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table of contents FEATURES
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New Mom Q+A Becky Sera, family realtor
DAD’S DAY GUIDE
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Not another tie
MATERNITY
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Kimonos are a fashion go Free spirit birth
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Acupuncture Renaissance Foundation
PARENTING & FAMILY
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Book list: parenting full circle
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Managing the teen years Foster care
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A TASTE FROM AFAR
31 ON THE COVER: Expecting mom Megan Long, photographed by Amanda Swanson
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Sharing culture, changing lives
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Dine-around-the world staycation style
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Anna Maria Island
FASHION
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Faithfully fashionable summer trends
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editor’s corner
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can’t believe how quickly spring launched into
summer. I find myself yearning for time to slow down and create space to enjoy my family. It may be the milestones we’ve reached — completing elementary and middle school. Or maybe my “biological clock” is just wired to Mother Nature’s seasons rather than, well, that other thing that usually ticks away with it. Either way, when summer rolls her lazy days our way I can’t help but daydream about 100 different things I could be doing with my family.
And that’s what our second issue of Knoxville Families Magazine celebrates — Families. Whether you’re trying to have a family, adding new members to your family, creating a global family or settling into the later stages of parenting your family, we wanted this issue to reflect how diverse modern families can be these days.
Families of all types go through ages and stages of continuous change. For our summer book list we polled our contributors for their favorite books to create what I like to think of as our best friend’s guide to parenting. New parents can see how much they have to look forward to, and time tested parents will likely see some of their tried and true favorites on this list too. Whether you’re I’m smack dab right in the center of the parenting stages. While I’m proud of how much they grow each year, I do feel like I want to runaway to a place where we can relish each other’s company just a little longer. Although, realistically speaking, that lasts about 10 minutes before disharmony breaks loose (note to self: finish reading the book on sibling rivalry from our summer list). But, even in our rough moments we’re in this family together and, that’s what I love about family.
trying to have a family, adding new members to your family, creating a global family or settling into the later stages of parenting your family, we wanted this issue to reflect how diverse modern families can be these days.
Anna Maria Island, with its laid back pace and small town appeal, is one of those places where families can slow down, connect and soak up time together. I’m really excited to include it as our summer travel feature. It’s actually where my family began! The photo included with this letter was taken on the Island and it is the very first photo showing my completed family circle. It was taken for Father’s Day and of all the photos I’ve ever taken of the kids, this is my favorite. In this one split second the image captures their personalities so exactly—motherly, free-spirited and patient.
I hope this summer your family finds time to connect— with us, with Knoxville, and best of all, with each other.
Diana B Di Bogan, Edi Editor diana@knoxvillefamiliesmagazine.com
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FIRE & FLAVOR Cedar Gift set created by husband and wife team Gena and Davis Knox includes cedar planks, seasonings, rubs, charcoals and brines. Available at Kroger, Lowe’s, Target, and Bed Bath & Beyond. But, shop online, fireandflavor.com, during the month of June for a 15% discount using code: Knoxville. PRICE: $25
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Q&A new mom
VICTORIA WEST First Time Mom, First Trimester FATHER TO BE: Thomas Stagliano DUE DATE: November 19, 2016 GENDER: Unknown
Q: Do you have names picked out?
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When h did you first suspect you were pregnant? When he I started to fall asleep standing up at work. I was exhausted all the time for no reason. A couple of days later I decided to take a pregnancy test and it was positive. I was three weeks pregnant when I ffound out and I couldn’t have been happier. For the longest time I thought I couldn’t get pregnant. I cried because I was so happy. I knew my whole life was about to change and that made my heart flutter.
We picked Josiah for a boy's name based on the biblical text. Josiah was one of the great Kings. His middle name will be Lee, because that is my middle name and his last name would be Stagliano — my fiancé’s last name and my soon-to-be last name. We have not decided on a girl's name yet because Tom refuses to accept that he could have a little girl!
Q: How did you tell your fiancé, Thomas?
Q: Any advice for other moms-to-be?
I took the test at midnight when he had left for work. I set an alarm to wake up before he got home at 8 am. When I heard the front door open, I stood in our bedroom holding the pregnancy test over my belly while making a heart shape with my fingers around it. When he walked in he dropped all of his work things and said, “Aw, you’re pregnant aren’t you?” and ran up to me and kissed and hugged me. After that he proceeded to ask, “How did this happen?” All I could do was laugh because I know how happy and scared he was at the same time.
The first trimester has gone by fast and I try to remember that every moment counts. Time passes by quickly and you may wish your pregnancy away, but once you have the baby you will miss the bond and special connection that comes with having a precious life inside of you.
Q: Do you have plans for a special baby gender reveal?
Q: Something you’ll always remember about this time is…?
We are going to have our doctor write the gender in an envelope and give it to my sister. Then she will throw a gender reveal get together a week later. That’s when she will reveal to Tom and I what we are going to be having — a boy or a girl. We cannot wait to find out!
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When Tom leaves for work everyday he kisses my belly and tells the baby goodbye. I couldn’t live without my supportive fiancé; he has done so much for me already.
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Q: How did you find out you were pregnant? Being a teacher, we tried to conceive around September since that would put the due date in early summer. We planned it perfectly, because that’s exactly what happened! I wanted to take a test before “Mother Nature” was due to visit to see. I found an old pregnancy test under the bathroom sink (It had expired a year ago) and took it. It was positive! Andrew and I were a little skeptical since the test had expired, so we went out to get a new test just to make sure, and it was still positive. We were over the moon! Q: How did you tell your family?
We told our family the next weekend. We made a wooden picture frame with the saying, “Only the best parents get promoted to be grandparents” along with some baby booties I crocheted.
Q: Anything you haven’t been able to live without during your pregnancy? Ice cream, salty snacks, iced coffee, and ½ lemonade / ½ sweet iced tea!
Q: What things have you worried about? One of the main things I worry about during this pregnancy is that Parker is developing like he is supposed to, both physically and mentally. As an educator, I see EVERYTHING and can’t help but think, “Could that be us, too?” I also worry about the kind of parents we will be. I have had many wonderful influences over my years of teaching of what good parenting looks like. My students have taught me so much about the kind of mother I want to be. I pray every day that we will be blessed with a healthy baby and that we will be the best parents we can be for our sweet boy.
Q: Anything you think you’ll miss, or not miss, about pregnancy? I have LOVED being pregnant! I will miss feeling the movements of the baby inside my womb. I will probably also miss the attention — everyone loves and is overly nice to pregnant women!
Q: How has the soon-to-be dad been handling the pregnancy? Andrew did an amazing job at picking up my slack when I was exhausted during my first trimester. He continues to help in any way that he can with things around the house, and is overly protective when it comes to me lifting things. He has also been understanding during my “nesting phase” of wanting to paint bedrooms and rearrange things. Looking back, I hope I always remember the love and support we received during this time.
MEGAN LONG First time mom, Third Trimester FATHER TO BE: Andrew Long DUE DATE: Our fifth wedding anniversary! June 11, 2016 GENDER: It’s A Boy! James Parker Long
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Q: How did you announce your pregnancy? We told the world around Christmas time with pictures that included a onesie that read “This Christmas present is on layaway until April 2016!”
EMILYANNE LARSON NEW MOM TO Liam Gabriel Litwin BIRTH DATE: April 19, 2016; 2:36 pm
Q: Did anything surprise you about your pregnancy? The biggest surprise for me is how long it took for me to show. I was six to seven months pregnant and barely showing. Then all of a sudden it seemed like my stomach grew overnight and there he was kicking and hiccuping inside of me.
WEIGHED: 8 lbs 4 oz & LABORED: 36 hours NEW DAD: Justin Litwin
Q: Was there anything you couldn’t live without during any of your trimesters? The number one thing I could not go without throughout the pregnancy was ICE! I could not stop myself from chewing on ice. My sweetie put up with all that crunching for nine months. Every once in a while he would look at me with concern and say, “Honey, that really is not good for you. You are going to ruin your teeth.” Luckily I’ve made it with all teeth still intact.
Q: What type of birth did you have planned? And, how did it go? I planned a hospital birth with no epidural, no episiotomy, delayed cord clamping, no artificial breaking of my water and, ideally, to not be induced. I did have to be induced and I did let them break my water when I was dilated 8cm. I was incredibly nervous and scared about the pain that comes with labor; that’s completely normal. I probably read too many scary blogs and watched too many videos of women giving birth. It did not help that I did not have one Braxton Hicks contraction so I really had no idea what I was getting myself into. I was really grateful for how my sweetie was through labor and delivery. He stayed by my side the whole way through,
helped me when I needed it, brought me flowers with a sweet note about how excited he was to start our family and, when it was time to do the final pushes, he was cheering me on like he cheers on his favorite football team! Remember Dads, how we behave in pregnancy is temporary and does not last forever. Just be present.
Q: How did you choose your son’s name? Justin wanted a name that was about being strong, a leader, and a warrior. I wanted something about being a follower or leader of Christ. So, together we wanted something that meant a warrior/leader of God. That’s how we came up with Liam Gabriel.
Q: What would tell newly expecting moms? How beautiful it is to finally meet your little one. You are going to love that child more than anything, more than you can possibly imagine.
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From baby bump & beyond,
Kimonos
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In fashion,
the word “mom” gets a bad rap. The best example of this is “Mom Jeans.” Mom jeans make your butt look like it’s swelled up to twice its size and placed under a magnifying glass. In other words, it’s everything we avoid in pants. Everything. From the moment I knew I was pregnant... no, let’s back that up. From the moment we started planning to have a baby, I began a quest to make “Mom” a good word when it came to clothing. In pregnancy, my goals were to buy as little maternity clothing as possible. With an infant, my goal is to show as little poop, pee, spit-up and crusted puffs as possible.
A kimono has helped achieve both goals. While pregnant, I stocked up on maternity shirts that I could dress up or down. A simple white tee becomes so much more when you layer over it a colorful kimono. The following summer when that child has given back some milk on my shoulder, in swoops the same kimono to cover it up!
That’s the beauty of kimonos— they always fit. The white statement necklace I’m wearing in the picture also fits not matter what. Statement necklaces are another great way to maintain your style during your maternity months and beyond. One more thing, don’t limit your kimono to a look with t-shirts and jeans. Right after pregnancy, I wore them over form fitting mini dresses. The flow and fabric is a great way to distract from your post-baby bod. Let’s all show the world that “Mom” can mean versatile, cute and flattering clothes! By Elizabeth Ogle of TheSpiff.com Photos: Brittany of Southern Roots Photography
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free spirit birth:
giving moms a voice in birthing paths By Nicole Springs; Photos: Amanda Swanson
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rom the miracle of conception to the wonderful discovery of pregnancy, the journey of a lifetime begins. Whether this is your first time, or you are a seasoned pro, with a new pregnancy there usually comes a new perspective to consider. With a whirlwind of emotions, questions and concerns, this is a time when many women will seek advice from friends, family and most likely Google to help prepare their path for a healthy pregnancy and labor. As a first time mother especially, the world of pregnancy can be an overwhelming place. Endless information of “what to expect,” with a wide range of experiences all expressed with a passion that can cause uncertainty in knowing which path to take, makes learning for yourself essential to your peace of mind.
In the past there was a more natural flow to the birthing experience. Mothers welcomed their bundles of joy into the world in the privacy of their homes, oftentimes with the help of a midwife, without medicine or doctors. Today, most women consult an obstetrician to confirm their pregnancy. Then they adhere closely to the birthing options provided them, which usually involve a hospital visit with an epidural and little variation. While some women cannot fathom natural childbirth, others cannot wrap their minds around their birthing story taking place in a sterile environment. There is no right or wrong answer. It is unique to each woman. Knowing your options will help you make the decision that best fits what you envision. It may end up being a mixture of both.
While encouraging for some women, this Barbara Steppe, Doula and owner may be intimidating to others. No fears! Barb of Free Spirit Birth, is a wealth of emphasizes those experiences are attainable, pregnancy and birthing knowledge. but optional, as she realizes many women She spent 18 years as a nurse dedicated may want a more natural experience, yet still to assisting mothers at two birthing prefer medicine, or some may even prefer centers—one in Madisonville and the other in Knoxville. Barb’s background in nursing A Doula... offers emotional and gives her helpful insight physical support before, during and, that she says no other for a short period, after pregnancy. Doula in this area Barb’s goal is to see that each can provide.
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woman be empowered with a voice in her pregnancy journey.”
At this point, you may be wondering what exactly is a Doula. According to Barb, a Doula is a non-clinical person, mainly a woman, who offers emotional and physical support before, during and, for a short period, after pregnancy. Barb’s goal is to see that each woman be empowered with a voice in her pregnancy journey. She has been blessed to assist with more than 800 births. Each of those births were all natural labor, most being unmedicated, and took place at home or a birthing center within six hours of the beginning of contractions. Quite impressive!
to schedule a caesarian section. The story is yours, while Barb’s place is by your side to help make the puzzle pieces come together and to fit. If you want to deliver at home, at a birthing center or at a hospital, Barb will be with you through it all.
Barb is able to debunk myths such as once a c-section always a c-section. She is able to speak to any fears about pregnancy you may have and help you overcome them. There are proven benefits to having a Doula along for your birthing process and she can share those facts with curious parents-to-be. continued on page 21
ACUPUNCTURE
a natural path to fertility & prenatal wellness
The Tennessee Center for Reproductive Acupuncture is Knoxville’s first and only acupuncture clinic specializing in fertility and prenatal wellness. Their founder and acupuncturist, Sarah Prater thought she would take some time out of seeing patients to explain a bit more about her clinic and how they can help your growing family!
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nfertility affects approximately 1 in 8 couples trying to expand their families. Along the course of their journey, many end up seeking medical treatment through a fertility specialist. Although the success of these treatments has grown in recent years, not all families wanting to conceive are currently able to get pregnant. Women going through or preparing for fertility treatment will often wonder if there is anything else they can be doing to help improve their chances. In addition to maintaining a healthy body weight and lifestyle, acupuncture remains one of the most commonly sought after complementary treatments for women going through fertility treatment. With numerous research studies showing improved pregnancy rates, many doctors and clinics are now encouraging patients to combine their treatments with acupuncture. Fertility Acupuncture: At the Tennessee Center for Reproductive Acupuncture, fertility is our passion! For us, there is truly nothing like hearing news of a new pregnancy!
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Here, at the clinic, we see families at all stages along their fertility journeys and love supporting them throughout the whole process. Some families are working to get healthy before they start trying to conceive, some are trying naturally, and many are under the care of fertility specialists and are going through procedures such as IUI or IVF. Most of the patients we see have never had acupuncture before and often ask us about exactly how acupuncture can increase their chances of getting pregnant. Acupuncture can help improve fertility in many ways, and we’ve outlined the most important ones here: Acupuncture can improve blood flow to the reproductive organs. Blood is the means by which cells receive all the nutrients we eat. If blood flow is reduced to an area, it can quickly become unhealthy. The increase in blood flow from fertility acupuncture can improve the quality of the egg maturing in the ovary. It can also help to improve the thickness and quality of the uterine lining to give a developing embryo an ideal place for implantation. Additionally, if you are undergoing IVF, an improvement in uterine blood flow is associated with higher pregnancy rates! Acupuncture helps to regulate hormones: Our monthly cycles involve a complex dance of hormones that must be in balance for our reproductive systems to function properly. The ebb and flow of these hormones are responsible for the growth and maturation of the egg, ovulation, the thickening of the endometrial lining, and even subtle changes in the cervix that allow for conception to take place. Over time, acupuncture treatment can help bring these hormones back into balance and restore these functions. Research shows it can be especially helpful to those dealing with PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome). In our clinic, we have seen women who haven’t had a cycle in years begin to cycle again and we’ve helped many women shorten or lengthen their cycles to a more healthy length.
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Acupuncture reduces stress and anxiety: There is mixed evidence that stress can decrease your chances of conception, but one thing we do know for sure is that getting pregnant can be very stressful and can overwhelm the rest of your life! This is especially true for women going through fertility treatments, as some medications can cause mood swings. Acupuncture can help to reduce this stress to help make your journey easier and maybe improve your chances of conception a little more. Many of our IVF patients have reported that cycles are so much easier with the addition of acupuncture that they are willing to consider another cycle if the current one doesn’t work out. And that next cycle might just be the one that is successful! Prenatal Acupuncture: When you get pregnant, or if you already are pregnant, (CONGRATS!!!) you probably have heard all about everything you have to look forward to: nausea, vomiting, fatigue, swelling, back pain, heartburn...the list goes on. And,
Nobody likes needles, but these needles are different. They are very, very thin. Almost as thin as a human hair. while nothing beats feeling your little one moving inside of you and dreaming of little fingers and toes, pregnancy can really be tough! You are limited on what medications are safe to take and your life surely doesn’t slow down to give you a break. Luckily, acupuncture is a safe and effective way to treat many of the common symptoms women experience during pregnancy. We can even help get your body ready for labor and encourage breech babies to turn head down. In fact, many women come regularly throughout their pregnancies to help keep both mom and baby healthy! But what about the needles? Since most of the patients I see at the clinic have never had acupuncture before, questions about the needles always come up. Nobody likes needles, but these needles are different. They are very, very thin. Almost as thin as a human hair. They are gently inserted and left in for about 20-30 minutes.
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During the insertion, you might feel a tiny pinch and many don’t feel anything at all. After insertion you shouldn’t feel any discomfort and will quickly drift off into a state of deep relaxation. Many even fall asleep. So don’t let fear of needles stop you from taking advantage of this wonderful treatment option! So, no matter where you are along your fertility journey, acupuncture offers a natural, safe, and effective way to help make your dreams of parenthood a reality. Please visit our website, tennesseereproductiveacupuncture.com,
or call us. We’re very happy to help and answer your specific questions!
Sarah Prater, (865) 315-3845 Sarah@TennesseeReproductiveAcupuncture.com
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Renaissance Foundation saves two lives at a time
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Renaissance Recovery has helped me in ways I have never been helped. I have learned things about myself, my disease and how to deal with situations that usually would set me back. I am very grateful for this place. I don’t know where I would be today if I hadn’t found Renaissance or if it wasn’t available.” – Sarah S.
hen Sarah found out she was pregnant, she was a facing a very difficult situation. For the past 10 years, she has been abusing opioids and had been in and out of rehabs with varying lengths of sobriety. However, her pregnancy made her realize that she needed to seek help immediately to focus on her long-term recovery and her new role as a mother. Unfortunately, getting help was much more difficult than she expected. “I called rehabs, programs, intensive outpatient programs but when they found out I was pregnant, they denied me,” Sarah said.
Tragically, Sarah’s situation is not unique. Although more than a thousand babies are born drug dependent each year in Tennessee, few women are able to access the specialized help they need. With limited treatment options and numerous barriers to overcome, these at-risk women face tremendous obstacles in getting into recovery and achieving sobriety prior to delivery. But the experts know and studies show that early intervention and treatment for drug-addicted mothers can drastically reduce these cases of neonatal abstinence syndrome (NAS), which occurs when an infant is born drug dependent. Babies with NAS start life in agony from drug withdrawal and can spend more than a month in the neonatal intensive care unit of the hospital. Fortunately, with proper care and treatment for the mothers, each of these NAS births are preventable.
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The primary goal of the Renaissance Foundation is to get at-risk mothers into a drug treatment program and to do whatever it takes to keep them engaged in care. Through our “Saving Two Lives” scholarship program, the Renaissance Foundation provides direct financial support to women in severe need. These scholarships cover the individual needs of each woman so that she can focus her attention on getting clean, addressing
Working with leading experts across the region and the state, our staff ensures At the Renaissance Foundation, our goal that the best up to date information is is to save two lives by empowering a made available through public forums mother to regain control of her life and throughout the state. We offer experts by preventing infants from starting their and speakers for conferences, forums, lives dependent on drugs. We believe and conventions. We work closely with that no baby should be born drug exmedical experts in the field of NAS such posed due to a lack of treatment options as Dr. Craig Towers at the University for the mother. of Tennessee Hospital High Risk The Renaissance Foundation provides a Obstetrics Clinic who recently published support system for a nationally recognized study mothers in desperate on the safety of detoxification The primary goal of the situations. We battle during pregnancy. Bringing Renaissance Foundation is to get at-risk hopelessness and providers together who helplessness to get understand the needs of mothers into a drug treatment these women whatever mothers in recovery and program and to do whatever it takes to services they need. developing committed keep them engaged in care. Many of our mothers partnerships within the are facing homemedical community is an lessness, have been victims of sexual underlying emotional and mental issues important part of the Renaissance violence, are survivors of physical and staying sober for herself and her baby. Foundation’s public mission. abuse and are trapped in the cycle of The “Saving Two Lives” scholarships We also work to educate the public. To generational poverty. Despite these cover things like transitional housing, bring Sarah and mothers like her into overwhelming situations, mothers transportation, clothing and food. We the public understanding; to remove know that they will find support and want to construct an environment the stigma associated with drug abuse encouragement at the Renaissance where pregnant mothers in recovery and to bring together families who have Foundation. have a safe and stable place to live, been affected by addiction and NAS. Sarah called multiple rehabilitation reliable transport to and from doctors’ We are a coalition focused on solving centers and treatment programs appointments or 12-step meetings, and the problem of NAS not attributing seeking help, but she was denied the proper nutrition for a healthy and blame. We believe that each child repeatedly because of her pregnancy. successful pregnancy. deserves a chance at a stable family For Sarah, and many mothers like her, and a drug free life. Education and finding treatment options open to Outreach Efforts pregnant women is a major obstacle. In addition to the direct The Renaissance Foundation maintains support we provide, the a comprehensive list of the most Renaissance Foundation is successful programs across the state. also committed to improving Drug exposed births are a completely preventable We work closely with programs that public understanding of the condition. If you or someone you know needs help have demonstrated a record of causes and impacts of NAS please contact The Renaissance Foundation at measurable success. The Renaissance and the unique challenges (865) 474-1299 or go to renaissancerecovery. foundation puts community resources net for information about available resources. to work removing barriers for women in faced by pregnant women and new mothers battling If you would like to donate please visit www. desperate need. addiction. gofundme.com/savingtwolives
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BOOK LIST:
PARENTING full circle This month we aimed to provide a sampling of books that offer the necessary support and education to make each phase of parenting a rewarding experience. These are handpicked selections from the libraries of our contributors as books that have been dog-eared enough to become time-tested, invaluable resources.
Pregnancy, Childbirth and the Newborn Penny Simkin $19.99, 512 pages
The latest edition revised in March 2016 covers all aspects of childbearing, from conception through early infancy, and tells you what to expect. It offers detailed information, suggestions on decisions to make, and advice on steps to take to have a safe and satisfying experience. This one is especially good for moms planning a hospital birth. Hey! Who’s Having This Baby Anyway? Breck Hawk, RN & Midwife
Birthing From Within Pam England $19.95, 331 pages
A holistic approach to childbirth this book examines this profound rite-of-passage not as a medical event but as an act of self-discovery. Exercises and activities such as journal writing, meditation, and painting will help mothers analyze their thoughts and face their fears during pregnancy. For use during birth, the book offers proven techniques for coping with labor pain without drugs, a discussion of the doctor or midwife’s role, and a look at the father’s responsibilities. FYI: We hear that England’s forthcoming book, Ancient Map for Modern Birth, is going to be amazing.
Ina May’s Guide to Breastfeeding Ina May Gaskin $18, 352 pages
Ina May Gaskin is founder and director of the Farm Midwifery Center, located near Summertown, Tennessee. Her book explores the health and psychological benefits of breastfeeding and gives you invaluable practical advice that will help you nurse your baby in the most fulfilling way possible. It’s filled with helpful advice, medical facts, and real-life stories that will help you understand how and why breastfeeding works and how you can use it to more deeply connect with your baby and your own body. You might also like Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth.
A First Time Parent’s Survival Guide: A How To Manual for the First Two Years Dr. Clifford Dale James
$19.95, 386 pages
Hey! Who’s Having This Baby Anyway? begins with the Patient Bill of Rights and Responsibilities so that moms-tobe understand how they can remain involved in their own care. The author then presents information on the types of available caregivers, labor medications, natural remedies, complementary methods of pregnancy and labor, home birth, water birth, birth plans, and breastfeeding. Several chapters close with helpful workbook pages for those readers who learn best by doing. A concluding chapter presents a compilation of women’s childbearing experiences. Finally, lists of helpful books and websites point the way to further information and guidance.
Zero to Five: 70 Essential Parenting Tips Based on Science Tracy Cutchlow
$16.95, 206 pages
Oak Ridge Pediatrician Cliff James wrote this parenting book after being frustrated with other books on the market that did more to scare parents than to help them. His book, organized around a baby’s regularly scheduled doctor visits, takes a lighthearted approach to parenting with some cartoons, sarcasm and knowledge all mixed together. “To often we as pediatricians and parents spend too much time emphasizing how much work it is to be a parent and lose sight of the fact children are hilarious and a great source of joy.”
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$24.95, 212 pages
For the brand-new dad, boost his confidence with this easy-to-skim collection of parenting tips based on brain science and other studies. The layout is cool: one tip per page, paired with photographs. You could read 34 parenting books on baby sleep, healthy eating habits, potty training, teaching grit and resilience, brain development, and positive discipline. Or, you could just read this one.
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The Five Love Languages of Children Gary Chapman/Ross Campbell $15.99, 224 pages
You know you love your child. But how can you make sure your child knows it? Discover how to speak your child’s love language in a way that he or she understands. Once you discover your child’s primary language you will be well on your way to a stronger relationship with your flourishing child. You’ll be better able to assist your child in successful learning, use the love languages to correct and discipline more effectively, and build a foundation of unconditional love for your child. The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence Rachel Simmons $17, 288 pages
Drawing on the exercises Simmons herself uses in her work with girls, parents, and educators, The Curse of the Good Girl provides a catalog of practical strategies to foster girls’ assertiveness, resilience, and integrity. At the core of Simmons’s argument is her belief that the most critical freedom we can win for our daughters is the liberty not only to listen to their inner voice but also to act on it. The Wonder of Boys Michael Gurian $15.95, 320 pages Instead of encouraging us to stifle boys’ natural propensities for competition and aggression, Gurian offers effective and practical guidelines for channeling them. Taking a close look at modern boyhood, he describes what boys need to become strong, responsible, sensitive men. Beyond Sibling Rivalry: How To Help Your Children Become Cooperative, Caring and Compassionate Peter Goldenthal, Ph.D. $25, 256 pages
This book provides a new way to look at sibling rivalry that sees children’s relationships with each other in the context of the family as a whole. It gives practical guidelines and tools for solving common and not-so-common sibling conflicts. He shows parents of young children how to institute child-rearing practices that will prevent or at least diminish future sibling conflicts, and he provides strategies for reducing friction and stress among children when they arise. Yes, Your Teen is Crazy! Loving Your Kid Without Losing Your Mind Michael J. Bradley $14.95, 363 pages
While the prose admittedly might be shocking and offensive at times, making it initially off-putting to some, the book is compelling, lively and realistic. Using crisp, believable anecdotes that are alternately poignant and hysterically funny (while avoiding generic examples, jargon or psychobabble), Bradley homes in on real-life scenarios, showing parents, how to respond to their teen and set limits. Bradley draws a vivid picture of what the teen is going through, and gives parents the tools to tackle contemporary issues together. Empty Nest: What’s Next? Parenting Adult Children Without Losing Your Mind Michele Howe $14.95, 137 pages
Unlike the first eighteen years of parenting, moms and dads now take on more of an advisory role and step out of the daily hands-on instructional role. Real-life parenting of young adults is often much more challenging than all the earlier years put together. This resource offers parents true stories of other moms and dads who are facing the very same challenges. You’ll find encouragement, practical suggestions, and lots of comical asides to the always-evolving role of parenting.
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Free Spirit Birth continued from page 15 For example, a scientific study done in Texas, by Drs. Kennel and Klaus placed women in two control groups. The setting was exactly the same, except the first control group did not have anyone in the room with them during labor and the second control group did. The control group of women who had someone sit in the corner of the room during labor reported a significant decrease in fear, in the need for medication and in c-sections. Calm, collected and knowledgeable support is priceless. In the real world, a Doula does much more than sit in the corner of a room. Barb ensures she helps women stay hydrated, she uses the shower to ease contractions and she understands how to use a big scarf type wrap around a mother’s belly to help their baby turn into the optimal birthing position for the most pain free and quickest delivery possible, to name a few. Once the baby arrives, Barb helps facilitate breastfeeding, if needed, which she states happens much more quickly with a Doula’s assistance. Within three to four days of a baby’s birth, Barb makes a visit to check on the mother’s wellbeing, to check how nursing is going and to have the pleasure of seeing what the two of you worked together to get to—your beautiful bundle of joy! A Doula with a nursing background is an amazing asset to consider. Currently, Barb also teaches classes and provides sessions to women who have had the unfortunate experience of trauma during pregnancy, to help them reach peace. Barb currently has space available to serve you on your pregnancy journey and can be reached at (865) 466-2501, freespiritbirth@gmail.com, www.freespiritbirth.com and on Facebook under the same name. Barbara will be answering your questions about birth and pregnancy in an upcoming “Ask A Doula” column. Send your question, in confidence, to diana@knoxvillefamiliesmagazine.com.
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Every hour
a baby is born in the US with Neonatal Abstinence Syndrome (NAS) from opiates - New York Times May 2012
RENAISSANCE RECOVERY GROUP was created to help addicted pregnant mothers recover from addiction and reduce the number of NAS babies being born in epidemic proportions in the US. “Saving Two LivesTM” was created as a message of hope to those pregnant mothers that we are committed to not only save her life, but the life of her unborn child. Since the program began, the results have been amazing from the standpoint in the reduction of Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) length of stay. Out of 15 addicted mothers who participated in the Renaissance program, 9 out 15 babies spent zero days in NICU. This is an incredible 60 percent reduction in NAS afflicted babies. PLEASE JOIN US AND MAKE A DIFFERENCE by Saving Two LivesTM today by donating to ensure that we continue the fight against the epidemic this country faces today. TM
TO DONATE, PLEASE SCAN OUR QR CODE OR GO TO: www.gofundme.com/savingtwolives Donation checks can also be sent to: Renaissance Recovery Group 7220 Wellington Drive, Knoxville, TN 37919
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BARB STEPPE Doula & Childbirth Prep Services www.freespiritbirth.com (865) 466-2501 • freespiritbirth@gmail.com
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MANAGING THE TEEN YEARS:
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remember my Mother telling me early on with my first pregnancy that I would never be without worry again. Boy was she right! When you find out you are pregnant, you worry about the baby’s health, then you worry that they will fall and get hurt and later on you worry that they might get a broken heart. But none of this worry prepares you for that first time they back out of your driveway on their own! I have no idea how our parents did it because at least today our kids have phones and can let us know that they are safe and sound when they get to their destination. Even now in their young 20’s, my boys must endure Mom asking them to text me when they arrive at their destination after a long road trip. Now let me just say up front that if it wasn’t for my husband I probably would have wrapped our boys up in bubble wrap and held them hostage at home through their teens. But my husband always reminded me throughout those wonky teen years that in order for the boys to grow and flourish they needed to experience the ups and downs of life. Yes, it’s even a good thing for your child to have their car break down on the side of the road. It teaches them how to figure things out when things go wrong, and even teaches them how to be responsible for themselves. When our youngest, Mitchell, began driving we purchased him a 1996 beat-up Jeep. It was safe and durable, which is what (in my opinion) every young teen’s first car should be. Not long after getting his license, we moved farther away from his high school, which now meant he had a rather long drive back and forth to school via the freeways. I’m proud to say I that I was somehow able to overcome the fear I would feel every morning as he left our driveway. Again, I think it was because after he sent a text to me on arrival at school I could sit back and feel that at least he was reasonably safe at school for the next several hours. And then it happened. Mitchell came home from school one day wanting to take a road trip to Asheville to see a concert. If you are from the area, you know the drive from Knoxville to Asheville is rather treacherous. It’s uphill and extremely winding. So my gut reaction was to put my foot down on this road trip immediately. However, when my husband heard about the concert and afore mentioned trip, he had the exact opposite
reaction. While he was worried about the drive, he thought it was time for our son to experience his first long road trip all on his own. After all he would be going with a friend of his that we knew was a great young person, and he’d be traveling during a time of year where weather conditions would not
hinder the journey. The concert was still months away allowing Mitchell to have more experience driving. So we allowed him to buy the concert tickets. As the trip got closer and closer my worry increased. I simply didn’t know how I was going to make it through the stress while he was traveling there and back for the concert. However, as protective as I am, down deep I do know that you have to let your children spread their wings just a bit while they are in your care. Otherwise, when they get out on their own completely it will be very hard for them to acclimate. So I was standing firm in my decision to let him go and just figured I would somehow get through the worry (because frankly that was on me).
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About a week prior to the trip to Asheville my prayers were answered. The parents of the other teen heard a play that they had wanted to see was being performed in Asheville. So they decided to drive the kids to Asheville, go see their play and have dinner and then drive the kids back home that evening after the concert. When I heard about this new arrangement this was music to my ears. To me it meant that the kids could still experience the concert but that I’d know they were driving up and back with a driver that had a lot more experience. I’m happy to be able to say that the road trip was fine and the kids enjoyed the concert. I did still stay up awake with worry until my son was home safely anyhow (but isn’t that a mother’s right?). Since then there have been many other road trips for my son. It’s never easy knowing that anyone you love is behind the wheel, whether a beginning driver or not, but it is what it is and somehow we get through these tough moments of worry. For me it’s all about the text message … that little “I’m here safe” message always lets me unload my worry until the next time someone I love hits the road. . Lisa Hall is a Business Success Coach and Professional Speaker. Lisa helps small business owners take back control of their time while becoming more profitable. Connect with Lisa online www.tightship.us, by email lisa.hall@tightship.us, or on Twitter @OneTightShip.
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Becky Sera:
A REALTOR WITH YOUR FAMILY’S BEST INTEREST AT HEART
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of renting versus buying a house. Renting may provide a sense of freedom to some, while others may crave the sense of being rooted that ownership provides. Often, life changes such as attaining the career one has worked toward, getting married or starting a family are deciding factors. The pivotal moment for me was when I had a baby. The desire to create a home for my daughter grew as she did. I wanted a special place we could make memories in; a place we could call our own. Maybe you too are having your first baby, or maybe your family has outgrown your current residence and it’s time for a new beginning. If you are ready to start your house-hunting journey I encourage you to choose your realtor wisely, as he or she will make all the difference in your house hunting experience! OST OF US HAVE WEIGHED THE PROS AND CONS
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By Nicole Springs
Buying a home is one of the most significant, as well as one of the most expensive purchases you will make. Without a wonderful realtor it can also be a stressful process. Becky Sera, a licensed Broker and Realtor® with Realty Executives Associates of Knoxville, understands these factors and is ready to help guide you every step of the way. From referring reputable mortgage brokers and insurance agents able to provide accurate estimates, Becky has your needs covered. When you partner with Becky, her 23 years of Real Estate experience will be an empowering resource to draw from when making a home choice that best fits your family’s needs.
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n amazing benefit of having Becky on your side is that her knowledge enables her to consider the pros and cons of becoming a homeowner, which only an expert may think to consider. For instance, Becky
zone website that allows you to search schools by the home recommends conferring with a lender to find out how much address. You should also verify by calling the school directly money you qualify for, and once that is determined, she will and look at each individual school’s website for additional help you consider based on the lifestyle you and your family information. Discovering your wants versus your needs is live, what kind of budget may work best. A common mistake one of the most pivotal steps in the buying process. With this she says home buyers make is to use the full amount of information, Becky can access her home money the lender offers. Without searching tools to meet your specified consideration to lifestyle—such as A common theme criteria. vacations, eating out, shopping and amongst Becky’s savings — purchasing a home could While, thankfully, she is never forceful, end up feeling like a mistake. Becky clients is their praise Becky will encourage you to at least give works to make sure you will not fall each matching listing a try. Through of her extreme patience into that trap. She wants happy experience, Becky has learned that many and willingness to meet homeowners. of her clients have found their dream
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home where they least expected. If you look in an area and find that you do not like it, let Becky know and she will change your search criteria. Another helpful tip to keep in mind is that cosmetic updates are economical. Don’t be afraid of wallpaper, paint, flooring and fixtures that you can change yourself. If needed Becky can partner you up with a list of reputable contractors that will be able to assist you.
What else can you expect while house hunting? On average, most clients will look at 11 listings before finding a house they feel they can call home. Some clients may find their dream home at house number three, while others may find it at house number 30. Wherever you happen to fit in this spectrum, Becky is able to adapt. A common theme amongst Becky’s clients is their praise of her extreme patience and willingness to meet their needs. Her knowledge and expertise shines through to all her clients. She truly works with your best interest at heart.
If Becky perceives issues about a house that you may not see, she will not hesitate to point them out, as she hopes to avoid buyer’s remorse. Becky treats each of her clients as she would her own family. She asks herself, “Would I sell this house to my brother or my
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it all rides on strong negotiation skills. You can breathe a little easier knowing Becky is in your corner and ready to crunch numbers until you get the best deal obtainable. She understands the mixed emotions you may experience during this process from fear to excitement to impatience and everything in between. That is why she remains easy to reach, as you need her, through the entire process. She will not keep you waiting. With her track record, it most likely won’t be long before she calls to say – “Congratulations! You and your family got the house, and you can move in within 40-60 days!”
Becky Sera specializes in the buying and selling of luxury homes, residential and investment properties in the Greater Knoxville Area. She has achieved the designations of Accredited Buyer’s RepresentativeABR®, Internet specialist-e-Pro®, Short Sales and Foreclosure Resources- SFR®, and Seniors Real Estate Specialist® -SRES®. Becky works mainly by referral and believes in building relationships with her clients. That is why over the years many of them have recommended her to their family and friends when they are thinking of buying or selling a home too.
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T A VERY YOUNG AGE, I knew
I wanted to be a mother. Isn't that every little girl's dream? Well fast forward to college and with my ďŹ rst miscarriage at 21, I knew I might have a few struggles trying to not only get pregnant, but stay pregnant. Having suffered from health issues and being overweight most of my life, so many reasons arose as to why I could not get pregnant. After losing 30 pounds in 2008 and working with a fertility doctor for 5 years, my husband and I both needed a break especially since our positive pregnancy test led to a miscarriage a few days later. By now, we were very disheartened, though didn't want to give up on the idea of having a family. Then the option to foster children came into play. Scary? Yes! Worth it? We sure hoped so. After 6 weeks of classes, a home study, background checks and lots of paperwork-we were approved the day that I left the ICU having suffered two strokes and two seizures. Another setback, but we were still determined to follow through. Exactly a year later, we got the call to go meet this little blonde hair, blue eyed 6 year old in the McDonald's parking lot. It was love at ďŹ rst sight! And the rest is history. He has now been with us a year, has gone from not being able to read well to reading above grade level in less than one year, manners have improved, and he is excelling in everything he does! Do we know what the future holds? No. Do we know we love this kiddo and want the best for him and he will always have a piece of our heart, yes! And that is what Foster Care is all about.
Top 5 Tips to being a Successful Foster Parent: Be patient You can not control anything, except for the love of your foster child. The sooner you learn that, the happier everyone will be.
Get to know the Guardian at Litem quickly (GAL). They ultimately can make or break your case. They must visit the child in your home at least once. Stay in contact monthly.
Speak your mind You are the best advocate for your child. The courts want to hear your thoughts whether you think so or not. That one small bit of information may be the difference in your child staying with you or leaving.
Hire a babysitter Yes, you need a break and it's ok to not feel guilty. Go on a date night or to see your friends if single. You will thank me! Make friends with other foster parents They will be your support system, your child's friends and those who cheer you on forever. Cherish these relationships.
Allyson T. Simpson is a foster mom thanks to It Works! Global, which you can learn more about here: www.SimpsonsCrazyWraps.com.
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SHARING CULTURES, CHANGING LIVES: bring the world into your family
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ACH YEAR, EF HIGH SCHOOL EXCHANGE YEAR connects
thousands of international students with host families across the United States for the duration of a school year. Here in Knoxville, Christina Rizzo Adams and her husband, Shawn, have seen the benefits by opening their home to Salvatore, a high school teen from Sicily. The program touts that it brings cultures together, opens communities to the wider world, and creates lifelong friendships that span the globe.
Host families are encouraged to treat their visiting student like a member of the family, not a house guest. They’re meant to be included in the family’s daily routines—yes, family rules, chores and curfews apply—and immerse themselves into the community in order to gain a more authentic experience of American life. Over the course of the 2015-16 school year Salvatore attended a public high school, joined a swim team, and traveled with the family to Charleston and Atlanta. He also bonded with the Adams’ two children, 12-year old Natalia and 10-year old Carlo. “Carlo developed a close relationship with Salvatore,” said Christina. “So it will be an adjustment for him when the school year ends. They hang out, play basketball—it’s a lot of little things that have made a difference.” Salvatore happens to be from the same part of Sicily as Christina’s grandparents. “This has given the kids a window into their grandparent’s country,” she said. “They’ve had the opportunity to learn a lot and they keep asking when they can visit Italy!” One of the rewards of being an exchange student or host family is building life long relationships and Christina says they intend to keep in touch after Salvatore heads home. The host-to-student matching process is important because it truly creates a type of blended family. For example, Salvatore spent time with Christina’s extended family and his own parents visited him in Knoxville during the winter holiday.
“It’s not uncommon for host families to visit afterwards, to go to weddings or send their own kids to stay with the exchange family for a time,” she explained. She cites her own experience as an exchange student as another example. At 17, Christina traveled to Mexico on a summer program. Not only did she keep in touch with the family that hosted her, but also welcomed the host family’s daughter, who was just a baby when she stayed with them, into her own home when she turned 17. Christina marks her time in Mexico as a life changing experience. “I became a Spanish teacher, ended up living there awhile, traveled to more places — it sparked an interest in language and culture. Who I am today is because of that experience.” If you can’t travel or live abroad, this is a way to bring part of the world to you. For Christina this was a big motivating factor — allowing the kids to have exposure to other cultures and learn to be comfortable with the differences. It’s not without its ups and downs, she notes. After an initial “honeymoon period” it takes time to adjust to missing family, friends and their own culture. They are coming from their own family life where the expectations and rules might be very different, for example, some cultures allow teens more personal freedom. But, EF High School Exchange Year offers both host families and students orientations to help prepare them for these commonly faced challenges. There is also a thorough matching and vetting process.
HOW DO I FIND A MATCH & CAN IT REALLY BE THIS GOOD? Host families are screened with a home visit, background check and verification of meeting an income requirement. Single parents can host students, as can empty nesters. And just because the exchange students are teens doesn’t mean you have to currently have teen-aged children of your own. Christina’s kids enjoyed having an older ‘sibling’ and parenting a teen was a new experience. Students are expected to be good ambassadors of their home country and also undergo a screening process. They will be in good academic standing, not have any serious mental or health issues, and provide letters of recommendation and a written personal essay. Students range in age from 15-18 and come from one of 13 countries: Thailand, Japan, Taiwan, South Korea, and several throughout Europe. He or she will be able to speak English. Their profile will indicate their level of proficiency. Part of the travel experience is for the student to have a language immersive experience, so that means if you happen to speak your student’s native language you’ll be asked not to do so while the student is staying with you. Likewise, hosting up to two students at one time is also permitted, as long as they don’t speak the same native language.
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Amy Rawe is a writer and editor living in Knoxville. She’s also looking forward to this summer’s staycation plans because it means fewer nights she has to cook—which both she and her daughter know is a good thing.
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Dine-around-the-world this summer,
STAYCATION STYLE OUR CULINARY ITINERARY INCLUDES: BIDA SAIGON—VIETNAMESE. I was fortunate enough to spend three weeks in Vietnam during my travels, and I was blown away by how beautiful the countryside was and how fresh and flavorful the food was. I rarely ate in a restaurant. Roadside stands offered delicious homemade dishes such as a delicious traditional noodle soup called Pho. A colleague recently told me that Bida Saigon has amazing Pho for less than $10, and sure enough, Trip Advisor reviews rave about their Pho. We’ll kick off our summer with a taste of Vietnam. GOSH ETHIOPIAN RESTAURANT. Online reviews recommend the kisba, which is chicken on seasoned rice with golden raisins, pistachios and almonds. The market here is fun to look through as well—maybe we’ll pick up a jar of pickled turnips. QUALITY TURKISH MARKET. The owner of this little gem begins cooking fresh dishes each morning at 5 a.m., and the small restaurant is becoming well known for their authentic doner platter of thinly sliced meat, veggie salad, pita, and hummus. The market is also fun to browse. SITAR INDIAN CUISINE. They offer a reasonably priced yet, extensive buffet that will allow us to sample curries, lentils, and rice dishes. LINDERHOF RESTAURANT—GERMAN. Nina wants to go here just so she can say
“weiner schnitzel” when she orders. ASIAN HIBACHI—MALAYSIAN. I’ve been passing a sign outside a small restaurant in Rocky Hill that says “Yum! Yum! Malaysian street food here.” That means noodle dishes like tam tam, chow mee hun, and char koay teow, which I don’t know what they are, but we’ll find out.
There are other ethnic restaurants on our list—Kaya Korean and Brazerios for Brazilian food—but we’ll start with these six, once a week perhaps. We also plan to wander through the Sunrise Supermarket, which claims to be the largest international supermarket in Knoxville. No doubt we’ll find some fruits, spices, or packaged snacks we’ve never tried before. A friend cautioned me that you can find jars of pickled chicken feet here. Nina’s eager to find out if that’s true or not, and I don’t think it’s a bad thing for her to know that people in other parts of the world use every bit they can to sustain themselves. We have agreed, however, to pass on any cow brains.
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UMMER IS A GREAT TIME to pack up your things and run away for a week. Let me rephrase that, summer is a great time to go on vacation. We all need a break. During the fall, winter and spring all we do is work and do more work and then we do even more work. Now I assume that when you go on vacation you want to go somewhere enjoyable. If you only get a single thing out of this article, I want you to know this: Anna Maria Island is one of the best places to go on vacation. Anna Maria Island is eight miles long and located off Bradenton, Florida, adjacent to Longboat Key and just south of Tampa. Photos: Riley Love Media.
First things first, there are many ways you can get around this Island destination. There is a trolley that runs from tip-ofthe-island to tip-of-the-island and stops very frequently. This form of transportation is $0.00. (Yes, that is right, it is free). All you need to do is find a marked trolley stop, wait about 1-10 minutes, get on the trolley, pull the cord when you are near your stop, get off the trolley. The only day I wouldn’t ride the trolley is after the fireworks on the Fourth of July. It is packed and once took us an hour to make a U-turn. You will be stuck in traffic either way, but it would be better to be stuck in your own, less crowded car. So, the other options are to drive your car, ride a bike, or walk. The Island is actually a very bike-friendly community.
Everything is easy to get to on the Island. Obviously it is an island and it has beaches on all sides fronting the Gulf of Mexico and the Inter-coastal Waterway. The beaches are absolutely beautiful. The sand is a nice soft powdery white. The water waves are pretty calm and are a beautiful green-blue. It is so relaxing to float in the Gulf of Mexico and let all of your worries slip out of your mind. For kids there is a free surfing class in June that will teach kids
the basics of surfing. By the end of the class they will all be in the water. The waves are not too big so no one will get hurt.
If you really are not a beach person but would still like to visit, then there are plenty of things to do. There is a museum that shows the history of the Island. There is a really cute, old jail cell that is really fun to go into and take some pictures. There are fishing piers with restaurants attached to great views of dolphins jumping waves, bobbing pelicans and an occasional manatee.
If you would like to go around and see the whole Island then you could become a mall cop and take a segway tour. This tour takes you all around the Island on the scooter like thing that the mall cop would ride around in the movie “Mall Cop” — if you’ve seen it. I’ve only scratched the surface when it comes to activities to do here because you can also take boating tours, rent kayaks and paddle boards, practice yoga on the beach or parasail. I mean, when you’re not building sandcastles or watching sunsets. While on the Island tune into AM1700 to find the Island’s community radio station, Anna Maria Island Radio. You
can actually listen anywhere in the world on your computer or mobile device at annamariaislandradio.com. Listen live or to past shows in the “vault.” All the music played on the station is original music by unsigned artists and often you can find out what events are happening. You can also pick up The Sun or The Islander free community newspapers to find more events happening during your stay.
Do not worry about food. There are so many amazing restaurants to go to. Honestly, one of my favorite parts of visiting the Island is eating out. Some of my favorite places are Mar Vista Dockside Restaurant and The BeachHouse. Both places have a really big menu (and really good complementary bread). I always get chicken wings and at Mar Vista I get the clam chowder. In Bradenton Beach there is a pizza place called Oma’s and, oh my goodness, I am always talking about how good their pizza is. Their chicken tenders dipped in marinara sauce is super good as well. And you cannot forget about their chocolate cake. It is so rich but so good
— and that is coming from a person who normally does not like chocolate. But, if you’re staying in a beach cottage with a kitchen you can trolley on over to the Publix supermarket for picnic fixings or ingredients for a home cooked meal.
Shopping is another favorite vacation pastime and Anna Maria Island has plenty of options for that too. The Beach
along the Riverwalk like free concerts in the park. Riverwalk features a scenic walk, splash pad, playground and skate park. Saturday downtown is also the place to score local fresh produce at the weekly farmer’s market.
But, I guarantee you won’t want to stray off the Island for very long, if at all. Anna Maria Island is an amazing place that is definitely worth a visit.
Market on Coquina each Sunday features handcrafted, unique items. Take a stroll down Pine Avenue or Bridge Street for some more local shopping treasures.
You really, never have to leave the Island because it has everything you need, but if you do there are some places you should check out nearby. Right off the Island is Cortez Historic Fishing Village — definitely a place you must explore. Also a not far drive you can wind up where De Soto first landed when he came to America, the De Soto National Memorial. A bit further into downtown Bradenton you should visit the Village of the Arts, especially if you can make a first Friday art walk, and from there you can also wander over to Riverwalk. Keep an eye on the local papers for events happening
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Piper Hansen, 14, is a native Floridian who looks forward to returning to Island life each summer. She plans to read, make music and dig her toes in the sand for 8 long weeks. You can follow her radio show, A Piperly Life, on annamariaislandradio.com.
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Here are some of the top trends for men and women this season
for women WHITE ON WHITE! Nothing says summer like wearing beautiful bright white pants and tops — or even both! The good news is you no longer have to wait until after Memorial Day to wear them either.
STRIPES, STRIPES, STRIPES! Stripes and nautical looks are being seen everywhere this season! Tip to remember is to keep the size of the stripe in proportion to your frame size.
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FLOWERS! Botanical flowers are very popular this season on tops and dresses. As with the stripes, make sure to keep the size of the print in proportion to your frame size.
LACE!
Lace can add a bit of romance to your wardrobe and is a beautiful trend for the season.
70’S STYLES The 70’s styles are making a comeback this season! From the bell sleeve to the cold shoulder and fringe on everything, this trend can be fun to wear—again!
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STRIPES! Just like for the women, stripes are showing up everywhere in men’s fashion too!
INDIGO BLUE The color blue is very popular this season and denim and more denim are totally on top trend for men and women!
SOUTHERN STYLE Everyone loves a Southern Gentlemen! You won’t go wrong taking a cue from this style when shopping for thedapper dad in your household.
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continued from page 29 Host families provide housing, transportation and meals, but students are responsible for their own incidentals, meals out, clothing and carry their own health insurance. An IEC coordinator checks in with families once a month. Most commonly asked questions revolve around whether students can work, carpool or participate in students activities, which are all concerns your IEC coordinator will help answer. The majority of students stay for a full school year, so placements need to be set by the end of summer. Some high schools limit the number
of exchange students they enroll each year, so be sure to check when space will be available to plan your host year accordingly. EF High School Exchange Year is a division of EF Education First, the World Leader in International Education. As a non-profit organization headquartered in Cambridge, Ma., EF High School Exchange Year has been committed to promoting global awareness through student exchange for more than 30 years. The organization brings more students to the U.S. each year than any other high school exchange program, and since 1979 it has connected more than
100,000 talented, enthusiastic international students with caring host families across the United States. EF High School Exchange Year is designated by the United States Department of State as and Exchange Program Sponsor and has been granted full listing by the Council on Standards for International Educational Travel. To find out more information about EF High School Exchange Year, visit www.efexchangeyear.org.
on the blog Knoxville Families Magazine publishes content weekly online from a diverse group of bloggers. Here's a look at some of the topics we've been talking about.
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Family Fun (and Learning!) in the Outdoors by Cyndy Merse KIDS: MOVIE REVIEWS
Captain America- Civil War Movie Review from a Teen’s Perspective by Carson Rosen
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The Single Most Important Tip For Staying Organized: by Emily Carroll from Redduporganizers.com
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7 Strategies for Navigating Summer Vacation with a Toddler by Kristen Lehman HOLIDAY/OCCASIONS
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Splash INTO SUMMER
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Summer brings an abundance of ongoing events to keep the family busy enjoying lazy days and nights.
Live Jazz Every day • 5 pm World-class jazz and blues music. No cover. The Red Piano Lounge
Food Truck Park Third Thursdays • 6-9 pm Rain or Shine food trucks show up. BYO Chair. Southern Railway Station
Contra Dancing Every Monday • 8-11 pm Beginners welcome, no partner needed. Live music. Come early for a quick lesson. Laurel Theater
Nostalgic Nights Outdoor Market First Fridays • 6-9 pm Vintage, retro, antique, repurposed and handmade items. Nostalgia on McCalla
Story Thyme in the Garden Every Wednesday • 10:30-11:30 am Rain or Shine in the EcoGarden for Preschoolers. Knoxville Botanical Gardens & Arboretum
Summer Movie Magic Select weekends through August 8 pm & 2 pm Tennessee Theatre Robotics Revolution June 6 • 10 am – 3 pm STEM awareness family event. Jacob Building at Chilhowee park
Family Fun Day in the Land of Dinosaurs June 11 • 1–4 pm Free activities, crafts and tours. McClung Museum of Natural History Meadowlark Festival June 25 • noon–11 pm Music festival Ijams Savvy Designs Fashion Show July 30 • 2-4 pm Teen designer Savanah Johnson back-to-school fashion show. Knoxville Soap Candle and Gifts
Back to School Bash & Dash August 13 • 9:30 am 5K Race & Fashion Show West Town Mall East Tennessee History Fair August 20 • TBA Children’s activities, music, History Hound dog costume contest. Downtown Knoxville Asian Festival August 28 • 11 am – 6 pm Performances, food, vendors Market Square
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