The Seven Easiest Ways to Kill Your Fellowship by Joseph Akinrinola

The wellbeing or otherwise of any gathering is a corporate responsibility. Still, the individual roles amount to the overall result you see about the gathering.

I detest hearing people saying we do not have love in our church anymore. My response is to agree with that statement on one side. On the other side, I ask the speaker what he or she contributes to changing the narratives. After all, he or she could be a model of love so others can copy him or her. Every fellowship stands or falls on how responsible members of that fellowship are.

Today, I will share the seven easiest ways to kill your fellowship. Let each member of any gathering, be it church, community, family union, professional body, or social gatherings, adopt this lifestyle and the group will die before you know it. Let us go over them.

1. Do not take your attendance seriously. I observed those who complain about events, meetings, or programs closing late are those who do not arrive on time. In my opinion, one of the ways to kill your fellowship is always to go late for the program. Even at that, do not contribute to the discussion while the meeting lasts. Just behave as you are not in the meeting. Besides that, ensure you leave before the close of the fellowship. With that, you will send the fellowship to its early grave.

2. Be a passive member. Nothing frustrates a group leader more than insincere members. He can’t predict them. The leader doesn’t know who is on his side. So another habit that can kill your fellowship is to agree with the consensus, but do not play your part. Instead, gather people behind the leaders to show why the general agreement will not work. Through that, you will prepare the group for its funeral.

3. Be a consumer only. Check a living church or organization and you will find contributing members. Jesus even taught us it is more blessed to give than to receive. Consider if everyone in the fellowship only wants to be given, where would the resources come from. Thus, the habit of enjoying the benefit of the fellowship without the corresponding giving is a way to kill the fellowship.

4. Always shift responsibility. One mark of failure is shifting responsibility. It is easier to complain about the leadership if you are not in the camp. However, you will see clearly when you partake in decision-making. So always give reasons you could not accept any leadership role in your group and you will be among the people killing the association.

5. Do not be accountable. I am not aware of any other issues that kill an association other than the financial issue. If you want to close your fellowship existence, then be reckless with their money. If you are in a leadership position, use the resources of the group for your benefit, then you will see the collapse of the fellowship.

6. Do not speak the truth. Many people believed no one wants to speak the truth nowadays. I contest that statement. In an actual sense, we have fewer people who want to speak the truth because there are limited numbers of people who want to hear the truth. Therefore, one way to kill your fellowship is to keep quiet when you are supposed to talk. Since you don’t want to rock the boat, the boat of the association will sail towards a dangerous waterfall.

7. Always be a perfectionist. A perfectionist will be a dictator if he or she is in a leadership position. If not, he would not be on good terms with his leader. Instead, he would always find fault with whatever the leader does. Such people will fight for position. If they couldn’t have their way, they’ll threaten to leave the group. Follow this trend if you want to destroy your fellowship.

To destroy is easier than to build. As a social being, you belong to one group or the other. Ask if you are contributing to the growth or otherwise of the group. Are your habits killing the fellowship or building it. Check if you are a pillar or caterpillar.

Joseph Akinrinola

I am Joseph, an author, blogger, and content writer from Nigeria. In the field of writing, I deliver unique, grammatically correct, and plagiarism-free content. Currently, I work with three online firms specializing in motivation, human capacity development, lifestyle, relationship, and spiritual writings.

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