October news letter 2016 by Cindy Foster

October 2016 … Phone: 021 501 200 … Email: cindysccsnewsletter@gmail.com Read about:

New Downlights Adoption Legionnaire’s disease Grandparents Raising Grandchildren. … and more …

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Library Info/News Jokes, Quotes Cruise Boat Dates Market Dates CC’s Horoscopes Emergency Help lines

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Emergency Help and Support, Numbers

Toughlove 0800 868 445 Family Works 07 575 9709 Alcohol Drug Mainline 0800 787 797 Alcohol Drug Maori Line 0800 787 798 Alcohol Drug Pacifica Line 0800 787 799 Nemms Needle Exchange Mt Maunganui 07 575 5922 0800 WHATSUP children's helpline 0800 9428 787 Healthline (open 24/7) 0800 611 116 Samaritans (open 24/7) 0800 726 666 Citizen Advice Bureau 0800 367 222 Alcoholics Anonymous 0800 229 67 57 AIDS Hotline 0800 802 437 Youth line Phone Counselling 0800 376 633 Kids line (Kids up to 14yrs) 0800 543 754 What’s Up (Age 5-18) 0800 942 878 Parent Help 0800 568 856 Grandparents Raising Grandchildren. 021 2255108 Cot Death (sudden infant death support) 0800 16 44 55 NetSafe 0508 638 723 Depression Helpline 0800 111 757 Grief Support Services 07 578 4480 Suicide Crisis Helpline (open 24/7) 0508 828 865 Lifeline New Zealand 24hr 0800 543 354 Narcotics Anonymous 0800 628 632 Gambling Crisis Helpline 0800 654 655 Quitlin 0800 778 778 Pregnancy Counselling Service 0800 773 462 Relationship Services 0800 735 283 Family Violence Information Line 0800 456 450 Gender Bridge Inc (transgender support) 0800 844 357 Union of fathers (separation and support) 0508 22 5532 Shine Domestic Violence helpline 0508 744 633 Victim Support 0800 842 846 Women’s Refuge 0800 86 733 84 Tga 07 541 1911 Telefriend Sight Loss Peer Support 0800 100 051 Shakti Ethnic Women’s Support 0800 742 584 Tauranga Living Without Violence 0800 577 003 Prisoner Aid/Rehabilitation offender/family Turangi 07 386 8246 Open Home (Child, Family Support Foster Care) Tga 07 579 2840 Tauranga Moana Victim Support 0800 842 846 Te Whare Oranga Wairua Maori Women’s Refuge 0800 733 843 Sexual Abuse Centre (Rotorua) Inc 07 348 1555 Family Planning Tga 07 578 8539 Healthline 0800 611 116 La Leche (Breastfeeding Support) Tga 07 544 9817 Diabetes Helpline Tga 07 571 3422 Cancer Society Tga 07 571 2035 Café Youth Health 07 378 3895 Asthma Respiratory Management 07 577 6738 Plunketline 0800 933 922 Stroke Foundation 0800 787 653 National Cervical Screening Programme 0800 729 729 Prostate problem support line 0800 477 678 Breast Screen Aoteara Free: Age 45-69 0800 270 200 Western Bay of Plenty Ostomy Society Inc, help line 07-5737443 BOPSASS (Bay of Plenty Sexual Assault Support Service) 0800 227233 Rural Support Trust 0800 787 254

Emergencies: Mobile Phone Report Traffic Incidents Fire, Police, Ambulance Medical:

555 111

Accident & Healthcare (Tga) 07 577 0010 Hospital (Tauranga) 07 579 8000 Tauranga Police Station: Monmouth Street Tauranga Mount Maunganui Police Station: Salisbury Avenue Papamoa Police Station: 530 Papamoa Beach Road 2nd Cotton 4th Flowers 6th Sweets 8th Bronze 10th Tin 12th Silk

Saturday 08th October 2016 First Quarter

Saturday 15th October 2016 Full Moon

Saturday 22nd October 2016 Last Quarter

Sunday 30th October 2016 New Moon

SEASONS

Summer December - February Autumn March - May Winter June - August Spring September - November MONTHS OF THE YEAR January 31 Days February 28 Days March 31 Days April 30 Days May 31 Days June 30 Days July 31 Days August 31 Days September 30 Days October 31 Days November 30 Days December 31 Days February 29 Leap Year Every Four Years 0100 = 01am 0200 = 02am 0300 = 03am 0400 = 04am 0500 = 05am 0600 = 06am 0700 = 07am 0800 = 08am 0900 = 09am 1000 = 10am 1100 = 11am 1200 = 12 o clock (Mid Day) 1300 = 01pm 1400 = 02pm Eg: 1415 = 2.15pm 1500 = 03pm 1530 = 3.30pm 1600 = 04pm 1645 = 4.45pm 1800 = 06pm 1700 = 05pm 1900 = 07pm 2000 = 08pm 2100 = 09pm 2200 = 10pm 2300 = 11pm 2400 = 12 o clock (Midnight)

CC’s OCTOBER HOROSCOPES Aries This is a transitional period where you need to look at your life which will bring much needed changes. Your need to improve your life so you can pull back and have time that you can enjoy without demands on you. Taurus Domestic matters are high on the list for you. Keep pushing along as you will soon have things in order, and then you will be able to sit back and reap the benefits of your hard work. Stay positive Gemini For some Gemini people romance is favourable. Remember that in partnership you are not the only one to consider, you will need to work at the relationship to make it work. Let loved ones know you love them. Cancer This is a great time to look at new possible changes to your live. Don’t procrastinate go with your gut feeling and soon you will see that making change is good financially and life is good. Leo Sometimes it’s better to say nothing. Remember that others have their view on things and that your view is not for everyone. A low profile would be best at the moment accept advice and ideas from others. You may be surprised by the out come. Virgo Time for you to move on, get rid of the past baggage. You need to think carefully before you make change, see that you have everything lined up. When you feel confident it will then be right for you. Libra Finish one job before you start another, You have a habit of overloading yourself which then puts stress on you. Financially things seem to be ticking along nicely but do keep watch as things have a habit of changing. Scorpio This is a great time to get things done. Take on new adventures that you have been thinking about. Don’t sit back keep moving forward and you will benefit from the rewards so rightfully deserved. Take a risk out of your comfort, you need a good challenge and with good planning you will win. Sagittarius Routines have become boring to you so make a change. Do things you enjoy and time out with family and friends won’t hurt. Sick of what you are doing workwise then don’t just sit there do something about it. There is better out there, find it and do it. Capricorn Family and Relationships are important to you so make sure work does not over rule this. Make time to get closer to your loved ones. Sometimes we forget that family and friends are worth more than dollars and cents, and we never know what is around the corner. Aquarius Life seems to be ticking along ok but you have the ability to push yourself a bit harder with an idea you have been pondering over for a while. You may need some advice and help to get things off the ground. Pisces Your mind is always filled with good ideas, if you approach them right you will succeed. Positivity is required to stay on top and so remember positive thinking brings positive out comes. Go for gold.

WANTED BOOKS • PUZZLES • DVD’S • CD’S• RECORDS

Wedding Anniversaries 1st Paper 13th Lace 3rd Leather 15th Crystal 5th Wood 25th Silver 7th Copper 35th Coral 9th Pottery 45th Sapphire 11th Steel 55th Emerald 60th/75th Diamond

Moon Phases

14th 20th 30th 40th 50th

Ivory China Pearl Ruby Gold

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Hello Everyone … Editor’s Blurb Well mother nature has again given us a good wash down with the heavy rain.. Daylight saving is finally here with us and summer well on the way. Again it’s been a bad run out on the roads with accidents claiming multiple life's. So many hurting familys, so what are drivers going to do about this. It’s time everyone took more care, with the summer season apon us there will be more people out travelling.

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I have my veg garden planted and it seems to be doing well so soon be into the juicing. In this news letter we have reminders about handling compost to help prevent Legionnaire’s disease . Have a read and take care handling garden products.

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DOGS SHOULD WEAR SETBEALTS Love Your Dog? Save your pooch see they are seat belted just like you and your family Remember they are part of your family

Daylight Saving Starts 25th September 2016 …… Daylight Saving Ends 02nd April 2017 …... Daylight Saving Starts 24th September 2017

Public Holidays 2016 New Years Day: 1st Friday January Day after NY Day: Monday 4th January Waitangi Day: Monday 8th February Good Friday: Friday 25th March Easter Monday: Monday 28th March Anzac Day: Monday 25th April Queens Birthday: Monday 6th June Labour Day: Monday 24th October Christmas Day: Sunday 25th December Boxing Day: Monday 28th December Valentines Day: 14th February Mothers Day: 8th May Fathers Day: 4th September Christmas Eve 24th December New Years Eve 31st December

School Term Dates 2016

Primary, Intermediate Secondary 1st Term 01st February… 15th April 2016 2nd Term 02nd May …. 08th July 2016 3rd Term 25th July … 23rd September 2016 4th Term 10th October ... 20th December 2016 Secondary & Composite 4th Term 10th October… 16th December 2016

Anniversaries / Symbols First Anniversary Cotton Second Anniversary Paper Third Anniversary Leather Fourth Anniversary Fruit & Flower Fifth Anniversary Wood Sixth Anniversary Sugar Seventh Anniversary Wool Eighth Anniversary Pottery Ninth Anniversary Willow Tenth Anniversary Tin Eleventh Anniversary Steel Twelfth Anniversary Fine linen & silk Fourteenth Anniversary Ivory Fifteenth Anniversary Crystal Twentieth Anniversary China Twenty-Fifth Anniversary Silver/Coral Fortieth Anniversary Ruby Forty-Fifth Anniversary Sapphire Fiftieth Anniversary Gold Fifty-fifth Anniversary Emerald Sixtieth Anniversary Diamond Seventieth Anniversary Platinum

Gender Signs ♂ male ♀ female ⚦ transgender, transsexual, alchemical symbol for iron or crocus of iron ⚲ neuter, eunuch ⚪ asexuality; genderless; betrothed. (⚨ ⚩ alchemical symbol for iron)

Sex Relations Signs ⚤ heterosexual ⚢ lesbian, female homosexuality ⚣ gay, male homosexuality ⚥ bisexuality ⚧ transgender sexuality, hermaphrodite (in entomology). two men holding hands two women holding hands

Marriage Status Signs ⚭ Married ⚮ Divorced ⚯ Separated

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At your library now… Here are three New Entrants to the ‘Library Class’ in October awaiting their reading lesson! Glyn Harper’s Dark Journey: Glyn Harper’s timely account of the Somme battle (October 1916) provides sombre reflection of the inhumanity of the human race a century ago. It really was a Dark Journey. The Huntress: The Huntress covers the intrepid life of pioneering aviatrix, sportswoman, journalist and publisher Alicia Patterson in a story written by Alice & Michael Arlen. The lives of several rolled into one. Bra Boy: Richie Vaculik lived by the rote of the notorious Sydney surfer gang the Bra Boys. In Bra Boy, stories of mateship and mayhem ensue, with Richie getting crowned the Boys’ Minister for Good Times. Featuring bucket loads of poor risk assessment. See you in the library soon! “Mount Maunganui Library recently has been repainted inside and the new gardens have been bedded in. Come and check it out.” Paul Cuming | Collections Librarian, Tauranga City Libraries, Tauranga City Council www.tauranga.govt.nz

PROFESSIONAL & RELAXED BRA FITTING Ladies… Do you loathe bra shopping or have trouble finding a well fitting bra?

Mount Maunganui Public Library: 9:30AM – 5PM 398 Maunganui Rd, Phone: 07-577 7177 Mount Maunganui Toy Library, Incorporated, Phone: 07-572 5228 Papamoa Public Library, Library, Public Toilets Opening Hours: Mon-Fri 10.30am-5.30pm, Sat-Sun 10am-2pm 15 Gravatt Rd, Papamoa 3118, Phone: 07 577 7177 Papamoa Toy Library: Inside the Papamoa Library Complex 15 Gravatt Road, Papamoa, Phone: 07 575 3011 Greerton Library: 9:30AM – 5PM 139 Greerton Rd, Phone: 07-577 7177

The Mobile Library The Mobile Library visits 43 stops on a fortnightly cycle. There are over 3,500 items to choose from, changing regularly. The Mobile Library will bring any item from the Catalogue to your stop, for a Hold fee of $1 for an Adult, or 50c for Child or Teen.

Let me help you to find your FEEL GOOD FIT ! Complimentary Bra Fitting At your home or mine. Sizes 6A to 24 G Wide range of styles to suit all tastes. View and try on in relaxed surroundings.

Your Papamoa Bra Fit Specialist, Helen e: helen.eason@intimo.com.au ph: 021 895 052

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month Early Detection is the best weapon in the fight against Breast Cancer. Early Detection has been proven to save lives. It’s important to be “Breast Aware” and check your breasts regularly. If you find a change that is unusual, see your Doctor immediately.

SIGNS TO LOOK FOR: A new lump or lumpiness A change in the breast size or shape A change to the nipple, such as crusting, ulcers, redness or Inversion Nipple discharge that occurs without squeezing A change in the skin of your breast such as redness or dimpling An unusual or ongoing pain.

Have you done your monthly Breast Check ? Early detection saves lives…

Be Breast Aware

For more information head to the Breast Cancer Foundation NZ www.nzbcf.org.nz

43 Alach Street, Greerton, , PO Box 2087, Tauranga, Phone 07 578 0245

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Compost and Potting Mix Legionnaire’s disease (legionellosis) It’s gardening time which means planting and repotting using compost and potting mix. I’m sure many have noticed the strong smell of compost and potting mix in the shops. The smell seems to be strong this year. People need to be careful around their handling of compost and potting mix. Compost is full of living material - some of which can be harmful if inhaled causing risk of Legionnaire’s disease (legionellosis) The disease is a lung condition, with symptoms similar to pneumonia or mild flu-like symptoms. Seek medical advice immediately if you have concerns you have contracted the disease. Legionnaires’ disease can cause serious illness in some cases death if not treated. The disease does not spread from person to person. Take special care when using garden products. Make sure you store it safely away from small children. ►Store bags of potting mix out of direct sunlight. ►Open bags of composted potting mix slowly (opening away from your face). ►Wear gloves when handling soil, compost or potting mix. ►When potting plants, wet the soil to reduce dust. ►When working in greenhouses or indoors, make sure it is well ventilated. ►Wash your hands carefully after handling soil. ►Avoid getting compost in sores or cuts. ►Wear a mask if you are working in confined spaces.

Are you Selling your House and it Looks Like a Bruised Apple? Just like you wouldn’t choose a bruised apple, potential buyers may expect to pay less for a property that doesn’t look its best. There’s an old saying – ‘first impressions last’ – and nothing could be truer when it comes to presenting your property for sale. That means a tidy and presentable interior and exterior, as many people will drive-by before deciding whether to inspect it during open homes. Your property is usually just one in a very long list of properties a buyer will see, so it’s crucial that they see it in the best possible light. The more desirable your property appears, the better your sale price is likely to be.

Clean, tidy, well-maintained These are the three key presentation factors that will show your property at its best: Give the property a good clean, inside and out, to make it appear more liveable.

Declutter Clear away any clutter that has accumulated in living spaces to show off the spaces better. Just like a used car, a property that appears well-cared for is more valuable than one that has been run down. It’s worth getting any small items fixed before sale.

Decoration: different tastes, different approaches. Not everyone’s decoration tastes are the same. It’s often safer to assume a more neutral decoration style for your open homes – perhaps it’s good idea to pack away your shell lamp or uncompromising self portraits.

Items to consider when decorating your home for sale: Paintings or mirrors to help fill blank walls Vases and plants for a homely feel Single beds to maximise the space in smaller bedrooms Outdoor furniture to show a buyer how they might use the area Presentation has never been so important, so if you are just too busy Over & Above Moving will help you create the WOW factor and encourage an emotional buy-in. Phone 0800 22 88 24 for a free consultation.

WE NEED FOSTER PARENTS! YOUTH HORIZONS HAVE ROLES AVAILABLE FOR FOSTER CARERS & 'LIVE IN' HOUSE PARENTS. Training, support & competitive remuneration provided. Cheryl on 021 828 946 Cheryl.Hemmingson@youthorizons.org.nz YOUTH HORIZONS www.youthorizons.org.nz

Adoption Adoption can have a profound effect on our lives and even as adults and parents ourselves we can struggle with feelings of grief and loss that just won’t leave us. There are several adult adoptee’s here in Tauranga interested in starting a support/discussion group. Contact Scott 0275656459

Tens of thousands of NZ babies were relinquished by their mothers in the 50’s 60’s and 70’s and put up for adoption. Society at the time considered this the best option and the premise was the child would have a better life in a new family as opposed to staying with the un-wed young mothers many of whom brought shame on their family by becoming pregnant. I was one of these babies. I was adopted into a very good family but despite this grew up feeling really lost and unable to connect emotionally. I suffered from anxiety and depression and later in life struggled with alcohol and substance abuse and became suicidal at times. As I did more research around adoption I discovered that the breaking of the bond between mother and baby was considered a trauma and the struggles I was experiencing were shared by many adopted people worldwide. In 1985 the laws changed and adoptees and birth families were able to search for and meet each other. Many thought this would fix a lot of the emotional pain adoptees reported and in many cases a lot of healing took place. For some however this was only the beginning of the journey to finding lasting peace in their lives. If you are an adoptee in the BOP Tauranga who seeks support you are not alone. Myself and others are starting a support/discussion group and would invite you to attend.

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“Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It’s not.” * Dr Seuss “You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose.”- Dr Seuss “The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go.” Doc Seuss “Think left and think right and think low and think high. Oh, the things you can think up if only you try!” “If things start happening, don’t worry, don’t stew, just go right along and you’ll start happening too.” Doc Seuss “You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And you are the one who’ll decide where to go.” Doc Seuss “Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment, until it becomes a memory.” Doc Seuss “A person’s a person, no matter how small.” Doc Seuss It’s good to remember that everyone deserves the same respect, no matter their size, the way they look, or their place of residence. “Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is youer than you.” This is one of the most popular quotes by Dr. Seuss, and perhaps it’s because it’s so true, and such a witty way of saying it. There really isn’t anyone out there that’s more you than you are. It’s something that can be said about you for your entire life. No one else can think for you, can do your work for you, and experience happiness for you, it’s all up to you, and you put your own mark on your life.

How do men define a "50/50" relationship? We cook-they eat; we clean-they dirty; we iron-they wrinkle… unknown 'It’s just too hot to wear clothes today,' Jack says as he stepped out of the shower, 'honey, what do you think the neighbors would think if I mowed the lawn like this?' 'Probably that I married you for your money,' she replied. "Having dinner last night, my six-year-old turned to me and said, 'Dad, when I grow up, I'm gonna marry you.' We laughed about it. My wife said, 'Don't make the same mistakes I did.' After a quarrel, a wife said to her husband, 'You know, I was a fool when I married you.' The husband replied, 'Yes, dear, but I was in love and didn't notice.' Daniel and Jessica, young couple, got married and went happily on their honeymoon. When they got back, Jessica immediately 'phoned her mother and her mother obviously asked, 'How was the honeymoon, dearest?' 'Oh, Ma,' she replied, 'the honeymoon was wonderful. So romantic...' Then Jessica burst out crying. 'But, Ma, as soon as we returned home Daniel started using the most ghastly language... saying things I've never heard before! I mean, all these awful 4-letter words! You've got to come get me and take me home.... Please Ma. 'Calm down, Jessica!' said her mother, 'Tell me, what could be so awful? What 4-letter words?' Still sobbing, Jessica whispered, 'Oh, Ma...words like dust, wash, cook, and iron.'

Miniature Exhibition Classic Flyers Museum 8 Jean Batten Drive, Omanu, Mt Maunganui Saturday 22 October 2016 – Monday 24 October 2016 9:30am – 4:00pm

Wheels On Mainstreet Coronation Park, Mt Maunganui Saturday 22 October 2016 10:00am – 2:30pm DON’T TOUCH A DOG UNLESS YOU ASK THE OWNERS PERMISSION FIRST!

Dogs Safety Little, medium and big dogs can look so cute, adorable, however this does not mean that you ... a stranger to the dog can just walk up an hug, kiss and pat it. In lots of ways dogs are similar to children some are quite, shy, scared, and then you get the ones that don’t mind a stranger. All dogs belong to their owners not a stranger. You wouldn't like a stranger to just appear and start playing, hugging or kissing your child, well it is the same for dog owners. Many people don’t think!. It is only polite to ask before you touch a dog you don’t know. Maybe the dog is not a peoples dog or maybe it’s in training or maybe the dog is not well. If you see a dog you like the look of make sure you ask if you can pat the dog listen to the owner, don’t let your children hug and climb around the dog. Teach your children the right way to meet and greet a dog. Children cry if they are not happy and don’t want to be around you … A dog can’t cry they may show their fear by nipping you if you insist on getting in their space. Please show respect to the dog owner and their pooch. When you do greet the dog don’t grab at it or try to hug it. The correct way to greet a dog is to slowly put your hand out facing down and let the dog sniff it. Your tone of voice will also determine if the dog is happy to be around you. If the dog is happy it is then ok to slowly pat it on the side of its face by the ears. If you have your hand above the dog it might make the dog think you are going to hit it. Do not put your face around dogs you don’t know.

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Every week Top Quality Live Entertainment Fri/Sat/Sun

Opening Hours Mon - Sun 10am to 8.30 Monday & Tuesday Family nights with $22 buffet selection under 5’s dining free with an adult and children 5 and over pay their age. Carvery buffet is available Sunday to Thursday, full buffet on Friday & Saturday and we have an a la carte menu running in conjunction with the buffet menu. OCTOBER ENTERTAINMENT Saturday 01 October Sunday 02 October Friday 07 October Saturday 08 October Sunday 09 October

Rueben Simpson Andy Bowman (4.30pm to 7.30pm) Che Orton Mark Taupiri Back Porch (4.30pm to 7.30pm)

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Ray Solomon Gerry Le Selwyn & Debbie (4.30pm to 7.30pm) Andy Bowman All Blacks Vs Australia Des, Debbie and Selwyn

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Tony Wellington Coopers Run Mr 2na (4.30pm to 7.30pm)

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Memorial Parades/Services in October Hauraki Branch of the Patriots DFMC are having a run for Passchendaele on October 15 Service at Cenotaph. New Zealand Infantry Day, always held on the Anniversary of the Battle of El Alamein, October 23rd.

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Civil Defence The Bay of Plenty will experience Natural and Man Made disasters such as power and water failure, earthquakes, and volcanic eruptions in the future. Disasters have the potential to ruin everything you have worked for over the years - homes, treasured and precious momentos and, possibly the loss of a loved one. Whilst disasters cannot be stopped, think ahead and be prepared by involving the whole family, and make an emergency plan together. Plan to look after yourself and your loved ones for at least 3 day or more. Many disasters will affect essential services and possibly disrupt your ability to travel or communicate with each other. You may be confined to your home, or forced to evacuate your neighbourhood. In the immediate aftermath of a disaster, emergency services will not be able to get help to everyone as quickly as needed. This is when you are likely to be most vulnerable. So it is important to plan to look after yourself and your loved ones for at least three days or more in the event of a disaster. Get your family or household together and agree on a plan. A functional emergency plan helps alleviate fears about potential disasters, and can help you respond safely and quickly when a disaster happens. You can get a copy of a household emergency plan and checklist from your local council, or download your printable For people with a disability, emergencies such as fires, floods and acts of terrorism present a real challenge. The same challenge also applies to the elderly and other special needs populations. Make arrangements now to get the support needed during an emergency event.

Build a personal support network

Organise a personal support network of a minimum of three

people to alert you to civil defence warnings, or to help if you need to be evacuated. This could be family members, careers, friends, neighbours or co-workers. Ensure you have an emergency plan before a disaster happens and practice it with your support network. Plan for various disasters and situations you could encounter.

Discuss your needs with the support network and make sure everyone knows how to operate necessary equipment Inform your support team if you are travelling or away

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My name is Brock van Leeuwen. I am a ConTact C.A.R.E FLINCHLOCH RELEASE THERAPY Practitioner. ConTact Care is a practical form of health care, it offers a Common-sense Approach To Real Ease. ConTact C.A.R.E is a Flinchloch Release Therapy – a system to locate and release trapped bone pressure triggered and held by surprise impact combinations. Contact cares uniqueness… Recognition of the body’s self defence system which over-rides the nervous system and the reflex system. The Flinchloch Release method – releasing trapped pressure from the BONE. Understanding the pressure for pressure balanced interplay between head and body which is used to match and neutralise injury pressure. Who can benefit? Headache/Migraine Cranial Tension Back and Neck Pain Mental/Emotional Shock Breathing Disorders Old Unresolved Injuries Sports injuries Co – Ordination Problems Carpal Tunnel Syndrome Post-Op Rehabilitation Depression – caused by chest cavity impacts Equine and Pet Injuries In general any condition involving musculo-skeletal discomfort, tension, stress or pain can be effectively worked with. The clinical experience is non-intrusive and gentle, the techniques safe and very effective. Consultations are carried out with the client fully clothed. We ask you wear loose clothing for comfort. Sessions can last 30 – 60 minutes with a return visit according to your needs.

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Who we are: For most grandparents, raising grandchildren is a result of an unexpected and traumatic event that requires a significant readjustment to their lives and those of their grandchildren. Grandparents Raising Grandchildren Trust NZ is a unique organisation that has a deep understanding of both the benefits of grandchildren being raised by their grandparents and the challenges it can present. We provide support services to grandparents who are raising their grandchildren on a full time basis. Our Vision: A community where grandparents raising grandchildren are empowered to provide a safe, secure and nurturing home for their grandchildren. Our Purpose: To provide support services to grandparents raising grandchildren to protect and promote the well being of children in their care.. Our Values: Family is everything . Knowledge is strength Children are our taoga (treasure)

KEEP DRINKS IN SIGHT Don’t leave your drinks unattended and any stage as it may put you in danger of someone spiking your drink, NEVER THINK it won’t happen to you! Bottle drinking is safe as you can put your thumb in the neck of the bottle. Buy your own drinks unless you know and fully trust that person

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► feeling dizzy or faint ► feeling sick or sleepy ►passing out ►feeling intoxicated or confused even if you have only had a little alcohol to drink ►waking up feeling Come on people don’t be so bloody stupid … uncomfortable and disorientated, with there is enough advertising around warning you memory blanks about the night before. of the dangers but still you do it. You think it What to do if you think your drink has won’t and can’t happen to you… think again. Regards, Karen Ormsby ,… been spiked. If you think your drink has Tauranga coordinator for GRG. … been spiked, tell a friend, the bar or security Sooner or later you will be a victim … just what Phone: 0212255108 staff, or the police. Your doctor can test for the damage will be … death of someone else … the presence of traces of certain drugs a child or a mother or father? Or maybe you through urine or blood tests within 24 taking your last breath … hopefully you got to finish your txt message? Don’t be an idiot have hours. We have all seen the ads on TV don’t ignore respect for others on the road. these ads. Make sure you have Smoke Alarms in all If you think that you have been assaulted or raped, it’s important you tell a friend or the rooms where risk of fire is likely. When fire starts TIP SHEET Signs Your Child Is Being Bullied it moves fast and very likely burns your house down, family member, and go to a doctor or Bullying is an intentional, aggressive and repeated behavior that involves an imbalance of power or strength. or take a family members life. Smoke alarms will alert hospital. Drink spiking is illegal. It’s a you to fire. Don’t think it wont happen to you … serious offence to introduce a drug into the It can take several forms: Physical (hitting, punching, households have many electrical appliances. See you body of another person without their beating) Verbal (teasing, name calling, threats) Emotional don’t overload multi boards. Do regular checks of knowledge or consent, especially if the (intimidation using gestures, social exclusion, threats) Sexual Racist Bullying Cyberbullying (Online harassment, hate your appliances, cords and wiring look for faults that person is assaulted as a result. Party Safe messages, threats, impersonation, and digital abuse may risk all that is important to you... If you think your child is being bullied stomp out bullying has If you have a house fire see everyone is out of the great info to help you http://www.stompoutbullying.org/ house … having an emergency plan is wise so that Warning Signs: children know what to do and where to assemble. Your child comes home with torn, damaged, or missing Call 111 … get out of the house and stay out. pieces of clothing, books, or other belongings • Has unexplained cuts, bruises, and scratches It is wise to have your documents on a USB stick in a • Has few, if any friends, with whom he or she spends time safe place in a case of emergency. (eg: insurance • Seems afraid of going to school, walking to and from school, policy's, Bank details/numbers, passports and IDs) riding the school bus, or taking part in organized activities .

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with peers • Makes up excuses as to why they can’t go to school • Takes a long, out of the way route, walking to or from school We have all been warned about drink driving. • Has lost interest or begins to do poorly in school We all know we are not to drink & drive …!!! • Appears sad, moody, teary, or depressed As the ads on the TV say …. DON’T BE A BLOODY IDIOT! Complains frequently of headaches, stomachaches or other Have your parties enjoy your friends and celebrate holidays but use your brains and organise your physical ailments • Has trouble sleeping or has frequent bad dreams travel home or stay at your friend’s place. • Experiences a loss of appetite Taxis are available and in the end are cheaper than a drink driving ticket, loss of licence or living • Appears anxious and suffers from low self-esteem

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Remember if you kill another person or yourself you HURT & WRECK so many people’s lives. Too Late? You idiot when you sober up and realize what you have done will you be able to still say you enjoyed your drinks? Will you be able to live with what you have done?

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A.A - Alcoholics Anonymous NZ " Hi I'm ...... and I'm an Alcoholic”. So what did you think when you read those words? Some old wino with a paper bag on a park bench, or that person propping up the bar all night every night? The reality is often very different to what we perceive an alcoholic to be or the people that we think go to AA meetings. I'm a mum with a job, a husband and a roof over my head and yes I'm an Alcoholic. I've been sober for almost 3 years now and yes I function in society. At the end of my drinking I was working, being a Mum and drinking daily at home, sometimes out of a coffee cup (so my husband wouldn't notice) trying to hide all my empty bottles and stashing other bottles around the house to make it look like I wasn't drinking so much. What can start off as a couple of glasses of wine to wind down at the end of the day turned into a bottle a day then 2 bottles a day, sometimes more. Drinking consumed me physically mentally and spiritually. I'd wake up thinking I won't drink today and then I just would. I drank because I was happy. I drank because I was sad. I just kept drinking. Then I did the unthinkable, I drove drunk with my child in the car. Today I give thanks that I was pulled over and got arrested for drunk driving. That was my wakeup call or rock bottom. I admitted I had a drinking problem got support from my doctor, family and friends and stopped drinking. Stopping drinking was relatively easy for me as I felt so terrible about what I had put my family through. Then came the hard part...staying sober. I started going to AA meetings and following the 12 step programme. For me it works. I feel supported by others with similar stories and no judgement. Today the journey continues one day at a time. Alcoholics Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience strength and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from alcoholism. The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking. There are no dues or fees for AA membership, we are self-supporting through our own contributions. AA is not allied with any sect, denomination, politics, organization or institution; does not wish to engage in any controversy; neither endorses or opposes any causes. Our primary purpose is to stay sober and help other alcoholics achieve sobriety. For more information or meetings in your area please call 08002296757 or visit AA.org.nz For more information please call 0800 229 6757 or visit AA.org.nz

Car Check List If you decide to leave the car, lock all doors, take your (valuables within reason) When your tyres are under-inflated it will cause rapid wear and reduce the tyres life. Tyres that are underinflated can reduce fuel efficiency by up to 4%. When checking the pressure, check the condition and tread depth of your tyres. Bulges, lumps or cuts are all signs that your tyre may need replacing. Different vehicles need different levels of tyre pressure. Check the pressure when your tyres are cold. Check the pressure in all four tyres and the spare Check your wiper blades for wear and tear. Clean your mirrors and windscreen inside and out. Check all indicators are flashing. Check your headlights, reversing lights and brake lights are working Check you have current warrant and registration. *555 Dial *555 FREE from a mobile phone to report road incidents which are urgent but not life-threatening. This includes such things as non-injury crashes, erratic driving, traffic congestion, breakdowns and obstructions on the highway. Your call will go to a Police Communications Centre but will be given lower priority than 111 calls.

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Guy Fawkes day is fast approaching, pet owners need to take extra care of their animals during this terrifying season as Fireworks cause great distress and concern for pets and pet owners. If you are letting fireworks off show respect to your neighbours and animals in your area. Controlled Displays are much safer and enjoyable without the risk of accidents to homes, children and party friends. Remember alcohol and fireworks are a bad combination and can be a recipe for disaster. Never let fireworks off close to animals Stay home … Act normal – comforting your dog could make things worse. Make sure your pets are indoors throughout the evening Secure doors and windows to prevent your pets escaping and running away. It is a good idea to switch on the radio, television or stereo to distract your pets Make sure your dog or cat has a collar on with up to date contact details Livestock owners should move their animals to safe ground. People organising fireworks displays should let their neighbours know in advance. Take you dog/dogs for a big walk to make them tired for the night

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Animal Healing If your pet acting is out of character or unwell, it may well be that they don’t have an energy field around their body or their energy centres may be out of alignment. When this happens the cells of the body are not able to communicate, it’s like they are sitting on the couch, not talking to each other and sleeping. You may be feeding your pet good quality foods and the right supplements or even medications from the vet but their body is quite simply not able to use them, the ability to assimilate them as its’ supposed to just doesn’t happen, therefore it may appear that nothing is changing. .

During a healing session I work to wake up these cells and kick them off the couch. We get them to start talking to each other again, to have the body running at optimal levels. With the lack of energy field, the body may not have been “putting out the garbage/waste” for awhile; therefore your pet could experience a detox after a session. Once the cells are awake and talking to each other, your pet’s body will have a better chance of healing by itself. The whole system will be empowered as the body is now able to up-take the nutrients, supplements or medications you are giving them. They will feel more balanced. With an energy field fully functioning, it acts as a buffer around the body which helps any outside influences just slide off. During the healing I will also help your animal let go of any trapped emotions they may be holding onto. What affects the body’s energy field? Quite often the energy field can be knocked out by abuse, an accident, being re-homed (this can be what they were subjected to in their previous home), dog fighting, or a traumatic event – including a fall or break, having an anaesthetic or something the owner is going through. (What animals tend to do is look out for their owners and if they get sick or go through trauma, the animal will try and take on some of the emotions so that the owner can cope) How often should I have my pet checked? My suggestion is to have two sessions within 7 to 10 days of each other. The “new normal” for them, may initially feel odd. If your pet has been out of alignment for quite some time we may have to re-train the body that the new normal is the true alignment. This also gives you a chance to see the difference between them being in alignment and out of alignment, therefore putting you in charge of your pet’s health and wellbeing.

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Greerton Markets Last Saturday of each month Greerton Hall 8am - 12noon 027 9082952 Moggies Market 2nd Saturday of each month Katikati Memorial Hall Maketu Flea Market 3rd and 5th Sunday of each month Maketu Village Green Red Square Market 2nd Friday of each month Downtown Tauranga The Cargo Shed Saturdays & Sundays, Some public holidays, 5 Dive Crescent, Tauranga Car Boot Sale Evans Road Community Church 3rd Saturday of each month. Lions Bethlehem Market Historic Village, 1st/3rd Sunday each month 8am-12noon Cambridge Farmers Market Victoria Park, Cambridge ... Every Saturday 8am-12 noon Te Awamutu Twilight Farmers Market, Selwyn Park, Every Thursday 3.30pm-6.30pm Frankton Market, Commerce Street, Frankton, Every Saturday 8am-1pm Hamilton Farmers Market, 204 River Road, Hamilton, Every Sunday 8am-12noon Omokoroa Lions Market 2nd Sunday of each month 9am-noon Western Avenue, Omokoroa Katikati Plant and Produce Market Every Friday 4pm -6pm A & P Showground's, SH2, Katikati Tauranga Farmers’ Market Each Saturday from 8am-12pm Tauranga Primary School, 5th Avenue Rotorua Night Market Tutanekai Street, Rotorua, Every Thursday 5pm-9pm Thames Market Pollen Street, Thames, Every Saturday 8am-12noon Peace Park Boon Street Whakatane 2nd & 4th Thursday till April Matata Reserve Main Road Matata 3rd Wednesday of every month. Site booking essential Gate Pa Car Boot Market next to Tauranga Girls’ College. 934 Cameron Road 1st Saturday each month Tamahere Country Market St Stephens Church, Tamahere Hamilton, Every 3rd Saturday Papamoa Lions Market. 2nd & 4th Sunday of each month , Papamoa Sports & Rec, Parton Road, Papamoa. Mount Maunganui Farmer's Market Every Sunday from 9am-1pm Phoenix car park, Mount Maunganui Tauranga South Community Patrols Car Boot sale, Greerton Village School 8am.3rd Saturday of the month Whakatane Sunday Market Every Sunday. War Memorial Hall carpark 8am 1pm. Carol 027 3844 026. Taupo Riverside Market Riverside Park Reserve, Redoubt Street, Taupo, Every Saturday 10am-1pm Raglan Creative Market Old School Arts Centre, Stewart Street Raglan, 2nd Sunday each month 10am-2pm Waihi Beach Fresh Produce Market Community Centre, Waihi Beach, 2nd & 4th Sunday each month, 9am-11am The Little Big Markets, Corner Matai Street & Maunganui Road, 9am-2pm, 1st Saturday each month The Little Vintage Markets, Astrolabe Brew Bar, Maunganui Rd, Mt Maunganui 9am-3pm, 3rd Sunday each month Waihi Lions Market Memorial Hall, Seddon Street 3rd Saturday of the month. Te Puke Creative Market, Memorial Hall Te Puke 1st Saturday each month 9am till 12.00

Please Email me any changes to these Market dates … Thankyou

Violence

“Good Grief”

Many people believe that Domestic violence is only physical abuse. However, Domestic violence takes many different forms. It may also be psychological, sexual, financial or spiritual violence.

Time…how long does grief take? There are plenty of expectations about this, most of which aren’t particularly helpful to those grieving. Let's check out some of the common ‘myths’ about this. Myth: A grieving person should be over their grief after two weeks. Reality: There is no definite timeline for grief; it may take weeks, months, years or a lifetime to process a loss. How long depends on the person, the situation and the type of loss. Myth: The grieving person should definitely be "over it" within two months. Reality: There is no definite timeline for grief. Myth: Grief declines over time in a steadily decreasing fashion. Reality: Grief is more like a roller coaster ride with up times and down times. Myth: Once over a loss, the grief is never experienced again. Reality: A place, a smell, a song, or a special date may trigger the old memories. Grief may be experienced again. Myth: Grief ends after the funeral. Reality: Many people believe that life should return to normal after the funeral service. However, this may be the start of the .grieving .process as the shock and numbness give way to the reality of the loss. Myth: Grief eventually ends. Reality: In time most people learn to live with the loss.

Physical Violence includes hitting, pinching, spitting, slapping, pushing, punching, kicking, burning, stabbing, strangulation, suffocating & shooting. It may also include threats to cause harm. Psychological Violence (sometimes referred to as emotional or verbal abuse) includes put-downs, name calling, jealousy, harassing, screaming, using degrading language, insults, criticism, harming pets or animals, isolation from family and friends, and threats to leave the relationship or to commit suicide if the victim does not co-operate Sexual Violence includes unwanted touching or sexual activity, raping and forcing victim into unwanted sexual practices. It may include control over birth control, forced pregnancies or abortions and transmission of Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD) Financial Violence occurs when an individual uses finances to control another individual. This could include forcing a person to hand over all or part of their salary or by denying someone access to their own finances, making victim ask or beg for money, forceful removal of money from victim Spiritual Violence occurs when an individual uses religious or spiritual matters to control another, such as forcing another to follow a particular faith or give up their religion or justifying their violence as religiously and spiritually acceptable

(Taken from http://dying.about.com/od/lossgrief/a/griefmyths_3.htm ) Grief Support Services is a local agency offering free counselling to individuals and families affected by loss and grief. We also run an After Suicide Support Group. For information or to make an appointment phone us on 578 4480. www.griefsupport.org.nz support@griefsupport.org.nz

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Domestic violence

After Suicide Support Group.

Domestic violence (DV) is in the news recently as the Government tries to create changes to the way DV is responded to and dealt with. Regardless of the success or failure of these new measures parents need to be stepping up and protecting their children from witnessing, having it happen to them or even being a perpetrator of DV.

‘Choice’ So many ideas, thoughts and pain can spring out of this

Regular readers will know my often used phrase the ‘families are factories people are made in’ and this very much rings true for people who deal with DV from all sides. I am talking generally here and being very gender discriminatory. This column has a word limit!

If Mum was a down trodden woman or worse, daughters may not respect themselves enough to stand up and be counted and may themselves be a victim of DV in some form. If Dad regularly bashed someone in the family, possibly his son will deal with family stresses the same way. The children often repeat what they see or experience. Many people assume that DV is only shown by black eyes and bruises; however that is merely the point where the situation has escalated to where it can’t be hidden any further. Sadly I have worked with children who are best described as closed down, they have become numb to what is happening at home and are in full survival mode, even if others can’t or won’t see it. Pre pubescence boys who brag to their mates that they swore at or verbally abused their mother or sisters could be described as showing little regard to girls and women. This could be the start of an aggression journey and this behaviour needs to be curbed. These boys need a solid role model who will teach, encourage and gently ‘ put back into line’ when required. If young people will try things at home before they try them on the world at large, and it is at home they can be corrected with the least amount of shame and embarrassment all around. I encourage people who are victims of DV to step up, make a change and create a better lifestyle not only for themselves but their children. There is plenty of help to create changes and stop DV happening. It often takes someone to find 60 seconds of courage, to make a telephone call, to talk with someone, and if needed to walk into a police station if things are at that stage. However encourage the perpetrator more to use that same 60 seconds to ask for help before things get worse. At the end of the day it is the perpetrator who is reasonable for their reactions, not the victims. Mothers and Fathers, who turn a blind eye to the aggressive child, could be supporting the beginnings of a DV perpetrator or in not supporting a victim to speak up, supports the behaviour to continue. The young adult you may have in front of you as a romantic connection, an employee, or just a mate is a product of their environment and much of that environment is created at home. What is the product of YOUR family going to be known as? Have a good month, Donald Welsh, Parenting Coach

Bay of Plenty Sexual Assault Support Services (known as BOPSASS) BOPSASS is a free 24 hours service in the Bay of Plenty for adults, teenagers & children who have been sexually assaulted.

We have staff based in Tauranga and Whakatane. If you would like to talk to one of our nurses or counsellors about what has happened to you, and what we can do to help you, then please

word when you have lost a loved one to suicide. At our ‘After Suicide Support’ group we talked about ‘choice’ in the context of ‘what now for our present and our future?’ “Saying the words I have some choice in how things go for me now is easier said than done” was one comment that got a lot of nods. Having the idea expresses an intention and that’s a good place to start. Just recognising that there are choices is another starting place. Perhaps ‘choice’ is something about steering yourself in directions that you somehow know serve you better. You might have a day where you know an afternoon on the couch under a rug is what you need—even though someone else might have other ideas for you; you get to make this choice. Or you might not feel like going to that dinner even though you know it would be good to go. Sometimes the choice is between feelings and knowing and sometimes choices need a plan around them to make them possible….. “I’ll go to that dinner but take my own car so I can leave when I’m ready”. Our group meets monthly, phone 578 4480 or email support@griefsupport.org.nz for information.

Althorp Retirement Village When the ladies from Althorp Retirement Village gather on Monday afternoons the Village "Knit & Natters " group get busy. There is a cheerful atmosphere with lots of chatter and laughter going on as the needles fly. All items are donated to worthy causes, as they make many beautiful articles, colourful Teddies for Children involved in accidents, Knee blankets for other Aged Care Homes, tiny Singlets, Booties & Beanies for Premature babies, cardigans & jumpers for small children, woollen slippers in many sizes keep lots of feet nice and warm. If it can be knitted they will make it in no time at all. Many of the knitters work on items in their own time at home during the week. Others just enjoy the time relaxing with residents catching up with Village news. The afternoon finishes with a lovely cuppa and ends another productive afternoon. These photos show all items made in just two months and ready to be distributed. Where Would We Be Without These People?

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