The Dorchester Directory - February 2023

Dear Residents,

Where has the summer gone? Well, I believe Spring is just around the corner, so let’s hang on in there and take a deep breath until March! In the meantime, this cooler weather and rain gives us a chance to look at the house and see what is needed to upgrade or change a few things around. Maybe there are people here in your local magazine to help you? We have electricians, plumbers, solar panel experts, builders, roof specialists, carpet cleaners, oven cleaners, window cleaners, carpet fitters, window fitters… and much more! Each of our loyal and trusted trades people and services would love to hear from you. Now is a good chance to get the help you need, so please do mention us when making those all-important calls. I am always very happy to hear this as it makes all our work worthwhile. You get a local person to help with what you need, and the company keeps busy. It is what we are all about. It also keeps our local economy thriving which is good for us all. A win-win all round.

I also hope you enjoy reading the articles and local data inside. If there is anything you would like to see or any suggestions for making your useful magazine, more useful I would love to hear from you! Do give me a call or send an email.

For now, we wish you a good month of February. May you have fun with, or even find, your Valentine!

Best wishes, Debbie, Stephen

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JTYAF Allocates

£85,000 for Awards to Local Youngsters

At their meeting on Saturday the Trustees of the John Thornton Young Achievers Foundation (JTYAF) allocated £85,000 for awards in 2023. This funding will support local young people by providing them with scholarships and bursaries helping their personal development and the pursuit of their ambitions.

The charity was set up in 2008 in memory of Lieutenant John Thornton RM who was tragically killed in Afghanistan while serving with 40 Commando Royal Marines. The aim of the John Thornton Young Achievers Foundation is to encourage and assist young people to ‘climb as high as they can dream.’ Whatever their dream, the JTYAF hopes to help them achieve it.

The Trustees selected 19 youth organisations for support in 2023 which included Ferndown Upper School, Ferndown First and Middle Schools, Beaucroft Foundation School, the Guides and Scouts and the Bournemouth Sea Cadets and Royal Marine Cadets. Funding was also set aside for young people who are not members of any of

the supported organisations, increasing the reach and diversity of the Foundation within the community.

The charity’s supporters and volunteers have taken the JTYAF to levels never imagined in those early days. Since the charity was formed in 2008 an amazing £935,000 has been awarded to almost 2500 individual young people together with countless whole school and group projects. The charity has also funded the lease of a 17-seater minibus for the last 7 years, which serves all the local schools and numerous youth organisations.

Without the kindness and generosity their supporters however none of this would be possible.

For more information about the work of the JTYAF please visit www.jtyaf.org.

Winnie is looking for a forever home!

Hello, I am Winnie

I am a 10 year old Cairn terrier cross. I came in from the pound. I love people but I need to be the only dog in my new home. I have some nerve damage which affected my back legs and am a little unsteady and sometimes fall over. I am independent minded, but I do appreciate a little help at times. When I stumble, I am happy to get back up and continue to potter around the garden. I love treats, enjoy cuddles and being a sassy little girl. Help with my veterinary fees may be available when using our vets. If you are able to offer me or one of my lovely friends a forever home or a foster home Please contact our office on: Tel: 01202 875000 Email: admin@waggytails.org.uk or visit our website : www.waggytails.org.uk

We also have lots of other dogs looking for their forever homes.

Waggy Tails Rescue are in need of more foster homes. If you are at home most of the time, have a secure garden an experienced with dogs then please give us a ring and

discuss fostering for us. It is a very rewarding experience and enables us to continue helping these dogs. (No children under 10 in the house please.)

Waggy Tails Rescue is a registered charity based in Dorset, we rescue and rehome dogs that have been abandoned, neglected or otherwise in need of a new home. We also find homes for other small furries that may be in our care, so to find out more you can contact us on the number above or send donations or letters to:

Waggy Tails Rescue Helen’s House 143 Magna Road Wimborne BH21 3AW Thank you for supporting us!

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Avatar...again

Never an actress who rushes to take up film scripts, Zoe Saldaña very often opts for the ‘less is more’ approach – thus, a string of colossal projects decorate a CV that is notable for gaps in between.

Certainly in terms of the film that set her on her way to a string of big-budget projects from where she rarely now strays, the influence of James Cameron’s groundbreaking Avatar has been present for well over a decade now.

So it is with no small amount of relief that, finally, a sequel has arrived… and not just one. In what may turn out to be the biggest box office series ever, production of four more Avatar movies is in motion, through to Avatar 5, due for release in 2028, no less.

“The project is huge, but it has to be,” says Saldaña. “You have a film that took $3billion at

the box office, and yet here we are 13 years on. Perhaps it’s only right we’re getting this many sequels done if it’s taken us this long up until now!”

On the eve of Avatar: The Way of Water, one of the most-anticipated sequels in film history, Zoe Saldaña is a woman with a lot of work to do. does just different… different.”

While details over Avatar 2, or The Way of Water to give it its official title, are sketchy, what’s clear is this is no rushed project, nor is Saldaña taking her return lightly.

“I was very nervous because sequels can be dangerous, and we were feeling the pressure. I think the first couple of days, we all had moments of, ‘Can we do this again? What was the secret ingredient?

Do you know, does anyone? Should we just leave it there, not mess with it?’ There were a lot of nerves. It has been a long while.

“Yet [director and writer] James Cameron is in charge and his vision is present and trustworthy. And the film is very different from the first, way different… different planet different.”

While we are now in a new era of film that feels a world away from the CGI-laden original, the appeal of welcoming a new generation of filmgoer to the mystery of Eurasia is one Saldaña is relishing.

“We still retain the curiosity and interest of the millions of people who went out to watch it first time around, but the continuation of this story will bring new eyes to the story, and that’s a thrill for me.”

VOICE ACTIVATION MOTORISED BLINDS

VOICE ACTIVATION MOTORISED BLINDS

to control your electric blinds using just your voice? All you need is an Alexa enabled device. Using this, we set up your electric blinds to open or close in response to simple voice commands. ese could be ‘open the blinds in the kitchen,’ or ‘close the blinds in the bedroom.’ You can also ask Alexa to open your electric blinds at sunrise to help you wake up naturally, or close the blinds when it gets dark to protect your home, even if you’re not there. Alexa controlled blinds are the ultimate convenience in home automation, allowing you to enjoy a more relaxed ambience, whatever level of window coverage you require.

Dorset Wildlife Trust partners with ethical consumer brand, Gaia

A new partnership has been announced between Dorset Wildlife Trust and Bournemouth-based ethical consumer brand, Gaia. Dorset Wildlife Trust has been chosen by Gaia as one of the four environmental charities to which the company donates a portion of its members’ fees as part of their commitment to sustainability. As an additional benefit of their membership, Dorset Wildlife Trust members will gain access to a digital Gaia card which offers hundreds of ethical discounts and offers with local and online companies who meet their sustainability criteria.

The donations will go to Dorset Wildlife Trust’s Nature Reserves Fund, the proceeds of which are used to care for and maintain 40 nature reserves across Dorset. These include areas of ancient woodland, wildflower meadows, precious heathlands and wetlands. These are habitats which have become increasingly rare in the wider countryside and are filled with vulnerable species such as the marsh fritillary butterfly, Bechstein’s bat, bee orchid, great crested newt and of course, the Sandwich terns and red squirrels on Brownsea Island.

Dorset Wildlife Trust’s Conservation Director, Andrew Pollard said, “We are delighted to be one of Gaia’s chosen charities. The costs of managing our nature reserves rises every year - restoring rivers, woodlands, heathlands and grasslands, maintaining walking trails, repairing fences required for conservation grazing, and all the work that is required to ensure visitors are kept safe and able to enjoy these amazing wild places. It is an exciting partnership which works for both

our members as well as local companies who care about reducing their environmental impact too”.

Izzy Chalk, Gaia’s Sustainability and Ethics Co-ordinator commented “At Gaia, sustainability lies at the heart of every decision. However, we also understand the pathway to sustainability is complex, with multiple influential factors. This means we need to take action towards environmental stability, social equity, and economic progress simultaneously. In other words, we need to address all 17 of United Nations Sustainable Development Goals. The incredible work carried out by Dorset Wildlife Trust is vital for restoring ecosystems, combating global climate change, and improving the health and wellbeing of society. Therefore, we are thrilled to have Dorset Wildlife Trust as one of our selected charities for our new and improved giving-back scheme, and we are excited to explore how this partnership will benefit both people and the planet”.

To find out more about becoming a member, visit:

dorsetwildlifetrust.org.uk

Photo: Red squirrel in an apple tree.

Credit: Paul Williams

The Property Protection Trust Will package is based around how you hold the ownership of your home. All good estate planning nowadays considers the difference between owning your home as joint tenants or as tenants in common.

If you own your home as Joint Tenants; when one of you dies the ownership of the home passes by the Law of Survivorship and not by your Will. Therefore, the surviving partner will automatically own 100% of the property. This sounds right to most people. BUT should the surviving partner need care in the future, the Local Authority can take everything they own (including their home) to pay for the care fees, leaving just £14,250 to be inherited by children and grandchildren.

There is an alternative.

Nowadays many couples choose to own their home as Tenants in Common where each partner will own 50% of the family home. This provides for many benefits. Firstly, it allows you to legally leave your share of the property in your Will to whoever you wish. A properly written Will can ensure that your half of your house will eventually pass to your children even if your widow re-marries.

Unmarried cohabiting couples or relatives living together can also use this means of ownership as a way of minimising their Inheritance Tax exposure.

It can also help with long-term care costs. If one of you is still living in your home the Local Authority can’t include its value in the means test if one of you has to go in to long-term care. This also applies if the husband or wife still living at home dies while the other is in care as their share will go into the trust.

Dorset and Wight are your local experts in Property Protection Trust Wills.

Increasing numbers of homeowners are choosing to hold their properties as tenants in common to reduce inheritance tax and help protect their share from care fees

Cleaning up our act

Keen to make your laundry routine as ecofriendly as possible? Well, we’ve got some simple and effective solutions for you.

1. Lessen the load

Sometimes the most obvious option is the best one, and in this case, that would be to simply do less washing.

Naturally, socks and pants can only be worn once before they need a clean, but perhaps you can at least strive to get a couple of days from the same pair of jeans or sweatshirt.

Going fewer days without doing a wash is also a good strategy: three larger loads a week is preferable to five smaller ones.

2. Curb the chemicals

Toxic detergents have a very negative impact on our local eco-systems – particularly marine life. Fortunately, there are numerous ecobrands on the market that are also effective and pleasantly fragrant.

Another good option is soap nuts - these are dried shells of berries from a tree native to the Himalayas. Entirely natural, chemical-free and gentle, these

nuts contain saponins, a soap-like chemical that foams when agitated in warm water. Soap nuts are also anti-bacterial, anti-fungal and an effective alternative to chemical cleaners.

3. Get some balls

Your favourite scented dryer sheet is singleuse, non-biodegradable and packed with toxic chemicals, so invest instead in some wool dryer balls.

Not only do they reduce static electricity and wrinkles, soften fabrics and encourage them to dry faster, they can also be used over and over again – far kinder to your pocket, too! And to go a step further, sprinkle with essential oils to give your clothes a dreamy scent.

4. Ditch the plastics

It’s no secret that single-use plastic is enemy number one to the environment. Why not seek out a local store that provides refillable stations, or consider a detergent alternative such as soap nuts or even just distilled white vinegar -

don’t worry, the vinegar smell naturally neutralises!

5.

Cool it down

Even though most washing machines offer the option of a 90-degree wash, it really is an unnecessary temperature to wash linens at. If you do have nasty stains, pop half-a-cup of baking soda in with your clothes to banish them.

Even your colour clothes wash can be dropped from 40 to 30 degrees thanks to better formulated detergents (even the eco brands), a small change that lessens both the impact on the planet and on your pocket.

Going Green...

So much is being said about the need to protect the planet and use more eco-friendly material, but it is the small steps that each of us can do that will really make the difference.

Take the EcoEgg Laundry Egg... the innovative laundry solution. It replaces laundry detergent and fabric conditioner, reducing both harmful chemicals used and also single-use plastic packaging.

Dermatest has rated it excellent for use on sensitive skin, giving a kinder wash on both your skin and your pocket.

The mineral pellets in the egg, which are refillable (saving even more money!), work together in the water to effectively draw dirt from your clothes and softens them by changing the pH. Therefore leaving your laundry clean and fresh.

EcoEggs are available in Fresh Linen, Spring Blossom and Fragrance Free.

Recently, they have also released the EcoEgg Dryer Egg, which can be used when tumble drying. They reduce the drying time by up to 28%, saving you both time and money.

“I’ve been using mine for over a month now and I absolutely love it. It saves money, there’s no mess from washing powders and liquids. Also easy to use, and is better for the environment. Helps cut down on single use plastic and doesn’t use harmful chemicals.” KD

If you would like to know more about these products and many more, please feel free to visit my website at debbiegoesgreen.uk or email me at hello@debbiegoesgreen.uk as I would love to hear from you. Let’s look after ourselves and our environment!

Debbie Corney

Are Vitamins Vital?

Us Brits spend around £500million every year on multivitamins and dietary supplements, but are we actually getting our money’s worth?

In the early 20th century when vitamins were first discovered and their role in preventing illnesses such as scurvy and rickets began to be understood, it was deemed a revelation in healthcare. Back then, diets were nutritionally insufficient enough to cause serious health problems, and even death.

Yet now, in 2023, we have access to an abundance of fruit, vegetables, dairy and meat, making such diseases an anomaly in the western world.

However, a 2018 Food Standards Agency report found that about half of UK adults took food supplements on a regular basis, suggesting a belief at least that these special pills can either prevent and cure illness, or both. And of course, such magical thinking

is understandable given the information we are fed via the media.

It’s always worth bearing in mind that a well-balanced diet ought to have you covered in any case. Not only that, but vitamins and minerals in their natural state are easier absorbed by your body.

The question is then, does your diet have you covered? Well, as long as you aren’t excluding one of the main food groups, then yes. However, if you are following a vegetarian or vegan plantbased diet, taking a multivitamin that contains vitamin B12, iodine and choline, along with vitamin D, could be beneficial. Similarly,

those averse to oily fish should consider an omega 3 supplement.

Women who are pregnant or intend on becoming pregnant are advised to take a 400-microgram supplement of folic acid, daily, as research shows that this reduces the risk of neural tube defects in babies. Calcium is also vital to those breastfeeding, so any new mums who are lactose intolerant ought to seek it by other means.

Ageing can also have a detrimental effect on your body’s ability to absorb certain vitamins and minerals; for example, as we get older our stomachs struggle to produce hydrochloric acid – vital for the absorption of vitamin B12 – so those over the age of 50 are advised to take a B12 supplement.

In conclusion, supplements tend to benefit those whose diets are lacking. That said, you might just want to take a multivitamin for peace of mind; after all, the only negative effect it can really have is to your wallet!

A Design for Life… e Kevin McCloud Column

Designer, writer and television presenter, Kevin McCloud leapt into our consciousness with his vastly successful Grand Designs show on Channel 4. This month, the affable architectural business owner talks about the concept of space.

During lockdown, our understanding and appreciation of space was something that was challenged in ways we w had probably never expected.

Not only was even outside space challenged and conditioned to be accessed and used in very specific ways, but when at home, our rooms suddenly became multifunctional when they were never designed for such a purpose – our kitchen tables were work desks; our little creative nooks and crannies were filled with children and other imposters!

One of the positive take-outs many of us took from lockdown

was versatility, yet in my own life I’m keen to get back a certain amount of separation, because I find it absolutely essential for organising my mind and staying creative.

It’s for that reason that I actually have different work areas, spaces and locations for different types of jobs. By that, I mean I will do all my creative television thinking in a little bale- and stone-walled hut I have, called The Straw Bale.

It has a roof, some furniture in there, and serves as a studio away from prying eyes and everyday interruptions you would usually encounter in the house.

I felt I needed this little space because with a show such as Grand Designs I am pretty much on-location the whole time. That means there is no set base by which I can connect myself to a project and get in that headspace… unless I make one.

I have an office within the main part of the house, but that is used for much more menial matters, such as answering emails and firing off angry letters to all and sundry!

The concept of space is one that isn’t always objective – it can be

subjective as well. For instance, just because you have a big area with which to express yourself, it doesn’t mean it will actually feel big, or spacious. Similarly, very small rooms can be made to feel much larger than they are with clever techniques and smart aesthetics. I talk around this idea a lot when I mention high ceilings, uplighting and an abundance of floor space, utilising tables and chairs with legs, that guide the eye and light through the space.

In essence, it’s all about how we marry together space and comfort. If done well, you have the first building blocks for somewhere, home or office, that truly inspires you and brings happiness.

John Torode’s Tru ed Macaroni and Smoked Haddock Bake

Introduction

Want something that combines supreme comfort with a little decadence this Valentine’s Day? Well look no further than this divine truffled macaroni dish with an extra boost from smoked haddock, created by MasterChef’s John Torode.

Method

Ingredients

(serves 4)

For the macaroni

• 250g macaroni

• 1 tsp olive oil

• 1 small onion, finely chopped

• 500ml milk

• 300g smoked haddock

• 1 tbsp truffle oil

• 50g soft butter, plus extra for the dish

• 25g plain flour

• 100g gruyère, coarsely grated

For the breadcrumbs

• 50g white breadcrumbs

• small pack parsley, leaves picked

• small thyme sprig, leaves picked

• small pack tarragon, leaves picked

• 1 garlic clove, roughly chopped

• small piece of butter

• drizzle of truffle oil, plus extra to serve

1. Blend together all the ingredients for the breadcrumbs in a food processor until roughly chopped, season, then set aside. Boil the macaroni one minute less than the time on the pack, drain, toss in the olive oil and set aside.

2. Tip the onion, milk and the smoked haddock into a pan, and season. Simmer gently for 10 mins, then remove the haddock. Flake the flesh and drizzle with the truffle oil and set aside.

3. Mix the butter and flour together to make a paste. Over a low heat, whisk the paste into the hot milk and bring to the boil, stirring all the time. Remove from the heat and add half the grated cheese and stir well.

4. Take the pan off the heat, tip the pasta into the sauce and mix well, then fold through

the haddock and season with ground black pepper. The sauce may seem a little thin, but it’ll thicken as it cooks. Butter a large ovenproof dish and tip in all the macaroni (I like it piled high), then finish by scattering over the rest of the cheese and most of the breadcrumbs. This can be prepared a day ahead, covered and kept in the fridge.

5. To cook, heat oven to 200°C/180°C fan/gas mark 6. Bake for 20 mins until bubbling and sprinkle with the rest of the breadcrumbs. Bake for five minutes more, then drizzle a little more truffle oil on top, and scatter some extra herbs, if you like.

The Adventures of Daichi

The Modern Magazines Camper Van

Daichi, The Dashing Dude, our wonderful, spirited Campervan is always ready to cheer us up, to take us on family adventures both near and far and generally take us away from any stresses or strains of everyday life. He doesn’t believe in watching the news or letting woes and worries get him down. He is all about living life, seeing friends and family and making the most of our beautiful British Isles. It is a great attitude to have. Christmas seems a long way away already, but at that time we have two important Birthdays (well I think so…), my own and Stephen’s. You see I was born 3 days before Christmas and Stephen was born on Boxing Day. It is a busy time of year! Daichi’s story this month is how very different we can spend our Birthdays and how we all enjoyed both of them!

Daichi drove us all the way to Hull for my Birthday… where I was born and lived until I was 18 years old. The family are still there and what I wanted was to see them all with my Mum and Dad. It gets to a certain time in your life, when, I don’t know about you, but you wonder if this Christmas could be the last, with certain people. I had this going on in my jumbled head for some time, so Daichi was very accommodating and drove myself and Stephen all the way to Hull. We arrived late on December 21st. What my Dad did not know

was that I had already been in contact with our 22 family members there, and each were coming to his humble abode the following evening. Dad worries a lot, and at 87 now and though still very fit and able to drive all the way down South, Daichi did not want to stress him out. A Mum with dementia is not at all easy and situations can never be predicted, but I managed to get her up and dressed and ready to go to a local garden centre the morning of my Birthday. For anyone with this problem, I had bought mum a gorgeous doll and it worked like a treat. This “baby” was a saving grace on many occasions this Christmas. It is very sad to watch in many ways, but believe me, Mum lit up like a Christmas tree when she saw her, and hardly let go the whole time we were with them. The people in the garden centre were marvellous too, mum had many smiles and hello’s, and I was very touched by all their gracious looks and helpful comments as Mum wandered around holding carefully her pretty baby. Daichi was all smiles too. What a great idea that worked a treat, for everyone’s benefit. During lunch I approached Dad and told him my Birthday plan. A little taken aback, but he knows me well, the next step of the plan was set. Shopping! The boys would do the shopping,

Debbie and mum in the garden centre

while I kept mum entertained at the garden centre. It worked! Daichi took the boys to the supermarket… and I lost Mum several times walking around the Christmas decorations! All good fun.

Seeing all my cousins and family members was what I had wanted. We don’t get together too often and when we do it is always good. I was particularly interested in the younger members… now in their twenties and thirties (I am showing my age now…). One cousin is buying her first house. Another cousin had gotten married and gone to Disney for three weeks. An aunt is planning a new life for herself. I loved it. Lots of life, living and forward thinking. It was a great way to spend my Birthday.

Mum and Dad came back with us for Christmas and spent a week with my sister over at their farmhouse in Margaret Marsh, near Shaftesbury. We spent a quiet Christmas Day with them in the countryside. Gorgeous. Log fire, wind whistling around the walls and windows and Christmas dinner…mmm…. From Hull to Margaret Marsh, and then to Weymouth for Stephen’s Birthday on 26th. Variety is the spice of life I have heard it said!

As you know we do love living in Weymouth with our sea views. The last two years, Boxing Day has been glorious! Really, sunny and blue skies. It has become Stephen’s day for a brisk swim in the sea with Hayden, our son, to

Stephen after a bracing dip on Boxing Day

celebrate his big day. They do have wetsuits, but nevertheless this is a brave move I would say! I, well, I take the photographs… Afterall someone has to do it! This year they stayed in the water a good 15 minutes all the while playing ball and diving in and out of the water. It is fun to watch, though people passing by gave us a few sympathetic looks… I think Stephen likes the challenge of it all. There I am bringing the family members together for my day, and Stephen absolutely backs me up with all of that, but on his day a bracing challenge and a full ‘alive feeling’ is what he wants. After a Birthday lunch, including ice-cream of course at our wonderful “Wafflicious” ice-cream parlour, “Avatar 2” was next on the menu! All within walking distance of where we live, the cinema, just around the corner was the perfect way to end a great day. The film is brilliant. Defense of the family is at the core of this adventure. Quite apt really. A three-hour movie, well worth it with gorgeous graphics and we were well entertained the whole time. An exhilarating end to a fabulous day!

So, how did you spend your Birthday? Daichi would love to know. Why not email him at debbie@modernmagazines.co.uk. Maybe we could add some of your Birthday photos in the magazine and Daichi will send you his Best Wishes? Birthdays are a great excuse to do what YOU want to do! Where will Daichi take us next, I wonder?

By Debbie Corney

Couple Goals

Want to put your best foot forward with your better half? These fashion tips on how to maximise your power couple status – while not looking too matchy matchy – cover every occasion from a gym outing to a super slick soiree.

Here are our top tips for ensuring you are the sartorial king and queen of wherever you roam.

Casual date

Want to show your one and only you have eyes for them? Then consider looking similar in the subtlest of ways.

Matching outerwear in the form of camel coats or bomber jackets; white trainers with jeans or a sweatshirt in a similar hue to her dress, can be touching without overbearing.

As with so much in fashion, the trick is to keep it subtle for maximum effect.

Gym hangout

Matching lycra is obviously a no-no unless you fancy channelling Barbie and Ken, but gym-based couple selfies surely demand a little liaising with your betrothed.

Donning the same sportswear brand or t-shirts with a similar font and style will give an effortless sense of cohesion, as will matching sports bags.

Similarly, you can also team up with matching post-workout protein shakes, but that really is one for the dedicated.

Wedding

Just remember that white and black dresses are generally a no no.

Corporate event

If the event is semi-casual, then the guy can wear a black jacket paired with pitch black jeans and loafers. His partner can stick to the little black dress. If it’s a formal event, then adhere to the same rules as for a wedding.

Summer Soiree

her

When it comes to complementary fashion looks, it’s often about the smaller details… for example, his tie matching her dress. It’s a little nod to the one you love without going overboard.

Generally, a dark to mid-grey suit pairs well with a formal cocktail dress in a colour palette agreeing to the theme and time of the wedding.

You want to look and feel relaxed, so definitely choose breathable fabrics and cuts. Loose cotton shirts and lightcoloured chinos with loafers or boat shoes for him, and a flowing, elegant dress for her.

Once again, your outfit synergy comes from the accents. The gentleman’s shoes may be similar to the lady’s dress, or her nail polish may match his shirt. These details not only make you look well put together as a couple, they also show your hosts that you’ve made the effort for their event too.

Why do you need to have a Lasting Power of Attorney?

Did you know that your next of kin will not automatically be able to take on your legal rights if you need help because of illness, or mental incapacity?

Your nearest and dearest will only have legal rights if you have given them by making a Lasting Power of Attorney. The people you name to help you must be people you trust to look after you and your money, and you can decide exactly how much authority you give to them.

If you leave it too late, your family won’t be able to access your bank accounts, even to pay for your care, without formal Court authority.

We can help you make a Lasting Power of Attorney to protect your interests and give your family any extra authority you think they may need.

I’m a Dementia Friend

You can join me at: dementiafriends.org.uk

Would you like a home visit for advice about making a Will, or Lasting Power of Attorney?

Call Christine on: 07860 772274 or email: christine@winterbornelegal.co.uk

Christine is a fully accredited member of Solicitors for the Elderly, Society of Trust & Estate Practitioners (STEP) and a Dementia Friend

Driven to distraction

Driving on UK roads is about how we respond to danger and hazards… both of our own doing, as well as those around us. We look at how these factors collide, and how being aware means being safe.

The actions of others

The AA regularly poll their members on a variety of road issues, and over time have gathered the responses of a quarter of a million people on the habits and traits that irritate them most. The results are revealing, with talking on a mobile phone, in recent years, having become the thing that creates the most ire.

Most frustrating habits of other road users:

1. Talking on a mobile (30%)

2. Tailgating (23%)

3. Middle lane hogging (20%)

4. Swooping or cutting across lanes to leave a motorway at the last minute (10%)

5. Overtaking on the inside (7%)

6. Driving too slowly (4%)

7. Speeding (3%)

8. Littering (3%)

Our own misdemeanours

Most of us know the key things we need to avoid on the roads, yet there are a few other

seemingly inoffensive actions that you may also land you in trouble.

A bad apple

Around two thirds of British drivers have had a bite to eat while behind the wheel – but how many of those would have snuck a piece of sandwich had they known it could mean big trouble?

The Highway Code, under Rule 148, states that “safe driving and riding needs concentration,” and advises against eating, drinking, smoking, listening to loud music and trying to read maps while behind the wheel.

Anyone tucking into their lunch could well be committing an offence of driving without due care and attention, or not being in proper control of a vehicle.

Making a splash

Mean-spirited motorists careening through surface water and subsequently soaking pedestrians may be infringing section three of the Road Traffic Act 1988, which states that driving “without reasonable consideration

for other persons using the road” is an offence. So next time you see an inviting puddle, steer well clear or risk being hit with a fixed penalty notice!

Horn blower

The horn is a vital part of staying safe on the roads and should be used to warn other drivers of your presence, particularly if you are about to tackle a sharp corner or a situation where there is poor driver visibility.

Beeping in a moment of anger can in fact be considered breaking the law; while sounding the horn between 11.30pm and 7am in a built-up area unless is prohibited, unless it is an absolute emergency.

Shake Off the January Blues With a New Challenge

Help Julia’s House Support Local Families As Children’s Hospice Charity Celebrates Its 20 Year Anniversary

It might be wet and grey outside, but setting yourself a new challenge for 2023 could be just what you need to shake off the winter blues.

Local children’s hospice charity, Julia’s House, is launching its 2023 events programme to boost our get up and go. Run, walk, trek or parachutethere’s something for everyone! This year is extra special for the charity too, as Julia’s House marks a 20 year milestone of providing a lifeline of care to local seriously ill children and their families.

“We’d love to get as many people as possible involved in our 2023 events. It is a very special year for us and of course, we wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for the amazing support of the local community over the last 20 years,” says Julia’s House

Events Fundraiser, Chantelle Shave. “We know it is a challenging time for us all, but the families we support need our help more than ever, so the money raised from our events this year will be so important in helping us to continue to provide our life-changing care.”

There are a number of events to choose from, whether you want to take things at a slower pace or prefer to opt for a fast-moving challenge:

A walk with a view: Join the Great Wiltshire Walk knowing every step you take will help give exhausted and anxious families a break from 24/7 care. You will take in the panoramic views of the Wiltshire countryside and walk amongst Avebury’s World Heritage Stone Circle. With special 20 mile and 20k routes to mark the charity’s 20 year anniversary, the Great Wiltshire Walk takes place on Sunday 14 May.

Jump around: The views don’t get more panoramic than those from 13,000 feet up in the air. If a parachute jump is on your wish list, sign up for a tandem skydive and see the world as you’ve never seen it before. The jump takes place at the Army Parachute Association near Salisbury on 10 June.

Booking deadline is 29 April.

Run Bournemouth and Bath

Half: On 7-8 October, run for Julia’s House in Bournemouth’s landmark running festival. Choose from a half marathon, 10k or 5k and make it a family occasion as there are junior races for children aged 3-12. There’s something for everyone and you get to savour the great atmosphere and wonderful coastline views. The Julia’s House events team will provide oneto-one support with fundraising and a free running vest.

Or, join the Bath Half Marathon on 15 October and enjoy the support of thousands of spectators who line the route to cheer on the runners in a traffic-free Bath. Julia’s House has got 20 places up for grabs. It’s a great goal for training, whether you’re a beginner or want to improve your time.

Swap your sunbed for the Sahara…

From 2-7 November this year, you could join an epic trek in the Moroccan Sahara that gives you a glimpse of this extraordinary desert landscape and way of life. Trekking across ancient dried up river beds, sand dunes and vast sun-baked plains you will camp out under the stunning star-filled night sky.

…or plan ahead for Petra

One of the seven new wonders of the world, the vast and unique city of Petra is carved into sheer rock face and listed as a UNESCO World Heritage Site. Join the Julia’s House

trek to this stunning and remote city in November 2024. It has been voted by National Geographic as one of the world’s best hikes and it is growing a reputation as the ‘Inca Trail of the Middle East’.

More information: To sign up or find out more about any of the Julia’s House 2023 challenge events go to juliashouse.org/event-listing/getactive

Chantelle adds: “All the money raised from the challenge events will help Julia’s House to continue its vital care for local families, from providing expert clinical and emotional support to helping vulnerable families access grants and benefits that can help them through the current cost of living crisis.

“With more children living longer with increasingly complex medical conditions requiring round the clock care, the essential respite breaks Julia’s House gives to families couldn’t be more critical. The continued support of the local community is vital to our future.”

Greenfingers…

The Alan Titchmarsh Column

He’s a brilliant presenter, accomplished gardener, talented novelist, and allround horticultural inspiration. is month, Alan Titchmarsh discusses how to keep motivation for your garden going.

e back might ache more than it used to and there’s more than a hint of a painful creak in the knees, but most days I still feel the urge to get out there and do my bit… and even when I don’t feel the urge, I always find it important to push on. A er all, my faithful beds and trellises rely on it!

It’s also worth remembering how beneficial the everyday rigours of flowering and weeding, pruning and digging are. It comes with the territory when you get to my sort of age, but I always remind myself that by the very nature of gardening you are outdoors, filling the lungs with oxygen and experiencing what it is to be around plants, trees and flowers. If that isn’t good for the soul, I don’t know what is!

I think what should motivate us to garden, even on those days when we would rather be in the pub, is the fact there is something unique about every outside space, and it changes on each occasion you set foot out into it. ere is always something that’s di erent, and special, and always ready to enchant you… always something you perhaps hadn’t noticed before!

It’s important to remember that although your garden is a wild space, you have, in e ect, tamed a lot of it; so like a pet or a child, it relies on you to keep doing the things you invested in it in the first place. It’s sort of saying, ‘you’ve started now, you can’t just stop!’

Remember too, it was you who had the vision, the idea, the perception of what this space should look like; so press on with those jobs and keep making your garden your own personal space – it’s an expression of who you are, and just like we get up in the

mornings and have a wash, comb our hair, so too do we owe that to our gardens.

So in summing up, of course the work can be hard and tiring and there are days when the body seems to be telling me to stop, but I am happy and healthy and have a loving family so things could be far worse. And what would I do anyway? Okay, yes… head to the pub!

Light the way

A guide to the best and brightest scented candles available.

Best blowout

BYREDO Bibliothèque

scented candle (approx. £60)

This cult candle is described as ‘a world of old books’, but there is no mustiness in sight with this deliriously heady mix of peach, plum and peony blended with leather, patchouli and vanilla.

Sophisticated, sensual and presented in a beautiful black jar, this candle may work out a pound-an-hour with its 60-hour burn-time, but you really can’t put a price on such olfactory exuberance.

Best budget

Yankee Candle, Clean Cotton large jar candle (approx. £30) American brand Yankee Candle have established themselves as experts in having a scent for every season. However, their divine Clean Cotton fragrance is one that never goes out of fashion, because who could possibly get tired of smelling freshly washed sheets?

Presented in their iconic jar with a lid, this beast burns for 150 hours as sun-dried cotton combined with green notes, white flowers and a hint of lemon gently waft through your home.

Best value

The White Company, Seychelles scented candle (approx. £20)

Luxury homewares brand The White Company are experts in making the home feel as sumptuous as possible, and this candle is no exception.

Like a summer holiday in candle form, bergamot, orange and coconut are blended with notes of amber and vanilla for a dreamy and evocative scent. The price is also remarkably good for a high-end candle that will burn for 33 blissful hours.

Best for daytime

Jo Malone London Lime Basil and Mandarin scented candle (approx. £55)

London perfumier Malone’s signature scent has long been regarded as then go-to housewarming gift among those in the know.

Zippy notes of citrus, basil and aromatic white thyme

will make anywhere smell like home in minutes in this most uplifting and joyous of aromatic adventures.

Best for night-time Aromatherapy Associates Relax scented candle (approx. £50)

Aromatherapy Associates are experts in creating scents that ‘do a job’, Whether reviving, refreshing or in this case, relaxing, you can be sure that every product will do what it says on the tin – or stylish, ceramic candle vessel.

Rich, relaxing odours of warm, smooth West Indian Bay essential oils and myrrh will transform even the grubbiest of bathrooms into a luxury spa. Unwind in the bath or woo in the bedroom, this diminutive candle will provide 40 hours of pleasure.

STAR GAZING

WRITTEN BY KATE EARL kateearlastro@gmail.com

Welcome to the February Stargazing Page. Highlights this month include a close meeting of the brightest and dimmest planets in the Solar System, and the constellation Orion high in the sky.

International Space Station

The ISS can be spotted early in the evening until the 4th. Viewing then switches to our morning skies from the 18th. To establish exact timings please refer to www.heavens-above.com or a similar webpage for up-to-date information, remembering to set the location to your observing area.

Events

A conjunction is when objects in the night sky appear close to one another as viewed from Earth, even though they are actually thousands of miles apart in space. One such event happens at the end of the month when the two bright planets Venus and Jupiter appear extremely close to one another in the early evening western sky (see figure). The closest they reach is actually on March 1st, but they will be approaching each other rapidly the week beforehand, noticeably changing position and moving nearer to one another nightly. This conjunction can be easily seen with the naked eye, but a pair of good, steady binoculars may allow you to spot some of the moons of Jupiter.

Mercury

During the first week of February the innermost planet is visible low in the southeast just before sunrise, but is very difficult to spot.

Venus

Venus will be blazing brightly in the southwest every evening and will be impossible to miss! Apart from the conjunction with Jupiter mentioned above, the Solar System’s brightest planet is also very close in the sky to the Solar System’s dimmest planet, Neptune, on the 15th. You’ll need binoculars or a telescope to see Neptune, which will appear as a star-like object just to the lower right of Venus, at a 5 o’clock position (see figure).

Mars

The red planet can be seen until the early hours of the morning, and although fading every day, is still a bright object located relatively close to the orangered giant star, Aldebaran. It can be interesting to compare the colours of these two ‘reddish’ night sky objects. To

Jupiter & Saturn

As the Sun sets, Jupiter is visible towards the southwest. It will have disappeared below the horizon by 10pm. Saturn is too close to the Sun to be visible this month.

Moon

February’s full moon occurs on the 5th.

Star of the month

Rigel, the seventh brightest star in the sky, marks the left foot of Orion the Hunter, and indeed the name Rigel stems from the Arabic for ‘left foot’ (see figure). It is blue-white in colour due to its temperature, a searing 12,000 °C (our Sun is comparatively cool, with a surface temperature of nearly 6000 °C). Similar to the star Capella featured in January’s issue, the Rigel star system actually consists of four stars. The largest star in the group (and the one we see) is 20 times more massive than the Sun, and will end its life as a supernova: a huge stellar explosion that leaves behind a neutron star or a black hole. Fortunately, that isn’t due to happen for several million years, and as Rigel is over 850 light years away, the Earth won’t be affected when Rigel’s demise does come about.

Orion The Hunter

View south during February 8.30pm

Betelgeuse

Rigel

Saiph

Bellatrix

Orion Nebula

Turning the page

For February, four books that will weave a fictional spell.

The Angel Maker by Alex North

Haunted by the violent attack of her brother Chris years ago, Katie Shaw sees threats everywhere. When her brother disappears, Katie leaps into action to help him once more.

Meanwhile, Detective Laurence Page’s investigation of a brutal murder of a professor leads her to suspect the case is connected to Chris’s attack... and to a serial killer said to be able to predict the future.

Published by Celadon Books on February 28th

The Porcelain Moon by Janie Chang

At the end of the First World War, Pauline Deng runs away from her Chinese family in Paris to escape an arranged marriage back in Shanghai. In the French countryside, Pauline finds shelter with Camille, a French woman planning to escape her own abusive marriage, until Pauline finds out a terrible secret about Camille, forcing them to make a decision that will bind them together forever. Published by William Morrow on February 23rd

Someone Else’s Shoes by Jojo Moyes

Globetrotting Nisha Cantor has the perfect life money can buy until her husband divorces her and cuts her off. Scrambling to hold on to her previous lifestyle, Nisha’s distress hits a peak when even her gym bag is stolen.

Meanwhile, Sam Kemp is desperately trying to keep her

family afloat. When she tries on a pair of expensive shoes from a gym bag she took by accident, the jolt of confidence inspires her to change her life.

This is a story of mix-ups, mess-ups and making the most of second chances. Published by Michael Joseph on February 2nd

The Worst Woman in London: A Victorian Romance by Julia Bennet

A defiant Victorian wife fights to escape a bad marriage but her love for a forbidden man jeopardises her chance at freedom.

James Standish knows how to play society’s game. He’ll follow the rules, marry a virginal debutante, and inherit a massive fortune. At least, that’s the plan until he meets Francesca Thorne. She’s not the sort of woman a respectable gentleman like James could ever marry… not least because, strictly speaking, she’s married already.

Francesca is determined to flout convention and divorce her philandering husband. When James sweet talks his way into her life tasked with convincing her to abandon her dream of freedom, she’s unprepared for the passion that flares between them.

James and Francesca must choose whether to keep chasing the lives they’ve always wanted or take a chance on a new and forbidden love. Published by Entangled on February 2nd

Lisa Faulkner’s Choux Hearts with Berries

Having met her now husband, John Torode, on the 2010 series of Celebrity MasterChef – on which he was a judge and she a contestant – Lisa Faulkner knows full well that food is the language of love. So, what better way to woo your beloved on Valentine’s Day than with these stunning choux hearts?

Ingredients

(makes 8 hearts)

For the choux pastry

• 90g butter

• 360ml water

• pinch salt

• pinch sugar

• 110g plain flour, sifted

• 3 whole eggs, beaten well

To serve:

• 500ml double cream

• 400g mixed fresh berries

Method

1. Preheat the oven to 200°C, gas mark 6. Put the butter and water in a medium saucepan, add the salt and sugar, and bring to the boil. Ensure the butter is melted. Remove from the heat, add the sifted flour all at once and beat vigorously with a wooden spoon until the mixture comes away from the sides of the pan. Return to the heat and cook for 2 minutes until the paste is pale. Cool a little.

2. Add the beaten eggs, a little at a time, incorporating fully with a wooden spoon after each addition. The mixture will go glossy then back to dull. Add the eggs until the mixture is shiny again and it just drops off the wooden spoon. Cool the mixture for about 10 minutes. Put in a piping bag and pipe heart shapes on to a baking sheet dampened with a little water.

3. Bake in the preheated oven for 15-20 minutes then reduce the temperature to 160°C, gas mark 3, and bake for a further 15-20 minutes until golden.

4. Pour the cream into a chilled bowl and whisk, either by hand or with a hand mixer, until stiff peaks form. This may take a few minutes.

5. When cooked, turn the hearts over and pop back into the oven for 2 minutes to dry out a little. Split each heart in half horizontally and then spoon or pipe the whipped cream on the base. Top with the other half and fill the centre with the fruit. Serve immediately.

Top Tips

Be careful not to overwhip your cream. As soon as you have firm peaks (you should be able to hold the bowl over your head without it spilling out!) you should stop.

If berries aren’t your thing use whatever fruit you prefer… mango and passion fruit, for example.