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What do you think; is text messaging a viable means for conflict resolution? No, text messaging is for short messages only, not confrontations or debate. I agree that was the intended purpose, but it has progressed over time. What are people using it for now? According to a survey in 2004, people are asking questions and sending reminders, not having conversations. (Faulkner) From my research in 2010, I've found the most common uses to be event planning and gossip/ casual conversation, categories with a “back and forth.” Argh, I'll give you that. But what about people using texting as a safety blanket? It's destroying the closeness of mankind! (Pressner) What about people using texting for “romantic interactions?” And who's to say people can't be close over non-verbal communications? Or what about the fact that it's difficult for people to get their meaning across in text? (Pressner) Actually, people think they get their meaning across. Wah? But whole relationships have fallen apart from misunderstandings! (Pressner) Then maybe it depends on other factors? Well, like what?
Figure 1 To see how texting can be used, we must first look at how it has been used. A 2004 study at London South Bank examined who used texting, and why. Their results showed that those who are younger tend to send and receive a greater number of messages that those who are older (Faulkner). The study also looked at what kinds of messages were sent and found that the majority of texts were asking questions, sending farewells, and sending personal information.
In order to gain a broader perspective, I conducted my own study, in the form of an online survey. There were a total of 389 responses. After analyzing the data, hat is the question. In my daily life, text messaging and comparing it to Faulkner's survey, there are drastic is a core component of my communications with othdifferences. The first is the percentage who text. Accorders. I use it for everything from planning events, to casual ing to their collected data, 16% of their result set said they conversation and getting help on homework; but I also did not text. In my data, only 8% did not text, a reduction use it to flesh out issues with my partner and others close of half. Figure 1 shows a comparison between the age to me. Recently, I have wondered why we have turned to groups analyzed and the percentage of each who text. text messaging for the majority of our conflicts. Prior to Another extrapolated comparison to Faulkner's data is doing outside research, I created a few theories as to that texting activity declines when age increases, a fact why, for some, text messaging is a more assessable that remains true. means of conflict resolution. Due to text messaging‘s limit When looking at the types of messages sent, we of 160 characters, people have to make their arguments see a contrast. The two most popular uses for texting are concise and to the point. It might also be easier for peoevent planning and casual conversation. The key distincple who are shy, since they have time to formulate what they want to say, instead of feeling intimidated by a face- tion is “conversation”— not simply reminders or single questions. So text messaging has become more of a diato-face conversation. logue between people, rather than “fire and forget.”
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Armed with the information that a sizeable percentage of people have text message conversations, the next step is to see who has arguments over text messaging. Of the 360 people who use texting, 51% have had arguments. They all say it happens rarely or very infrequently. Due to the nonconfrontational nature of the medium, an assumption could be made that people who are less outgoing might prefer texting, to other means of communication. A study at the University of Plymouth by Reid examined the general use of text messaging vs. other mediums, looking to see if those persons who are shy and social anxious would prefer it more. The results of the study coincided with their hypothesis; social anxious individuals are more likely to resort to text messaging. I looked at this idea more deeply, seeing if their conclusion correlated with arguments over text as well.
The reasons for the arguments differ, but a consensus among analysts seems to be that misunderstands due to the medium are a large cause. Etiquette expert Ceri Marsh, in an interview for USAToday, had the following to say: "Couples have arguments over text Figure 2 because of a simple misunderstanding in wording or tone. They'll say 'What exactly did you mean by that emoticon?'" (Pressner). From my research, it appears that those who say they've been in an argument agree that it is usually a misunderstanding. However, if we look Figure 3 at how often people feel that they got their meaning across; we see that 51% of people feel that nine out of ten times they do indeed transmute their thoughts effectively into text. Despite this however, there is no correlation between getting their meaning across and how often they have arguments. This goes against Marsh's thoughts and texters' own thoughts Figure 2 shows the results of this comparison. We as well. see that there is no real correlation between someone's personality, and whether or not they have an argument Let's take a step back and look over what we've over text. Returning to Faulkner's study however, and examined so far. Texters are nowadays comprised of a looking at the ages instead, there is a trend. As age inbroad range of ages. They primarily have conversations creases, the amount of people who say they have arguand plan events. Only half of them have arguments. This ments over text decreases. This agrees with Faulkner's half is comprised of a variety of people though, only barely thoughts, “It might be that the teenage users having grown separated by age The next step is—are these arguments up with text messaging are far more comfortable with it being solved, and by whom? and therefore see it as just another means of communicating with their circle” (14).
Reid's study, which looked at social anxiety, concluded “SMS [allows] users to disengage from the demands of immediate interactive involvement, releasing time and attentional resources to compose and edit messages” (11). Meg Hallissy, a student from Fairfield University, thought similarly, “[We] are constructing our arguments, or manipulating them. We rough-draft what we really mean to say; then edit, cut, paste, or fit it into 160 characters. The final draft is often the nicer version of our original statements, without the swearing and namecalling” (Hallissy). This was one of my hypotheses, and even after all of the data showing that there are a very small number of conflicts resolved over text messaging, I still think it is true.
Figure 4 The short answer is—generally not. If we look at figure 4, we can see most people find that their arguments go unresolved. Past “rarely,” there is a slowly decreasing trend, but it is minimal. “But what about people who effectively use texting,” I thought. Looking at the data from my survey, there is once again no correlation. Those who rarely get their meaning into text solve conflicts at the same rate as those who constantly articulate their thoughts accurately. This is interesting, because if someone can get their meaning across, what is preventing them from using the same tools they use verbally in text effectively? With these results, I was compelled to look at my own experience again. Text messaging works for me as a means of conflict resolution, but why? With the prior question in mind, I thought about what I know about solving conflicts. My experience is rather unique; I spent the majority of my youth volunteering at an organization called The Peace Center, in Langhorne, PA. There I learned (and subsequently taught) the tools needed to effectively resolve conflicts. The major points are to be clear about your own feelings, listen to the other(s), and to be open to compromise. Is applying these guidelines to text arguments the difference in their success or not? The research conducted did not look at this, but future research should consider it, as it might just be the magic factor for resolving text arguments. With the collected data, however, it almost seems as though the medium has no effect on people's ability to solve conflicts. There is however, one more factor to consider; does the “disconnect” of the situation aid people in solving conflicts?
Based off my own positive experience, there must be a set of factors that allow someone to effective use text messaging as a means of conflict resolution, but I have not narrowed them down. If anything, this exploration of the subject shows that it requires a significantly deeper insight into the individual than a quick survey could possibly hope to show. More questions have been raised, and their answerers might hold the key to a better understanding of how we can effectively resolve arguments.
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