DeSoto magazine February 2016

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February CONTENTS 2016 • VOLUME 13 • NO. 2

features 48 Rein in Fun How horses help those most in need

64 Keeping Love Fit Get moving to create sparks

56 Taking Care of Mom When children become the parents

departments 14 Living Well The new lows on blood pressure

42 A Day Away Columbus, Mississippi

18 Notables Meet Memphis’ Mayor Jim Strickland

46 Greaters Goods 70 Homegrown Jewelry for Caroline

22 Exploring Art McCarty Pottery moves to next generation

72 Southern Harmony The A cappella of Home Free

26 Exploring Books LeeAnn Tuohy talks Turn Around

74 Table Talk Mesquite Chop House

30 Into the Wild Fly fishing with Arkansas’ guides

76 In Good Spirits Hot Chocolate for Grown-ups

34 Exploring Cuisine Super snacks for Super Bowl

78 Exploring Events

38 Exploring Destinations New Orleans bound on the train

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Dr. Robert E. Maddux 1966 - 2016 The entire staff at DeSoto Magazine extends our deepest condolences to Hernando Dental Group.

We are grateful for Dr. Maddux’s support and contributions to our publication.

We will miss his spirit and service to the larger Hernando community.

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february

nothing time...

This time of year, I always recall Anthony Hopkin’s words, spoken as C.S. Lewis in “Shadowlands”. Blue and discontent, he laments this season in between winter and spring as this “nothing time”. Too cold for begin outside, winter too long, spring not yet arrived.

And so it may feel to many of us during February as we anxiously await a greening of the world. And yet, this month may disprove this rather solemn view of the world. After all, February is all about the heart! And we’re all about health and fitness. Not only with Valentine’s Day but literally as National Heart Month draws attention to heart health. Knowing how much high blood pressure can confound---even when being treated---Andrea tells us more about a recent study involving UTHSC and new information about blood pressure.

Meanwhile, if those looking for a unique way to spend time with that Valentine, take a close look at Devin’s piece on page 64. It’s all about how to keep your relationship fit---by finding healthy activities to pursue together.

Skiing, anyone?

I think the incoming Mayor of Memphis, Jim Strickland would heartily disagree with Hopkin’s dim view of February life. Despite his impossibly busy transition schedule at the moment, he graciously granted us an interview during which he shared a glimpse of what makes him tick---and what keeps him up at night. If you’ve never had a

February 2016 • Vol. 13 No.2

PUBLISHER & CREATIVE DIRECTOR Adam Mitchell

PUBLISHER & ADVERTISING DIRECTOR Paula Mitchell

EDITOR Karen Ott Mayer

conversation with Strickland, I hope our Notables piece gives you a good impression of his path to the Mayor’s office. It’s quite impressive.

Thanks to Clint, we have one more opportunity to celebrate one of Mississippi’s finest legacy businesses: McCarty’s Pottery. It’s natural to assume this signature pottery could have easily changed with the quiet passing of Lee McCarty. But it’s not the case at all. The legacy continues--which makes many hearts sing with pride. More on page 22.

And if all else fails to cheer your weathered spirit…try football and food as Chere suggests.

Whatever your choice, be warm and decide this month may actually be the “something time”.

Cheers,

Karen on the cover Baby, it’s cold outside! Our February cover features a rich, steamy “adult” hot chocolate that warms the body and soul. Valentine’s Day is this month, and there’s no better nightcap to end your romantic evening with your sweetheart.

Photo courtesy of imgwebs.com.

CONTRIBUTORS J. Eric Eckard Andrea Brown Ross Devin Greaney Clint Kimberling Bobby Hickman Chere Coen John H. Howell, Sr. Robin Gallaher Branch Debra Pamplin James Richardson Ashley Buescher

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high blood pressure

Understanding Blood Pressure Better

By Andrea Brown Ross. Photography courtesy of ageinplace.com and pillsforallblog.com

For the nearly 81 million Americans suffering with hypertension, or high blood pressure, the results of the Systolic Pressure Intervention Trial, or SPRINT, brings good news. The five-year nationwide study examined the effects of lowering the systolic reading, or top number, in adults over the age of 50 with hypertension. The University of Tennessee Health Science Center located in Memphis, Tenn. served as one of the study sites.

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Professor of Preventive Medicine and Endowed Professor of Women’s Health at UTHSC, Dr. Karen Johnson, served as the principal investigator at the Memphis study site, as well as, the vice chair of the national steering committee for SPRINT.

“There are effective non-pharmaceutical means of lowering blood pressure, such as limiting salty foods, reducing alcohol intake, and weight loss. For those who have modified their lifestyle and are still struggling with hypertension, medicine can also be an effective. The results from SPRINT are significant, because we found that lowering a person’s systolic blood pressure to less than 120 can reduce heart attacks, strokes, and death better than the current regimen of 140 or less,” said Dr. Johnson.

As local Memphian, Joe Pipkin, shared in UTHSC’s press release regarding this landmark study, an improvement in his health regimen was due.

“I would have high blood pressure pretty regularly to the point my face got red and it literally felt like it was going to pop,” he said. “I was starting to feel sluggish and a bit down. I have been an athlete most of my life, and that was the key for me to find some kind of help.”

According to the study’s findings, published in the November 26, 2015 issue of the New England Journal of Medicine, “Hypertension is highly prevalent in the adult population in the United States, especially among persons older than 60 years of age, and affects approximately 1 billion adults worldwide. Among persons 50 years of age or older, isolated systolic hypertension is the most common form of hypertension, and systolic blood pressure becomes more important than diastolic blood pressure as an independent risk predictor for coronary events, stroke, heart failure, and end-stage renal disease.”

Previous clinical trials have demonstrated that treating high blood pressure can reduce the risk of stroke and heart failure, but the question remained unanswered on the target systolic blood pressure level. Other studies have shown a progressive increase in cardiovascular risk as systolic blood pressure rises above 115, but there was limited data on specific levels. The typical regimen for a patient with high blood pressure is a goal, or target, of lowering the systolic level to less than 140.

Early findings in the SPRINT study revealed by lowering the systolic blood pressure to less than 120, participants had a 38 percent lower risk of heart failure, 43 percent lower risk of death from cardiovascular cause, and a 27 percent lower risk of death from any cause.

The study utilized over 100 clinical sites across the United States and Puerto Rico. Of the approximate 9,300 participants, Memphis had 175 participants.

Participants were required to meet all the following criteria: an age of at least 50 years, a systolic blood pressure of 130 to 180, and an increased risk of cardiovascular events, or an age of 75 years or older. Having a prior stroke or diabetes excluded patients from participation as well as living in an assisted living facility or nursing home.

For the first three months, participants were seen monthly and every three months thereafter. Medications for participants were adjusted on a monthly basis to target a systolic blood pressure of less than 120 and lifestyle modifications were also encouraged. Dr. Johnson discussed the significance of the SPRINT study. “Primary care physicians, or PCPs, will now start patients on this new, better regimen. The SPRINT results could rewrite the guidelines and change the way we practice medicine not only in the United States, but the whole world,” she said.

“The next time patients see their PCP, they should ask them if a systolic blood pressure of less than 120 is an appropriate goal for them. We discovered that even our patients, 75 years or older, benefitted from this regimen. We did find that achieving this goal, required a few more doctor visits and, on average, at least one additional medication,” advised Dr. Johnson. However, for some patients, the benefits outweigh the costs of taking an additional medication.

“It has been super great for me,” said Pipkin. “My energy levels are good, my outlook has improved. I’m very happy about it.”

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The Brilliance of Basics

By Karen Ott Mayer. Photography courtesy of Jim Strickland

A first conversation with incoming Mayor of Memphis Jim Strickland feels anything but weighty. In fact, his quick wit and booming laugh could be more suited to comedy hour than debate hour as he faces large challenges leading Memphians.

Although not born on southern soil, he arrived in Memphis at age 12 from South Bend, Indiana, his first home, followed by years in Cincinnati and then Louisville. No stranger to Memphis, Strickland’s handprint has been all over the city for years as he’s served as volunteer, board member, city council member, attorney and professor. From the Botanic Gardens to soup kitchens, his reach has been deep.

“I love Memphis,” he said.

When asked why bother with the leading position at all, his signature laugh replied. “Well, I am only 51!”

His humor is perhaps only matched by his deep and abiding message about service. Growing up in Indiana, he recalls early memories about relatives and politics.

“I remember when we’d visit my grandparents, they’d sit around the table and talk about politics. The first presidential election that I remember was Jimmy Carter’s in 1976, and with our family being Catholic, I remember first being inspired by John F. Kennedy, Jr’s appeal to service.”

His political education began early. He served on a high school youth legislative body, worked as an intern later in Nashville and eventually became student body president for his

University of Memphis class. In 1994, his first grown-up move came with his joining the Shelby County Democratic party.

As Strickland talks about his civic and community roles, however, it’s obvious that this part of his life isn’t relegated to a proverbial sidebar; rather, his belief in service intricately ties to his faith--and his actions speak to such.

“We are Catholic and the bible teaches that public service and giving a hand to others is what we are supposed to do. It doesn’t matter what religion you are, it is the same.”

Among his other responsibilities, Strickland has been volunteering continuously at the St. Vincent de Paul soup kitchen since 1989. He also provides free legal counsel through the Alpha Omega Veterans Services.

“I had the fortune of having two loving parents and a great education. I just believe that we are called on to give back to those less fortunate.” Strickland strikes a pragmatic and just chord when talking about the ability to give. “There are people who just can’t give back in the community, not that they don’t want to. Maybe it’s a single mother who is busy working and taking care of her family, but that in itself, is her way of giving back.”

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When asked if he’d like to set the record straight about any misconceptions about himself, his wit again prevails. “Just because I’m good looking doesn’t mean I have a lack of substance,” he said laughing.

On a more serious note, when talking about the idea of leading or leadership and whether he feels that our world lacks leaders, he disagrees. “I don’t view it as a leadership challenge but as a service and personal responsibility challenge.”

With a wife and two young children, Strickland prefers to spend his free time at home--or on the courts. He plays tennis and has coached basketball as well. He prefers nonfiction to fiction and is currently reading “Vigilance” by Ray Kelly, the former New York City police commissioner whose tenure resulted in lower crime in the city.

Talking about what keeps him up at night or worries him the most, Strickland doesn’t hesitate as any trace of humor leaves his voice. “The safety of our citizens.

Crime is our number one challenge,” he said. “It is the responsibility of government to ensure the safety of its citizens.”

But Strickland’s vision extends well beyond a micro-crime plan; he is adamant about taking Memphis to new heights. “I want to make Memphis so good that we steal people from DeSoto County. We have about 80,000 people who work in Memphis but live elsewhere. Whether it’s Gary, Indiana or Detroit, Michigan or Memphis, population loss is a challenge and it takes a long time from which to recover.”

His personal doctrine focuses on tangible basics. “I want us to be brilliant in the basics, from reducing crime to cleaning up blight and picking up garbage. We have so many great things going on from downtown to the FedEx Forum to Shelby Farms but we need to address the crime.

I want to be able to go out to Collierville or Germantown or Olive Branch and tell people all the reasons to move to Memphis.”

Strickland’s combined love of the city, his proven service, professional experience and his clear-headed vision paves a hopeful future for Memphis. And then, of course, there’s his enduring wit as a back up. When asked if he’d like to leave Memphians and the Mid-South with any final thought, he paused again.

“I need something really profound to say here…”, he said with a hearty laugh.

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McCarty’s Lives On

By Clint Kimberling. Photography by Ashley Buescher

In September 2015, Lee McCarty, 92, went to sleep and never awoke. If ever a thought existed that McCarty’s Pottery would also go quietly asleep with founder Lee McCarty, nothing could be further from the truth.

Along with his late wife, Pup McCarty, the pair built the internationally-acclaimed pottery business 60 years ago in a mule barn, starting with one kiln and wheel. McCarty’s Pottery in Merigold, Mississippi lives on today as the same iconic Delta destination. Lee and Pup may no longer be living, but their godchildren, Stephen and Jamie Smith, are in charge of carrying on the legacy.

Stephen handles the business and day-to-day activities while Jamie continues to turn out beautiful, distinctive pottery.

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taking pottery classes as a hobby and Lee went along as something to do. Soon they discovered they really had something with pottery.

Lee, a chemist by trade, invented his own glazes. He developed unique colors and finishes that are not available commercially and integrated earth tones of nutmeg brown, cobalt blue, and jade. The colors and texture gave the pieces their signature look. McCarty’s pottery can also be identified by the trademarked “river,” a small black squiggle line representing the Mississippi River and by the trademarked McCarty’s signature which is hand signed on the bottom or back of each piece.

Stephen says McCarty’s connection to the Delta, to Mississippi, to the environment, and to land is important. “We love to see Mississippians throughout the state and country with our pieces. We like to see the personal side, how they’ve incorporated our art into their lives. To us, that’s a connection that goes even beyond art.

Stephen and Jamie both moved back to Merigold in 1998 to begin a succession plan for McCarty’s. As such, there has been no change in the quality or style of the pottery. Jamie, who first started throwing pots as a child and showed a natural talent for it, was mentored by Lee during this time. They worked side by side, collaborating together for 15 years. The focus of their time together was continuity and consistency which has resulted in a seamless continuation of the vision and style the McCartys set forth over 60 years ago. The only difference Jamie allows is that “Uncle Lee preferred to throw thick and then trimmed the shape. I throw thin, so the shape is already there. But we end up in the same place.”

On his career as a potter, Jamie likes to say, “I used to play in the mud for fun, now I do it for a living.”

Stephen never did get involved with making pottery. “The Lord blesses us with different talents. That’s one that passed me over,” he said. Still, he is content to carry on the McCarty legacy through business activities and outreach.

McCarty’s has become a Delta destination, not just for the pottery but as an overall experience. This experience includes, in part, the Gallery Restaurant which opened in 1991. The McCartys designed and decorated the restaurant and described it as New York cuisine with sweet tea and cornbread. The restaurant is open Tuesday through Saturday and also accommodates luncheons and bridal showers groups.

Visitors are also invited to tour the gardens on the property. Lee was also a botanist and cultivated a garden that went well beyond just a collection of plants.

Stephen describes it as another outlet for their artistic expression.

“They viewed nature as art, and they designed the garden as a living piece of art.” A testament to Lee’s hard work and vision, the garden was included in Smithsonian Archives of American Gardens in 2012.

One of the busiest times of the year for McCarty’s is Seconds Sale weekend.

A tradition since the late 1970s, Seconds Sale occurs the First Sunday and Monday in March. McCarty’s will open their warehouse to sell pieces that are defective in some way. Pieces may be cracked, under-fired, over-fired , or just broken. This year the Seconds sale will take place on March 6 and 7. “It’s quite the happening,” Stephen said, as they expect several hundred people.

Stephen and Jamie both have the strong work ethic passed on from their Uncle Lee and Aunt Pup. Stephen recalls their early beginnings and how hard they both worked and sacrificed.

“They were truly remarkable; they lived their lives on their own terms. As struggling artists when they started, they didn’t care about material things, just being together.”

Jamie chimed in. “I think that’s what gives McCarty Pottery it’s edge.

There’s that laid- back Delta feel. But there’s a lot work involved there, too.”

Hours: Open Tuesday – Saturday, 10a.m.-4p.m.; closed Sunday and Monday. www.mccartyspottery.com

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What “TURN AROUND” Brings

By Bobby L. Hickman. Photography courtesy of owensboroliving.com and Leigh Anne Tuohy

If you were ever inspired to do good works by a movie like “The Blind Side”, but didn’t know how to get started, Leigh Anne Tuohy has some suggestions.

Her new book, “Turn Around: Reach Out, Give Back, and Get Moving” is full of ideas for helping people make a difference in their communities.

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Tuohy is the matriarch of the Memphis family (profiled in the book and movie, “The Blind Side”) that adopted future NFL first-round draft pick Michael Oher. Tuohy was in the audience when Sandra Bullock accepted the “best actress” Oscar for portraying her in the film. Tuohy enjoyed a successful career as an interior designer – appearing in “Extreme Makeover” and other television shows. But today she spends most of her time as a motivational speaker, sharing her message that everyone can make a difference in someone’s life.

“The biggest thing I want people to take from the book is simply this: If you can be anything, be kind,” she said. “I think kindness can change the world, and we definitely need kindness right now.”

The story of how the Tuohy family found and adopted Oher continues to touch people’s hearts. Before they brought the teenager into their home, “Michael had lived under bridges, eaten out of garbage cans, and bounced among 23 foster homes” she said.

Leigh Anne and her husband, Sean (a record-breaking SEC basketball champion at their Ole Miss alma mater, and currently a TV color commentator for Memphis Grizzlies broadcasts) first saw Oher in cutoff shorts on a snowy November day and wanted to help him. They ended up adding him to their family of four, helping him with homework, and ultimately enabling him to play football at Ole Miss. But more than sports, “The Blind Side” is a story about the challenges of building a blended family and the results of charitable acts.

Tuohy said she still gets questions every day through social media from people with the same basic concerns: I want to make a difference, but I don’t know how to start. How can I get involved? What can I do to help others?

“I think that’s why ‘The Blind Side’ continues to be so relatable,” Tuohy said. “People want to emulate what we did.”

However, “Adopting a 6 foot, 6 inch, 350-pound African-American young man is not for everybody,” she acknowledged. “It was not some Cinderella fairy tale where we sprinkled magic dust over him. Like anything you want to do, it takes work.” And the family did not do it alone, she added. Tutors worked with Michael; people brought casseroles; and many others pitched in with small acts of kindness.

“It didn’t take a village; it took an entire city.” And the result? “He’s the epitome of a great son.”

Those questions about how people could follow the Tuohy’s example led Leigh Anne to write “Turn Around,” a daily devotional filled with small steps people can take to get more involved. She spent almost two years compiling ideas and events “that could be meaningful to someone else.” The book is filled with suggestions “that someone could look at and implement in their own lives – something to get them out of their comfort zone and take a risk.”

The book includes a “daily difference maker” with things readers can do. “I don’t expect anyone to do every one of them everyday,” she said, “but I hope it plants a seed for them.” There is also the companion “Turn Around Journal” so people can keep track what they do each day, which ideas they tried, and how they worked out.

Tuohy added, “I’m going to bang that drum until people are sick of hearing me, and then I’ll keep going. Everyone was born with the ability to make a difference in someone’s life. Don’t sell anyone short. We’re all created equal; we all have value; but we all have our little twists and turns. You have to make a little effort to figure that out.”

She also said giving is “infectious. You can’t take it with you when you leave, but you can help a lot of people with what you’ve got while you’re here. It seems the more we give away, the more blessed we are. It will truly change your life.”

People can start simply by helping people in their immediate circle, then expand to others on their street and out into their community. “Work right where you are with what you got. Every little bit helps. And if it sounds cliché, like Mary Poppins, I don’t care.”

She added, “We’ve got to learn to get along and be kind to each other, and realize everyone has value. Given the opportunity, you can change someone’s life.”

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By Karen Ott Mayer. Photography courtesy of flysandguides.com and troutdoctor101

If ever a spoken line fit a sport better than another, it’s the one about being “haunted by waters”. Delivered by Norman in the movie, “A River Runs Through It,” the words capture what so many fishermen feel about rivers and fish. With the added dimension of casting by fly rod, a keen nostalgia, even romance, makes this sport even more attractive.

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According to Jim Lipscomb, founder and previous owner of Two Rivers Fly Shop in Norfork, Arkansas, spin casting still dominated the Arkansas waters 15 years ago. But, it’s not the case now.

“Fifteen years ago, you could have walked the river and not seen one fly fisherman. We see almost all fly fishermen on the rivers today.”

In a growing field, it’s tough for a beginner to know where to start. Rods of every shape and size pack shelves, marketers profess the need for all types of gear, and then, there’s the moving water itself. Lipscomb, who has guided visitors on the rivers in his area for over 40 years, shares a thought or two.

“The best money spent is with a guide. It’s better than a school,” he said.

“It’s a lot different casting on moving water than on grass or land.”

And age and gender don’t preclude anyone. “Honestly, I think girls pick it up better than boys sometimes,” Lipscomb added.

Located in Baxter County, Ark., Two Rivers enjoys an ideal location for anglers seeking diverse conditions for fishing due to its proximity to several rivers.

“We are just miles from the White, Little Norfork, Crooked Creek and the Buffalo River. We’re located about 44 miles south of Bull Shoals dam. The White River is a complex river because it catches water from all the lakes,” said Lipscomb.

Lipscomb says that he can teach anyone the perfect cast in two minutes. “If we can get them for a day, we can catch fish.”

Of course, no one can fish without a rod or reel. “You’ve got to have one,” Lipscomb said with a laugh. “That’s what we do. Our whole shop only sells fly fishing equipment. There are lots of toys you can buy.”

Lipscomb says during his early years, he believes most people grew up casting rods on ponds so they may fish, but not fly fish. “With graphite rods today, you can darn near run over the thing and they won’t break. They’re that durable.”

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For children 16 and under, the nearby Norfork National Fish Hatchery located just below the dam and operated by the Department of the Interior, offers an exciting teaching ground. “It’s a wonderful place for kids.

There are so many fish, they all catch one. Of course, some of them don’t really understand when they have to throw them back!”

Another benefit prevails for fishermen in Arkansas. “You can fish here 365 days a year,” said Lipscomb.

He recalls as a young man guiding during the Alaskan summers when his wife taught there. “You could only fish for four months out of the year.”

Today, Lipscomb is retired and has passed the ownership baton to a newcomer, Dominic Zametto, three years ago. Originally from Mississippi, Zametto now guides all day in Arkansas.

With six guides on hand, Two Rivers can accommodate guests most anytime.

While Lipscomb says they can set up a guide on short notice, it’s best to book a guide in advance, especially between March and October. “We get real busy from the first of March until the end of October.” He says the river is dominated in the off-season by advanced specialty fishermen stalking large fish.”

With a guest cottage located on the property, visitors also have the option of staying overnight.

Maybe a first-time guide trip won’t leave the new fisherman casting exactly like Brad Pitt in “A River Runs Through It”, but it most certainly will accomplish what most seasoned fly enthusiasts know for sure: It will spark a desire for more. Lipscomb knows.

“It is absolutely a sport anyone can do.”

Considered the guru of fly fishing, Dave Whitlock and his wife Emily teach fly fishing from their Oklahoma place. A writer, an artist and teacher, Whitlock lived for many years just within sight of Two Rivers Fly Shop in Arkansas. Now located in the Oklahoma Ozarks, the Whitlocks offer an array of learning options.

www.davewhitlock.com

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THE TOUCHDOWN

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By Cheré Coen. Photography courtesy of foodnetwork.com

The big day approaches, the most watched televised event of the year. And this year the Super Bowl turns 50 on Feb. 7, which means the final NFL football match-up will be adding spectacle on top of spectacle.

As you plan your Super Bowl 50 party, look beyond mere chips and French onion dip, insists food writer Doc Lawrence, author of the blog “Down South Today.”

“I strive at these gatherings for originality, beauty, convenience and quality,” Lawrence said. “We should be mindful that even though this is a sporting event, it is core Americana and wildly popular. Why would anyone entertain with predictable, unimaginative food and beverages? This party is a moment in the sun, an opportunity to show off some

talent, taste, and color designed to spread cheer and produce some good memories for my guests.”

Lawrence suggests creating a stunning centerpiece such as a flower display and a cheese or pastry football that’s decorated with appropriate words for the occasion or team colors. For pre-kickoff, offer appetizers with impressive sparkling wines such as Gruet from New Mexico or Cava from Spain, beer — preferably local brews — and a festive punch such as sangria.

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football parties but that doesn’t mean you have to serve them, Lawrence said.

“If you must, be certain that there are options not so pedestrian and messy,” he added.

He also advises forgetting the chili and serving a gumbo instead or “something a little more adventurous like Paella.” To accent these entrees, serve a selection of white, red and sparkling wines, but never in plastic wine glasses.

“Guests choose what they like,” he said of the wine lineup. “You can’t miss with a Beaujolais Villages or Blanc du Bois. Again, this is your party in your home and unless you have a mob over, glassware is still de rigueur.”

Top off the evening with dessert, something Southern and delicious like a hummingbird cake, Lawrence suggested, complemented by coffee, good quality sodas and lemonade for non-drinkers.

The following recipes are a few ideas to get you started.

Since the host city for Super Bowl 50 will be Santa Clara, Calif., why not add a bit of southwestern flavor to your party? Angelina LaRue offers some wonderful snacks and appetizers in her new book, “The Whole Enchilada: Fresh and Nutritious Southwestern Cuisine” that go “way beyond tortilla 38 DeSoto

chips and salsa.” She offers recipes for Tex-Mex potato skins, empanadas and cheddar nickels Caliente, a spicy version of the Southern cheese straw that’s made into thin, crisp crackers.

We’re offering her recipe for shrimp ceviche shooters that will impress your guests with their colorful presentation in a shot glass — and they’re so easy to make.

Shrimp Ceviche Shooters

From “The Whole Enchilada” 1/2 pound shrimp, peeled and deveined 1-2 fresh limes 1/4 teaspoon salt 1/2 red bell pepper, stemmed, seeded, and diced 1/2 yellow bell pepper, stemmed, seeded and diced 3 tablespoons fresh cilantro leaves Directions: Rinse the shrimp in cold water and pat dry. Cut them into 1/2- to 3/4-inch pieces and place in a shallow bowl.

Squeeze enough lime juice over the shrimp to completely cover, and let them rest for at least 20 minutes. The “cooking” process (the acid in the lime juice reacts with the protein of the shrimp) is complete once the shrimp turns pink and opaque. The author prefers to let the lime juice “cook” the shrimp for 35 or

40 minutes, but after 20 minutes, test every five to ten minutes to make sure the texture does not become tough.

Once the shrimp is ready, stir together with the salt, diced bell peppers, and fresh cilantro. Spoon the ceviche into shot glasses (or tasting spoons). Top with an additional squeeze of lime juice and more cilantro leaves, as desired.

Not to be confused with another California city, but a dip that’s a must for any party, is the L.A. (Lower Alabama) Caviar from Lucy Anne Buffett’s Lulu’s restaurant in Destin, Fla. and Gulf Shores, Ala. Along with the restaurant’s “Cheeseburger in Paradise” (Lucy is Jimmy Buffett’s sister), the L.A. Caviar has been named one of the “100 Dishes to Eat Before you Die in Alabama” by Alabama tourism.

L.A. (Lower Alabama) Caviar

From “Crazy Sista Cooking” by Lucy Anne Buffett 3/4 cup balsamic vinegar 1/2 cup extra virgin olive oil 1/4 cup sugar 2 teaspoons salt 1 teaspoon black pepper 4 (15-ounce) cans black-eyed peas, rinsed and drained 1 cup chopped green bell pepper 1 cup chopped yellow bell pepper 1 cup chopped red bell pepper 1 cup chopped red onion 1 1/2 cups cherry tomatoes, quartered 1 cup finely chopped fresh parsley Directions: Combine all dressing ingredients (first five ingredients) in a jar; cover tightly and shake vigorously to dissolve sugar. Set aside. Place peas in a large glass or stainless steel bowl. Add all bell peppers, onions, tomatoes and parsley. Pour dressing over top and toss well. Transfer to a plastic container, cover and refrigerate for at least two hours before serving. Serve with tortilla chips or saltine crackers.

Doc’s Blog: downsouthtoday.blogspot.com/

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Train

Story and photography courtesy of John H. Howell, Sr.

Amtrak doesn’t guarantee a party for every southbound trip on its City of New Orleans. But if you’re fortunate enough to be riding on a Friday afternoon, the odds of a party breaking out in the legendary train’s observation car increase with each mile that brings the Crescent City closer.

Passengers waiting to board during the City’s early morning stop at Memphis’ Central Station talk about their reason for traveling by train to New Orleans. Some planned to rendezvous with cruises departing from the Julia Street Wharf on the Mississippi River to Caribbean destinations. Others were bound for New Orleans for a wedding — the city is a favored site for nuptials. Occasionally there’s an offshore worker on his way back to his job in the Gulf.

Richard and Marilyn Taylor of Como and their daughter Emily boarded in Memphis with plans to celebrate his birthday in New Orleans, another occasion for which the city is a favored destination. Friends joined in Senatobia and more family boarded in Brookhaven.

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coach seats. If the passenger drove to New Orleans the destination would still be sixplus hours away, but once you have stepped onto the waiting Amtrak, you have already arrived.

Not that the city is miraculously closer. The City departs Memphis at 6:50 a.m. and unloads its passengers in New Orleans at 3:32 p.m., according to its published schedule. Often it’s earlier, sometimes later. That’s over eight hours, but in stepping aboard there is an unexpected release from the weight of responsibility.

“It’s a civilized way to travel, not to have the stress of driving,” said retired Canadian school teacher en route to one of those cruises.

Once the train cleared Memphis’ urban reaches, it accelerated to cruising speed — maybe 80 miles per hour, but there’s no speedometer.

South through the Delta on CN Railroad tracks, through tiny bergs like Crenshaw and Sledge to Marks where another stop is in the works. But there is no stop in Marks this day. Greenwood is the first pause south of Memphis, and only briefly. Then on to Yazoo City before Jackson. Seasoned travelers also know that the tracks between Greenwood and Jackson include some of the roughest mileage traveled by Amtrak — something to do with the unstable Yazoo Clay strata that underlies much of central Mississippi.

The Delta in mid-winter is admittedly bleak, brightened occasionally by spectacular, horizon-to-horizon views of the sky. Evident everywhere is the poverty of one of the nation’s poorest regions, but also on display as the trackside vista unfolds are glimpses into the middle of the last century.

Old, stately or once-stately homes face the tracks in mute witness to the architectural integrity that coincided with an era when rail travel was more commonplace.

As the rails take the City from the Delta, along the edge of the Bluff and into the hills toward Jackson, the train is surrounded, as though traveling through a tunnel of foliage, less opaque in winter than summer. It re-enters the tunnel south of Jackson, breaking out again for stops at Hazlehurst, Brookhaven, McComb and finally Hammond before New Orleans.

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the western shore of Lake Pontchartrain before heading east, parallel to I-10 before the final leg into New Orleans.

There is one last surprise for the first-time traveler on the southbound City of New Orleans: it backs into the station. That maneuver has the train headed in the right direction and saves time, a conductor said, as workers clean and perform maintenance before its return trip to Chicago the next day.

“Serious space!” exclaimed a traveler who boarded in New Orleans for the return trip and walked to his assigned seat. He and several companions had been sightseeing in North America for almost three months but until then had only traveled only by air.

Big, comfortable seats are among the most conspicuous amenities of rail travel. Amtrak bathrooms vary in size, and though compact, all are bigger than on airplanes. And more abundant, all on the lower levels of the train cars. Passengers are free to get up and roam. That’s a plus for all passengers but especially for families with children who have opted for the additional time rail travel requires.

Many passengers are attracted to the observation car where seats on each side of the aisle face out for better vantage through the panoramic windows. There is also table seating in the observation car. Some use the tables to eat short-order meals and snacks purchased from the next car forward; some play cards; some read and some party.

Forward of the observation car is the Cross Country Cafe, first introduced on the City of New Orleans route in 2007. The Cross Country Cafe offers snack bar service with limited seating on one end, dining service on the other. Yet, good tasting food — always a hallmark of travel by rail — survives, even with the reduced service and less varied menu.

Much of the return trip comes during hours of darkness, especially during winter. Having left New Orleans at 1:45 p.m., the scheduled arrival in Memphis comes at 10 p.m. Readers will find that a good book helps while away those hours of darkness. Those more readily entertained by phones and devices should be cautioned that Wi-Fi is not yet available on the City of New Orleans.

As passengers disperse toward their waiting vehicles, they carry with them a memory of that clickety-clack cadence that will somehow be comforting when they hear it again.

What you need to know...

- Smoking is prohibited anywhere on the train and allowed only at designated smoke stops in Greenwood and Jackson - Passengers can bring any food and beverage, including alcoholic beverages in ice chests, - Each passenger may bring 2 personal items onboard. (Check size limits) - Each passenger can check up to 4 bags - 2 free of charge and 2 for $20 per bag. (Check size limits).

- Sleeper cars are available on the City of New Orleans.

- Neither passengers nor their luggage are searched. Passengers must have appropriate photo ID and ticket to board.

- A passenger who arrives train side without a ticket can make a hurried call to 1-800-872-7245, purchase a ticket by phone and then board by giving the conductor a boarding number provided during the phone reservation.

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a day away } columbus, mississippi

Co lumbus, Mississippi

-thi s 8:00 Breakfast at C offee House on 5th. Located downtown--on 5th Streetbut tea coffee shop s serves up not only delicious coffee, lattes and specialty drinks, and fresh baked good ies like pastries and sausage balls. n Street 9:00 Tour the Tennessee Will iams Home and Welc ome Center. Located on Mai this is the first home of the Pulitzer Prize-wi nning playwright. have 10:00 C olumbus has many beautiful antebellum homes that can be toured. They appointment. been rest ored and are ready to be expl ored. Make sure to call ahead for an Email ccvb@visitcolumbusms.org or call 662-329-1191 for more infor mation. g for 1:00 Huck’s P lace is the perfect spot for lunch. The diverse menu has somethin es wich ever yone. Besides the regular menu items like salads, burgers, pizzas and sand pudd ing! they also serve daily lunch specials. And be sure to save room for the bread begi ns at 2:00 After lunch enjoy a stro ll on the Riverwal k and Trail. The 2.2 mile trail Mai n Street and winds along the Tombigbee River. has to 3:00 Whi le downtown, take in all the local shop s the hist oric shopping district offer. C lothing, jewe lry, gifts, home furnishings and antiques await. rstated, 5:30 Dinner at Old Hickory Steak House. The furnishings and decor are unde t-bone but the steak is what keep s people comi ng back. Del icious steaks like rib eye, to and and sirloin cooked to perfection over a charcoal pit and served with baked pota salad. Simple but delicious!

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76th Annual Spring Pilgrimage March 28 - April 9

Home and Garden Tours - 15 historic homes and gardens on 12-day tour along with carriage and double decker bus rides Kickoff Party - March 28, crawfish and shrimp boil with live music Half Marathon / 5K Run - April 2 Catfish in the Alley - April 2, enjoy fresh fried catfish and live blues in Columbus’ historic Catfish Alley Artisan’s Alley - April 2, handcrafted period articles and food items Chanticleer - April 3, the “world’s reigning male chorus” and Grammy Award-winning ensemble performs Tales from the Crypt - March 30, April 1, 4, 6 and 8, graveyard tour that re-creates the lives of noted personalities interred in the historic cemetery Garden Party - April 9, stroll through Colonnade Garden with mint juleps and cheese straws

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Reining in Success

By Andrea Brown Ross. Photography courtesy of Southern Reins

Hopping on the back of an animal that can weigh 1,000 pounds or more can be scary, even for the roughest, toughest cowboy or cowgirl.

At Southern Reins in Nesbit, Mississippi, riders with disabilities are not only riding a horse for the first time, but making significant strides on horseback. Beginning in late 2015, these former show horses owned by Panther Creek Ranch found another purpose. They still proudly trot their riders decked out in sparkly cowboy boots around the arena. But unlike the seasoned riders that the horses were perhaps accustomed to, the new riders sometimes feel intimated by the sheer size of the horses, even hesitating to get into the saddle. It may take a few sessions before the new rider feels comfortable attempting to get in the saddle. Many riders with weak core body and trunk strength have adult volunteers whom walk along side them with the horse. Then, there are other riders who fearlessly hop in the saddle and take the horse by the reins.

Eleven year old Taylor McDowell, of Hernando,

Miss. has been participating in Southern Reins since September 2015. Now considered the program’s most advanced rider, she commented on her favorites at Southern Reins.

“I like everything! My favorite horse is Odie. He’s sweet! On my first lesson, I was ready to jump!” shared McDowell.

Taylor’s mother Andrea Gehrett explained the benefits.

“Last year was tough on Taylor. This has been a great outlet. It has really helped give her a boost and build her confidence,” said Gehrett.

For 14-year-old, Ellen Parker of Memphis, Tenn., Southern Reins has also given her a chance to develop a meaningful after school activity.

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thing to do on a horse is trotting!” exclaimed Parker.

Besides bonding with their horses, Parker and McDowell have become riding buddies, seeing one another at their weekly riding sessions. Where their participation may be limited in other physically demanding after school activities, they have been successful with riding.

“For a lot of girls, this has become their thing,” commented Jill Haag, executive director.

“We offer this adjunct form of therapy, considered recreational therapy, exclusively to disabled people, five years of age or older, with a physician’s referral” she explained.

“We work with riders with mild to profound disabilities. Our Equine Director, Sara Bryant, has a decade of experience as a riding instructor. She has worked with able bodied riders and those with disabilities.

She’s very good with those who need help with their trunk and/or core control, “said Haag.

While the riders have enjoyed this therapeutic riding experience, the same may be said for the approximate 75 volunteers.

Ginna Rauls, volunteer and community outreach director, elaborated on the extensive list of volunteers.

“Our volunteers range in age from teenagers to retired individuals. Volunteers typically donate their time and talents from two to eight hours a week. Depending on their age, experience, and ability level, we find appropriate ways for them to help.

Some volunteers may help with the chores around the stables, others may work in the arena, helping lead the horses around with the riders,” explained Rauls. Volunteer, Sally Alston, from east Memphis, shared what moved her to become involved with Southern Reins.

“I love horses. They’re just good for my soul. I had volunteered at a similar program years ago. I enjoyed watching the children grow up and watching the progress they made. We even had one boy who had been told by the doctors he would never walk. And while his physical therapist worked with him consistently, he was never able to strengthen the muscles necessary for him to walk until he had hippotherapy. I’ll never forget the day he came out and was able to walk with assistive crutches,” she said. `shared similar sentiments.

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“When I retired last year, I was looking for something I could do a few days a week. Having raised my own kids on horses, I was excited to see this program come to this area. Last fall, I saw their sign near the road. Since I live in the area, I just drove up one day and asked what I could do to help. I’ve been volunteering ever since. This is a great program which helps build children’s confidence among other things. I would hope that every child with a disability would have an opportunity to do something like this,” he said.

Currently serving 35 riders per week, Haag hopes to accommodate up to 55 riders per week.

“In 2016, we are offering 44 riding weeks. We currently have riders from Mississippi and Tennessee. We try to match riders with horses and partner them up as much as possible.

We adhere to the guidelines put in place by the Professional Association of Therapeutic Horsemanship International (PATH Intl.). Group sessions last approximately an hour, and individual sessions last about 30 minutes,” Haag explained.

“I worked at a similar therapeutic riding program in Virginia.

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Panther Creek Ranch and Chairman of the Board, Kirby Dobbs Floyd, and I were able to connect with one another.

Kirby was interested in equine-assisted programs to address mental and physical health needs, as well as occupational and physical therapy.”

Behavior Analyst and LMSW, Madison Brunswick, explains the benefits of working with horses.

“Equine assisted therapies and interactions are beneficial for participants of any age. Equine therapy can be used in treatment for individuals with physical challenges, such as multiple sclerosis, spina bifida, or cerebral palsy. It can also be used to help individuals with down syndrome, traumatic brain injury, or on the autism spectrum. Mental health issues may also be addressed with equine therapy, such as, ADD/ADHD, PTSD, anxiety, depression, and trauma,” said Brunswick.

Having participated in University of Tennessee Knoxville’s Animal Assisted Interactions for Veterinary Social Workers, Brunswick understands the power behind riding.

“Working and bonding with a horse is a nonjudgmental relationship that can increase self-confidence and

self-esteem for the rider. Whether doing ground exercises or riding the horse, the rider is met with many opportunities for emotional, physical, and spiritual growth by becoming self-aware while considering the horse’s needs and responses in the field.”

Volunteer Sally Alston commented that working with Southern Reins reminded her of Winston Churchill’s quote about horses, “There is something about the outside of a horse that is good for the inside of a man.” Parker and McDowell would agree.

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Becoming the Parent

By J. Eric Eckard. Photography courtesy of Hermitage Gardens and caringhandsllc.org

Two years ago, Salvador Gonzalez was living in his Miami, Florida home when he suffered a debilitating stroke. He was an 82-year-old widower, living off his retirement as an airline pilot.

After the stroke, Gonzalez’s eldest daughter, Muriel Zarlingo, had a decision to make - leave him in his home and let him “age in place” with a caretaker or move him closer to her. Zarlingo, a pilot herself for FedEx, lives in Olive Branch, Miss., and she chose to leave him in Miami.

“The stroke slowed him down some, both cognitively and physically, but he still had a zest for life,” Zarlingo said.

“And he wanted to stay in his home for as long as possible.”

But in April 2015, things started going downhill.

Gonzalez was hospitalized, and Zarlingo rushed to Miami.

What she discovered made her wish she had done things

differently. The house was termite-infested; there was money missing from the home; and there was evidence of identity theft.

“I wished I had moved him years ago,” Zarlingo said.

This scenario plays out in households across the country, more so now than ever before thanks to the ever-increasing growth of the baby boomer population.

Over the next 50 years, the population of people aged 65 or older is expected to double to 92 million, according to U.S. Census estimates. And the care for many of these older Americans typically falls to their adult children.

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Stephen Tweed is the CEO for Leading Home Care in Louisville, and he said he has coined the phrase “eldest daughter syndrome.” He said 60 percent of the time, the eldest daughter becomes the primary caretaker for one or both of their parents. And after a major health incident, family members are scrambling to find resources available for their loved ones.

“The biggest challenge when caring for an elderly person is the lack of information and knowledge,” said Tweed, whose company works with some 200 home health, hospices and private duty home care firms in the United States. “They often don’t know where to turn.”

When Gonzalez left the hospital following his stroke in 2013, Zarlingo adhered to his wish to stay in his home.

They found a bilingual woman to care for him, and “he thrived for awhile,” Zarlingo said.

But finding the right fit for a home caretaker can be difficult, Tweed said. “When you hire a caretaker, you are opening your home to a stranger.” he added.

“And you do hear stories about caretakers abusing patients. But it’s all about good chemistry and earning trust. Often, they can develop a deep relationship, and both the caretaker and patient will look forward to being there.”

That’s what motivated Sharon Morris and her husband, Brad, to open Safe and Sound Home Care, an Oxford, Miss., agency that provides home care throughout Northern Mississippi. Sharon Morris said they started the firm in 2011 because their own family members were getting older and needed care.

“Our goal is to keep them in their own home,” she said. “We meet with the family to discuss their situation - their needs, their budget, their desire. For many, it’s critically important for them to keep loved ones in their home.

“Our plans are all designed to keep loved ones safe, living in their homes.” But typically, the decision often comes down to financing - and guilt.

“Every family budget is different, and that’s a huge consideration when caring for loved ones,” Morris said. “The budget is as important as the type of care they need.”

Morris also said that when it’s time to move them to an assisted living community or skilled nursing facility, guilt often overwhelms the family.

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“Every family struggles with that,” she said. “The promises we make are that we’re going to get them the very best care we can. We’re not breaking a promise. We’re still making that decision out of love.”

Zarlingo faced that decision about six months ago.

Despite the pangs of guilt, she convinced her father that moving to Mississippi would be best for everyone.

“I told him, ‘While you’re sitting in your house alone, I can’t come by and pick you up,’” Zarlingo said. “’If you move here, your quality of life will be so much better.’ You have to weigh the pros and cons. But if you leave them in their own house, eventually all these bad things can happen.”

After deciding it was time for her father to move, Zarlingo turned to Hermitage Gardens of Southaven, an assisted living and memory care facility in Southaven, Miss. She said Laura Hicks and her staff at Hermitage Gardens guided 62 DeSoto

her through Gonzalez’s move from Miami to Mississippi.

“The process of moving an elderly person can be confusing,” Zarlingo said. “There are resources out there, but you don’t know what they are until you get into it. The system is very confusing, but Laura saved my sanity.”

Hicks said waiting too long to prepare for an elderly person’s next stage in life often can exacerbate an already stressful situation.

“The aging parent doesn’t ask for help, and the adult child notices, sometimes, too late,” she said. “(There’s) denial that their parent can no longer care for themselves properly (and) the realization that their roles will now reverse, and the adult child now becomes the ‘parent’ to their parent.”

Dr. Chelsea Crittle, aging program director for the Central Mississippi Planning and Development District, said some people run away from the inevitable when they begin to

see those changes and role reversals within their family.

“A lot of times, we fail to plan ahead,” Crittle said. “We don’t always think to have that conversation now, prior to a crisis.”

In many cases, the family member handles the caretaking duties themselves.

But that can lead to even more tension, Crittle said.

“Caretaking can be so stressful that sometimes, the caretaker dies before the parent,” she said. Most states offer respite care, Crittle said, which gives family members a break from full-time care taking.

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home for short periods of time and allow the family member to take a nap, go to the movies or have some alone time.

Although she had a full-time caretaker for her father, Zarlingo’s stress level increased dramatically after she realized that her father could no longer stay in his home. And that was compounded while dealing with all of his subsequent problems that stemmed from his health issues - refurbishing and selling his house, clearing the ID theft fiasco and getting him veteran’s benefits.

“When you come into care of an elderly person, most of the time, it’s all of a sudden,” Zarlingo said. “All of a sudden, you are a caretaker, and it’s a scary thing. I was trying to do this while doing my job and taking care of my family. That part was a nightmare.”

For many families, a certified aging care manager, one who isn’t associated with a particular facility, can help navigate through the maze of legal issues, finances, resources and crisis management.

“We walk them through everything step by step,” said Amy Natt, an aging care manager and owner of Aging Outreach Services in Southern Pines, N.C. “We talk to them about their history, their goals, their finances, and then we provide them with a report with recommendations.

“We’re also a clearinghouse of information about resources within their community. In the end, they’ll walk away with some type of blueprint or plan of care.”

Planning ahead should be a family’s mantra when dealing with aging loved ones, Natt said. And although Zarlingo said she’s happy with the way things turned out for her father, she would have done several things differently - including more planning ahead. Getting their power of attorney and understanding their finances were two important factors Zarlingo had to handle while in crisis mode.

“I would recommend doing those things way before anything happens,” she said.

In fact, Zarlingo and her husband already are discussing long-term care insurance policies for themselves so their two children can be ahead of the game when their time comes.

“You have to be proactive because this can be very hard on families,” Zarlingo said.

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Couples who

fit

together

By Devin Greaney. Photography courtesy of Devin Greaney, Sam Dean and Todd Bush

It’s that romance time of year again. Instead of struggling with the same old flowers and candy routine, why not delve deeper and discover the many ways to keep a relationship fit--together. For those who are set up on a blind date, been married for years or somewhere in between, a quiet evening with a movie and popcorn is routine. A day of getting out and moving is better.

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I live in Memphis; I’m seeing someone who lives in the Kansas City area.

Though the absence can be difficult, one benefit is we have learned about what’s available between our homes. There is the urban energy found in St Louis, Missouri.

Branson has its shows and wineries dot the landscape all over. But one consistent thing that brings us closer together occurs far from the expected date sites. We hike.

Even when those hills teach us flat landers some humility, it still brings us closer as a couple, helps us connect with our spiritual sides and it’s a lot of fun. We’ve never caught ourselves saying afterwards, “I wish we didn’t go on that hike.”

Ironically, when the young date, they focus their attentions on just this idea of staying active. Most likely, a couple or two went to a place like East End skating rink.

Or any rink in the area for that matter. On a recent Saturday evening it was East End in the Fox Meadows - Hickory Hill area just as it has been since the 1970s. Few changes have taken place since that time.

Along with their parents and those who have a way to go before the teenage years hit, the rink was full. Few could stop in there and not think of their own past, remembering light hitting the mirrored ball as (insert the name of a top 40 song from when you were 14) plays. And there was always that weird feeling in your feet once you took off the skates.

That’s first date, teenage stuff.

Joyce and Jerry Brown have been married for 27 years. Joyce teaches classes at the Downtown Memphis YMCA. Jerry attends.

This morning was a class day and both were decked out in their workout best. But that is not all they do as a couple. They run together.

“We’re competitive. We make a game out of it. Whoever makes the longest run gets to name the restaurant where we have lunch,” Jerry said. They work out on the machines at the Y. They also enjoy biking and recently they took a hiking tour of Yellowstone.

It would make a great story to say they met at the 1986 Memphis Express Marathon, but perhaps their story is more interesting. “We didn’t exercise when we first met and then we started walking on a track then we worked ourselves into running and then to races,” Jerry said.

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vice versa,” according to Joyce. Generally they run three to eight miles.

And their ages? Joyce is 73 and Jerry is 67. No, that is not a misprint. “I go to our class reunion and a lot are on walkers or very heavy or in poor health,” said Joyce.

Or perhaps you and your significant other may be motivated to try something new. While we aren’t close to ski resorts, we aren’t exactly far away either. Craig Distl is the public relations director for the three B’s in Western North Carolina- Banner Elk, Beech Mountain and Boone. This isn’t the Rockies so all of the slopes have artificial snow machines.

In addition to skiing, the adventuresome duo can even try snow tubing.

“The nice thing about Beech Mountain is it’s a town rather than just a ski resort. It makes for a nice couple’s getaway,” he said. For those not quite daring enough for the downhill, Sugar Mountain offers the slower-paced snowshoe tours.

The French Swiss Ski College is located in Blowing Rock. “It’s an excellent place to start out,” he said. “Their philosophy is if you take three classes you’ll learn the sport for life,” he added. Each lesson is one or two hours. And in the other seasons 30 miles of hiking trails make their way through 70 DeSoto

the mountains and, in Hawksnest, ziplines.

Outdoor adventures can still be found close to home.

An eight-mile challenge, the Chickasaw Bluffs trail covers the highlands and lowlands of Meeman Shelby Forest State Park.

That is eight miles one way, so take two cars if you want to do the start to finish and not walk 16 miles. Another handy tip to keep things more romantic than pesky, it’s a good idea to keep the bug spray handy.

Another way to keep relationships fit without the insecticide or gym clothes involves only 20 minutes to get started. The Rumba Room located at 303 South Main offers free (that is included with the cover charge) salsa lessons on Saturday nights around 9:45 p.m. The introductory lesson lasts about 20 minutes---just long enough to get those newbies up to speed. Edgar Mendez and Lacresha Skillern were the instructors for tonight.

“Five, six, basic step one two three. Five, six, turn …”

He said “one two three …” he continued. This time, the crowd of 30 or so had the footwork down and they were moving on from partner to partner, twirling and moving to that Latin American-Northern American hybrid music that says “ just dance”. When the music started, sans Mendez’ voice, everyone seemed competent though a few were probably counting

“We’re

competitive.

We make a game out of it.

Whoever makes the longest run gets to name the restaurant where we have lunch.”

Jerry Brown

out steps in their heads. There is no smoking, an added plus for the fitnessminded couple.

Whatever the motive to get up and go, the opportunity is there.

There are the Smoky Mountains to the East, The Ozarks to the West. We have kayaking on the Buffalo River in Arkansas, or even the area’s bestkept secret- the Wolf River in Fayette County, Tennessee. And Joyce Brownthe YMCA teacher- sums up why fitness and togetherness is important.

“We have the same goals and it keeps us fit. We want to have a healthy lifestyle so we can have more time together.”

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homegrown } caroline taylor jewelry

Engraved Upon the Heart

By Robin Gallaher Branch. Photography courtesy of Caroline Taylor Jewelry

Corrin Taylor started her jewelry business two years ago with a story to tell.

“We have a special needs child and I needed to supplement our income as a stay-at-home mom,” she said.

Her daughter, Caroline Taylor, who was born with cerebral palsy, is becoming well known first because of the company that bears her name. She’s the star of Caroline Taylor Jewelry, a Brooksville, Mississippi, business.

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The second reason, her mother fondly laughs, is because of her “bright red hair, limpy legs, and willing smile.

She captures everyone’s attention. Everyone comes up to her.”

Caroline, now seven, does not speak and is immobile.

Nonetheless, she knows what phrases like “you’re Daddy’s girl” mean and she communicates her wishes.

While her mother works on necklaces and bracelets, Caroline is nearby in her wheelchair watching a Disney movie.

Her father, Vance Taylor, is outside working on the farm in Noxubee County. The land supports cattle, timber, and row crops.

The family chips in caring for Caroline. Both grandmothers take turns. Caroline’s older sisters are nurses in Tuscaloosa and Jackson. “Their expertise comes in handy when Caroline has to go to the hospital,” Corrin said. “They dote on her.”

Corrin Taylor, 36, graduated with a degree in business from Mississippi State University. The idea for a jewelry business grew naturally because of family interests. Glenda Taylor, Corrin’s mother-in-law, has been participating in jewelry and craft shows for years.

Glenda purchased an engraving machine, and Corrin began to individualize jewelry. “We’re Southern and we love to have everything personalized,” she said.

Her necklaces are 14-karat gold filled; she engraves on a gold bar about an inch long; it holds between 13 and 15 characters on each side. Her necklaces and bracelets average $40 to $50. Her most popular necklace lengths are 16 and 18 inches.

As the business grew, what she found is that customers return. Furthermore, these customers not only layer (add necklaces of longer lengths) but also give necklaces to friends.

One returnee is Arma Delacruz, vice president of a Starkville marketing and design firm. “I just love the Caroline Taylor necklaces. They’re durable. They’re classic but trendy,” Delacruz said. She never takes them off. The gold necklaces last through workouts and showers. “They look gorgeous!”

Delacruz exclaimed.

Delacruz gives them as gifts, personalizing each with a name, date, or Bible verse. One fun gift for a special friend was a phrase that summed her up. The jewelry said Wild Child.

“She loved it!” Delacruz laughed.

Caroline Taylor Jewelry started slowly with family and friends as beneficiaries and walking advertisers. People saw the personalized gold necklaces, liked the look, and asked about it.

“All my jewelry is dainty; it’s not bulky” Taylor said. “It has a timeless look without over doing it.”

In addition to word-of-mouth advertising, Taylor went modern. “I’ve been able to do an amazing amount of business because of social media,” she said.

Her necklaces and bracelets combine a flat gold bar and gold chains. Taylor assembles the pieces and engraves the bar on the back and front. What’s a memorable piece?

Well, all are memorable, Taylor begins, because all the engravings make memories. But the necklace that makes her smile had a question, Marry me?, on one side and a date on the other.

The hopeful groom “put the necklace in a box, took it to Orange Beach in Alabama, and proposed there,” Taylor said. She learned that his sweetheart accepted.

Each necklace tells a story. Taylor learns and treasures them, just as her clients learn and treasure the story of Caroline Taylor. The jewelry’s motto, “Personally made, uniquely yours,” entwines a new business with the lives it serves.

Orders frequently come with a tight turnaround time because of an upcoming special date. “I always try to get an order out within the next day or so,” Taylor said. She works predominantly in gold because it is currently more popular than silver.

Taylor intends to expand in 2016. Her male customers want something, too. “I’m looking at some sort of personalized necklace for men, perhaps a combination of leather and a stainless steel bar, something three dimensional,” she said.

Another 2016 possibility is earrings that are personalized, probably with initials. Again, Taylor’s good taste and propensity toward daintiness will prevail. Taylor intends to start working on rings as well.

A third thought for 2016 is to personalize engraving in a client’s own handwriting. Right now she uses fonts called Block and Interlocking Script.

Certainly the situation faced by the Taylor family presents challenges. Caroline’s condition means her health is fragile. “But a lot of doctors have told us that as long as she is being well cared for, she will live a long and lengthy life. She’s a gift,” Taylor said.

Has the family some advice to share? Taylor’s answer showed the smile in her voice. “In our situation with a special needs child, you have to be strong. You have to take a leap of faith. I’m a Christian, and I don’t second-guess God. Everything is a gift and should be cherished.”

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southern harmony } home free

Go Where I Send Thee

By Debra Pamplin. Photography courtesy Home Free

It’s not often that northern bands head due south, gaining such success they even get a shot at remastering songs about the devil in Georgia, all the while singing A cappella.

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fter Home Free’s ‘Country Evolution’ album was released on September 18th to critical acclaim, it became clear the Minnesota-born band had set new roots across the country, particularly adopting southern sounds.

The A cappella group’s second album landed the number four spot on the Top Country Charts and number 48 on the Billboard 200.

These are some pretty impressive stats from a very impressive vocals-only music group. Many fans learned about Home Free when they won top place in the 2013 season of ‘The Sing Off’. From that springboard, the group gained popularity.

But the amazing A cappella sounds of this group started long before their national TV debut.

Home Free got its’ unofficial start back in 2000, when Minnesota brothers Andy and Chris Rupp created the group, along with three friends. At its’ infancy, the group was more or less a hobby for the boys.

Some of the original members were still in their teens when the group was formed. Their name was taken from a founding member’s grandfather’s boat.

By 2007, the group had a large enough following to pursue their singing dreams full time. Many changes have taken place for the group in the last eight years. While members have come and gone, Chris and Andy Rupp still remain. Chris lays down the beatbox, while Andy harmonizes with his strong baritone vocals.

Other current members of the group include Austin Brown (lead tenor), Tim Foust (bass), and Rob Lundquist (tenor).

Georgia native Brown was working on Carnival Cruise Lines as a singer when Home Free was the musical act. The five singers met and became pretty good friends. At the end of the 2012 cruise, Brown let the group know that if an opening ever came about, he would be interested in joining. Coincidentally, the original tenor married and in 2012, he stepped down to stay home more often. Brown happily accepted the lead tenor opening. His first concert as lead was October of 2012.

Texas native Tim Foust had released a solo album and was pursuing a career of both singer and songwriter before signing on full time in January 2012.

Rob Lundquist joined the group back in 2008, calling Minnesota home, just like the Rupp brothers.

With the addition of Foust and Brown, the group started veering away from performing multiple musical genres

to primarily singing country. The group had auditioned for the first three seasons of ‘The Sing Off’, but weren’t accepted until their fourth try. They claimed the title of a country group, and claimed the attention of the ‘The Sing-Off’s’ casting director.

During an interview, Brown revealed the casting director’s words, “You guys really fit something we don’t have’. They made their way through the season, reached the finals and were crowned 2013’s champs.

There were plenty of guest artists on the ‘Country Evolution’ album. Country Classic giants such as the Charlie Daniels Band and the Oak Ridge Boys made vocal appearances.

Home Free collaborated with Charlie Daniels on his famous hit, “The Devil Went Down to Georgia”, providing a smart arrangement, close to the original, but with Home Free’s unique spin.

The same pairing resulted in a modern twist on the Oak Ridge Boys’ hit, “Elvira”. It was the perfect blend of new and classic, and has introduced a new generation to country from the 80s.

That kind of perfection didn’t go unnoticed by other classic country stars. When Kenny Rogers approached the group, Lundquist said they didn’t hesitate.

“Yes, anything you want us to be a part of, we’ll do it,” he said. The group joined forces with the country music legend for the single, “Children, Go Where I Send Thee”, on his ‘Once Again It’s Christmas’ album.

The meeting was purely happenstance.

“My two boys are in elementary school and they are taking choir. Their choir teacher told me, ‘you need to check out Home Free — you will love them!’ So I checked them out, and they were impressive. I first heard them do ‘Ring Of Fire’.

It takes so much vocal talent to do what they do. They were so nice to work with musically, and they’re exceptionally well driven. It was a lot of fun getting to know them a bit and having them join me on the Christmas album,” said Rogers.

Home Free’s tour is in full swing across the nation. In 2016, the group will spread their tight harmonies across the globe in Ireland and the United Kingdom before returning stateside in May.

Can’t see them in person? Subscribe to their YouTube Channel, or follow their Facebook page for official music videos. Their music can be purchased on iTunes.

Full tour schedule can be found at homefreemusic.com

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table talk} mesquite chop house Surf and Turf

Steaking Out Good Food

By James and Dorothy Richardson. Photography courtesy of Mesquite Chop House

Mesquite Chop House must be doing something right because four Mesquite Chop Houses are scattered around the Mid-South: Downtown Memphis and Germantown, Tennessee, and Oxford and Southaven, Mississippi.

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Primarily a steak house, all Chop House menus feature a wide range of fare, from steaks and pork chops to chicken, fish, and pasta--even wild game!

“The menus, I would say, are 90 percent the same.

We are a steak house and all our steaks are prime cuts and we get the highest quality when it comes to filets. We cut our own ribeyes in house. All the menus carry top-level certified Angus beef, all of our steaks, and all the same cuts on each menu,” explained Dustin Hornsby, general manager of the Southaven location.

But geography does play a small part, according to Hornsby.

“Each menu does vary depending on their location.

Some stores may have a couple different items that would fit that community. For instance, we being in Southaven, we have a very experienced group of people when it comes to wild game.

We try to have a little bit more wild game on our menu than say the Germantown or the Downtown locations. Although, they do have wild game on their menu, we may carry a few things more.”

Creating a distinction ranks high for Mesquite Chop House, and doing so, starts rather close.

“In some cases we get our wild game and beef locally. We have the opportunity throughout the years to use local companies. One of the unique qualities of Mesquite Chop House is that we own a farm which is in Holly Springs, Mississippi. We can get, when things are in season, our vegetables from the garden. We harvest them ourselves. We use different local farms to get our wild game. We try to get the best quality, best products, from farm to table.”

Not just any restaurant will have elk and venison entrees. Or quail. “We also carry quail. We have a fantastic game trio on our menu that we call our “Wild Game Trio.” It has venison, duck, as well as quail on it. It’s really a great price ($21.00.) Diners will get to taste all three types,” said Hornsby.

All of the Mesquite Chop Houses are open only for dinner beginning at 5:00 p.m. and closing at 10:00 or 11:00 p.m. The bars at all locations open at 4:00 p.m. In addition to the varied dinner menu, all of their locations offer an extensive wine list. All the restaurants have monthly wine dinners.

Generally, it’s the last week of the month. Hornsby mentioned his Southaven location.

“We do very special dinners at all stores that we pair with different wines. And we occasionally have special events, like bourbon dinners, where diners get to taste a particular brand of bourbon, or very high end bourbon, that we pair also with some culinary items.”

Since February means Valentine’s Day, there will be specials for that occasion. “We will be running specials in February. Dinner will be a three-course meal for two people at a special price, with options for each course.”

The Southaven Mesquite Chop House has been open for nine years, according to its general manager. “I’ve been in this business since I was fifteen years old. I started like everybody does...in the dish pit...washing dishes. One of my first jobs was at T.J. Mulligan’s. It kinda grew from there and my first management job was at the Peabody Hotel at the

Capriccio Grill. After I left there I went to Dallas to become the general manager of their Texas de Brazil restaurant. And eventually made my way to Mesquite Chop House. I’ve been here for two years.”

With that resume, it is easy to see why the Southaven Mesquite Chop House is faring (pardon the pun) so well.

The four restaurants are owned and managed by the River City Management Group in Memphis. Each location has investors that have a stake in each of the Chop Houses, but it is the management group that ultimately owns and manages all the locations.

”The community here in Southaven is fantastic. The people who come and join us on a daily basis are some of the nicest that I have had the opportunity to serve and it’s really a fantastic situation for me,” Hornsby said. “Southaven is really a dream come true for me. We are an upscale restaurant but, at the same time, we try to keep our atmosphere like that of a family place. We like our friends to come and dine with us.”

And they are and they do.

For location addresses visit mesquitechophouse.com

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Hot Chocolate, all grown-up

By Cheré Coen. Photography courtesy of offbeatandinspired.com

It may be the New Year brings a slew of healthy resolutions and goals, but here’s one cocktail that will warm your insides and bring you cheer without the ever-ensuing guilt. Okay, so it’s made with milk, sweet liqueurs and rum, but you can at least argue that the chocolate ingredients are healthy.

“We’re not talking about chocolate in the form of sugary, mass-produced candy bars,” insists Maxine Clark in the introduction of her decadent cookbook, “Chocolate: deliciously indulgent recipes for chocolate lovers.” “Proper chocolate made with over 60 percent cocoa solids and few additives other than a little sugar and vanilla, when consumed in small doses, is good for you.”

Clark offers the perfect winter chocolate drink, a hot spiced rum made with dark chocolate that is sure to please any valentine. It’s also perfect if you need a pick-me-up from all that exercise and dieting.

“This is an instant mood lifter — make this drink when you are feeling a bit dejected and you cannot fail to feel fabulous,” Clark writes. “Watch out — it is quite potent. If you are feeling utterly miserable, the only answer is to top it with whipped cream and sink into comfort oblivion.”

Directions: Put the milk, chocolate, star anise, orange peel and honey in a pan and heat gently, stirring, until the chocolate has melted.

Remove and discard the star anise. Add the rum and Grand Marnier and liquidize in a blender or with a handheld blender until completely smooth and frothy. Pour into a warmed glass with a stainless steel spoon sitting in it to absorb the heat and prevent the glass from cracking. Garnish with cinnamon sticks, if using. Drink immediately and feel fabulous!

Note: This drink can also be served in the summer. Use 1 3/4 cups milk and heat as before but let cool (keeping the star anise in to infuse the milk). Remove the star anise, stir in the liqueurs, and pour into a blender filled with a handful of ice cubes. Blend until smooth, then pour into a chilled glass, sip and feel restored.

Hot Spiced Rum Chocolate

2 1/2 cups milk 2 1/2 ounces dark chocolate (60-70 percent cocoa solids), chopped 2 whole star anise Finely grated peel of 1/2 unwaxed orange 1 tablespoon orange-blossom or acacia honey 2 1/2 ounces spiced rum 1 1/2 ounce Grand Marnier or other orange liqueur Cinnamon sticks, to garnish (optional) A large glass, warmed A stainless steel spoon

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exploring events } february Jason Aldean February 4 Landers Center Southaven, MS 7:30 PM Purchase tickets at LANDERS Center box office at 662-4702131, www.ticketmaster.com, Ticketmaster 1-800-745-3000 or at Ticketmaster outlets.

Hearts and Flowers: WinterArts Presents Gifts for Valentines!

February 5 - 14 Shops of Saddle Creek Germantown, TN Specially crafted wishes in glass, metal, fiber, and more. Hours: Friday, Feb 5th Noon to 8p then Mondays – Thursdays and Saturdays 10am to 6pm; Friday February 12, 10am to 8pm; Sundays noon to 5pm, including Valentine’s Day. Pink in the Rink February 6 Landers Center Southaven, MS 7:05PM Help us PINK OUT the Landers Center for the Mississippi RiverKings 10th Annual Pink in the Rink game benefiting WINGS Supportive Care Division. The RiverKings players will be wearing pink jerseys for the game and breast cancer survivors will be honored at the game. Also, our friends from Pink Heals Memphis Mid-South will be there with Ida Mildred, the pink fire truck. Get your fundraiser tickets NOW, just $16 and can be purchased by contacting Caitlin McCaskill at 901.497.2879 or cmccaskill@westclinic.com by Feb. 3.

Memphis Open February 6-14 Racquet Club of Memphis Memphis, TN For event schedule and to purchase tickets visit www.memphisopen.com.

Barry Manilow February 10 FedEx Forum Memphis, TN 7:30 PM To purchase tickets visit, forummemphis.com.

Mary Poppins February 12-14 and 18-21 Vicksburg Theatre Guild Vicksburg, MS Shows: February 12-14 & 18-21, 2016; Thurs., Fri., & Sat. at 7:30 p.m., Sun. at 2 p.m. Everyone’s favorite nanny takes the stage in this Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious musical adventure.

For more information visit vicksburgtheatreguild.com.

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Disney Live on Tour! Mickey & Minnie’s Doorway to Magic February 12-16 Landers Center Southaven, MS Join Mickey Mouse, Minnie Mouse and the comical duo of Donald and Goofy as 25 of your favorite Disney characters surprise and captivate at every turn of the knob! Purchase tickets at LANDERS Center box office 662-470-2131, www. ticketmaster.com, Ticketmaster Outlets or call Ticketmaster at 800-745-3000. All ages 1 and older require a ticket.

The Krewe of Hernando 5th Annual Mardi Gras Ball February 13 US National Guard Armory Hernando, MS 8:30PM - 1:30AM The Krewe of Hernando presents their Annual Mardi Gras Ball with entertainment, drinks and light food. Black tie optional and mask required. Live performance by City Mix. Tickets $75, which includes all drinks and light food.

Tickets will be available beginning January 15 in Hernando at the Hernando Public Library, the Hernando Chamber of Commerce, BancorpSouth Commerce St. Also in Southaven at Goin’ Postal. *Must present ticket at the door. Proceeds benefit Hernando non-profits. For details visit the Krewe of Hernando Facebook page.

DeSoto Family Theater presents “The King and I” February 19-28 Landers Center Southaven, MS Tickets are $15-$30. Season membership tickets are $55 for Child, Student and Seniors; $65 for Adults and $90 for Premium Section Seats (Center Section, Rows A-E). Purchase tickets at LANDERS Center box office, 662-470-2131, www. ticketmaster.com or call the DFT office at 662-280-6546. For additional information visit, www.dftonline.org.

Memphis Heart Ball February 20 The Peabody Hotel Memphis, TN 6:30PM - Midnight To purchase tickets email sarah.zambroni@heart.org or call 901-383-5421.

Dancing For Our Stars February 27 First Choice Catering Horn Lake, MS 6:00PM- 10:00PM First Choice Catering presents “Dancing For Our Stars,” benefiting the Baddour Center. This annual event is modeled after the popular television show, Dancing With the Stars.

The event pairs seasoned dancers with community leader “celebrities” for a competition. Heavy appetizers and Cash Bar, 6pm-7pm; the event begins at 7pm. Support your favorite dancing duo by voting ($1 per vote) at dancingforourstars.com.

Please wear Cocktail Attire.

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Twilight Tennis

By Karen Ott Mayer.

Photography courtesy of huffingtonpost.com

Kentucky summers found us kids outside during our growing years. Pulling wagons, engaging in crab apple wars, running from yard to yard and riding bikes. The word fitness never really entered our minds as we played away the humid summer days in search of some new adventure or mischief.

Bikes were our passport to anywhere and our favorite ride was to the local pool. Early mornings found us packing up sandwiches, tennis rackets and enough pool paraphernalia to keep us stocked on all day. We’d stuff our baskets or carry bags over our shoulders.

Looking back, I imagine the ride through local neighborhoods and across an empty field spanned a few miles, but for small legs, it felt like a million miles. I can clearly remember the route and the degree of difficulty, especially this particular dirt rise at the end of the field just before we hit pavement again.

Beyond all the biking and swimming activity, another one kept my mind preoccupied: tennis. Often, lacking a partner when siblings grumpily went another direction, I spent time hitting the ball on a wall designated just for that...hitting the ball alone. If I was lucky, no one was around and I could practice in private. I had no desire to pursue any team sports as the idea of mass movement panicked me. A good book and the piano held my interest.

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rackets in hand. Avid players, my Dad taught us kids how to hit a ball and I loved the times I could claim him all by myself. With four kids, waiting for a turn seemed an eternity.

Or watching them finish a match, we knew he’d have a little steam left to play with us before heading home.

Years later even when I was in high school, we’d head to the local courts, hoping to find a free court. Dad was a good player, and more importantly, never said an unkind word when I walloped the ball over the fence, resembling a home run more than a tennis shot.

Tennis balls were gold at my house. Buckets of rather worn, half-inflated balls gathered in the garage and we kids could use those to our heart’s content. When we actually found a new ball or got permission to open a new can, we felt somehow privileged.

In this month of a leap year, my father will be 80. As I write, he’s on some court in Florida still trying to hit a ball.

When I asked how he was doing the other day, my mother said he was out playing tennis.

“How’d he do?” I asked.

“Fine,” she said, then hesitated. “He didn’t play too long because his partner got dizzy and had to sit down.”

On a warm summer night, even now, whenever I see kids on a tennis court, I am transported to those uncomplicated times. All we wanted was a racket, a good ball and Dad to hit balls with us. And all seemed right.

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