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EDITOR’S NOTE
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THE CONTRIBUTORS
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KIDS FASHION 10 SNUGGLY CUDDLES With the crisp air of winter, snuggle up the bubs in the most adorable style for babies. 12 MISS HIGH FASHION Let the girls be girls this winter in the most beautiful and classic fashion trends that won’t break the budget.
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14 THE JACKET EDIT Serious outerwear for boys can take even the most casual tracksuits to the cutest level of style for boys this winter.
MUM’S FASHION 16 STYLE UPDATE WINTER 16 This season’s hottest fashion picks for mums.
FEATURE ARTICLE 20 TAKING FLIGHT Never afraid to try new things has certainly worked in favour for Chrissie Swan who shares the breathtaking highs and hard hitting lows on her ascent to stardom.
PARENTING
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FUNNY MUMMY 26 PLAYDOUGH KING Funny mummy Ari contemplates the value of dough for kids. 28 MEET MISTER MAKER Mister Maker is coming to town! We catch up with the man behind the spotty vest, Phil Gallagher, in the lead-up to his Australian tour.
REAL LIFE 31 NORA’S BRAVE BATTLE It’s every parent’s worst nightmare to learn their child has cancer, one Naomi and Hannes Holly wish they could wake from.
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38 GENDER DIVERSITY IN CHILDHOOD Supporting children who are gender diverse is essential for them to have healthy self-esteem and grow up into confident, happy and well-adjusted adults. 42 SPIRITUAL ENCOUNTERS An ordinary woman shares her extraordinary spiritual journey, recounting Spiritually Transformative Experiences in her new book, Where the Light Lives.
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46 DHARMA DAD Down-to-earth Gary attempts New Age man.
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46 TEARS AND FEARS Expert in the field, Professor Marie-Paule Austin discusses why post natal depression is such a debilitating illness which affects a large number of new mothers. 52 A MATERNAL CHOICE We look into options to consider when it comes to deciding on the right maternity care option for you and your baby.
EARLY CHILDHOOD 65 GET MOVING TO LEARN For young children, active play provides many benefits, most notably the development of social, language and intellectual skills.
SPECIAL FEATURE 68 SCHOOL’S IN Read our Education guide to consider the various schooling options for your child.
52 68 FOOD & NUTRITION 80 LEAN FOOD ON A LEAN BUDGET Find out how you can keep your family eating healthy food without breaking the budget.
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Spirituality plays a big part in my life – I meditate and do Pranic Healing two hours each day. I think Spirituality
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his is a really exciting
can be beneficial in helping
edition for me. With
our children trust in a higher
our Melbourne edition only in its second issue,
power, helping them cope better in times of
we have a whole new set of readers joining the
isolation and stress; plus I believe it makes us
Offspring family. Recently we’ve identified a
calmer, happier, more tolerant parents.
need with our savvy, enlightened mums – they
Our article on Gender Diversity in Childhood
want and need more Spirituality and a broader
is so important. It’s widely acknowledged now
representation of the family experience.
there is a spectrum of gender identity rather than
Two of my faves this issue include “Spiritual
a polarity. We all want to nurture our children’s
encounters” and “Gender diversity in
different identities – and their strengths and
childhood”. I love these because they expand
weaknesses - no matter where they fit across the
ideas on what the parenting experience
Range.
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“Spiritual Encounters” describes how
This issue also includes special features on
an ordinary mum shares her extraordinary
maternity care and education, plus much more.
spiritual experiences including Out-of-Body
Happy reading.
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ARI CHÁVEZ COLUMNIST has had work published in Australia, England, Japan and Singapore. She has a delightful toddler, Gabriel, who was born with coffee in his veins. She is currently completing her first novel as part of a PhD project.
ELISE PAPAMIHAIL FASHION & STYLE is Mummy to Chloé and Olivia and is a passionate stylist and fashion writer, embracing the latest trends without compromising on timeless style.
LETITIA ROWLANDS JOURNALIST Letitia worked for daily newspapers for 20 years covering a wide variety of topics but since becoming a mother five years ago, her writing has focussed on family and parenting topics. Letitia lives in Sydney with her husband and two young sons Hugo and Jasper and enjoys a freelance career writing for magazines and websites.
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GARY AUSBRUCH ACCOUNTANT/COLUMNIST is financial controller for a Perth-based mining company. He has had columns published on the challenging subject of the lighter side of accountancy, and has written for SBS TV. He is married to Sue and has two young children, Ella and Sebastian.
DEVON PLUMLEY MIDWIFE believes her work is most satisfying when she can empower a woman and her partner to birth their baby naturally; and the new little human being thanks his mummy with a squeal!
TANIA CONNOLLY JOURNALIST Tania Connolly is a freelance writer who has been published in a variety of magazines. Her passion is people and sharing their inspirational journeys. With a husband and two teenagers life is hectic but she wouldn’t want it any other way.
LISA O’ROURKE WRITER Lisa is a freelance writer and her work has been published in print and online for more than 15 years. She is also a singer/songwriter and the Founding Director of popular edutainment pre-schooler program Rock ‘n’ Toddle. Lisa’s three children (all under eight) inform and inspire her work, and reward both her and her husband daily with precious gifts beyond words.
CLAIRE ARMSTRONG JOURNALIST of 10 years across a range of mediums and publications from mining and financial to bridal and pregnancy. She has a passion for all things parenting and a love of sharing stories about the parenthood journey. She is also a busy mum of three beautiful girls and is a trained post-natal doula.
KATE BULLEN DIETITIAN runs www.dietitianonline.com. au and is mum to three young children. Kate has translated her love of all things online to providing expert nutrition coaching online – it works well for anyone who is busy! Kate’s passion lies in making healthy eating simple and enjoyable.
BROOKE EVANS-BUTLER JOURNALIST has written for home improvement, bridal and women’s lifestyle publications, but says Offspring enables her to combine writing with her new favourite hobby, being a mum to her boys Caleb and Jonah.
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COLLEEN WILLIS TRAVEL WRITER has roamed the world for many years on her own and with her husband and daughter, Rebekah. During this time, Colleen has been a teacher and an award-winning travel advisor for Australia and overseas. Colleen will guide you through family travel the way she knows best!
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Never afraid to try new things has certainly worked in favour for Chrissie Swan who shares the breathtaking highs and hard-hitting lows on her ascent to stardom.
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hrissie Swan has time for only a brief chat, sitting in her car ahead of an imperative commitment - her son and a gaggle of his Grade 2 classmates are performing at the school assembly. She keeps a watchful eye on the time to ensure she doesn’t miss getting a decent seat. “If I see too many other mums arriving I will have to run,” she
says before unleashing that distinctive, hearty laugh. It is a comforting revelation that behind her astronomical success as commercial radio broadcaster, Logie winner, TV star and presenter as well as author, columnist and fashion label ambassador, at heart she is a dedicated and relatable mother of three. Thanks to modern technology, complete with connection failures and each believing the other was washed up on some deserted sandy beach from all the static interference, we both find ourselves slotting in our talk amongst the throngs of motherly commitments. “I can’t wait to see him. It will be so adorable. He even has some lines to speak into the microphone,” she gushes about her eldest son, Leo. Who would have thought when the sassie Melbourne born-and-bred brunette threw open the doors to the voyeuristic Big Brother house in 2003, she would become one of the country’s
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I have a beautiful life. And for the most part I always land on my feet even if it life turns me in a different direction. I would never change it.
most enduring and much loved personalities? Obviously coming runnerup to Tasmanian fish and chip store owner, Reggie Bird, has worked out pretty well. Never afraid of hard work or taking a risk, Chrissie harbours an admirable ability to dust herself off and try something else when things don’t go smoothly. Perhaps observing the monotony of a career-focused, military father unleashed her carefree attitude about her own career. “Stability is rare in the entertainment industry, but I think that has kind of suited me. I’m happy to wait and see what opportunities are around the corner,” she admits candidly. “I have been lucky enough to have been offered some life-changing opportunities and met some amazing people who I can now call my friends. That is more than most people ever get out of their career.” You could easily be mistaken for thinking her trajectory to stardom has been effortless, dabbling in a bit of morning radio in Queensland shortly after leaving the house, before packing up and heading home to take her seat between radio veteran David O’Neill and then newcomer Ian ‘Dicko’ Dickson on Vega 91.5FM breakfast radio. She quickly garnered a loyal following of fans thanks to her warmth and quick wit. But she openly admits she was the wrong fit for the struggling station that was subsequently relaunched as Classic Rock and then again as Melbourne’s 91.5 after she was axed at the end of sydney | winter 2016 | Offspring
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2009. But paying her dues to the airways opened the door to Network Ten’s morning chat show The Circle alongside Yumi Stynes, Gorgi Coghlan and Denise Drysdale in 2010. This stint cemented Swan as a household name after snaring the coveted Most Popular Female Presenter Logie in 2011 and a nomination for the elusive Gold Logie. Amongst the bustle of car tyres and slamming doors of fellow school mums flooding into the surrounding carpark, she recalls her time on The Circle as one of the highest peaks of her career, a setting that allowed her true colours to shine. But after two years as part of the ensemble Chrissie stepped back into the arms of brekkie radio citing the elusive hunt for better work-life balance with two little boys tugging her heartstrings. “I remember the discussion I had with my partner, Chris about my work on The Circle when I decided I just couldn’t do it anymore.” There is a distinct solemness to her voice. “I loved the work so much so it was a tough call but I had to choose between an amazing job or savouring the opportunity of being mum. You don’t get to do over being a mum if you miss it. So I had to leave knowing another opportunity in television might never come my way.” The switch from The Circle to Melbourne’s MIX 101.1 to form one half of the side-splitting duo with Jane Hall finally gave Chrissy a radio gig that felt like home, she claims; ‘’proof of the old adage that when you work with your friends, you never work a day in your life”. And her hesitations over never returning to television were quickly
I loved the work so much so it was a tough call but I had to choose between an amazing job or savouring the opportunity of being Mum.
squandered when the offer came knocking to host the second, and third series, of Can of Worms. After a particularly unceremonious eviction from MIX she didn’t have to wait long for the phone to ring, and in typical Chrissie fashion she shrugged and said “why not?”, and signed up to the jungle asylum on Network Ten’s reality show I’m A Celebrity Get Me Out Of Here. “Six weeks of having absolutely nothing to do gives you plenty of time to untangle a lot of thoughts,” she muses that this was really
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the only positive to being homesick and starving in a bug-ridden jungle, apart from befriending Joel Creasey and putting on the
Stability is rare in the entertainment industry, but I think that has kind of suited me. I’m happy to wait and see what opportunities are around the corner.
backburner plans for a comedy duo. “I can’t believe I survived without my kids or partner for so long. It was so much harder than I ever expected. But I would have missed out on some great life lessons if I had gone home early.” There was a moment in that South African jungle that still
anything for granted and without seeing my career as all that I am.” She humbly says her career is a place for personal growth and boundless new friends. New to her friendship rolodex are the jaw-
brings a tear to Chrissy’s eye - when young Leo peeked around the
dropping pint-sized word whizzes she embraced with big-sister-like
shrubbery to see her for the first time in weeks, the rawness of the
support on The Great Australian Spelling Bee.
embrace etched in TV history. “I missed him so much, I never wanted to let him go. It was a
“Weren’t they just amazing?” she gushes. Her words hasten as she describes the completion of filming the
beautiful moment and people still come up to me in the street to
second series of the hit show earning her another 18 little friends,
tell me how moved they were and we have a little cry together,”
but she is cautious with her promise that it will air sooner, rather
she brims.
than later, without giving a specific launch date.
Alongside her loyal devotees are the ever-watchful critics and Chrissie has felt the dagger more than most, harshly taking aim at her parenting choices and body weight. But she holds her
She relays anecdotes of backstage happenings and post production catch-ups, proudly boasting involvement in a secret Facebook group with her “gang”, old series and
head high, claiming since her debut appearance in the
new. It is clear she was the right person for the job.
entertainment industry 13 years ago not one personal
“I love keeping in touch with them and
interaction has proved negative. “If anybody in the public eye listened and lived according to what was written about them, we’d never leave the
hearing all the goss from their lives. They are such amazing kids.” Her love and compassion for people has also
house,” she is uncharacteristically brusque.
bid her in good stead for her latest role on the
“People in general are supportive, yet
television series Long Lost Families, reuniting
something happens when they are sitting
families from all walks of life, which also filmed
behind a computer screen, but that is
this year.
only a very small amount of people so it doesn’t really make sense to give them a lot of energy. “I don’t care about scandals or what
“Oh man, that show is just extraordinary,” she boasts. “I just had no idea about people, the resilience and the heartbreaking stories. That show has been my baby for the past seven
people think about my decisions because
or so months and I just love it. I am so proud of
only I know all the facts. I adore my kids
it. It has been eye opening and heart warming at
and I really enjoy my work without taking
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“I remember sitting in the lounge room with this gentleman in the Northern Territory, there was just the cameraman, him and me and he starts telling me this
Maybe one day I will work out what I really want.
incredible story about his life and it hit me
“It is pretty normal to them. They have never known anything else, but the sevenyear-old is not really impressed by it, but he likes the shows I work on,” she stifles a laugh to avoid startling a passerby.
that he has probably never shared this with
“I just got the strangest look sitting in my
anyone ever before and here I am, listening
car giggling to myself,” and she starts laughing
and it doesn’t feel uncomfortable at all. I have come to realise what an honour I have been given being a part of all of this. “Some stories make you realise how fortunate a life you have had.
twice as hard. Her sanguine acceptance of reality doesn’t mean she doesn’t experience self doubt or remain wary of her future career prospects.
I have a beautiful life. And for the most part I always land on my feet
She claims she’s learnt that sometimes, a gamble doesn’t pay off - and
even if it life turns me in a different direction. I would never change it.
that’s OK - you just have to see what is around the next corner.
Life is always a work in progress.” And her life’s current progress sees the juggling act of yet another
“I’ll keep slotting swimming lessons and football games alongside filming and radio commitments for as long as I can,” she says.
gig on breakfast radio as host of Chrissie, Sam and Browny on Nova
“Maybe one day I will work out what I really want. I would like to
100 alongside the filming of the two television series, yet she tells me
write a novel, one day, when I find the time.
this is the first time that her life hasn’t felt completely manic. “The kids are all in their own beds - well, no - they all go to sleep in their own beds - there are no more nappies, bottles or plastic
“I have got to run, there are loads of other mums arriving and I don’t want to miss getting a good seat.” And she is gone in a flurry of adieus to soak in her son’s fleeting youth.
spoons around the house. It feels that there are no more babies and things are a little more manageable,” she says with a sigh of relief. Chrissie’s partner, Chris Saville - affectionately referred to as The Chippie on air - has taken on the challenge of being a stay-at-home-dad to their three kids, Leo (7), Kit (4) and Peg (3), in an effort to balance homelife with Chrissie’s hectic professional schedule. And what do the kids make of having a famous mum?
Life is always a work in progress.
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FUNNY MUMMY with Ari Chávez
Y A L P H G U DO KING
The great existential question that has been bothering me lately is, who the hell invented play dough? And how do we punish them?
I
’ll be frank. Play dough is one of the great loves of my son’s life. He is the king of play dough, in fact, and I freaking hate the stuff. In fact, I hate it so much I hide it in a big plastic tub
behind walls of chaos in the labyrinth of things-that-need-tobe-sorted-out-but-I-cannot-currently-deal-with that I call our garage. I hide it so well that pretty much no one can ever find it, not even me. Except the child. The child has a sixth sense about both hidden play dough
FUNNY MUMMY ARI CONTEMPLATES THE VALUE OF DOUGH FOR KIDS.
places, and hidden chocolate biscuit places, I’ll give him that. He does not have a sixth sense about where his shoes, socks, school hat, library books or swimming goggles are, which would be far more useful. It’s all about motivation I guess. He can find that damn play dough tub in about half a nano second. He will never, ever find his school hat or his second running shoe. As far as play dough goes, his modus operandi is quiet stealth, which I should have cottoned onto by now. If ever my kid, who is in the habit of providing a running narrative of exhausting questions I am required to answer non stop, is ever quiet I know he’s up to no good. NO. GOOD.
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Sometimes, however, I just need to sit down and have a cup of tea, stare blankly into space and not answer any questions. Heck, sometimes I don’t KNOW THE ANSWERS TO HIS QUESTIONS, ISN’T THAT WHAT GOOGLE IS FOR? The kid knows the game. He will ask me a series of stupendously tedious and exhausting questions, while he observes me sidle towards the teapot so I don’t lose the will to live. In these moments of weakness, he everso-quietly tootles up the hallway and slips into the garage, scales the pile of stuff for the council pick up, like a mountain goat, and seizes the play dough tub toot suite. Then he drags it into the play room and sets about making a complicated sea anemone that he saw some deranged mother, who has nothing better to do, make on YouTube. Of course, his sea anemone looks nothing like the YouTube mother’s sea anemone. OF COURSE IT DOESN’T. That YouTube play dough mother has an online play dough making course she’s selling. Why the heck else would you make a sea anemone out of play dough? My son, bless his play dough loving heart, is not wise to the ways of crafty-YouTube-mothers-making-a-buck-on-the-side. He will spend five minutes trying to make his sea anemone look like a sea anemone, and not like a lump of pink and yellow stuff, and then yell, “MAMA, CAN YOU HELP ME?” Obviously, the only thing to do is to pretend not to hear. Never works. “MAMA, HELP PLEASE! HELP PLEASE! MAMA! MAMA! MAMA! MAAAMMAAAAAAAAAAA!” The point is, this could go one for hours – me pretending not to hear, and the child chanting my name like some sort of mantra. The other point is, I will crumble first. So the only way to deal with it, is to sit down with the child and try to make a play dough sea anemone while fobbing off questions about why our sea anemone looks so rubbish in comparison to the YouTube one. Toot suite.
He will ask me a series of stupendously tedious and exhausting questions, while he observes me sidle towards the teapot so I don’t lose the will to live. ™
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BY BROOKE EVANS-BUTLER
Mister Maker is coming to town! We catch up with the man behind the spotty vest, Phil Gallagher, in the lead-up to his Australian tour.
I
have finally become ‘cool’ in the eyes of my children. My
However, when my phone rings at
secret? Telling my boys that Mister Maker was going to be
10.03am (only three minutes after our
calling me. ‘That’s so cool Mum! You are so cool! Can you
interview was scheduled), Phil apologies for
ask him how to make a rattle snake? Can you ask him to come
keeping me waiting. I tell him it is fine because
to our house?’
of my new ‘Cool Mum’ status and he laughs, asks
It was at that moment I felt a bit nervous about the interview
all about the kids and tells me to say hi to them from
– and what I would tell my kids about Mister Maker afterwards.
him, and that he would love to see them at the show.
After all, I had to remember I wasn’t going to be speaking to Mister Maker, but the man behind the spotty vest and spiky hair, Phil Gallagher. It is always interesting when you interview someone who you see on television every day – there is a feeling that you know them already – so sometimes it can be a shock when they are not as you imagined them to be.
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He is lovely (cue Mum Crush) –
What should I include in my child’s ‘doodle drawer’? If your child’s art and craft box only consists of paper and pencils, Phil offers some of his top arty material inclusions: • Pom-poms (Phil says they are his favourite arty material) • Googly eyes (or you can use white stickers and draw on the eyes with a black pen) • Pipe cleansers • Gloopy glue
and it is clear, from the onset, Phil loves being Mister Maker. “Getting this job was the best day of my life and every day is even better,” he reflects. “It was always my dream to be a kids’ television presenter and the live shows have taken on a life of its own. It is beyond my wildest dreams.”
“I’m so excited to be coming back to Australia. This year we are bringing the biggest
MIST ER MAKER’S FAVO URIT E MAKE:
Phil say s ‘pom-pom bugs’ are his favo urite ar ty ma ke. “It wa s somet hing I made wi t h my gran dad wh en I wa s lit tle. I s t ill have on e I made over 30 year s ago, which I t reas ure.”
show we have ever done.” I do not think Phil could ever have imagined how big ‘Mister Maker’ (and other series’ including Mister Maker Comes to Town, Mister Maker Around the World and the new Mister Maker Arty Party) would become since first airing on our screens in 2007. It now plays in over 100 countries and live shows are touring around the globe (he tells me that as well as touring around Australia and New Zealand, he will also be taking the latest live show to Hong Kong and across the UK later in the year). Perhaps the popularity of the show comes from the fact that the show inspires parents to set up arts and crafts for children
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Not the glitter…If you curse Mister Maker when you are cleaning up glitter after your child creates a masterpiece they saw on the show, Phil offers a handy ‘glitter clean-up tip: “A piece of sticky tape is a good trick. Gently push it onto a surface and the glitter sticks to the tape.” “I do apologise to all the grown-ups about glitter,” he says. “Quite often parents will come up to me with a smile, put their arm around me and say ‘Why, Mister Maker? Why the glitter?’. I apologise for that. If it’s any consolation, I find glitter everywhere. My mum came to my house yesterday and as I was making her a cup of tea she remarked how much glitter there was in my kitchen... It follows me everywhere.”
who are crying ‘I’m bored’, without fuss or expensive materials (and we know from Mister Maker’s ‘minute makes’ that you don’t necessarily have to put aside a whole afternoon to create something).
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When I ask Phil what he believes is the main benefit of doing arts and crafts for children, he says the key thing is confidence. “When I was growing up I loved making things. I got a lot of pride from what I made, so I believe art and craft generates confidence,” he says. “That is not just for children but for grown-ups as well. I often have parents and grandparents talk to me after live shows and they say thank you because the show has shown them that they can
ARTY information go to livenation.com.au – and if you T IP: techniques. Once that has been taught, we hope do see Phil out-and-about, Mister Maker loves “Recycle and to inspire whatever age that they can have a meeting his fans. “Quite often it is the growncollect materials go – and the materials are easily attainable. ups that stop me first,” Phil says. “A lovely to use – somet hing It makes me pleased and proud that thing is that children don’t expect to see t hat is ordinary t hat people surprise themselves.” me in any other way than in my spotty you can t urn into t he The tour commences June 25 waistcoat and spiky hair, so it can take ext raordinary. Plan ahead in Hobart – with performances a while for a child to comprehend following in Melbourne, Sydney, what’s going on. It is lovely when and s tar t your own Adelaide and Perth. For people say hello – grown-ups ‘doodle drawer’.” be creative and they can be arty. That is the cause of the show at its very core – to teach simple
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Real Life I want Nora’s story to be told so parents feel they can question doctors, nurses, anyone, regarding their children. Especially first time mums.
It’s every parent’s worst nightmare to learn their child has cancer, one Naomi and Hannes Holly wish they could wake from. BY TANIA CONNOLLY
Nora’s battle with
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Neuroblastoma O
n 2nd February 2016, the lives of Naomi and Hannes Holly were thrown into turmoil, when tests revealed a malignant tumour strangling their eight-month-old daughter’s spine.
No-one can confirm if it existed at birth, or pinpoint when it first appeared. All Naomi knows is, she wants it gone. Nora, who the couple affectionately call, their ‘Ginger Ninja’, is little sister to two energetic brothers: Jonte (6) and Johnas (4). Naomi recalls all three pregnancies and births as unremarkable, with the exception of feeling nauseous whenever she consumed anything sugary, while pregnant with Nora. Naomi proudly claims her little ‘Pocket Rocket’ was crawling, pulling up and using push-toys at seven months. “She was actually quite ahead of all her milestones,” Naomi recounts. Three days prior to their life-changing diagnosis, Naomi placed her grizzly baby down for a nap, thinking she was teething. When Nora woke, Naomi noticed her legs weren’t kicking. She placed her baby at the coffee table and Nora’s legs buckled beneath her. “She was just gripping onto the table,” she says. “She wasn’t doing any weight-bearing at all.” Naomi said Nora’s sudden inability to move her lower limbs was as if a switch had been flicked. An initial consultation at hospital resulted in a doctor deciding Nora’s sydney | winter 2016 | Offspring
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[I want] to make it a really special one because you don’t know if it’s the first of many or her …” Naomi stops as she cannot bring herself to say ‘last’ condition was ‘behavioural’, which Naomi says, she refused to accept. Blood tests and x-rays of Nora’s legs and hips were then arranged. “That’s when they said there might be something suspicious in her right leg, probably a toddler fracture.” A plaster cast was fitted to only one leg which unsettled Naomi as she suspected Nora’s issues involved both limbs. Her uneasiness escalated when she witnessed her baby’s condition worsening. She says when Nora struggled to sit, she feared the problem could be spinal and expressed her doubts, “What happens if she ends up being paralysed or her organs stop working?” It appeared to her as though something was creeping up Nora’s body. The concerned parents deliberated over driving to childhood
Naomi’s eyes fill with tears when she recalls the moment doctors
specialist hospital, Princess Margaret Hospital for Children
mentioned neuroblastoma, a rare type of cancer consisting of
(PMH), but chose to wait until Monday. Naomi thought the weight
specialised nerve cells, which commonly affects infants. A large tumour
of the plaster cast might have hindered any improvement but,
spanned the length of Nora’s spine from her T1 vertebrae to her T8,
“Come Monday morning, she was like a little rag doll”.
pinching her spinal cord to 85 per cent, causing the loss of mobility.
Now really worried, Naomi raced Nora to PMH where staff
“A bit of disbelief [and] a lot of grief,” is how Naomi describes
removed the cast because, she was told, there was actually no
her feelings after the diagnosis. During five hours under general
evidence of a fracture. Unfortunately, multiple scans booked for
anaesthetic, Nora underwent an MRI, CT scan, biopsy and lumbar
the morning following Nora’s admittance uncovered something far
puncture. “Hard day,” Naomi whispers, “A day I won’t ever forget,
more sinister.
that’s for sure.”
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Emergency chemotherapy and steroids were administered that Tuesday. “We didn’t know how long her spinal cord had been crushed for or what permanent damage had been done. We still didn’t know if she would ever walk again.” Nora endured three days of chemotherapy and gradually regained strength. “She made progress every single day. You could see her getting stronger and stronger, that’s just her spirit.” Coming to terms with the enormity of their situation, Naomi says, “It was hard. My first reaction was like, how am I going to juggle this? How am I going to be there for my boys and my husband as well? I felt really disjointed from what was going on in their lives. As much as family time was important before, it’s just got a completely new depth.” She credits her “awesome support network” for helping her and Hannes get through some tough days. The anxious parents waited two weeks for test results that would clarify if the cancer had spread to Nora’s bones and if the MYCN amplification gene was present, which indicates a more aggressive tumour. Those tests returned negative but Naomi explains an MIBG test, where nuclear dye is injected, showed several smaller ‘satellite’ tumours. The initial chemotherapy was followed by further rounds every three weeks. After every second round Nora had an MRI and MIBG to monitor her progress. Naomi says the tumour shrunk 36 per cent after the first two rounds, but with no significant changes since then the doctors opted to operate. Surgery was booked for May 6 but Nora’s immune system completely crashed and she developed a rash requiring a week in hospital on antibiotics. sydney | winter 2016 | Offspring
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Real
Life
On Friday 13, three and a half
believes if the plaster cast had remained on, Nora
months after diagnosis, doctors performed
might have been at risk of becoming paralysed, as
open surgery. Naomi says they completely
essential treatment would have been delayed.
detached the tumour from Nora’s spine,
According to Neuroblastoma Australia, the
removing 90 per cent of it, although a tiny
disease is so rare, and symptoms can be vague
amount remains attached to her aorta.
and mimic other illnesses, so making a diagnosis
Three days later, Nora was weight-bearing
can prove difficult. On behalf of St John of God
and walking around her hospital cot. Now back
Hospital, Midland, Dr Lachlan Henderson
at home, she is crawling and furniture-walking
stated that their staff, “undertook investigations
as if nothing happened. Her gorgeous smile
based on the clinical presentation” of Nora, and
and lively demeanour belie the internal battle
had consulted with PMH regarding treatment.
raging within her tiny body, making it difficult
The Hollys were also advised to return if Nora’s
to understand how her prognosis could be anything but positive. Taking a deep breath, Naomi wipes away tears and says it’s a matter of “wait and see” to gauge the tumour’s response to treatment. “They’ve given her a 70 per cent chance of survival. She will probably be having tests every three months
I wish to see her grow into a beautiful woman.
just to monitor it and make sure it doesn’t come back, or
It will be Nora’s first birthday soon. “[I want] to make it a really special one because you don’t know if it’s the first of many or her …” Naomi stops as she cannot bring herself to say ‘last’. Tears flow freely as, almost inaudibly, she shares her hope for Nora’s future, “I wish to see her grow into a beautiful woman”. Naomi adds, “I want Nora’s story to be told so
it doesn’t grow somewhere else. For the next five years, and probably
parents feel they can question doctors, nurses, anyone, regarding
for the rest of her life, we’ll be on edge.”
their children. Especially first time mums. Parents know their
Naomi is aware that even if children survive this cancer, it’s possible they may not survive the side effects of treatment, which is why she hopes radiation is unnecessary and chemotherapy is limited. She admits to feeling angry towards the original doctors. She
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Becoming a foster carer The reality, the challenges and the joys Foster carers, Madeline and John, find being foster parents so fulfilling and feel the things they worried about before becoming a carer are now insignificant.
A
family was always on the agenda for Madeline* and her husband, John*. They married young,
bought a house and settled in on starting to introduce children into their lives. But after 10 failed IVF attempts they began to
thought that being a foster carer would
Their resilience and spirit are so inspiring; they have given us a family and we have given them a family.
investigate other options.
home. “We initially, and naively, thought that our experience as carers would be a revolving door of children coming into our care,” said Madeline. “But we soon learnt you could make a choice between
They started with the possibility of
becoming a respite carer, a short-term carer
overseas adoption. But at the time every
or a long-term carer – we chose long term.”
magazine or newspaper they opened, and every news story they heard, seemed to be discussing the need for foster carers. “We talked it over,” says Madeline “and decided that maybe
Madeline and John weren’t completely naive. They knew that they were about to undertake a huge change in their lives. “Let’s face it,” says Madeline “we were blessed with the placement of
this was going to be a rewarding path. We were still young enough
siblings, a four-year-old girl and a two-year-old boy, but we were
to care for and help the many children that may come into our
strangers. It took time to get to know one another, them to know
home.”
us and us to know them.”
They started making their enquiries, initially turning to the
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mean introducing many children into their
There’s also the reality of coping with the children’s past
NSW Department of Family and Community Services (FACS),
experiences – both the trauma and loss. “They were confused,”
who started them on the approval and training process. They both
says Madeline. “There was a gamut of attachment and
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development needs. They continue to challenge us in new ways but, with each day, we are learning and progressing.” Long-term carers were given the opportunity to transfer their cases to a non-government organisation. Madeline and John decided on The Benevolent Society, Australia’s first charity, which has a long history helping families and children. “They have been very supportive to us,” says Madeline. “They supported this placement wholeheartedly, and I’m grateful for the insight, honesty and care our caseworkers have provided us.” Be it training, moral support or therapy for the children, The Benevolent Society ensures that Madeline and her family aren’t left to fend for themselves. Right down to providing “a shoulder to cry on – when required,” says Madeline. One of the aspects prospective foster carers may find themselves unprepared for is the ongoing relationship children have with their
We initially, and naively, thought that our experience as carers would be a revolving door of children coming into our care.
families. The children in Madeline and John’s care have bi-monthly, supervised contact with their mum and dad, which is an important aspect of their care. But it’s not without its challenges, says Madeline. “Sometimes that challenge is in the form of anxiety and following behavioural challenges in the children. Sometimes it’s the stress experienced by me!” When asked about how she feels about the two-hour
Even some friendships have ended after Madeline and John’s
family meetings, Madeline gives the sense that it’s still a work
decision to become foster carers, but Madeline says that the
in progress. But they make the children happy, and there’s no
change has fortified others and that they’ve made plenty of
question that Madeline thinks that that is what makes these visits
new friends along the way. But for Madeline and John, the most
worthwhile.
rewarding aspect of being a carer has been the relationship
“It has broadened my view on parenting and the plight of those in care and the carers who look after them, including the case workers, the biological parents and the family,” says Madeline. “Our whole life is different… the things I worried about before being a carer are so insignificant.” Taking on the responsibility of becoming a carer can make you more tolerant and appreciative of the ones you love. Madeline
they’ve forged with the young children who now make up their family. “They are the most delightful and amazing people. They have truly filled my heart,” says Madeline. “Their resilience and spirit are so inspiring; they have given us a family and we have given them a family.” When asked what piece of advice she’d give someone
says that one of her greatest joys is watching her parent’s
thinking about becoming a foster carer, Madeline says: “Do
relationship with the children grow, seeing them delight in the
all the training you can, open your eyes and ears. Focus on the
experience and joys of having these two children in their lives. But
children. This (being a foster carer) will change your life; it is full
as much as it can strengthen relationships it can also test them.
of challenges and difficulties—you will deal with behaviours you
“It has deepened the relationship I have with my husband
haven’t experienced before, and emotions and histories that are
but, to be entirely truthful, there were also times that I thought it
unbelievable—but the difference a good carer can make is also so
might tear us apart.”
unbelievably rewarding.”
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GENDER DIVERSITY in childhood
BEN BRADSTREET HAS A MASTERS OF COUNSELLING AND SPECIALISES IN DIVERSE GENDER AND SEXUALITY ALONG WITH CHILDHOOD DEVELOPMENT AND PARENTING.
By Ben Bradstreet
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s it a boy or a girl? This is one of the first questions asked when a new life enters the world. Even before
birth, we are curious about the gender of a baby. Once we know that the baby is a boy or a girl, it can influence so much- the colour of clothes, decoration of nurseries/bedrooms, the type of toys
Supporting children who are gender diverse is essential for them to have healthy selfesteem and grow up into confident, happy and well-adjusted adults.
and most importantly, how we perceive and treat the child. Little boys are so often seen as tough, rowdy bruisers and
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Undoubtedly there are differences between “male” and “female”, but how these differences are expressed is societally constructed and changes remarkably throughout history and between cultures. What happens to the sensitive side of “tough, rowdy, bruiser” boys in our society, and how about the aggressive or assertive parts of our
“sensitive, beautiful princesses”? We can all be restricted by the gender norms we are ascribed,
little girls as sensitive, beautiful princesses. Parents, other family
however, those of us who are born gender diverse generally have
members, friends and general society subtly and explicitly
a particularly hard road to travel, due to societal expectations
encourage gender norms from the time we are born, to the time we
that our gender expression/identity will match our genitals. The
die. It is worth considering what gender actually is.
majority of the time, this is exactly what happens, but a significant
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minority of people simply do not feel that their body matches
human experience. Issues arise due to how an individual that
their inner experience of who they truly are. We all have a role
is gender diverse is stigmatised, isolated, pressured and even
in making the road these children travel much less hazardous,
persecuted by the world around them. This is what must be
and by contributing to a society that is less rigid in gender
changed for all people in a society to live safe, fulfilling lives.
expectations, we may all benefit by being free to be who we truly are, not only what we are expected to be. Gender diversity can be defined as a spectrum of behaviours, expressions, identities and feelings which society deems as atypical of a person’s biological
When gender diversity is present in childhood, it is useful to consider developmental stages to guide how best to support the child. Up until the age of three, young children have no fixed gender identity. Their understanding of other people’s gender is also fluid.
gender. It is useful to think of gender diversity as a
This period of life should be approached with
spectrum, rather than simply categories of “male”
a high degree of acceptance of fluidity and experimentation.
and “female”, because people can feel
When children up to the age of three
somewhere “in between”. Gender diversity may be experienced at any
behave in ways atypical of their biological
point in life, and people will either
gender, it is simply a reflection of their lack
express or suppress this diversity,
of categorisation, it is play, fun, learning
largely in response to how safe and
and experimentation. Parents and other
accepting their social world is or is
carers can join in with this play and show
not.
pleasure at their child’s exploration. The worst thing to do would be to force
A core concept to keep in mind is that gender diversity is not the
gendered behaviour, as this will not make
problem, it is a natural reflection
sense to young children and runs the
of the complexity and variety of
risk of causing shame and confusion.
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PARENTING From the age of two to three-and-a-half, children are particularly
have created include gender
susceptible to feelings of shame and doubt, which they can be
neutral toilets, gender neutral
assisted through supporting their growing independence in
approach to toys/play, support
play, experimentation and undertaking simple tasks. This way
for clothing preference of
of supporting them can be applied to any and all expressions
children, use of pronouns/names
of gender. It is not important as to whether it is typical of their
that children choose and strong
biological gender or not, just that they are encouraged and
anti-bullying programmes which
supported.
include a focus on acceptance
After the age of three and up to the ages of five to six, children
of gender diversity. The goal
are starting to work out some of the differences related to biological gender and may become very curious about body parts and functions. However, even up to the age of six, some level of fluidity, or errors in terminology are common in relation to gender. Answering questions about bodies and gender openly, focused on the question of the child, rather than adding information that may be beyond their understanding, assists children to learn about gender and bodies at their own pace. Continuing to be accepting of fluid concepts of gender, rather than asserting norms, will
of these
We all have a role in making the road these children travel much less hazardous, and by contributing to a society that is less rigid in gender expectations, we may all benefit by being free to be who we truly are, not only what we are expected to be.
also provide space for children to develop their
changes in both primary and secondary schools is to allow gender diverse children the space, safety and support to work out who they are in relation to gender, throughout a period of life which is characterised by fluidity. In later childhood and pre-adolescence, children are well aware of gender categories, differences and norms. For those who are gender diverse, the awareness of being different is likely to become more pronounced. Support is required within the
own gender identity, while maintaining healthy self-esteem. For
home, schools and other settings such as sporting teams to ensure
children in this developmental stage, there are big transitions to
that differences and diversity are accepted and ideally celebrated,
navigate, such as beginning pre-school and primary school.
rather than targeted as a source of shame.
If your child is presenting with signs of gender diversity, and
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policies and
Older children can be assisted to find settings and friendships
especially if they show signs of distress at any pressure to conform
where they feel they fit in, and to consider their capacity to
to gender norms, it is very important to consult with others
adjust behaviours and interactions in ways that result in positive
involved in your child’s education and care. It is advisable to ask
interpersonal experiences. It is important to only encourage
what their approach to gender diversity is and to ask for changes
kids to adjust their own behaviours and choices in ways that are
to be made that will assist your child in these big developmental
affirming and authentic to them. Placing pressure on a gender
transitions. Some of the policies schools and child-care centres
diverse child to “fit in� and adopt societal norms, rather than
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focussing on adjusting social settings to be safe and accepting, is unfair and ultimately damaging to children’s development, well-being and selfesteem. Adolescence can be a particularly difficult time for gender diverse people.
If your child is presenting with signs of gender diversity, and especially if they show signs of distress at any pressure to conform to gender norms, it is very important to consult with others involved in your child’s education and care.
go on to “transition”, which means taking hormones and sometimes undergoing surgeries to ensure their physical body matches their inner gender identity. This transition process is not the same for all, and it is important to consider gender identities other than the binary opposites
The hormonal and
of “male” and “female”, as this does not
physical changes
always represent an individual’s personal
associated with
experience of gender.
puberty, along
Whatever pathway a gender diverse
with the complex
child takes into adulthood, the irrefutable
developmental
fact is that they will be more happy, healthy
task of developing a stronger sense of self, is
and self-assured if we as parents, families and a society offer
often fraught for many. Imagine how much
support, acceptance and love, which often means challenging
more difficult this period would be if your
rigid norms of behaviour that restrict us all.
body and its biological sexual characteristics were developing in a way which was severely contradicting your inner sense of self. Gender diverse adolescents may become distressed at these changes and develop a sense of alienation, ambivalence or revulsion toward various aspects of their bodies and ways that society perceive them and pressure them to be. Unfortunately, gender diverse adolescents are at higher risk of mental health issues, risk-taking behaviours and suicidality. They can be protected if they receive strong family and social support which affirms their inner gender identity, and access to medical and psychological services. A medical intervention for gender diverse adolescents which is becoming much more accepted is to commence “puberty blockers”. This hormonally halts the onset or progress of puberty, giving the gender diverse adolescent respite from distress related to unwanted bodily changes, and an opportunity to decide later whether they wish to start taking hormones of their affirmed gender, or stop taking puberty blockers and commence the process of maturation in their biological gender. Puberty blockers are safe and their effects are reversible, which is important in giving the young person time to decide what is best for them. Adolescence is a time of experimentation and identity formation, and gender identity will play a part in this process for all teenagers, but for those who are gender diverse and experiencing distress, more support is required. Longitudinal research into gender diverse children indicate that there are three main outcomes. A portion of gender diverse children will integrate their own sense of gender and be comfortable to identify as their biological gender. Others seem more likely to identify as diverse in sexuality later in life. Meanwhile, those who experience persistent gender diversity may www.offspringmagazine.com.au
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Spiritual
encounters By Lisa O’Rourke
An ordinary woman shares her extraordinary spiritual journey, recounting Spiritually Transformative Experiences in her new book, Where the Light Lives. With the launch of a blog and home-based business this year she hopes to connect with, help and inspire spirituality in others.
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t’s 1990 and a terrified 16-year-old Perth school girl, Linda
what she describes as overwhelming, spontaneous, spiritual
Cull, sits breathless with fear on the floor, overwhelmed by
phenomenon including, “many encounters with The Light,
her first spontaneous spiritual experience.e.
Angels and religious figures like the Blessed Mother, as well
Only moments before, Linda was happily sketching,
immersed in thought, when she began to hear a voice wistfully calling her name. Initially dismissing the voice as her
communications and past-life-recollections,” she says. At 21 Linda had what she describes as a Light Encounter
mother’s or neighbour’s, Linda slowly came to the frightening
that was, “the most exceptional spiritual experience of my life.
realisation that the voice was emanating from directly beside
I encountered the Divine Light and entered a heavenly state
her – an invisible spiritual energy was gently calling her name
where I experienced the reality of all things”.
beckoning her to notice. Frightened and alone as she was, Linda says this experience
In the following year Linda explains she had an epic OBE when she encountered a “spirit guide” who guided her through
was a “blessing”, signifying the beginning of the remarkable
a Life Review and then a Life Preview, “and gave her the choice
and life changing personal spiritual journey which ensued.
to either stay in the spiritual realm or return to physical life”.
From this point onwards, Linda’s life exploded with
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as multiple out-of-body-experiences (OBEs), after-death-
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brought with them a new life purpose and spiritual direction. She believes they resulted in the spontaneous healing of her life and recovery from the depression which had plagued her teenage years as she struggled with a poor body image due to
she struggled with a poor body image due to scoliosis, which was becoming increasingly exaggerated as she grew taller to fill her adult 6ft 2in frame.
scoliosis (a curvature of the spine), which was becoming increasingly exaggerated as she grew taller to fill her adult 6ft 2in frame. Linda had also endured transgenerational grief throughout her childhood. Her father, as a boy during the Second World
communication line”. In her twenties, while cradled in the
War, had witnessed the executions of his father and brother.
comforts of the artistic process, surrendering thought, and
This trauma permeated the mood in Linda’s home every day.
feeling truly fulfilled, Linda’s first of many Intuitive Artistic
With every OBE (of which Linda recalls over 30) her perception of reality expanded, and her world view would never be the same again.
experiences were evoked. Linda defines Intuitive Art as an automated artistic process and an example of a phenomenon known as Spontaneous
Defying popular belief that such experiences are reserved
Inspired Creativity. As the artist, Linda relinquishes her
only to those near death (Near Death Experiences/ NDEs),
own will, granting authority to her “highest spiritual aspect”
Linda’s experiences, spanning the last 20 years, have sparked
that directs her without conscious plan or vision. Without
the interest of researchers across the globe.
effort, subconscious interpretations of spiritual themes are
Raised Catholic, Linda felt her new spiritual realities could no longer be explained by The Church and hence painting became her refuge. It was also to become a “spiritual
transferred onto her canvas. “Painting in this manner is very different to the deliberate process of the painting I did as a teenager,” she says.
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Linda refers to an inner energy guiding her hand, sometimes illuminating a path for her paintbrush to follow across the canvas, like numbers on a dot-todot, arousing the same thrill of a child, who is slowly revealed to the hidden image after much anticipation and invested commitment to the task. Now a mother to two boys aged ten and six, when possible, Linda creates opportunities for spiritual lessons, learning and growth for them, as she would do with any other life skill. While Linda’s boys have not yet had spiritual experiences of their own, Linda provides other caregivers with strategies that could help their children cope with the confusion, loneliness and fear spiritual awakenings can invoke. “A Spiritual Experience, like an OBE or spirit encounter, can be confusing and scary for kids, so it’s best to listen attentively, ask questions, assure their safety and validate their experiences as real and natural, even commonplace.” “I’d encourage them to draw or write about their experience to manage and share their feelings.” Linda refers to an innate spiritualty which is very strong in children and can be developed regardless of their propensity to display such abilities, and she advocates the practice of mindfulness as a way of nurturing this. “Encourage children to immerse themselves in nature, notice
time” between parenting commitments. Linda enjoys the writing process, likening it to painting with “its layers and rhythm”. When Linda considered her options about returning to the workforce she changed her thinking about the business of spirituality, realising that in order to do what she loved every day
how they are feeling and what their physical senses, such as
she needed to earn a living from it. Once the bohemian, gifting
hearing and vision, are experiencing.”
her paintings to friends, Linda now writes for both business and
“Paying attention to small things and subtle signs can be learnt, and does become easier with practice. It’s one of the ways the spiritual world communicates with us.” Children’s natural curiosity can lead to many spontaneous discussions about life, love and death. Linda explains, “We can provide many opportunities to introduce notions of spirit, soul, connectedness and compassion to them.” Children observe, learn and model their behaviours on those of their parents or caregivers and therefore Linda believes that to provide the best spiritual foundations in our children, parents
pleasure. An Anglican priest, Father Barry May of Embleton (deceased), interested in near-death-experiences and out-of-bodyexperiences, encouraged Linda to write a book about her own spiritual experiences saying, “It would give hope to many”. So with her family’s support, Linda worked day and night for the last five years writing and self-publishing her first book, Where the Light Lives, released in February this year, about her spiritually-transformative experiences. Previously working in Politics, Linda says that spirituality feels
must nurture and grow their own, by living “authentically” –
like her “Life Calling”. While the career change has presented
attending to their innate gifts for “their own sake and in the
some challenges including learning new technologies and
service of others”.
adjusting to working alone, Linda feels the decision has been
Throughout motherhood, writing has provided Linda with an
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the hectic pace of motherhood. She feels more able to “snatch
unquestionably the most fulfilling.
alternative spiritual outlet to her Intuitive Art, explaining that it
Linda aims to reach out to those needing help to assimilate
is more easily assimilated with everyday family life and around
spiritual experiences into their lives as well as to connect with
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people interested in developing their personal spiritualty. In doing so, Linda is living with authenticity and thus realising her own spiritual growth.
Contact Linda with your story and view her website at lindacull.com
towers above all of life’s challenges with a graceful poise and contentedness she once thought beyond her grasp. Linda’s path is destined
She dedicates about 50 hours per week to promoting her
for fulfilment. Grateful for
blog, Spirit my way, to other
her opportunities, she aims to
spiritually-minded people as well as developing inspiring
continue to grow her business
new products to sell online.
by continuing to be true to herself and advocating:
Last year Linda focussed heavily on establishing her website and preparing her book for market which involved editing the manuscript as well as managing the design,
“We have all chosen to be here and we are spiritually perfect, and gifted, whether we recognise it or not. There is nothing we
publication and distribution of her book. This year, her focus has
need to be or do to be loved by Spirit. We are infinite beings of
shifted to marketing her book as well as writing weekly blog posts
light here for the purpose of growing from our experiences. As
and growing an audience.
difficult as this life can sometimes be, there is a long queue of
She is learning and persevering to fulfil her dreams. Linda walks her own talk, practicing “mindfulness” every day. While some days are challenging, she is enjoying the flexibility of working from home and found a harmonious balance between work and play. Today, Linda stands tall in both stature and presence - elegant,
souls awaiting their chance for this physical experience. It’s a privilege to be here, and to love in form!” Regardless of one’s own spiritual beliefs, the breathtaking imagery of Linda’s spiritual accounts convey the importance to love ourselves and all others in this lifetime. Life truly is a
happy, strong and fulfilled, living by her own words. By “living
precious gift to be nurtured, respected, cherished and above all
authentically” and doing what makes her happy every day, she
else be grateful for.
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DAD’S WORLD
with Gary Ausbruch
Dharma dad Down-to-earth Gary attempts New Age man
I
t happened on a Tuesday, halfway into a 20-minute guided
pretty disciplined with physical fitness, but from now
meditation. That morning I’d already done an hour-and-a-quarter
on, the focus had to be on mental fitness.
of yoga, taken two horrible-smelling brown pills and five mls of
But all of sudden, that morning I’d just had
horrible-tasting brown liquid, and recited my daily list of positive
enough. Cutting off the Englishman in my
affirmations. The next evening I had the second of an eight-session
ears who was supposed to help me clear
personal development course I’d booked into.
my mind but actually annoyed me
These things were all part of my new stress management strategy,
because he emphasised a hard g
developed after a particularly challenging period in my life where I
in every ing word (made even more
was sick on and off constantly. With tests showing that nothing was
annoying with the number of double ings he
actually physically wrong, I realised my symptoms were a result of
managed to weave into his directions: “Feel the breath bringing
the mental stress I placed on myself. I was literally worrying myself
you calmness with each inhalation”), I yanked out my earphones. I
sick. Just the usual stuff, like work pressures, the health of someone
mumbled my own ing word about meditating.
close to me, the ups and downs of family life, and being a Dockers supporter.
I thought about the other aspects of my strategy. There was the twice-weekly yoga. Although my bakasana was amongst the best
I decided I needed to take control of the situation. I’d always been
in the class, there were times recently where it felt like a stretch,
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well, more than just the pleasant stretch it should be. I swore I’d strangle the instructor the next time he called downward facing dog “a resting pose”. On more and more occasions, my “breathing and lengthening” was in danger of becoming holding (in of frustration) and shortening (of temper). Then there was the cash I was burning on all of this. Horrible tasting brown liquid doesn’t come cheap! Especially when half the medical profession would
notice a difference. And while I still told myself every morning that “I am a calm, relaxed person”, I made much more of an effort to feel those words, rather than just say them, and tie them into the other things I was doing to manage stress. So far, it’s working. I think the main realisation I’ve had is that rather than throw a whole bunch of techniques at stress, stress management comes down to a couple of things. Firstly, that our thoughts are just thoughts, not reality. And that to have more control over our lives, we need to be able to control our thoughts
“I’d always been pretty disciplined with physical fitness, but from now on, the focus had to be on mental fitness. “ question if it’s more effective than
better. Although in saying that, it’s pretty easy to sound like a self-
the brown dirt and leaf soup my
development guru, but a lot harder to put into practice.
kids used to mix up with a stick in an ice-cream bucket in the garden. How had I reached this stage? The things that were supposed to help me manage stress were actually having the opposite effect. My stress management strategy was stressing me out! So, for the next couple of weeks, I decided to take things down a
I’m still keeping the meditation going, but doing mainly shorter ones, or a longer one when I feel like I really need some help, like after a Dockers game. Plus, I moved on from The Annoying Ing Meditation Guide. The app I use now has a guide with an Australian accent, who I’m getting on with much better. If only he didn’t pronounce the word you as ya,
notch. I only went to yoga once a week. I didn’t eat brown dirt and
my mind would be able to focus completely on letting my thoughts
leaf soup, but cut down on the naturopathic remedies to see if I could
move on, just like leaves on a gently flowing stream.
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Tanedars
fears
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Expert in the field, Professor Marie-Paule Austin discusses why post natal depression is such a debilitating illness which affects a large number of new mothers.
M
ost new mothers sing the same song. You know the words. It goes, “I had no idea how hard it would be. I’m too tired to even make a cup of tea.” Repeat. that
seems to be seen as the date they should have their baby. Everyone struggles to keep their head above water. But what do you do if you feel like you’re sinking? Professor Marie-Paule Austin is working as a lifesaver for women who are in danger of
Bonding with baby “What we find in most cases is that, even if a mother is able to
going under. She’s the Chair of Perinatal Mental Health at the
provide the practical, day-to-day stuff — like feeding at regular
University of New South Wales and runs the Mother and Baby
intervals, settling the baby and so forth — she’ll more likely be
Unit at St John of God Health Care in Burwood — and she is there
affected in her ability to emotionally care for the baby. “If she’s totally preoccupied with very negative thought
for you. In 2012, a Victorian woman suffering from postnatal depression
patterns, she can’t be in the moment, picking up Baby’s cues.
killed one of her infant twin daughters and left the other brain-
Babies are very communicative, right from the start. They don’t
damaged. It is Marie-Paule’s mission to support women through
have verbal skills, but they’re doing all sorts of things to catch
their darkest hours so that they never feel pushed to such
Mum’s attention and begin that lovely emotional bonding relationship that they need to develop with their
desperate, tragic acts.
primary carer.
Depressed women have a real handicap in the daily business of being a mum. “Depression affects our motivation, our ability to think clearly, to make decisions, and to organise ourselves,” says Marie-Paule. “It reduces energy levels, can impact on sleep and appetite, and is often associated with increased anxiety. It can include low self
If she’s totally preoccupied with very negative thought patterns, she can’t be in the moment, picking up Baby’s cues.
“If Mum’s not able to attend to the much more subtle stuff, then the baby will, over time, learn not to expect that from Mum and will start to look for that from other key caregivers. That’s if the mother’s lucky enough to have one of her parents or in-laws or a partner who can give Baby that emotional input. But these days it’s very often the mother at
esteem, a sense of hopelessness, and thoughts
home on her own with the baby. It’s very isolating.
that life’s not worth living. All of those symptoms
And that will impact on the gradual process of bonding
put together mean that if somebody suffers with a significant depressive episode, their ability to function day-to-day
and attachment that develops in the first year or two of the child’s
will be significantly impacted.”
life.”
Caring for baby
Baby’s future mental health
“Depressed women have difficulty maintaining a routine with
“If the mother is isolated and there’s no one else to take over
the baby. We’ve seen mums who just can’t remember when they
for a while, then that child is more at risk of what we call insecure
last fed the baby or if they put enough spoonfuls in the formula.
attachment patterns. In the more vulnerable, less resilient
So in that sense the mother is not able to tend as well in a practical
offspring, that may translate into an increased risk for their own
way to the baby.”
mental health in future, and their own capacity to engage in meaningful, committed relationships. So depression can definitely have a trans-generational impact.”
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time, because sleep deprivation can send some people literally crazy. If you sleep-deprive someone and isolate them, in some cases they can become psychotic. “Sleep-deprivation is inevitable with a newborn, even in the best circumstances. So we admit the mother and the baby to a Mother–Baby Unit, such as the one we have here in Sydney. We give Mum a period of time where she can catch up on sleep. Sometimes that’s all she needs. “If we’re concerned about depression, what you’re looking for are some key features, like a sense of not being able to enjoy anything. So, even if someone got a good enough sleep and you’d think they’d have a bit more energy to enjoy things, they don’t. They can’t see any point; they can’t see any future. If there’s no sense of hope, no capacity to enjoy any
If the mother is isolated and there’s no one else to take over for a while, then that child is more at risk of what we call insecure attachment patterns.
aspect of their life, then we’re much more likely to think that this could be an episode of depression rather than sleep deprivation or anxiety with a new or unsettled baby. “At the Mother–Baby Unit, about 30 to 40 percent of the babies we see are actually quite unsettled. So we help with the routine, those mother-craft skills that many first-time mums lack — settling and feeding, things that create high levels of anxiety. “We take pregnant and postnatal mums, with their babies up to one year of age, from across the whole Eastern States. Anyone who thinks that they or a relative might need help can ring St John of God Burwood Hospital on 02 9715 9200 for advice.”
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Having a baby? Before you start shortlisting names or preparing the nursery it is important to work out where you are going to bring your bundle of joy into the world. We look into options to consider when it comes to deciding on the right maternity care option for you and your baby.
A maternal choice
By Brooke Evans-Butler
W
hen I walked into my GP’s office (positive pregnancy test in-hand) the first questions I was asked was regarding my choice of maternity care. ‘Congratulations! So, do you have health
insurance? Do you have a preference of obstetrician and hospital?’ I must admit, my head was spinning…I had found out I was going to be a parent an hour prior, and was already being asked about how and where I wanted to have my baby. However, it is a big decision – and is ideally something that you should research even before you get pregnant. But what is the right decision for you? We look into the options – whether you are considering public or private care or a home birth..
Public or private? Dr Gary Swift, Vice President of National Association of Specialist Obstetricians and Gynaecologists (NASOG), says all who are involved in the area of pregnancy and childbirth strive for optimal care and outcomes – however the public and private models are inherently different.
Private care If you choose private care, you get to choose an obstetrician to care for you throughout your pregnancy and for the birth of your child. Dr Swift says private care is based on a one-to-one relationship between the woman and her specialist for antenatal care, detection of problems and ultimately safe and timely delivery. “Personal wishes and concerns are easily addressed when the same clinician is involved at each step,” he says. “This relationship is important equally for the most straightforward and complex of pregnancies. Issues of primary elective Caesarean Section if desired tend to be more easily accommodated in the private sector.” 52
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private cover is that you
Choosing an obstetrician
usually have the option of
An advantage of having
a private room (having a
private care is you can
bathroom to yourself after
choose the obstetrician
birth is always an added
who will be caring for you
bonus!) and many private
throughout your pregnancy.
hospitals give you the option of
“The choice of obstetrician
having your partner stay with
will be an individual
you. The rooms (and meals) are
one and is often based
usually of a higher quality than
on several factors – GP
An advantage of choosing
recommendations, advice
at a public hospital (some rooms are like lovely hotel rooms) as a general rule, allow new mothers
of friends and family and in modern times internet based research
longer stays after birth than public hospitals or some have
probably figure prominently,” Dr Swift says.
arrangements with 5 star hotels for part of the post-partum stay. There is often some out-of-pocket costs associated with private
“Women who have undergone IVF or other assisted reproductive options may stay with the same doctor if it is an
care, so find out your chosen obstetrician’s fee schedule and check
option and many will see the same specialist for gynaecological
with your health cover provider exactly what is covered so you can
issues prior to pregnancy and will have already established
be prepared.
rapport. For some, the gender of the specialist will be important for personal, religious or cultural reasons. Ultimately it will be
Note:
Most private health providers will have a waiting period for obstetrics (pregnancy) of around 12 months, so if you will need to have this option on your health insurance policy in advance (before you get pregnant) if you want private care. (Check with your health insurance provider about their waiting periods).
a personal choice and for a successful professional relationship, issues of personality, trust, experience and professionalism will be foremost. “Some hospitals in capital cities will have a list of accredited specialists so that if the choice of hospital is important they will have to choose one from the list and some may not be available if they have reached capacity and closed their books. “Women in Australia can be confident that specialists who hold the FRANZCOG qualification are suitably trained and
Mother-of-three Monique Wilson chose private care for all
credentialed to provide the highest quality specialist services.
three of her children and says she would highly recommend this
The prices charged may vary but will generally reflect the level of
care option. “I chose to have my baby in a private hospital because
experience and training and the costs of running a private practice
I had cover and liked the idea of having the same obstetrician
in a particular area.”
through my pregnancy and picking one that I felt comfortable with,” she says. “I ended up having my first child six weeks premmie and it was at my obs appointment that the obstetrician picked up an irregular heartbeat. The bill for his stay in hospital was $15,000 and we didn’t pay a cent. I also enjoyed having my own room and we were given a choice from a buffet for all meals. I
Note:
It is important to remember that obstetricians are human too (they take holidays and can get sick) so it is not guaranteed that your chosen obstetrician will be present at your baby’s birth.
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PRIVATE CARE PROS • • •
You have one-on-one care of your chosen obstetrician Many private hospitals offer private rooms so your partner can stay overnight with you Generally, private hospitals allow new mothers to stay longer after the birth of their baby for recovery.
birthing and junior doctors attend for suturing of tears or episiotomies. Trainee specialists provide the majority of services under the supervision of qualified specialists. “Short stays are the norm with home visit services often covering breast feeding issues as
PRIVATE CARE CONS •
primarily care for low risk women for normal
Having a baby at a private hospital is more expensive than in a public hospital (check with your health fund about what you are covered for).
lactation may not have been established before early discharge. Primary elective (maternal request) Caesarean Sections are not usually available in the public system. There is no cost for Public Hospital Services for
Public care “Public hospitals fundamentally have to deliver the best service possible to a larger population within the government prescribed budget,” says Dr Swift. “Hence, antenatal care is delivered in a
Australian Medicare Card holders so
Private Obstetricians must have visiting rights at the hospital where you choose to deliver your baby.
this will be the only affordable option for many, especially without private health insurance.” Jodi O’Callaghan decided on a birthing centre (through a public hospital) for the birth of her daughter. “After falling
clinic format in which a different
pregnant I looked in to my options for birthing
attendant is seen on each occasion
and decided I wanted to be in control of my birth,
and varying levels of qualification from intern to specialist.
with as little intervention as possible,” she says. “I also did a
Specialists tend to see the more complex and high risk cases.
hypnobirthing course to help me overcome any fear of birth and
Long waits are not uncommon in these clinics.
to empower me to bring my daughter in to the world with the help
“Labour and delivery management will depend on level of risk and complexity with staff allocated accordingly. Midwives
“When you go through a Birth Centre you are encouraged
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PUBLIC CARE CONS • • • •
You do not get a choice of carer and often will see many staff throughout your pregnancy and birth Often have shared rooms Partner cannot stay overnight Short hospital stays for the new mother and baby after birth.
PUBLIC CARE PROS • •
•
There is usually no cost when you have your baby through the public system Mothers-to-be with low risk pregnancies may have the option of giving birth at associated birthing centres, adjoined to the hospital Public hospitals usually have lower intervention rates (such as caesareans etc).
“I was in the Birth Centre for no more than three hours and then spent one hour in surgery, under what I found to be excellent to labour at home as much as possible and attempt drug free
care. I was then transferred to a private room in the maternity
if the labour progresses as it should be. That coupled with my
ward where I spent five nights being supported by midwives to
hypnobirthing techniques to draw on meant that by the time I
get the hang of breastfeed and get to know my baby. I had not
got to the Birth Centre I was 8cm dilated. Two and a half hours
requested a private room, so it was a lovely surprise. I received
later my daughter Stella was born! I had some tearing and needed
excellent care from the public system and was not out of pocket
surgery, but I had achieved my birth plan goal of being drug free
for any expenses. If I have another baby, I would not hesitate to go
for the birth.
through the public system again.”
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Choosing a hospital
When choosing a hospital, there are various things to consider including:
Location
Obstretrician Private obstetricians must have visiting rights at the hospital where you choose to deliver your baby. So if you have a preference of obstetrician, this will limit the hospital you can choose from because
The location of your hospital is an important factor (remember
you will have to have your baby at the hospital where the obstetrician
you will be going to various appointments including your
practises.
obstetrician appointments and antenatal classes) – and of course, no one wants a long drive when they are in labour. Some women will choose a hospital close to their workplace (or close to available babysitters for older children). If
Rooms Many private hospitals will have the option of your partner staying with you overnight in a private
Some selected room, but it is best to check the possibility of you are going through the public system, you hospitals offer the this with your hospital if this is important usually cannot choose which hospital you ‘Look @ My Baby’ service. to you. Usually you will share a room in would like to go to – because due to high For a small fee, this service enables a public hospital, although some public demand, some hospitals will only be you to invite family and friends to see hospitals will also offer private rooms, able to accept mothers-to-be who live your baby without even coming to the locally. hospital! Your family (even those interstate or overseas) can see the baby via a secure Facilities Most hospitals offer tours live video stream (straight from a special of their maternity wards, Is labouring in a big bath or birthing ‘cot cam’) to capture those first yawns so take a look around so pool part of your birth plan? If you have and stretches and special moments. you are familiar with the any specific requirements or wishes, To find out more information go to facilities before you are in check with the hospital regarding their www.lookatmybaby.com facilities so you make the right choice.
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but if they do, this is usually dependant on availability.
Home birth Some women choose to give birth at home with the support of a midwife – and Cherie Nixon, coordinator of Homebirth Australia, says being in the comfort of your own home with a good support team can create a calming birth experience. She says being in familiar surroundings can be good pain relief in itself – and at home women can also use a birth pool, TENS machine, massage and natural therapies like aromatherapy. Cherie says choosing a home birth offers great one-on-one care – offering support throughout your pregnancy, labour and birth, as well as postnatal care, with some visits until the baby is six weeks old. “You have your own midwife caring for you throughout your pregnancy – your midwife knows your past
Most midwives recommend a woman book into a hospital prior to the birth, so if in the event the woman needs to be transferred to hospital during the labour, the hospital already has the mother-to-be’s details onhand.
and your medical history. They come to your
Cherie says that word-of-mouth is the best way to find a midwife – however, you can go to the Homebirth Australia website, www. homebirthaustralia.org and find a midwife using their ‘search for a midwife’ search option. Cherie says most midwives recommend a woman book into a hospital prior to the birth, so if in the event the woman needs to be transferred to hospital during the labour,
house for appointments, which is great if you have other children,
the hospital already has the mother-to-be’s details on-hand. It should
and it is a good relationship offering one-on-one care,” she says.
be noted that a midwife cannot administer an epidural or perform a
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caesarean section, so if the mother wants pain relief or if complications arise, they will have to be admitted to hospital and their midwife can go to
HOME BIRTH PROS • • •
hospital with them as a support person. Dr Swift says NASOG does not support home
HOME BIRTH CONS •
birth. “The intrinsic nature of childbirth is that although it is a
You are able to stay in the comfort of your own home You are under the care of a midwife throughout your pregnancy and birth You get to choose who is present at your birth.
•
Aside from natural measures, pain relief (such as an epidural) is not available if you decide you want it If there is an emergency you will have to be transferred to a hospital.
wonderful event for most, it is intrinsically dangerous and unpredictably so in some women,” he says. “Low risk can become
the responsibility to provide this. We know that despite our best
high risk with minimal notice. There are so many potential
efforts adverse outcome occur in hospitals, but we at least have
problems which can occur and lead to the loss of the mother of
the opportunity and potential to rescue adverse events and
baby or both which cannot be reliably predicted or catered for
monitor babies to prevent hypoxic injuries. We know from data
in the out of hospital environment. It is possible to understand
in countries where out-of-hospital births occur that the maternal
the desire of women to birth in an environment which is secure
and neonatal mortality is more than 10 times higher than it is in
and familiar, however the potential for tragedy in NASOG’s view
hospital births. Ultimately it comes down to compromising the
supersedes this.
birth environment for safety for the mother and child.”
“Every child has the right to a safe birth and every mother the right to survive labour and delivery. As clinicians we have
As a nurse, Jackie says choosing a homebirth was an easy decision. “I guess this has come from my experiences
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professionally and my
every part of it, you have
knowledge through
invited people into your
my profession of all
home to help you have
the benefits that come
your baby, as opposed to
with a homebirth,” she
hospital where midwives
says. “It was really very
are assigned to you,
important to me to have
people wander in and
a drug free birth, not
out of the birthing rooms
because I wanted to be
and it can become a bit
perceived as a superhero
of a circus at times, this
or anything other than a
I knew wouldn’t work
woman having a baby, but because of the benefits that a drug-free, natural birth brings. “There are less bonding and breastfeeding issues with mums who have fully connected with their bodies and babies throughout labour. The best place to have a drug-free birth is at home, as there are no temptations to be had. The gas isn’t in the corner as a constant reminder of what you could have, the doctors and midwives are not in your
for me. I knew I needed
At home it is your environment, you are in control of every part of it, you have invited people into your home to help you have your baby, as opposed to hospital where midwives are assigned to you
face saying things like “well the anaesthetist
privacy, quiet and control. And then finally because my partner felt like he could be a bigger part of the experience at home rather than hospital, especially afterwards, he wasn’t going to be rushed out the door because it isn’t visiting hours, he can help care for our new baby in the comfort of our own home and bond with our baby 24/7 like me. “I personally don’t have anything to compare to as this was my first baby but my
is here now so if you think you might want an epidural later you
homebirth water birth was the best experience of my life. I was
best have one now so he doesn’t have to come back!”.
never once scared, I never considered transfer to hospital, I never
“Also at home it is your environment, you are in control of
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All the actual birthing experiences were all pretty much the same, I never saw a difference in care at that stage. I preferred private to public after birth though. In the private hospitals there was more ‘luxury’ (bigger rooms, bigger beds, carpeted floors, a small fridge and my own tea making facility). health cover long before I started having children.” Angela’s first child Aiden, was born via caesarean section at a private hospital. For her second child, Charlotte, she changed doctors (at another private hospital) so she could try for a VBAC. With her third, Elizabeth, she was living rurally and chose to give birth at the local public hospital. For her fourth baby, Bryce, Angela chose to go back to the private hospital where Charlotte was born, so she could be closer to her family.
Did you know? Each year, over 75,000 women give birth in Victorian hospitals, with three quarters of these births in the public system.
“All the actual birthing experiences were all pretty much the same,” she says. “I never saw a difference in care at that stage. I preferred private to public after birth
Source Department of Health & Human Services, State Government of Victoria
though. In the private hospitals there was more ‘luxury’ (bigger rooms, bigger beds, carpeted floors, a small fridge and
The power of choice No matter what care option you choose for you and your baby it is important that you are happy and comfortable, so if you
any time was important. I also felt a bit lost and forgotten at the public. “At the allocated rest hours the nurses would sit and chat at
are not happy with your experience you can change hospitals,
the nurses’ station, which wouldn’t allow me to sleep. I left the
obstetricians or switch between private and public care for
hospital after a day and a half because I felt I would get better
subsequent pregnancies.
care at home with cups of teas from my husband but stayed all my
You might choose to switch between private and public for
allowed days in the private hospitals. As the birthing experience
subsequent pregnancies if:
was no different I would advise women to only go private if
• Your health insurance waiting period is over (you might want
the aftercare is important to them. The nursing and medical
to go for private care if the reason you chose public care for a
staff do their best no matter what hospital so that to me isn’t a
previous pregnancy was because of the waiting period).
consideration.”
• If you had a caesarean for your first baby and want to try for a vaginal birth after caesarean (a VBAC). Not all obstetricians
Your support person
will recommend trying for a VBAC, and may recommend you
The person you choose to be your support partner during the
go to a public hospital or to try another obstetrician.
birth is also an important part of your maternity care choice. Your
Mother-of-four Angela Davies has experienced private and
options include:
public care – choosing a private hospital for her children Aiden (6), Charlotte (4) and Bryce (10 months), and a public hospital for her daughter, Elizabeth (2). “The main reason for my original feeling about wanting to go
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my own tea making facility). Being able to make my own tea at
Partner or family member/friend Many women will choose to have their partner as their birth support person. However, if you do not have a partner, if for
private was seeing my sisters have their children,” Angela says.
any reason your partner cannot be there (because of work
“My oldest sister went public for her second child because they
commitments, travel, illness etc) or if you and your partner feel
couldn’t afford the health insurance and I remember her saying
like you would be better supported with someone else present,
she found sharing a room was not pleasant. While she always
you can choose to have someone else at the birth. A mother, sister
went to the feeding room to feed to keep the noise down for her
or close friend are great options – if you think they are someone
roommate – her roommate wouldn’t and her baby cried a lot.
who will be a calming influence and be supportive of you.
“So my impression of birthing was that it was amazing and if
Sometimes a woman may want more than one support person (for
you wanted you could pay for things that would make it easier to
example her partner and her mother), so check with your hospital
transition in to motherhood such as a private room. I also didn’t
about how many support people are able to accompany you (often
like the idea of healing and having boobs out and having to try and
if you are having a caesarean only one support person will be able
be quiet for others if I was sharing a room. So I paid for private
to accompany you into theatre).
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Midwifery student This involves a midwifery student attending some antenatal appointments with you, being present at your baby’s birth and seeing you in the days/weeks after the birth. For the midwifery student, attending appointments and the birth offers invaluable experience and, for the mother-to-be, offers another support. You can enquire about having a midwifery student join you for your pregnancy and birth experience, by contacting the School of Nursing and Midwifery at Curtin University, Notre Dame University or Edith Cowan University. If you decide you do not want a student to be present at the birth after all, you can opt out of the program at any time.
Doula A doula (or birth attendant) is a non-medical person offering support to parents throughout pregnancy and birth. A doula does not give medical advice or perform any medical procedures, but can assist a labouring woman and her partner with non-medical ways to calm and comfort, such as massage and breathing. To find a doula or for more information, go to the Australian Doula College website, www.australiandoulacollege.com.au
Having a baby in Sydney? Here are some options: Sydney Adventist Hospital – The maternity unit and aims to offer a home-like atmosphere for new mothers. The new maternity unit features 56 private rooms with en suites and day beds for partners and nine birthing rooms (two birthing rooms feature birthing pools for water births). Royal Prince Alfred Hospital, Camperdown – Royal Prince Alfred Hospital is a public hospital, offering a birth centre for low to medium risk women to give birth in a home-like environment. Westmead Private Hospital (West Sydney) – Westmead Private Hospital offers all of maternity patients the guarantee of a private room following the birth of their baby. All private rooms also have en suites. The hospital also features six birthing suites featuring large en suites. A special care nursery (level 2) is available if your baby requires. North Shore Private Hospital – North Shore Private features seven modern birthing suites and has a special care nursery. They also have a ‘Helping Hands Mother and Baby Support’ service, where mothers can make an appointment with a mothercraft nurser or lactation consultant for advice for babies up to 12 months in age. Royal Hospital for Women – Each year, this hospital, which is rich in history, as the first women’s hospital in NSW since 1820, welcomes more than 4,200 babies. The hospital offers a range of options for your care during pregnancy. Mater Hospital – This private hospital guarantees private rooms for its new mothers and welcomes over 2500 babies every year. Luxury Family Suites are available for eligible patients. The hospital also has a level 2 special care nursery if your baby requires. Go to www.matermaternity.com.au Prince of Wales Private Hospital – The rooms in this private hospital feature an en suite bathroom and wide screen television. An additional option at this hospital is the option to recuperate at the Crowne Plaza Coogee Beach after approval by your obstetrician and paediatrician
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Specialised
care for new mums
A new birth is usually a time of excitement and happiness but for some it brings up concerns about abilities to cope.
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ith proper support and treatment, most women will recover fully from the symptoms of perinatal depression
and anxiety. The Mother and Baby Unit at St John of God Burwood provides specialist care from doctors, psychologists, Mothercraft nurses and parent-infant therapists for mums and babies in a purposebuilt, home-like environment. Mothers can stay with their babies up to the age of 12 months and partners can stay overnight for a nominal charge. They help mums and babies bond, and infants develop a secure attachment to their primary carer as well as providing assistance with sleep and feeding issues. Upon discharge mums can continue with group sessions which include cognitive behavioural therapy, attachment-based groups, anxiety
Up to 20 per cent of new mums experience mental health issues in the first 12 months after birth.
management, mindfulness, Mothercraft groups, relaxation and art therapy. Up to 20 per cent of new mums experience mental health issues in the first 12 months after birth. If you have concerns that you or someone you know has postnatal depression consult a doctor urgently. A GP referral letter is required for admission to the Mother and Baby Unit. Most health insurance funds cover the
cost of these programs depending on the level of individual cover.
Research tells us... SYMPTOMS
1in 5 women experience a mental health issue within the 1st year after child birth.1
For more information on the referral process please contact:
T: 02 9715 9200
T: 02 9715 9200
Feeling sad, anxious, angry, lonely or hopeless Not bonding with baby Inability to cope or make decisions Sense of panic Distressing thoughts Sleep and appetite disturbances Exhaustion
TREATMENT With proper support and treatment most women recover fully. Holistic practical and psychological support from a perinatal specialist team is vital. Contact St John of God Burwood Hospital specialist inpatient and outpatient services.
1. Gavin N, Gaynes B, Lohr K, Meltzer- Brody S, Gartlehner G, & Swinson T, (2005) Perinatal depression: A systematic review of prevalence and incidence. Obstetrics and Gynecology, 106 (5, Pt. 1), 1071–1083
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Beautiful birthing at Hawkesbury District Health Service
The birth of a baby is a joyous experience for new parents. Each mother and newborn has different expectations and care requirements, which is why Hawkesbury District Health Service has a comprehensive suite of maternity services providing outstanding personalised care.
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passionate team of midwives, obstetricians, paediatricians and anaesthetists, who are available 24/7, ensuring the smoothest of birthing experiences for every mother and baby. The Maternity Unit’s Special Care Nursery is equipped with
he Hospital’s Maternity Unit welcomes more than 800 births
specialist equipment for newborns needing a little extra support.
per year and includes:
Breastfeeding support is always on-hand too for mothers and
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New Obstetrics Team
•
Antenatal and Postnatal Wards
•
Birthing Suites
stay and after discharge from hospital, and include tailored parent
•
Midwifery-led Antenatal Clinics
education, communal breakfasts with infant education sessions
babies with the sometimes challenging task of breastfeeding. Various support services are available to parents during their
•
Obstetric and High-Risk Pregnancy Clinics
and a Midwifery@Home Service for mothers discharging early
•
Special Care Nursery
from hospital.
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Breastfeeding Support
•
Raphael Services
St John of God Health Care’s renowned Raphael Service is now available to parents and families affected by anxiety, stress or
These maternity services integrate to provide well-rounded, high-level and compassionate care to mothers and their
depression during and after pregnancy. Be sure to visit Hawkesbury District Health Service for a
newborns. Supporting each birth is a highly experienced and
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Our midwives, obstetricians, and special care nurses are all on hand to support you from conception to birth and well beyond. To find out about ensuring your own experience is as smooth as it can be, visit: www.sjog.org.au/hawkesbury
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PARENTING
Get moving to learn By Wendy Muller, Ngala Practice Consultant
Children experience the world through their senses and express their intelligence through physical activities. While children’s knowledge of the world is at first limited by a lack of movement, as they develop physically, so too do their brains.
or young children, active play – particularly unstructured
F
The vestibular sense helps our body handle movement and
free play outdoors – provides many benefits, most notably
is the main organiser of all sensory input. Receptors in the inner
the development of social, language and intellectual skills.
ear give us important information about movement, gravity and
The combined roles of senses, coordination and movement all
vibration. Every time your child moves his head, crawls, uses a
play very important parts in the development of a child’s brain.
swing, jumps up and down, runs around in circles or rolls down
Senses
We are perhaps more familiar with the senses of smell, taste,
a grassy slope, for example, his vestibular receptors receive stimulation. The vestibular system helps with many tasks and abilities, such as bending over to pick something off the floor,
visual (seeing), auditory (hearing) and touch. However we also
walking, maintaining seated posture during class, and staying
have two additional senses – the proprioceptive and vestibular
attentive.
senses. These senses, once integrated, form an important foundation for later intellectual abilities. Proprioception, for example, is responsible for telling us
Coordination
Motor coordination is the control that infants and children have
where our body parts are without us having to look at them. This
over their movements that help them master their environment.
awareness relies on receptors in the various parts of the body,
Normally gross motor coordination develops first, followed by
such as joints, muscles, and connective tissues, and allows us to
fine motor coordination. Gross motor coordination involves using
develop an internal body map, which helps us complete many
the larger muscles and joints in overall body movements such as
different tasks such as reading, writing, buttoning our shirt and
crawling, standing and walking.
being able to sit on a chair without falling off. We can strengthen
Fine motor coordination involves the refined movements of
this sense by encouraging our toddler to push a pram, bang on
smaller muscle groups and joints, such as wrists and fingers. Each
pots and pans, and throw balls.
motor skill is a building block for the next more coordinated and
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refined movement. For example, a fine motor task such as grasping requires that head and shoulder postural control has developed and is active while the child reaches and grasps at the same time.
Movement and strength Strong tummies and backs allow
for good trunk control, necessary for sitting upright at a desk or even when sitting on the floor. Providing young babies with supervised tummy time is the start of developing this core strength. Physical endurance is crucial to help children pay attention for the duration of the school day, rather
the brain. The left side of the brain controls
than tiring out by lunch time. Strong
the right side of your body, so when you move
shoulders are vital in providing a solid
the opposite arm and leg you are stimulating
base from which the arm and hand can
your brain to develop more neural pathways.
perform precision movements (e.g.
Crawling, for example, improves the left-right
writing, cutting, and typing).
brain integration and helps develop balance,
Movement helps brain function
strengthen muscle tone and develop hand-eye
by improving the interconnections
coordination.
between the left and the right side of
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Sipahh has 18 delicious flavours to choose from its online store and, with less than 1/2 a teaspoon of sugar per straw, kids can try a few different flavours and fill up on nourishing milk without being over-hyped.
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The National Physical Activity Recommendations for Children Birth to Five Years (2013) recommend that: F or healthy development in the first year, encourage physical activity – particularly supervised floor-based play in safe environments (tummy time). For the first six months, physical activity includes reaching for and grasping objects and turning the head toward stimuli such as the sound of your voice. From six to 12 months, your baby learns basic movement skills such as crawling, pulling up to a standing position, creeping while using an object for support, and finally walking. T o promote movement, provide colourful and moving mobiles that they can reach and grasp or kick with their feet. Play with your child on the floor and encourage them to “come and get” toys within crawling or reaching distance. Provide them with opportunities to play with large blocks, stacking toys, nesting cups, textured balls, and squeeze toys. T oddlers (one to three years of age) should be physically active every day for at least three hours, spread throughout the day. Physical activity includes active play, learning to run, jump and gallop; the development of some stability skills such as balancing and climbing; and
control skills such as kicking, catching, throwing and rolling. rovide them with a variety of movement activities P that introduce basic gross motor skills such as striking, kicking, catching and bouncing balls of different sizes and shapes. Give your toddlers a variety of objects they can manipulate, such as building blocks, rings, and large puzzles. Encourage them to develop their fine motor skills by allowing them to scribble and draw with crayons and pencils. I nfants, toddlers and preschoolers should not be sedentary, restrained or kept inactive, for more than one hour at a time, with the exception of sleeping. lways remember that each child is unique and will learn A best within loving relationships, when they have had adequate nutrition and sleep.
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School’s In Choosing a school for your child is a big decision – so how to you ensure you make the right choice for your child? BY BROOKE EVANS-BUTLER
A
ll parents want the same thing from their child’s school – for their child to be happy, learn and thrive in a supportive environment. There are many wonderful
government schools but there are many other options available, from schools providing a religious-based education, to schools that have a teaching philosophy that differs from the mainstream. Do your research and talk to the schools and other parents to help make your decision – and remember that you know your child best so you will make the best decision for your child and family. We take a look at the range of schooling options available
some choice when it comes to choosing a Government school for
for your consideration.
your child. If you wish to enrol your child in a government school that is outside of your local government school zone or district
GOVERNMENT/PUBLIC According to ABS Schools Australia, in 2015, 65.2 per cent of
(for example, you might wish to enrol your child in a school that is close to a grandparent’s house or to your workplace) you can apply – but a place is not guaranteed.
students in Australia attended government schools, while 34.8 per cent of students attended non-government schools. If you want to enrol your child into a local government school,
In addition to your options if you are considering government schooling, there are also independent public schools, which are government schools that have increased autonomy to make
you should note that each school has an ‘enrolment zone’, so
decisions at a local level. Like government schools, independent
you will have to check which school zone your address falls into.
public schools do not charge tuition fees to parents or have
However, even with these school zones in place you do still have
Why I chose a public school for my child For Mel Hearse, the choice to send her boys Max and Sam to her local government school was an easy one because she says they live in a great school district. “We plan to send them onto the high school as well as we are lucky enough to be in the school district for a high school with a lot of quality programs that many kids apply for out of district, so there was no need to get them into a feeder private school in primary school,” she says. “If we weren’t living here and guaranteed a spot at the high school, I would have explored more private schools but as we do, it became unnecessary.”
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selective enrolment processes.
INDEPENDENT According to the Independent Schools Council of Australia, in 2015, the Independent school sector enrolled 586,800 students – (that is 16 per cent of total school enrolments in Australia). The independent sector represents a large range of schools including Christian, non-denominational Christian schools, Jewish, Steiner, Montessori, Islamic and Community schools “For parents, the wide range of independent schools means they have more say on the type of education they want for their child,” says Valerie
Why I chose a christian school for my child
Gould, executive director of the Association of Independent Schools of Western Australia. Dr Geoff Newcombe, executive director of the Association of Independent Schools of NSW, says
Karen Morton chose a small private Christian school for her girls Laura and Emily. “Although we do not practise religion at home, we do believe in Christian values and are happy for our children to learn about God. We love the close ‘family’ atmosphere that our school has, and the smaller class sizes mean more individual attention for students. While we understand that there are always going to be some bad influences wherever they go, we think that in a Christian school they are far more likely to learn in a gentle and positive environment.”
parents often choose an independent school because the school’s ethos and values reflect those held in the home. “This may relate to the religious faith or other cultural factors that are important to the family. For students, a significant element of an independent school education is the focus on pastoral care provided by many schools, which helps to develop a very strong sense of community and inclusion for students and their families.” “Many independent schools also provide a very wide range of subject choices or extracurricular activities, such as music, drama and
STEINER
sports programs,” he says. “Another significant attraction of independent schools is that many are
Tracey Puckeridge, CEO Steiner Education Australia, says every
combined K to 12 schools –allowing a student to
school has to meet the same curriculum requirements – the
start and finish their entire schooling in the same
difference with Steiner schools is the way they teach. In the early childhood sector, experience is based on play in a
school.” For information on independent schools,
Steiner school. The children do not use computers or iPads, but
go to The Independent Schools Council of
learn through imitation. All toys are made from natural materials
Australia’s website, www.isca.edu.au
and the space is set up like a home environment.
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Why I chose a steiner school for my child Karen Lacey spent a lot of time researching different styles of teaching and decided on a Steiner school for her daughter Chimaera for a number of reasons. For starters, the sense of community was something Karen wanted for her children. “We don’t have a very large extended family and after moving lost regular contact with most of our friends. The Steiner school lifestyle seemed (and has so far proven to be) almost like joining a family. It’s a holistic approach that is not just about learning, but a way of life in which cooperation and contribution is promoted and relied upon, freely given and never demanded. I wanted my daughter to grow up feeling like she is part of something bigger than just herself and her immediate family because I believe that tie, which exists for everyone but seems so rarely felt, is crucial to positive mental health and wellbeing.” Karen says this is particularly important to her because Chimaera is on the autism spectrum. In addition, because Chimaera is face blind, Karen felt that having a class teacher that stays with the child throughout their schooling instead of changing every year was a great advantage.
Mindful education at John Colet J Limited places for2018, 2016 2019 Enrolling now for
K-6 co-educational, multi-faith school 6 Wyatt Avenue, Belrose, NSW 2085 Telephone: 9451 8395 www.johncolet.nsw.edu.au
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ohn Colet School has many unique factors that have proven over time to be of great benefit and which contribute to the school’s ethos and the character of the children. Mindfulness, stillness and meditation are part of the school’s approach where children pause and reflect on their learning. Similarly, the study of classical languages and Shakespeare lift the students’ capacity across the board. Finally, high expectations in etiquette, respect and truthfulness flow through all aspects of school life. See the school in action at an Information Tour on Tuesday 14th June at 9.30am.
Pre-kindy programs
In Western Australia, it is becomi ng popular to enrol your child in pre-kindy or ‘three-year-old kindy’ programs. These privatel y-run programs offer a gentle introduction to scho oling and many parents believe they give their children a head start in their schooling life. Note: some non-government schools offer three-year-old programs, but your child attendin g this program does not mean you automaticall y have a place in kindergarten or pre-primary at that school – you still have to ensure you put in you r enrolment application forms.
usually be asked to attend an interview. You do not have to be Catholic to attend a Catholic school, but enrolment priority is usually given to Catholic students. However, Catholic schools are very inclusive, so ask your local school about
Why I chose a catholic school for my child “The curriculum is based on the developmental needs of the children in each year to engage the child at each stage of their development,” Tracey says.
their enrolment procedures. According to Ross, Catholic schools focus on the development of the whole child. “They are more than just test results,” he says. “Catholic schools strive to meet the unique
Aimee Waller says she will be sending her son, Riley, to a local Catholic school. “We are Catholic and I like the community spirit of a Catholic school,” she says. “I am a Catholic school teacher as well so that helped make the decision.”
“A unique feature of Steiner education is that children will have the same teacher throughout their primary years,” Tracey says. “This creates the opportunity for strong relationships between teacher, student and the student’s family. One of the highest indications for excellent learning outcomes involves positive student/teacher relationships.” For information on Steiner schools, go to
needs of every individual student.” “Catholic schools are animated by the mission and tradition of the Catholic Church stretching over more than 2000 years,” Ross adds. “In their work they exhibit a deep commitment to
Christian values, the example of Jesus Christ and his teachings. This means Catholic schools, among other things, often display a deep commitment to social justice and prioritise the needs of their local community.” For more details about Catholic schooling, go to www.ncec.catholic.edu.au
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CATHOLIC
MONTESSORI The Montessori philosophy is different to ‘mainstream’ education,
According to the National Catholic Education Commission,
with an emphasis on independence, by providing an environment
more than 760,000 students are attending Catholic schools in
of activities for children to use at their own pace.
2016. Ross Fox, executive director of the National Catholic
Christine Harrison, president Montessori Australia Foundation, says Montessori thinks about the whole child.
Education Commission, says Catholic schools are very inclusive.
“Our view of education is as an aid to life – to help them grow
“In recent years the fastest growing student groups in Catholic
from childhood to maturity. Each child is individual… and we
education have been indigenous students and students with
encourage each child to follow their own path of learning.”
special needs,” he says. If you want to enrol in a Catholic school, you must contact
Children are in classes of ‘multi-age’ groups. For example, children aged three to six years will be in the same class.
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Christine says children work to their ability with sets of materials in a prepared environment, and allowing children to work to their own capabilities adds to their concentration and self-esteem, and encourages them to think creatively and independently. “Montessori has been around for over 100 years and it is proven to help the whole child in a holistic way,” she says. She recommends parents go to a Montessori school to see for themselves the philosophy in action and to see how Montessori can benefit their child. Christine also says there are also Montessori long day care centres with programs for babies and toddlers, which may appeal to parents of younger
Why I chose a montessori school for my child Eva Schmalkuche was a Montessori student herself, so with fond memories of her time there, it was a simple decision to send her son Jaxon to a Montessori school. “I like that the class sizes are much smaller with a mix of ages, so the older students help the younger students,” she says. “Their philosophy is attractive because it allows the child to choose what they want to do, and they learn things other than the curriculum including sharing, socialising with older students and responsibility.” “There is a lot of misperception surrounding Montessori – but it’s a fantastic grounding,” Eva says. “Why not give it a try? Parents considering Montessori should not fear something that is not main stream – the Montessori community is open for discussion and is very welcoming.”
children who want to get a taste for the Montessori philosophy. For more information go to www.montessori.org.au
HOME SCHOOLING In Victoria, to start prep (the first year of primary school), a child needs to turn five by the 30th of April of the year they start school. It is compulsory that a child be at school the year they turn six. For more information about school age requirements and for further details about schooling in Victoria, go to www.education.vic.gov.au and check with your chosen school about their enrolment requirements.
Parents are the first educators of their children – so why not consider home schooling and extend this important role to their everyday schooling? Stuart Chapman, director of Homeschool WA, says parents chose home schooling for a number of reasons including: • Bullying. • Not being happy with the academic progress of their
child at school. • Concerns about behaviour. • Concerns with the
Realise his potential, passions & purpose T
rinity Grammar School understands the importance of making a good beginning and providing the foundation steps in a comprehensive allround education. Trinity is committed to knowing and caring for every boy and giving them the best possible start to their school life. Parents are offered a choice of two campuses — the Preparatory School at Strathfield (Pre-K-6) and the Junior School at Summer Hill (K-6). The boys’
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needs at either location are met by a differentiated, inquirybased curriculum, delivered by motivated, creative and caring classroom teachers, using exceptional facilities and resources. Pre-Kindergarten offered only at Strathfield is the launching pad from which your son’s exciting journey in education begins. Bridging the gap between childcare and formal education, it provides a critical foundational year, preparing boys for their first formal year of School – Kindergarten. At the core of Trinity’s curriculum is the International Baccalaureate Primary Years Programme (PYP) which guides
boys to become independent inquiry learners. The PYP, for students from Pre-Kindergarten to Year 6, focuses on the development of the whole child, in the classroom and also in the world outside. It offers a framework that meets the academic, social, physical, emotional and cultural needs of each child. It gives your son ownership of his learning to develop his research and critical thinking skills. These primary years at Trinity will guide your son to grow in mind, body and spirit, in an environment where he is at the centre of his learning experiences. For more info visit www.trinity. nsw.edu.au.
friends who may question a parent’s ability on being able to educate their child.” However, he says the advantages are many. Although some people worry about the opportunity for home schooled children to socialise with other children, Stuart says home schooled children learn better social skills because they interact with children and adults of different ages instead of only their same-age peers in the school yard. There are also advantages to the child’s education, including the opportunity for increased parent/child interaction and ensuring your child gets lots of one-on-one attention. “A parent is a highly motivated educator,” he says. “A teacher is a paid employee who will never make the sacrifices a parent will. Parents will always make the extra effort.” For details, go to www.homeschoolwa.com.au or the Home Schooling contact in your state.
culture of the school. • Deciding to home school their child with a learning difficulty. Stuart says there is a lot of support available for parents wanting to take the plunge, however, they need to consider the time they can commit. “Home education involves a huge commitment on (the parent’s) behalf,” he says. “In some cases they will need to drop, reduce or reschedule work commitments, and they need to come to grips with some negative attitudes from family and
Why i chose home schooling for my child Nancy Van Ross decided to home school daughter Mackenzie when Mackenzie developed Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). She now also home schools her son, Pheonix. “Initially the adjusting period was quite intense as I had a young baby who wasn’t keen on sleeping at the time, however after a couple of months things really started to fall into place,” she says. “Our family loves the flexibility of home schooling and how it caters for each child individually. If parents are considering it to take the plunge my only advice is to let your children be your guide, work at their pace and with their interests. We love the home schooling lifestyle and are thrilled we took the plunge.”
FINDING OUT MORE INFORMATION A great way to find out about a school is to go see it in the flesh. ‘Open days’, conducted by some schools, offer an opportunity to view its resources and meet staff. If you can, talk to parents of students already attending the school that you are considering. Of course, not everyone is going to have the same opinion of a school, but speaking to a few parents is a good way to get a feel of the school culture. Go to the My School website, www.myschool.edu.au – This website enables you to search profiles of schools, as well as statistical information and resources and performance indicators.
MAKING A DECISION There are so many school options, so you ensure you do your research and ask lots of questions to ensure you make the best decision for your child. Some things to consider include: • Location. As in real estate, location is very important when choosing a school. If the best school choice for your child is the government school across the road from your house, then that will be very convenient! If your preferred school is further afield,
you will need to take into consideration travel time and public transport (if required). • The school’s uniform requirements. • If your child has a special interest, such as music, sport or languages. Ask the school what programs they offer. • The school’s policies on homework and bullying. • The cost. The expense of uniforms, fees or additional costs can vary greatly between schools so it is best to find out these details when enquiring about enrolment to ensure they fit within your budget. When you put in your application to a school, you may need the following: • Your child’s birth certificate • Proof of address • Court orders (if applicable) • Emergency contacts • Immunisation records If your child has any medical conditions, allergies or special requirements it is important to tell the school. Note: If you want to enrol your child into a private school, call the school for their enrolment requirements. Also ask how far in advance you will need to submit your child’s enrolment application – some parents will put their child’s name down at prestigious or in-demand schools when their child is a newborn!
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Bonjour! Learn French at the Alliance Francaise de Sydney
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he world’s most renowned French language and cultural institution, the Alliance Française de Sydney, offers a wide range of French lessons and courses for all levels and ages in the CBD and the Dougherty Community Centre in Chatswood. The Alliance is a world leader in teaching French courses to adults and applies the same expertise to children’s courses, from the age of four. Courses for kids and teenagers provide the opportunity to learn French through a stimulating program, teaching children to communicate in French through games, songs and a variety of hands-on French activities.
Enrolling now for 2018 Sydney Grammar School St Ives Preparatory School Frequently asked questions Can I see the school at work? Regular tours are held throughout the year. Please contact Louisa Schwartz on 8302 5218, or email les@sydgram.nsw.edu.au What age can my son enter? The main points of entry are Preschool, Kindergarten, Year 3 and a small intake in Year 5 Do you have a school bus? Yes, we have a dedicated bus which covers a large area of the North Shore
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11–21 Ayres Road, St Ives NSW 2075 Telephone +61 2 8302 5200 www.sydgram.nsw.edu.au/stives
Girls are valued and cared for at Roseville
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oseville College, an independent school for 800 girls in Kindergarten to Year 12, is located on Sydney’s North Shore. Reputed among NSW’s top schools, Roseville College ranked 27th in NSW in the 2015 HSC. Founded in 1908 and considered among the region’s more established schools, Roseville College’s staff is committed to ensuring each girl is valued and cared for as they engage in a high quality and balanced education; where individual needs are catered for through differentiated curriculum and where areas of personal interest are fostered as girls express wonder and curiosity in their learning – from their first day of Kindergarten, to their final Year 12 examination.
Our girls are given opportunities to flourish as learners through a dynamic academic program that promotes curiosity and wonder. Foundational skills are taught, giving the girls a solid basis upon which to build, as they confidently engage in learning, and develop into articulate and independent young women who embrace life’s opportunities with enthusiasm and passion.
PERSONALISED TOURS
AT ROSEVILLE COLLEGE, girls from Kindergarten to Year 12 engage in enriching learning experiences that challenge and empower them to pursue and attain their personal best in all areas of life. A school within the Anglican Schools Corporation
Tours with our Registrar, tailored to your daughter’s specific needs and interests, are held weekdays during term time. To book your appointment, please call 9884 1109 or email registrar@roseville.nsw.edu.au. Ranked among NSW’s top schools, Roseville College has been transforming the lives of girls for more than 108 years.
27 Bancroft Avenue, Roseville P 02 9884 1100 | E registrar@roseville.nsw.edu.au
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Creatively inspired By Lauren Graham Bach. Lib. Stud. Grad. Dip. Counselling, Pacific Hills Christian School | School Counsellor (Middle and Senior School)
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o you have a confession to make? Could you easily spend all day drawing, colouring or painting? Perhaps your children have their art supplies… but you also have your own? You’re not alone in your secret passion. Adults everywhere are putting down their phones and picking up their pencils to colour in.
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In our tech-savvy world, perhaps we are yearning for the simplicity of childhood, when colouring in was an acceptable way to pass the time. Every parent knows, it’s a process that can’t be Lauren has worked at rushed! It requires attention, fine Pacific Hills for 11 years motor skills and concentration. and has two children, Today we all feel “time poor”; daughter 8 and son 5. stress levels are rising as we push ourselves harder and mental health issues are increasing. It’s important that we slow down. Be creative. But, perhaps the thought of putting pen to paper leaves you cold? Colouring-in is just not your cup of tea? If so, what would cause you to slow down and create? Think about it. The point is less about what you create, and more about the process of creation itself. It takes time to create. Time where things run at a different pace. It’s a process that can help decrease stress and improve wellbeing, for young and old alike. For more information contact mstubbs@pacifichills.net
The importance of learning in early years A
ny parent will tell you that babies start learning the minute they open their eyes in the delivery room. We delight in watching our children learn concepts such as colours, numbers, animals, and shapes before they have even started school. But learning is about so much more than knowledge – from their early years, children also learn how to act towards others, and regulate their own emotions. This is called social and emotional learning, and it is vital for healthy development. “Children are like little sponges,” says Sally Harrison, the Early Learning Officer at the Catholic Schools Diocese of Broken Bay, which covers 37 primary schools in Northern Sydney and the New South Wales Central Coast. “Parents are their first role models. They watch everything we do, pick up on all of our
interactions, and learn.” Social and emotional learning covers everything from building empathy for others, sharing, reading social cues, and regulating strong emotions like anger, anxiety and sadness. It is essential that children are able to do these things in order to become fully-functional adults. Sally said that by the time kids get to school, much of their social and emotional character is already formed. “That’s why the learning that happens in the early years is so important.” The Catholic Schools Office also launched pop-up Play To Learn playgroups, which are held twice a term at primary schools across the diocese.
BELONG. BECOME. Broken Bay Community of Catholic Schools Fostering a sense of belonging and enabling students to be all they can be. Contact your local school for enrolments or visit csodbb.catholic.edu.au
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Discover the difference. Foundation for Life M
ost schools offer an education system that was designed for 19th century industrialism. These systems were not formed to develop everyone’s talents but rather to promote those with certain abilities, in the interests of the industrial economies they served. Kamaroi Steiner School believes our children’s future, both economically
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and culturally, lies in a different direction. In order to equip students to meet the demands of the 21st century, Kamaroi strives to deliver an education that prepares children to be creative, flexible and innovative adults. This is achieved through a balanced approach to learning. Alongside a very high standard of academic education, their curriculum places great importance on imagination and creativity and fully engages feelings, will and intellect. A Kamaroi education is designed to instill confidence in self and to provide a sense of social and environmental responsibility.
Based on the Steiner principles, Kamaroi offers a nurturing environment to address the changing needs and capabilities of its students at each stage of their development and their teaching methods ensure deep and rounded learning. Kamaroi’s mission, to provide ‘A foundation for life’, is underpinned by core values — Connection, Initiative and Imagination. These influence everything they do at Kamaroi and allow children to develop imagination, as well as their own personal, ethical and social qualities. www.kamaroi.nsw.edu.au
A First in Australia as Barker launches zSpace A
new concept in immersive learning has been introduced at Barker Col-lege, with Junior School students the first to experience this ultimate virtual reality learning envi-ronment. zSpace, as it is known, was launched this year to Prep and Junior School students, who were amazed at the 3D worlds they were able to explore and excited to think that Barker was the first school in Australia to introduce this new technology. Year 6 students, Finn and Ethan, who were two of the first to explore zSpace said, “this technology is amazing! It’s unlocking a whole new world of education for us. There are endless possibilities for what we can now do in the classroom.” Through the financial support of the Barker Foundation, the installation of zSpace will benefit students across the school, through a new way of learning in a virtual reality learning environment where anything is pos-sible. Barker College continues to defy the trends when it comes to students undertaking STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering, Maths) subjects. The new zSpace will further equip Barker’s students with cutting edge technology and immerse them in an authentic setting.
The installation of this virtual reality environment allows students to ma-nipulate gravity, freeze time, reverse a chemical reaction, explore inside the brain and even dissect a frog! Further information: Julie McAllister, Community Engagement Co-ordinator – 9847 8207
Inspiring
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a r O ld s For 4 YeOpen Now A dynamic, motivating learning environment for four-year-olds. Regular tours run every term, book online at www.barker.nsw.edu.au/enrolments
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FOOD & NUTRITION
Lean
food on a lean budget Find out how you can keep your family eating healthy food without breaking the budget.
BY KATE BULLEN
FOODcents
l Spend most on fruits, vegetables, legumes, breads, plain cereals. FOODcents recommends that 60% of the food budget be spent on these foods.
Spend moderately on lean meat, chicken, fish, eggs, dairy, nuts. FOODcents recommends that 30% of the food budget be spent on these foods. l
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Spend least on foods with little nutrition – these are usually high in sugar, salt and/or fat including crisps, chocolate, biscuits, cordial, soft drink and alcohol. FOODcents recommends that only 10% of the food budget be spent on these foods.
Check unit pricing of food* Snacks: l Bananas - $3/kg l Sultanas - $12/kg l Muesli bars - $18.90/kg l Chocolate bar - $30/kg Potatoes: l Fresh potatoes - $2.99/kg l Frozen fries - $4.19/kg l Potato crisps - $17.80/kg *All pricing correct at time of publication
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Breakfast Cereal: l Rolled oats - $4/kg l Weetbix - $4/kg l Rice Bubbles - $9.90/kg l Nutrigrain - $12.60/kg l Crunchy Nut Clusters - $13.30/kg Drinks: Coca Cola - $1.40/litre l Bottled still water l
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here is research to confirm that healthy eating does cost more – but not a lot more. Research from Harvard School of Public Health shows that it costs around $1.50 more
per day to eat a healthy diet – and while this is an American figure, it is indicative. As a mum and dietitian, I am forever frustrated by the big fast food chains who offer budget-friendly food which I am sure is contributing to two out of three adults now being overweight or obese. When meal deals for two people are $11.95 (two burgers, two fries and two soft drinks), I can see how this is appealing to a family who are time poor and have hungry kids in the back seat. But however attractive these deals appear, they come at a cost. Research shows that the cost of food is rising and unfortunately it seems that the cost of healthy food is rising
• Four out of five weeknight evening meals a week are home cooked. • $237 is spent on food and beverages on average per household each week. • 261kg of food waste is produced per person each year. • About $63 per week was spent on food preparation outside the home (restaurants and takeaways).
1 Spend wisely What do you spend your food budget on? FOODcents is a Health Department education program that helps families have a healthy diet on a budget. Collect
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Family eating facts
your food receipts for a few weeks, including small food purchases and takeaways, and tally up the total. Refer to Table 1 to help you break the receipts down to ‘spend most’, ‘spend
Source: Australian Institute of Health and Welfare, Australia’s Food and Nutrition 2012.
moderately’ and ‘spend least’. More information on FOODcents can be found
at http://www.foodcentsprogram.com.au/
2 Buy fruit and vegetables in season
Research shows that the cost of food is rising and unfortunately it seems that the cost of healthy food is rising quicker than the cost of unhealthy foods.
In season fruit and vegetables will be cheapest and freshest. Buy locally wherever possible – farmers markets are well worth checking out and you will be supporting the growers.
3 Check pricing Supermarkets now display unit pricing – usually labelled as price per kilogram or price per 100g. This is very useful information. Use the unit pricing to compare between
products. Typically the more processed a food is, the more you pay. quicker than the cost of unhealthy foods. This alarms me. And
Common breakfast cereals demonstrate this – plain rolled oats can
the short answer is economics.
be bought for around $4/kg compared to more processed (and less
Some of our neighbouring countries, such as China and India
healthy) cereals such as rice bubbles at $9.90/kg or crunchy nut
are very interested in our meat and seafood – pushing up our local
clusters at $13.30/kg – double and triple the price of plain oats. More
prices. Our healthiest foods (fruit, vegetables, meat, seafood,
examples of price comparisons are provided in Table 2.
grains, dairy) all have short shelf lives, unlike highly processed
4 Meal planning
foods such as soft drink, biscuits and chocolate, for example,
Meal planning comes with a number of benefits – including
which can sit on shelves for many months. This too pushes up prices. Wages in Australia have increased and these costs have
saving money (probably because there are less trips to the
been passed on to the consumer.
supermarket), less waste, saving time and less stress wondering what you are having for dinner. Benefits that tick all the boxes as
If you are reading this article and regularly do a weekly family
a parent!
food shop, then I am sure you have wondered about ways to spend less on food. Here are some tips to help you.
5 Meat free meals In 2009 Paul, Mary and Stella McCartney launched Meat Free Monday to draw attention to the benefits of eating less meat. One of the big benefits is saving money, since meat is typically an expensive food item.
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Method: 1. Heat oil in a large sauc epan over low heat. Add onion and cook for 2-3 minutes until softened but not coloured. Add spices and cook , stirring for 30 seconds. Add pumpkin, carr ot, sweet potato and stock and bring to the boil. 2. Turn heat to low, cover and simmer for 30 minutes. Allow to cool slightly then blend to smooth puree.
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By Rebecca Teaupa,
www.thelittlereadingroom.com.au
Book REVIEW 0-3 years
Animal Parade Puzzle Book | Aino-Maija Metsola
A cheeky monkey is bigger than a parrot, but a parrot is bigger than a fish, which is bigger than a butterfly. Animal Parade is an interactive puzzle book that explores the characteristics and features of various animals, whilst introducing young readers to the concept of size. The vibrant, bold illustrations and simple, rhyming text will have early readers engaged throughout. Animal Parade is recommended for readers aged 2 to 5 years who will thoroughly enjoy this playful and visually attractive book, whilst being educated on first concepts.
Cheeky Monkey Manners: Taking Turns | Lisa Kerr Cheeky Monkey is having trouble remembering to take turns when playing with his friends. Taking Turns introduces young children to the early learning concept of sharing. The introduction of a sand-timer or holding a pebble is presented as a potential solution for taking turns and adults (myself included) may choose to utlise this method, in conjunction with the book, when teaching children in their everyday lives. Taking Turns is recommended for readers aged 1 year and over and the bright coloured illustrations and animal characters will engage young readers as they learn an essential lesson in manners.
3-6 years
You Have My Heart | Corrine Fenton and Robin Cowcher
On good days and bad days and all days in-between…you have my heart. Young readers explore emotions via a red balloon that travels on a monochromatic journey of ‘tears-tumbling-down days’ and ‘the world-doesn’t-like-me days’, only to grow stronger and fly higher, visually representing the premise of unconditional love in a childfriendly manner. You Have My Heart is a soft, heartwarming book, recommended for readers aged 3 and over, and will be enjoyed by both young and old, particularly grandparents, parents or parents-to-be.
What Do Grown-Ups Do All Day? | Virginie Morgand Every day grown-ups leave the house to go to work, but where do they go and what do they do? Young readers are given the opportunity to visit fourteen different workplaces and meet a variety of grown-ups undertaking different tasks, from jobs at a school to roles on a farm. Before the specific jobs are introduced readers are presented a colourful double-page spread and given the opportunity to guess the jobs, adding an interactive and playful element to the journey. What Do Grown-Ups Do All Day? Is recommended for readers aged 4 to 7 years and children will enjoy the bright exploration of the ‘secret’ life of grown-ups and perhaps even discover potential aspirations for their own future careers. 82
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for adults
Tiny Timmy Makes The Grade! | Tim Cahill
The Gutsy Girl
Hipster Baby Names
Caroline Paul
Tobias Anthony
Tiny Timmy has been selected for the Rep Team, but after sitting on the bench during the first few games wonders if he will ever get a chance to prove himself. Tiny Timmy Makes The Grade! is based on the life of Socceroos Legend, Tim Cahill and although, the narrative is based around soccer, themes of bullying, competition, teamwork and acceptance are present, making this a relatable text for all schoolaged children. Tiny Timmy Makes The Grade! is recommended for readers aged 6 to 10 years and is a great choice for a first chapter book with its simple text, illustrations and age-appropriate themes.
Girls, do not let fear get in the way of adventure and living the life you want. Author Caroline Paul was a shy child who went on to undertake numerous escapades and in The Gutsy Girl shares her experiences and those of other females so that young readers may gain the confidence to seek out their own adventures. Included are; girl hero profiles; quotes from strong females; tips, including how to create a good impression, the self-confidence stance and calming breathing techniques; and also pages for journaling, so that readers can begin to record their own thoughts and intentions.
This is a book for busy hipsters to assist them in choosing the perfect name for their future trendsetters. In its introduction, Hipster Baby Names hilariously declares that it has compiled a list of baby names for hipsters who are far too busy on social media, building terrariums and queuing for trendy food trucks. With names like Indie, the perfect fringe festival companion, readers will be laughing along at the suggestions and the accompanying commentary. Hipster Baby Names is a humorous, tongue-in-cheek read for adults, who will undoubtedly hear the ‘really, really, ridiculously good names’ across parks and school playgrounds in the near future.
Captain Jimmy Cook Discovers Third Grade
Timmy Failure: Sanitized For Your Protection
Mindfulness For Mothers | Rebecca Ryan
Kate and Jol Temple and Jon Foye
Stephan Pastis
Jimmy wants to win a holiday to Hawaii to continue the expedition of ‘the greatest explorer who ever lived’, Captain James Cook. Captain Jimmy Cook Discovers Third Grade intertwines historical facts with hilarious fiction. Young readers will relate to the age-appropriate references to smartboards, Taylor Swift and cat videos on youtube and will laugh out loud at Jimmy’s commentary about his mother’s fermented food, a school-wide outbreak of constipation and his hat that ‘gives him an edge’.
Timmy Failure, the world’s greatest detective, is on a mission to discover who stole money from Yip Yap. The hilarious narrative follows Timmy on a road-trip, as his laugh-out-loud commentary is interjected with illustrated snippets of car and motel-life, including his sidekick Polar Bear and a kid named Snot. Themes of friendship and family are explored, including blended families, all, however, delivered in an age-appropriate and comical way.
Mindfulness For Mothers is a book of exercises in mindfulness, specifically designed for mothers, to make a difference in feelings of health, wellbeing and connectedness. Mindfulness For Mothers guides the reader through a variety of meditative exercises that can be conducted during natural breaks in your day, for example, before you start the car or switch on the TV. Rebecca Ryan writes from the perspective of a mother of two, who also lost her mother at a young age, and therefore understands the significance of mindfulness, that is, being present, alert engaged and alive.
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sydney | winter 2016 | Offspring
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