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HOW YOU MET YOUR ROOMATE This week, Contributor CATHERINE WANG investigates what many students have been wondering since even before Day 1: how did I end up with my roommate?
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t first glance, Anna Leader ’18 and Alexandra Mendelsohn ’18 might seem like practically the same person. Besides being brunette and around the same height, they were dressed in similar outfits when I met them for the first time. Leader then accidentally introduced herself first as Allie (Mendelsohn) before realizing her mistake, adding to the overall confusion. The similarities only became more remarkable as the conversation went on. In spite of being from opposite sides of the world, Leader from Luxembourg and Mendelsohn from New Jersey, the two of them share strangely similar life experiences. “We have a lot of weird similarities … like we’d both written three novels before coming here. And our moms both had seven siblings,” Mendelsohn said. The most remarkable aspect of their friendship, however, is that it began when Leader and Mendelsohn were randomly placed into a double together in their freshman year. Somehow, Forbes College managed to pair two people who have impressively similar personalities, interests and physical characteristics. Both Leader and Mendelsohn had been anxious about meeting their roommates before coming to campus, as they had heard the horror stories about pairs who had clashed terribly. However, after meeting each other, they soon realized that they shared a deeper connection. Now, they are practically inseparable — and they are still roommates as sophomores. According to them both, they go to the gym together, eat most of their meals together, share many of the same friends, and last year, even had 80 percent of their classes together. Of course, the last of these similarities is helped by the fact that both of them are comparative literature majors. Could this pairing have just been serendipitous? Mendelsohn does not
think so. “It feels like it’s not that random — I think there’s too many weird similarities between us.” They have plenty of theories about how they might have been put together. The matriculation housing form that all incoming freshmen fill out over the summer is one thing they think may have been a major factor. “I have a vague memory of at least considering asking for somebody who writes, because I knew that I tend to click with people who write. I don’t remember if I actually did — but if I did then I would imagine that that had something to do with it,” Mendelsohn said. Leader noted that she did remember responding on the survey that she liked to write. Both also requested a politically liberal roommate, and Leader put that she was a vegetarian while Mendelsohn said she was a pescaterian. Another theory that Leader has is that international students and local students from around New Jersey tend to get paired together as roommates. “I didn’t know anyone in this area, so it would’ve been hard. I know it’s in other colleges too, like Brown explicitly told my sister when she was on a college tour that they put internationals and locals together,” she said. Theories aside, how does the whole roommate system actually work? There is a method to the madness, but the perfect match of Leader and Mendelsohn as roommates is as much a result of pure chance as it is a result of intentional placement. Angela Hodgeman, the manager of undergraduate housing, explained that at the beginning of the process, each student is electronically assigned into one of the six colleges. “The residential college assignment process is completely random — nothing is taken into consideration. The colleges do their own placement after they get their lists,” she said. Each residential college has a Direc-
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Alexandra Mendelsohn ’18 and Anna Leader ’18, roommates extraordinaire.
tor of Student Life who is in charge of assigning students to their rooms. They are therefore the ones who are in charge of roommate matching. The Director of Student Life (DSL) at Butler College, Dr. Alexis Andres, explained that the whole process of matching up roommates is done by hand and with careful consideration. “Personally, I rely on the Matriculation Housing Form to understand a student’s preferences,” Andres said. This includes whether a student wants substance-free housing, their sleep COUTESY OF PRINCETON UNIVERSITY patterns, how many roommates they want The South Courtyard of Whitman College, the most recent of Princeton’s six residential colleges. and other considerations. at 3 a.m. the night before the other’s mate that I know nothing about, but I There are specific requests that are midterm,” Mendelsohn said. don’t feel okay with picking a random taken more seriously than others, However, differences in habits do roommate that I know nothing about particularly any special needs. Dean not equate to incompatibility. Men- ... but if you chose your roommate, Bryant Blount is specifically in charge delsohn and Leader later explained there would be a lot of pressure for it to of handling the special needs hous- that the aforementioned pair of room- turn out great, which doesn’t happen if ing process, which is done before the mates were still very good friends. you’re assigned one,” she added. DSLs begin the matching process. It is “They shared a passion for video According to University spokesmeant to “ensure that those students games, and they smoked cigars to- person Martin Mbugua, “No sigwith documented medical needs can gether and they played weird music nificant changes have been made [in get those needs met in their assigned together,” Leader said. past years] and there are no changes college. Sometimes the special needs Colvin agreed, emphasizing that the planned for the foreseeable future” in requests included documented medi- differences between his roommates terms of the room assignment process cal needs for single rooms, but often and him have not caused any strife. at Princeton. the requests deal with mobility is- “We’re all very different people, but we There is technically an option for sues and/or allergy concerns,” Andres definitely get along well,” he said. freshmen who are truly incompatexplained. The Directors of Student Life cannot ible with their roommates to request a Matching roommates by hand, how- assure that every pairing is a successful change of housing through their DSL. ever, means that not everything can be one with the current process, but An- That being said, there is one issue with taken into account. Certain requests dres said that she is open to trying oth- this failsafe, which is that the Unican go unfulfilled if others are deemed er possibilities in the future. “It would versity is currently short on housing more important. “We ended up in an be interesting to explore a computer spaces after over-enrollment from the all-girls hallway last year, and none of matching program that could help cre- classes of 2016 and 2019. “The college us requested it. But then one girl who ate roommate groupings based on the bed spaces are often completely filled did ask for an all-girls hallway ended students’ requests and the available bed ... this is currently the case in Butler for up in the co-ed hallway downstairs,” configurations in the residential col- first-year students,” Andres said. “UsuLeader and Mendelsohn said. leges,” she said. ally the first response to a student with This can create problems, as roomOther universities such as Boston roommate difficulties is for the RCA to mates can sometimes have difficul- University and Cornell University al- sit down with the students and try to ties adjusting to one another’s habits, low for incoming freshman to select mediate the situation.” whether it be messiness or sleep habits. their own roommates. Many students While not all roommates may end Jordan Colvin ’19, who lives in Whit- will create Facebook groups to choose up quite as compatible as Leader and man College, currently lives in a quad their own roommate rather than allow Mendelsohn, a key part of the freshwith three other people, all of whom the school to assign them one. man year experience is that of living had asked for a quad. He believes that There aredownsides to this process, in a dorm, whether it be in a single or this may have been the reason why they however. Leader does not think that with roommates. It serves not only were all paired together, but the result letting freshmen find their roommates to force freshman to learn how to is that the four of them are not very online is a good idea. “I wouldn’t have adapt to complex social situations, similar. “One of my roommates is real- wanted that responsibility. I would but also as a way to accustom stuly into playing black-and-white movie have been really stressed out about dents to how Princeton functions as music, and I definitely sleep a lot later that — especially based on someone’s a living community. than the rest of them,” he said. Facebook profile, I don’t trust my abil“We want their residential college Leader and Mendelsohn told a story ity to gauge people off of the internet,” to feel like home, and having a good about a pair of roommates living near she said. roommate match, or matches, can be them who were not quite compatible. “It’s weird, because I’m totally okay the key to making the college feel com“One roommate came in and threw up with being assigned to a random room- fortable and welcoming,” Andres said.