Compete August 2012 by COMPETE Magazine

Sports. Diversity.

Doug Christie

Hitched for the 18th Time

Nasty Pig’s David Lauterstein

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For the Love of the Game

Getting the Skinny on Nasty Pig

FOUNDERS CEO/Publisher/Sales Eric Carlyle • eric@mediaoutloud.com CIO/Publisher/Website Production David Riach • david@mediaoutloud.com VP/Managing Editor Connie Wardman • connie@mediaoutloud.com COMPETE MAGAZINE Ally Editor Matthew Fish • matt.fish@mediaoutloud.com Community Editor Ty Nolan • ty@mediaoutloud.com Art Director Jay Gelnett • jay@mediaoutloud.com Contributors Harry Andrew, Bryce Carter, Ian Colgate, Jason Galea Ph.D., Jeff Kagan, Miriam Latto, Lisa Mansfield, Chris Mosier, Brian Patrick Photographers Gregg Edelman, Don Thompson, William Waybourn

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FROM THE SKYBOX BY ERIC CARLYLE, Co-Founder

Will you be our Athlete of the Year? One of the things I look forward to each year is naming our Athlete of the Year (AOTY). This year we have moved up the nomination process for our Athlete of the Year so we have the opportunity to unveil the winner at our 2012 Compete Sports Diversity Awards. This year’s winner will grace the cover of Compete’s January issue and reign throughout 2013 as our Athlete of the Year. As such, our next AOTY will be crowned our 2013 Athlete of the Year. Beginning September 15th you will be able to log on to our website: competenetwork.com/aoty to nominate yourself or another amateur athlete for the award. You will also find all the details and prize information there. We would love to hear your personal story or why you have elected to nominate another deserving athlete. And speaking of looking forward to things, it was a long four years waiting for the 2012 Olympics. I was in Victoria, BC during the 2008 games and remember following them on the hotel TV. This year I had prime seating at my favorite sports bar. The Olympics, like the Gay Games and World Outgames, showcase some of the world’s best athletes. We have decided to honor the games with a special digital Olympic issue of Compete. The digital-only issue will debut as the October issue the first week of October. For our subscribers, this is a bonus issue and will not impact the number of print issues you will receive as part of your subscription and it will not change when you receive your print issues. And with that bonus issue, the Compete team will be working overtime to bring you that extra issue. It is a good thing we really love what we do! Sport On,

Eric Carlyle, CEO eric@mediatoutloud.com P.S. On a side note, Compete Radio with Mike D’Antonio and Cathy Tomlin will be going on hiatus in August. Look for the return of Compete Radio this fall.

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Editor Letters Matthew Fish

Ally Editor matt.fish@mediaoutloud.com

Ty Nolan

Community Editor ty@mediaoutloud.com

Baseball Baseball Slowing Down to Savor the Game

hh, summer – that means baseball. I remember my first trip to Wrigley Field – the nostalgia, the ivy, the hot dogs. Often referred to as the great American pastime, I have always thought of it as how Americans pass time, a skill that seems harder to do the more we get wrapped up in our everyday lives. For example, if I record a baseball game, it can be difficult for me to not fast forward through the “slow” parts of the game. I find myself fast forwarding through the commercials, then the batters, then entire top half of innings. Being a Cubs fan, I find myself fast forwarding until I see my guys on the bases or sometimes when the score has changed. I don’t think this is a good way to pass time because I’m missing the larger experience – I’m not having fun. But going to a baseball game is great. I love going to a baseball game. I realize more and more that it isn’t just about watching the game. It is the total experience that enables me to slow down. There is no fast forwarding the game while you are at the ball park, no skipping ahead to get to something else. You are right there, listening to the crowd, eating the hot dogs and peanuts, having a cold brew and maybe the best part of the experience – people watching. You aren’t just watching the game, you actually become a part of the experience, learning to slow down, taking in the ambiance and savoring it all. The busier we get, the harder it is to relax and enjoy something. With the advent of cell phones, smart phones, iPads and other portable communication devices, we now try to pack more and more into our daily lives without taking much time for fun. But baseball is the way many Americans choose to pass their time, relaxing and enjoying the experience as a whole. For me? I recognize I need to spend more time learning how to relax and have fun. My choice for having fun? Play ball!

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A Chance to be an Ambassador

hile baseball is usually called the “All-American” sport, back home on the reservation it was a lot easier to see softball as the “AllNative-American” pastime. Our youngest sister (did I mention she was lesbian?) spent a lot of time traveling to other reservations to win various tournaments. But what struck me the most was when my stepfather passed away. Like many other Native Nations, our traditional mourning ceremonies include the fact that we are not permitted to participate in a number of social activities for a full year. After this, there is a formal ritual where we are released to once again join in our dances, rodeos, and other community events. Right before his death, two of my nephews had been chosen as national “All-Stars” and were scheduled to fly to Austin for this national softball tournament. This led to a discussion by the Elders. It is clear that traditional Native activities, like a powwow, are on the “do not do” list. But what about a plainly “non-Native” activity like softball? Their decision? It was considered a great honor for two of our tribal members to be chosen as national “AllStars.” Also, as our Elders tell us before we leave the reservation, we are to consider ourselves “ambassadors,” because meeting us is often the first time non-Native people will meet “real American Indians.” Being an “All-Star” meant being a role model not only for our youth back home but also for non-Native communities on a national level. A special ceremony was performed for the two, releasing them and allowing them to take part in the tournament without a sense of guilt that they were being disrespectful to their grandfather. One of our teachings is “the wind when it moves in its strongest power, moves in a circle.” Just so for us, this softball tournament became a circle — and like the spreading circles of a stone thrown into a pond, the ripples kept expanding. They moved from our immediate family to our extended family, to our reservation, and then on to a national level. Their grandfather would have been proud.

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Photos of Team New York Aquatics are fabulous! Gary Hopper, Palo Alto I love the pictures of the swimmers! Did they get those six-pack abs from swimming? If so, this desert dweller might have to take up swimming. Jose Martinez, Phoenix Hey Compete – as a jogger, I love the piece on creating your best jogging playlist. I’ve already redone mine. John Cummings, Los Angeles I can’t get over the story on gay jousting [June issue]. Who’da thunk it! Jeff Smith, Palm Springs Scott really IS HOTT - even my straight friends are impressed! [May issue]. John Meyers, Las Vegas

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• Commitment to the LGBT sporting community and/or the LGBT community On September 15, 2012 we will be announcing all of the Award details, including our Selection Committee and our Grand Prize. Winner will be announced publicly at the

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Left Field

From the Compete Blogs It’s baseball season – the great American pastime. In June of 1986, Baseball Digest

published a list of unwritten rules for the game of baseball, considered by some to be one of the best lists ever. This comprehensive list was a collaborative effort, highlighting all the rules a devoted fan should know and a novice fan should memorize.

“The Unwritten Rules of Baseball” by Baseball Digest (1986)

1 Never put the tying or go-ahead run on base. 2 Play for the tie at home, go for the victory on the road. 3 Don’t hit and run with an 0-2 count. 4 Don’t play the infield in early in the game. 5 Never make the first or third out at third. 6 Never steal when you’re two or more runs down. 7 Don’t steal when you’re well ahead. 8 Don’t steal third with two outs. 9 Don’t bunt for a hit when you need a sacrifice. 10 Never throw behind the runner. and right fielders concede everything to center 11 Left fielder. 12 Never give up a home run on an 0-2 count. 13 Never let the score influence the way you manage. 14 Don’t go against the percentages. 15 Take a strike when your club is behind in a ballgame. 10

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hitter must be a base stealer. Designated 16 Leadoff hitter must be a power hitter. give an intentional walk if first base is 17 Never occupied. runners in scoring position and first base open, 18 With walk the number eight hitter to get to the pitcher. rundown situations, always run the runner back 19 Intoward the base from which he came. 20 If you play for one run, that’s all you get. 21 Don’t bunt with a power hitter up. take the bat out of your best hitter’s hands by 22 Don’t sacrificing in front of him. use your bullpen stopper in late-inning 23 Only situations. use your stopper in a tie game—only when 24 Don’t you’re ahead. 25 Hit behind the runner at first base. one of your players gets knocked down by a 26 Ifpitch, retaliate. 27 Hit the ball where it’s pitched. manager should remain detached from his 28 Aplayers. 29 Never mention a no-hitter while it’s in progress. a right-hander on the mound, don’t walk a 30 With right-handed hitter to pitch to a left-handed hitter.

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Gay Guys into Gym Memberships, Vitamins and Booze

ay guys like vitamins, gym memberships and of course, booze. Wow – who knew? Well according to an August 8 article on Gay.net by Daniel Villarreal, he provides a graph showing the Top Ten Products and Services and how gay men compare to the national averages. His article is a quick look at gay men’s preferences as shown in the recently released 2012 Community Marketing Inc. (CMI) LGBT Community Survey that includes information on the entire range of the LGBT community

The complete survey results included responses from 45,000 people, and at 42 pages, it provides wonderful statistics for the LGBT community that are recognized by decision makers as valid for use in assigning marketing/advertising dollars. To view the entire survey, go to http://www.communitymarketinginc.com/documents/ CMI_6th_LGBT_Community_ Survey_USv1.pdf.

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f you’re looking for plain, runof-the-mill men’s clothing, then Nasty Pig isn’t the brand for you. But if you’re looking for a brave, powerful and sexy man and a men’s clothing line that reflects that attitude, then most assuredly you are looking for David Lauterstein, the out co-founder and CEO of Nasty Pig. This is a CEO who loves fun but who is also very serious about integrity, saying that the clothing line he and his partner Fred Kearney began 18 years ago is a reflection of who you are and how you live your life. And it does take a guy who is comfortable with himself to wear Nasty Pig clothing, according to Lauterstein. Calling Kearney the creative genius behind the designs, he says that this line is made for “bad boys who wear their sexuality on their sleeve.” Unafraid to be politically incorrect, he emphasizes that there is “nothing sexy about being an a**hole.” With a background in merchandising, when it came to putting together a business

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plan, he described the company’s product as “fun clothing that gets you laid.” And that, he says, is still the best description of the Nasty Pig line. With a name like Nasty Pig, everyone wonders how they came up with it as well as the first tee-shirt design featuring four pigs piled atop one another. According to Lauterstein, the business was named for their dog, Piggy. But the shirt design was originally an invitation to his birthday celebration that took a left turn. Some people thought it was an invitation to an orgy and didn’t show up. So they decided to repurpose the graphic, using it on their first tee. He and Kearney went from making clothing for their friends to their first showroom in Manhattan, an 8x9 foot closet with a glass door for $500 a month. Eighteen years later and they’re still in Manhattan, just three and a half blocks away from their original location. But now they also have a chain of retail stores as well as an online retail presence.

When asked about any sportsspecific items in the Nasty Pig inventory, Lauterstein replies that their entire line has always been geared to sports – Nasty Pig clothing is meant for guys who live an active lifestyle and work at staying in shape. In a nice nod to Compete and its readers, he sees us at the true edge of society, breaking down barriers and stereotypes through our individual and group courage, power and comfort with our sexuality. Finally, with all the controversy over the various Olympic team uniforms for both the U.S. and Great Britain, I asked him how he would spice up Olympic uniforms a la Nasty Pig. In true Lauterstein fashion (pun only slightly intended), his immediate reply was, “I’d send them all out in jockstraps.” (Cue the drum roll and rim shot, please!)

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Doug Christie & Matt Fish

Ally-to-Ally

By Matt Fish

ecently, I had a chance to speak with my old colleague Doug Christie, former NBA player, Pepperdine University standout and an all-around nice guy. We were both drafted into the NBA in 1992 and Doug was 17th overall pick – very impressive. Although we never played on the same team, our paths would cross occasionally during various basketball seasons so I was always aware of where Doug was playing. But the catalyst for our renewed contact was the annual wedding he and his wife Jackie held at a gay nightclub – Eleven in West Hollywood. Married for 18 years, they renewed their vows for the 17th time this year. In fact, they renew them every year on their July 8th anniversary. When I asked him why, Doug said that “our first wedding was small without much preparation time. And we had such a blast, we said why not have another one next year?” The tradition has taken hold and according to Doug, it’s helped solidify their personal commitment to one another. Jackie has been quoted as saying that “If you’re always planning a wedding, you don’t have time to plan for a divorce.” What makes the couple excited is that through renewing their love for one another via this annual tradition, they get to spotlight the need for the U.S. to recognize gay marriage as a

basic civil right that should be available to everyone. The Christies have always supported the LGBT community and this year’s celebration is in the middle of the controversy over equal rights for gay marriage. “The LGBT community means a lot to us,” according to Jackie. “We think it’s totally unfair that everyone can’t be married to who they want, when they want, however many times they want,” she continued. Now that I, like Doug Christie and a number of other pro athletes, have come out publicly as an ally to the LGBT community, I was wondering what else he’s up to in his post-NBA life. Traded several times throughout his career, Doug made the best of each situation. In 2000, he was a popular starting point guard for the Sacramento Kings where he was named to the NBA All-Defensive Team. To go along with his stingy defense, he has been heralded as one of the best 3-point shooters during his time. But life goes on after every pro athlete’s playing days and Doug’s are taken up with an international training business and the development of a new piece of exercise equipment that Doug says is “kicking my butt.” The company, Ternion 3, addresses mind, body and sport with a company goal of training athletes from any sport to become athletes who are using the latest in science and training techniques to get the best from themselves on every level. In addition to Doug, it includes Tim Manson from Seattle (Doug’s personal trainer) and Sylvester “Sly” Walters from Toronto. Instead of the old idea of throwing guys into

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a game and letting them go at it, everything they do is based on the importance of body movement while increasing skill levels. He likens it to Kobe Bryant’s remark that while everyone else is playing checkers, the Ternion 3-trained athletes will be playing chess. With two grown daughters living in Seattle, he, Jackie and their 11-year-old son are living in the Los Angeles area where Jackie is coming back for season two of “Basketball Wives of L.A.” For those of you addicted to reality television, especially one with a sports twist, Doug let us know that he’ll be making an occasional appearance on the show, as well, calling it a good time and edgy. Since his beautiful wife is an entertainer and actress, he says we’re bound to see and hear more from her. And he’s quite happy to tag along with her since during his playing days, she tagged along with

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him. In addition to all of this, Doug is also homeschooling his son, something that he says has made him a much more patient person. Staying keyed in to his son’s comprehension of every lesson has taught him how to patiently present the same information in different ways through the use of analogies – today he may be using a video game analogy, tomorrow it may be candy – as long as it makes the lesson understandable and memorable he’s ready to add it to his bag of teaching tools. It was wonderful to catch up with Doug. Although we lost touch after the NBA, we’re definitely on the same path. I know we’ll be doing more with him as we continue to move forward in our mission of uniting the gay and straight communities through sports. You can learn more about Doug’s business at www.Ternion3.com.

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Jackie Mitchell shakes the hand of Babe Ruth while Lou Gherig looks on after striking out both of them.

oes the name Jackie Mitchell ring a bell for all you baseball fans? Probably not. At the tender age of 16, in a day when only men played “real” baseball, Jackie played for a women’s team in Chattanooga, Tenn. In fact, she claimed to have mastered the curve ball when she was just six years old with help from her next door neighbor, Hall of Fame pitcher Dazzy Vance. The next year she went to Atlanta to attend a special baseball school and caught the eye of Joe Engel, president and owner of the Chattanooga Lookouts, a Class AA minor league team. He was impressed enough to offer her a contract to play for the entire 1931 season. On March 28, 1931 at the age of 17, Virne Beatrice “Jackie” Mitchell became the first woman to sign a professional baseball contract. During the same timeframe, the New York Yankees were returning to New York following the end of spring training in Fla. and, as they had done in previous years, they stopped in Chattanooga to play the Lookouts. Mitchell wasn’t the starting pitcher for the April 2 game – Engel had really signed her as a publicity stunt – but right from the first inning there was trouble. Yankees’ lead-off batter Earle Combs hit a double that brought up Lyn Lary, and Lary laid a single up the middle that scored Combs from second. Babe Ruth, “Sultan of Swat,” was next at bat but suddenly Manager Niehoff went to the mound, pulled the starting pitcher and waved Mitchell to the mound.

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Although Mitchell’s first pitch went high for a ball, her next three pitches were all strikes. After a third strike was called on the Babe, he protested by throwing his bat on the ground and arguing with the umpire, all of which caused the crowd of 4,000 to go wild. Not only had she struck out Babe Ruth, she also struck out Lou Gehrig, “the Iron Horse,” in back-to-back at bats. Mitchell went on to walk Tony Lazzeri but was then removed from the game. She wasn’t in the game for long but Mitchell did what everyone at the time thought was impossible – she not only struck out two men, she struck out the two top baseball players of the time – Babe Ruth and Lou Gehrig. Sadly, Mitchell’s contract was voided the next day by Kennesaw Mountain Landis, the MLB commissioner, on the grounds that baseball was “too strenuous” for women. Then in 1952 commissioner Ford Frick banned women from joining a major league team. Fortunately, that misguided ruling was reversed in 1992. She never played again for the Lookouts but Mitchell did go on to pitch for the House of David, a baseball team that traveled across the country. Finally at the age of 23, Mitchell returned to Chattanooga where she lived until her death in 1987, always to be remembered as “the girl who struck out Babe Ruth.” Source: ”Jackie Mitchell: The Girl who Struck Out Babe Ruth” by Jean L.S. Patrick www.jeanpatrick.com/jackiemitchell.htm

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s an expert in the field of Sports Psychology, one of my most important services is to help athletes, current or retired, to clearly define what it means not only to be a “winner” but also to “win” the competition in which they’re involved. This works the same whether the competition is at a sports venue or in the business workplace. The first step in helping an athlete develop a “winning” mindset is getting the person to fully understand how he or she defines these terms. Some athletes are very unclear about what motivates them while others are motivated for reasons that are limiting and unfulfilling. Faulty or incomplete reasoning, if not brought to an athlete’s attention early enough, can lead to the demise of a promising career. An athlete’s motivation to win or succeed is his or her source of fuel. The key to developing a positive psychological mindset of winning is based on a person’s internal driving force that acts as a guide to life. The real question each person must answer is this—why do you want to win? If the desire to win is based solely on money or extrinsic material rewards, that desire will steadily dissipate – the cost of working to win is no longer worth the required effort. This is often the case with a selfish teammate or other person fueled only by the desire to make the most money or to grab individual awards and/or accolades. However, a positive, successful mindset focused on winning stems from intrinsic values based on a passion to win and on playing a role in the winning process. True winners love the feeling of winning; they also love helping others to win. True winners enjoy the journey to becoming a winner because they want to become the best in their field of competition. Winners enjoy competition. But the real reason is because they enjoy competing to win. It is important to understand this!

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There are many elite athletes who never reach their stated goals simply because they don’t fully understand the difference between the “desire to compete” and the “desire to win.” Having the desire to compete at an elite level is not the same as having the desire to win at an elite level. This is the difference between the person who wants to be on a team and the person who wants to have the ball with only a minute left in the game in order to help the team win. Winners want to play a role in winning. Simply being part of a team is not enough—it is not satisfying or fulfilling. Finding a happy balance when developing a winner’s mindset is a complicated and evolving state of affairs involving four core elements—mental focus, emotional control, physical will and spiritual belief. Each of these elements provides an essential tool needed to reach a specific destination. Mental focus provides you with a map showing where you are now and where you want to end up. Emotional control acts as a compass to keep you on track and not become distracted by twists and turns throughout the journey. Physical will is the vehicle you use to reach your destination. Spiritual belief is the fuel that propels your vehicle on its focused journey. If any of these core elements are unbalanced or missing, the ability to develop, evolve and sustain the mindset of a healthy winner focused on winning will not be possible. The key to achieving a winner’s mindset is to understand your personal definition of winning and how well or poorly your core elements are balanced. Without that understanding and balance, you can never be a true winner. The good news is that it’s never too late to work on becoming one. Jason Galea, Ph.D works with professional, amateur and Olympic athletes. He can be contacted at dr.galea@me.com

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This Month In Sports History

Willie Stargell (Pirates) ties record of 5 extra base hits in a game (1970)

Donna Caponi Young wins LPGA Boston Five Golf Classic (1981)

Basketball Assoc of America and National Basketball League merge into National Basketball Association (1949)

California Angel Rod Carew gets his 3,000th hit (1985)

Joan Benoit (U.S.) wins 1st Olympic marathon for women (2:24:52) (1984)

2008 Summer Olympics begin in Beijing, China (2008)

Edmonton Oilers trade Wayne Gretzky to Los Angeles Kings for $15-$20 million (1988)

Earliest recorded prize fighting rules formulated (1743)

Carl Lewis duplicates Jesse Owens’ 1936 feat, wins 4 Olympic track gold medals (1984)

Yankees Mickey Mantle and Whitey Ford become 1st teammates elected to MLB Hall of Fame on same day (1974)

Earliest boxing code of rules formulated in England (Jack Broughton) (1743)

Althea Gibson becomes 1st black competitor in national tennis competition (1950)

John Cobb (Britain) drives 365.85 mph (593.48 kph) at Bonneville Flats (1939)

Quarterback Brett Favre resigns with Green Bay Packers for $50M for 7 yrs (1997)

1st major league baseball telecast-Reds beat Brooklyn Dodgers (W2XBS New York) (1939)

94th U.S. Golf Amateur Championship won by Tiger Woods (1994)

New York Yankee Darryl Strawberry hits his 300th home run (1996)

Michael Phelps wins 8 Gold Medals in 2008 Olympics (2008)

Muhammad Ali KOs Brian London in 3 for heavyweight boxing title (1966)

Jackie JoynerKersee ties world record with 24’5” jump (1987)

Patricia Palinkas becomes 1st woman pro football playerOrlando (1970)

Nolan Ryan pitch measured at record 161.6 kph (100.4 mph) (1974)

Pete Rose sets record with his 13,941st plate appearance (1982)

19 Mike Tyson returns to the ring and DQs Peter McNeeley in 38 seconds (1995)

24 Baseball umps stage a 1 day strike (1978)

1st WNBA Championship: Houston Comets beat New York Liberty (1997)

Ken Griffey Sr. & Jr. are 1st father & son to play on same team; each goes 1 for 4 for Seattle Mariners (1990)

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