Start a Real Conversation With Your College Student
By Marlene Kern Fischer
Communicating with your college student can be a tricky thing. When (and if) you’re able to reach them, you may find that they’re in a rush, surrounded by other people or simply not in the mood to chat. You’re willing to settle for a text conversation, but even those can be less than illuminating (“TTYL”).
After sharing your student’s daily life for 18 years, it’s understandable that these abbreviated exchanges may leave you feeling blue. Cheer up! There are ways to improve your conversations. Through trial and error, I’ve identified three approaches which can be used to glean information from a college student. The methods aren’t mutually exclusive; you can employ any combination.
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The Humorous Approach My sons get less annoyed at what they view as prying if I make them laugh first. Example: “Are you eating your Tide pods or using them?” This might elicit a chuckle (or a groan) and pave the way for a discussion about things such as how often they’re doing laundry, what they’re eating, and other nuts and bolts of college life. I was appalled to discover that my boys were only changing their sheets a few times each term and was willing to use any opening to encourage more attention to housekeeping.
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