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16 15 Questions to Ask a Pediatrician How to find the best doctor for your family’s needs
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18 Kids Making a Difference These five young adults launched their own nonprofits. Here’s how—and how your child can, too. 24 Thanksgiving Desserts Kids Can Help Make Amanda Grant shares recipes from Kids in the Kitchen that are perfect for children to help bake. 44 Does My Child Have an Eating Disorder? Three experts share what to look out for, the physical and mental health risks, and getting your child the help she needs. 50 Focus on Your Abilities When your child with special needs starts to feel discouraged, let him read this, or use this as a guide, to help him through it.
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NOVEMBER 2017 • Vol9 • No.6
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MANAGING EDITOR: Katelin Walling DEPUTY EDITOR: Caitlin Berens SENIOR EDITOR: Bethany Braun-Silva ENGAGEMENT EDITOR: Samantha Neudorf
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ike many parents, I struggle to instill in my kids a sense of caring about the world around them and empathy for those less fortunate than we are. I see glimmers of hope occasionally, such as when we attended a political rally as a family or when my kids decide to donate some of their toys to charity. But sparking in our children a sustained sense of responsibility for other people and for the welfare of our planet is a daunting job. So it was with a mix of awe and envy that I read Julia Hyman’s report about amazing kids and teens who went beyond caring and even volunteering to actually found nonprofit organizations, allowing them to have a much broader and longer-term impact than they could on their own (p. 18). If you have a budding social entrepreneur on your hands, you’ll also find tips for kids who want to start their own charities. For the rest of us, we offer a guide to local organizations at which families can volunteer this holiday season (p. 22). As we head into Thanksgiving and then December holidays, food—and lots of it— will be front and center at our family gatherings. It’s a time to feast and indulge, but we also need to be conscious of the fact our attitude and behavior toward food sends a message to our kids. For too many young people, food turns into its own struggle, leading to potentially serious health problems. Katelin Walling tells us what parents need to know about kids and eating disorders, from preventing them to recognizing the signs, to treating them when they happen (p. 44). When health problems do strike our kids, it’s essential we have a trusted pediatrician to turn to. For our family, that’s been a huge comfort and help in times of crisis. If you’ve got doubts about your doctor—or are expecting your first child and seeking a pediatrician—Bethany Braun-Silva offers 15 questions to ask that will help you find the right match (p. 16). For those kids with ongoing special needs, the barrage of specialists, therapists, tutors, and doctors can sometimes feel overwhelming and, I am sure, demoralizing. To help combat those feelings, check out our feature about focusing on kids’ abilities, rather than their disabilities (p. 50). And then see what that looks like by reading Amanda Marrone’s heartwarming essay on growing up with a brother who has special needs (p. 62). This issue marks my last one as editorial director here at NYMetroParents, and in this season of gratitude I want to say thank you to all of you, our readers, for being part of our community of parents and enriching my time here. I leave you with wishes for a happy Thanksgiving filled with gratitude and blessings!
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Who: East Woods School What’s New: Laura Kang, who was hired as the school’s first female head of school in July. This will be Kang’s 34th year as an independent school educator and 10th year as a head of school, which was her previous position at Mizzentop Day School in Pawling. “My goal is to keep the strengths and traditions of the school alive while refining and honing every aspect of our program, especially in the areas of critical thinking, technology, and cultural understanding,” Kang says. East Woods School is an independent private school serving children in pre-nursery to eighth grade. Want More Info: 31 Yellow Cote Road, Oyster Bay; 516-922-4400; info@eastwoods.org; eastwoods.org
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Who: theCoderSchool Syosset What’s New: An after-school coding program location in Syosset for children ages 7-18, which opened Oct. 14. The after-school program offers drop-off classes in coding and programming for kids of all skill levels, which take place weekly. “We decided to place our first site in Syosset because of the incredible energy and focus that the district has on educating [its] students,” says Noreen Kazi, owner and general manager. Coding classes at various levels are also offered throughout the year, as well as coding camps during summer and school breaks. Want More Info: 45 Ira Road, Syosset; 516-584-4244; syosset@thecoderschool.com; thecoderschool.com/syosset
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Who: Long Island Nets What’s New: The team’s 24 home games will be held at NYCB Live, home of the Nassau Veterans Memorial Coliseum, beginning Nov. 4 with a game against the Fort Wayne Mad Ants. For the first time in 40 years the Long Island Nets, the minor league affiliate team of the NBA’s Brooklyn Nets, will be bringing a full schedule of professional basketball to Long Island. “Fans can expect an exciting atmosphere filled with family-friendly activities,” says Alton Byrd, vice president of business operations. Want More Info: NYCB Live, home of the Nassau Veterans Memorial Coliseum, 1255 Hempstead Turnpike, Uniondale; 516-231-4848; longislandnets.com
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UOTABLES As Marlowe grew from a baby to a toddler, I thought a lot about structure and discipline. About the dichotomy of allowing our children to be children, but also having behavioral expectations that they are aware of in order to create a structure that allows them to blossom and mature and learn. —Eva Amurri Martino, in a post entitled “Disciplining a Toddler,” on her blog happilyevaafter.com
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“I find myself getting depressed about the state of the world, wondering if I made a mistake bringing kids into it, wondering if anything I do even matters. But when the world feels like too much, I have to remind myself to focus on the way I can make a difference—especially because it’s been right in front of me all along, right here at home.” —Chaunie Brusie, in a post entitled “What Can We Do When The World Is Falling Apart? We Can Keep Showing Up,” on mom.me
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“Coping with distance can be tough. The good news is that there are lots of ways to keep geographical distance from putting real emotional distance between your kids and their relatives.” —Cora Waring, in an article entitled “Wish You Were Here!: How to Keep Kids Close to Distant Relatives;” read more at nymetroparents.com/distant-relatives
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NYMP Q&A
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Jess Shatkin, M.D., M.P.H., leads the educational efforts of the NYU Child Study Center and recently wrote Born to Be Wild: Why Teens Take Risks and How We Can Help Keep Them Safe. What is it about adolescents that make them want to take risks? We have known forever that adolescents act at times impulsively or irrationally. The confusing thing is, when you talk to them 1-on-1 or even in a classroom, they’re totally rational and are able to explain their thoughts and feelings. They are able to tell you whether it’s a good idea to do something or not to do something. They don’t make bad decisions because they can’t think them through. Part of it is the brain and all the disconnects from the frontal cortex and the emotional center. Kids feel passion, they can feel love, anger, envy, desire. You can control it when you are in your 20s much better than you can at 15, so there is a lot of unbridled passion. There is also a lot of dopamine in the brain that is higher than it will ever be. The intrigue of sex, the excitement of being on a roller coaster, the excitement of driving 100mph, the excitement of jumping off a roof into the pool—that is more exiting than it will ever be again, and teens are just driven by that thrill. How can parents be cognizant of the risks their children take or may want to take? The way we address risk is knowing our kids, knowing their friends, knowing their friends’ parents, spending time with our kids. Kids who have parents that spend time with them and who are available to them take fewer risks. They talk to their parents about the risks they are thinking of taking, they talk to their parents about their friends who are taking risks, and they see their parents as a reliable source of information and counsel. Parents who aren’t around, who aren’t engaged in the process, who don’t ask their kids about sex, who don’t ask their kids about drugs, who don’t just listen and hang out and let their kids chatter about whatever they want to chatter about, those parents don’t know what’s going on with their kids and their kids don’t come to them. By the time you find marijuana in your kid’s dresser, it’s pretty late, quite honestly. Are there any trends in this behavior and how has risky behavior evolved over the years? Things are pretty much the same in that the three top killers of young adults ages 13-25 are accidents, suicide, and homicide. Suicide has increased, and that has to do with social networking and with all of the access we have to constantly knowing what everyone else is thinking about us or the message they are trying to send about how great they’re doing or how wonderful their life is. You see this very clearly with this FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) thing kids talk about. It is a very real thing, and new imaging studies of the brain show when a kid is left out, they feel pain in the brain in the same areas as when they experience physical pain. If you are left out of a group, your brain feels like you are being burned or hit hard. Kids will do a lot to avoid that physical pain; they will take a lot of risks to be part of the group.
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DIY CORNER Health Experiment
Making Snot! To understand more about what snot is (and to gross out your friends), make some fake snot and then find out why you should never sneeze into your hand.
You will need: Kettle 2 small bowls 3 packets of unflavored gelatin Fork ¼ cup (4 tablespoons) corn (golden) syrup Green food coloring Vaseline Glitter 1. Ask an adult to help you heat water in a kettle until it is very hot, but not quite boiling. Pour half a cup of the almost boiling water into a bowl and sprinkle on the three packets of gelatin. Stir the powder in with a fork and then leave to soften for 5 minutes. 2. Put the corn (golden) syrup into another bowl. 3. Stir the gelatin mix with a fork until all the lumps have gone and then slowly add it to the corn syrup until your mixture looks like snot. Use a fork to stir it, as it will pull out long strands of snot. Add a few drops of green food coloring to make it even more disgusting. This looks like snot because it is made of the same ingredients as snot—protein, sugar, and water. They are different types of protein and sugar, but snot has a very similar chemical make-up.
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4. Now wipe a very thin smear of Vaseline onto a door handle that everyone in your family uses a lot. Sprinkle a thin layer of glitter all over it—it should stick to the Vaseline. Don’t tell anyone. 5. After a while get everyone to check their hands to see if there is glitter on them. Become a detective and check other places to find how far the glitter has spread. Imagine that you had cold and had sneezed into your hand and then opened a door. The bacteria and viruses from your snot would have been wiped onto the door handle. The next person who opened the door would have got it on their hands and spread it further and probably caught your cold. This is why you should never sneeze into your hand—unless you are going to wash it straight away!
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A good pediatrician is an invaluable resource—here’s how to find the best fit for your family’s needs. By Bethany Braun-Silva
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s soon-to-be parents can imagine, and current parents know, having a trusted pediatrician is monumentally important. When you’re expecting, the checklists of tasks to be completed before baby comes home are already substantial, but nevertheless, it’s important to take the time to vet different pediatricians in order to find the right doctor for your family, location, and needs. And, since your baby will need to be seen by a doctor within the first week of birth, it’s important to find the right fit before baby arrives so you’re comfortable and confident at appointments. If you’re past that stage, there are many reasons why you might be considering switching pediatricians, from the practical concerns such as office hours or location to worries about fit and approach. So whether you’re expecting your first child or looking to switch pediatricians for your kids, we’ve come up with a list of 15 questions to guide you on your journey to finding the right doctor. 1. Is the practice in a convenient location? It’s one thing to strap your week-old baby in a carrier and hop on the subway for a few stops, but it’s quite another to lug a stroller up and down those subway stairs or call a car service to get you to the opposite end of town. A convenient location might not be the 16
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most important requirement, but it sure does help should your child need an urgent sick visit or if you will be traveling solo or with more than one kid. 2. Is the pediatrician board-certified? If the doctor is certified by the American Board of Pediatrics, that means she has passed a specialized exam in pediatrics. Additionally, if the doctor is a member of the American Academy of Pediatrics the letters “FAAP” will appear after her name. This means she has met established standards for providing child health care. 3. What’s his child-care ideology? What are his thoughts on breast-feeding? Co-sleeping? Circumcision? These are all important things your pediatrician can help you with. You might also want to find out his philosophies on sleep training, potty training, and discipline. If your thoughts don’t align, this can make for some challenging visits. 4. How long does a typical check-up last? This is something you can get an idea of during a prenatal visit with a pediatrician, should you choose to have one. Does the doctor
take her time? Does she give you an opportunity to ask all of your questions? It is best that you don’t feel rushed during appointments. New parents are especially exhausted and overwhelmed and it’s important they feel at ease at the pediatrician’s office. 5. Is it a group or solo practice? If it’s a solo practice you will be seeing the same pediatrician each time you visit, although you should ask who covers for him while he’s away. If it’s a group practice you might be scheduled with different pediatricians or nurse practitioners each time you are there. Consider what’s important to you: seeing the same pediatrician every time, or the accessibility that can come from multiple doctors on staff. 6. Does the pediatrician have a subspecialty? Certain pediatricians have subspecialties, such as advanced training in allergies, behavioral issues, endocrinology, or psychiatry. This might be something to consider if there are pre-existing conditions that run in your family. 7. What is the doctor’s stance on vaccinations? While the topic of vaccinations can be a bit touchy, you’ll want to get clear before you commit on what the doctor’s opinion is regarding the timing of vaccinations. Some practices offer a gradual vaccination schedule, if that’s something you might be interested in, while others will only stick to the standard schedule. 8. Can you get a same-day sick visit? I can’t tell you how many times I’ve called my son’s pediatrician needing an appointment for that same day. I have never been denied, and it has been a source of great relief for me and my family. Not all doctors offer this service, so if urgency is important to you, make sure this is an option. 9. Does the office offer evening or weekend hours? If you’re a working parent, it will be difficult to get your child to well visits, never mind sick ones, during regular working hours. Extended and weekend hours can be a lifesaver for some parents. 10. What’s the wait time? You’ll probably experience some wait time in any doctor’s office, but if the office is consistently behind schedule that can be a real issue. Waiting rooms are notoriously germy and full of not-sohappy-kids. Visit prospective offices and check out the wait time for yourself, or ask a parent who’s there. There’s nothing worse than a room full of crying kids waiting to get shots. 11. How does the office look? Is the place clean? Are there toys and books for your child to play with? Because you might spend at least a few minutes waiting to be seen, it’s best to have an office that is appealing to kids. Some offices even provide patients with separate waiting rooms for sick and well kids—something to consider.
13. What is the practice’s emergency protocol and hospital affiliation? If your child has a serious accident or allergic reaction, you will need to know your pediatrician’s protocol for handling these emergencies. Does she make house calls? Will he visit children if they end up in the ER? If the practice has a hospital affiliation, find out about its reputation and if it’s close to where you live. Ask how the hospital works in conjunction with the pediatrician’s office and if it allows parents to stay in the room overnight with admitted children. Hopefully this will be something you never have to experience, but it’s good information to have nonetheless. 14. Does the practice accept your insurance? Find out what plans the office accepts and whether your plan is one of them. Also, it’s a good idea to have some knowledge of all the plans they accept in case your insurance changes. If the practice does not accept your insurance, find out if it offers payment plans or a sliding scale for certain services. 15. What is your gut feeling? This is a question for yourself, not the pediatrician, but an important one nonetheless. This doctor will be a very important part of your child’s life for years to come. Ultimately you want to find someone who you trust and feel comfortable with. After all, he will be a key player in your child’s health and development.
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12. Can you call with questions? Is there a number to call if you have a simple question regarding your child’s health? Sometimes issues are small enough they don’t warrant a trip to the office. You want to make sure your office has a number you can call that will connect you to a doctor, nurse, or nurse practitioner on staff. This is also an important after-hours feature as well.
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Courtesy the Ladybug Foundation Hannah Taylor started The Ladybug Foundation when she was 8.
Jake and Max Klein, founders of Kids That Do Good, pose at a school event.
Kids Making a Difference
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These young people were so dedicated to improving the world they launched their own nonprofit organizations. Here’s how they did it—and how your child can, too. By Julia Hyman
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hen Hannah Taylor was 5, she saw a man searching through a dumpster on the street. She was sad, angry, and kept asking herself, Why? For the next year, that man seemed to be all she could think about. He inspired her to learn everything she could about homelessness. After educating herself, Taylor, who grew up in Winnipeg, Manitoba, took action to help make sure no one else would have to live like that man did. With her parents’ help, at age 8 she founded the Ladybug Foundation, a nonprofit organization that raises money for and awareness about poverty and homelessness. Her motto: “Share a little of what you have and care about each other always.” “I’ve always lived an incredibly fortunate life,” Taylor, now 21, says. “Always had a bed to sleep in, food to eat, and love and care. I didn’t realize that anybody in Canada had to live a homeless life. It hit me right in the gut. I think that everyone has a moment like that in life. A striking realization that you just cannot let go and forget about. For me, this was it.” Starting a nonprofit organization is difficult to do at any age, involving a lot of planning and researching, not to mention inevitable challenges implementing even the best-crafted plans. To become a registered nonprofit in the United States, founders need to do their homework about the legal requirements. They’ll need to create a mission statement and business plan, establish an executive board, file for 501(c)(3) tax-exempt status, and more. The process can take multiple years and hit unexpected snags at any point—and that’s aside from the difficulties any individual
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or group faces in tackling massive problems such as poverty or climate change. We spoke to several teens and young adults who have successfully navigated these challenges and created their own nonprofit organizations that are still thriving today. They told us how they did it and offered advice for how other kids can follow in their footsteps and make a lasting difference of their own by starting their own nonprofit groups. Since starting her organization, Taylor has spoken about its work at conferences, schools, and to whoever would listen. Because of her age, her efforts weren’t always successful, and she says many people challenged or doubted her along the way. Taylor recalls a difficult moment when she spoke at a conference and a man stood up and asked, “Do you think that is going to work?” She responded, “Well it’s a good place to start”—and he came back with, “It will work when pigs fly.” A few months later, she received a letter in the mail from that same man from the conference. He wrote that every day he would pass someone asking for change on the street. “After learning about Ladybug, a voice in his head would tell him to stop and ask how he is,” Taylor says. He ended up having an hour-long conversation with the man asking for change. His views on that man and those living in poverty changed as a result. “Along with the letter came a cast-iron pig with wings,” Taylor says. “It’s a challenge that you end up learning from. The only way to overcome it is to keep working and hope that you change
someone’s mind and hope that they show care and love in another way.” When starting a nonprofit, there always will be challenges and struggles along the way, but there are also going to be moments when the founders realize their work is changing lives. For Taylor, that moment happened when she was 10. She was on a tour of a homeless shelter so she could understand more about the people who use it. Kids from the shelter would join in on the tour and play with Taylor. “There was one girl, about 15 years old, who was quiet and hung back the whole time,” Taylor says. “Right when I was about to leave, she snuck through a crowd of people and hugged me. She had tears in her eyes and said, ‘Before today, I thought nobody loved me, and now I know you do.’” For Taylor, it’s essential to see past the challenges and remain focused on the mission, the purpose for which a young person is starting a nonprofit in the first place. “If things get hard or overwhelming or you are facing self-doubt, just remember your job as a change-making leader, and that is to create hope in other people,” Taylor says.
Kids That Do Good
Max and Jake Klein, 15-year-old twin brothers from Edgewater, NJ, have always loved helping those in need. They spend their birthdays raising money for charities instead of receiving presents. However, every time they wanted to volunteer, they were turned down because of their age. They didn’t want other kids to feel the same way they did, so they decided to do something about it. When they were 12 years old, Jake and Max founded the nonprofit organization Kids That Do Good. It’s an online platform that helps children of all ages find charities where they are able to volunteer. The website allows you to filter your search by age, location, religious affiliation, and cause. There is also a “Donate” option for people to help support their organization. “When people donate money, we hold it in our account until the end of the month and then donate that money directly to the Charity of the Month,” Jake says. Max and Jake insist they are just normal kids. The boys go to camp, participate in specialized clubs, and attend a business academy, all while still maintaining their organization. “Our board of advisors helps us make sure organizations we put up on our website are true charities, they help us search things, and they look at information from different angles than we do,” Max says. The Kleins started out by raising funds for organizations in their town that needed help, but Kids That Do Good has now grown to encompass charities nationwide. In 2015, a fire in Avalon, NJ, displaced 200 local families. Right away, Max and Jake decided to create a website to raise funds for those families. “Everyone responded really quickly and we had such a large outcome that we brought in over $200,000 that we divided up and gave to the families that were affected by the fire,” Jake says. The boys hope to keep Kids That Do Good up and running for a long time. When they move on to college, they hope to influence other young adults to do good as well. “We want kids to learn that giving back should be a part of everyday life, not just something that they do on a yearly basis when their parents tell them to,” Jake says. “For anyone that is starting their own website or organization, keep going at it and never give up,” he advises. “Because it could end up being a big thing and you should never give up on your dreams.” continued on next page ››
ADVICE ON STARTING A NONPROFIT— FROM KIDS WHO’VE DONE IT Hannah Taylor, the LadyBug Foundation If you are a young person who is interested in making a difference, you have to try a bunch of new things. Join organizations that people around you think are amazing or that you learn about in class. Often times, trying new things has to happen outside of your comfort zone. Once you find that thing, learn as much about it as you can. People talk about how knowledge is power, but I think that knowledge is only powerful when you turn that knowledge into understanding. I think the next step is that yes, one person can make a difference, but together we can make an even bigger difference. Jake and Max Klein, Kids That Do Good If you find something you care about, you will be excited to do it. You will be looking forward to it, and you will also need to ask your parents to help with some of it. Kids aren’t going to be the ones to contact the IRS to become a 501(c)(3) organization, so that will have to be put up on the parents’ end. Instead of just having a lot of kids involved, you should also have grown-ups so you are diversifying the age groups you have. Make sure you have people that will help you in starting your charity because we have had people help search things, build our website, and more. Always get opinions so you have something else to refer to. Cory Nichols, C the Difference: Cory Cares The one thing I’d say to all kids is that there is no idea too small, and you should go for anything you believe in. That was my mindset at 12 and I think it would be totally different if I did it now than at 12. You can’t really see the obstacles or what can go wrong. You just see the possibilities and that is what brought me to where I am now. You don’t know how good it feels to give back until you do it and giving makes yourself feel so much better. I know how I feel once I walk out of the food pantry, to see the shelves go from empty to notso-empty. I’ll never be able to fill up a pantry by myself, but just seeing the impact that you do make, makes you feel so good about yourself. Teagan Stedman, Shred Kids’ Cancer It can be difficult to get your own community involved with your efforts, but sometimes there is a ton of support through your events and by getting your friends to volunteer. There is a lot of variability as to how readily people will support your cause, but I think the biggest thing is to be persistent and to be sort of loud in trying to get your community on board. Try to plan very well. So if you’re trying to hold a fundraising event, make sure you market a lot. That can be a difficult thing to learn, making sure you know how many people you can get to come to your event, try to go around and get sponsorships and things like that. Social media is definitely the most powerful tool for getting the word out. You have to really try and keep your expenses low. We’ve had events that weren’t that successful, even just with the fundraising aspect. Even though you might be successful in engaging people and raising awareness, be aware because the expenses really hinder your efforts a lot. Venues and services from private people are really hard to control, which is one of the bigger challenges in fundraising. LongIslandParent 19
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Oceanside teen Cory Nichols with some of the food that will go toward stocking local food pantries
A Bar Mitzvah Project Expands
After watching the documentary Hard Times: Lost on Long Island, Cory Nichols, then age 12, didn’t like knowing there were kids at school who rely on food pantries for their meals. The Oceanside resident decided to devote his bar mitzvah project to raising funds to stock the local food pantry for an entire year. That’s when C the Difference: Cory Cares was born. Today, Cory is 17 and C the Difference: Cory Cares, is a registered nonprofit organization. It has a junior advisory board made up of kids ages 12-18. The organization “shops and stocks,” Cory says. “We shop for food in the supermarket and then we stock the pantry shelves with food.” C the Difference: Cory Cares usually stocks five food pantries per month. It holds events to raise funds, such as Halloween for the Hungry, during which volunteers ask people to donate food to pantries that will be picked up at a later date. Cory says he loves to hang out with friends, play sports, and act in shows. It wasn’t easy for him to start his organization. He had to plan, prepare, and ask for help. “I had my idea and what I wanted to do. I think it all started because I asked for help,” he says. “You need to have your strength in terms of standing by what you believe in and knowing what you want to do, but you also need to be ready to ask someone to help you get to where you want to go.” Raising money to buy food and then stocking food pantries takes dedication and makes a difference, but actually seeing where the food goes and who benefits from it drives home to Cory the importance of the work his organization does. “In the five years I have been doing this, I never really saw where and to who the food was going to,” he says. “But then when I was volunteering, I actually watched the people who were with me put food together into the bags for the people who were walking in and out to receive them. ...Just seeing where everything that I have done is going and seeing that it is going to the right place and making a 20
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Teagan Stedman, second from left, presents a check from his nonprofit, Shred Kids Cancer, to Children’s Hospital Los Angeles.
difference is one of the biggest eye openers for what I started.” You never know who is going to be there to help you, Cory says. The willingness of the people who wanted to help surprised him. “There is always that worry that I’m not going to raise enough money, that no one is going to volunteer, but then as soon as I gave people the opportunity to, they were so helpful,” he says.
Kids Fighting Kids’ Cancer
When Teagan Stedman was 8, his friend Alex Berson was diagnosed with non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma. Instead of just saying “get well soon,” Teagan searched for things he could do to support the fight against pediatric cancer. Not many organizations would allow an 8-year-old to volunteer in hospitals, so he did the only thing that made sense to him—he started his own. Teagan and Alex both loved music, so what better way to show support than by raising money through music? He decided to plan a concert, a battle of the bands, with different children performing. He says he wanted to literally “shred kids’ cancer,” which is how he came up with the name of his nonprofit organization. Shred Kids’ Cancer has now been around for almost nine years. It continues to hold battle of the bands and other events to raise money and awareness. Originally from California, Teagan, now 17, moved to Avon, CT, and has continued running his organization there. One of the biggest challenges for him was his age. To get sponsorships and be taken seriously was a struggle because he was so young when he started. “Trying to become a nonprofit was difficult, especially when you have so little knowledge of that world,” he says, adding that the Internet was the biggest help in figuring it out. Teagan loves to play the guitar, spend time with his family, and work in the lab on his research project. He spent his summer working on drug delivery and cancer research. He says he realized
even the smallest things you do can make a difference when Children’s Hospital UCLA was granted a clinical trial. Noah C. Federman, M.D., a doctor at the hospital, was treating one of the “shredheads,” as the children helped by Shred Kids’ Cancer have come to be known. “Dr. Federman told me that the funding we gave was really crucial to their clinical trial because it was the funds that got the ball rolling on their progress, and eventually got them to their million-dollar grant that pushed the clinical trial through,” Teagan says. “That was something that really showed me how that what we were doing was important and actually making some sort of a dent.” Shred Kids’ Cancer is also working to help kids launch their own start-ups or clubs that will be connected to and partner with the larger organization. Its leaders are setting up a program to give kids guidance so they can be more equipped to start their own organizations. “We really want to be a resource to help guide kids through this process,” Teagan says. “We want kids to set up their own events, awareness campaigns, or clubs at school, or anywhere to benefit pediatric cancer research.” Julia Hyman, a former NYMetroParents editorial intern, is in her senior year at Pennsylvania State University.
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Incorporation and state forms. Each state has different laws and protocols for starting a nonprofit, so be sure to research your particular state and ask the appropriate agencies if you have questions. Filing for federal tax-exempt status. Does your organization have the appropriate legal paperwork? To be considered for exemption, the IRS must recognize you as a trust, a corporation, or as an association. Ongoing compliance. In some states, local governments require you to complete additional filings to be recognized as tax-exempt. Make sure you check with your local legal counsel to ensure you have all of the initial filing requirements. How to Incorporate a Nonprofit • Choose a name for your organization, but make sure to check your state’s laws for naming a nonprofit. • Create a board of directors, along with operating rules. • Decide on a legal structure—is your organization going to be a trust, corporation, or association? • Hand in your incorporation paperwork—you must file all the proper paperwork and pay a small filing fee to your state. • Apply for tax-exempt status—the IRS provides guidance and instructions on how to apply for this status. • Get necessary licenses and permits—did you get all of the necessary licenses and permits that you need to comply with federal, state, and local rules?
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Volunteer with Your Kids
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Gear up to give back with our guide to volunteering with your kids! Projects big and small require lots of hands, and there are tons of local organizations that rely on the selflessness of volunteers to make sure that these resources continue to contribute to the Nassau community. Plus, volunteering with your kids is a great way to teach important, lifelong values of giving to others, and helps little ones realize the impact that one person can have on the entire world. Please call ahead to confirm volunteer requirements and details before heading out to serve others! camp rents out the necessary venue and space. For more information, call 516-4316946 and ask for Mindy Reyer, volunteer coordinator, or email anchorvols@optonline.net. campanchor.org.
Adopt an Animal
Billed as the largest no-kill animal shelter in the world, North Shore Animal League America is in constant need of willing families to offer a welcoming home for countless puppies and kittens, as well as full-grown dogs and cats. It’s open Monday-Friday, 4-10pm, and Saturday-Sunday, 12-10pm, to prospective families. Parents and children can organize small fundraising events to support the Animal League America, and there are volunteer opportunities for ages 16 and older. For more information, call 516-883-7900 x258 or visit animalleague.org. Volunteer applications can be filled out online. 25 Davis Ave., Port Washington.
Build a Home
Habitat for Humanity of Nassau County, a small affiliate of Habitat for Humanity, recruits volunteers to help build houses (must be 18 or older to use power tools) for families in need. Those younger than 18 22
can assist by bringing lunches to workers on Thursdays and Saturdays. Enterprising families can also organize fundraising campaigns to raise money needed for building supplies. Sign up to volunteer at habitatnassau. org. For more information, call 516-627-6047 or email hello@ habitatnassau.org. Walk-ins are not permitted. Volunteers must sign a waiver. 1400 Old Northern Blvd., Roslyn.
Do Something Special
Camp Anchor is a year-round program serving 1,200 children and adults with special needs. The camp is split into a six-week summer program and an October-May program. Volunteers must be 14 or older and help out with recreational activities such as the bowling program, a swim class, or a Saturday recreational program. The camp facility is completely outdoors during the summer at the Lido Beach Town Park (630 Lido Blvd., Lido Beach), but for indoor activities the
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Special Olympics New York aims to provide year-round sports training and athletic competition in a variety of Olympic-style sports for all children and adults with intellectual disabilities. Volunteers can coach athletes, raise money, coordinate events, provide office support, volunteer at one-day events, serve on local program committees, help with sport development, and more. There is a place for volunteers of all ages (ages 13-16 must be accompanied by a parent or guardian), abilities, and interests. For more information on sports events, contact Lindsay Coyle at lcoyle@ nyso.org or call 631-254-1465 x4202. For more information on development, contact Jennifer Cantone at jcantone@nyso. org. For more information, call 631-254-1465 x4204 or visit specialolympicsny.org. The Long Island office is located at 560 Broadhollow Road, Suite 106, Melville.
Feed the Hungry
Island Harvest works to end hunger and reduce food waste on Long Island. The organization offers opportunities for all ages to make a difference. Kids and adults can help out at community fairs, food drives, and other events. Groups can organize “food raisers” or fundraisers with help from Island Harvest. Activities for
children include participating in the Students Feeding Students Challenge, which is a schoolbased food and fundraising event; organizing food and/ or fund drives; or volunteering with Island Harvest at street fairs and other community events. One idea is to run a themed food drive through your group or in your neighborhood, with themes such as “sandwich fixings,” or “holiday trimmings.” To become a volunteer, contact volunteer and community relations coordinator Ryan Haugstatter at 613-873-4775 x228 or ryan@islandharvest.org. If you are planning a food drive, contact community outreach and food drive coordinator Jordan Buffa at 631-873-4775 x243 or jordan@islandharvest. org. For more information, visit islandharvest.org or call 631-873-4775. Sign up for volunteer opportunities online at islandharvest.volunteerhub.com. Founded in 1983, The Interfaith Nutrition Network is a conglomeration of soup kitchens that feeds hungry Long Islanders. The network also has emergency shelters and a long-term housing program for the homeless on Long Island, as well as a resource center and clothing boutique that provides social services to those in need. The INN Youth Advisory Board is one way for high school students to volunteer. The board is comprised of representatives in ninth through 12th grades and educates them on hunger and homelessness on Long Island. To volunteer and serve meals at one of the soup kitchens, children must be 16 years and
older. At the Mary Brennan INN Hempstead soup kitchen, which is the largest facility that is part of the network, children ages 10 and older can help sort goods, organize shelves, and clean up. The Mary Brennan INN is located at 100 Madison Ave., Hempstead. For more information, call 516-486-8506 x138, email info@the-inn.org, or visit the-inn.org/volunteer or for information about the youth advisory board, visit the-inn. org/youthadvisoryboard. Administration offices: 211 Fulton Ave., Hempstead.
Help a Family Far from Home
The Ronald McDonald House of Long Island provides a home away from home for families of seriously ill children undergoing critical medical treatment in area hospitals. RMHLI strives to provide a comfortable and supportive environment to help families through their most difficult time. Donate a few hours of your time to help with administrative duties or represent the house at community events and distribute information to the public about its mission. Individuals and groups can also help organize and participate in fundraising events. If you’re short on time, show a little love for families far from home through comfort food—donate nonperishables to the house’s food pantry or participate in the dinner or brunch program, through which your family, friends, or community organization can prepare a meal for resident families in-house. The Ronald McDonald Family Room is open at the Stony Brook Children’s Hospital. The room, which provides a place to rest and relax at the hospital for the families of children undergoing medical treatment, has volunteer opportunities. Volunteers will provide reception for families, restock snacks and beverages,
keep statistical records, and maintain the tidiness of the room. To find out, contact volunteer and program coordinator Betti McClellan at bmcclellan@rmhlongisland.org or 516-775-5683 x131. 26707 76th Ave., New Hyde Park. rmhlongisland.org.
Make a Wish Come True
The Make-A-Wish Foundation of Metro New York (metrony.wish.org) grants wishes to children with life-threatening medical conditions. Children in kindergarten through 12th grade can participate in Kids for Wish Kids, a program that develops project ideas to fundraise for Make-A-Wish. Take part on your own or recruit others to help. Volunteers don’t need to raise enough to sponsor a whole wish, but every little bit helps make a wish come true. A bake sale, pajama days, car wash, read-a-thon, or penny drives are all great ways to start raising money. Make-AWish will provide balloons, buttons, banners, and other MAW items to sell. For Kids for Wish Kids, contact Kathie Lombardi at 516-944-6212 x141. For other volunteer opportunities, contact volunteer services coordinator Amanda Lantz at 516-944-6212 x130, or alantz@metrony.wish.org.
LIU POST’S CENTER FOR GIFTED YOUTH
FALL 2017 AND SPRING 2018 SATURDAY PROGRAM Oct 7th – Dec 16th and Feb 3rd – April 28th, 2018 for students entering grades K-8
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Protect the Environment
Clark Botanic Garden needs individuals who enjoy gardening, working outdoors, and designing displays, as well as those with specific knowledge in horticulture and photography. Volunteers ages 16 and older can take visitors on tours and help with cleanup, basic plant maintenance, and most importantly, weeding. For more information, call Carol Murphy at 516-484-2208. 193 I. U. Willets Road, Albertson. clarkbotanic.org.
LIU Post’s Center for Gifted Youth announces its 37th annual fall and spring program for gifted children. The fall
program runs on Saturdays from October 7th to December 16th and the spring program runs on Saturdays from February 3rd to April 28th. The program is open to gifted children entering grades K-8 in September 2017. The program expands
students’ knowledge, develops creative and critical thinking skills, and offers children the opportunity to learn in an exciting and accepting environment.
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LIU Post • College of Education, Information and Technology • 720 Northern Blvd. • Brookville, NY 11548-1300 liu.edu/post/giftedyouth • Dr. Lynne Manouvrier, Director
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Amanda Grant shares pie, crumble, and tart recipes from ‘Kids in the Kitchen’ that are perfect for children to help bake.
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e love when our kids help us out in the kitchen, and what better time to get them involved than preparing the Thanksgiving feast? While having them underfoot on the big day might not be the best option, try baking Thanksgiving dessert with them the day before, when you’re not stressed about getting the turkey in the oven on time and preparing a dozen side dishes. What we love about these recipes from Kids in the Kitchen by Amanda Grant is they are geared toward different age groups and help each specific age group develop important cooking skills, which are noted within each recipe. Happy cooking!
Mini Fruit Pies (ages 3-5)
Ready-made puff pastry dough is just right for these mini fruit pies. When you are rolling pastry, it is much easier to roll one small piece at a time instead of rolling one large piece, which is why I have broken the pastry into four pieces. These pastries taste delicious and are good for packed lunches, at snack time, or for desserts. If you choose to use big dried fruits like mango or apricots, you will need to use scissors to cut them into small pieces first. To make 16 mini pies you need: Ingredients: Small piece of butter, about the size of 2 pieces of chocolate, melted (ask an adult or older child to do this), plus a little extra 20 tablespoons (11/3 cups) dried fruits 1 teaspoon mixed spice 24
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12½ oz. puff pastry dough A little flour for sprinkling A little demerara sugar for sprinkling Equipment: scissors, parchment paper, baking tray, mixing bowl, spoon, rolling pin, 2 pennies, round cutter about 2¼ inches across, table knife, pastry brush Skills: mixing, rolling pastry, cutting circles, brushing, using oven 1. Turn the oven on to 350°F. Cut a piece of parchment paper big enough to cover the baking tray. Put the melted butter, dried fruits, and spice in a mixing bowl and mix with a spoon. 2. Break the pastry in half, then break each piece in half to make 4 pieces. Sprinkle a little flour on the work surface. Flatten one piece of dough with a rolling pin until it is about the same thickness as 2 stacked pennies. 3. Take the cutter and, starting at the edge of the dough, push it down to cut out circles. Keep going until you have used up all of that dough. Roll out another piece of dough and cut out circles. Repeat with the rest of the dough. Using a teaspoon, spoon a little fruit mixture onto the middle of each circle. Bring the edges of the circle up together to seal the mixture inside. There should be no gaps in the pastry! 4. Turn the parcels over and flatten slightly with your hand. Using a table knife, carefully cut two or three short slits in the top of each pastry—this will let the steam escape when the pastries are baking.
5. Put them on the baking tray. Dip a pastry brush in a little melted butter and brush over all the pies. Sprinkle with sugar. Ask an adult to help you put the tray in the oven and bake for 15 minutes. They should look golden!
What’s-in-Season Fruit Crumble (ages 5-7)
One of the first things my mom taught me to make was a crumble. It’s a great way to learn how to rub butter into flour. Once you know how to do this you can have a go at making pastry. You can sprinkle this crumble mix on top of so many different fruits. Try to choose fruit that is in season—if you are not sure what that is, ask the person working in the produce section of the supermarket or go to a local famer’s market. Berries are easy to use as you don’t need to chop them first. For 4-6 people you need: Fruit filling: Seasonal fruit e.g. 15 plums or about 1 lb. 4 oz. fresh or frozen berries or about 12 peaches or nectarines 4 tablespoons orange juice 3 tablespoons light brown sugar 1 level tablespoon plain / all-purpose flour Crumble topping: 1 cup, plus 2 tablespoons plain / all-purpose flour 1 cup, plus 2 tablespoons unsalted butter, chilled and cut into small pieces 2 handfuls oats (or muesli if you prefer) 4 tablespoons light brown sugar 1 teaspoon ground mixed spice / apple pie spice or ground cinnamon Equipment: cutting board, small paring knife, spoon, 2 small or 1 large ovenproof dish Skills: rubbing butter into flour, cutting with knife, mixing with spoon, sprinkling topping 1. Turn the oven on to 350°F. To make the fruit filling, use the bridge-cutting technique to cut the plums in half: on a chopping board, make a “bridge” with a thumb and finger of one hand and hold the plum. Hold a small paring knife in your other hand and put the blade under the bridge, then cut downwards firmly. Move the plums around as you cut to avoid cutting through the stone. Take out the stones. 2. Put the plums into two small or one large ovenproof dish. Pour the orange juice over the plums, add the sugar and flour, and mix with a spoon or your hands. 3. To make the crumble topping, put the flour into a bowl, add the butter and rub the butter into the flour with your fingers until it looks like fine breadcrumbs. This can take a few minutes. Add the oats, sugar, and spice and mix with your fingers again. 4. Spoon the mixture over the top of the plums. Ask an adult to help you put the dishes into the oven using oven mitts. Bake for 25-30 minutes, or until the crumble topping is crisp, the plums are soft, and the fruit juices are bubbling up around the edges.
Toffee Apple Tarts (ages 7-11)
These tarts are so enjoyable to make that the boys who came over to my house to make them for this book asked to make some more in between taking the photos. Once you know how to make pastry dough, you can make so many different pies, cheese straws, small tarts, big tarts, and lots more. To make 24 little tarts you need: Sweet pastry / pie crust dough: 1 stick unsalted butter, chilled 1¾ cups plain / all-purpose flour 1 teaspoon sugar 1 egg yolk 1-2 tablespoons cold water Filling: 6-8 eating apples 12 toffee sweets / candies Equipment: table knife, mixing bowl, clingfilm / plastic wrap, parchment paper, two 12-hole cupcake tins / pans, rolling pin, round cutter about 3 inches across, cutting board, oven mitts Skills: cutting, rubbing butter into flour, lining tart tins / pans, sharing fillings, bashing with rolling pins, using oven 1. Use a table knife to cut the butter into small pieces and put into a mixing bowl with the flour. Rub the butter into the flour with your fingers until it looks like fine breadcrumbs. This can take a few minutes. 2. Add the sugar, egg yolk, and water and stir the mixture together with the table knife until it comes together and you can form a ball with your hands. Wrap the pastry in a piece of clingfilm / plastic wrap and put it in the fridge for 30 minutes this will make it easier to roll out. 3. Turn the oven on to 350°F. Using a scrap of parchment paper, rub a little butter inside the holes in the cupcake tins / pans. Break the pastry into four pieces. Sprinkle a little flour on the work surface, then roll out one piece at a time. Dip the cutter in flour, then cut out 24 circles. Gently press the circles into the holes of the pans. 4. Use the table knife and a cutting board to cut the apples in small pieces, avoiding the core in the middle. Divide the pieces between the pastry cases / dough crusts. 5. Put the toffees on a solid work surface and gently bash with the rolling pin to break into pieces. Scatter the pieces evenly over the apples. Using oven mitts, put the pans in the oven and bake for 15 minutes, or until the toffee has melted and the apples are cooked.
Excerpted from Kids in the Kitchen ($19.95) by Amanda Grant, with photography by Susan Bell, with permission of Ryland Peters & Small.
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1 Top To Bottom is a unique public mural project by talented street artists on a three-story building south of the Queensboro Bridge in Long Island City. 2 The Pepsi-Cola sign, a relic from a past bottling facility, shines bright near Center Boulevard and 46th Avenue, overlooking Gantry Park. 3 Children participate in the Amigurumi workshop at RESOBOX, in which they make stuffed crocheted animals.
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ocated across the East River from Manhattan in the borough of Queens, Long Island City is a fun place to explore with the family. The neighborhood is known for its increasingly diverse community, thriving public art projects, and kid-friendly piers and skating rinks.
Different Cultures
While Queens consists of the most culturally diverse demographic among the boroughs, Long Island City exemplifies culture diversity in its people and in its food. Explore Japanese culture at RESOBOX, an all-in-one art gallery, café, and activity center that offers cultural classes in Japanese cooking, manga drawing, Japanese ink painting, and more. A vibrant restaurant scene— including Mexican hotspot Casa Enrique—further represents LIC’s diverse cultures.
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peaceful piers. And we can’t forget about a famous city landmark overlooking Gantry Park: the Pepsi-Cola sign, which once rested on top of the soda company’s bottling facility. In 2001, the Pepsi plant was torn down and today you can see the sign light up in red in front of a high-rise apartment building near Center Boulevard and 46th Avenue.
Art Programs at The Noguchi Museum
On the first Sunday of every month The Noguchi Museum offers Open Studio for families with children ages 2-11. Led by museum educators, families can enjoy the galleries and make art based on their experiences. Arts for Tots is offered on select Saturdays and Sundays so families with children ages 2-4 can view the galleries while exploring art materials. The Noguchi’s collection includes sculptures, drawings, models, and designs. Enjoy free admission the first Friday of every month.
Long Island City was once home to the 200,000-square-foot graffiti mecca 5 Pointz NYC, an aerosol art museum that was whitewashed in November 2013 and demolished a year later. Fortunately street art murals were revived in 2015 by Arts Org NYC with Top To Bottom, a public mural project that showcases a vibrant union of colors and shapes by talented street artists on a three-story building south of the Queensboro Bridge in LIC.
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City Ice Pavilion offers public ice-skating sessions on select weekdays and weekends. It offers holiday camps, group lessons, and youth hockey. You can also check out Long Island City’s ICE, which offers a wide range of opportunities, from elite personalized training to the Future Islanders Program, eight introductory hockey-training sessions for children ages 5-8 led by former New York Islanders Arron Asham and Radek Martinek. Directions: Approximately a 1-hour LIRR and subway ride from Garden City For more information: nymetroparents.com/lic
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EDITOR’S HOT TICKETS Our calendar is full of great ideas. First, here are the 10 events we consider can’t-miss—the ones we’re taking our own kids to. Consider it your cheat sheet to the best of what’s great this month! ‘Aesop’s Fables’
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WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 4, 2pm WHERE: Madison Theatre, 1000 Hempstead Ave., Rockville Centre AGES: 3-8 WHAT: With the help of Aesop and his faithful dog Moral, Jim and his partners share the famous fables. WHY WE LOVE IT: Kids get exposed to classical music as well as comedy. WANT TO GO? $15 and up. 516-323-4444. madisontheatreny.org.
‘Rapunzel’
WHEN: Through Nov. 4: Sundays, 2pm WHERE: The Showplace at Bellmore Movies, 222 Pettit Ave., Bellmore AGES: 9 and older WHAT: Based on the original Brothers Grimm classic fairytale, this original musical is a funny and touching version that is sure to please even the biggest Tangled fans. WHY WE LOVE IT: We love the new twists in the old hairy, fairy tale. WANT TO GO? $12. 516-599-6870. plazatheatrical.com.
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New York, New York
WHEN: Through Nov. 5: Tuesday-Sunday, 11am-4:45pm WHERE: Nassau County Museum of Art, 1 Museum Drive, Roslyn AGES: All WHAT: New York, New York presents the city’s grit and glamour, its excitement and bustle, and the heartbeat of a great metropolis through the work of John Sloan, Robert Henri, Milton Avery, Georgia O’Keeffe, Arthur Leipzig, and many others. WHY WE LOVE IT: The exhibition is organized thematically to focus on areas of New York City life such as transportation, entertainment, work, home, leisure, and more. WANT TO GO? $12; $8 seniors; $4 children ages 4-12; $2 weekend parking fee. 516-484-9338. nassaumuseum.org.
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9th Annual Bethpage Turkey Drive Benefiting Island Harvest FREE
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WHEN: Friday, Nov. 17, 7am-6:30pm WHERE: Bethpage Federal Credit Union, 899 S. Oyster Bay Ave., Bethpage AGES: All WHAT: Help feed Long Island families this Thanksgiving at the annual
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1 Bethpage Turkey Drive benefiting Island Harvest. Donations of frozen turkeys and non-perishable goods will help feed more than 315,000 families in need. WHY WE LOVE IT: Keep up the Thanksgiving spirit by giving back to others. WANT TO GO? 516-349-6736. bit.ly/BethpageTurkeyDrive.
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‘Petra and the Wolf’
WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 18, 11am and 2pm WHERE: Tilles Center for the Performing Arts, 720 Northern Blvd., Brookville AGES: All WHAT: A new work for young audiences inspired by the Prokofiev classic Peter and the Wolf, with captivating large-scale puppetry and a new instrumental score written and performed live. WHY WE LOVE IT: Students will walk away from this stunning piece of visual and musical storytelling with a new sense of empathy for the animals that share our earth. WANT TO GO? $18. 516-299-3100. tillescenter.org.
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WHEN: Nov. 18-19, Saturday-Sunday, 10am-4pm WHERE: Garvies Point Museum and Preserve, 50 Barry Drive, Glen Cove AGES: All WHAT: Hands-on activities including pottery-making using ancient methods, primitive fire-building, and on-site open fire cooking with samples, including our famous popcorn soup. See authentic Native American artifacts and tool technology, including drilling in stone, face painting with natural pigments, and spear throwing using an atlatl. WHY WE LOVE IT: It’s a great opportunity to learn about many aspects of Native American culture. WANT TO GO? $8; $5 children ages 5-12; free for children younger than 5. 516-571-8010. garviespointmuseum.com.
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ScienceSplosion
WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 19, 3pm WHERE: Landmark on Main Street, 232 Main St., Suite 1, Port Washington AGES: All WHAT: Using multimedia, juggling, lasers, and more, world-class juggler and comedian Mark Nizer teaches kids how science works and how to determine what is true and what is not. WHY WE LOVE IT: Nizer has been performing his one-man science show around the globe for the last 40 years. WANT TO GO? $25. 516-767-6444. landmarkonmainstreet.org.
‘Willy Wonka’
WHEN: Nov. 10-19, Saturday-Sunday, see website for times WHERE: The Showplace at Bellmore Movies, 222 Pettit Ave., Bellmore AGES: 3-8 WHAT: The delicious adventures experienced by Charlie Bucket on his visit to Willy Wonka’s mysterious chocolate factory light up the stage in this captivating adaptation of Roald Dahl’s fantastical tale. WHY WE LOVE IT: A scrumdidilyumptious musical guaranteed to delight everyone’s sweet tooth. WANT TO GO? $12. 516-599-6870. plazatheatrical.com.
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‘Mouse on the Move’
WHEN: Nov. 4-25, see website for dates and times WHERE: Long Island Children’s Museum, 11 Davis Ave., Garden City AGES: 3-8 WHAT: Two adventurous mice are ready to explore the world beyond their little mouse-hole. They decide to go to the moon because they believe it is made entirely of delicious, mouthwatering cheese. WHY WE LOVE IT: Audience members become active in the storytelling as they use props and their imagination to help the mice. WANT TO GO? $13; $12 seniors 65 and older; free for children younger than 1. 516-224-5800. licm.org.
Disney On Ice Presents ‘Dare To Dream’
WHEN: Nov. 15-26, Thursday-Sunday, see website for times WHERE: NYCB LIVE, home of the Nassau Veterans Memorial Coliseum Presented By New York Community Bank, 1255 Hempstead Turnpike, Uniondale AGES: 9 and older WHAT: Celebrate what’s possible as the adventures of five daring Disney heroines spark the courage inside us all at Disney On Ice presents Dare To Dream. WHY WE LOVE IT: It’s the kind of performance that yells, “Yes, you can!”—and we love it. WANT TO GO? $25 and up. 800-745-3000. nycblive.com.
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WE CAN’T BELIEVE IT’S FREE
Think a freebie has to be ho-hum? Don’t let the price tag (or lack of one) fool you. Here are the five no-cost events we’re excited about now. You’re welcome. Kids Workshop FREE
WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 4, 9am-12pm WHERE: Home Depot, 600 Hempstead Turnpike, Elmont AGES: 3-12 WHAT: Kids learn to build or create a useful, fun product. Workshops teach children do-it-yourself skills and tool safety, and instill a sense of pride and accomplishment. All kids get to keep their craft and receive a free Kids Workshop Apron, commemorative pin, and certificate of achievement. WANT TO GO? 516-488-8500. homedepot.com.
Beyond the Pow-Wow FREE
WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 4, 2pm WHERE: Queens Village Library, 94-11 217th St., Queens Village AGES: All WHAT: Award-winning children’s author S.D. Nelson brings the culture of the Lakota people center stage; Chief Dwaine Perry discusses the proposed oil pipeline that threatens the sacred areas of the Ramapoul Lunaape Reserve; and the National Alliance of Native American Dancers perform with Wolfsmoon Medicine Drum. WANT TO GO? 718-776-6800. queenslibrary.org.
Long Island Chrysanthemum Show FREE
WHEN: Nov. 4-5, Saturday, 12-5:30pm; Sunday, 11am-3:45pm WHERE: Hicks Nurseries, 100 Jericho Turnpike, Westbury AGES: All WHAT: Come and see the amazing array of chrysanthemums grown by members of the Long Island Chrysanthemum Society. WANT TO GO? 516-334-0066. hicksnurseries.com.
Paint Party for Kids FREE
WHEN: Tuesday, Nov. 7, 7pm WHERE: Elmont Library, 700 Hempstead Turnpike, Elmont AGES: 5-12 WHAT: Have fun and create a work of art! WANT TO GO? 516-354-5280. elmontlibrary.org.
Kids Movie: ‘Cars 3’ FREE
WHEN: Friday, Nov. 24, 2pm WHERE: Island Trees Public Library, 38 Farmedge Road, Island Trees AGES: 5-17 WHAT: Come enjoy a movie on our big screen. Bring your own snacks and drinks. WANT TO GO? 516-731-2211. islandtreespubliclibrary.org. ›› LongIslandParent 31
Gobsmacked!: The Amazing A Cappella and Beatboxing Show WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 18, 8pm WHERE: Tilles Center for the Performing Arts, 720 Northern Blvd., Brookville AGES: All WHAT: This a cappella show pushes vocal boundaries to deliver a musically accomplished, high-energy spectacular without a single musical instrument. WANT TO GO? $35 and up. 516-299-3100. tillescenter.org.
National Acrobats and Martial Artists of Tianjin, People’s Republic of China in ‘China Soul’
SHOW TIME! George and Ira Gershwin’s ‘Of Thee I Sing’
WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 19, 2pm WHERE: Tilles Center for the Performing Arts, 720 Northern Blvd., Brookville AGES: All WHAT: The Martial Artists and Acrobats of Tianjin troupe will perform an amazing array of acts, all based in the time-honored tradition of Chinese acrobatics and martial arts. The program will include contortion, juggling, hoop diving, kung fu, and more by this spectacular troupe. WANT TO GO? $30 and up. 516-299-3100. tillescenter.org.
WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 4, 8pm WHERE: Tilles Center for the Performing Arts, 720 Northern Blvd., Brookville AGES: All WHAT: This semi-staged concert version of one of George and Ira Gershwin’s finest creations will feature Broadway performers, and is a hilarious and timeless all-American political satire that is as relevant as ever. WANT TO GO? $45 and up. 516-299-3100. tillescenter.org.
‘Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer: The Musical’
‘Fiddler on the Roof’
Norman Brown’s Joyous Christmas with Bobby Caldwell & Marion Meadows
WHEN: Through Nov. 5: Sundays, 2pm WHERE: The Showplace at Bellmore Movies, 222 Pettit Ave., Bellmore AGES: 9 and older WHAT: Tevye, the father of five daughters, attempts to maintain his Jewish religious and cultural traditions, as outside influences encroach upon the family’s lives. WANT TO GO? $12. 516-599-6870. plazatheatrical.com.
Livingston Taylor, Tom Chapin & Eva
WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 11, 8pm WHERE: Madison Theatre at Molloy College, 1000 Hempstead Ave., Rockville Centre AGES: 13 and older WHAT: This show features the unbelievably sharp harmonies, fun interaction, and new sound of this precocious group, weaving the fabric of their welcoming audience. WANT TO GO? $35 and up. 516-323-4444. madisontheatreny.org.
‘Squabble in the Castle’
WHEN: Nov. 4-11, Saturdays, 2pm WHERE: BroadHollow Theatre at Elmont, 700 Hempstead Turnpike, Elmont AGES: All WHAT: On Halloween night, a group of teenage friends travel to a Hollywood movie set. The set is haunted by three monsters, whose intent is to drive away the film’s stars and steal jewels from the set. The teens take it upon themselves to figure out who, or what, is behind the mysterious goings on, having to face off against Dracula, Frankenstein, and the Wicked Witch. WANT TO GO? $13. 516-775-4420. broadhollow.org. 32
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WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 25, 2pm WHERE: Tilles Center for the Performing Arts, 720 Northern Blvd., Brookville AGES: 3 and older WHAT: The beloved TV classic soars off the screen and onto the stage just in time for the holiday season. WANT TO GO? $38 and up. 516-299-3100. tillescenter.org.
WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 25, 8pm WHERE: Madison Theatre at Molloy College, 1000 Hempstead Ave., Rockville Centre AGES: 13 and older WHAT: For almost two decades, Grammy Award-winner Norman Brown has been an engaging composer and singer offering tasty sonic tidbits of classic R&B and contemporary jazz. WANT TO GO? $35 and up. 516-323-4444. madisontheatreny.org.
The Great Turkey Chase
WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 25, 2pm WHERE: BroadHollow Theatre at Elmont, 700 Hempstead Turnpike, Elmont AGES: All WHAT: Jenny Jura meets a wide array of wacky and outlandish characters who want to take the turkey away from her all the while learning a valuable lesson about friendship and standing up for what you believe in. WANT TO GO? $11. 516-775-4420. broadhollow.org.
The Doo Wop Project
WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 26, 3pm WHERE: Madison Theatre at Molloy College, 1000 Hempstead Ave., Rockville Centre AGES: 13 and older WHAT: The Doo Wop Project is a band of five guys singing harmonies in an entertaining evening full of magic and awe from the charismatic power of this talented group. WANT TO GO? $35 and up. 516-323-4444. madisontheatreny.org.
AGES: All WHAT: Portrayed by Living Historians Michael and Maria Grillo, George and Martha tell you about their accomplishments in the Revolutionary War. WANT TO GO? $10. 516-239-1157. toh.li.
Sunday Science: Crazy Concoctions
WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 5, 2-4pm WHERE: Center for Science Teaching & Learning, 1450 Tanglewood Road, Rockville Centre AGES: 5-12 WHAT: Kids will get to experiment with chemical mixtures to make different types of slime, goo, and more to mix up messy materials like a mad scientist. WANT TO GO? $14. 516-764-0045. cstl.org.
The Science Playground
WHEN: Through Nov. 11: Monday-Friday, 9:30am-5pm; Saturday-Sunday, 10am-6pm WHERE: New York Hall of Science, 47-01 111th St., Corona, Queens AGES: All WHAT: The nation’s largest science playground features 60,000 square feet of exhibits for children of all ages. Slides, seesaws, climbing webs, a water play area, drums, mirrors, sandboxes, and more allow kids to explore science by playing. WANT TO GO? $5 with admission: $16; $13 seniors and children ages 2-17. 718-699-0005. nysci.org.
Admissions Open House FREE
SMARTY PANTS Game On FREE
WHEN: Wednesday, Nov. 1, 4pm WHERE: Franklin Square Public Library, 19 Lincoln Road, Franklin Square AGES: 9-12 WHAT: Design your own game with the Long Island Children’s Museum. Register in person. WANT TO GO? 516-488-3444. franklinsquarepl.org.
Tea & Splendor Fall Series
WHEN: Thursday, Nov. 2, 2:30pm WHERE: Coe Hall-Planting Fields, 1395 Planting Fields Road, Oyster Bay AGES: 13 and older WHAT: Spend your Thursday afternoon at Coe Hall and enjoy a lecture and English tea around the warmth of the fireplace in the dining room. WANT TO GO? $30. 516-922-8688. plantingfields.org.
Ciao! Italian for Kids FREE
WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 4, 1:30am WHERE: Elmont Library, 700 Hempstead Turnpike, Elmont AGES: 9-12 WHAT: Learn to speak Italian with Ms. Elena. WANT TO GO? 516-354-5280. elmontlibrary.org.
A Visit from George and Martha Washington
WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 5, 1:30pm WHERE: Rock Hall Museum, 199 Broadway, Lawrence
WHEN: Wednesday, Nov. 15, 9am WHERE: The Green Vale School, 250 Valentine’s Lane, Old Brookville AGES: 3-12, adult WHAT: Join us for a guided campus tour and brief panel discussion with admissions staff, faculty, and student representatives. Learn about Green Vale and the admissions process. Register on website or by calling. WANT TO GO? 516-628-5146. greenvaleschool.org.
Nanny Rose School of Etiquette for Children
WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 19, 12pm WHERE: Rock Hall Museum, 199 Broadway, Lawrence AGES: 5-12 WHAT: Elegant Nanny Rose and her witty companion, Olivia, will guide children through etiquette lessons. This is a special way to teach youngsters proper table manners whether dining at home or at a restaurant. WANT TO GO? $40. 516-239-1157. toh.li.
Sunday Science: Fossils
WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 19, 2-4pm WHERE: Center for Science Teaching & Learning, 1450 Tanglewood Road, Rockville Centre AGES: 5-12 WHAT: Learn how fossils form and how paleontologists use them to learn about worlds long gone. WANT TO GO? $14. 516-764-0045. cstl.org.
Trinkets, Treasures, and Trade FREE
WHEN: Through Dec. 31: Wednesday-Saturday, 10am-4pm; Sunday, 12-4pm WHERE: Rock Hall Museum, 199 Broadway, Lawrence AGES: All WHAT: This exhibit comprises an array of 17th- and 18th-century European and native household, personal, and trade items and tools. These objects describe aspects of colonial and native life in early New York. WANT TO GO? 516-239-1157. toh.li. ›› LongIslandParent 33
AGES: 5-8, adult WHAT: Kids and their families will explore the museum’s exhibits through the eyes of scientists. Ask questions, collect data, uncover patterns, and design and create your own exhibit. Registration required. WANT TO GO? $16; $13 children, students, and seniors. 718-699-0005. nysci.org.
Messy Afternoons
CRAFTY KIDS Upcycled Jewelry
WHEN: Thursday, Nov. 2, 6:45pm WHERE: Floral Park Public Library, 17 Caroline Place, Floral Park AGES: 13 and older WHAT: Learn how to create upcycled jewelry with Cathy Buckley, the library’s resident upcycled jewelry designer and creator. WANT TO GO? $10 materials fee. 516-326-6330. floralparklibrary.org.
Knit & Crochet FREE
WHEN: Monday, Nov. 6, 1:30pm, Tuesdays WHERE: Island Trees Public Library, 38 Farmedge Road, Island Trees AGES: 13 and older WHAT: Join Knit & Crochet as Angie Gallo guides you through the steps of learning how to knit and/or crochet. You can bring your own project or choose from the many instruction books available. WANT TO GO? 516-731-2211. islandtreespubliclibrary.org.
stART (Story + Art)
WHEN: Thursday, Nov. 9, 11:30am WHERE: Long Island Children’s Museum, 11 Davis Ave., Garden City AGES: 3-8 WHAT: Join us each week as we read childhood classics and introduce new favorites; followed by a take-home, book-inspired craft. WANT TO GO? $3 with museum admission: $13; $12 seniors 65 and older; free for children younger than 1. 516-224-5800. licm.org.
Thank a Vet with Green Earth Craft FREE
WHEN: Thursday, Nov. 9, 7pm WHERE: Elmont Library, 700 Hempstead Turnpike, Elmont AGES: 9-12 WHAT: Celebrate Veterans Day by creating a special present for someone who has served his or her country. WANT TO GO? 516-354-5280. elmontlibrary.org.
Tom Turkey Tray FREE
WHEN: Monday, Nov. 13, 4:30pm WHERE: Island Trees Public Library, 38 Farmedge Road, Island Trees AGES: 5-12 WHAT: Decorate a food-safe tray—perfect for a gift or to keep and use to decorate your family’s table. WANT TO GO? 516-731-2211. islandtreespubliclibrary.org.
Museum Makers: Designing With Data
WHEN: Through Nov. 16: Thursdays, 3:30pm WHERE: New York Hall of Science, 47-01 111th St., Corona, Queens 34
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WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 25, 3:30pm WHERE: Long Island Children’s Museum, 11 Davis Ave., Garden City AGES: 3-8 WHAT: We’ll be up to our elbows in oobleck, clean mud, and slime for the type of artistic activities that everyone loves. WANT TO GO? $13; $12 seniors 65 and older; free for children younger than 1. 516-224-5800. licm.org.
Neiman Marcus Family Sundays at the Museum
WHEN: Nov. 5-26, Sundays, 1pm WHERE: Nassau County Museum of Art, 1 Museum Drive, Roslyn Harbor AGES: All WHAT: Family Sundays allow children and the adults in their lives to take time to reconnect while talking about and making art together. WANT TO GO? $12; $8 seniors; $4 children ages 4-12; $2 weekend parking fee. 516-484-9338. nassaumuseum.org.
Crafts For Kids FREE
WHEN: Through Dec. 31: Saturday-Sunday, 11am-3pm WHERE: Lakeshore Learning Store, 2079 Hillside Ave., New Hyde Park AGES: 3-8 WHAT: Kids will have a ball making exciting crafts that they can use or display. Every craft is educational and fun. WANT TO GO? 516-616-9360. lakeshorelearning.com.
LITTLE FOODIES The I Love Chocolate Fest
WHEN: Nov. 4-5, Saturday-Sunday, 10am-5pm WHERE: Old Bethpage Village Restoration, 1303 Round Swamp Road, Old Bethpage AGES: All WHAT: More than 50 chocolate exhibitors will be in attendance, plus
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Election Day Celebration
WHEN: Tuesday, Nov. 7, 12-2pm WHERE: What’s Cooking?, 30 E. Main St., Oyster Bay AGES: 3-12 WHAT: Come celebrate Election Day with us while school is out. Make a delicious patriotic meal with us and vote on your favorite candy. WANT TO GO? $49. 516-922-2665. whatscookingny.com.
Kids in the Kitchen
WHEN: Through Nov. 13: Mondays, 1pm WHERE: Rock Hall Museum, 199 Broadway, Lawrence AGES: 13 and older WHAT: Learn to make pumpkin pie, apple and pear tart, and shepherd’s pie. At the completion of each class, everyone eats pie. WANT TO GO? $22. 516-239-1157. toh.li.
Make Flat Bread Pizzas with Dr. Robert Dell’Amore FREE
WHEN: Monday, Nov. 13, 1pm WHERE: Rockville Centre Library, 221 Village Ave., Rockville Centre AGES: 9 and older WHAT: Dr. Dell’Amore demonstrates making good-for-you flat bread pizzas, which are sure to be family favorites. WANT TO GO? 516-766-6257. rvclibrary.org.
The Holidays Are Officially Here!
A New York City tradition, the Christmas Spectacular Starring the Radio City Rockettes will dazzle novice and veteran audiences once again this holiday season! Combining the old with the new, the ever-popular holiday spectacle takes audiences on a gorgeously choreographed journey from Santa’s workshop at the North Pole, to the streets of Manhattan, to a beautifully classic “Living Nativity.” You’ll be on the edge of your seat waiting for the fat man in the red suit to make his appearance too. Nov. 10-Jan. 1, check website for times. Age: All. Starting at $35. Radio City Music Hall, 1260 Sixth Ave., Midtown. 212-247-4777. rockettes.com/christmas.
Chefs of d’Future FREE
Kent Miller
Cooking Demonstration: The Art of Pie
Get in the holiday spirit with the parade of the wooden soldiers.
Meg Banks
WHEN: Friday, Nov. 10, 11:30am WHERE: Long Island Children’s Museum, 11 Davis Ave., Garden City AGES: 3-8 WHAT: Little chefs use real cooking tools (with some help from adults) to make easy, yummy, kid-friendly snacks from start to finish. WANT TO GO? $5 with museum admission: $13; $12 seniors 65 and older; free for children younger than 1. 516-224-5800. licm.org.
WHEN: Tuesday, Nov. 14, 5:30pm WHERE: Floral Park Public Library, 17 Caroline Place, Floral Park AGES: 9-11 WHAT: Kids will prepare something savory and delicious for Thanksgiving. WANT TO GO? 516-326-6330. floralparklibrary.org.
Emoji Cookies
WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 18, 2pm WHERE: Franklin Square Public Library, 19 Lincoln Road, Franklin Square AGES: 9-17 WHAT: Come create your own emoji cookies using icing and assorted candy, and take home four cookies. WANT TO GO? $3. 516-488-3444. franklinsquarepl.org.
Teen Cuisine: Wizard Hat Cupcakes FREE
WHEN: Tuesday, Nov. 21, 4pm WHERE: Elmont Library, 700 Hempstead Turnpike, Elmont AGES: 13-17 WHAT: Get ready to use sugar cones and decorative icing to create wizard hats on cupcakes. WANT TO GO? 516-354-5280. elmontlibrary.org. ››
This not-to-be-missed march is good reason to give thanks.
A Turkey-Day Tradition
The 91st Annual Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade promises its aweinspiring balloons—Hello Kitty, Ronald McDonald, the Elf on the Shelf, and Charlie Brown, to name a few—plus marching bands, performers, and floats that families always love. Arrive early so you can snag a good spot on the sidewalk or turn your TV to NBC and watch from home with some hot cocoa in hand. The parade will make its way from the Upper West Side down through the heart of Manhattan. Nov. 23, 9am-12pm. Age: All. FREE. Central Park West and 77th Street, moving south to Macy’s Herald Square on 34th Street via Central Park South and Sixth Avenue, Upper West Side and Midtown. 212-494-4495. macys.com/social/parade/2017. LongIslandParent 35
Long Island Festival of Trees
WHEN: Nov. 24-26, Friday-Saturday, 10am-6pm; Sunday, 10am-5pm WHERE: Cradle of Aviation Museum, 1 Davis Ave., Garden City AGES: All WHAT: A unique holiday event that features beautifully decorated trees, continuous entertainment, children’s activities, and shopping with vendors. WANT TO GO? $15; $10 children; free for children 2 and younger. 516378-2000 x651. cpnassau.org.
Santaland FREE
WHEN: Nov. 24-Dec. 24, daily, 9am-9pm WHERE: Macy’s, 151 W. 34th St., 8th floor, Midtown, Manhattan AGES: All WHAT: Visitors will wander through a 13,000-square-foot Christmas Village filled with holiday treasures, the biggest of which is Santa Claus himself. After meeting Santa, guests can buy a photo package. Visits are by reservation only this year. WANT TO GO? 212-494-4495. macys.com/santaland.
HOLIDAY FUN
The Haunted House at Bayville Adventure Park
WHEN: Through Nov. 5: See website for dates, 6-10pm WHERE: Bayville Scream Park, 8 Bayville Ave., Bayville AGES: 9 and older WHAT: Bayville Adventure Park transforms into a spooky world of frights and surprises to become Bayville Scream Park, featuring Bloodworth Haunted Mansion, Uncle Needle’s Fun House of Fear, Temple of Terror, Zombie Pirates, and Evil in the Woods. WANT TO GO? $11.75 and up. 516-624-4678. bayvillescreampark.com.
Learn To Create Thanksgiving Table Arrangements FREE
WHEN: Wednesday, Nov. 8, 11am WHERE: Manhasset Public Library, 30 Onderdonk Ave., Manhasset AGES: 13 and older WHAT: Thanksgiving Table Arrangements demonstration by Scott Lucas of Old Westbury Gardens using items that can be easily purchased from your local grocery store. WANT TO GO? 516-627-2300. manhassetlibrary.org.
Thanksgiving Gratitude Tea with Barbara Sheridan FREE
WHEN: Thursday, Nov. 9, 7pm WHERE: Floral Park Public Library, 17 Caroline Place, Floral Park AGES: 13-17 WHAT: Join Chef Barbara for a tea class and recipes inspired by the season. Bring your favorite tea cup. WANT TO GO? 516-326-6330. floralparklibrary.org.
Children’s Workshop: Create a Potted Turkey
WHEN: Friday, Nov. 17, 4pm and 6pm WHERE: Hicks Nurseries, 100 Jericho Turnpike, Westbury AGES: 5-12 WHAT: Decorate a clay pot with feathers, eyes, mouth, and feet, then place a colorful croton plant in it. WANT TO GO? $10. 516-334-0066. hicksnurseries.com.
Macy’s Thanksgiving Parade Balloon Inflation Event FREE
WHEN: Wednesday, Nov. 22, 3-10pm WHERE: Theodore Roosevelt Park, West 79th Street and Columbus Avenue, Upper West Side, Manhattan AGES: All WHAT: Watch the big balloons fill up before they make their Thanksgiving Day trip through the heart of Manhattan. WANT TO GO? macys.com/parade. 36
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Christmas at Westbury House
WHEN: Nov. 24-Dec. 30, Friday-Sunday, 10am-5pm WHERE: Old Westbury Gardens, 71 Old Westbury Road, Old Westbury AGES: All WHAT: Make a visit to Westbury House part of your holiday tradition. With decorated period rooms, Santa, cookies, and cider, this holiday celebration is a must for the entire family. WANT TO GO? $12; $10 seniors; $7 children 7-17, free children younger than 7. 516-333-0048. oldwestburygardens.org.
‘George Balanchine’s The Nutcracker’
WHEN: Nov. 24-Dec. 31, Thursday-Sunday, see website for show times WHERE: David H. Koch Theater, Lincoln Center, 20 Lincoln Center Plaza, Upper West Side, Manhattan AGES: 5 and older WHAT: From Swan Lake to sugarplum fairies, the music of Tchaikovsky rings beautiful and clear thanks to this classic holiday performance. Watch ballerinas flit across the stage in a magical world where mice besiege a battalion of soldiers and a blizzard leads to an enchanted Land of Sweets. WANT TO GO? $40 and up. 212-496-0600. nycballet.com.
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MUSICIANS Poetica Musica: Three is Company
WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 4, 8pm WHERE: Old Westbury Gardens, 71 Old Westbury Road, Old Westbury AGES: 9 and older WHAT: Eleanor Valkenburg on soprano, Barry Crawford on flute, Eugene Moye on cello, and guest artists perform works by Ravel,
Mozart, Beethoven, and others. Registration required. WANT TO GO? $30; $25 seniors and students. 516-333-0048. oldwestburygardens.org.
Estilo Jazz With Style FREE
WHEN: Wednesday, Nov. 8, 2pm WHERE: Landmark on Main Street, 232 Main St., Suite 1, Port Washington AGES: 9 and older WHAT: Estilo Jazz With Style is a jazz quartet comprised of seasoned musicians performing jazz standards, bossa novas, sambas, ballads, boleros, and songs from the Great American Songbook. Light refreshments and snacks will be served. WANT TO GO? 516-767-6444. landmarkonmainstreet.org.
Sessions in Hempstead House: Ethan Usoskin
WHEN: Thursday, Nov. 9, 8pm WHERE: Sands Point Preserve, 127 Middle Neck Road, Port Washington AGES: 13 and older WHAT: Clarinetist Ethan Usoskin brings a chamber group of classical music for wind instruments. WANT TO GO? $45. 516-571-7901. sandspointpreserve.org.
Linda Ronstadt Covers: The Early Years FREE
WHEN: Wednesday, Nov. 15, 2pm WHERE: Landmark on Main Street, 232 Main St., Suite 1, Port Washington AGES: 13 and older WHAT: Enjoy an afternoon with Kellie Nicole on vocals and Jon Price on guitar when they pay tribute to Linda Ronstadt. WANT TO GO? 516-767-6444. landmarkonmainstreet.org.
A Celebration of Leonard Bernstein Featuring the South Shore Symphony
WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 18, 8pm WHERE: Madison Theatre at Molloy College, 1000 Hempstead Ave., Rockville Centre AGES: 13 and older WHAT: Celebrating the upcoming 100th anniversary of the birth of Leonard Bernstein, the South Shore Symphony performs Bernstein’s Second Symphony, “The Age of Anxiety” and “Symphonic Dances from West Side Story.” WANT TO GO? $20 and up. 516-323-4444. madisontheatreny.org.
The Brian Setzer Orchestra’s 14th Annual Christmas Rocks! Tour
WHEN: Wednesday, Nov. 22, 8pm WHERE: NYCB Theatre at Westbury, 960 Brush Hollow Road, Westbury AGES: 13 and older WHAT: Don’t miss this high-engergy holiday show with The Texas Gentlemen. WANT TO GO? $39.50 and up. 516-334-0800. thetheatreatwestbury.com.
THE GREAT OUTDOORS Mill Neck Manor House Tour
WHEN: Through Nov. 5: Sundays, 11am-12:30pm WHERE: Mill Neck Manor House, 40 Frost Mill Road, Mill Neck AGES: 9 and older WHAT: Step back in time to experience and savor the mansion’s exquisite appointments and its 86-acre scenic estate overlooking the Long Island Sound. Learn about its history, the life of Lillian Sefton Dodge, and the Mill Neck Manor School for the Deaf. WANT TO GO? $25; $20 seniors; $15 students; $5 for children 12 and younger. 516-628-4243. millneckmanorhouse.org.
Winter Art & Nature Walk
WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 5, 11am WHERE: Nassau County Museum of Art, 1 Museum Drive, Roslyn Harbor AGES: All WHAT: Jean Henning and the North Shore Land Alliance’s Rich Kelly collaborate on an art and nature exploration through the William Cullen Bryant Preserve on the museum’s property. WANT TO GO? $12; $4 children ages 4-12. 516-484-9337. nassaumuseum.org.
Wildlife Weekends
WHEN: Nov. 4-12, Saturday-Sunday, 11am-4pm WHERE: Queens County Farm Museum, 73-50 Little Neck Parkway, Floral Park AGES: All WHAT: Have fun learning about interesting critters. Admission includes the Birds of Prey show, Frogs, Bugs, & Animals show, hayrides, animal feeding, and pony rides. WANT TO GO? $9. 718-347-3276. queensfarm.org.
Creatures of the Night Hike
WHEN: Friday, Nov. 17, 7-8:30pm WHERE: Center for Science Teaching & Learning, 1450 Tanglewood Road, Rockville Centre AGES: All WHAT: Take a guided walk through our nature trails at a time most people never get to see them. WANT TO GO? $7. 516-764-0045. cstl.org.
BROWSE & BUY Long Beach Farmers Market
WHEN: Through Nov. 1: Wednesdays and Saturdays, 9am-2pm WHERE: Kennedy Plaza, 1 W. Chester St., Long Beach AGES: All WHAT: Fresh fruit and vegetables including Long Island corn, heirloom tomatoes, potatoes, squash and onions, fresh fruits and juices, cheese, milk, wine, pasta, pickles, smoked pork, soaps, and preserves. WANT TO GO? Prices vary. 516-543-6033. ligreenmarket.org/longbeach.
Cunningham Park Farmers Market
WHEN: Through Nov. 19: Sundays, 9am-2pm WHERE: Main Park House at Cunningham Park, 196-22 Union Turnpike, Fresh Meadows AGES: All WHAT: Attendees will be able to meet the farmers and purchase local dairy, vegetable, fruit, and meat products, as well as baked goods and drinks. WANT TO GO? Prices vary. nycgovparks.org. ›› LongIslandParent 37
items, noise-reducing headphones, and other helpful materials when needed, as provided by the museum. WANT TO GO? $13; $12 seniors 65 and older; free for children younger than 1. 516-224-5800. licm.org.
Learning to Play FREE
WHEN: Wednesday, Nov. 15, 10:30am WHERE: Wantagh Public Library, 3285 Park Ave., Wantagh AGES: Newborn to 5 WHAT: A fun, interactive class designed especially for children with special needs. This class reduces sensory overload by keeping class size small, lowering music volume, and allowing you to move at your own pace. WANT TO GO? 516-221-1200. wantaghlibrary.org.
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Blazing Trails for Autism 4 Mile Run/Walk
ASD: Dino Hunt
WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 11, 10:30am WHERE: New York Hall of Science, 47-01 111th St., Corona, Queens AGES: 5-8, adult WHAT: Become a junior paleontologist and uncover the secrets left behind by dinosaurs. Hands-on science experiments and sensory-rich projects in workshops specially designed for children with autism spectrum disorder and their parents and siblings. WANT TO GO? $16; $13 children, students, and seniors. 718-699-0005. nysci.org.
‘Mouse on the Move’ Relaxed Performance
WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 12, 2pm WHERE: Long Island Children’s Museum, 11 Davis Ave., Garden City AGES: 3-8 WHAT: Two adventurous mice are ready to explore the world beyond their little mouse hole. Visitors will be able to use a number of fidget
WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 18, 9am WHERE: Great Neck South High School, 341 Lakeville Road, Lake Success AGES: All WHAT: The 4-mile run and 1.5-mile walk is family-friendly and will take place on a USATF sanctioned course. Proceeds will benefit Eden II’s Genesis Programs, an agency providing services for children and adults with autism. WANT TO GO? $25. 516-937-1397. eden2.org/run.
ASD: Playdough Robots FREE
WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 18, 10:30am WHERE: New York Hall of Science, 47-01 111th St., Corona, Queens AGES: 5-8, adult WHAT: Design and build a funky robot using play dough and recycled electronic parts. Join us for hands-on science experiments and sensory-rich projects in workshops specially designed for children with autism spectrum disorder and their parents and siblings. Registration required. WANT TO GO? 718-699-0005. nysci.org.
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Sensational Kids Open Play Time: Autism Specific
WHEN: Nov. 6-27, Mondays, 6-8pm WHERE: Bounce Trampoline Sports, 310 Michael Drive, Syosset AGES: All WHAT: Monday evenings are tailored to create a more secure environment for individuals with autism. Bounce! staff members have experience working with children and individuals with special needs and have received sensitivity training from the Elija School. WANT TO GO? $12 per hour. 516-762-1300. bouncesyosset.com.
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Art Compass: Building Social and Vocational Skills for Teens and Young Adults with Autism
WHEN: Nov. 28-Dec. 12, Tuesdays, 4-5:15pm WHERE: Nassau County Museum of Art, 1 Museum Drive, Roslyn Harbor AGES: 13 and older WHAT: Based on current exhibitions in the galleries at Nassau County Museum of Art, these workshops will encourage participants to explore different methods of art making and design and how a museum can be a resource for creative inspiration. WANT TO GO? $12; $8 seniors; $4 children ages 4-12; $2 weekend parking fee. 516-484-9338. nassaumuseum.org.
After School in the Arts
WHEN: Through June 14, 2018: Wednesday-Thursday, 4pm and 5pm WHERE: Theresa Academy of Performing Arts, 250 Lido Blvd., Lido Beach AGES: All WHAT: Classes are small in size, and taught by passionate, talented, certified teachers. Each student receives individual attention and also has a one-on-one buddy. WANT TO GO? $20 per class. 516-432-0200. tapany.org. ››
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Long Island Nets vs. Grand Rapids Drive
WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 12, 3pm WHERE: NYCB LIVE, home of the Nassau Veterans Memorial Coliseum Presented By New York Community Bank, 1255 Hempstead Turnpike, Uniondale AGES: 9 and older WHAT: The Long Island Nets take on the Grand Rapids Drive. Parking for this event is $5 upon arrival. WANT TO GO? $15 and up. 800-745-3000. nycblive.com.
Baby Jam FREE
WHEN: Tuesday, Nov. 14, 2pm WHERE: Wantagh Public Library, 3285 Park Avenue, Wantagh AGES: Newborn to 5 WHAT: Sing, shake, and move along to the beat with your baby or toddler in BabyJam music and movement classes, let by Miss Andrea on guitar. This fun and upbeat class enhances early learning. WANT TO GO? 516-221-1200. wantaghlibrary.org.
Mommy & Me Tot Shabbat
WHEN: Through Dec. 15: Fridays, 11:15am-12pm WHERE: Chabad of Port Washington, 80 Shore Road, Port Washington AGES: 3-5 WHAT: Each session includes music and movement, Challah braiding, and tons of fun. WANT TO GO? $18. 516-767-8672. chabadpw.org.
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MOVERS & SHAKERS
WHEN: Through Dec. 28: 4:15pm WHERE: BounceU, 101 Carolyn Blvd., Farmingdale AGES: 3-12 WHAT: The sessions include music, games, and play time on the giant inflatable toys. Parents must remain on premises. WANT TO GO? $12.95. 631-777-5867. bounceu.com.
Public Ice-Skating
WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 4, 7pm WHERE: NYCB LIVE: Home of the Nassau Veterans Memorial Coliseum, 1255 Hempstead Turnpike, Uniondale AGES: All WHAT: Join us as the Long Island Nets welcome the Fort Wayne Mad Ants to NYCB LIVE, home of the Nassau Veterans Memorial Coliseum for their home opener. Prepaid parking can be purchased for $5 and parking on-site will be available for $5. WANT TO GO? $18 and up. 800-745-3000. longisland.gleague.nba.com.
WHEN: Through Feb. 28, 2018: Monday-Tuesday, 10am-2:30pm; Wednesday-Thursday, 10am-10pm; Friday-Saturday, 10am-11pm; Sunday, 10am-9pm WHERE: Wollman Rink, 59th Street and Central Park South, Central Park, Manhattan AGES: All WHAT: This outdoor rink offers an amazing view of the Manhattan skyline, plus a skating school, a hockey program, and birthday party offerings on the ice. Check out the nearby carousel for $3 a ride in between skates. WANT TO GO? Monday-Thursday: $12; $5 seniors; $6 for children 11 and younger; Friday-Sunday and holidays: $19; $9 seniors; $6 for children 11 and younger. 212-439-6900. wollmanskatingrink.com.
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Long Island Nets vs. Fort Wayne Mad Ants
WHEN: Monday, Nov. 6, 4pm WHERE: Franklin Square Public Library, 19 Lincoln Road, Franklin Square AGES: 13 and older WHAT: Please bring a mat. WANT TO GO? 516-488-3444. franklinsquarepl.org.
Music and Movement
WHEN: Wednesday, Nov. 8, 11:30am WHERE: Long Island Children’s Museum, 11 Davis Ave., Garden City AGES: 3-8 WHAT: Enjoy creative movement exercises and interactive sing-alongs that get little bodies moving to the rhythm. WANT TO GO? $3 with museum admission: $13; $12 seniors 65 and older; free for children younger than 1. 516-224-5800. licm.org. 40
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WHEN: Through April 1, 2018: daily, 8:30-12am WHERE: The Rink at Rockefeller Center, 600 Fifth Ave., Midtown, Manhattan AGES: All WHAT: Take a skate around the outdoor rink before stopping by the many shops and restaurants at Rockefeller Center. Skate lessons are offered as well. WANT TO GO? $25; $15 seniors and for children younger than 11. 212332-7654. therinkatrockcenter.com.
Kids Leagues
WHEN: Through June 15, 2018: 4pm WHERE: Massapequa Bowl, 4235 Merrick Road, Massapequa AGES: 5 and older WHAT: There are classes for both adults and children starting now. Register for a league or individual instruction. WANT TO GO? $9. 516-541-8000. massapequabowl.com.
ONCE UPON A TIME Separation Storytime FREE
WHEN: Wednesday, Nov. 1, 12:15pm WHERE: Island Trees Public Library, 38 Farmedge Road, Island Trees AGES: 3-5 WHAT: Children will come in and listen to a story. WANT TO GO? 516-731-2211. islandtreespubliclibrary.org.
A Special Day for Mo Willems FREE
WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 4, 11am WHERE: Franklin Square Public Library, 19 Lincoln Road, Franklin Square AGES: 5-8 WHAT: Celebrate Picture Book Month with children’s author Mo Willems. There will be games and crafts featuring Knuffle Bunny, Elephant & Piggie, and of course Pigeon. WANT TO GO? 516-488-3444. franklinsquarepl.org.
‘Bruce’s Big Move’ Storytime FREE
WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 4, 11am WHERE: Barnes and Noble, 91 Old Country Road, Carle Place AGES: 5-8 WHAT: Our favorite curmudgeonly bear now shares his home with not only his four geese, but three rowdy mice, too. Fed up with their shenanigans, Bruce sets off to find a rodent-free household, and as usual, nothing goes quite according to plan. WANT TO GO? 516-741-9850. barnesandnoble.com.
It’s Potty Time! Sing & Sign FREE
WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 4, 10:30am WHERE: Rockville Centre Library, 221 Village Ave., Rockville Centre AGES: Newborn to 5 WHAT: This fun storytime incorporates simple ASL signs, which will help your child express their needs during toilet training. WANT TO GO? 516-766-6257. rvclibrary.org.
Cookie Mouse Visits Manhasset Storytime FREE
WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 11, 12pm WHERE: Barnes and Noble, 1542 Northern Blvd., Manhasset AGES: 3-8 WHAT: Come meet Cookie Mouse and find out how a single demand can snowball into a long list of exhausting needs, plus a lot of silly fun. WANT TO GO? 516-365-6723. barnesandnoble.com.
Fall Storytime for Kids FREE
‘Everything Is Mama’ Storytime FREE
WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 25, 11am WHERE: Barnes and Noble, 91 Old Country Road, Carle Place AGES: 5-8 WHAT: A lighthearted look at the world from a baby’s point of view, as different animals try to teach their children that there are other words in addition to mama. Activities to follow. WANT TO GO? 516-741-9850. barnesandnoble.com.
Mother/Daughter Book Discussion: Grades 4-6 FREE
WHEN: Tuesday, Nov. 28, 7:45pm WHERE: Rockville Centre Library, 221 Village Ave., Rockville Centre AGES: 9-12, adult WHAT: This month, we will be reading The Magic Half by Annie Barrows. Ask the circulation desk for your copy. WANT TO GO? 516-766-6257. rvclibrary.org.
Nighttime Storyhour FREE
WHEN: Thursday, Nov. 30, 7pm WHERE: Island Trees Public Library, 38 Farmedge Road, Island Trees AGES: 5-8 WHAT: Come to the library in your PJs to enjoy some stories, make a craft, and have a snack with Miss Liz. WANT TO GO? 516-731-2211. islandtreespubliclibrary.org.
WHEN: Thursday, Nov. 16, 10:30am WHERE: Franklin Square Public Library, 19 Lincoln Road, Franklin Square AGES: 3-5 WHAT: Preschoolers listen to stories. WANT TO GO? 516-488-3444. franklinsquarepl.org.
‘Bear Says Thanks’ Storytime FREE
WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 18, 11am WHERE: Barnes and Noble, 91 Old Country Road, Carle Place AGES: 5-8 WHAT: When Bear decides to throw a feast to thank his friends, they show up one by one with different platters of delicious food to share. There’s just one problem: Bear’s cupboards are bare! What is he to do? WANT TO GO? 516-741-9850. barnesandnoble.com.
Coming up next month: DEC. 3: Holiday Tales at the Hearth at Hempstead House in Sands Point Preserve, Sands Point DEC. 16-17: Eglevsky Ballet in The Nutcracker at Tilles Center, Brookville DEC. 27: Mrs. Claus Saves the Day at BroadHollow Theatre at Elmont, Elmont
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Time to lace up your skates and practice your figure eights! Winter is upon us and local rinks are ready to have you on the ice. Whether you’re just learning to skate or a total pro, ice-skating is fun for the whole family. Plus, if you don’t land that jump you’ve been working on, you can always cheer up with a cup of cocoa at many ice rink concession stands. As always, call ahead to verify hours and prices before your ice-skating outing. 5:30pm, and 8-10pm (Teen Night); Saturday, 3:30-5:30pm, 8:15-10:15pm; Sunday, 9:30-11:30am, 2-4pm, 7:459:45pm (14-years and older). Price: Residents or customers with Park Card: $7. Non-residents or customers without Park Card: $12; $10 children. $5 skate rental.
Outdoor Rinks Grant Park Skating Rink Broadway and Sheridan Avenue, Hewlett 516-571-7821 nassaucountyny.gov/parks Hours: End of November through midMarch: daily, 1:15-3:15pm; WednesdayThursday and Saturday-Sunday, 10:30am12:30pm; Friday-Sunday, 4-6pm. Price: $22; $15 children. With Leisure Pass: $8; $6 children (children ages 12 and younger must be accompanied by an adult); $4 seniors. $5 skate rental. Marjorie R. Post Community Park Ice Rink 451 Unqua Road (at Merrick Road), Massapequa 516-797-7990 oysterbaytown.com Hours: Opens Friday, Nov. 24. Updated hours were not available at press time; call or check the website for updates. Price: Admission per 2-hour session. Residents: $5; $4 children ages 5-17; $2 children ages 2-4 and seniors ages 60 and older. Non-residents: $8; $7 children ages 5-17; $4 seniors ages 60 and older; $3 children ages 2-4. $4 skate rental. 42
Syosset-Woodbury Community Park Ice Rink 7800 Jericho Turnpike, Syosset 516-677-5990 oysterbaytown.com Hours: Opens Friday, Nov. 24 for the season. Skating hours were not available at press time; call or check the website for updates. Price: Admission per 2-hour session. Residents: $5; $4 children ages 5-17; $2 children ages 2-4 and seniors ages 60 and older. Non-residents: $8; $7 children ages 5-17; $4 seniors ages 60 and older; $3 children ages 2-4. $4 skate rental. Indoor Rinks Andrew Stergiopoulos Ice Rink/ Parkwood Ice Skating Rink Parkwood Sports Complex, 65 Arrandale Ave., Great Neck 516-487-2975 x4 greatneckparks.com Hours: Through May: Monday, 12:302:30pm; Tuesday, 10am-12pm and 12:30-2:30pm; Wednesday, 10am-12pm, 12:30-2:30pm, 3-5pm, and 8:30-10pm; Thursday, 10am-12pm and 12:302:30pm; Friday, 12:30-2:30pm, 3:30-
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Cantiague Park Ice Skating Rink 480 W. John St., Hicksville 516-571-7056 or 516-571-7058 nassaucountyny.gov/parks Hours: Through June: 1-3pm daily; additional sessions on Fridays, 3:30-5:30pm. Hours vary by month; call to confirm. Price: $22 for non-resident adults; $15 for non-resident children (with accompanying adult) and seniors. $8 for resident adults; $6 for resident children; $4 for resident seniors. With Leisure Pass: $8; $6 children ages 12 and younger with adult; $5 seniors, veterans, disabled, and civil volunteers; free for children ages 3 and younger with paying adult. $5 skate rental. Freeport Recreation Center 130 E. Merrick Road, Freeport 516-377-2314; freeportny.com Hours: Through April 13, 2018: Thursday, 3:30-6pm; Friday, 7:30-9pm; Saturday, 1-3pm; Sunday, 1:30-3pm and 3:15-4:45pm. Check the website for school recess hours. Price: $6; $7 non-residents; $9 guests. $4 skate rental. Iceland Ice Skating 3345 Hillside Ave., New Hyde Park 516-746-1100 x1 icelandlongisland.com Hours: Year-round: Friday, 3:30-5:30pm and 8:30-10:30pm (Teen Night for ages 11 and older only); Saturday, 12-2:45pm, all ages; Sunday, 11:15am-12:45pm (children’s session for ages 10 and younger only) and 1-3pm, all ages. Price: $9; $7 ages 9 and younger; $10 for Teen Night admission. Children’s session: $9 parents; $7 children. $5 skate rental. Prices and times are subject to change.
Newbridge Arena 2600 Newbridge Road, Bellmore 516-783-6181 newbridgearena.com Hours: Open year-round; Wednesday, 4:15-6:15pm; Thursday, 8-10am; Friday, 8:30-10:30am, 4:30-6:30pm, and 8:30-10:30pm starting Nov. 17; Saturday-Sunday, 12:30-2:30pm and 2:454:45pm. Call or check the website for holiday hours. Price: Wednesday-Friday before 6pm, excluding holidays: $6; $4 Town of Hempstead residents; $5 non-resident seniors. Nights, weekends, and holidays: $9; $7 Town of Hempstead residents; $5 fire, police, ambulance, and military personnel; free for children younger than 5 on Mondays and Fridays until 6pm (with paid adult). $4 skate rental. Port Washington Skating Center 70 Seaview Blvd., Port Washington 516-484-6800; pwskating.com Hours: Open year-round: Schedule through November: Monday, Wednesday, and Thursday, 2-4pm; Tuesday, 2:30-4pm; Friday, 1-2:30pm; Saturday-Sunday, 2:153:45pm. Hours subject to change in December. See website for more information and special holiday hours. Skating and hockey instruction are offered for children. Price: $8. $4 skate rental. Town of Oyster Bay Ice Skating Center Bethpage Community Park, 1001 Stewart Ave. (at Cherry Avenue), Bethpage 516-433-7465 x1 oysterbaytown.com Hours: Through April 8, 2018: Monday, 4-6pm; Tuesday, 10am-12pm; Wednesday, 4-6pm; Thursday, 10am-12pm; Friday, 4-6pm and 8-10pm; Saturday-Sunday, 1-3pm and 3:30-5:30pm. Schedule is
subject to change. Price: Town of Oyster Bay residents: $6; $4 seniors ages 60 and older, veterans, and firefighters; $5 children ages 5-17; $3 children ages 2-4. Non-residents: $10; $8 children ages 5-17; $5 seniors ages 60 and older, veterans, and firefighters; $4 children ages 2-4. $4 skate rental.
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SUFFOLK COUNTY Outdoor Rinks Mitchell Park Ice Rink Mitchell Park on Front Street, Greenport 631-477-2200 greenportvillage.com villageofgreenport.org Hours: Opening date TBA; weather permitting: Monday, 3-6pm; Tuesday-Friday, 3-5pm; Saturday, 11am6pm; Sunday, 11am-5:30pm. Holiday hours vary. Open for all Greenport school holidays from 11am-5pm. Price: weekdays: $5; $3 children and seniors. Weekends and school holidays: $10; $7 children and seniors. Season passes and youth group discounts available. $5 skate rental. Prices subject to change.
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Does My Child Have an Eating Disorder? ››
Three experts share what to look out for, the physical and mental health risks, and how to get your child the help she needs. By Katelin Walling
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ational surveys estimate that nearly 20 million females and 10 million males will have an eating disorder at some point in their lives, according to the National Eating Disorders Association. And when most eating disorders get diagnosed? “Between the ages of fourteen and eighteen,” says Joanna Steinglass, M.D., associate professor of clinical psychiatry and director of translational research in eating disorders at the Columbia Center for Eating Disorders. “There are some reports that people are noticing and diagnosing and getting kids to treatment even earlier, which may be a sign that parents are getting more informed.” In fact, NEDA cites an increase in the diagnosis of children, some as young as 5 or 6. Eating disorders are mental illnesses that are serious and can be treated, though it’s unclear for certain why they occur. Some factors include body image issues, self-esteem issues, being bullied about looks, the need to control something in his life, and societal pressures for looking like the actresses and models she sees on TV,
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in magazines, and in the movies. There is also a possibility that eating disorders could be genetic. Studies have found that having a parent or sibling with an eating disorder increases a child’s risk of developing one, according to NEDA. And while the Internet and social media may have a negative role in eating disorders, a lot of celebrities and “regular people” have used various platforms to talk about their experiences with eating disorders, including Sadie Robertson of Duck Dynasty and Dancing with the Stars, who wrote about her eating disorder on her blog Live Original; actress Troian Bellisario, known as Spencer Hastings on FreeForm’s Pretty Little Liars, who wrote about her eating disorder for Lena Dunham’s Lenny Letter; and pop star Kesha, who wrote some of the songs on her new album during a three-month stay at an impatient facility for women with eating disorders, addictions, mood disorders, and trauma while getting treatment for “an eating disorder that nearly killed her,” according to her recent Rolling Stone profile.
With eating disorders being talked about more and more often, parents may be left wondering whether their child has one, what the signs are, and how they can support him.
Eating Disorders Explained
“I think it’s probably most helpful for parents to know that there are a lot of different ways that eating disorders can present themselves,” Dr. Steinglass says. “It may be more important to have a sense of whether something feels like it’s not quite right and let the doctors figure out what the right name for it is.” While a medical professional should do specific diagnosing, it may be helpful for parents to know about the various eating disorders and how they typically present. Anorexia nervosa: A person with anorexia generally restricts the number of calories and the types of foods she eats, according to NEDA. Typically someone with anorexia is of low weight and is restricting his eating to the point where if he is growing, he’s not gaining weight, so he becomes thinner and more out of his range for expected weight and height, says Michelle Miller, Psy.D., a psychologist at the Child Study Center at NYU Langone Health. Alternatively, if she’s stopped growing and stays at the same height, her weight is going down. “That is all due to restriction of eating that’s related to control, which may be a concern about weight or body image. Some individuals may be over concerned about a health focus as well. They feel that every food has to be ‘healthy,’ and so they’ll only eat certain types of food to maintain that,” Dr. Miller says, adding that an individual with anorexia may engage in compensatory behavior such as self-induced vomiting, using laxatives, or excessive exercising to address their concerns about body image and compensate for what he has eaten. Bulimia nervosa: An individual with bulimia will go through periods of two hours or less during which she eats an amount of food that is larger than what one would expect to eat in that period—and feels she has no control over the behavior. After that period of time, she engages in a compensatory behavior to “undo” the effects of binge eating, according to Dr. Miller. Binge eating disorder: Like with bulimia, an individual with binge eating disorder consumes a large amount of food in a short period of time. However, unlike with bulimia, compensatory behaviors are not present, and patients will typically present very overweight, according to Michele Calderoni, D.O., who specializes in adolescent medicine at Crystal Run Healthcare. While we all have occasional periods of time when we might eat more, such as a dinner out with friends or at Thanksgiving, “when they do it, they feel a lack of control in the episode, like they can’t stop eating,” Dr. Miller says. “They’ll eat until they feel extremely, uncomfortably full, and they keep eating even when they’re not physically hungry. They also may eat alone.”
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Avoidant / Restrictive Food Intake Disorder: Previously referred to as Selective Eating Disorder, ARFID is similar to anorexia in that it involves limitations to the amounts or types of foods consumed, but it does not involve concerns about body shape or size, according to NEDA. A person with ARFID is “avoiding whole food groups not because of fear of weight gain or body image concerns or a need for control, but because of a lot of sensory difficulties, because they have low interest in food, and/or because they’re concerned with having negative consequences from eating, such continued on next page ››
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as feeling so uncomfortably full that they’re nauseous or they’re afraid of throwing up,” Dr. Miller says. “The condition usually starts early on, so it’s not something that we would typically see as developing later. You see it usually starting in childhood and they become pickier and pickier as they get older and start getting more and more anxious around food.” Rumination disorder: Those with rumination disorder regurgitate or vomit food, chew it, and swallow it, and there is no known gastrointestinal etiology, Dr. Calderoni says. “I actually have a patient right now who has this. She has had a full GI workup, and we can’t find any reason for her vomiting. It can happen any time on any day. There are no real triggers or explanation…and there are no electrolyte abnormalities that correspond and no physiological abnormalities that correlate,” she says. “[Rumination disorder] is very rare, but we do see it from time to time.” Orthorexia: Although it’s not formally recognized in the DSM, awareness of orthorexia—a fixation on so-called “healthy eating” that a person damages his or her own well-being—is on the rise, according to NEDA. Other Specified Feeding and Eating Disorder: Previously known as Eating Disorder Not Otherwise Specified, OSFED is considered a “catch-all” to classify eating disorders that do not meet the criteria for anorexia or bulimia, according to NEDA. “It’s a huge category, which we all hate to use, but sometimes it really is the only diagnosis that encapsulates what’s going on at the time,” Dr. Calderoni says. “But we try very hard not to put our patients in that category.”
Signs of an Eating Disorder
The main signals for parents that their child may have an eating disorder are changes in behavior of eating, changes in behavior of physical activities, or changes in weight, Dr. Steinglass says. As an eating disorder progresses, you may start to see your child isolate himself, and see mood changes. Typically with anorexia, a child will become preoccupied with what foods she is eating, a decrease in the amount of food she is eating, she may push food around the plate, or make excuses as to why she can’t eat. “Bulimia and binge eating disorder are a little trickier to recognize because they’re often done in secret,” Dr. Miller says. Another possible sign of binge eating disorder or bulimia is if quantities of food disappear over an evening or a short period of time, Dr. Calderoni adds. Other possible signs of bulimia include frequent use of the bathroom immediately after meals, signs of vomiting or laxative use, and tooth decay from vomiting frequently. “And I think with all of these conditions, except with ARFID, you’re hearing concerns about how they look and what they’re eating and complaints about their weight,” Dr. Miller says.
Talking to Your Child
If you suspect your child may have an eating disorder, it’s best to approach him in a nonjudgmental way. “I think it’s really wise to sit down with your child and ask your child very nonjudgmental questions about their health and how they’ve been feeling. I think you need to make it nonjudgmental because you want your child to trust you and to feel that they can tell you what’s going on because many kids will try to hide this,” Dr. Calderoni says. “You can comment that you may have noticed changes or things they’re saying about themselves or things about their eating that made you concerned,” Dr. Miller says, adding to be cautious if your child is showing signs of bulimia or binge eating as those 46
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conditions are associated with a lot of guilt. “So going about it like, I’ve noticed you’ve been stressed around your eating, and I want to see if there’s a way we can help you feel better,” she says. As with any medical diagnosis, it’s important to see a doctor to get your child evaluated. “It’s good to go to a doctor to get a health workup to see if there’s anything going on with [your child’s] health, and rule out any cause that is unrelated to eating. I’d also recommend getting an evaluation through a psychologist or psychiatrist who specializes in eating disorders to help identify if it is an eating disorder before jumping to any conclusions,” Dr. Miller says. “If it is identified as an eating disorder, either through a physician or a therapist, then the next step would be to make sure the child is enrolled in treatment. Eating disorders can be very complex and is not something you should try and fix outside of therapy.”
Treatments for Eating Disorders
Across the board, “parents play a huge role in helping kids get out of an eating disorder and they may need to take a big role in figuring out how to get their kids back on track with normal and healthy eating,” Dr. Steinglass says. “The kinds of treatments that tend to be helpful are things that have a real emphasis on seeing change in behavior and paying attention to what’s actually happening with eating and normalizing eating. That can occur in all kinds of settings and all kinds of different ways,” While specific treatment plans will vary depending on the child and the eating disorder, there are a few techniques medical professionals employ when treating a child or teen with anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder, or ARFID. Multi-disciplinary approach: With this approach, your child will have a three-person treatment team: a medical provider, a nutritionist, and therapist. “Eating disorders are multi-factorial and the treatment has to be tailored to each of these components,” Dr. Calderoni says. The medical provider identifies the medical consequences of an eating disorder and ensures the patient is physically and medically safe. The nutritionist ensures adequate nutrition is part of the treatment plan. “It’s important to have somebody who understands nutrition from a macro- and a microelement perspective, and who also understands eating disorders,” Dr. Calderoni advises. The therapist addresses the mental health piece of the eating disorder. “Again, it should be a certified eating disorder therapist. That’s very important as well because there are triggers and other behaviors that are just really not understood by all therapists,” she adds. This approach is very individualized, meaning the child is the one who works with the medical provider, nutritionist, and therapist. Family-Based Therapy: Unlike with the multi-disciplinary approach, parents are heavily involved in FBT, which can be used to treat adolescents with anorexia or bulimia. Families work with an FBT therapist through three phases of treatment. During phase one, the parents have complete control over what the child eats—the parents plan, serve, and supervise all meals. In phase two, the patient gradually gains control over mealtimes—deciding what, when, and how much to eat. In phase three, the FBT therapist works with the family in addressing other issues in adolescent development as needed, according to Dr. Calderoni. Off the C.U.F.F.: Developed for treating ARFID by Nancy Zucker, Ph.D., a child and family psychologist, eating disorder specialist, and director of the Duke Eating Disorder Center, C.U.F.F. stands for clear, undisturbed, firm, and friendly. This program provides practical strategies to help parents deal with their child’s eating behaviors. When treating a child with ARFID, “it’s important that parents use
different terms that are very clear and specific around what they want their child to eat and how much of it while remaining as calm and undisturbed around their child as possible,” Dr. Miller says. “That they’re being very firm in what they want their child to do, but they also have moments where they’re doing positive things with their child unrelated to food because often times when a child has an eating disorder, it can become the sole focus for the family. So we want them to do things with each other outside of the eating disorder.”
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While there are no sure-fire ways to prevent children from developing eating disorders, there are things parents can do at home to reduce the risk of their child developing one. The experts we spoke with agree that families should not talk about food in terms of good and bad or healthy and unhealthy, and instead focus on having a balanced diet and moderation in meals. “Teach your child that having fruit one night and having ice cream one night for dessert is okay,” Dr. Calderoni says. “What I find is if you tend to have a very restrictive food environment at home, many times these kids become binge eaters or they learn that being restrictive is the way to eat.” Other things that can help reduce the risk are: have family meals together as often as possible, keep conversations during family meals positive, and make sure meals include a variety of foods, Dr. Miller says. Dr. Steinglass advises parents also keep the focus on body wellness—how your body can be healthy for you—rather than body image or size. “I also think families should try to not use negative terms like ‘chubby,’ or ‘you have thick legs,’ or ‘you’re built like Grandma, who is three-hundred pounds.’ I think staying away from comments about their bodies and body types is really important,” Dr. Calderoni adds. “We’re all born differently. Sometimes you do get one kid in the family that’s a little heavier than everyone else. It’s just best to not really talk about it. When you go shopping for clothing, try to stay away from sizes and comparison between children and not be so concentrated on what size your children are. Just love your child for who they are.”
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Life can be pretty stressful when you worry a lot about why you have challenges and what you can do about them. It is important to focus on improving areas that are hard for you. But it is just as important to focus on your abilities. To help you do this, this excerpt will talk about six big steps. These steps can help you learn ways to feel positive about yourself and your skills. You can use these steps even while you’re working to improve in your areas of difficulty. As you read about these six steps, you may be tempted to skip 50
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over some of them. But try to go step-by-step without missing any. Each step is important. Step #1: Focus on the Positive Have you ever cheered up a friend who was feeling sad? Maybe you did this by reminding that friend how great he or she is. Good friends do this for each other. Confident people also do this for themselves—and you can, too. First, take a few minutes to think of at least three positive qualities about yourself. These qualities shouldn’t be about what you can do well. You’ll think about that next. Right now, think about your personality. Can you think of three great things about your personality? You can write them on notebook paper. Or you can type them on a computer and print out your list. You can also have an adult help you type or write the list. Then keep this list in a place where you can look at it often. If you have trouble coming up with three special qualities, look over the following list. Which words describe you? Feel free to use different words if you have qualities that aren’t on this list.
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Now, add some areas of talent or ability to your list. Maybe you really enjoy one of these activities or are really talented in one of these areas: • reading • remembering things • taking care of animals • painting • karate • chess • solving problems • spelling • being • organized • soccer • collecting coins
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This list does not cover every talent that people could have. Write (or type) what your talents are, even if they are not on this list. Then, keep paying attention to things you’re good at. Whenever you notice one of your talents, skills, or special qualities, add it to your growing list. It can also be helpful (or just fun) to ask family, friends, teachers, or other people you trust what positive words they would use to describe you. Add those words to your list. Look at your list whenever you need reminders of all the great and special qualities that make up you. Step #2: Be Kind to Yourself In Step 1, you came up with a list of great things about yourself. How do you feel when you read the list? In other words, do you appreciate your special qualities and skills? Do you smile when you think about what makes you a unique person? You can be kind to yourself by remembering your abilities and talents. Be sure to do this even when things are tough. In fact, it is especially important to be kind to yourself at those times. Of course, everyone has bad days when it is hard to focus on the positive qualities. Maybe you are struggling with a homework assignment that seems easy for your friend. Or you might have baked a cake that came out lopsided. On days like this, can you still feel good about your abilities? If you struggle to stay positive during difficult times, try some of these ideas for being kind to yourself.
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• Admit that you wished for a different outcome. It’s okay to feel disappointed when things don’t go as you had hoped. But it’s important to remind yourself that you are still a great person. • Remember that one disappointment does not represent who you are. One difficulty does not define you or explain who you are as a person. You will have disappointments and challenges. Everyone has them. But these difficulties don’t take away from all your abilities. Remember that your abilities are part of you no matter what challenges you currently have to deal with. • Learn from the experience. Use it to set new goals for the future. At the same time, try to feel proud of what you tried and what you did. • Laugh with yourself. We all mess up sometimes. But try not to laugh at yourself. That can hurt. Laughing with yourself is like saying, “Oops! Oh well. I may have made a silly mistake, but who cares? It really was a little funny.” Laughing at yourself is like someone teasing or bullying you. • Ask friends, family members, or teachers for tips on how they stay positive when they face challenges. Step #3: Believe That Hard Work Pays Off...Really Lots of kids roll their eyes when adults say, “Hard work pays off.” So, before you roll your eyes and skip this section, hang on! Putting in a lot of effort definitely can pay off. But maybe it hasn’t always worked that way for you in the past. If you try a plan over and over again and it doesn’t lead to success, you are still working hard. But it’s only leading to frustration. You probably need a new plan—one that gets you closer to reaching your goals. You also don’t need to focus only on tasks that are difficult for you. You may find it pays off to work hard in areas that you are already talented in. Working hard doesn’t mean you will have instant success. And it doesn’t mean you’ll be able to figure out how to do everything by yourself. Working hard does mean that you are willing to put in time to improve and that you are willing to try different ways to improve. It means asking for help when you need it. And it means feeling proud that you have the courage to keep trying. (This idea is also called perseverance.) Step #4: Remember That No One Is Perfect Have you ever looked around your class and thought, “That kid has it all together. He’s perfect!”? Or maybe you’ve looked at a friend and thought, “She just does everything right.” You might be surprised to learn that many kids have these thoughts about others. Even some adults feel like a coworker “knows everything” or a friend “never struggles with anything.” Here’s the truth: No one is perfect. And remembering this will help you accept yourself when you make a mistake or don’t do something perfectly. Instead of thinking that there is something wrong with you, you can remind yourself that you are human. That means that you and everyone you know will make mistakes and not be perfect at everything or on every day. So, why put pressure on yourself to be perfect? Confidence plays a big part in how other people see you. And it’s easier to be confident when you remember that no one is perfect. This can help you laugh at your mistakes rather than feeling disappointed or embarrassed. And it can help you feel better about getting extra help. If you feel like you have to be perfect all the time, think about this: Even Olympic athletes, who are some of the best in the 52
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world at their sports, aren’t perfect. In the Olympics, ice-skaters sometimes fall and runners sometimes trip. If you worry a lot about being perfect, talk about this with someone you trust. Step #5: Keep Trying When Things Are Hard We all run into obstacles and difficulties. We all fail or make mistakes sometimes. These mistakes don’t mean that we can’t eventually succeed at a task. They simply mean that we need to keep trying. What’s most important is how we handle the difficulty. It can be tempting to give up when we feel discouraged. And it’s true that some goals are impossible. When you were younger, did you ever try to fly by flapping your arms? No matter how hard you worked at that goal, it would never happen. Try to set goals that are possible and realistic. And as you work toward your goals, take pride in improvements you make along the way. As you work on not giving up, it can help to think about how you usually handle challenging events. Do you feel easily defeated? Or do you remember that you have lots of positive qualities, even when you’re struggling with something? Think about the following situations and pick the choice that is closest to how you would probably respond. 1. You and a friend both play a video game for the first time. You lose in Level 1. Your friend easily makes it to Level 4. You: (a) Think, “I’m terrible at this. I’ll never get better at this game no matter how hard I try. I’m never playing this game again.” (b) Want to buy the game to get better at it. Even so, you doubt that you’ll ever get past Level 1. (c) Plan to ask your friend for tips on how to improve. Then you’ll play the game again to see if you can come up with even more ideas. 2. Your teacher gives your class a week to complete a homework assignment. You have to write about your hero and then read your essay in class on the due date. When it is time to share, all the kids at your table have three or four paragraphs written about their heroes. You only wrote three sentences. You: (a) Think, “I know I stink at writing, and this proves it! I’ll have to find a way to leave the classroom before it’s time for everyone to read their essays.” (b) Tell the other kids, and your teacher, that you had a lot of things to do after school this week. You say that’s why you didn’t have time to write more. Then you read your three sentences aloud. (c) Tell kids, and your teacher, that you think of great ideas but have a hard time writing essays. You also ask for tips on how others write, so that you might be able to write more easily next time. 3. You like to run, and have always thought you were fast. Your older brother is on the track team. He says you should think about trying out. So you decide to go to a practice and see what it’s like. At practice, the coach times everyone running 500 meters and then a mile. You come in 6th place out of 13 in the 500 meter, and last place in the mile. You: (a) Think, “I obviously can’t run fast when it really counts. My brother’s idea was stupid. I’m never going back there again.” (b) Feel embarrassed. You wonder whether you could ever be fast enough to make the team. But you decide you’ll go back to the track to try to beat your times. (c) Remind yourself that you are a hard worker. And now you feel really motivated to improve your times. You decide you’ll still try out for the team. If you make it, you’ll learn from
your teammates and coach. You feel confident that you could be faster by the end of the season. How did you answer these questions? If you gave some “a” answers, you may sometimes give up when you run into challenges. If that’s true, it’s important to find ways to build your confidence and stay motivated. If you responded with some “b” answers, you learn from your experiences. You probably feel okay about yourself, even when you face obstacles. If you gave some “c” answers, then you know it’s okay to admit that you are not perfect. You probably also know how to set goals and work toward them. When you feel good about yourself, you’re able to handle challenges more easily. You are more likely to find the strength to keep trying and not give up. And you feel proud of your efforts. Here are a few tips on how to keep trying and not give up: • Check on whether your goal is possible. You might want to talk this through with an adult. If your goal is reachable, remind yourself of that. If it isn’t, work on setting a new goal. • Remind yourself of your abilities so you don’t get too discouraged or upset with yourself when you can’t succeed immediately. • Most people have to work to get better at things. Remind yourself that you may feel frustrated but that is not always a reason to stop trying or to get mad at yourself. • Remember that it’s okay to ask for help. If you are getting really frustrated, then it’s time to calmly ask for the specific support that would help you. • Rather than trying to reach a huge goal right away, try reaching a smaller goal that can eventually lead to the bigger one. For example, you could work on playing a scale on the piano before playing a difficult song. You might discover that you feel excited about taking on the challenge of learning something new or reaching a goal. It can also be fun to pay attention to your improvements along the way. These can help you stay motivated and positive as you work through obstacles. Step #6: Show Your Confidence It’s great to feel confident. It can mean that you aren’t too nervous to take on new experiences, because you believe you can handle them or you can comfortably ask for help. And showing your confidence can
let others know that you value yourself and like being you. But many kids are not sure how to share their talents with others without sounding like they are bragging. (Some adults have trouble with this, too.) Here are some great ways to let your friends, teachers, and other people know that you are happy being you: • Smile! • Stand or sit up straight and tall. • Make eye contact with other people. (But remember not to stare.) • Expect that most people will like you. • Honestly compliment others on their abilities. • Accept compliments from others. You deserve credit for your strengths. • Share your interests and talents with others so they know about what you like and what you do well. But try not to brag. For example, instead of saying, “I’m great at archery!” you could say, “One of my hobbies is archery. What do you like to do?” • Show that you are comfortable asking for help. • Show that you can bounce back from mistakes or tough times. Sometimes it’s hard to do this after something difficult happens in your life. But you can take steps to help yourself. For example, asking others for support is a sign of strength and courage. So is spending time focusing on what is relaxing or fun for you. Even if you can’t do this right away because you feel stressed or upset, it’s a goal to strive for when you are ready. • Try not to put yourself down, either out loud or in your mind. If you do, it’s okay to tell yourself, “Putting myself down doesn’t help. I need to be my own best friend and be kind to myself instead.” Think about people you know who seem confident. Pay attention to how they act and talk. You will probably notice that they do many of the things you just read about. You may spot other confident things they do, too. Next, give it a try yourself— act confident. It can help you eventually feel confident.
Excerpted from The Survival Guide for Kids in Special Education (And Their Parents) by Wendy L. Moss, Ph.D., and Denise M. Campbell, M.S., © 2017. Used with permission of Free Spirit Publishing Inc., Minneapolis, MN; 800-735-7323; www.freespirit.com. All rights reserved.
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friends aid people with diverse abilities in their search for employment and life-fulfilling volunteer opportunities. THERAPY & COUNSELORS DR. ELLEN T RICHER, EDUCATION CLINICIAN & COUNSELOR Convenient Long Island Locations 347-668-3676 etrdream@aol.com We co-develop strategies to improve executive functioning, sensory processing, and social cognition challenges, and provide enrichment opportunities to engage and motivate highly capable yet underachieving children. TUTORS & TEST PREP EYE LEVEL Eye Level Hicksville 760 S. Broadway, Hicksville Jyoti Dhingra: 516-597 5300 or 888-835-1212 Eye Level Williston Park 61 Hillside Ave., Williston Park Alida Vucemilovich: 516-747-7700 or 888-835-1212 Eye Level New Hyde Park Coming soon! Min Bittaf: 516-226-0323 or 888-835-1212 myeyelevel.com
Eye Level offers math and English programs for ages 3-12. Whether the immediate goal is for early learning, remedial education, or academic education, Eye Level is the answer. SYLVAN LEARNING CENTER OF HUNTINGTON 1160 E. Jericho Turnpike, Huntington 631-424-5600 sylvanlearning.com sylvanlearning@optonline.net Sylvan of Huntington offers personalized tutoring programs in reading, writing, mathematics, and SAT and ACT prep. Sylvan will help identify the right program for your child and exactly where your child needs to start to get the best results. VILLAGE EAST GIFTED: ENRICHMENT CENTER FOR THE GIFTED LEARNER Village East Gifted of Huntington 33 Walt Whitman Road, Huntington Station 631-549-2313 Village East Gifted of Roslyn 216 Willis Ave., Roslyn Heights 631-549-2313 villageeastgifted.com info@villageeastgifted.com Village East Gifted provides after-school enrichment and private tutoring. Enriching every qualified, gifted child. We are also a John Hopkins CTY info and SAT testing center.
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Tilles Center For The Performing Arts 720 Northern Blvd., Brookville 516-299-2752 tillescenter.org
Sensory Bounce Multiple locations; visit our website to find a center near you sensorybounce.com
Tiny Sparkles Pediatric Dentistry 164 Main St., Port Washington 516-888-9789 tinysparkles.com
Soccer Shots 171 Eileen Way, Syosset 516-558-2266 soccershots.org
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Long Island Center for Speech and Myofunctional Therapy 213 Hallock Road, Stony Brook 631-689-6858 lispeechandmyo.com
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Long Island Children’s Museum 11 Davis Ave., Garden City 516-224-5800 licm.org
Psychoeducational Consultants: Dr. Steve Imber 61-43 186th St., Fresh Meadows 516-273-1961 dr-imber.com
Steps to Socialization 13 S. Bayles Ave., Port Washington 516-767-0266 s2sny.com
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Super Smiles Pediatric & Family Dentistry 562 E. Jericho Turnpike, Huntington Station 888-915-7645 kidsupersmiles.com
Trendi Accessories Corp. 176-9 Central Ave., Farmingdale 516-531-3565 trendiaccessories.com The United Way of Long Island Serving all Long Island areas 631-940-3733 unitedwayli.org Variety Child Learning Center 47 Humphrey Drive, Syosset 516-921-7171 vclc.org Village East Gifted - Academic Enrichment for the Gifted and Talented 33 Walt Whitman Road, Huntington Station 631-549-2313 villageeastgifted.com Vincent Smith School 322 Port Washington Blvd., Port Washington 516-365-4900 vincentsmithschool.org Wealth Advisory Group LLC 250 Crossways Park Drive, Woodbury 516-677-6200 wagroupllc.com West Hills Academy - Nurturing the Unique Learner 21 Sweet Hollow Road, Huntington 631-427-6700 westhillsacademy.com YMCA of Long Island Multiple locations across Long Island ymcali.org
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PROFESSIONAL To be in this section, call 516-883-4543 or email nympads@davlermedia.com ChiroMom 2874 Merrick Road, Bellmore 516-221-1212 mychiromom.com mychiromom@gmail.com
Dr. Dana Walters is a chiropractor specializing in prenatal and pediatric care. Dr. Walters has practiced in a variety of areas, including Manhattan’s Upper West Side, and has brought her passion for helping families discover the benefits of chiropractic care to Bellmore as ChiroMom. ChiroMom offers chiropractic care utilizing techniques including immune boosting treatments, musculoskeletal and nutritional work, activator techniques, massage therapy, and lifestyle education. As a mom, Dr. Walters experiences first-hand how chiropractic care throughout pregnancy, birth, and childhood sets a solid foundation for greater health and well-being.
Allied Physicians Group Children’s Medical Group of Bayside and Plainview Thomas Capilupi, M.D. 26-11 Corporal Kennedy St., Bayside 718-224-6000 1171 Old Country Road, Suite 2A, Plainview 516-931-4343 childrensmedicalgroupny.com
Dr. Thomas Capilupi grew up in New York and attended Fordham University, graduating in 1983 with a B.S. He then went on to New York Medical College, graduating in 1987. Dr. Capilupi completed his internship and residency at North Shore University Hospital and has been practicing in Bayside and Plainview. He is a member of the Nassau Pediatric Society.
Long Island Center for Speech and Myofunctional Therapy Locations across Suffolk and Nassau: East Yaphank, Farmingville, Stony Brook, Commack, Jericho, Wantagh, and Lake Success lispeechandmyo.com Nassau: 516-216-1791 • Suffolk: 631-689-6858 • Queens: 718-640-6767
Janine Stiene, speech-language pathologist, is owner and operator of Long Island Center for Speech and Myofunctional Therapy. Along with her group of therapists, she supports families and children across Long Island, specializing in PROMPT, feeding, myofunctional therapy, voice disorders, fluency, augmentative communication, articulation, auditory processing disorders, and expressive and receptive language disorders (adults and children). Intensive feeding therapy for individuals who suffer from texture and consistency aversions, and FEES—Fiberoptic Endoscopic Evaluation of Swallowing—are also offered. There is a total of seven affiliated offices across Long Island, all participating with most major health insurance companies and offering evening and Saturday hours
Ehrenman & Khan Pediatric Dentistry 959 Brush Hollow Road, Suite #101, Westbury 516-333-3033 kidsteeth4li.com kidds@optonline.net
Tiny Sparkles Pediatric Dentistry 164 Main St., Port Washington 516-888-9789 tinysparkles.com
Dr. Michael Gruttadauria, The Center for Integrative and Innovative Therapies (The CIIT Center) 131 Sunnyside Blvd., Suite 100, Plainview 516-243-8660; theciitcenter.com
Merrick Pediatric Dentistry 1756A Merrick Ave., Merrick 516-547-1997 merrickpediatricdentistry.com
Ehrenman & Khan Pediatric Dentistry cares for all of your child’s oral health needs in a fun, kid-friendly environment that includes iPads and chairside TV monitors. Drs. Ehrenman and Khan are dedicated and trained to ease dental anxieties for young children as well as patients with special needs. Their years of advanced training include hospital and sedation dentistry. Please visit kidsteeth4li.com to learn more about what Ehrenman & Khan Pediatric Dentistry has to offer!
Dr. Michael Gruttadauria leads the operations at an advanced treatment center for autism spectrum disorder called The CIIT Center. The CIIT Center’s mission is to approach each child with autism as a total entity by enhancing the biomedical, neurological, nutritional, electrical, and immune system of each of our patients and combining this with occupational, physical, and speech therapies, along with applied behavioral analysis. Our comprehensive approach starts with identifying the underlying factors that may be holding the child back, not just treating their symptoms. This gives each child every opportunity to reach their potential.
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Dr. Angie Chin welcomes everyone to her new office in Port Washington. The office is modern and child-friendly with themed treatment rooms, iPads and games in the waiting room, movies and cartoons available during treatment, and digital animal X-rays. Dr. Chin’s practice philosophy is centered on promoting preventive care and helping parents and children develop a healthy and happy dental home. With her light-hearted approach and welcoming demeanor, kids of all ages have grown to truly love going to the dentist!
Dr. Rania Elbaz is a board-certified pediatric dentist. She earned her dental degree from Columbia University. She then completed her pediatric dental training at UMDNJ-New Jersey Dental School. Dr. Elbaz loves working with children and strives to create a warm and fun environment that children look forward to visiting. Dr. Elbaz sees every patient in order to ensure consistency that is so important to young children. The office welcomes and gives extra time and attention to patients with special needs. The office also participates with most major insurance plans.
Kidds on Park Pediatric Dentistry Dr. Jodi Guttenberg 111 N. Park Ave., Rockville Centre 516-678-7422 drjodiguttenberg.com info@kiddsonpark.com
Mesbah OB-GYN Women’s Health Care & Wellness 877 Stewart Ave., Suite 3, Garden City 516-794-1500; mesbahobgyn.com
Dr. Jodi Guttenberg and her board-certified associates have been treating the dental needs of children since 1995. Their training and experience allow them to provide the highest quality of care for children. The office is “full service” offering routine dentistry along with orthodontics, cosmetic procedures, laser surgery, and even sedation when necessary. The environment is welcoming for both children and their parents. They provide stress-free treatment for children of all ages and are experts in special needs care.
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Michael Mesbah, M.D., is board-certified with more than 20 years of private practice experience. His experience and expertise in obstetrics has made him one of the most respected physicians on Long Island. He has extensive training in gynecological surgery, and is a certified robotic surgeon. Karyn Wat, M.D., is multilingual in English, Spanish, and Chinese. She has been trained in general and high-risk obstetric care, as well as gynecological surgery. She is compassionate, dedicated, and knowledgeable in issues pertaining to teenagers, family planning, menstrual and hormonal abnormalities, and menopausal symptoms.
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Law Offices of Brad H Rosken..............................................48
PERFORMING ARTS / ACTING
@ Play Amusement...............................................................43
LIU Center for Gifted Youth...................................................23
Long Island High School for the Performing Arts...................27
Coder School (The)...............................................................23
Mathnasium ...........................................................................5
Gulliver’s Gate.......................................................................43
Sappo School........................................................................27
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St. Elizabeth Ann Seton ........................................................15
@ Play Amusement...............................................................43
CAMPS Camp Huntington...................................................................51 Coder School (The)...............................................................23 Countryside Montessori School.............................................27 LIU Center for Gifted Youth...................................................23 Mathnasium ...........................................................................5 Oasis Children Services..........................................................9
Sylvan Learning Center - Huntington....................................47 Variety Child Learning Center................................................48
RELIGIOUS St. Elizabeth Ann Seton ........................................................15
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RETAIL
@ Play Amusement...............................................................43
Once Upon a Child................................................................17
Gulliver’s Gate.......................................................................43 Live Nation - NYCB Theatre at Westbury..............................41
SPECIAL NEEDS
Variety Child - Child Care......................................................21
Long Island Nets....................................................................64
Allied Physicians Group...................................................12, 60
Millneck Family of Organization.............................................39
Camp Huntington...................................................................51
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Ohman School of Ballet.........................................................13
ChiroMom........................................................................53, 60
Eye Level Learning Center....................................................15
HEALTH
Janine Stiene Suffolk Center for Speech.........................48, 60
LIU Center for Gifted Youth...................................................23
Affinity Health Plan................................................................63
Kidds on Park, Jodi Guttenberg, D.D.S.................................61
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Coder School (The)...............................................................23
Long Island High School for the Performing Arts...................27 Steps To Socialization...........................................................13 Sylvan Learning Center - Huntington....................................47
Allied Physicians Group...................................................12, 60 C.I.I.T. Center..................................................................51, 60 ChiroMom........................................................................53, 60
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Ehrenman & Khan Pediatric Dentistry...............................3, 60
Ohman School of Ballet.........................................................13
Fairy LiceMothers..................................................................55 Healthy Spine Chiropractic....................................................47
DEVELOPMENTAL Allied Physicians Group...................................................12, 60 C.I.I.T. Center..................................................................51, 60 Janine Stiene Suffolk Center for Speech.........................48, 60 Sappo School........................................................................27 Steps To Socialization...........................................................13 Variety Child Learning Center................................................48
Kidds on Park, Jodi Guttenberg, D.D.S.................................61 Merrick Pediatric Dentistry.................................................7, 60 Meshab OB-GYN...............................................................2, 61 Northwell-Cohen Children Clinical Mag................................. 11
Ehrenman & Khan Pediatric Dentistry...............................3, 60
Law Offices of Brad H Rosken..............................................48 Millneck Family of Organization.............................................39 Sappo School........................................................................27 Tiny Sparkles Pediatric Dentistry...........................................60 Variety Child - Child Care......................................................21 Variety Child Learning Center................................................48 SPORTS Long Island Nets....................................................................64 THEATER
Steps To Socialization...........................................................13
Live Nation - NYCB Theatre at Westbury..............................41
Tiny Sparkles Pediatric Dentistry...........................................60
Ohman School of Ballet.........................................................13
United Cerebral Palsy Association of LI..........................21, 45 TUTORS
EDUCATION Countryside Montessori School.............................................27
MUSIC
Eye Level Learning Center....................................................15
Eye Level Learning Center....................................................15
Long Island High School for the Performing Arts...................27
Sylvan Learning Center - Huntington....................................47
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VOICES Growing Up with a Brother with Special Needs ›› The important life lessons I learned from my brother—and why I wouldn’t change a thing By Amanda Marrone
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hen I was young, I don’t think I fully grasped the concept that there was something “wrong” or “different” with my brother. Joe and I are exactly 1 year and 4 months apart, so I have no real recollection of the many surgeries he had to endure or the fact that he had to be fed through a feeding tube as a baby. As the older sister of a brother with special needs, I just took Joe for how he was instead of acknowledging his differences compared to other kids. Joe was born with a birth defect that affected the blood flow from the left ventricle of his heart, which lead to him having multiple open-heart surgeries in his infant and early childhood years. As a result, he did not have enough oxygen going to his brain, and he was put on a heart and lung machine three times before he was even 6 months old. Due to this, Joe has developmental delays. Growing up with a sibling with special needs comes with a unique set of challenges and blessings. When we were little, we did a lot of the same things together, including playing on the playground, watching the same television shows, and playing with our toys. As time when on, I started to move on to more complex games and TV shows while Joe didn’t. I began to realize the limitations Joe had made him different from other kids his age. Joe required a lot of special attention from my parents to deal with his many issues, whether it was bringing him to frequent doctors’ visits for his heart or seeing a speech or physical therapist. I was often dragged along to these appointments and spent a lot of my time in doctors’ waiting rooms with the most boring games imagined. But that is how things were, so although I am sure I often complained, I began to accept it as a part of my life. At a very early age I needed to learn about the virtue of patience that comes with having a brother with special needs. Joe would often have outbursts when learning new things he felt were too difficult to learn. My parents and I would have to reiterate multiple times the simple instructions of buttoning up a shirt or removing the cap off a water bottle. It took Joe a lot longer to learn these simple tasks that come naturally to most. As we both got older, the way the world perceived Joe started to become more important to me. I think it is natural for older
Amanda Marrone with her brother Joe as young children
siblings to protect their younger siblings; however with Joe’s issues, I always seemed to take it more personally. I hated the way people would talk or ask about my brother when it was done with a sense of pity or discomfort. I don’t see Joe’s disability as a burden or a tragic event that happened to my family. Joe’s disability is part of him, and I don’t define him based on it. Joe is the life of every party or event my family attends. Everyone always seems to know (or at least know of) my brother. He is friendly and welcomes everyone with open arms. He makes the effort to get to know everyone he comes in contact with, even the waiter at a restaurant. Joe loves music and hanging out with his friends. He thrives in any situation that involves him interacting with people. He enjoys watching football on ESPN and knows more about the sport than one would expect. Although there are challenges that made growing up with a brother with special needs difficult, these experiences shaped me into the person I am today. Joe not only taught me patience in any situation, but also to have empathy toward others; that what might come naturally to one person might be a challenge for another. Joe’s issues also taught me a great deal about sensitivity to other people’s situations since everyone is fighting a battle that most people do not know about. The most important lesson Joe taught me is, even though someone has a disability, this does not diminish their capability to make a difference in the world or teach others. Joe has taught me that no situation can ever be that bad, and happiness is a choice regardless of circumstance. Without being Joe’s older sister, it is hard to say that I would have gained these characteristics or learned these life lessons that are essential to the person I am today. And because of that, I wouldn’t change a thing.
Amanda Marrone, a former NYMetroParents editorial intern, is in her senior year at Fairfield University.
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