Spotlight Magazine for West Bridgford, Nottingham October 2017

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Contents

Spider Cupcakes 6 Dog Grooming 8 Pumpkin Carving 10 A Good Read 12 Autumn Colour 14 Penny For The Guy 16 Passive Aggression 18 Puzzle Pages 20 Which Vacuum 22 Local Info 24 Vehicle Crime 26 Goosebumps 28 Index of Advertisers 30 Published by Spotlight Local Media Ltd Company No. 6841257 Tel: 0115 822 4995 Suite 104, 1 Hanley Street Nottingham NG1 5BL Graphic Design and Layout: Spotlight Local Media Distributed by Best Distributions Trusted Delivery Partner of the Spotlight Magazine

Hi everyone and welcome to the October issue of Spotlight Magazines.

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Chocolate Spider Cupcakes

Tasty Halloween Themed Treats This recipe makes12 Cupcakes Ingredients 100g Plain flour 20g Cocoa powder 140g caster sugar 1 1/2 tsp baking powder Pinch salt 40g Unsalted butter (room temp) 120ml whole milk 1 egg 1/4 tsp vanilla extract For the icing 300g Icing sugar (sifted) 100g Unsalted butter (room temp) 40g Cocoa powder 40ml Whole milk For decoration Pot of chocolate sprinkles Sweets for eyeballs Black string liquorice - cut into 5cm strips Method Preheat the oven to Gas 3 / 175C Place the flour, cocoa powder, caster sugar,

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baking powder, salt and butter into an electric mixer (or use a handheld whisk) and beat on a slow speed until the mixture looks grainy, like sand.

In a separate jug whisk the milk, egg and vanilla extract together. Pour half into the flour mixture. Beat well to combine and make sure you get rid of any lumps. Add the second half of the egg and milk mixture and beat until the mixture is smooth (about two minutes).

Spoon the mixture into 12 paper cupcake cases and bake in the oven for 20-25 minutes until cooked. Set aside to cool.

To make the icing: Beat the icing sugar, butter and cocoa powder together by hand or in an electric mixer. Add the milk a little at a time then beat well until the mixture is light and fluffy. Use this to cover the cooled cakes.

To finish the spiders: Pour the chocolate sprinkles on to a saucer. Take each iced cake and dip the icing into the sprinkles to make the hairy spider’s body. Place two ‘eyeballs’ on each cupcake.

Use a skewer to poke 4 holes on opposite sides of each cupcake; insert liquorice strips into each hole.

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How To Choose A Dog Groomer Pick A Pro For Your Pooch

Recommendation is everything. Ask friends and family for recommendations.

The chances are if you have a dog-loving friend who is happy with her groomer, you will be too.

The British Dog Groomer’s Association is part of the Pet Care Trade Association (a membership body for pet care specialist businesses).

They have a list of groomers that they have accredited to a set standard, which aims to provide quality assurance to owners. There are written and practical tests that the groomer has to pass to gain this accreditation.

Groomers are not actually required to hold any qualifications, but the BDGA and RSPCA recommend that you only use those that do; the most recognised qualification route for dog groomers in the UK is the City and Guilds qualifications. Ask to see any certificates.

Finding a groomer that belongs to a trade organisation provides extra peace of mind. Groomers can join the British Dog Groomers Association (BDGA), through which they can keep up with trends on safety, health and other issues related to grooming through continued education, training and support.

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Meet the groomer with your dog before employing them. You need to like and trust them and be confident that they will look after your pet.

special needs your pet has, such as sensitive skin, or a nervous disposition, and then ensure that you are happy that the groomer will cater for them.

Ask questions. Do they use reward-based training methods to make the experience positive for the dog? Are the facilities clean and secure? Above all it should be a place where you feel comfortable leaving your pet.

Many dogs don’t like having their paws touched. Ask the groomer how they would handle this.

A good groomer will ask for proof of vaccination before using their services, to stop the spread of contagious diseases between dogs. If it is a large establishment there should be sufficient staff to look after the needs of the animals in their care.

A single groomer running on an appointment-only basis should leave enough time for each grooming session.

Check all references and ask to see a copy of their police check or CRB certificate, to check that they do not have a criminal background. Ask to see evidence they have insurance to cover your pet in case of an emergency.

Finally be realistic about price. A bargain price may not be such a bargain if the job is shoddy or worse, leads to an expensive visit to the vet.

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Carve The Best Pumpkin

Carving Jack O’ Lanterns dates back to an old Celtic holiday, Samhain. People carved scary looking turnip lanterns and lit them with candles to ward off spirits.

When the Irish migrated to America, they found that pumpkins grown there were much easier to carve so adapted their custom.

My children love to carve pumpkins. Oh who am I kidding, my husband and I love it too and over the years our designs have become more ambitious.

Here are a few tips.

Start with the right pumpkin.

It should be fresh with a sturdy stem, no bruises and a flat bottom so it won’t roll.

A smooth one is easier to carve and if you can find one with a flatter ‘face’ so much the better.

Use proper safety pumpkin carving sets. No-one wants to spend Halloween sat in the accident and emergency department dressed as Dracula’s Bride.

Ok that was the one year I did NOT use proper pumpkin saw and I was more at risk at dying from embarrassment than the blood loss but don’t risk it folks.

Cut the lid using the saw angled in towards the stem.

That way the lid won’t drop inside the pumpkin when you replace it.

Scoop out all the pulp and some of the flesh - an ice cream scoop works brilliantly.

You can now download patterns from the internet.

These are terrific if you have limited artistic skills like me. Tape the pattern to the pumpkin (make little cuts around the edge of the pattern if the pumpkin is a bit too round, and that way it will fit better).

Then use a pin or small nail to puncture the paper and the outer skin of the pumpkin at intervals of around 1/4 inch / 0.5 cm,

or even closer for intricate designs.

If it’s difficult to see your poked-out pattern, rub a little corn flour or baby powder into the dots.

The dots will turn bright white and your design will magically appear.

Carve the tiniest sections first. Then carve the areas in the centre of the pattern, and then work outwards.

That way you can rest your hand on the uncut bits of pumpkin, not your carvedout design.

Rather than always cutting all the way through the pumpkin try just removing some of the skin. The yellow flesh underneath will glow when lit up from inside.

Spread Vaseline on the cut edges to seal in moisture.

If you have to carve it a few days in advance and it shrivels you can revive it with a face-down soak in cold water.

Pumpkin carving is a great activity for all the family. You can make it competitive, or have a theme for your pumpkins, or invite friends over for a pumpkin carving party. Just don’t end up in casualty wearing a wild wig and face paint.

A safe Halloween is a Happy Halloween!

By Louise Addison

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A Good Read Neither planned to be there and the story of how they got there gradually unfolds, told in the first person by both Roni and Nika.

What ultimately lies at the heart of this is a betrayal that ran so deep it destroyed both friendships and lives.

When I Was Invisible – by Dorothy Koomson We have all felt invisible at times. Whether it is in the staff room at work where everyone else is chatting and you feel left out.

Or waiting to be served somewhere and it seems as if everyone else is being served first.

But what if the one person you feel you should be able to turn to when things go wrong ignores your plight?

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However, life doesn’t always go as planned and both girls, now in their thirties are living invisible lives: one is a nun and one is living homeless on the streets of Birmingham.

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As Roni leaves the convent overwhelmed by guilt and seeks out Nika to make amends the novel builds to a tense climax as the true nature of the betrayal is revealed and the many layers of their lives are peeled back.

Some choose to be invisible in our busy society, others feel invisible and lost because of the way they are treated. This moving novel reminds us to listen to others and pay attention to their lives.

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This novel deals with the break-up of a family in a realistic way, with humour thrown in.

It shows that relationships don’t always work out as planned, and neither do our hopes and dreams.

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Fall For Autumn Colour Brilliant Seasonal Garden Plants

See what I did there in the title? Terrible pun I know but I couldn’t resist. Back in the Nineties I travelled to the White Mountain region of the USA to experience the Fall firsthand. My husband still jokes that it’s the only time in my life I’ve ever been speechless!

Clear blue skies, golden sun and hyper-saturated foliage colours gave the impression that the whole New Hampshire landscape was on fire. The effect was unutterably beautiful.

Back home in the UK I was a woman on a mission. I had to capture some of that beauty for my own plot.

Through research I discovered that the quality of autumn colour in the New Hampshire region depends on two things: the combination of tree species and the climatic conditions.

The sugar maple, red oak, mespilus and viburnum are the trees responsible for the famous vivid red and purple hues of the Fall but their colourful magic is dependant on warm sunny days followed by cool nights where the temperature doesn’t drop below 7-8°C. So now I had two problems.

No way could I guarantee perfect weather conditions in the UK and then there was the small issue of space... the smallness of the space

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being the issue! I would not be able to shoe-horn a Red Oak or a Sugar Maple into my suburban garden.

you also have the benefit of bright red or yellow whippy stems afterwards, depending on the variety.

So I hit the books and the garden centres and gradually I compiled a list of solid autumn performers which will put on a dazzling display regardless of the British climate.

Euonymus alatus A quirky plant which has corky, winged outgrowths on its stems. This is a quiet plant for most of the year but produces the most brilliant crimson leaves in autumn plus purple - red fruits which split to form four winged lobes with a bright orange seed in the centre. There is also a compact variety which only grows to 1m so is suitable for small gardens.

Now my garden is brim full of glorious, fiery autumn hues and with a little planning and my ‘approved’ list you too can bring a little of the Boston Falls to British suburbia.

Japanese maples Varieties of Acer palmatum - both green and purple colour well and are small enough for most gardens.

They do prefer acid soil so if you live on lime they perform better in a pot. They need shelter from chilly winds, which can scorch their leaves.

Dogwood, Cornus alba The leaves begin to turn pink in late September and

Berberis thunbergii Its varieties are around 2m tall, make a great hedge and take on spectacular hues around October just before the leaves fall.

Coloured leafed heathers These work hard all year but are at their best when burnished by the autumn chill.

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Penny For The Guy

When I was a child we used to make a guy.

We’d stuff a shirt and an old pair of trousers with newspaper or hay and top it with a papiermâché head or a balloon wearing a mask.

We’d then proudly wheel it in a barrow to the guy competition in our village and the winning one would receive a prize.

Then they would all be burned on the bonfire on November 5th.

My dad remembers as a child wheeling his homemade effigy round the village where he grew up shouting ‘Penny for the Guy.’ Any money he and his friends made was spent on fireworks which they set off either in their gardens or in the local park!

Guy-making is a tradition which seems to have died out...possibly on the grounds of health and safety.

Nowadays it being eclipsed by Halloween.

Most families prefer to attend a closely controlled public event on the closest weekend to November 5th.

In a few places though the tradition of the guy still continues in a more traditional form with street processions and blazing barrels of tar!

Bonfire Night was once the only day of the year when fireworks were seen in Britain, but firework displays are now commonplace at weddings, big public events and New Year.

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Dealing With Passive Aggression I bumped into a friend in town. “Oh you’ve had your hair cut,” she smiled.

“It’s nice. Usually it looks like a bird’s nest!” Ouch!

That stung. It’s not the first time I’ve been on the receiving end of her barbed comments.

We all know someone who does this. Social media is rife with it. Does anyone recognise the friend who constantly posts vague statuses on Facebook such as, “I can’t believe SOME people.” or my favourite, “Goodbye! I can’t deal with the idiots on here any more.” Nice...am I one of the idiots to which you refer?

If I ignore you, does that make me an idiot? Do you want me to ask what’s wrong? That’s the beauty of passive aggression; it works on lots of levels and like poison gas wounds many in one instant. And then...they don’t leave, someone always persuades them to stay! AAARGH! There isn’t a single cause of passive-aggression. It’s rooted in anger. Often the person grew up in a family that avoided overt conflict, but it’s also a behaviour reinforced by a society that tells us anger isn’t a healthy emotion, we’re taught not to rock the boat.

Very few of us are taught how to deal with anger in a healthy manner and this particularly applies to women, who tend to be the main perpetrators of passive aggression.

It’s an extremely difficult behaviour to deal with

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because it’s so hard to pin down. But here are some tips.

Don’t take the bait - Don’t engage with the drama they try to create. One way to do this is to respond to the content of what they say and not the underlying aggression, so in the case of the hair comment I just said, “Thank you.” in a completely neutral tone and changed the subject, leaving her to wonder if I’d even noticed the barb.

Online it’s even easier...just IGNORE. Stick to the here and now - If you decide to call them out there’s probably a history of similar behaviour.

Stick to the immediate comment though, don’t rant about how she always makes you feel bad.

Instead focus on how her comment made you feel in that moment, and use a neutral tone of voice. I could have said, “That was unkind and unnecessary and I’d prefer it if you didn’t say things like that.”

Instigate consequences - Make them clear and proportional... try not to lead with a punch in the throat while screaming, “I’m never talking to you again!” no matter how tempting. Let’s say that in spite of my request my friend had followed up her comment with another, “You sit in the armchair, it’s wider and

you need the space.” (she actually said that to me once and no I wasn’t pregnant at the time!).

I could have said, “I feel disrespected when you comment on my size in that way. It makes me not want to be around you so if you continue I will leave.” (You can throw in an imaginary throat punch if you like!)

Do a cost-benefit analysis - The bad news is that most passive aggressive people will not change their behaviour just because you are bothered by it. If it’s your friend indulging in the behaviour and it annoys or upsets you, maybe call them on it, cool the friendship and find new, nicer companions. If it’s your boss, maybe put up with it in the short term while you look for other employment.

Ultimately no-one can be passive aggressive without an audience, so don’t give them one.

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Which Vacuum

With a bang and a puff of dust my trusty vacuum cleaner finally headed to the big Argos catalogue in the sky.

The next day I popped out to buy a new one and returned home several hours later with glazed eyes, a brain that felt like it had been through the cyclone system of one of Mr. Dyson’s now famous machines and NO new cleaner. So much choice: Upright or cylinder? Bag or bagless? Cordless?

Carpet-washing capabilities? Robot?!

Vacuums these days come in many forms with a bewildering variety of features.

Upright vacuums are perennially popular as they’re easy to use and control and are pretty effective when it comes to cleaning carpeted areas in the home.

Cylinder vacuums are lighter and take up less space. They are particularly useful for cleaning stairs, upholstery, and small spaces. Some uprights now have detachable units which provide the same versatility.

Bag models have a dust-bag inside the main compartment of the vacuum to store the dust, dirt, hair, and everything else you might pick up as you clean. These are then disposed of and replaced with another bag.

As all the dust and dirt is stored inside a sealed bag they are particularly helpful for asthma sufferers as you won’t have to worry about the dust spilling out when emptying the cleaner. Replacement bags can prove expensive over time and there is generally a drop in sucking performance as the bag fills

And of course you can see when it needs emptying. They can be messy when cleaning out the canister though, and the escaped dust might irritate asthma sufferers.

Some vacuums come with extra filters specialised for pet-owners or asthma sufferers.

There are also cordless rechargeable versions which can be very convenient if plug sockets are widely spaced or in difficult-to-access places in your home.

There are even vacuums which with an extra attachment allow you to wash your carpets.

One of the most interesting models I came across was a rechargeable robot vac which is self-guided and roams the floors. It can even be programmed to work at night while you sleep, or while you’re out of the house at work.

It seems these are not designed as a replacement for a main vacuum but are good for keeping the floor clear between big cleans, and they work better on wooden floors.

In the end I settled on a cylinder with a bag and an extra filter, as I have asthma. But I have put a robot vac on my Christmas list because...you know...it’s a robot, how cool is that?

Bagless cleaners tend to operate either by having a filter within the dust canister to trap any dirt, dust and hair, or by using “cyclonic action” to separate the dust from the air and trap it inside the canister.

Obviously the main benefit is no bag replacements, but also you can actually see what you’ve picked up which makes it useful if you think you might have sucked up an earring or vital Lego piece.

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What’s happening in your area

This is a free page to publicise your local events and information. We would love to hear from you if you know of any event in or around the West Bridgford area; copy deadline is the 25th of each month. Please email: info@spotlightlocal.co.uk

Wednesdays 11am-12pm All Hallows Church Hall, Pierrepont Road, Lady Bay/West Bridgford - Come along from 6-10 weeks after birth. Phone Claire on 07747 656550, email claire@mummiesandbuggies. co.uk or see www.clairemockridge.com/postnatal

West Bridgford Shopmobility is a charity which helps people with mobility problems to move easily around the shops and attractions of West Bridgford.

Not only that, but we also have a short –term hire scheme so that you can take a scooter or wheelchair away on a UK holiday, or help you if you are poorly, or just discharged from hospital, or if you have a guest with mobility problems. Call us on 0115 981 5451, find us on Facebook, or at www.wbshopmobility - or visit us behind West Bridgford library on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays.

The South Notts Flower Club meets on the 2nd Tuesday of the month at Edwalton Church Hall, Edwalton. All visitors are welcome. £6.00

Insanity - West Bridgford every Friday night from 6.30pm - 7.30pm in West Bridgford Baptist Church.

All levels of fitness welcome. For more information, please contact Caroline on 07849 753300, email: carolinequarmby@hotmail.co.uk or Facebook: Insanity – West Bridgford.

Kickers and Stompers line dancing groups. Meet regularly each week in West Bridgford, Plumtree and Radcliffe on Trent. Suitable classes for all levels of dance. Come and have fun with us. Tel 01159140673 or e.mail p.brown633@ntlworld.com The Poppy Folk Club Sunday 15th October we meet for a singaround and music session in the upstairs room at The Poppy & Pint. Sunday 19th November is concert night with The Melrose Quartet. Tickets are £12, telephone Juliet on 0115 9231513, email juliet@poppyfolkclub.co.uk or visit the website www.poppyfolkclub.co.uk.

Just Friends West Bridgford is a very friendly group for single, local people aged 55+.

25+ events each month including theatre, coach trips, holidays, pub nights, meals out, walks, darts, snooker, card/board games. Monthly club coffee morning.

Call Lillian 0115 8462225 or Irene 0115 8781905 or visit our website justfriendswestbridgford.wordpress. com for further information.

Nottingham Leander Swimming Club We welcome all swimmers but especially those who want to race ! Confident swimmers from age 6 upwards. All qualified coaches. Friendly and supportive ethos. Water Polo. Learn to swim classes for non-swimmers. ‘Masters’ swimming for all abilities.

See our website leandersc.com or contact our Secretary Sue at suedavis78@gmail.com

The Edwalton, Gamston and District U3A is going from strength to strength. it has a steadily growing number with new members at every meeting. w If you would like to join please contact Christine Shaw email : chrisshaw20038@hotmail.com or telephone 0115 974 5512. We meet every 2nd Thursday in the month from 2 to 4 p.m. at Gamston Community Hall.

Interested in learning bridge? Or want to return?

West Bridgford Bridge Club meets at Edwalton Golf Centre 7pm every Monday night, for duplicate bridge. For more details, contact Shiona Dawson at shionadawson@gmail.com Pregnancy Fitness and Pilates Classes Mondays at 6pm, Tuesdays at 6:15pm and Wednesdays at 6:30pm in Lady Bay/West Bridgford. Suitable for all stages of pregnancy. Call Claire 07747656550 or email claire@bumptobabe.co.uk or see www.clairemockridge.com/pregnancy Trent Valley Sailing Club has an active junior fleet. Sailing takes place on Friday evenings between April and September for children aged 7 to 16. We have several places available this year for new junior sailors. Come and have a go on the water. All enquiries to Angela Clark@trentvalleysc. org Wilford Racquets Badminton Club welcomes new members. We play on Wednesday evenings in West Bridgford. For further information please contact Hazel on 0115 981 5184 or Richard on 0739 884 2647 The Nottingham Astronomical Society are a friendly group of amateur astronomers from all walks of life. Whilst providing regular guest-speaker events, we encourage active observing. The Society owns and operates an observatory near Cotgrave, which houses our 24-inch large reflector telescope.

If you are interested in astronomy, you are welcome to come along to our meetings. Most meetings include an illustrated talk by a guest speaker, and admission is free to occasional visitors. More information on the website at www. nottinghamastro.org.uk

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Calling All Vehicle Owners

During the past few months, many areas of Rushcliffe have been experiencing significant increases in vehicle crime – mainly interference with a vehicle and theft from a vehicle.

In some instances, windows are smashed to get into the vehicle, but in the majority of cases there is no evidence of a break in, suggesting the vehicle may have been left unsecure. The vehicles most targeted are transit vans with work tools being the possible target.

The Council are urging drivers to be especially vigilant and take extra care with vehicle security, particularly in the evenings and overnight. Always check you have locked your vehicle whenever you leave it.

Here are some other things you can do: Remove everything from view in the vehicle – even an old jacket could suggest there is something worth stealing Ensure all windows and the sunroof are closed when you leave the vehicle Don’t store things in the boot – take them with you

Take any removable sat nav equipment with you, including the leads Change any screws on the number plate to tamper proof ones Don’t park you vehicle in an unlit, isolated location Work vehicles should display a sign stating that all tools have been removed.

In most cases, vehicle crime is preventable. It can take just seconds for a thief to steal something from your car – so make it as secure as you can.

Rushcliffe Borough Council have a number of secure number plate fixings and signs that say ‘no items left in this vehicle’ available to Rushcliffe residents.

These can be collected from the Rushcliffe Community Contact Centre on Rectory Road, West Bridgford, free of charge.

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Goosebumps

Goosebumps are part of Halloween spookiness but what are they and what causes them?

Interestingly we sometimes get the same effect when we hear beautiful music or look at an evocative work of art.

Goosebumps are actually left over from our evolutionary past

Scientists have discovered that when we experience an intense emotional feeling in response to music a chemical called dopamine is released.

They occur when tiny muscles around the base of each hair tense, pulling the hair more erect.

If we had a good covering of fur, like a cat, this would fluff up our coat and allow it to trap more air, providing better insulation.

But with our thin body hair, it just makes our skin look strange and pimply!

Dopamine is a factor in both intense fear and intense pleasure (though in different parts of the brain) but one of its universal effects is to produce goosebumps! So now you know.

We feel our hair bristle when we are frightened. Many mammals fluff up their fur when threatened because it makes them look bigger and more dangerous.

Humans used to have a similar defence mechanism but now that we have so little body hair it doesn’t work in the same way.

But evolution has left us with the sensation of the hairs we do have standing on end.

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