The Monitor Magazine May 2020 by Diocese of Trenton

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‘The Creativity of Love’

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In a recent message about the COVID-19 pandemic, Pope Francis encourages all to employ the “creativity of love” in looking out for those in need. Across the Diocese of Trenton, members of the clergy, religious and laity have done just that, adopting countless creative ways to be present to all within our communities.

FROM THE BISHOP: It is the ‘new now,’ not ‘new normal’ EL ANZUELO: La alegría de la fe católica; herramientas, recursos y normas en el tiempo de la pandemia

BECAUSE OF THIS PANDEMIC, MANY OF OUR PARISHES NOW FACE FINANCIAL CHALLENGES. The unavoidable cancellation of public Masses and other church services necessitated by COVID-19 restrictions have severely set back our parishes who need the weekly offertory to cover their expenses and fund their ministries. Diocesan work on behalf of the faithful in Burlington, Mercer, Monmouth and Ocean Counties has also been impacted. In an effort to provide for the needs of the diocesan family, Bishop David M. O’Connell, C.M., has taken the unprecedented step of authorizing the

COVID-19 Emergency Fund If you are able, please remember your family in faith by making a safe and convenient online offering to the Diocese’s COVID-19 Emergency Fund.

Go to dioceseoftrenton.org/covid-19-emergency-fund and direct your support to one or both of the following:  PARISH OFFERTORY CONTINUITY Without emergency assistance, our parishes face an uncertain future. The parish you designate will receive 100 percent of each offertory gift; no administrative fees are collected.  DIOCESAN OPERATIONS AND MINISTRY NEEDS In this time of emergency, the needs are expanding, while the financial resources available to the Diocese have decreased. Help us continue to help you and your parish.

We are all that we have. Please support the COVID-19 Emergency Fund as your situation allows. Thank you for your consideration. develop@dioceseoftrenton.org • 609-403-7197 Diocese of Trenton, c/o COVID-19 Fund 701 Lawrenceville Road, Trenton NJ 08648 2 THE MONITOR MAGAZINE  May 2020

5-6 Msgr. Joseph N. Rosie, pastor of St. Paul Parish, Princeton, celebrates Mass in front of pews adorned with photos of his parishioners. Priests and the faithful continue to be examples of hope and compassion, from providing spiritual comfort and feeding those in need to offering guidance in these times of funeral restrictions. Special coverage begins on page 8. Photo courtesy of Father Carlo Calisin

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ooking back to late March, when our team was working on a special magazine edition on COVID-19, it would be safe to say that we didn’t really know what was to come. In addition to the fear and worry that many experienced as the disease was spreading, there was a pervasive sense of disruption just before Holy Week, when so many of us expect to be focused on the practice of our faith. Our Bishop, priests and parish ministers immediately set about to bring order to what felt very much out of control. Parameters were established, resources were developed and solutions were found so that the faithful could still experience a Holy Week and Easter in as meaningful a way as possible, given the limitations that safety required.

Now, with the most fearful and uncertain days behind us, it is wonderful to see God’s grace at work in the men, women and children who are doing so much to help their brothers and sisters get through this difficult time. The stories in this issue of The Monitor Magazine highlight the work that they are doing – from feeding the

 “Let us try, if we can, to make the best use of this time.” 

hungry and homeless, and showing support for those who care for us and provide for our needs, to thanking the teachers and parents who are making virtual learning possible for our children. We see the same heroic efforts shown by our priests and others who are finding whatever ways they can to provide pastoral care to the faithful, particularly those who are struggling because they cannot attend Mass in our churches. Between livestreaming Masses, staying connected through video messaging and engaging their parishioners in programs and projects, our parish leaders are demonstrating in new ways their sense of mission in a time when it is very much needed. In all of these endeavors, we are reminded of the message that Pope Francis

recently shared about the need for “the creativity of love” at this time. Our love for one another must drive us to find new ways Two St. Catharine School, Spring Lake, students are living to be present, to make a differup to their school’s motto, “Faith, Knowledge and Service” ence. The Holy Father stated, during the COVID-19 pandemic. Fourth-grader Ellie Bennett, “Let us try, if we can, to make shown in picture, has been spending some of her time at the best use of this time: let us home sewing masks for family, friends and frontline workbe generous; let us help those ers, while eighth-grader Charlotte Canzoneri has been makin need in our neighborhood; ing masks for the retired Sisters of Mercy and medical staff let us look out for the loneliest personnel. See TrentonMonitor.com for this story. Courtesy photo people, perhaps by telephone or social networks; let us pray That is exactly what has been unfolding to the Lord for those who are in difficulty throughout the communities of the Dioin Italy and in the world. Even if we are cese during this last month. And we are isolated, thought and spirit can go far with privileged to bring our readers the many the creativity of love. This is what we need accounts that reflect “the creativity of love.” today: the creativity of love.”

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From the Bishop

The ‘new now’ is not the ‘new normal’ for those who seek God’s grace

hen all the restrictions concerning COVID-19 are lifted – and they will be – will I have to return to Mass? Will I have to go to Confession? Will I be able to receive the Eucharist? Will I be able to have my wedding in church? Will I be able to have my loved one’s funeral Mass in church? Will Confirmations and Baptisms and Ordinations be schedA Message from uled? Will the sick BISHOP DAVID M. be able to receive the O’CONNELL, C.M. Sacraments? Will churches be opened for prayer as before? The answer is YES ... once restrictions are lifted and things return to “normal,” which means once the danger of spreading COVID-19 is no more. When the media and others refer to the “current” pandemic and all the consequences and restrictions imposed as the “new normal,” that phrase bothers me very much. It is not “normal” nor does the pandemic introduce a “new normal.” It is only the “new now,” the “new present moment.” It will pass, restrictions will be lifted and life – including life in the Catholic Church – will return to “normal.” No one has presented a convincing argument otherwise. Sure, vaccines will be developed and precautions will be introduced, but those kinds of things have happened before; they have become part of “normal” life, and we have adapted to them. Take the polio or flu vaccines for example. The history of the world provides many similar examples responding to very specific situations. That is also true in the Church. I am not saying things and circumstances don’t change, of course they do. But life will go on and it will in the Church.

The Vernon family, Consider the Sacraments. They have been defined as “outward signs in- members of St. John the Baptist Parish, Allentown, stituted by Christ to give grace.” That watch Father Michael definition was true and valid when Wallack, pastor, on screen they were instituted – even when the during a livestreamed liturgical format of their administraMass on Easter Sunday tion was modified and adapted over morning. Courtesy photo the centuries – and it is true and valid today and will be tomorrow. In theology, the Church speaks of “matter and form” as the essential elements of the Sacraments. Baptism has always been “water (matter)” and “Trinitarian formula (form)”; Confirmation has always been “consecrated Chrism and prayer accompanying the imposition of hands by the minister (matter)” and “anointing of forehead and formula (form)”; Holy Eucharist has always been “unleavened bread and grape wine (matter) and consecra Vaccines tion by the ordained priest (form),” and so forth, for each of the seven will be Sacraments. Sacraments presume the developed and physical presence of the recipient precautions and the minister. They are physical and spiritual realities, “outward will be signs, instituted by Christ to give grace.” And the Church has introduced.  developed sacramental laws and disciplines to ensure their validity. In the history of the Church, there have been occasions and events that have made the administration and reception of the Sacraments impossible. Those historical occasions and events, Continued on 6

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From the Bishop

The Church continues to be Church Continued from 5

however, have not altered the “fact and reality” of the Sacraments nor their “matter and form.” In a March 31, 2020, article appearing in Our Sunday Visitor, Monsignor Charles Pope explains this well: Many questions have arisen about receiving Sacraments in a time of concern about the coronavirus. In ordinary circumstances, Catholics are expected to actively seek the Sacraments in the usual way the Church offers them. However, there are times when the Sacraments cannot be given due to extraordinary circumstances such as extreme weather, natural disasters or plague. In some parts of the world, too, priests are not routinely available. In such cases Catholics should be reassured that the desire to receive the Sacraments is itself a way to receive their graces. God does not ask of us the impossible or the unreasonable. There is a long tradition stretching back to the good thief on the cross of the “baptism of desire.” Jesus assured him of paradise even though he could not, at that

moment, receive Baptism in the usual way. In these times of pandemic, we have also had to rediscover the tradition of Spiritual Communion. When the faithful cannot reasonably receive holy Communion, they are encouraged to express their desire for it to the Lord and be assured that, in their desire for holy Communion sincerely expressed, they receive the graces of it.

 God does not ask of us the impossible or the unreasonable.  The faithful should also be assured that, in their desire for the Sacraments of the Anointing of the Sick and Confession, if they cannot reasonably receive them in the ordinary manner, God knows their desire and will surely supply the graces they seek. God knows our hearts and will grant the graces we seek even if the usual ways he has set forth are not possible. May God’s people be at peace in this time of pandemic

Bishop David M. O’Connell, C.M., baptizes a young woman during the Easter Vigil in 2019. Access to the Sacraments, including Baptism, Eucharist and Confirmation for new Catholics, is on hold as a result of COVID-19 restrictions. In his message, Bishop O’Connell shares his belief that, “The doors of our churches will reopen for us again, the Sacraments will be given to us again, and we will return to the full practice of our Catholic faith again as we have in ‘normal’ times.’” Craig Pittelli photo 6 THE MONITOR MAGAZINE  May 2020y 2020

MORE ONLINE: Look on TrentonMonitor.com for additional homilies and reflections by Bishop O’Connell  MESSAGE: Patient suffering and sacrifice are what the Lord asks of us  PODCAST: Divine Mercy Sunday homily  REFLECTION: Divine Mercy Sunday: ‘Jesus, I Trust in You’  SACRED TRIDUUM: See the Bishop’s various homilies and messages for Holy Thursday, Good Friday, the Easter Vigil on Holy Saturday and Easter Sunday

knowing that their priests continue to offer the Mass on their behalf and that, through their desires, they are united to the Lord who seeks to bless them. The COVID-19 pandemic has created circumstances, restrictions and a resulting spiritual situation that has been very difficult for the Catholic faithful – clergy, religious and laity – to accept. It is not the “new normal” but, rather, the “new now,” however long it may last. Hopefully the temporary restrictions imposed by government and by the Church to prevent the spread of this virus will yield their intended and hoped-for effects, sooner rather than later. We need to cooperate with them and fervently pray for the end of this pandemic and for those who have died, for those who are infected, for their loved ones and for those who care for them. The doors of our churches will reopen for us again, the Sacraments will be given to us again, and we will return to the full practice of our Catholic faith again as we have in “normal” times, not merely because we “have to” or “can” but because we want to with all our hearts. In the meantime, as we wait for the “new now” to become the “new normal,” we know what we must do.

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‘Christ Will Help Us’ Isolated, those on front lines uplifted as priests bring Blessed Sacrament within monstrance

BY MARY STADNYK  Associate Editor AND JENNIFER MAURO  Managing Editor

he priests of Mary, Mother of the Church Parish have a practice of visiting the elderly, ill and homebound parishioners every month.

Father Martin O’Reilly, pastor of Mary, Mother of the Church Parish, brings the Blessed Sacrament within the monstrance to parishioners who are unable to worship online. Courtesy photo

In April, however, those visits took on a different form, as Father Martin O’ Reilly and Father Cesar Anson, pastor and parochial vicar, respectively, of the parish that serves Bordentown/Florence/Roebling, traveled with the monstrance, practicing social-distancing rules as they held up the Eucharist before houses and doorways. The reason for bringing the Blessed Sacrament within the monstrance, Father O’Reilly said, was to reach those who could not access livestreamed Masses or online family prayer hours during the COVID-19 stay-at-home orders. “These were the people who for 70, 80 and 90 years have supported their Church and parish and now felt locked out and isolated – unable to gather and pray,” Father O’Reilly said after the visits around April 16-17. Those visited, he said, “would gather at their front doors or windows. Father Anson and I would pray with them and petition God to keep them, their family and home safe from all diseases and

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In Focus

Priests continue innovative shepherding

Father Edward Blanchett, left, and Father Michael Santangelo pray for medical staff of Brick Hospital on Holy Saturday. Courtesy photo especially from the coronavirus. Then they would receive a special blessing with the Blessed Eucharist in the monstrance. “This brought a great sense of comfort and peace and, on some occasions, tears,” Father O’Reilly continued. “As one person said, ‘To have Jesus come to me in this way brings me great hope that I will come through this.’”

It was the first time the priests had collaborated, as both are in different Cohorts, and Father Santangelo said the hospital staff were very grateful. “They are wonderful people in a highstress situation,” he said. “Most of the staff were probably there for most of Easter weekend, and this was a little time out to allow Christ to bless them.”

CHRIST’S COMFORT For Father O’Reilly, the idea of bringing Christ in the monstrance stemmed from seeing priests or hospital chaplains do the same for staff and patients. “I was very moved by it and knew that this is what Christ wanted done – to go to his people and bless them.” That was the outreach extended in Ocean County, as the pastors of two Brick parishes came together to pray outside Brick Hospital on Holy Saturday. Medical staff gathered and patients looked on from their hospital room windows as Father Edward Blanchett, pastor of Visitation Parish, read a prayer, and Father Michael Santangelo, pastor of Epiphany Parish, blessed the congregation with a monstrance containing the Blessed Sacrament. “[It was an] opportunity to actually pray with and for members of the hospital staff,” Father Santangelo said. “It is one thing to tell the staff that they are in our prayers – and it is important to tell them – but to give them the chance to be present while being prayed for was something special for all of us.”

 “To have Jesus come to me in this way brings me great hope.”  Father Blanchett said, “Over the times that I have been there since this crisis started, I noticed how the staff were always working to support each other: from the moments of silent sharing to the light-hearted moments,” he said. “I would offer what words of support and encouragement that I could, but never quite found it enough,” he said. “When Father Mike suggested bringing the Blessed Sacrament, I suddenly found my answer: Let Jesus offer them comfort by the blessing of his presence! I know that it helped them, and I am humbled that we could be an instrument of that blessing.” HOPE NEEDED Father O’Reilly said he and Father Anson found the blessings “a very special Continued on 15

ith social distancing measures still in place, including the shuttering of all parish churches, priests of the Trenton Diocese continue to find innovative ways to support their flocks and communities. Frequent Facebook updates, links to diocesan and Vatican virtual events, social media and website pastoral encouragement, and prayer are the new order of the day. For example, in an attempt to fill the empty Princeton church, Msgr. Joseph N. Rosie, pastor of St. Paul Parish, asked parishioners to email photos of themselves to Father Carlo Calisin, parochial vicar, so they could be printed and displayed on the church pews. Msgr. Rosie also reaches out weekly via Constant Contact email to keep parishioners informed, including reflections on the Sunday readings. Then there is Father Oscar Sumanga, pastor of St. Anthony of Padua Parish, Hightstown, who said that free COVID-19 testing will take place in the church parking lot every Friday beginning May 8. This effort is a partnership between the parish and Hightstown Police Department, led by police chief Frank Gendron. Msgr. Kenard Tuzeneu, pastor of St. Mary Parish, Barnegat, posts weekly letters and check-in videos to the parish website – reminders of which are sent out in Flocknote text and email messages. Prayer intentions are also collected online and placed in a basket that is visible during the parish’s livestream Sunday Masses. In Spring Lake, Father Damian McElroy also frequently uses Flocknote to communicate with parishioners. He shares information from the parish and beyond, including how there is a need for frozen meals in fellow Cohort parish St. Rose, Belmar. By EmmaLee Italia, Contributing Editor

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In Focus

Many GOOD Works Diocese’s youth, adults jump into action to help others during COVID-19 pandemic ing from the global COVID-19 pandemic increased. So he henxi Mark Boa has raised the bar and his family sent 10,000 face masks to on what it means to be an internaDonovan Catholic tional student. with the request that Although he completed his junior the school find a way to distribute them. year requirements in Donovan Catholic School administration donated the masks High School and returned to his native to nearby Community Medical Center. China in February, thoughts of how to “As health care workers continue to help the Toms River community came to face incredible challenges created by the mind a month later as the needs resultCOVID-19 pandemic, we have witnessed strength, compassion and, above all, kindness from our community,” said Patrick Ahern, the hospital’s chief executive officer. “Community Medical Center thanks Chenxi Mark Bao, his family and the entire Donovan Catholic family for their generosity, which will help to keep our team safe as they care for our patients.”

BY MARY STADNYK  Associate Editor

 “We do community service because of who we are as Catholic Christians.”  The ways in which parishes, schools, individuals and organizations form around the Diocese are stepping up to help others during the COVID-19 pandemic are many and unique with stories such as Donovan Catholic’s donation-making headlines in print, on the web, social media and by word of mouth. Donovan Catholic’s maintenance crew members Kevin Downing and Nick Maalouf help Rob Dietrick of Community Medical Center, partially seen, load up a van with boxes of donated face masks. Courtesy photo 10 THE MONITOR MAGAZINE  May 2020

MUCH-NEEDED SUPPLIES Community Medical Center also benefited from another Toms River faith community when it received a generous donation of supplies from St. Luke Parish. Kathleen Muzzio, parish business manager, said on April 8 she was contacted by a parishioner who owns a nail salon offering to donate 200 masks and eight gallons of isopropyl alcohol “if we needed it.” Knowing there are a number of parishioners who are medical professionals, “We were aware that some of the family of those working in the hospital were making masks and asking for assistance,” she said. Along with the face masks and rubbing alcohol, the parish’s St. Vincent de Paul conference also made a large donation of muffins, rolls, bagels and cookies, all of which were delivered to the hospital by Father Robert Grodnicki, pastor, and parishioner Jasmin Alcid, who coordinated the effort. Muzzio noted that the parish food pantry remains open, and several parishioners are sewing masks. FEEDING THE HUNGRY Making sure the less fortunate have food and water has been a priority for St. Mary School, Middletown. For 12 hours April 8, students and faculty of St. Mary School collected non-perishable foods for Middletown Helps Its Own, a local organization that provides material and emotional support to residents in need. The effort was organized with assistance from school parent Colleen Naughton. “It was a pleasure to work with my parents, who always step up in times of crisis. Many school families, as well as parish

Faith sparks formation of COVID-19 frontline support group BY RICH FISHER ď&#x201A;Ą Contributing Editor

M Collette Ryan, a second-grader in St. Rose of Lima School, Freehold, and a member of the schoolâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Brownie troop, has been helping others during the pandemic. Courtesy photo and community members, supported the food drive by making donations,â&#x20AC;? principal Craig Palmer said. â&#x20AC;&#x153;The one thing I always tell people is that we donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t do community service because it makes us feel good or because itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s the right thing to do, although these are good reasons. We do community service because of who we are as Catholic Christians.â&#x20AC;?Â PLAYING A CHEERFUL TUNE Residents in Care One, an assisted living facility in Hamilton, know theyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re in for a musical treat anytime Joseph Kesting, a junior in Notre Dame High School, Lawrenceville, and member of St. Vincent de Paul Parish, Yardville, presents a piano concert. With mandated COVID-19 restrictions prohibiting visitors, Kesting wanted to alleviate some of the residentsâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; anxiety, so he turned to technology to help present virtual piano concerts. â&#x20AC;&#x153;The motivation was to provide some happiness and reassurance to the residents through music,â&#x20AC;? he said. â&#x20AC;&#x153;Since visitors

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egan Oâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;Donnell knows she has been blessed with a loving family, close friends and an enjoyable life. So she wanted to give back when the coronavirus hit. Thus, she and local restauranteur, John Balsamo formed the Hamilton Mercer County Chapter of the Front Line Appreciation Group Frontline heroes of St. Francis Medical Center, Mary (FLAG), which raises money to provide meals Nemeth, Barbara Mikulska and Viridiana Gonzalez. for first responders fighting the COVID-19 pandemic. In less than a month, Hamilton FLAG has WHAT YOU CAN DO raised more than $15,000 and fed nearly 1,400 To donate to Hamilton FLAG, contact frontline heroes, while also helping support area Megan Oâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;Donnell at odmeg-ger@aol. com or (609) 203-6601. restaurants that have been severely impacted by statewide shutdowns. While some might pat themselves on the back for such an endeavor, Oâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;Donnell merely feels it is part of her Catholic calling. â&#x20AC;&#x153;There is a quote I love and have said many, many times to my four children: â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;To whom much is given, much is expected.â&#x20AC;&#x2122;Â I believe each of us has the God-given ability to make things better for someone else,â&#x20AC;? Oâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;Donnell said. â&#x20AC;&#x153;We might not be able to help everybody, but we can certainly help someone.â&#x20AC;? Oâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;Donnell is a product of St. Ann School and Notre Dame High School, both in Lawrenceville, and was Jesuit-educated at the University of Scranton. She has been a Notre Dame parent for nine years and is heavily involved in school fundraising. She and her husband, Dan, an alum who sits on the schoolâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Board of Governors, have put three children through the high school, and ď&#x201A;&#x2C6; â&#x20AC;&#x153;It has daughter Grace is an Irish senior. They are parishioners in St. John the Baptist, Allentown. truly been a â&#x20AC;&#x153;My Catholic education has certainly shaped me into the person I am community- today,â&#x20AC;? Oâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;Donnell said. â&#x20AC;&#x153;My mom, who passed away a few years ago, was a woman of great faith. Watching her over the years, always trusting that wide things would work out and having such an unwavering faith, was the greatest gift she gave me.â&#x20AC;? effort.â&#x20AC;?Â ď&#x201A;&#x2030; Having Balsamo as a FLAG partner is also a pretty nice gift. Owner of Villaggio Iccara restaurant in Hamilton, Balsamo and his wife, Phyllis, are longtime friends of the Oâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;Donnells. Their youngest son is a Notre Dame High School graduate, and Balsamo has regularly donated food trays or money to the schoolâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s events. When Oâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;Donnell discovered a FLAG chapter in North Jersey, she quickly teamed with Balsamo to form the Hamilton organization. â&#x20AC;&#x153;I wanted to partner with a restaurant before launching the idea in the community.â&#x20AC;? she explained. â&#x20AC;&#x153;John immediately came to mind, given his history of being so generous and involved within the community.â&#x20AC;? Along with Villaggio Iccara, meals are prepared by Jersey Girl Cafe, Classic Sub Shop and Heirloom Events, the caterer for Mountainview Golf Course and Princeton Country Club. They are responsible for packaging and delivering each meal, which Oâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;Donnell feels provides a genuine understanding of first responder challenges. â&#x20AC;&#x153;They get a glimpse of the fast-paced, nonstop, often chaotic environment when dropping off deliveries,â&#x20AC;? she noted. May 2020â&#x20AC;&#x192; ď&#x201A;Ąâ&#x20AC;&#x192; THE MONITOR MAGAZINEâ&#x20AC;&#x192;â&#x20AC;&#x192;â&#x20AC;&#x192;11

In Focus

Amid restrictions, Church finds ways to walk with those who grieve BY LOIS ROGERS  Correspondent

oping with the death of a loved one is difficult under any circumstances for family members faced not only with grief but organizing a funeral, say diocesan clergy and funeral directors.

But the effects of COVID-19 have added additional layers of pain and distress for faithful across the Trenton Diocese who have suffered losses since the pandemic surfaced here in March, they said. With churches closed, traditional rites for the most part unavailable, closed coffins, and no hugs, “it’s a very emotional time” for many people said Deacon David O’Connor, diocesan director of cemeteries. “The wake service and the funeral Mass are gone according to the executive order of the state. Most of the (church) buildings are locked,” said Deacon O’Connor, who manages and oversees 11 diocesan cemeteries throughout Burlington, Mercer, Monmouth and Ocean Counties. He noted that as per Bishop David M. O’Connell’s directives, the Diocese has been in full compliance with the executive order which applies in all deaths, since it was first issued. This includes new and more stringent additions to the regulation issued April 22. While social distancing is necessary to bring the virus under control, Deacon O’Connor acknowledged that “it’s hard for people to understand. When a loved one dies, especially (in this time of) COVID-19, there’s such a feeling of loss.” When a family member dies, direct communication with the parish and the funeral home has long been a mainstay in assisting the bereaved through their immediate grief. Deacon O’Connor and several priests of the Diocese spoke of the importance of the funeral rites, how they convey belief in eternal life and the resurrection of the body on the last day. Every component, from reception of

the body to interment, reflects those fundamental beliefs. With the comforting components of large gatherings at wakes, liturgies and even at graveside now not permitted, Deacon O’Connor, who has performed 24 committal services in recent days, said it can be very hard for the family. With attendance at the committal lim-

ited to 10 people or less, including family, clergy and funeral staff, Deacon O’Connor recalled one recent service in which some of the bereaved drove into the cemetery and parked as close to the gravesite as possible. Because of the regulations, they had to remain in their cars. “I got as close to them as I could. I stood next to the (casket) of the decedent as they sat in their cars crying,” he said. Intent on making the service meaningful for the loved ones amid the constraints, Deacon O’Connor sang hymns at the gravesite, offered prayers, words of condolence and a

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reflection on their beloved deceased. “When something like that is over,” he said, “you can do nothing but go home and pray.” The commitment to offer a compassionate presence to families in grief also extends to the day-to-day operations of the cemeteries, Deacon O’Connor said. Social distancing is in place for staff and vendors, and extra precautions are taken to ensure that the facilities are safe for visitors. He explained that the diocesan cemeteries are open, but the buildings are closed. Visitors are able to come without restriction as long as they observe social distancing and are not part of a committal service. He said, “We continue to employ sanitation procedures three times a day

In New Jersey, no more than 10 people are allowed to gather for funerals during the coronavirus pandemic. File photo

 “When something like that is over, you can do nothing but go home and pray.”  on all often-touched surfaces throughout the cemeteries.” TEST OF FAITH The rules and regulations brought about by COVID-19 have inspired clergy, including Divine Word Father Pedro Bou, pastor of St. Mary of the Lake and St. Anthony Claret Parishes, both Lakewood, and Father Guilherme Andrino, parochial vicar, to do the best they can under the circumstances. “Changing our way of burials and committals has been wrenching,” said Father Bou. “With social distancing rules, the close sense of support we were able to offer evaporated. This is just the opposite, it’s rough. In funerals, feelings can be hurt, families are very sensitive. “But we know it’s part of being Christian to love him and follow him in good times and bad,” he said. “We are sticking together, showing we are Church and the Church is trying to do the best it can to protect everyone. It is working well in our place. I refer to it as a test of faith. “Everything is being done with dignity and care, and I think everything is working well,” Father Bou said. He, Father Andrino and Father Marian Kokorzycki are sharing the services and consoling the diverse congregation which includes large Latino and Polish communities. Father Andrino shared the heartrending experience of being called by members of a large Hispanic family who asked him to conduct their patriarch’s burial. “I explained that it would be short and that not everyone could be there. “For me, wearing a mask and gloves and everyone wearing masks and gloves, it was a strange situation. I explained to them that [when the coronavirus subsides] they could have a memorial Mass, but their expectation had been to have a service. That’s what hurts,” Father Andrino said. In the absence of a funeral Mass and traditional burial ceremonies, some priests are offering private Masses for their parishioners who have died. Deacon O’Connor can attest that “this has meant a great deal to people; it’s been very much

appreciated.” FOCUS ON COMPASSION Msgr. Joseph Roldan, rector of Trenton’s St. Mary of the Assumption Cathedral, has been doing his best to mitigate some of the sorrow that members of his flock feel when so few family members can attend. “I have noticed that there has been livestreaming so that people can participate that way,” Msgr. Roldan said. “It certainly is very stressful for them. What I’ve been doing to try to help is placing one of our liturgical books in the coffin with them or setting one on top of the coffin” so the families know their loved one is being buried with dignity and care, he said. The desire for such care prompted a parishioner to bring his mother to Trenton for burial, Msgr. Roldan said. “His mother died in New York and he thought there would be more respect for her here. It was just him and his sister at the burial but he felt a connection with the parish which he wouldn’t have felt in New York. “Having a priest go to the gravesite as a sign of support was very important,” Msgr. Roldan shared. Virtual technology is also being widely used to support grieving families who belong to St. Robert Bellarmine Co-Cathedral, Freehold, said its rector, Msgr. Sam Sirianni. “It’s very hard to keep traditions and customs in place when you are social distancing, and those traditions are very important,” said Msgr. Sirianni, who has offered three committal services that were video-conferenced. “People who couldn’t be there physically were ‘there’ because of technology.” Deacon O’Connor, Msgr. Sirianni and others have credited the efforts put forth by funeral directors. Michael Givnish who owns funeral homes in Marlton, Cinnaminson and Maple Shade with his brother, Tom, observed on behalf of the whole funeral process, “It’s got us rethinking our roles as family, as clergy, as funeral directors. It’s opened our minds. It’s got us looking to find new ways to help.” May 2020  THE MONITOR MAGAZINE 13

In Focus

Surviving COVID

Father Angelo Amaral says he misses his frequent visits with and celebrating Masses for the residents of Morris Hall, Lawrenceville, as seen in this 2019 photo. “Being a priest, I tend to be – and want to be – with the residents all the time.” John Blaine photo

Morris Hall chaplain, staff diligently serve, safeguard senior residents BY MARY STADNYK  Associate Editor

s chaplain of Morris Hall, Lawrenceville, Father Angelo Amaral is accustomed to seeing a daily stream of family members and friends visit loved ones in the Catholic, multi-level health care complex that serves the senior population. But ever since visitors were prohibited from having contact with residents due to coronavirus restrictions, Father Amaral has observed other ways loved ones are communicating. “It’s been beautiful,” he said of seeing the expressions on the faces of family members and residents as they conversate in new ways, such as talking on phones while being separated by a glass panel or borrowing iPads from staff members. Most moving, he said, is seeing second-floor residents talk out their windows to their loved ones in the parking lot below. Then there’s technology, as is the case for Stephanie Pratico, whose mother has late-stage Alzheimer’s disease. Pratico, of St. Ann Parish, Lawrenceville, spoke to her mom via a video call during Holy Week. “She was able to see my face and hear my voice through the iPad,” Pratico said. “I could tell by how her face lit up that she knew it was me..” NEW WAY OF LIFE Morris Hall staff have been diligent in safeguarding the nearly 230 people residing in St. Mary Assisted Living, St. Joseph Skilled Nursing Center and Morris Hall

Meadows, especially as its residents are at an advanced age, or have compromised immune systems or existing health issues. “They are in their rooms, and they stay in their rooms,” Ellen Petroski, administrator and chief operating officer of Morris Hall, said of the residents.

 “We are doing the best we can with what we have.”  In addition, residents can’t gather in a group setting, such as for meals. Masses have been suspended. The staff wear face masks, frequently wash their hands, use hand sanitizers and practice social distancing, except for when providing necessary health care. Plus, staff test anyone with respiratory symptoms for COVID-19. Father Amaral continues to visit residents in their rooms, though he takes numerous precautions. He has his temperature checked upon arrival, keeps a safe distance, and wears a mask and gown. He also limits his personal outings – for

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the most part, staying put in his quarters at Villa Vianney, the diocesan residence for retired priests. Although residents can’t currently receive the Eucharist, Father Amaral said it’s his prayer that they know the “presence of God is with them.” ALLEVIATING FEARS The impact of the virus is of great concern to the residents’ loved ones, who are “very, very anxious, and understandably so,” Petroski said. “They feel so helpless.” Petroski said she tries to allay family members’ anxieties by sending daily emails that include updates on COVID-19 developments and safety measures being implemented by Morris Hall. Pratico said she finds tremendous comfort in Petroski’s daily emails. “[They] consistently remind me of how blessed we are for those who give of themselves each day so that my mom and all those in the care of Morris Hall have what they need to be cared for in our absence, every day.” She admitted that one of her greatest fears is that if her mother were to pass, “I would not able to be with her.” That’s where faith comes in. “My only comfort comes from knowing that God has his hand on her,” Pratico said. Father Amaral, too, said it’s been difficult scaling down his visits. “I need to learn to be patient ... and give God the space to handle this situation in his time, not mine.”

Eucharistic visits provide source of strength Continued from 9

moment in our priesthood, something so simple that could bring so much hope to people’s lives. “If we are to be honest with ourselves, that is what we all need in a time like this: hope! The hope of knowing that God is with us … and God will help us with what comes from this time of COVID-19,” Father O’Reilly said. “It is so easy and understandable to let despair and anxiety set in – the disciples did after the Death of Jesus,”

he continued. “They locked themselves away from the authorities out of fear for what might happen to them – but we see in the days and weeks after Christ’s Resurrection, he comes to reassure, encourage and strengthen his followers. “We are no different – Christ comes to reassure, encourage and strengthen us at this challenging time. Let’s not be like Thomas, doubting and needing solid proof, but let us make his declaration of faith, ‘My Lord and my God.’”

Faithful from around Diocese find creative ways to help others Continued from 11

aren’t allowed during this time of social distancing, I thought it would be a good idea to bring the music to them virtually. “It’s a good distraction during a diffi-

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cult time,” said Kesting, who has played the piano since he was six. SWEETS FROM SCOUTS At the beginning of March, the Girl Scouts in St. Rose of Lima School, Freehold, were ready to begin their cookie sales. But when the pandemic brought their plans to a halt, leaving them with a large inventory of pre-ordered boxes, troop leaders decided to donate the cookies to the medical staff in Jersey Shore Medical Center as well as to other local front-line heroes. The Scouts have also been making cards for the senior residents at nearby The Manor Nursing Home since they cannot receive visitors. The local donations were a “spur-ofthe-moment project fueled by the need to do something to help during the pandemic,” said Elaine Turzio, the school PTA vice president and co-leader of the St. Rose of Lima Jersey Shore Girl Scout Troop 60754, which is composed of the Daisy Troop for kindergarten and first-graders, and the Brownie troop for second-graders. It was important for the girls, Turzio said, “to provide outreach during the pandemic, as we consistently strive to instill a sense of community in the minds of our girls, and an important part of the Girl Father Robert Grodnicki, pastor of St. Luke Parish, Toms River, gets ready to deliver a donation of face masks, isopropyl alcohol and a variety of breads and cookies to Community Medical Center, Toms River. Courtesy photo

Listen to Notre Dame junior Joseph Kesting’s virtual piano concert on YouTube at https://youtu.be/pDDo3kqjfsw.

Scout Promise, which is to be ‘helpful at all times.’” HANDMADE WITH LOVE Once Caitlin Zaccardo, an eighth-grader in St. Leo the Great School, Lincroft, heard about the shortage of masks for caregivers and those with compromised immune systems, she knew she and her sewing machine could be of help. She first sewed masks for extended family members dealing with cancer and diabetes. Her efforts continued when she was contacted by Joan Kret, youth minister in St. Leo the Great Parish, asking for help in putting an Instagram message out to fellow youth members to look for ways to help their communities during the state shelter. When Zaccardo’s idea of sewing masks went viral, she received a request to make 100 masks for two local nursing and rehabilitation homes. She met that challenge in a week. “I plan to keep going as long as I need to help,” she said. “And if others start helping, this whole [virus] could stop spreading. People will stop dying, recovery rates will increase, and I can go back to school and see my teachers and friends,” she said. “By helping to bring this pandemic to a halt, we can all resume the things we love and see the people we love.”

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Viewpoints

 Now more than ever, we should be looking at business practices. 

It’s our responsibility

to support corporate citizenship JENNIFER MAURO Managing Editor

o hear Chris Wood tell it, his business plan is pretty straightforward. “We are doing everything we can not to exacerbate the problem that this crisis is presenting.” Wood is the co-owner of Woody’s Grille in Sea Bright and Tinton Falls, and during the COVID-19 pandemic, he’s helping keep his community fed and his employees paid – both of which he believes is his obligation as a business owner. “We’re in a position where we can help,” says Wood, who attended Holy Cross Academy, Rumson, and its sponsoring parish. “I think it’s our responsibility to do so, no matter how little that might be.” When the coronavirus began shuttering businesses across the state, Wood had to close his Tinton Falls eatery but kept Sea Bright open, instituting a pay-whatyou-can model in these tough times. He then started getting calls from other local businesses offering to underwrite food costs if Woody’s would supply meals to the hospital workers fighting COVID on the front lines, which it did. “By keeping this business up and running, we’re helping keep the wheels of commerce turning – our employees, our vendors, our suppliers. “It’s pretty simple,” he says.

Maybe in theory, but reading and listening to the news can tell a different story: price gouging on toilet paper and hand sanitizer. Safety complaints from employees concerned with overcrowded workspaces and limited disinfectant wipes. Then, there are states having to bid for masks and ventilators. As New York Gov. Andrew Cuomo said a few weeks ago, “I’ll contract with a company for 1,000 masks. They’ll call back 20 minutes later and say, ‘The price just went up,’ because they had a better offer. Other states who are desperate for these goods literally offer more money than we were paying. It’s a race that’s raising prices higher and higher.” Closer to home, Performance Supply LLC of Manalapan is being sued by industrial company 3M after being accused of passing itself off as a 3M supplier and attempting to sell N95 respirator masks to New York City at a 600 percent markup. Now, more than ever, we should be looking at business practices and whether they stand for the same Catholic values in which we profess to believe. We have a consumer responsibility to research the companies from which we purchase and make sure they are looking out for the common good, our fellow man, and not just at the bottom line and “me and mine.” In his 2015 encyclical, “Laudato Si: On Care for Our Common Home,” Pope Francis says, “We must regain the conviction that we have a shared responsibility for others and the world.” (Ch. 6, Par. 229) And on Divine Mercy Sunday, the Pope said, “Let us welcome this time of

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Woody’s in Sea Bright is giving meals to local hospital workers. In Superstorm Sandy, Woody’s also provided meals, and raised nearly $2 million to help businesses and families get back on their feet. Courtesy photo

trial as an opportunity to prepare for our collective future,” because without a vision that embraces everyone, “there will be no future for anyone.” So ask yourself: During the pandemic, did my favorite stores continue to pay wages – even if it was reduced – like Microsoft? Did they give to their community, like Prudential Financial in Newark, which donated 153,000 face masks and 75,000 respirators for health care workers – emergency preparedness resources it has kept on hand since the Sept. 11, 2001, attacks? Did companies such as Amazon, Walmart and eBay do their best to report third-party sellers on their sites who were overcharging? Do the research: Do the corporations and businesses I give my money to use any of their funds to help my community, my state, my country, the world? Wood, who worked on Wall Street for 25 years, and co-owner Peter Forlenza, who’s still there, believe looking out for their employees and their community is a “win-win for everybody.” “If they [the community] has to choose between paying rent, utilities or food, we’ll help alleviate part of the food problem as long as we can,” Wood says. Yes, it’s not always easy to discern which businesses to patronize, and sometimes our budgets dictate where we shop. But we must keep our eyes open and try our best to be responsible consumers.

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READERS’ LETTERS

Even in midst of pandemic, Jesus is with us

he weeks pass by with little, if any, assurance of when we can expect life to return to normal. Thousands of people are not able to pay their bills, and countless have lost their livelihoods. How do we, as brothers and sisters sharing this beautiful earth together, keep one another from despairing? We must share the Good News that has strengthened our own hearts and minds! That is exactly what happened on the first Easter when the two women found the stone rolled away from Jesus’ tomb. And when they went in, they did not find his body. Though they were perplexed, it was the angel of the Lord who was standing by, wearing dazzling white apparel who said, “Why do you seek the living among the dead? Do not be afraid, he is not here, for he has risen.” And they remembered his words. Pope Francis, in his Easter homily, said that the two women heard these words of hope as they stood before a tomb. Today, we, too, are standing before what appears like a tomb. Our coun-

try is shut down, the streets are deserted, train stations are quiet, schools and playgrounds are empty, stores and restaurants are closed, and everyone is locked inside their homes. The Holy Father said, “Do not be afraid, do not yield to fear, this is a message of hope. Jesus’ hope is different. He plants in our hearts the conviction that God is able to make everything work unto good because even from the grave he brings life. You only need to ask him: ‘Jesus, come to me amid my fears and tell me, too: Courage!’” With you, Lord, we will be tested but not shaken. Whatever sadness may dwell in us, we will be strengthened in hope, since with you the Cross leads to the Resurrection, because you are with us in the darkness of our nights; you are certainty amid our uncertainties, the Word that speaks in our silence, and nothing can ever rob us of the love you have for us.” This is Good News! Go tell someone today! Mary Neary is a motivational speaker, retreat leader and member of Sacred Heart Parish, Riverton.

Supporting the sanctity of human life across the board

few weeks ago while listening to a Catholic radio program, a pro-lifer called in expressing how grateful she was for the strong position the Catholic Church is taking defending the pro-life movement. The caller made it known that the basis of her appreciation stems from two separated, but related principles. Principle one is that she abhors the practice of abortion. Her second principle revolved around the fact that Catholic action is having the effect of reducing the amount of her contribution to federal taxes being spent by the government on various pro-abortion programs. The delight of the host of the program, in agreeing with the caller’s sentiments, reverberated across the air waves. The caller went on to say that she was also anti-war and that she resented how government was spending a sizable portion of her tax contribution on fostering wars. She expressed her disappointment that Catholic leadership was not taking a broader stance in embracing the complete message of the “Prince of Peace,” that is: “Thou shall not kill.” Well, the silence from the host was deafening. No more supporting comments; rather he became virtually speechless. As a practicing Catholic who takes an interest in current events, both world affairs and Catholic doctrine, I was not surprised at the negative reaction of the host, for he was only portraying the basic tenet of most American Catholic leaders in respect of the waging of war, that is, almost total silence. Is it any wonder that I was so pleased to read the heartbreaking, anti-war commentary, “Remembering the Victims of Madness,” in the February edition of The Monitor Magazine.

But it is not just in America; there are examples of Catholic leaders actively supporting war elsewhere around the world. One such example can be seen in a recent movie, “A Silent Life.” For those who have seen the movie, it is seen in this true story that local Catholic clergy took an active part in trying to persuade a young Austrian farmer to participate in Hitler’s war. They fail, and this young Catholic, following the teaching of Christ, is then executed by the Nazis, leaving behind a devoted wife and three young children. I believe this movie will sow seeds in the minds of Catholic leadership everywhere, [and] will germinate as thoughts in respect of the teachings of our Lord Jesus Christ on the evil of killing, no matter what forms the killings take, whether it is in the mother’s womb, or in a war environment. I [also] believe The Monitor Magazine’s article will do the same. All for the honor and glory of God. James O’Brien, Tuckerton

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Issues & Advocacy

Ethical Purchasing Power Recognizing the needs of others can curb the urge to over-consume BY JENNIFER MAURO Managing Editor

lack of toilet paper. Select quantities of meat. Ravaged grocery store shelves. This is what has been facing shoppers since mid-March, when coronavirus concerns became a reality across the United States. “I think everyone has had the experience of panic over the last few weeks … of coronavirus pandemic living, stay-athome orders and social distancing,” said Father Patrick McPartland, pastor in St. Catharine Parish, Holmdel. “For many of us, life is turned upside down.” In an effort to be prepared or reduce the risks of contagion, it is not unreasonable to purchase more than normal, especially if it appears that basic goods will no longer be available. However, priests of the Diocese say, it’s important to remember Catholic teaching when it comes to looking out for oneself and others.

 “We are invited to commit ourselves to the common good with focus.”  “We must always keep those in need before us, and be willing to share,” said Father Christopher Colavito, parochial vicar of St. John Neumann Parish, Mount Laurel, and St. Isaac Jogues Parish, Marlton. “We should not put ourselves or families in immediate danger, but do what we can to help others when we have the ability to do so.” Father McPartland agreed, adding, “One of the things that is helpful in life is

to step back and reflect on things that happened, how we felt and what our values are, to better know how to handle similar situations in the future.” BIBLICALLY BASED RESPONSE With no definitive end to stay-athome and social-distancing orders, Father McPartland said guidance on social responsibility can be found in Scripture. He quoted from the First Reading on Divine Mercy Sunday: “All who believed were together and had all things in common; they would sell their property and possessions and divide them among all according to each one’s need.” (Acts 2:42-47) “Remember, this is the very early Church, right after the coming of the Holy Spirit on Pentecost. The disciples were concerned to make sure each person had enough,” Father McPartland said. “So, what does this mean to us today? This principle of sharing our possessions so everyone has their basic needs met is basic Catholic theology on how to live the command ‘love your neighbor as yourself.’ (Mark 12:31). This principle is very helpful to reflect on during this pandemic.” Both Father McPartland and Father Colavito pointed to Catholic social teaching and the principles of sharing goods that can be found in the “Compendium of the Social Doctrine of the Church,” published in 2004. Among them are the principles of: Common Good, Universal Destination of Goods, and Solidarity. The Principle of the Common Good (par. 164-170) envisions society as a team, working together at the service of each other and away from selfishness. In the Universal Destination of Goods (par. 171-184), it is learned that “each person

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LEARN MORE ON CATHOLIC SOCIAL TEACHING  Visit the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishop’s website at www.usccb.org. Click on Beliefs And Teachings > What We Believe > Catholic Social Teaching  Catholic Relief Services has a video teaching series and materials. Visit www. crs.org/resource-center/CST-101

must have access to the level of well-being necessary for his full development.” This is a very ecological view that the goods that come from the earth are to be distributed among the people, “without excluding or favoring anyone,” Father McPartland said. He was quick to point out that this principle recognizes the right to private property. “In fact, it is good to use our gifts and talents and hard work to be successful. The wealth we amass as a result should not only serve our needs and the needs of our family, but it should also be used to benefit others for the common good.” The Principle of Solidarity (par. 192197) recognizes the interdependence of people. “We are not independent islands – even though it may seem like that as we stay at home. Rather, we are all connected and live in a community,” Father McPartland said. “We are invited to commit ourselves to the common good with focus, determination and perseverance.”

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Outreach

Mount Carmel Guild continues outreach in midst of pandemic BY MARY STADNYK 

WHAT YOU CAN DO

To give food/monetary donations, or to volunteer, visit the Guild website, mtcarmelguild.org.

Associate Editor

uring a phone call in midApril, a nurse with Mount Carmel Guild discovered her patient was taking blood thinner medication incorrectly. The nurse contacted the patient’s physician, and together, the two worked to get the patient the correct dosage. The inner-city Trenton, diocesan outreach agency has had to make some adjustments in the way it provides services since COVID-19 restrictions were mandated, but staff want everyone to know that they continue to be of assistance. “Continuing to provide food and nursing care for the low-income of our community is our mission,” said Mary Inkrot, the Guild’s executive director. “We are open to serve.” Mount Carmel Guild is in its 100th year of providing services such as home

IF YOU NEED HELP The food pantry is located at 73 N. Clinton Ave., Trenton. For other needs, visit the Guild website or call (609) 392-5159.

health nursing, emergency assistance and a food pantry, to name a few. Recent COVID-era changes for the home health ministry mean nurses no longer meet in-person with their 35 patients in their homes, Inkrot said. Instead, the nurses make weekly calls to patients and remain in contact with the patients’ doctors and family members as needed. For those without any family, nurses continue to assist with medication management and filling patients’ medical planners outside their homes. The food pantry, meanwhile, practices safe distancing between staff/ volunteers and the care receivers, as all distributions are handled outdoors. Also, care receivers no longer have to provide documentation to prove that they need food. “All who come to us, receive food,” Inkrot said, noting that the number of clients seeking services has increased

Donning masks and plastic gloves, Mount Carmel Guild staff prepare to distribute groceries to clients. Courtesy photo

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CCDOT launches Coronavirus Crisis Fund; volunteers needed BY JENNIFER MAURO  Managing Editor

atholic Charities Diocese of Trenton has launched a Coronavirus Crisis Fund to meet the needs of those across Burlington, Mercer, Monmouth and Ocean Counties. “I’d like to invite you to give us a hand,” CCDOT executive director Marlene Laó-Collins says in a video posted to the organization’s website. “We need everyone’s help. It’s all hands on deck during this time. We continue to provide services to the most vulnerable in our Diocese … and the need will continue to grow as we move from a health care pandemic to an economic pandemic.” CCDOT’s goal is to raise monies to ensure that it can continue to serve its clients, especially as annual fundraisers have been postponed or canceled during the COVID-19 pandemic. Among the CCDOT’s many services are helping those with addiction or mental health issues, homelessness prevention and rapid rehousing, Hispanic outreach and domestic violence services, to name just a few. Since mid-March, when New Jersey began firm social distancing rules, CCDOT staff and volunteers have been working tirelessly to ensure the needs of their clients are met. This includes food collections and distribution sites across the county, advice from therapists on quarantining with children, the call for more volunteers, and more. Regarding the need for more help, CCDOT staff say volunteers are needed for its Fix It program in Ocean County. Traditionally this outreach pairs volunteers with senior citizens who need assistance with minor home repairs and chores. In light of social distancing mandates, volunteers are instead needed to help seniors get groceries and other essential items so they can avoid going to stores themselves. For more information, contact Dana DiFilippo, CCDOT communications officer, at ddifilippo@cctrenton. org or (609) 394-5181, ext. 1153 (office) or (215) 7566277 (cell). To donate to the Coronavirus Crisis Fund, visit www.catholiccharitiestrenton.org/coronavirus-crisis-fund/. As organizers say on the CCDOT website, “No gift is too small. We appreciate any amount you are able to give.”

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Easter

Separate but United Internet video experience unifies Catholic faithful during holiest of weeks FROM STAFF REPORTS

he internet was never so integral to the practice of the faith as during this year’s Holy Week and Easter, and the worldwide quarantine against COVID-19.

When it became clear that 2020 would be like no other year before it, parishes of the Diocese moved quickly to provide livestreaming of their Masses. By the time Holy Week had arrived, more than 50 parishes had succeeded in securing a virtual Mass participation for their communities via their websites, YouTube, or other social media sites. A list of available Masses maintained by The Monitor staff was updated nearly every day with additional parishes that wanted to be added. OVERWHELMING ENGAGEMENT

Bishop David M. O’Connell, C.M., is joined by the priests of St. Rose Parish, Belmar, and his master of Bishop David M. O’Connell, C.M., ceremonies at the livestream Mass on Holy Saturday. Video Screenshot announced that he would celebrate the urrection. Roughly 35,000 watched the livestream of the nearly liturgies of Holy Week and Easter without a congregation from St. Rose Church, Belmar, with a small group of the parish’s priests 90-minute liturgy, with 3,160 concurrent, or real-time viewers, at its peak. Subsequent views boosted this total (as of print time) to and liturgical ministers. The Bishop was principal celebrant for nearly 65,000 views with an average viewing time of 6:37. the Masses and liturgies, beginning with Palm Sunday and culHartman reported minating in the Easter Vigil, which together garnered well over the video of the Mass 100,000 views in real time and afterward.  “It is evident that garnered more than 300 “It is evident that Catholics have a real hunger for the Mass, “likes” and numerous especially Holy Week Masses and liturgies,” said Marianne HartCatholics have a real man, director of the diocesan department of Multimedia Produc- comments and greetings reflecting viewers’ Easter tion. Hartman’s department consulted with St. Rose personnel hunger for the Mass, joy. throughout the week in their efforts to wire the Belmar church, especially Holy Week “I was so moved by install cameras and set up the feed to the diocesan YouTube channel. The result of this effort enabled the faithful to experience the the comments,” Hartman Masses and liturgies.”  recalled. “I got choked tradition-rich liturgies, celebrate a spiritual Communion and be up reading how appreenriched by the Bishop’s homilies. ciative people were to find the Mass online. [People] were grateful Statistics on viewership of the Easter Vigil provided an to be part of the celebration, and of course, everyone loves to hear unquestionable testament to the faithful’s desire to be connected Bishop O’Connell preach.” through technology as the Church commemorated Christ’s Res20 THE MONITOR MAGAZINE  May 2020

– to connect parishioners at home with their faith communities and the traditions of Holy Week and Easter in an unprecedented time. Some of these efforts have been shared on the diocesan YouTube channel in a special playlist. The more than 20 videos shared to date represent a variety of worship experiences such as praying the Stations of the Cross and Eucharistic Adoration. There were also many priests who offered teachings on the Sacred Triduum (Holy Thursday, Good Friday and Holy Saturday) as well as encouraging messages on how to make the most of Holy Week during the pandemic. Hartman extended appreciation to parishes that submitted their videos as well, saying she believed that they can serve as a tool to help the Diocese’s faithful connect as an online community. “We are once again reminded that we are not alone,” she said. To view the playlist of videos produced by priests for Holy Week, visit YouTube.com/trentondiocese. Christina Leslie, correspondent, and Rayanne Bennett, associate publisher, contributed to this story. Catholics across the Diocese of Trenton and the world continue to participate in livestreamed Masses every week. CNS photo/Brian Snyder, Reuters Hartman admitted to being pleasantly surprised, not only about the number of views of the Vigil Mass, but also with its geographical reach. In addition to “hits” in the United States and neighboring Mexico and Canada, people from nearly 40 other countries tuned in, including the United Kingdom, the Philippines, New Zealand, SingaFather John Michael Patilla, parochial vicar in St. Benedict Parish, Holmdel, can be seen pore, Hong Kong, Pakistan, Saudi Arabia, Poland, playing the piano in a video on the Diocese’s new YouTube playlist. Video Screenshot Spain, Germany, Kenya, Ghana, Guam, Nigeria, France, Kuwait, Egypt, the Netherlands and more. The Easter Vigil livestream proved to be a labor of love for those behind the scenes and a spiritual boon for those who participated. “The livestreaming of Holy Week and Easter liturgies was a great gift that the Bishop gave, not just to the Diocese but people all over the world,” Hartman said. “We were isolated in ather John C. Garrett, pastor of Resurrection Parish, our homes, but, through the capabilities of technology, we were Delran, was working on livestreaming Masses and other all together, one Body in Christ.” prayer experiences in the weeks leading up to Holy Week. OTHER VIDEO OUTREACH However, his efforts were stymied since neither of the parish’s two worship sites had sufficient WiFi capabilities. Parish priests recognized very quickly that their communiKnowing his rectory had WiFi and a chapel, he decided to ties were responding in significant numbers to parish-produced livestream from there, but he needed a small altar table from video before and during Holy Week. The priests and their teams where Masses could be easily seen by viewers. embraced video and other media to stay in contact with the Enter parishioner Tony Lukis. Familiar with Lukis’ professionfaithful, many of whom were struggling because they could not al background in remodeling and construction, Father Garrett take part in some of the most solemn and sacred observances of asked Lukis if he could make an altar table for the chapel. Lukis the Church year. finished the job in less than two days. One priest played piano for a moving meditation. Others “I’m glad it worked out,” said Lukis, whose other parish projproduced unique presentations of the Stations of the Cross with ects include refurbishing the rectory kitchen. “I was happy to be music and powerful images. Many shared a bit of good humor part of it.” and comforting words in special Holy Week video messages. By Mary Stadnyk, Associate Editor The approaches were unique, but the purpose was the same

Parishioner’s handiwork helps Delran pastor with online Masses

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Diocese

Clergy Assignments Bishop David M. O’Connell, C.M., has announced the following clergy appointments, effective July 1, 2020. RETIREMENTS  Rev. Jose Fernandez-Bangueses, from parochial vicar, St. Mark Parish, Sea Girt, to retirement, remaining in residence in the parish  Rev. Stanley Lukaszewski, from pastor of St. Barnabas Parish, Bayville, to retirement, with residence in Villa Vianney, Lawrenceville  Rev. Silvano (Ben) Amora, from parochial vicar, St. Dorothea Parish, Eatontown, to retirement, remaining in residence in the parish

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EPISCOPAL VICARS  Very Rev. Edward Blanchett, to episcopal vicar of Ocean County, while continuing as pastor of Visitation Parish, Brick  Msgr. Joseph N. Rosie, to episcopal vicar of Monmouth County, in addition to new assignment in St. James Parish, Red Bank PASTORS  Rev. Peter James Alindogan, from pastor of Our Lady of Hope Parish, West Long Branch, to St. Veronica, Howell

 Rev. Vincent T. Euk, from pastor of St. Veronica Parish, Howell, to pastor of Our Lady of Hope Parish, West Long Branch  Rev. Michael Hall, from pastor of Our Lady of Good Counsel Parish, West Trenton, to pastor of St. Gregory the Great Parish, Hamilton Square  Rev. Michael McClane, from pastor of St. Gregory the Great Parish, Hamilton Square, to pastor of St. Paul Parish, Princeton  Rev. Juan Daniel Peirano, from graduate studies in Rome to pastor of Christ the Redeemer Parish, Mount Holly  Rev. Ariel Robles, from administrator of St. James Parish, Red Bank, to pastor of Our

Lady of Good Counsel Parish, West Trenton  Msgr. Joseph N. Rosie, from pastor of St. Paul Parish, Princeton, to pastor of St. James Parish, Red Bank ADMINISTRATORS  Rev. Carlos Aguirre, from parochial vicar of St. Joseph Parish, Toms River, to administrator of Our Lady of the Angels Parish, Trenton  Rev. Carlos A. Florez, from parochial vicar to administrator of St. Barnabas Parish, Bayville PAROCHIAL VICARS  Rev. Gregory Abadilla, from parochial vicar of St. Clement Parish, Matawan, to

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hen Father James Grogan prepares couples for marriage, he tells them that “every person has a right and an obligation to choose for themselves an ‘extraordinary marriage’” – the true character of a sacramental marriage. Marriage preparation is a key tool to support couples toward that goal, which is one reason why Father Grogan – pastor of Nativity Parish, Fair Haven – is a member of the Diocese of Trenton’s Marriage Ministry team and supporter of a new diocesan initiative. A new marriage preparation process is being implemented by the Diocese – a change that will affect the current Pre-Cana programs offered as well as the sacramental preparation for each engaged couple in their parish. The new process, which was announced to all parishes via information sessions in early March, encourages the use of marriage mentors whose role is to accompany their engaged couple through marriage preparation and into the first years of marriage, explained Peg Hensler,  “We know that diocesan associate director for Marriage Ministry and Natural Family engaged couples Planning. It was developed, she said, in response to the 2015 diocesan are seeking more Plan for Strengthening Marriage. It incorporates “Better Together,” comprehensive a marriage prep and enrichment program from Dynamic Catholic. In and practical this time of coronavirus restrictions, marriage prep.”  Dynamic Catholic has allowed for the adaptation of the program. “With Dynamic Catholic’s written permission, we’ve created a special online marriage prep class that can be completed by the engaged couple at their own pace with the oversight of their preparer [priest or deacon],” Hensler said. “This option ... is specifically only for the COVID-19 crisis, but it provides us with a great opportunity to encourage couples to complete the entire program, and make them aware of the host of free marriage prep resources.” INSPIRING COUPLES “Better Together” is planned to be fully integrated into all parish and diocesan Pre-Cana events by January 2021, Hensler said, and will involve interactive training of teams. There are several 24 THE MONITOR MAGAZINE  May 2020

pilot teams that will begin using the new model in 2020, including Nativity Parish; St. Clement Parish, Matawan; St. Robert Bellarmine Co-Cathedral, Freehold, and St. Benedict Parish, Holmdel, as well as at diocesan Pre-Cana events later this year. A separate timeline reflects plans to incorporate the use of the program by January 2022 in all parishes. This will require hands-on training at the parish and Cohort level. Parishes may request training and begin implementing the new model any time. The “Better Together” program has rich content that is useful in many ways, Father Grogan said. For example, “It can be used as a powerful resource by parish priests and lay marriage ministers to help couples gain a foundation of understanding about what the Church actually teaches about marriage.” Plus, “the modification to the Pre-Cana programs … will help team couples craft their witness talks, and can tie the weekend Pre-Cana experience with the opportunity for the couples to continue with ‘Better Together’ on their own, to continue to recognize the place and power of God within their married lives.” POSITIVE FEEDBACK The program was selected, said Hensler, because it is fully funded and free for all married and engaged couples. The entire program includes 12 sessions that deal with all topics covered in marriage preparation. Each session includes a set of six short, impactful instructional videos. Also included is a couple’s workbook. “We know that engaged couples are seeking more comprehensive and practical marriage prep, and we feel this gives couples what they need. Also, couples can work independently,” she said. Josue Arriola, diocesan director of Evangelization and Family Life, was appreciative that “this is the first time marriage preparation in the Diocese is using the same program for English and Spanish-speaking communities. This past January was our first marriage preparation using ‘Better Together’ in the Hispanic community at Mother of Mercy Parish, Asbury Park, and it was very successful.”

For more information, including timelines, slides and links, visit www.dioceseoftrenton.org/better-together.

Diocese

BISHOP SELECTS NEW SUPERINTENDENT OF CATHOLIC SCHOOLS Dr. Vincent de Paul Schmidt, a longtime veteran of Catholic school leadership, has been selected as the new diocesan superintendent of Catholic Schools. It was announced in the fall that JoAnn Tier, the Diocese’s current superintendent, would be retiring at the end of the school year. Tier has served the Department of Catholic Schools for 20 years, 11 of which were as superintendent. “Throughout my career, I have been dedicated to the mission of Catholic education,” Schmidt said. “I continue to work hard to understand the role of the school in the lives of its students, respecting the traditions that have developed in Catholic schools, and serving as an ally for ideas that help children achieve the most from their capabilities.” Schmidt is an adjunct professor at Loyola Marymount University, Los Angeles, as well as associate superintendent of

catholic schools for the Archdiocese of Detroit. He previously served as the senior director of catholic education in the Diocese of Toledo, Ohio; as superintendent of Catholic schools for the Diocese of Wheeling-Charleston, W.Va., and was the associate superintendent of Catholic education in the Diocese of Kansas City-St. Joseph, Mo. For 14 years prior, Dr. Schmidt Dr. Vincent de Paul Schmidt served in various administrative capacities in Catholic schools within the Archdiocese of St. Louis and the Belleville and Springfield Dioceses. From staff reports

Bishop issues special instructions for 2020 Confirmations, other Sacraments Bishop David M. O’Connell, C.M., in an April 17 letter to priests of the Diocese, issued special instructions for Confirmation for both postponed ceremonies and new ceremonies, post COVID-19 restrictions. For Confirmations already scheduled for the Spring Confirmation season and postponed because of the coronavirus, the Bishop delegated to all pastors the faculty to confer the Sacrament.

Once parish churches are reopened, he has asked that pastors schedule those Confirmations to take place before the First Sunday of Advent, Nov. 29 – observing during ceremonies any precautions that may still be in place for New Jersey. Bishop O’Connell and his episcopal vicars will resume conferring Confirmation in the Fall 2020, according to the new schedule being prepared for distribution. The new schedule is based upon

submissions from pastors and directors of religious education for Fall 2020/Spring 2021, for Confirmations unaffected by the COVID-19 pandemic. Pastors should schedule a new date of Reception into Full Communion, the Bishop continued, for those candidates and catechumens (elect) whose 2020 Easter Vigil ceremonies were postponed due to coronavirus – once again, to be completed prior to Nov. 29.

Bishop David M. O’Connell, C.M., announced that he will celebrate a special diocesan Mass of Thanksgiving and Support for health care workers, first responders and frontline workers in the battle against COVID-19 May 13 at noon in St. Joseph Church, part of Our Lady of Fatima Parish, Keyport. Commemorating the Feast of Our Lady of Fatima, the Mass will be livestreamed without a congregation, and can be viewed on TrentonMonitor.com and YouTube.com/trentondiocese, where it will also be available after the event. Bishop O’Connell will serve as homilist; Father Rene Pulgarin, Our Lady of Fatima pastor, will be the concelebrant. The Mass follows two special May events led by Bishop O’Connell calling attention to those impacted by the coronavirus pandemic. On May 1, the Feast of

St. Joseph the Worker, Bishop O’Connell celebrated a noon Mass for all Workers – the employed, unemployed and seeking work, and the retired – from the chapel of St. Joseph Church in Toms River. The Mass was livestreamed and can still be viewed on YouTube.com/trentondiocese. Later that day, Bishop O’Connell joined bishops from around the United States and Canada in reconsecrating those two nations to the care of the Blessed Mother under the title “Mary, Mother of the Church.” Bishop O’Connell led a prayer service from Mary, Mother of the Church, Bordentown, which can be viewed on YouTube.com/trentondiocese. During this COVID-19 crisis and until further notice, Holy Communion can only be distributed to the faithful as Viaticum for the dying in the Diocese of Trenton.

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Pope Francis

Pope composes prayers for end of pandemic

O Mary,

VATICAN CITY • Pope Francis is asking Catholics to make a special effort in May to pray the Rosary, knowing that by doing so, they will be united with believers around the world asking for Mary’s intercession in stopping the coronavirus pandemic. “Contemplating the face of Christ with the heart of Mary, our Mother, will make us even more united as a spiritual family and will help us overcome this time of trial,” the Pope said in a letter addressed to all Catholics. The month of May is traditionally devoted to Mary, and many Catholics already are in the habit of praying the Rosary at home during the month, he noted. “You can decide according to your own situations” whether to pray individually or in groups, he said, noting that “it is easy also on the internet to find good models of prayers to follow.” Pope Francis wrote two prayers to Mary that can be recited at the end of the Rosary, prayers he said he would be reciting “in spiritual union with all of you.” The texts are as follows.

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e fly to your protection, O Holy Mother of God.” In the present tragic situation, when the whole world is prey to suffering and anxiety, we fly to you, Mother of God and our mother, and seek refuge under your protection. Virgin Mary, turn your merciful eyes toward us amid this coronavirus pandemic. Comfort those who are distraught and mourn their loved ones who have died, and at times are buried in a way that grieves them deeply. Be close to those who are concerned for their loved ones who are sick and who, in order to prevent the spread of the disease, cannot be close to them. Fill with hope those who are troubled by the uncertainty of the future and the consequences for the economy and employment. Mother of God and our Mother, pray for us to God, the father of mercies, that this great suffering may end and that hope and peace may dawn anew. Plead with your divine Son, as you did at Cana, so that the families of the sick and the victims be comforted, and their hearts be opened to confidence and trust. Protect those doctors, nurses, health workers and volunteers who are on the frontline of this emergency, and are risking their lives to save others. Support their heroic effort and grant them strength, generosity and continued health. Be close to those who assist the sick night and day, and to priests who,

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You shine continuously on our journey as a sign of salvation and hope. We entrust ourselves to you, Health of the Sick, who, at the foot of the cross, were united with Jesus’ suffering, and persevered in your faith. “Protectress of the Roman people,” you know our needs, and we know that you will provide, so that, as at Cana in Galilee, joy and celebration may return after this time of trial. Help us, Mother of Divine Love, to conform ourselves to the will of the Father and to do what Jesus tells us. For he took upon himself our suffering, and burdened himself with our sorrows to bring us, through the cross, to the joy of the Resurrection. Amen. We fly to your protection, O Holy Mother of God; Do not despise our petitions in our necessities, but deliver us always from every danger, O Glorious and Blessed Virgin.

in their pastoral concern and fidelity to the Gospel, are trying to help and support everyone. Blessed Virgin, illumine the minds of men and women engaged in scientific research, that they may find effective solutions to overcome this virus. Support national leaders, that with wisdom, solicitude and generosity they may come to the aid of those lacking the basic necessities of life and may devise social and economic solutions inspired by farsightedness and solidarity. Mary Most Holy, stir our consciences, so that the enormous funds invested in developing and stockpiling arms will instead be spent on promoting effective research on how to prevent similar tragedies from occurring in the future. Beloved Mother, help us realize that we are all members of one great family and to recognize the bond that unites us, so that, in a spirit of fraternity and solidarity, we can help to alleviate countless situations of poverty and need. Make us strong in faith, persevering in service, constant in prayer. Mary, Consolation of the afflicted, embrace all your children in distress and pray that God will stretch out his all-powerful hand and free us from this terrible pandemic, so that life can serenely resume its normal course. To you, who shine on our journey as a sign of salvation and hope, do we entrust ourselves, O Clement, O Loving, O Sweet Virgin Mary. Amen.

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ishop Arthur J. Serratelli, seventh bishop of the Diocese of Paterson, expressed appreciation to the clergy, religious and faithful as he announced his retirement in a message to his flock. “Over the past 16 years, it has been my joy and privilege to serve as your bishop,” Bishop Serratelli said. “In these unprecedented times, where there is so much uncertainty about our future, we can be certain that we will have a shepherd who will not only lead us through the days ahead but also build up our great diocese. “May the Lord strengthen and protect our new bishop.” Pope Francis accepted the resignation of Bishop Serratelli and named Father Kevin J. Sweeney, a priest of the Diocese of Brooklyn, N.Y., as his successor. Bishop Serratelli is 75, the age at which canon law requires bishops to turn in their resignation to the pope. Bishop-designate Sweeney, 50, will be the eighth bishop of Paterson. The resignation and appointment were announced in Washington April 15 by Archbishop Christophe Pierre, apostolic nuncio to the United States. BISHOP DAVID M. O’CONNELL, C.M., offered appreciation to Bishop Serratelli, saying, “On behalf of the clergy, religious and lay faithful of the Diocese of Trenton, I write to express heartfelt gratitude and prayerful best wishes to the Most Reverend Arthur J. Serratelli, STD, SSL, DD, on the occasion of his retirement as seventh Bishop of the Diocese of Paterson. “Although I am happy for him, I personally greet this long-anticipated news with mixed emotions,” Bishop O’Connell said. “In the past decade, Bishop Serratelli has been a devoted shepherd to his flock, a joyful witness of the Gospel, a wise and prudent teacher and author, a faithful brother bishop and a dear and much

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admired friend. His accomplishments are many and truly outstanding, yet he has served the Church humbly, without seeking any recognition. May the years ahead bring him good health, joy, peace and the satisfaction he has earned through a life and ministry well-lived.” Bishop O’Connell also welcomed the Diocese of Paterson’s eighth bishop. “It is simultaneously a great privilege to offer the congratulations and prayerful support of the Diocese of Trenton to the Most Reverend Kevin Sweeney, until now a priest of the Diocese of Brooklyn and, as of today, Bishop-elect of the Diocese of Paterson,” he said. “I look forward to serving with him here in our beloved Garden State. Welcome Bishop-elect Sweeney! May God bless the Diocese of Paterson!” Bishop-elect Sweeney said though he and Bishop Serratelli have not yet met in person due to COVID-19 restrictions, Bishop Bishop David M. O’Connell, C.M., poses for a photo with Bishop Arthur J. Serratelli of Paterson. Bishop Serratelli is retiring at age 75. Staff photo

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BISHOP-DESIGNATE SWEENEY is expected to begin his ministry in the Diocese of Paterson later this year. The date for his episcopal ordination has not been scheduled due to the pandemic. Until that time, Bishop Serratelli will serve as apostolic administrator of the Diocese. A native of Newark, the now-retired bishop was named to head the Paterson Diocese in 2004. Before that, he was an auxiliary bishop of the Archdiocese of Newark for four years. Bishop-designate Sweeney was ordained for the Brooklyn Diocese on June 28, 1997. He is fluent in Spanish, having studied the language extensively in programs in the Dominican Republic and Costa Rica.

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Bishops say immigration restrictions will hurt families BY JULIE ASHER  Catholic News Service

A Honduran immigrant near El Paso, Texas, affected by the U.S. Migrant Protection Protocols, walks back to Ciudad Juarez, Mexico, April 20, after U.S. Customs and Border Protection changed his family’s dates for immigration court. CNS

WASHINGTON • The president of the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops and two other conference chairmen criticized President Donald Trump’s April 22 photo/Paul Ratje, Reuters executive order to temporarily restrict some forms of immigration during the pandemic, saying it could “fuel polarization and animosity.” “While we welcome efforts to ensure that all Americans are together as one human family. recognized for the dignity of their work, the global crisis caused “We are extremely concerned about how the proclamation by COVID-19 demands unity and the creativity of love, not will impact immigrant families looking to reunify, as well as more division and the indifference of a throwaway mentality,” religious workers,” they continued, noting the executive order the prelates said late April 23. prevents certain immigrant family members from reuniting They also said they are “extremely concerned” about how the with their loved ones living in the United States. proclamation will impact immigrant families “looking to reuni“Additionally, it bars religious workers seeking to come to fy” as well as religious workers. the United States as lawful permanent residents from supportIssuing the joint statement were ing the work of our Church, as well as many other religions, at Archbishop Jose H. Gomez of Los this time,” they said. “This will undoubtedly hurt the Catholic Angeles, USCCB president; WashChurch and other denominations in the United States, dimin “Immigrants ington Auxiliary Bishop Mario E. ishing their overall ability to minister to those in need.” Dorsonville, chairman of the USCThe prelates said the virus “is merciless in its preying upon and citizens CB’s Committee on Migration; and human life; it knows no borders or nationality,” and at a time together Bishop Jaime Soto of Sacramento, when “our common humanity is apparent more now than ever,” California, chairman of the board of they added, Trump’s action “threatens instead to fuel polarizaare partners directors of the Catholic Legal Immi- tion and animosity.” gration Network Inc., or CLINIC. “Pope Francis teaches us that to live through these times we in reviving The executive order will be in need to employ and embody the ‘creativity of love,’” they added. the nation’s effect for at least 60 days and will be There are several exceptions to the order, including: It does reviewed 50 days from the effective not apply to nonimmigrant temporary visas, current green card economy.”  date of April 23 to determine if it holders, those seeking to come in as “a health care professional, needs to be continued or modified. Continued on 43 Trump issued it as part of his Administration’s response to the COVID-19 pandemic. ENDOWMENT The president said the restriction on immigration is necesMONIES AVAILABLE sary because of the pandemic’s pressures on health care and its Attorneys at Law Requests are now being accepted for widespread negative impact on the economy, and he cited “the grants from the Bishop George W. Ahr Serving the Diocese of Trenton impact of foreign workers on the United States labor market, Endowment Fund. These grants are for over a century particularly in an environment of high domestic unemployment available to any church, office, apostolate Personal Injury and depressed demand for labor.” or ministry within the Diocese of Trenton Real Estate “In order to protect our great American workers, I’ve just attempting to provide services for needy Wills and Estates signed an executive order temporarily suspending immigration and vulnerable families. Approximately Business & Corporate Law into the United States,” the president said during a White House $10,000 is available for distribution. Land Use Law coronavirus task force briefing. “This will ensure that unemApplications may be obtained by Employment Law ployed Americans of all backgrounds will be first in line for jobs contacting Grace Magee at the Pastoral Guardianships as our economy reopens.” Center of the Diocese of Trenton: GMagee@ In their response, Archbishop Gomez and Bishops Dordioceseoftrenton.org or by mail: 3131 Princeton Pike sonville and Soto said: “There is little evidence that immigrants Diocese of Trenton, Attn: Grace Magee, Bldg. 5 – Suite 114 take away jobs from citizens. Immigrants and citizens together P.O. Box 5147, Trenton, NJ 08638. Lawrenceville, NJ 08648 are partners in reviving the nation’s economy. We must always All completed applications must be (609) 396-8257 (609) 844-0300 remember that we are all sons and daughters of God joined postmarked no later than May 15, 2020.

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uando terminamos con todas las restricciones sobre COVID-19, y, sí, terminaremos con ellas, ¿tendremos que volver a Misa? ¿Tendremos que confesarnos? ¿Podremos comulgar la Santa Eucaristía? ¿Podremos celebrar las bodas en la Iglesia? ¿Programaremos las Confirmaciones y Bautismos y Ordenaciones? ¿Podremos ofrecer los Sacramentos a los enfermos? ¿Estarán abiertas las iglesias como antes para la oración personal? La respuesta es SÍ … Mensaje del al terminar con las OBISPO DAVID M. restricciones y volver O’CONNELL, C.M. a un sentido de la “normalidad” que significará menos peligro de la proliferación del COVID-19. Cuando los medios y otros se refieren a la pandemia actual y todas las consecuencias y restricciones impuestas como “el normal nuevo”, esa frase me molesta mucho. No es “normal” ni presenta la pandemia ningún “normal nuevo”. Es solamente el “nuevo ahora”, el “nuevo momento presente”. Pasará. Quitaremos las restricciones y la vida, incluso la vida en la Iglesia Católica, volverá a “la normalidad”. Nadie ha presentado ningún argumento al contrario convincente. Claro, se desarrollará vacunas y presentarán precauciones, pero esas cosas han ocurrido antes y se han hecho “parte de la vida normal” y nos hemos adaptado a ellas. Por ejemplo, tenemos vacunas para polio e influenza. La historia del mundo provee muchos ejemplos semejantes de cómo hemos respondido a situaciones específicas. Eso también es cierto para la Iglesia. No digo que las cosas y las circunstancias no cambian, claro que sí cambian. Pero la vida sigue y seguirá también en la Iglesia. Consideremos los Sacramentos. Los definimos como “signos externos instituidos por Cristo para extender la gracia”. Esa misma definición era verdadera y válida cuando se los instituyeron – aunque se modificaran y adaptaron el formato litúrgico de cómo administrarlos por los siglos – y sigue siendo verdadera y válida hoy… y lo será también mañana. En la teología, la Iglesia habla sobre “la sustancia y la forma” como los elementos esenciales de los Sacramentos. El Bautismo siempre ha sido “agua (sustancia)” y el “formula Trinitario (forma)”; la Confirmación siempre ha sido “la Crisma consagrada y la oración que acompañan a la imposición de manos por el ministro (sustancia)” y “ungir la frente y el formula (forma)”; la Santa Eucaristía siempre ha sido “pan sin levadura y el vino de uva (sustancia) y la consagración por el sacerdote ordenado (forma)”, y sigue para los otros de los siete Sacramentos también. Los Sacramentos presumen la presencia física del recipiente

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Sophia Greeley investiga maneras nuevas para ser activa en la fe en medio de la pandemia. Foto por Mateo Greeley y el ministro. Son realidades físicas, “signos externos, instituidos por Cristo para extender la gracia”. Y la Iglesia ha desarrollado leyes y disciplinas sacramentales para asegurar su validez. En la historia de la Iglesia, ha habido ocasiones y eventos que ha hecho imposible el administrar y recibir de los Sacramentos. Sin embargo, esos eventos históricos no han alterado el “hecho y la realidad” de los Sacramentos ni de su sustancia y forma. En un artículo del 31 de marzo, 2020, en “Our Sunday Visitor”, una compañía de recursos católicos, el monseñor Charles Pope explica esto muy bien: Han surgido muchas preguntas sobre recibir los Sacramentos en un tempo de preocupación sobre el coronavirus. En circunstancias ordinarias, se espera que los católicos busquen recibir los Sacramentos activamente de la manera usual de que la Iglesia los administra. Sin embargo, hay momentos cuando no se puede extender los Sacramentos debido a circunstancias extraordinarias como el tiempo extremo, los desastres naturales y la plaga. En algunas partes del mundo, también, no hay sacerdotes disponibles rutenamente. En esos tipos de casos, los católicos deben confiar en que el deseo de recibir los Sacramentos en sí es una manera para recibir sus gracias. Dios no nos pide lo imposible ni lo no razonable. Tenemos una tradición larga sobre “el bautismo del deseo” que se extiende hasta aquel buen ladrón en la cruz. Jesús le aseguró ir al paraíso, aunque no pudiera, en aquel momento, recibir el bautismo de manera usual. En estos tiempos de la pandemia, también hemos tenido que redescubrir la tradición de la comunión espiritual. Cuando los fieles no pueden comulgar la Santa Comunión, se les anima expresar su deseo por ella al Señor y confiar en que, a través de su deseo por la Santa Comunión expresado sinceramente, reciben las gracias de ella. Los fieles también deben confiar en que, a través de su deseo por los Sacramentos de la Unción de los Enfermos y la Reconciliación, si no pueden recibirlos razonablemente de manera ordinaria, Dios conoce su deseo y que, seguramente, los brindará las gracias que desean. Dios conoce nuestro corazón y otorgará las gracias que esperamos, aunque no sean posibles las maneras usuales de recibirlos que nos los ha Después de terminar entregado. Que el Pueblo de Dios tenga la con las restricciones paz en este tiempo de la pandemia con el en esta pandemia, los conocimiento de que sus sacerdotes siguen fieles podrán comulgar ofreciendo la Misa de su parte y que, a la Santa Comunión de través de sus deseos, están unidos al Señor nuevo. (Foto CNS/Karen Bonar, The Register) quien los bendice.

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Dando testimonio a nuestra fe con valor y confianza en una pandemia

ace más de un mes que, al igual que otros estados, New Jersey se encuentra semiparalizado, debido a la pandemia del coronavirus, COVID 19. Los que tuvimos padres o abuelos que vivieron es México entre los años 1926 a 1929 los escuchamos hablar de aquel periodo en que el gobierno se le prohibía el derecho al culto religioso y a poder congregarse en una iglesia. Al mismo tiempo, privaban de la vida a sacerdotes y líderes religiosos, saqueaban y destruían nuestras iglesias católicas. Al experimentar el vacío que se ve en nuestras Iglesias ahora, en cierto modo, no podemos menos que compararlo con lo que estamos viviendo el día de hoy. Gracias a la fe y el valor de los católicos, protestantes y hasta los no creyentes de ese entonces, lucharon juntos para que su libertad de expresión y derecho a culto se restauraran. Gracias a Dios, nosotros no tenemos que luchar contra nadie para que un día no muy lejano nos podamos congregar de nuevo. Pero, sí, necesitaremos mucha fe y valor para demostrar que esa fe no se ha disminuido como el papa Francisco nos exhortaba en su homilía del sábado, 18 de abril. El papa dijo que, como los primeros apóstoles llenos de valor y coraje, pero sobre todo con franqueza, salgamos a difundir por el mundo la Buena Nueva de nuestro Señor Jesucristo Resucitado. Vamos a salir y demostrar que nuestra fe nunca estuvo semiparalizada, sino que,

En esta foto del dominio público, soldados paran para una foto durante la Guerra Cristero del 1926-1929 en México cuando los fieles fueron prohibidos de practicar su fe. Limitados a la comunión espiritual en la pandemia, fieles miran Misas virtuales como esta Misa Pascual celebrada por el obispo David M. O’Connell, C.M.

 Vamos a salir y demostrar que nuestra fe nunca estuvo semiparalizada, gracias a las diferentes formas y medios de comunicación… nos mantuvimos en contacto  gracias a las diferentes formas y medios de comunicación, durante este tiempo de aislamiento, nos mantuvimos en contacto; estudiando, creciendo, atendiendo Misas virtuales y reuniéndonos con nuestros grupos de oración a través de cualquier medio disponible. Que, con confianza, podemos decir que, a pesar de todas las

limitaciones, estamos listos y dispuestos a mostrar la mejor versión de nuestra persona, para ser mejores discípulos y servir de la mejor manera a nuestro prójimo y a Cristo. Andrés Luna es feligrés de la Parroquia Santa Ana, Browns Mills. Luna comparte esta reflexión sobre la fe en medio de esta situación actual de la pandemia.

Con mucho agradecimiento

Parroquia Madre de la Misericordia recibe apoyo Por el padre Miguel Virella, párroco de la Parroquia Madre de la Misericordia, Asbury Park Una de las grandes bendiciones que hemos recibido durante esta crisis ha sido la ayuda financiera y espiritual de parte de Michele y Robert Fishman. Estas dos personas, pertenecientes de la fe judía, nos ha hecho posible ayudar a muchas personas necesitadas de la comunidad. Su contribución financiera y su apoyo moral nos permiten acompañar a quienes necesitan apoyo estos días.

También, trabajamos en conjunto con Community Affairs and Resource Center, sirviendo a la comunidad con ayuda financiera y alimentos para distribución de parte de varios donantes. Agradecemos a Beatriz Oesterheld y todo el equipo por colaborar con nosotros. Nos están ayudando a cumplir con nuestra misión de servir a los demás, tal cómo Cristo nos llama a vivir.

Padre Miguel con Michele y Robert Fishman. Mayo 2020  REVISTA EL MONITOR 31

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La pandemia no puede evitar el compartir de cariño en los momentos importantes de la vida, evidente en el ejemplo del video de felicidades de parte de la comunidad de San Antonio Claret, Lakewood, para celebrar el cumpleaños y el aniversario sacerdotal del padre Guilherme Andrino.

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uchos fieles de la Parroquia San Antonio Claret, Lakewood, se unieron virtualmente para felicitarlo al padre Guilherme Andrino en su cumpleaños y aniversario sacerdotal. Con dibujos, cantos, fotos, mensajes y hasta títeres manuales, familias e individuos compartieron sus oraciones y buenos deseos con el padre Guilherme, quien sirve como vicario parroquial, a través de las redes sociales. “Desde que comenzó la cuarentena”, compartió Ashley Rosales, feligresa de San Antonio Claret y la organizadora y productora del video, “el padre Guillermo se ha encargado de traer la Eucaristía a cada hogar por medio de medios sociales. Yo sé que todos estamos muy agradecidos de poder seguir asistiendo a Misa desde la casa y ver a nuestros sacerdotes”. “Se me ocurrió que si nos uníamos como parroquia para felicitarlo, sería una manera de agradecerle por el esfuerzo que él ha puesto por traer la Iglesia a nuestros hogares”, dijo Rosales. “Para mí, fue tan chévere”, compartió Padre Guilherme. Al mencionar el video que sus feligreses se le regalaron, el padre también contó que la generosidad de la comunidad va más allá que felicitarle a él. Muchos miembros de la parroquia han donado comida a los más necesitados. También, varios feligreses están siendo “como Madre Teresa”, cuidando y asegurando de que personas vulnerables por estar solos o por cuestiones de salud estén bien y que tengan lo que necesitan. “En un caso, los vecinos llamaron para una ambulancia porque la persona estuvo sufriendo tanto por el virus”. Lo hermoso es reconocer que la comunidad de fe sigue siendo viva e inspiradora. Estamos llamados caminar juntos por los momentos difíciles al igual que por los momentos felices. ¡Felicidades y muchas bendiciones, Padre Guilherme!

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Consejos para mejorar vida familiar en tiempo del COVID-19 POR CHRISTINA LESLIE  Corresponsal

idian Nicola, psicóloga y trabajadora social, nos comparte lo siguiente para ayudar en la vida familiar durante estos días de desafío. Los padres de familia deben manejar sus propias emociones y las de sus hijos también. Con todos los cambios que esta pandemia ha traído, los hijos pueden experimentar sentidos de luto, desilusión, ansiedad, depresión, soledad, aburrimiento, desesperanza, impotencia y más. Nicola sugiere cinco estrategias acerca de los padres: 1. Prestar atención a cambios de humor en los hijos. “Cuando los hijos no saben como expresarse, usarán otras medidas como llorar más fácilmente, el comportamiento agresivo, o cambiar sus hábitos de comer o dormir”. Hay que buscar el sentido detrás del comportamiento. Los padres deben intentar reconocer la turbulencia emocional; permitirla sin juicio; investigarla con paciencia y curiosidad; alimentar las emociones. 2. Modelar el equilibrio para los hijos. “Los padres tenemos la responsabilidad de mantener el equilibrio en el hogar”. Hay que encontrar el ritmo del hogar a través de crear estructura, rutinas y continuidad, siempre con momentos de descanso. 3. Clarificar las expectativas. “No es que nos guste esta situación”, dice Nicola, “pero podemos adaptarnos, manejar las cosas y mantenernos equilibrados”. Nombramos nuestras expectativas y aseguremos de que sean realistas en esta nueva etapa. 4. Involucrarse con ellos, no buscar entretenerlos. “Los padres pueden ayudar a sus hijos a buscar soluciones creativas frente a los desafíos de estos días tan diferentes”. 5. Afirmar y celebrar. “Los hijos experimentarán el luto al no poder celebrar hitos y alegrías pequeñas”. Hay que afirmar lo tanto que han logrado, celebrar las victorias pequeñas, buscar cómo celebrarlas y ser sinceros.

Nicola también ofrece estas tres estrategias acerca de los hijos: 1. Replantear La manera que se explica esta situación importa. En lugar de decir, “no podemos salir de la casa, digamos que estamos seguros y sanos en casa”. Estos cambios pequeños interpretan las experiencias. Puede manejar el estrés replantear cómo se habla. 2. Retomar Es importante que los hijos tengan algo de autonomía porque han perdido su experiencia social escolar completamente. Ellos pueden ayudar crear sus propios horarios para que deciden más cosas y reconocen más oportunidades para tener algo de control en la pandemia. 3. Mantenerse positivos Los adolescentes son recontra resilientes. “Tienen la capacidad para salir delante de estas circunstancias difíciles”.

Haciendo que la fe se mantenga viva en tu familia

Recurso familiar para el hogar Aunque las maneras de prácticar nuestra fe parecen haberse cambiado durante esta pandemia, la comunidad de fe católica sigue buscando cómo acercarse cada vez más a Cristo. Fruto de la colaboración de tres departamentos diocesanos ofrece este recurso catequético dinómico para el desarrollo de la fe familiar. Fe En Casa utiliza maneras prácticas para involucrar a todos los miembros de la familia en profundizarse en las Escrituras dominicales. Visite al enlace dioceseoftrenton.org/fe-en-casa para el pdf semanal que se puede bajar con todas las herramientas y actividades.

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Spiritual Life

Moving from Easter to Pentecost MAY 3  JESUS ALONE IS THE GOOD SHEPHERD Readings for Fourth Sunday of Easter: Acts 2:14a, 36-41; 1 Pt 2:20b-25; Jn 10:1-10

that they too might get caught up in the very scandals that would bring down the shepherds. Jesus is the only true shepherd. He alone stands before us and with us without sin, leading us to the promise of life eternal. He is the sheep-gate, the only portal through which we enter. Our faith is not built on the shepherds, but on the Good Shepherd. It is his voice we heed in the darkness of our lives.

hroughout history, the Church has endured some turbulence. At times the level of corruption among the highest members of the clergy is heartbreaking. Both the Great Schism and the Reformation are caused and fueled by this scandalous heritage. The same was true of the Jewish community at the time of Jesus. The High Priest be- MAY 10  JESUS SHOWS US THE FACE OF GOD came a political patronage position and not the hereditary position mandated by Moses. Readings for Fifth Sunday of Easter: Acts 6:1-7; 1 Pt 2:4-9; Jn 14:1-12 Likewise, rulers of the Sanhedrin and the uring this Easter Season the Lord various scribes and the Sadducees, sought speaks words of comfort and confinancial gain over the religious obligations solation to us. The disciples are certainly of their positions. At various points in his confused and uncertain about all that Jesus ministry Jesus was critical of their failures, says on that fateful evening. He is preparill-gotten gains and misplaced priorities. ing them for his Passion and Death, and we Our propensity to sin and to seek security and importance over others is so preva- know that they have been concerned about lent in the world that we often fail to see it. going to Jerusalem and well-aware that One of the most powerful images of Je- there are plots against his life. Now, after he sus is that of the Good Shepherd. Each year has washed their feet and eaten with them, he gives them instructions as he prepares we remind ourselves of this on the Fourth them for what it to come. Sunday of Easter, which is Yes, their hearts are Good Shepherd Sunday. troubled. They do not In reflecting on the  We are motivated know what will happen to priest as shepherd, Pope Jesus. They also do know Francis stated in his homto follow the what will happen to each ily closing the Extraorcommandments of them. dinary Year of Mercy by It is Thomas, who at saying: “So it is also with of Jesus out of our various important mothe priest of Christ. He is ments in Jesus’ ministry, anointed for his people, love for him.  directs the conversations not to choose his own with or about Jesus. We projects but to be close to do not often reflect on his role other than the real men and women whom God has as the one-who-doubted on the day of entrusted to him. No one is excluded from Resurrection. But it was he who interjected his heart, his prayers or his smile. With a as they were about to depart for Bethany father’s loving gaze and heart, he welcomes to raise Lazarus: “Let us also go to die with and includes everyone, and if at times he him.” Now, as Jesus prepares them for the has to correct, it is to draw people closer. He stands apart from no one, but is always ready Paschal events, Thomas asks Jesus: “Master, we do not know where you are going; how to dirty his hands.” can we know the way?” Here he is beginJesus knew that those he appointed to ning to show his uncertainty, and yet also shepherd his people would stumble and his desire to follow Jesus. fall. He knew that the sheep could discern Jesus responds: “I am the way and the between the stranger and the shepherd, but

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THE WORD

Father Garry Koch

truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you know me, then you will also know my Father. From now on you do know him and have seen him.” Not yet satisfied, Philip asks Jesus to show them the Father. He, too, sought reassurance that all that they had seen and heard from Jesus was true. Jesus reminds us that to see him is to see the Father. Jesus is the face of God. MAY 17  LOVE IS A RADICAL COMMANDMENT Readings for Sixth Sunday of Easter: Acts 8:5-8, 14-17; 1 Pt 3:15-18; Jn 14:15-21

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f you love me, you will keep my commandments.” Jesus places following him and obeying his commandments within the context of love. This sense of love – to be of service to one another unconditionally – is a radically significant commandment. God had called upon the Israelites to love him, and they recited the “shemah” every day. Jesus asks this same love from his disciples but makes an interesting distinction. While loving God was a commandment, Jesus moved love from a commandment to a total act of the will. First, we must love Jesus and from that experience of love, we keep the commandments. It is likely true that many of the Israelites and contemporaries of Jesus followed the commandments out of a sense of fear. They may well have loved God, but love was not as much the motivation for observance. We are motivated to follow the commandments of Jesus out of our love for him. But now we must ask ourselves what are these commandments so that we might follow them? In John’s Gospel, where this passage is found, there is only one commandment that Jesus gives to his disciples: “love one another as I have loved you.” When we delve into the letters of John,

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MAY 24  LIKE THE APOSTLES, WE WAIT IN PRAYER FOR WHAT IS TO COME Readings for The Ascension of The Lord: Acts 1:1-11; Eph 1:17-23; Mt 28:16-20

esus has ascended to heaven. Now, again, the disciples have to wait. This time, as with those tearful and tense days after his Crucifixion, the disciples are not exactly sure what it is that they are waiting to happen. Jesus has promised them the “Advocate,” but he did not tell them the manner by which this Advocate would be revealed to them. Life will be radically different for them once they have received the Holy Spirit. In fact, life will be utterly and completely different for the entire world. We often think of waiting only with the Advent Season. Yet, here we wait, blessed to have 10 days where again the Church waits. Perhaps a sense of abandonment is present again with the disciples. This time, Jesus has left them and, though he again promised to return, he has left them much to do before he can and does return. In the meantime, they wait for the Advocate, the Holy Spirit. This sense of uncertainty leads them to prayer. Mary and other relatives of Jesus

are with the disciples as they wait. Times of uncertainty should always draw us to prayer. Perhaps now more than ever in our lifetimes as a Church and in the world, we need prayer. We have been waiting, waiting for life to return to normal. Many of us have struggled horribly during this time. Now we wait for the coming of the Holy Spirit to renew us and to reinvigorate us. MAY 31  PENTECOST CALLS THE CHURCH TO MARTYRDOM Readings for Pentecost Sunday: Acts 2:1-11; 1 Cor 12:3b-7, 12-13; Jn 20:19-23

entecost was complete transformation for the apostles and for the entire world. Now, and for the first time in the 50 days since Jesus was raised from the dead are the doors to the Upper Room unlocked. No longer are they sneaking out, under the cover of darkness, to go into the city. Here, at nine o’clock in the morning, the disciples are freed from their bondage to fear – a consequence of sin – and liberated by the Holy Spirit. They are at this moment sent to bear witness to the Good News of Jesus Christ to the entire world. The apostles heard Jesus tell them that he came to bear witness to the truth. Earlier in his ministry he sent them forth to preach and to heal the sick. Now, in the final act of their formation as apostles, Jesus sends them forth with the power to forgive and retain sins. But immediately, as we see in the account of that day in the Acts of the Apostles, they step outside, unlock the doors and proclaim the Gospel. Bearing witness becomes the work not only of the newly-formed apostles, but of the entire Church. And they indeed bear witness to the Gospel for the rest of their lives. The word witness carries two distinct connotations. First it demands seeing or being present. We witness events. When, after the Ascension but before Pentecost, the disciples choose a successor for Judas

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particularly the first, this same command is repeated as the only commandment. Therefore, Jesus makes following him very clear – if we love him, we will love one another in the same manner that he has loved us. This is a call to radical love – to live our lives in service to one another in the name of Jesus Christ. We are called to set aside the pettiness, jealousies, angers, disappointments, biases and judgments that separate the men and women of this world from one another, and to simply love one another. We know this love is not a passive emotion or just a feeling. Love demands action. Love means laying down our lives, putting ourselves on the line for the sake of the other in the name of Jesus. None of us can do this perfectly. We all fail at it. Jesus sends us the Holy Spirit – the Paraclete – to make up for what is lacking in our ability to love.

Iscariot so that their number would again be 12, their first criterion was someone who bore witness to the ministry of Jesus from the baptism. But a witness is also one who testifies. It is not just enough to see what unfolds; one must announce this as well. As they were huddled behind locked doors, they were witnesses, but they had yet to bear witness to what they had seen and heard. This bearing witness – the necessary consequence of being sent – begins as they step out of the room and testify to what they had seen and heard. We continue to bear witness with the surety of our lives of faith. Father Garry Koch is pastor of St. Benedict Parish, Holmdel.

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Spiritual Life

Catholic attendance at civil wedding; bow or genuflect? My family have been dedicated Catholics for generations. Recently, a nephew of mine announced that he is planning to get married in a civil ceremony. (I believe that neither he nor his fiancee is dedicated to a religion. He is a “fallen-away Catholic” millennial.) As the eldest in the family, I am saddened by this turn of events and have researched the stand of my religion relative to my participation in this union. To be honest, the guidance I’m finding is not very direct as to the Church’s stance. Can you provide me some clarity? As a Catholic, can I attend? (My current decision is to not attend, and this is causing great angst in the family, a family that I treasure.) (City of origin withheld)

I am not surprised that you are finding varying guidance in your dilemma. It is basically a “strategy question” with no hard and fast “rule.” You are trying to strike a balance between fidelity to the Church’s teaching and your legitimate desire to maintain family harmony, and different people will have different ideas as to how to do that. Here would be my suggestion: Go to the wedding, but first sit

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down and talk with your nephew. Tell him that you feel a certain awkwardness in attending, since he is not being married in a religious ceremony. Explain to him what the Catholic faith has meant to you, how it has sustained you over the years, offering comfort and guidance. Tell him how much he means to you and that your deepest hope and prayer is that, one day, he might return to the practice of the faith he grew up with and seek the Church’s blessing on his marriage. If you do that, he will not see your attendance as an “endorse“All who pass ment” by the Church, you will not risk a family rupture that could be before the permanent, and you keep open the possibility of his return to Catholic most Blessed practice through your prayer and Sacrament gentle example.

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The act of genuflecting – bending the right knee to the ground – is a sign of adoration and is meant to honor the Blessed Sacrament. Therefore, upon arriving in Church, if there is a tabernacle containing the consecrated hosts, one should genuflect toward it. (This assumes that one is able physically to do so.) If, instead, the Eucharist is reserved in a side chapel, it would be proper simply to bow toward the altar. The General Instruction of the Roman Missal notes that the priest genuflects when he arrives at the altar and departs from it, and three times during the Liturgy of the Eucharist. “Otherwise,” says the general instruction, “all who pass before the most Blessed Sacrament genuflect, unless they are moving in procession” (No. 274). (Ministers carrying the processional cross, candles or the Book of the Gospels bow their heads instead of genuflecting.) Questions may be sent to Father Kenneth Doyle at askfatherdoyle@ gmail.com and 30 Columbia Circle Dr., Albany, N.Y. 12203.

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Spiritual Life

Jonah’s story is a lesson in God’s mercy and forgiveness

’ve always been fascinated by the story of Jonah and the Whale. As a child, reading my full-color illustrated book of Bible stories, I was most interested in how Jonah got in the whale and what it might have been like for him sitting in the whale’s belly for three days. I never questioned THINGS MY FATHER the veracity of the TAUGHT ME story because, after Mary Clifford Morrell all, if God can create a universe, God can certainly arrange for an errant Jonah to have a time-out in a most unusual place. As I grew older, I thought more about how Jonah, the reluctant prophet, ended up in trouble because he tried to run away from God, and I often thought my life was going in a similar direction. If I didn’t stop disobeying what I knew God was telling me to do, or not to do, I could end up underwater myself. As a college student, reading the classics, I found myself wondering if Jonah ever felt like Francis Thompson, the English poet who wrote the exquisite poem, The Hound of Heaven, which describes an unrelenting God pursuing a soul seeking to hide itself as a hound relentlessly follows a hare. As an adult I have learned that there is more to the story than a man running from God and ending up in the belly of a big fish. The essential element of the story is the “why.” God had a job for Jonah to do – to preach repentance to the Ninevites, whose reputation for evil was known to God. Jonah didn’t want to be that prophet, so he ran from God and tried to sail away to Tarshish. While he slept in the hold of the ship, a storm arose, and the seas threatened to capsize the boat. The sailors figured out that Jonah was fleeing from his God, so to appease God, they threw him overboard and the storm ceased. But God saved Jonah by providing a big fish which swallowed him and kept him safe for three days – the length of time it

took Jonah to repent for running away. God hears Jonah’s prayers and commands the fish to spit Jonah up on the shore so Jonah can finally undertake the task God asked of him – go to Ninevah and preach to the Ninevites so they change their ways and turn back to God. Jonah preached and the Ninevites listened. Everyone, including the King, fasted, put on sackcloth and ashes and repented. Scripture says, “When God saw by their actions how they turned from their evil way, he repented of the evil he had threatened to do to them; he did not carry it out.” And Jonah was angry. His reaction was essentially, “I knew this was going to There are happen!” Jonah admits to God this was the “why,” the reason he ran away from times when I God in the first place. He didn’t want am like Jonah, God to forgive these enemies of Israel. Jonah responds to God, “O Lord, is not yet ready this not what I said while I was still in my own country? This is why I fled at to forgive. first toward Tarshish. I knew that you are a gracious and merciful God, slow to anger, abounding in kindness, repenting of punishment. So now, Lord, please take my life from me; for it is better for me to die than to live.” God simply asks, “Are you right to be angry?” Reflecting on my own life, I realize I had to learn the difference between being angry at someone’s bad behavior and being angry at the thought of God treating them with mercy and forgiveness should they repent. There are times when I am like Jonah, not yet ready to forgive. But with God following on my heels, I may get there eventually. Mary Clifford Morrell is the author of “Things My Father Taught Me About Love,” and “Let Go and Live: Reclaiming your life by releasing your emotional clutter,” both available as ebooks on Amazon.com.

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Family Life

Social workers offer advice

on improving family life during COVID-19 BY CHRISTINA LESLIE  Correspondent

t’s not your imagination: Some people have adjusted to the current restrictive lifestyle of the COVID-19 pandemic more smoothly than others, experts say.

So to help others make the transition into “the new normal,” Dr. Widian Nicola, DSW, a licensed clinical social worker and assistant professor of social work at Seton Hall University, South Orange, offered a number of strategies both parents and adolescents might use to survive, even flourish, as a family unit. “There is no shame, no sense of right or wrong about how you’re managing,” Nicola said during a recent National Association of Social Workers New Jersey video teleconference that is available online. Parents, she noted, must manage both their own emotions and those of their adolescent children who might be experiencing feelings such as grief, disappointment, anxiety, depression, loneliness, boredom, helplessness, powerlessness and more. “Adults have more capacity to react to changes. Kids can be resilient and rebound, but still need skills and direction from their parents and mentors,” she said. Nicola encouraged parents to remember that whatever emotional experiences their children are having is OK, and added that “they should work not to remove their children’s emotions, but to help them shift and manage them.” Nicola suggested five strategies for parents: 1. Pay attention to mood changes in children. “When kids don’t have the language to express themselves, they will use another outlet such as crying, aggressive behavior, eating changes or sleep changes,” she said. “This is a gateway into a deeper, unmet need. Look at meaning behind the action.” Nicola recommended parents re-

member the acronym RAIN: Recognize emotional turbulence; Allow it with no judgement; Investigate it with patience and curiosity, and Nourish or Nurture it. “It is a process,” she said. “Emotions, unless they are resolved, will reappear.”

 “Aim for basic survival, adapt … and manage your expectations.”  2. Model balance for children. “We have a responsibility as parents to regulate some semblance of balance in your home,” Nicola said. “If children see the frantic nature of your existence, they will mimic it.” Figure the rhythm of your home, she advised parents. “Create structure, routine and continuity, but you need a break from it as well.” 3. Clarify your expectations. “It’s not that we like this situation,” Nicola said, “but we can aim to adapt, manage and maintain. This may be difficult for those who are perfectionists, for the access to those things that energize them are inaccessible. Aim for basic survival, adapt to this new world and manage your expectations. Things may change, for every day is different.” 4. Engage, don’t entertain. The adolescent’s brain is malleable and can rewire itself based on relational experiences, Nicola stressed. “Determine whether their decisions are fight-flight-panic type or more thoughtful,” she recommended. “You can help children to be engaged to find creative solutions to

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challenges they are facing. They can’t do this if they don’t get the whole perspective.” 5. Affirm and celebrate. “They will experience grief and loss at their inability to celebrate milestones and small joys,” she said. “Affirm how far they’ve come, celebrate small victories, design alternate ceremonies and be sincere.” In addition, Nicola offered strategies for children, which are three-fold: reframe, reclaim and remain. 1. Reframe Language matters, Nicola stressed. “Reframe the way they are thinking about issues, such as saying, ‘You are not stuck at home, you are safe at home,” she said. “These small shifts interpret the meaning of their experiences. The more they are embedded in conversation, they help manage stress.” 2. Reclaim Nicola advocates enabling adolescents with opportunities to reclaim some of the autonomy they have lost. “Every choice was made without their consent and involvement,” she pointed out. In the safety of their homes, “have them create schedules that help them make more decisions and gain more opportunities.” 3. Remain positive The level of resilience adolescents have is unbelievable, Nicola said. “They can come back from these difficult circumstances. We have to rely on the fact this will end.”

Family Life

Diocese’s newest resource helps families foster faith at home BY MARY STADNYK  Associate Editor

he COVID-19 restrictions may have put a stop to families gathering in their parish churches for the celebration of Mass, but they haven’t halted the continuation of faith formation. Faith At Home is a new online resource compiled by the Diocese that includes a weekly downloadable pdf with links to various Catholic websites, discussion questions related to each Sunday’s Gospel, a “Tip of the Week” that makes a connection to the upcoming Sunday Liturgy, and activities for families. It is available in English and Spanish. The webpage, www.dioceseoftrenton.org/faith-athome or www.dioceseoftrenton.org/fe-en-casa, also offers resources and prayers for individuals, adults, families with young children, teens and marriages. “I think the Faith At Home initiative is important because it provides a way for parishes and the Diocese to make a connection to families and continue to support their faith growth, even though we cannot come together,” said Dan Waddington, director of the Department of Youth and Young Adult Ministries. “I hope it can be a simple way to help families intentionally live out their faith in their home,” he said. Faith At Home was developed by Waddington, Denise Contino, director of the Department of Catechesis, and Josue Arriola, director of the Department of  “People have Evangelization and Family a natural desire Life. It follows the success of the Department of Evangelization to know God.”  and Family Life’s online resource released at the end of Lent. That guide offered practical advice on how faithful could observe Holy Week and the Sacred Triduum at home. Pastors, parish catechetical leaders and others were appreciative for the guide and praised the ease of sharing it with their communities. The new Faith At Home, which is a compilation of resources from various publishers, “is meant as a supplement to the Sunday Liturgy,” Contino emphasized. “It serves the faithful by offering families a place to go each week to break open the Word of God as a family.” She added that it can also help those who might not have a connection to a parish but are searching for ways to connect with their faith. “People have a natural desire to know God, and this pan-

demic could be a moment of evangelization and catechesis for families to reconnect with the Church,” Contino said. “Families are isolated, and there are many emotions that they can be experiencing. This resource can provide the opportunity for conversations in the home about the faith,” Contino said. Arriola said it is his hope that Faith At Home will help family members enjoy being together. “Many families involve their children in many activities, and they are always rushing from place to place,” he said, “but the moment they are together with no place to go, it is strange for them. IN CASE YOU MISSED “They usually don’t know IT ONLINE what to do. Faith At Home New guide helps faithful have will give them ideas on things prayerful Holy Week in the to do together and start enhome, TrentonMonitor.com> joying each other’s company,” News>Diocese Arriola said.

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ith COVID-19 pandemic restrictions in place, parishes across the Diocese have been getting creative in their efforts to help others. In recent weeks, St. Anthony of Padua Parish, Hightstown, and Holy Eucharist Parish, Tabernacle, put out parish-wide calls to help feed their local communities. In Hightstown, the parish is host-

 “The response was incredible.”  ing a number of drive-throughs. The second, on April 22, served about 521 cars in the morning and early afternoon hours. There were about 30 volunteers, including local and state police departments and Knights of Columbus councils who helped direct traffic. Various tasks included preparing bags and cartons of donated goods, greeting the cars upon arrival, checking food recipients’ identification and placing the packages of food in trunks, all while practicing social distancing measures. “It’s tiring and a lot of work, but it’s

beautiful, so rewarding,” said Father Oscar Sumanga, pastor. The drive-throughs were organized by the parish and RISE, a community service organization that’s adjacent to the parish. RISE helps residents in the area with food, clothing, household items and emergency monetary assistance. There was an added bonus of the April 22 date – it was the day after Bishop David M. O’Connell, Father Juan Gabriel Rojas of St. Anthony of Padua Parish, C.M., celebrated his birthday. Hightstown, works the drive-through with a volunteer. Father Sumanga, Father Juan Courtesy photo Gabriel Rojas, parochial vicar, and volunteers made special birthday Knights of Columbus council. greetings, which were posted around The youth ministry members have the parking lot. This act of service “is a history of volunteering at Cathedral our birthday gift to the Bishop,” Father Kitchen, Siedlecki said, so when he Sumanga said, then noted that during the learned that 400 meals a day were being third drive-through on April 25, some served through a social distanced “meals 900 families were served. to go” program, the parish-wide outreach Similarly, faithful from Holy Eucharist was organized. took part in a parish-wide effort to make “The response was incredible,” he said, sandwiches and collect snacks and cases noting that parishioners brought their of water for Cathedral Kitchen, a program donations to the parish parking lot, where that serves the hungry and homeless in they were loaded onto trucks and transCamden, which is not far from the church. ported to Camden. About 1,200 bottles of Jeff Siedlecki, youth ministry coordiwater were collected, and more than 1,000 nator, said the collection was organized by sandwiches and snack bags were made. “I adult volunteers from the youth ministry, was overwhelmed by the response.” faith formation staff and families, and

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The priests of St. Mary of the Lakes Parish recently received an unexpected, yet much-needed gift from some of their parishioners. Father Daniel Swift, pastor of the Medford parish, and Father Roy Ballacillo, parochial vicar, were sent a packet of several handmade drawings from parish altar servers and siblings: 12-year-old twins Drew and Wil Keller, and their nine-year-old sister, Emily. While the two priests were thrilled with the drawings they got April 22, Father Swift said the one that “especially touched my heart” was of the three dressed in their altar server cassocks and wearing facemasks. He admitted that the weeks since the COVID-19 restrictions have proved challenging for both him and Father Ballacillo, especially in their not being able to celebrate Mass with their parishioners in attendance. “While offering Mass is always a sacred occasion, I described this year’s Holy Week … as stark,” he said. In communicating with parishioners through social media, Father Swift said he mentioned that the parish is planning a Mass of Thanksgiving to be celebrated “once the pandemic passes” and that the Mass will be complete with an adult choir, brass instruments and Knights of Columbus council members. Following the Mass, he added, it’s the hope that an “under the tent party” can be held on the parish grounds, but that will depend on the social distancing guidelines. “I was thinking about the day when I will be able to consecrate the Eucharist again with a congregation and parishioners can receive the Body of Christ, and I became emotional,” Father Swift said. “The day cannot come too soon when St. Mary of the Lakes Church will once again be filled with parishioners,” he said. By Mary Stadnyk, associate editor

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SIBLING ALTAR SERVERS SEND SPECIAL GREETING TO PARISH PRIESTS

BRICK YOUTH AIM TO INSPIRE PARISHIONERS “Keep Social Distancing, and Make Room for Jesus.” “Make a Difference, Stay Home Together.” “Be Strong and Stay Safe.” These are among the messages youth in St. Dominic Parish, Brick, have created to inspire fellow parishioners. In a video posted to YouTube, teens from the parish youth ministry can be seen in their individual homes holding posters with messages of encouragement in English and Spanish. The video inspires others to “Be a Light,” “which was extremely appropriate because our youth group is called The Torch,” ministry leader Karen Wojciak said. Wojciak and parish videographer Jack Hensley helped put the video together. To watch the video, visit www.youtube.com/watch?v=D0tsUbKEplQ& app=desktop.

By Jennifer Mauro, managing editor

VIDEO BIRTHDAY GREETINGS, CONGRATULATIONS FOR LAKEWOOD PRIEST Father Guilherme Andrino has celebrated two personal events during this time of quarantine – his birthday and the 13th anniversary of his priestly ordination. Thanks to the thoughtfulness of his parishioners, however, he didn’t celebrate alone. “God Bless You,” Father Andrino, parochial vicar in St. Mary of the Lake, Lakewood, heard in a Facebook video compiled by parishioners wishing him well. The video – which features greetings in English and Spanish – shows photos of his ministry and ordination, as well as families holding up posters, and audio of others singing “Happy Birthday.” “It was something personal that made me feel happier,” he said. “They could not come to the church to celebrate with me, so they sent the video.” To view the video, visit the online version of this story at TrentonMonitor.com>News>Parishes.

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Education

Lessons in Persistence No shortage of hard work for Catholic school staff, communities BY EMMALEE ITALIA  Contributing Editor AND JENNIFER MAURO  Managing Editor

uccess stories abound as Catholic schools in the Diocese of Trenton continue to respond to students’ needs via virtual learning during the COVID-19 quarantine. The amount of work being done behind the scenes, however, may be surprising. In addition to planning school lessons, grading and setting online “office hours,” teachers and administrators are contending with internet connectivity issues; different “school hours” for students as parents and children share one computer; teachers taking on more classes, and principals stepping in to help get the job done. “I don’t think anyone has any idea what this is involving for our teachers,” said Catherine Zagola, principal of Pope John Paul II Regional School, Willingboro. “It is an amazing amount of work. No one can imagine the time involved unless you’re living it … no one is working a nine to five job anymore.” In recent weeks, Zagola has found herself leading a course for a teacher out on maternity leave. In addition to her principal duties, she spends hours preparing work – and that doesn’t include fielding the 60-plus emails per day from students submitting work. Likewise, principal Kathryn Chesnut of St. Charles Borromeo School, Cinnaminson, is currently sharing a position with a substitute teacher, which means six hours of preparation for the lessons, not counting the grading. Carol Bathmann, principal of St. Dominic School, Brick, explained, “We’re looking at the gifts and talents of our teachers of art, music, and Spanish and matching them with faculty mem-

bers who are teaching core Kathryn Jensen, principal of Sacred Heart School, Mount Holly, starts the curriculum disschool day with the Pledge of Allegiance on Facebook Live. Facebook photo ciplines. In the event that a core subject teacher becomes ly is confined at home together. ill, one of these teachers with expertise in “When I don’t hear from a student, that subject area would be ready to step it could be because they don’t have a in. computer, or there’s only one computer in “For example, the school’s music the house and parents need [it] for work,” teacher formerly taught English, so she Zagola noted. is shadowing our current seventh-grade JoAnn Tier, diocesan Catholic schools English teacher and attending all Google superintendent, agreed each school’s Hangout Meets.” situation is different. “The whole experiTrying to promote connection, many ence is so unusual. Beyond the pressure of getting the work done, there’s anxiety,” she  “It’s great to see the way noted. “The kids are watching TV, they’re frightened. We’re trying to reach the our Catholic schools have whole child, not just the intellect.” Overall, the outcome has been sucreally been proactive.”  cessful, with many schools equipped to go virtual from the start of lockdown, in principals have been an online presence spite of some bumps along the way. just like their teachers, visiting with stu“It’s great to see the way our Cathdents and even leading them in prayer. olic schools have really been proactive Kathryn Jensen, principal of Sacred throughout this situation,” said Christian Heart School, Mount Holly, has been Brother Frank Byrne, president of Chrisopening each school day on Facebook tian Brothers Academy, Lincroft. Live, doing the day’s announcements. He commended the diocesan DepartSister of St. Joseph Patricia Pycik, prinment of Catholic Schools, saying that the cipal of St. Joan of Arc School, Marlton, staff “has really provided some outstanduploads slideshows and photos and ing leadership over the last few weeks. posted warmhearted video messages for Our faculties throughout the Diocese the Triduum and Easter on the school’s have done a great job in adapting to the Facebook page. new reality of remote learning. Along Technology is wonderful when it with this, the parents and students are to works and is readily available. But that be commended for being able to adjust to isn’t always the case when the whole fami- the changes.”

44 THE MONITOR MAGAZINE  May 2020

Education

Diocesan PTA responds to COVID, shines in national award BY JENNIFER MAURO  Managing Editor

aula Pangilinan knows exactly where she would have been April 14 if it hadn’t been for the COVID-19 pandemic – in Baltimore, accepting the National Catholic Educational Association “Lead, Learn, Proclaim” Award. “It was exciting to be recognized for what we’ve been trying to create, which is a communications strategy for the 21st century,” said Pangilinan, Diocese of Trenton PTA president. The NCEA awards honor those whose ministry is Catholic school education and who have demonstrated a strong Catholic educational philosophy as well as exceptional efforts, devotion and achievements. The diocesan PTA was one of 27 recipients selected from more than 150,000 applicants. Among the initiatives for which it was recognized: biennial retreat days for PTA units, the fall and spring PTA conferences, and a PTA extranet for idea-sharing and community-building. “Our biggest initiative at the diocesan level is to create a unified group among all of our PTAs,” Pangilinan said. “Each school PTA is unique to that school, and that’s important. Our goal is to unify everybody to be part of the larger PTA while still keeping their individual personalities. So the award celebrated that we have been coming up with new ways to accomplish that.” Recipients learned in March of their awards and had been set to be recognized during the NCEA’s annual convention in April. Coronavirus restrictions may have prevented that from happening – but the diocesan PTA has been busy doing exactly what it was awarded for –keeping the lines of communication open with diocesan school PTAs in the four counties. Early on in the pandemic, Pangilinan explained, the diocesan members held a virtual meeting and made some immediate decisions to get monies back to the school PTAs. Those announcements were made in a Facebook video that also went to reassure schools that they are not alone. Among the decisions: forgiving the per-capita payments each school PTA gives to its Regional Board with plans to reimburse

those that already paid, and canceling the spring conferences. In addition, this would have been the first year for the Sister Dorothy Payne, SSJ PTA Leadership Award, set to be given out at the fall conference. The award is named after Sister Dorothy, founding president of Hamilton’s Trenton Catholic Academy, who died in 2019. Instead, the PTA Board chose to take the $2,500 approved, add to the funds and give each school PTA a $100 stipend. JoAnn Tier, diocesan superintendent of Catholic schools, called these efforts and the award proud moments for the Diocese, especially as the diocesan PTA supports 29 elementary schools, six high school communities and 12,267 students.

THE DIOCESE OF TRENTON is committed to the initiatives outlined in the U.S. Bishops’ Charter for the Protection of Children and Young People and to its own policies and guidelines in regard to the reporting and investigation of sexual abuse allegations involving minors. If you have been sexually abused as a minor by a member of the clergy or anyone representing the Catholic Church, or if you know of someone who was, you can report that abuse through the diocesan

ABUSE HOTLINE: 1-888-296-2965 or via e-mail at abuseline@dioceseoftrenton.org. The Diocese of Trenton reports any allegations of sexual abuse to the appropriate law enforcement agencies. Anyone with an allegation is also encouraged to provide that information to local law enforcement authorities.

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Irish baseball star Steven Graver has faith in his future at West Point BY RICH FISHER  Contributing Editor

ike every other New Jersey high school senior athlete, Notre Dame’s Steven Graver is not happy about potentially sitting out his final spring season. But there are two things that keep Graver going every day – his faith and his future. The tall, lanky pitcher, who went undefeated as a junior, was recently accepted to the U.S. Military Academy at West Point, where he will play baseball and prepare to serve his country. Graver considers himself fortunate, since he realizes that sports are still in his future after high school. And yet, sitting at home does not bode well for the Yardley, Pa., resident who belongs to St. Ignatius of Antioch Parish in his hometown. “Having your senior year being delayed and potentially canceled is tough to deal with,” Graver said. “Training with your teammates in the offseason and even that first week of tryouts and then having something unforeseen like this happen is tough to deal with. For many this is their last chance to go out and play ball before going to college.”

Notre Dame High School senior Steven Graver is leaning on God not only during the COVID-19 pandemic, but also for his future at West Point. Courtesy photo

GRAVER, WHO WAS ALSO a regular for the Irish basketball team, was poised for a big campaign. He led the Lawrenceville high school in victories last year while going 7-0 with a 1.12 ERA and 32 strikeouts in 50 innings. He was named All-Colonial Valley Conference and All-Area. As a sophomore, the right-hander went 1-0 with a 1.97 ERA in 10-2/3 innings. With the beginning of the season taken away due to a state shutdown, Graver is coping in his usual way. “It helps in a time like this [to know] that keeping my faith will help me get through the situation,” he said. “Knowing that there is a greater good looking out for me and leading me provides reassurance.” Graver practices his faith well beyond the walls of St. Ignatius. He is a member of Catholic Athletes for Christ and belongs to his school’s newly formed Baseball Bible Study Group. Those lessons are applied to his everyday life. “Steven has performed community service

where he volunteers his time to help others,” coach Joe Drulis said. “Faith is a very important component in Steven’s life – in his studies, in his athletic competitions and spiritually.” Baseball is also important, as is the U.S. Army. Both run in the family. “Steven had a great role model in his brother,” Drulis said. Jarrad Graver went 10-1 and made AllState as a Notre Dame senior in 2016. After pitching for one year at Alvernia University, a Catholic university in Reading, Pa., he decided to enlist in the Army. He is currently training for Special Operations in the South. Steven Graver was being recruited by Arcadia and Immaculata Universities and Washington College in Maryland, but the lure of Division I baseball and the chance to become a military officer proved too much to resist. “When I attend “Knowing ed a prospect camp at West Point and that there is a spoke to coach [ Jim] Foster, I knew that greater good if I was offered a spot that I would go looking out for there,” Graver said. me and leading It did not hurt that former teamme provides mate Robbie Buecker, a 2019 Notre reassurance.”  Dame graduate, also plays for the Cadets. Like Graver, Buecker is a strong believer in faith and helped get a Bible study group started for the Irish football team. “Being able to play with Robbie again is definitely a bonus,” Graver said. “Being able to hear what life inside West Point was actually like from someone who is currently there helped me base my decision.” Drulis feels that Graver has everything it takes to succeed at West Point, both as a student and player. It is a rigid lifestyle, but nothing new to the senior. “He is very disciplined,” Drulis said. “During the off-season, he puts in the work to be a better student-athlete. In baseball, whether it’s practice or a game, the coaches know that they will get 100 percent out of Steven.”

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Sports ON AND OFF THE FIELD, Graver also possesses the intangibles that are so necessary to being an officer. “As a team leader, Steven is quiet but leads through example,” Drulis continued. “He works on the pitching mound and teaches the younger players how to keep the pitching area in shape. When doing sprints, Steven is going all out, and the younger players see this and follow his example. He is a very mature, responsible player. Steven is about the team and the team’s success. “Steven is just a good person who does the right thing. He is respectful and converses with people and asks about you.” Those qualities impressed Foster, along with Graver’s impressive 6-foot-7 frame, the movement on his sinker and fastball and his demeanor on the mound. He has that bulldog mentality of wanting to win, and does not get flustered when something goes wrong. “He knows that he has to focus on the next pitch, the next batter,” Drulis said. Buecker was the same way, and the fact that Notre Dame

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will have two graduates at such an esteemed institution is a tribute to the sports program, Drulis said. “Having two players at Army-West Point is a great accomplishment for the individual player, for the entire coaching staff, and for Notre Dame High School,” Drulis said. “It’s an awesome feeling, for sure!” Though the coronavirus pandemic has left Graver’s senior sports year in flux, he still has much to look forward to in the coming months. He has not decided on what career path to pursue, but knows some fascinating choices will be offered over the next four years. “When the opportunity to attend West Point came around, it was hard to turn down,” he said. “There is no better way to prepare yourself for life than to attend West Point.”

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