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As a college student, I was heavily involved on my campus as President of the NAACP to bring more faculty of color to the university as well as increasing the number of African American students on campus. Our efforts resulted in being awarded national recognition by the NAACP two years in a row in the early 90s. Those leadership experiences shaped my involvement for the past twenty years in the Dallas area. I recently donated my college papers to the university because I became concerned that millennial only knew of the struggle in the 60s and believed future generations were apathetic, leaving them to address issues that currently plagued our communities. I mentor several young women and this was a reoccurring theme. They were unaware of
Rodney King, the role of African American college students in fighting companies that supported apartheid and the many fights for equity after the era of Civil Rights. I decided to donate my papers during my time as a college student to change the narrative and leave a historical record of what really happened. As a college student, I worked in the Library's Archives Department at the University of Texas at Arlington. I was in the first class of the McNair Program at UTA which was designed to encourage students of color to pursue graduate studies. . I remember a local photographer/socialite who donated her papers to the library and I was responsible for preparing her records for viewing. I realized as a young woman that her
donation added another voice to the history of the local area. I realized as well that researchers would use her papers to document history. The donation of my papers was to do just that 20 + years later...I wanted to make sure that my experiences and what my colleagues and I addressed were fully represented when others began to write and discuss history. I also hope that by doing this, it would inspire others to keep their papers, to tell their stories so that those gems of information would not be lost or reconstructed to tell a different story. Narratives are powerful and important and as African American women, we must be intentional in keeping our stories alive and building a legacy for future generations.
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Cr ock -Pot Ch icken an d Du m plin gs By Lauren Miyashiro
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1 onion, chopped 1 1/4 lb. Boneless Skinless Chicken Breast 1 tsp. oregano kosher salt Freshly ground black pepper 2 cans cream of chicken soup 2 c. low-sodium chicken broth 4 sprigs thyme 1 bay leaf 2 stalks celery, chopped 2 carrots, chopped 1 c. frozen peas, thawed 3 cloves garlic, minced 1 tube refrigerated biscuit dough
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1/2 c. freshly grated Parmesan, for garnish optional) 2 tbsp. chopped parsley
DIRECTIONS 1. To the bowl of a large slow cooker, add onion in an even layer in the bottom of the bowl and place chicken breasts on top. Add oregano and season with salt and pepper. 2. Pour soup and chicken broth on top then add the thyme and bay leaf. Cover and cook on high for 3 hours, or until the chicken is cooked
through. 3. Discard thyme and bay leaf, then shred the cooked chicken with two forks. Stir in celery, carrots, peas and garlic. 4. Cut biscuits into small pieces. Top the chicken mixture with the biscuits and cook on high for another hour, until the vegetables are tender and the biscuits are cooked through and chicken reaches an internal temperature of 170° F. 5. Garnish with Parmesan and parsley and serve
Tabitha spent her first 18 years on the Caribbean island of Trinidad. She moved to NYC during the winter of 2001 and immediately wished she had packed the sun. At 25, amidst a quarter-life crisis, Tabitha enrolled in and studied Fashion Design at the Fashion Institute of Technology. She went on to work in the corporate fashion industry before launching her brand, Tabii Just in 2012. With a beginner ?s knowledge of responsible living, Tabitha pledged to become a lifelong student of conscientious living and surround herself with women who rock the world with each step. She often waxes poetic on panel discussions about zero waste, responsibility in consumption and local production. Follow her on Instagram @tabiijust.
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Recent statistics show that half of working Americans said that the demands and stresses of work interfere with their sleep. Approximately two-thirds of working mothers believe American businesses and technology - such as email, tablets, and smart-phones are making it ?nearly impossible?for them to juggle work and family demands. Perhaps worse of all, the majority of working parents report missing important events in their personal lives due to work obligations.
Today, the traditional ?9 to 5? workday has been replaced with increased expectations to be available nearly 24 hours a day, seven days a week. As a result, spending quality time with family and achieving that elusive work-life balance seems further out of reach than ever before. Fr om a m u lt i-cu lt u r al back gr ou n d, Cr aw f or d is t h e Pr esiden t of Bu bble Pop Beau t y, LLC, an At lan t a-based, e-com m er ce h air an d sk in car e br an d design ed
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2 boxes brownie mix (plus required ingredients) 2 quarts vanilla ice cream 4 Snickers bars, chopped 1/2 c. hot fudge sauce, warmed 1/2 c. dolce de leche, warmed
DIRECTIONS 1. Preheat oven to 350 F. 2. Prepare brownie batter according to package instructions. Divide batter between two 8? round baking pans lined with parchment paper. Bake for 30-40 minutes, until a toothpick inserted into the center of the brownie comes out clean. Cool in pan for 10 minutes, then invert the brownies onto a cooling rack to cool completely. When the brownies are cool, freeze for 30 minutes. 3. Put 1 frozen brownie onto a serving platter. Scoop ice cream on top to form an even layer. Sprinkle with chopped Snickers. Top with the second frozen brownie. Place the cake in the freezer and freeze for 1 hour. 4. Top the frozen cake with more ice cream scoops. Drizzle with hot fudge and dulce de leche then sprinkle with Snickers. Place in the freezer for another hour. 5. Slice and serve!
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Cr ock -Pot St u f f ed Pepper s By Len a Abr ah am
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1 lb. ground beef 1 (15-oz.) can black beans, drained 1 (15-oz.) can diced fire-roasted tomatoes, drained 2 c. shredded Monterey jack cheese, divided 1 c. cooked white rice 1 c. frozen corn, defrosted 1 tsp. cumin 1 tsp. chili powder 1/2 tsp. garlic powder 1/2 tsp. oregano kosher salt Freshly ground black pepper 4 bell peppers, tops and seeds removed 1 tbsp. Chopped cilantro, for garnish Sour cream, for serving
DIRECTIONS 1. In a large bowl, combine beef with beans, tomatoes, 1 cup cheese, rice, corn, cumin, chili powder, garlic powder and oregano. Stir until all ingredients are fully incorporated. Season with salt and pepper. 2. Stuff peppers with beef mixture and place them in Crock-Pot, open side up. Cover and cook on high for 3 hours. 3. When peppers are tender, top peppers with remaining cheese and cover. Cook on low for 5-10
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INGREDIENTS - Fruit sodas (raspberry, orange and grape) - vanilla ice cream - Decorative straws (optional)
DIRECTIONS 1. Add two scoops of ice cream to each tall glass. Pour over fruit soda to fill glass. Add straws and serve.
- D oris H obbs In the past year, we?ve seen a return to classic beauty with many of today?s Hollywood actresses taking a cue from silver screen sirens Elizabeth Taylor, Marilyn Monroe, Grace Kelly, and Rita Hayworth. With classic silhouettes and a few glitzy accessories you can also possess a similar appearance of sophistication and femininity which once graced the golden age of fashion.
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¼ c. extra-virgin olive oil 2 tbsp. extra-virgin olive oil ¼ c. minced rosemary 3 tbsp. minced fresh lavender leaves (see Note) 4 clove garlic 1 boneless leg of lamb kosher salt Freshly ground black pepper 6 medium shallots ½ c. pitted Medjool dates 1 tsp. honey ¼ c. apple cider vinegar
DIRECTIONS 1. Preheat the oven to 450 degrees F. In a small bowl, whisk 1/4 cup of the olive oil with the rosemary, lavender, and garlic. Season the lamb all over with salt and pepper. Rub half of the herb oil all over the inside of the lamb, then roll up the meat and tie with kitchen string to form a neat roast. Spread the remaining herb oil all over the roast and set it on a rimmed baking sheet. 2. Roast the lamb for about 15 minutes, until just starting to brown. Reduce the oven temperature to 375 degrees F and roast the lamb for about 1 hour longer, until an instant-read thermometer inserted in the thickest part registers 130 degrees F for rare meat. Transfer the lamb to a carving board and let rest for 30 minutes. 3. Meanwhile, in a medium saucepan, heat the remaining 2 tablespoons of olive oil until shimmering. Add the shallots, dates, honey, and a pinch of salt and cook over moderate heat, stirring occasionally, until the shallots are softened, about 7 minutes. Add the vinegar and cook, stirring occasionally, until most of the liquid has evaporated and the jam is thick, 3 to 5 minutes; season with salt and let cool. 4. Untie the lamb roast and slice the meat against the grain. Serve with the shallot-date j
On a recent visit to Palm Springs, I met a gentleman by the name of Paul, a charming man in his late 60?s. I was at a local espresso bar reading the Compound Effect by Darren Hardy as he leaned over in his chair and stated,?Want to know the secret in life??With a perplexed face I smiled and said sarcastically,?You know the secret of life, how much will it cost me to know??I imagined he was a novice.
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"As a female African American inventor I never thought I had other inventors like me to look up to because we were never taught about them in school. Learning about Benjamin Banneker was when my inquisitive mind began to grow. Learning about
people like George Washington Carver, Dr. Shirley Jackson, and countless others that did not let adversities and prejudices prevent them from reaching for the stars. When I start feeling down and conquered by life I need only look to the people that walked this path before me."
Felicia Jackson, the inventor and owner of CPR Wrap, has experienced the trauma of cardiac arrest firsthand. She was certified in CPR but froze when her toddler son stopped breathing in the back seat of her car. Thanks to the quick actions of her husband, their son survived, but
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As a civil rights advocate I marvel at the courage of Harriet Tubman, the organizational skills of Rosa Parks, and Ella Baker ?s ability to mobilize those who believed in freedom. I am in awe at the resilience of the mothers of our martyred children, Emmett, Trayvon, Michael, Eric, Sandra, Rekia, Shantel and Philando. I am encouraged by the vision of Arielle Patrrice Scott and others developing innovative approaches to expanding opportunity and access through technology for our future leaders. Stella Adams, is the Chief of Equity and Inclusion for the National Community Reinvestment Coalition. The Division of Equity and Inclusion is designed to empower, organize and support economically vulnerable, individuals, communities and small businesses. Combining advocacy, organizing, technical assistance and direct services the Division promotes economically viable, sustainable, inclusive communities for all Americans free from discrimination.
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A major trend for Spring Summer 2018 is Ruffles. Because they disrupt the line on which they lay, the presence of ruffles on a garment is there purely as adornment. And for that reason, a woman has to be truly confident to wear them. Ruffles stand out to add a dash of drama to any dress and is not for the faint of heart. I used ruffles in my collection to suggest the fluttering of butterfly wings and the unfurling of petals and they bring an
unabashed sense of romance Colors are really important for the season. Often, designers are hesitant to delve deep into colors, especially in a city like New York where everyone seems determined to wear black. But I?m thrilled to see a more conspicuous presence of beautiful shades on the runways, including my own ? from sorbet shades to brighter tones of pink and yellow.
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Wom en Wh o Rock w it h Su ccess: Wh at ?s t h e in spir at ion an d w h at in spir ed you t o pu blish Sunne?s Gift? Am a: Sunne's Gift was actually inspired by a very terrible incident. I took my then 3-year-old son to the barber shop to get a hair-cut and asked the barber not to cut off all of his hair. A very low-cut is the simplest and easiest hair-cut for a barber to do on a fidgety toddler, so barbers tend to prefer that
style. I wanted to avoid that. However, the barber proceeded to shave off all of my son's hair, starting from the top and middle. When I protested, the barber responded by saying the following. He is a native boy from the tribe. This is the best cut for him.? I was horrified. The barber was black himself. Many black people have been brainwashed to believe that our naturally kinky hair is bad hair. Many black men shave their hair
really low so that the texture of their hair is not visible. Many black women chemically straighten their hair or wear wigs and weaves to cover their hair. The barber was clearly of that belief system and therefore unilaterally decided that my son's kinky hair should be shaved very low. I was deeply saddened by the barber 's perspective and his use of the racial pejorative.
I greatly wanted to teach a lesson about self-love that would help people of African descent to love their kinky hair, while providing a universal message of self-love and acceptance to people of all races. I did not think that I had creative writing ability. I had earned a BA from Harvard in Social Studies, an MBA from Wharton, and a law degree from The University of Pennsylvania. None of those degrees prepared me to become a writer.
But not long after the incident, I saw Marianne Williamson on Oprah and Marianne Williamson made a comment that art is no different from prayer and we can always pray to be a vehicle through which God gives art. I prayed for a story and received the story of Sunne's Gift. I did a Kick-starter to publish it and raised over $12,000 in 45 days. The book came out beautifully and I started using the book to do training programs on diversity and other issues, in my spare time. A little over a year after the book's release, I quit my job as a corporate lawyer at a major bank to go into publishing and training and development full time.
Now two years later, my company, Miles tales Publishing and Education Consulting (www.milestales.com), provides books and training programs on leadership, diversity, bullying prevention, social and emotional learning, and other topics to corporations, schools, and universities. Additionally, I have an FM radio show on WBAI Pacifica 99.5FM called How to Make it in The City (https://www.wbai.org/podcast/program/?id=5).
Wom en Wh o Rock w it h Su ccess: Nam e som e w ays of cr eat in g a bet t er en vir on m en t f or r acial back gr ou n d.
Am a: There are so many ways that we all can do the work of creating a better racial environment. First, we can examine our own circles of friends and colleagues and make a conscious effort to get to know people who have different racial and cultural backgrounds. We may accomplish that by asking a co-worker of a different ethnicity to come to lunch with us or inviting him or her to a gathering at our home. Many of us have unchallenged assumptions about people of other races because we have never taken the time to forge relationships with people of other backgrounds.
Second, we should make it a point to have respectful and candid conversations about race. When people say that they don't see race, I actually feel insulted. As someone of African descent, my skin color and hair texture are apart of my beauty and my cultural heritage is apart of who I am. People should see that. That said, the goal is to speak to one another about racial and cultural issues in a way that shows genuine openness and vulnerability. The next time a racially-charged incident occurs and is discussed in the news, actually ask your friends and colleagues of various racial backgrounds about their thoughts and listen to them with an open mind. Third, we should consciously expose ourselves and our children to diverse books and media. Please read Sunne's Gift with the children in your life and do the questions surrounding culture in the back. You can watch a foreign film or a film about people from a completely different background. Perhaps you can read a book about the immigrant experience. It is very easy to stay in the bubble of our own racial and cultural group, but we will not be able to move forward with respect to race relations without a conscious effort to forge better race relations on an individual level and community level. Last, I believe that institutions should invest in training programs on race and culture. I do such programs and all of my clients are so thankful after a training program. One of my most sought-after programs is on unconscious bias and micro-aggressions. The participants are usually shocked by the stereotypes that they harbor as we uncover them in the program. Raising this awareness is worth the investment.
Wom en Wh o Rock w it h Su ccess: Wh at is t h e n ext ch apt er f or Am a? Am a: The next chapter consists of trying my best to expand the depth and reach of my work. More books are forthcoming as I expand Sunne's Gift into a series of books. Additionally, I am making my work more accessible to institutions nationwide by doing more training sessions via SKYPE. Finally, I am also doing more research on issues of financial empowerment and adding more financial gurus to my team because I realize that on a societal level many people feel economically disenfranchised. We need to make sure that more Americans feel better equipped to handle the economy's ups and downs while living their missions and engaging in entrepreneurship.
Wom en Wh o Rock w it h Su ccess: How can t h e r eader s con n ect w it h you r br an d?: Am a: I would love to stay in touch with your readers. Readers can email me ama@milestales.com, call me at347-886-2026, and follow my company on Facebook by going to https://www.facebook.com/milestales/.
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NANCY TRAN BLOOM S WITH SPRING COLLECTION (New York, NY) ? New York?s exciting new designer Nancy Tran unveiled her launch collection in a range of day, cocktail and evening dresses meticulously crafted from premium silks in creamy tones and opulent shades of scarlet, pink, purple, and yellow to capture the delicate flourish of both fashion and nature. According to Ms. Tran, ?The collection is inspired by rebirth. I wanted to welcome the new year in homage to blossoming in beauty. The graceful draping and silhouettes lend focus to that magical way that fashion can transform us all. But it?s not so much about changing into someone different rather discovering your own potential, unleashing your own beauty and finding that reservoir of confidence and strength in every woman. That?s why I employed both butterflies and flowers in the design to illustrate that emergence from our own cocoons, of blossoming into someone strong and beautiful.? The pieces are rendered close to the body with fitted waists and skirts tapered like tulips or voluminous roses in full bloom. The butterfly and floral motif is further evident in the couture level details of cascading embroideries, prints, pleats, and cutouts that add rich texture and depth. Hemlines range from asymmetric to at, below the knee, and floor length gowns
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Well Suited NYC is the creation of two native New York City girlfriends that met at the prestigious Fame High School. As Manhattanites, It was a natural fit, Amanda Sanders being a celebrity stylist (best known for her 15 year relationship with Chris Rock), and Christina Wilson who developed a fashion handbag and accessories company targeting edgy fearless women. Amanda found the demand in a more casual environment where men no longer wanted ties, they needed an accessory to dress up their suits. Most men feeling intimidated at folding a traditional pocket square, felt much more comfortable with her making pre folded squares for them. Merging together Amanda?s styling experience and Christina?s expertise in product development, the perfect ?Ready to Wear ? pocket square was born. True to its inspiration, Well Suited pocket squares are carefully handmade in New York City.
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Maressa Tosto Merwarth discovered her passion for metal-smithing while studying in Italy. What she brought back from Florence was a vision of a collection that would meld jewelry with sculpture, works that would push the boundaries between wearable vs. non-wearable, precious vs. non-precious and even craft vs. fine art. After completing her BFA at Syracuse University, Merwarth began working at
a small fine jewelry manufacturer and later earned her MFA in metals from the Rochester Institute of Technology. In these formative years, she explored her creative abilities, fine tuned her technical skills and began pushing boundaries in design. Drawn to commonplace shapes and materials and inspired by nature and architecture, the designer stretched her creativity to imagine hidden stories in her designs. After several years in the
industry, Merwarth formed her own company, Mari Tome, to focus on custom, unique design and her art-based jewelry line. Today, Maressa Tosto Merwarth draws inspiration for her jewelry designs from the nature and the situations that surround her at Hermann J. Wiemer Vineyard, where she and her family live and work.
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Diana Kelly loved demonstrating her creative side since she was a toddler and took up scribbling on walls instead of paper. Encouraged to further pursue these writing and drawing talents, Diana experienced the thrill of seeing her name in print above an article she penned for the second grade newspaper. Deciding that continuing to see her name in print was a worthy career pursuit, Diana worked on her spelling, read as much as possible, and was known for asking a lot of questions at the lunch table in high school.
Thinking she?d pursue a career in law or journalism, Diana attended a New Jersey State Trooper Youth Week camp in high school and quickly discovered that law enforcement ? particularly driving the New Jersey Turnpike daily ? wasn?t for her. She studied journalism at Rutgers, was a staff writer for The Daily Targum newspaper where she also had an opinion column, and pursued a career in magazine journalism. After internships at Red Book and South Jersey magazines, Diana high-tailed it to New York City and has been working for major media brands ever since.
What Never to Say at Work to Your Boss , Colleague, or HR Department by
You know better than to say racist comments, blatant sexual harassment, discuss politics in the workplace, but there are plenty of places where knowing what to say is a gray area. Here, psychologists tell you what to never say at work and why.
Never say an yt h in g you w ou ldn?t w an t t o r ead in pr in t in a m eet in g. ?I always advise my clients to talk as if everybody is listening,? said Ben Dattner, Ph.D., organizational psychologist and executive coach at Dattner Consulting, LLC in New York City. ?Because in today?s world, pretty much everybody is listening. So a lot of my clients talked about the Wall Street Journal test, which is, ?Would you want to read this in the Wall Street Journal??Whatever you?re saying, however you?re being quoted. So I certainly think making references to religion, or politics, or people?s physical appearance, or anything that could be construed as disrespecting somebody, categorizing them, stereotyping them, bringing attention to anything
Never say t h e ph r ase, ?Th is is bor in g,? in a m eet in g. We get it, a lot of the meetings you attend might seem unnecessary, a waste of time, and quite lame. But don?t ever say that out loud to another colleague, says Melanie Greenberg, Ph.D., Licensed Clinical Psychologist in Mill Valley, Calif., and Life/Business Coach, author of The Stress-Proof Brain (New Harbinger Publications, 2017) ?That?s insensitive to say,? she said. It could also make your boss think you?re not being a team player because you find them boring and think you have better things to do than be in that meeting.
Never t ell a f em ale colleagu e ?You look n ice,? if you w ou ldn?t say it t o a m ale colleagu e. ?There?s heightened sensitivity to propriety when it comes to gender relationships,? said Dattner. ?There could be subjective aspect to that. It depends on context. If a male boss tells a female subordinate that she looks good? if he does it in ways that can seem inappropriate, that could be a challenge. So the same statement uttered by different people or the same people in different context or different people in the same context can be taken very differently. But you just have to be careful,? said Dattner. Greenberg agreed that you?re better off not commenting on appearance and weight of colleagues. ?You shouldn?t say anything to a woman that you wouldn?t say to a man,? said Greenberg. When you tell a colleague, ?You look nice today,?or ?Your haircut looks nice,?you have to consider how it might be taken. Does that mean their old haircut looked terrible? Does that mean they normally don?t look nice every day? What was intentioned to be an innocent compliment can get out of hand quickly. Here?s how to get better paying clients this year. Never t ell you r boss, ?It ?s n ot
m y f au lt .? When your boss comes to you with a concern they have about your work, not taking responsibility is a big no-no, said Greenberg. ?When you?re blaming other people, being hostile, defensive, and not taking responsibility, it?s like you?re attacking other people on your team,? said Greenberg. This makes you look like you are a whiner, you blame others for any performance issues or problems and you don?t take constructive feedback. These are all qualities your boss will remember when it?s time to add you to bigger team projects or time for a promotion. Never act lik e you ?r e in a r ealit y
TV sh ow w h en you disagr ee w it h colleagu es. It can be entertaining (and cringe-inducing) to watch chefs and restaurateurs yell at subordinates or real estate agents scream at colleagues on reality TV or call to mind those days of yesteryear when contestants undercut one another on ?The Apprentice ?Just the fact that people turn on TV watch real estate shows with people arguing with each other and kind of attacking each other because that makes TV more compelling.
So we should make sure not to mimic what we see in the public realm in the workplace. You?re not on Million Dollar Listing,?? said Dattner.
Never say ph r ases t h at disr espect colleagu es an d low er -level em ployees. You know not to call people something sexist like ?Hon,? or ?Beautiful,? at work. But, some people of an older generation or baby- boomer might have referred to female colleagues as ?girls,? without meaning anything negative by it, and in their cultural and historical context that made sense, said Dattner. But, if you?re at a start-up in Brooklyn or San Francisco where everybody?s a millennial and you use the term ?girls? to refer to female employees, people may find that offensive, Dattner said. ?We all need feedback as we move from industry to industry or level to level or organization or organization or historical era to historical era or different geographies, different countries, different corporate cultures,? he said. How you speak and communicate may change in different workplace environments, so make sure you?re careful in different settings with colloquial phrases.
Never com plain t o you r in t er n abou t st af f an d dir ect r epor t s. Don?t whine to your intern about other employees, advised Sackett. ?Good interns/ assistants are good listeners, and at times, they may be the only person that makes a boss feel heard. This can create the temptation to use them as a sounding board for venting about others in the office, and that temptation must be resisted,? Sackett said. ?Not only can they leak sensitive information, potentially leading to conflicts and grievances, but this practice also puts the intern or assistant in a terribly uncomfortable position, often causing good employees to leave.?
Never t ell HR an yt h in g t h at you w an t t o be k ept in st r ict con f iden ce. ?That?s because HR professionals often have mandates to report or investigate certain information (like sexual harassment and discrimination),? says Jason Sackett, PCC, LCSW, CEAP, executive coach, author of Compassion@Work: Creating Workplaces that Engage the Human Spirit. ?They simply may not be prohibited from sharing information with the one person you desperately don?t want to know your story?and may not have the judgment or professionalism to keep it private,? he said. If you have any concerns about information being disclosed, consult first with someone who is bound by confidentiality laws, such as a therapist, employee assistance professional, lawyer, or clergy person,? said Sackett.
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For get t h e f lin gs It is one thing to have to do the walk of shame after an ill-considered rendezvous. If properly executed, you need never see them again. It is a whole other thing to have to sit next to your one-night stand week after week during the staff meeting. And even worse is if that person chooses to chat about you to colleagues. Choices of promiscuity aside, save the wild romps for Vegas.
Kn ow you r com pan y ?s policies Some workplaces are more conservative than others, yet most have some sort of policy or practice regarding dating in the office. Even if you work for a super small or very new business, the harassment laws still apply. Be sure to review your regulations in advance to make sure you are not putting your career in peril.
Ch oose w isely Even if you are within the guidelines, peers are a safer choice. When office romances turn frosty, it is often the subordinate employee who will need to brush off their resume and begin a job search. Occasionally it is the supervisor who is let go for fear of a litigious ex-lover. Being both single and jobless rarely makes anyone?s resolution list.
Tr ack you r ?paper ?t r ail Words of love (or lust) are best whispered. Notes can be left behind, misdirected, or pulled from the recycling bin. Voice mails can be saved, forwarded, or played on speakerphone. All employees should be smart enough nowadays to keep away from the keyboards. All company emails belong to the company and can be reviewed at any time with or without your permission. The same goes for texting on any device owned or paid for by the company. Also, there are cameras everywhere. Video surveillance is in lobbies, elevators, supply rooms, etc. Do your best not to titillate the security guards or wind up as a meme on the Internet. Keep your hands off each other and your clothing on when at work. St ar t slow Yet, even with all of the admonishments, office romances do bloom. Begin by getting to know the object of your affection as a friend first. Group lunches and drinks as a team work well to determine whether or not you share interests and values. After a few weeks of information gathering, then and only then consider spending time alone.
Keep it ou t of t h e of f ice Any interaction even remotely resembling a date should be done off company property and far away from any prying eyes. It is best to start with the activity dates (museums, comedy shows, history walking tours) first before moving to the more romantic venues.
Set bou n dar ies As you explore the possibilities of romance, take the time to talk about establishing boundaries for when you are at work. Will you arrive and leave together? Will you sit near each other in meetings? Will you meet for lunch? Or will the facade of the cold shoulder apply during office hours?
Kn ow you r exit st r at egy Before the first kiss, consider what may happen if this does not turn into a long-term liaison. Would one or both of you need to look for a new job? Or if you both stayed, how uncomfortable would that be for you to continue to work together? There are times when relationships come to an end. This can be difficult for even the most mature partners, and can prove to be disastrous for exs who must still work together. No matter how your heart is broken, take the high road. Sob at home, call in sick if necessary, binge-watch bad shows, and gobble your favorite comfort food. Then pull yourself together and get back to work. Know that this too shall pass and learn from the experience. If you are still non-functional, take a vacation to center yourself and find your groove again.
You n g love A brand new relationship need not be declared at a staff meeting. But at some point, when the relationship is clearly not a passing fancy, it is time to follow the proper protocol. Start with human resources. HR will let you know if you must also notify your manager. If your company requires you to notify HR when you start dating, chances are you will need to remember to notify HR when you break up as well. Be h on est As the Bonnie Raitt song goes, ?We laugh just a little too loud.? You may think you are giving an Oscar-worthy performance by keeping your romance a secret, but most people are woeful at being subtle. The pheromones alone will give you away. Be honest when asked. However, you do not need to become stars of the office drama. Create boundaries of what you will and won?t share in the office. This is not middle school. Behave professionally. If others ask inappropriate questions, deflect. Keep any quarrels for after-hours.
In vit at ion s an d in vit es And if things go well, you will have the separate yet equally challenging task of deciding who from the office will be invited to your wedding. The guideline is either less than a third of handpicked officemates or the entire department. Either way, hopefully there are enough resources to cover both of your desks while you are off on your honeymoon. If all of this sounds too daunting, then no parallel processing for you. Don?t fish in the company pond. Cast a wider net. If you are busy, hire a matchmaker, try online dating, join a club, take a class, scope out while you work out, or really listen to grandma and regularly go to your place of worship. Most of all, revisit your work-life balance to allow time to look for love. Jodi RR Smith is the president of Mannersmith Etiquette Consulting.
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Tools & M at er ials You ?ll Need The tools needed to replace an old toilet and install a new one are pretty basic. However, it?s important to note that these tools and the following instructions relate only to the process used when removing an old unit and putting a new one in its place. Installing a new toilet where there wasn?t one before is a much more complex process that
involves advanced plumbing knowledge. In other words, it?s not a recommended DIY project, and it?s often something that requires permitting and inspection. Here?s a list of the basic tools for the replacement task at hand: -
Adjustable wrench Tape measure Pliers Set of screwdrivers Bucket Putty knife Sponge and old rags (use a large car-washing sponge; these hold the most
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Tools & Materials You?ll Need Measuring & Planning How to Remove Your Old Toilet Installing Your New Toilet What to Consider if You Hire - Questions to Ask
It?s hard to argue against its utility, but like all household fixtures, toilets get old, break down and may even crack and leak. Whether you?re adding a low-flow alternative to save water as part of a bathroom renovation or you?re taking out a broken unit that has just seen too many flushes, installing a toilet is not as tough as it may seem. In fact, an intermediate DIYer with a little plumbing know-how can get the job done (with a little bit of help) in a couple of hours. Of course, any time you deal with plumbing and sewage there can be backups and backlogs, creating huge messes that will definitely require some professional assistance. In this case, knowing what to ask and what to expect when hiring a pro to install a toilet for you is equally important. Read on to learn what you need to know about toilet installation, from removal to that first flush, and make sure you?re prepared to get the job done, or at least prepared to hire the right person to get it done for you.
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