There’s a New Kid in Town

ET I Q U E T T E T I PS POLISHED PEYTON

by Jennifer Daniel

While most of you are probably humming an old Eagles song in your head right now, some of you are cringing. You are thinking to yourself, “It’s so hard to be the new kid.” I’d agree with you. It’s hard at any age. It’s hard when you are twelve and you and your family move to a new state. It’s hard when you are moving away to start a new job. It’s even hard that first time you travel to a new city on vacation.

Being new can be difficult even for the most outgoing person. I have two very different children. One has never met a stranger. The other would check the option of sticking with her core people for life while wearing a t-shirt that read, “No new people needed.” A bit of an exaggeration, but you get my point. As we find ourselves in new situations, I am always reminded that they both need help when they are “new.” This summer, you will probably experience “new.” For example, you might drop your daughter at the same summer camp she has attended for years but, she will have new cabinmates and you will meet new parents.

Here are my top tips for all ages whenever you’re the “new kid in town.”

Look people in the eye, extend your hand, and introduce yourself to everyone. Stand up to greet others when you’re meeting them for the first time. Children should extend this courtesy as well.

Show interest in the people you meet.

Don’t say, “We must get together,” unless you truly mean it.

Let new friends, co-workers, and other parents know the best way to reach you. Most people have a preference on this both socially and in the business world.

Listen. Ask questions.

Don’t expect others to automatically include you in activities.

Invite various groups of people over to visit. Ask different co-workers to meet for lunch. Encourage your children to ask the children next door to play basketball in the yard. Keep in mind that children will learn more from the behavior you model and invite a new neighbor over for coffee or wine.

Being the new person somewhere can feel uncomfortable and awkward, but it is something we all experience. The more often you encounter situations with new people, the easier it becomes. I hope you meet many new people this summer while making lots of memories with friends and family.

Jennifer Daniel is a graduate of The Protocol School of Washington and she may be reached at Jennifer@polishedpeyton.com or visit her website at polishedpeyton.com.