Common Excuses Cheaters Give You Have a Headache, Again? These common excuses could be a warning that your loved one is cheating. One thing cheaters look for is a way to worm their way out of an uncomfortable situation – like actually being intimate with you. Here are some stories and excuses cheaters may use to avoid giving you straight answers. • I’ve not been feeling well – I think I have a fever • Listen to this cough I’m getting . . . • My head is killing me • I wrenched my shoulder/hip/leg/back/neck • I’m just wiped out today • I’m just so stressed out at work • My friend is going through a really bad time and I can’t have a good time when I’m worried about them • You’re putting so much pressure on me, it’s supposed to be spontaneous • Hey, we’re an old married couple now, isn’t it nice to just relax? • My car broke down/I had to work late/I couldn’t find my wallet • My dog is sick • Why are you being paranoid, I’m here, aren’t I? • What’s wrong with you, how insecure are you? • I can’t believe you’d asking me that • Only guilty people always suspect others of doing bad things/Only liars accuse other people of lying See the pattern? You can tell after a while that these emergencies and illnesses always happen at the wrong (or right) times and for just the right durations. Of course they don’t ring true. Your intuition can tell you in a heartbeat what your mind may be unwilling to face. The Undercurrent She is feeling guilty and doesn’t want to have to deal with a confrontation or your hurt feelings. So, rather than be brave and open enough to face the challenge and risks ahead, she pretends, lies, diverts or misdirects your attention or turns the tables and puts the blame on you. Worse, she might actually get her jollies knowing she’s tricking you while she’s stepping out on you. Visit www.BustACheatingPartner.com To Catch A Cheating Spouse Or Partner
You’re being lied to. No matter if it’s a ‘white lie’ to spare our feelings or a more malicious intent to deceive us, we have to face the fact that such excuses are actually LIES. They are untruths our trusted and loved partners are telling us to get away with behaviors that they know you would not approve of or that would hurt you. A betrayal of trust. Maybe he doesn’t want to end the relationship. At least not completely, but just because he doesn’t want to terminate it doesn’t mean his intent is to stay ‘in’ the marriage or relationship. That is, not in a fully committed, fully intimate way. Maybe he wants to hang on to the security of a relationship because it permits him to play without having to sacrifice too much, or he wants to keep his image/reputation/ lifestyle/address/married couple friends you both have. He’s brave enough to play dirty but not brave enough to face the music. It’s like a kid who feels very adventurous and grown up, until he can’t find his Mommy. Cheaters can be very insecure. He/She is confused . . .and trying out new relationships to see what direction she wants to go in. A pretty selfish and grim game to play when there’s someone at home whose heart is being torn apart. The remedy This is hard. You can either turn a blind eye and stay in the relationship no matter what, hoping that the fling will pass and you’ll get your lover back, or you can address it – and risk losing the relationship altogether. Or if you’re one of the strong and lucky ones you can draw the line in the sand, and call an end to the charade by moving on with your life. No matter which course you take, there will be massive emotional damage that will hit you sooner or later, so you’ll want the support of a good friend or counselor to help you move forward.
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