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Welcome to the Good Life — your local guide to the second half of living. You are the Baby Boomers of the Warm Land. Your kids are gone, or at least are in the process of leaving the nest. Your goals have shifted, or are shifting. Your body doesn’t necessarily work the way it once did. And life has served up a whole new set of challenges and opportunities. These stories are for you.
love over 50
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what’s the deal? hunting for seniors’ discounts
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it’s good to be a nosy neighbour watching out for seniors in our community
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come sail away fulfilling lifelong dreams of yachting
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retirees are discovering that special someone may still be out there
Newly-hitched Adriana and Bolek Palasz at their new home in Duncan. photo: Ashley Degraaf
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by Ashley Degraaf “I really wanted those cherries,” Adriana Palasz says. The 71-year-old Duncan resident recalls how she came to shack up with hubby Bolek Palasz just over a couple years ago. “He was a greeter at the church and he played crib twice a week at the seniors centre. We were always friends and there was a New Year’s dance where we danced a few together,” she explained. A coffee date was thrown in the mix but never came together. When cherries ripened come July, however, Bolek offered Adriana a bag of the tempting fruit. Around that time, Bolek had also broken his leg and Adriana wondered why her buddy wasn’t making his rounds at the Valley Seniors Organization centre for crib matches, or why he hadn’t been by their shared
church, St. Edward’s Catholic Parish. “So I went to his house and his car was there but he wasn’t there and I asked his neighbours where was he,” she explained. Adriana visited Bolek in the hospital and helped him at home with chores while he recuperated. “She took a broom and swept my kitchen floor for me,” Bolek says in his thick Polish accent. “I was dying of loneliness,” the 86-year-old admitted. “Now, I’m just… I’m just happy.” Adriana and Bolek are the ideal example of two folk coming together in their retirement after having lost their former loved ones. Adriana and Bolek, or as his buddies know him, Boris, were previously married and between the two of them from their previous marriages, have 10 children, 25 grandchildren and three great-grandchildren. story continued on page 6 Cowichan News Leader Pictorial November 2011
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Continued from page 4 The couple recently wed, twice actually, Adriana explained, by a Justice of the Peace about two years ago, as well as at a small reception at their church during Thanksgiving weekend. “When we met, it was just great. We were always finishing each other’s sentences. We seem to think so much alike,” Adriana said. “It couldn’t be any better,” Bolek agreed, reaching for his wife’s hands, a smile smeared across his face. What makes Adriana and Bolek’s story even warmer is they both emigrated from Europe to the same street in Duncan. They arrived in the 1950s. Adriana’s family of Dutch descent, and Bolek, of Polish background, both built houses on Beech Avenue in Duncan. She was 11 years old at the time and Bolek was 25. “We were truly split,” Bolek said on how Cowichan’s Polish folk congregated with other Polish immigrants, as did the Dutch.
Adriana married a farmer and moved to a homestead at Providence Farm on Tzouhalem Road. Bolek had been hitched before moving to Duncan in a
of his hobby, which also saw his children’s houses and grandchildren’s rooms furnished with his creations. Bolek’s former wife was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s
brief stay in Saskatchewan. He scored a job with the Youbou Sawmill before building on Beech Avenue where he lived until 2010. A superb woodworker, Bolek retired from the mill when it closed at age 63 and kept busy with wood projects, including lamps, rocking horses, beds, cribs, tables and hope chests. “It was all for charitable donations,” he explained
disease and eventually she was moved into Cairnsmore Place for care. She passed away shortly after she was diagnosed with Parkinson’s. Woodworking was Bolek’s getaway, but his wife’s condition and her eventual demise led to too many distractions, which then ultimately led to a number of machinery accidents. His doctor advised him he
was “at the end of his rope” and it was time for him to “get out” and meet people. “I was just a deck of cards, a (news)paper and shopping and cooking,” he explained of what life looked like before Adriana. But for a man who’d been married for 50 years, courting women was no longer his forte. “I didn’t know how to address the ladies,” he said. So he joined the Valley Seniors Organization, Arbutus Travel Club, Knights of Columbus and became more active at St. Edward’s. Adriana and Bolek’s coming-together is cheered on by folks at the Valley Seniors Centre. “Adriana is a long-time volunteer at the Senior Centre and I got to know her when I first joined as she was working in the kitchen and I worked there occasionally,” VSO secretary Cathy Wilson said. Adriana has been cooking grub at the centre for 15 years and holds a lifetime membership with VSO. “I know they are both very friendly and always seemed
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very open to joining in conversations,” she said. Adriana and Bolek’s relationship developed very easily and organically. “I think that couples who get together at an older age seem to have a more mature outlook and are looking for a more stable and secure last years,” Wilson said. “This doesn’t mean the romance is dead, it just means (they) are very comfortable with each other and life is easier to deal with as they know what to expect in a relationship.” Adriana’s husband passed away at the early age of 62 to lung cancer. When she and Bolek’s companionship became crystal clear, the couple buckled down and decided to start “fresh.” “I knew that woodworking was his passion, but with all the accidents and injuries it was time for him to let it go,” Adriana explained. Bolek put his Beech Avenue homestead up for sale and the two moved into an apartment complex in downtown Duncan. “He’s just such a kind, loving person,” Adriana said of her newfound love. “I call him my ‘huggy bear.’” Editor’s note: There is a sad postscript to our story. Just prior to this article going to press, Bolek unexpectedly passed away. In consultation with Adriana, we decided the best route to take was to publish anyway.
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in your golden years by Don Bodger Valley fitness guru Sheron Chrysler emphasizes fitness is a necessity for good health. “If you do not exercise as you age, your body could break down in a variety of ways: illness; depression; reduced muscle mass; poor flexibility, co-ordination and balance; high blood pressure; clogged arteries; diabetes — the list goes on and on.’’ That’s the bad news, but there’s also good news. Fitness is not a chore, Chrysler adds. People are beginning to realize fitness is a lifelong journey. “Once you start moving (exercise), your body reaps the health benefits,’’ Chrysler points out. “Your true age number is reversed. A 60-year-old might come down to the fitness level of a 40-yearold or even younger. Exercise adds years to your life and extends the pleasure of each day. Moving, active people are doers.’’ There are plenty of examples of senior athletes in the valley proving you’re never too old to move your body. Getting started is sometimes the hardest part. “Your fitness journey should be fun and rewarding,’’ offers Chrysler. “If you haven’t exercised in many years, it’s important to see your doctor prior to starting an exercise routine.’’ The next step is to determine what you’d like to do and whether you prefer indoors or outdoors for exercising. It’s safe and easy to start, according to Chrysler. “Many people start fast only to finish slow or not at all. Set an achievable goal. Commit to three times a week for 20 minutes. I know, the new advice is every day. For the beginner or senior, every day is unrealistic.’’ Days can be added gradually as you achieve fitness, Chrysler points out, because the exercise will be fun — not because you feel you must do it.
Another activity — a.k.a., cross training — can be added slowly. “As we age, balance in exercise is important,’’ notes Chrysler. “An aerobic activity combined with strength and flexibility is required for optimal fitness. Seek help or guidance through a qualified coach or fitness instructor.’’ Chrysler recently coached two ladies in their 50s for the Great Lake Walk, a 56-kilometre trek around Cowichan Lake. “Both ladies started running not too long ago and probably never thought a 56K was possible,’’ she indicates. “I ran out to meet my gals and, as I approached, I noticed the joy on their faces. To me, they looked better than the leader did when he crossed the finish line. Passing youngsters, on they ventured to ring the bell.’’ Chrysler noticed they were full of life and happiness stretched across their faces and oozed from their bodies. A 16-year-old set her pace off them and said she’d like to be like them at their age. “I know they are hooked,’’ Chrysler observed. “Exercise for them is for the rest of their life.’’ In Chrysler’s business, called Laces Up, she coaches people of all abilities in running, walking, core strength, dynamic movements and form work. She offers private and group coaching, with roads, track and trail options. “From zero fitness to achieving personal bests, my goal is your goal,’’ she points out. People have the choice of training with a friend or coming on their own. Many other fitness trainers in the valley offer similar programs. “Training is fun and social,’’ Chrysler stresses. “Meet new running and walking mates and improve your performance. We are all winners when we choose to be the best we can for ourselves.’’
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Do you have a Road Runner in you? If running is one of the fitness options you’re considering, the CeeVacs Road Runners provide a great starting point. Each year, the Road Runners run a running clinic. The next clinic begins Feb. 20, with indoor and outdoor sessions every Monday for 10 consecutive weeks. The clinic is being organized by experienced runners Janine Frank, Sandra Whiting and Sheron Chrysler but caters to all levels. At the end of the clinic, participants will enter the Times Colonist 10K in Victoria. There’s also the possibility of another community event. Besides the actual mechanics of running, the clinic will cover a
variety of topics in a classroom setting from shoes and clothing to injury prevention, nutrition, staying motivated and cross training. The latter topic is actually more important than most people think, according to Chrysler, in order to have variety and move different muscles. “Make it fun because sometimes it gets boring,’’ she advises. Details on the clinic will be posted soon on the CeeVacs website. For those anxious to get going before the clinic, Chrysler is hosting a warm-up at the Cowichan Sportsplex every Monday night starting on Jan. 2. Check www.ceevacs.com for updates.
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DEAL? Over-55 bargain hunters not finding many special deals in Cowichan, but that could change soon
by Krista Siefken The seniors discount — it’s an elusive concept in the Cowichan Valley. It’s a staple at some stores, but it appears few offer promotions targeting the largest segment of the valley’s population. That could change, though. Inquiries at both the Duncan Business Improvement Area Society and the Duncan-Cowichan Chamber of Commerce yielded interest in perhaps forming a marketing strategy aimed at seniors among local business. That’s good news for seniors advocates such as Jacquie Smith. Smith, executive director at Cow-
ichan’s Seniors Resource and Support Society, said discounts for seniors could benefit both seniors and merchants. “There are some for 60 year olds, and certainly 65 years olds, but what merchants should really know is that there’s a forgotten group between 55 and 65,” Smith said. The Baby Boomer generation typically has cash to burn. But as Smith pointed out, there’s also a large segment of the 55-plus population that could use the help a discount offered.
Peter Yelland loads up on groceries. Seniors advocates are suggesting more seniors discounts are needed in Cowichan. photo: Andrew Leong
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“This is the group of people working in labour and service industries that are not able to work as much because they’re already showing the signs of aging — it’s not like you turn 65 and a bell goes off, and everything falls apart,” she said. “And we find there are very limited services out there for those people who haven’t had the benefit of a great education, or raised with good food, medical and dental. They’re kind of in the middle — not old enough to get benefits, but not young enough to work like they used to.” Smith sees plenty of people just like that at her office, “There’s just no society safety net that they are able to tap into, and people are very unsympathetic to people between 55 and 65, and are completely unaware,” she said. “These are the people serving your doughnuts, or working in retail. These are people without pensions, without a safety net, and they are tired by the time they hit 55. They’re no longer able to work in the labour-intensive industries that serve us all.” And businesses should take note, because those that do offer discounts for seniors see an increase in sales. Cory Stinka, store manager at the Shoppers Drug Mart in Duncan, says the increased older-folk traffic on senior-discount days is obvious.
“It’s 20 per cent off regular-priced items, and falls on the last Thursday of the month for anyone over 55 years old,” he said. “And sometimes we have bonus days as well.” These are the kinds of discounts Smith likes to see — discounts on essential items seniors really need. “When people have low incomes they are not able to access better health care or dental services, and they’re really stuck,” she said. But purchasing items is just half the battle — seniors have to get to shops, first. That’s why Carol Hunt, executive director at Cowichan Seniors Community Foundation, says her organization is considering a co-ordinated effort with Duncan and North Cowichan’s business core in creating a seniors’ friendly merchant sticker. Stores that offer things such as easy access between aisles, chairs for seniors who need to take a break, and designate days for discounts or offer seniors coupons would be able to boast the sticker on their storefront, signalling a good place for seniors to shop. “It’s something we’re contemplating as a co-operative effort,” Hunt said. “Perhaps we could even run a shuttle bus on certain days.”
here’s the deal Seniors discounts are offered on public service operations such as bus travel, on BC Ferries, and more. Visit http://www.seniorsbc.ca/benefits/index.html for more details. There are also a variety of stores and shops, banks and other organizations that offer seniors discounts. Ask in-store for details.
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the tragedy of an elderly Cobble Hill couple found in cat-infested squalor is an extreme example of how neighbours can look out for isolated seniors Jacquie Smith, (left), executive director of Cowichan’s Seniors Resource and Support Society, and Jeanne Ross, co-author of the seniors safety manual and calendar. photo: Peter W. Rusland
It’s good to be a nosy neighbour by Peter W. Rusland Perhaps Cowichan’s most tragic seniors-related story of the year happened in April. That’s when officials discovered an elderly Cobble Hill couple living in appalling squalor with more than 50 cats, not all of them alive. A man found lying on the floor amidst an overpowering stench of urine, feces and ammonia later died in hospital. In the wake of that tragedy, officials 14 Cowichan Good Life Magazine
said the best way to avoid a repeat is to have neighbours watching out for each other. They admit our system hasn’t the manpower to check on all seniors. That’s where friends and family come in, explained Jacquie Smith of the valley’s Seniors Resource & Support Society. “Please be actively engaged with your neighbors,” she urged after the Vanland Road incident that saw John Belcher die and his wife, Doris Joan,
hospitalized. Doris called 911 for help after her spouse lay on the floor for three days in their Cobble Hill home, police said. Smith realized some folks are reluctant to nose into their neighbours’ affairs for safety sake, fearing seniors with self-care issues could be locked up. “We’re not looking to put everyone into care,” she said, noting the society is writing a Seniors’ Safety Manual expected out this fall. “We are our brothers’ keepers and it’s better to make a Cowichan News Leader Pictorial November 2011
discreet enquiry.” In short, amid a rising seniors population, it’s better to report observations to medical agents, SPCA and police about health risks and odd behavior — including a neighbour owning 50 pets. “This couple’s heart just went out for those cats and they took them in,” Smith said. “But calling someone (about the couple) would have been helpful in this case.” Public education about seniors’ needs, free transit for them and more might prevent the elderly slipping through society’s cracks, she hinted. But aware seniors must also realize they need help, then seek it. “Help is there for those who ask for it, but some may not know to ask for it.” Anya Nimmon of the Vancouver Island Health Authority agreed communication is key to handcuffing risks. “If people aren’t in the health system, how would anyone know about
“VIHA’s role with elderly individuals would be to have contact with them if they were in the system for medical or home care. “If they wanted and required assistance there would be staff routinely involved with them and possibly visiting the home.” If elderly folks live alone, and are not receiving routine services, or do not want to receive them, they would not be known to VIHA staff, Nimmon explained. “It might be good advice to remind people if they have elderly neighbours, and they’re concerned someone might need assistance, they might try to intervene and could contact us.” Right, said Smith. “Call somebody.” The Seniors Resource Society is at 250-748-2133. VIHA’s number 250-740-6980. Cowichan District Hospital is at 250737-2030, or dial 911.
It might be good advice to remind people if they have elderly neighbours, and they’re concerned someone might need assistance, they might try to intervene and could contact us. them?” VIHA brass was concerned about what Nimmon called “a sad situation where an elderly couple appears to be have been living alone and possibly in some distress.” Doris Belcher was placed in VIHA’s care, and an Ontario relative was expected to be involved in placing Doris in a long-term care facility, Nimmon noted.
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The Cowichan Bay regatta is one of the valley’s annual opportunities for yachtsman to play with their toys. photo: Don Bodger
Now in semi-retirement, the affable yachtsman listed a slew of reasons for pursuing his pastime. “The peace and quiet, the challenges and the camaraderie,” he said. “You can take your choice: company and socializing, or absolute isolation: nobody here questions it either way” James escapes on his 40-foot powerboat Silver Fox that’s decked with all the comforts of home. “But the length of boat doesn’t matter,” said James. “You’ll always have the same things to talk about with (yacht) people: the challenges of the weather, tides and getting where you want to go.” Dave Ogilvy went racing Formula Atlantic cars before being bitten by the boating bug. He scratches that itch aboard his 42-foot power boat Ocean Patio. “It replaced auto racing because that became too expensive,” said Ogilvy, 70. He started weighing anchor after moving to the bay from Vancouver, and finding seafaring an invigorating release. “When I’m healthy, and my wife’s healthy, we go away for two or three months every summer,” he said of his watery Cowichan News Leader Pictorial November 2011
wanderlust. “Maple Bay’s the place to go boating from — the waters here are never dangerously rough, and you can head south to the states, or north along the coast. “This is my hobby, though sometimes it’s a mechanical challenge.” Challenges of age, and medical issues, moved Milton Tite to sell his 30-foot sailboat Star’s Way–his fifth vessel amid 32 years of salt-stained adventure. “When I retired, I rebuild the boat I just sold to someone in Washington State,” the former ICBC employee said. Though Tite owned powerboats, “Sailing was more interesting, and it kept the mind working more,” he said. “Power boating can be boring at times.” Tite began sailing at age 17 on the Lower Mainland, eventually racing in Kelowna and Sidney. But now he’d pick comfort over speed if he ever bought another boat. “If I had the money, my boat wouldn’t be less than 48-feet,” Tite stated, subscribing to the go-big–or-go-home adage — for a happy marriage. story continued on page 18 Cowichan Good Life Magazine 17
Continued from page 17 “If you want to hang onto to your wife, you keep the comforts.” Still, one needn’t go far from Cowichan to find adventure on the foam, James noted. “Our best show of killer whales was off Crofton.” He advised shy sailors
to “just do it” and take the boating plunge. James also stressed Bob James, Maple yachting’s a personal— Bay Yacht Club’s and often a family — commodore, aboard commitment involving his 40-foot power money, time, lessons boat Silver Fox. and more. “But the minute you photo: Peter W. Rusland get onto the boat, it’s just great — at every level.”
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The title Royal Maple Bay Yacht Club has a nice ring to Bob James. “But we’re not ‘royal’ yet,” the MBYC’s commodore said. “We don’t have the royal prerogative right now.” Yet the valley’s landmark yacht club could anchor the honour in the near future as directors correspond with Windsor Castle through Canada’s Gov. Gen. David Johnston. A royal nod — pending a decision by MBYC members to rename the club — could happen during an expected MBYC visit by Prince Andrew, perhaps when he’s next on the coast, James explained. His Royal Highness is the royal patron of MBYC. “It’s a sign of respectability,” James said of the potential royal title.
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Most women won’t deny they felt deflated after flipping through a trendy magazine while waiting for their highlights to set. These same women likely wouldn’t deny the misery of wishing for celebrity bodies, skin, hair and teeth, hasn’t inspired a lifestyle change, even if it only lasted a week. These jolts of inspiration don’t grind to a halt at any magic level of maturity either. Gals in their fifties want to mirror 66-yearold celebrity knockout Helen Mirren when they reach senior status.
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Continued from page 21 And that is why off-the-shelf beauty products, as well as treatments like Botox, and natural alternatives are the latest trendy items on women’s shopping lists. According to an article published Oct. 31 in the Wall Street Journal, “cosmetic procedures among patients age 65 and older, both surgical and non-surgical, rose 29 per cent from 2005 to 2010, to more than 680,000, according to the American Society for Aesthetic Plastic Surgery. “During that same period,” the article states, “cosmetic procedures among the overall population fell 17 per cent.” There are several outlets for women wanting to wreak vengeance on their wrinkles in Cowichan. Duncan’s Viva Medical Aesthetics offers a platter of beauty treatments including facial peels, hair removal and Botox. They also market the saying, ‘How old you are, is your business, how old you look is ours.’ Cowichan also just welcomed plastic surgeon Dr. Alexander Anzarut, who’s set up shop at Duncan’s Beverly Medical Clinic. Dr. Anzarut, a certified plastic surgeon and a member of the Canadian Society of Plastic Surgery, dives into both clients’ cosmetic and reconstructive surgery woes. Duncan’s Natural Harmony Chinese Medicine Clinic’s Kim Cooper offers acupuncture as well as natural facial masks to combat crow’s feet and other age-related qualms. Cooper’s been practising “one of the oldest, most effective
and advanced medical treatments,” acupuncture, for more than eight years. She combines needling with facial masks in what she calls a ‘facial restoration’ treatment. She also reviews client’s bodies as a whole, connecting the dots with other ailments besides age-related issues. “A lot of times, it’s an internal condition, so it’s an internal treatment but there’s also an external component, and that’s why I use the masks and other products,” she said. As part of her practice, which has become a popular avenue for women over their ‘50s, Cooper uses tiny needles under the wrinkle to lightly stimulate the area and send a signal to the body to repair. Cooper says clients come to see her at any age but are usually anywhere from 35 years old and up. “People look more relaxed when they leave, and they literally look younger,” she said. And sessions also hone in on client’s entire physical and emotional packaging. Factors, including high stress, lack of sleep, smoking, tanning, etc. all play a part in our appearances, Cooper said. “People generally feel better after a treatment,” she said “There is a pretty dramatic change, depending on the overall issue.” This is where the positive lifestyle bundle usually kicks in. “Nutrition is talked about too,” Cooper added on what sessions cover. story continued on page 24
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Continued from page 23 Rejuvenation kicks are currently a hot item for Cooper’s clients. “They’ve watched it on television and there’s a lot of popularity generated from the big cities,” she said. “A lot of people don’t know it’s right in their back yard, right here.” Cooper, who practises from her home and from the Matraea Centre in Duncan, sympathizes with women who think wrinkles, jowls, crow’s feet, are all beautiful and natural effects of aging and should be left untouched. On the other hand, if clients are feeling out-of-balance, a treatment with noticeable physical changes often leads to a domino effect to their overall health, she said. “They’ll pinpoint areas, creases around their lips, or their jowls for example. Most people are coming in for a specific area, and that’s fine. “You enhance your outer beauty and you enhance your inner beauty.” According to the Wall Street Journal article entitled “Plastic Surgery Is on the Rise Among Older Americans,” older patients are choosing procedures that are less invasive and expensive than face-lifts or other surgery. “In 2010, non-surgical techniques, led by injections of Bo-
tox and other wrinkle-smoothing substances, accounted for 88 per cent of the cosmetic procedures performed on patients age 65 and older, according to the American Society for Aesthetic Plastic Surgery.” Valley life coach and recreation therapist Valerie Childs has had clients humming and hawing over cosmetic treatments. “Botox has really helped with cross-eyes and uncontrollable blinking but is now more known for moderate to severe frown lines between eyebrows,” Childs said. “It’s being studied to help excessive sweating, spasticity after a stroke, back spasms, and headaches. “So I guess the question is, is Botox a problem or is it the newest cure to medical concerns and now become familiar enough that cosmetic concerns are commonplace? Child’s clients have talked to her about approaching cosmetic services before making internal changes. “I’m more focused on what the client feels about her or himself and what they hope to gain by having surgical procedures,” she said. “As for my opinion, I would encourage a senior, or anyone, to first explore other avenues of selfempowerment first.
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Continued from page 24 “If they continue to have self-image concerns that prevent them from leading an active quality of life, it could be a viable option. Ultimately, it’s a personal choice.” Childs advises women to be aware of medical concerns and to “weigh the decision carefully.” Women pursuing taking the plunge should also check in with their docs as
well as a specialist about their appearance goals, and specific health conditions. “Whatever the motivation, physicians say older patients should approach cosmetic surgery with greater-thannormal caution,” the Wall Street Journal article indicates. “Rates of healing, reactions to anesthesia, the potential for complications — all can be different, and perhaps more problematic, for those age 60-plus.”
Tips from Duncan’s Dr. Anzarut Duncan’s new certified plastic surgeon Dr. Anzarut says more women in their 50s are wanting their appearance to reflect their health lifestyles. Most common cosmetic surgeries for women over 50 Cosmetic: Blepharoplasty (upper eyelid surgery); Mastopexy (breast lift); Abdominoplasty (tummy tuck). Reconstructive: Carpal tunnel release and reconstruction for arthritis of the wrist and the thumb.
“Is it short-term gain for long-term pain or vice versa? We all are getting older and it can be a choice to be proud of our ‘love’ lines and model this in our community,” Childs said. “We have all laughed and cried and that can be perceived as a beautiful right of passage. How you choose to experience aging can be a time of enlightening, self-discovery and the peace that comes with awareness.”
Before women go under, they should consider the following: 1. Clear expectations will allow your surgeon to let you know whether these can be achieved. 2. It’s important to familiarize yourself with side effects and risks of surgery. 3. Once you’ve collected relevant information, weigh potential benefits against potential risks. 4. Find out if your plastic surgeon is a member of the Canadian Society of Plastic Surgery. Identify a surgeon in your community as having a local surgeon who can provide close post-operative follow-up is important in achieving a successful outcome.
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Retirement just means the opportunity to find fulfilling ways to fill all your new-found free time by Peter W. Rusland Freedom 55 has taken a dive. Duncan lawyer Mike Coleman and Arbutus Ridge sculptor Des Pratt might typify a national trend showing many retirees choosing to work. “What else would I want to do other than what I thoroughly enjoy — and get paid for it?” asked former Duncan mayor Coleman who’s still practising law at age 68 — outside of volunteer pursuits. Even Freedom 85 doesn’t appeal to Pratt. The octogenarian retired in 1983 as an IBM executive. Now he’s an Arbutus Ridge artist and valley volunteer. “I get a little sick of hearing people say they’re retired and bored — there’s no real reason for it,” he said. Clients of local financial planner Mike Watkins are proof of Pratt’s theory. “I have no clients fully retired at 55 — they’re in a new career or still working,” said Watkins. Cowichan News Leader Pictorial November 2011
Federal statistics show family finances and personal choices keep Canucks — including Cowichanians — working longer, despite reaching the retirement age, or becoming a junior senior at 55. “The employment rate among workers age 55 and older hit a record 34 per cent last year from a low of 22 per cent in 1996,” the Globe & Mail reported last month. “Last year’s rate was even higher than in 1976, when it was 30.2 per cent.” Leaving marketing at IBM at 56 opened new options for Pratt. “I wanted to work with small companies, and investors just starting small firms in Toronto.” After stints with a lighting company and other firms, Pratt and his family became islanders. “At age 72 I took up carving,” he said from his home–studio, where stone becomes sculpture from the Arbutus Ridge Art Club member. story continued on page 28 Cowichan Good Life Magazine 27
Continued from page 27 Pratt volunteers with Cowichan United Way, and heads the business-boosting Probus Club. He’s also mulling working with his son in a farm products venture. “Life’s just so interesting and exciting,” he said, thrilled with his 65-year marriage to Marjorie. “Retirement should be nothing but excitement instead of boredom,” the greenthumb said of activity-packed Cowichan. “This area’s the best in the country, and has everything going for it, including climate.” Lawman Coleman agreed. “I love this community and the work I do. “One reason (son) Jamie is a lawyer is he always said his dad goes to work happy and cheerful, and talks about interesting issues — and said he’d do it for noting if he could.” Law’s a lifestyle to Coleman who shrugged off notions of retirement. “It’s never been work for me. I’m looking to phase out in the future but not now — this keeps my brain active, and I like helping people.” The poet and traveller helps the Cowichan Food Basket board, Social Planning Cowichan, the E.J. Hughes Legacy and Cowichan foundations, and the Wheelchair Rugby benefit tourney. Blending business with pleasures of retirement age is a
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trend familiar to wealth advisor Watkins, a former chamber of commerce president. He said our elders are working longer for two basic reasons. “Some are mostly unprepared for retirement — they haven’t saved enough and aren’t prepared for the length of retirement. “If you retire at 55 or 65 you’re looking at 30 years of life expectancy. “You can get bored and have to find something else to do.” Pratt carves, Coleman still works; both volunteer. “Some fill time with volunteerism and recreation but, more and more, people see it as an opportunity to throw off the shackles of working life and do something they’ve really wanted to do, like start a business.” Others become consultants or open cafés or shops. “Something for the pure joy of it,” said Watkins. One joy is finally getting the federal pensions at 65. “Old Age Pension has claw backs at around $66,000 (annual income), but it’s not fully clawed back until you’re after six figures,” he said. Consumerism among active seniors, compared to two decades ago, also spells working longer. Watkins advised a personal income to fall back on, regardless of retirement pastimes. Still, Freedom 55 is now mostly jive. “Nobody just lies on the beach drinking margaritas anymore.”
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let’s talk about sex, seniors by Krista Siefken Let’s talk about sex, seniors. Don’t pretend you’re not having it. Studies show 75 per cent of men and 64 per cent of women between the ages of 65 and 69 are sexually active. “I think one of the big misconceptions is that seniors are not sexually active, or that when you become a certain age you become asexual,” says Jennifer Gibson, co-ordinator of community education services at Island Sexual Health. “We often think that it’s young people who are in their sexual prime, but often seniors enjoy quite an active sex life.” Stereotypes abound when it comes to society’s view of seniors’ roles. “People are often less comfortable with things like pleasure and expression and intimacy in older people, for a lot of different reasons — in our culture anyway,” Gibson said. “I think we have ideas of what sexy is, and what it looks like, and seniors are often left out of that.” story continued on page 32
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sex doesn’t stop at 60 and neither should the need to take precautions
Studies show many seniors are still coming to the party in terms of sex, but the question remains how many are putting on their party hats? photo: Krista Siefken
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Continued from page 30 But without children to raise or jobs to work, seniors have a lot more free time on their hands. Gibson noted a 2007 study that found 73 per cent of seniors between 57 and 64 were sexually active. It also found 53 per cent of seniors between 65 and 74, and 26 per cent of seniors between 75 and 85, were sexually active. So it’s clear seniors are coming to the party — but are they putting on their party hat, so to speak? “I think there are a number of barriers that prevent seniors from practicing really good sexual health, and lack of knowledge is a big one,” says Gibson. But seniors are just as likely to contract HIV/AIDS and other sexually transmitted infections. “Fifteen per cent of new HIV diagnoses and AIDS cases are in people 50 and older,” says Jacquie Smith, executive director at Cowichan’s Seniors Resource and Support Society. That’s particularly concerning in a seniorfriendly community like Cowichan, where people 50-plus number in the neighbourhood of 38,000 — more than 40 per cent of the population. “Nobody wants to talk about this, but it’s big,” Smith said.
“This is not a sex thing. It’s a public health announcement. “Seniors grew up in a time when HIV/AIDS was simply unheard of, and they’re less likely to practise safer sex.” “There’s a huge shift happening,” Gibson added. “People are living longer and more healthily, and so they’re more active.” But for those who grew up during a time when people didn’t talk openly about sex, striking up a candid conversation about sex and condoms and AIDS isn’t particularly comfortable, or easy. Even with family doctors. “Often a barrier for seniors is they don’t have the language to talk about sexual health,” Gibson added. “It goes unspoken, and it’s that lack of knowledge that creates opportunities for things like sexually transmitted infections to spread.” Awareness needs to spread, instead, and not just among seniors — doctors, care providers and families should all understand what sexual health looks like at different ages. “We need to talk about it, and create an awareness around it so we develop
comfort around the idea that seniors can be sexual — and many of them are — and we really should be celebrating that,” Gibson said. “When we talk about it in a positive light it opens opportunities for people to find out information. Sexually transmitted infection education has often taken a fear-factor approach. It doesn’t work. It really needs to be a conversation about sexual wellness, and how the prevention of STIs connects to that.” Smith said it’s important seniors are proactive about sexual health, as some doctors simply assume older folks aren’t sexually active. “This is not an emerging issue — it’s already here, and it’s not going to get better unless we address it,” Smith added. “I’m very cautious about making sure information is delivered in a palatable way, because we’re not here to shock anybody. But this is a public health issue — and how would you tell your grandchild you have AIDS? “You have a right to have fun, feel good — and be safe.”
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The seniors-and-AIDS awareness campaign has a long way to go — 77 per cent of older Canadians believe they have no chance of getting HIV. Meanwhile, the percentage of AIDS cases in people over 50 is growing. To learn more about practising safer sex, or HIV/AIDS and other sexually transmitted infections, contact: Cowichan’s Seniors Resource and Support Society, 250-748-2133 AIDS Vancouver Island, 1-800-665-2437 Island Sexual Health Society, 250-592-3479 Cowichan News Leader Pictorial November 2011
Cowichan Seniors Resource Directory The Cowichan News Leader Pictorial would like to thank and acknowledge the efforts of the Cowichan Seniors Community Foundation and its volunteers for compiling this resource directory. It has been edited for space limitations by the Cowichan News Leader Pictorial and in no way is meant to be considered comprehensive. Content inquiries should be sent to: publisher@cowichannewsleader.com A more comprehensive directory is available at: www.cowichanseniors.ca
Aboriginal Health
Compassionate Care
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Compassionate Connections Lorraine Demers Phone: 250-748-1317
Adult Day Programs
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Chemainus Health Care Centre Adult Day Program Phone: 250-246-3291
Vancouver Island Crisis Line 1–888–494–3888 Emotional support and access to Island-wide community resources. The crisis line operates 24/7/365.
Providence Farm Gloria Bond, SAGC Program Coordinator 1843 Tzouhalem Rd., Duncan Phone: 250-746-9668 Waldon House Day Program 1843 Tzouhalem Rd., Duncan Phone: 250-737-2037
Community Policing Cowichan Community Policing Advisory Society Suzanne Jensen, President, 2009/10 6060 Canada Ave., Duncan Phone: c/o 250-701-9146 Duncan Community Policing Office Carol-Ann Rolls, Volunteer Prog. & Services 3-149 Canada Ave. Duncan Phone: 250-701-9145 Chemainus Community Policing Office 9847 Willow St. Chemainus, BC Phone: 250-246-4382 Cowichan Bay Community Policing Office 1721 E Cowichan Bay Rd., Cowichan Bay Phone: 250-701-1961
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Grandparents Support Parent Support Services Society of BC Sandi Halvorsen, Program Coordinator Phone: 1-877-345-9777
Home Adaptations & Repairs The Barwicks Keith and Katherine Barwick Phone: 250–743–3363 Ease-Ability Renovations & Construction Ltd. Dan Nugent Phone: 250-743-1955
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Home Support – Private About Time Homecare & Nursing Services Jennifer Lally, Manager 3297 Renita Ridge Rd. Duncan, BC Phone: 250-748-0513 Harmony Health Care Ltd. John McAlorum, RN, Dir. of Operations Unit 2A–2753 Charlotte Rd. Duncan, Phone: 250-701-9990 In Good Hands Home Care Sharon Klewchuk, Walt Deelman Phone; 250-701-3936 Northgate Support Services Laila Pera, Owner, CSA Phone: 250-743-8288 Nurse Next Door Home Healthcare Chris Wilkinson, Director Phone: 250-748-4357 We Care Home Health Services 205-149 Ingram St. Duncan, BC Phone: 250-746-9224
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Housing – Private Acacia Ty Mawr Joan Taylor 2655 Shawnigan Lake Rd. Phone: 250-743-2124 ext 106 Alpenrose Laura & Bill Loftus 2267 Lochsyde Drive, Duncan Phone: 250-748-3803 Deertrail Cottage Inc. Laurie Gillis, Owner/Manager 1711 Escarpment Way Duncan Phone: 250-746-9641 Dovehill House Marguerite Moskalyk 3292 Ash Rd Chemainus Phone: 250-416-0332 Golden Acres Care Donna van der vlugt, Owner/ Operator Phone: 250-749-4367 Heritage Manor Care Home Tanya Mosure, Owner 1051 College St. Duncan, Phone: 250-748-3488 Lynn’s Senior Care Lynn Scott, RCA 5085 Jones Rd. Ladysmith Phone: 250-245-3391 Nana’s Guest House Sandy Baker, Owner 57 Park Rd., Lake Cowichan BC V0R 2G0 Phone: 250–749–3326 Pioneer House Bed & Breakfast Alberta Schneider, Owner 6470 Burnett Place, Duncan BC V9L 5R7 Phone: 250–746–8280 Sherwood House Audrey Norman, Manager 280 Government St. Duncan Phone: 250-710-8882 Cowichan Good Life Magazine 33
Cowichan Seniors Resource Directory Housing – Private Wedgwood House Linda Fonck, Manager 256 Government St. Duncan Phone: 250-746-9808 Villa del Sol Carol Reid, RN 647 Frayne Rd. Mill Bay Phone: 250-743-7061
International Health Care International Health Care Providers T. Rand Collins, PhD, MD Phone: 250-732-6603
Meals and Nutrition Gloria’s Food Service Gloria Ramsey Phone: 250-748-9216 Meals on Wheels c/o Cowichan Home Support 20-127 Ingram St. Duncan Phone: 250-737-2004
Cowichan Intercultural Society Deborah Connor, Executive Director 205-394 Duncan St. Duncan Phone: 250-748-3112 Cowichan Valley Hospice Society Shelley Kuecks, Client Intake Coordinator 3122 Gibbins Rd. Duncan Phone: 250-701-4242 Senior Resource and Support Society Jacquie Smith-Executive Director 1 Kenneth Place Duncan Phone: 250-748-2133 St. John Ambulance Lori McNeil, Branch Manager 205-169 Craig St. Duncan Phone: 250-746-4058 Volunteer Cowichan 1 Kenneth Place Duncan Phone: 250-748-2133
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Chemainus Seniors Drop In Centre Society Frank Gibbins, President 9824 Willow Street, Chemainus Phone: 250-246-2111
Duncan Mental Health and Seniors Cindy Patrick 3088 Gibbins Rd. Duncan Phone: 250-709-3040
Crofton Seniors Society Pat McMicken, President 1507 Joan Street, Crofton Phone: 250-246-2455
Moving & Downsizing Every Detail Jane Sheppard 2093 Calais Rd. Duncan Phone: 250-748-3626 Duncan Moving & Storage Joyce Bennett 2-2913 Allenby Rd, Duncan 250-746-5103 Moving Made Easy Donna Walker Phone: 250-701-1886
Non Profit Societies – Senior Services Cowichan Family Caregivers Support Society Ranjana Basu, Coordinator Shawnigan Lake Phone: 250-743-7621 34 Cowichan Good Life Magazine
Elder College Jennifer Carmichael, Recreation Programmer 2687 James Street, Duncan Phone: 250-746-0414 or 250-748-7529 to register Ladysmith Seniors Centre Society Cora Maier, President Phone: 250-245-8885 Lake Cowichan Seniors Centre Greg McCallum, President 55 Coronation Street, Lake Cowichan Phone: 250-749-6121 South End Seniors Stuart Calder, President Kerry Park Rec. Centre 1035 Shawnigan-Mill Bay Rd.
Valley Seniors Organization of Duncan George Capella, President 198 Government Street, Duncan Phone: 250-746-4433
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Kinettes Club of Duncan Kelly Waywitka, Deputy Governor 5823 Brier Ave. Duncan Phone: 250-748-7208
Service BC Programs Byron Johnston 5785 Duncan St. Duncan, BC Phone: 250-746-1226 Service Canada Centre Linda Granger 211 Jubilee St. Duncan Phone: 1-800-622-6232
Service Clubs Arbutus Travel Club c/o Corry Salmen Phone: 250-701-0965 Chemainus Masonic Lodge #114 Pat Fyffe, Secretary 3052 Hawthorne St., Chemainus Phone: 250-246-3579 Cowichan Toastmaster’s Club #950 Zoe Nash, Public Relations Phone: 250-732-3915 Duncan Kiwanis Club Ron Colter 355 Day Rd., Duncan Phone: 748-4135 Duncan Lion’s Club P.O. Box 52, Duncan, BC V9L 3X1 Duncan Masonic Lodge #33 Bob Crawford, Secretary 5700 Menzies Rd., Duncan Phone: 250-748-1028 Elks Club of Duncan Sylvia Lucas, Bar Manager Albert Scholtens, Exalted Ruler Phone: 250-746-6812 Fraternal Order of Eagles, Chemainus-Crofton #4400 Merv Brown / Bill Yearly, Sec P.O. Box 45, Chemainus, BC V0R 1K0 Phone: 250-246-3401
Kinsmen Club of Duncan Jason Czettisch, Past President 5990 Indian Rd., Duncan Phone: 250-746-1940 Ladysmith Kinsmen Club Duck Patterson, Life Member P.O. Box 324, Ladysmith, BC V9G 1A3 Phone: 250-245-2263 Ladysmith Masonic Lodge #21 Joel Chiri, Secretary P.O. Box 261, Ladysmith, BC V9G 1A2 Phone: 250-245-4797 Lion’s Club of Duncan Housing Society P.O. Box 52, Duncan, BC V9L 3X1 Phone: 250-748-1044 Lion’s Club of Ladysmith Jim Masyk, Secretary P.O. Box 2293, Ladysmith, BC V9G 1B8 Phone: 250-245-4049 Mill Bay Masonic Lodge #107 Stuart Calder, Treasurer 2231 Benko Rd., Mill Bay Phone: 250-743-5339 Rotary Club, Chemainus Mike Beggs, President P.O. Box 297, Chemainus, BC V0R 1K0 Phone: 250-245-4549 Rotary Club, Duncan Roger Hart, Secretary P.O. Box 473, Duncan, BC V9L 3X8 Phone: 250-715-3039 Rotary, Duncan Daybreak Alana Elliott, President Phone: 250-715-1481
Fraternal Order of Eagles, Duncan #2546 Tracy Norman, Secretary 2965 Jacob Road, Duncan Phone: 250-746-7100 Cowichan News Leader Pictorial November 2011
Cowichan Seniors Resource Directory Service Clubs Rotary Club, Ladysmith Michael Furlot, Secretary P.O. Box 875, Ladysmith, BC V9G 1A6 Phone: 250-245-5771 or 250-2452052 Rotary Club, South Cowichan Shirley Walker P.O. Box 241, Cobble Hill, BC V0R 1L0 Phone: 250-743-6727 Royal Canadian Legion, Chemainus Branch #191 Beverly Olsen, Office Manager P.O. Box 423, Chemainus, BC V0R 1K0 Phone: 250-246-3133 Royal Canadian Legion, Cowichan Branch #53 Allan Waddy, President Kenneth St., Duncan, BC V9L 1N3 Phone: 250-746-5013 Royal Canadian Legion, Ladysmith Branch #171 Georgina Lorette, Secretary P.O. Box 219, Ladysmith, BC V9G 1A2 Phone: 250-245-3031 or 250-2452273 Royal Canadian Legion, Lake Cowichan Branch #210 Sam Jones, Bar Manager P.O. Box 603, Lake Cowichan, BC V0R 2G0 Phone: 250-749-6041 Royal Canadian Legion, Shawnigan Lake Branch #134 1625 Shawnigan-MillBay Rd Phone: 250-743-4621 Women of the Moose P.O. Box 371, Duncan, BC V9L 3X5 Phone: 250-746-7382 Young Seniors Action Group Society Royal Canadian Legion, 1625 Shawnigan-MillBay Rd Phone: 250-743-5178 or 250-7438344
Support Societies, Disease Related Alzheimer Society of BC Jane Hope Phone:1-800-462-2833
Canadian Cancer Society Maureen Hyde 100-394 Duncan St., Duncan Phone: 250-746-4134 Canadian Red Cross Help Program Jack Faber 2-5855 York St., Duncan Phone: 250-748-2111 Cowichan Valley Arthritis Society Jan Norwood Box 942, Duncan, BC V9L 3Y8 Phone: 250-748-2481 Diabetes Education Program Kathy Park 121 Ingram St., Duncan Phone: 250-737-2004 Duncan Mental Health and Seniors Cindy Patrick 3088 Gibbins Rd., Duncan Phone: 250-709-3040 Heart and Stroke Foundation Janice Krall, 401-495 Dunsmuir St., Nanaimo Phone: 1-888-754-5274
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Kidney Foundation 200-4940 Canada Way, Burnaby, BC V5G 4K6 Phone: 1-800-567-8112 Stroke Recovery Assoc.Cowichan Valley Branch Patty PO Box 394 Duncan, B.C. V9L 3X5 Phone: 250-748-6587
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Caregiver Robin Kasika shares a laugh with one of the seniors she accompanies on outings as part of her duties. photo: Don Bodger
seniors care services providing help to many seniors and employment to many others by Don Bodger Becoming a registered care attendant didn’t even register with Robin Kasika until changing demographics led to a huge increase in demand for those services. Kasika, 36, who lives in Saltair, had formerly been a sandwich artist at Subway, a gas attendant, a day care operator and worked in construction cleanup for the past seven years when she decided to go in a whole new direction. 36 Cowichan Good Life Magazine
“I thought, ‘I’ll go back to school,’’’ she said. “School was so much fun. I met so many nice people.’’ Kasika went to Discovery Community College in Campbell River and moved in with her brother while completing the seven-month registered care attendant course. Upon finishing the course, she immediately had a wide range of employment possibilities. “I could be in a facility or home care,’’ Kasika said. “I could even work in a hospital if I wanted to.’’ Some apprehension still crossed her mind about the career change as she was going through the course. “In the beginning, I was thinking ‘what am I doing?’ said Kasika. “It’s a big jump from construction clean-up to making beds, things like that.’’ She had plenty of practice in the transition, with five kids — four at home right now — as well as three dogs, a cat and a rabbit. “It’s a zoo at my house,’’ conceded Kasika.
She finished her course in September of 2010 and landed a job fairly quickly after submitting an application to Chris Wilkinson of Nurse Next Door, who runs the Duncan and Nanaimo franchise of the home healthcare services company. “I wasn’t taking no for an answer,’’ said Kasika. “I said ‘you want me on your team.’ I think that was my exact words.’’ Wilkinson realized right away that Kasika would be a benefit to his team and quickly hired her. Duties are varied that keeps the job interesting to Kasika. “It ranges from personal care to house cleaning to running errands to doctor’s appointments,’’ she said. “You never know when you’re going to get a phone call and we need a ride to the dentist. Anything can happen. Everyone’s got their commitments. Mine’s 24/7.’’ She tends to about eight people with various needs at the moment, but doesn’t see each of them every day. Cowichan News Leader Pictorial November 2011
“There’s one I just do the laundry and tidy up and do the bathroom,’’ Kasika said. “The rest of the time, it’s just socialize — see how they’re doing. We miss them when we don’t see them for a while.’’ As a personal companion, she takes clients on walks at the Crofton Seawalk or fishing at Fuller Lake. “We treat our clients like family and that’s the most important thing to us,’’ said Kasika. The feeling is indeed mutual. “It’s great, to put it very plainly,’’ said one gentleman, who can’t be identified due to the privacy policy of clients. “We get along.’’ “I think laughter is one of the best medicines, too,’’ Kasika is always ready to said Kasika. “Live, laugh answer the call for Nurse and love. Next Door clients at a “I think it’s great. It gives moment’s notice. seniors more time in their photo: Don Bodger own home which I think is more beneficial for them.’’ There are obvious challenges, but Kasika puts those concerns into the proper perspective. “It all depends on their moods,’’ she said. “Some days it’s a lot quieter. Everybody’s different. You just have to know how people are. A lot of older people have their set way on the way they like things done.’’ The benefits far outweigh any disadvantages for Kasika in this field of work. “Just the memories,’’ she said. “I’ll be driving down the road and I’ll think of one of the things one of my clients said.’’ It never ceases to put a smile on her face.
a caring family It’s been nearly four years since Chris Wilkinson and wife Tawnya took on the challenge of running the Nurse Next Door franchise for Duncan and Nanaimo. The home healthcare services company is booming and that’s something Wilkinson recognized might happen when he shifted from another career path. Wilkinson was at Summit Injury Management — now CBI Health Centre — for about five years. “After working at the physiotherapy clinic, it was more of a transition to health and wellness,’’ he said. The Wikinsons also worked at the Playground gym before branching out on their own with Nurse Next Door in February of 2008. “It’s all helping people, for sure,’’ said Wilkinson of the related tasks. “The neat part of the transition, we started the seniors fitness program (at the Playground). That was that interlude, bridging from the health and wellness stuff to the more senior related stuff.’’ A friend from high school introduced Nurse Next Door to Wilkinson. The local franchise started before most of the 47 currently operating across the country. The third annual year-end conference recently held in Vancouver brought more awards. Core value awards for finding a better way and a founders’ award for achieving a certain level of success were accepted by Wilkinson. He concedes this is a business with a greater demand for services yet to come. “We project in the next five to six years, that’s when it’s really going to pick up,’’ said Wilkinson. That’s when the leading edge of the Baby Boomers will be heading into their early 70s. — Don Bodger
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You’ve got to taste
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Noodles Of The World owner Sarah Barnes and server Mariah Schneider display a Mushroom Hoi-Sin Wok bowl. photo: Don Bodger
The Good Life’s regular Cowichan food feature samples Noodles of the World Oodles and oodles of noodles served. Noodles Of The World, as the name implies, features dishes with Shanghai, rice, Udon and Chow Mein noodles. But the quaint restaurant on Station Street offers a variety of menu items to suit any taste, including the discriminating senior looking for healthier choices than the fast food fare that seems to be everywhere. Owner Sarah Barnes, 29, celebrated the first anniversary of the location on Oct. 12. “This is my first restaurant,’’ she said. “I’ve worked in the industry since I was a teenager. “I love dining out as well. It’s something I’m always interested in doing.’’ Taking ideas from the many different types of establishments in Victoria, Chemainus, Duncan and Australia where she worked helped Barnes in the planning process for her restaurant. It was a painstaking process two years in the making before the doors finally opened. “This place came for sale,’’ she said. 38 Cowichan Good Life Magazine
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“When we came in here, I thought it could work. It’s turned out to be an amazing location. To be part of downtown Duncan is an amazing experi-
ence.’’ Financing and renovations took up considerable time. And then there was the decision on what type of restaurant would be most suitable. “The concept came from how I cook at home,’’ said Barnes. “I cook a lot of Asian food, noodle food. There wasn’t anything like that. It just kind of went from there. “The hardest thing was to figure out what to name the restaurant. It’s like naming your child.’’ A Facebook group was started to see if that turned up anything catchy, but Barnes’ aunt receives credit for the NOW moniker. The name struck Barnes because of “all the play-on-words you can use with NOW,’’ she said. “It just looks great, too. “The other part of the concept was to have these full-on flavour dishes and use those quality ingredients,’’ she added. “We make everything here from scratch. All of our vegetables are
coming in daily. Nothing is sitting on a shelf here for any period of time. I think the quality really speaks to that.’’ Barnes said local and organic ingredients are used as much as possible. I tried a Mushroom Hoi-Sin Wok bowl. The bowl came loaded with shitake and button mushrooms, sautéed with garlic, ginger and fresh vegetables in a Mandarin style Hoi-Sin sauce, and Shanghai noodles garnished with Thai basil, cilantro, beet curls and bean sprouts for $11 plus $3 extra to add chicken. There’s also an option of adding pork for $3, beef or prawns for $4, seafood for $6 and even tofu for $2. The beet curls on top were a nice touch. The freshness of the ingredients was readily apparent and the blending of flavours provided the piece de resistance of a delicious dish. Different vegetables such as caramelized cauliflower and grilled zucchini are used in the Roasted Indian Spice Wok. A range of sauces from hot and spicy to mild is used for the various bowl combinations. Two ladies sitting beside me had a difficult time deciding what to order from the abundance of choices. Beyond the noodle bowls, there’s entrée selections such as sticky ribs, Jamaican jerk, pasta and a tasting platter plus a tapas menu of spring rolls, salads and cole slaw, crab and shrimp cakes, mussels, black and blue tuna and prawn brochettes as well as Moo-Shu lettuce wraps and many different soup selections. “The ribs are to die for,’’ said Barnes. “The peanut stir fry seems to be one of our most popular dishes.’’ Three months ago, NOW started a Sunday brunch a la carte menu from 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. “I’m just waiting for it to catch on,’’ said Barnes. “It’s out of this world.’’ There have been some challenges in the first year, but she’s pleased her restaurant has attracted a clientele. “We’ve had a really great response,’’ Barnes said. “We have a lot of wonderful customers we like to see — and lots of new people. It’s nice to have those relationships as well where you’re able to get to know people.’’ Cowichan News Leader Pictorial November 2011
The hits and Misses of names as we age Lori Welborne
On a Brighter Note
I like it when people call me Miss. It doesn’t happen very often anymore, so when a young barista at Starbucks called me that the other day, I thanked him for it. He was confused by my appreciation and I had to explain to him that at my age I usually get called Ma’am. Being referred to as Ma’am makes me feel old, like I’m someone’s mother. Of course I am someone’s mother – two someones to be exact – but I still don’t feel old enough to be called that. Getting called Miss made me feel young. I encouraged him to call all women Miss instead of Ma’am in the future. But who knows if other women would feel the same way I do. One of my friends gets annoyed when she’s referred to as a girl instead of a woman, and she’s been irritated about that since we graduated high school 27 years ago. I, on the other hand, love being called a girl and refer to my friends as girl friends, not women friends. And it’s not just the ladies who can take issue with what they’re called. One of my older male friends didn’t like me calling him Mister. Feeling sensitive about his age and not realizing that I call all males that, including my own son, I had no idea that anyone would consider that a dig about their age. But titles, labels and nicknames are tricky. What one person likes, another person might not and unless they say something, you often haven’t got a clue. Cowichan News Leader Pictorial November 2011
One of my friends calls me Princess. I like it, but another pal finds it disrespectful, as if I’m being referred to as a spoiled prima donna. The reason she thinks that is because she had a boyfriend who would call her Princess for that very reason. But since I know it’s not meant that way toward me, I have no qualms about that same nickname. Another buddy of mine, a tough guy who rides a Harley and has biceps as big as my head, doesn’t care what in the world you call him as long as it’s not Jerk. He’s vague about the reason why, but something from his past has made that particular word off limits for him in the same way it did with my friend who hates being called Princess. Words are powerful and it’s interesting to see how differently people can react
to them. Even people who say they’re impossible to offend usually have one or two names that will upset them. When I was a kid we were taught to think before we spoke and be careful with the words we chose. We were also taught that stick and stones will break our bones but names will never hurt us. Obviously that’s not exactly true, especially if the names are delivered with cruel intent. But former First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” She was right. We’re the ones that give the words whatever power they have over us. So go ahead — call me whatever you want. And if you call me Ma’am I won’t think of myself as old anymore. Cowichan Good Life Magazine 39
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