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Issue 110 | December, 2014 | www.ei-india.com
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COVER Story Manners Matter! Social skills are more critical to a child’s future than either intelligence or academic prowess. They affect the child’s self-esteem, grades, career choices and future relationships, says Dr. John Mayer, Chicago-based clinical psychologist. Some kids intuitively learn the nuances of social interactions, while other kids need help. Kids diagnosed with ADHD, language delays or autism spectrum disorders, especially benefit from some direct social skills teaching. Here are five simple manners that can be used in everyday life: Making Eye Contact - Many kids, especially those with autism, avoid making eye contact. Teach children to look the other person in the eyes every few seconds. Dr. Alison P. Block, licensed psychologist and Director of the Health Psychology Centre in Little Silver, New Jersey, says, “Hold up two fingers, point to your eyes and then point to your child’s eyes,” she says. Respecting Physical Space - If a child stands too close or constantly touches her friend, try this trick from Dr. Block: Tell the child to keep an arm’s length distance, when talking to her friends or teachers. Another idea is to tell the child to pretend she has a bubble around her. If she gets too close to someone, the bubble will pop. Starting a Conversation - Since most people love talking about themselves, the best way to start a conversation is, by asking a few basic questions, such as, “What school do you go to?”
or “Do you like sports?” Sharing and Taking turns - Children younger than 4 years of age usually don’t have the emotional or cognitive skills necessary to share with others. Say something like, “While Aaron’s here, you must share your toys. If there’s anything you don’t feel comfortable sharing, let’s put it away now.” Lea Keating, early childhood educator and founder of Sensory Street Kids, suggests that puppets can be used to teach kids to use specific phrases in social situations, such as, “Can I have a turn?” or “Can I play?” Talk about what to do if a child says no -wait for a turn, look for another toy or ask an adult for help.
Emotions - Many kids are not able to interpret nonverbal communication. Jennifer Little, Educational Consultant and founder of Parents Teach Kids says, “Watch a television show with the sound off. Have the child relate what each character would be thinking or feeling as the story unfolds. Or, find photographs of people’s faces and have children make up a story or explain what is happening and how the person is feeling.” All kids want to feel loved and accepted, and good social skills pave the way for rewarding personal relationships. Make note and offer praise when your child gets it right. A little positive reinforcement goes a long way.
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