Good Treatment In this part we will present the approach of using good treatment in education as one of the necessary and essential mechanism for fighting against (in)visible racism. It may seem unnecessary for some to talk about it since it is obvious: we all understand that we have to treat each other well, and that this is a skill that we have learned from a very young age. But that is not the case. Knowing that we are individuals who grow up and learn in a given society, we should analyse the kind of message we get from our environment on a daily basis: the TV news and advertisements, movies, music, sports based on competition, etc. We would see that many of these messages are based on the model of normalization of violence: TV programmes uncritically show verbal violence and bad treatment, crimes and murders, etc. Children in peacetime play war games with toys such as guns and rifles. In this way abuse, harm and violence are so normalized that very often, unless it is very visible and brutal, we do not recognize them. The humiliation, the anger and the insults may seem like a normal way of living in a family, in a couple, or at work. It is difficult to get out of this model, since, although we criticize and reject it in theory, we internalize it in our values and behaviours. For example, the way we solve conflicts: we reproduce models that place us in a spiral of violence and bad treatment. When someone says or does something that makes us angry, we suffer. We tend to make them suffer in response. An example from the STAR project: young people we interviewed within the research in Spain showed a high degree of knowledge about good treatment: they relate it to emotions of love, care of people, physical closeness, etc. Meaning: we should not laugh at people, we should not insult anybody, accept everybody as they are... However, the majority of them confirmed that they had recently made fun of a person, or ignored a person, insulted somebody or judged a person without knowing her/him.
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