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6 Editor’s Note 8 New Places, New Programs 40 Professional Services 42 Party Central 43 Education Directory 44 Meet the Health Care Professional, Open Houses 45 Advertisers’ Index 46 Why Teens Drive Us Crazy

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chool’s been in session for two months now—how many times has your family gotten sick? Right now, the cold count for the edit team here at Long Island Parent is zero (knock on wood!). To protect your family from getting completely knocked out by the nasty bug, you’ve likely all already gotten your flu shots, but there are some parents who still choose not to vaccinate their kids (who could forget the measles outbreak that occurred earlier this year?). We took a dive into “The Vaccine Debate” (p. 38) to uncover why it is people still aren’t vaccinating their kids—and got straight answers from local doctors debunking some common myths. If you’re looking for a new provider to give your family the flu shot, need a teeth cleaning, or have another health care need, check out our Health Directory (p. 39). It’s full of health care providers in Suffolk County, so you can choose the best one for your family. We’re also shining a light on special education this month. If your child has a diagnosed special need and is struggling in school despite their school’s efforts, you might want to consider consulting with a special education attorney. We outline when it’s time to hire one and how they can help you secure the education your child is entitled to on p. 12. While raising kids means dealing with some serious topics (like the ones mentioned above), a lot of the time we’re looking for fun things to do with our family. So, turn to p. 27 for our November calendar of activities, where you’ll find more than 100 kidfocused events all month long. We’re positive you’ll find the best things to do with your kids—we can’t wait for the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade! Speaking of which…this month we all give thanks, and we here at Long Island Parent are thankful for you, dear reader! Happy turkey day! Katelin Walling Editorial Director

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ou know when your child isn’t receiving the education that is right for him. Maybe he’s struggling in a class that’s not a good fit. Perhaps he’s not receiving the supports and services he’s entitled to outside of class. He might even be in the wrong school altogether. But going up against a school district and the New York State Department of Education to fight for your child can be a daunting task for any parent. That’s where special education attorneys come in. They can help you understand your child’s rights, fight for his free and appropriate education, reach an agreement with your school, or get him into a new one. In fact, a special education attorney can make all the difference.

Why an Attorney is Necessary

The special education system in New York is complex. Some attorneys claim school districts don’t know which services are required for students with special needs, while others say schools are deliberately not providing the services these kids deserve. Laura Adler-Greene, an associate attorney at the law offices of Andrew Cohen in Garden City, says she believes district leaders do know the law. If they don’t, they have law firms to inform them. On the other hand, many parents get stuck on the difference between an appropriate education and the best education their child 12

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can receive, says Gerald Raymond, a managing partner at Tully Rinckey PLLC in Syracuse. If parents have their child evaluated by someone outside the district, they could walk into a planning meeting for their child’s services with an idea that’s completely different from what school representatives are prepared to offer. In that case, conflict arises not because school authorities don’t know what they’re meant to provide, but because parents have a different idea.

How Lawyers Help

Often a lawyer is necessary to get your school district to do what it must, says Bernard A. Krooks, founding partner of Littman Krooks LLP and head of its special needs department. A lawyer can help you get your child into a different type of class, receive the right services as dictated by her Individualized Education Program, or transfer to a different type of school. A lawyer can also help when your student has behavioral challenges, and help your student avoid the school-to-prison pipeline—a trend in which students with special needs are funneled out of public schools and into the criminal justice system. The American Civil Liberties Union reports that students with disabilities are disproportionately represented in the pipeline because of schools’ inadequate special education resources and a reliance on zero tolerance policies.

Once you’ve retained a lawyer, she can be as involved in your family’s progress as you want. Your attorney can attend IEP, Committee on Special Education, or annual review meetings with you or call for an impartial hearing or mediation. In some cases, a lawyer will take a family’s case all the way to federal court. Raymond says having an attorney can make a big difference in your child’s well-being. In one case, after a student fell behind in school when the district took his 1-to-1 aide away, Raymond’s firm provided the CSE with documentation as to why the child needed an aide— and got the aide restored to the child. Having an aide can significantly increase a child’s well-being, performance in school, and safety. Laura Davis, director of the Special Education Unit at New York Legal Assistance Group, says sometimes the impact of a lawyer might not look like much to an untrained eye, but it can mean the world to parents. “I’m working with a family whose child spent four years in an inappropriate six-one-one [six students, one teacher, and one aide] class in a public school, and is now at Gersh [Academy],” Davis says. “[The mother says] her child can now look at her, sit in a chair for a couple of minutes at a time, wave goodbye. This is all so meaningful to the parent. To somebody else it might look like nothing, but to her, her eight-year-old child is now, for the first time, making progress.”

Finding an Attorney

In his experience, the special needs community is a connected, supportive one, Krooks says. Information, such as lawyer recommendations, tends to get passed around quickly. “You can also use Facebook, discussion and support groups, or simply search online,” he adds. But at the end of the day, Krooks says, it’s not necessarily that difficult to find someone who has the knowledge

needed—though it may be a challenge to find a good match. That’s why it’s important to vet each name. “You have to hire someone you can build a relationship with, someone who’s compassionate, who’s empathetic, who can represent your interests and your child’s, and who cares about your case,” Krooks says. “Trust your instincts. You have to feel comfortable.”

Affording Services

An attorney might be necessary to go up against your child’s school—especially in wealthier districts where schools often have big law firms on retainer. But affording a lawyer can be tricky no matter where you live—and, unfortunately, petitioners in education law cases do not get attorneys appointed for them by the court, as petitioners in family law cases do. As Davis explains, it is especially important for families making lower incomes and families whose native language is not English to understand their parental rights. Many of these families, however, don’t have the means to pay retainers and fees, according to Ashley Grant, supervising staff attorney at Advocates for Children in New York City. But these fees, she says, should not prevent parents from seeking assistance. For example, families can reach out to Advocates for Children, which is just one of several organizations in the city that connects families with lower incomes to legal resources. Some law firms will take on cases regardless of family income. As Krooks points out: “We’ll take on cases like this because we went to law school to help people.” When a lawyer helps a family win a case in New York, the firm can have their attorney’s fees reimbursed by the Department of Education, at no cost to the family. continued on next page››

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AN EDUCATION SUCCESS STORY Alicia Lewis’s* 6-year-old daughter has global developmental delays and is largely nonverbal. She needs a very small classroom, autism-specific methodologies, and an individualized teaching approach. When the New York City Department of Education placed her in an inadequate school last fall—twice— Lewis realized she needed the help of an attorney. Lewis had gone through an initial placement meeting, in which she says DOE representatives “did not seem to factor in our input and the evaluations we submitted, and did not allow the professionals who evaluated our daughter to testify.” Lewis asked for a reconvene, but the placement recommendations made at that second meeting were the same. “We were [finally] given a District 75 placement,” she says, “and we wanted to visit it, but it was a new site that wouldn’t be open until the first day of school. We were told to visit a similar site, and we did. But it seemed like none of our daughter’s needs would be met there. They had no autism-specific methodologies. We couldn’t even see any of the teachers or therapists. They hadn’t been hired yet.” That’s when Lewis knew she had to hire an attorney. “When the DOE fails completely to provide an appropriate educational

setting for your child, and you have no other choice but to seek resolution through an impartial hearing, having a lawyer is imperative.” With the help of an attorney, Lewis informed the DOE she’d placed her daughter in a private special education school and would be moving forward with an impartial hearing. During the hearing, Lewis won the tuition for her daughter’s new school, meaning the DOE would handle all costs. Lewis also won at-home therapy for her daughter’s needs. Since then, her daughter has changed tremendously, both in school and at home. “She’s much more attentive and responsive. She has made a lot of progress. She’s really grown,” Lewis says. “She is so much more focused, she shows that she’s interested, she participates, she’s much more engaged with us at home.” Lewis attributes this success to having a lawyer. “The impartial hearing process is not something I would have been able to maneuver on my own,” she says. “Without an attorney, I would not have known the specific steps we needed to follow, the timeline, and the legal terminology.” *Name has been changed to protect the identity of the family involved.

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The moment I realized my daughter understood—and accepted—the responsibility of caring for her twin brother By Ceilann Neber

y twins were never in the same play group, class, or even grade. They were together only in the womb, the NICU and, later, our home. They were on complete opposite ends of the spectrum. Why couldn’t they meet somewhere in the middle? I often asked myself. Born 16 weeks premature, my baby girl had her struggles, but I knew she would prevail. My instinct was right; she did. Relentless in my efforts to somehow change the course of his outcome, I knew my baby boy’s struggles would be permanent. And they were—a mother’s intuition. Now, 23 years later, I still wonder what life would have been like. Seeing neurotypical twins is a reminder of what they (and honestly, I) did not have. It’s a reminder of everything that was missed, how nothing was typical—and, ultimately, how it has affected my daughter. What would it have been like to bring my healthy twins home, memorialize their milestones in their baby books, and open our home to visitors wanting to celebrate them? What would it have been like to take my babies to the store or a friend’s home, to smile rather than cry, to savor each moment rather than worry about the next? What would it have been like to experience my babies developing typically? What would it have been like for my baby girl to have a playmate, a best friend, a partner in crime—to grow up like I did with my brother, who is 15 months older than me? What would it have been like for her to grow up without the constant flow of nurses and therapists in our home, visits to the hospital, or doctor and therapist appointments? What would it have been like to not worry about my son’s future—or about my daughter’s, for that matter, as the only sibling of a brother with multiple disabilities? What would it have been like to not feel guilty? When they were 10 years old, I drove the three of us home from yet another doctor’s appointment—an appointment I was hoping would bring a different diagnosis for my boy. It was during that car ride that I realized my daughter already understood what her future was going to look like. “Mommy...do you think Matt will ever get married?” she asked. “I’m not sure, why?” “Well, while we were in the doctor’s office, there was something on TV that said kids like Matt will probably never get married or have children.” I held back tears. Ceilann Neber lives on Long Island with her husband and twins.

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The author’s twins, Matt and Jacqui (our assistant editor), dancing together when they were 5

“It’s okay, Mom,” she said. “He will live with me when you and Dad can’t take care of him anymore.” “Oh, Sweetie,” I said. “I know you love your brother. But you will have your own life and your future husband may not want your brother to live with you.” Without hesitation she said, “I wouldn’t marry anyone that didn’t want Matt, Mom. We’re a package. We’re twins!” In these 23 years, every one of my daughter’s accomplishments has been met with celebration and happiness—but deep down those same accomplishments were always bittersweet for me. She felt it, too, because she wanted her brother to be able to accomplish the same things. I knew she felt it, and it makes me sad still. She has watched me move through this journey, and she wants me to be wholly happy—not the half-happy I am because I wish her brother could be beside her. She gets it, and she always has. I sat down to write this essay about what it was like to raise twins when one has a disability. But, ultimately, it’s an essay about my daughter. My son is the happiest boy. His innocent smile is the most beautiful thing. He is our light. But my daughter understands and feels more than any mother would wish for her child. It’s been a long and complicated path, and yet despite this, or perhaps because of this, she has grown into an amazing young adult. Her journey, our family’s journey, has grounded and humbled her, given her strength and understanding, and taught her compassion and kindness firsthand. Will I ever stop wondering what it would be like if my twins were both neurotypical? Maybe. One thing I won’t have to question is who will take care of my son when my husband and I aren’t able to. My daughter chose to take on the responsibility of making sure her brother is safe in the future. That is a responsibility she has understood for a long time, though it’s not what I hoped for her future. It’s something I think about all the time, and I know she thinks about it, too. Despite these worries, I wouldn’t change either of my twins for anything. The reality of life and her future responsibilities can seem overwhelming, but my daughter will approach all of it with the same compassion and strength her brother has helped her learn from the beginning. My twins will always be on opposite ends of the spectrum in many ways. I will always worry about them equally, too. But they give light to each other. And while my intuition about my son was correct, it was also correct about my daughter. She will prevail, she will keep him safe, and she will be okay.

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The Washington Square Arch was built in celebration of the centennial of George Washington’s inauguration as President of the United States and is often used as an unofficial symbol of New York University.

The Prehistoric Safari features 22-foot animatronic dinosaurs, 13-foot tropical plants, and a color-changing volcano amidst an illuminated prehistoric environment.

Light Up Your Family’s Life

Courtesy Macy’s

The annual Holiday Train Show will showcase new additions, such as One World Trade Center and Battery Maritime Building, as well as old favorites.

A variety of fan favorites, including the Ronald McDonald balloon, will return to the parade, along with new balloons and floats.

Balloons and Floats and Clowns, Oh My! It’s that time of year again! The 93rd Annual Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade is around the corner with classic floats and balloons as well as new additions such as Astronaut Snoopy, Smokey Bear, and a Cracker Barrel Old Country Store. The best part? If you’re not up for the early rise to grab a spot on the sidewalk, watch it on TV from the comfort of your couch. Free. Thursday, Nov. 26, 9am-12pm. Ages: All. Central Park West and 77th Street, moving south via Central Park South and Sixth Avenue, to Macy’s Herald Square on 34th Street. macys.com/parade. 26

This Manhattan oasis is a spot for artists to express themselves, chess players to battle, dogs to roam, and families to take it all in. Home to the renowned arch and fountain, Washington Square Park is known as a center for cultural activity and the place to enjoy a variety of monuments and statues to enjoy amid the hustle and bustle of NYC. Visit it: Fifth Avenue and Waverly Place, West 4th and Macdougal streets, Greenwich Village Can’t-miss event: Kids Bulb Planting Day; Saturday, Nov. 2, 12:302pm, and Thursday, Nov. 7, 3:30-5pm. Free. Directions: Approximately a 1-hour, 40-minute drive or a 1-hour, 30-minute LIRR and subway ride from Huntington

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Luminocity’s Light Arts Park at Randall’s Island Park offers three unique light art experiences—the Winter Fantasy, the Wild Adventure, and the Sweet Dream—spanning 12 acres, each featuring LED illuminated art displays within the theme. Nov. 23-Jan. 5, 2020; see website for dates and themed nights. $38; $30 seniors and students; $19 children ages 3-12; free for children younger than 3. Book by Nov. 11 for a 15-percent early bird discount. Ages: All. 20 Randall’s Island, Randall’s Island; luminocityfestival.com.

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New York Botanical Garden Don’t let cooler weather keep you indoors this fall. New York Botanical Garden is the perfect haven for families to embrace the beauty and colors of fall in New York. Throughout the month, visit for a Fall Forest Weekend and take a walk through the Thain Family Forest for an unforgettable foliage experience (and, of course, the perfect Instagram!). Visit it: 2900 Southern Blvd., Bronx; 718-817-8700; nybg.org Can’t-miss event: Holiday Train Show; Nov. 23-Jan. 26, 2020; $30; $28 students and seniors; See website for prices, purchase tickets by Nov. 1 for a 30-percent discount with the code Holiday30. Directions: Approximately a 1-hour, 40-minute drive or a 1-hour, 20-minute LIRR and subway ride from Huntington

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28 Editor’s Hot Tickets

32 Smarty Pants

29 We Can’t Believe It’s FREE!

33 Holiday Fun

30 Movers & Shakers, Mini Musicians

34 Nature Lovers 25 Crafty Kids

31 Little Foodies

36 Show Time!

EDITOR’S HOT TICKETS Our calendar is full of great ideas. First, here are the eight events we consider can’t-miss—the ones we’re taking our own kids to. Consider it your cheat sheet to the best of what’s great this month!

Islip Country Fair FREE

WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 3, 11am-5pm WHERE: Islip Town Hall East Parking Lot, 655 Main St., Islip AGES: All WHAT: Enjoy live entertainment, line dancing, pumpkin patch and decorating, kids costume parade and contest, charity pie eating contest, and more. WHY WE LOVE IT: Kids will want to dig right into roasted corn and face painting! WANT TO GO? Admission is free, prices vary for goods. 631-581-2720. islipchamberofcommerce.org.

Long Island Comic Book Expo

WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 3, 10am-6pm WHERE: Hilton Long Island, 598 Broad Hollow Road, Melville AGES: 13-17 WHAT: Shop vendors, meet artists, take part in cosplay, and more! WHY WE LOVE IT: It’s the most family-friendly comic book show on Long Island. WANT TO GO? $5; free for children 10 and younger. licomicbookexpo.com.

The I Love Chocolate Fest

WHEN: Nov. 9-10, 10am-6pm WHERE: Walt Whitman Shops, 160 Walt Whitman Road, Huntington Station AGES: All WHAT: Spend the day surrounded by everything chocolate, plus enjoy live music, a chocolate doughnut-eating contest, inflatable rides for kids, and more. WHY WE LOVE IT: There’s something for everyone from chocolatecovered crickets to chocolate wine. WANT TO GO? $15; $12 for seniors 62 and older, military, and volunteer EMT’s and firefighters; $11 for kids ages 3-12. 631-488-0521. lovechocolatefest.com.

11th Annual Bethpage Turkey Drive Benefiting Island Harvest Food Bank FREE

WHEN: Friday, Nov. 22, 7am-6:30pm WHERE: Bethpage Federal Credit Union, 899 S. Oyster Bay Road, Bethpage AGES: All WHAT: Donations of frozen turkeys and non-perishable goods will help feed thousands of families in need. WHY WE LOVE IT: The New York Jets will also support this year’s Turkey Drive! WANT TO GO? 516-263-6546. bethpagefcu.com. 28

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Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade FREE

WHEN: Thursday, Nov. 28, 9am-12pm WHERE: Macy’s Herald Square, 151 W. 34th St., Midtown, Manhattan AGES: All WHAT: The annual parade celebrates Thanksgiving with over-the-top fun, epic balloons and floats, major stars, and more. WHY WE LOVE IT: Every year, this nearly century-old tradition gets updated to include the most popular elements of kid culture. WANT TO GO? 212-695-4400. macys.com.

The Pajama Jammie Jam

WHEN: Friday, Nov. 29, 5:30-7pm WHERE: Children’s Museum of the East End, 376 Bridgehampton-Sag Harbor Turnpike, Bridgehampton AGES: All WHAT: Kids (and grownups!) are encouraged to rock their PJs while enjoying pizza, playing in the exhibits, and dancing under the disco ball! WHY WE LOVE IT: It’s a great way to get moving as a family after that big Thanksgiving dinner. WANT TO GO? $15; $5 members. 631-537-8250. cmee.org.

Annual Tree Lighting FREE

WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 30, 4:30pm WHERE: Vanderbilt Museum and Planetarium, 180 Little Neck Road, Centerport AGES: All WHAT: This popular event includes carol singing, a children’s ornamentmaking workshop, hot chocolate, and cookies. WHY WE LOVE IT: Expect a visit from Santa and Mrs. Claus! WANT TO GO? 631-854-5579. vanderbiltmuseum.org.

Harry Connick Jr’s ‘The Happy Elf’

WHEN: Nov. 23-Dec. 29, see website for schedule WHERE: The Argyle Theatre, 34 W. Main St., Babylon Village AGES: All WHAT: Eubie the Elf, a loveable fellow, wants to spread Christmas joy to the town of Bluesville. WHY WE LOVE IT: Families will love this festive tale of friendship and believing in yourself! WANT TO GO? $15. 631-230-3500. argyletheatre.com.

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Think a freebie has to be ho-hum? Don’t let the price tag (or lack of one) fool you. Here are the six no-cost events we’re excited about now. You’re welcome. Doll Get Together

WHEN: Thursday, Nov. 7, 3pm WHERE: Westhampton Free Library, 7 Library Ave., Westhampton Beach AGES: 3-5 WHAT: Bring your favorite doll and meet new friends while you play with the library’s doll supplies. Registration required. WANT TO GO? Free with Westhampton Free Library card. 631-2883335. westhamptonlibrary.net.

Planting Amaryllis FREE

WHEN: Thursday, Nov. 7, 4-5pm WHERE: East Hampton Library, 159 Main St., East Hampton AGES: 5-8 WHAT: Children will be instructed in the planting of the bulbs and the aftercare instruction. Sign-up required. WANT TO GO? 631-324-0222. easthamptonlibrary.org.

Veterans Day FREE

WHEN: Monday, Nov. 11, 10am-5pm WHERE: Cold Spring Harbor Fish Hatchery & Aquarium, 1660 Route 25A, Cold Spring Harbor AGES: All

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Parade of American Flags FREE

WHEN: Monday, Nov. 11, 10am-4pm WHERE: Heritage Trust at Heritage Park, 633 Mount Sinai Coram Road, Mount Sinai AGES: All WHAT: Walk between these flags, read about our history, and remember those who have served our nation. WANT TO GO? 631-509-0882. msheritagetrust.org.

Fall Book Swap FREE

WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 23, 10am-2pm WHERE: Children’s Museum of the East End, 376 Bridgehampton-Sag Harbor Turnpike, Bridgehampton AGES: All WHAT: Kids will create their own bookmarks, enjoy warm apple cider, and discover new titles to take home and add to their collections. WANT TO GO? 631-537-8250. cmee.org.

LEGO ‘Frozen 2’ Build Event FREE

WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 23, 2pm WHERE: Barnes and Noble, 600 Smith Haven Mall, Lake Grove AGES: 8-12 WHAT: Return to Arendelle with this LEGO build event! Signup required. WANT TO GO? 631-724-0341. barnesandnoble.com. ››

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Saturday,Dec. 14, 2019 at 5:00 pm & Sunday,Dec. 15, 2019 at 2:00 pm at Northport Middle School

Fun for the whole family! Meet and greet the dancers onstage after the show! To order tickets, visit the Posey School Facebook Page or TutuTix 855.222.2849 www.tututix.com/poseyschool For more information call Posey School at 631.757.2700 Posey Dance Repertory Co. is sponsored by Dance Education Services of Long Island, Inc., a not-for-profit, tax-exempt organization serving dancers and the general public. LongIslandParent 29

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MOVERS & SHAKERS International Games Week Fair FREE

WHEN: Thursday, Nov. 7, 5-8pm WHERE: Cold Spring Harbor Library and Environmental Center, 95 Harbor Road, Cold Spring Harbor AGES: All WHAT: Participate in group table-top and video gaming, eat snacks, and test your luck to win raffle prizes. WANT TO GO? 631-692-6820. cshlibrary.org.

Shinnecock Dancers Performance and Workshop

WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 9, 10-11am WHERE: Children’s Museum of the East End, 376 Bridgehampton-Sag Harbor Turnpike, Bridgehampton AGES: All WHAT: Following an interactive performance influenced by their traditional dances, an educator from the Shinnecock Nation will lead a corn husk doll-making workshop. WANT TO GO? $12; free for members; $3 suggested donation for doll workshop. 631-537-8250. cmee.org.

Grown Up and Me Bootcamp FREE

WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 16, 10:30-11:30am WHERE: Brentwood Public Library, 34 Second Ave., Brentwood AGES: 1-4, adult WHAT: Bring water and an exercise mat. Registration required. WANT TO GO? 631-273-7883. brentwoodnylibrary.org.

Dancing Jelly Beans FREE

WHEN: Nov. 7-21, Thursdays, 11-11:30am WHERE: South Huntington Public Library, 145 Pidgeon Hill Road, Huntington Station AGES: Newborn to 36 months WHAT: You’ll have lots of fun listening to groovy music, dancing, and playing with musical instruments. WANT TO GO? 631-549-4411. shpl.info.

Long Island Spartan Kids Race

WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 2, 8-10pm WHERE: Staller Center Main Stage, 100 Nicolls Road, Stony Brook AGES: All WHAT: See the Stony Brook Symphony Orchestra live. WANT TO GO? $20; $10 seniors and students. 631-632-2787. stallercenter.com.

Instrument Petting Zoo: The Concert!

WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 3, 3pm WHERE: Recital Hall, 100 Nicolls Road, Stony Brook AGES: 3-8 WHAT: Learn about the sounds of the instruments, emotions they can portray, and how they all come together in a traditional piece that kids will love. WANT TO GO? $20. 631-632-2787. stallercenter.com.

Music with Miss Ellen FREE

WHEN: Thursday, Nov. 7, 10:30-11:15am WHERE: East Hampton Library, 159 Main St., East Hampton AGES: Newborn to 3 WHAT: Join Ellen Johansen, early childhood music and movement specialist, for a special educational music program. Registration required. WANT TO GO? 631-324-0222. easthamptonlibrary.org.

Mil’s Trills presents: ‘Thankful Celebration’

WHEN: Nov. 5-11, Tuesday and Monday, 11:30am and 2pm WHERE: Long Island Children’s Museum, 11 Davis Ave., Garden City AGES: All WHAT: Through joyful, one-of-a-kind live shows and collaborative songwriting, Mil’s Trills finds creative ways of bringing people together towards a peaceful global community. WANT TO GO? $14 museum admission + $9 show ticket; $12 show ticket only; free museum admission for members plus $9 show ticket. 516224-5800. licm.org.

University Orchestra

WHEN: Tuesday, Nov. 12, 7:30-9:30pm WHERE: Staller Center Main Stage, 100 Nicolls Road, Stony Brook AGES: All WHAT: The program will include Debussy’s “Fêtes” from Nocturnes and Brahms’ Symphony No. 2. WANT TO GO? $10; $5 students and seniors. 631-632-2787. stallercenter.com.

Jarrod Spector in (Con)Artist

WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 23, 9am-2:30pm WHERE: Old Bethpage Village Restoration, 485 Wicks Road, Brentwood AGES: All WHAT: Children of all abilities are welcome to climb, crawl, run, get muddy, and become a Spartan with family and friends. WANT TO GO? $25.99-$47.99. spartan.com.

WHEN: Friday, Nov. 15, 8pm WHERE: Staller Center Main Stage, 100 Nicolls Road, Stony Brook AGES: All WHAT: (Con)artist features a catalogue of songs from some of America’s most iconic entertainers. WANT TO GO? $52. 631-632-2787. stallercenter.com.

Opening Day for the ‘19-’20 Season

Sing-Along with Alan Muraoka

WHEN: Friday, Nov. 29, 9am-9pm WHERE: The Rinx at Harborfront Park, 101-A E. Broadway, Port Jefferson AGES: All WHAT: Skate at The Rinx at Harborfront Park’s outdoor rink. WANT TO GO? See website for pricing. 631-473-1414. therinx.com. 30

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WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 17, 3pm WHERE: Patchogue Theater for Performing Arts, 71 East Main St., Patchogue

AGES: Newborn to 5 WHAT: This interactive show is packed with Sesame Street songs that both parents and children will know and love. WANT TO GO? $20-$40. 631-207-1313. patchoguetheatre.com.

Starry Nights November

WHEN: Wednesday, Nov. 20, 7pm WHERE: Staller Center Main Stage, 100 Nicolls Road, Stony Brook AGES: All WHAT: Program to include Mozart Viola Quintet in D major and Mendelssohn Viola Quintet in B flat major. WANT TO GO? $44. 631-632-2787. stallercenter.com.

LITTLE FOODIES Kids in the Kitchen: Pepperoni Pizza Puffs

WHEN: Friday, Nov. 8, 11:30am-12pm WHERE: Long Island Children’s Museum, 11 Davis Ave., Garden City AGES: 3-5 WHAT: Little chefs will make easy, yummy, kid-friendly snacks. WANT TO GO? $14 museum admission plus $5; $13 seniors 65 and older; free museum admission plus $4 for members. 516-224-5800. licm.org.

Pepperoni Pizza Dip FREE

WHEN: Friday, Nov. 8, 6-7pm WHERE: Riverhead Free Library, 330 Court St., Riverhead AGES: 10-13 WHAT: Join Chef Rob Scott and make a pepperoni dip to enjoy with friends. Registration required. WANT TO GO? 631-727-3228. riverheadlibrary.org.

Kids in the Kitchen: Sweet Potato Casserole Bites

WHEN: Friday, Nov. 15, 11:30am-12pm WHERE: Long Island Children’s Museum, 11 Davis Ave., Garden City AGES: 3-5 WHAT: Little chefs will make easy, yummy, kid-friendly snacks. WANT TO GO? $14 museum admission plus $5; free museum admission plus $4 for members. 516-224-5800. licm.org.

In The Kitchen: Pumpkin Spice Muffins and Homemade Butter WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 16, 10-10:45am WHERE: Children’s Museum of the East End, 376 Bridgehampton-Sag Harbor Turnpike, Bridgehampton AGES: 3-8 WHAT: Measure, mix, and portion batter, and make homemade butter! WANT TO GO? $20; $7 members. 631-537-8250. cmee.org.

Kids in the Kitchen: Turkey B.L.T. Wrap

WHEN: Friday, Nov. 22, 11:30am-12pm WHERE: Long Island Children’s Museum, 11 Davis Ave., Garden City AGES: 3-5 WHAT: Little chefs will make easy, yummy, kid-friendly snacks. WANT TO GO? $14 museum admission plus $5; free museum admission plus $4 for members. 516-224-5800. licm.org.

Family Apple Pie Making FREE

WHEN: Monday, Nov. 25, 4:30-5:30pm WHERE: Cold Spring Harbor Library and Environmental Center, 95 Harbor Road, Cold Spring Harbor AGES: All WHAT: Make a delicious apple pie to take home and bake! Please bring your own rolling pin. Registration required. WANT TO GO? 631-692-6820. cshlibrary.org. ››

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Kid Chat

WHEN: Wednesday, Nov. 13, 10-11am WHERE: Long Island Children’s Museum, 11 Davis Ave., Garden City AGES: Newborn to 5, adult WHAT: Join in guided conversation to have open dialogue and socialize with one another as your child plays in the TotSpot area. WANT TO GO? $14 museum admission; $13 museum admission seniors 65 and older; free for members. 516-224-5800. licm.org.

Science Saturday Workshop: Jump into Genetics

WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 16, 2-3pm WHERE: Long Island Science Center, 40 Peconic Ave, Riverhead AGES: 5-12 WHAT: Learn how to read labels and make healthy choices. WANT TO GO? $10 admission plus $5 workshop fee; free for members. 631-208-8000. sciencecenterli.org.

Follow the Stars Workshop

SMARTY PANTS Voice Your Vote

WHEN: Tuesday, Nov. 5, 10am-12pm WHERE: Long Island Children’s Museum, 11 Davis Ave., Garden City AGES: All WHAT: Experience the voting process as you fill out your ballot to name the museum’s new hedgehog and receive your “I Voted” sticker. WANT TO GO? $14 museum admission; $13 museum admission seniors 65 and older; free for members. 516-224-5800. licm.org.

Science Saturday Workshop: Molecular Gastronomy

WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 9, 2-3pm WHERE: Long Island Science Center, 40 Peconic Ave., Riverhead AGES: 5-12 WHAT: Participants perform hands-on experiments that explore the molecular nature of matter and experiment with ice cream! WANT TO GO? $10 admission plus $5 workshop fee; free for members. 631-208-8000. sciencecenterli.org.

Veterans Day Salute

WHEN: Nov. 9-11, Saturday-Monday 12-4pm WHERE: Vanderbilt Museum and Planetarium, 180 Little Neck Road, Centerport AGES: All WHAT: Commemorate Veterans Day and learn about the participation of the Vanderbilt family in military history from the War of 1812 through World War II. WANT TO GO? $8; $7 seniors 62 and older and students with ID; $5 children 3-12; free for children 2 and younger; additional fees for tours and planetarium show. 631-854-5579. vanderbiltmuseum.org.

Future Scientist Workshop: Junior Dino Detectives

WHEN: Wednesday, Nov. 13, 2-3pm WHERE: Long Island Science Center, 40 Peconic Ave., Riverhead AGES: 5-12 WHAT: Learn about dinosaurs and make a fossil project to take home! WANT TO GO? $10 admission plus $5 workshop fee; free for members. 631-208-8000. sciencecenterli.org. 32

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WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 17, 1-2pm WHERE: The Whaling Museum and Education Center of Cold Spring Harbor, 301 Main St., Cold Spring Harbor AGES: All WHAT: Get ready for the Leonid Meteor shower, enjoy a “starry” scavenger hunt, and design a glittering galaxy jar to take home. WANT TO GO? $12; $6 members. 631-367-3418. cshwhalingmuseum.org.

Rethinking Thanksgiving with Perry Ground FREE

WHEN: Nov. 21-23, daily, 1:30-3:00pm WHERE: Indian Island County Park, County Road 105, Riverhead AGES: All WHAT: A workshop and storytelling session about the history of Thanksgiving. WANT TO GO? 631-852-8629. ccesuffolk.org.

When Whales Walked

WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 24, 11am-5pm WHERE: The Whaling Museum and Education Center of Cold Spring Harbor, 301 Main St., Cold Spring Harbor AGES: All WHAT: See fossils exploring whale bones in celebration of Evolution Day. WANT TO GO? $6; $5 seniors 62 and older and children 4-18; free for members and active military with ID. 631-367-3418. cshwhalingmuseum.org.

Gobble Gobble Turkey FREE

WHEN: Monday, Nov. 25, 6:30-7:30pm WHERE: Brentwood Public Library, 34 Second Ave., Brentwood AGES: 2-5 WHAT: Play, learn and grow in this preschool readiness program! Registration required. WANT TO GO? 631-273-7883. brentwoodnylibrary.org.

Science Saturday Workshop: Be a Microbiologist

WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 30, 2-3pm WHERE: Long Island Science Center, 40 Peconic Ave, Riverhead AGES: 5-12 WHAT: Follow the path of germs using Glogerm and black lights. WANT TO GO? $10 admission plus $5 workshop fee; free for members. 631-208-8000. sciencecenterli.org.

Messy Afternoons

WHEN: Nov. 2-30, Saturday-Sunday, 3:30-5pm WHERE: Long Island Children’s Museum, 11 Davis Ave., Garden City AGES: 18 months to 4 years WHAT: Get messy while getting artistic during this drop-in program. WANT TO GO? $14 museum admission; $13 museum admission seniors 65 and older; free for members. 516-224-5800. licm.org.

HOLIDAY FUN A Whaler’s Feast FREE

WHEN: Wednesday, Nov. 6, 1-1:45pm WHERE: Sayville Library, 88 Greene Ave., Sayville AGES: 3-8 WHAT: Learn about some of the foods the whalers would enjoy for the holiday, make a thankful turkey, and decorate a special cup to use at your Thanksgiving celebration! Registration required. WANT TO GO? 631-589-4440. sayvillelibrary.org.

Terrific Turkeys FREE

WHEN: Thursday, Nov. 7, 10-11am and 11:15am-12:15pm WHERE: Sayville Library, 88 Greene Ave., Sayville AGES: 18-36 months WHAT: A Time for Kids is back for Thanksgiving fun and a turkey craft for you to make and take home! Registration required. WANT TO GO? 631-589-4440. sayvillelibrary.org.

stART (Story + Art): ‘10 Fat Turkeys’ by Tony Johnston

WHEN: Nov. 5-7, Tuesday and Thursday, 11:30am-12pm WHERE: Long Island Children’s Museum, 11 Davis Ave., Garden City AGES: 3-5 WHAT: Practice counting down from 10-1 with a group of silly turkeys! After the story, “dress up” your own turkey decoration for Thanksgiving. WANT TO GO? $14 museum admission plus $4; free museum admission plus $3 for members. 516-224-5800. licm.org.

Turkey Talk

WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 17, 12pm and 1pm WHERE: Long Island Children’s Museum, 11 Davis Ave., Garden City AGES: 3-8 WHAT: Learn why turkey is a mainstay of Thanksgiving dinner and dress up your own turkey decoration for the occasion! WANT TO GO? $14 museum admission plus $4; free museum admission plus $3 for members. 516-224-5800. licm.org.

Library Friendsgiving

WHEN: Friday, Nov. 22, 6:30pm WHERE: Westhampton Free Library, 7 Library Ave., Westhampton Beach AGES: 13-17 WHAT: Enjoy a mini Thanksgiving dinner. Registration required. WANT TO GO? Free with Westhampton Free Library card. 631-2883335. westhamptonlibrary.net.

‘Who Took Tom the Turkey?’

WHEN: Nov. 9-24, Nov. 9, 16, & 23 at 2pm; Nov. 11 & 24 at 11am WHERE: BayWay Arts Center, 265 E. Main St.. East Islip AGES: All WHAT: See this Thanksgiving musical about a turkey that has gone missing. WANT TO GO? $13; $11 in advance. 631-581-2700. broadhollow.org.

‘Scrooge’

WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 30, 11am and 2pm WHERE: Patchogue Theater for Performing Arts, 71 E. Main St., Patchogue AGES: All WHAT: Miserly Ebenezer Scrooge learns the true spirit of the holidays! WANT TO GO? $15-$25. 631-207-1313. patchoguetheatre.com.

Tree Trimming Event FREE

WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 30, 10am-3pm WHERE: Fire Island Lighthouse, Robert Moses State Park parking field 5, Fire Island AGES: All

WHAT: Bring a handmade ornament relating to the sea, nature, or the Lighthouse to hang. WANT TO GO? 631-661-4876. fireislandlighthouse.com.

Christmas at Westbury House

WHEN: Nov. 29-Dec. 1, Friday-Sunday, 10am-5pm WHERE: Old Westbury Gardens, 71 Old Westbury Road, Old Westbury AGES: All WHAT: With decorated period rooms, Santa, cookies, and cider, this holiday celebration is a must for the entire family. WANT TO GO? $12; $10 seniors 62 and older and students with ID; $7 children 7-17; free for members and children 6 and younger. 516-2523392. oldwestburygardens.org.

‘A Christmas Story, the Musical’

WHEN: Nov. 16-Dec. 22, see website for showtimes WHERE: CM Performing Arts Center, 931 Montauk Highway, Oakdale AGES: 9 and older WHAT: Based on the classic film, this holiday entertainment captures a simpler time in America with delicious wit and a heart of gold. WANT TO GO? $18-$42. 631-218-2810. cmpac.com.

The Polar Express Trolley Ride

WHEN: Nov. 29-Dec. 23, see website for times WHERE: The All-Star Bowling Alley, 96 Main Road, Riverhead AGES: 3 and older WHAT: Climb aboard the trolley and journey to the North Pole! WANT TO GO? $57. 631-998-3565. northforktrolley.com.

‘Frosty’

WHEN: Nov. 25-Dec. 27, see website for schedule WHERE: John W. Engeman Theater, 250 Main St., Northport AGES: All WHAT: Join Jenny and Frosty on their chilly adventures as they try to save the town of Chillsville from mean old Ethel Pierpot. WANT TO GO? $15. 631-261-2900. engemantheater.com.

‘Barnaby Saves Christmas’

WHEN: Nov. 23-Dec. 28, Saturdays, 11am WHERE: Theatre Three, 412 Main St., Port Jefferson AGES: 3-8 WHAT: The littlest elf and his reindeer friend set off on their journey to save Christmas, meeting new friends along the way. WANT TO GO? $10. 631-928-9100. theatrethree.com.

‘A Christmas Carol’

WHEN: Nov. 16-Dec. 28, see website for showtimes WHERE: Theatre Three, 412 Main St., Port Jefferson AGES: 5 and older WHAT: Join Theater Three for their 36th annual production of the immortal classic in all of its thrills, music, joy, and spirit. WANT TO GO? $20-$35. 631-928-9100. theatrethree.com. ›› LongIslandParent 33

WHAT: A local naturalist and birding expert will lead the search through the woods and fields of Hallockville and Hallock State Park Preserve. Registration required. WANT TO GO? $7; $5 members. 631-298-5292. hallockville.com.

Historic House Tours

WHEN: Nov. 3-17, first and third Sundays of the month, 1-2pm WHERE: Connetquot River State Park Preserve, 3525 Sunrise Highway, Oakdale AGES: 5 and older WHAT: Step back in time as you tour the Main House of the South Side Sportsmen’s Club. Reservations required. WANT TO GO? $4. 631-581-1072. parks.ny.gov.

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NATURE LOVERS Moonlight Stroll

WHEN: Friday, Nov. 8, 7-9pm WHERE: Sunken Meadow State Park, 1 New York State Reference Route 908K, Kings Park AGES: All WHAT: Enjoy a leisurely walk along the moonlit trails of the park. WANT TO GO? $4. 631-581-1072. parks.ny.gov.

Hatchery Tour

WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 9, 10am-12pm WHERE: Connetquot River State Park Preserve, 3525 Sunrise Highway, Oakdale AGES: 5 and older WHAT: An indoor presentation, followed by a behind-the-scenes tour of the hatchery. There will be a hike to the hatchery. Reservations required. WANT TO GO? $4. 631-581-1072. parks.ny.gov.

Free Fishing Day FREE

WHEN: Monday, Nov. 11, all day WHERE: New York’s public waters–see website for locations AGES: All WHAT: This is a great opportunity to try fishing for the first time or for experienced anglers to take friends fishing for the first time. WANT TO GO? 518-402-8845. dec.ny.gov.

Native American Games

WHEN: Thursday, Nov. 14, 10-11am WHERE: Caleb Smith State Park, 581 W. Jericho Turnpike, Smithtown AGES: 3-5 WHAT: This is a special time for both parent and child to discover the wonders of their natural world together. WANT TO GO? $4. 631-265-1054. parks.ny.gov.

Where Did Everybody Go?

WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 16, 10-11:30am WHERE: Caleb Smith State Park, 581 W. Jericho Turnpike, Smithtown AGES: 5-8 WHAT: Through hands-on activities and costumes, discover how many animals and insects survive the winter. WANT TO GO? $4. 631-265-1054. parks.ny.gov.

Fall Bird Walk

WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 16, 9am-12pm WHERE: Hallockville Museum and Farm, 6038 Sound Ave., Riverhead AGES: All 34

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WHEN: Tuesday, Nov. 19, 10-11am WHERE: Connetquot River State Park Preserve, 3525 Sunrise Highway, Oakdale AGES: 3-5 WHAT: This program will connect children and their parents with nature through short walks, animal visitors, and crafts. Reservations required. WANT TO GO? $4. 631-581-1072. parks.ny.gov.

Turkey Talk

WHEN: Friday, Nov. 22, 10-11am WHERE: Sunken Meadow State Park, 1 New York State Reference Route 908K, Kings Park AGES: 3-5 WHAT: This program will connect children and their parents with nature through short walks, animal visitors, and crafts. WANT TO GO? $4. 631-581-1072. parks.ny.gov.

Quirky Turkeys

WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 23, 2-4pm WHERE: Long Island Children’s Museum, 11 Davis Ave., Garden City AGES: 3-8 WHAT: Learn all about this amazing animal and make a colorful turkey feather suncatcher to take home. WANT TO GO? $14 museum admission; $13 museum admission seniors 65 and older; free for members. 516-224-5800. licm.org.

Turkey Time FREE

WHEN: Tuesday, Nov. 26, 10:15-11am WHERE: Sayville Library, 88 Greene Ave., Sayville AGES: 3-8 WHAT: Suffolk County Farm will be at the library with a story, a craft, and a live turkey! Registration required. WANT TO GO? 631-589-4440. sayvillelibrary.org.

Too Much Turkey? Take a Hike!

WHEN: Friday, Nov. 29, 10am-12pm WHERE: Connetquot River State Park Preserve, 3525 Sunrise Highway, Oakdale AGES: 5 and older WHAT: Stuffed after eating all that holiday food? Head to the preserve and walk it off! Reservations required. WANT TO GO? $4. 631-581-1072. parks.ny.gov.

Splish Splash, Animal Baths

WHEN: Nov. 2-30, 11/2, 11/16, 11/30, 3-3:30pm WHERE: Long Island Children’s Museum, 11 Davis Ave., Garden City AGES: 3-8 WHAT: Learn what goes into the care of LICM’s animals. Join an Animal Program Educator to observe animal bath time. WANT TO GO? $14 museum admission; $13 museum admission seniors 65 and older; free for members. 516-224-5800. licm.org.

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How to Catch a Turkey FREE

WHEN: Tuesday, Nov. 5, 6pm WHERE: Westhampton Free Library, 7 Library Ave., Westhampton Beach AGES: 5-8 WHAT: Build a turkey trap using a variety of materials. Registration required. WANT TO GO? 631-288-3335. westhamptonlibrary.net.

Indian Corn Magnets

WHAT: Create an array of red, white, and blue crafts. WANT TO GO? $6; $5 seniors 62 and older and children 4-18; free for veterans, members and active military with ID. 631-367-3418. cshwhalingmuseum.org.

Autumn Trees

WHEN: Wednesday, Nov. 20, 10am WHERE: Westhampton Free Library, 7 Library Ave., Westhampton Beach AGES: 3-5 WHAT: Celebrate autumn trees with a project. Registration required. WANT TO GO? Free with Westhampton Free Library card. 631-2883335. westhamptonlibrary.net.

WHEN: Wednesday, Nov. 6, 4pm WHERE: Westhampton Free Library, 7 Library Ave., Westhampton Beach AGES: 9-12 WHAT: Make a fall decoration for your refrigerator. Registration required. WANT TO GO? Free with Westhampton Free Library card. 631-2883335. westhamptonlibrary.net.

Thanksgiving Paint Event

Dream Catchers

Open Studio for Families

WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 10, 1:30-3pm WHERE: Connetquot River State Park Preserve, 3525 Sunrise Highway, Oakdale AGES: 9 and older WHAT: Explore the myths and legends behind dream catchers and then make and decorate one with feathers and beads. Reservations required. WANT TO GO? $4. 631-581-1072. parks.ny.gov.

Veterans Day Family Crafts

WHEN: Nov. 9-11, 12-4pm WHERE: The Whaling Museum and Education Center of Cold Spring Harbor, 301 Main St., Cold Spring Harbor AGES: All

WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 24, 11am-12:30pm WHERE: Key to My Art, 10 W. Oak St., Amityville AGES: 5-17 WHAT: Create something special for Thanksgiving. Registration required. WANT TO GO? $20. 631-608-9048. keytomyart.com. WHEN: Nov. 9-30, Saturdays, 11am-12:30pm WHERE: Parrish Art Museum, 279 Montauk Highway, Water Mill AGES: All WHAT: Take a tour of the galleries and create art. WANT TO GO? $12; $9; free for members, students with ID, and children younger than 18. 631-283-2118. parrishart.org.

Seventh Annual Community Day FREE

WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 30, 10am-3pm WHERE: Studio E Art, 77 Broadway, Rocky Point AGES: All WHAT: Raffle prizes, pottery-try times, kids stations, refreshments, and more. WANT TO GO? 631-744-4001. studioeartclass.com. ››

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Met Opera–Live in HD–Akhnaten

WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 24, 12:55pm WHERE: Staller Center Main Stage, 100 Nicolls Road, Stony Brook AGES: All WHAT: Anthony Roth Costanzo is the title pharaoh with the striking mezzo-soprano J’Nai Bridges in her Met debut as his wife, Nefertiti. WANT TO GO? $22; $20 seniors; $15 children and students. 631-6322787. stallercenter.com.

‘Curious George: The Golden Meatball’

SHOW TIME! Plaza Theatrical Presents ‘Schoolhouse Rock’ FREE

WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 10, 2-3pm WHERE: Cold Spring Harbor Library and Environmental Center, 95 Harbor Road, Cold Spring Harbor AGES: All WHAT: Join the library as Plaza Theatrical presents another amazing production. WANT TO GO? 631-692-6820. cshlibrary.org.

Magic-Al Garber FREE

WHEN: Wednesday, Nov. 20, 1:30 doors open for tea and refreshments; 2pm show WHERE: Landmark on Main Street, 232 Main St., Suite 1, Port Washington AGES: All WHAT: Whether you’ve been a longtime fan or just discovering his zany antics, it’s time to pay attention, as Magic-Al’s next act is about to begin! WANT TO GO? 516-767-1384. landmarkonmainstreet.org.

Singer-Songwriter Night

WHEN: Thursday, Nov. 21, 7-10pm WHERE: Main Street Gallery, 213 Main St., Huntington AGES: All WHAT: A community-based opportunity for people to create and perform in a supportive, all-inclusive environment. WANT TO GO? $10 donation to perform; $5 suggested for all others. 631-271-8423. huntingtonarts.org.

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WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 24, 11am WHERE: YMCA Boulton Center, 37 West Main St., Bay Shore AGES: All WHAT: Join the inquisitive, lovable monkey-star in a new musical. WANT TO GO? $12; $7 Reserved VIP Member Club. 631-969-1101. boultoncenter.org.

Our Fabulous Variety Show Presents: ‘1001 Galactic Nights’

WHEN: Nov. 22-24, Friday and Saturday 7:30pm; Sunday 2pm WHERE: Guild Hall, 158 Main St., East Hampton AGES: 3-17 WHAT: Featuring show-stopping dances, incredible singing, and hilarious yet touching dialogue. WANT TO GO? $15-$35. 631-507-4603. ourfabulousvarietyshow.org.

Barnaby Saves Christmas: Sensory Friendly Performance FREE

WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 24, 11am WHERE: Theatre Three, 412 Main St., Port Jefferson AGES: 5 and younger WHAT: During this sensory sensitive performance join Santa, Barnaby, Franklynne and all of their friends for a wonderful holiday treat! WANT TO GO? 631-928-9100. theatrethree.com.

Goat on a Boat Presents ‘Milo the Magnificent’

WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 30, 11am WHERE: Bay Street Theater, 1 Bay St., Sag Harbor AGES: All WHAT: Milo the Magnificent is a highly engaging puppet show about an aspiring magician. WANT TO GO? $15-$20. 631-725-9500. baystreet.org.

‘Alice in Wonderland’

WHEN: Nov. 23-30, Saturday, Sunday, Friday at 11am; Saturday Nov. 30 at 11am and 1pm WHERE: ThinkBIG! Theater Arts, 42 South Ocean Ave., Patchogue AGES: All WHAT: In this remarkable adaptation of the Lewis Carroll classic, Willard Simms has created a Wonderland especially made for children where they can travel with Alice as she goes on her adventure. WANT TO GO? $12. 631-307-4042. thinkbigtheaterarts.org.

Disney ‘Frozen’ Jr.

WHEN: Nov. 30-Dec. 26, see website for showtimes WHERE: CM Performing Arts Center, 931 Montauk Highway, Oakdale AGES: All WHAT: See a stage performance based on the hit film. WANT TO GO? $15. 631-218-2810. cmpac.com.

‘Annie’

WHEN: Nov. 9-Jan. 20, check website or call box office WHERE: Smithtown Center for the Performing Arts, 2 E. Main St., Smithtown AGES: All WHAT: Based on the popular comic strip, Annie has become a worldwide phenomenon and features musical hits like “Tomorrow.” WANT TO GO? $38; $34 seniors; $25 students. 631-724-3700. smithtownpac.org.

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Safe and Sound

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These tips from security experts will go a long way to keeping your home secure, especially during the upcoming holiday season. By Jaimie Seaton

ith the holidays just around the corner, apartment doormats and front stoops will soon be stacked with packages—and that means “porch pirates” will be out in full force. Many of us will be traveling, leaving our homes unattended, during the holidays. Many residents have turned to video doorbells, such as Ring and Nest Hello, to give them an edge over the package-stealing crooks and burglars, but this latest craze in home security isn’t a cure-all. In fact, there’s a lot more to home safety than filming people who come to your door.

Mind the Basics

It’s hard to believe, but some people fail to take the most basic precautions, including locking their doors. “They may feel a false sense of security, and they may live in a safe area, but you can never be too certain,” says Cassandra Anderson, vice president of the New York Insurance Association, who adds that it’s a good idea to have a deadbolt lock. It can also be easy to overlook the door itself, but all doors are not created equal. An exterior door should be metal or solid wood, not the hollow-core type used for interiors. And remember, a lock is only as strong as the door and the door is only as strong as its frame. “You can have very good locks, but if your door frame is rotted, it defeats the purpose,” says Jessica Corey, commanding officer of the NYPD’s Crime Prevention Division. “Somebody can just push the door in. You can’t install a lock or a door without looking at the whole system.” Corey also notes that many people overlook the hinges. If the door’s hinges are on the outside and the pins exposed, someone can remove the pins and remove the door. She suggests either changing the door or installing non-removable pins. Another basic step many people forget about is to make a video inventory of your possessions. That way, if you are burglarized (or suffer a house fire or flood), you have a detailed record for police and insurance.

Secure the Perimeter

Both Corey and Anderson advise homeowners to secure their home from the outside-in, beginning with the yard. For example, make sure landscaping doesn’t block your windows, and that shrubbery can’t be used to shield an intruder from passing neighbors or a police patrol car. Corey also reminds people to secure their windows—particularly at ground level. When installing window air conditioners, make sure to secure them with the proper (and usually included) hardware so they can’t be pushed in. And use outside lighting. “Lighting is one of the cheapest and most effective deterrents that you have,” Corey says. “Either lighting that comes on from dusk to dawn, or lighting that’s motion-activated. That’s something that’s easily installed.”

Keep Up Appearances

When you broadcast news of your vacation plans across social media (or to the clerk at the local store) you never know who else is watching and listening, including thieves. It’s best to be cautious about whom you talk to—and wait to post pictures of your trip until you return. Remember that scene in Home Alone, when Kevin rigs up mannequins and lights to make it look like his empty house is full of people? You don’t have to go quite that far, but when you’re away, you want your house to look lived-in. Ask the post office to hold your mail, ensure there won’t be any packages delivered, and arrange for someone to take out the trash and recycling. It’s also a good idea to put interior and exterior lights on timers. Then there are the not-so-obvious things, like putting a television or two on a timer and asking a neighbor to park one of their cars in your driveway if you normally park your car in your driveway. (Anderson actually advises people to park their car in their garage if possible, so people won’t know their habits of coming and going.) The key is to make your house look the way it does when you are home. “A lot of people think when they go away that they should close all their curtains. If you don’t normally close all your curtains, you shouldn’t do it when you’re away,” Corey advises. And don’t forget to have someone mow the lawn or shovel snow if you’re away for more than a week. Both Corey and Anderson say leaving your house to the elements while you’re away is a sure sign the home isn’t occupied.

Be Smart with Your Smart Home

Aside from all these low-tech strategies, both Anderson and Corey recommend installing a home security system and/or video doorbell. “There’s a lot of new types of technologies out there that create video display in real time, where you’re aware of what’s going on in your house when you’re away. I think that those are certainly things that individuals could consider, to increase the security at their house,” Anderson says. “I can’t speak to any one technology, but having multiple security features is always better,” Corey says. “If you have video, if you have lighting, if you have an alarm system, that’s going to be better than if you had none of those things.” She recommends an alarm system with motion detectors and installing video cameras connected to a phone app but cautions people to remember that online systems can be hacked. “Use two-factor authentication and anything else the security or doorbell company recommends to protect the system,” Corey says. Nothing will guarantee 100-percent safety and security but taking a strategic approach and implementing the measures recommended by experts will reduce your chances of being victimized.

Jaimie Seaton has been a journalist for more than 20 years and is the former Thailand correspondent for “Newsweek.” Her work on divorce, parenting, dating, and a wide range of topics has been featured in “The Washington Post,” “The Guardian,” “Glamour,” and numerous other publications. Follow her on Twitter @JaimieSeaton.

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The Vaccine Debate

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Why are parents still refusing to vaccinate? We examine the myths and truths.

ew York City’s biggest measles outbreak in almost 30 years ended in September, according to Health Department officials, but the conversation about vaccinations is still raging. Headlines in the media, warnings at doctor’s offices, regulations by schools, and even celebrities’ social media posts have perpetuated the debate about the truths and myths of vaccinating. We spoke with pediatricians about this controversial issue that continues to baffle many parents.

Personal Choice or Civic Duty?

Vaccinations are classified into two groups, explains Harvey Karp, M.D., pediatrician, faculty member of University of Southern California School of Medicine, and author of Happiest Baby on the Block. The first group of shots includes rotavirus, hepatitis A, hepatitis B, and chicken pox. While Dr. Karp recommends all vaccines, he classifies these vaccinations as a parent’s choice because the risk you are imposing is limited to your child and family, not the community. That’s because those illnesses are either difficult for a child to pass onto another or are very common—and can spread quickly even with a vaccine. The second classification of shots (including those for whooping cough, flu, meningitis, pneumococcus, and measles) are given to protect your child and your neighbor’s child. 38

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“[These vaccinations] halt diseases that are so contagious that just one cough, one airplane flight, or one germy doorknob can spread them like wildfire throughout your town,” Dr. Karp says. “I believe giving this second group of shots is an important civic responsibility because delaying them creates a serious public health risk.” Specifically, these vaccines protect other kids who are too young to receive vaccinations, as well as people with cancer, those who are older than 60, and others who are considered especially vulnerable to these diseases. A minimum percentage of the population must be vaccinated against a virus to prevent its spread, according to Daniel Sinyor, pediatrician at Crystal Run Healthcare in Nyack. By ensuring that at least 95 percent of children are immunized against a certain virus, you are creating herd immunity, which “stymies the spread of disease the way that frequent rain keeps lightning strikes from starting raging forest fires,” Dr. Karp says.

The Major Misconceptions

Several misconceptions have surrounded vaccines for years, but perhaps the most disruptive one is that the MMR (measles, mumps, and rubella) vaccine causes autism. In 1998, Andrew Wakefield, a discredited British ex-physician, published a fraudulent paper suggesting there was a link between the MMR vaccine and autism. The data was found to be incorrect, and

throughout the decade following the publication, many epidemiological studies proved there is no link between the two. Still, the paper did its damage, and, combined with the fact that the MMR vaccine is given around the same time autism is usually detected (ages 1-2), many parents still believe there is a causal relationship between the two, according to Dr. Sinyor. Similarly, because children generally receive the flu vaccine at a time of year when they are picking up other illnesses, people have grown to believe the vaccine can cause the flu. That’s impossible, Dr. Sinyor says, because the vaccine does not carry the flu virus. Another common misconception is there is mercury in vaccines. However, in 1999 the Food and Drug Administration and the U.S. Public Health Service removed thimerosal (a mercury-containing compound used as a preservative) from all vaccines except multi-dose vials of flu vaccine. Aluminum, an element that is present in vaccines, has also caused worry among parents. Not only has aluminum been safely used in vaccines for more than 70 years, the amount used is similar to that found in 32 ounces of infant formula, according to Dr. Sinyor. Unfortunately, these myths are still widely circulating. The list of celebrities who have spoken out or expressed concern about vaccinations includes Jessica Biel and Jenny McCarthy. The latter has been claiming for more than 10 years that her son’s autism was caused by a vaccine. “I would venture a guess that the spread of false information through social media, celebrities, and anecdotal stories of friends who claim to have been harmed by vaccines all contribute to parental fear and distrust of vaccines,” Dr. Sinyor says.

Truths About Vaccines

The main misconceptions aside, there are potentially concerning aspects of vaccines that are valid. For example, some shots have an effectiveness rate as low as 30-60 percent, which has long upset parents. But, as Dr. Sinyor says, “if I told you I could give you a shot with minimal side effects that would reduce your chances of getting into a car accident by sixty percent—or even thirty—would you not take it?” Another upsetting truth? Not all children will develop immunity after a vaccination, according to Robert Segal, M.D., founder of Medical Offices of Manhattan. However, this does not discount the fact that 85-95 percent of children do. And finally, “in very rare cases, vaccines can cause allergic reactions. It’s important that parents tell their doctor of any history of allergies,” Dr. Segal advises. While vaccines are not perfect, they are still widely administered. In fact, in light of the recent measles outbreak, the list of doctor’s offices, day cares, schools, and other children’s facilities that will exclude your child if unvaccinated is growing, according to Dr. Segal. In August, the Supreme Court of the State of New York instated a ban on religious exceptions to vaccines for school attendance. New York is now 1 of 5 states that have banned religious vaccination exceptions. This is a good thing; all the doctors we spoke to agree. After all, vaccinations are our best protection against potentially life-threatening illnesses. Choosing to forgo them significantly increases the risk of making not only our own children sick, but also spreading illness in our community, Dr. Karp says.

Health Directory Dr. Audrey Paul - Advanced Concussion Solutions

901 Stewart Ave., Suite 212, Garden City advancedconcussionsolutions.com kidsconcuss@gmail.com Dr. Audrey Paul M.D., Ph.D. is board-certified in pediatrics and pediatric emergency medicine. Dr. Paul specializes in concussion baseline testing, diagnosis, and treatment. She works with athletes, non-athletes, and their families to provide individualized, effective concussion care, and collaborates with coaches and teachers to ensure an effective recovery program.

Island Orthodontics

1990 Deer Park Ave., Deer Park 516-365-5300 islandortho.com Our practice’s top priority is to provide you the highest quality orthodontic care in a friendly, comfortable environment. We utilize the latest technological advances in the industry, along with the latest in computer technology to ensure that you receive the most effective care possible.

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Pediatric Immediate Care

150 E. Sunrise Highway, Suite 105, North Lindenhurst 631-956-PEDS (7337) 1077 W. Jericho Turnpike, Smithtown 631-864-PEDS (7337) 698 Manhattan Ave., Brooklyn 718-389-PEDS (7337) pediatricimmediatecare.com Pediatric Immediate Care is a team of hearts where kids come first. State-of-the-art medical office equipment allows us to deliver your test results during your visit. Kid-friendly, walk-ins welcome, most insurance plans accepted. More than 30 years of dedication to our patients. We are open seven days-a-week, including holidays.

The Tooth Pillow Dentistry

775 Park Ave., Suite 340, Huntington 516-317-2476 toothpillowny.com The Tooth Pillow Dentistry is a group of board-certified pediatric dentists and dentist anesthesiologists who work together to safely provide dental treatment while your child “sleeps.” We provide this service for children who cannot be treated in the typical dental chair setting due to age, behavior, or other factors that hinder treatment.

YMCA of Long Island

855-2YMCALI (962254) Bay Shore, East Hampton, Glen Cove, Holtsville, Huntington, and Patchogue ymcali.org; info@ymcali.org Find your awesome. At the YMCA, everyone has the opportunity to surpass their potential. With our state-of-the-art fitness centers, swim lessons, youth sports, theater and dance classes, and programs for families, the possibilities are endless. Registration for Fall II Programs begins Nov. 3. Session runs Nov. 17-Feb. 1, 2020.

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Professional services

Your local guide to tutors, teachers, lawyers, financial planners, and other professionals DENTISTS & DENTAL PROVIDERS

HORIZON ORTHODONTICS

Dr. Larry Friedman 1150 Portion Road No. 13, Holtsville 631-698-2424 Find us on Facebook: @horizonorthodontics Our practice’s top priority is to provide you the highest quality orthodontic care in a friendly, comfortable environment. We utilize the latest technological advances in the industry, such as invisible ceramic braces and Invisalign®, along with the latest in computer technology.

ISLAND ORTHODONTICS

NORTH SHORE ORTHODONTICS

50 Route 111, Suite 214, Smithtown 631-265-3435 nsorthodontics.com Dr. Craig Smith and his team at North Shore Orthodontics offer a variety of orthodontic services, including American Orthodontics Mini Brackets, Invisalign®, Invisalign Teen™, A.O. Radiance translucent brackets, and teeth whitening.

THE TOOTH PILLOW DENTISTRY

775 Park Ave, Suite 340, Huntington 516-317-2476 toothpillowny.com Your child will leave our office with all of their dental work completed, free from pain and bad memories. Trust your child with the experts in pediatric dental sedation.

DOCTORS & MEDICAL PROVIDERS

LONG ISLAND CENTER FOR SPEECH AND MYOFUNCTIONAL THERAPY Locations across Suffolk and Nassau: East Yaphank, Farmingville, Stony Brook, Commack, Jericho, Wantagh, and Lake Success lispeechandmyo.com Suffolk: 631-689-6858 Nassau: 516-216-

1791 Queens: 718-640-6767 Janine Stiene, speech-language pathologist, along with her group of therapists, supports families and children across Long Island, specializing in PROMPT, feeding, myofunctional therapy, voice disorders, fluency, augmentative communication, articulation, auditory processing disorders, and expressive and receptive language disorders.

PEDIATRIC IMMEDIATE CARE

150 E. Sunrise Highway, Suite 105, North Lindenhurst 631-956-PEDS (7337) 1077 W. Jericho Turnpike, Smithtown 631-864-PEDS (7337) 698 Manhattan Ave., Brooklyn 718-389-PEDS (7337) pediatricimmediatecare.com Pediatric Immediate Care is a team of hearts where kids come first. State-ofthe-art medical office equipment allows us to deliver your test results during your visit. Kid-friendly; walk-ins welcome; most insurance plans accepted.

FINANCIAL PLANNING & INSURANCE

BANKERS LIFE - KIMBERLY WILLIAMS-REGNIER

Serving NYC Metro Area, Nassau and Suffolk Counties, and Westchester 347-0247-7293 bankerslife.com kimberly-williams.regnier@bankerslife.com Our goal is simple, to offer solutions that meet your needs today and for the life of your retirement. Our agents begin by asking you a few questions. Knowing what’s most important to you, we can provide solutions.

LEGAL SERVICES

ANDREW COHEN, ESQ., LAW OFFICES OF ANDREW M. COHEN

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legal services at a reasonable cost. It also conducts free workshops on several topics for agencies, schools, and parent groups.

LAW OFFICES OF BRAD H. ROSKEN, PLLC

VISHNICK MCGOVERN MILIZIO LLP

3000 Marcus Ave., Suite 1E9, Lake Success 516-437-4385 570 Lexington Ave., Suite 1600, Manhattan 212-759-3500 255 Monmouth Road, 2nd floor, Oakhurst, NJ 732-531-8900 vmmlegal.com For 50 years, the law firm of Vishnick McGovern Milizio has helped private and business clients ensure their well-being, plan for their future, and protect their interests.

LICE

FAIRY LICEMOTHERS

2463 South Long Beach Road, Oceanside 866-561-0492 1755 Deer Park Ave., Deer Park 866-561-0492 679 Glen Cove Ave., Glen Head 866-561-0492 fairylicemothers.com fairylicemothers@gmail.com Our treatment centers are kid-friendly and our products are 100 percent non-toxic. Treatments include two free re-checks. Whether or not you use our service, we are here to help you.

LICE CLINICS OF AMERICA - LONG ISLAND

47 Jackson Ave., Syosset 516-336-4099 566 Merrick Road, Rockville Centre 401 Hawkins Avenue, Ronkonkoma liceclinicslongisland.com Lice Clinics of America will remove lice in just one hour! All lice and eggseven Super Lice are eliminated in a

single, one-hour treatment. Affordable treatments, no toxic chemicals.

SPECIAL NEEDS

ALTERNATIVES FOR CHILDREN

1116 Main Road, Aquebogue 631-722-2170 600 South Service Road, Dix Hills 631-271-0777 14 Research Way, East Setauket 631-331-6400 168 Hill St., Southampton 631-283-3272 alternatives4children.org Licensed daycare, EI/Preschool Special Education evaluations provider for eligible children. Early childhood professionals create a natural learning environment, promoting a child’s cognitive, social, and emotional development.

CHILD BEHAVIOR CONSULTING, LLC 10 Janet Court, Nesconset 631-617-1958 childbehaviorconsulting.com lisa@childbehaviorconsulting.com Providing education, tools, and knowledge in teaching children cognitive skills to focus and remain calm. Specializing in challenges related to behavior, academic learning, and social-emotional development.

ANDREW COHEN, ESQ., LAW OFFICES OF ANDREW M. COHEN

250 West 57th St., Suite 1216, Manhattan 212-244-0595 1100 Franklin Ave., Suite 305, Garden City 516-877-0595 amcohenlaw.com ac@amcohenlaw.com The Law Offices of Andrew M. Cohen provide personalized, high quality special needs estate planning and special education legal services at a reasonable cost. It also conducts free workshops on several topics for agencies, schools, and parent groups.

LAW OFFICES OF BRAD H. ROSKEN, PLLC

534 Broadhollow Road, Suite 275, Melville 631-379-9569 specialedcounselor.com brad@specialedcounselor.com Brad H. Rosken is an experienced trial attorney. He is also a parent of a child with

special needs. He knows how far to push a school district to obtain the maximum that your child is entitled to under law.

LIFE’S WORC THE FAMILY CENTER FOR AUTISM

1501 Franklin Ave., Garden City 516-741-9000 familycenterforautism.org mreno@lifesworc.org The Family Center for Autism provides services and support for people with autism and their families. Programs include: insurance services, birthday parties, art, music, sports and culinary classes, camps, parent and sibling programs, social events, vocational programs, and behavior intervention.

LONG ISLAND CENTER FOR SPEECH AND MYOFUNCTIONAL THERAPY

Locations across Suffolk and Nassau: East Yaphank, Farmingville, Stony Brook, Commack, Jericho, Wantagh, and Lake Success lispeechandmyo.com Suffolk: 631-689-6858 Nassau: 516-2161791 Queens: 718-640-6767 Janine Stiene, speech-language pathologist, along with her group of therapists, supports families and children across Long Island, specializing in PROMPT, feeding, myofunctional therapy, voice disorders, fluency, augmentative communication, articulation, auditory processing disorders, and expressive and receptive language disorders.

MGABA

1737 Veterans Memorial Highway, Suite 1, Islandia 2341 New Hyde Park Road, New Hyde Park 631-479-2900 mg-aba.com Marra & Glick Applied Behavior Analysts (MGABA) specialize in Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA)to serve people with autism spectrum disorders in our center based programs, at school, in the home, and community.

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SPECIALTY APPAREL

GCH DESIGNS GENEVIEVE C. HASEMANN, SEAMSTRESS

516-983-0427 genevievescustomheirlooms@gmail.com Specializing in custom-made, special occasion, children’s christening, baptismal, communion, and flower girl clothing, hair accessories, and floral arrangements.

TUTORS & TEST PREP

LONG ISLAND TUTORIAL SERVICES

173 N. Main St., Sayville 631-316-0426 litutorialservices.com litutorialservices@gmail .com Long Island Tutorial Services (LITS) provides award-winning customer service and firstrate instruction to families island-wide. Call for a confidential consultation.

ST. PATRICK YOUTH COMMUNITYST. PATRICK TUTORING CENTER

St. Patrick Church, 280 E Main St., Smithtown 631-724-1261 stpatsyouth.com spyouth@optonline.net St. Patrick Tutoring Center is here to assist your learner from grades kindergarten-12th with Catholic Entrance Exam Prep, SAT, Regents, or daily schoolwork.

ST. PATRICK YOUTH COMMUNITYYOUTH ENRICHMENT LEARNING CENTER St. Patrick Church, 280 E Main St., Smithtown 631-724-1261 stpatsyouth.com spyouth@optonline.net St. Patrick Youth Enrichment and Learning Center provides programs for your child ages 1½ years–sixth grade. A faith-based program offers a loving, caring environment.

SYLVAN LEARNING CENTER OF HUNTINGTON

1160 E. Jericho Turnpike, Huntington 631-424-5600 locations.sylvanlearning.com/us/huntington-ny sylvanlearning@optonline.net Sylvan of Huntington offers personalized tutoring programs in reading, writing, mathematics, SAT and ACT prep. Sylvan will help identify the right program for your child and exactly where your child needs to start to get the best results.

VILLAGE EAST GIFTED ENRICHMENT CENTER FOR THE GIFTED LEARNER

Village East Gifted of Huntington 33 Walt Whitman Road, Huntington Station 631-549-2313 Village East Gifted of Roslyn 216 Willis Ave., Roslyn Heights 631-549-2313 villageeastgifted.com info@villageeastgifted.com Village East Gifted provides after-school enrichment and private tutoring for gifted and talented students. We are a designated Johns Hopkins CTY and SAT testing center.

Veteran's Day | November 11, 2019 12:30-3:00pm Family-friendly short films! Fun, hands-on art activities! Free lunch & snacks! $20 Child / Free for adults (with children) Every child must be accompanied by an adult. Tickets must be reserved in advance at www.goldcoastfilmfestival.org / 516-829-2570 Sponsored in partnership with:

Gold Coast Arts Center 113 Middle Neck Road, Great Neck NY

LIU POST’S CENTER FOR GIFTED YOUTH SPRING 2020 AND SUMMER 2020 PROGRAMS

Are You the Parent of a Gifted Child? LIU Post’s Center for Gifted Youth announces its 40th annual program for gifted children. The spring program runs Saturdays from Feb. 1, 2019 to April 25, 2020 and the summer program runs Monday to Friday from July 6 to July 30, 2020. The spring program is open to gifted children K-8 and the summer program is open to gifted children 2-8. The program expands students’ knowledge, develops creative and critical thinking skills, and offers children the opportunity to learn in an exciting and accepting environment.

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Admission is highly selective and enrollment is limited.

Feb. 1, 2019 - April 25, 2020 July 6 - July 30, 2020

For information call 516-299-2160 liu.edu/post/giftedyouth Now find us on Facebook

LIU Post • School of Professional Studies • 720 Northern Blvd. • Brookville, NY 11548-1300 liu.edu/post/gifted youth • Dr. Lynne Manouvrier, Director

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PartyCentral PARTY ENTERTAINMENT DYNAMIC BEAT PRODUCTIONS

Long Island, New York, and the Tristate area 631-399-6942 dynamicbeat.com dynamicbeat@optonline.net Your special event needs just the right mix of creativity, energy, and professionalism to get the celebration started. Dynamic Beat Entertainment has been making events memorable for 20 years. Our services include DJ, lighting, photo booths, lounge decor, and video production.

ERIK’S REPTILE EDVENTURE

P.O. Box 612, Middle Island 631-335-9308 edventureshow.com edventures1@yahoo.com Have a World of Reptiles Party featuring 12 animals from all around the world! Wildlife education and fun with live reptiles and museum animals We are ready to make your party an unforgettable event!

PARTY PLACES BOUNCEU FARMINGDALE

101 Carolyn Blvd., Farmingdale 631-777-JUMP (5867) bounceu.com/cities/farmingdale.ny farmingdale.ny@bounceu.com BounceU Farmingdale was voted “Best of Long Island” for Children’s Party Place and Family Amusement Center. We provide the ideal combination of inflatable structures, a clean environment, incredible customer service, and nonstop excitement in a private party atmosphere.

CELEBRATIONS IN THE KITCHEN

GOLD MEDAL GYMNASTICS CENTERS

Suffolk: 266 East Pulaski Road, Greenlawn 631-427-8275 huntington@gmgc.com 1752 Middle Country Road, Centereach 631-981-4653 centereach@gmgc.com 683 Route 25A, Rocky Point 631-821-2100 rockypoint@gmgc.com 253 W. Main St., Smithtown 631-366-4653 smithtown@gmgc.com gmgc.com Long Island’s leading gymnastics center, “Where Every Child is a Champion” since 1973. Island-wide with six locations and fully certified instructors. We offer action-packed birthday parties!

GRAVITY VAULT MELVILLE INDOOR ROCK GYM

40 Melville Park Road 516-777-9255 gravityvault.com/locations/melville-ny melville@gravityvault.com Climbing is a great way to celebrate your birthday! Our awesome climbing parties give kids an exciting day they will never forget! Offering different party package options to accommodate your needs.

GREAT STRIDES LONG ISLAND

41 Coram-Swezeytown Road, Middle Island 631-786-9708 greatstridesli.org julie@greatstridesli.org Lasso some birthday fun at Great Strides Long Island. We offer a relaxed picnic atmosphere (indoor facility is available), farm animals, and a horse ride-all for a reasonable price. Email julie@greatstridesli.org for more information.

63 E. Old Country Road, Hicksville 516-396-2193 celebrationsinthekitchen.com celebrationsinthekitchen@gmail.com The most unique, fun-filled, joyous event! We have created a true baking experience for everyone to enjoy, including sugar cookie baking, all about pizza, cupcakes from scratch, doughnuts, chocolate and candy projects. Come in, call, or visit celebrationsinthekitchen.com for more information on parties.

INTREPID SEA, AIR & SPACE MUSEUM

COLD SPRING HARBOR FISH HATCHERY & AQUARIUM

KARTS INDOOR RACEWAY

1660 Route 25A, Cold Spring Harbor 516-692-6768 cshfha.org steved@cshfha.org

Celebrate your child’s next birthday at the Cold Spring Harbor Fish Hatchery & Aquarium! See the Hatchery & Aquarium’s exciting live exhibits. Feed the hungry trout and learn about fish, reptiles, and amphibians with an up-close animal encounter.

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Pier 86, W. 46th Street and Twelfth Avenue, Manhattan 646-381-5010 intrepidmuseum.org groupsales@intrepidmuseum.org Celebrate your child’s birthday with a one-of-a-kind party! The Intrepid Sea, Air & Space Museum will captivate groups of all ages and interests. Choose from exciting themes, value packages, and customization options to create a birthday adventure they’ll remember forever! 701 Union Parkway, Ronkonkoma 631-737-5278 karts1.com info@karts1.com Karts offers a variety of options for kids and adults starting at age 4 (40 inches tall). Whether it be racing, laser tag, or one of our other great activities, our unforgettable parties are loved by both kids and parents.

KEY TO MY ART, INC.

10 W. Oak St., Amityville 131 Main St., East Rockaway

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877-539-2278 keytomyart.com At Key to My Art, our children’s paint parties include all supplies from aprons to easels. The guest of honor picks the theme, we provide the instruction, and each guest leaves with a finished painting!

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Why Teens Drive Us Crazy ››

There is a reason your teen making bad or questionable decisions is the (unfortunate) norm in the adolescent years. But don’t worry! It’s just a phase. By Lambeth Hochwald

Having open and honest conversations with your teen can help prevent some bad choices from being made.

says Shuli Sandler, Psy.D., a clinical psychologist in Teaneck, NJ. “A lot of this time is about figuring out who they are and part of that is pushing limits in the service of that exploration and discovery.”

s a parent of a teenager, you probably know some vexing behavior often comes with this stage—whether it’s making choices without regard to consequences, questioning authority, or just becoming more distant. It’s a challenging time for both parent and child—and it’s often impossible for us to understand why our kids are acting out. One of the best ways to cope and communicate, however, is to understand the reasons for their behavior.

Their Brains Work Against Them

“While teenagers’ brains are growing at a rapid rate, they are still many years away from maturity—as brains typically complete growth at age twenty-five,” says David Ezell, founder and CEO of Darien Wellness, a counseling and psychiatry group in Darien, CT. “The last part of the brain to develop is the frontal cortex, which is the part that contains the executive functioning area and is involved with abstract thought, planning, and impulse control.” What does this mean for your teen who is juggling many new thoughts and emotions? “Executive functions allow us to plan and see consequences,” Ezell says. “So, what adults perceive to be obviously ‘risky’ behavior does not seem that way to teenagers because their brains have difficulty connecting today to tomorrow. The combination of a lack of experience and a developing brain sets young people up to put themselves in situations that most adults would consider to be very dangerous.”

They Lack Experience

There’s another very important reason your teens are acting out, and it’s actually quite simple: Teenagers haven’t had anywhere near the life experience you’ve had. “As adults, we know that if we don’t pay the ConEd bill, the lights will be turned off,” Ezell says. “Most teens lack that experience of cause and effect, nor have they seen their peers experience a similar situation.” Remember: Being a teenager is a developmental stage, albeit one that may involve intense mood swings, lying, social media obsession, and trading communication with you for spending way more time with his friends. “This is a time when a child is going from being a child to becoming an independent adult, which is also why there is so much change happening in their body, minds, and actions,”

Hormones are Surging

Along with changing bodies come changing hormones, which play a large role in what teens are feeling. “All of these new hormones can also contribute to a lack of impulse control,” says Nikita Banks, LCSW, a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in Brooklyn. “Think about all that your teen is juggling. She is both trying to figure out who she is as an individual and find her place in society, which is a very big transition. To do this, she may pull away or test the values of her family and adapt behaviors that will be seen as more desirable to her peer group. When you put all of these factors together it can make for one wild ride.” With this surge in independence, teens may push the envelope to see how far they can push you. “The goal you hope for as a parent is for your teen to ultimately end up in the middle where he takes appropriate risks but uses caution and prudence when indicated,” Dr. Sandler says. “It does take time for the two extremes to settle down in the middle, as is often the case in life.”

What You Can Do

Given all of this change, keeping the lines of communication open with your teen is very important—especially when he makes bad or questionable choices. Plan regular outings together or eat meals as a family to bridge the gaps and enable everyone to feel heard. “This time together is very important, and it serves another purpose, too. It’s actually a really good way to get an inside view of what is going on in their life,” Banks says. “Your goal should be twofold: You want to monitor their social interactions with friends to the best of your ability, but also give your child a voice.” After all, any strong connection you can keep with your teen is crucial and will help ease the very important transition she is moving through. “When teens feel that they are not only seen but heard at home, it helps them develop a greater sense of self-esteem,” Banks adds. “It also provides a strong foundation for them to be able to withstand the social pressures of this time of life.”

Lambeth Hochwald is a New York City-based journalist covering trends, relationships, and life in New York City.

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