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Cha-Chi Loprete features

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Avoid holiday scams this season with the AARP Fraud Watch Network By Mike Festa, State Director AARP Massachusetts

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id you know that someone’s identity gets stolen every two seconds? The AARP Fraud Watch Network provides you with tips and resources to help you spot and avoid identity theft and fraud so you can proMike Festa tect yourself and your family. Our watchdog alerts will keep you up to date on con artists’ latest tricks. It’s free of charge for everyone: AARP members, non-members, and people of all ages. Here are several things to think about as we approach the holiday season. The best defense against fraud is an educated consumer, so please watch out for these scams: Scam artists set up fake websites offering anything you could want to buy as gifts around the holidays, at prices that are too-good-to-be-true. And guess what? They are! You’ll never receive the gift you thought you bought, and the scammers could turn around and use your credit card information for their own purchases. Stick to well-known shopping sites, and always type in the web address, rather than clicking from a link to the retailer. Protect your holiday packages from theft. Some 23 million recipients per year report packages stolen from their doorsteps. To reduce the risk, arrange for a delivery that requires a signature upon receipt. Other options: send gifts to the recipient’s workplace or have them delivered to a pickup location operated by the carrier. Are you buying gift cards this holiday season? Consid-

er this. Thieves hit store gift card racks, secretly write down or scan the numbers off the cards, then check online or call the toll-free number to see if someone has bought the cards and activated them. As soon as a card is active, the scammers drain the funds. By the time your gift recipient tries to use the card, the money is long gone. To prevent con artists from ripping you off when buying a gift card, get the card from the retailer’s website or from the store issuing it. Leave the debit card at home as you head out for last-minute holiday shopping. Consumer protection experts recommend using credit cards to protect against fraud and theft. With credit cards, you are liable for only up to $50 of fraudulent use, and most credit card companies will waive this fee. In the case of a lost or stolen debit card, financial losses to the consumer can be much more significant. Call your bank for details. With the time for year-end tax write-offs approaching, the season of giving is ripe with bogus charities — especially for hot-button causes claiming to benefit police and firefighters, military veterans, sick or needy children, or victims of natural disasters. Ignore all email solicitations unless you previously donated to the particular cause. Unless you dialed the call, don’t provide a credit card number over the phone. And before donating, verify an organization’s legitimacy at Charity Navigator or Give.org. Report scams to local law enforcement. Contact the AARP Fraud Watch Network at 877-908-3360 or online at www.aarp.org/fraudwatchnetwork for more information on fraud prevention. Mike Festa is the state director for AARP Massachusetts. Archives of articles from previous issues can be read at www.fiftyplusadvocate.com.

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Light up the holidays! Region – As we adjust to the dark days of late autumn/early winter, a display of holiday lights can help brighten our spirits. Here are a few worth checking out.

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Hanukkah: The Festival of Lights at the Museum of Fine Arts The event to be held on Wednesday, Dec. 5, from 4:3010 p.m. will feature “lively musical performances, engaging tours, art making and family-friendly activities.” Guests are invited to discover the MFA’s collection of Judaica and view a one-

Above: The iconic Ducklings get into the holiday spirit. Left: The Boston Christmas Tree

of-a-kind menorah created by local artists Silvina Mizrahi and Sean Clarke, then enjoy a community candle-lighting. Free admission begins at 4 pm; all events are free. The MFA is located at

The Boston Christmas Tree In 1917, the devastating Halifax (Nova Scotia, Canada) Explosion, a man-made explosion caused by two cargo ships colliding, destroyed much of that city, killed 2,000 people, and injured 9,000. Boston was one of the first cities to send first aid. As a way of thanks, the province sent a beautiful Christmas tree to Boston in 1941 and then starting in 1971, a new one each year. The tree is lit on the Boston Common throughout December. (And even the iconic Boston Public Garden ducklings get into the festive spirit!) 31 Nights of Lights- From December 1 through New Year’s Eve on December 31, the Prudential Tower, 800 Boylston St., Boston, displays Lights page 6

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A Salem witch trial mystery remains: Who was the hangman? By Jane Keller Gordon Assistant Editor

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arilynne Roach might know more about the Salem witch trials than anyone else. After 27 years of meticulous research, writing and rewriting, her first book on the subject, “The Salem Witch Trials: A Day-by-Day Chronicle of a Community Under Siege” was published in 2002. A children’s book, a guide, and in 2014, “Six Women of Salem: The Untold Story of the Accused and Their Accusers in the Salem Witch Trials,” followed. Roach, who has lived in Watertown her whole life, has had a longtime interest in the Salem witch trials. But reading a guidebook by Salem’s Bicentennial Committee really sparked her interest, and motived her to take a train to that city — she doesn’t drive. “It was a perfect day in

decided to write a manuscript on the trials based on available public sources. I sent it around, and it was rejected,” said Roach. Then she discovered the Massachusetts Archives in Dorchester, which she called “a treasure trove.” For years, Roach studied what seemed to her like miles of microfilm, and took detailed notes. She also viewed and analyzed original manuscripts at the Essex Institute in Salem, which is now the Peabody Essex Museum. Roach set the scene for the time of the trials. “When the French and Indian War was raging and England’s control over the Massachusetts legal system waxed and waned, from Maine to New York, a sense

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spring, and the Federal district was gorgeous… I did find that some presentations contradicted what I had read, and I thought that there might be a book in this,” she said. Roach had already written and illustrated several children’s book. She is a 1968 graduate of the Massachusetts College of Art, and has mostly worked as a freelance illustrator and writer. “Early on in my research, I

of panic had set in. The settlers around Salem believed that almost 200 of their neighbors were witches, using their specters or evil spirits to harm others.” According to Roach, from late 1691 to 1693, 164 people suspected of being witches were involved in the court system, 52 went to trial, and 30 were found guilty. Nineteen of the 30 people were hanged in front of big crowds in Salem. Describing the accusations, Roach said, “At the time, someone might see a cartload of wood fall apart or feel an invisible presence. The accusers — the bewitched or afflicted — accused others, the supposed witches of evil acts… Some of those who were accused were older women with no families, but others were men and women who had families.” “There is no connection between Salem’s supposed witches Roach page 7

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Six-time cancer survivor rides the Pan Mass Challenge 20 times…and counting By Jane Keller Gordon Assistant Editor

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Hudson - Howie Davidson’s numbers are great. He has survived six bouts of non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma; biked the PanMass Challenge (PMC) 20 times, raising close to $150,000 for cancer research; and at 58, rides about 5,000 miles a year. Growing up in Brookline and then West Yarmouth, Davidson never imagined that he’d ride cross-country on a bike, or that he would develop cancer. His first bike was a bright orange Raleigh 10-speed chopper with a high sissy bar in the back. When it was stolen, his parents bought him a Gitane, a light Italian racing bike. “They got me that bike because it could be carried up three flights to our apartment. They didn’t know that it would be the start of a biking career for me,” he said.

thought I’d grow into it. I never did. It was really big!” he said. The years that followed brought Davidson two sons, a career as a software engineer for several companies, and more involvement in biking. When he was 33, he started mountain biking, and then road riding. Three years later, in 1997, he rode his first century (100 miles) with the Nashoba Valley Pedalers (NVP), a riding group that he found on the web. “They organize recreational rides of anywhere from 15 to 100 miles,” he said. That same year, Davidson was diagnosed with cancer. “It was in one gland and I had low dose chemo. It didn’t bother me too much,” he said. Davidson rode his first PMC in 1998, within a year of his diagnosis. Over the next few years, Davidson experienced four more bouts of localized lymphoma. “I was treated with radiation, which didn’t bother me much either,” he said.

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Fifteen years ago, just after a century ride with NVP, Davidson battled another type of more aggressive non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma. That time, he underwent major chemotherapy and full open field radiation. That summer he rode the PMC again. And, then again, and again. In 2007, he rode cross country in 52 days with America by Bike. Four years ago, Davidson joined Team Lick Cancer, a PMC team. “I train with them, and we get together every so often. It’s been really rewarding,” he said. Davidson’s commitment to raising funds for cancer research was elevated when his second wife Lynne, a nurse practitioner, died from stomach cancer in 2013. He has also raised $15,000 for diabetes, which he believes he developed as a result of cancer treatments, although he said that he was prone to it. For the past five years, Davidson has participated in the New England Classic Tour de Cure, riding 550 miles over seven days through Massachusetts, Maine, New Hampshire and Vermont. Looking back over his 20 Pan Mass page 7

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Six-time cancer survivor rides the Pan Mass Challenge 20 times…and counting get too high,” he added. “It’s an adrenaline rush for me, and the scenery is amazing.” It’s not surprising that most days, Davidson wears a PMC logo shirt or hat. To contribute to Davidson’s fundraising efforts, visit: Pan-Mass Challenge: https://egifts.pmc.org/HD0013 Tour de Cure: http://main. diabetes.org/goto/hdavidson

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years of PMC rides, Davidson said, with a smile on his face, “I’ve ridden the PMC in downpours and incredible heat, with pneumonia, and with cancer. Somehow the timing of my treatments worked out so that I could always ride.” “I usually ride 150-200 miles a week, until the snow banks A bicycle sculpture at Howie Davidson’s house

A Salem witch trial mystery remains: Who was the hangman? Roach Continued from page 4

and modern day Witches and Wiccans,” she added. “None of them considered themselves to be witches.” Roach noted that in 1697, as an apology for the trials, there was a fast for a period of time among the general public in Massachusetts. “People then saw the panic as the devil’s delusion. In 1711, after several petitions, the guilty verdicts of 22 of those who had been condemned were reversed, but not all the condemned names were in the petitions. In 1712, reparations were made to those who suffered as a result of the trials,” she said. “In 2001, Governor Jane Swift passed an act to restore the remaining names. Unfortunate-

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‘You can get anything you want, at Alice’s restaurant’ Guthrie Center continues to support community By Jane Keller Gordon Assistant Editor

Left: The Guthrie Center

Great Barrington- For those who came of age in the 1960s, Arlo Guthrie’s long, lyrical song, “Alice’s Restaurant Massacree,” is iconic. Written by Guthrie in 1965, when he was 18, it describes events that took place during a Thanksgiving he spent with his former high school teachers, Alice May Brock and her husband Ray Brock, at their home, an old deconsecrated church in Great Barrington. The song tells the story of Guthrie’s arrest for dumping Alice and Ray’s mound of trash, his encounter with a blind judge, and his subsequent rejection from the New York City draft board during the Vietnam War due to his “criminal record.” The word “massacree,” in the song’s title, means an event that is so

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bizarre it is unbelievable. It truly was; but grew into Guthrie’s plea to others to resist the draft. In 1991, the old church became The Guthrie Center, home to the Guthrie Foundation. This past Thanksgiving, like every year since its founding, the center welcomed about 150 people for a free holiday meal. Many radio stations still play the song on Thanksgiving. George Laye, a long-time friend of Guthrie’s, has been the artistic director and general manager of the center for the past 15 years. “We welcome people in need and people new to town. We never turn anyone away. It’s just

lovely, like any other Thanksgiving dinner, but we don’t get into politics with our relatives,” he said. Much of what takes place at the Guthrie Foundation honors Arlo’s philosophy, and that of his parents, Marjorie MaziaGuthrie and Woody Guthrie, the iconic American folksinger- songwriter. Woody Guthrie passed away in 1967 of Huntington’s disease. The Guthrie Center’s mission, “Take Care. Give Care.” is reflected in the many interfaith services and spiritual events held at the center, Laye said. The church’s former sanctuGuthrie page 9

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ary is now split into an entry way, with the kitchen on the left, and offices on the right. In the back is the performance space, which holds 100 people. The bones of the church are still there, as is a recently refurbished stainedglass window. Concert posters cover the walls, memorabilia fills the space, and now original oil paintings of a Guthrie clan from Scotland hang in the performance hall. Every Thursday night, except for Thanksgiving, the center holds a “hootenanny,” which is an open mic. On the weekends, Laye schedules well known and up-and-coming acts. “I’m always looking for new talent, especially young talent. I called it my Youth Spotlight Program. A while ago a group called Harpeth Rising came to me. I heard them, and thought, ‘Gee-whiz, they are wonderful.’

the Troubadour series. Tickets range in price from $15 to $75, with the lower cost for members. Food is served. “Our veggie chili and cornbread is amazing,” Laye said. In addition to music, the Guthrie Foundation holds a free lunch every Wednesday, during which The cover for Arlo Guthrie’s album, “Alice’s free legal aid is Restaurant” also given. The food is donated by several businesses in the area. Now they sell out every year,” Laye also described a tutorsaid Laye. ing service that the center operMany “Toms” have played ates, matching volunteers with at the Guthrie: Paxton, Chapin, children and adults. In the sumand Rush. Laye is working on mer, there are free yoga classes. the schedule for next year for

Every spring, the Guthrie holds a “garbage walk” to raise funds for Huntington’s disease. “There’s no set date. It’s a couple of weeks before Memorial Day. We gather a fleet of VW Microbuses, like the one Arlo used to transport the trash, and shuttle people to the police station in Stockbridge, and stop at Alice’s former restaurant there. Last year we raised about $15,000 and it all went to research,” said Laye. Laye is now collecting musical instruments so he can lend them to those in need. “If there’s young musician starting out, I will give them a guitar or some other instrument,” he noted. Thanks to all the good work at the center, Laye said, “I sleep well at night.” To learn more and support the center, visit www.guthriecenter. org. It is located at 2 Van Deusenville in Great Barrington, Mass.

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Join Cha-Chi Loprete for ‘Breakfast with The Beatles’ By Ed Karvoski Jr. Culture Editor

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Cambridge/Middleboro – Determination to become a radio deejay for Cha-Chi Loprete began soon after watching The Beatles’ first live American television appearance on “The Ed Sullivan Show” at age 7 in 1964 at his family’s Cambridge home. He realized that the job could give him an opportunity to interact with The Beatles and their inner circle. “The Beatles exposed us to a whole new sound and generation of music,” he declared. “That was a turning point for me.” Having worked since the 1980s as a deejay and other positions in the Boston-based radio industry, Loprete has interviewed George Harrison, Sir Paul McCartney and Ringo Starr. Additionally, he has interviewed a number of The Beatles’ colleagues and relatives. Loprete invites listeners to

(l to r) Sir Paul McCartney, WBCN Production Director Tom Sandman and Cha-Chi Loprete during an interview in New York City in 1984.

his “Breakfast with The Beatles” (“BWTB”) on Saturdays from 6 to 8 a.m. on WUMB 91.9 FM and online at wumb.org. (Check website for additional Massachusetts dial numbers.) A first step toward syndication, “BWTB” airs in Maine and New Hampshire on Sundays from 10 a.m. to noon

on Seacoast Oldies 92.1 and 97.1 FM and at seacoastoldies.com. While a high school student working as a page at Cambridge Public Library, Loprete read books that explained how to become a radio deejay. In 1971, he first heard the now-defunct station WBCN FM and particularly

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Join Cha-Chi Loprete for ‘Breakfast with The Beatles’

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2005. His program’s long run on WZLX ended in November 2017 when CBS Radio and Entercom merged. In addition to hosting shows, Loprete had worked as marketing and promotions director for WBCN, WZLX and 98.5 The Sports Hub. “BWTB” began airing on WUMB in February 2018. “WUMB told me that it’s my show, do whatever I want and have fun,” he said. “I love that about WUMB – a great rock-‘n’roll music attitude.” “BWTB” features the fab four’s music, history and interviews. Loprete’s first chance to interview a Beatle was in New York City when McCartney released the film “Give My Regards to

Broad Street” in 1984. “That was my first of about a half dozen meetups with Paul,” Loprete noted. “He’s the most easygoing guy. Each time I’ve interviewed Paul has been memorable and a privilege that I’ll never take for granted or ever forget.” Loprete also relishes social meetings with McCartney. Some of those get-togethers were as a guest of their mutual friend, Tony Bennett. “I was the first deejay to play Tony Bennett on a rock station,” Loprete said. “Tony heard about it and we’re still friends to this day. He has given me the opportunity to meet Paul a couple of times.” A particularly memorable occasion was attending the United States premiere of McCartney’s “Liverpool Oratorio” at NYC’s Carnegie Hall in 1991. Afterward, Loprete and Bennett joined McCartney along with a number of celebrities for dinner at the home of entertainment attorney Lee Eastman, Linda McCartney’s late brother. “It was something most people would never see,” Loprete said. “Paul being just a regular guy hanging out with his friends.” Loprete has also interviewed Starr several times. They’ve estab-

lished a unique bond. “Ringo finds my name to be very funny,” he shared with a laugh. “I have recordings of him making fun of my name, saying, ‘Hey, Cha-Chi, you have a weirder name than I do!’” A phone interview with Harrison at his home in Hawaii was done after the release of his first Traveling Wilburys album. Afterward, Loprete sent him several Beatles albums, which were mailed back by Harrison with

his autograph on each. “To be a Beatle and do that for someone is amazing,” he said of Harrison’s gesture. Now living in Middleboro, Loprete recently founded his own company, Next Beat Media Corporation, and is in the process of further syndicating “BWTB.” “It all comes back to that night in 1964,” he said. “The Beatles’ music carries on from generation to generation. It speaks to everybody no matter what part of life you’re in – it’s universal. I built a career out of something I really love and feel blessed that it’s still continuing.” Follow “Breakfast with the Beatles” at facebook.com/BreakfastWithTheBeatlesChaChi.

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Filling plates and hearts Women volunteer at ministry in Baja By Kate Tobiasson Contributing Writer

Shrewsbury/Westborough There is a saying on one of the walls of the ministry that reads, “You will never be the same.” For local residents Anita Polich of Westborough and Mary Ann Judson of Shrewsbury, this sentence says it all. For one week last August, the two women journeyed with three friends to Foundation for His Ministry in the Baja Peninsula to volunteer and support the organization. A mission in Mexico, Foundation for His Ministry has an orphanage, soup kitchen, fire department, car repair shop, and a drug addiction center. It provides many services to support the impoverished citizens in the area. During their visit, Polich and Judson both served to help people in the various facets of the ministry. “As volunteers, we helped to build, sand, and stain a portico at the orphanage. I helped finish a table and do laundry. Anita babysat and helped children in the daycare,” Mary Ann explained. “We also cracked nuts; they are working on developing a macadamia nut farm so that they can develop a revenue for the orphanage, so we worked to help crack nuts for this part of the organization. We worked with the min-

(l to r) Anita Polich, Sue Novia, Jake Colbert, Marilyn Hickey and Mary Ann Judson

istry in so many different ways.” Judson has been donating to Foundation for His Ministry for over 20 years; she began by sponsoring a child at the orphanage. Thirteen years ago, she flew down to visit the ministry and has returned each year, bringing more resources, donations and volunteers. As she spoke about

the ministry, her passion and commitment to the cause became evident. Eager to describe the depth of the ministry’s reach, Judson noted that, “They care for from 70 to 90 children at a time and provide services for people with special needs in the town and visit people who otherwise

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would be left alone in the area with no care despite the fact that they have no arms or legs… It is really a labor of love.” “This was my second trip,” Polich said. “I was so touched when I heard about the efforts that Mary Ann was doing to help impoverished people.” “One of the mornings I volunteered at the community preschool. The ministries go out and pick up the kids and bring them to the school; kids who would otherwise be alone all day,” she continued. “I was sitting at snack time between two little kids who were about 3 years old; they were very poor and what they had for snack was very meager. They saw that I didn’t have a snack in front of me. They insisted that I must share their snack…It struck me that generosity is so important. Those who have the least give the most. Those children have such generous spirits. I was teary-eyed.” While their donations, hard work and buoyant spirits were appreciated, both Judson and Polich explained at length the way that this work filled their own hearts. “Working with the ministries has given me such a tremendous sense of gratitude. We do this work, and it makes me feel privileged that I’m able to Volunteers page 13

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Left: Serving breakfast to impoverished families in the surrounding community.

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go and help,” said Polich. “It has inspired me to give more to local communities.” “It is so deep… these feelings,” Judson agreed. “It is hard to verbalize how this community has changed me. Having built so many beautiful relationships over the past 13 years, every time I return to the orphanage, it feels like I am coming home to family. It has broadened me to be exposed to a different culture. Helping others is a priority in my life and like Anita, it fills me with gratitude; I’m grateful to be able to help this, and also for what I have.”’ The pair will be returning in August 2019 and welcomed anyone interested in helping to join them. To learn more or make a donation, visit FFHM.org or contact Mary Ann Judson at majinmass123@gmail.com.

Above: Mary Ann Judson with her sponsor child, Rene, 6. Left: Anita Polich volunteering with 2 and 3 year olds in community daycare at the property of the orphanage.

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South Shore – South Shore Conservatory (SSC) states on its website: “Aging creatively through the arts allows us to enjoy and embrace the process. SSC’s adult learning initiative offers a full range of arts experiences – concerts, group classes, private lessons and performance opportunities – designed to challenge adult minds, stimulate creativity and build vibrant social connections.” SSC is a nonprofit organization with campuses in Duxbury, Hanover and Hingham. Among its offerings is Golden Voices for adults at least age 55 with varying singing skills. Some students

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have musical experience while others are venturing into a new achievement on their bucket list. The class is led by Emily Browder Melville, SSC’s voice department chair.

“Singing and other arts allow for playfulness that we need no matter what age,” she said. “Various responsibilities take over as we age. We can easily relegate creative things we used to do to

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a repertoire of songs in three-part harmony including a cappella, jazz swing, gospel and Broadway show tunes. It’s a small ensemble typically consisting of seven to nine singers. “It’s rewarding when the music becomes bigger than the sum of its parts, when we feel really comfortable with a song and get to be joyous,” Browder Melville noted. “They all love that feeling of connection with other people through harmonizing the music. We’ve been together about seven years, and the majority of them have been with us since the beginning. There are real friendships and a strong social factor.” Each semester of Golden Voices concludes with a performance at a local nursing home. Browder Melville believes these performances are both entertaining and beneficial for the residents. “It’s particularly poignant for residents with memory impairment,” she relayed. “You see them come into the present moment. Their memory is stimulated when they hear songs that they know. They’re apt to sing along and get a lot of joy out of it. Singing is fun and feels good. The more you sing, the better you feel.” Another SSC class helps singers who want to focus on a solo repertoire. The class called American Songbook is taught by Dianne Legro. “The American Songbook is a lasting collection of songs,

mainly by men and women who wrote for Broadway and Hollywood from the 1920’s to the 1960’s – some earlier songs qualify,” she explained. “Songwriters like Cole Porter, George and Ira Gershwin, and others crafted pieces that stand the test of time. They knew traditional song forms and used careful lyric writing.” Students are encouraged to choose timeless songs that they’d like to perform. Legro teaches them how to incorporate backstory to uniquely interpret songs for a compelling performance. “They enjoy coming into class with a song that was difficult for them to sing, and then after two or three classes they’re breezing through it,” she said. “It’s a revelation to them that this is possible. When they trust me enough to explore something and it works, it’s a benefit to us both. I’m as happy and moved as

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Social Security warns of caller-ID ‘spoofing’ scheme Region - The Acting Inspector General of Social Security, Gale Stallworth Stone, is warning citizens about an ongoing caller-ID “spoofing” scheme misusing the Social Security Administration’s (SSA) national customer service phone number. SSA has received numerous reports of questionable phone calls displaying SSA’s 1-800 number on a caller-ID screen. The reports indicate the calls display 1-800-772-1213, SSA’s national customer service number, as the incoming number on caller ID. People who have accepted the calls said the caller identifies as an SSA employee. In some cases, the caller states that SSA does not have all of the person’s personal information, such as their Social Security number (SSN), on file. Other callers claim SSA needs additional information so the agency can increase the person’s benefit payment, or that SSA will terminate the person’s benefits if they do not confirm their information. SSA employees do contact citizens by phone for customer-service purposes, and in some situations, an SSA employee may request the citizen confirm personal information over the phone. However, SSA employees will never threaten you for information or promise a Social Security benefit or approval or increase in exchange for information.” For more information call 1-800-269-0271 or online at https://oig. ssa.gov/report.

Report confirms – there are benefits to having seniors in the workplace Region - The oldest segments of the population are also the fastest growing segments of the American labor force, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics. The BLS reports that younger members of the workforce have a stable, lower level of participation but the numbers of older workers – those 65 to 75 and older – are expected to increase steadily through 2024. “It’s a good thing,” said Dan Weber, president of the Association of Mature American Citizens [AMAC], in a press release. “The reason: an older workforce is a more engaged workforce. People are not only living longer these days, they’re living healthier, more active lives. That, combined with the greater freedom at home that comes with reduced family obligations, makes older employees more focused on the satisfaction of a job well done.” Working seniors have a positive effect on the economy, ac-

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Keeping our parents a little longer at home Providing a safe environment By Micha Shalev MHA CDP CDCM

t is a given that most elderly people want to stay in their home and not in a long term care facility. We as the family/ caregivers need to assess the risks and the wishes of our parents. It is our responsibility to ensure their safety while they stay at home.

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Physical safety • Bathrooms - Check the house for fall risks, stairs, and grab bars in the shower/tub. It is very important to secure the bathrooms since most falls happen after the shower. Secure the toilet with grab bars and elevate the toilet seat. Replace all throw rugs in the bathroom and kitchen with new rugs and nonskid mats in the shower/tub. • Kitchen - If our parents suffer from any memory impairment, we need to secure the kitchen. Remove the aluminum

We as the family/caregivers need to assess the risks and the wishes of our parents. It is our responsibility to ensure their safety while they stay at home. foil from the kitchen; they will warm their meal in the microwave with the aluminum foil on, which will cause a fire. Secure all sharp objects. Having a stove timer is great, and if possible, remove oven knobs. • Medical alarm system and communication - There are a lot of systems where the elderly can call for help for any reason. Buy a phone with large digits, that is simple to use, and write the most important telephone numbers next to it on a board, as paper notes have a tendency to disappear. An amplified speaker phone will improve a phone conversation. • Improve lighting, including night lights with motion detectors. • Check smoke and carbon monoxide alarms on a regular basis. • Check all electrical cords which can be a tripping hazard.

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Care Network • It is essential that you form a group of people that will visit and monitor your parent. It can include family members, friends and neighbors. You need to monitor your parent’s physical condition, food intake, liquid intake and medical appointments. Keep a scale in their home, as a lot of information can be learned from their weight changes. When you call them, listen to the tone, words and content. Elderly people who suffer from memory impairment will repeat themselves (even if it sounds correct and in place). Look for the small changes, not just the big ones.

Medication • You need to set up a simple way to remind your parents to take their medication (the right medication and on time) and verify they do take their medications (don’t hesitate to count the pills). Weekly/daily pill boxes are available at any drugstore or department store. Always keep an updated list of their medication on you. Check their house and remove any old, expired medication. You may be surprised to learn you can find 10 year old

medication in their cabinets if you don’t monitor their meds.

Mail • Filter their mail and remove all credit card applications and donation requests. Elderly people are very vulnerable and there are a lot of people who will take advantage of them.

Insurance • It is very important that you consult with your insurance agent regarding how best to protect your parent at home. Housekeepers/caregivers should be insured and bonded; if the caregiver is driving your parents in their car make sure that the caregiver is put on their car insurance and you have a copy of their driving record.

Stimulation • While they are home, try to get them engaged in some outings and activities, such as day cares or senior centers etc. While they are still in their home, take the time and prepare yourself for the next big bridge they will have to cross: moving from their home to a more secure environment (such as a rest home or nursing home). Look at what is available in your community. Visit these facilities and ask a lot of questions. Participate in support groups, as you can learn a lot from other people experiences. Be prepared, so that you may make the best choice for your loved one when the time comes.

Micha Shalev MHA CDP CDCM CADDCT is the co-owner of The Oasis at Dodge Park, Dodge Park Residential Care and The Adult Day Club at Dodge Park located at 101 and 102 Randolph Road in Worcester. He has a master’s degree in health care management and is a graduate of the National Council of Certified Dementia Practitioners program, as well as a well-known speaker covering Alzheimer’s and dementia training topics. He can be reached at 508-853-8180 or by e-mail at m.shalev@dodgepark.com. Archives of articles from previous issues can be read at www.fiftyplusadvocate.com.

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Reverse mortgages: Frozen in place By Alain Valles, CRMP, CSA, MS, MBA Nonprofit Charitable Managing Director

s Managing Director of the self-funded nonprofit charitable mortgage company, Helping Hands CommunityPartners, our mission is to educate people about the pros & cons of reverse mortgages and, when appropriate, we may arrange one. Joe McParland, one of our most experienced licensed senior

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revere mortgage specialists, has witnessed a recurring challenge for older homeowners – becoming frozen in place. Deciding to remain in one’s home or move is both a significant financial and emotional decision. Fortunately, Joe has helped hundreds of people to overcome the decision by indecision syndrome.

Seven steps to avoid being frozen in place 1. Acknowledge current housing situation This is a combination of your financial situation (both current and future projections) and your emotional desires. Conflict occurs when the two are not in alignment. For example, the desire to remain financially independent in one’s home but not having enough cash flow to do so

creates stress. 2. Real conversation on future housing goals Have you weighed the pros & cons of aging in place or moving? And if you were to move, where? Downsize? Rent? Move in with family? Another challenge is when a couple’s housing goals are not the same. 3. Gathering all the information to make an informative decision The key to making any decision is to have the facts. If a reverse mortgage is a potential option, then reading about the program and talking with a trusted advisor is a good start. We’re happy to be that source. 4. Adult conversation with family & closest advisors There are several topics that many families find uncomfortable to discuss. Examples include finances, health challenges,

and wills. Homeownership and housing needs also can be difficult to discuss with adult children or even a spouse. We often help facilitate this type of discussion. 5. Prioritizing your options We all desire to make the perfect decision but that can lead to not being able to make any decision, paralysis by analysis. Once we have analyzed our goals and resources then we must prioritize the available options to determine what the optimal choice is. 6. Make a decision Once you’ve set your goals, gathered the facts, and prioritized your options, you should be comfortable to make a decision. If not, then you should repeat all the above steps, keep asking questions, and talk with more trusted people.

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In Loco Parentis By Marianne Delorey, Ph.D.

’ve been working in elder care for 30 plus years. I write every month about how to prepare for the inevitable. I knew this day would come, and still, I was grossly unprepared. My mother had a major stroke and I needed to step in. I am fortunate. I have two brothers who were able to fly home quickly and be with us at the hospital. I also have a loving partner who met me there and stayed with me until I sent him home. I also have close friends and other family members who were ready to drop everything and do whatever needed to be done (seriously, anything! I even had one friend go pick up the cremains of our pet rabbit). I have to say, giving orders made me feel more in control of the situation; God love my friends and family for putting up with me. I am also fortunate because

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my mother had done her diligence. She had signed a health care proxy, will, and power of attorney. She had even purchased long term care insurance! I had copies of the most important docs already handy. I had also done some thinking ahead. I had just started going to the doctor with her and asking for copies of her diagnoses and med list. I stored this info plus her health care proxy in the cloud where I could access it from my cell phone. And access it I did! About 5 people needed copies of both when we were at the hospital. But that is where preparation stopped and reality hit. My mom’s medical crisis is over. But I learned a few things from this experience that are worth passing on. Here is what I will now advise anyone who is aging or with an aging parent: Put together a list of bank accounts and investments. Put at least one family member on as many accounts as you can. Doing so means that should your family need your money to pay your bills, they do not have to go to court first. Write down the names, phone numbers and account

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7. Implement a plan As your local nonprofit, we strive to educate people about homeownership options. If your decision is to pursue a reverse mortgage, we would enjoy the opportunity to explain in detail the benefits and costs of obtaining a reverse mortgage. Take action today Please give me a call or

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numbers of all the regular bills you pay (the oil company, the person who cuts the grass, credit cards, etc.) Make notes about what is paid online (automatic withdrawals like Medicare insurance or through a bill paying system) and what is still done on paper. If still done on paper, show someone how you file your old bills. Show someone your calendar, where you keep important documents including your checkbook and the password list (yeah, I know we are not supposed to write them down, but we all do). Keep a yearly list of items that need to be done for the house so someone can step right in (when does the oil company service the furnace, when do you change smoke detector batteries, are you having someone come out to fix the roof, etc.) so that plans can be cancelled in your absence or followed up on as appropriate. Walk someone through your monthly paper processing (paying bills, filing). A while back, my mom and I had both sat through a presentation about the 43 folders filing system, which she adopted. As a result, I understood how her system was organized. If I did not, I would not have been able to step in and do simple things like cancel the power washing of the house or send the birthday cards she had already set aside for the next month. Having my mom go through such an ordeal was so hard. Because she was so organized, I could spend more precious time at her bedside and less trying to keep up with bills and chores around the house. I’m grateful to have had that extra time with my mom and truly hope families will take these extra steps because it is inevitable we will need someone to pick up where we leave off Marianne Delorey, Ph.D. is the executive director of Colony Retirement Homes. She can be reached at 508-755-0444 or mdelorey@colonyretirement.com and www.colonyretirementhomes. com. Archives of articles from previous issues can be read at www. fiftyplusadvocate.com.

McGourty earns Certified Family Business designation We s t b o r ough - John J. McGourty Jr., a financial planner with Commonwealth Financial Group, John J. in Boston, McGourty Jr. a general agency of Massachusetts Mutual Life Company (MassMutual), has earned the Certified Family Business Specialist (CFBS) designation. The CFBS designation is solely for MassMutual financial professionals who have completed a rigorous educational program at the American College in Bryn Mawr, Penn. The CFBS designation places McGourty in a select class of financial professionals tailored to the needs of family-owned and closely-held businesses such as: • Financial issues regarding succession, retirement and estate planning • Tax and financial considerations in transitioning a business • Benefit plans to help attract and retain qualified talent in closelyhelp businesses In addition to the CFBS designation, McGourty also holds LUTCF and CLTC designations. He holds a bachelor of arts degree in economics from the College of the Holy Cross. For more information call 508-963-2226 or email jmcgourty@financialguide.com.

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A humble manger. Ours.

our crèche. If the substitute wise man doesn’t quite belong, kitty appears to be from an alternate universe. She’s pure white ceramic with black eyes, and she is 100 percent non-Biblical. But she’s just the right size to be friends with those people in our crèche. Over the years, I’ve seen many beautiful crèches, and, these days, large inflatable nativity scenes for outdoor display. (I can’t quite come to terms with the concept of a balloon Baby Jesus.) I’ve considered buying some lovely nativity set, much classier and more tasteful than my own. But each time, I realize that, if I displayed a sophisticated, artistic crèche, I would want to display our homey old one, too. It belongs here, as no other ever will.

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his is the kind of crèche you buy for the first Christmas of your married life, when you don’t have much money but can’t imagine Christmas without a nativity scene. It includes one mother, one father, one baby, one angel, three wise men, one cow, one donkey, and two lambs. No camels, no shepherds, no heavenly host. This is the kind of crèche you could buy for $3 at a discount store fifty years ago; $3 wasn’t much even then. The tallest figures measure less than four inches high. All are made of thick cardboard covered with a paint-like surface in various shades of beige, with touches of pale pink for human lips, animal nostrils, and a blush on Mary’s cheeks. The people’s faces are sweetly, quietly bland. The back wall of their rough wooden stable holds a pastedon gold paper star and a hole for a naked night-light bulb; an unattached electrical cord for the bulb is included. Stable walls are sticks. This is the kind of crèche that, when you buy it, you say, “I’ll buy a nicer one when we can afford it. Carved wood. Or ceramic. Elegant. Classy. Artistic.” But this is the kind of crèche you can’t bear to part with, no matter how many new ones you could afford. Because this humble crèche – our crèche – holds precious memories. That out-of-place wise man, for example. When our son was 18 months old, he perfected a snatch-and-throw technique. His hand was quicker than my eye. He’d grab something and toss it, all in one motion. In that way, one of our wise men bit the dust – or, rather, shattered into

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dust, which is how I know about the figures’ insides. The replacement wise man doesn’t quite fit. He’s too tall, he’s the only figure on a pedestal, and he’s too colorful, with blue swaths on his cape. Then there’s the angel, Gloria. I know her name because she carries a banner that says, “Gloria.” Through a hole in her back, she hangs from a nail protruding from the front peak of the roof. She does her solitary best to represent a heavenly host. She hovers, gracefully, keeping watch. When I needed to name a character in my children’s novel – an opinionated aunt who seems to boss her niece even from the gave – I called her Aunt Gloria, for the angel who sees all. Then there’s the kitten. A cat is not standard issue for nativities. But years ago, my mother wrote a poem about a cat in the manger. Surely a cat was present on that holy night. Cats seek warm cozy spots, especially where they find friendly people. I added a tiny kitten to

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ditional meze appetizers. Astoria also is dotted by mini-neighborhoods occupied by immigrants from India, Korea, Romania and other far-flung countries. Given the name it’s no surprise that the Jamaica area has strong roots in the Caribbean. Then there are sections known as Little Egypt, Little India, Little Guyana, Little Colombia and Little Manila. Along with its melting pot appeal, Queens boasts a variety of things to see and do. For example, fans of baseball and tennis have a rare opportunity for a behind-the-scenes look at landmarks of those games. Tours of the New York Mets’ stadium include the dugout, playing field and Mets Hall of Fame and Museum. The Billie Jean King National Tennis Center, home of the US Open, provides an even more interactive experience. In addition to tours of its facilities, people may reserve time to play on the 12 indoor and 23 outdoor courts. After several spirited games of tennis, what could be more Travel page 23

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