Close Enough To Kiss Issue 9

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Babywearing Boxes

Jacq and Rose launch a new babywearing box

Babywearing and Reflux

How wearing your child can help with reflux

Pouch Curious

How the humble pouch carrier is making a come back

The Babywearing Barbie

How Barbie got a surprising make over

Style My Wrap

How To Rock The Monochrome Look

Advice · Shopping · Babywearing · Reviews

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A Word From The Editor I seem to have blinked and 2016 came and went along with the first year of my youngest child.

Babywearing has brought so much to my families life, we very much live and breath babywearing and it permeantes every part of our daily living. If you are interested in following how my family uses babywearing in our everyday lives, why not follow us on Instagram (@closeenoughtokiss).

2016 was very much a year of change for me as i streamlined my life, so i could concentrate fulltime on both this magazine and the website. It is an exciting time and i hope to be able to further diversify Close Enough To Kiss by introducing a parenting magazine later this year.

Parenting is a real passion of mine and as my family is THE most important thing to me facillitating a magazine on parenting seems the natural progression for our brand.

Over the past 19 years i have ploughed myself into studying about parenting in all its forms, and i would like to further explore how different veins of parenting can come together in one place to empower families to make informed choices on raising their families.

If you would like to contribute to our magazine in any way please contact info@closeenoughtokiss.co.uk Enjoy x

Renee

Front Page Credit Kate Meakin Carrier Credit Jacq and Rose

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06 Babywearing Barbie

20 The Value Of A Consultation

09 Babywearing Starter Guide

24 Rise Of The Pony Packers

13 Ask Lorette

27 Perfect Pouches

14 Babywearing & Reflux

30 Exploring Carriers

16 Style My Wrap

36 Babywearing & Adoption

17 UK Sling Libraries Network

38 Are You Gonna Drop Your baby?

18 Babywearing Boxes

40 BundleBean Giveaway!

Editor Renee Jeffery

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Design & Artwork Colin Jeffery Renee Jeffery Photography Jess Hippey, Samantha Potter, Alex Duxbury, Kate Meakin, Lysanne Skinner, Paloma Murillo Van Der Steen, Laughs and Lenses Photography, Kim Wright Photography, Ellie Thouret, Sarah Isted, Laura Jayne Photography, Rachel Coy, Amy Jae Silver, Heidi Smith, Lorna Blanchard, Suzie Purvis, Charlotte Filcek, Catherine Cromby

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All information in Close Enough to Kiss Magazine or website is intended for entertainment purposes only and professional advice should be sought for those who are in anyway unsure how to carry their children in a safe manner. The publisher, contributors, editors and related parties are not responsible in any way whatsoever for the actions or results taken by any persons, organisations or any parties on the basis of reading information, stories or contributions of Close Enough to Kiss Magazine or website.

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The Babywearing Barbie

Samantha Potter of Sling Solutions uses our childhood friend Barbie to promote babywearing benefits.

Most of us of a certain age will have fond memories of playing with Barbies.

The eternally young doll has had many transformations in the past ranging from becoming a beach babe to a mother. Now, thanks to babywearing consultant Samantha in the UK, Barbie’s most recent makeover is as a babywearing role model!

When we asked Samantha, what inspired her to do this she said, “I've always enjoyed various hobbies, many of which involve sewing, miniatures and dolls, Issue Nine

7 so when I noticed a very poseable Barbie in my local toy shop, I thought it would be fun to create a 'Babywearing Barbie' to stand on display in my office at home.

I enjoyed creating it and my children loved it, so I thought I'd do a couple more.

I shared a basic picture of them on my Facebook page, and within a very short space of time the picture had been shared hundreds of times, and viewed by over 100,000 people!

I decided to use the appeal and popularity of my Barbie image to try and spread some information on the benefits of carrying. I set about creating a few more Barbie’s, including a Kangaroo Care Barbie and several babywearing Dads, attempting to portray a variety of families, as well as I could with a Barbie.

This resulted in this series of seven infographics. There are a few more images I'd like to create to add to my series, in an attempt to portray an even greater variety of different people and families, so hopefully I'll be able to add to them later in the year".

I am sure you will agree this in not only genius, but a fun way to promote babywearing and we can’t wait for the next images to be released!

Samantha from Sling Solutions is a mum of two, who coruns Cheltenham & Gloucester Sling Library, and has trained as a sling consultant with Slingababy and School of Babywearing.

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Congratulations on deciding to start babywearing! No matter how old your child it’s never too late to start. With so many carriers on the market and so many different types it can certainly be a daunting prospect of knowing where to start!

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10 But which type of sling is right for you Connecta, Beco, Boba 4G, Ergobaby and your child? Well, your child’s age and Tula are some big-name brand is a good place to start your decision. examples. They will last until your baby is a toddler.

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If your baby was born under 6lbs or is a pre-term infant, then do seek professional advice from a babywearing consultant or a local sling library about Kangaroo Care.

Baby Once your baby is out of the fourth trimester, their curiosity kicks in and their desire to see the world is so strong. Babywearing from this age is magic as baby experiences the world through your eyes. Stretchy wraps can still be used, but you will probably find your baby resisting it as their desire to see and be involved takes over.

A stretchy wrap is a great option for beginners as you can get a lovely tight fit in keeping with T.I.C.K.S. For the more experienced babywearers, a woven wrap or a ring sling can also be used.

Woven wraps and Ring Slings mean you can start learning new carries such If your baby is over 6lbs then you as hip carries so that baby can see (it have a huge range of carrying is not recommended to back carry until options available. baby is 6 months or can sit unaided so that you can monitor their airways).

Stretchy wraps (most suitable from 7lbs) or a Close Caboo (suitable from Buckled Carriers now become 5lbs) are still the number one choice for the most popular choice at this newborns. Soft fabric, no buckles or clips, age for convenience, comfort and comfort for wearer and the option to be baby’s curiosity. pre-tied makes them super convenient and supportive.

You may still need an insert or an accessory strap if the base panel of You can use this up until your baby is your carrier is too wide. The carrier approximately 6 months old (weight should comfortably go from knee to dependant) however, a lot of babies knee and create the ideal ‘M’ shape tend to find them too constrictive once with baby’s bum being the middle of they have good head control which is the ‘M’ through to the knees being the around 3-4 months. Your baby will let top of the ‘M’ down to the feet at the you know! bottom of the ‘M’.

Ring Slings and Woven Wraps are also fantastic for newborns and most can last until your child is up to 4 or 5 years old (weight dependant), but do see a babywearing consultant to ensure a great fit for you and your baby.

All carriers are different, your sling library consultant can help you get the right fit from your carrier. Most Buckled Carriers can also be used for back carries, usually from six months or when baby can sit unaided.

Many Buckled Carriers (also known as Soft Structured Carriers or SSCs) are also able to be used from newborn, either with an insert, a cushion or an accessory strap.

Tied Carriers are also a great choice from this age carriers, such as Mei Dais have all the convenience of a Buckled Carrier but with the lovely fabric feel of a wrap.

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Onbuhimos and Podegais (waist-less carriers) can also be used, but is recommended to keep baby on your front until 6 months or until they can sit unaided.

They are also handy if you’re pregnant and the bump means you find a carrier with a waist strap uncomfortable.

Toddler Your Ring Sling or Woven Wrap can still be used, check your manufacturers instruction booklet as weight limits vary depending on weave, thread and material. You can now really experiment with different types of carry and finishes for left over material.

See if your local Sling Library offers a workshop you can go along to.

It is worth considering if a toddler version of your buckled carrier would be of benefit. Toddler carriers offer an ergonomic panel base width and height for your growing child to safely be worn.

Some Tied carriers can go all the way through toddlerhood, but some will need upgrading too so please check your manufacturer’s instructions.

Whichever way you choose to carry, remember to always follow the T.I.C.K.S. and enjoy those snuggles.

Written by Lysanne Skinner, who runs Worthing Sling Library is a Slingababy trained babywearing consultant.

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WE NEED YOU! We need donations of carriers and funds to cover shipping We need people to set up collection points in their local areas and we need volunteers to work on the ground supporting existing organisations and fitting carriers

To donate or get involved please find us here:

www.carryingaidinternational.com www.facebook.com/carryingaid carryingaid@hotmail.com

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Dear Lorette, how bad are narrow based carriers really? I have heard mixed opinions and I am not sure what to believe? Karen Hi Karen, narrow-based carriers are definitely involved in controversy so I was not surprised when I read your question. There are so many aspects to this and I fear I will only be able to touch the surface of this debate. In terms of ergonomics I think it is important to realise that nothing is inherent to the carrier as such. It is possible to use a wide based carrier (buckle or tie-on) or a piece of cloth (woven or stretchy wraps, ringsling) in a way that does not promote the maximum comfort and usual positioning that you may be familiar with. In the same way, it is possible to use a narrow-based carrier in a way that will be fit for purpose and comfortable.

In terms of assessing a carrier/carry, I would always check whether it is safe, fit for the purpose people have in mind, comfortable for the child and comfortable for the person carrying. I think a big part of the debate comes from the "fit for purpose". Some people see positioning as the endall of carrying. A wide base can be used to support a position that is in line with the treatment of pathological hips. In terms of hips that have no known pathology, there is no evidence that it would be beneficial. Now, it is important to see that carrying has many aspects and narrow based carriers can support many benefits of carrying so how bad can they really be?! I hope this helps.

Dear Lorette, my baby is 9 months old and is a real seat popper, so much so now I avoid wrapping them. Seems such a waste of my 3 beautiful wraps. Do you have any advice?

Shanice Hi Shanice, there are many options for you! Have you discussed your issues with a consultant?

There are often tweaks and tricks that can make a world of a difference! There are many techniques in terms of handling of both baby and wrap that can lead to a greater success. At 9 months, you have a very curious little one, exploring his/her newly found muscles. You may find that wrapping with baby awake or asleep will be different. You may find that different carries can help. Another option is to convert your wrap into structured carriers, then you still get to enjoy their prettiness whilst not having to worry about seat popping! I hope this helps.

Dear Lorette, at what point do you know when LO has outgrown a carrier? I've been using a baby size carrier with my 15-month-old, but not sure if they should be in a toddler yet? Mar Hi Mar, babies do not come in standard sizes and nor do carriers, so I can't tell you for sure either way. What I can tell you is that you can check a few things: does your child make any discomfort known whilst being carried? This will definitely be your first cue! Secondly, do you feel your baby's legs are supported in a way that is comfortable for the length of time you are carrying? If you carry for long stretches, you are aiming for a knee-to-knee fit with bottom lower than the knees. This is like sitting in a hammock. For mid-length carrying or active carrying, you can be happy with seeing the knees levelled with the bottom. This is like sitting on a chair. For short bursts of carrying, the width won't matter very much. It is like sitting on a stool. Thirdly, is the height enough to support the muscle tone of your child? A sleeping child has low muscle tone and will need supporting at least to the arm pits. A child who is awake and willing to be carried may be OK with any kind of back height. This is again like sitting on a stool versus a high back chair. If your child likes relaxing rather than doing a horsey ride, you will favour a higher back again. And finally, how are you finding your comfort?! If you think there is room for improvement, pay a visit to your local library to try a bigger option. You will know if you need to get a bigger one! I hope this helps.

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How Babywearing Can Ease Reflux Reflux can be upsetting for both the child and the parents. While the NHS reassures that, this is common and they will grow out of it, it doesn't make it any easier when you're changing your child for the 5th time, they're upset and you are too.

Reflux is the reason I personally became a baby carrying consultant. My first son had reflux. The classic type of bringing lots of milk back up and very little weight gain. It didn't bother him much, he would happily bring up a whole feed and carry on chatting away and playing. Thankfully the medications prescribed by our doctor worked wonders for him, and quickly too.

Sadly, my second son had a much harder time. He had Silent Reflux, so no bringing up milk. Instead he just didn't gain weight, and cried, for most of the day. I'm talking 7am-5pm straight. It was so difficult, especially with a toddler around asking me why baby was still upset. The only things that helped were keeping him upright, Issue Nine

and carrying him upright while pacing... and so the many hours of research began.

When I meet parents now whose baby has suspected reflux my heart goes out to them. It's still so vivid remembering how hard that 'common' issue was, and yes, he did grow out of it by a year, but the first few months especially were really tough.

Carrying was a lifesaver. The NHS recommends as treatment for Reflux (alongside medication), winding your baby frequently, and holding your baby upright, and carrying does both simultaneously, as babies are often gently winded as you walk, and the upright position is the recommended position for carriers.

I’ve found with babies who are really struggling with reflux like to elongate their neck, and almost have their head tilting backwards - it makes sense as it increases the distance between their stomach and their mouth. If you imagine carrying without a carrier - my son’s preferred position was with his head on my shoulder and body stretched out along my torso - so his ‘ideal’

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carrier would be one that supported his natural position.

Because of this I loved using a woven wrap to carry him. It had the versatility to mould around whichever upright position he preferred, and still be comfortable for me at the same time.

The Front Wrap Cross Carry position allows you to easily create extra layers of support by pulling fabric passes across, almost like closing curtains this allowed his head to be tilted back as he liked when awake, then when he was asleep I could use the pass to support it (instead of my aching arm).

The 100% cotton wrap I had also had the fantastic bonus of being totally machine washable and tumble-dryer safe meaning any sickness could be quickly removed and the wrap ready for use again quickly.

If you’d prefer a carrier over a wrap there are lots of options that will work for you too, ideally a carrier that has a hood so you can support a head that’s tilting, such as a Tula or a Beco.

If you're struggling with Reflux, please get in touch with someone. Your GP and Health Visitors will be able to help medically, and your local baby carrying consultants and sling libraries will be able to help you find a carrier to make your life a wee bit easier.

Jess Hippey is a mum of 2 and a trained babywearing consultant working at Close and Calm in Aberdeen.

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UK Sling Libraries Network UK Sling Libraries Network was started in 2011 to accommodate the growing list of sling libraries in the UK. It was designed so those seeking information on where their local library was, could do so in a quick and easy way.

The amount of sling libraries in the UK has grown from a handful to a few hundred in a few short years.

The demand for better knowledge and ability to try a carrier on before investing in it is invaluable.

running a library to independently enter their own information and update it when needed.

Their interactive map will make finding a library easier and with the ability to enter a variety of information a family can see not only where their local library is, but also what services they offer, such as retail or consultancy.

UK Sling Libraries Network not only gives those looking for a local library help, but it was also set-up to help those running and thinking about starting a library by offering practical For more information on advice and printable paperwork to UKSLN visit: get a library off the ground.

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We caught up with Katie Meakin, the owner and founder of Jacq and Rose and babywearing consultant to talk about their new babywearing box which they launched at the N o r t h e r n S l i n g E x h i b i t i o n i n S h e f f i e l d e a r l i e r t h i s y e a r.

also be tailored for more experienced babywearers looking to increase their We are a new UK company, based in repertoire of carries or finishes. the South of England that launched in July last year. We design our patterns in-house and the wraps are woven on What does the babywearing box a Jacquard loom in a British mill. Our contain? wraps are made using ethically sourced yarns and feature strong geometric A Jacq and Rose woven wrap patterns inspired by the physical and (size 6 - 4.7m) natural world around us. Our wraps come beautifully washed and ironed so that they are ready to use straight out A set of sling rings etched with the Jacq and Rose branding of the bag.

Tell us more about Jacq and Rose?

Why have you launched this new product?

“Why Babywearing Matters� book by Rosie Knowles.

Jacq and Rose are keen to encourage Pocket mirror with the Jacq and Rose Tri new parents into babywearing and in pattern particular to using a woven wrap. We wanted to provide all the essentials for Jacq and Rose branded rucksack bag their journey into babywearing all in one box. However, this babywearing box 30 minute Babywearing Consultation with is not just for new babywearers, it can Katie Meakin Issue Nine

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The babywearing box would make a lovely purchase either for yourself or as a gift for expectant parents. We think it would make a lovely present for a baby shower or a leaving gift for a work colleague going on maternity/ paternity leave. For more information or to purchase a babywearing box, please visit: www.jacqandrose.co.uk.

These large sling rings can be used in a variety of different carries and finishes. By including a set of rings it really adds versatility to the way you can use your wrap and it’s always good to keep a set in your bag.

The pack contains a fantastic book written by Rosie Knowles which contains information on how to wear your baby safely, the benefits of babywearing for you and your baby and why babywearing is important on society today. This is a must read for anyone new to babywearing and is a well-written and informative book. It also contains a pocket mirror that's great to keep in your bag so that it enables you to check the positioning of your baby.

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The Value of a Consultation There are now hundreds of sling library sessions in the UK, along with countless YouTube videos giving instruction on how to carry your baby. Where is the value in paying a babywearing consultant a significant hourly rate (generally over £20.00) for the same information you can access for free?

Learning had to be digested. You didn’t just have to know, you had to comprehend. – Sir Terry Pratchett

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families. However, they are not the environment for any in-depth tutoring!

YouTube also has its drawbacks. You have no control of the camera and no option to question the creator further (unless they respond to comments). It’s also very common for YouTube videos to make a carry look “easy”, which can be off-putting if you have been trying for a while Firstly, there’s less pressures. Sling meets can be very busy environments!

Some have time restrictions, particularly if there is a queue of parents waiting.

Toddlers playing underfoot, along with health and safety issues with venues mean we’re not always able to offer a full range of carrying (for example, some can’t offer back carries).

Coming to see a babywearing consultant gives us the chance to work with you as an individual, working with your ability level and your preferences.

Speaking of preferences, some parents find a huge value in consultation out of simple personal preference of a private environment. Some new parents are natural “nesters” and like Sling meets are fantastic social all appointments to take place in the environments, allowing parents to try comfort of their home while they build a out a variety of slings and meet new bond with their new arrival.

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Some fall on the other end of the scale – they want to show the baby the world straight away and don’t want to wait for a sling meet to access a sling. Others learn better in a quiet environment or feel intimidated by large groups. Every family is different and private consultations help us to cater to all requirements.

The majority of babywearing consultants are committed to their Continuing Professional Development. In some cases, thousands of pounds have been invested in learning and development. We recognise that there is ALWAYS something new to learn or a circumstance we haven’t encountered.

Some babywearing consultants have gone a step further and trained with more than one training school, to give themselves the broadest education possible. Others commit to one school and follow the education through to levels that include being able to train peer supporters.

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There is a bigger picture too. A lot of babywearing consultants do additional not-for-profit work that directly benefits your local community. As an example, my own sling library pays me less than minimum wage, by the time all administration and additional hire support is taken in.

services available in your area cheaply or for free. If no one was paying for consultations, could these be sustained?

By buying a consultation, you are helping to keep your local sling library open or providing additional support to a family in need.

My peer supporters take no wage and help simply out of enthusiasm for babywearing.

I also support our local NHS library, both by volunteering at their sling meets and providing additional support to those who can’t be assisted by NHS services. We also provide a free sling library, kindly donated to us by the Up Project, for those in immediate urgent need of a sling.

So if you are considering making that booking – send your local consultant a message. We’re always happy to chat about your needs and you never know what you’ll learn in a tailored environment.

Now I am one consultant, out of hundreds.

Most positively contribute to their local communities in some way by helping those who can’t afford a consultation to carry their children. No matter the size of the contribution, the difference made to individual families can be huge.

For many consultants, the time to make these contributions is at least partly paid for through consultation fees. Think of the

Sarah runs Baby Bitz, working in West Lothian. She is a Certified Trageschule Consultant and is a member of BABI. Together with husband James, and occasionally Callum (age 2), they run regular sling meets, consultancy services and workshops.

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Rise of the Pony Packers

Why the media always chooses to mock alternative methods?

When media get involved in anything alternative it often doesn’t turn out so great. In January, Loose Women focused on babywearing, more precisely parents that babywear toddlers.

It seems shocking that despite the fact man has been wearing children for as long as they have existed, that we could be so disconnected with our past just a few generations after we stopped predominantly using material to carry our They featured this off the back of a less children on our bodies. than favourable article in The Daily Mail which labelled toddlerwearing as a ‘trend’, In the days that followed many whom also called the lady the article was babywearers reflected on the term about ‘a rather comical Pony Pack’.

Pony Pack and blogged, published on YouTube even created Meme’s and Discourse shortly erupted as the an Instagram hashtag in response. babywearing community watched in about baby horror and rallied in droves to point out to Something ( w w w. s o m e t h i n g a b o u t b a b y. c o .uk) both the Daily Mail and Loose Women the error in some of the comments thrown at published an open letter writing. them like, ‘door mat mum’, ‘can’t let go’ “Firstly, comparing mothers to a pack pony? Why? That is a very rude and an and doing it ‘for her own needs’.

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Secondly, ‘trend’? What is it with that word? People have been babywearing for YEARS! It is by no means a trend in the sense I get the feeling you are referring to it as (i.e. something that is ‘in fashion’).

OK it may not be the ‘norm’ but it doesn’t mean it’s wrong.”

on increasing as parents recognise the benefits wearing their children longer come with. In a generation where mental health issues are at the highest ever, with kids as young as 4 starting to selfharm, we need to start looking at ways to promote a child’s self-esteem and protect their mental health from a young age.

Wearing a child can do this, although there currently is no explicit proof Mothering matters (www.facebook.com/motheringmattersuk) of this, there are organisations researching this and it won’t published a Facebook Video saying, be long before we see “I found this insulting and very annoying. real evidence to back-up these Yet again the media are igniting these mummy wars and perpetuating the myth claims. that parents whom wish to connect with their kids in a secure and biologically beneficial way are yet again mocked and derided as something strange”.

Rachel Coy from North East Sling Library (www.slingsandmore.blog) wrote, “Children, do not stop needing this support and encouragement just because they can have a conversation and walk. It is not up to the media to tell parents how to parent, that is up to the parent to decide.

If that means using a sling or carrier (or even a buggy) to carry their 2,3,4 or even 5-year-old, that is up to them. No arguments, no discussion needed. It is their choice”.

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Perfect Pouches Pouch slings are some of the simplest and most compact slings on the market.

They are less well known compared to other types of carriers, but once you have tried one, you may well be surprised that you have missed such a gem.

Essentially, they are a loop of fabric, folded in half lengthways forming a pouch and worn across your body with your infant carried on your front or side. Many have a curved seam or a panel where the baby sits inside the pouch.

Due to their one shoulder design, they are often compared to ring slings. Pouches are already sized to fit the wearer so require minor adjustment by folding the shoulder rather than threading and tightening at the rings, and have no ‘tail’ of excess fabric.

However, because they are sized, they are not possible to be shared between different sized partners.

You are likely to be carrying your baby or toddler in arms anyway as they naturally want to be carried, so a sling can help you to do this.

A biometric study by The University of Central Lancashire showed that carrying a 1 year old using a Lifft pouch sling kept the wearer’s spine straighter and improved their posture during standing and walking, compared to carrying a 1 year old on their side in arms.

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am a big fan of pouches, they’re relatively unheard of, but actually the ultimate pocket sized carrier. Sized to the parent, the pouch folds down nextto-nothing to fit in your coat pocket or glove box of your car, but can offer a really well-supported handsfree hip-carry for your up/down/up/ down tired and emotional toddler” Kate Jack, Chesterfield Sling Library Issue Nine

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Features and Benefits of Pouch Slings Sized to fit the wearer, they can be incredibly quick and comfortable to use so great for quick up and downs. The fabric distributes the weight evenly around your body, so they are comfortable for long periods of time.

Pouches are perfect for nosey older babies who want to have the freedom to look around and observe the world from their parent’s side, whilst still being able to read their faces.

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love them because they are super instinctive to use, deceptively simple, and really easy to quickly pop a flip in to adjust for sizing and comfort. They’re a bit less of a learning curve than a ring sling”.

Jo Hymers, Carried Close Carlisle

They are a popular option for toddlers who are independent walkers, but then ask to be carried when tired or want reassurance.

Compared to walking or being in a pushchair, toddlers sometimes want to have a higher viewpoint of the world.

From the security of a pouch, they can spot animals at a farm or wildlife park or watch performers at a busy festival.

They are a flexible option for siblings as like wraps and ring slings, you can carry your 6-month-old or 2-year-old in the same pouch without needing to carry a baby and toddler sized carrier.

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Pouches are compact and lightweight, so are ideal for your changing bag, glove box or toddler‘s rucksack.

4 Top Tips For Perfect Pouch Sizing and Fit the correct size: Selecting 1 Wear the perfect size is essential for your

comfort and safety. In the TICKS acronym, the T stands for tight, so your pouch should be tight enough around you and your child. Wearing a pouch that is far too big for you, would not be secure or supportive enough whilst too small, would be uncomfortable. to hip, wear at your waist: 2 Measure To find your perfect size simply

measure diagonally from your shoulder to hip, and check out the manufacturer’s sizing guide. If you have access to the full range of sizes, try an empty pouch on first which should sit around your waist when the baby is in it. If when your baby is in the pouch they are sitting at your hip or lower, then it is too big. to fold the shoulder: 3 Remember There needs to be a bit of space in

the pouch to easily manoeuvre the baby into the sling, but once they are inside, it should be tightened by folding the shoulder over to form a snug fit. an inch: If after you have folded 4 Pinch the shoulder, you can still pinch an

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are great for that up and down toddler stage, when they insist on walking but then request up and snuggles to get home from the park. They are always popular in the library when people ask for something compact, quick and easy to put on with a tired baby/toddler.”

inch or more on the top edge, then this suggests that the pouch is too large and you may want to try a size smaller.

Alex Duxbury is a mum of one, a babywearing consultant and owner of Lifft Slings with her husband Michael.

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Exploring Carriers

In this series, we will be exploring some of the different carriers on the market and the methods in which you can use each carrier. Carrying can be an art and taking time to fully explore different carrying method, can make all the difference in the amount of enjoyment and comfort you and your baby achieve whilst wearing.

These instructions should be applicable for all non-adjustable (sized) pouch slings, used to carry a baby or toddler upright in the recommended front or side positions. **Please note that it is generally no longer advised to carry babies in any pouch sling in a cradle position.

Take the sling and fold it in half inside lengthways to form a loop.

Decide which shoulder you want to wear the sling on. Place the opposite arm through the sling with the opening facing upwards.

Place the folded sling over your head and on to your preferred shoulder, wearing it diagonally like a sash, ensuring that the fabric is smooth across your back.

Place the back panel on your front or side depending on where you are going to be carrying your baby.

Lift up your baby high over your shoulder, and hold them in position with one hand.

With your other hand, reach up between the sling and your body. Gently lower your baby down, guiding them in so that their feet pass between the sling and your body.

Open the fold of the pouch and keep lowering your baby until their bottom is deep inside the pouch with their legs between the pouch and you.

Smooth the panel of fabric up until their nape of their neck for babies (3 months plus), and armpit for older babies and toddlers.

Gently tilt the baby’s pelvis to raise their knees, with the fabric knee to knee as if they are sitting on a deckchair.

When the infant is positioned within the pouch, gently lift your baby’s bottom as you fold the top layer of the pouch over your shoulder to tighten the top edge.

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Rocking The Ring Sling

It looks easy to use, fuss free and a great way to accommodate a child that wants to be with mum every waking hour or a constant up and down toddler.

Then you try it and it all goes wrong!

Rings slings really can look a lot of easier than they really are, so here is some tips to help you Rock the Ring Sling!

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Get The Height Right The lowest point of a ring sling should be at your hip, so when deciding on where you want baby to sit, it's worth making sure you pull the whole wrap down to this height.

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Rings can be a pain in the neck! As soon as you put baby in they drift down to your chest. So, try making sure the rings are in the perfect position first before your pop baby in. Allow the wrap to cup your shoulder.

Then when tightening, make sure you place one hand on your shoulder before, to stop any slippage.

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Tightening Tricks

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Before you start to bring any material up over your child’s back, roll the wrap into a ‘rope’ and sit baby into it so the wrap is in their knee pits and their bottom is lower than their knees. Once you have got them in the position you feel is most comfortable pull the fabric up the back carefully, so as not to move their position..

It’s time to tighten! The easiest way to tighten is by following the line the wrap takes. This will change across the wrap from horizontal where its closest to your neck, to 45 degrees from the opposite side of the ring. Pulling the fabric up first loosens the rings and then in a swift action pulling toward the direction of the fabric tightens. Doing ‘strand by strand’ gives you a more precise tightening rather than trying to do the whole wrap at the same time.

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Straight Lines The way to ensure you do not get any bum poppage is to ensure that the wrap has a straight line from each knee-pit. If you imagine you sitting in a hammock this is essentially what you want to create. So no tucking into pants or pulling the fabric up between you both – think straight line!

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Babywearing with an Adoptive Child You are home study-approved. Your family rolled through the adoption or foster training with ease. Now, the waiting game has begun. Every time the phone rings, you long to hear, "Your newest family member is on his or her way." Fear, joy, and adrenaline fill the air. Finally, the call comes, and your household is abuzz with excitement for a life-changing arrival.

As quickly as possible, adoptive parents' first duty is to connect heart-to-heart with their new child.

Babywearing, used as a tool, can help the newest family member feel secure and significant.

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co-sleeping can be impossible for an attached-compromised child to ease into gently. Babywearing, an adopted or foster child, will likely be the most natural of the three foundations of attachment parenting.

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Often, the first observation made by adoptive or foster parents is a constant need for closeness.

thoughtful adults take a leap Neglected or drug-exposed infants of faith to answer the call thrive in wraps and slings worn close to care, one precious person at to their caregiver's body. Adopted a time. or foster toddlers, like babies, need physical touch, bottles, cuddles, If you would like to learn more about the role of babywearing and carriers. in adoptive families, visit These children benefit greatly from http://thenor theastslinglibrar y. human interaction, watching facial weebly.com/blog-archive/the-roleand hand gestures, and hearing of-babywear ing-in-promotingattachment-in-adoptive-families spoken language.

Back-carrying a toddler in a soft structured carrier while folding clothes, doing dishes, or going for walks builds secure attachments for a child that has a human need to connect with others.

Written by Lisa Catledge, the owner of PlumeOtique.com, is a mother of six children, four of whom were adopted. She continues to learn about attachment parenting Every child deserves an opportunity and looks forward to the day she for love and security. Benefits to the receives a call saying, "You have a family and society happen when new grandbaby on the way!"

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Are You Gonna

Drop Your Baby?

I was recently reminded of a negative babywearing experience. I was at a soft play centre with my three young children and needed to get them quickly back to the car park, which was up a steep flight of steps. All three of them were tired and cranky, and I decided to tandem-carry my twins so that I’d have my hands free to help my pre-schooler.

I popped my daughter on my front in a buckled carrier, and wrapped my son, badly but safely, on my back while my eldest shouted at me and pulled on the tails.

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Unfortunately, she wasn’t reassured and she kept talking, increasing in volume and urgency, saying that he was going to fall off. This did not help my already

39 stressed-out mood, but I did my best to ignore her while I secured the carry. We made it out to the car safely and with no one falling out of their carriers. On the way home, I rang my husband and cried as I told him how I had felt humiliated and eventually snapped at the lady that I did this for a job, thank you very much, and I knew what I was doing.

Often in these situations, our children are crying (because, Sod’s Law) and we are feeling worked up. Maybe we aren’t tightening buckles or wrapping as precisely as we usually do, and it looks like we’re yanking our kids around.

Maybe your little snowflake is throwing himself around and trying to escape – maybe it looks like he will fall out, even I was absolutely convinced that I was if you know he can’t. in the right – how dare some stranger make me feel like I was putting my child Soft-play-lady shouldn’t have ended at risk? What did she know? Hadn’t she up raising her voice to me, that’s for ever seen someone putting their baby sure. That behaviour towards a stranger just isn’t appropriate, no matter what in a carrier? your concerns. There are more gentle But the more I thought about it, the more ways she could have approached the I felt that maybe it was me who had it situation, and to be honest a helping wrong. The woman probably hadn’t hand with my screaming pre-schooler seen anyone using a woven wrap before, would have been much appreciated! especially with a wriggling, screeching toddler. It probably didn’t look very safe But maybe I shouldn’t have snapped to her, especially as my attention was at her, either – it was an opportunity to split between my three children. She demonstrate how great using a sling spoke from a place of concern, and she is, and I didn’t do that. I hope that next didn’t know my background or that I time this happens (and I have no doubt have been back-wrapping for four years that it will), I will remember that what we do might look a little scary from the and have never dropped a child. outside, and seek to reassure the wellThis isn’t the first time a stranger has meaning stranger that all is good. been concerned about my children’s safety while I carry them. More than Do you have a similar story? one random person has tried to ‘help’ We want to hear from you. Email by grabbing parts of my sling, or worse writeforus@closeenoughtokiss.co.uk – my child, while I am quite competently adjusting it.

Slingy Facebook groups are full of stories like mine – usually, the responses to these threads are along the lines of ‘tell them to jog on!’ ‘what do they know?’ ‘how rude!’, but I think we should consider that what we know to be completely safe can look completely unsafe to the uninformed observer.

Ellie Thouret is a mum of 3, a babywaring consultant and runs Peekaboo Slings.

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