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Contents November 2013 Spectacular 10 New Artist Spotlight: Charlie Worsham

DEPUTY EDITOR Tamer G Hassan

Charm

SUB-EDITOR Hafsa Mahfooz

16 Life’s Little Teachers 18 Bipolar Disorder: An Emotional Warfare

BEAUTY EDITOR Sonja Svensek HEALTH EDITOR Nisrine Kreidieh PR DIRECTOR Dania Al Safadi CREATIVE DIRECTOR Ahmad Galal

Bedazzled 20 What’s Your Flirting Style?

22 Giving Advice: What You Should Know

Inspire 24 Succeeding In South Africa 26 The Realty Game

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Glow 28 Love, Marriage, And Obesity 30 Ask Nisrine

Sparkle 32 Cosmetics à la Natural 34 Ask Sonja 36 Feminine Autumn Allure

Brilliant 46 6 Must-Have Fall Travel Apps 48 Timeless Medieval Beauty 52 Living It Up In Bora Bora

Amaze 54 Delicious Desserts

Dazztrology 56 Skye Thomas

Last Word 58 6 Fall DIY Weekend Tips

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Cover Photo by James Minchin/Country Music Association

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Spectacular Celeb

Charlie Born in Mississippi, Charlie Worsham learned enough banjo by age 10 for bluegrass legend Jimmy Martin to invite him onstage at the Ryman Auditorium. Two years after that, he joined Mike Snider on the air at the Opry. After attending Boston’s Berklee College of Music, he headed to Nashville and eventually earned himself a deal with Warner Bros. Records.

all 11 tracks, he knows his way into each lyric. He does play some burning leads, but most of the album is toned down, rich in acoustic texture. His banjo stays in the background, enhancing the Country flavour. Drums are often muted and minimal.

This gives Worsham room to tell his stories. Starting with solo guitar and vocal, ‘How I Learned To Pray’ (written by Worsham, Tyndell and Jeremy Spillman) points not to church services “with a chapter and a verse” but to small epiphanies in everyday life as sources of redemption.

On ‘Love Don’t Die Easy’

By Bob Doerschuk

(Worsham, Tyndell, and Steve Bogard), metaphor mixes with clear-eyed observation to mourn broken souls haunted by love long or recently lost. Worsham finds daylight too, stirring cautious hope for the future during a morning after on the album’s first single, ‘Could It Be’ (Worsham, Tyndell, and Marty Dodson). His gift is to be able to whisper intimately one moment and, with minimal effort, rock the house the next - and that’s something they don’t teach at Berklee.

For more on Worsham, visit www.CMACloseUp.com.

© Jim Wright/Country Music Association

On his new album, Rubberband, released today, Worsham distinguishes himself by his unerring taste and musical subtlety. As co-producer with Ryan Tyndell and co-writer on

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Article & Image: © 2013 CMA Close Up News Service/Country Music Association, Inc.

New Artist Spotlight:

In His Own Words Song You Would Love To Cover: “I’d really love to cover a Katie Perry song - maybe ‘I Kissed a Girl’?”

Musical Hero: “I grew up on Vince Gill and Marty Stuart. Earl Scruggs is in that category too, as is Jimmy Martin.”

Actor To Portray You In A Biopic: “Christian Bale - although I’d really get a kick out of hanging with Jack Nicholson.”

Moment You’d Like To Relive: “I could relive playing at the Opry when I was 12 a million times.”

Find out more about Charlie Worsham on www.CharlieWorsham.com and follow him on Twitter: @CharlieWorsham.

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© Jim Wright/Country Music Association

Song You Wish You Had Covered: “Any songwriter would say they wish they had written ‘The House That Built Me.’”

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The Court Yard Hounds:

d e t i n U s r e t s i S

Let’s get this out of the way right up front. The Court Yard Hounds, composed of sisters Emily Robison and Martie Maguire, will always be linked to another group they’re a part of - the Dixie Chicks. Formed in 1989 with Laura Lynch and Robin Lynn Macy, they pared down to a trio with lead singer Natalie Maines. In this configuration, they won 10 CMA Awards and dominated Country Music from the late 1990s until 2006, when their on-going recording hiatus began.

The story behind this hiatus is the stuff of Country Music history.

In 2003, Maines uttered now-famous words at a concert in London to express displeasure over the impending second Gulf War: “We do not want this war, this violence, and we’re ashamed that the President of the United States is from Texas.”

The furore over that comment ultimately forced the Dixie Chicks to close shop, mostly at the insistence of

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Maines. Though she officially apologized to the target of her ire, then-President George Bush, she received a death threat, among other negative responses. “Natalie said: I need a break - and a long break,” Maguire recalled.

After a few years off the road and away from recording cycles, the sisters declared it was time to continue the musical journey they had begun together in their youth. “We didn’t want to put pressure on Natalie,” Maguire said.

“We just decided to shift gears.”

Robison and Maguire, who forged their family harmonies and instrumental virtuosity at an early age, released their self-titled Court Yard Hounds in 2010.

Their second album, Amelita, followed in July.

Jim Scott, who engineered the most recent Dixie Chicks album, Taking the Long Way, and produced both Court Yard Hounds albums, sees similarities

between the two groups. “At no time with either the Dixie Chicks or the Court Yard Hounds did anyone talk about making a hit record, ever,” he said. “They want to be successful. They want to be in the game. They want to sell records for a living. They want to tour for a living. But these aren’t calculating people. These are humble, normal people that want to make great music.”

Of course, there is at least one significant difference. The Dixie Chicks featured Maines on lead vocals, and the sisters share the lead in the Court Yard Hounds.

“Natalie has been a lead singer all her life,” Scott observed.

“Martie and Emily have not been lead singers all their lives. They’ve been harmony singers.

They’ve made only two records as lead singers.

They’re still learning how to do that. If you would ask them what their Achilles heel is, they would say that’s it.”

Where their first album was in many ways

Article & Images: © 2013 CMA Close Up News Service/Country Music Association, Inc.

The Court Yard Hounds aren’t just whistling Dixie, writes Ken Tucker…

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Spectacular © Frank Ockenfels/Country Music Association

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influenced by Robison’s divorce from singer/ songwriter Charlie Robison, Amelita touches on a variety of topics. Like a Lifetime movie, the title cut is inspired by a real-life incident. While shooting the Dixie Chicks video for “Long Time Gone” in the Mexican border town of Reynosa, the sisters noticed that there was a brothel across the street.

“We were naïve,” Maguire admitted.

“Someone had to tell us what was going on. It was such a weird thing to be doing this video in this little town and to see that happen right next to you. We realized they were open for business. It just broke my heart.”

Ever hopeful, the sisters wrote the song imagining that the lead character could be rescued from her situation.

Other highlights of Amelita include “Phoebe” (Maguire, Robison, and Martin

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Strayer), an eerie, fiddle-haunted rocker with a suicide theme, and the sarcastically titled single ‘Sunshine’ (Strayer, Robison, Maguire, Jonatha Brooke, and Alex Dezen), a portrait of a narcissist. Robison sings lead on most songs, but Maguire takes the spotlight on ‘A Guy Like You’ (Strayer and Maguire).

Deciding who will sing lead is easy, according to Maguire. “We always kind of naturally know,” she said. “We don’t fight over anything but clothes.”

Producer Scott says that whether Amelita is a Country record or not depends on the ears of each listener. “We talked about just making the best record that we could and coming up with the best songs,” he said. “We didn’t try to make a Country record.

We certainly didn’t make a pop record. But it does kind of rock.”

Scott, whose credits include sessions with Tom Petty, the Red

Hot Chili Peppers and Wilco, among others, notes that working with moms Maguire and Robison is very different from working with rockers. “You’ve got to work around a mom’s schedule,” he said, with a laugh.

“These aren’t rock star dudes that stumble in at noon and can work until 1 a.m. and drink Jack Daniel’s. They have responsibilities. They have to go to soccer games. They have to do drop-off and pick-up.

They have work to do real work.”

The sisters bristle at the suggestion that the Court Yard Hounds are a side project.

Even so, they are back onstage with Maines for a series of Canadian dates throughout the remainder of 2013, with another North Country headline tour following in 2014.

Find out more on www.

CourtYardHounds. com and on Twitter: @ CourtYardHounds; @ MartieMaguire; and @ EmilyRobison.

Š James Minchin/Country Music Association

Emily Robison and Martie Maguire of the Court Yard Hounds.

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e l t t i L s ’ e f Li Teachers

Mind & Soul

As we grow up, we tend to forget the most basic rules for living a blissful life. And who better to teach us what we’ve forgotten along the way than our very own children? Follow their lead and reconnect with your inner child…

Children have a way of making this life everything we wish it to be: peaceful, joyous, and worryfree. They’re innocent, pure at heart, and optimistic, all of which we find difficult to be in today’s dog-eat-dog world; but we were all this and much more at one point too, so it’s not impossible to reconnect with our old selves.

All we need is a reason to become a child again - for some it could be to become carefree again, for others it could be to laugh wholeheartedly, but for most of us it’s the hope to live life to the fullest and come out of it with no regrets.

Little Happy Things Something as repelling as a caterpillar could light up a

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child’s eyes and make him smile. Children never fail to find happiness even in the smallest of things because life for them is a blessing, not something they’re stuck in against their will. As adults, we get so caught up in our problems that we fail to appreciate all those little things that make life so unique and special. So the next time you’re down and frustrated with everything around you, look up at the sky – you’ll be surprised at how calming and de-stressing stargazing can be.

A New Day No matter what happens today, tomorrow is always a new beginning for children. They don’t wake up with a heavy heart

thinking about what happened yesterday, they don’t worry if today’s going to be the same, and they don’t fret over what tomorrow may bring. Life may be cruel at times, but everyday is a new opportunity, an opportunity to leave the past behind and work towards a better future. So start every single day with a little prayer, a positive mindset, and a fresh perspective.

Depend On Someone You can’t live life all by yourself, you can’t handle all your problems on your own, and you can’t be happy if you don’t let anyone in. Like children depend on their mothers for love, care, and protection, we all need that special someone to make life

Your Inner Child

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more worthwhile, meaningful, and enjoyable. Be it your mother, a friend, or a significant other, don’t be afraid to depend on someone because a life without love is a life not lived at all.

Bad Is Bad As children we’re taught how bad it is to lie, cheat, and steal and how we’d be punished if we ever did anything to hurt anyone. But then we grow up, become our own bosses, and forget about the consequences of doing such things. It’s true that nobody can punish us anymore, and we’re not answerable to anyone, but we’re answerable to ourselves and, more importantly, to God. Don’t forget the importance of being good

to those around you because there’s no telling what karma might have in store for you.

Dream On Dream to escape from reality, dream to build a better future, and dream to be hopeful, because that’s what life is all about - hope. Hope that one day your rough patch will come to an end and hope that one day you’ll get everything you want.

No matter how absurd a child’s dream is, he’ll tell his parents all about it, hoping they’ll make it come true. And even if he fails, he’ll keep trying, imagining, and building a fantasy that will be his one-day. The only person keeping you from realising your dreams is you.

Forgive And Forget Ever noticed how children interact amongst themselves?

One minute they’re playing, the next minute they’re fighting, and the next second they’re back to playing again. Even if their parents had just screamed at them, they forget about it in no time and they don’t hold grudges. This is probably the biggest lesson we could learn from kids, to forgive and forget, because life’s too short to make enemies and fight over things that are better left forgotten.

No matter how bitter a person has been to you, forgive them from the bottom of your heart and don’t let them keep you from living your life the way you want to.

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Personality

Bipolar Disorder: An Emotional Warfare Picture this: you wake up one day and discover that you have no control over your emotions. One minute you’re the happiest person alive, and the next minute you’re crying like there’s no tomorrow.

Sounds surreal, doesn’t it? But for Qudsiya Fakir, a mother of two, Khalid Sheikh, a grandfather of three, and Maryam Hussein, a mother of two, this emotional rollercoaster ride is as real as it gets.

They’re all currently seeking treatment for Bipolar Disorder, a mental illness that has turned their lives upside down…

Bipolar disorder is characterised by dramatic mood swings; a severely depressed mood alternates in cycles with an elated state called mania. “There’s one side where you feel really down,” says Qudsiya. “You don’t feel like getting up in the morning, you don’t want to go outside, you don’t want to meet people, and you absolutely hate yourself.

But then there’s the other side, where you want to talk to everybody, you want to engage in life, and you want to spend lots of money – which I did!”

Dr. Sayed Mansour, a clinical psychiatrist in Jeddah, explains that individuals with bipolar disorder use a type of thinking known as overgeneralization.

He says, “In overgeneralization, everything is black and white; all ideas are fixed in either an overly negative or overly grandiose direction. That’s why people with bipolar disorder experience two very distinct moods: very up or very down.”

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multiple episodes within a week or sometimes even within a day, and this, according to Dr. Mansour, is a very dangerous position to be in. “Such accelerated changes in the mood instil feelings of helplessness and misery, and this in turn increases suicidal tendencies,” he states. In fact, bipolar disorder is a leading cause of suicides around the world. It’s estimated that close to 15% of people with bipolar disorder commit suicide every year.

Because bipolar disorder is such a complex mental illness, not everyone’s symptoms are the same. Dr. Mansour explains, “Some exhibit more of depression-related and less of mania-related symptoms, and vice-versa.” For Khalid, bipolar disorder mainly manifests itself in the form of mania. “One day, I suddenly felt that I could do anything in the world, so I decided to jump out of a car,” he recalls. “Fortunately, my son, who was driving, stopped me just in time. That was a first of about a month’s worth of daily psychotic episodes.” Qudsiya’s occasional brush with mania isn’t as lifethreatening as Khalid’s, but it’s harmful nonetheless. She says, “I don’t know what it is about mania and shopping. Everything looks

wonderful, life seems great, you feel like a queen, and buying things gives you an addictive buzz.” Qudsiya is currently in debt worth over SR 150,000.

The most common symptoms of mania are excessive happiness, restlessness, irritability, feelings of undue power and selfimportance, high sex drive, tendency to make grand and unattainable plans, and racing thoughts.

From Mania To Misery Maryam’s case of bipolar disorder is more depression-related.

She went through almost four years of severe depression, with momentary bouts of mania, before she realised she needed professional help. “I basically isolated myself from the world,” she says. “I didn’t leave my house for three and a half years, I gained 55kgs, I refused to put on makeup, I didn’t take care of my personal hygiene – I just couldn’t function normally. And I was a horrible mom and wife; I’d shout at my kids, hit my husband, and curse at them for no reason.” Even though Maryam’s condition has stabilised to an extent, she’s still struggling to earn her family’s love and respect. “I’ve pushed them too far away, and I can only hope that they’ll forgive me someday.”

Signs of depression include feelings of guilt or worthlessness, sadness, insomnia, fatigue, poor concentration, uncontrollable crying, and disinterest in things that were once enjoyable.

The exact cause of bipolar disorder is still unknown, but experts believe that a number of factors contribute to its development. Dr. Mansour explains, “Since this condition often runs in families, it’s believed that there’s a certain genetic component that can increase its occurrence.” Scientists also believe that it’s partly caused by an underlying problem with the balance of brain chemicals

called neurotransmitters. External factors don’t contribute in the development of the illness, but they can increase its severity.

“Stressful life events, like death of a loved one or infidelity in marriage, and substance abuse can make it difficult to treat bipolar disorder.”

Bipolar disorder is a chronic illness, meaning that it can’t be cured completely. Nonetheless, it’s imperative to get treatment because not doing so can “aggravate the illness and increase the severity of mood swings,” says Dr. Mansour.

Maryam, Qudsiya, and Khalid have been on a combination

treatment of mood-stabilising drugs and psychotherapy, and they’ve all noticed positive changes. Maryam says, “I’m more in control of myself now, the depression is not as consuming as it used to be.” Although Khalid is happy he isn’t jumping out of cars anymore, he misses feeling invincible. “The treatment has reduced my episodes of mania, which is good but sort of sad too,” he reveals. “I miss that constant chemical rush in my brain, it made me feel like superman!”

Qudsiya adds, “Being bipolar sucks, but it’s not the end of the world. If anything, it has made me stronger – and that’s my silver lining to bipolar disorder.” www.dazzle-magazine.com

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? le ty S g n ti r li F r u o What’s Y Relationships

Single or attached, we all love to flirt with our objects of attraction. So are you naughty, or are you nice? Take this quiz and find out…

1. When you notice a cute guy checking you out, you… a. Go up to him and introduce yourself. b. Walk straight to him and say something very cheesy like, ‘I’m sorry, were you talking to me?

No? Well then, please start!’ c. Smile and wink at him, just to let him know that the attraction is mutual. d. Don’t do anything – women don’t approach men.

2. When a man gives you a compliment, you… a. Thank him and shower him with a million genuine compliments. b. Shamelessly ask him to give you more compliments. c. Say, ‘Honey, tell me something I don’t know.’ d. Ignore the compliment and quickly change the subject.

3. When walking towards someone you find attractive, you… a. Walk the same way as you always do.

Flirt Factor

Check which response you’ve ticked the most and discover your flirting style: Mostly A’s: Friendly Flirt Your style of flirting is very

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b. Hop, skip, and jump with excitement. c. Sway your hips and push your chest forward. d. Walk with your head down.

4. You’re stuck in a traffic jam and a car full of hot guys honks at you. You… a. Give them a friendly smile. b. Honk back and shake your booty. c. Give them a flying kiss. d. Ignore them and look the other way.

5. You want your husband to know that you’re in the mood for some bedroom action.

You… a. Cuddle up next to him and play with his hair. b. Declare you want some action and proceed to the bedroom. c. Tell him you’re going to sleep, and then slowly take off your clothes as you walk into the bedroom. d. Sit around and wait for him to take charge. friendly and genuine. You always say and do things from the heart, regardless of whether they fit the rules of flirting or not. “You show the opposite sex how amazing women can be,” comments Linda Davis, author of The Art of Flirting. “Men are attracted to your confident and outgoing

6. You arrive fashionably late to a dinner date with your husband and discover that he’s already seated. You… a. Give him a bright, I’m-sohappy-to-see-you smile as you walk towards him. b. Scream, ‘Hi munchkins!’ and embarrass him in front of everyone. c. Look at him directly in the eyes and walk slowly so he can check you out from top to bottom. d. Hurry over, apologise for being late, and take your seat.

7. You’re enjoying a romantic conversation with your date when you suddenly notice that he’s checking out someone else. You… a. Carry on normally with the conversation. It’s not a big deal, that’s what guys do. b. Check her out with him. c. Distract him with some underthe-table foot action. d. Excuse yourself from the conversation and leave him to his silly games. nature, and what keeps them coming back for more is simply the fact that you’re real. You don’t play games or pretend to be someone else, and that’s what makes you special.”

Mostly B’s: Funny Flirt Your idea of flirting involves

wooing your man with your sense of humour and larger-than-life personality. You’re fun to hang out with, unpredictable, and always up to something exciting.

And while you may come across as a hopeless flirt, you’re actually at the top of your game. Davis explains, “Men love women who can make them laugh, and you’re a walking, talking laugh riot. You flirt with the intention of having fun, and there’s a certain innocence to your style that men can’t get enough of.”

Mostly C’s: Sexy Flirt You have a very seductive and

sensual style of flirting. You charm men with your irresistible sex appeal, and you know exactly how to heat things up. “You’ve mastered the art of flirting,” remarks Davis. “You flirt by using body language, whether in the form of a naughty wink or a sexy walk, and that’s the key to successful flirting. You’re naughty without being too provocative and nice without being too innocent – a deadly combination indeed.”

Mostly D’s: Hopeless Flirt Sadly, you’re a complete failure at flirting! No matter how many flirting opportunities life throws at

you, you always turn your back and run in the opposite direction.

Davis says that your inability to flirt stems from low self-esteem.

“You always think that you’re not good enough, and that no one wants to be with you, so you avoid flirting at all costs,” she explains. The author adds that overcoming this problem requires a self-image makeover.

“Stop bringing yourself down and believe that you’re a confident, sexy woman. You’re an amazing person, and you owe it to yourself to show the world what you’re made of, so go out there and strut your stuff!”

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Bedazzled Friendships

Giving Advice: What You Should Know

Helping a friend who’s going through a rough patch sometimes takes its toll on the friendship. Although you genuinely want to help your friend out, you soon get frustrated with her constant need for support and attention, explains Hafsa Mahfooz…

I’ve realised that I can handle almost every annoying thing that my friends throw my way, but what still gets to me, and probably always will, is constant whining. Yes, I understand that it’s my duty to console a friend when she’s going through hard times, but for how long?

How many times do I listen to the same sob story? And how many times do I give the same advice? Interestingly enough, some of my friends don’t even like the advice I give them, yet they keep coming back for more!

This gets emotionally tiring after a while and starts affecting the friendship because nobody wants to be surrounded by negativity.

Najla, 25, tried her best to support her friend when she

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broke her engagement off, but she soon realised that nothing she said really mattered. She explains, “Abla’s* ex-fiancé pretty much ruined her life. He was a compulsive liar and he cheated on her more than once, but she just couldn’t let go of him. I told her several times to forget about him and move on, but she never listened to me. Basically, she’d ask for my advice, but with no intention of following it. It finally reached a point where I couldn’t handle her issues anymore, so I started avoiding her.” It’s true that real friends are those who are always there for you, but it’s circumstances like these that force us to take such drastic measures. However, distancing yourself isn’t the only way out of such situations. The key is to

understand when to give advice, how to give it, and when to stop.

Know Your Intentions Before you take on the role of an agony aunt, ask yourself if you really do want to help. According to Tony Schirtzinger, ACSW Therapist, you should extend a helping hand only if you’re genuinely interested in doing so.

Thus, think about whether you’re willing to spend a considerable amount of your time and energy on her and then make a decision. If you know you can’t give her the support she needs, back off and don’t offer to help.

Stay Focused We often get so caught up in the problem that we ignore the person’s emotions, which doesn’t help them. When

giving advice, you should pay attention to the emotion, not the problem. Schirtzinger explains, “If they’re sad, show them that you care about how bad it feels.

If they’re angry, help them talk it out without either agreeing or disagreeing. If they’re scared, comfort them physically or with your words. And if they’re feeling guilty, ask them to think about whether they might be angry instead.”

Draw The Line Don’t ask for more than what you can handle and know exactly where to stop. “Even if it’s clearly asked for, don’t invite emotional release unless you can stay with your friend while they experience their feelings,” explains Schirtzinger. Thus, don’t say, “Maybe you need a

good cry,” unless you intend to sit through the entire drama.

Learn To Say No When your advice and attention isn’t enough to make her feel better, don’t hesitate to tell her that. Make her understand that you do love her as a friend, but you can’t help her out because it’s beginning to affect you. Schirtzinger explains, “Remember that you can’t really help unless you want to, and you can’t possibly want to if you’re being overused or if you’re running out of time or energy.”

Don’t Take It Personally If you feel like she never listens to you, understand that she’s not obliged to take your advice.

Since she’s the one going through the problem, she knows

more about it and you can never tell if your advice really is the best way to go. She could be asking you for help just to get a different perspective, so don’t let it get to you and let her live with the decision she made.

Assess Your Friendship The final step is to ask yourself if the two of you talk about anything else other than her problems. If the answer is no, then she takes you as a counsellor and not a friend.

Thus, explain to her clearly that you’re not her personal shrink and the friendship is not enjoyable for you anymore.

Don’t back out of the friendship unless you have this talk with her because there’s always a chance that she could change for the better.

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Succeeding In South Africa South Africa is a middle-income country with well-developed financial, legal, communications, energy, and transport sectors. Its stock exchange, JSE Limited, ranks among the top twenty in the world, and the country ranks 24th globally in terms of GDP. The capital city of Pretoria is both the financial and political centre of the country and is home to major multinational companies.

Local Conduct Because South Africa has so many cultures, it’s difficult to impart advice on how to interact with South Africans; white Afrikaner, black African, Indian, Cape-Malay, and several other communities make up the country. To add to the complexity, there are also marked differences between rural and urban dwellers; those in rural areas are seen as outgoing yet conservative, while those in the cities are more flexible in thought but often more concerned with material wealth. In addition to the multiple cultures, there are also numerous languages spoken in the country.

The government officially recognises 11 languages: Afrikaans, English, Ndebele, Pedi, Shangaan, Sotho, Tsona, Tswana, Venda, Xhosa, and Zulu.

However, business visitors need not worry because English is the language of commerce.

The locals follow the European approach to personal space, meaning that people keep their distance when speaking.

Unlike our culture, they do not appreciate touching and the like. If you like chatting, then this country is the ideal place to be; the locals love engaging in conversation about almost everything. Being an outdoor nation, they love sports and this is always a good place to start; the most popular sports are rugby, football, and cricket. Other good topics of conversation include food, South African culture, and international travel. Topics to

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avoid are comparing cities as people are very proud of their own cities and do not appreciate being compared. You should also not raise controversial subjects such as race relations or local politics.

Business Conduct In general, the locals are direct and often loud communicators, but they are also very aware of what, how, and to whom something is being said.

People will be conscious of what may or may not make someone uncomfortable. Their communication style depends on the level of the relationship; the closer people are, the more comfortable they’ll be with speaking openly and honestly.

Although they do not require a history with people to do business with them, they have deeply routed business traditions that they strictly adhere to.

This means that you should build a rapport and furnish your local counterparts with some background information about your company.

Greetings There are several ways of greeting one another in this multicultural country. However, when dealing with foreigners, the default approach is a firm handshake. Some women may not shake hands and merely nod their head, so a simple nod back accompanied with a smile is enough.

Business Cards

The ritual of exchanging business cards is normal and very casual.

Much like our own culture, you should treat the card with respect and store it away properly rather than just leaving it on a table. It’s not necessary to translate the card because English is widely spoken and understood by the local businesspeople.

Meetings Appointments should be made through the normal channels.

It’s often difficult to schedule meetings from mid December to mid January or the two weeks surrounding Easter, as these are prime vacation times. Note that people are fairly relaxed and informal in the business environment; when meeting people it’s considered polite to engage in some personal dialogue based around one another’s health, family, leisure time, or sport. Getting straight to business and rushing through these social niceties marks you as ill-mannered and uninterested.

After the ice breaker session, the meeting will move swiftly to the business at hand. You should come prepared and send an agenda ahead of time to give your counterparts an idea of what you want to address.

However, note that agendas are not seen as rigid in South Africa; people will digress and come back to issues in a circular fashion. Remember to keep your presentation precise and support it with facts and figures.

They believe in basing decisions

on tangible information rather than intuition or anything else intangible. Although the majority of businesses work in English, having documents translated into Afrikaans can make a good impression, especially if you’re working with an Afrikaans company.

Negotiations It’s imperative to develop mutual trust before negotiating. Since women have yet to attain senior level positions, as a woman you should be ready to encounter some condescending behaviour from your male counterparts.

When you submit a proposal, include delivery dates in contracts as this is valuable information for them. You should start negotiating with a realistic figure because they don’t like haggling over price. Note that decision

making is carried out by the top management and final decisions are made after consultation with subordinates, so the process often takes long.

Dress Code Several companies are very informal when it comes to business attire. However, it’s advisable that you dress formal and conservatively for the initial meeting. Women should wear elegant business suits or dresses, while men should wear conservative, dark-coloured business suits.

Dining Business dining is an integral part of doing business in this country.

Your local counterpart may take you out for a meal, or invite you to his house for a more informal gettogether. If you’re invited, contact

the hostess in advance to see if she would like you to bring a dish because it’s considered polite.

You should dress casually and arrive on time because being late is frowned upon. Table manners are less formal and you can begin eating once everyone is seated.

After you finish eating, offer to help the hostess with clearing up.

Gifts Business gifting is very common and it’s an important part of building a strong business relationship. Acceptable gifts are souvenirs from your native country, and office stationary with your company’s logo. If you’re invited to someone’s house, bring flowers or chocolates to the hostess. Don’t be surprised to receive a gift in return as they like gifting foreigners with local souvenirs.

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The Realty Game With many Saudis investing in US real estate, Sildy Cervera, RCRS Sales Director, explains how to stay ahead of the game…

I have been approached a lot lately by clients who ask how they can survive the real estate game. My answer is always the same: Find a good deal because the buy is where you profit.

Especially in the current climate, it’s easy to find investment products at favourable pricing.

Unless you are clairvoyant, no one really knows when the market will bottom out - buy when you see a good deal.

There will be opportunity for you to see a return; you just need to be prepared to hold onto the property and sell it at a later date. So how do you forecast the appropriate holding period?

And, how do you weather the current storm? Understand what you are up against and stay one step ahead.

Turning challenges into opportunities is a tried and true formula for success but it behoves you to be realistic about your options. Regardless of the integrity of the developer, the quality of the product or the assets of the consumer, there are several obstacles buyers face in today’s market, and many of them are linked to the macro environment. Securing financing is the biggest impediment today.

Even those with perfect credit can’t seem to find a bank that is willing to lend money for property investment.

Price and location need to be your primary considerations when selecting what property to buy - they will likely return you the most money on your investment. Even in a tough market, well-located properties

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still sell, and inexpensive welllocated properties sell even faster. Real estate that is well priced - for example, a fixer upper - will undeniably be a good deal. Using these as your starting points will open you up to the widest possible audience of buyers.

Foreclosures are sprouting everywhere, unfortunately for the owner, and perhaps, fortunately for you. However, be aware that the deal is not so simple.

The foreclosure process is a lengthy and complicated one.

It is critical that you perform a comprehensive title search to make sure you acquire it free and clear, and make sure the bank has not blacklisted the property or you will not be able to obtain a loan. If you purchase a property with tenants or owners still residing there, it is your responsibility to evict them. And, if it’s a condominium unit, make sure there aren’t many other foreclosures in the building or a significant portion of the HOA fees will fall on your shoulders.

In terms of seeking financing, it’s best to start local. Build relationships with neighbourhood banks. Do all your business with one banker, and stop-by frequently to give them a sense of confidence that you are a prime loan candidate. You don’t want to be just another loan number; you are a person with a history that the banker can relate to. When you need the loan pushed through, that banker will be your ally.

If you’re looking to sell now,

you should rethink your position. I recommend you HOLD. This is no longer a market where you can turn around the next day and resell your property for a quick profit.

You need to expect, and be able to afford, to hold onto property for at least a few years.

Historically, real estate has proven a solid investment. If you look at it from that perspective, you should come out ahead.

When you do decide to sell down the road, seek out a good advocate. Your broker plays a critical role in the real estate transaction. They represent you to all prospective clients, so choose someone with experience, not because they are a convenient option.

Unfortunately, the recent boom has produced an enormous number of unqualified agents who entered the industry to make a quick buck. You need someone with knowledge of the mortgage and finance industry and the administrative skills necessary to do the follow-up work to stay on top of your listing.

There are many options out there right now - foreclosures, fixer uppers, and desperate flippers. Exercise your option to be discerning in what you buy, and view it as a long-term deal.

The housing market may be experiencing a slowdown but like most industries, it goes in cycles and is bound to recover; you want to be an owner when that happens.

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Health

Love, Marriage, And Obesity Marriage is a wonderful, lifelong institution that binds two hearts together, but sometimes, it can affect your health in ways you don’t even realise. New research shows that within a few short years of getting hitched, married individuals are twice as likely as singles to become obese…

Women increase the proportion of their risk of developing obesity by 63% compared with other women during the first five years after marriage, reveals a new research demonstrated at this year’s European Obesity congregation in Austria. This is due to the fact that the longer a woman lives with her husband, the more likely she is to keep putting on weight, beginning from the first year of marriage. Meanwhile, the risk of obesity among married men spikes only between the first and second years of living together. So what’s the reason behind this weight gain?

“Men and women don’t care much about attracting their partners once they’re married,” explains Dr. Eman Al-Ayoubi, Weight Loss and Nutrition Specialist. “Prior to getting married, they maintain their weight and watch their diet, but after getting hitched, they eat larger portions and more frequently, engage in less physical activity, and watch more TV. In essence, they create their own unhealthy obesigenic environment in which it’s safe to be inactive and to eat whatever they want.”

Most women blame pregnancy and childbirth for their post-marital weight gain, but there are several other factors that lead to this unhealthy development.

“The number one contributing factor is shared habits,” says Dr. Al-Ayoubi. “You and your husband may enjoy eating out regularly, or the two of you may hate going to the gym. Such unhealthy shared habits are bound to affect your health.” The second most common factor is having a relaxed attitude after marriage; you no longer feel the need to impress the opposite sex with your looks because you already have a man that loves you, so you stop caring about your weight. Moreover, increased family responsibilities after marriage also contribute to weight gain as they give you less time to care for yourself.

“You cook, clean, care for your husband and kids, and do all the other household chores without focusing on yourself, and in the process, you end up putting on weight.”

the contributing factors. “If you notice that you and your husband have a shared love for eating junk food every other day, make a conscious effort to stop it,” she explains. “Research has shown that people who eat homemade food instead of outside food have more chances of staying slim, so make a healthy menu of homemade meals, put it up on your fridge, and stick to it with commitment.” Eat lots of fresh, uncooked vegetables and fruits as they promote healthy functioning of the body, and make sure you have lean meat that’s been stripped of all traces of fat.

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sciously encourage you to eat more, and remember to eat slowly by chewing well.”

Following a proper diet is only half the battle. Dr. AlAyoubi says that if you want to lose weight, you have to make exercise a priority. “The best way to shed pounds is to exercise regularly and follow a healthy diet,” she explains. “Workout at home with DVDs or a treadmill, or join a gym if you have enough time to spare.

Get a commitment from your partner to make exercise a part of your daily schedule, and create weight loss goals so you can both monitor your progress and adjust your program if needed. You should aim to workout four times a week for at least 30 minutes a day.” However, if you’re still struggling to lose weight despite watching your diet and working out, you can use weight loss medications to speed up the process. “Medicines such as

Xenical stop your intestines from absorbing some of the fats that you consume, thus preventing you from gaining weight. But remember, Xenical is not a replacement for healthy eating and exercise – it’s merely an add-on to your fitness regime.” Moreover, even though weight loss medications may sound like every dieter’s dream, they’re not appropriate for everyone who’s overweight. “Always check with your doctor before taking any medication.”

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Health Dilemmas

I’m pregnant and my doctor says that what I eat is very important to the health of my baby but I don’t really believe that; is it true?

Rawya, Jeddah Studies show that what a woman eats just before and during pregnancy will impact the health of her child for the rest of his or her life. It’s an area of research called foetal programming. The concept of foetal programming (also called prenatal programming) theorizes that during foetal development, poor intake of one or more essential nutrients during critical periods in an organ’s growth can potentially alter or program the structure, size, or function of that organ for the rest of the child’s life.

The developing baby will attempt to compensate for deficiencies in the womb, but that compensation can carry a price later in life.

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Eighty-eight percent of mothers and women who are currently pregnant agree that a diet including nutritious foods, beverages, and vitamins will have a positive longterm effect on their child’s health, according to a recent survey conducted by NMI Research and DSM Nutritional Products. However, despite this awareness, 99 out of 100 Americans don’t meet even the minimum standards of a balanced diet.

“Many pregnant women think they’re doing OK diet-wise, but in reality they are likely not getting the essential vitamins and nutrients that they and their babies need through diet alone. For instance, the average woman eats four servings or less of fruits and vegetables daily, which means they may be lacking essential nutrients like vitamins A, C, E, and K,” says Elizabeth Somer, registered dietician and author of “Nutrition for a Healthy Pregnancy.”

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Today, women who are pregnant have the option to supplement their diets with prenatal vitamins, minerals and other essential nutrients. Somer provides nutrition tips for mothers to help support their child’s future health.

Tip No. 1: A mother’s diet rich in vitamin B12 has been found to correlate to a lower risk for insulin resistance in her child later in life, according to the Prune Maternal Nutrition Study. Vitamin B12 is essential for the formation of blood cells, nerve sheaths, and various proteins, and is also necessary for growth. Sources of B12 include meat, eggs, fish, and milk products.

Tip No. 4: DHA omega-3 is an important building block of a baby’s brain. In fact, 97% of the omega-3s found in the brain is DHA. Primary sources of DHA include fatty fish (tuna, mackerel, salmon) and a vegetarian and sustainable source of DHA from algae can be found in foods, beverages, and supplements on store shelves.

Look for the life’sDHA logo on the packaging to know you’re getting a vegetarian source.

Tip No. 5: Children born of mothers with low folate status during pregnancy were 57% more likely to have emotional problems later in life, according to a study published in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition. Increase your folate or folic acid intake by eating dark leafy greens or supplementing with 600 to 800 micrograms of folic acid daily.

It’s important to talk with your doctor before starting any supplement program.

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Tip No. 3: There is emerging evidence that vitamin D deficiency may be a risk factor for many chronic diseases including rickets, multiple sclerosis, heart disease, type 1 diabetes, and cancer, according to a study published in the Journal of Midwifery & Women’s Health. You can find a multiple vitamin and mineral supplement that includes vitamin D and is formulated for the needs of women who are pregnant.

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Tip No. 2: Vitamin C status has been shown to lower oxidative damage to foetal tissues and lower the risk for heart problems later in life. Stock your fruit and vegetable basket with popular food sources of vitamin C like citrus fruits, strawberries, kiwi, broccoli, spinach, and tomatoes.

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Cosmetics à la Natural Safe, simple, and natural healthy skin recipes for men and women…

Men are often guiltier of neglecting healthy skincare than women.

Maybe skincare isn’t considered manly enough, or maybe men simply feel that beyond a good scrub and shave nothing else is needed. And the barrage of high-priced, celebrity-endorsed antiaging products sold by powerhouse cosmetics

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companies for women contributes to the notion that skincare is a luxury for well-to-do women rather than an important aspect of a healthy everyday lifestyle.

What’s not in your skincare products is just as important to your health as what is in them. Control what goes on your body by making and using a few essential, oil-based products yourself that don’t contain any of the chemical preservatives and synthetic fragrances often found in expensive products. Why pay for what you don’t need when you can create more affordable, natural, and healthy products with a custom scent of your liking on your own?

One hundred percent pure and natural essential oils from a reputable company such as Aura Cacia or The Body Shop provide a natural way to scent your homemade

skincare products. Here are the essential oil scents that tend to be favoured by men and women and some do-it-yourself natural cosmetics’ recipes: Masculine Scents: Cedarwood, Frankincense, Myrrh, Sandalwood, and Vetiver. Feminine Scents: Geranium, Jasmine, Neroli, Rose, and Ylang Ylang. Neutral Scents: All citrus oils, Eucalyptus, Lavender, Patchouli, and Peppermint.

Cleanser Maintaining clean skin is important for men and women because a good wash removes the build-up of accumulated toxins and allergens from the environment, while also removing dead skin, excess oil, bacteria, and odour. Cleansing also stimulates cell turnover and renewal. A gentle, natural liquid soap made with a wholesome vegetable oil such as olive or sweet almond is

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Whether you’re male or female, you likely have some key elements to your health routine like exercise, good food, rest, and regular medical and dental check-ups.

Taking care of your skin probably isn’t a part of this important list - but it should be. Your skin is a living organ and a first line of defence against the outside world. It protects you from environmental toxins and pathogens, gets rid of waste, regulates healthy body temperature, and is ultimately the picture of health the world sees.

the best cleanser you can use. Good old-fashioned soap is a very effective cleanser, but it dries skin with repeated use and could irritate sensitive skin, so make sure you follow up with moisturizing oil afterwards.

Ingredients: 1 cup unscented liquid vegetable oil-based soap, 2 tablespoons water or unflavoured green tea, 48 drops of essential oil or blend of oils of your choice.

Directions: Combine soap, water (or tea), and essential oils in a small bottle. Apply about 1 tablespoon to a soft, wet washcloth and gently scrub damp skin in a circular buffing motion, not for too long or with too much force. Rinse with warm, not hot, water.

Moisturizer It’s essential to re-hydrate

the skin after cleansing.

Washing with soap lifts away dirt, makeup, and dead skin, leaving skin bright and pores clear, but it also strips skin of its natural protective and wrinkle-fighting oil known as sebum. A lightbodied, absorbent and non-clogging oil such as grapeseed, jojoba, or rosehip oil can be applied to damp skin after rinsing off your liquid soap-based cleanser.

Toner As the day goes on, you’ll inevitably lose your fresh glow. Some areas of your skin might become increasingly dry, while others might be oily. A simple mixture of pure water and protecting essential oils like lavender and geranium can help diminish an oily appearance and moisturize dry areas while providing healthy protection.

Ingredients: 1/2 cup grapeseed oil, 1/2 cup jojoba oil, 48 drops essential oil or blend of oils of your choice.

Ingredients: 1 cup water, 48 drops essential oil or blend of oils of your choice, small spray mister bottle.

Directions: Combine all ingredients in a small bottle, apply a teaspoon to the palm of your hand, rub hands together, and smooth over damp, freshly cleansed skin. The oil will seal in moisture and protect against dehydration.

Directions: Combine water and essential oils in bottle, shake vigorously, and apply 2-3 spritzes of the mist to skin, smooth over surface if needed.

For more information and valuable skincare tips, visit www.auracacia.com.

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Beauty Dilemmas

I know you answer makeup questions but I wanted to ask you about the latest colours and styles this fall; could you help me with that?

Marwa, Riyadh

Yes, of course. As the weather outside evolves to a fresh season, wardrobes are evolving too. Whether you’re back-to-school shopping with your kids or you want a few new pieces for you and your spouse, incorporating some of the season’s top trends into your look is an easy way to stay stylish. The good news: Fall 2013 is full of trends that aren’t only comfortable, but affordable too. Here are six trends for this autumn that will keep you looking great without breaking the bank:

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Innovative Fabrics: Being fashionable doesn’t mean being uncomfortable.

That’s where modern innovative fabrics take centre stage. Many designers are now using fabrics that breath, stretch, or wick perspiration. For example, dENiZEN from the Levi’s brand jeans, feature essential stretch, a denim that has a four-way stretch of up to 40%. These trendy jeans not only flatter in all the right places, they offer all-day comfort for any type of fall adventure.

Colourful Hats: Beanies, fedoras, baseball caps, oh my! When it comes to fashion meeting function for fall, there’s no better option than a great hat. Having a few in your collection means you can mix and match depending on your mood.

Remember, accessories can be a good way to experiment with colour, so a hat in rusty orange or vibrant teal might be the perfect way to integrate unique hues into your wardrobe.

Confused about makeup? Having a problem making the most of your features? What products to use?

Ask Sonja to solve your problems!

Classic Patterns: Checkers, houndstooth, and pinstripes are classic patterns that never go out of style. Plaid is also on-trend this season, popping up on runways around the world. Luckily, these patterns are available relatively cheap at many stores. Alternatively, hit vintage boutiques for affordable options that feature patterns that stand the test of time.

These affordable trends will have you looking great no matter which way your personal style leans.

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Chunky Knits: From oversized sweaters to wool scarves, chunky knits are perfect to snuggle into on cool days. Cable-knit sweaters are a great example, providing a preppy yet comfy look for both men and women. Keep in mind jewel tones are some of fall’s hottest colours; select a chunky knit in emerald green, royal purple or ruby red and you’ll have a ravishing, versatile addition to your wardrobe.

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Lovely Layers: Layering is a fashionable way to stay warm when temperatures dip. Stay on trend by mixing textures and prints for a one-of-a-kind look. The trick to layering is to start with light fabrics and then build thickness with each layer. For example, start with a cotton tank or T-shirt, layer with a light cardigan or sweater, and finish with a thicker jean jacket or military-style blazer.

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Slimming Features: From tanks that tuck and jeans that smooth, designs that slim are hot for fall. Pants are a great way to incorporate this trend into your look. The innovative slimming features of dENiZEN from Levi’s create a fashionforward look that complements any body shape. Available exclusively at Target, get a few in some of the season’s most popular styles, like the Essential Stretch Modern Skinny and Essential Stretch Modern Boot-cut.

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This Autumn/Winter 13-14 the catwalks exuded elegance and feminine allure‌

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Must-Have Fall Travel Apps

This fall, you have a choice of great travel apps that can help make your getaways a breeze, from booking a flight or renting a car while on the road to finding a bathroom during a busy day of sightseeing. For readers in the throes of booking their fall adventures, we’ve rounded up six of the most useful go-to apps for savvy travellers. Bonus: They all just so happen to be free.

TripWhat (iOS) - Once you’ve got your flight and hotel details sorted, you can focus on the fun side of travel - figuring out which sights to see, where to dine, and what sort of entertainment’s happening nearby. TripWhat helps you sort through and map out the options with detailed listings uploaded from other sites such as WikiVoyage, SeatGeek, Google Maps, Yelp, and Last.fm among others. You’ll never have to ask, “So, what do we do now?”

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Field trip (iOS, Android) - What’s the fastest way to really get to know a city while traveling? Have a well-informed local show you. Consider Google’s FieldTrip your friend in town, guiding you to the best off-the-beaten-path sights, shops, restaurants, and hidden histories. Just stroll around the city you’re exploring and watch as the hyper-local, customizable geo-publishing tool populates your screen - no clicking required - with interesting tidbits such as a recommended dish at a nearby restaurant or a free concert happening nearby.

WhatsApp (iOS, Android, Blackberry, Windows Phone) - Now there’s almost no excuse not to stay in touch with mom during your travels. WhatsApp uses your smartphone’s data plan or a Wi-Fi connection to let you message with family and friends around the world for free. On your next vacation, use the app to organize group chats, or send audio, photo, or video messages. It’s now one of the most downloaded apps in the world.

Moms, you’re welcome.

RoadAhead Highway Exit Finder (iOS) - Don’t play rest-stop roulette when it comes to stopping for food, gas, or bathrooms while on the road. On your next trip, plan your stops smarter with RoadAhead, an app that helps you find the best highway exit for all your travel needs - gas prices, dining options, lodging, distance from exit, and other useful info included. You’ll never again have to white-knuckle your way along an unknown number of miles to the next station.

SitOrSquatv (iOS, Android) - In certain cities - we’re looking at you New York - finding a clean public bathroom in the middle of a long day of sightseeing can put you in a real pinch. The SitOrSquat app, sponsored by Charmin, not only helps you find a local public potty, but also includes user reviews that inform you of their condition, as indicated by “Sit” or “Squat” icons.

This app’s an especially great pick for families with small kids whose bathroom emergencies tend to spring up at the most inopportune times.

Orbitz Flights, Hotels, Cars (iOS, Android, Kindle Fire) There’s no shortage of booking apps out there, but leading travel site Orbitz.com’s revamped version is so speedy and user friendly that it’s just one of 48 apps to earn a spot in the Apple App Store’s coveted Hall of Fame. This app lets you accomplish everything you would expect - book flights, hotels, cars, and packages - but a big bonus is that it also treats users to mobile-exclusive deals on hotels. Other selling points include access to your Orbitz.com account preferences, and up-to-date flight and gate info. Just think of this hall of famer as the Willie Mays of travel apps.

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Timeless Medieval Beauty The Thornbury Castle Hotel in England resonates with history. Built in 1511, the medieval castle epitomises grandeur, and its impeccable interior effortlessly creates a sense of warmth and comfort‌

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The hotel’s reception area sets a remarkable first impression; the ambience is lively and inviting, beautifully capturing the lavish spirit of a forgotten era. Glass ceilings with golden beams, chunky wooden furniture, suits of armour, and wrought-iron lanterns all come together to create a dramatic atmosphere, and the infusion of deep, rich colours with light hues further favours this rustic design theme.

As you make your way into the south wing drawing room, you’ll notice that its bespoke furniture and fittings exude classical elegance. The large space is turned into a cosy retreat with the help of panelled walls, grand chandeliers, an open fireplace, and colourful portraits, and the carpeting is kept light to highlight the grandiosity of all these design elements.

The sofas and chairs feature traditional English detailing like fringe-work and silk upholstery, and they follow the same colour palette as the wall paintings, thus adding a subtle touch of uniformity. Moreover, antique candelabra are used throughout the setting to maintain the medieval charm of the castle.

The hotel’s Tudor dining room is a 16th century large open hall with a highly distinctive atmosphere. It’s accentuated by an abundance of original features that include oak floorboards, stone walls, tapestries, suits of armour, and an open fireplace. All these components work in perfect harmony to create a space that is rich, warm, and tasteful, while also preserving the historical charm of the room. The various colourful flower arrangements in the area are a notable design feature as they add tenderness and give a valuable contrast to the appearance of the room.

Dressed in intense, vibrant colours, the Bedford Bedchamber is both comfortable and opulent. The baronial style bedroom features a simple panelled ceiling, authentic stone walls, sturdy hardwood flooring, and hand-woven carpets in various sizes. The luxurious coronet four-poster bed is the wow factor in the room as it instantly brings the entire space to life with its sheer presence. The bright golden details of the bedroom set give the room a whimsical feel, while the decorated bedside lamps with trimmed accents add a touch of timeless class.

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The Tower Room follows a lighter colour palette as compared to the Bedford Bedchamber.

Different shades of white, brown, and green dominate the overall setting of the room, creating a very earthy and natural ambience. What really stands out in the room is the seamless blend of hard and soft elements; patterned wallpapers are set alongside stone walls, solid bedside tables are adorned with intricate designs, and a sturdy hardwood bed is dressed in a chic floral-print bedding. This mixture creates an unmistakable feminine aura that’s charming in its own unique way.

The Woodville Room gives the hotel’s medieval design theme a contemporary twist.

The wallpaper’s striking print is the key design component as it extends beyond the wall and manifests itself in the form of colourful cushions and colour-coordinated bedding. The four-poster bed is simple and luxurious, and it matches perfectly with the classy wrought iron chandelier and candelabra. Adding an archaic charm to the room is an arrow-slit window that brightens up the space without taking away its gothic appeal.

The Woodville Room’s bathroom also follows the same theme of modernising traditional design elements. The antique stone-walled shower and bathtub are given a contemporary touch with the addition of new-fashioned faucets, and both fixtures are separated with a glass partition that features ornate carved detailing on the sides. Another inspiring restroom in the hotel is the Howard bathroom. The small but sophisticated bathroom features exquisite hardwood panels on the bathtub and washbasin, thus creating a highly romantic and relaxing atmosphere.

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Brilliant Travel

Living It Up In Bora Bora Bora Bora is unarguably one of the most beautiful islands in the world. Surrounded by pristine blue waters on all sides, it’s the perfect place to kick back, relax, and enjoy a truly exotic vacation…

Bora Bora is located about 160 miles northwest of Tahiti and approximately 2,600 miles south of Hawaii. The road circling the perimeter of this small island is just 19 miles around, but Bora Bora makes up for its lack of size in the form of spectacular scenery and memorable outdoor activities. The Polynesian Summer, which lasts from November to April, is known as the wet season. The humidity during this time can be quite heavy, and temperatures generally range from 27°-30°C. But despite the questionable weather, travelling during this season does have its advantages; the accommodation is cheaper, there are fewer tourists, and there’s less competition for activity and sightseeing schedules. And since Bora Bora is a tropical island, you’ll find plenty of sunshine even in the wet season.

To get to Bora Bora, you must first arrive to the capital city of Papeete on the main island of Tahiti-Nui in French Polynesia.

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island either through taxi boats, planes, or helicopters. Once in Bora Bora, you can move around in Le Trucks, which are public transport buses that go halfway around the island and back every hour or so. However, we’d recommend renting bicycles or scooters as they give you easy mobility and the freedom to explore the island without any distractions. If you’re up for an adventure, you should consider moving around on foot. In fact, walking is the best way to meet the islanders and truly experience and appreciate the beauty of Bora Bora.

displaying the marine life of a lagoon. At the Lagoonarium, you can swim alongside turtles, dolphins, and other tropical fish in a completely safe environment. The main attraction at the aquarium is the shark and ray feeding exhibition, where you go underwater with a guide and help feed the creatures. It may seem a little scary at first, especially when you see shark fins gather around your boat, but when you get into the water, it’s nothing short of magnificent. The Lagoonarium also offers boat tours, barbecue picnics, and snorkelling in Coral Garden.

What To Do Like all the islands in the French Polynesia, Bora Bora is a waterlover’s paradise. In fact, most people go there just for its exciting collection of water sports, which includes scuba diving, snorkelling, sailing, swimming, parasailing, jet-skiing, kite-surfing, aqua safari, and waterskiing.

What interested us the most was the Lagoonarium, an outdoor aquarium that specialises in

Lagoon excursions are a highly popular way of experiencing Bora Bora’s beautiful waters.

Depending on your budget, you can opt for half or full day excursions on either sailboats, cruisers, submarines, or Tahitian outrigger canoes. Those of you who enjoy getting up close and personal with wildlife must try out the famous Aqua Safari. The safari allows you to go underwater and view the surroundings

without scuba dive tanks, weight belts, or masks, and it’s safe for all ages. Another way to explore the island’s amazing underwater world is to take a ride in the Aquascope, a semi-submersible watercraft that cruises you around the various hot spots of the lagoon.

Bora Bora may be a popular destination for adventure activities, but it’s also one of the most tranquil islands in the world.

Its sun-kissed beaches are as scenic as they are soothing, providing the perfect retreat for relaxation-seekers. Once you’re done soaking up the sun, head on to the main shoreline to catch a sunset cruise of Bora Bora’s lagoon. The cruise departs at around four pm, ensuring that there’s plenty of time to enjoy the spectacular colours of the setting sun. The island also has a handful of scenic interior roads that are well worth the visit for nature lovers. One of the roads starts at Faanui near Vairau Bay and climbs a ridge with an excellent view of Raiatea, Tahaa, and Maupiti islands, while another follows tracks from Taihi point and along the ridge pointing to Mt. Popoti. These roads are only accessible through four-wheel drive vehicles, and you’ll find several tour operators who specialise in such an excursion.

Where To Go

Shopping in Bora Bora is both fun and convenient. Most of the shops are located along the island’s encircling road, and many hotels also have their own boutiques and stores. One of our favourite shops there is Nyco’s, which sells an extensive collection of the famous black pearls.

Not only does the store offer loose pearls and ready-made jewellery, but it also gives you the option of creating your own unique pieces. Boutique Gauquin sells black pearls as well, in addition to handcrafts, clothing, and curio items. La Galarie and Fashion Bora Bora are two new stores in the main village of Vaitape that are also worth checking out.

La Galerie specialises in unique wood carvings, original art, pottery, home decoration, jewellery, and gifts, while Fashion Bora Bora sells resort-wear for men and women, t-shirts, swimwear, sandals, bags, hats, and more.

Bora Bora’s nightlife is almost non-existent. After all, it’s one of the world’s most relaxing hideaways, not a place to practice your dancing skills. Nonetheless, the island does have a nightclub, Le Récife Discothèque, which opens only on Fridays and Saturdays at 11pm. You can also listen to a Tahitian band playing at sunset or watch a local dance show, which all the resorts have at least one night a week. The schedules keep changing, so call

ahead and reserve a table.

Bora Bora has an impressive variety of hotels that cater to various tastes and needs. The InterContinental Le Moana Bora Bora, Hotel Bora Bora, and Eden Beach Hotel are great for families as they offer a plethora of family-friendly recreational activities, while places like Novotel Bora Bora, Club Med Bora Bora, and Hotel Maitai Polynesia are excellent options for those on a fixed budget. If you’re looking to rekindle your romance in the island, you should stay at the Sofitel Bora Bora Marara Beach and Private island. It’s located on a stretch of stunning white-sand beach, and it offers 55 exquisitely designed bungalows and unrestricted 360° views of the lagoon.

We highly recommend staying at the luxury over-water bungalows, which are built directly atop the lagoon water. Clad in lustrous wood and soothing natural textiles, the bungalows exude a sense of romance and relaxation.

The beauty of Bora Bora is that it allows you to enjoy your vacation the way you like it. From exciting underwater expeditions to relaxation on breathtaking beaches, the island has memorable adventures to experience, places to be, and things to see. It’s the kind of place that draws you in with its enchanting beauty and leaves you with lifelong nostalgia.

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Amaze Recipes

Delicious Desserts This month, satisfy that sweet tooth with some delicious cakes…

Raspberry Mousse Cake Ingredients (for 12 servings): 4 4 3 2 1¼ 1 1 1 ¼

Egg whites Egg yolks Tbsp water Tbsp cornstarch Tsp baking powder Cup flour Cup sugar Tsp lemon juice Tsp salt

Raspberry Purée Ingredients: 2 ¼

Cups frozen lightly sweetened red raspberries, thawed Cup sugar

Whipping Cream Ingredients: 3 3 3 1 ¼

Cups whipping cream Cups fresh red raspberries (1 cup for topping) Tbsp sugar Envelope unflavoured gelatine Cup orange juice

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Directions: 1. Grease and flour two 9 x 1 1/2-inch round baking pans.

2. Stir together the flour, cornstarch, baking powder, and salt.

3. In a medium bowl beat egg yolks with an electric mixer on high speed for 5 minutes.

Then beat in 1/2-cup sugar on low speed.

4. Beat in water and lemon juice.

5. In a mixing bowl, beat egg whites on medium speed until soft peaks form.

6. Add another 1/2 cup sugar and beat at high speed until stiff peaks form.

7.

Fold in the yolk and the flour mixture into the egg mixture.

8. Divide batter between pans.

9. Bake in 325º F for 25 to 35 minutes. Remove from pans immediately and cool.

10. Split layers in half horizontally.

11. Place thawed berries in a blender and blend until smooth, then strain to remove seeds.

12. Stir in 1/4-cup sugar, and set aside.

13.

In a heat safe

measure, combine orange juice and gelatine, and let it stand for 5 minutes.

14. Place mixture in a saucepan filled with 1-inch water. Heat until gelatine dissolves, stirring constantly.

15. Beat whipping cream and 3 tbsp sugar to soft peaks.

16. Gradually add gelatine mixture, beating to stiff peaks.

Reserve 3 1/2 cups of the whipped cream.

17. Fold all but 1/4 cup of the berry purée into the whipping cream.

18. Mix in 2 cups of the fresh berries.

19. Place a cake layer on a cake plate and spread a little berry purée on first layer.

Top with 1/3 of the raspberry whipping cream. Top with last layer and repeat with spreading of berry purée and whipping cream.

20. Garnish with remaining fresh raspberries.

Blueberry Cake Ingredients: 2 Tbsp vanilla extract 1½ Tbsp lecithin powder 1¼ Cups fresh or frozen

blueberries (thawed)* 1¼ Cups cashews, soaked 1 Tbsp lemon juice 1 Tbsp coconut oil, melted 1 Tsp lecithin powder ¼ Cup Agave nectar or honey ¼ Cup coconut oil, melted ⅛ Tsp salt *If using frozen blueberries, make sure they are well thawed and at room temperature to avoid the honey turning rock hard during blending.

Chocolate Filling Ingredients: 3 2 2 ½ ¼ ¼

Tbsp cacao powder Tbsp vanilla Tsp lecithin powder Cup almond milk Cup Agave nectar Cup cacao butter, melted Pinch of salt

Directions: 1. Blend all ingredients except lecithin and cacao butter until smooth.

2. Add lecithin and cacao butter and blend some more until well mixed.

3. Set aside.

Directions: 1. Blend all ingredients except lecithin and coconut oil until smooth.

2. Add lecithin and coconut oil and blend some more until well mixed.

3. Set mixture aside.

Cake Directions: 1. Press your crust of choice into the bottom of a spring-form pan.

2. Top with the chocolate layer and set in the freezer for an hour.

3. Pour the blueberry white chocolate mixture on top and return to the freezer.

4. If desired, decorate with blueberries.

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Dazztrology Aries March 21 - April 20 You’ve been troubled in recent weeks by political, cultural, religious, academic, legal, and/ or media related debates. Now, you’re actually beginning to enjoy aspects of these same topics. You’re in a mood to open your mind and to explore new ways of looking at things.

That’s not to say that you’re a pushover or that you no longer believe whatever you believe.

You’re just in the mood to learn more. You’re also still enjoying some profitable energies within your professional life.

Taurus April 21 - May 21 You’re not opposed to working solo and you’re known to be a valuable team player. But this month, your best bet is to work within a partnership. You and a spouse, best friend, or business partner are able to have fun, find great deals, travel, learn, settle legal problems, work through trust issues, figure out how to avoid holiday squabbles, etc. as long as the two of you stick together. It can be nice knowing that someone has your back.

Gemini

May 22 - June 21 Both of your financial sectors are clashing this month. However, they both get along beautifully with your work sector and your success sector, so it’s not as if you’re actually struggling financially. It’s more likely that you’re trying to debate whether it’s better to collect a regular salary or an irregular commission check. One might be more reliable, but the other has the chance of being much bigger. You have very strong and helpful planets in both locations, so maybe agree to a mixture of the two.

Cancer June 22 - July 23 You have a small handful of planets moving through the area of your chart that encourages you to have fun, fall in love, play with children and pets, learn new hobbies, dance, sing, etc. You and a spouse, best friend, or business partner find that you can have some great fun together this month. If any disagreements should arise, you can turn to these playful activities to help you find reasons to compromise.

Leo July 24 - August 23 If you work from home, you could find that you’re more productive and more profitable than usual. If you want to work on household projects that add value to your home, this is a good time for that too. You could also enjoy working from home or working in homeoriented industries. Or maybe you’re just having a good time cleaning and decorating for the upcoming holiday season. Whatever it is, your home, work, and wealth sectors are all getting along quite nicely, so have fun with it!

Virgo August 24 - September 23 Your schedule is getting rather full. You have many lovely opportunities to socialize, mingle, entertain, shop, and spend time with all kinds of people within your local community. At times, you feel a little bit of a tug-of-war as things get really busy and too many people are inviting you to too many events. But you’re having a great time and somehow you still manage to find time to work on bringing more romance, trust, and/or financial security into your private life.

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By Skye Thomas Tomorrow’s Edge

Libra September 24 - October 23

You’ve had a tough last couple of months as your partner or an adversary has constantly badgered you about your home life, parents, roommates, or something in your private life. This month, you decide to launch a fresh start and your roommates, parents, partners, and/or rivals don’t like it. The good news is that during the final days of the month, you find ways to get emotional and spiritual healing to flow into your private life. You also get some financial and residential projects worked out too.

Scorpio October 24 - November 22 Professional dramas of the recent past are beginning to calm down; they’re still there, but not as intense as before. You’re encouraged to take on leadership roles this month. Socially and commercially, you’re effective, charming, knowledgeable, and persuasive. People like doing business with you and they like hanging out with you. You have a chance to get a jump start on your holiday shopping, but will need to be careful just before Thanksgiving when your budget is showing signs of distress.

Sagittarius November 23 - December 21 You’re dealing with a financial challenge or a debate about regular salaries versus irregular commission checks. This does not have to be a bad situation though. You have a few planets in your secrets, spirituality, and charities sector that are working behind the scenes to help you resolve any financial problems you might encounter. Your happiness and playtime sector is filled with fun and spontaneity. Therefore, your finances are not keeping you from having fun or causing depression this month.

Capricorn December 22 - January 20 Your private life is an odd blend this month. There are times when you’re ticked off at your roommates/parents, and at other times you’re working hard to bring more forgiveness, peace, and harmony into these relationships. The same is true of your neighbours and extended family. This is partly due to the big, slow moving planets that are in your home and community sectors and partly because of a small handful of planets that are taking turns blessing and cursing these two areas of your life.

Aquarius January 21 - February 19 Your chart areas that govern wealth, confidence, profits, success, leadership, bureaucracies, and inner peace are all working together in various combinations this month. When you experience stress or challenges, there’s always one or more of these chart areas helping, encouraging, or problem solving so that the positives outweigh the negatives. You don’t have much playtime, romance, or me time this month, but you’re still happy and feeling pretty good about your career and finances.

Pisces February 20 - March 20 You’re focused on political, religious, cultural, academic, media, legal, and/or travel related activities. Your various partners and loved ones agree and are on board with your goals, plans, and activities. Your friends, teammates, colleagues, and/or internet connections are also fully behind your efforts. Somehow, your loved ones and your social contacts end up clashing this month, but they still come together to support you as you continue working on these topics. www.dazzle-magazine.com

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Last Word

Fall DIY Weekend Tips

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Do-it-yourself weekend warrior survival guide…

“Knocking out a big home improvement or do-it-yourself project in one weekend can be a rewarding task, but it’s also challenging and can be taxing on your knees, feet, and back when standing in the same position for several hours,” says Mark Clement, home improvement expert and cohost of the national radio show MyFixitUpLife.

Whether you’re woodworking at your workbench or staining a piece of furniture in the garage, Clement offers these tips to make the most of your DIY weekend projects while also feeling comfortable enough to successfully finish them: Focus on form and technique. When learning a new technique, go slowly, step by

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step, until you’ve mastered it.

Allow your body to become accustomed to the various motions required. Moving efficiently is one of the best ways to avoid injury.

Stay hydrated. Make it a priority to drink at least 125 ounces of cold water each day.

Staying hydrated is important when exerting DIY energy, especially in the summer heat.

So whether you’re digging up the garden, roofing the shed, or wrenching in a no-AC garage, keep a water bottle or sports drink close by.

Create a comfortable workspace. Be conscious of how long you are standing in the same spot working on your project and how your back feels. To relieve pressure and soreness on feet, knees and back, use a durable mat like the Stanley Utility Mat that is engineered with an optimal balance of cushion and support.

Dress appropriately. Flip-flops and sandals do not offer the balance, protection and support that a sturdy closed-toe shoe or

work boot does while tackling home improvement projects.

Even if you have the grace of a ballerina in the workshop or yard, it is remarkably easy to drop things on your feet and it only takes a small distraction to create a big problem.

Know your limits. When you only have a weekend to finish a big project, you might be feeling the pressure. Before the project even starts, accept that it may not all go according to plan. Plan for a few different scenarios and remember that you can always ask for help.

Have a first aid kit. Even if you are being extremely cautious, accidents can happen and it’s best to be prepared.

Keep a first aid kit with all the essentials (antibiotic ointment, bandages, burn cream, etc.) near you at all times and seek professional medical help if necessary.

For more information about the Stanley Utility Mat, visit homedepot.com and to tune into MyFixitUpLife visit http:// myfixituplife.com/DIY/.

Article: Brandpoint.com.

It’s the do-it-yourself dream: deciding on the perfect DIY project just as the weekend finally arrives. All the supplies have been purchased and you’re ready to dive right in.

However, the enthusiastic start of the project doesn’t always end in completion.

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