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16 Birthday Party Directory 20 Birthday Planner

October Chills & Spooky Thrills

Get in the Halloween spirit with some ghoulish fun and light-hearted haunts

‘Sharental’ Advisory

Which moments with your baby you should share, and which ones you shouldn’t

401K vs. IRA vs. Nothing

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6 Editor’s Note 8 New Places, New Programs 11 How to Help Your Teen Be Active & Healthy 12 The Road to Happy Motherhood 32 ‘Sharental’ Advisory 36 Teen Milestones You Need to Know 40 Party Central 42 Meet the Doctor 44 Party Planner 45 Advertisers’ Index 46 Quotables

10 Dream Catcher

34 Babyproofing 2.0

22 Family Fun in Manhattan

38 401K vs. IRA vs. Nothing

23 Family Activities Calendar 30 October Chills & Spooky Thrills

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Helping Parents Make Better Decisions ON THE COVER ›› 14 What Your Child Really Wants at Her Party 16 Venues, Entertainment, and Resources 30 Get in the Halloween Spirit 32 Welcome to ‘Sharenthood’ facebook.com/nymetroparents

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EDITORIAL

EDITORIAL DIRECTOR: Katelin Walling ASSISTANT EDITORS: Anja Webb, Melissa Wickes

Party Secrets

DIRECTOR OF CONTENT: Deborah Skolnik

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love every issue of Rockland Parent we publish, but there’s something extra-sweet about the months when we cover kids’ birthday parties. After all, who doesn’t love a celebration? It’s a blast seeing your child so happy, and it’s also a terrific chance to put your parental pride on display. But when it comes to kids’ parties, is bigger always better? What do our children actually remember about their special day? We asked writer Lambeth Hochwald to investigate. The result: “What Kids Really Want at Their Birthday Parties” on p. 14, an unflinching look at the gotta-haves, nice-to-haves, and don’t-really-needs, through the eyes of those who know children the best. Read this insightful piece right now—it may significantly change the way you go about your party planning in the future.

Speaking of public shows of parental pride, do you run to social media and share the news each time your baby does something cute or new? There’s a name for that— ‘sharenting’—and we’re almost all doing it. Dasha Kofman examines our motives, as well as this trend’s pros and cons, in her report “Sharental Advisory” (p. 32). It may make you think twice about safeguarding your little one’s privacy. Meanwhile over on p. 34, Anja Webb’s story, “Baby Proofing 2.0,” will have you thinking about how to safeguard your little one in general. It gives a terrific rundown of ways to keep active and curious toddlers safe at home; you’ll want to make sure you take every tip to heart.

Then there’s a story near and dear to my own heart: “Teen Milestones You Need to Know,” on p. 36. As the mom of two teenage daughters, I know kids make some real quantum leaps in their adolescent years, especially when it comes to cognitive and emotional development. No, these milestones aren’t Insta-worthy—sorry, sharents!—but they’re important signs that your child’s growth is right on track. Read on and you’ll see why it’s actually a good (if annoying) thing that your teen is embarrassed by you or disagrees with your politics.

While you’re focused on your child’s well-being (and what decent parent isn’t?) it’s easy to forget your own. That’s why Melissa Wickes’s article, “Saving for Retirement” (p. 38), is so vital to read. It demystifies the most common types of savings vehicles, and explains painless ways to build your nest egg now so it’s ready when you need it most. And don’t miss my essay, “The Road to Happy Motherhood” on p. 12. I share the “selfish” decision that helped me escape a dreary bout of postpartum blues, and made me a happier, better mom—I guess it wasn’t so selfish doing something for myself after all. Would you like to share your personal essay about parenthood with us?

We’re always looking for great new submissions for our Voices page. Feel free to send yours to editor@nymetroparents.com!

Of course, no October issue of our magazine would be complete without a celebration of my favorite holiday: Halloween! There’s something about the sight of little kids in costumes (and, I’ll admit, mounds of candy) that makes me so happy, and you too, I bet. For some chills and thrills, turn to p. 30, where we share information on pumpkinpicking spots, haunted houses, and more.

Wishing you a boo-tiful month ahead!

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Dream Catcher

Going to bed alone can be scary for children, especially those who tend to have nightmares or difficulty getting settled down for the night.

One thing that can help relieve bedtime anxiety is the reassurance a dream catcher can provide. Because they were made to protect children from bad dreams, you can help your kid get some shut-eye by making this dream catcher craft from Laura Minter and Tia Williams’s “The Big Book of 100 Outdoor Activities.”

This dream catcher is made from the center part of an embroidery hoop, which you can find in most craft stores. A dream catcher is traditionally woven to resemble a spider’s web.

You will need some feathers, which you can search for on a woodland walk, and some beads to decorate.

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Different-colored beads

2 shades of brightly colored twine

6 feathers

Embroidery hoop

Glue

1. To make the weave on the embroidery hoop, begin by tying the end of the twine onto the hoop. Pull the twine about 1½ inches along and fold it over the top of the hoop from the front. Bring the twine in through the loop and pull tight.

Continue all the way along the hoop.

2. When you get to the beginning, continue to loop the twine and go forward, but instead of looping around the hoop, loop through the previous row of twine, in the center of each loop. Pull tight each time.

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3. Keep going round, looping and pulling tight, until the gaps become too small to continue easily. Tie the twine in the center and trim the loose ends.

4. Tie three pieces of twine onto the bottom of the hoop, evenly spaced out. Add beads to each one, then cut to your preferred lengths (this one was about 10 inches in the center). Glue two feathers onto the bottom of each piece of twine. Add another length of twine to the top of the hoop to enable you to hang your dream catcher.

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Make sure his focus isn’t the scale. In a world dominated by social media and superficial mindsets, teens are very conscious of how they look versus how they feel. Palmer suggests the first thing to teach your child when it comes to exercising is not to focus on the scale, but instead on the way that exercising makes him feel.

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Help her eat healthy, but don’t enforce a strict diet. Developing a healthy and well-balanced diet is important, especially in growing teenagers. But, giving a strict, structured diet to a teen may not be necessary or the best option for her. Instead, Palmer suggests encouraging her to make the best choices she can and emphasize eating from the ground (unprocessed, natural foods).

Don’t be afraid of weights. A lot of parents are afraid their child will stunt his growth if he begins lifting weights at a young age. The reality, Palmer says, is most kids aren’t strong enough to lift weights that would negatively impact their growth in any way. Teach him the proper form for motions such as squatting, deadlifting, and pressing.

“Strength is typically what translates to better movers, better athletes, and ultimately more confidence,” Palmer says. Help your child develop a structured weightlifting plan, and keep it simple!

Make sure she loves what she’s doing. Forcing your kid to work out in a way she doesn’t find enjoyable can be the easiest way to make her hate exercising, Palmer warns. Instead of making her go for a run when she really doesn’t want to, find out what she loves and integrate it into the exercise plan. “Take your daughter to the field, invite her friend, and make it a competition. Make it fun but add a challenge so she gets the cardiovascular benefit as well,” Palmer says Lead by example. “A lot of kids come to me and say, ‘my dad wants me to go to the gym but he doesn’t really do it so I don’t really think it’s that important,’” Palmer says. Parents are the strongest influence on their children. If you are implementing healthy eating and exercise habits in your own life, it will not only be easier for your teen to do so, but it might make him want to.

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The author, her family, and her Miata, almost six months after she purchased it

How my dream car helped me get back in gear after the post-baby blues.

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fell in love with the Mazda Miata around the same time I fell in love with my husband. Both were great looking, dependable, and made me feel like life’s journeys would be a whole lot more exciting if we made them together. I married my prince charming a few years later, but we drove away in his Buick, not my tiny dream car.

I didn’t mind, especially since marriage itself speeded us along in thrilling new directions. We had a daughter, traded our cool Manhattan apartment for a little house with a white picket fence in my hometown, and welcomed another daughter. It felt like we’d gone from zero to two kids in under 60 seconds! We bought a minivan, something I thought I’d never do. Indeed, between sour-milk baby bottles and suburban living, some days I scarcely recognized myself. But I was content.

Then something happened: An invitation to my high school reunion arrived along with a form asking what I’d done with my life. Suddenly I felt as blank as the form.

What had I done with my life? My teenage dreams were a bust. I wasn’t a famous writer living in Manhattan, the way I’d planned. I was back living in my hometown. I was a minivan mom.

Blame it on the high-school reunion committee or hormones (I was postpartum), but as I measured the unexciting progress of my life against the ruler of adolescent ambition, I felt like a huge failure. I slipped into a grey, tearful state that lasted for months. Sleepless, I’d hit the gym at 5am. Then one morning on the way home, I passed a Miata. My heart leapt at the sight; it was the best I’d felt in a long time. And a realization washed over me: I didn’t have to be a minivan mom after all.

“I’m buying a Miata,” I told everybody. My husband was cool with it—but my mom friends disapproved. “Will you use it enough?” asked one pal, though she herself had once bought an expensive party dress she’d worn only once. “Can you afford it?” quizzed another friend, whose SUV cost multiples of what my Miata, which I planned to buy used, would. Then finally, 12

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one friend voiced the true sticking point: “It’s a two-seater.

Where will you put the kids?” she pressed, even knowing we were keeping the minivan and the Buick.

I was disappointed in, or rather for, my friends. We mothers have only come so far. We urge one another to do things that affirm our individuality—provided they tie into our families.

We cheer each other on to assert our financial power—so long as our purchases can be stashed in the closet, away from judgmental eyes. It’s fine for a dad to buy himself a sports car— in fact my neighbor just had—but if a mom buys herself one, it’s unseemly.

Rattled, I called my oldest friend, Matt, for advice. “You’re in a full-fledged midlife crisis!” he teased. Then he grew serious.

“My buddy used to drive me around in his sports car,” he mused. “On the highway, it felt like all four wheels had lifted off the ground.”

He paused. “Buy the car.”

So I did. I had to learn to drive stick, which was intimidating.

It takes finesse to start a manual transmission car from a dead stop. At first I either stalled out or hit the gas too fast, sending the engine into frenetic revolutions. Yet each day, my driving improved, and so did my blues, until both miraculously smoothed out. Who knew a car had healing powers?

Okay, it wasn’t really the car; it was the fact that I had done something solely for myself. Some shifts, I came to see, are automatic—girlhood’s dreams give way to motherhood’s realities. But figuring out how to be a mom while still asserting your individuality? That’s a conscious shift, but one worth making.

After weeks of practice, I drove my daughter to preschool in the Miata. As I pulled out of the parking lot, several mothers gathered around. One stroked the Miata’s door. “Looks fun,” she said. I smiled. Then I prayed, Please God, don’t let me stall out in front of everyone.

I pulled out smoothly. I was barely going 10 miles per hour, but it felt like all four wheels had lifted off the ground.

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What Kids Really Want at Their Birthday Parties ››

Bigger isn’t always better—learn what will make the celebration truly special.

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ake it from parents who know: Your kids may say they want a huge birthday blowout at the local arcade, but what they really want is a celebration that’s far more meaningful—and less chaotic.

“A birthday is a time to enter your child’s world,” says Julie Morganstern, author of several books, including her latest, Time to Parent: Organizing Your Life to Bring Out the Best in Your Child and You. “All kids want is for someone to see [them] and to understand [them] and that’s what I think a birthday celebration is really about.”

In fact, keeping the party smaller and simpler may make a bigger impression on your kid in the long run. “The most memorable experiences are those that incorporate multiple senses, evoke an emotional connection, and incorporate an element of novelty,” says Chrissy Khachane, an educational consultant and parenting coach. “Slowing down a bit to focus on some of life’s simple pleasures—family, good food, and laughter—affords children a party that incorporates the most important parts of childhood.”

So this year, instead of getting into a frenzy planning your child’s party, consider tapping into your sense of nostalgia. Plan a day that involves playing tag in the backyard, tossing a ball, gathering on a beach or in the park, or playing board games or Duck, Duck, Goose. And whatever you do, consider taking a few cues from these parents and experts as they share their take on rethinking our kids’ birthday parties.

Step Away from the Competition

It’s super easy for birthday parties to become competitive, or all about status, where parents are one-upping each other over everything from the venue to just how deluxe the goodie bags are, Morganstern warns.

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don’t get caught up in all that external pressure to compete,” Moganstern says. “You also want to focus on redefining what the real value is of a birthday party. In my book it’s all about celebrating who you are, it’s connecting with the people you really love and the ones who care most about you. That’s your family and friends. It’s not about impressing anybody. If it’s about competition with other parents then the party isn’t about [your child], it’s about other people.”

Let Your Child Play Party Planner

If your child insists on helping out with the party planning, don’t hesitate to invite him to play an important role—depending on how old he is, of course. “One way you can let your child take the lead is picking out the party theme,” says Amy Horta, owner of AEH Events, a custom event planning and design firm in Westchester County.

Horta let her own 3-year-old son have a hand in creating his construction-themed birthday party. “He went with me on a trip to Home Depot (his favorite place!) for décor,” she says. “He also helped paint toolbox favors for all his guests.”

Exercise Crowd Control

If you have a toddler who doesn’t love big crowds, having a party with lots of guests just won’t be fun for her. “If there are loads of family and friends who want to shower the birthday boy or girl with good wishes, consider inviting family over for cake the weekend before the birthday and then have a small kids’ party the weekend after,” Horta recommends. “It may be a little more work planning two events, but it helps make sure that the birthday boy or girl don’t get completely overwhelmed on their big day!”

Teens, too, may feel that a crowded bash isn’t right for them.

They may prefer to do a special activity with couple of friends in place of a bustling party. “Think indoor rock climbing, a trapeze class, a double feature at the movies—with popcorn—or even a day out in Manhattan,” Horta says. “A birthday celebration doesn’t always have to mean a big party with lots of people.”

Gather Somewhere Unique

“We keep our daughter’s birthday parties pretty low key,” says Raakhee Mirchandani Singh, a Hoboken, NJ mom of Satya, 5, and author of the forthcoming kids’ book, Super Satya Saves the Day. “For Satya’s second, third, and fourth birthdays, we’ve had a story time at our local bookstore,” she says. The owner “reads some of Satya’s favorite titles, and some new ones too. And Satya and her friends love it,” Singh says.

Instead of receiving goodie bags, “the kids go home with a book,” Singh adds. “I feel awesome knowing we’re...encouraging the next generation of bookworms!”

Honor Your Kid’s Passions

“When my daughter was seven, we decided to focus her birthday party around her interest in dance,” Morganstern says. “I invited a woman who did dance parties to come and lead the kids in a series of dances. It was so wonderful to watch our daughter share something she loved with her friends.”

Incorporating your child’s interests is a great way to make a party special, Khachane agrees: “Through focusing on something that is important to the birthday girl or boy there is a strong connection that takes the experience beyond what one might find at a [generic] party.”

See a Party as a Way to Build Community

A birthday party should absolutely focus fully on the birthday boy or girl, but it can also serve another purpose, especially if you’re new in town. For Cherie Corso, a Westchester parent expert, blogger, and mom of a 15-year-old daughter, birthday parties through the years have been wonderful ways to meet other families in town.

“My daughter always wanted to invite her whole class so these gatherings were a great way for me to get to know the parents,” Corso says. “Best of all, my daughter has wonderful memories of those gatherings and I got to meet so many other families, too.”

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Let Your Kids Have a Say

After Fort Lee, NJ mom Zaida Khaze’s daughters spent their sixth and seventh birthday parties with close friends, they both announced that for their next birthdays they’d rather go somewhere special. “With all the money that was spent per party for ninety minutes of fun and a goodie bag, I didn’t object,” Khaze says. “The next year, my older daughter opted for a weekend visit with the immediate family to [Great] Wolf Lodge and my younger daughter wanted to go to Six Flags.”

Khaze says she was happy to not spend the time or money planning parties. “I would rather spend that money on their birthday presents.

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“Satya just wants to feel loved and celebrated,” Singh says. “I don’t think she cares about the specifics of the venue, the cake, or anything else...As for gifts, we’re pretty aggressive in our ‘no gifts’ policy and have been since her first birthday as Satya is a cancer survivor. Our friends bring gift cards to the party that we donate to the Tomorrows Children’s Fund in Hackensack,” she says. “Truth is, the kid has everything a little girl could want and then some: good health, sneakers that light up, parents who adore her, and more Wonder Woman junk than I ever thought humanly possible. So we encourage her to share with others.”

And isn’t that the point of an awesome birthday party after all?

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Birthday Party Directory BIRTHDAY PARTY ENTERTAINMENT Fudgie the Clown and Mystique the Magician

Serving Rockland and Bergen counties 201-825-7481 fudgietheclown.com Clowning and magic for any occasion! Fudgie is an award-winning clown and professional family entertainer. She performed at the White House and has delighted children and adults for more than 20 years. Fully insured, she is a graduate of the Mecca Magic Clown School, and member of Clowns of America International. Shows consist of an interactive magic show, face painting, balloon sculpture, temporary tattoos, parachute play, and bubbles. Hire as a clown or magician, and she’ll bring smiles and fun to your birthday party, picnic, school or camp function, or fundraiser.

Inflatable Party Adventures

Serving Rockland, Northern New Jersey, Westchester, and Nanuet 845-267-2022 inflatablepartyadventures.com Call us for your next backyard or outdoor event including backyard parties, celebrations, festivals, corporate events, and fundraisers. We have an exciting selection of inflatables including giant slides, bounce houses, water slides, obstacle courses, sports inflatables, a trackless train, popcorn, and cotton candy! Proudly serving Rockland, Bergen, and Westchester for 10 years. Best prices! Clean and sanitized inflatables delivered on-time! Call 845-267-2022 and experience our friendly service.

We also have a risk-free rain policy for your peace of mind. For an incredible indoor party, we are also Screamin’ Parties! inflatablepartyadventures.com or screaminparties.com.

K & A House of Bounce Party Rentals

845-825-6617 kahouseofbounce.com “We bring the party to you.” Serving Rockland, Bergen, and Westchester for more than 10 years, we provide everything you need to make your event special. We have one of the largest selections of themed bounce houses along with dry and wet slides, obstacle courses, dunk tanks, other interactive inflatables, as well as cotton candy, popcorn, and additional fun concession foods. We provide on-time delivery combined with a high standard of cleanliness and safety. Fully licensed and insured, with a no-risk cancellation policy (no cancellation fee due to bad weather).

Party Pack Crew

917-882-6660 partypackcrew.com Our fabulous birthday and themed parties include more than just your favorite characters, we also decorate, entertain your party guests, and make your moments of celebration unforgettable!

Party options include both boy and girl character themes, arts and crafts, and jewelry making. We also host creative workshops, classes, and fundraising events for all ages. Family fun and after-school activities of art, beading, dancing, and crafts. We offer many creative ideas or bring us your ideas and we can help bring them to life. Check our website for details.

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914-764-5564 tillyadeerstale.com Tilly...A Deer’s Tale is about a real deer that lives in upstate New York and faces challenges after an accident. This powerful story is meant to inspire children living with physical challenges or limitations. The book makes a great birthday gift!

Toyriffic2 Toy Store

1581 Route 202, Pomona 845-362-6053 toyriffic2.com toyriffic2@aol.com Looking for the perfect birthday gift? Come visit our unique toy store in Pomona. We offer a great selection of Melissa & Doug crafts and many other quality, affordable, educational toys, crafts, games, and puzzles for kids of all ages, both boys and girls. Everything from unique stuffed animals and baby toys to cool gadgets, Playmobil® sets, robotic toys, unique board games, and on trend items.

BIRTHDAY PARTY PLACES Abrakadoodle Art Studio for Kids

53 Prospect Place, Hillsdale, NJ 201-383-0027 abrakadoodle.com kroberts@abrakadoodle.com Paint, slime, clay, and glitter are some of the cool things we use at our studio! Abrakadoodle has been serving the community for more than 11 years offering creative art programs for children ages 2 and older, plus arty parties and summer camp programs (ages 3 and older). We love mess and watching your children have fun while creating. We also offer seasonal paint days when schools are closed, STEAM and slime programs, weekend events, and holiday break camps! Contact us to see how your child can become an Abrakadoodler!

The Academy For Martial Arts

8 Orangetown Shopping Center, Orangeburg 845-359-4500 theacademyformartialarts.com Our parties are legendary! A karate party is a great way to enter the world of martial arts.

It’s also a great way for experienced students to share the martial arts with friends and family.

Don’t tell anyone, but it’s also great fun! At The Academy for Martial Arts, we offer a spacious, fully equipped facility, an energetic, cheerful, professional staff, and martial arts-themed fun and games. Packages include pizza, juice boxes, plates, cups, napkins, plasticware, and table cloths. Additional options available. Give your child a party everyone will remember!

Bach to Rock - Nanuet

150 E. Route 59, Nanuet 845-215-9536 nanuet.b2rmusic.com nanuet@bachtorock.com Bach to Rock offers birthday parties for kids of all

ages and adults. The Rock Birthday Party (ages 7 and older) consists of a 2-hour jam and recording session where the birthday child becomes the star.

Karaoke Birthday Party (ages 6 and older) is the for kids and adults eager to become a superstar singer for a day. The Rock City Birthday Party (ages 4-6) is an action-packed party that allows children to explore rock ‘n’ roll instruments up close, and see how music is made on keyboards, drums, and guitars.

Bounce! Trampoline Sports

612 Corporate Way (off Route 303), Valley Cottage 845-268-4000 facebook.com/bouncetrampolinesports twitter.com/bouncesport bouncevalleycottage.com info@bounceonit.com There is no party place in the tri-state area like Bounce! Trampoline Sports! Guests jump on more than 12,000-square-feet of trampolines, including trampoline dodgeball, slam-dunk basketball, launching into giant foam pits, and our Bounce!

Xtreme Ninja Obstacle Course. Coming soon: exciting and challenging climbing walls. We also have a Bounce! Jr. for ages 5 and younger with a separate trampoline court, foam pit, and giant inflatable castle. Free Wi-Fi, HD television lounge, and snack and coffee bar. “Have Fun–Get Fit!®” Visit our website or call for party details.

Chocolatier Matisse

32 Orangetown Shopping Center, Orangeburg 845-365-0285 chocolatiermatisse.com chocolatiermatisse@gmail.com Chocolatier Birthday Parties for girls and boys ages 3 and older. Children learn how chocolate is made, and make and decorate a chocolate pizza, balloon bowl filled with dipped items, candy apples, and other hand dipped goodies to take home.

You pick what your guests create. Not just for kids anymore, fun for all ages. Chocolate making classes are also offered.

Jill’s Ceramics

180 Germonds Road, West Nyack 845-623-4975 jillceramics.com jillsceramics@aol.com Established for more than 37 years, we offer a fully-equipped ceramics and plaster studio where children and adults let their creativity run wild.

Parties for kids include paper goods, painter’s hat for the birthday child signed by their friends, and an item for each child to paint. You provide the food and drink. Walk-ins welcome as well as groups of all ages (Girl Scouts, ladies’ night, corporate, or camps). We offer the largest selection of ceramic and plaster pieces to paint and glaze or paint and take home same day.

Launch Trampoline Park

260 West Nyack Road, West Nyack 845-977-0415 launchrockland.com Launch Trampoline Park is a new family fun park located in West Nyack. This brand new, state-of-the-art facility features extreme dodgecontinued on page 18 ››

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The park also offers three private party rooms for hosting birthday parties and other events, as well as a variety of specialty programs, including toddler time, “Ignite” (teen glow night), VIP Night (sensory night), fundraisers, field trip, and group rates.

New City Bowl and Batting Cages

90 N. Main St., New City 845-634-4977 newcitybowlandbattingcages.com We are well known for our great birthday party packages and offer Glow Bowling for our Sunday parties. All parties include bowling, shoe rental, food, paper goods, invitations, setup, and cleanup: we do the work, you enjoy the party! Each child gets a choice of hot dog, chicken nuggets, pizza bites or pizza—drinks and snacks are included with the meal. We offer an upgraded package that also includes custom invitations, french fries, and goodie bags. You bring the cake, and we do the rest.

Northern Valley Dance Academy

75 Oak St., Norwood, NJ 201-784-6400 nvdanceacademy.com nvdance@hotmail.com Here at NVDA, our birthday parties are a blast!

High energy and lots of fun, we keep the party rockin’! Music, dance, and games; guests will leave with big smiles and tired feet. We can choreograph a dance to any favorite song! Our newly renovated, big, bright studios offer all the space you need to have the best party of the year! Call or email today, 201-784-6400, nvdance@hotmail.com.

Palisades Climb Adventure

4590 Palisades Center Drive, Level 4 of the Palisades Center, West Nyack 845-727-3500 palisadesclimb.com Palisades Climb Adventure offers the world’s tallest indoor ropes challenge course. Standing 85feet tall, it has five levels and 75 unique challenge elements to explore, climb, and conquer. More advanced athletes will find a challenge, while “just for fun” climbers will experience a sense of athletic accomplishment. Our Sky Tykes kids’ ropes course is designed for ages 2-7, 48-inches max and our new Sky Rail attraction is now open! Both courses are available for birthday parties, other groups, and special events. Book your party today!

Party Animals

1302 Palisades Center Drive Palisades Mall, 1st floor near Best Buy, West Nyack 914-336-0144 partyanimalsonline.com We provide unique parties offering a variety of fun crafts and play activities in a private party room.

Parties can include plush animal rides for kids, and arts and crafts activities such as canvas painting, painting a pet rock (owl, frog, turtle), painting a stuffed animal (elephant, penguin, kangaroo, monkey), necklace or bracelet-making, painting small wooden toys (cars, planes), and sand art.

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In-house party packages include pizza, drinks, and your choice of activities and crafts. We can also bring the party to your location! Check website for details.

Rockland Fencers Club

40 Lydecker St., Nyack 718-697-1440 rocklandfencersclub.com info@rocklandfencersclub.com Rockland Fencers Club (RFC) is excited to announce their new Private Fencing Party Package for ages 8-16. Allow your child to feel like Zorro or Luke Skywalker for a couple of hours on their special day. No experience required and all necessary equipment included. The 6,000-squarefoot, fully air-conditioned facility is conveniently located in downtown Nyack. RFC’s highly-qualified, international coaching staff includes former national team members with extensive experience working with kids. Visit our website, email or call for more information.

Sky Zone Allendale

80 Commerce Drive, Allendale 201-574-1800 skyzone.com/allendale Sky Zone is the world’s first indoor trampoline park. Experience the weightlessness of bouncing, flipping, and landing into 10,000 foam cubes.

Enjoy Open Jump, Toddler Time, Sky Slam, Foam Zone, dodgeball, and now Sky Wars for ages 8 and older! Perfect for parties, events, groups, and fundraisers. Call or check our website for customizable party packages which can include delicious cake, catering options, and cool party favors for purchase.

Surge Studio

285 N. Route 303 (in Colonial Plaza), Congers 845-589-0990 surgestudioarts.com info@surgestudioarts.com Let us host a fun and customizable birthday party for your child and their friends at Surge Dance Studio. Your child can choose from themes such as Princess or Prince, Pirates, Hawaiian Luau, High School Musical, Dora the Explorer, Superhero, Rockstar, Barbie, and others. Parties consist of games, activities, pictures, choreography to the birthday guest’s favorite song, and of course pizza and cake! We provide assistants, setup, and cleanup so you can just relax and have fun with your kids. Parties are for ages 3-13 and run for 1½ hours.

Tumble-Bee Gymnastics and Fitness

401 Market St., Nanuet Mall South, Nanuet 845-623-2553 tumble-beegymnastics.com Tumble-Bee Gymnastics and Fitness is more than just tumbling. We offer an education in gymnastics, fitness, and fun. Serving Rockland for more than 30 years, we offer private birthday parties, and programs for children ages 10 months-12 years. Our preschool program offers exciting lessons and theme weeks. We teach the nationally recognized Fun & Fit Gymnastics program and International Smart Moves for our

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after-school program. Our staff is warm, caring, and well trained to work with your child building confidence and self-esteem to achieve success in the future.

Vicki’s Dance Studio and Kreative Kids

61 Maple Ave., New City 845-634-2202 vickistudio.com We offer a variety of birthday parties for boys and girls of all ages. Great party theme options include Hip-Hop Dance Party & Games Mix, Jumping Gymnastics, Disney Dance Mix, and Dress-up Princess Party! We make sure the birthday child feels special and is the center of attention. Our parties are very well-organized, at a price you can’t beat! Easy for the parents and fun for the children.

Party packages include decorations, paper products, entertainment, and a party coordinator. Call for a party to remember.

Vision Sports Club Youth Fit Zone

37 W. Jefferson Ave., Pearl River 845-517-1427 visionsportsclub.com Our birthday parties are a fun-filled celebration your child will remember forever! Our 1½ hour parties include one hour of games and activities of your choice in our 7000-square-foot Sports Zone. The fun continues in our private party room with pizza, drinks, and birthday cake. Upgrade for more party time or Bubble Ball if you want to add even more fun to this special day. Party favors also available for purchase! We’ve got you covered from invitations to food–just bring your own cake and show up for the fun!

West Rock Indoor Sports and Entertainment Complex

21 Pralle Lane, Nanuet 845-623-3636 westrockindoor.com West Rock offers the ultimate place to hold your birthday party, fundraiser, or special event. Our unique and versatile facility boasts 40-foot ceilings, 26,000-square-feet of turf, two regulation-size basketball courts, six Har-Tru tennis courts, indoor bouncers, and private party room. Choose one of our specialty or sports parties. Parties can be customized to fit your child’s interests. Themes include “Color War” and “In It To Rock It,” and all packages include dedicated party host(s) to ensure your child has a memorable event. Check out our website for party package options.

Young Chefs Academy of New City

59 S. Main St., New City 845-638-0601 newcityny.youngchefsacademy.com newcityny@youngchefsacademy.com Our exciting birthday party options include “Make Your Own Pizza” or “Little Princess Tea” with scones and tea sandwiches (for ages 4 and older), “Pasta Party” where you make your own pasta and sauce from scratch, or our “Fun-to-do fondue” with cheese and chocolate for dipping (ages 8 and older). You provide the chef and we provide the rest. Parties include all invitations, paperware, and drinks. Additional goodie bags and personalized chef-ware available. We also offer weekly cooking classes and fun camp programs. Check out our website for more information.

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Northern Valley Dance Academy

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This NYC park offers more than 60 fields, a world-class track and field facility, tennis, golf, waterfront pathways, and more. The Randall’s Island Park Alliance works to restore and renovate the island’s natural resources including the freshwater wetlands, salt marsh, and Urban Farm. The island itself offers a variety of special events each year.

Visit it: 20 Randalls Island Park, New York; 212-860-1899; randallsisland.org Can’t-miss event: Harvest Festival, Sunday, Oct. 14, 12pm Directions: Approximately a 40-minute drive from New City

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Get up close and personal with more than 500 species of free-flying tropical butterflies from the Americas, Africa, and Asia at the Tropical Butterfly Conservatory! Housed in a vivarium that features nectar-producing plants and is designed to mimic the butterflies’ natural habitat, these beautiful creatures are diverse in color, size, and shape. Plus, learn about the anatomy, metamorphosis, and evolution of butterflies. Oct. 6-May 27, 2019; daily, 10am-5:45pm. Age: All. $28; $22.50 students and seniors; $16.50 children ages 2-12. American Museum of Natural History, Central Park West at 79th Street, Upper West Side.

This free, family-friendly celebration of fall will have live music, pumpkin decorating, face painting, and more.

See your favorite Animaniacs characters sing live on stage, and introduce your kids to the wacky, unforgettable tunes you grew up with.

At Building Blocks, kids will explore and learn about different materials architects use, as well as construct towers and recreate famous New York Skyscrapers.

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Animation lovers across multiple generations will get a huge kick out of Animaniacs in Concert, a special performance featuring live orchestra music from Emmy-winning composer Randy Rogel and the beloved characters and songs of Animaniacs as voiced by legendary voice actor Rob Paulsen, as cartoons are screened. Paulsen, whose return to these roles follows a recovery from throat cancer, is the voice of many popular characters on The Powerpuff Girls, The Fairly OddParents, and Transformers. Sunday, Oct. 7, 1:30pm. Age: All. $45. Joe’s Pub at the Public Theater, 425 Lafayette St., Noho.

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This museum in downtown Manhattan celebrates the city’s beautiful architectural history and examines the progression of its skyline.

Learn about the buildings through exhibitions, programs, and publications as sites of construction and products of technology, design, real estate, places of work, and residence. The museum shares a building with the Ritz Carlton in Battery Park City.

Visit it: 39 Battery Place, New York; 212-945-6324; skyscraper.org Can’t-miss event: Building Blocks, Saturday, Oct. 27, 10:30-11:45am Directions: Approximately a 45-minute drive from New City

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EDITOR’S HOT TICKETS Our calendar is full of great ideas. First, here are the eight events we consider can’t-miss—the ones we’re taking our own kids to. Consider it your cheat sheet to the best of what’s great this month!

Pearl River Day FREE

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WHEN: Saturday, Oct. 6, 11am-6pm WHERE: Downtown Pearl River, East Central Avenue, Pearl River AGES: All WHAT: The day will be filled with food, music, entertainment, demonstrations, shopping specials, face painting, pumpkin painting, balloon twisting, and bouncy attractions.

WHY WE LOVE IT: Support and celebrate a wonderful community!

WANT TO GO? pearlriverny.org.

Open House FREE

WHEN: Saturday, Oct. 13, 10am-4pm WHERE: Lamont-Doherty Earth Observatory, 61 Route 9W, AGES: All WHAT: Tour a lab, participate in hands-on earth science demonstrations, and learn from world-renowned researchers about their latest discoveries.

WHY WE LOVE IT: Whether you’re an aspiring young scientist or a long-time science enthusiast, you’re sure to enjoy this open house!

WANT TO GO? $5 suggested donation. 845-365-8998. ldeo.columbia.edu.

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Applefest 2018 FREE

WHEN: Sunday, Oct. 14, 9am-5pm WHERE: Village of Warwick, 2 Bank St., Warwick AGES: All WHAT: Fun for the whole family with more than 200 craft vendors, dozens of food vendors, local non-profit exhibitors, apple pie baking contest, and music and entertainment on several stages plus a children’s carnival and farmers’ market!

WHY WE LOVE IT: A deliciously fun fall day!

WANT TO GO? warwickapplefest.com.

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Free Fishing Day FREE

WHEN: Saturday, Oct. 20, All day WHERE: New Jersey’s public waters, see website for locations across New Jersey, AGES: All WHAT: Fishing is allowed on the Garden State’s public waters without a license or trout stamp.

WHY WE LOVE IT: Fish on! Take advantage of the fall trout stocking!

WANT TO GO? njfishandwildlife.com.

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Zoo Boo 2018

WHEN: Oct. 26-27, Friday, 6-9pm; Saturday, 10am-2pm or 6-9pm WHERE: Bergen County Zoo, 216 Forest Ave., Paramus AGES: All WHAT: Celebrate with trick-or-treating throughout the zoo, a ghostly storyteller and magic show, and the Erie Express, a friendly train ride.

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WHY WE LOVE IT: Take trick-or-treating to the next level!

WANT TO GO? $6 admission ages 2 and older. 201-262-3771. co.bergen.nj.us.

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Halloween Parade FREE

WHEN: Saturday, Oct. 27, 1pm WHERE: Memorial Park, 4 Depew Ave., Nyack AGES: All WHAT: Festivities include a trick-or-treat trail, a house decoration contest, dancing ghouls, marching bands, roller derby, floats, fire trucks, motorcycles and classic cars, costume contest, live entertainment, and cash prizes!

WHY WE LOVE IT: What better way to get spooky?

WANT TO GO? nyackchamber.org.

Oktoberfest!

WHEN: Through Oct. 28, Weekends, 12pm to 6pm WHERE: Anthony Wayne Recreation Center, Exit 17 off the Palisades Interstate Parkway, Bear Mountain AGES: All WHAT: Enjoy live music, dancing, vendors, food and beverages stations, party wagons, buffets, and more!

WHY WE LOVE IT: It’s that time of year again... party time!

WANT TO GO? $10 parking. 845-786-2731. visitbearmountain.com.

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The Great Jack O’ Lantern Blaze

WHEN: Through Nov. 24, See website for times WHERE: Van Cortlandt Manor, 525 S. Riverside, Croton-on-Hudson AGES: All WHAT: Discover a breathtaking display of more than 7,000 illuminated jack-o’-lanterns complete with synchronized lighting and an original soundtrack.

WHY WE LOVE IT: An innovative, creative, magical spectacle that you won’t want to miss!

WANT TO GO? $22-$27; $16-$20 children 3-17. hudsonvalley.org.

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SHOW TIME! Movie Night: Spookley the Square Pumpkin

WHEN: Through Oct. 5, Select Fridays, 5:30pm WHERE: Demarest Farms, 244 Wierimus Road, Hillsdale AGES: All WHAT: Movie-goers will take a tractor-pulled hayride to pumpkin patch where they will watch the Spookley Movie on an outdoor screen.

WANT TO GO? $16; free for children younger than 2. 201-666-0472. demarestfarms.com.

WE CAN’T BELIEVE IT’S FREE Think a freebie has to be ho-hum? Don’t let the price tag (or lack of one) fool you. Here are the five no-cost events we’re excited about now. You’re welcome.

Prenatal Classes FREE

WHEN: Tuesday, Oct. 9, 5-6pm WHERE: Crystal Run Healthcare, 2 Centerock Road, West Nyack AGES: Adult WHAT: Learn valuable information on how to care for your child, what to expect in the first weeks and months, and when to call the doctor.

WANT TO GO? 845-348-1100. crystalrunhealthcare.com.

Art Show Station FREE

WHEN: Wednesday, Oct. 10, 5-7pm WHERE: Haverstraw King’s Daughters Public Library, Main Library, 10 W. Ramapo Road, Garnerville AGES: 3-12 WHAT: Create a masterpiece in the maker-space pop-up art station!

WANT TO GO? 845-786-3800. hkdpl.org.

Halloween Festival FREE

WHEN: Saturday, Oct. 20, 11am WHERE: Congers Lake Memorial Park, Gilchrest Road, Congers AGES: Newborn-5 WHAT: Enjoy a hayride, costume judging, bouncy house, and more.

WANT TO GO? town.clarkstown.ny.us.

So You Think You Can Dance Live!

WHEN: Monday, Oct. 15, 7:30pm WHERE: Bergen Performing Arts Center, 30 N. Van Brunt St., Englewood AGES: 5 and older WHAT: See your favorite TV dancers bring the heat in person.

WANT TO GO? $39 and up. 201-227-1030. bergenpac.org.

‘Dracula’ The Classic Film with Live Music Ben Model, Theater Organist

WHEN: Thursday, Oct. 25, 7pm WHERE: Nyack High School Auditorium, 360 Christian Herald Road, Nyack AGES: 13 and older WHAT: The horror classic Dracula with Bela Lugosi will be shown on the big screen with live music played by organist Ben Model.

WANT TO GO? $20; $10 students.

The Very Hungry Caterpillar Show

WHEN: Sunday, Oct. 28, 1:30pm and 4:30pm WHERE: Mayo Performing Arts Center, 100 South St., Morristown AGES: 3-8 WHAT: Features a menagerie of puppets as it adapts four stories by author/illustrator Eric Carle including Brown Bear, Brown Bear, 10 Little Rubber Ducks, The Very Lonely Firefly, and The Very Hungry Caterpillar.

WANT TO GO? $20-$30. 973-539-8008. mayoarts.org.

Fall Classic Series

WHEN: Through Nov. 24, Saturdays, 11am WHERE: Lafayette Theater, 97 Lafayette Ave., Suffern AGES: All WHAT: Enjoy an organ performance followed by a favorite classic at this landmark theater!

WANT TO GO? $4. 845-368-1889. lafayettetheatersuffern.com. ››

A Mindful Approach to Money With Joanne Leffeld FREE

WHEN: Saturday, Oct. 27, 9:30am-12:30pm WHERE: Arts Building Music Room, Green Meadow Waldorf School, 307 Hungry Hollow Road, Chestnut Ridge AGES: 13 and older WHAT: Through experiential exercises and dialogue, participants will reflect on patterns, beliefs, and self-limiting thoughts holding them back from attracting more prosperity into their lives.

WANT TO GO? 845-356-2514 x311. gmws.org.

Weekly Drop-In at Rockland Baby Café FREE

WHEN: Through Jan. 31, Tuesdays, 10:30am-12:30pm WHERE: Rockland Baby Café, 14 S. Main St., Spring Valley AGES: Newborn-2, Adult WHAT: Meet and talk to new moms, learn how to make breast-feeding easier, ensure your baby is latching and gaining well, and get tips on pumping, going back to work, and other parenting topics.

WANT TO GO? 914-922-2240. rocklandgov.com.

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FUN FAIRS & FESTIVALES Hudson Valley Bacon Bash

ANIMAL LOVERS

WHEN: Saturday, Oct. 6, 1pm-6pm WHERE: Orange County Farmers Museum, 850 State Route 17K, Montgomery AGES: All WHAT: Work your way around the dozens of bacon vendors and their yummy treats. Also enjoy corn-hole games, live music, and a free self-guided tour of the museum.

WANT TO GO? $18; free for children 12 and younger. 845-457-2959. hvbaconfest.com.

Festival Day and Car Show FREE

WHEN: Saturday, Oct. 6, 11am-2pm WHERE: Bergen County Zoo, 216 Forest Ave., Paramus AGES: All WHAT: Join the zoo staff to learn all about farm animals through crafts and stories. Meet some of the farm animals that call the zoo their home.

WANT TO GO? $8; $5 for children ages 3-14; $2 for seniors; free for children younger than 3. 201-262-3771. co.bergen.nj.us.

WHEN: Saturday, Oct. 6, 10am WHERE: West Allendale Avenue, West Allendale Avenue, Allendale AGES: All WHAT: Live music fill the streets along with vendors, arts and crafts, games, giveaways, community organizations, food trucks, pet parade, face painting, pumpkin painting, petting zoo, and more!

WANT TO GO? vendors and refreshments for purchase. allendalenjchamber.org.

Hawks Over the Hudson FREE

Nyack Famous Street Fair FREE

Farm Animals Day

WHEN: Sunday, Oct. 7, 12-4pm WHERE: State Line Lookout, Palisades Interstate Parkway, Alpine AGES: All WHAT: Chat with presenters and enjoy activities and exhibits. If weather permits, visitors will stop by an ongoing hawk watch, where they can try their luck at spotting wild raptors — hawks, eagles, and falcons—as they migrate south.

WANT TO GO? natureprogram.org.

Humane Heroes Hi Tor’s Youth Humane Ed Program

WHEN: Saturday, Oct. 13, 11am-1pm WHERE: Haverstraw King’s Daughters Public Library, Main Library, 10 W. Ramapo Road, Garnerville AGES: 9-12 WHAT: Learn how to care for animals and how animals communicate, plus enjoy a service learning project including a supply drive.

WANT TO GO? $25. 845-786-3800. hitor.org.

Paws For Reading FREE

WHEN: Oct. 6-24, Saturday, Oct. 6, 10:30am-12pm; Sunday, Oct. 21, 1:30-3pm; Wednesday, Oct. 24 5-6:30pm WHERE: Haverstraw King’s Daughters Public Library, Main Library, 10 W. Ramapo Road, Garnerville AGES: 5-8 WHAT: Practice your reading skills! Kids can sign up for a 15-minute session to read to a therapy dog.

WANT TO GO? 845-786-3800. hkdpl.org.

Boo at the Zoo

WHEN: Saturday, Oct. 27, 10:30am-3pm WHERE: Trailside Museum and Zoo at Bear Mountain State Park, 55 Hessian Drive, Highland Falls AGES: All WHAT: Make spooky snacks for the black bears and touch real animal skulls, see stuffed specimens in the Nature Study museums, make autumn crafts, and learn about bats.

WANT TO GO? $1 suggested donation; $10 parking. 845-786-2701 x293. trailsidezoo.org.

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WHEN: Sunday, Oct. 7, 10am-5pm WHERE: Downtown Nyack, Main Street and Broadway, Nyack AGES: All WHAT: Featuring 350 exhibitors with a great selection of arts and crafts, retail and commercial booths, collectibles, live music, festival foods and outdoor cafes, and a children’s area.

WANT TO GO? visitnyack.org.

Fall Festival FREE

WHEN: Oct. 6-8, Friday-Sunday,10am-5pm WHERE: Sugar Loaf, 1405 Kings Highway, Sugar Loaf AGES: All WHAT: Spend the day enjoying food, music, shops, vendors, a beer garden, a kid’s zone, and more!

WANT TO GO? sugarloafnewyork.

Harvest Fest

WHEN: Oct. 13-14, Saturday, Sunday,11am-3pm WHERE: Skylands New Jersey Botanical Gardens, 2 Morris Road, Ringwood AGES: All WHAT: The weekend includes hayrides, pumpkin painting, applesauce making, booths, exhibits, activities for the kids, music, the Beer Garden, a plant sale, and free garden tours!

WANT TO GO? $5 parking. 973-962-9534. njbg.org.

Harvest Festival FREE

WHEN: Oct. 13-20, Saturdays, 11am-5pm; Sundays, 11am-4pm WHERE: Soukup Farms, 271 Halls Corners Road, Dover Plains AGES: All WHAT: Enjoy a long hayride to the pumpkin patch. Climb a hay pyramid, get lost in the hay-maze, play games around the barn and upper lawn, and check out the new corn maze!

WANT TO GO? 845-264-3137. soukupfarms.com.

Great Fall Festival

WHEN: Sunday, Oct. 21, check website for times WHERE: Flat Rock Brook Nature Center, 443 Van Nostrand Ave., Englewood AGES: All

WHAT: A day full of fun family festivities including barbecue, live bluegrass music, games, crafts, face painting, pumpkin painting, and more!

WANT TO GO? $15, $10 children ages 6-17. 201-567-1265. flatrockbrook.org.

Fall Festival FREE

WHEN: Sunday, Oct. 21, 12-4pm WHERE: Heritage of West Nyack, 131 Germonds Road, West Nyack AGES: All WHAT: See how folks lived in the 1770s with horse drawn rides, a historic dance troupe, sheep shearing, lace making demos, pen turning workshop, pumpkin picking and decorating, a magic show, children’s games, story hour, vendors, crafts, music, mini-golf, and raffles!

WANT TO GO? Vendors and refreshments for purchase. heritageofwestnyack.org.

The Chocolate Expo 2018 Hudson Valley

WHEN: Sunday, Oct. 21, 10am WHERE: Museum Village, 1010 Route 17M, Monroe AGES: All WHAT: Taste and purchase gourmet chocolates, baked goods, specialty foods, gelato, wines, distilled spirits, and hard ciders, plus enjoy entertainment and fun activities!

WANT TO GO? $15, $10 children ages 4-12. 845-782-8248. thechocolateexpo.com.

2018 Fall Foliage Festival FREE

WHEN: Saturday, Oct. 27, 9am-3pm WHERE: Downtown Highland Falls, North Main Street from Cozzen’s Avenue to Drew Avenue, Highland Falls AGES: All WHAT: Peruse more than 100 vendors, music, street entertainment, and more!

WANT TO GO? thvac.org.

THE GREAT OUTDOORS Wilderness Survival Workshop

The Haunted Orchards

WHEN: Through Nov. 3, weekends, see website for exact dates and times WHERE: Demarest Farms, 244 Wierimus Road, Hillsdale AGES: 9 and older WHAT: Featuring a spooky hayride, haunted houses, and a forgotten graveyard nestled within the apple trees.

WANT TO GO? $25 online; $30 at the door. 201-666-0472. hauntedorchardsfarm.com.

Pick-Your-Own-Apples

WHEN: Sept. 1- Nov. 3, 9am-5pm, see website for exact dates WHERE: Masker Orchards, 45 Ball Road, Warwick AGES: All WHAT: Come pick apples and enjoy live family-friendly music, pony rides, barnyard baby animals, wagon rides, trivia, and a chance to win prizes.

WANT TO GO? prices vary. 845-986-1058. maskers.com.

Apple Picking, Live Music, Food, and Drinks

WHEN: Through Nov. 4, 11am-5pm, see website for exact dates WHERE: Warwick Valley Winery and Distillery, 114 Little York Road, Warwick AGES: All WHAT: Choose from more than 60 apple varieties, tractor rides, tasting room, live music, gourmet farm-to-table cuisine, and more!

WANT TO GO? Prices vary. 845-258-4858. wvwinery.com.

Nature Strollers

WHEN: Through Nov. 6, Tuesdays, 9:30pm WHERE: Hudson Highlands Nature Museum’s Outdoor Discovery Center, 100 Muser Drive, Cornwall AGES: Newborn-5 WHAT: Join this hiking group for families with babies, toddlers, and young children led by a museum educator.

WANT TO GO? $5. 845-534-5506. hhnaturemuseum.org.

Apple Picking

WHEN: Saturday, Oct. 6, 10am-3pm WHERE: Tenafly Nature Center, 313 Hudson Ave., Tenafly AGES: 9-17 WHAT: This is a 5-hour, drop-off program that will cover three important survival skills: cordage (rope-making), fire starting, and debris shelter building.

WANT TO GO? $65. 201-568-6093. tenaflynaturecenter.org.

WHEN: Through Nov. 14, 9am-4pm, see website for exact dates WHERE: Demarest Farms, 244 Wierimus Road, Hillsdale AGES: All WHAT: Featuring pick apples and enjoy a hay ride, two petting zoos, adventure playground, corn box, photo display area, crooked house village, wooden playsets, and picnic area with tables.

WANT TO GO? $7 per person; $10 a bag. 201-666-0472. demarestfarms.com.

Family Woodland Hike

Children and Family Programs FREE

WHEN: Sunday, Oct. 21, 1pm WHERE: Skylands New Jersey Botanical Gardens, 2 Morris Road, Ringwood AGES: All WHAT: A child-friendly hike in the garden’s woodlands, where you’ll learn about the plants and animals around you.

WANT TO GO? $5 parking. njbg.org.

WHEN: Through Nov. 25, Sundays, 1pm WHERE: Storm King Art Center, 1 Museum Road, New Windsor AGES: All WHAT: Hands-on experiences are created and led by artists, conservators, arts educators, and environmental educators at these drop-in workshops.

WANT TO GO? 845-534-3115. stormkingartcenter.org. ››

Apple Cider Making

WHEN: Oct. 7-21, Sundays, 12:30pm, 2pm, 3:30pm WHERE: Tenafly Nature Center, 313 Hudson Ave., Tenafly AGES: All WHAT: Participants will use an apple press, help to make cider, and learn about the history of apple cultivation and cider making.

WANT TO GO? $10-$40. 201-568-6093. tenaflynaturecenter.org.

Public Hayrides

WHEN: Through Oct. 31, Monday-Friday, 3-5pm; Saturday, Sunday, and Columbus Day, 10am-4pm WHERE: Secor Farms, 85 Airmont Ave., Mahwah AGES: All WHAT: Enjoy a scenic ride then explore the corn maze, pick a pumpkin, and relax under the rustic pergola.

WANT TO GO? $4; free for children younger than 1. 201-529-2595. secorfarms.com.

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HOLIDAY FUN No Scare Halloween

WHEN: Oct. 13-14, Saturday-Sunday, 11am WHERE: Museum Village, 1010 Route 17M, Monroe AGES: All WHAT: Wear your favorite costume, enjoy games, crafts, scavenger hunt, costume parade, goodies at the snack bar, and explore the buildings!

WANT TO GO? $12; $10 seniors; $8 children ages 4-12; free for children younger than 4. museumvillage.org.

BROWSE & BUY Piermont’s Down to Earth Farmer Market FREE

WHEN: Through Oct. 14, Sundays, 9:30am-3pm WHERE: M&T Bank Parking Lot, Piermont Avenue and Ash Street, Piermont AGES: All WHAT: Local farmers and area food makers who source locally are brought together for a delicious experience.

WANT TO GO? 914-923-4837. downtoearthmarkets.com.

Suffern Farmers’ Market FREE

WHEN: Through Oct. 27, Saturdays, 8:30am-1pm WHERE: Commuter Parking Lot A, Lafayette Avenue, between Orange and Wayne avenues, Suffern AGES: All WHAT: A family-friendly market with food and craft vendors, children’s activities, and live entertainment.

WANT TO GO? 845-659-9203. suffernchamber.org.

Farmers’ Market at the Village of Haverstraw FREE

WHEN: Through Oct. 28, Sundays, 9am-1pm WHERE: Village Hall, Maple Avenue, Haverstraw AGES: All WHAT: Support local businesses selling fresh produce, jams, spices, and more.

WANT TO GO? 845-429-0300. voh-ny.com.

Ridgewood Farmers Market FREE

WHEN: Through Nov. 18, Sundays, 9am-3pm WHERE: Train Station Parking Lot, Godwin and West Ridgewood avenues, Ridgewood AGES: All WHAT: Find farm-to-table, fresh produce, homemade jams with unique flavors, preservative-free baked goods, and more.

WANT TO GO? 201-445-2600. ridgewoodchamber.com.

Ramsey Farmers’ Market FREE

WHEN: Through Nov. 25, Sundays, 9am-2pm WHERE: Erie Plaza, 2 W. Main St., Ramsey AGES: All WHAT: Stroll the market and enjoy a variety of local produce and products, music, children’s crafts, chef demos, and more.

WANT TO GO? 201-675-6866. ramseyfarmersmarket.org.

Nyack Farmers Market FREE

WHEN: Through Nov. 29, Thursdays, 8am-2pm WHERE: Downtown Nyack, Main Street Parking Lot, Nyack AGES: All WHAT: Local artists and craftspeople in the region come together to bring local products like fresh produce, baked goods, and sweets.

WANT TO GO? 845-642-0859. nyackchamber.org.

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Haunted Harvest FREE

WHEN: Saturday, Oct. 27, 1pm-4pm WHERE: Memorial Park at Van Neste Square, East Ridgewood Avenue, Ridgewood AGES: All WHAT: Wear your costumes for family-friendly fun.

WANT TO GO? 201-445-2600. ridgewoodchamber.com.

Haunted Forest

WHEN: Saturday, Oct. 27, 4-6:15pm WHERE: Tenafly Nature Center, 313 Hudson Ave., Tenafly AGES: All WHAT: Educators will lead small groups of all ages on the trails to visit the haunts of these nocturnal forest denizens.

WANT TO GO? $16. 201-568-6093. tenaflynaturecenter.org.

The Great Pumpkin Carving

WHEN: Sunday, Oct. 28, 1:30-2:30pm WHERE: Tenafly Nature Center, 313 Hudson Ave., Tenafly AGES: All WHAT: Come carve a locally sourced, small farm pumpkin with some of the staff educators, and enjoy a campfire and s’mores.

WANT TO GO? $20. 201-568-6093. tenaflynaturecenter.org.

‘I Spy’ Halloween Nature Trail

WHEN: Oct. 27-28, Saturday-Sunday, 11am-3pm WHERE: Hudson Highlands Nature Museum’s Outdoor Discovery Center, 100 Muser Drive, Cornwall AGES: 3 and older WHAT: Sharpen your observation skills as you search for animal artifacts, like bones and skulls.

WANT TO GO? $10; $8 children ages 3 and older. 845-534-5506. hhnaturemuseum.org.

Halloween Parade FREE

WHEN: Sunday, Oct. 28, 2-4pm WHERE: Village of Suffern, Lafayette and Orange avenues, Suffern AGES: All WHAT: March to the Suffern Gazebo for refreshments and fun! Costume contest with prizes for families and children.

WANT TO GO? suffernny.gov.

Monster Hunt FREE

WHEN: Wednesday, Oct. 31, 6-7pm WHERE: Haverstraw King’s Daughters Public Library, Main Library, 10 W. Ramapo, Garnerville AGES: All WHAT: Children work in teams and solve clues that lead to the monster’s secret lair.

WANT TO GO? 845-786-3800. hkdpl.org.

Halloween Trick-or-Treating Tradition FREE

WHEN: Wednesday, Oct. 31, 3-5pm WHERE: Downtown Pearl River, North Henry Street and East Central Avenue, Pearl River AGES: All WHAT: Participating businesses donate special treats and their time to make this event a fun-filled, safe alternative to house-to-house trick-or-treating.

WANT TO GO? pearlriverny.org.

SMARTY PANTS Early Childhood Parent Evening FREE

WHEN: Tuesday, Oct. 16, 7:30pm WHERE: Arts Building Music Room, Green Meadow Waldorf School, 307 Hungry Hollow Road, Chestnut Ridge AGES: Adult WHAT: The experienced Early Childhood faculty will view the arc of development of the young child and advise how parents can best be their guides.

WANT TO GO? 845-356-2514 x113. gmws.org.

Colonial Soap Making FREE

WHEN: Saturday, Oct. 27, 10am-3pm WHERE: Fort Montgomery State Historic Site, 690 Route 9W, Fort Montgomery AGES: All WHAT: Discover how the colonists made soap out of nothing more than wood ash and fat!

WANT TO GO? 845-446-2134. parks.ny.gov.

NAMI Basics FREE

WHEN: Through Oct. 30, 7pm-9pm, see website for exact dates WHERE: NAMI Rockland (National Alliance on Mental Illness), 140 Old Orangeburg Road, Orangeburg AGES: Adult WHAT: NAMI Basics is a course designed for parents with a mental difficulty that provides critical strategies for taking care of your child, communication, problem solving, and recovery.

WANT TO GO? 845-359-8787. namirockland.org/namibasics.html.

Tales & Tunes FREE

WHEN: Through Dec. 10, Mondays, 11am and 7pm; Tuesdays, 11:30am WHERE: Haverstraw King’s Daughters Public Library, Main Library, 10 W. Ramapo, Garnerville AGES: 3-5 WHAT: Enjoy stories, finger plays, songs, and bubbles!

WANT TO GO? 845-786-3800. hkdpl.org.

DivorceCare for Women

WHEN: Through Dec. 11, 6:30pm, see website for exact dates WHERE: Bethany Community Center, 605 Pascack Road, Township of Washington AGES: Adult WHAT: Join this weekly Divorce Support Group to find help, discover hope, and experience healing.

WANT TO GO? $15. 201-891-7494. bethanychurch.tv.

MOVERS & SHAKERS Oradell 5K and Family Fun Run

WHEN: Saturday, Oct. 6, 9am WHERE: Memorial Field, 350 Prospect Ave., Oradell AGES: WHAT: Whether you would like to compete for a medal and prizes, model a healthy lifestyle for your children, or just enjoy the family

festival, there is something for everyone!

WANT TO GO? $25-$15. oradellkids.org.

Healthy Kids Running Series

WHEN: Through Oct. 14, 4pm, see website for exact dates WHERE: Bryan Elementary School Field, 51 Brookside Ave., Cresskill AGES: 3-12 WHAT: A 5-week running program where kids compete each week for a chance to earn points and receive a trophy.

WANT TO GO? $35-$10. 516-413-9788. healthykidsrunningseries.org.

Meadows & Trails 5K and Kid’s Dash

WHEN: Saturday, Oct. 20, 9am WHERE: Hudson Highlands Nature Museum’s Outdoor Discovery Center, 100 Muser Drive, Cornwall AGES: 3 and older WHAT: Run or walk on a 5k course that is entirely off road.

WANT TO GO? $35; $5 for kids. 845-534-5506. hhnaturemuseum.org.

Family Fall Day FREE

WHEN: Wednesday, Oct. 24, 2:30-4:30pm WHERE: Street Community Center, 31 Zukor Road, New City AGES: 5-8 WHAT: Come enjoy an afternoon of tricycle races, a sidewalk chalk drawing contest, arts and crafts, and a three inning kickball game.

WANT TO GO? town.clarkstown.ny.us.

Field Games in the Park

WHEN: Through Oct. 27, Saturdays, 9:30-10:30am, grades third-fifth; 11am-12pm, grades sixth-eighth WHERE: Memorial Park, Depew and Piermont avenues, Nyack AGES: 5-12 WHAT: Come play dodgeball, tag, chase, running bases, basketball, kickball, and more!

WANT TO GO? $84. 845-535-5046. nyack-ny.gov.

Coming up next month: NOV. 4: Food Truck Fall Festival in Paramus, NJ NOV. 11: Veteran’s Day Parade in Suffern, NY NOV. 18: Double Dare Live at New Jersey Performing Arts Center, Newark NJ

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October Chills & Spooky Thrills Compiled by Anja Webb

Get in the Halloween spirit and get ready for a fun-filled fall!

Whether you’re looking for some ghoulish fun to scare the pants off your teens or some more light-hearted haunts for the little ones, we’ve got you covered with our ultimate Halloween guide. Keep the thrills going with escape rooms that allow you to embrace your inner Houdini and give your kids the perfect opportunity to show off their detective skills. Or, if you’d rather take it easy, try taking a family day trip to the farm for some pumpkin picking. Now if it’s already a little too chilly outside, you might want to stay indoors and go for a skate at your local roller rink instead. Whatever you’re looking for, we’ve got what you need to get ready for the Halloween season and make it a great October with your family!

PUMPKIN PICKING Hurd’s Family Farm 2187 State Route 32, Modena 845-883-7825; hurdsfamilyfarm.com Open daily, 9am-5pm U-pick pumpkins, veggies, and apples, plus family-friendly mystery corn mazes, storybook corn maze, and hayrides; big apple bounce pillow, rubber duck derby, apple launcher, cow train, giant slide, fish feeding, farm animals, nature trails, and gem mining daily. Educational school tours and birthday parties available. Check website for themed weekends, music, and special events.

Find more>> nymetroparents.com/pumpkins

HALLOWEEN FOR KIDS Scared by the Sound, Rye Playland 1 Playland Parkway, Rye 914-813-7010; scaredbythesound.com Friday-Sunday, Oct. 12-28. Hours vary; see website for details.

Admission: $20 per person The park closes down its rides for this event, back for its 19th year.

More than 100 actors help to make the crypt walk, morgue, and haunted wine cellar creepy without lots of gore. Don’t miss the giant outdoor graveyard behind the haunted house.

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The Puzzle Parlour 131 Court St., White Plains 914-368-8222; thepuzzleparlour.com There are four rooms to choose from: The Heist Part 1, The Surgery, The Alien Conspiracy, and Vampire.

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Posting about your little one’s life on social media is big-time fun—but is it smart? And safe?

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n parenthood, there are moments of mayhem we don’t want anyone else to see and moments we want to highlight on Instagram—and, if we’re being honest, moments of mayhem that are totally worthy of a post on Instagram. If this is something you know all too well, welcome to ‘sharenthood.’

It is no secret that as we scroll through our various social media feeds, most (if not all) of what we see is staged. Everyone has a different motive for posting their children on social media, and some choose to keep their babies off Facebook and Instagram completely.

The 38,000-follower Instagram account @thispugslife, winner of The Ellen DeGeneres Show’s Ellen Rate My Baby, began as an account showcasing Charlie, a black pug. Account creator Meredith Kreuger’s daughter was added to the mix when she was born. “Followers tell me all the time that the two of them make them smile and make them happy,” Kreuger says. “My goal is to make people laugh via Instagram and blogging. I love captioning photos and I love to write!”

There are parents who post pictures to keep their families in the loop, some who use Instagram as a scrapbook of sorts, others who are aiming to send a greater message, and in some cases, to receive a sense of validation. This all leads us to the question: to post or not to post?

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of parents: those who claim they use social media to keep friends and family involved and develop content for future scrapbooking projects (87 percent) and those who have no shame in saying ‘it just feels good to show off my kid’ (13 percent).

Although parents link their posting motives to being about their kids, it turns out it’s more about appeasing themselves, according to Ida Jeltova, Ph.D., a licensed psychologist in Rockland and Bergen counties with more than 14 years of clinical experience working with children, youths, and families. “Social media provides a perception, if not actual validation, of ‘my child is liked and doing well. I am a good parent’,” she says.

There is a small population of parents who are competitive due to insecurity, Dr. Jeltova adds, which forces the child to develop an extension of parental ego and self-esteem. “The parent needs the child to be liked to feel likeable themselves,” she says.

At the end of the day, every parent is different, and there’s nothing wrong with feeling validated, whether you’re helping others by sending a message or it gives you an extra boost—as long as it’s all in good spirit.

Sending a Message

A national survey conducted by Edison Research, as a part of Minute Maid’s this is GOOD campaign, revealed that 94 percent of sharents stage their social media posts. Although this might seem shocking, it is important to remember that social media is meant for an audience and the photos are staged to project a motive, whether it’s clear or ambiguous.

For example, the Instagram account @papaanddaddy, which has 44,600 followers, is clear in its message and role in the social media world: to normalize same-sex parenting.

“There’s a lot of work left to be done in normalizing same-sex parenting. This is our small way of paying it forward,” says James Loduca, one of the dads behind the account. “At the end of the day, representation matters. It’s hard to dream about what you can’t see. As kids, there weren’t gay families represented in media.

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Christine Di’Amore, a Youtuber with nearly 300,000 subscribers, is best known for her videos about makeup and lifestyle. Despite her Internet presence, she has chosen to keep her daughter out of the public eye for now.

“While hateful comments don’t hurt me, a lot of people who aren’t conditioned to the harsh world that social media can be (like my daughter) might be more affected by those words, regardless of how ridiculous or untrue they are,” Di’Amore says.

“If my daughter does come across any negative comments, she knows I will have a conversation with her and try to help her understand the psyche behind those who bully others, and the reason they want to bring others down to their level.”

As children grow older and have more access to the Internet they will come to realize cyber bullies are everywhere. While their hurtful comments can be ignored, they might be hard to brush off. On the flip side, being exposed to cyber bullying at a young age can help children understand how to deal with it as they enter their teenage years.

“Another reason for not sharing that I often hear is a desire to protect child’s privacy. The child has the right to be growing up in a protected, emotionally safe environment,” Dr. Jeltova says. “Having his or her images posted is inviting feedback and judgment and potentially jeopardizes the privacy and emotional safety.”

When you place yourself in the public eye, whether it’s to express a message to thousands of followers or you’re sharing your child’s preschool graduation, there is a safety concern and a leeway for hatred. “There are a ton of people out there that are looking to do harm in a variety of ways,” says Amaliya Makarovskaya, a Manhattan mom of two. “I find that there is very little to be gained from social media in general, especially through my kids posts.”

Circling back to the Mac & Mia survey, 42 percent of parents say they have planned posts of their children in advance and have spent up to 2 hours to get the perfect shot. As with all things when it comes to parenting, it’s ultimately up to you to weigh the pros and cons of sharing snapshots of your children on social media, but think beyond safety and look into your true motive for posting a photo of your child. Remember: There is a definitive line between remembering a moment and wasting time.

Dasha Kofman, a senior at Binghamton University, was a summer 2018 editorial intern for NYMetroParents.

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hen your little one starts walking and begins exploring in greater depth, you may start to wonder what the next step is for child proofing your living space. It’s a good question to ask yourself: “As you prepare your home for the toddler stage, every part of the home should be reviewed to ensure the safety of your newly and very mobile little one,” says Geneuviève Thibault, founder of bblüv, a baby and toddler accessory retailer. “As your toddler grows and develops strength and ability, some tools, such as gates and play yards, can become obsolete as they triumphantly climb right over them. Now, the little things we can easily overlook, like outlet covers, cabinet door locks, door handles, potentially hazardous house plants, pets, and cleaning products, become critically important as your toddler expands and explores his environment.”

With this in mind, here are five areas of your home that you’ll want to scrutinize.

Bathroom

There are so many things a child could get into—and make a major mess with—in a bathroom, from lipstick to toilet-paper rolls.

“The toddler stage finds little ones still testing every object with their hands and mouth,” Thibault says. As a result, parents should lock all cabinets with a child-proof latch to keep any cleaners and medications out of reach. It’s also important to keep your poisons and sharps “well out of reach… high up above the reach of the child,” in case someone forgets to relock the cabinet after use, says Carolyn Ziegler, a child proofer with 35 years of experience and 34

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founder of Dreambaby, a child safety company.

There’s another potential danger lurking in your bathroom: the toilet. Besides the obvious sanitary issues surrounding children playing in the toilet, they could also drown, according to the Consumer Product Safety Commission. The water may seem shallow enough to us, but it’s the perfect height and depth for a toddler to fall in face first and get stuck with his head underwater.

“You have to be very careful that your child does not have access to the toilet,” Ziegler says. “There are a number of products that can be used to close your toilet and make sure it is fully closed.”

You can either purchase a latch specifically for the toilet, or use a childproof safety lock like the ones on your cabinets.

Windows

Nearly 5,000 children fall out of windows annually, with urban children being the most frequently affected, according to the CPSC. Though most modern homes have windows with screens and locks, those measures just simply aren’t enough. Screens are meant to stop insects, not children, so they are not a means of preventing falls.

“When living in an apartment you need to understand the height of your apartment. You do not want children to have access to fall out of those windows,” Ziegler says. “So you must make sure you have a restrictor on [windows] so they will only open four inches, no more. You want to be able to make sure you can get a bit of fresh air, but the children are secured within.”

Though there’s no substitute for parental supervision, parents

can’t keep a watchful eye 24/7. “Window and door alarms also alert parents quickly to potential dangers and are especially helpful during times when parents are sleeping,” Thibault recommends.

“Avoid putting shelves or climbable furniture under windows.”

Falling isn’t the only window-related danger for children. A study by the Center for Injury Research and Policy shows that nearly 17,000 children younger than 6 are hospitalized annually for injuries caused by window blinds, which can be a potential strangulation hazard. “Many blinds have got long cords,” Ziegler says. “Make sure you keep those well out of reach of children.” In order to prevent injury, replace traditional blinds with cordless blinds, or get a retrofitting kit that allows you to tie up cords in spaces that are out of reach of children. And don’t let renting inhibit your toddler proofing. “If you can’t screw things in because you’re renters, don’t do it. There are plenty of products that are adhesive, or work on handles that you can slide over,” according to Ziegler.

Furniture

The CPSC advises parents anchor all furniture to the wall, or secure it with anti-tip brackets. This includes dressers, entertainment sets, televisions, and any furnishings with drawers. Additionally, to reduce risk of any of these items toppling over, be certain to use all products according to manufacturer instructions. even if your furniture is safely mounted, children can climb up shelves, according to anchorit.gov. To discourage children from scaling furnishings in an attempt to reach appealing objects, never store toys, remote controls, or other desirable items on top of tall furniture.

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Just like the bathroom, the kitchen is filled with potential hazards.

As always, you’ll want to secure all cabinets and drawers with childproof latches, but that’s not all. “One of the things I try to encourage parents to do is actually do most of the cooking while the child is asleep so you haven’t got all of this buzzing activity, sharp knives, hot stoves, ovens, and everything at the same time,” Ziegler advises.

Of course, on a busy day it’s not always convenient to wait until nighttime to prepare dinner or do the week’s meal prep. When waiting isn’t an option, try to cook on the back burners so children can’t reach up and grab anything. Additionally, “make sure you always turn [pots’ and pans’] handles inwards,” Ziegler says.

Heating System

We all know how cold it can get in New York when winter rolls around. However, radiators may be a potential hazard. “Parents with radiators can install covers that are both functional and fashionable,” Thibault says. These covers can prevent children from coming into direct contact and sustaining serious burns.

Also begin educating your children about the risk of injury from burns. “Start teaching them the word ‘hot’ very early,” Ziegler advises. “You need to sound a little alarming when you say the word.

You need to start instilling the understanding of hot. You don’t want them to be touching that hot radiator and getting that burn.”

And though a nice hot bath may seem ideal after a day in the snow, keep your water heater set to lower than 120 degrees Fahrenheit. “A lot of water that comes out of your tap is very, very hot and a child can be scalded by it,” Ziegler warns. “Make sure that if there is a temperature gauge that you can vary, bring it down.”

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If you’re not sure if an area of your home is fully toddler proofed, you may need a change of perspective. “Check out your home from your toddler’s viewpoint,” Thibault advises. “What looks interesting but is potentially dangerous?” This could point out any aspects of child proofing you might have overlooked.

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t seems like only yesterday your child was a baby and you were cooing over his every breakthrough. From first smile to first laugh to first wobbly step, your days were filled with scrapbook-stuffers and Insta-worthy occasions.

Guess what? As your child enters the teen years, she’ll be launching into a period of all-new milestones. They’re (mostly) not so cute—no need to pull out that scrapbook!—but they are important signs that he’s growing up and branching out in healthy new ways. While children develop at their own pace, we asked experts to identify some of the leaps forward you might experience, and offer advice to help you cope with the challenges they may present.

Peer-Group Preference

Remember the good old days when your child wanted you to accompany her everywhere, and fought with her siblings and even your partner for the right to sit next to you? Steel yourself: Your days at the top may be numbered. “One [milestone] I think is common is shifting to your peer group instead of your family as a source of guidance and companionship,” says Rachel Annunziato, Ph.D., associate professor of clinical psychology at Fordham University in the Bronx.

“That can be hard for us as parents, but it can be a normal part of adolescent development,” she says. Teens “are being given more autonomy... It’s more of a chance to socialize on their own terms.”

Your best response? Give your child some of the space he’s craving. “This is where they are working things out in a way that will be helpful before going into the college environment,” Dr. Annunziato explains. It doesn’t mean you have to retreat entirely—plan parent-kid activities, scheduled around his other obligations.

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in the stuff that you want to prioritize,” says Mark Bertin, M.D., a developmental pediatrician in Pleasantville and author of How Children Thrive and Mindful Parenting for ADHD.

Social Calendar Commandeering

It can be a little distressing when your child’s social plans no longer include you. But if you’re at least consulted, you’re better off than many parents! The day may come when your kid makes plans for herself without asking your permission at all. (It may happen sooner in the city and in areas where there’s good public transportation.)

In part, your child has become his own social director because he’s developing a better sense of time management. But for you it can be “very fear-inducing,” Dr. Annunziato says.

Your greatest ally, she says, is social media; thanks to it you may have more of an opportunity to get to know your kids’ friends’ parents, not to mention the friend herself. Alternatively, you can suggest the kids come over before going out (and if they’re depending on you for a ride, you’ll inevitably get to feel out the situation).

Don’t be afraid to nix a plan that seems unsafe or involves unsavory people, or a locale or return time that breaks family rules.

Extreme Embarrassment

Times were, you could be yourself around your child and his friends.

Doing your victory dance at sports games will send her into a red-faced tizzy. And singing? Don’t even try. Why are you suddenly such a disgrace, no matter what you do?

“That sense of being embarrassed by your parents is kind of exactly what you’d expect from teens. It’s because of the tightrope they’re trying to walk, of staying connected to their parents—which you know is still the goal even though they’re trying to become individuals—while

also becoming more and more involved with their peers for support,” Dr. Bertin says. “That sense of embarrassment is probably just a natural reflection of a situation that’s confusing to them. They’re trying to be their own person and that puts them in a situation where they’re still connecting to you and connecting to their social group.”

Again, the solution is to give your child some space (and tone down your embarrassing behaviors). Of course, adds Dr. Bertin, “know as a parent that there are still going to be times when you need to set a boundary and do something even if it’s embarrassing,” such as being stricter than everyone else’s parents (according to your child).

Real Romance

Sure, your child may have given a valentine to Jane a few years ago, and then had a crush on another girl the next year. But sometime around his mid-teens, you may start to realize you’re no longer his main squeeze. “Certainly [there’s] more interest in dating; that will start around then, whether it’s with the opposite sex or the same sex,” Dr. Annunziato says. While pairing off can stem from genuine interest, it can also be a result of dating pressure.

How do you help your child resist the urge to follow the crowd in forming couples? “To the extent you can, keep communication open,” Dr. Annunziato recommends. Let your child know she can always come to you for guidance. As for when to allow your child to date, Dr. Annunziato says it’s all a matter of individual maturity— make sure he understands what it means, and is prepared for potentially getting hurt. And set some ground rules and stick to them.

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Philosophical Pushiness

Your child’s been learning a lot in school and from you. “Maybe empathy for others is changing and increasing,” Dr. Annunziato says. “This is a time when moral reasoning really amps up and cognitively a lot is happening.” These changes may manifest themselves in strident ways: She could proclaim that meat is murder or argue with your politics.

This is a positive transformation, Dr. Annunziato says. “It’s great to foster teens’ expression. It’s great to teach them how to respectfully disagree, so this can be a nice opportunity to teach them at home,” she explains. Acknowledge your teen’s opinions, and accommodate his wishes whenever possible (say, by serving your new vegetarian a meatless dish) without necessarily backing off of your viewpoints.

Future-Facing Planning

No one’s saying your child didn’t plot out her future when she was younger. Perhaps she planned on being a rock star. But now, in the late middle and high school years, her dreams may start taking on a more realistic slant—she may say she wants to become a physician or a mechanical engineer. Teens “begin to become more goal oriented,” Dr. Annunziato says. “It’s something that I am seeing even younger, and it lasts into the college years.” As teens’ sense of time becomes refined and their cognitive skills develop, planning for the future seems more doable.

“If someone is showing an interest in [their future], run with it, make sure their plans make sense,” Dr. Bertin says. But not all kids will be laser-focused on their life after school, he cautions. And don’t be disappointed if your child’s desire ultimately peters out: “A lot of us are a lot different in college than in high school...Things are going to keep changing,” he says—an apt description of the teen years.

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hether you’re just starting your career, switching jobs, or you’ve been working for three decades, making sure you’re saving for retirement is one of the most important things you can do to set yourself up for the future. And the sooner you start saving, the better off you’ll be financially. After all, of those who participated in the Charles Schwab 2018 401K Participant Survey, 60 percent said their 401K will be their main source of income in retirement.

In that same survey, though, 40 percent said saving enough money for a comfortable retirement was their most significant source of financial stress. And with all of the savings options available, you may be feeling the stress too. It can be difficult to navigate what retirement savings vehicle is best for you, especially if financial knowledge isn’t your strong suit. The two most-common ways to save for retirement are a 401K and an Individual Retirement Account. Both are great tax-advantaged options, but it is a common misconception that you have to choose one. Those who are aggressively saving for retirement may have both a 401K and an IRA.

What is a 401K?

A 401K is an employer-sponsored program that allows eligible employees of a company to save and invest a percentage of their own salary for retirement without paying taxes on it, according to Rosanna Guardavaccaro, financial advisor with Strategies for Wealth in Rye Brook and The Guardian Life Insurance Company of America.

This savings plan allows you to put away up to $18,500 each year.

Only an employer can sponsor a 401K for its employees, and this includes if you work for yourself.

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If you are lucky enough to work for a company that offers a 401K, especially one that will make a matching contribution, Daniel D’Ordine, CPF, founder of DDO Advisory Services in Rhinebeck, suggests contributing at least the matching percentage, if it’s financially feasible for you to do so. For example, if your employer will make a matching contribution of up to 6 percent of your salary, you should contribute 6 percent of your salary.

There are a handful of benefits to a 401K. “Contribution limits are so high that you can really lower your current income tax bill by taking money and putting it into your 401K,” D’Ordine says. If you live in a high tax area, this is especially valuable because you are lowering your tax bracket by contributing to your 401K. For example, if you pocket $12,000 of your paycheck, you will have to pay up to 40 percent of taxes on that amount. However, if you put that same $12,000 into your 401K, it’s tax-free money and you have the opportunity to have a portion of that matched by your company (aka free money).

Another advantage is a 401K is ‘automated invisible savings,’ D’Ordine says. “Once you can adjust to this slight reduction in your paycheck, the savings are happening automatically,” he says. “You forget about it and it takes away the emotional component of saving.”

Another great benefit of investing in a 401K is dollar-cost averaging, which means you are investing a fixed dollar amount on a regular schedule and any market fluctuations will not affect this investment, D’Ordine says. Should your salary or your financial situation change, you can change your investment contributions on a quarterly or yearly basis, depending on your company’s policy.

What is an IRA?

An IRA is a mini-federal retirement account you can set up on your own, without sponsorship from an employer, according to D’Ordine. An investment custodian, bank, mutual fund company, or advisor can help you set up a traditional or Roth IRA. With both IRAs, you can put away up to $5,500 each year, plus an additional $1,000 if you are older than 50.

The difference between the two is in contributions. When you contribute to a traditional IRA, you can claim the contribution on your tax return. This means you will pay taxes on the money when you retire, Guardavaccaro says. But you might not get the full amount back in your refund. If your employer offers a retirement plan and your income exceeds certain levels, your deduction may be limited; if your employer doesn’t offer a plan, your deduction is allowed in full, according to the Internal Revenue Service. Roth IRA contributions are not tax-deductible, and you will receive that sum of money tax-free when you retire.

If your modified adjusted gross income (the total income you report that is eligible to be taxed, minus some adjustments you can make) is more than $120,000 as a single or $189,000 as a couple, you may no longer qualify for an IRA. It’s best to consult your accountant or tax advisor if you think this may be the case.

Choosing a Retirement Fund

Determining which plan is best for you is easier than you may think.

If your company will match any amount of your 401K contribution, D’Ordine suggests to do that. A matching contribution should be your number-one priority when determining how to invest for your future since it is a 100-percent return on investment. Many people believe 401Ks are not the most beneficial options due to fees and investment selections, however having access to one is actually a huge benefit of working for a company, D’Ordine says.

“Put in enough to get your match, and if you don’t love the idea of solely investing in a 401K, invest in other stuff as well,” D’Ordine says.

While most large companies offer 401K plans, some ‘mom and pop shop’ businesses may not, D’Ordine says. However, this doesn’t mean your boss doesn’t have a retirement plan in place. Some small business owners may put away money for employees in their own plan.

Things get a little more jumbled when your company doesn’t match or doesn’t begin to match until after a few years of employment, or if your company doesn’t offer a 401K. At that point, look into an IRA. When opening an IRA, whether traditional or Roth, D’Ordine suggests working with an investment professional who can give you advice, as well as a CPA who can double check all of the numbers for you. It is important to know the difference between an investment shop, which can help you set up your plan, and someone who is in the business of giving tax advice because there is a huge tax component to investing for retirement, according to D’Ordine.

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“Retirement is an important goal and individuals should continuously save for it,” Guardavaccaro says.

This is, of course, subject to the individual, the time she is at in her life, and where she currently stands in the economic ecosystem, D’Ordine says. If you are saving toward a shorter-term goal (a down payment on a house), it may be best for you to stop 401K contributions for that period of time. “Bite the bullet for those couple of years, pay the taxes, and throw all of your money into that goal,” D’Ordine says.

A lot of companies will allow you to pause your 401K or adjust your contribution, according to D’Ordine. Your IRA is up to your discretion as far as changing contributions and pausing. The most important thing is making choices about where your money goes that make sense for you.

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Paint, slime, clay, and glitter are all the cool things we use at our studio! Abrakadoodle has been serving the community for more than 11 years offering arty parties for ages 3 and older.

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Chocolatier Birthday Parties for girls and boys ages 3 and older. Children learn how chocolate is made and make and decorate a chocolate pizza, balloon bowl filled with dipped items, candy apples, and other hand dipped goodies to take home. You pick what your guests create.

JILL’S CERAMICS 180 Germonds Road, West Nyack 845-623-4975 jillceramics.com jillsceramics@aol.com

We offer a fully equipped ceramics and plaster studio where children and adults let their creativity run wild. Parties for kids include paper goods, a painter’s hat for the birthday child signed by their friends, and an item for each child to paint.

LAUNCH TRAMPOLINE PARK 260 West Nyack Road, West Nyack 845-977-0415 launchrockland.com

Launch Trampoline Park is a new family fun park located in West Nyack. This brand new, state-of-the-art facility offers three private party rooms for hosting birthday parties!

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We are well known for our great birthday party packages and offer glow bowling for our Sunday parties. All parties include bowling, shoe rental, food, paper goods, invitations, setup, and cleanup. We do the work, you enjoy the party!

NORTHERN VALLEY DANCE ACADEMY 75 Oak St., Norwood, NJ 201-784-6400 nvdanceacademy.com

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Our Sky Tykes kids’ ropes course is designed for ages 2-7. Both courses are available for birthday parties. Book your party today!

PARTY ANIMALS 1302 Palisades Center Drive Palisades Mall, 1st floor near Best Buy, West Nyack 914-336-0144 partyanimalsonline.com

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ROCKLAND FENCERS CLUB 40 Lydecker St., Nyack 718-697-1440 rocklandfencersclub.com info@rocklandfencersclub.com

Rockland Fencers Club (RFC) is excited to announce their new private fencing party package for ages 8-16. No experience required and all necessary equipment included.

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Our bright, colorful facility is the perfect place for your child’s private birthday party (ages 1-12) We’ll provide two wonderful, exciting, and energetic party instructors.

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VICKI’S DANCE STUDIO AND KREATIVE KIDS 61 Maple Ave., New City 845-634-2202 vickistudio.com

We offer a variety of birthday parties for boys and girls of all ages. Great party theme options include hip-hop, dance party & games mix, jumping gymnastics, Disney dance mix, and dress-up princess party.

VISION SPORTS CLUB Youth Fit Zone 37 W. Jefferson Ave., Pearl River 845-517-1427 visionsportsclub.com

Our 1½ hour parties include 1-hour of games and activities of your choice in our 7000-square-foot Sports Zone. The fun continues in our private party room with pizza, drinks, and birthday cake.

WEST ROCK INDOOR SPORTS AND ENTERTAINMENT COMPLEX 21 Pralle Lane, Nanuet 845-623-3636 westrockindoor.com

West Rock offers the ultimate place to hold your birthday party. Our unique and versatile facility boasts 40-foot ceilings, 26,000-square-feet of turf, two regulation-size basketball courts, six Har-Tru tennis courts, indoor bouncers, and private party room.

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Health Care Professional Dental Wellness of Suffern Sherri Alpert, D.D.S. 2 Executive Blvd., Suite 307, Suffern 845-918-1801 dentalwellnessofsuffern.com dentalwellness@optonline.net

Kastin Orthodontics 6 Medical Park Drive, Pomona 845-354-7233 kastinorthodontics.com drkastin09@yahoo.com

Dr. Alpert is excited to offer drill-free, needle-free dentistry with the Solea CO2 Laser. Her practice offers comfortable cosmetic dentistry for the entire family including implants and full mouth reconstruction if necessary.

Dental Wellness of Suffern provides natural, effective, quality dental care to make your visit as enjoyable, comfortable, and relaxing as possible.

A parent herself, Dr. Alpert enjoys working with children who are apprehensive about the dentist, creating a fun environment with magic tricks, a wall mural, and a Find the Dental Helpers game.

With 17 years of orthodontic experience, Dr. Brett Kastin prides his practice on conservative, early treatment and cost-free, childhood dental monitoring, enabling the most effective treatment possible, as well as being a knowledgeable, compassionate clinician and friend. He utilizes state-of-theart materials and customized treatment. Dr. Kastin is a certified Invisalign® provider, has been president of the Rockland County Dental Society since 2006, and was voted Rockland’s “Top Orthodontist” by the dentists of Rockland County for the past 10 years. Initial exams are complimentary, as are children’s recall appointments.

Marita Smith, D.D.S. Smith’s Little Smiles Pediatric Dentistry 5C Medical Park Drive, Pomona 845-414-9626 smithslittlesmiles.com; drsmith@smithslittlesmiles.com

Tenafly Pediatrics 74 Pascack Road, Park Ridge, NJ 201-326-7120 Offices also in Tenafly, Fort Lee, Clifton, Paramus, and Oakland, NJ tenaflypediatrics.com

Sachdev Family Orthodontics 124 E. Ramapo Road, Suite 2, Garnerville 845-786-7736 sfojustsmile.com; sfojustsmile@gmail.com Facebook.com/sachdevfamilyorthodontics Instagram: @sachdevfamilyorthodontics

Crystal Run 2 Centerock Road, West Nyack 845-348-1100 crystalrunhealthcare.com

Dr. Marita Smith is a board-certified pediatric dentist dedicated to providing excellent dental care for children from infancy through adolescence in a warm and friendly environment. As a mother of two, Dr. Smith knows how important it is for a child to be comfortable and stressfree during their dental visits. Dr. Smith places great focus on prevention and her goal is to keep your child’s smile healthy! Most insurances accepted. Evening and Saturday hours and 24-hour emergency service available. Se habla Español.

At Sachdev Family Orthodontics, we provide individualized braces and Invisalign treatment to kids and adults. Dr. Ameeta Sachdev has been in the dental field for two decades with dual dental degrees, from India and U.S. She teaches orthodontics at St. Barnabas Hospital, Bronx. She pays attention to detail, whether it is designing the state-of-the-art office herself or perfecting your smile. Being committed to serve, she is an active supporter of community events and local art. Free consultations, most insurance accepted, evening and Saturday hours, and 24-hour emergency service available.

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Dr. David Schaumberger is one of the pediatricians working out of our newly expanded Park Ridge office. As someone who lives nearby, he enjoys working in Northern Bergen and Rockland counties. Dr. Schaumberger completed his pediatric residency from the Mount Sinai School of Medicine in New York and has been working at Tenafly Pediatrics since 2001. On a personal note, he enjoys ethnic cuisine and spending time with his three children. Tenafly Pediatrics is a recent Angie’s List Winner with offices conveniently located throughout Bergen County.

Crystal Run Healthcare is a premier multi-specialty group medical practice with more than 400 providers, offering the convenience of Primary Care and nearly 50 medical specialties. Our state-of-the-art West Nyack facility offers patients easy access to quality health care with more than 20 medical and surgical specialties, including adolescent medicine, pediatrics, maternal-fetal medicine, obstetrics and gynecology, including urogynecology. Our innovative facility boasts an infusion center, urgent care, diagnostic testing services, on-site laboratory services, diagnostic imaging, and women’s imaging. Crystal Run also has offices in Haverstraw, Stony Point, and Suffern.

Bobby Crohn, D.D.S. Monroe Dental Office 400 State Route 17M, Suite 2, Monroe 845-782-0189 monroedentaloffice.com monroedental@optonline.net

Dr. Crohn graduated from SUNY Stony Brook with a degree in biology. He received his Doctor of Dental Surgery from the University at Buffalo in 1992, and he completed his general practice residency at Danbury Hospital in 1993. Dr. Crohn has done extensive additional training in implant dentistry including training with Dr. Nick Elian at Vistara Institute, DentalXP Symposiums, and training at Zimmerman Institute.

Dr. Crohn is a Fellow of the International Congress of Oral Implantologists. He offers state-of-the art treatment including on-site cone beam 3-D imaging.

A & R Advanced Dental Group, Anna Alekseyeva, D.D.S., Roman Izmailov, D.D.S. 5C Medical Park Drive, Pomona 845-364-9400 aradvanceddental.com

At A&R Advanced Dental Group, patient satisfaction and comfort is our No. 1 priority. We are a cutting edge practice that delivers state-of-the-art dental care to our patients. Dr. Roman Izmailov and Dr. Anna Alekseyeva have more than 30 years of experience in all phases of dentistry, including high quality and affordable dental implants, zirconia crowns, porcelain veneers, fixed bridges, root canal treatments, teeth whitening, and composite fillings.

Evening appointments are available and we accept most insurances.

Bear Brook Dental Care Dr. Kiwon Lee, D.D.S. Adult Dentistry & Dental Medicine for Sleep Apnea 305 W. Grand Ave., Suite 100, Montvale, NJ 201-746-9474 bearbrookdentalcare.com; info@bearbrookdentalcare.com

Bear Brook Children’s Dental Specialists Dr. Tommy Lee, D.M.D., Pediatric Dentist 305 W. Grand Ave., Suite 100, Montvale, NJ 201-746-9474 bearbrookdentalcare.com info@bearbrookdentalcare.com

Dr. Kiwon Lee received his D.D.S. degree from Columbia University and completed his residency at New York-Presbyterian/Columbia University Medical Center. Dr. Lee is a fellow of the International Congress of Oral Implantologists.

He is also a Diplomate of the American Academy of Dental Sleep Medicine.

Dr. Lee is well-recognized in the industry as one of the most experienced dental sleep medicine providers, having successfully managed more than 500 obstructive sleep apnea patients during his career and being featured as an expert on “American Health Front” on WCBS-TV, CBS, Channel 2.

Dr. Tommy Lee specializes in pediatric dentistry. He treats patients from infancy to adolescence, including special needs children. Understanding that many dental phobias develop in early childhood, Dr. Lee will take great care to ensure your kids grow up with a positive outlook on oral health. Even the most nervous child will leave with a healthier smile under Dr. Lee’s care. Dr. Lee earned his Doctor of Medicine in Dentistry degree at Boston University and completed his pediatric dental specialty training at Yale School of Medicine. Most major insurance accepted.

Smile More Kidz Meet Your Smile Team 140 Oak Tree Road, Tappan 845-367–4866 smilemorekidz.com

Clemente Orthodontics 603 S. Route 304, New City 845-638-6646 60 W. Ridgewood Ave., Ridgewood, NJ 201-447-2888 clementeorthodontics.com

At Smile More Kidz, we are part of a local tradition of providing your children with the very best that dentistry has to offer in a friendly, comfortable setting. Our entire team understands how children develop and learn and make sure nervous kids feel comfortable and respected. We offer 8am–7pm and Saturday appointments so our patients don’t have to miss school for their care. We believe in building a foundation for a lifetime of healthy smiles by making every visit to our office a fun and informative experience.

At Clemente Orthodontics, our patients receive the benefit of experience, quality, and energy that comes with a multi-generational team. Dr. Michael Clemente and his daughters, Dr. Nicole Clemente and Dr. Marissa Clemente, work together seamlessly to care for your orthodontic needs. They run a state-of-the-art practice with digital X-rays, private treatment rooms, impression-free Invisalign, and a highly experienced staff. They are an Invisalign Super Elite Premier provider, offering Invisalign and Invisalign Teen as treatment options. Consultations are complimentary.

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Bach to Rock - Nanuet ..................................................19

German Language School Westwood............................13

Bounce! Trampoline Sports ...........................................15

Kreative Kids & Vicki’s Dance Studio...............................7

Valley Pediatrics.............................................................39

Jill’s Ceramics ................................................................21 Launch Trampoline Park ................................................17 New City Bowling & Batting Cages ................................17 Rockland Parent Party Planner......................................44 Sky Zone - Allendale.......................................................17 Surge Studio...................................................................19 Tumble-Bee Gymnastics................................................19

Tutor Time - New City ....................................................39

family entertainment / events / outings Hurd’s Family Farm........................................................41 New City Bowling & Batting Cages ................................17

home services Suez...............................................................................35

music Bach to Rock - Nanuet ..................................................19

performing arts / acting Northern Valley Dance Academy......................................9

Palisades Center .............................................................5 The Creepy Caboose at Haverstraw Station..................11

Vision Sports Club .........................................................21

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West Rock Indoor Sports Complex................................19

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Young Chefs Academy...................................................19

Hurd’s Family Farm........................................................41

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Academy for Martial Arts................................................15

Edward Jones ..................................................................9

Sky Zone - Allendale.......................................................17

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Brilliant Minds Daycare & Learning Center.....................37 German Language School Westwood............................13

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Kreative Kids & Vicki’s Dance Studio...............................7

Academy for Martial Arts................................................15

West Rock Indoor Sports Complex................................19

Danceworks....................................................................41

Young Chefs Academy...................................................19

Launch Trampoline Park ................................................17

Palisades Center .............................................................5

retail European Wax Center .....................................................9 Palisades Center .............................................................5 Tilly...A Deer’s Tale.........................................................21

Phoenix Aquatic Club.....................................................13

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Clemente Orthodontics ..................................................43

Help is Here Coaching, LLC...........................................37

Jill’s Ceramics ................................................................21

Crystal Run Healthcare............................................42, 48

Northern Valley Dance Academy......................................9

Dental Wellness of Suffern...................................2, 42, 43

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Kreative Kids & Vicki’s Dance Studio...............................7

Sachdev Family Orthodontics...................................13, 42

Phoenix Aquatic Club.....................................................13

Northern Valley Dance Academy......................................9

Smile More Dentistry ...............................................39, 43

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Smith’s Little Smiles Pediatric Dentistry...................33, 42

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What do you think your kids will be for Halloween?

“My six-year-old son, Dillon, and four-year-old son, Reed, can’t get enough of Star Wars. My husband and I are trying to influence them to dress up as a member of the Resistance, but it is looking more likely that Dillon will be a Tusken Raider and Reed will be Darth Vader!”

—Felicia Soler, Westchester County

“My five-year-old daughter is obsessed with Cookie Monster (second year in a row), so she will probably wear that costume again.

My seven-year-old son is thinking of being a character from his favorite video game, Fortnite.”

—Karen Ann, Rockland County

“Last year, for my daughter’s first Halloween, she was a peapod.

This year I was thinking some kind of a woodland animal like a fox or a raccoon. I asked my three-year-old niece what Baby Gigi should be and she said a witch. When I said I wasn’t sure about that one, she said a pumpkin without hesitation. So a pumpkin it is!”

—Amy Elliott, Brooklyn

“My daughter is four and she wants to be a fairy.”

—Cathy Como-Marcotrigiano, Queens

“A giraffe. We already have the costume because I was so excited.”

—Leslie Brachfeld Sanchez, Manhattan

Ultimately, my goal is for my girls to know that their ideas and creations are loved and valued. Whether it be a drawing, a dance move, a song they made up, or a funny-looking batch of peanut butter cookies.

— Ilana Wiles, in a post entitled “Encouraging Creativity and Confidence in My Girls” on mommyshorts.com

“Stop putting kids first. Imagine a relationship that centers on the two of you, and all the stability and care your kids will take from that. Accept that a truly wonderful relationship only multiplies the love available to your kids— not robs them of some of yours.

Because in those families, there is all the more love to go around.”

— Emma Johnson, in a post entitled “Why Single Parents Should Put Their Kids Second When Dating” on wealthysinglemommy.com

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“Since my one-year-old son loves airplanes, he will most likely be dressed as a pilot. My daughter? Definitely Peppa Pig! She loves everything Peppa, especially ‘Princess Peppa.’”

—Vanessa Gordon, Suffolk County

“Seriously, any Fortnite character.”

—Chrissy MonteMastro, Nassau County

YOU SNOOZE OR YOU LOOSE “Anyone with a toddler who woke up a little too early, stayed up a little too late, or missed a nap knows the dreaded consequences: whines that escalate into ear-shattering screams that make you want to run away and join the circus — if that were an option. One simpler remedy is adequate sleep. In about a third of all-cases, sleep-deprived behavior is often misdiagnosed as ADHD.” —Rebecca Kempton, JD, in an article entitled “10 Ways Good Sleep Habits Make Kids Smarter, Happier, and Healthier.” Read the whole story at nymetroparents.com/sleep-habits.

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