Parents, Students, and the University Building a Partnership for Success We are committed to partnering with you as you support your Penn student. Your student is embarking upon their academic career and student life as an independent adult. For many parents, this is uncharted territory. Therefore, our University partners created the following insights about this exciting transition. Understanding the Transition to College Presented by Counseling and Psychological Services at Penn The transition to college is a time of excitement in the life of your child. University life can present new challenges, along with increased autonomy, exploration, and relationship-building. For most families, excitement about the transition also brings feelings of ambivalence and concern. Staying informed may help you take proactive steps. Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS) offers extensive services for students on campus. CAPS staff members are also available to consult with parents.
How to Best Support Your Student Stay in Touch Even though your student may express the need to be independent, they still need to know that you are available to talk. Discuss with them a reasonable plan for you to stay in touch on a regular basis whether it is through texting, emails, or phone calls.
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Allow Space Let your student set the priorities for some conversations. Ask open-ended questions and give them room to air concerns, share successes, or just simply talk. If you intend on visiting, plan in advance so the time that you have is meaningful. Discuss Expectations Set up some time to talk to your student about expectations, e.g., frequency of communication, money matters, and so on. Negotiate a realistic plan. Be Realistic About College Life College life is quite hectic, and most students find their time packed with academic and social obligations. Take the time to remind your student to take care of themselves physically and emotionally as well as academically. A balanced life that includes work, play, and rest is essential to a healthy student. Pick Your Battles Conflicts are a part of the parent-student relationship, particularly as your student develops more independence at school. However, you may want to prioritize what is really important to you and decide which issues you are willing to let go.
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