 it’s party time 37 family marketplace

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I’ve been going through the August 2016 issue, and as always found something that applies to my little family. In response to “sport, no thank you”: My son is just six years old, and while he has excellent ball skills both with kicking and throwing, he is not a sportsman by any standards. Most sports require a competitiveness that just isn’t in him. I’m so grateful that neither my husband nor myself are particularly sporty, so a “participation” trophy is all we need. In fact, as the article mentions, my son is an extremely artistic child and can spend ages drawing elaborate scenes, from dragons and dinosaurs, to fire trucks and rockets. We hope to continue embracing his differences and nurture his talents.

And in response to “should we scrap homework?”: So many valid points were made in the article, including the mom’s statement regarding the lack of guidelines, as well as the inconsistency in the volume of homework. My son, in Grade 1, comes home with a reasonable amount of homework, but I sometimes struggle with the concepts – especially if it’s abstract math. How do you explain a word without using that word? The article also highlighted the divide homework creates when parents aren’t equipped to assist with tasks. Personally, I feel homework has advantages, especially to keep parents involved with their child’s development and capabilities.

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Everyone at Kids Haven would like to say “thank you” for donating your time on Mandela Day. It was a very special day for us and we are grateful for the practical help we received, together with the many donations of clothing and food, special lunch packs, touchy-feely beanbags and gifts for the children. The work we do is blessed. The evidence is in Kids Haven surviving and thriving into our 24th year amidst incredibly challenging times. We can thank our donors for this. It would seem as soon as we have identified a need, it is met.

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her lip repaired at four months old and her palate was repaired at 11 months (three weeks before this shoot was done). Although it is usually a struggle to feed babies with this condition, Eliana let’s nothing stand in her way and loves food, even before her palate repair. She is the most tenacious little girl with the most amazing spirit for life. She has reached all learning and developmental milestones with such ease and has never let anything stop her. This little angel has been her parents’ biggest blessing yet.

Paige Louw, photographer Childmag Eliana graces our Durban cover this month.

viva the grey brigade Thanks for the help you give to the grey brigade who are increasingly having to be parents again to young children, doing the school run and afternoon care, as I am. Fiftyeight years ago when I was six, life was very different for children, and now at age 64, I’m having to relearn, so your magazine is a real help.

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She’s her parents’ biggest blessing yet.

Eliana Grace (right) is just over a year old and was born with a bilateral cleft lip and palate. This is one of the most common birth defects in the world and yet so little is published and shared about the condition. She has had

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Let us know what’s on your mind. Send your letters or comments to marina@childmag.co.za or PO Box 12002, Mill Street, 8010.

your choice In response to Holly Leppard’s letter (August 2016): I love the words of an experienced midwife: “Breast is best, but formula is fabulous. Let each woman choose what works for her and her baby.”

Gillian McLaren

the perfect platform My folks have recently started a scrapbooking, and art and crafts business, which they are looking to expand into the children’s party market. I suggested to them that they should advertise in Child magazine, as it’s my go-to spot for party planning when it comes to my children’s parties.

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your voice online in response to “left of centre” Thanks for your article on left-handedness. I am an occupational therapist with a special interest in fine motor skills and handwriting acquisition. I would just like to highlight the following point: Many teachers

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may not be aware of the correct teaching method for letter formation. I would just like to confirm that, with the possible exception of the pencil travelling in the right-to-left direction when crossing the t and f, there is no alternate method of teaching letter formation to lefthanded children. Formation strategies are exactly the same. Of critical importance, however, is the positioning of the book, where it must lie parallel to the child’s forearm – get that right and you are on your way.

Bunty McDougall in response to “mainstreaming special needs children” Parents, please take care when selecting a school for your child, particularly if your child happens to be “different”. Don’t be taken in by all the PR. Anonymous in response to “beyond the mainstream” Mainstream schooling is not for everyone, especially bright teens. They don’t fit the mould, they don’t need the rules and the uniforms and they certainly don’t need to work at the slow pace that most schools must work

at to accommodate the slower learners. It’s a travesty for bright children to be so bored that they stop working and start failing.

And in response to “the home-school option”: I believe children learn so much better when they don’t have the pressures and constrictions placed on them by a school. Especially at a high school level, the pressure becomes intense. My children (the students at my study centre) just don’t have those issues as their “school” day is short and focused, and the rest of the day they have to do their sports or pursue other interests, which is so important. They can also move on with the subjects that they excel at and can take more time, if necessary, for tougher subjects. Moving at the same pace as everyone else seems to benefit no one.

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pregnancy news

the stork is coming MARINA ZIETSMAN speaks to new parents about what they wish they knew when their baby was born and what they won’t forget next time.

medical surprises Medical aids are not cheap, and neither are hospital costs. Parents-to-be must make sure they’re aware of any hidden expenses before doing the emergency run to the hospital.

“Find out if your medical aid covers circumcision,” says first-time mom Leigh, from Cape Town. Leigh and her husband assumed the procedure would be automatically covered by their medical aid. But, most medical aids see circumcision as a cosmetic procedure and thus unnecessary, and will not cover the costs. Leigh and her husband had to pay cash. It is a contentious issue, though. The law states that with parental consent the procedure is allowed if done for medical or religious reasons. The Children’s Act of 2010, however, says it’s a violation of children’s rights, as children under 16 cannot give consent for such an operation.

Hospital costs are also never black and white. “Invest in gap medical cover,” says new dad Mark, also from Cape Town. “Without gap cover, we would have been at least R10 000 out of pocket.” Costs for gap medical cover vary between medical aids, but you can pay from as little as R80 per month to as much as R500. Mark says people should also really understand their medical aid. “Your medical aid could indicate they cover 100% [which is 100% of the scheme tariff], but the doctor might charge 400%, and you are responsible for the ‘short fall’.” Medical aids usually cover 2–5% more of the tariffs as recommended by the National Health Reference Price List. If your doctor, anaesthetist or obstetrician asks 300% or more (as up to 90% of them do), you must negotiate a discount, or pay the difference.

Part of understanding your medical aid, is to read the fine print. Make doubly sure with your medical aid you are covered for the delivery. Most medical aid schemes impose a waiting period on new members and their dependants when they join.

Generally this waiting period depends on how long you’ve been part of another scheme or not part of a scheme at all. The waiting period could be as little as three months, but for pregnancy most medical aids expect you to be a member for at least 12 months before you can claim for pregnancy- and birth-related costs. There are pregnancy hospital plans available, but they also don’t necessarily cover the birth or other hospital costs if you’ve joined while pregnant.

Also make sure your new-born baby is covered by your medical aid. “Our medical aid automatically covered our baby at birth, but only for the month he was born in, regardless of the day,” says Leigh. “If he was born 2 July, he would be covered until 31 July. If he was born 30 July, the automatic cover also expired 31 July.” After this expiry date, their son had to be registered as an independent member. But you have to inform your medical aid of the birth, and find out what the window period is in which your baby is automatically covered, before he has to be registered as an independent member.

Hidden costs, though, are not the only glitch you might have to look out for. “Be specific and inform hospital staff about your preferences for feeding your baby,” says Ellen, mom to one-year-old Bree. “If you don’t want the hospital to give your baby formula, insist that under no circumstances should this be allowed without your consent.”

Ellen was exhausted from giving birth and rested, when Bree was taken for clean-up and routine medical tests. “When they returned with her, Bree spat up, and I enquired if they’d fed her. Some know-it-all nurse confirmed they did give her formula supplementation as they felt it was the right thing to do. I was horrified.”

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Without gap cover, we would have been at least R10 000 out of pocket.

money is too tight Okay, so you’ve budgeted for all the gadgets, medical extras and other mainstream expenses, yet, you keep on having to flash your cash. The fact is, your grocery needs will change soon enough – pre-sliced veggies, organic food – and convenience will become a necessity. “Because time is so valuable, convenient shopping will take preference to budget shopping. Make sure you have liquid cash for those unexpected expenses,” says Mark.

“Also understand how your UIF payment works,” says Leigh. “I used an agent and they made sure I applied on time. I found that many moms don’t realise there is a waiting period involved.”

just baby and me You and your partner had an exhilarating, yet exhausting, few days together at home with your newborn. But eventually your partner has to get back to work and you’re flying solo.

Leigh says you have to prepare for that first spell alone with your baby. “I was born to be a mom, and it all comes so naturally to me, but being alone with Jack, I suddenly felt very alone.” Leigh says it wasn’t easy at first, but she had to drag herself out of the house. “I felt better just by getting out of the house, and having much-needed contact with other adults. Seeing the world is still ‘turning’ lifted my spirits.”

Gale, a single mom to Alyson, says, “I had family around, but eventually life goes on, they went back to work, and I started to panic. I was ‘on call’ – alone. I felt out of my depth. Then I did something I never thought I’d do: I joined a new-mommy club. It’s been a life-saver.”

Ellen adds, “Everybody has an opinion on raising a newborn, which can be annoying, but I found that during those first lonely days, asking questions, sharing info, and communicating, was a huge help. In the end, you trust your instincts and discard unwanted advice, but at least you’ve connected to the world.”

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Co-sleeper – This is a cot that fits next to your bed, with an open side. You and your baby won’t share a bed, but it helps to maximise the breastfeeding

and soothing benefits because of the close proximity, and minimise the increased risk of suffocation and Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (Sids) that’s associated with actual bed sharing.

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Nappy buddy – A nappy changing kit includes a changing pad, and it has room for everything else you’ll need, such as nappies and baby wipes to change

your baby’s nappy anywhere. “Some even have storage pockets for your keys and phone, which has made my life so much easier,” says new Joburg mom Isabel.

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Car seat – Your baby should be strapped into a car seat the moment you leave the hospital. “And make sure it’s installed correctly,” says Leigh. “We

drove around with Jack for five months thinking the car seat was installed properly, until someone pointed out that it was indeed not correct.”

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Humidifier or dehumidifier – Make sure your baby’s room is not too warm and too dry. Babies sleep better with a cooler, moist environment

without feeling chilly. Depending on your home and environment, invest in either a humidifier or dehumidifier to make sure your baby’s sleeping space is comfortable and healthy from the start.

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best for baby

scoring your f irst 100 The birth of a baby is the most wonderful thing that can happen to you.

But it’s also one of the biggest physical and emotional challenges you’ll ever face.

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n my experience, the fun begins when you bring your bundle of joy home from the hospital. In their first few days out of the womb, babies tend to spend most of their time sleeping. And even if yours doesn’t, dealing with a niggly newborn is a lot easier when you have an entire ward of doctors, nurses, cleaners and caterers at your disposal.

Once you’re back home, the gravity of the situation sets in. You’re on your own with a helpless infant whose only reflexes are sucking, swallowing and breathing.

Everything else has to be done by you, 24-7. No amount of reading and research can prepare you for this exam, even if you’re writing it for the second or third time. Despite what the cooing aunties you meet in Clicks may tell you, there is

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no such thing as an easy baby. The first 100 days will be tough, but they will also introduce you to a brand of love that cannot be beaten.

what’s normal?

In the early days, a baby’s sole task is to sleep and eat, but most babies have trouble doing one or both of these things at some point. “The most important thing to remember,” explains Cape Town paediatrician Dr Mandy Meyer, “is that every baby is different, so it’s very difficult to define ‘normal’ behaviour.”

Meyer emphasises the importance of regular check-ups at a clinic, not least for the opportunity these afford mothers to talk about their concerns with someone who understands. “Of course there will be

difficult times,” she explains, “but if your baby is sleeping, eating and growing then you deserve a huge pat on the back.”

“By the time your baby is six weeks old, he or she should be smiling, staring at bright lights and faces, and be startled by sound. At three months, your baby should be cooing, chuckling, reaching for things and displaying head control.”

sing the blues There can be no underestimating the enormous emotional and physical impact the birth of a baby has on a mother. Someone who knows this better than most is Tamara Zanella, a counselling psychologist based in Bryanston. “Up to 85% of mothers suffer from the baby blues, a period characterised by moodiness, weeping and irritability,

which should clear up when your baby is about two weeks old. If symptoms persist much longer than this, then it’s probably postnatal depression (PND) – a condition that affects 10–15% of mothers.”

“Sleep deprivation is one of the biggest things for any new parent,” explains Zanella.

“It affects mood, appetite and energy levels, and if left unchecked, can easily spiral out of control. A new parent without any history of anxiety or depression still needs to get rest.” This is why Zanella encourages new moms to make use of any adult help that is available, and to push aside the belief that others – especially dads – won’t be able to look after your baby properly.

But, Zanella continues, “Emotional support is just as important as practical help. People have unrealistic expectations

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Seasoned dad NICK DALL gives his tips on navigating the haze.

doctor’s orders of motherhood and the pressure to be ‘the perfect mom’ makes asking for help very difficult. What we know from research is that just having some support alleviates a lot of the stress, even in patients with PND. It doesn’t have to be professional support either, just talking to another mother who’s been through the same kind of thing can work wonders.”

spare wheel?

As Dad, it’s entirely normal to feel a bit left out of the special bond that develops between the mom and baby. There’s not much you can do to change this. Guys can’t breastfeed and in South Africa most men only get a few days’ paternity leave, so there will be plenty of opportunity for mom and baby to bond.

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But, fret not. There are loads of times – like the middle of the night, and at 5:05am on a Sunday morning – when you will be able to lend a hand. Whether it’s holding the baby while mom showers, doing the laundry, or making sure the fridge is wellstocked, the first 100 days will show you just how simple it can be to demonstrate your love.

I would also strongly recommend establishing some kind of routine that involves you spending alone time with the baby. With my first daughter it was walking the dogs, by the time number two came along, I was confident enough to take ownership of bath time.

Which brings me to my next point: Don’t be shy. Only Mom can breastfeed, but there’s nothing stopping Dad from

changing nappies, cleaning the umbilical cord, or cutting fingernails and doing some or all of these things, which will help you to connect with Junior.

light at the end of the tunnel As the haze lifts, and baby gets older, things will definitely start to get better.

You’ll establish some sort of routine, which hopefully involves sleeping when it’s dark, and all three of you will get a much clearer idea of your role in your new life.

Besides, in the months and years ahead there’ll be many times when you wish you could have that cuddly, dependent and adoring newborn back, so take my advice and do your best to enjoy it while it lasts…

Here are three golden rules from Dr Mandy Meyer.

Eat When it comes to feeding, breast is most definitely best.

Feed on demand rather than imposing strict schedules on yourself – unless your baby is not gaining weight.

Sleep Swaddling your baby is good, as it mimics the conditions in the womb. To reduce the risks of Sids, a baby should sleep on its back.

Cry All babies cry, but you should seek medical attention if the crying is excessive, out of character or accompanied by a high temperature, too much vomiting, or a change in bowel function.

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dealing with difference

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It may not be easy to achieve, but the solution is simple – enjoying a little face-time with your child every day may, according to a child psychologist, save you thousands in therapy.

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By LUCILLE KEMP

act, one of life’s biggest challenges is taking care of another human life – but keeping them clothed and in school is one thing; ensuring that they are well-adjusted and emotionally stable, during it all, is far trickier. A child’s life is a pretty intense series of lessons, which all parents hope will foster positive growth and sound personal direction to build solid character. But, in the growing years, this is a gradual journey that can sometimes be thrown off course, revealing itself, perhaps, in a personality change, a drop in school marks, a change in friends... and you can’t be sure if it’s thanks to growing pains or something irregular and self-destructive.

So, I want to learn a little more about what today’s children are really struggling with in order to gain some insight into where they need us the most.

Children feel upset, sad, alone, down and jealous, just as adults do, but don’t have all the cognitive abilities to express these appropriately.

According to Cape Town-based clinical psychologist Rafiq Lockhat of the Psychological Society of South Africa, “Parents are more aware and informed than ever before, and they don’t take chances, so more and more children are attending therapy these days,” which is not a bad thing because problems are being addressed and families are getting the help they need. Unfortunately, this growing need for therapy is also because parents simply don’t have time to deal with obstacles themselves. “I get it, I’m a working parent too,” but Lockhat is finding that this shortage of quality connection between child and parent is resulting in worrying and misguided, attention-seeking behaviour. “I am dealing with body image obsession, especially thinness, in eight and nine year olds, cutting behaviour in older children, which is not restricted to those with borderline personality disorder, and suicide attempts that are often nothing more than copy-cat, statement-making behaviour – when Zayn from One Direction left the band, teens cut their wrists in protest. It is also disturbingly, and successfully, being used against parents as a weapon for manipulation.”

When suicidal behaviour is accompanied by tearfulness, parents should indeed worry and take action, says Lockhat. When it is accompanied by tantrums and the

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big and strong in all respects

threat repeatedly crops up when your child is not getting their way, the answer is to not give in and buy those R1 000 sneakers. “I see many guilt-riddled single parents that are particularly vulnerable to these tactics,” says Lockhat.

Lockhat is also seeing children with poor discipline and concentration skills, symptoms that many parents are mistaking for ADHD. “Many children simply haven’t been trained to focus.”

Then there is the fair share of scholastic problems to be dealt with. “Many children are not doing well at school. Their reading ability is not up to scratch for instance, which is essential for other skills such as maths,” states Lockhat.

Children are also coming to him with a variety of emotional problems caused mainly by divorce and bullying, and many children are presenting with depression symptoms.

Lockhat also deals with a high instance of child-on-child abuse, not only because the child has been abused, but due to, simply, unchecked internet usage. “Porn pops up on the most innocuous websites, and sexually explicit music videos are front of mind and easily accessed. Children are being left to their own devices too often, and they’re observing a huge amount of sexual content, online, which is causing curiosity.”

the parent before the professional The resounding message from the professionals seems to be that there is no substitute for your time – if you’re connecting with your child regularly you’ll be more aware of how they’re coping with life.

Set the example Nelspruit-based educational psychologist Ria Scholtz says, “Understand that children feel upset, sad, alone, down, jealous and more, just as adults do. The big difference is they do not have all the cognitive abilities to express these appropriately.”

They are only learning these now while growing up, which is why it’s important that you understand the concept of healthy expression, so that you can demonstrate it to your child. If your children are privy to your road rage or you are snapping at their dad because you are “stressed at work”, you are modelling an inappropriate expression of feelings, in the same way as your child hitting a friend, when angry, is.

Make time for special time As busy as your schedule is, time must be made – not for chores, homework or even to watch a movie, but for engaged fun together – as little as 10 minutes a day is good enough, says Lockhat. Talk to your child and, more importantly, listen.

Read up or talk to someone Knowledge is your best weapon – if there seems to be a problem, talk to your child’s teacher to ascertain what they observe. If there is a specific diagnosis (such as autism or ADHD), gain the knowledge and then support, says Scholtz.

Ask questions relating to the behaviour Was there a change in your routine? What is different in your home, family and life? Was there any trauma? “Often I will get answers such as ‘granny died, we moved, he started at a new school, we were robbed, we are fighting in the house, dad is now working far away, I have started working late, we have a new nanny’,” says Scholtz.

Keep your emotional tank topped-up A depleted mom and dad can offer nothing.

Implement strategies These include behaviour charts, rewards and routine.

Build on your child’s strengths Find the positive aspects of your child’s personality or behaviour and celebrate that.

Wait and see If there is no change in troubling moods or behaviour, take more action.

“Look out for sudden, definite change or extremes in your child’s behaviour or emotions that are worrisome, intense, out of the ordinary, and seem to stay longer than just a week or two, and for which you have no explanation,” says Scholtz. If there is an improvement, recognise that you have helped your child effectively through a difficult situation and likely equipped her with a life-skill or two in the process.

what professional help looks like ✻✻ Psychotherapy – A child will learn about his problems, emotions, thoughts and behaviours, and will be taught how to respond to challenging situations.

Examples include talk therapy, play therapy, sand-tray therapy, as well as using books, stories, games and other techniques the therapist may be trained in, such as BWRT, EMDR or TRE. ✻✻ Medication – Your child’s doctor might recommend that they take certain medications. Seek a second or third opinion if you feel the need. Upon doing thorough research you’ll know best practice for your child. “I was hesitant to try Ritalin with all the negative publicity, but it really helped my child to focus. I needed him to learn, and had to try it,” says Cape Town mom *Barbara whose son was diagnosed with ADHD. ✻✻ Parental guidance – The therapist can help you with guidance, information and plans to deal with routine and behaviour. “Play therapy was amazing. *Greg loved it. We not only worked through issues of cooperation and emotions, but it gave me effective disciplining tools and helped me to understand and not get frustrated with him all the time,” says Barbara.

Information compliments of Dr Ria Scholtz *Names have been changed

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health focus TAMLYN VINCENT highlights the health and awareness days in October to help us remember, learn about and take action to assist those in need.

October

Breast Cancer Awareness Month Breast cancer is one of the most common cancers among women in South Africa. This month focuses on awareness of this disease and encourages women to do regular selfexaminations and mammograms, which can lead to early detection and a better prognosis.

The Cancer Association of South Africa (Cansa): 0800 226 622 or cansa.org.za Pink Drive: They have a selection of pink ribbon and other merchandise online. Contact: 021 418 0548 or pinkdrive.co.za Reach 4 Recovery: 079 462 3973 or reach4recovery.org.za

Eye Care Awareness Month Eye health, particularly the prevention of avoidable blindness, is highlighted during Eye Care Awareness month and on World Sight Day, 13 October.

South African National Council for the Blind (SANCB): 012 452 3811 or sancb.org.za Orbis: 021 447 7135 or orbis.org.za Retina South Africa: 086 059 5959 or retinasa.org.za

Mental Health Awareness Month

15 October

Awareness around mental health improves education, while helping to decrease the stigma and discrimination associated with mental health issues.

South African Depression and Anxiety Group (Sadag): 011 234 4837, suicidal emergency contact: 0800 567 567 or sadag.org

This day promotes the idea that washing hands with soap is an easy, affordable way to effectively prevent the spreading of disease. The theme this year is “Make Handwashing a Habit!”

Global Handwashing: globalhandwashing.org

Global Handwashing Day

3–7 October

OT Week This week showcases how occupational therapy can help people of all ages in their day-to-day lives. The International Occupational Therapy Day, 27 October, promotes the importance of OT. Occupational Therapy Association of South Africa (Otasa): 012 362 5457 or otasa.org.za

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World Hospice and Palliative Care Day Today is about celebrating and supporting hospice and palliative care. The theme for 2016 is “Living and dying in pain: It doesn’t have to happen”.

Hospice Palliative Care Association of South Africa (HPCA): Purchase a R20 temporary butterfly tattoo for the Social Butterfly campaign, available at various Primi Piatti outlets and from HPCA. Contact: 021 531 0277 or hpca.co.za

The theme for 2016 is “Living and dying in pain: It doesn’t have to happen.”

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National Foetal Alcohol Syndrome Day Awareness around the risk of drinking during pregnancy can help in preventing Foetal Alcohol Syndrome Disease.

While this condition is preventable, it can’t be cured.

Foundation for Alcohol Related Research (Farr): 021 686 2646 or farrsa.org.za South African National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence (Sanca): 086 147 2622 or sancanational.info 20 October

National Down Syndrome Day

9–15 October

National Nutrition Week The emphasis this week is on healthy eating to improve long-term health of South Africans, through nutrition and a healthy lifestyle.

The Nutrition Society of South Africa (NSSA): nssa@mweb.co.za or nutritionsociety.co.za

Geared towards creating awareness around Down syndrome, this day is about informing people of the condition, and encouraging acceptance and inclusivity.

Down Syndrome South Africa (DSSA): 0861 369 672 or downsyndrome.org.za

Global ADHD Awareness Month

15–19 October

International Dyslexia Awareness Month

National Obesity Week

October highlights the difficulties that come with dyslexia, from children being stereotyped to facing challenges in the classroom.

The Red Apple Dyslexia Association (RADA): They have programmes and activities to help children. Contact: 016 454 0281 or dyslexiasa.org

Being overweight or obese puts you at risk of chronic disease. This week creates awareness around these risks and encourages healthier living.

Overeaters Anonymous: 011 640 2901 or oa.org.za The Heart and Stroke Foundation South Africa: 021 422 1586 or heartfoundation.co.za

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Creating awareness around ADHD helps to educate people and encourages the development of resources as people work towards finding solutions.

Adhasa: 011 888 7655 or adhasa.co.za ADHD and Dyslexia support group: Facebook: Familyzone Learning

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exams The stress of exams can affect not only children, but also parents and teachers. Are exams worth it? And what can you do to help your child?

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sk most adults to share their worst nightmare, and who won’t cite being back at school, trapped in a tricky exam? The stress of exams can be considerable, as a child’s performance is measured against their expectations and those of parents and teachers, plus the performance of their peers. Many feel their self-worth and future success is at stake.

The South African Depression and Anxiety Group (Sadag) reports a significant spike in pupils calling its helpline over exam periods, and with suicide now accounting for 9,5% of teenage deaths, the South African College of Applied Psychology notes “there is reason for concern”, that the exam results period may aggravate symptoms for those already depressed.

In most South African schools, children start writing exams in Grade 4, and according to Sadag, the suicide rate for children aged 10 to 14 years old has more than doubled over the past 15 years. Clearly more than exams is at play where suicide is concerned, but do young children need the added stress in their lives? In short, are exams worth it?

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no Exams are a waste of time say Yvonne Sullivan and Kim Day, flatly. Both are Grade 6 teachers at award-winning Durban government school Manor Gardens Primary, which has frequently taken first place and the overall Top School Achiever Award in the Horizon Maths Competition, and has won the national Kids’ Lit Quiz twice, and placed first in the world.

“Exams are no longer valid in the 21st century,” says Sullivan. “They reduce everything to their smallest part and capture only a miniscule part of the whole person – a meaningless score. They snuff out creativity as children’s thinking is channelled into providing answers the teacher wants, rather than engaging children in open-ended debate that would generate innovative ideas. Valuable learning time is wasted revising for and writing exams, and teacher time is wasted marking and entering these meaningless symbols on to mark schedules.”

Day adds: “With an exam-based system, learning is reduced to teaching for tests rather than learning for life. The joy of learning and the inherent curiosity of the child is suppressed. What is the point of memorising and regurgitating content when today one can access information so easily online? Learning must involve critical thinking skills and problem-solving. Time spent on exams would be better spent guiding children on how to access relevant information and evaluate sources. We must remove the shackles of testing from our education system.”

Exams are no longer valid in the 21st century.

– Yvonne Sullivan, teacher

yes And yet others still support exams. “Without them, what reason would there be for children to ensure they know and understand work?” says Dr Deon van Wyk, child psychologist and author of Study Without Stress. “They need to measure themselves and be measured on whether they can do the work – it’s done in swimming and tennis, why not academics?

Exams also allow teachers to see where a child falls short, and if they need to teach more or change how they teach or the pace of their teaching.”

Exams introduce children to different study methods and the skill of actually writing an exam is “an essential skill later in life”, says Diane Berry, head of Rustenberg Girls’ Junior School in Cape Town. “It’s not just about content – exams are set to include creative thinking, understanding, application, deduction, explanation, analysis, comparison, evaluation and comprehension. That said, exams are only part of the whole assessment programme, particularly in the intermediate phase, and must be kept in perspective.”

As long as children are guided and nurtured through the first set of exams in Grade 4, they are fine, Berry says. “As exams become more complicated, children slowly become accustomed to different types of questions and how to answer them.”

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Many remain in the middle. “Exams are by no means ideal,” says Joburg educational psychologist Marisa Di Terlizzi, director of student affairs at St Stithians College in Joburg.

“Unfortunately, because of the way tertiary education is set up and the nature of society, there has to be some kind of ‘yardstick’, so that we can compare apples with apples.”

And while exams assess content, she says, they also assess skill, such as analysis: “These higher-order skills are important in terms of application of knowledge in tertiary education, and ultimately, the world of work.

“Could they be assessed in another way? Probably, but to do so might require more teachers and access to materials that only some schools have access to. So for now, though far from ideal, an exam based on common criteria is where we are.”

how early Given that exams are a reality for now, when should they begin? “Because exams create anxiety, if students start early, by the time they reach high school they feel more relaxed about them because it has become the norm,” says Di Terlizzi. “They also have time to establish some exam techniques.” But she warns against starting too early. “Children need the opportunity for play and engagement, where they learn naturally and incidentally.

Starting exams in the later years of primary school, with certain subjects, would create a good amount of preparation.”

Research shows Grade 4 is the optimal age, says Van Wyk. “In the past, parents taught children survival skills from a young age and were responsible for testing these.

To teach children to use their brain to maximum potential has become the only survival skill, when certain careers are becoming obsolete and others constantly emerging. Today children are facing a tsunami of knowledge, and need to start training early to handle it and not become anxious – anxiety is the greatest danger.”

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how to handle it Stress is part of life, says Van Wyk. Rather than avoid it, assist children to cope with it during exams: Develop a positive attitude to studying and the right study methods from the start “It’s imperative, as the volume and complexity of schoolwork today is light-years from what we had to deal with,” he says. “Ensure they understand the ‘bigger picture’, the logic that connects themes – work learnt parrot-fashion is forgotten when tension rises.”

Watch your emotions “They are highly contagious, so it’s most important parents stay calm and upbeat,” Van Wyk says. “Watch the pitch of your voice, talk slowly and radiate trust and confidence.”

See that they eat well “Great options are tuna, spinach, sweet potatoes, brown rice, avocados, bananas, oranges, almonds and blueberries,” says Di Terlizzi. “Limit caffeine (coffee, energy drinks), as it can adversely affect concentration and interfere with sleep. Similarly, too much sugar can increase tiredness and lower energy and mood when the blood sugar level drops.”

See that they get enough sleep Knowledge is consolidated through neural connections while you sleep, she explains. “If your child is not getting enough sleep, they will struggle to retain information and think clearly. So pulling all-nighters is a no-no.”

See that they get exercise “It’s a great stress-reliever and should not be forfeited during exams,” she says. “It’s the perfect break to clear the brain and get back on track.”

Help set up a place to study A desk, rather than the bed, is best for posture and concentration, she says. It should be equipped with all the stationery they need, snacks and water, and be free from distractions.

Help them plan their time Frequent study breaks are important, Di Terlizzi says.

“Children should get out and active, not engage in screen-watching or reading, which use the same concentration resources.”

Plan a reward Line up something to look forward to, such as meeting up with friends after a tough week, she advises.

Use opportunities provided by the school Find out what academic support is offered and tap into it.

Get help A certain amount of stress is beneficial (eustress), focusing attention and enhancing performance. But if your child gets into an anxiety spiral, provide distractions to help them, says Di Terlizzi. If it persists or depression sets in, get professional help.

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timeline Two weeks before exams Help your child set up a study timetable to work through sections in manageable bite-sizes; a bit each day. “Feeling on top of things helps keep anxiety in check,” says Di Terlizzi. “Show understanding if your child is acting out because of the pressures,” adds Van Wyk. “Teach them to relax with deep breaths.”

The night before See that your child goes to sleep at a reasonable hour and has some downtime before bed. “Chamomile tea is a good relaxant,” says Di Terlizzi. “A warm bath or shower relaxes tense muscles and aids sleep.”

The morning of the exam Many children rise early to go through their notes one last time. “This is acceptable provided it doesn’t deprive them of too much sleep and they don’t work themselves up,” she says. Give your child a healthy breakfast and get them to school in good time. Rather than comparing notes with peers, it’s best they wait in your car or sit quietly where they can’t be hyped up.” Be calm and cheerful – tell them you know they will do their best.

After exams If they have failed a subject, support is crucial. “Let them know failure is only failure if you don’t learn from the experience. Encourage them to pay attention when exam feedback is given in class, to understand why they failed, says Di Terlizzi.

“Was it due to content knowledge? Did they misread the question, or not pay note to mark allocation?” Remind them they are bigger than an exam: this too shall pass and there is always another opportunity. “If they struggle to process this, a counsellor or psychologist can help them cope with disappointment and limit the effect on their self-esteem, or prevent them acting rashly.” Call Sadag: 0800 21 22 23, sms 31393 or sadag.org.za

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up market Ensuring young people are skilled can give them a better chance at finding a job when the time comes. TAMLYN VINCENT looks at what skills they need.

making an impact Employers look at a range of factors when considering a job applicant, says Lingenfelder.

Just look at the requirements on any job advertisement – IT skills, budgeting and organisation skills, ability to work well with others, must be able to meet deadlines... Apart from these, employers are looking for applicants who are well-presented, and in every case, those who can communicate effectively and work well with others. When considering a potential candidate, employers look not only at the qualifications, but also the skills, attributes and knowledge of the whole individual, says Lingenfelder. This means that youth, starting in childhood, need to develop a range of skillsets to make them marketable and by extension, employable.

There are two types of skills that young people can add to their toolset, says Lingenfelder – basic skills and job-specific ones. A Skills for Employment policy brief from ILO says that core skills are key to employability. Some of the basic core skills needed for today’s job market include IT and computer skills, interpersonal ones such as reliability and punctuality, communication skills, time management and self-discipline. Having core work skills means young people are able to learn and adapt, to think creatively, solve problems by themselves and to work well by themselves or with others. Finding a young person who is employable is going to benefit the employer as well – it means a more efficient work force, with faster turnaround times, that is more able to adapt easily and change in more innovative ways to challenges it may encounter.

Being able to communicate well is top of the skillset list. Lingenfelder relates, saying that she has seen many successfully trained, intelligent candidates perform poorly in interviews, as they lack communication and interpersonal skills. She adds that “the interview is an opportunity to communicate your worth as an employee and translate your qualifications into your ability to do a job successfully”. Being able to get this across confidently and professionally is vital. Another important ability is knowing how to balance a professional and personal life. Time management and self-discipline are critical skills that can help young people balance a work-from-home or flexible position, while still delivering exceptional results, says Lingenfelder. Being able to problem-solve, the ILO notes, requires a person to be able to evaluate the situation and arrive at the best solution, which in turn requires an understanding of action and consequence, an important skill for young people embarking on a career or, for that matter, a life of their own.

Technical skills, those required for specific jobs, can also improve employability.

Lingenfelder points out that they give employers an idea of what a potential employee is interested in and how they could develop into certain roles. Short courses are one way to develop technical skillsets, and could cover negotiation skills, money management or even first aid and CPR.

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early learning Ensuring youth are marketable and employable isn’t something that happens overnight – children can be introduced to these skills from early on. Communication skills, for instance, can be developed through everyday discussion around the dinner table, says Lingenfelder.

Ask each family member about their day, engage everyone, and build their confidence in speaking from early on. Encourage problem-solving skills by teaching children to ask (and answer) questions for themselves. If they ask you why they have to do sport, get them to research the benefits of exercise. Being self-disciplined and organised is a skill that children can start learning as soon as they start doing homework, projects and tests.

Children are exposed to computers and gadgets from an early age, making them used to rapidly evolving technology, reports ILO. But you can ensure that children are better equipped by introducing them to educational technology and websites, while limiting time spent on games or websites with little or no benefit. One website to try is code.org.

Giving children pocket money, and encouraging them to save towards short-, midand long-term goals teaches them how to manage money. They can budget every month and learn that to save, they need to practise self-discipline. You can even encourage entrepreneurial thinking, getting children to spend some of their money on creating a product or service, and using this to build their savings.

As a life coach, Lingenfelder works with people to conceptualise and practise these life skills, before they need them in real life. Life coaches, she says, can introduce children to these skills and help them practise and develop the skills they will need later in life. But no matter how you choose to introduce these skills to your children, it is important to do so from early on, to ensure that they have the advantage going forward.

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ou spend your life as a parent making sure your children have a good education.

Countless hours are spent over homework, they’ve been signed up for so many extramurals you’ve lost count, and they’ve gone to the best schools you can afford.

Guess what? There’s a good chance they won’t get a good job straight out of school. Even students leaving university will find it difficult. The International Labour Organization (ILO) estimates that globally, over 13% of youth are unemployed. A recent report from ILO says: “Overall, two in five (42,6%) economically active youth are still either unemployed or working yet living in poverty. In the face of such statistics, it is safe to report it is still not easy to be young in today’s labour market”.

But when young people can’t get a job, they also can’t contribute to society. The longer it takes them to find a job (one in which they will grow), the longer it takes them to become a productive member of that society, which means that the country can’t grow.

Not only because the youth labour force (the economically active youth) isn’t able to make a significant enough contribution, but also because those who can’t find jobs in South Africa go in search of greener pastures in other countries. “School leavers are constantly faced with tougher conditions for entry into the job market,” says Simone Lingenfelder, a life coach based in Joburg. But ensuring they are marketable is key to young adults finding a job. This is where youth skills development comes in.

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on a plane and a train in durban ANÉL LEWIS and her family head to the KwaZulu-Natal coast for cake by the ocean, a train trip (or 10) and plenty of sand art.

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Conor did not seem fussed that the train was actually a scaled-down version of what we had initially promised. He was just thrilled to be on something with an engine that “chuffed” and emitted plumes of steam.

The flight was fairly painless – we made sure the tablets were fully-charged so that the children could play games, and we had colouring-in books and snacks to keep them entertained. Once we had imposed the Treaty of the Orange Plane and agreed that Erin would have the window seat on the way out, and that Conor could have a view for the trip home, we settled down for the flight. Take-off was a breeze – Conor was so thrilled when we lifted off the ground that he shouted, “Yes, good job!”, much to the amusement of everyone around us. But the trip to the plane toilet proved too much for our budding aviator, and Conor almost levitated out of the 1 x 1m cubicle when the vacuum caused by flushing the toilet resulted in a deafening “whoosh”.

We really wanted to treat Conor to a steam train experience while in Durban, and what better place than along the edge of the majestic Valley of a 1000 Hills? The Umgeni Steam Railway runs from Kloof Station to and from Inchanga Station on the last Sunday of each month. Unfortunately, our holiday fell just outside of this period, so we could not experience

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y son, Conor, is obsessed with trains, planes and just about anything that has an engine and makes a noise. This includes lawnmowers, leaf blowers, and, as we discovered on a recent family trip to Durban, the rotating machines that cover suitcases in plastic at the airport. While we thought the flight on an aeroplane would be the highlight, the baggage-covering machine was a winner before we had even checked in at Cape Town International. Conor was transfixed, standing in rapt attention with his hands behind his back as the bag spun around in its plastic cocoon. “It’s almost as cool as a leaf blower, Mom,” he said. Hopefully we would be able to top this experience on our coastal trip.

Airports can be a bit of a parenting gauntlet with their brightly-lit shops filled with expensive fluffy toys and over-priced knick-knacks. So the trick to getting from check-in to the boarding gate without buying three plastic microphones filled with tasteless pink sweets and a penguin keyring, is to keep children entertained by the workings of the airport. We headed straight to the viewing area to see the planes landing and taking off.

Eagle-eyed Erin soon spotted her suitcase being loaded onto an aircraft, and this provided much entertainment as we played “spot your luggage”.

a trip on one of South Africa’s oldest active railway lines. Desperate to get Conor onto a train of some kind, I turned to Google. A quick search revealed that the Durban Society of Model Engineers offers train rides on the second Sunday of each month.

We headed to Durban North not knowing what to expect. It wasn’t quite the romantic steam train experience that we had planned, but what the site lacked in old-world charm was more than made up for with the passion of the locomotive enthusiasts who drive and maintain the trains. The track has been operational since 1969 and the children rode on a model train that was assembled in the 1970s, probably around the time that I was born. Members of the society take turns on open-day Sundays to drive the model steam train, which seats about 12 passengers. It’s a fully-functional steam train and the driver painstakingly loads coal into the engine’s miniature firebox before each trip. There’s even a rustic station where passengers wait undercover for their ride.

The train travels along a “folded dogbone” track configuration, through a tunnel and past fields of sugarcane. Conor was enthralled. He did not seem fussed that the train was actually a scaled-down version of what we had initially promised. He was just thrilled to be on something with an engine that “chuffed” and emitted plumes of steam. Conor had about 10 trips while we sipped on instant coffee from the cafe. We noticed quite a few families had brought picnics to enjoy in the play area next to the track. At only R10 a ride, this was an inexpensive, yet thoroughly enjoyable family outing.

The excursion reminded Conor of a prior visit to Durban’s Mini Town. To my jaded adult eye, the mini replicas of Durban’s landmark buildings had seemed a bit tired and in need of a lick of paint. It was a far cry from the magical place I recalled from my first visit to Durban as a six year old more than three decades ago. But Conor and Erin loved the Brobdingnagian sensation of towering above buildings and highways built on a 1:24 scale.

And of course, Conor enjoyed the extensive miniature railway network and the airport.

With Conor’s train obsession satiated, we spent a lovely Saturday morning savouring homemade samosas and “milk tart” pancakes at the Litchi Orchard Saturday Market that runs on the second Saturday of each month. The children enjoyed the massive junglegym, located in the garden area. We indulged in some homemade cake to celebrate my birthday, which coincided with the trip. Durban, and specifically Ballito where we stayed, is obviously synonymous with sea and sand. But for some reason, sand art was on offer at most places we visited. At almost every market, restaurant or beachside cafe, you could bet your bunny chow that there would be a sand art table. It cost R20 to R25 per child to make a sand art masterpiece. As this kept them busy for at least half an hour – enough time to enjoy a chilled craft beer or some freshly pressed juice – we were more than happy to shell out for quite a few sand art sessions. The great thing about the Litchi Market was that we could buy sand art kits to take home.

Speaking of sand, obviously Durban’s beaches hold massive appeal for children of all ages. Even in winter, the weather was warm enough for us to spend many happy hours swimming and exploring rock pools. Sand sculptures have become part of the coastal landscape, and the children watched the local artists transform mounds of wet sand into dolphins and sharks. Real animals are also a popular drawcard, and you can choose from spots such as Flag Animal Farm, Crocodile Creek and uShaka Marine World to see these.

We chose to devote one day of our trip to uShaka, which is a bit more pricey and touristy, so that we could spend the rest of the holiday on the beach or exploring Durban’s other attractions. And of course, the children also had the return flight, and the bag-wrapping machine, to look forward to.

sanity tips ✻✻ Pack books, pens and paper to keep children entertained. Make sure the tablets are charged if you are planning to let them play a game or two during the flight. ✻✻ Involve children in the packing and planning of the trip. ✻✻ Give children biltong or dried fruit to chew for take-off and landing to avoid sore ears. ✻✻ Have a “secret weapon” or treat on hand in case there’s a meltdown (usually related to who’s going to get the window seat). ✻✻ Plan one or two key activities, such as the Umgeni Steam Train or a visit to uShaka, but allow for a flexible schedule. Visit busy spots such as uShaka or the Flag Animal Farm earlier in the day, before children get tired. Use the afternoons to unwind on the beach.

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Burnedale No. 1 Old Main Rd, Umhlali Contact 032 947 0133 Website burnedale.co.za This welcoming café offers a fencedoff play area and an animal farm for children.

Flag Animal Farm Sheffield Beach Rd, Durban Contact 032 947 2018 Website flaganimalfarm.co.za They are home to over 1 000 animals including reptiles, wolves and alpacas.

Litchi Orchard Seaforth Ave, Salt Rock Contact 032 525 5118 Website litchiorchard.co.za The day market is held on the second Saturday of each month from 9am–1pm.

Umgeni Steam Railway Old Kloof Station, Old Main Rd Contact 087 808 7715 Website umgenisteamrailway.co.za Take a steam train trip on the last Sunday of each month.

Durban Society of Model Engineers 10 Hinton Grove, Virginia, Durban North Contact 031 564 7066 The open day for the public is the second Sunday of the month, normally from 11am–4pm.

Go Wild The Wavehouse, Gateway Contact: 031 514 0500 Website go-wild.co.za They offer various activities for children including a super tube, a flow rider and a toddler zone.

Mini Town 14 Snell Parade Contact: 031 337 7892 View excellent models of some of Durban’s most interesting buildings.

uShaka Marine World 1 King Shaka Ave, Point Website ushakamarineworld.co.za They offer water rides, an oceanarium, dolphin, seal and penguin shows, shopping, beach activities and more.

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primary issues find the right school for your child

These early intervention centres and special needs schools are committed to putting your child’s learning requirements first by ensuring quality education. Compiled by SIMONE JEFFERY

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Amazing K This private preschool caters to children 2–9 years old with sensory integration difficulties, ADD/ADHD, children with tantrums and behavioural difficulties and children diagnosed with an autistic spectrum disorder.

Address 22 Paul St, Northwold, Randburg Contact 011 793 4053, 083 230 5880 or amazingk.co.za Atholhurst Intervention, Multi Educational and Home Schooling Centre This is an independent centre for learners 5–18 years old who fall between remedial and special needs. They specialise in speech and language disorders, physical, mental and intellectual disabilities, developmental and cognitive delays, neurological difficulties, learning difficulties, Asperger’s syndrome, autistic spectrum disorders and ADD/ADHD.

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Address 60 Dennis Rd, Atholl Contact 011 440 4235, 082 677 8389 or atholhurst.co.za Baobab Learner Centre This is a home-schooling support centre for children up to Grade 10 with special needs, remedial and learning difficulties.

Address 66 1st Ave East, Parktown North Contact 011 880 6313, 072 739 7307 or baobablearnercentre.co.za

Casa do Sol School This is a supportive and proactive learning school for learners 6–21 years old with intellectual disabilities and learners on the autistic spectrum.

Address 85 1st Ave, Linden Contact 011 782 0231/2 or enquiries@ casa.joburg

Bellavista School This is an independent school for children from Grade R–7 who are experiencing specific or generalised learning difficulties, which prevent them from achieving success, or fitting into, a mainstream school.

They also offer an in-depth educational assessment service.

Address 35 Wingfield Ave, Birdhaven Contact 011 788 5454 or bellavista.org.za

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Craiglands Remedial School An independent remedial school for children from Grade 1–7 who experience problems in mainstream education due to learning difficulties. Their aim is to re-introduce learners into mainstream education.

Address 20 Grosvenor Ave, Craighall Park Contact: 011 325 4802 or craiglandsremedialschool.co.za Crest School This independent school offers small classes for learners who are experiencing barriers to learning. Crest uses the mainstream curriculum which is adjusted to suit the needs of the learners from Grade R–10 (Grade 11 in 2017).

Address 26 Cross St, Ferndale, Randburg Contact 011 782 6102, 083 282 6671 or crestschool.co.za Delta Park School This is a public school for learners in Grade R–12 who experience barriers to learning, which prevent them from coping adequately in a mainstream environment.

Address Standard Dr, Blairgowrie Contact 011 888 7228 or deltapark. gp.school.za Faery Glen Therapy Centre An independent school caring for children 3–18 years old with birth trauma, hereditary disorders, dyslexia, autism, medical conditions, general developmental delays as well as other disorders. Children work at their own pace and have their own educational programme.

Address 381 Spionkop Ave, North Riding Contact 083 543 1623, 074 101 2707 or faeryglen.co.za Footprints Preparatory School An independent school that caters to children 5–18 years old with cerebral palsy, Asperger’s, autistic spectrum disorders and behavioural problems. They also accommodate the hearing impaired, those with severe speech impediments, the visually impaired, children with learning difficulties, ADD/ADHD, severe epilepsy and obsessive compulsive disorder.

Address 24 Jan K Marais St, Malanshof, Randburg Contact 011 791 0062, 083 457 7382 or footprintschool.co.za

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Knights Preparatory School This independent school offers bridging classes for learners 6–14 years old (Grades R–7) who require extra attention, and enjoy the structure of a mainstream school. There is no set time for a child to be in bridging; some take 6–12 months while others stay up to Grade 7. Bridging classes are taught by experienced remedial therapists.

Address Milner Rd, Kensington B, Randburg Contact 011 789 6778, admissions@ knightsprep.co.za or knightsprep.co.za Lead Kids Special Needs Preschool An independent school that offers a holistic and nurturing environment for children 2,5–6 years old with special needs, including autistic spectrum disorders, sensory processing disorder, global developmental delay and speechlanguage delay. They focus on a small group-learning ratio of 1:4 and targeting specialised learning areas.

Address 53 13th St, Parkmore Contact 079 021 7828 or leadkids.co.za Mulbarton Remedial School In small classes in this independent school, children from Grade 1–7 are encouraged to reach their full potential through remediation and ongoing support. They cater to children with specific learning difficulties including auditory processing disorder, ADD/ ADHD, dyscalculia, dysgraphia, dyslexia, visual processing disorder, as well as children who are currently struggling in a mainstream classroom.

Address 34 Kirby Beller Rd, cnr Bellairs Dr, Mulbarton Contact 011 432 6272, admin@ mulbartonremedial.co.za or mulbartonremedial.co.za Omatas Primary School An independent school that caters to children in Grades 1–7 who do not fit the traditional education system and need a different approach to learning.

Address Berario Recreation Centre, cnr King St and Dolores Ave, Berario Contact 084 440 0151 or omatas.co.za

Hope School The school caters to learners 4 years old to Grade 12 with physical disabilities who can follow the mainstream CAPS curriculum.

Address Pallinghurst Rd, Westcliff Contact 011 646 6130, michele.alexander@ hopeschool.org.za or hopeschool.org.za

Out the Box Learning Centre An independent centre offering an adaptive approach to learning for children 6–18 years old who have multiple behaviour challenges, learning difficulties or who are on the autistic spectrum. They focus on functional academics, practical life-skills and behaviour management, ensuring a specified programme for each child’s needs.

Address 82 Hillcrest Ave, Blairgowrie Contact 011 886 0125, 082 342 1910 or outtheboxlearning.co.za

Horizons Unlimited An independent school that addresses the special education needs of children from the age of 3 with mild to moderate physical and intellectual challenges. They also cater for profound intellectual disability and cerebral palsy.

Address 61 Donovan Rd, Glen Austin Contact 073 271 1586, 082 498 6768 or little-gems.co.za

Owl Day Care A privately owned daycare for children 4–14 years old with multiple needs who are not accepted in mainstream schools.

They evaluate each child according to their disability and create an individual development programme.

Address 4 Douglas Rd, Bedfordview Contact 011 450 1630, info@owldaycare. co.za or owldaycare.co.za magazine joburg

Radford House A private primary school catering to the unique needs of high-potential or “gifted” learners from 3–13 years old in a stimulating, relaxed and fun environment.

Address 225 Cornelis St, cnr 3rd Ave, Fairland Contact 011 478 1864, admin@ radfordhouse.co.za or radfordhouse.co.za SOWLE Centre An independent centre that educates higher functioning children, aged 4–13 years old (they’re expanding), with Down syndrome and other special education needs such as autism, global development delay and speech apraxia among others, to the highest possible level attainable by each pupil.

Address 95A Boden Rd, Benoni Small Farms, Benoni Contact 011 963 3476 or sowlecentre.co.za Stepping Stones Special Educare Centre This independent school caters to children from 2 years old with multiple disabilities, such as autism and intellectual disabilities.

They offer physiotherapy, occupational therapy, speech therapy, Kindermusik, Baby Gym, swimming as well as horseriding lessons.

Address 469 Othello Dr, Witkoppen Contact 071 470 7236 or sammylea112@ yahoo.ie St George’s Academy This is an independent, assisted-learning centre providing specialised support for children in Grade 0–7 who struggle to keep up within a conventional school environment and are struggling with ADD/ ADHD, dyslexia, ODD and more.

Address 37 Rankdoring Ave, Randpark Ridge/Weltevredenpark Contact 082 435 4757 or sges.co.za Studio of learning An independent school for children from Grade R–7 with learning difficulties who need to be taught in ways that are tailored to their unique learning styles.

Address 223 Barkston Dr, Blairgowrie Contact 011 326 4779 or studiooflearning.co.za St Vincent School for the Deaf An independent school catering to hearing impaired children from Grade 00–12, offering the bilingual approach and using South African Sign Language and English.

They also offer special programmes and vocational programmes.

Address 158 Oxford Rd, Melrose Contact 011 788 5430 or info@ stvincentschool.co.za The Anchor Special School An independent school that caters to learners 7–20 years old who fall between remedial and special needs education.

Classes are limited to six learners and they follow the National Core Curriculum.

Address 27 Blakeney Ave, Mulbarton Contact 011 432 6585 or anchorschool@ telkomsa.net magazine joburg

The Key School for Specialised Education Qualified staff at this independent school provide autistic-specific interventions and individual attention to children 2–12 years old on the autistic spectrum. Each child has an independent support plan developed for them, which is then implemented by a team of therapists, teachers and family members.

Address 7 Rhodes Ave, Parktown Contact 011 726 2445, 082 555 6412 or thekeyschool.org The Maple Tree Early Intervention and Support Centre This is a small independent school catering to children 3–13 years old with ADD/ADHD, autistic spectrum disorders, developmental delays, speech delays, Down Syndrome, dyslexia and apraxia.

Address 65 Lachlan Rd, Glenferness, Kyalami/Midrand Contact 084 406 8795 or Facebook: The Maple Tree Early Intervention Centre The Talk Shop This is a specialised and independent preschool that caters to children 3–6 years old with speech and language impairments.

They follow a mainstream curriculum and offer speech-language therapy, occupational therapy and physiotherapy if necessary.

Address 48 Ballyclare Dr, Bryanston Contact 011 463 8160, 011 463 7267 or thetalkshop.co.za TLC Remedial School The Learning Curve (TLC) is an independent remedial school offering inclusive education to learners in Grade 1–7 who are not coping in mainstream schools.

Address 18 Wag ’n Bietjie St, Wilro Park, Roodepoort Contact 082 459 7233, noeleenpomeroy@ gmail.com or tlcremedialschool.co.za Unity College This independent school is ideal for learners 3–23 years old who have experienced academic difficulties in a mainstream or remedial school, but are sufficiently able to benefit and adjust to this school’s specialised curriculum.

Address 59 Runnymead Ave, Chartwell North Estates, Chartwell Contact 011 460 1672, info@unity-college. org.za or unity-college.org.za Wandsworth School The school is a non-profit orginisation that embraces Montessori philosophies and methodologies. Children from 3–18 years old work through elementary milestones to age-appropriate academic markers, at their own pace. For children with cerebral palsy, autistic spectrum disorders, Down syndrome, genetic translocations, global developmental delays, sensory integration disorders and children without a diagnosis.

Address 197 Starling Ave, Boskruin Contact 011 793 6310, 073 795 5672 or wandsworthschool.co.za October 2016

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a good for toddlers Soon

By Timothy Knapman and Patrick Benson (Published by Walker Books, R136) Raju and his mom set off very early one morning. It’s cold and dark and Raju is tired.

“When can we go home again?” he keeps asking. “Soon”, says Mom. And soon, Raju will see that it is a journey worth taking. An adventure that he will never forget.

for toddlers There’s an Owl in my Towel

By Julia Donaldson and Rebecca Cobb (Published by Macmillan Children’s Books, R121) Lift the flaps as five animals surprise one baby, and sing the song and do the actions. Before Baby is ready for his bath, he encounters a hare on his chair, a mole in his bowl, a lamb in his pram and an owl in his towel. Finally it’s bed time, and there’s a ted in his bed...

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read for preschoolers The Sheep in Wolf’s Clothing

By Bob Hartman and Tim Raglin (Published by Lion Children’s Books, R144) Little Sheep is bored of being a sheep.

She wants the excitement of being a wolf. But when her new friend from Wolf School invites her over for dinner, it starts to look like her disguise might not be such a good idea after all. This is a topsyturvy take on a traditional tale.

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for preschoolers Snail Trails and Other Tales

By Pierre Coetzee, Leighton Jones and Shân Fischer for preschoolers Dudu’s Basket

By Dianne Stewart and Elizabeth Pulles (Published by Jacana Media, R110) When Dudu finishes weaving her first basket, by the light of the plump full moon, her uncle Jojo tells her that her first basket should always be given away. Baskets, woven from locally sourced materials, are widely used and re-used in African society. This is a story about Dudu’s basket and its journey through a number of cultures.

for preschoolers The Lemon Tree

By Katherine Graham and Wendy Paterson (Published by Struik Children, R69) It’s pouring with rain the day that Gogo decides to make pancakes. But she soon discovers she is missing several important ingredients. Helped by her two grandchildren, Sipho and Lungi, Gogo devises a clever plan in which the lemon tree comes to the rescue.

This book, nominated for the prestigious Golden Baobab Prize in 2014, tells a simple story of ubuntu.

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(Published by Human and Rousseau, R236) Here are three beautifully illustrated stories to entertain young children while teaching first concepts and developing vocabulary. Herman the snail lives in a vegetable patch and he teaches children about seasons. Poor Mox and Cat are stranded on an island and dream about food every day of the week. And finally a mouse family is having a birthday party.

for early graders Charles Dickens’ Oliver Twist and David Copperfield Retold by Marcia Williams (Published by Walker Books, R93 each) English author Charles Dickens created some of literature’s best-loved characters in Oliver Twist and David Copperfield. Now one of the world’s greatest writers is introduced to a new audience through this accessible retelling with lively illustrations. Marcia Williams first introduced a generation of children to the works of Charles Dickens through her masterful comic-strip retellings. Now, she brings Dickens’ beloved characters to a fresh audience with a new series of short novels.

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for pre-teens and teens The Watcher in the Shadows

By Carlos Ruiz Zafon

for early graders Lulu Bell and the Birthday Unicorn and Lulu Bell and the Fairy Penguin

By Belinda Murrell and Serena Geddes (Published by Struik Children, R61 each) Where there’s Lulu Bell, there’s family, friends, animals and adventure.

In the first book it’s almost time for Lulu’s little sister’s birthday party, but there’s a problem. A pony is running loose and Lulu and her dad, the local vet, have to rescue it. In The Fairy Penguin, it’s a hot day and the Bell family is going for a swim, but when a runaway dog chases a little penguin, Lulu has to leap into action.

for pre-teens and teens How to be good at Maths

By Carol Vorderman (Published by Dorling Kindersley, R189) Step-by-step explanations work with colourful graphics to make understanding maths easy. It covers all the maths needed for seven to 11 year olds. It also offers “try it out” features to help put what you’ve learnt into practice. The book covers numbers, calculation, measurements, geometry, statistics and algebra. The book has not only been written to help your child understand maths, but also to learn to love it.

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(Published by Phoenix, R155) An enigmatic toy maker who lives as a recluse in an old mansion, is surrounded by the fantastical beings he has created. An eerie figure that watches from behind the curtains; strange lights that flicker through the mist from an abandoned lighthouse. These are the elements of a mystery that will bind Irene to Ismael during a magical summer in Blue Bay, when her mother becomes housekeeper to the secretive toy maker. This is a page-turning mystery for teens from the age of 12 years old.

parenting Ultimate Pregnancy, Birth and Parenting Guide

By Sister Lilian (Published by Human and Rousseau, R330) Sister Lilian has extensive experience with pregnancy, birth and parenting. In this guide she addresses the most important pregnancy, birth and parenting issues. She offers a step-by-step guide through each trimester of pregnancy, gives a detailed nutrition and exercise plan, and shows how to cope with skin, health and beauty issues during pregnancy. She also talks about what to do in case of serious illnesses and complications and addresses the father-to-be.

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parenting The Collapse of Parenting

By Leonard Sax (Published by Basic Books, R378) Over the past 30 years, a major shift has occurred in American culture: The transfer of authority from parents to children. Activities with same-age peers now commonly displace family activities. Children today often choose what’s for supper; they choose which social media they will engage; they often choose their bedtime and sometimes even their school. In this book, the author shows how these factors, and related influences, have led to children and teenagers being less resilient, less physically fit, and more likely to become anxious or depressed – and far more fragile.

for us The Zimzum of Love: A New Way of Understanding Marriage

By Rob and Kristen Bell (Published by William Collins Publishing, R135) Marriage is a partnership of love, and when we form that union we hope we have found something that will last forever. But when friction sets in, staying committed can be difficult. In this book, the authors explore the secret of what makes a happy union, probing the mystery at the heart of the extraordinary emotional connection that binds two people. The book might change how you consider marriage, providing insight that can help all of us create satisfying and sacred unions of our own.

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for us Super Food: Family Classics

By Jamie Oliver (Published by Michael Joseph, R289) Jamie’s Super Food: Family Classics continues with the popular philosophy behind Jamie’s Everyday Super Food, bringing exciting healthy eating to the heart of the home. Every recipe is tried and tested, has clear and easy-to-understand nutritional information on the page, including the number of veg and fruit portions in each dish, plus there’s a bumper back-section packed with valuable advice on everything from cooking with children and tackling fussy eaters, to good gut health, the importance of fibre, budgeting and of course, getting more of the good stuff into your family’s diet.

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Access an extended calendar online at childmag.co.za or submit an event for November before 30 September to joburg@ childmag.co.za

Compiled by simone jeffery

A Blooming Affair Roedean

School’s

annual

event

includes a craft market, food stalls, and tea and champagne gardens.

Explore the 113 year old school

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grounds with its magnificent garden of botanical interest and beautiful Herbert Baker buildings. The event takes place

A fairy tale

adventure

On the Night

Enjoy toe-tapping live music, a spectacular pyrotechnics

At 11am, you can enjoy a storytelling performance of

and laser display just after dark, and a variety of

The Little Mermaid, Cinderella and Night of the Running

children’s activities, including a dedicated play area with

Toys on the upper level, Sheet Street Court, in Rosebank

childminders and a carnival games tent. The music line-

Mall. You can also meet your favourite characters between 1pm–4pm (also 2 October), such as

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up includes Beatenberg, The Matchboxes and 3rd Millennium. Food vendors cater on the day or

from 9am–4pm. There is a guided

Bumblebee from Transformers, Play-Doh’s

garden tour at 10am and a talk by

Doh Doh, Mr Monopoly and Zoe Trent Dog

film critic, Digby Ricci at 11:30am.

from The Littlest Pet Shop. Also build and play

Entrance costs R30 and the talk is R10.

with Lego from 3–9 October, 10am–5pm. The

Contact Moira on 011 647 3200 or

activities are free. For more info: 011 788 5530 or

abloomingaffair.co.za

rosebankmall.co.za

under 6 years old enter free.

Baby and Toddler Expo

Rags to Riches

Enjoy learning, sampling and smart shopping at The Glen Shopping Centre’s expo that has a focus on moms and children, from prenatal to preschool. The expo takes place during the centre’s trading hours until 9 October.

Contact Carla on 011 435 9252, carla@theglenshopping. co.za or theglenshopping.co.za

A fundraising gala presented by The South African Ballet Theatre Trust and Joburg Ballet. Parents can enjoy a magical evening of dancing at the Joburg Theatre featuring the pas de deux and a showcase of the world’s best loved ballet highlights. Wine and canapes are served from 6:30pm and the performances start at 7:30pm. Tickets cost R600 per person. Contact Kabelo on 011 877 6893 or kabelo@ joburgballet.com (World Ballet Day is on 1 October)

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Dog jog, walk and run

Join the Society for Animals in Distress for their annual walk and run in celebration and awareness of World Animal Day. Participate with your socialised and vaccinated dogs on a lead in either the 2,5km or 5km route from 8am–12pm. There are dog treats, prizes, music, food and more. The fun is taking place at The Paddocks, plot 20, Moerdyk St (entrance on Anton Hartman St), Vorna Valley, Midrand. Entry costs R50 per person; dogs enter free of charge. Contact: 011 466 0261, fundraiser@animalsindistress. org.za or animalsindistress.org. za/dog-jog

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DStv Delicious International Food and Music Festival

A food and music extravaganza with mouth-watering food and a line-up of world class entertainment and local acts. On Saturday, Mi Casa, Arrested Development, De La Soul and Elements of Life take to the stage. On Sunday the line-up includes The Jacksons, Roy Ayers, Elements of Life, Lira and Judith Sephuma. Gates to the Kyalami

picnic baskets can be ordered along with your tickets on Webtickets. Tickets are available from St John’s College, through webtickets.co.za or on the day. Gates open at 3pm and the pyrotechnics display is at 7:15pm. Tickets cost R200–R235; children

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A 5km fun walk for family and friends held in aid of breast cancer awareness. All funds raised go to PinkDrive, who provide free breast cancer screening and education around the country. Gates open at 7am and the walk starts at 8am. The walk takes place at FNB Stadium, gate E, League Ave, Nasrec and costs R25–R50. Book through webtickets.co.za

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Treverton College sleepover Children in Grade 6 have an opportunity to experience boarding in the Midlands during a sleepover on the Treverton Preparatory School and College campus from 4pm on the Saturday.

Grand Prix Circuit in Midrand open at 10am and you are

On Sunday parents are invited to an information

welcome to take along camping chairs and umbrellas. A

breakfast. Treverton is a Christian school in Mooi

day pass costs R475, a weekend pass R810; children R100

River, KZN, catering for boys and girls from Grades 000–12. For more info: 083 555 9749 or nmorris@

(includes access into the festival and Kids Zone). For more

treverton.co.za

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Hope Hike and Hope Bike A comfortable 3km, 5km or 10km hike or trail run at Van Gaalens Cheese Farm in Skeerpoort to raise awareness for depression and anxiety. By taking part you help raise funds for research into clinical depression and also help break the silence. There is also a family-friendly 25km mountain bike ride. Registration is from 6:30am–8:30am. The rides and walks start from 7:45am. Children under 12 years old need to be accompanied by an adult. You are able to enter online or at the venue on the day. The MTB ride costs R100, 3km R40, 5km R60, 10km R80, and children under 12 years old pay R30. To enter: iqela-events.co.za

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Sing along to all your favourite songs as the popular family musical, about an optimistic orphan named Annie, takes to Montecasino’s Teatro stage until 27 November.

It is presented by an all-star South African cast featuring Charon Williams-Ros, Neels Clasen, Taryn Sudding

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Night’s Dream

The Johannesburg Youth Ballet is performing A Midsummer Night’s Dream and other ballets at the Joburg Theatre in Braamfontein from 14–16 October. To book: 0861 670 670 or joburgtheatre.com

and Stephen Jubber. No children under 3 years old.

Tickets are available through computicket.com and cost R200–R500.

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Scopex The annual telescope and astronomy expo offers displays of commercial telescopes and accessories, various talks, science shows and workshops at the Ditsong National Museum of

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Military History in Saxonwold from 9am–9pm. You

Your life Organised workshop A hands-on workshop in which you are encouraged to participate by bringing your challenges to the table. Professional organiser, Heidi Meyer, shows you how clutter keeps you

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Clamber Club at Cradlestone Mall

can watch Experilab’s Science Shows at 10am, 11am,

stuck, gives you practical tips to clear clutter, motivates

12pm and 3pm; Sci-Bono’s Startling Spectroscopy at

you to change and to take charge. Booking is essential

9am, 11am, 1pm and 3pm (suitable for Grade 4–12); and

as space is limited. The workshop is held at The Midrand

there is a star party from 5pm. Entrance into the museum

Conference Centre in Halfway House from 8:30am–4pm

is R40 for adults, R20 for SA senior citizens, and R30 for

and costs R800. Contact Heidi on 073 621 3316,

fun is free and includes an obstacle course, games station,

learners and students. Contact them on 082 650 8002

heidi@cloud9organised.co.za or cloud9organised.co.za/

parachute games, toddler equipment and entertainers.

or scopex.co.za

workshops

For more info: 010 020 1234 or cradlestonemall.co.za

Children 1–9 years old can tumble, roll, climb, jump and jog with Clamber Club on the food court level at Cradlestone Mall in Muldersdrift from 10am–1pm. The

Premiere of Trolls

PVS Scary Run

Frog evening

Dreamworks’ latest hair-raising animated adventure takes you into the colourful and wondrous world of the overly optimistic trolls, who have a constant song on their lips and the pessimistic Bergens, who are only happy when they have trolls in their stomachs. The film premieres today in cinemas nationwide. For more info: sterkinekor. com or numetro.co.za

Parkview Senior School in Ennis Rd, Parkview, is hosting its first ever family fun run and walk (5,1km) in celebration of 99 years of community schooling. The theme for the event is scary/Halloween, so dress the part and dare to scare. The run/walk is from 6:30am–1pm, breakfast is available and prizes are up for grabs. All welcome (including dogs). Tickets cost R50 for adults, R30 for children and R30 for dogs. Contact Caryl on 083 268 4441 or Nasira on 083 632 0629 or nasira@mweb.co.za

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expert and herpetologist, gives a presentation on frogs followed by a fun walk to the wetland and dam in Kloofendal Nature Reserve with nets and buckets from 6pm–8pm. You get to search for frogs, see them up close, possibly hold them, and learn a few interesting facts.

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The evening costs R60 for adults, R50 for pensioners and R40 for children.

Booking essential. Contact Karin on 079 693 5608 or kloofendalfriends.org.za

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25 Liewe Heksie at Montecasino

The Afrikaans children’s classic has been adapted into a musical puppet show for Montecasino’s Studio Theatre stage. Liewe Heksie en die Sonneblom tells the story of the fairy queen’s visit to Blommeland to view the summer flowers, but it doesn’t go according to plan and Liewe Heksie and Blommie Kabouter need to save the day. The production runs until 27 November. Performance times vary. Tickets are available through computicket.com and cost R130–R165.

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Haunted forest walk by Pip

The “spooktacular” forest is not for the faint-hearted with spooky characters, scary noises, an eerie fog and strange sights. You are led along a woodland walkway, lit by festoons, where you can find plenty of thrilling treats and surprises. The walk is approximately 1,7km long and the path is suitable for buggies and wheelchairs. The fun takes place from 5pm–11pm at Riversands Farm Village, Rose Rd, Midrand. They recommend guests with small children arrive early and for those with teenagers to arrive at 7pm. Tickets cost R20–R180. Contact Leone on 076 892 2535, leone@ magnumevents.co.za or book through quicket.co.za

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29 Silent Roller Disco & Movie

Using Bluetooth headsets, skaters are able to skate to the music, and they are also able to watch a movie shown on the rink. Booking essential, as only ticket holders may enter the venue. All ages are welcome. The disco runs from 6pm–9pm at RollEgoli, 296 Main Rd, Bryanston.

Tickets cost R150 per person, and includes a headset, skate hire and entry. For more info: 083 232 9861, info@ rollegoli.co.za or rollegoli.co.za

Farnham Halloween games night

Riders and non-riders are welcome to dress in a Halloween outfit and join Farnham Riding School in Kyalami for a few Halloween themed games from 5pm–8pm. Games include broomsticks and barrel races, a spooky sack race and a trick-or-treat treasure hunt. Entry forms are available from the Cantering Chef Cafe. Booking essential. R100 per ridden class (pre-paid), all ridden classes R450, R70 per non-ridden class (pre-paid), all non-ridden classes R150. Contact Dayle on 082 803 9903, ridingschool@ farnham.co.za or farnham.co.za

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Bryanston Organic and Natural Market The market celebrates its 40th birthday in October with a month of talks, demonstrations, special offers, customer treats and children’s activities, culminating in an official recognition ceremony and spring fashion show. Details are available on their website. The market is open from 9am–3pm every Thursday and Saturday. Entrance is free, and children’s activities cost from R35. Contact Glenda on 011 706 3671 or bryanstonorganicmarket.co.za Christmas Twilight Market On 1 October, from 3pm–9pm, Petra’s Edu Play Group at 34 Wordsworth Ave, Senderwood in Bedfordview, is holding an evening of outdoor fun. There will be stalls selling crafts, food and clothing and a children’s playground.

There is an entrance fee of R20 for adults and R10 for children under 16 years old. Contact: hermi@ emmaytrading.co.za Field and Study Market A lifestyle market in a beautiful park in the heart of Sandton. It offers good food, local crafts, music and lots of entertainment for children, including a large jungle gym. The market is taking place on 15 October, 9am–2pm, at the Field and Study Park, cnr Louise Ave and 14th St, Parkmore.

For more info: fieldandstudymarket@gmail.com or fieldandstudymarket.co.za

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holiday activities

Cricket School of Excellence holiday cricket clinic Professionally run cricket clinic for 6–15 year olds from 4–7 October at the University of Johannesburg’s cricket oval.

Booking essential. The clinic is from 9am–1pm and costs R650. For more info: 071 355 3487 or cricketschool.co.za October Fest for Kids Children of all ages can use this small break, from 3–8 October, to celebrate creativity and paint or mosaic on a huge variety of ceramics or wooden blanks. Children under 7 years old need to be accompanied by an adult. The Pottery Junxion studio is open from 9am–4pm and is situated in Glendower Place Shopping Centre, 99 Linksfield Rd, Dowerglen, Edenvale.

It costs R20 per hour per person, excluding all products.

For more info: 011 453 2721, rosie@potteryjunxion.co.za or potteryjunxion.co.za Safari holiday camps – Disconnecting digitally Children 7–14 year olds can relax in the bushveld and take part in daily game drives and good, old-fashioned play in a tech-free environment from 2–9 October.

Advanced registrations essential. The holiday programme is 35km outside of Rustenburg, North West Province. The programme costs R3 900 for seven nights. For more info: imaginationshakers.co.za Sew it All holiday programme Children 6–13 years old can take part in a sewing holiday programme from 5–7 October, 9am–12pm, at Bernina Edenvale, Meadowdale Value Mall, cnr Dick Kemp St and Hyperama Link St, Edenvale. They are making a pillow case, skirt or pyjamas, and a carry bag. Space is limited. The holiday programme costs R950, and includes all sewing materials, a sewing kit, booklet and tea. Contact Luzvie on 081 588 5557 or Facebook: Sew it All by Luzvie

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Shepherd’s Fold Stables pony camp From 3–7 October, children can learn how to ride, care for and feed ponies on a real horse farm. No riding experience is needed; all riders are accommodated according to their riding ability. Riders can also enjoy water games in a heated pool. Booking essential. The stables is situated at 55 Sunset Dr, Elandsdrift, Lanseria. The camp is from 8am–5pm and costs R300 for day campers; R350 to sleep over. Contact Belinda on 084 220 2657, belinda.milsom@gmail.com or shepherdsfoldstables.co.za Space Explorers holiday programme The programme is filled with hands-on experiments, and planetarium and science shows. It runs from 10am–3:30pm, 1–9 October, at Sci-Bono Discovery Centre in Newtown. Entrance to the centre costs R45 for adults, R30 for pensioners, students and children 3–16 years old, and children under 3 years old enter free; workshop costs vary. Contact Dorothy on 011 639 8400, dorothy.koka@sci-bono.co.za or sci-bono.co.za Spring has Sprung Olivedale Library is holding a holiday programme on 7 October, 10am–11am, for 2–10 year olds. Children enjoy story time and make spring flowers.

There is no charge. Contact Gwyneth on 011 462 6286 or gwynethp@joburg.org.za Young Entrepreneurs holiday programme From 3–7 October, children 7–15 years are taught the basics of starting their own small businesses and managing money. They are exposed to a variety of games, videos and outdoor activities. Booking essential. The fun takes place at the Rietvlei Lifestyle Centre in Alberton from 8am–5pm, and costs R1 500 for the full week, or R1 100 for half day for the full week. Contact Sunita on 073 846 4447, info. jhbsouth@younge.co.za or younge.co.za

open days Dainfern College open day Take a tour of the school’s facilities and meet the principals from 9am–10am on 6 October. For more info: 011 469 0635 or dainferncollege.co.za Kairos School of Inquiry info talk Learn more on 15 October from 9am–11:30am. The school is at 12 Sabie Rd, cnr Rustenburg Rd, Emmarentia. For more: 011 646 6221 or kairosschool.co.za Open day at Auckland Park Preparatory School (APPS) On 7 October join this independent girls’ school in celebrating its 95th birthday with a flower festival and a tour of the school. APPS is for learners from Grade 0–7. The open day is from 10am–12pm, and the school is at 59 Twickenham Ave, Auckland Park. For more info: 011 482 3697 or apps.co.za Open days at Knights Preparatory School This private Christian school is fully inclusive, and the open days are on 14 and 28 October at 9am. The school caters to learners from Grades 000–7. The school is situated on Milner Rd, cnr Nerina, Kensington B, Ferndale. For more info: 011 789 6778, admissions@ knightsprep.co.za or knightsprep.co.za Sandhurst Pre- and Preparatory College open day and Amazing Race View the school (for Grade 00–4 learners), then families can participate in an Amazing Race. The open day is on 1 October from 8:30am–12pm and the race is from 9am–11am.

Sandhurst Pre- and Preparatory College is at 4 Pamela Place, Glenadrienne. Amazing Race entries close 23 September. For more info: 011 784 0452/3/4, stepping@mweb.co.za or sandhurstprep.co.za

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sole voyage ANÉL LEWIS didn’t realise that her daughter’s first solo walk from the school gate to the classroom would have such an emotional impact on her.

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Anél, Erin and Conor

e were told at the beginning of the Grade R school year that the time would come when we would have to encourage our daughters to walk to class from the school gates on their own. It’s part of their development, as they work on their independence and build self-confidence. I recall nodding vigorously during the orientation meeting, thinking I would encourage Erin’s walk to freedom, so to speak, as

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soon as she showed signs of being ready. Cavalierly, I reckoned this would take place in the last few months of the year. That would be plenty of time for her to establish a network of friends, to familiarise herself with the school and location of her classroom. What I failed to factor in during my estimation, was whether I would be quite ready to let her go.

I was caught completely off-guard when one recent, gloomy Monday, Erin announced in the car that she would be quite happy to walk in by herself. I loaded her up at the car with tog bag, library books and lunch cooler, and we walked the short distance to the school gates. Then it was time to say our goodbyes. I leaned in for a kiss, but she had already turned her head, her eyes fixed on the netball court that separated her from that first sweet taste of independence. She set off, looking somewhat like a wee Tibetan yak laden with her paraphernalia of books and bags. Erin turned around just once as she traversed that court. I told myself it was because she was steadfast in her mission, but it was probably to dodge the older girls who were having a fast-paced netball game before the bell rang. But whatever the reason, I could not stop myself from shedding a few tears as I watched my daughter disappear into the distance. Parents walked past me in bemusement as I stood at the gates; mascara snaking down my cheeks. “First time on her own,” I mumbled to one mom. She nodded in silent solidarity.

The next morning I waited to see whether there would be a repeat performance. I had Conor with me and he was most disappointed to hear that we would not be accompanying his sister into school. So now it was two of us standing at the school gates, as Erin made her trek across the court. This time, she didn’t look back. “Mom, where’s Erin going?” asked my confused son. “Well, Conor, she’s getting big now. She can walk in on her own.”

I could barely get the words out as I tried to swallow my sobs. As much as it hurt to let her go, I was also incredibly proud of my brave, intrepid Grade R, starting her voyage of independence. But I was not quite prepared for the double whammy when I dropped Conor off at school a few minutes later. “Mom, I am also going in on my own,” said my four-year-old son, who that morning had asked me to pull up his underpants. And just like that, he headed off like adventurer Bear Grylls through the gates and out of sight. It was way too much independence for me to deal with in one week, and I did not dare look back as I headed straight to the nearest coffee shop for the comfort of carbs and caffeine.

Anél is now following Bear Grylls on Facebook, just to remind herself that the children are “just” walking into the school grounds and not crossing a leech-infested swamp in a boat made with twigs. Not yet anyway...

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bacon, avo and cheese open toastie serves 1–2 ingredients ✻✻ 4–6 strips chopped bacon (from grassfed animals) ✻✻ coconut oil for frying ✻✻ 2 slices sourdough rye bread, lightly toasted

In Wholesome Nutrition For You, authors IAN CRAIG and RACHEL JESSON offer a practical,

✻✻ 1 small avocado ✻✻ 2 Tbsp organic feta cheese ✻✻ natural cracked salt and organic pepper to taste method Fry the bacon in a little coconut oil, but be careful not to burn the bacon. Then chop into bite-size pieces.

On 1 slice of toasted rye, thickly smear half the avocado.

Crumble and press 1 tablespoon of feta into the smeared avocado.

Sprinkle half the chopped bacon over the feta.

Season with salt and pepper.

Repeat for the second slice.

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science-based guide to smart eating.

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snack pack makes 750g

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ingredients ✻✻ 250g assorted activated or raw nuts ✻✻ 250g assorted unpreserved dried fruit ✻✻ 150g assorted seeds ✻✻ 100g coconut flakes ✻✻ a handful of cacao nibs

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Serve with a generous scoop of sauerkraut and some salad of your choice.

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method Mix all the ingredients together and either store in an airtight container or individual self-seal small packets for a “reach-and-go” option.

raw granola with kefir nut cream

Keeping these snack packets readily available will save you from reaching out for that sugar-filled chocolate or an unhealthy bag of crisps.

raw chocolate cupcakes with a chocolate ganache

ingredients granola ✻✻ 1kg raw organic rolled oats ✻✻ 3 cups chopped assorted raw or activated nuts, such as almonds, cashews, Brazils, macadamia ✻✻ 2 cups chopped organic dried fruit, such as raisins, cranberries, apricots ✻✻ 1 cup sun-dried dates ✻✻ 1 cup raw dried coconut flakes ✻✻ 2 cups mixed seeds

kefir nut cream serves 2–3 ✻✻ 150ml kefir ✻✻ ¼–½ cup cashew or macadamia nuts ✻✻ 1 tsp vanilla extract ✻✻ 3–4 fresh or soaked, dried dates ✻✻ pulp of 1 granadilla, 4–5 strawberries, ½ medium paw-paw, 1 banana, or a combination of fruits of your choosing

makes 8–10 cupcakes ingredients cupcakes ✻✻ 2 cups activated or raw walnuts ✻✻ 1 cup activated or raw pecan nuts ✻✻ a pinch of salt ✻✻ 1½ cups soaked, pitted dates ✻✻ ⅔ cup cacao powder ✻✻ 1 tsp vanilla extract ✻✻ filtered water

PHOTOGRAPHS: © Penguin Random House/Roelene Prinsloo

method In a food processor, pulse the nuts and salt until finely ground (do not over-process or the nuts will turn to butter).

Add the dates to the mixture and process until it becomes sticky. Add the cacao and vanilla, and a touch of water if the mixture seems too dry.

Drop 1–2 tablespoons of the mixture into each cup of a 12-cup cupcake tin and press down with your fingers to compact and mould the mixture.

Remove the cupcakes gently from the tin with a knife and place on a flat surface ready for icing.

Blend all the chocolate ganache ingredients (except the coconut shreds or zest for decoration) until smooth.

Spread the ganache over the cupcakes, then decorate. Refrigerate for 30 minutes before serving. They will keep for a week in the fridge (covered), or may be frozen un-iced.

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chocolate ganache ✻✻ ¾ cup organic agave or raw honey ✻✻ ½ cup cacao powder ✻✻ ¼ cup carob powder ✻✻ ⅓ cup melted coconut oil ✻✻ a pinch of salt ✻✻ ½ cup shredded dried coconut or

grated organic orange or lemon zest

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method Mix all the granola ingredients well and store in a sterilised, sealed 1,5kg glass jar.

Blend the kefir, cashew or macadamia nuts, vanilla extract and dates together; if a thicker consistency is required, add more nuts, and for a thinner cream, add more kefir or filtered water.

In a breakfast bowl, pour the kefir and nut mixture generously over a portion of granola and leave to soak for 1–2 hours before serving.

Add the mixed fresh fruit and serve.

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about the book Every now and then a refreshing and ethical book based on sound, proven scientific principles comes onto the market, which is more than just another trendy diet book. In this book, nutritional therapist and exercise physiologist Ian Craig and his co-author, health food specialist and sports scientist Rachel Jesson, cover in detail the emotive topics of nutrition and health from a scientific perspective. They neatly unwrap all the jargon and pseudomystique, offering sensible, practical, economical, everyday dietary approaches.

The book is published by Struik Lifestyle and is available at book stores for a recommended retail price of R200.