CLEARLY WORTHY

How to take up space, speak your truth, and unleash the aligned, most powerful version of you yet

By Allison Lacoursiere

I am going to ask you one question that will change your life.

First, I want you to imagine yourself at the end of your life. You are about to take your last breath, surrounded by the ones you love. You are looking back on everything you have accomplished, the moments, the memories, the stresses, and the accomplishments.

Now - what mattered to you?

No - what really mattered to you?

What would you look back on and say, “that was it - that was the purpose of my life”? What accomplishments would you look back on and say, “ I am so proud of the work that I did and the life I created for myself”? Would it be your family, your memories, your legacy, or your work? Would your family know how much you loved them? Would you feel a sense of peace at how you spent your life?

Mortality gives us context. Memento mori - remember death. It allows us to clear away the clutter and allows us to “remember to remember.”

Remember the important things.

Remember what actually matters and what doesn't.

Remember that our life is precious.

Remember that despite our mistakes and imperfections, we are perfect, beautiful, and talented.

Remember to use our time with a true sense of urgency because we don't know how much we have.

Remember to chase our passion and purpose.

Remember to take risks towards the things we believe in and want to change.

Remember to tell the people that matter to us that we love them.

Remember to let things go and forgive.

Remember to do the scary things.

Remember to be brave.

Looking back to look forward cuts away the noise and allows us to discern what we focus on each day; it allows us to get to that point where we can truly be proud of the life that we lived.

We don't have much time. This life is more precious than we know. We don't have time to waste on things that don't matter. Unfortunately, most people don't have this sense of urgency until something goes wrong or something terrible happens that changes the way they see life. Maybe someone they love dies unexpectedly, maybe they get diagnosed with a terminal illness, or maybe they get into an accident that takes away a part of their freedom.

I want you to know, none of these things need to happen to you for you to find the courage to step into your full potential. You do not need to experience deep trauma to fully engage, dig in and create the life that will allow you to look back and know that you were the most powerful, most aligned, and truest version of yourself.

You don't have to regret anything in your life. You don't have to wish that you did anything different. You don't have to feel like you missed out.

You can start today to create a life worth living that is uniquely YOU, a life that honors the perfect, talented and unique part of you.

What is the fastest way to get there?

You must believe that you are worthy of that life.

After coaching hundreds of women in the past few years, analyzing the patterns and behaviors of women passed down in my own family, and going through my own transformation, it has become clear to me that the through line that prevents women from stepping into the most aligned, most authentic, and most powerful version of themselves is a feeling of not being worthy.

Not being worthy of having the life they want.

Not being worthy of earning the income they deserve.

Not being worthy of being treated well in their job, relationships, or friendships.

Not being worthy of taking time for themselves.

Not being worthy of rest.

Not being worthy of speaking up and asking for what they want.

Not being worthy of spending time or money on themselves.

Not being worthy of saying no.

My lack of worthiness plagued me for years, getting worse as I grew older and finally resulting in me being in an abusive relationship. I didn't think I was worthy of leaving sooner, I didn't know it was my lack of worthiness that kept me there too long. Leaving that relationship catapulted me on a journey back to myself to understand how a strong, independent, confident woman would end up with someone that would mistreat her. The journey back to myself has been one of the hardest and most rewarding adventures I have ever been on. It led me to understand worthiness and how the foundation for love, success, peace, and joy all stem from the feeling of being worthy of it all.

What I learned is that every single decision you make that does not honor you stems from a lack of worthiness. Everything you want in your life that you are not allowing, being, or having, stems from not feeling worthy of it.

What if you could change that?

What if you could feel worthy of everything you wanted in your life?

What if you could become unavailable for anything that does not align with you in your life through the journey to worthiness?

I will teach you the steps to get there, and I want you to know that it could be the most important work you have ever done.

I also want you to know that this is not about creating the “best version of you”, or becoming someone you are not; being worthy of the life you want comes from uncovering, allowing, and becoming the most aligned version of you. Everything you are and need is already inside of you.

Know Yourself

The first step on your journey to worthiness is knowing yourself. Truly knowing who you are, what you want, and what makes you light up the most. This takes getting honest, and it takes getting real with yourself first and others second. We can spend so much time bending, adapting, and acquiescing to the needs and wants of others that we actually forget who we are. We can spend so much time fitting into societal norms, expectations, and pressures that we don't even know what life we want to be living. We can even forget what we want. It takes time to come back to yourself. We can get on a hamster wheel and just run, continuously hiding from ourselves, staying busy, numb, or so distracted that we never have time to just be with ourselves. Stop hiding. Stop running. Stop numbing. Start asking yourself - who are you really, what do you need, what do you want? Get to know YOU. Remember to be gentle with yourself, be kind, and get curious. It can feel scary, and sometimes you might not want to face who you are, but it is worth it; you are worth it.

Accept Yourself

On the journey of knowing yourself, you will uncover some things that you may not like about yourself. You may find things that you judge yourself on, things you wish you would have done differently, and even things you are not proud of. You may feel scared or ashamed to face all of these things; however, the more we avoid these things, the bigger they become. The more we hide these things and the longer we don't confront them, the more space they take up in our subconscious mind and they prevent us from feeling at peace or love for ourselves. We must accept who we are. To do this, we must forgive ourselves and allow ourselves to not be perfect. What we find on the other side of our own self-judgment or self-criticism is an incredible, beautiful, and imperfectly perfect soul. Go and find her!

Honor Yourself

Once you know yourself and accept who you are - even the imperfections, the mistakes, and the parts of you that you wished were different - now it's time to honor yourself. We honor ourselves by listening to our own needs, by being rather than doing, and by slowing down enough to listen to our bodies, souls, and minds to start to feel good more often. You must start to believe that life gets to be easy, fun, and peaceful all at the same time as it is productive and successful. Honoring yourself is allowing yourself to be who you are and to be unavailable for the things that don't align with you. Honoring yourself means prioritizing your needs over the needs of others. It means doing what feels right for you, even if it's different than what's expected of you. It means saying no when you are tired and holding your boundaries when they are pushed. Honoring yourself can be as simple as saying, “no thank you,” when you want something different than the group. It could be getting honest with your friend about the way they have hurt your feelings. It is taking care of you because you know you are worth taking care of.

Love Yourself

Loving yourself comes from really knowing, accepting, and honoring yourself. When it becomes the norm to stay aligned, honor yourself always. It is loving yourself to know that you are worthy of being exactly who you are, imperfections and all, to take up the space you deserve, speak up, say no, and say the truth, even if it's not what people want to hear. From this love, you get to take off your mask and be who you are. The real you - the one that might have been hiding for the last few years. This stage comes with total peace and absolute joy in being who you are. Your life will become easier, and more purposeful, and you know without question you are worthy of living the life that you love. Things that don't matter will fall away, and you will step into your highest and best power.

This is not about becoming someone else. This is not about becoming “the best” version of yourself. This is about being brave enough to really see yourself, accept yourself, honor yourself and fall in love with yourself. This is the path to having everything you want in your life. This is the key to looking back on your life and feeling like it was a life worth living. Everything you want and everything you want to be is inside of you already. Our job is to allow ourselves to be seen, be vulnerable, accept ourselves and allow ourselves to show up bravely to the world.

Your life, the one that will really matter, the one that you will look back on and be proud of depends on feeling worthy of being you.

You are worthy of being you.

You are worthy of showing up in the world just as you are.

So let's start on one of the best adventures of your life.

Get to know yourself. Accept yourself for who you are. Honor that amazing person. Love yourself.

The most aligned version is waiting for you on the other side of worthiness.

About Allison Lacoursiere

Allison Lacoursiere is a professional coach with a focus on leadership and worthiness. As the founder of Clear Coaching, she is an expert in helping Doctors and teams step into their greatest potential through powerful communication, confidence, and mindset strategies. She has years of experience helping Dentists streamline their efficiency and increase their production using the Humans First methodology. She has coached hundreds of women on worthiness through her coaching program Clearly Worthy. She has a decade of dental experience, has a lifetime membership to AADOM, and is certified as a Registered Dental Assistant, Orthodontic Assistant as well as Dental Office Management through the University of Toronto. Allison is a faculty member of Align Technology, Upgrade Dental, and the Dental Speakers institute.