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Catherine’s COURAGEOUS CONFESSION

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SPECIAL FEATURES 38 52

Catherine’s courageous confession Portrait You

OPINIONS 6 30 54

Americans coming together Mental Illness stigma. When will we get rid of it?

Are smart phones making us smarter?

STYLE 10 14 62

Talk to your stylist To pink or not to pink?

Must have this fall

BEAUTY 5 18

Product of the month Skin repair after sun damage

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HEALTH 26 34

Get help for your binge eating You survive. Get up and get going

PARENTING 58

Ask Cynthia

DIET 22

How safe is our food?

TRAVEL AND LEISURE 42

Egypt, the land of the Nile, Pyramids and never ending wonders 4

Publisher’s Message September 2015

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fter a long, hot summer, September is here, ushering in a time of paying tribute to our fallen loved ones. On the anniversary of the attacks of September 11, Americans across the nation will unite in service in the same remarkable way that so many came together in the days and weeks following the attacks.

The 9/11 non-proďŹ t organization MyGoodDeed.org ďŹ rst established the inspiring tradition of engaging in charitable service on 9/11 as an annual and forward-looking tribute to the 9/11 victims, survivors, and those who rose up in service in response to the attacks. The organization has dedicated 9/11 of each year as a Day of Service and Remembrance. Visit MyGoodDeed.org for local service opportunities.

Concur is adding a new section this month, “Around the World with Concur�, starting with Egypt, the land of never-ending magic. Hope you enjoy the tour.

September is also Self Improvement Month. It comes every year to remind us that there is still a lot of work to be done in reforming every aspect of our lives.

Also, many don’t know that the name of this month is derived from the word septem, which is Latin for seven, a number that has long been regarded as a number of perfection, luck, and wonder.

It’s always been proven that unity can help us turn our weakness into strength, our threats into securities and our failure into success. With the unwavering determination of the American people, nothing is impossible; absolutely nothing! Happy September.

The Publisher Sarah Elsadre, M.D.

Publisher and Editor in Chief Sarah Elsadre, MD Creative Design Editor Mary Bradshaw, Houston Desktop Graphics Beauty and Style Director Sarah Elsadre, MD

Sales Executive Claudia Madrigal

Photography Austin Miller

Portrait J. Pamela Photography

Web Producer Michael Mocilac

Research Editor Mona Hassan

Psychology Editor Cynthia Plymons, LPC

Beauty and Fashion Editor Bobby Wells

Fitness Editor Emilia Benton

Travel and Leisure Editor Michelle Ong

Writer at Large Patricia Gras

Bayan Raji

Hair Editor Phiet Ho

Contributing Editor Tammy Adams Contributing Writers Sara Zaske Mona Hassan

Document researcher Liz Davila Writer at Large Susan Neuhalfen

Jessica Vasquez

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UNITED WE STAND

By Susan Neuhalfen

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ourteen years ago, on Sept. 11, 2001, the nation watched in horror as a massive terrorist attack was launched against the United States. For those who are old enough to remember, it seems like yesterday.

For those who lost loved ones, the reminders are there every day.

Commemorating 9/11 is difficult because it stirs up painful memories. However, there are proud moments that sparked patriotism and camaraderie. Most of all, two very important debts are owed to those who perished and those who sacrificed so much to help heal our nation. The first is to never forget what happened that day. The second is to honor their memory by learning from this tragedy.

Although the events are fresh in the minds of many, an entire generation of children, some of whom are already in high school, were not even born at that time. Even those of college age are too young to remember or to be profoundly affected. Just as our elders before us shared their memories of the Vietnam War, the Korean War and World War II, we owe it to the younger generation to talk freely and openly about the

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events of Sept. 11. Most notably, how Americans came together that day to be heroes, and how, for the first time in a long time, our nation was not divided, but united for one another.

The lessons we learned from 9/11 are also significant because they still apply today and will for years and generations to come.

While some are directly related to the events that happened, some are the same “golden rules� we were taught as children.

It can happen here.

No place is immune to terrorism. There are foreign lands that experience bombings and terrorist activities every day. Now terrorism happens on U.S. soil and it’s become part of our lives.

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in war-torn nations while being mindful that it can, and most likely will, happen here again.

When the going gets tough, Americans come together.

There are so many untold stories of 9/11. All Americans came together that day to do extraordinary acts for one another.

Tragedy should not dictate that for us. It should be part of everyday American life.

Some gave all.

Todd Beamer and the other passengers of United Airlines Flight 93 could have simply panicked, knowing their fate was doomed. Instead they chose to save the lives of those in the White House who could have perished had the terrorists’ plan succeeded. These were average Americans who became remarkable heroes. We should never forget what they did to save lives in the wake of their own tragedy. We should all act so selflessly in such a situation.

Thank the everyday hero.

We saw firsthand the sacrifices that people make in their jobs every day. These everyday heroes include police officers, firefighters, military personnel, paramedics, doctors, nurses and volunteers. While everyone else is running away from catastrophe, these men and women run toward it. They should be thanked for their service to society every day.

Don’t leave words unspoken.

Calls came from the World Trade Center and the planes to loved ones across the globe. Many calls never went through.

Many never got to say one last goodbye. Make sure your loved ones know how you feel before you part ways. Don’t walk away angry. Don’t leave words unsaid. Don’t live with regrets.

Don’t let the terrorists win.

Don’t let fear dictate your decisions. If we hide from life because of fear of terrorist attacks, we aren’t living. Don’t give up the chance to see life-changing events for fear of terrorism.

This gives the terrorists victory.

Don’t judge a book by its cover.

To judge all Muslims by the actions of a few would be the same as judging all Christians by the actions of David Koresh and the Branch Davidians in Waco. A burka may trigger the memory of what happened on Sept. 11, but under that robe beats the heart of another human being.

The most important thing Americans can do every day is live like we did during those days following the attack.

Not living in fear, but uniting as one, helping our fellow Americans and standing together as one nation. Especially now, as we enter into another divisive election season, it is more important than ever that Americans take the time to remember what happened on Sept. 11, and what was learned. Q September 2015

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YOU ASK

Hair problems?

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curly hair that lacks moisture. Whether the curl is natural or chemically induced, the hair cuticle expands due to lack of moisture, creating a dry hairstyle. One thing to consider for frizzy hair is how often you are shampooing. Avoid daily washing and condition more often, preferably in between washings to keep hair hydrated. Make sure the shampoos are sulphate- and silicone-free. Products like these will be gentler on curly hair and help retain hair’s natural oils.

Adding argon oil and leave-in conditioners on the ends to replace natural oils is a plus. Avoid unnecessary heat on the hair by air-drying rather than blow-drying to help minimize volume and frizz. If you’re in a time crunch and blow-drying is a must, make sure to use a nozzle to help concentrate the air flow, which will give you a smoother blow dry. Using a proper blow dryer, one with enough air pressure to move the heat through your hair, should be used to prevent fragile, curly hair from burning.

OVER-PROCESSED HAIR

DANDRUFF Dandruff is flaky, dry scalp. One of the causes of dandruff is product build up. Using the wrong type of shampoo could leave your hair and scalp with a waxy residue. Over-washing removes natural oils that are essential to hair health. A gentler option is tea tree oil shampoos. Tea tree oil is a natural ingredient for sensitive skin. Another good option to consider is Nioxin Scalp Recovery. This product is specifically designed for scalp-related problems including seborrheic dermatitis and dandruff. It restores moisture and balance to dry, itchy scalp and thirsty hair, eliminating irritation and flaking. Finally, the type of brush you use could make a big difference in taming an irritated scalp and hair. Consider a soft boar bristle brush to brush your hair and scalp to stimulate the scalp and promote healthy pores, working up to 100 strokes a night.

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Being too aggressive when chemically altering your hair can wreak havoc on the strongest of hair shafts. The first step? Give your hair a break! Consult with your colorist and strategize a six-month plan that will get you to the color that you want in stages, allowing hair to rest and hydrate in between salon visits. Seek out salons that offer Olaplex, an additive used in coloring or a standalone treatment that will leave your hair much healthier after coloring.

Protein treatments are great for bleached hair and should be done consistently and regularly. These proteinbased treatments are a great way to build strength in hair to eliminate breakage. Finally, once over-processed hair is treated, it is important to get rid of the damaged locks with a professional haircut to display new and healthy growth.

Your hair will soon be on the mend once you’re able to pinpoint what it is suffering from. Hair concerns should be openly discussed with your stylist in order to remedy any issues. With the guidance of your stylist, you can be more educated on the dos and don’ts for your specific hair problem and make wiser choices to maintain a healthy hairstyle. Q

Phiet Ho has been a hairstylist for 22 years. He has been the owner of Salon Vivid for the past 12 years. The salon has been recognized for its continued support of local charities as well as mentoring young stylists new in the hair industry. Salon Vivid was recently voted Best Salon in the Bay Area by The Citizen newspaper.

YOU STYLE

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By Bobby Wells

hen you sit back and watch the ladies stroll through the makeup department, there is really only one thing on their minds besides finding the perfect shade of lipstick.

Women want to know what color of clothing will make them stand out in a crowd. Time and time again, women read fashion magazines trying to find the answer. There are a few simple ways to figure it all out.

Walking around in a paint department or playing with a kids’ crayon collection are fun ways to start learning about color. First, make sure that you know which colors compliment your skin tone best. And remember, just because your best friend wears tight, red spandex does not mean that you should too. So many women run out during their lunch break to shop for makeup and clothing and usually never end up with the right match.

Department store lighting certainly does not help the situation.

Rule No. 1: When you are searching for the perfect shade of lipstick and foundation, you should seek some natural light before you make a confident decision. Fluorescent lighting in dim department stores is not sufficient enough to determine a valid match against your skin. All stores should be structured to have the makeup department placed near large windows and doors for the ease and convenience of the clients. Barney’s New York beauty department in Manhattan was beautifully laid out on the first floor of Madison Avenue up until a few years ago. They made the biggest mistake ever – all of the gorgeous makeup products were dragged down to the basement continued...

level, with no natural light and no windows on the entire floor. Customers wrote in with complaints from the very first day and sales have continued to drop ever since. Simply step outside or near a window when trying to determine if you like that red lipstick.

Let’s take for instance, the color pink. Pink is the stereotypical color to define femininity. Pink is the most popular shade in lip colors. But there are various defining undertones to the color. Women want to find the “perfect pouty pink,” but it’s not so simple. Pinks can be coral, fuchsia, rose and tawny (brownish pink). Which one to choose, which one to lose? The defining factor has a lot to do with the rest of your face, hair and body.

If a woman is very fair-skinned and pale, the blue undertones will resonate better against her complexion.

Meaning, fuchsia, rose, hot pink, bubble gum pink, “Pepto pink,” will all look better on a pale, fair-skinned woman. A darker complexion will beam brighter and glow with a warmly undertoned lipstick, like corals, tawny pinks, terracottas and oranges. So when it comes to beach time and you lay out a little too long , it may also be time to switch out lipsticks for the season. Women should always have a collection of options laying around the vanity because one never knows if you may get whisked away on a sailboat for a weekend in Miami.

Everyone will agree: we all look better with a tan, whether it’s a synthetic coating of spray tan or a day at the beach. Lipsticks need to compliment your skin tone. The Golden Rule is knowing what color goes best with your skin tone.

The same goes for a blush color and eyeshadows. Beware of blues and greens around the eyes, you can go from classy to clown in just a few brush strokes. If you want to add some bold color to your eyes, try a bright liquid liner or colored mascara.

Yves St Laurent makeup collection sells some bold mascaras, such as royal blue, purple and even a cranberry tone. If you have a lighter skin tone, soft champagne tones and smoky grey are nice around the eyes to give them some mystery. If you have a deeper dark skin tone, it’s best to go with simple blacks and chocolates to radiate around the eyelids. For blush, try to find more matte cheek colors and not so much shimmer, as it tends to highlight wrinkles and lines related to aging.

Finally, the wardrobe. What we wear is extremely important for our self-esteem and daily life. Women want to be comfortable, but attractive at the same time. There are a few fabrics and patterns to simply stay away from. For starters, do not wear fur in the summertime. As with the makeup tips, women need to color their closets with hues that flow with their makeup, such as soft champagne tones and smoky greys for the fair complexions and navy blues, blacks and copper colors for the darker ones. And of course, everyone in every walk of life will be wise to own and wear white, black and fleshcolored clothing. These colors truly look nice on all of us, while beige and greens are a bit harder to pull off.

Never fall into the makeup trap of buying every pink you find. Follow these simple solutions to your beauty regime and get to shopping. Q

Sunshine

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YOU GLOW

By Bobby Wells

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he summer is upon us. With the sun beating down every day, this Texas heat wave is in full force with temperatures already having approached the triple digits. Even walking around at Hermann Park, I see the children jumping through the fountains for some cooling relief from the pounding heat. Tourists and students wait around all year for the fun days at the beach, waiting for that golden tan to set in. However, spending too many summer days outside can cause permanent sun damage that we don’t see until many years later.

After the sun tucks itself away beyond the hillside, we are left gazing up at the clouds saying hello to cooler days ahead. But we are left feeling parched. Our skin needs cooling and replenishment from moisture lost.

There are several ways to restore skin’s vitality after a long summer.

One of the most simple and sought-after ways to put the pep back into your skin is to stock up on some ice-cold, mineral-rich coconut water. The water contains a unique combination of B vitamins, vitamin C, micronutrients, and phytohormones that are exceptionally beneficial to your health. A scientific review published in the journal Molecules, highlights a few key health benefits: helps prevent heart attacks, lowers high blood pressure, provides anti-aging effects, fights free radicals, and the water contains Trans-Zeatin which can be used to treat Alzheimer’s Disease or dementia. Drinking a coconut is like a drinking a Gatorade without the added sugar. Coconut Water serves as a great source of potassium and is loaded with electrolytes to restore any moisture loss. The coconut is fat- and cholesterol-free, so many choose to eat the coconut meat from the inside of the coconut to gain added nutrients. My favorite brands are found at Whole Foods. Make sure to read the label and try to find drinks with no added sugars. These added boosts like cane sugar and caffeine will give you a major rush but then can lead to a crash and burn scenario soon after.

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you may have them growing in your backyard. Used for centuries in medicinal practices, aloe vera can heal parched skin. Not only does the aloe plant contain superior digestive properties to aid in the process of food consumption, but you can break off a piece and dive into the clear, jelly-like fillet. Aloe will give you your soft, supple glow back. It helps relieve redness and alleviates any sunburn patches all over the body.

Aloe is safe on the face, hair, and body, a true superstar of the plant world. Aloe vera improves wound healing and inhibits inflammation after surgeries. Relatively cheap in cost, this is essentially a miracle broth you don’t have to cook or conjure. Visit your local grocery store and stock up on some today. Your sun-kissed skin will definitely be thanking you later.

It’s worth noting that aloe vera is an effective antiaging treatment. As one of the best natural anti-aging products, as aloe contains no mineral oil, no parabens or other chemical ingredients that are found in many big-name skin care products, and are considered to be potentially risky to your skin and health. Aloe is also found in liquid- and capsule-form, and in some sports drinks.

Lastly, we must always make sure to mask up.

Not with the popular mud masks for impurities, but replenishing moisture masks made of cooling algae and avocado. Don’t forget to stock up on some bananas while you are out grocery shopping, which you can use as an all-natural, homemade facial mask to moisturize your skin, leaving it looking and feeling softer and smoother. Simply mash up a ripe banana into a smooth paste, then gently spread it over your face and neck. Allow it to penetrate for 10 to 20 minutes, then rinse with cold water. Another popular moisture mask recipe calls for 1/4 cup plain yogurt, 2 tablespoons honey, and 1 medium banana.

Rain or shine, we should always look after ourselves and be mindful of the skin we are in. After the sunshine, sweep off the dry flakes and hydrate. Q

Because every moment must be treasured.

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YOU CONSUME

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By Patricia Gras

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few years ago after surviving breast cancer that h was caught in time, I began to have a laser focus on the types of food I was eating. Then I met Robyn O’Brien, a former food industry analyst, strategist, author and mother of four.

Her book, “The Unhealthy Truth: How our food is making us sick and what we can do about it,” opened my eyes to the impact the global food system was having on our health.

O’Brien, described by the New York Times as “the Erin Brokovich of the food industry” for her relentless activism, began her crusade when one of her children almost died from a food-related allergic reaction.

“I felt totally uncomfortable with this possibility, so I began to try to understand it. How can a child be allergic to food?

What was the trigger? Eventually, I found the food industry uses financial models to mass-produce certain foods. These artificial ingredients and processes occur much faster than what occurs in nature.”

Today, it is almost impossible to eat foods that are not processed. It is hard to avoid over 6,000 additives, bleaching, glazing agents, and flavorings. As society grows in numbers, we also have to feed more people and perhaps keep products on the shelf a lot longer to make them more convenient to eat and more profitable for the industry.

The history of food processing is littered with ingredients that were initially presented as safer and more desirable, yet subsequently ousted as the opposite. Hydrogenated vegetable oils, also known as margarine, were actively promoted as healthier than the natural saturated fats in butter. High-

fructose corn syrup, once marketed as preferable to sugar, gar has now been identified as a key driver of the obesity epidemic in the U.S. So what the industry may label as “natural” may be a disguise for a more “processed” food production method.

In the United States, over 68.8 percent of American adults are considered overweight and obese.

Could it be that we are eating the wrong foods? We know food manufacturers combine ingredients that do not occur in natural food. The most common combination is processed salt, fat and sugar. If we were to eat small quantities of these foods, it would be fine, but we don’t. Processed foods make up 70 percent of the average American’s diet.

That’s cookies, crackers, cereals and some yogurts, just to name a few culprits. Most have various chemicals so they can sit on the shelf for a long while.

Daphne Hernandez, an assistant professor of nutrition and obesity studies at the University of Houston, says, “We are turning away from natural products to products that have a longer shelf life, because of our hectic schedules. We no longer cut our vegetables. We turn to products that have the noodles, the meat and the vegetables all in one package, but that’s not natural. It is kind of sad; our children don’t know what a natural continued...

vegetable tastes like anymore. They are consuming something that is full of chemicals.� “One big challenge is processed foods,� adds O’Brien.

But can we stay away from sodas, fast foods and refined foods?

If you can, then you won’t have to worry about what’s in our food supply or reading labels or chemicals you can’t pronounce, but most of us are inundated with the temptation every day.

O’Brien’s advice is: “Do the best you can. If you can just lower the amount of processed foods every week, you are on a better path. Once I learned the impact food was having on my children, I not only stopped feeding them junk, I also taught them to cook healthy meals and that is the best thing I could have ever done.�

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an was once one of the millions of Americans who struggle with the most common eating disorder: binge eating disorder. A recent Harvard study found that approximately 7 million people have the disorder, which affects 3.5 percent of women and 2 percent of men.

“I couldn’t stop eating. I started eating compulsively when I was nine years old and it finally ended when I participated in Overeaters Anonymous for three years. I stopped bingeing when I was 32,” Nan says.

Once more commonly known as compulsive eating disorder, in 2013 binge eating disorder was finally labeled a mental disorder in the The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders.

The diagnosis of binge eating disorder requires that a person eat an excessively large amount of food in a two-hour period at least twice a week for six months, experience marked distress regarding the practice and feel a lack of control over their compulsive eating.

Nearly half of people with binge eating disorder have suffered from depression at some point. “Overeaters Anonymous made me see I was looking at what was eating at me and in my case, I grew up in family that was non-feeling and narcissistic. I was a hyper-feeler and had a different intelligence than they did so when I opened my mouth I was told I was crazy you and wrong so I had to swallow those feelings. Instead, I overate. This is not about food. It is a behavioral and an addiction problem,” says Nan, a behavioral scientist.

Caryn Hogin, a registered dietitian and adjunct faculty member in the Department of Health and Human Performance Center at the University of Houston, agrees.

“It is a coping mechanism for deep underlying issues. In my 20 years of treating people with this disorder, I found they use food and abuse food as a way of either numbing feelings or as a way of controlling them. Then it becomes such an addiction. It is a highly addictive disorder,” Hogin says.

Sarah began bingeing in college. “I became addicted to sugars and flours. My body craved it. What happens when you go to a substance for emotional reasons, your body starts continued...

clinging to it for chemical reasons. I never binged on broccoli.

I always binged on either sweets or cookies or things that were unhealthy and gave me an instant high.”

Dr. Pam Peeke’s book, “The Hunger Fix,” reports the latest neuroscience research on how unhealthy processed foods trap people in a vicious cycle of overeating and addiction. The neurotransmitter dopamine rushes into the body the same way with certain foods as it does with cocaine.

Treatment has to include dealing with the addiction, says Joan Ifland, chair of the Council on Food Addiction. “Like any substance-based addiction, treatment is based on soothing the brain. This is done by avoiding processed foods, especially sugars, sweeteners, flour, excessive salt, processed fats, dairy and caffeine. It is also recommended to avoid reminders of these foods and to avoid intense emotions. A balanced, unprocessed food plan helps. Other activities that soothe the brain include exercise and sleep,” Ifland says.

“What’s important for people to understand is that food is just a coping mechanism,” Hogin says. “There are other underlying issues, so it is not about putting someone on a diet or an exercise program. It is a mental illness and must be 28

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treated as such. “ “This has nothing to do with weight,” says Nan. “It is about getting your feelings out of your mouth. You have to stop swallowing them. That is why the 12-step program worked for me. You talk it out. You have a sponsor. You plan your meals.

You don’t skip meals. You eat in public. Binge eaters tend to hide because they are so ashamed. But there is hope. You just have to change your behavior.”

A recent Harvard research study found binge eating disorder is commonly accompanied by other psychiatric illnesses. In their survey, 79 percent of those with binge-eating disorder had at least one other psychiatric diagnosis.

“There are some drugs being used to treat cravings for this disorder, but we hope now that it is considered a mental illness since 2013 by the medical community, more research will help us find better treatments and perhaps those can be covered by insurance,” Hogin says.

The names of former binge eaters remain anonymous to protect their confidentiality.

For more information, watch “Food Addiction with Joan Ifland” on “Living Smart with Patricia Gras” on YouTube. Q

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When WILL WE GET RID of the STIGMA on MENTAL ILLNESS?

By Mona Hassan

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rriving to work on time after a tough morning can be a trip. As you dash into the break room to grab a quick coffee, you run into your co-worker who you greet with a smile, but she doesn’t seem to respond positively. A few minutes later, you run into her again, but see a smile on her face with a totally different attitude. She seems to be a completely different person than the one you saw moments ago. The same thing happens again the following days, leaving you puzzled. You start to think it’s her mood pattern, so you then decide to limit your interaction with your co-worker, avoiding an unnecessary conflict. Another option is to try to understand what she might be going through and use some patience.

If you ever find yourself in a similar situation and most likely you will, then trying to use your patience option would be your kind bet. Judging your co-worker or thinking she is rude is not going to make things better at your work place. Many of us are going to experience some sort of mental illness in our life span however if we are lucky to be surrounded by an understanding society, then we will not fall a victim of the so called social stigma of mental health, a situation in which our misconceptions and stereotypes regarding mental illness affect our behavior and attitudes toward people who have it.

We are largely affected by what we see and hear in the media.

Movies, for example, often portray characters who suffer from mental illness as bizarre personalities with a great tendency to display unpredictable behavior. The symptoms of mental disorders presented in movies are usually not very accurate and mostly exaggerated to serve up drama.

A few years ago, the nation was shocked with the horrific shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School. Twenty children and six adults were killed; the shooter, who killed himself at the scene, was identified as Adam Lanza, a young adult male suffering from mental illness. A few days later, a mother (Liza Long) who is struggling with her son’s mental illness, created a blog that later became very popular and went viral everywhere, titled “I am Adam Lanza’s mom.” Throughout her blog, ‘Long’ explains the journey she is going through to treat her son and the stigma she faces every day. She also talks about the flaws in law regarding mental health care.

One day, her son threatened to kill himself if he didn’t get his electronics back, as he was grounded for using inappropriate language with his mom. In another incident, he pointed a knife at her during a morning argument before the school bus arrived. Every time, she would call police, manage to take her son to the ER where they would put him under observation for a few hours and send him back home. She wrote on her blog, “When I asked my son’s social worker about my options, he said that the only thing I could do was to get Michael charged with a crime. If he’s back in the system, they’ll create a paper trail,” he said. “That’s the only way you’re ever going to get anything done. No one will pay attention to you unless you’ve got charges.”

“I don’t believe my son belongs in jail,” she said. “The chaotic environment exacerbates Michael’s sensitivity to sensory stimuli and doesn’t deal with the underlying pathology.”

But it appears the United States is using prison as the solution of choice for many mentally ill people. According to Human Rights Watch, the number of mentally ill inmates in U.S. prisons quadrupled from 2000 to 2006, and it continues to rise. In fact, the rate of inmate mental illness is five times greater (56 percent) than in the non-incarcerated population.

Moreover, the stigma on mental health issues doesn’t only end at the social level; it extends to reach the professional level as well. For example, it is commonly agreed on at hospital emergency rooms that once a patient is admitted in, he or continued...

she should be put under a number of restrictions until proven not dangerous.

However, even though there are many stereotypes about mental health and people who have problems with it, there is also much confusion about who is really mentally ill and who is not. For example, people who pose imminent threat to the society, such as terrorists, could also be seen as mentally ill in some way.

In fact, in a recent study published by Psychology Today (Sept. 2014) author Steve Taylor claims that even though we cannot argue terrorists are mentally unstable, they lack a very significant personal trait that any mentally stable person should possess. They simply lack empathy towards others.

“It’s a mistake to simply label terrorists as ‘evil,’ or psychologically deranged – in fact, psychologists who have studied terrorist groups have found that terrorists tend to be stable individuals, not paranoid or delusional.

What seems to make terrorists essentially different from others is their ability to ‘switch off ’ their sense of empathy in service to their beliefs and goals,” Taylor said. “If you lack the ability to empathize, then it’s very likely that you could be labeled a psychopath.”

I disagree with Taylor; I strongly feel they are nothing but evil. But I agree with the fact that they all have severe psychopathology and that, unfortunately, they need our help.

Therefore, the implications of mental health stigma are huge not just on patients but also on society. If you think about it, people with mental health problems not only have to deal with their illness and society’s misconceptions about them, but also the prejudice resulting in limited opportunities for them in terms of jobs, housing, love and relationships.

This itself may explain recent statistics showing that 1 in 5 Americans have mental illness, but only one-third of such a population actually seek treatment for their diagnosis.

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educating the public about mental health issues. Here at home, NAMI and similar organizations are trying to do the same thing.

Although I believe it is time for a total mental health system reform, I don’t believe it is going to be achieved merely through a campaign. We are in need of a change in our perception of mental illness as a society. A change that is brave enough to erase the stigma. Support the system and give a hand to those in need of help. Perhaps we all need to play a role. But if you can’t play one, at least use some patience and treat others with compassion.

For everyone you meet can be fighting a battle! Q

YOU SURVIVE

GET UP and GET GOING

By Sarah Elsadre, MD

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lisabeth doesn’t recall ever being happy.

As a child, she learned to live with her depression, but she relied on a good connection with God and spiritual strength to get her through life.

She would watch her siblings being happy and outgoing and found it hard to understand. Through her teenage years, she was always intimidated by anyone who was older than her. She shelled herself and kept only a close circle of friends from the same neighborhood. Going into high school, things became harder. She had to deal with a more diverse population at her new high school, which made the intimidation worse. The shy, Hispanic girl in her hated high school and felt like she could never fit in.

She got pregnant in the 11th grade and realized she had to eventually take care of a baby and move in with her boyfriend. During college, she started working and again felt lost at her new job.

Being the youngest and the newest staff member enforced the sensation of inequality around her, and it troubled her.

It was this never-ending cycle of intimidation that she couldn’t get out of. “I would feel overwhelmed, walking around with a huge dark cloud above me all the time,” she says. The feeling of sadness would weigh her down and chain her. She could never break free.

Then life took her to another stage when she had her second baby. Her marriage wasn’t going well, so she decided to be a stay at home mom for a while, that got boring. She knew her children needed her, but she needed something else to do

Elisabeth never regrets her decision to try this treatment.

and decided to become a bus driver. Her work schedule was great, it permitted time with her children, but soon enough the feeling of overwhelming intimidation came upon her again. This time, though, it was with the high school children; their strong straight forward characters made it hard for her not to remember her high school years.

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“I asked around and was given Dr. Ahmed’s name in Baytown. I made an appointment and went to see him,” she says. “He prescribed a medication for me. In a few days, I started noticing a big change. He asked me if I ever had anxiety and my reply was ‘no.’

“A few months later, things got worse again and I realized then that I had experienced this anxiety my whole life but never knew how bad it was. The medication helped me cope with the depression and anxiety but I started hating being on meds. I wanted so badly to get off them.

“Dr. Ahmed advised me to try this new treatment if I am serious about being off meds. I like Dr. Ahmed, he always believes me when I tell him how I feel about my mental health. I trust him like a good friend. So I decided to give it a try. I started Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation of the brain, which, fortunately, my insurance covered.”

In her first week of treatment, Elisabeth felt lighter, positive and, most importantly, confident.

Finally, she was able to breathe easily and get rid of her fears.

“Deep inside, I knew things were getting better. I will never regret my decision to try this treatment,” she says. “It changed my life for good and made me who I always wanted to be, a confident person.”

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CELEBRITY-LIFE LESSONS

CATHERINE’S courageous confession

By Susan Neuhalfen

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espite being one of the most famous and talented actresses in Hollywood, Catherine Zeta- Jones has lived as private a life as she possibly can. In the public eye, she has taken her successes in stride. She’s won countless awards, including a Tony and an Oscar, and has managed to make a Hollywood marriage to fellow actor Michael Douglas work for almost 15 years. That’s why it sent shockwaves among her fans as well as her colleagues when she came forward to admit publicly that she suffered from Bipolar II Disorder.

Bipolar I and Bipolar II Disorders were once commonly known as manic depression. The difference between them is that Bipolar I Disorder involves manic episodes. In other words, the person acts in a way that is not only out of character for his or her personality, but severely different to the point of being viewed as abnormal behavior in society. A person with Bipolar I may be delusional and be subject to hallucinations. Manic episodes may last weeks and could require hospitalization.

A person suffering from Bipolar II Disorder, like ZetaJones has, experiences two very opposing psychological moods: euphoria and depression. A person with Bipolar II may experience very strong mood swings but nothing as severe as with Bipolar I. The highs and lows one experiences are not so harsh as to warrant anomalous behavior. Although a person with Bipolar II is more likely to continue everyday activities without

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interruption, they do experience longer periods of depression.

Bipolar II Disorder is often brought on by prolonged stress and can happen at any time in life. According to WebMD, symptoms may manifest as early as teenage years, and usually before age 50. In the case of Zeta-Jones, it is believed that her Bipolar II diagnosis was brought on by a combination of difficult events, causing an enormous amount of stress.

The first stressful event was husband Michael Douglas’ battle with stage IV throat cancer. The other was a very public court battle with Douglas’ ex- wife over proceeds from the “Wall Street” movie sequel. Both of these events led to Zeta-Jones checking herself into a mental health facility proactively in 2011.

After separating from her husband in 2013, Zeta-Jones returned to rehab, successfully completing the program and later reuniting with her family. Douglas told the press this summer that the couple is doing better than ever and they have recommitted to their marriage.

Supporting one another and their children is clearly a priority in their relationship. Douglas has not only supported her, he has very publicly expressed the pride he feels in his wife’s proactive approach to the illness. He told the press recently that he loves his wife now more than ever following their split and he’s very proud of her for coming forward about her condition. He also said that beating cancer has helped give him a new perspective continued...

on life. Over the summer, Zeta-Jones and their two children joined Douglas as he received the Genesis award in Jerusalem and then again on the red carpet for the premiere of his latest movie, “Ant-Man.” It was during this same time that Douglas’ mother lost her battle with cancer and 40

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the actress was there to comfort her husband.

Catherine Zeta-Jones’ openness about this illness has been a very brave move. Not only has she told the world she has Bipolar II, she has shared when she has sought treatment, giving others the courage do to the same and seek much needed help. This has opened up a dialogue within the media, giving medical professionals an opportunity to talk openly about the disease without carting around the usual “stigma” attached to a mental health issue. This disease affects approximately six million people including many other celebrities such as Sting, Demi Lovato, Russell Brand, Britney Spears and Ben Stiller.

Though there is no cure for Bipolar II, regular therapy in combination with medication can control the illness. By following the example of Catherine Zeta-Jones, people with Bipolar II Disorder may find the balance in life that is missing. Not only has she stayed one step ahead of the illness by checking herself into treatment facilities, she says she plans to do this regularly as part of her quest to stay healthy.

By talking openly about the disease and being proactive in her treatment, Zeta-Jones has provided an admirable example of how to manage this disease. Additionally, she is urging others in need of treatment to seek similar help through trained mental health professionals. Q

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EGYPT, the land of the Nile, pyramids and never ending wonders!

By Michelle Ong

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or centuries, travelers have flocked to Egypt to marvel at its unique monuments and temples. With a rich history spanning millennia, adventure-filled activities and captivating scenery, Egypt offers something for every traveler. For a sweeping view of the country, here are our favorite top 10 places to visit.

GIZA NECROPOLIS

Constructed over 4,000 years ago, the Pyramids of Giza evoke the splendor of the ancient Egyptians and are the last remaining seven wonders of the ancient world. The pyramids served as tombs for pharaohs of the Fourth Dynasty of the Old Kingdom (25752465 BCE) and as monuments to the sun god Ra. It is believed that their smooth angled sides symbolize the sun’s rays to help the pharaoh’s soul rise to join the gods.

The largest of the pyramids, the Great Pyramid, stands at over 400 feet. It held the body of the Pharaoh Khufu, whose wives and sisters were buried in the adjacent Queen’s pyramids. To the south, the Solar Boat Museum displays the pharaoh’s 142-foot-long funerary boat, first discovered in 1954 and reconstructed in 1971.

Southwest of the Great Pyramid are the Pyramid of Khafre and

the smaller Pyramid of Menkaure.

The Great Sphinx sits near the main entrance to the necropolis. Wearing a headdress, the head of the pharaoh faces east toward the rising sun. With the body of a lion, the sphinx represents the pharaoh’s divine form as the son of Ra. Consider a camel ride at sunset for a truly memorable view of the pyramids or to explore the surrounding desert. Several stables are located in and around the necropolis, and it is important to remember to bargain.

How to get there: The Giza Necropolis is located approximately 30 minutes from Cairo and is accessible by bus or taxi.

CAIRO You can easily spend weeks exploring the many sights of Cairo. In Central Cairo, the Egyptian Museum houses one of the world’s best collections of ancient history, with over 120,000 items. Highlights of the museum include the Tomb of Tutankhamun and the Royal Mummy Room.

In Islamic Cairo, the mosques of al-Azhar, Ibn Tulun and Sultan Hassan feature exquisite architecture. The Citadel, built continued...

truly amazing place you must visit

The Great Pyramid of Giza is the oldest and largest of the three pyramids in the Giza Necropolis bordering what is now El Giza, Egypt. It is the oldest of the Seven Wonders of the Ancient World, and the only one to remain largely intact. The Great Pyramid is guarded by the Great Sphinx statue.

under Saladin in the 12th century, offers expansive views of the city. Markets selling everything from gold and silver to carpet and spices are found throughout the quarter. For souvenirs, head to the 14th-century Bazaar of Khan al-Khalili.

Old Cairo includes Coptic Cairo, the heart of Egypt’s Christian community, consisting of six ancient churches, a synagogue, and a convent. The most famous of these, the Hanging Church, was built on top of the southern gate of a Roman fortress and is considered one of the oldest buildings in Cairo. Near the Hanging Church, the Coptic Museum displays 1,200 pieces of Coptic works of art, dating back from the Greco-Roman times to the Islamic period.

entrance to the Great Hypostyle Hall, one of the key attractions of the precinct, distinguished by its 134 gigantic papyrus-shaped columns. Past the Hall are the obelisks of Tuthmosis I and Hatshepsut, sanctuary of the funerary boat, Festival Hall, Inner Sanctuary, and Botanical Gardens. The Botanical Gardens are named after the detailed reliefs of the flora and fauna of ancient Egypt. A sacred lake once used for religious rituals stretches south of the precinct, and another set of pylons leads to the Precinct of Mut. The Precinct of Montu lies to the north.

KARNAK

VALLEYS OF THE KINGS, QUEENS, AND NOBLES

Lying on the east bank of the Nile, Karnak is the second most visited tourist attraction in Egypt. This temple complex was dedicated to Amun, his wife Mut, their son Khonsu and the local Theban war god Montu. The complex was built out of limestone over a span of more than 1,500 years, with successive pharaohs adding new structures.

The centerpiece of the complex is the 247-acre Precinct of Amun. A row of sphinxes leads from the Nile to the first pylon.

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How to get there: Buses and taxis travel from Luxor, which has an international airport. Trains run regularly between Cairo and Luxor.

On the west bank of the Nile lies the Valley of the Kings, where the pharaohs of the New Kingdom (1550-1070 BCE) were buried in rock-cut tombs. A total of 63 tombs have been discovered, including the glorious tomb of Tutankhamun, although only 15 are open to the public. Among these are the tombs of Ramses VI, Amenophis II, Tuthmosis III, Horemheb, and Seti I. Long underground shafts lead to the burial chambers, which are elaborately decorated with scenes depicting the

pharaohs’ lives and funerals, The ankh, also known as religious imagery, and text from breath of life, the key of the the Book of the Dead.

Nile or crux ansata (Latin The royal wives and children meaning “cross with a of the pharaohs were buried handle”), was the ancient in the Valley of the Queens, scenes from daily Egyptian life.

Egyptian hieroglyphic located southwest of the Valley How to get there: The Valleys are accessible from Luxor character that read “life”. of the Kings. Approximately by ferry, taxi, or bus.

90 tombs have been discovered, It represents the concept most notably, Nefertari’s tomb. of eternal life, which is the These tombs are smaller than general meaning of the those in the Valley of the Kings The two temples of Abu Simbel are carved into the cliffs symbol. [source: Wikipedia]. and are mostly decorated with on the west bank of the Nile. Four colossal statues of ritual scenes. Three of the tombs Ramses II stand on either side of the entrance to the are currently open to visitors.

Great Temple of Ramses II. Inside the main hall, eight Carved out of a limestone cliff east of the Valley of the Kings pillars are adorned with statues of Ramses II and battle scenes is Deir el-Bahari, a terraced temple embellished with colonnades decorate the walls. At the back of the temple, the sanctuary and reliefs illustrating events from Hatshepsut’s reign, including holds four seated statues of the god of creation Ptah, Amun-Ra, her divine birth and voyage to the Land of Punt (modern-day Ramses II, and the god of the rising sun Re-Horakhty.

Somalia).

Next to the Great Temple of Ramses II is the Small Temple Stretching across four sites south of the Valley of the Kings, of Nefertari. Six colossal statues of Ramesses II and his wife administrative officials, priests, and military officers were buried in Nefertari stand along both sides of the entrance. The great hall the Tombs of the Nobles. Over 400 tombs have been discovered, is lined with six pillars decorated with the heads of the goddess and 10 are open to visitors. The tombs are vividly decorated with Hathor, and the walls depict ritual scenes. A sanctuary at the back

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The temple of Luxor is situated on the east bank of the River Nile in the town of Luxor (Thebes). The temple was known as “ipet resyt” (“the southern harem”) and it was founded 1400 BC.

of the temple has a statue of Hathor in the shape of a cow protecting a smaller statue of Ramses II. How to get there: Abu Simbel is 174 miles south of Aswan. Buses and taxis from Aswan take about three hours to get there. EgyptAir has one-hour flights from Aswan to Abu Simbel.

Abu Simbel is also a stop on Lake Nasser cruises.

NILE RIVER CRUISE The Nile undulates across Egypt from northern Sudan up to the Mediterranean Sea, making a Nile River cruise an excellent way to view the country. There are three options for cruising the Nile: feluccas, dahabiyyas, and cruisers. Feluccas are small sailing boats that have been used by fishermen for centuries. They are the most affordable option, best suited for short trips, but lack facilities like cabins Once you drink from the Nile, and toilets. Dahabiyyas are houseboats that can you are destined to return. be privately chartered Egyptian proverb. to carry a small group of passengers, offering a luxurious option for families, groups of friends, and honeymooners. With a dahabiyya, you can create a flexible itinerary and feel pampered with personalized service. Most dahabiyyas depart from Esna, south of Luxor. Cruisers provide

the easiest way to travel the Nile, with plenty of amenities, including a swimming pool, restaurant, air conditioning, and en-suite bathrooms. However, cruisers follow fixed itineraries, usually traveling from Luxor to Aswan, with varying journey lengths and organized excursions to tourist attractions.

MT. SINAI AND ST. CATHERINE’S MONASTERY Sacred to Christians, Jews and Muslims, Mt. Sinai is believed to be the site where Moses received the Ten Commandments.

The trail up the mountain is a popular and easy climb for pilgrims and tourists. Consider starting at night to reach the summit at sunrise for an unforgettable view of the rugged landscape. Longer treks in the area with a Bedouin guide can be arranged in the village of Al-Milga.

At the foot of Mt. Sinai is St. Catherine’s Monastery, one of the oldest functioning monasteries in the world. The monastery was built at the site where God appeared to Moses in the burning bush. Surrounded by thick granite walls, this Greek Orthodox monastery is a maze of passageways, entrances and buildings. Although most of the monastery remains closed to the public, the basilica, Chapel of the Burning Bush, and Monastery Museum offer exceptional views of In a 2011 study of the Byzantine mosaics, icons, world’s 24-hour cities, and paintings.

Cairo (Egypt’s Capital) continued... was ranked the “most 24-hour” of all. A city that never sleeps!

The City of Alexandria is considered the second largest city in Egypt.

Distinctively, the unique style of the “Bride of the Mediterranean Sea� combines an architectural mixture of the GrecoRoman, Colonial, Coptic and Islamic styles.

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How to get there: The monastery is located approximately 3.5 kilometers from the village of Al-Milga, which has bus connections to Cairo and Dahab.

City of Hurghada on The Red Sea is one of the most beautiful and famous diving attractions in the world.

RED SEA Home to thousands of species of fish and over 150 types of coral, the Red Sea is a world-class diving destination. One of the best diving spots is Ras Mohamed National Park, located approximately 12 miles west of Sharm el-Sheikh, where you can explore coral reefs as old as two million years and view exotic marine life. Other recommended diving sites include Thistlegorm, an excellent wreck dive approximately 25 miles from Sharm elSheikh; Blue Hole, a 427-foot-deep abyss located 4 miles north of Dahab; and Canyon, a long coral-filled trench near Dahab best suited for expert divers.

Sharm el-Sheikh and Dahab are both good choices to unwind between dives, stretch out on the beach, or indulge in fresh seafood. Luxurious resorts line the beachfront of Sharm el-Sheikh and offer a wide variety of water sports, including sailing, snorkeling, and windsurfing. Dahab is a smaller, less touristy option and a good place to arrange a camel safari.

How to get there: EgyptAir ies from Cairo, Luxor, and Alexandria to Sharm el-Sheikh. Bus rides from Sharm el-Sheikh to Dahab take one to two hours. continued...

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ASWAN Experience a different side of Egypt in Aswan, a slower-paced riverside city north of Lake Nasser with a distinctive Nubian atmosphere. To learn more about Nubian culture, history, and art, be sure to stop by the Nubia Museum. Nubian souvenirs and crafts, including swords, amulets, and African masks, can be purchased at the Sharia as-Souq, Aswan’s market street, or Hanafi Bazaar.

The Nile flows gently around palm-filled islands to the west of town. The largest of these, Elephantine Island, once played a role in the ivory trade and was a cult center for the god Khnum, his wife Satet, and their daughter Anket. A small collection of antiquities can be seen at the Aswan Museum. The ancient ruins of the original town of Abu, including the Temple of Khnum, are located past the museum. Colorful Nubian villages can also be found on the island.

To the west of Elephantine Island are the Aswan Botanical Gardens. The Greco-Roman Philae Temple Complex, including the Temple of Isis and the Temple of Hathor, is located further south on the island of Agilkia.

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Saint Simeon, and the Tombs of the Nobles, which date back to the Old and Middle Kingdoms.

How to get there: EgyptAir flies from Cairo, Luxor and Abu Simbel to Aswan.

SIWA OASIS In a remote corner of the Western Desert, Berbers established an oasis town called Siwa that was so isolated from the rest of Egypt for centuries that locals still speak a Berber dialect.

Hundreds of freshwater streams and springs water the acres of date palms and olive trees that make Siwa a green and lush oasis.

Siwa’s most famous monument is the Temple of the Oracle, where Alexander the Great consulted the Oracle after conquering Egypt and was declared the son of the god Amun.

Around Siwa, visitors can relax in hot and cold springs.

Cleopatra’s Bath is a local favorite. For a more secluded alternative, head to Fatnas Island or the cold freshwater lake of Bir Wahed near the Great Sand Sea. Those interested in venturing further into the desert can arrange a safari by 4WD or camel.

How to get there: Buses from Cairo and Alexandria depart daily for Siwa. Q

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PORTRAYING THE PORTRAITIST! From behind the camera to the spotlight

J. PAMELA PHOTOGRAPHY

Creative Excellence for more than Three Decades

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n the Bay Area, if you have been photographed by Pam Culpepper, owner of J. Pamela Photography, you already know it is a privilege and an honor. Her signature family portraits, senior photographs and bridal portraits adorn the walls of homes and businesses across the Clear Lake area and beyond.

Sought out for her creativity, attention to detail and her natural ability to capture those rare perfect moments, Pam Culpepper is a household name throughout the Bay Area.

“I love what I do,” she said. “When I am behind the camera, I am smiling. I get to photograph people in their happiest of times, at the youngest that they will ever be. I feel privileged to be permitted to capture that for people.”

IT’S NEVER A BAD TIME TO PURSUE YOUR DREAMS When Pam was a young stay-at-home mom, she and her family relocated to the Bay Area, right across from University of Houston Clear Lake. She decided to go back to school and managed to take classes in the evenings and around her family’s schedule.

“I was an art major and took photography as an elective course,” she said. It took some time, but Pam ultimately graduated with her Master of Arts degree and soon launched her career in photography. “I really owe a debt of gratitude to the university for giving me my career and actually, the university was even my first client as well. You can’t ask for more than that from a school!”

professional skills as well as her commitment to service in the community. She received the Outstanding Artist Award from the Arts Alliance and is the recipient of the Distinguished Alumni Award from University of Houston-Clear Lake among other honors.

DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY AND DO IT WITH EXCELLENCE It’s clear from the first five minutes of a photo shoot with J Pamela Photography that Pam loves her craft. “Simply put, I’m a people person and that comes through in my work,” she said. “I feel so honored to be able to help people creative a visual legacy that they can have for generations to come.”

The strength of J Pamela Photography lies in an unwavering commitment to creative excellence as well as their imagination as artists. “As the industry has evolved, we have stayed ahead of the learning curve, transitioning from film to digital, while staying true to our craft and with artistic excellence,” Pam said.

Pam is joined at J Pamela Photography by Heather Jodzio, who has managed the studio for 17 years. With a helpful attitude and can-do spirit, Heather helps to make every aspect of your photographic experience a pleasure. Levi Rosen is a skilled graphic artist with great talent in retouching portraits to ensure they look their absolute best.

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She may be known best for her photography skills, but Pam Culpepper is a powerhouse in service to her community as well.

“As an extrovert, my energy comes from being with people,” she said. “I have always been very involved in the community and believe that service to the community is an important part of business ownership. I don’t live in a vacuum. I truly love people and interacting with them. It is a joy to help others document their treasured events while also playing a small role to help our area grow and thrive.”

Pam has served and volunteered in her community in many different capacities over the years, including service for organizations such as Bay Area Houston Ballet & Theater, Assistance League of the Bay Area, The Arts Alliance Center at Clear Lake, Bay Area Turning Point and the Houston Symphony. She is a Stephen Minister at Clear Lake Presbyterian Church and a member of the Association of Business and Professional Women and served at the Space Center Rotary for two decades.

She has received many honors over the years for her

Over the years, Pam has been blessed to be able to photograph many historical figures and moments. She has photographed three United States Presidents, two first ladies and scores of NASA astronauts. She has captured the beauty and grace of the professional dancers of the Bay Area Houston Ballet & Theater as well as the wonder of newborn babies.

One of her more memorable photo shoots commemorated the Battle of Iwo Jima in World War II. Sixteen World War II veterans were aboard the Battleship Texas for a ceremony honoring their service to their country. “It was very moving,” she said. “It was solemn and beautiful and an honor to be a part of— it stayed with me for a long time.”

Even in this age of digital images where photos are often stored on a hard drive or server rather than on paper in a photo album, Pam feels strongly about the importance of capturing these images and transferring them onto paper or canvas so there is something for future generations to hold and see. “Photos that can be held and viewed are visual diaries,” she said. “It is important work.” Q September 2015

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YOU CONCUR

Are smart phones

By Patricia Gras

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epending on your age, you will probably find it humorous to think that just 25 years ago to do research, you went to the library, checked some index cards and found books or articles written at least a year or more ago to get the information to write your paper. Today, most of us in America live in a different world. According to the Pew Center’s Internet and American Life Project, 64 percent of us own a smart phone and 91 percent own some sort of mobile device. Thus, we have immediate access to the latest information in a matter of seconds.

The question is whether smart phones are making us smarter or dumber? Most of us can’t imagine life without one. We research online information such as news, health conditions, employment resources, driving directions, e-mails and almost any information we need quickly.

Most of us however, don’t use our phones for online access. Only 19 percent of Americans do.

Those who do tend to be younger – 15 percent are 18- to 29-year-olds, with lower household income and usually non-white, 13 percent of Latinos and 12 percent of African-Americans are Smart phone-dependent.

Many experts argue having access to information quickly makes us smarter, but it can also make us lazier, more distracted and some believe addicted. A University of Waterloo study of 660 participants with smart phones found more

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analytical thinkers with stronger “cognitive” skills use search engines less than others. They also have a greater willingness to think analytically.

In 2012 the New York Times reported that while teachers observed access to technology in general had improved student’s research skills, it also had a detrimental effect on student attention spans, so they paid less attention in class, wrote less effectively, and lost some of their ability to think critically.

Mary Dickerson, executive director of IT security and the chief information security officer at the University of Houston believes these gadgets are not making us smarter or dumber. “They are changing the way we get and process information,” she says. “Today the way we get information and how we communicate with others is different. We have more access to information but we also have to vet it differently and how we communicate with other people is less likely to be a face-to-face conversation with someone.”

Dickerson is concerned with how we have to make a conscious effort not to be distracted and “that is difficult, because the expectation today is that you have to be available 24 hours a day, even if on vacation. We have to be able to get off the grid, but how do we do it?”

“Whether smart phones are making us smarter or dumber is not the right question to ask. The gadget is not the problem; how the operator uses it can be,” says psychotherapist Nan Hall continued...

Linke, who has been practicing since 1971 and has seen the impact of technology in her clients.

“Many people today have become too available, reactive and addicted to a machine rather than engaging in human communication. They have become narcissistic, demanding instant gratification, without much empathy or capacity to deal with other people. People also don’t know how to disengage from these gadgets.

Many even sleep with them. I also know people who have been fired for not answering their phone 24 hours a day,” says Hall Linke. “I see the advantage for those who use it effectively, to gather information and in moderation.”

A recent Pew study found most Americans feel better informed thanks to the internet, with 87 percent reporting the internet and cell phones have improved their ability to learn new things. But Loanni Thomas Pavlidis Ph.D., a professor in the University of Houston’s Computational Physiology Lab, has noticed students are having a more difficult time paying

attention and doing one task that requires concentration for a longer period of time. “It is a great tool if you know how to use it, but many become addicted and we don’t yet know the long-term implications for the younger generation. There is a lot of research going on about the negative implications if we continue like this,” says Pavlidis. Q

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By Cynthia Plemons Licensed professional counselor

I have a 6-month-old daughter who babbles a lot. When I take her out shopping, I enjoy talking to her even though I know she doesn’t understand me. When I look up, I notice other people looking at me and I feel silly.

Should I stop talking to a babbling baby in public?

Please do not stop talking to your daughter. The other people looking at you are probably thinking “What a wonderful mother or father.” This is an activity that does not cost anything, bonds you and your daughter and teaches your daughter so much when you talk to her.

Here are some things to keep in mind when you talk to your babbling baby. Listen attentively when she babbles to you, mimic her facial expressions as if you understand her.

When she takes a break, talk to her as if responding to what she just said, each of you taking turns to talk. This teaches the speaking and listening skills needed for communication. When you are talking to her, use the “motherese” or “parentese” form of speaking.

This means use facial animation and a slower speaking voice. It will keep her interested and show her you want her to be interested.

She is learning language when you speak to her, so make sure you are using language you do not mind her repeating. You are also establishing open communication with your daughter when you talk and listen to her.

When my 7-year-old son returns from his father’s house, his behavior is horrible and he tells me the bad things his stepmother says about me. How can I get this to stop?

Using children as tools to create problems with the exspouse is terrible and all too common. The negative comments about mom or dad can cause your son to have conflict within himself while he works hard not to betray either parent and pacify each parent at the same time.

There is no way to stop the new wife from doing and saying negative things, but you can create an environment for your son that will make him feel safe and reinforce what he already knows about you.

When he returns home, ask about him, not his dad or stepmom. Do not ask what they said; ask if he had fun and what he did. Show compassion, excitement or whatever he needs for you two to connect. Do not make any negative comments or statements of disapproval over what happens at Dad’s house. You are working to establish trust in communication and prevent him from feeling as if he should take sides. He needs to know that whatever is said to you will not cause a fight between you and Dad. Many children withdraw from both parents, or act out at home and/or school due to the conflict inside. Your son loves you and his father. Do not make him choose between the two of you. Being the custodial parent is a hard job.

You can always take him to a therapist to help him work through the conflict he experiences, while you remain a neutral party.

Sometimes children use the negative comments as manipulation to get what they want from each parent. Remain consistent with your rules and values. If he is trying to manipulate you, it should decrease as it consistently fails.

I’m in the 6th grade and I get in trouble at school a lot. They tell me I talk back to my teachers. I don’t mean to be disrespectful, but the teachers are wrong sometimes and I think they should know. What can I do?

I applaud you for acknowledging the disrespectful behavior you are displaying. It is hard to remain silent when one feels wronged. And everyone is wrong sometimes.

Remember that your thoughts are your own and no one can take them from you. Nor can you get in trouble for what stays in your head because no one knows what you are thinking.

I encourage you to remain silent when you feel the teacher is wrong. It is hard, but you can do it. Create a phrase to think that will help you remain silent. I work with one young man that repeats in his head “Just be quiet, just be quiet.” After class, he approaches the teacher and talks about what made him upset.

Think of ways you can approach your teacher politely and

ask for clarification. Your teacher, whether right or wrong, is the authority in the classroom and should be treated with respect.

Think of it as good practice for being in the world outside of school. For instance, one day the person that you believe is wronging you could be your parents, a boss or a judge.

Practice following instructions and working things out with a third party. You can practice your approach with your parents, another teacher or a counselor.

Try to think about how you would feel if a 5-year-old told you that you were wrong. Would you want them to have a bad attitude or kindly ask more questions to make sure they understood?

I do not like my 15-year-old son’s girlfriend. What should I do?

First and foremost, do not let your son know you do not like her. It could encourage him to continue to have this relationship with her just to spite you. Do not make negative comments about his girlfriend. Take some opportunities to reinforce your values and morals about relationships.

Continue to instruct him on how you expect him to treat and respect girls in his life.

Educate him on how he should feel in a healthy relationship. He should like who he is and feel happy when he is in a healthy relationship. Likewise she should be able to do the same. A healthy relationship is a partnership in which each partner supports and encourages the other.

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continuing to work on relationships at home with mom, dad and siblings because she can observe how he treats his family and have an indication on how he will treat a wife, and vice-versa.

When young people are 15 years old and in new relationships, they may think they know more than experienced adults. They have to go through their own heartbreaks and learn what they do and do not like in romance.

As long as you maintain open communication and do not try to break them up, he may feel trusting enough to use your shoulder when the heartbreak happens, knowing he will not hear “I told you so” from Mom. My children are wearing me out with going to practice, music lessons, homework and games. I don’t want them to do without, but I’m so tired I get irritated with them and yell at them. I don’t want them to remember me as a grumpy mom.

Do you have any suggestions?

Loving parents such as yourself want so much to give their children everything that they often rob their children of great learning experiences and wear themselves out at the same time.

Limit your children to one

after-school activity each that they get to choose. Through this they can learn to prioritize. We learn what we value when we are required to weigh the pros and cons. When they identify for themselves what they find important, they put their efforts into their own successes.

If they discover they dislike the activity, they can choose another the following year. Request that they follow through with the one they select. You do not want them to have a bad day and decide “this is not for me,” quit and regret it later. The follow-through allows them to learn that there are going to be good and bad days.

Too many activities can create distance in families and in marriage. Mom and Dad are so busy getting the kids to practice and games they never get time together. They can grow apart and dissolve the partnership they created in the beginning.

Use the time they are not at practice, games or dance for family dinner, game night or an activity the family can use to talk and laugh together.

Limiting your children’s after-school activities also allows you to have that breather you desperately need for your own health.

I feel so burnt out at work, but I am stuck in my position. When I get home I just feel like sitting in front of the TV. I don’t feel like I give my children their much-needed time.

What should I do?

Many times when we feel stuck, we become so exhausted we fail to see options. Maybe you can begin by evaluating your work schedule. Are you spending more than 40 hours a week at work? Are you in a position that you can transfer out of ? Are there other options for you such as re-educating or training, or support from others?

Learning to take care of yourself and become stronger so you can spend time with your children is important for you and them. They want to spend quality time with you as much as you want to spend it with them. They grow up so fast, that you cannot make up the time. Find ways to get some “me time” that isn’t in front of the television. Take a bubble bath, a tip you can read about in the June 2015 issue of Concur. Go for a 20-minute walk. You can take your children along with you. It will be good for everyone.

There are many other small things you can do for yourself to rejuvenate you, help you become a stronger, happier you and get you more involved with your children. You are right; your children deserve and want to have quality time with you.

It sounds as if there could be more going on than being stuck in an unappreciated position. I encourage you to see a psychiatrist like Dr. Ahmed at the PsyClinic, and see a therapist to re-learn how to take care of you.

I don’t like my daughter’s girlfriend. How do I tell her she should find a boyfriend?

That depends on the relationship you want with your daughter.

You can create an open and honest relationship with her, by accepting the choices she makes and allow her to make her mistakes. Treat this relationship the same as any other.

She will go through breakups and learn for herself who is best for her. With a supportive mother allowing her to make mistakes she will know she can rely upon you when she hurts. If she were dating a boy, would you try to tell her which boy to date? Or would you educate her about healthy relationships?

If you want a daughter that sneaks around behind your back, keeps secrets and distances herself from your family, tell her who she should and should not date.

I have worked with many young people whose parents do not approve of their lifestyle but they know Mom and Dad love them no matter what. We do not always approve of our loved ones’ choices, but they are the ones who live with them, and we must respect that.

If your disapproval of her lifestyle is for religious reasons, try to keep in mind that God wants us to love the person even if we disapprove of the behavior. Q

Cynthia is a licensed professional counselor at The PsyClinic. She has extensive experience working with children and adolescents both in residential and inpatient settings. Cynthia has numerous successes bringing together families separated by the State and Juvenile Justice system. Her experience with children include behavioral disorders, depression, conduct disorder, substance abuse and psychosis. She is a facilitator for “Parenting with Love and Logic.” Cynthia has worked with incarcerated adults and adults with substance abuse, depression and psychosis in an intensive outpatient, residential and outpatient settings. With over 13 years experience working with families, adults, adolescence and children, she takes a holistic approach, believing a healthier being requires a combination of mind, body and spirit. To ask Cynthia please email your questions or concerns to askcynthia@concurmagazine.com Your questions will be answered and published in an upcoming issue.

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