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Dog counselors. Is there such a thing? I know the title sounds strange and you are probably wondering if I am just
trying to catch your attention. But just stop and think how awesome it is to have pets. If you are a dog lover like me, and have been comforted by your pet, you know what I mean. Sometimes when things are on your mind and troubling you, you just need someone to talk to and listen, not necessarily to give you an answer. So in this month’s issue we talk about dogs providing the counseling and comfort we need. It may sound far out, but is it really? Just the other day, I had a party for my friend who turned 57 years old. One of my staff and I were doing a little dance and moving our feet from side to side. To our surprise, my friend’s dog Mollie, whom he lovingly calls Tamale, started to dance with us. She started making the same movements with her paws, as if to tell us she could do the same movements we can. I thought that was so fabulous. That just supported the theory I already have about our furry friends. Please take the time to read this story. I am sure it is going to bless you. Thank you for being a supporter of Red Wine Magazine. Many blessings to you! Dr. Diana Hardy Editor-in-Chief
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How I Beat CANCER C A N C E R - Those cold letters do not reign supreme. So many people are afraid of hearing the words “You have cancer”, that they won’t even go to the doctor. There are others who go to the doctor and are caught completely off guard when they receive a diagnosis of cancer. I originally wrote my book How I Beat Cancer because my secretary asked me to write a small pamphlet that she could give to people when she visited cancer clinics. And so I agreed. What started out as a small pamphlet containing words of encouragement and some “how-to” tips to survive cancer, turned into a 46 page book about my personal life and experience with cancer. I am sharing How I Beat Cancer with the world because I want mothers, fathers, grandmothers and even doctors to know that there is a cure for cancer. It’s just that science doesn’t hold the answer. The one who has the awesome cure is God. Scientists are not completely sure what causes cancer. They conduct vigorous research and have increased understanding about the behavior of cancer cells, but a cure is not yet here. I am not a physician and I don’t pretend to tell physicians or scientists what to do. What I do know is God. I know that God speaks the ultimate truth. And once you know that, you realize that you don’t have to know exactly how things go wrong in the body, because God will show you how to be healed, how to be cured of cancer. God cured me of cancer. And I am still so humbled by it. I have so much gratitude to God because a cousin of mine, who was my age, was diagnosed with colon cancer at the same time I was diagnosed. She died and I didn’t. It takes me places you could never understand when I think about how God chose me. How I Beat Cancer is my personal life story and testimony about my battle with cancer with God by my side. The book tells you how to fight cancer with God. I am not knocking chemotherapy or any other modern day treatments. It was not my choice because I believe chemotherapy kills the good with the bad. God was my choice and I am all the more better for it. So when you are undergoing the medical interventions you choose, take this book along and use the spiritual medication that you find within its pages. You will receive the kind of life-saving results you deserve.
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There is scripture in God’sWord that says: “So if the Son sets you free, you will be absolutely free. (John 8:36)
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Recently I had a conversation with a long-time friend who was the inspiration for this article. Over the years I have known him and during our many conversations, I noticed different things about him that I never brought to his attention or spoke about. So I want to take this opportunity to discuss it with him and others who are struggling down the same path. An addiction is a major issue for many people. As I write this, my friend is in a 7-day rehab trying to get rid of the demon of addiction to alcohol. When I say addiction, it is like a banner now that is over him. One he doesn’t want over his life anymore. But there are other things that come along with that kind of problem I want to highlight because maybe you are struggling with it. You may be focusing on stopping drinking or drug use but there are other things to look at as well. I want to share with you how to get free. As I have shared previously, I am a Senior Pastor and Prophet and I have been that for over 20 years now. I have also been educated in psychology, graduating this year with a Master’s in Clinical Psychology. So I can speak from both sides of the fence since I have a very powerful walk with God and am familiar with Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous. Both organizations have a reputation for helping people. But I just don’t agree that the people should be labeled as a recovering addict. My question is when do you recover? At what point in life, when you close your eyes? Is that when you have recovered? God has a more excellent point of view that I would like to share with you. Because the truth is you need more than AA or NA. I have seen God free people from addictions like heroin, methadone, alcohol and other drugs. What you need is freedom. You need to be totally delivered. Washed clean from the craving, social desires and fear that you will ever be in bondage to addiction again. You need it totally eradicated from your life in a way that makes you question why you ever used drugs. You’ll think, “Who was that person?” You can be so set free until it (drugs or alcohol) would seem disgusting to you.
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to deal with the doors of pain and the myriad of problems that opened that door in the first place. Sometimes the door that opens you up to addiction is a agenerational curse.
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The AA/NA groups are not telling you that there are demonic spirits that are assigned to you from the enemy satan. I know a lot of you believe satan exists but you don’t feel he is attacking you. But he is and the reason why is because God is so deeply and passionately in love with you. He can’t defeat God so he tries to destroy you (Ephesians 6:12).
DRUG addiction Have you ever seen a family where
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The parents or at least one parent was on drugs, a couple of the kids and then some of the grandchildren and so forth. Know why? There is a demonic tracking spirit that has an assignment to keep addiction running from generation to generation in order to destroy that family (Deuteronomy 5:9-10). Sometimes it is not drugs but an addiction to something else like food or sex or porn. It can manifest through perversion and promiscuity, like pedophilia, womanizing, or sleeping around. These things occur because a demonic spirit has gotten into the life of the addict.
The only one who can get that demon out of your life is
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NA nor AA can’t because they don’t have that information. If they had it, they’d have to turn their focus on God. And referencing a higher power is too vague. There are all kinds of higher powers. There are angelic beings more powerful than humans. There are demons, satan and then there is God. If you are going to look for a higher power, you must know who He is, His Name and why He is willing to help you. Further more, how you can access Him and what the process will entail. There is scripture in God’s Word that says: “So if the Son sets you free, you will be absolutely free. (John 8:36) Imagine calling somebody’s house and asking to speak to their daughter when they have more than two daughters. They will say which daughter and you will say I don’t know. Your conversation won’t be productive because they won’t know which daughter you are talking about. And if you can’t be clear on which daughter you want to talk to, how can you be clear about what you need to talk about. It is confusing! So your focus shouldn’t be on a higher power but it should be on God. Is He a higher power? Yes! But you must know who He is if you are going to ask for His
assistance, there are too many gods professed throughout the world. I only believe in and trust in one God and that is the Almighty God whose covenant name is Jehovah. My friend has been speaking this problem he is battling currently into existence for years. I have heard him say often that he has a drinking problem. He had an uncle that was an alcoholic, which means it is running in the family. Which takes me right back to the tracking spirts that have been assigned to that family. He has been speaking into existence the current situation he is in. He used to say he had a drinking problem. And then he would stop for months and then out of the clear blue just start drinking again. He’d be described as a functioning alcoholic or problem drinker. But the Bible says the power of life and death are in the tongue (Proverbs 18:21). Whatever you continually speak over your life will manifest eventually. Especially if you keep talking about it, you bring life to it. God put the power of L.I.F.E. in your tongue. So you can speak life to something that can potentially destroy you or you can give life to something that can bless you. The same way my friend kept saying he had a drinking problem, it has now manifested into what he calls alcoholism. Now he has to go into rehabs. It was 16 years ago that I sat in his apartment in NYC where we spent a lot of time together; every day we saw each other. We had a very close friendship so I know he wasn’t an alcoholic. Did he like to drink? Yes, but not like an alcoholic. But obviously he has progressed over the years because he spoke it into existence and he was surrounded with people who struggled with addiction. He has a close friend who is drug addicted. What I am saying is you must disassociate yourself from others with addictions if you want to be free. Because there is a familiar spirit, (evil spirit) which you both have in common.
If you want real freedom, you are going to have to change the course of your life.
YOU NEED TO REACH OUT TO GOD FIRST.
You have to realize that the drug has more power over you than you have over it. If you have come to the place where you cannot stop it by yourself, you must first realize that and be willing to confess it. If you are saying you can stop anytime, if that is true, praise God. Then stop before it goes any further. But in most of those cases, the person may stop drinking or using drugs but they pick up something else like food or sex or other things. They start addictive relationships with other things or 5 I Red Wine
they stop for a while and then go back and make up excuses to do so. If you really want a fighting chance you first need to make a decision in your mind, and it must come from your heart. God will free you and He has the power, He’s the only one who has it. To the point you won’t have to say you are recovering. To constantly confess recovering is like you are always on the edge and there is a ton of fear to this. That fear is constantly running around in your head that you could relapse so I can’t do this or that. It is really limiting because the addiction is still following you around. You can’t go in bars or be around drinking. You can’t take 1 drink because it will take you back to where you came from or worse. No, God said who the Son of Man sets free is free indeed (John 8:36). The Son of Man is Jesus Christ and He will free you from this addiction, no matter what it is. I know right now it seems too big and overwhelming. In fact, there are people who have committed suicide because they just felt they’d never be free from addiction. But they didn’t go to the right place. If you go to God with a serious desire to be free, He will do it.
relationship with you, not religion. He is looking to be your friend, Father, lawyer and counselor. If you have legal problems due to your addiction, ask God to get into the situation and help you out of it. You need to make a decision that you want a total life change. Often people who struggle with addiction are also attention seekers. If there is any part of your addiction that feels powerful or enables you to get attention from people, you must decide that that attention is destructive. You need to stop seeking it and ask God to set you free from the desire to seek attention that way, whether from friends or family or institutions. You have to be willing to give up the crutch of addiction. Be willing to realize and accept that you can have an awesome, whole new life with God. It doesn’t matter how many years you’ve been in addiction, God can redeem the years, or give you back years you have lost (Joel 2:25). He will heal you. Redemption is what God does best!
There are a couple of steps. You have to make a decision that God is really your Creator, your Maker and He is God. You have to
INVITE HIM INTO YOUR LIFE. TO GET HELP YOU MUST ESTABLISH A
RELATIONSHIP.
That’s with anyone, including God. You have to invite Him into your life and make Him your Lord and Master.
But don’t just do it to be set free so you can go back to doing what you want. No, understand that once you accept Him you come under His banner, into His house and He will protect you and heal you from addiction. You must be upfront and truthful about everything you have done due to your addiction. You can give your life to God anywhere. You don’t have to go to a church for that first step. You must realize you cannot do this by yourself. Thank God for AA and NA but you need more if you want to be totally free. You have to go to God for that. You do play a part too. Once you accept Him, you need to talk to Him just like I am talking to you. Tell Him you have a problem drinking or whatever your problem is, pray it and not just once either. Talk to Him frequently about it. Yes, He knows already what your issue is and yes He heard you the first time but God is looking for a 6 I Red Wine
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So invite the Lord Jesus Christ into your life and then make a decision to go find a church with God’s leading. Why a church? It is a place where God visits His people. Can He visit you in your house? Yes, but you need to be associated with people who have a relationship and power with God. When you give your life to God, He will give you power through prayer to get free from this addiction. Prayer is how you are going to get everything that you will ever get from God. It is the top requirement from Him. It doesn’t matter that you don’t see Him, He is there. You don’t see electricity in the wall but if you stick a fork in a socket you will know it is there. You don’t know where the wind comes from but it blows (John 3:8). Those are some of the steps you have to take and be serious about it. It you want to play with it, you won’t see any results and in fact you might get worse. Ask God to lead you to a church and when you find it, start going and surround yourself around people, some of whom may have had the same struggle as you but have progressed to a life of freedom from addiction.
The Bible says,
“THE ENTRANCE OF THY WORD BRINGS LIGHT.”
(Psalm 119:130).
You need to see inside of you what brought you to this place. Looking inside yourself is not an easy thing my friend. I would tell you not to attempt that unless you have God, are in Christ and given yourself over to Him. I say that because you are going to discover things about yourself that are not so nice and may hurt you and may even want to drive you back to the addiction. But ask God how and why you got here, why this addiction. Ask God to reveal the truth because His word brings light. You need light to be able to see, that’s why you need Him. I’m not talking about natural light; I am talking about spiritual light. He will clean and purge you from the inside out. He will deliver you from the addiction from the inside. That’s a place that AA can’t go and you can’t either. But God can. Start going to church every Sunday. Next ask God to remove you from people who have addictions or foster that kind of lifestyle. If you have the desire and cravings, even if you give in to them, just keep praying. Especially when you feel you are about to partake in your addiction, start praying and ask God to take the desire away. Just keep saying and believing that God will set you free until one day your freedom will manifest. But you must have a real desire to be free from it and hate that addiction enough to take it to God and give yourself totally over to Him. And you will see results!!! God bless you! I love you! Feel free to email us at Red Wine Magazine. We love you with the love of God. Dr. Diana
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remember watching the Oprah Show in the 90’s where I heard so many phenomenal stories of things people endured, some wonderful and some truly horrible. Some people have had to live through abuse and despair. Often it was abuse, especially molestation. It seemed there were so many people being molested by family members and close friends. My thought was that there was too much of it on TV being talked about. Stirring up emotions and hurt. I mean some of those people got on that stage for attention. You heard the oohs and ahhs! But what was the result of all that emotional garbage coming out on TV? Now I am sure there were people in the audience that it helped them realize they needed help. The talk show hosts and the therapists they had on provided access to counseling but the world is inundated with people who have been abused some kind of way. And some are still in abusive situations because of it. I recently saw a video on the Internet of one of my favorite talk show host. The reason I like her is she is a powerhouse and she is going after what she wants. Her name is well known. She’s beautiful and intelligent. By the way she speaks you can tell that she is an educated woman. Even though the highlight of her show is to focus on people’s lives, gossip really, is how she relates to her audience. She offers her advice and thoughts on their life situations. She’s very candid and transparent about her life and her family relationships. She talks about her past and mistakes she’s made including her future goals. I like her because what you see is what you get, so to speak. She is open and straightforward.
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However, I recently saw a video of her doing comedy. The two women collide. The daytime woman empowers but the woman in this new platform seems broken, hurt and in pain. Most of it seems to stem from the abuse she endured for years, emotional abuse and pain. And it was through sibling and parental relationships as well as romantic. Not to mention what she did to herself as a result of what she went through. I do applaud her because I think she really wants to help people. I love her sincerity and transparency. Yet, I believe she needs a lot of help herself. I have begun to pray for her and those of you out there who know the word of prayer should start praying for the celebrities that we see on TV. When I look at this particular talk show host, I see similarities from my past life before I became a believer in Christ Jesus. I see the strength she embodies. I too have that strength. I am a businesswoman and a leader in my industry. We have that in common. But I, unlike her have a strong close relationship with the Lord. It is because of that relationship that I have been healed of the pain and emotional abuse I endured. God washed me over the last 20 something years. No therapist, and I went to them, could wash me or heal me. I want to ask everyone to pray for these celebrities. All of the reality shows. I’m not one for those shows. I prefer to see their acting instead of the details of their lives. Especially when a lot is misconstrued and hyped for TV ratings. The thing is a lot of these celebrities really do suffer from emotional pain. I just need to pray and talk to God about helping them and go into their lives so they can see how much they need Him and that He is available to them. I want to ask you to partner with me and pray for them. Jerry Springer, Maury Povich, Steve Harvey, Wendy Williams and the rest out there. All the housewives of different cities. They all need so much prayer. There are arenas where there is a lot of damage being done. Some of them are still suffering abuse because their lives are an open book and there are things they have to do to maintain their lifestyle. Life is not easy but when you make the investment in God and open your heart to Him, the pain and suffering you are going through, physical or mental; God can come in and do the impossible. I know some of you think you can’t be healed but you can, even if you are 75 or 80 years old. Even if you have never stepped foot in a church. All you need is one touch from God. Just be willing to tell Him the
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truth about what hurts you. Your fears and what is in your heart. If you think you don’t know how to pray, just talk to Him, even if it is in your head. You don’t have to open your mouth. Just be frank and tell the truth. Don’t try to lie to God like you do to family and friends. I hope I haven’t offended anyone but I am so concerned about everyone out there in TV land and the world. I know God has the solution to your problem. If you are being abused, ask God to come in to the situation and set you free. Ask God to get the abuser out of your life, drive them out and cut all the cords. If that person is a loved one, a family member, ask God to move you out of the situation and then ask, if you can, ask God to heal the abuser. I know that is a lot but as God helps you, my prayer is that one day you would be able to pray for your abuser. We here at Red Wine love you. We thank you for reading. We believe that God will set you free from emotional and physical pain you may be enduring. God bless you! Be encouraged. Dr. Diana
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you are like most people, somewhere on your cell phone you have a list of things you want to accomplish this week or even just today. Lists are popular today. Everybody wants to be more organized. At least the experts tell us we should be anyway. We even have blogs now. Some of the popular bloggers actually have their lists in blog style for the world to see. But one of the things that I don’t see on the list of those that are so bold to put up for all to see is that four letter word that people think about often: L.O.V.E. How important is love? Well it is EVERYTHING! 1 Corinthians 13 stipulates that. In fact, it says if you don’t have love you are just a clanging cymbal. I am especially fond of this chapter because in it God tells us about some things that currently exist that will no longer be around. They are going to fade away in His time like speaking in tongues and prophesy. I know the Body of Christ is fond of these things, but if you read this chapter you are going to see that God plainly spells out what is important. Verse 13 says, “And now faith, HOPE, and love abide, these three; and the greatest of these is love.” So great is love that it should be on top of the list. But I don’t want to talk about love. I came to talk about something that is going to abide forever. God spoke one word to me this morning and that was HOPE. 1 Corinthians13 so explicitly points out that all the other things will fade away. Knowledge, tongues, prophesies but HOPE is one of the three that will continue and abide. So HOPE should be on your list.
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Do you have HOPE that you will make it? Be successful? Will receive comfort?
So many people are failing at the things they are trying to accomplish because there is one key factor they left out of their list of things to do. That’s HOPE. For many it has slipped away unbeknownst to them. But HOPE is very important. It is an important detail that you must have in order to overcome and come out on the other end.
There are people who are struggling now and it is because they have lost HOPE. And they don’t even know when HOPE left them. They don’t even know that HOPE slipped away somewhere in the middle of the night perhaps when they were crying or stuck in an abusive relationship. They feel like doors have closed that will never open again. But God said that faith, HOPE and love will abide. These are three important details that you need to put on your agenda. You will be unsettled without any HOPE. Whatever you are looking for today make sure to add HOPE to that list. The best and most convenient way to get HOPE is to ask God for it. I have found that asking God for things is far easier than looking under every rock or asking people who either don’t know where to find it or don’t want to share that information with you. They just come up with some words to tell you. They know how to make it sound good but just look at them and judge for yourself. Have they gone where you are trying to go? Have they obtained a measure of what you are trying to accomplish? If they don’t have it, don’t expect them to be able to give it to you. You can’t take people where you have never been before.
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little thing but it is actually quite a potent and powerful spirit. If you allow HOPE into your life and let her into your situations, she will become a bridge over troubled waters. You can’t have success without HOPE of having success. You will never find love if you don’t have any HOPE that love really exists. If you don’t think love exists, love is available for you. God is love and He has injected Himself in people all over the world.
1 Corinthians13 so explicitly points out that all the other things will fade away. Knowledge, tongues, prophesies but HOPE is one of the three that will continue and abide.
You can start again, you just need HOPE that you can start again. It doesn’t matter where you are, displaced or out of sorts. So many people who have literally nothing have HOPE that they will have something one day. And that often is enough to get the wheel turning. HOPE sets off a chain reaction in your life when you allow it in. Don’t settle for anything less. Make HOPE an important detail on your list every day. Dr. Diana
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The world has a definition of success that usually entails power and money. But often the people with power and money are not happy people. Some can’t even enjoy the money because they live under so much stress just to keep the power. I think the world’s definition of success is flawed. If you fulfill the plan of God in your life, you are successful, no matter how much money you have in your bank account or how many friends you have on Facebook. It is so easy to compare ourselves to the wrong standards, especially in this social media world of today. We see people we went to school with making big bucks or already married with kids and we think if we don’t have these worldly trappings, we have somehow failed. But success is relative. Do we want to meet the
world’s definition of successful or do we want to meet God’s definition of successful? People saying, “Wow you really made something of yourself!” will cause you to feel warm and fuzzy for a few minutes. But those same people will say something a lot different the moment things don’t look so good for you anymore. But when God says, “Well done my good and faithful servant,” that means something. God doesn’t show favoritism amongst His children and He is not one to say anything He doesn’t mean. Don’t measure the quality of your life against things that can be destroyed or taken away, like money. The winner is not whoever gets the most toys because you can’t take any toys with you when you die. It’s not the person with the most friends and family, either. Because friends and family, like possessions, can come and go. In fact, the measure of who you are can be seen more in how you treat a stranger than a friend. 15 I Red Wine
To me, a successful person is someone who is living and pursuing 19 their divine purpose. That should be the benchmark of success. Are you doing what God made you to do? Are you where He wants you to be? If the answer is yes, then you have success no matter how much is in your bank account. No matter what your job is or the size of your house. Some people want to live like a king but true success comes when you live for the King. People think they have so much power because of whom they know but when you have a relationship with God; you have access to the Master of the universe. You can get anything done in prayer. The greatest business deals in the world did not happen in a boardroom, they happened in a prayer room. I want you to understand, that through your relationship with God, you can impact nations, you can talk to God about members of your family that haven’t even been born yet! But your prayer can ensure blessings through your generations. There are people you may never meet but your prayers can help them get healed or get a blessing they need. You have the real power when you can access the throne of God for friends, family and strangers. I challenge you today to look at your life through a different lens. Do away with the standards of the world and work towards having purpose in your life. Ask God to show you your gifts and talents. Learn to be resourceful and see everything you have, no
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matter how much or how little, can be used to help another person when you give it to God for His use. I know the world tells us to focus on the outside but shift your focus. Look on the inside and ask God to help you have the right mindset and attitude. The more you talk to God about changing what’s happening on the inside, any issues you have on the outside will heal. There is no real success outside of having a relationship with God. It is the goal we all should aspire to and the great news is He is available. There’s no failing if you seek Him with your whole heart, soul and mind. In that one act, you become a phenomenal success.
There’s an old saying, “Actions speak louder than words.” It’s not always about what you say, but rather what you do. What you do actually tells what’s going on in your heart more than and against what you say. How many times have we asked people a question and they gave the answer they thought we wanted to hear instead of the truth because they don’t want to expose how they really feel. But how you treat me tells me how you feel about me and vice versa. If I
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of you have even considered going to therapy, even just so you can talk to someone about something that weighs heavy on you? Maybe you have been traumatized or suffered with a lot of pain and you just want to talk to someone about how you are feeling. Since you don’t have anyone you trust or feel uncomfortable exposing certain aspects of your life with those closest to you. Perhaps you’d rather go to a professional for direction or to find solutions for your problems.
treat you with compassion and patience, at least you know I respect you as a person. I may even love you but for sure I like you. That’s just some food for thought. Another thing high on the world’s agenda is therapy. How many
I don’t know many people who went to a therapist and came back with a positive review or that they achieved their goals be it personal or marital therapy. And I have known quite a few people who’ve gone through therapy. There is however, another popular and beneficial type of therapy. I call it dog therapy. Dogs 17 I Red Wine
have a certain healing quality and make wonderful companions to have around. They are great protectors. They are supportive in ways that people are not and offer non-judgmental support to their friends. As I stated earlier, it’s not always what you say but what you do.
a more normal life. Even being there when they experience flashbacks. That’s real therapy. I call it dog therapy. If you have ever experienced the love of a dog, then you know what I mean. And if a furry creature has ever saved your life, you can relate and know the power of dog therapy.
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I believe God has given us dogs as a way to convey His love to us and for us through these sensitive, obedient animals. Society is so in love with animals today that hotels and apartments have become pet friendly. And receptive to these unique creatures. Apartment communities rent apartments to them! There are all kinds of gourmet foods, even in hotels. We let our animals know how much we love them by the things we do for them. And we should give God the praise because He thought enough of us to put the animals in our lives. They love us and we nurture and support them and let them know we are there for them. Dog therapy is less costly than going to a therapist that costs $150/hour. And it’s more fulfilling. It facilitates healing, gives you the love you need and no need to make an appointment! Only a truly wise God could plan for us to have our furry friends and family.
communicate with you in ways that touch you
deeply in your soul. It can facilitate healing and helps you to feel peace and solace. Dogs are so nurturing and loving. You can have a rough day and your dog enters the room, waging its tail and just put its head on your lap in a way that tells you they understand you had a bad day. Dogs are so intuitive, kind and compassionate. They do so much for you! There are many stories of people who clung to life, not 21wanting to die, because of their dogs. There are people who prefer a dog over a mate! Dogs don’t talk back. And they give unconditional love. When you come home, they are happy to see you whether you pay them a lot of attention or not. They are there for you. Service dogs lend their hearts to military members who are suffering from various conditions. These animals help them lead
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If you’ve never had a dog, there are so many at shelters that need families. They are ready to love you. Pray for them because many have been through traumatizing events. They have been mistreated by people who couldn’t see their value, couldn’t see the therapy the dog wanted to give. God bless you! Dr. Diana
This is not a phenomenon. I am sure that many of you would agree that there is a large percentage of gay men or men who are attracted to men, that have emerge in society in the last decade particularly. I cannot speak for the rest of the world, but I am sure it is not exclusive to the US. There was an article that stated that 5% of the male US population is attracted to men and there are still many, many men still in the closet. The article cited a huge number. This is horrifying to me. There are so many women in the world who love men and want to be in satisfying, loving, marital relationships with them. It is so tough now for women to know if a man is gay, in the closet or on the down low. I am not gay-bashing. I love people. After all, God made us to love one another, all of us. And to know we have some of the same strengths, weaknesses and proclivities. None of us is perfect. Women stay in relationships often even when they are unhappy simply because they feel, “Where can I find another good man?”
I was the girl that hung with men in my pre-Christ days. The men told war stories about the things they went through at home. They cited women who were constantly arguing and fussing about the same old things on a daily basis. The guys with girlfriends told how they were spoken to in public in a disrespectful manner and were embarrassed. They start to get gun shy because they are tired of the drama. Ladies, men are tired of the drama! They don’t want all that drama in their lives. So please don’t bring the drama.
The first thing we can do to try to help the situation, this dilemma we have to deal with is pray. Yes, talk to God about our friends, brothers, uncles, fathers, people you know. And even those you don’t know but see on TV that are homosexual. Because we are losing one of the best things that ever happened to us and that is our men, losing them to other men.
Ladies, We’re Losing Our
Men
Do we need to point fingers as to why? Well first I think we do need to discuss some things amongst ourselves ladies. We have all kinds of women in the world. Educated women, uneducated and housewives who don’t pursue careers but raise their children. Then we have gossiping, loud women who have a few dollars in their bank account. They dress nice, wear $500 shoes but have a low-living mentality.
Ladies, we can do something about this. We don’t have to sit on the sidelines and watch John and Steven get married and adopt children and say nothing. Many of you are still meeting men in clubs and bars and baseball games. You see each other and smile and start talking about your commonalities. Finally you make your move only to find out he is gay or maybe he doesn’t tell you but just acts uninterested. So you keep pursuing thinking he didn’t catch your drift.
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Here’s my suggestion. You have valid points and things you need to say so work on an environment where you both are able to do that. Communication is the key. You may need to learn how to communicate. I am not telling you not to say it, but how you say it is important. It will make the difference between if he hears you or not. So with that being said, guys you have your part. You must listen and communicate back. I know it is not always easy for you to bring everything out to the forefront but you will need to learn so you can have a relationship with the benefits you want. And the woman can feel like they are being heard and their opinions are respected. At the core of everything we still need to bring God into our lives and our relationships. And if we go back to asking God is this the person for us instead of looking on the outward appearance, (he’s handsome, has a good job, she’s good looking, etc.). We need to go to God instead of using our senses. Ask God, “Is this someone you have brought into my life as a potential mate?” And we have to wait for Him to answer. Don’t jump too fast. Wait for Him to answer and if He says NO it is NO. God is on your side, let Him into the equation. When we try to choose the mate ourselves, we bring a lot of harm and stress because we choose out of fear, need and desire to fill a hole. God wants us to be happy and to feel loved. God made marriage. Marriage is a holy institute. But in order for it to be one that God ordains and helps you through from the start to the death do you part; you have to have Him in it all the way. And it includes treating the spouse the way God instructs in His Word. When we move away from that, we engage in things that are harmful and hurtful. We are losing our men. Let’s pray, every person reading this article. Let’s ask God to restore the men back to who He made them to be. To heal and deliver them. I know some people think men are born homosexual, and people use psychology and philosophy to support this. But I disagree. I don’t believe people are born homosexual. Why would God make me something that He does not support at all and is totally against. God doesn't set us up like that. God wants to bless us and heal us. And love us! All of that is yours for the asking and keep asking until what you asked for is in your face. Until you are asking from your heart. Until God starts just dropping thoughts in your mind and puts people in your life that have wisdom. Don’t go to your friends. They will see as you see. “He is cute. She is fine.” No, you need someone with wisdom. 16 I Red Wine
How they look is not enough. You need to start with God. That other stuff causes big problems. My final thought is this: I have heard women say, “If I could just change how I look men won’t leave.” There are Hollywood actresses out there with amazing bodies and they get married and their husbands cheat. So it is not about the outward appearance. Looks may have started the relationship but that is not what keeps a man. It is who you are inside. Ladies, work on yourself. And you can only do that effectively by bringing God into the equation. Asking God to expose to you the areas of your life that need to be worked on. Now this will take some time, it will not happen overnight. Not 90 days like some of the exercise series that tell you 90 days to get rid of the excess weight.
It will take time because
GODWILL UNEARTH all those things in a very gentle way so you can handle it.
Because if God just told you everything about yourself that needed to be changed you would feel overwhelmed and drop your head. But He is a loving, all-knowing, wise God. And a super friend. He is the real BFF. No pun intended but He is the friend with real benefits. A long, real list that leads to eternal life. Benefits for you, your family and your generations.
Let’s pray y’all. Let’s pray that we will all walk in the will and perfect plan of God. Let’s pray that all these souls would come back to God and He would touch their lives. And God bless all of you. I am praying for y’all. Dr. Diana
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