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September Contents
HAPPY BIRTHDAY FAMILY
What’s going on?...................Pg. 4
SWW paper doll Family Pg. 12
Sweet as honey .....................Pg. 5 SWW Family scrapbook ........Pg. 7 Coloring contest ....................Pg. 8 The ABC’s on supplements Pg. 10 Lunch lessons .....................Pg. 11 Paris party ...........................Pg. 14
HAPPY BIRTHDAY FAMILY
30 days has September ......Pg. 16 New school..........................Pg. 17 Stories from our readers......Pg. 22 Processing grief...................Pg. 23 Happy birthday ....................Pg. 26 Book review .........................Pg. 29
The SAFE road ahead Pg. 6
Our 2012 Annual Cover Contest Winners Jeanee, age 7, & Jenny, age 9, Morris. The proud father is Dane Morris of Glenoma.
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September Events Listing September 14th
September 28th
ARTrails Gala Opening Reception 4 p.m., Historic Centralia Train Depot Meet this year's artists and other local art enthusiasts. For event details please visit artrailsofsww.org.
Touch-A-Truck 6 p.m., Olympic Elementary, Chehalis Learn about, see and touch all kinds of trucks (and other vehicles) including a fire truck, police car, army truck, lineman truck, dump truck and more! Enjoy this FREE, fun family event! For more information visit facebook.com/ chehalis-PTA-465 or call 360-748-0765.
September 15th Providence Centralia Hospital's Wellness Roundup 9 a.m., Providence Centralia Hospital Free fun for the whole family! Bounce house, free bike helmets, carriage rides and more! For more information please call 360-330-8767. For complete details see ad on the back cover. Cooks Hill Challenge 8 a.m., Washington Orthopaedic, Centralia Run for the kids - 10 mile or 5k. Proceeds from the event will benefit Rotary International's fight to end worldwide childhood polio and the March of Dimes. Registration begins at 7 a.m. For more information please email cookshillchallenge@yahoo.com. Borst Home Tour 1:30 p.m., Bring the family in for an informative and educational tour of The Historic Joseph Borst Home, the Carriage House Hands On Museum and One-room School House. Admission is free, donations are accepted. For details please call 360-330-7662.
September 20th Nutrition for Kids! 6 p.m., Chehalis Children's Clinic Join us for this FREE class to learn about good food for good health. Topics will include: heathy foods on a budget, sugars and your child, meals for a healthy metabolism and secrets of fast food addictions. For details please call 360-748-6693. For complete details see ad on pg. 19.
September 22nd Thirteenth Annual Cowlitz Pow Wow 1 p.m., Toledo High School Enjoy drumming, dancing, native singing, traditional American Indian regalia and a salmon dinner. Grand entry at 1 p.m. and 7 p.m., salmon dinner at 5 p.m. For more information or updates please visit www.cowlitz. org.
From Sheep to Sweater 2 p.m., Centralia Timberland Library Intended for children in grades 1 - 6, this event will teach about the animals that provide clothing fibers and how raw wool is made into yarn. Try your hand at carding, spinning and knitting! For more information visit trlib.org. Family Friendly Movie Night Dusk, Centralia College Clock Tower Lawn Enjoy an outdoor movie for FREE with your family. Bring a lawn chair or blankets, snuggle up and enjoy the show. Pack a picnic or purchase snacks at the concessions. Movie selection tbd. For details and updates please call 360-736-9391 ext. 275 or visit centralia.edu.
ONGOING EVENTS
Centralia Mothers of Pre-schoolers (MOPS) Whether you are a new mom or a mom of a school-age child, you are invited to a place designed especially for you! Here you’ll experience authentic community, mothering support, personal growth and spiritual hope, all to help you be the best mom possible. Meetings are the 2nd and 4th Thursdays (September-May) at the Centralia Nazarene Church, 9:00 a.m. - 11:00 a.m. Childcare available, and your first meeting is free! For more information go to www.centraliachurch.org. Chehalis Mothers of Pre-schoolers (MOPS) We meet at Bethel Church (132 Kirkland Rd) on the first and third Tuesdays during the school year from 9:15 a.m. to 11:15 a.m. If you are pregnant or have a child under 6, you are welcome to join us! For more info contact Laura Schouten, 360-219-6693, or email, lauraschouten@yahoo.com, or Nikki Wilson at 360-798-2354. Lewis County Moms’ Group Come join this welcoming, local group of moms and their kids! The group is run by local moms for local moms’ and our members meet together for play dates, crafts, outings, mom’s nights and so much more. For more information please visitmeetup.com/Lewis-CountyMoms. September 2012 • Southwest Washington Family • 3
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SOUTHWEST WASHINGTON DANCE CENTER OPENS 30TH SEASON WITH NEW ARTISTIC DIRECTOR In their 30th dance season, beginning September 5, 2012 Southwest Washington Dance center welcomes new Artistic Director, Erica Castro.
Mission Statement
Southwest Washington Dance Center is dedicated to professional quality instruction, appreciation and presentation of dance as an art form throughout Lewis County and greater Southwest Washington.
History
SWDC was incorporated in 1982 by former professional dancer Dean Speer, working with a dedicated group of local dancers and teachers. The tradition of quality instruction began at that time with additional instructors being brought in from the urban areas of Seattle and Portland. These teachers brought impeccable resumes to the budding Dance School. The school has grown from primarily a Ballet School to one that includes instruction in Creative Movement, Parent/Toddler, tap, jazz, lyrical, modern, acro, tumbling and rhythmic gymnastics.
Staff
The legacy of very talented and experienced teachers at SWDC continues to grow. This year’s addition of Erica Castro as Artistic Director/Ballet teacher and Russell Capps as Ballet and Partnering teacher, brings new expertise
to the dancers. Erica and Russell bring impeccable training and professional experience to their students. Classes are offered for students ages two to adult and students are placed with staff, that have expertise in their area of dance.
Curriculum
The Dance Center offers a wide range of classes for dancers at all levels. For the 4-6 year olds, they offer a special program called Creative Movement. Children ages 2 and 3 can also participate in this program in a special Parent/Toddler class. These classes are developmentally appropriate for young children and prepare them for more disciplined dance classes when they are older. The Ballet program continues to be the backbone of the studio. Classes from pre-ballet through advanced level pointe and partnering are offered. Classes are offered for those who wish to have a recreational class or for those who wish to pursue the highest level of achievement in a dance discipline.
Community Connections
SWDC has always had a tradition of giving the gift of dance to the community. They have worked hard to develop a professional Performance Company. The Performance Company participated in
the tribute to Merce Cunningham, a local dancer/choreographer, who amassed world wide acclaim. Every year SWDC dancers perform in school and senior home tours, at the Providence Festival of Trees, Southwest Washington Fair and many other community events. They have also performed with the Community Concerts, NW Wind Symphony and for The Miss Lewis County Pageant.
The 30th Season Offers
The Nutcracker: The largest event that SWDC produces is the annual Nutcracker Ballet. This full-length ballet, features dancers from SWDC and is cast with adults and nondancing children from the community. Nutcracker continues to be a magical delight to the Lewis and Thurston County area. This year performances for the 17th annual Nutcracker will be on December 14, 15 & 16th, 2012. Dance Festival Northwest: An annual spring event sponsored by the dance center is Dance Festival Northwest. This brings dancers from all over the Pacific Northwest to participate in dance workshops and a public performance at Corbet Theatre. Each dance company brings its own work of ballet, modern or jazz to perform. Our own resident
choreographers prepare pieces for SWDC dancers to perform in the festival. Mark your calendar for March 23, 2013. Spring Dance Concert: The third big event of the year is the annual “Spring into Summer” all school spring dance concert. All of the dancers from age three on up, have the opportunity to perform in a professional environment, in this very special concert. On June 22nd, 2013 three wonderful performances will be offered at Corbet Theatre.
Fall registration now taking place
SWDC is a child and family centered school that gives the recreational dancer or the budding professional, the room to grow and learn in a safe and nurturing environment. You are invited to give them a call or come by the studio to receive detailed information about fall classes. Registration begins August 20th and will remain open until classes are full. SWDC’s address is 455 N. Market Blvd. in Chehalis. They are located in downtown Chehalis. You may reach them by phone at 306-748-4789 or view their schedule on their web page at www. swwdance.org.
“SWDC dancers expressed themselves beautifully. The dance was a joy to watch...” “Amazing... what a creative niche of dancers has formed in Lewis County.” - audience members, Lewis County Community Concerts, January 2008
Register Now for Dance Classes Quality Dance Training for the beginner through advanced. Classes begin September 5, 2012. First class FREE for new students!
Open registration for classes in: Creative Movement, Parent-Toddler, Pre-Ballet, Ballet, Pointe, Jazz, Lyrical, Tap, Modern, Acro. Partnering, Tumbling and Rhythmic Gymnastics
Southwest Washington Dance Center “Home of Lewis County’s Nutcracker” 455. N. Market Blvd. - P.O. Box 973 Chehalis, WA 98532 360-748-4789 www.swwdance.org
Southwest Washington Dance Center is a non-profit organization dedicated to professional quality instruction and presentation of dance as an art form throughout the region. SWDC also has a performing company, Southwest Washington Dance Ensemble. The dance ensemble performs at events throughout the year.
17th Annual Southwest Washington Dance Ensemble
“What a beautiful and magical experience. It just would not be Christmas without The Nutcracker.”
Nutcracker Audience Member, 2008
Corbet Theatre - Centralia • Dec. 14th 7:30 pm • Dec. 15th 2:00 & 7:30 pm • • Dec. 16th 1:00 & 5:30 pm •
S.W.D.C. is a non-profit school that gives service without regard to race, religion, sex, color or ethnic origin.
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Did you know? There are three types of bees in the hive – queen, worker and drone. Honey never spoils.
A typical beehive can make up to 400 pounds of honey per year.
Bees & Honey A single honeybee will visit 50 - 100 flowers on a single trip out of the hive.
To make one pound of honey, the bees in the colony must visit 2 million flowers, fly over 55,000 miles. (The lifetime work of approximately 300 bees). Honeybees never sleep! Honey is 80% sugars and 20% water.
Honeybees fly 15 miles per hour.
A single honeybee will only produce approximately 1/12 teaspoon of honey in it’s lifetime.
Honeybees have five eyes. Three small ones on top of the head and two big ones in front. They also have hair on their eyes!
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Take the safe path to school, not the shortest one. Help Amy find the best path to school.
Finish the sentences using these words:
My name is _______________ and I take time to be safe. I always look ___________ __________ before ______________ the ____________. I walk, and don’t ______.
I never walk between parked ________. I cross streets only at ________________ or ______________.
I __________ up when riding in a car and wear a ______________ when I ride my bike.
The back seat is the safest place to sit until age (3+3+2+5= ____) .
You’re safer sitting in a booster seat until you are (2+2=___) feet (3+3+3=___) inches tall.
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Shyalah W., 4 years, and Brandy S., 13 years, enjoy playing doctor at the Hands on Children’s Museum.
Siblings Maleigha, Cheyann, Cordell, Kameryn, Dakota, Lexie, Noah and Josiah enjoy a day at the park.
SEND US YOUR PICTURES! Axel R., 10 mo., and his dad love taking rides together on the 4-wheeler.
Name(s) and age(s) of those in photo (please print): _______________________________________________ Signature (Parent or Guardian): _______________________________________________ Phone: ________________________________________ Email: _________________________________________ Photos can be sent via email to cwilson@swwfamily.com, or if you wish to send photos by mail to 321 N. Pearl, Centralia, WA 98531, they can be returned if sent with a SASE. If you email us and we don’t reply we haven’t received your message. Please give us a call at 807-8213.
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Sorcerer's Apprentice
Coloring Contest Get out your crayons and show us your artistic ability!
1st place winners will receive a family four pack of tickets to Centralia Ballet Academy's Sorcerer's Apprentice (October 19th & 20th at RE Bennett Auditorium) and one month of free classes at Centralia Ballet Academy. Now that is some incentive to show us your talent! • Entrants may use any medium (crayons, pencils, paint, etc.) to color the picture. • Coloring entries must be received no later than 5 p.m. on Friday, September 28th. • One entry per person please. • 1st, 2nd, and 3rd place prizes will be awarded in each age division (5 & under; 6-8; 9 & older). Mail or deliver contest submissions to: SWW Family, 321 N. Pearl SWWF Centralia, WA 98531
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Lunchroom Responsibities Helping your child be accountable.
Christopher lost 3 lunchboxes each year.
By third grade, he had come to believe that the price of a nice new lunchbox was listening to a few minutes of frustrated lecture from Mom or Dad. These lectures usually included funny parts about money not growing on trees and parents having to eat dirt for lunch when they were kids. And then…his parents would buy him a new lunchbox complete with a reminder: "You better not lose this one! I mean it!" Christopher once again lost his lunchbox, but this time the conversation went a little differently. Christopher: "Mom! Somebody stole my lunchbox again!" Mom: "Honey, that's awful. You loved that lunchbox. What do you think you're going to do?" Christopher: "I need a new one." Mom: "Mmm. And how do you think you're going to pay
for it?" Christopher: "You guys have to get me one. You can't let me starve." Mom: "Mmm. We decided that we'll be buying just one lunchbox per child this year. You're welcome to use the grocery bags we save while you're earning and saving up the money to buy another." Christopher protested mightily, but Mom calmly held her ground about buying a replacement. Although he didn't thank her, Mom gave Christopher the gift of struggling with his own problems at a very affordable time in his life. Fortunately for Christopher, he can start to depend less on his parents and more on himself when it comes to solving problems. ~ Dr. Charles Fay, Love and Logic Institute
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Vitamins
When getting a is a good thing
by Patti Motteler The experts in childhood nutrition say that most children don’t need vitamin supplements at all. A child who is provided with a healthy diet will get an adequate amount of his nutritional needs right there in his food. But, what is a healthy diet? A healthy diet is simply a diet of fresh fruits and vegies, meat or fish, whole grains and dairy products. There are many options available so there are choices to suit even the pickiest eater. The amount of vitamins and minerals a child needs each day is probably smaller than you think. Just a few bites from each of the basic food groups is enough to meet their daily requirements. Many vitamins are stored in the body so a child doesn’t need to eat each one every day. Stretching a balanced diet out over a week or two will not spread their vitamin intake too thin. Some children are finicky eaters but there are plenty of natural healthy foods to choose from in planning their meals. Also, many foods these days are fortified which means simply that the manufacturers have added in some of the nutrients that are missing. An example would be milk with added vitamin D, or the calcium added to cereal, and even Eggo waffles. It’s important to note, in general, parent’s should not give children more than 4 ounces of juice a day, whether it is vitamin fortified or not. Juice, even 100% juice, is basically fruit sugar and water. Of course, there is always an exception. If your child simply refuses to eat healthy foods, vitamin and/or mineral supplements may be in order. Or, if your household is strictly vegetarian with no eggs or dairy products, your child might need supplements such as vitamins B12 and D, calcium, and riboflavin. Your pediatrician should always be consulted about which supplements are needed and how much to give. Some children want nothing more than fast food and sweets. Should those things be forbidden? Not completely. Out of sight, out of mind applies here. Avoid adding sugar to your child’s food, give them healthy snacks such as fruit or carrot sticks or whole-grain crackers, and you will be encouraging a lifetime of good eating habits. Here are some of the necessary vitamins and minerals and some of the foods that contain them: Vitamin A promotes normal growth, healthy skin, tissue
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healing, and aids in night and color vision. Vitamin A is found in yellow vegetables, and dairy products. Vitamin B promotes red blood cell formation and helps with metabolism. Vitamin B is found in meat, poultry, fish, soybeans, milk, eggs, whole grains, and in enriched breads and cereals. Vitamin C strengthens connective tissue, muscles, and skin, helps the healing of bones and wounds, and helps you to resist infections. Some Vitamin C foods are citrus fruits, strawberries, tomatoes, potatoes, Brussels sprouts, spinach, and broccoli. Vitamin D is good for healthy, strong teeth and bones and helps the body regulate minerals such as calcium. Vitamin D is found in fortified dairy products, fish oils, fortified margarine, and egg yolks. Sunlight also contributes to dietary sources of vitamin D. In Washington State sunlight is limited and Vitamin D deficiencies are often seen. It is very important to make sure your children get enough, but don’t overdo it. Iron is essential for the production of blood and the building of muscles. Good sources of iron are beef, turkey, chicken, eggs, and pork. Spinach, beans, and prunes provide a lesser amount. Some cereals and flour are enriched with iron. Calcium is necessary for healthy bones and teeth. Excellent sources of calcium include low-fat milk, cheese, yogurt, and soy. Modest amounts are found in spinach and broccoli, and some fruit juices are fortified with calcium. SWWF Patti served as a Court Appointed Special Advocate for kids in King County before moving to Lewis County where she has become a volunteer at Pope’s Kids Place in Centralia. She loves to travels and is passionate about children having happy, healthy lives without barriers.
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We are happy to celebrate our birthday with each of you. I remember birthday celebrations as a child and getting a set of paper dolls that I enjoyed for years. We created these paper dolls for you and hope you spend many days with them making memories of your own. Store these in a safe place and look in our October issue for costumes for your characters!
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HAPPY 10TH BIRTHDAY SAVANNAH E.! WHAT A BEAUTIFUL PARISIAN PARTY!
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Check the batteries in your home smoke detectors today. Be sure to test them weekly.
Gather the family for an evening of your favorite board or card games. Write a poem for a grandparent and draw a picture to go with it.
Talk with your family about careers that interest you. What kind of education or training do those jobs require?
Be a super secret superstar! Do something really nice for someone without them knowing it. Keep it a secret!
Help clean up in the Celebrate the signing garden today and of the Constitution think about planting by flying the flag something now that and reciting the will bloom next year. Preamble.
Build a backyard obstacle course.
Take a hike to search for signs of autumn.
Tonight, see if you can write down all the names of the kids in your class from memory. Did you forget anyone?
Gather up some newspapers today and make a craft using paper mache.
Tidy your bedroom today. Make your bed and leave your room as nice as possible.
Arrrrrr! Look in books and online for some great pirate phrases to get ready for “Talk Like a Pirate Day!” What is your birthstone? If you were born in September, your birthstone is a sapphire. Find your birthstone online.
It’s a crazy race: On a grassy field, run sideways for 50 yards. Then hop backwards to the starting line! Combine 3 scoops of chocolate ice cream, a squeeze of chocolate syrup and ½ cup of milk. Blend these together to make yourself a shake.
Think of 10 things in your life that are really good. Then think of something not-so-good and a way it could be improved.
Look for a recipe that uses citrus and ask if you can help prepare it.
Try jumping rope with some friends. It takes some practice, but it’s great exercise.
How many sit-ups can you do in 2 minutes? Take a break, then try again!
Stand close to a friend and toss them a football. For each successful catch, Try galloping across both of you take one the grass like a step backwards. horse on your How far apart will hands and feet. Have you go? a horse race!
Mix ¼ cup of honey with ¼ cup of olive oil and work a small amount into your hair. Shampoo and rinse for a natural conditioner.
Comedy tonight! Rent a funny movie for the whole family to watch. This is the first day of autumn. Use a crayon and a sheet of blank paper to gently do some leaf rubbings. Ask a parent to help you. Take a hike! Check out Guy Fieri’s Cooking with Kids website for a delicious recipe for trail mix.
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New School Jitters
Tips for Easing the
New School, No Fear by Rachael Moshman I remember lying awake for hours the night before the first day of school each fall. So many questions were swirling around my brain. What did the year have in store for me? Would my teacher be nice? Would I make friends? Would I be bullied? Was my outfit okay? Could I handle the work? My anxiety was even higher in years when I was starting a brand new school! Transitioning to a new school is often very scary and difficult for a child. Whether the change is because of a move or getting promoted to the next educational stage, they are leaving behind familiar faces, hallways, and routines. While they might be excited to start their new adventure, they are likely anxious about what is waiting for them. I worked in early childhood education for many years and helped hundreds of children (and their nervous parents) get ready to transition to kindergarten. I’m working on a different sort of transition plan now – my daughter is heading to middle school! Here are some tips to help your child get ready for a new school, regardless of their age.
Allow them to say goodbye to their old school. This is a loss to them and they need closure. Take photos of the school, their favorite objects or locations within the school, their teachers and other valued staff members. Help them put together a scrapbook or photo album with the pictures and other mementos, such as their preschool or elementary school graduation “diploma”. Help them gather up the contact information for their friends, so they can stay in touch. Arrange a way for them to maintain contact through phone calls, texts, emails or Skype. If you are moving to a new school within your same area, set up play dates over the summer and the first weeks of the new school year. Knowing their friends from their old school are still out there will help them feel less lonely as they make new friends.
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Talk about the new school often.
Tell them stories about your school experiences. Make it a normal and natural part of your conversation. Visit the schools website together and read about the staff, activities offered, lunch menus and basics facts, such as arrival time and dress code.
Acknowledge that changing schools is hard. Tell your child
how excited you are for their new school and that you think they’re going to have a great year, but don’t gloss over the difficulty of the situation. They may feel sad, angry, nervous and afraid. Let them know that it’s okay to feel that way.
Let them know what to expect.
If they are entering a new phase, talk about what happens in kindergarten, middle school or high school. Head to the local bookstore or library for books featuring characters in a similar phase. Read them together and
talk about what the characters are experiencing.
Connect with other students. Track down families who attend the school already and chat with them about their experiences. Arrange for your child to meet other kids who attend the school, so they have some friendships in the works in advance. Make the school familiar. Drive by
the school often. Point it out to younger children, saying, “There’s your new school!” each time you pass by. Arrange for you and your child to visit the school, meet the principal and take a tour during the summer.
Learn about the bus system. If
your child will be taking the bus, help them become familiar with the bus stops, route and rules before the first day. Try to find another child in your neighborhood so they have “buddy” during the first week.
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Tips for the first day: · Help your child get all of their supplies organized and ready to go the night before. Lay their outfit out and prepare a checklist of what they need to do and bring in the morning. Go over this list with them before they walk out the door. · If you drive your child to school on the first day, arrive early. My daughter is much less anxious if she arrives to a new location before the crowd. Watching people trickle in slowly is much less overwhelming than being thrown directly into the crowd. · Try to keep your own emotions under control. If your child sees you crying or worried, they will feel even more anxious. Keep the goodbye short, upbeat and encouraging. Have a special treat (milk and cookies, anyone?) and a big hug waiting for them when you reunite. Give them time to decompress and process their day before grilling them for details. They may need several weeks to feel comfortable in their new school. Continue talking about the change and reassuring your child that it will get easier. Keep the hugs and high fives coming as they adjust. Transitioning to a new school is hard, but your child will survive – and so will you! SWWF Rachael is a mom, freelance writer, educator and family advocate — and, she is an emotional mess about her daughter starting middle school! She loves sharing a big bowl of local Rainier cherries with her daughter after school!
NUTRITION FOR KIDS JOIN THE FOOD REVOLUTION! HEALTHY FOODS FOR HEALTHY KIDS CLASS
by Gloria Goldenstein, MA, NTP Thursday, Sept. 20th 6:00pm
O D H E A LT H O G r GOOD FOOD fo • Healthy Foods on a Budget • Sugars and Your Child • Meals for a Healthy Metabolism • Secrets of Fast Food Addictions
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Chehalis Children’s Clinic 370 S. Market Blvd. Chehalis • 360-748-6693 September 2012 • Southwest Washington Family • 19
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Reader Submitted Stories
by Noah and Tyler M., age 8, of Chehalis Last year our dad took us to the 2nd annual Wellness Roundup. He works at Providence Centralia Hospital and we weren’t happy about having to go with him to work with him on a Saturday, but it sure was fun once we got there! After we got out of the car, we got a hay ride with some horses. That was just the beginning of the fun. Other cool things we did: • Jumped in a bouncy-house • Got free books • Got to go in a fire truck • Met a cowboy named Mark • Got a free helmet to wear when we ride our bikes • Had hamburgers for lunch • Met Captain Thorbeckes (but it wasn’t really a person, it was some guy dressed up) • Pet a lot of farm animals • Threw balls and dunked a doctor in the water Our mom was a part of the roundup too and almost had to kiss a pig! We wanted her to kiss the pig, but she didn’t have to. She did get a massage and gave some blood for tests, but we were not about to get a shot! There sure was lots of fun stuff to do. Our dad said he would probably have to work at it again this year and we hope so, because we want to go!
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by of Christle Scheuber of Chehalis My great granddaughter Peyton was spending the night with us. She loves flowers and asked if she could cut some from our yard. I told her yes. Next thing I knew she had made bouquets and had set up shop at the end of our driveway. We watched from inside and noticed several neighbors we knew had stopped to talk with her. A short time later she came in the house and I said, "Honey, if you don't sell any flowers I will buy them back from you for a dollar." She looked at me and said, "But Grandma Sugar, I made $7 from selling flowers already." I was really shocked and pleased. She is saving up for a trip to Disneyland.
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by Becky Cox of Olympia In light of recent tragedies that have been in the headlines, we are reminded of how quickly life can be taken and loved ones are left grieving. Friends and family are then expected to navigate the grief process with no real compass. The grief journey is one of many unexpected turns, highs and lows, and unpredictable weather patterns. I often say to clients that although there are theories of the stages of grief, in my experience grief is more like the ocean’s tides; it ebbs and flows, sometimes having higher tides and lower tides. Throughout this article I will talk about the theoretical aspects of grief, my experience with grieving clients, as well as offer some do’s and don’ts of helping those that are grieving. One may grieve over any perceived loss (death of a loved one, loss of a relationship, etc.). Furthermore, this article addresses expected loss and traumatic loss. September 2012 • Southwest Washington Family • 23
Following are EKR Stages of healing the interpretations. Stage 1 – Denial Denial is a conscious or unconscious refusal to accept facts, information, reality, etc., relating to the grief situation. It’s a defense mechanism and is perfectly natural. Some people can become locked in this stage when dealing with a traumatic change that can be ignored. An example of a traumatic change that may be avoidable is impending divorce. Death, of course, is not particularly easy to avoid or evade indefinitely.
‘‘During the first month of grief it is imperative for one to meet their basic needs first.’’ Listening to voicemails in my office from over the weekend, I hear a desperate plea from a family member of a loved one who has recently lost their spouse, and is looking to get them in for counseling ASAP. I schedule the appointment and meet with the grieving spouse. In the beginning, I listen to their story and offer my condolences. I am then met with the all too familiar questions of, “What do I do now to heal? How long will this pain last? And, “How am I ever going to live without my loved one?” These questions are normal and common. During the first month of grief it is imperative for one to meet their basic needs first. Oftentimes, the person grieving has a lack of appetite and is unable to sleep. The grieving may have a difficult time eating and become malnourished. I recommend that friends or family purchase and provide protein shakes to be consumed by the grieving. Furthermore, sleep is essential to our emotional and physical healing process. If the person grieving is not getting adequate sleep it could quickly lead to depression and/or anxiety. I might suggest that the grieving see their regular doctor to discuss the possibility of a sleep aid and/or antidepressant. The first month or two of grief is often remembered as a haze or a blur for the grieving. After the haze has lifted, the griever and I embark on a journey of healing together. I have found Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross’ theory on the aspects of grief to be quite helpful and have adapted her approach and my observations of grieving clients to help describe this journey of healing. In her professional opinion, that which is based on over 30 years of working with people that are grieving, she believes that the framework listed below is not meant to be processed in a linear approach. In other words, you do not have to complete one stage to progress to the next. Furthermore, a grieving person and person facing impending death may experience all five of the stages or only one stage. The importance of knowing this model is to identify how life will go on and what is happening emotionally.” 24 • September 2012 • Southwest Washington Family
Stage 2 – Anger Anger can manifest in different ways. People dealing with emotional upset can be angry with themselves, and/or with others, especially those close to them. Knowing this helps family and friends keep detached and non-judgmental when experiencing the anger of someone who is very upset. Stage 3 – Bargaining Traditionally, the bargaining stage for people facing death can involve attempting to bargain with whatever higher being the person believes in. People facing less serious trauma can bargain or seek to negotiate a compromise. For example “Can we still be friends?..” when facing a break-up. Bargaining rarely provides a sustainable solution, especially if it’s a matter of life or death. The bargaining stage shows up when one is facing expected death (cancer) or in a more desperate plea from loved ones when a traumatic event occurs such as a car accident. Stage 4 – Depression Also referred to as preparatory grieving. In a way it’s the dress rehearsal or the practice run for the “aftermath.” This stage means different things depending on whom it involves. If it is an expected loss then this stage will happen when a friend or loved one has accepted that death is going to happen. If it is traumatic loss then this will occur once the griever has accepted that their loved one has passed away. It’s natural to feel sadness and regret, fear, uncertainty, etc. It shows that the person has at least begun to accept the reality. Stage 5 – Acceptance Again this stage varies according to the person’s situation, although broadly it is an indication that there is some emotional detachment and objectivity. Emotional detachment does not mean, less love or feeling towards the person who has or is going to pass on. It is just a feeling of acceptance that it is what it is.
After some time has passed the grieving person may begin to experience a bit of joy and happiness, albeit with hesitation. Oftentimes grieving clients will equate the amount of love they have for their lost friend or family member with the depression and lack of joy they feel. The grieving person can become stuck in this way of thinking and feel guilty about the thought of being “ok”. I have often challenged clients in this way of thinking by saying, “Would your loved one wish for you to be unhappy?” The response is met with, “No!” The only good that can come from the loss of a loved one is that the friends and family that remain are forever changed in a positive way. This can be done on a small or bigger scale. For me
this has meant changing my response to my sons when they make “messes” playing. I have learned to embrace those precious moments of play I have with them and smile at the messes. Another example would be to find something that the the lost loved one was passionate about and breathe life into that. Zach and Amanda Beers opened Sweet Charley B’s Cupcakery this past June on the waterfront of Olympia in honor of their daughter they lost tragically two years prior. Charley had a passion for cooking with her Mom, so they decided to keep her legacy living through baking amazing cupcakes for the community to experience. SWWF
• Do mention the lost loved ones name and memories often. People often want to not bring him/ her up in fear of upsetting the grieving, but in reality it is more hurtful to not mention the lost loved one. It is better to remember them out loud.
Do’s and Don’ts When Communicating With Someone Grieving:
Becky is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor with a private practice in Olympia specializing in Women’s Issues, Teenage Girls and Marriage Counseling. She is also certified in a specialized technique for the treatment of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Becky has a Master’s in Counseling Psychology from Saint Martin’s University, and is passionate about providing hope, healing and restoration to individuals that she counsels so that they may joyfully embrace their life to the fullest. She has been married to a wonderful husband, Travis, for over a decade. They have two boys, Wyatt, and Garett, born on the same day three years apart.
•Don’t say to someone grieving, “they are in a better place”. Although the grieving person may understand this it doesn’t help the hole in the heart that is empty and would really rather have their loved one with them. • Don’t avoid the grieving. Visit them, call them, show up at their house.
• Don’t compare a loss you’ve experienced as a way to relate. Just summarize back the pain you may have felt while talking with the grieving person. For example, “I bet you feel empty, hollow, sad and confused. I am here with you and you are not alone.” You can pull from your own experience to relate but don’t insert your experience in this situation.
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BiRThdAyS! September
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Alex B. turned 11 on August 22nd!
Susannah B. turns 7 on September14th!
Jorjah E. turns 7 on September 3rd!
Korbin D. turns 1 on September 26th!
Isabel T. turns 5 on September 25th!
Callen B. turns 2 on September 28th!
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BiRThdA yS! September
Addyson A. turns 3 on September 24th!
Ava W. turns 4 on September 4th!
Cole O. turns 5 on September 26th!
Caitlin G. turns 7 on September 17th!
Milo C. turns 1 on September 9th!
Emma S. turns 9 on September 10th!
Jayci H. turns 9 on September 4th!
Seth A. turns 8 on September 29th!
Colten A. turns 9 on September 30th!
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BiRThdA yS! September
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Samantha N. turned 8 on August 23rd!
Arissa L. turned 5 on August 4th!
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Eddie G. turned 5 on August 16th!
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Max F. turned 2 on August 20th! SWWF
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ess Welln2012 ROUNDUP
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Providers from the Providence Medical Group will be providing FREE clinical breast exams. Federal and Providence Foundation funds will be available to assist with FREE mammograms. Anyone who gets the clinical breast exam and/or mammogram will get a certificate for free lunch that day. Bring a friend and receive free movie tickets for the Olympic Club.
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