Recovering From Infidelity 3 Barriers to Overcoming Infidelity in Your Relationship
written by: Coleta Stewart http://www.EmotionalAffairAdvice.com
Recovering From Infidelity - 3 Barriers to Overcoming Infidelity in Your Relationship
Recovering From Infidelity - 3 Barriers to Overcoming Infidelity in Your Relationship It's a challenging task recovery from infidelity in your marriage. Marriage in itself comes with its own share of challenges, but when you throw an affair into the mix, well you open a pandora's box. If you are the cheated on spouse, you are left to face with a host of crippling emotions that seem to overwhelm and take over your sanity. You desperately want to start healing and move forward with putting this ugly episode of your life behind you, but you are stuck because you're waiting for your disloyal spouse to do certain things which is not happening. When recovering from infidelity, there are certain things that need to happen and many barriers to take down in order to get the ball rolling. Both you and the cheater have a lot of internal work to do and issues to face. You can control how you react but you have no control over your disloyal spouse and what he or she chooses to do. Getting the images out of your mind When you found out that your spouse cheated on you, the negative thoughts and images start to haunt your every living, breathing moment. You can’t get the images of your spouse and his paramour out of your head. You'll need to put forth some herculean effort to take back control of your own mind and regain some semblance of peace. You can practice replacing those negative thoughts with more positive ones and trying to change the images and messages you might be sending yourself. You don’t want to be lied to again The bottom line is that the person you trusted 100 percent betrayed you, broke their wedding vows, lied constantly while you believed them, and now you don’t trust your spouse at all. So you are having a hard time forgiving your disloyal spouse because you are not ready yet to put your heart in his hands again for fear of another betrayal. That's perfectly understandable, no one wants to be lied to especially by someone they love and care for deeply. You want assurances from your spouse and be able to see, in word and deed that he or she is genuinely remorseful for all the pain and suffering that they have caused. In other words you want him to become completely open and transparent with you in all things. ©Copyright 2010 http://www.EmotionalAffairAdvice.com
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Recovering From Infidelity - 3 Barriers to Overcoming Infidelity in Your Relationship Cheating spouse is defensive and feels trapped when asked the details For the loyal spouse living in the aftermath of an affair, it is very difficult to not hurt or be haunted by unanswered questions after your spouse betrays you. You feel that talking about the affair details will help to heal and move on, but every time you broach the subject, your spouse gets angry, frustrated and clams up. He or she wants to forget it ever happened, just sweep it under the rug as if the whole sordid mess never happened. Your marriage has a slim to none chance of surviving the affair unless the two of you come to some sort of resolution on how you are going to handle the affair details. Working through recovering from infidelity together can evolve into a beautiful, loving relationship. Yes, there is hope, but it will take work, commitment, tears and understanding from both parties to get there. Recovering from infidelity is possible. You can get past the cheating and build a better marriage right now and every day for the rest of your life. Start by downloading this FREE ebook here: http://www.emotionalaffairadvice.com/ and then follow the entire process so that you can restore the trust and save your marriage from divorce.
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